The Rapid Breakup Recovery Podcast

In this episode I talk with Gus, another long-term member of our Facebook group.After his marriage came to an end, Gus found himself in a toxic relationship that almost destroyed him. When it came to an end, he vowed that he wouldn't spend the second half of his life like he had the first. He went looking for answers – and he found them.In this episode I talk to Gus about how he was able take his self-worth from zero back to full power. Show notes:0:01:47 | Gus starts his story0:04:35 | Realization he could not accept his treatment of himself any longer0:05:32 | Recognized in a poster in the group that he was suffering what they were suffering0:05:51 | About his ADHD diagnosis0:09:31 | God bless these people who aren't able to love. She taught me a lesson. Thank god it happened0:12:01 | Learning to take it easy on himself after his diagnosis0:13:49 | What joining the group did for Gus0:14:23 | What he took from the group (Responsibility, take up past issues)0:16:50 | How we was able to punch himself out0:17:28 | How his cooky sister's advice was the same as the group's0:21:01 | How his lack of belief in himself made him hang out with people that were doomed in life0:24:08 | You have to look after your own space0:24:15 | How self-development his head is consumed. He needs the time to learn about me and self-improvement.0:25:42 | About his parenting0:27:37 | The end of his toxic relationship0:29:08 | He realizes he didn't like her0:30:35 | Angry at himself for allowing this to happen0:31:43 | Realized this was nothing about his ex, but about him0:32:33 | Dropped his old therapist0:32:58 | On his search for answers0:34:53 | People need to be brought to their knees0:37:29 | Victim blaming0:39:46 | Began to see his virtuous behaviors in a different light0:42:32 | Listening to his instincts & self knowledge0:44:52 | Friendships have become stronger, more open to people he needs to be open with0:46:36 | Gus gives an example of enforcing his boundary0:50:42 | Is enforcing boundaries an ongoing challenge?0:52:09 | A bad relationship with yourself, attracts others that are in bad relationships with themselves0:52:39 | How did Gus change his beliefs?0:57:23 | The importance of no contact0:58:21 | Stopped concentrating on other people0:58:53 | What role did trauma bonding play?0:59:22 | Knowing is half the battle0:59:45 | What is trauma bonding?0:02:40 | How Jesse slapped Gus

In this episode of the Rapid Breakup Recovery Podcast I talk to veteran community member Geoff about dysfunctional relationships, healing deep emotional wounds and how to be a good father after breaking up with the mother.