the Visible Felt Dad - empowering a Dude to be a great Dad

In this episode, we chat about facing the feeling of wanting to hesitate when I think about "what will they think of me?" = = = = = [00:30] But Dude, that's what they think ... [01:00] But what does that mean about me .. [01:30] Some people want to scream and shout, some .. [02:00] .. to show up in whatever way we can .. . Until then, Dude, you can be a great Dad Robin = = = = = Get this episode's summary, related quotes and links here: http://visiblefeltdad.com/blog/ Did you like this? Get LIVE coaching from VFD | @thevisiblefeltdad http://visilefeltdad.com/coaching ===== FOLLOW VFD | @thevisiblefeltdad ===== On all socials where you can find me @thevisiblefeltdad YouTube Subscribe: http://j.mp/thevisiblefeltdad IG: http://Instagram.com/thevisiblefeltdad FB: http://Facebook.com/thevisiblefeltdad ===== ABOUT VFD | @thevisiblefeltdad ===== Robin Pullen is the founder of the Visible Felt Dad. Meet him at http://visiblefeltdad.com/ = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #intentionalfathering #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about how we can get into our head and then think too much. = = = = = [00:30] .. you ponder on, your consider … [01:00] .. or I read into a text something .. [01:30] .. like 90 minutes go by, and I'm on 3 seconds of thought .. [02:00] Why is it so important … [02:30] .. allow myself to get trapped into this little idea .. [03:00] If it's an assumption .. [03:30] Respond to what's (actually) in front of you .. Until then, be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about overwhelm. = = = = = Ok listen up Dude. Just Breathe! Sometimes the emotion is just real. They can be overwhelming, yes, but you can't afford to let them hijack your behavior and rob you from connecting with your children. [00:30] The chemistry and the hormones that rage around .. [01:00] It's OK to 'feel' .. [01:30] The most powerful thing I can in that moment .. [02:00] There is the piece that God created in you .. [02:30] The most powerful way that I've learned to do that .. [03:00] and I lost conscious awareness for a moment .. [03:30] It's natural for your body to .. [04:00] .. and regain control .. Until then Dude, be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about = = = = = [00:30] So why would I hold back .. [01:00] Bt that's who I am .. [01:30] But you make the call and you see ... [02:00] And they are reminded, that I love Them. [02:30] Yes it's just a screen .. [03:00] that they're on your heart .. Until then, you can be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about = = = = = [00:30] I want to be there .. [01:00] That sucks, and makes me feel .. [01:30] help me take the next step .. [02:00] and all I can do .. [02:30] I feel about myself, and .. [03:00] build some self credibility .. [03:30] and every step we show up in .. Until then, you can be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about making it through the difficult days. = = = = = [00:30] And you see what's not there .. [01:00] Like that blow to the belly .. [01:30] Everything happens for a reason .. [02:00] And the pain of this day, will pass .. [02:30] But for today, just take one day .. [03:00] and nothing happens by mistake .. [03:30] and all you need is .. [04:00] you can't solve ALL the problems .. [04:30] .. go put that shirt on .. = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about the importance of active listening. = = = = = One of the most powerful and important skills that I could teach someone is “Active Listening”. It's the ability to not just be present and part of a conversation, but to be able to create a space where the participant that you are engaged with is drawn into the conversation. [00:30] But in the real world, it's not about how much I have to offer .. [01:00] Get out of your own head .. [01:30] Allow the person you are engaging with to replay back to you .. [02:00] Each child has a different personality .. [02:30] To what they understand, what they are experiencing .. [03:00] Sometimes words get lost .. [03:30] but in their own words .. Until then, be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, I want you to hear that the best things in your life haven't happened yet !! = = = = = Dude, seriously. It's not as bad as it feels right now. [00:05] The best things in your life .. [00:30] yeah, the natural consequences .. [01:00] .. the life that you would have .. [01:30] And that sense of loss .. [02:00] .. the memories that you will still make .. [02:30] but no one can see into the future and say .. [03:00] Doesn't mean that it won't work into the future .. [03:30] But look to what's ahead .. [04:00] It could be .. = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

