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Don’t leave your Spouse alone to deal with their stuff. Go and help them! Marriage is work, the hidden work is to continually working with each other and to pull each other out of yourself induced mess. Let your partner help you by being humble and grateful. In turn you should go and help them with their stuff. Your Marriage is against the world not each other.

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When pride is present, intimacy is absent. A couple can be full of pride or they can have a healthy marriage, but they cannot have both. A wise couple will recognize the agony of pride and will do everything in their power to eradicate from themselves and their relationship Everything is personal.Fault-findingRefusal to be influenced by their spouseIgnorance of the need of othersAddiction to attentionRefusal to submit to authorityInability to see opposing viewpointsNever asking for help, always expecting serviceAbsence of sacrifice and submissionRefusal to say “I’m sorry.”

Wrong holiday! Crap! I don’t even know where I’m at in the world it’s because it’s that we all miss that it’s not enough gonna say you’re right this is New Year New Year’s I’d never change the hat thing but you know realize somebody said it is eight are you really leaving it’s New Years like January is next month next week next year next decade so you’re gonna get what is this what is this happen are you doing what does this hat mean what do you mean for New Year’s you know this is the kind of man you won’t get free aware right you won’t get fouled up Ellen I want to get freaky with me[Laughter][Applause][Music]oh crap I don’t even know where a man in the world it’s because it’s that we all know that it’s not enough gonna say you’re right this is New Year New Year’s so I gotta change the hat thing but you know realize somebody said it is eight are you really leaving it’s New Year’s like January is next month next week next year next decade so you’re gonna get what is this what does this have are you doing what does this hat mean what do you mean for New Year’s you know this is the kind of man you won’t get free[Laughter]all right so you can find this on Instagram Twitter or podcast Apple podcasts we have a website have a marriage calm I’m currently working atredesigning it you didn’t know but I am boom all right kind of everywhere we’re trying that we’re trying to get a little more skilled with this thing it’s a new for your patients something today maybe get a facial I just look like athree-day drunk she’s gonna love this later when she sees a nun no it’s a 60nose my comedy you know we’ve gone in the three hundreds have talked a lot about sex in different ways and settings if you must any other three hundred you missed out on sex problems but you can always go back we we have know that sex is gone you can never give it back again okay soyou’re gonna exercise stuff is going on sale this is the big push forget thatNew Year’s resolution in and actually just want to challenge you the sameexact ways everything else because you’ve one more thing on your list right okay no um not to worry about exercise not to worry about anything but actually invest in your marriage because you could be fat and happy which is better than being fat and divorced reallyreally important thing you know thegenerations that thing was really reallygood when we were talking about earliertoday who said you know generations babyboomers and those before the SilentGeneration they had to work reallyreally really really hard for things theSilent Generation had to work harderthan the baby boomer generation and ifsomething was broken you had to figureout how to fix it right because therewere there was enough money to make justgo and buy another buy another when thatdidn’t actually make things that waythere was no crime there was no Amazonthere was no internet yeah so I think sowhat your on the marriage was a littlebit easier not I’m not saying easier I’mjust saying what else is yet to do thatday well but the thought to put into itwas easy there was work on it that wasmerrily whatever baby sister yeah so youhad to work on your marriage because youknow cuz you’re the only person that’sgonna entertain you there’s nothing ontelevision and the radio was kind of athing and you know like your grandmothershe she had stories of what saving 10 oreating powdered milk yeah and so if youlook at that generation then you move upto the baby boomer generation which wasmy parents they they worked reallyreally hard to make sure that they havea successful marriagethat generates the next words is ourgeneration week we are latchkey kids ourparents went to work because thatprevious generation instilled a highwork ethic and so we were left homealone a lot of times just to raiseourselves and so and then after ourgeneration is the reason why GenerationY’s Millennials Millennials and whathappened to them and this is just anidea right right just an idea is that wehave the work hard work ethic from ourparents and that’s passed on and thennow our kids that we left at home havebeen raised by social media TV andGoogle so Google’s your mother and soand then that and then what happens isthat then nothing really seems to behard working language like it’s reallyeasier and this is the complaint aboutthe millennial generation is that theywant things now it has to be easy it hasto be fast I will make my millions and Iwant to make them right now I don’t wantto work hard for it if I have to workhard for it and it must be a thing thatI don’t want to do let’s go make themillion million somewhere else and whenyou have a generation right and when youhave a generation that thinks that wayit needs to come easy or it’s not gonnacome at all that’s not conducive ofmarriage right a happy marriage doesn’tcome easy not at all and sometimes therecan be years where it doesn’t come atall yeah but it’s the point of livingout the commitment and so we honorpeople that have been married for50-plus years and we all go man I wish Iwanted you you could you can have thatit’s really really hard but you justhave to want to stick through it and notto be so stuck on instant gratificationall the time and I don’t know how thenext generation which would be my son’sgeneration of how they’re going to raisetheir kids which would be as balanced Ihope of working hard and instantgratification is kind of what we all thebalance is amazing to where somethingshould be instant in some things Ishould work hard for but understandingthe difference between the two is amajor issue major issue and it’s hardbecause if we have it easier we want tomake it easier for our kids naturally Idon’t want them to struggle I don’t wantthem but they need to learn I want mykids are strong but they don’t theydon’t right they don’tas much as I did and it is nearly asmuch as our parents and then ourgrandparents and so we spending we spendintentional time investing into them andteaching them things that they don’twant to learn like working on a truck orhow to weed or how to do the things thatsuck but you get the great result out ofit a really nice garden is only nicebecause somebody’s up there weeding itall the time but we can’t figure thatout in a marriage that if nobody’sworking on their marriage and it justkind of goes downhill if you have a nicegarden it’s the same exact process thatyou have to put something into it all ofthe time and so we wanted to get to thepoint especially at the end of the yearbut you guys have started thinking and Idon’t want to say resolution but interms of goal setting yeah what do youwant your marriage to be next year andwhat can you two agree on and we don’t Idon’t want like 20 different things thathave sex every day we’re gonna dateevery week you know it doesn’t have tobe all that but just the big goal of youknow what we’re gonna fall in love witheach other again what does that looklike what’s that look likeand then let’s execute that and thenonce you fall in love with each otheragain then you could think of anothergoal but I would say that most of thetime when we’re doing marriage coachingthat’s kind of one of the biggestcomplaints we’re just we’ve fallen outof love well guess what we’ve fallen outof love and guess whatwell still still married her parentsthat have been married for I’ve fallenout of love they’re still married andthat’s kind of the whole point of youknow learning how to fall into love andout of love and all of that and stillbeing committed to the person thatyou’ve promised to be committed tobecause it’s that deep deep satisfactionwhat’s that comfort you know I said tohim today I go you’re gonna have to livejust as long as me because I can’timagine doing this all over again I havefound such a deep status satisfying loveand intimacy and finances and parentingand household stuff and everything inthat comfort that it’s just it’s rightand I made that I made the joke but Idestroyed her for anyone else and that’syou know why don’t you live that waydestroy your destroy your spouse foreveryone else that follows you and agreat I do each other yeah yeah you knowwhat you’re never gonna find anotherperson that’s amazing is me and the restof your life is going to suck becauseI’m gonenow if the your partnerlaughs hysterically at that you’re doingsomething wrong and say hey how can Idestroy you for the next person soundshorrible I feel secure I feel safe and Ifeel loved that’s huge and I feeltouched in all the right places but kindof I we want you to think of one goalfor next year that is obtainable andthat is meet me double and put it onyour fridge and used to remind you ifit’s if it’s a if it’s a goal of doingdevotions every single day how great dodevotions Oh every single day if datingonce a month if you’re one of thosepeople that want to go to the gymtogether like we do and that’s greatyeah um then go to the gym togetherthat’s fine but don’t stop doing itbecause you miss a day and I thinkthat’s the biggest issue with anexercise or meeting or anything thattakes maintenance is that if you miss aday I’m out that’s why fad diets don’twork because you miss a day and you stopdoing it well it’s not the diet that’sthe issue it’s you you’re the issue sojust stick to it and make it a goal thatyou both can stick to we’re doing thedirty dirty sex stuff know what more sheruined for everyone elseyep if I kill over she’s single the restof her life pretty much that’s that’sthe goal you should be sure to message sif you have topics that you’d like us tocover a few questionswe’ll cover any topics we will live inour area we do coaching what we do itover the phone we do it over zum-zum youbut we just want you know that we’rehere for you if you have any questionslet us know and we keep everythingprivate I always tend to forget to saythat what we do we may use the topic thetopic as an example we know it will notbe Bob and Cindy Brian and Shelly thisis their problem and this is what’sgoing on in their life let’s discusswe don’t Happy New Year you will see youin 2020 hey stamp late and have sex

