Three Dads Over Coffee

The three pontificators are back and going deeper than a very, very shallow ditch. we talk parenting to avoid catastrophe vs parenting towards the future and how to balance them we dig into the idea of lecturing our kids vs listening to them then we talk about how to talk to our kids about drugs, sex and other things that await them. Thanks for a great conversation guys!

The the Fallen Elves are back, on the day after Christmas because, we're that committed to talking about ourselves. In this episode we dive into world of our inner critic and examine where it comes from, the pros and cons and how to living with the annoying bastard. And more importantly - we close the chapter on our Manscaper experience.

Something different for this episode!   I got the best Christmas present for my mom.   In the 80’s we spent 3 years living behind the iron curtain in communist Romania.   We were diplomats so our life was easy and blessed.   That experience was one of the most transformative of my life. It still informs my view of the world in a significant way. To see human suffering at that scale was unbelievable as people were basically locked in a prison the size of a country witnessing the cult of personality the state created around the dictator was akin to North Korea, although not quite as extreme To see how sclerotic the regime truly was was fascinating. The only thing that kept it in power was the idea that it was inevitable. Once people stopped believing that and starting rising up it all collapsed in weeks We were also there when Chernobyl exploded and saw how the state deliberately mislead its people about the dangers. Since that time my mom has helped people from that region in so many completely selfless ways. She’s a saint.   Back in 1985 there was an edition of the Readers Digest with a big special feature called Escape from Russia on Foot.   It’s an absolutely remarkable story.   We had a tattered copy around our house when I was in high school for years.   One last point - my mom is nearly blind and has been her entire life.   So..: After lots of digging I found a copy of that edition in good condition.   On Christmas Eve, we’re going to sit around a fire outside and I’m going to read the story to her.   I’m also going to record myself reading it so she can re-listen to it whenever she wants. And, I thought since I'm recording it, why not publish it as a podcast episode?   She is going to LOVE this so much! And she’ll be totally surprised.

The three tortured, angsty hipsters return to delve deep on an interesting question posed by Scotty: What we talk to our wives about versus what we talk to our friends about. Man, what emerged was a raw, honest and real conversation. And I think I'll leave it at that for now... If you enjoy the podcast, give us a rating and review and subscribe!!

The three lumps of coal are back for a typical mendacious, frivolous and sophmoric weekend salon. Jay gives a product overview of his new Oura Ring AND a book review of The Art of Gathering Jon recaps his trip with the boys The lads talk through a big change Jay will be making soon. There was probably some other stuff in there and I can't remember what it was.  

Today it is just Scott, as the others lamed out (he explains why in the episode).  Yes, just his smooth baritone voice without all the normal inane interruptions.  Today instead of tackling the topic of “consistency,” as was the original plan, Scott gets into “help.”  We all get and give help.  But Scott, from his great experience receiving help over the last few years, has boiled Good Help down to a few important elements.  Hopefully you enjoy this enlightening monologue and return again next week for another episode from the full crew. 

We try to figure out how to talk to our kids about $$!

Strap in because the three spanish flies are back and setting off an explosion of "wisdom" - we talk about Andy Storch's new book and how he's gone all in on creating his dreams - we also chat about how and why writing a book is such a great way to learn about a subject you care about - we go deep on how to think and set boundaries and we try to prevent Scott from cutting people out of his life for being 3 minutes late

The three mimes are back for an interesting, albeit quiet episode. Scott talks about all the ways his body is falling apart since turning 50 a few weeks ago Uncover a mystery as old as time itself - why the hell do people walk with ski poles? We talk 'bout lurnin' and how wee git smrt. And lastly we talk about judging the fuck out of people and how to live and let live.   BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

A mish mash of bullshit, nonsense, fantasy and perhaps a few hallucinations!

The three banana hammocks are back for a brisk walk through the dark recesses of our souls. we open up with recap of Jon and Jay's 48 hour fasting experience then Scotty gets Zen as he recaps his 75Hard experience by dropping wisdom bomb after wisdom bomb lastly we get serious and talk about addiction from porn to pot to food and the ways we beat ourselves up about our 'failings' As usual - nothing resolved but something learned and that's what it's all about BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance  

