#cliteracy

How many episodes do we think I am going to make about how I am back before I actually come back? In this episode, I give a brief update about where I have been & why I stayed away from #Cliteracy for so long. I have a lot of stories for you which I promise I will be sharing in the upcoming weeks. I do know this – there are going to be some changes to #Cliteracy and I am not sure how that is going to look in the future. What I do know is that the skeletal foundation will remain the same. The bones of #Cliteracy (I don't know why I am doing this comparison) will always been rooted in honor, love, healing, and laughter. You are wonderful! Even though I don't have any social media, please feel free to reach out if you ever need it

** This episode is all over the place. I did not listen to it again afterwards, so you're going to have to bare with me. There is nothing more for me to say other than ~I fucked up~ and we are going to talk about it. In this episode, I talk about self sabotage + self doubt + insecurity (aka all my usual topics). The only difference is we're going to be talking about how I did the complete OPPOSITE of what I normally tell yalls to do and ~I am crying~ in this episode. Always a good time

Colette LaMuse is BACK for another fun episode. I know, I know... I have been talking about bringing a guest back on for quite some time. I finally did it though. In this episode, we talk about a lot - arrogance, competition, conflict, friendship, insecurity, amplifying your energy, UNICOCKS, ghosting, and SO much more. I hope you enjoy listening, it is always a pleasure to have such a wonderful and thoughtful guest on the podcast. *This is my first unedited episode so please be kind*

If a guy sent you videos of him fucking a stuffed penguin, would you still have sex with him? Asking for a friend... In this episode, I talk about the story of how I checked #91 off my bucket list. Let me tell you, this story that has been in the making for almost an entire year but I think it is time for me to retire putting people on my bucket list because it never seems to turn out very well (throwback to episode two). I also talk a little bit about hook up culture and letting go of the idea that you need to know the reason "why" (something I struggle with on the daily).

It sucks that my first episode back is all about how I found myself entangled in an emotionally abusive and manipulative relationship. As I listened through this episode, I realized there is so much more I wish I could have said/conveyed about how I was feeling, what went down, and how paranoid I became over the course of our relationship. To be completely honest, I am scared about the content of this podcast going live and getting back to him. However, the entire point of this episode is to remind you to NEVER fight fear on fear. The only person who has the ability to lay anything you are going through down on their own accord is YOU. This is a reminder to myself as well - I will not walk through this life immobilized by fear. There is nothing this person can do that will shake more or push me from going after my desires. I have taken the steps to make sure he does not have direct contact with me anymore, but I know in my heart that this story is important for people to hear. If you have been in a similar situation/are in a situation, I hope this episode can bring some form for connection and peace for you. Even if you haven't been through something like this before, I always come from a place of openness and love - I do not share my experiences to “ruin” other peoples lives. I share MY experiences because this is something I LIVED THROUGH. Women have always been told that we should “keep quiet” and make sure not to ruin the lives of men. I will NOT stay quiet about my experiences, things that I lived through for the past 5ish months. You should not either - your voice has power and you have no idea the change that can come about from you sharing your experiences. As for the actual content of this episode, I talked about how we came to be a couple, the first time he accused me of cheating on him, the Mexico story, the second time he accused me of cheating on him, our breakup, and then his attempts to ruin our mutual friends' professional and personal lives.

WOW! Where do I even begin? In this episode, I go through where I have been, why I left, and a small funk I found myself in over the past couple weeks. Would it be an episode of #cliteracy without a little bit of chaos? Get ready for new stories and new guests (I know, I know I keep promising guests but COVID is making it a little harder to procure them :-/). However, the main theme of this episode is that I FUCKING MISSED YOU GUYS.

In this episode, we talk about a variety of different things that are TOTALLY different and nOT AT ALL the same as my other episodes - knowing your worth and your power. Just kidding, we also talk about objectification, hostile and benevolent sexism, being catcalled (hence the title of this episode), and more...

In this episode, we talk a lot about voting and the recent confirmation of Amy Coney Barrett. I run through what that means for access to equitable reproductive healthcare like birth control, abortion care, and IVF. At one point though, I get so fired up and it turns into a rant about how powerful and amazing you are. Is that different than any of my other episodes? No, not really.

“Don't let anyone ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want.” - Heath Ledger. In this episode we go through all of my tips and tricks for communication in the bedroom and how to successfully get what you want in the bedroom. I tell some of my past experiences and the moment I realized how communication can actually make a difference when having sex with a person.