Want to get a little more intimate during one of the most stressful and busy times of the year? Here are our 12 sexy days of Christmas tips, tricks, and fun things to do to bring you closer together before Christmas. #1. Christmas lingerie – you can either just get a dollar store Santa hat and nothing else or go all out and find some sexy Christmas lingerie for him or her. #2. Schedule an overnighter. This can mean having the kids stay the night with someone else or the grandparents, or book a night away. Vacation sex is best, remember! #3. Big red bow – Wrap up a part of your body in a bow and “present” your self to your spouse. You can even throw in some fun cellophane wrapped around your naked body covered with bows and have fun letting your spouse “unwrap you”. #4. Fondle each other in public – Either squeeze each other’s butts while you’re out Christmas shopping, do a little fondling when no one is looking but remember, don’t get arrested. #5. Hold hands – Whether you’re out shopping, going on a date, or just cuddling on the couch, hold your partner’s hand for at least 5 to 10 minutes. #6. Go to bed naked – At least once between now and Christmas both of you should go to bed naked. Even if you have to put clothes on later in the night, start out naked and see where it goes. #7. Use ice – Ice is a fun and free sex toy. Women can hold ice, frozen grapes, or Altoids in their mouth while performing oral sex on their husband and he can have fun using the ice to stimulate her nipples, erogenous zones, or put the ice in places that will melt immediately wink wink! #8. Cuddle – Whether it’s out on a date or just in front of the fireplace watching Christmas movies, come up under a blanket and hey, fondle your spouse while you’re at it. #9. Date – Schedule a date somewhere during this busy time of year. It can be a simple coffee break, a drive with some fast food, dinner, lunch, or get creative. If you can visit your spouse at work, bring them a snack, coffee, or lunch. #10. Kiss for 20 seconds – As Tim said, you get to pick the body part, me on the other hand, I like kissing on the lips for a good, long time. #11. Write a love letter – This can be as simple as a poem that you text to your spouse, and email to their work, or a beautiful little love letter or note slipped into their lunch box or somewhere around the house that the spouse is likely to find it during the day. #12. Planned for 2020 – Take some time, either on your date or by yourselves and make up a plan for what you want your marriage to look like next year. Do you want to change over the next year? Grow? Are there goals that you want such as having sex more often or scheduling sex? Do you want to try to get out of financial debt and how will you both do that? What are some plans that are simple, easy, and something that you can stick to that will put you and your marriage in a better position this time next year? Don’t let the busyness of the season take away from loving on your spouse and finding those intimate times. Whether you’re laughing over where you’ve placed that bow or really coming together over your marriage goals for 2020, we want you to have a fun, festive, and wonderful marriage and holiday season. Merry Christmas!

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