The three gypsy moths are back for yet another discussion that went nothing like what we planned. The idea was to talk about addiction and porn - we'll save that for next week.  Instead we talked about filling unmeet needs with material things Then we got into false dichotomies as a way to rationalize our own beliefs and behaviors. Jay talks about what it has been like to deal with quitting the 75Hard I'm sure there was some other shit in there but I've already mentally blocked it out.   BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three streetwalkers are back and on the prowl! This episode started with a strange and awkward attempt to bust Jay's balls about failing on the 75Hard. After that we get into some real issues that we're trying to navigate as dads.  Man it's great to have a couple of great friends to talk this stuff through with. You'll recognize many of your own experiences in as we try to navigate ours and that's what this podcast is all about! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three California Girls are back with deep exploration of the most important issues of our time.  Oh wait, that's some other podcast. - We launch right in with a quick chat about the presidential debates before we - we had to stop when we all threw up in our mouths at the exact same moment. - Then, because we're so current, we talked about an issue happening right in the moment, and how it can be tough to let our kids struggle and feel extreme discomfort. - Lastly, we conducted a salon about kids, school and how and how hard to push them.  I'm not sure we came to anything profound but it was a great discussion. - lastly, we admired Jonny C's pre-camping beard.  S.E.X.Y.   BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three tenors are back to plumb the depths of absurdity. This one went off the rails right away: we talked about an unconventional way for Jon to keep the animals away while he;s camping next weekend. we, in the moment, invent a revolutionary leap in the personal pleasure device  A decidedly lackluster 75Hard  update as we crawl across the finish line And we ended with a serious conversation about subjects we find it immensely challenging to talk to your kids about. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

It's happened yet again!  The three public scratchers are back with another contribution to humanity! Bold claim?  Probably. We kick it off by Jay whining about being sick.  No love was shown. Next up we talked about how tough it can be to ask for help and to receive compliments Illogically following that was a quick chat about the difference between recognition and appreciation.  Check out this awesome Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/mike_robbins_the_power_of_appreciation After about 30 minutes we got to the main topic which was social media and our kids.  We shared our experiences and beliefs and came up with some takeaways that might help you with your kids. The good news is the conversation prompted Jay to delete his Instagram account. Somewhere in there Scott opened up about wearing a speedo in public, even in the fall.  I might not even be kidding. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The Three Tourtieres (look it up you non-Canadians) are back with a vengeance!  And bad gas. What mysteries await you, our beloved listeners,  today? We recap our 75Hard challenge and the fact that it's becoming a slog.  Jonny is getting downright speedo-worthy from all his fasting JMack does a a superficial and completely non-valued added review of the Aftershokz Titanium bone conducting headphones We might have actually just come up with a brilliant new concept for a new microphone - you'll need to be the judge and jury And most importantly, Scott shares an incredibly powerful moment with his son and what it meant to him and what it means for dads. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

This week, the 3 Horsemen of the Apocalypse are back for another stampede through the town of Incomprehension! we update our challenge progress we reflect on just how much closer we are than we think to making huge changes in our lives Next up we tackle the idea of tearing down historical statues Which leads to a great conversation around the idea that maybe the best way to teach our kids not to idolize people is help them stop idolizing us as parents. We didn't know where this would go, and we're glad it went where it did! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

I (Jason) wanted to make this episode for a few reasons. So many guys are afraid of seeing a therapist. They think it makes them weak. Or that they're broken. Or that they can solve it on their own. All elite level athletes have someone in their corner that has expertise they don't have. Who help them see their blind spots and call them on their shit. I've been seeing a therapist. I want to share the experience with you so you get some insight into what its like. Maybe it will help you see how it could strengthen you as well. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three silverbacks (or maybe just hairy backs) return a focused exploration of our failures as fathers. Ok, that's not quite right! We're crushing our mental toughness challenges and we open up talking about what we're learning! We have a great discussion about how to help your disinterested teenagers discover what they truly value. None of us are sure how to do it and we all got some great ideas from one another! And that's what having these conversations is all about! Oh...and Scotty wraps up with a lifehack that he promises will: peel paint get rid of any and all bugs in your house lubricate your eyes Does that sound like a tall order?  After listening, we believe him! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three philosopher monks are back with and talking through some new ideas: First we riff on our 75 Hard updates (and Jon's 69 Day Challenge) Next up we go deep on the idea of sacrifice and how to flip it on it's head  (we got the idea from a book about monks) After that, Scott is so intrigued, he commits to forsaking his ill-fitting dad jeans and wearing only a monastic habit (and a speedo for swimming) from this point forward. This was a great chat that helped us start to solidify some interesting and important ideas! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance  

The three spectacular boxes of hair are back for an early morning debacle. We can't stick to a script so here's what went down: We talk about focus and the importance of accountability and support in pushing farther, faster (we're killing our big ass goals!) We talk about how Jonny leaned hard into discomfort this week and knocked something important out of the park Then we talked about how, as dads, we think about teaching our kids in a way they are willing to hear. There's a lot of actionable advice that applies to any dad wanted to take it to the next level!! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance    

The three meat bags are back with a different flavour this week! Jonny C. is taking an entirely undeserved vacation and Scotty's friend Greg joined us. We talk about photography, presence and helping people's light shine through. We then move to Jay and Scott's 75 Hard Challenge adventure and what we're learning about ourselves. And lastly, and most importantly we talk to Greg as a black lawyer in America about Black Lives Matter, racism and the role we can all play in creating a different present and future. Thanks for joining us my friend.  We loved our conversation! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance  

