Wigs Off Podcast

Whats up everybody this is AK's solo episode about health, fitness and wellness. I dive into nutrition , workouts, mental stability, bad habits, Mindset and accountability. Please join me and I hope you all enjoy. 

Standyby for a special message from your favorite Cohost, Ya boy AK!*Wigs Off Podcast does not own the rights to this song its used for entertainment purposes only!

XO here, It's been sometime now and I just needed to rip off the band aid and get back in the headspace of recording. I've definitely struggled with whether I wanted to release this episode or not but here it is. I recorded alone this time which is new for me & honestly I felt super vulnerable and I still don't know how to feel about it. i.e The ramblings of me! Feel free to hit me up on IG, FB @WigsOffPodcast or at WigsOffPodcast@gmail.comSome things I have learned during this pandemic1. I need interactions with the outside world and just people in general2. I don't hate my job3. I need my family more than I thought4. lonely is different from being alone5. I have a Online shopping addiction6. Stoic doesn't mean you're not hurting and being vulnerable doesn't mean you are weak.7. It's perfectly ok to grieve

Ring,Ring,Ring... Xo here, thanks for your continuing support of my podcast. I hope you're well. Wishing you all health, wealth and a Peace of mind. Make sure you stay locked in for more to come. Xoxoxoxoxo!

HodgePodgeISHIn this episode  Xo & AK come together unscripted to discuss a few things on Xo’s mind. Is Imitation really a form of flattery?Theft or Imitation?Is your mind or thoughts really a powerful weapon?Thoughts become things! Are you staying stuck because of your own mindset is holding you back?Can you speak obstacles into existence?Can habits become the reason you’re stuck?Is this microwave era of instant gratification keeping us stuck?Xo’s 3 suggestions for becoming unstuckPlan, If you have a plan you can move forward and at least have something to fall back onRealistic Goal Setting, make a list of realistic goals that you want to accomplish and be specific Communication, speak with someone who you can trust about what you're going thruAk’s 3 suggestions for becoming unstuckDon’t compare yourself to anyone else2.   Know what you’re fighting for, know why you're doing what you’re doing?3.   Everything comes with time, some things take a little more time. Just because you haven’t       done it yet doesn’t mean it cannot be done, some things take time.Snow’s suggestion for becoming unstuckSelf Evaluation….Be honest with yourself,  Don’t get stuck on excuses. What are you doing  for yourself to become unstuck?My Body temple… If I own my sexuality why does it matter who I sleep with or how many partners I have had? Promiscuity = Serial Killer?  Why is she a hoe? Is he a hoe? Its my body and I choose what I do with it?Take the time to appreciate where you are, what you have and how many changes you’ve already made.

The art of self care Sundays, staying hydrated and minding ya own damn business. "Living Stress Free"On the 7th day she rested, more so figuratively than literally....... any day that i have a day off or some free time to spend on myself is a "self care Sunday". self care days should consist of rejuvenating, empowering and healing. all self care practices should include a full night of sleep, according to my doctor, thats when all the magic happens... sleep allows your body to repair it's self & is more important than food or exercise! Eating right drinking water, minding your own business, protecting your peace, meditation, masturbating, knowing your body, knowing when something is off, taking time for yourself, a day at the spa, taking solo trips, counseling & knowing when to shut the fuck up! knowing when to walk away from a conversation or anything that doesn't involve you or bring you a peace of mind.My Top three things to alleviate stress 1. staycation- sitting at home, relaxing, take a hot bath, burning my favorite candle, catch up on my favorite shows, listening to music, cooking my favorite meal and talking to a loved one,  and taking a break from social media.2. Controlling my environment- distancing folks who drain me spiritually and mentally and minding my own damn business.3. Planning my next solo adventure. i started taking me trips about 3 years ago to just learn more about myself and learning to have fun alone and discovering new places.Jump into Self care---- My Recommendations!Meditating/Exercisetalking to someone you can trust i.e friend, family member or counselor/therapiststaying hydratedget 6-8 hours of sleep per nighttake 15 mins to yourself each daybreathe, just go outside and get a breath of fresh airtaking a break from social media

The Great CompromiseEverything in life is a compromise, it is selfish to think that you'll never need to compromise in a relationship? Is it unfair to ask of people what you do not have yourself? Should you have to comprise anything at all? Is it settling if you do compromise?What are your list of deal breakers? Does their relationship with their family matter, could you date or marry a “Mama’s boy”?Is lying a deal breaker, white lie vs a blatant lie..Would you date someone who had an unsafe job?If the person whom you’re committed to doesn’t want children is that a no go?Would you date a guy with several kids or baby mama’s?If the person made significantly less than you is it a deal breaker?If the person doesn’t want to work or have stable income? It's levels to this shhhhh!Does the level of relationship dictate what you're willing to overlook… i.e. Talking vs dating, dating vs friends with benefits, casual relationship vs committed status. 