Yes! Sometimes life just SUCKS, but in this episode I want you to know that it won't last forever. = = = = = [00:30] And I have no idea where to go .. [01:00] Not being able to be who I want to be for my child .. [01:35] and not give pout an ounce of evidence .. [02:00] You have to. But you can't .. [02:30] It's a new norm. A new way of life .. [03:00] It won't always. Things will get better .. [03:30] Feels different and sounds different .. [04:00] You can start, just today .. [04:30] So life doesn't have to suck .. Until then, be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, I want you to hear that you don't have to do this alone. = = = = = [00:30] I was speaking to someone who has been where I'm about to go .. [00:48] … you're not the only one! [01:30] You're not the first to wonder if your kid will ever love you again .. [01:50] There are people just like you .. [02:00] There is someone close at hand .. [02:30] … been there, done that, got the t-shirt .. just living life .. [03:00] .. you know someone who knows someone who has been through this and is on the other side .. [03:45] Make a phone call, send a message .. [04:30] And you might be surprised .. Just Reach Out!! Until then Dude, be a great Dad! Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

[Warning: PG10 / L] Dude, yes we all make mistakes. In this episode, we chat about how that doesn't give you a reason to be an ugly person. You don't have to be a person that throws your pain and anger on everyone else around you. = = = = = [00:35] The worst is that the very ones that you love the most are the ones that you could hurt the most and even push away. [00:52] What does that mean? It means that you have to learn to get conscious … [01:20] Perhaps some of you already have something that you regret .. [02:00] It's not a magic button .. [02:35] … you're trying to keep that secret shame that you're wrestling with .. [02:53] It's a choice that you can make .. [03:08} It starts with yourself .. [03:28] Get reconnected with your self .. Dude, be a great Dad! Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, we chat about when kids just don't seem to have words to talk = = = = = One thing that I do when I connect with my kids is to check in with them on their day. How school has been, how life has been, what's going on in their world. I am not trying to pry or find things out. I just want to connect with their heart. And I don't about you but often I used to get this amazing answer-back. I get this (blank stare) … "uh, fine" [00:30] "Yes", another one-word answer .. [00:55] So one way to do that is to ask open-ended questions .. [01:25] It also opens up for me to see .. [01:45] so that you can cultivate a better connection .. Until then, Be a great Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

I know, right, why should you listen to what I have to say if you don't even know who I am. So in this episode you'll find a quick answer to that. = = = = = Oh, and it's probably the boldest thing I have done in as long as I can remember. But hey, we're all real here .. right. And I want to be real with you. And I want you to know that you can be real in this journey too. Until then Dude, you can be an awesome Dad Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

Before we get any further in we need to have a frank chat about what this project is NOT about. = = = = = We are gonna cover a whole ton of topics but before we get there I need to you know some ‘ground rules'. Dude, this is not a bitching zone. We all have pain. And as much as each of your pain is different, to each of you your pain is REAL. I get that and I respect that. But listen Dude, don't bring your ex into this. I am just not interested bro! If you come to blame moan or I WILL bat you to touch (by that I mean your negative comments will be deleted). Other than that we want to support and help as best as we can. One step at a time. Until then Dude, be a great Dad! Robin = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere. #VFD #thevisiblefeltdad #dadandlad #fatheranddaughter #fatherandson #heartofafather

In this episode, I have a look at what the project is all about and why I decided to start this adventure. = = = = = What is the VFD (Visible felt Dad) project all about? Never in my wildest dream did I imagine that I would find myself here. Hello, my name is Robin. I have gone through a divorce, but I am still a Dad. This is an introduction to what the Visible Felt Dad or VFD project is all about. It's a short look at what I will be looking at and why it's so important to me. Learn a little about what I have been through and why so many guys that I chat to feel they needed to hear this message. Find out about what I want to share and how I hope to support guys like me and you. This video is just the first step so please come back now and then to see what happens next. [00:40] I was super confident .. [01:00] and I'm divorced. I love my kids .. [01:30] I've had to learn how to get over .. [02:05] Never planned it this way !? .. [02:30] and no one's supporting them .. [03:00] and not loose the fact that you are Dad .. [03:30] things have changed .. [04:00] But it doesn't always feel that way .. [04:30] Change the way you think and feel .. [05:00] That there love for me and my love for them .. [05:30] that they can experience for themselves .. Until then Dude, be a great Dad! Robin [Visible Felt dad] #VFD = = = = = If you are looking for any of the content on socials you can find it easily by searching for @thevisiblefeltdad just about anywhere.

Hi there, I am Robin Pullen from @theVisibleFeltdad and this episode is about Getting started on the Anchor platform. Welcome to the start of the Visible Felt Dad podcast.