The three lovers come together for a deep dive on Scott's love life. As soon as I finish writing this, I'm going to spiritually cleanse myself.  It will take days and many tears. Actually, before that, we talk about the 75 Hard challenge we're embarking on.   That should provide endless fodder for growth and mockery in the coming weeks. We cover dating, authenticity just having fun and of course...Tinder. In fact, Scott spent half the podcast swiping left as we chatted. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance  

The three boxes of hair go deep on this one. We talk about self-compassion. How beating ourselves up holds us back. How screwed up the stories we tell ourselves about giving ourselves a break can be. How self-compassion opens new doors. And trying to figure out how the hell to incorporate more of it into our lives. Oh...and Scotty does the best outro yet!   And when I say best, I mean worst. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three icemen are back for glacial, painful exploration of the dark recesses of our souls. Scotty talks about his writing challenge and what's he's been noticing so far. Jay does a somewhat pathetic book review of an amazing book he just finished.   And Jonny C pisses and moans about his broken wrist for 75 minutes.  Which is really saying something as the podcast is only an hour. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three enchiladas are back together again - things are how they should be. In this episode, JMack relays some of his counselling revelations to his captive audience. Then we have a great conversation about meeting new people, talking to them and building relationships. That leads to an interesting chat about how to think differently about "networking" which just feels gross. And lastly - we set up our next episode!  It's going to be great. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

A little mixup today and the third horseman of the apocalypse is MIA.  We missed you Scotty!   In this episode Jay and Jon talking fasting, failing at fasting, and failing at breaking our fasts. It's an excellent synopsis of how to completely fuck up fasting in all its forms. To learn some stuff about fasting that might actually be useful, try this: BBC Documentary Peter Attia The Complete Guide to Fasting BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The three zombies are back for a wide ranging and sometimes painfully awkward discussion. Jon and Jay throw down the gauntlet and make an intermittent fasting commitment. Great shame will befall those who fail.  And we have failed many times before. Scott's nickname is now "Eggo" for how much he waffled. Somehow tranquilizing elephants came up too.  BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

We can't always see the finish line from where you start.   That describes this conversation to a T. We start with Scotty talking about setting some personal challenges and then end with The Big Brown Beaver. Are those two things related to one another? Listen & subscribe to find out! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

The Three Muskateers are back for another rambling excursion through the dark recesses of our minds: JMack talks about a huge realization he had in counselling this week We then revisit our conversation from a few weeks ago about race.   What are we learning and what are we doing? Then Scott walks us through how profoundly inept he is at driving his boat.  Stay off the lake if you live in Georgia! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

Another wide-ranging, ill informed discussion by the Three Amigos! In this episode we talk about: how we've talked to our kids about race, protests and riots Changing the stories we tell ourselves Imposter syndrome Who you surround yourself with When to keep pushing or change direction BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

This one is heavy and I'm curious about how people will react. It's 3 white dads talking about race and trying to figure it out? What should we be doing? What makes someone a racist? Have a listen and share your thoughts. The more we contribute to the marketplace of ideas, the more we'll collectively evolve our thinking and our society. BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

This was a great one and we went totally off the plan! What else is new? Join us as: - the guys give me a little therapy session about feeling a sense of accomplishment - we talk about hard it is for guys to ask for help - we wrap it up by talking about vulnerability and how important it is to model it for our kids! You're going to love this episode! BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

It happens to us all.  We get into our 40's and think, "Shit, what the hell am I doing with my life?" In this episode the fellas cover a lot of ground: First, JMack does a truly pathetic review of the Manscaper Lawnmower 2.0 Buying a bunch of stuff whenever you want to start something new instead of just getting on with it Running into resistance and discomfort when trying something new Leaving a legacy The relationship between peace and happiness BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

Now we're officially rolling!  After a blockbuster launch that broke every best practice of marketing and with the results to prove it, we bring you Episode 2! In this episode, the lads riff on: Making meaning out of what happens to us Having great conversations with your kids Talking to people with different beliefs How shitty we are at handling defiant kids How trying to figure out how to be a parent keeps us humble BTW - if you're a dad looking for a band of brothers that will support you, push you, teach you and learn from you then: Live Legendary with the Dad Edge Alliance

Join Scott, Jon, and Jay as they launch their podcast - which is really nothing more than recording the Saturday morning ramblings of 3 dads and friends. I'm not even sure if anyone was actually drinking coffee and we screwed up the Zoom link at the beginning. It can only go up (or down) from here! By the way - if you're looking for an amazing brotherhood of men - look no further than the Dad Edge Alliance.