Update: Wigs Off sincerely apologizes for the audio issues we experienced during this episode. We will try our best to fix it as best as we can! Make sure to stay connected with our social media for updates! IncogNegro"Code Switch"Code-Switching- the practice of alternating between two or more languages or a variety of languages in conversationIncognito- having ones true identity concealed.Do you ever feel like you have to turn down you BLACKness at work or curve your tone or jargon down so you wont offend any one or explain yourself to coworkers?Discuss the usage of the N word in mixed company. How do you feel about it?Do you code switch?Why do we feel the need for code switching?if you code switch is it considered being fake? are you 100 if you not keeping it 100? "assimilate" (Desmond says its ok to soften the blow)

Daddy Where Were You?Absent Parent.Does the absence of a father in a household really matter? Can a queen be a queen without first having the proper love from a king “her dad”.Does it really take the love from a dad to shape future healthy relationships with men?Daddy Issues- is an informal phrase for psychological challenges resulting from an absent or abnormal relationship with ones father. Often manifesting in a distrust of or sexual desire for men who act like father figures.Some ways to identify that you may have daddy/parental issues1.Trust issues- Your defective parent gave you no reason to trust him so you would possibly have an issue with trusting a partner. You been hurt by that absent parents inconsistency and broken promises. So you protect yourself from having your hopes up. You question someones intentions for you, instead of trusting that they want your best interest. You’re always checking if someone’s story checks out rather than focusing on making a connection with them.2.Youre emotionally unavailable- your absent parent hurt you and now you’re possibly afraid to love.3.You prefer sexual relationships too emotional, you strictly want sexual relationships because emotional relationships mean you risk getting hurt.4.you constantly need reassurance- you constantly look to the person you’re with for reassurance. Do you still love me? Am I being too clingy? 5. You seek emotional unavailable partners. We seek out what we are comfortable with, if your father didn’t give you the time of day you might be comfortable with this behavior.6. You become easily attached. Instead of pushing me away you can become attached. When you find someone you are really interested in it can be hard to

If You Love Me, Say It!"Give me my flowers while I can still smell them". The Kobe Bryant helicopter tragedy definitely took some time to process; In the time it took to process, I had to admit to myself that it was perfectly ok to grieve the lives of people I’ve never met and that we’re are all connected whether we think so or not. I found my self being bombarded on every social media outlet with the tragedy over and over again and I couldn’t settle my grief, so I disconnected from social media for 10 days. You have to recognize your trauma triggers and take steps to heal. In this time I grew even closer to my family, I didn’t think it was possible to be closer then we were. I’ve learned especially after this tragic incident, that the only thing you can dictate is your own response to outside factors. Life happens, it’s up to you to control your own stress levels & peace of mind.  Your mental health is directly related to those actions. It affects how we think, feel, and act. Life is short, do what makes you happy, tell the folks you love, that you love them as much as you can and protect your peace. You only get one life and today may be your last day. 

Expiration Date Knowing When to "Let Go!Everything tangible has a self life, so can the same be said for work, friendships, relationships etc. How do you know when a thing has gone past its  expiration date?Signs that said thing is doneNo longer adds value to your lifeCauses you more strife than happinessIf you have continuously question why this thing is still present in your lifeBeg the Question Can a relationship truly expire, or does it just need time to work itself out?Do years matters i.e. girl i've known her for over 10 years, i cant just cut her off.Is blood thicker than an expiration date; can your relationships with your family expire, can you cut them off?Should you communicate your contention with the person?Do expiration dates come with closureCan time can dictate a "closure call"

Ep. 10 Cash App Me If It’s Real Pt 2. The cohost end season one with a follow up of their most debated topic, should women give men money?  In this follow up, do the cohost have the same opinion on the matter as part 1. We delve into the other side of the debate. Supporting a man vs. Sponsoring a man.. Support is to assist or hold up a responsibility. Sponsor is to provide for without seeking anything in return.  Is there a difference in supporting your man and taking care of them? Does either of these mean you’re building up a man, like a build a bear factory? Is it antiquated to think that men are always suppose to be the breadwinners, if women want equality?