Title is self-explanatory, but I almost quit Cliteracy among other things. In this episode, I give a brief life update and take the time to talk about jealousy and "haters". Am I cool enough to have haters? I don't even know, but I can tell you that we are going to be focusing on confidence in this episode (shocker).

In today's episode I am joined by a friend of mine as we dive deeper into double standards, the importance of foreplay, and how much men suck (occasionally). I hope you enjoy this one because we had a lot of fun making it.

In this episode, my stepfather makes a guest appearance after we spent a very quick two days in Alaska doing all the wilderness things. Filmed on my parents' bedroom floor (I feel like that is a common theme) the night before I flew home, we navigate some tricky concepts like toxic masculinity with hopes of sharing a different perspective that most people don't have on the idea. Hopefully you will be able to learn something from someone who used to be a "toxic male" and how he was able to "balance" out his life.

In this episode, an audience favorite makes her return as we talk about the art of letting things go. At the end of the day, it isn't a science - there is no formula in order to make it happen other than your willingness. Hopefully this shotgun episode recorded on the bedroom of Jade's floor opens your mind and hearts as we share pieces of ourselves we have never shared before.

Warning - This is a little bit of a longer episode, so take all the time you need to digest both parts that have been wrapped up in one. In one of my most highly requested episodes, Colette LaMuse and I take on purity culture in the Church, the concepts of shame, and share a little bit about our previous encounters with religion. Obviously, every person's journey in their faith is their own - take the time to listen before jumping to conclusions. I encourage you to go into this episode with an open heart because a lot of what we talk about does not go side by side with the religious "norm". To everyone who has been shamed or told their desires are "impure", you are the embodiment of perfection and do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

This episode is pretty straight forward, we talk about the porn industry, sex work, porn addictions, and sex trafficking. With growing awareness on topics like sex trafficking, I encourage you to check out some of these amazing organizations: A21, Thorn, Traffickinghub, GenerateHope, etc.

Jade Kempton (aka my best and only friend) makes the very first guest appearance on #cliteracy. Take a ride with us as we talk about modern dating through apps like snapchat and tinder. This episode goes through the different perspectives and experiences we have had trying to juggle apps like this. Get ready to hear us be goofy and light hearted all while trying to kill the many ants that are in my room. Be prepared to turn down the volume - we are loud (it is just how our friendship is). 

With this episode, I give a brief story on how I watched a person "stalk" (stalk is a strong word) my social media accounts for almost four months. It was mind boggling to watch the extent of their actions before I realized that in months prior I would have been doing the same exact thing. I have talked about my insecurity in earlier episodes, but I take time to really go in depth in this one. We talk about self-deprecation, blame, and other tough things that I went through in some previous relationships. The point of this episode is to highlight the idea that insecurity comes in all shapes in sizes and it presents itself in different ways. Even if you've never carried insecurity in a relationship before, my hope is that you will be able to relate it to your own personal experiences in some way. At the end of the day, insecurity has one goal: to hinder your growth and stop you from reaching your full potential. This episode is NOT one of my more fun, lighthearted ones - it is real, raw, and personal.

"DamN GiRL, It'S A SeCOND WoRkOuT." "DaMN, YoU A BaD GiRL" "ImPRacTiCal JOKErS :-(" In this episode, I tell the story of my first college hook up and how I checked off #70 on my bucket list. It ended up being a disaster and I lay awake at night thinking about some of the things he whispered in my ear. With that being said, I talk about the importance of confidence and being able to take constructive criticism. I also dive in to the fact that a study of heterosexual women found that, "80% of women fake orgasms around 50% of the time." Y'alls see that number???

From broken condoms to a lot of tears, get the full scoop on my crazy virginity story where literally everything that can go wrong, went wrong. In this episode, I spend time talking about intentions, insecurity, being cheated on, and a whole lot of sex. If you are starting your journey towards sex positivity, I encourage you to listen with an open heard and mind. I hope that through my vulnerability, you'll be able to have a good laugh while also taking the necessary time to reflect. It took me a long time to shed the insecurities, guilt, and shame that I was feeling about sex. With this episode, you'll be able to take the first step in your own journey towards recognizing your worth and standing confidently in it. Buckle up though because it is a doozy.