LIT.GA : Life In the Grey Area

By this time we are all aware of the backlash that Chloe, Cardi B, Meg the Stallion and Lizzo have received from media, fans and haters. With cancel culture we are so quick to swipe left on people. Black women already are the least protected in this world. So why aren’t we working harder to elevate? Join us for this heated discussion!

How many times have we asked our friends a question and didn’t get the answer we wanted? Yes, we all do it! But what happens when we value one over the other? Listen in as we discuss!

Life happens, people evolve and friendships change. But what happens when a friendship that went sour or just drifted reappears? Join us as we take some life experiences and compare notes.

Do they remind you of a past or current relationship? These two left us speechless! The level of pettiness, narcissistic behavior, ineffective communication and love? makes up this story. But let’s take another look at this kind of love post Valentine’s Day.

Ever wonder if your parent’s parenting skills help define your self-worth? Tune in as we answer questions from a Therafriendddd who doesn’t know how to navigate her parents and communication.

Why is it that we’re always the go to person for someone who isn’t the go to for us? Join us as we discuss how late or early in friendships and relationships we’ve figured this out.

Recovering lost time, lost energy, lost money but not the lost people. This year is all about troubleshooting, fixing and removing things that should not affect us, don’t matter to us and are unimportant to us.

Look at the person sitting next you and say “You’re Rare.” We cannot emphasize enough how 2020 has pushed and pulled us all out of our comfort zones. Now that we’re a few days away from a new year, we want to acknowledge that this was all for a greater purpose. So pat yourself on the back and toast yourself. You made it!

But why do we do this? The idea of giving grace even in the midst of hurt, is this a woman thing, a religious thing or a human thing? We can say that we’ve spared a few reputations by not telling the whole story.

Where do we begin? 2016 Elections? 2020 Elections? We often don’t discuss politics but this year as we all know has been tumultuous and the elections only added to our anxiety. Listen in as we try to find some “Woosah”.

2020 has been a year! As we all know a lot of things have gone unexpectedly and at times we’ve found ourselves to be stuck. Are we considering these moments as lessons or failures? Join our discussion as we talk about our lessons and reroutes!

When you’re minding your business you have more time, energy and focus minding your own. So what exactly do you have time for?

I’m growing and entering my next level. Why does this bother you so much? If you need help understanding, ask me but don’t judge me.

Have you ever looked at your friend or hear their voice and know something is off? We cannot emphasize enough how important it is to have good, solid people in your circle. When you’re connected, there are certain things we can sense about each other. Dive deep into this convo with us.

Ever think back to that age where you could’ve saved yourself from heartaches and headaches? Come on in and take a seat as we go back in time and revisit what helped made us today.

“What are we doing here?” A question that has come up during relationships and friendships. But do we really know what we’re asking? Sometimes the answer we’re looking for we don’t get. Listen in as we navigate this conversation.

What do you say to the people that find the need to interject their opinion in your life? We can think of so many answers. Join us as we discuss our answers and how you can apply them in your life.

With so much duress within our present time, as Black Queens, we discuss why Black women are the most disrespected, under appreciated, unconsidered and unloved. Take a listen as we dissect the trending topic of Meg & Tory and why we continue to extend grace even to those that cause us harm.

As Dom’s birthday is rapidly approaching, Dar’s curiosity lead to this episode. With Dar’s help, she sets the stage for Dom to talk openly about her feelings and experiences. Tune in and join this journey with us!

I’m a whole adult!!! How many of us are still looked upon as children even in the midst of our 30s? Without any disrespect, it’s time to have conversations as adults. As adults we learn how much our parents and siblings are still learning as we are. Communication is important to solidify relationships. So why is it forbidden as adults (children)?

No! No! No! Yes, you heard right! Our mental health and wellness should always be at the forefront of our lives. Come on in as we discuss the need for your “No” and it’s attributes to your life.

No (eyeroll), I’m not “living in sin” because I haven’t been to church in two weeks! The constant debate of spirituality and religion has been an ever present topic especially as we try to define or categorize our relationship with God and others. Is there really a difference between the two?

Has your “price” gone up recently?Self worth is key. You have to take the time to do a lot of work on yourself in order for you to require others to see you in the same light you see in yourself. Ride with us as we also talk about past and current relationships.

Yyyaaaassss therafriendddds we went there?! Why is this topic such taboo? Well we deep dive it’s origins and it’s modern state all while schooling each other on our experiences. Listen in for some laughs and let us know what you think!

As Black women we were innately told that we are Strong women and our job is to hold it together for our households, our communities, our churches and at work. Because of this “pressure” to “keep it together,” our families have grown to be dependent on us emotionally and mentally where we’re coping for everyone else except for ourselves. Listen in as we deep dive this subject matter and how we can change the our outcomes.

The window dressings are REAL! So many corporations have “taken the stance” of BLM, but how many of them are truthful in their stance? Jump in and listen as we discuss our experiences and how if they don’t acknowledge, affirm and act on their stance, the end results can be very detrimental!

Living in two pandemics- Racism and COVID, we are left with so many questions and a few are still left unanswered. Tune in as we explore the answer of silence and how you can rise above and move forward!

Say what?!!!! But what about his bromance??!!!! Yes and yes, we discuss both sides of the coin. Tune in as we relate to this topic referencing a new book we’re reading titled “Friendish.”

OMG! How dare we battle the construct of religion and challenge ourselves and you all for a relationship with God? We are far, FAR from the holier-than-thou group but what we do have in common is a personal relationship with Christ. Listen in as we deep dive into the topic of religion vs. relationship.

Did you get that text from your Ex? “Hey Bighead!”Guurrrrlllll don’t respond and fall victim to the foolishness of quarantine and chill. Tune in as we give you tips on healing over toxicity and choosing your future over your past.

Sometimes people take their own personal insecurities and try to twist them into someone else’s flaws. Tune in while we discuss the “Tea” into InsecureTea!

You ever have that one friend where you thought your relationship was defined by sisterhood but you come to realize you two aren’t actually as “close” as you thought or people believed you were? Listen in as we deep dive into this topic and see how it’s related to our personal lives!

2020 has been full of quarantine & chill time and honestly we’re a bit tired of the redundancy. We dive into how we’re keeping sane during this pandemic and identifying a few our comfort zones and how to break out this rut! Listen in therafriendddds!!!!

Still quarantined and still in our thoughts, Dar has an all out session about friends vs. acquaintances. Listen in as we sort through some stories and leave you therafriendddds tips on how to navigate a few relationships.

I wish my landlord would tell me this during this quarantine! But no therafriendddds, tune in as we dive into a recent question concerning self reflection but most importantly relationships! If you’re “altering” yourself for someone, dimming your light or lowering your standards then it’s most likely time you tell them “your lease is up!”

Hey LITGA-ers!!!! Come and join us on this episode as we talk about what love and its many facets. We share some real life stories all while rolling our eyes!

NYE 2020, #20/20 Vision right? But what if we actually take it further and reflect on why we haven’t lived with this “20/20” vision that keeps floating around as a hashtag. We deep dive into our lives and give our listeners tips and advice on how to take this year by the horns and to actually LIVE LIFE!

Holidays are coming up and it’s a time for family and friends. But what happens when you’re trying to rid the toxicity out of your life?! We discuss this here. Join us #therafriends for real life and advice!

This episode we debate everything from bringing “guest” to the holiday gatherings, friendships, Kanye and ALL his antics but most importantly we deep dive into the infamous Rodney Reed case and how it translates to the culture and our lack of access....or misused access. Listen in for more!!!!!