Why isn’t mental health openly discussed in the black community? Is uncle Joe really crazy or does he have some sort of mental illness? i.e. Schizophrenia, bipolar.  Can depression be prayed away? Why doesn’t the church talk about partitioners seeking medical help? Even the bible states prayer without works is dead! Do the cohost believe in seeking help and has either host ever had therapy? Why does therapy seem more taboo for men than It does for women? Is seeking help a sign of weakness? Does toxic masculinity play a role in men not seeking help? Resources For Seeking Help! National institute of mental health https://www.nimh.nih.gov, Toll free number 1-866-615-6464; Georgia Crisis Line 1-800-715-4225; National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (Talk); Or dial your local 911 for immediate assistance

Priority- The fact or condition of being regarded or treated as more important. As you get older your priorities shift but when you are dating should your priorities shift with your partners or should each partner have separate priorities and maintain copacetic relationship priorities? Does your priorities always have to align with your partners? Can a person be a be a good mate if they cannot seem to prioritize their life? Can a person with a terrible work ethic be a good partner? If you are consistently the one calling, texting or scheduling dates, and if u don't reach out to them first you don't hear from them you are probably not a priority to you. Action expresses priority 

Name those shenanigans, each co hosts name their most memorable moments while traveling. Recording on scene in Memphis, back with the crew for our favorite travel experiences. Our favorite Trips, The friend you hate to travel with. Can traveling with friends be stressful? Where we wanna travel next, and more...

(Wife with no ring) "Where's the ring sis" Women are inherent nurturers, so when in relationships naturally want to assume the "wife" role,  but does assuming that role too soon or at all, damn you to being a perpetual girlfriend? Why are some women always the girlfriend and never the wife? Can men become complacent with what the girlfriend is offering and never think twice about taking the relation ship further?  Benefits/ Perks.. Is there certain  things that a girlfriend just shouldn't do? Is the man wrong for never taking  things further or is he just taking his time, making sure the girlfriend is wife worthy? Is it true that a man can only do what a woman allows him to do and does this play a role in the man making the woman his wife. Rule of thumb: How long before a woman should become concerned that she'll always be a permanent girlfriend? Is there a certain amount of time before the woman should take action or leave the relationship, if the male hasn't taken it further.

Why You Mad Sis? Why can't black women express themselves without being called the Angry Black Woman? Why is it that Men are considered Leaders if they assertive, but women are considered bitter or angry? Do words really have power? Can your words become someone else's narrative? Who's responsibility is it too correct this behavior? It's no one else's fault that you are intimidated by them. Who can change this angry black woman trope? 

Cash App Me If It's REAL! How soon is too soon for a boyfriend/ girlfriend to start asking for money? Is there a rule of thumb when it comes to money and dating? Is there a scale of an acceptable amount when asking a partner for money? How much is too much? Should a male ever feel comfortable asking his girlfriend for money? Does casual dating or a committed status play a role in partners sharing money? Are men obligated to financially  help their girlfriends.

Do friendlationships require as much work as a relationship? Are there boundaries? are said boundaries stated or unstated? A friend researching a potential mate on social media without your knowledge, is that intrusive? would you take offense to that action? How do you address a friend that has crossed a boundary? Would your friends opinion matter in your relationship. Would you dump a mate based on 411 or advice from a friend?

He Ain’t Holding- Does size really matter? Can his mouth write a check his dick can’t cash, if he has a big mouth and no dick to back it up? Do men still brag on their dick? Do personal connections and or affections make trash dick seem better?  Does oral sex and other foreplay compensate for whack ass dick? Can small dicks get the job done? 

The Blame GameCheating, who’s to blame? Is there shame or stigma when someone cheats or steps out of their relationship? Much right man perspective, if he isn’t married is he technically fair game or does his committed relationship and or official engagement take him off the market? Which is worse the physical act or an emotional attachment