Embrace the Suck with Brenden

Life isn't a smooth ride no matter how hard we try and make it. Things happen, plans change, and sometimes before we know it we end up pretty far off track. What we need to remember is that's just how it goes sometimes. But in those times, we have full control of our decisions to get back on track. Here's Parris' story on how he did just that! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Fear of Public Speaking cripples way too many dreams. You don't have to be an expert and get on stage in front of thousands of people, but you do have to be able to clearly and confidently communicate your message when the opportunity arises. Take a listen to Rachel's story and how she went from fearing speaking, to running meetings with over 1000 participants. *Sorry for the couple audio glitches in the beginning! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

The struggles, reflection, and courage it takes to take this leap is something that people shouldn't have to deal with - but they do. Until we get to a place where sexual orientation truly doesn't matter, we need people as courageous as Mike to share their stories and help those caught in this struggle. LGBT national Hotline (888) 843-4564 For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Starting a local business is a massive challenge, but doing it in another country is a whole new ball game. On top of your normal business startup issues, you've now got language barriers, limited supply chain, and different cultures to learn. Here is Nic's story of all that plus more, and how he learned that he always needs to keep learning to be successful! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Being a first time supervisor with eyes on you all day looking for answers and directions is tough and draining. You need to balance between demands and limitations of both the organization and staff, and be the one to find the middle ground. You have to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Listen to how Jed was able to get past that initial shock of the position, and move on to consistently build high performing teams everywhere he goes! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

How well do you know what's going on at all times? Do you recognize opportunities when they're presented, or do you just look back and say, "damn I missed that"? If you don't raise your situational awareness, you will live a life of frustration and exhaustion without much to show for it. Listen to how a retired marine took what he learned in combat, and applied it to the business sector to earn any civilian job he wants. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Recording yourself on camera and posting it for the world to see and scrutinize is tough no matter how experienced you are. You have to open yourself up to be vulnerable to feedback and criticism, but still keep to your own path. It's a delicate balancing act that once mastered, can unlock limitless potential. Listen to Kelley's story on how she did exactly that and is chasing her dreams as an actress! Check her out at https://www.kelleylord.com/ Instagram @Kelley_Lord For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

It's no secret that depression is on the rise in the United States, but that doesn't mean we can't fight our way back to happiness. Going through bouts of depression is a normal part of being a human. Our brains are so powerful, sometimes it takes us down some darker roads. The good part is, our brain's are powerful enough to turn that car around and build completely new roads to drive down. Take a listen to exactly how Leon built new roads that took him from depression to long term happiness. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Looking for a new job flat out sucks. That's why so many of us, myself included, stay at jobs we hate for so long. I'm by no means an expert on the job hunt - it's actually one of my greatest weaknesses. But luckily, my friend Kaitlyn reached out and offered to share her job hunt struggle. She outlines specific strategies to remain positive during this battle and how to find that job you'll enjoy going to each morning! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Failure should be your F-word and eliminated from your vocabulary. From our first days of school, we're taught to fear getting a failing grade and falling behind. This is WRONG! We end up conditioning people at age 6 to be afraid of a word we don't understand. Failure is defined as a lack of success - but if you successfully learn 1 thing from everything you try, then you can never fail. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

When you feel your losing control of your current situation, what do you say to re-center yourself? A Mantra Statement is an extremely powerful phrase that helps us "get in the zone" and regain control when all feels lost. It's the difference between average and elite performers. We all get kicked in the mouth by life and face challenges, but with the proper use of a Mantra Statement, you can become the one that thrives in the toughest of times when everyone else folds! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

The credit card companies flash these great commercials about how we can have whatever we want whenever we want it just by swiping a piece of plastic. They use slogans like "It's everywhere you want to be" and "Priceless" but that couldn't be a bigger line of bull shit. We don't want to be in credit card debt - but they put us there It's not priceless - The US is quickly approaching $14 trillion dollars in consumer debt. It's a bull shit system that capitalizes on fake promises and deals that are too good to be true. Check out my conversation with Jon who shed some light on their predatory tactics so we can fight back against this broken system and become debt-free! For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Self-Care is a term that is becoming more popular, but still isn't completely understood. For many years, I thought self-care only involved working out and eating healthy. This mentality led me into some deep, dark places that I almost didn't climb out of. Learning that Self-Care includes mental and emotional aspects has changed my life more than anything else I can recall. In this episode, my friend Elyan who is a licensed mental health counselor joins me to talk more about the mental and emotional sides of Self-Care, and offers some practical tips to help us all be better. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Homeownership can be a great thing and a phenomenal tool to build wealth, as long as we know what's involved in the buying process long term up-keep. On the other hand, if we don't understand the process and resources available, we may end up overpaying for a house that needs thousands of dollars in repairs just to make it livable again, and then sell it at a loss. That sucks! That's not how you build wealth. Today's conversation is with my long time friend and realtor Nekabari, who simplifies the home buying process, explains the importance of building a relationship with the professionals you're working with, and some tips to find that perfect home! Nekabari's info and channel Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCikl6BmvdW61FiToEoOx-Dw LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nekabari-tor/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/nekabari Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/0q0tsERpWdVgxLdct6OYa7 For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

We're all familiar with the term "retirement," but most of us - myself included - don't truly understand what retirement means and how we get there. There are not many suckier situations than to realize you're working just to afford to go to work tomorrow, and there's no end in sight. Check out today's conversation with my good friend Nate Hasto of Hasto & Associates. He gave me a tremendous overview of what retirement means, tools to get there, and how to get the ball rolling. If you don't have a retirement plan, call Nate now so you don't up like me with mountains of stress over something I didn't fully understand. He's also super relaxed and focuses on financial education - not financial manipulation Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Hastoandassociates/ Email - nhasto1@gmail.com Phone - 585-354-9434 EPISODE EDIT - The movie quote I reference is from The Big Short, not Wolf of Wall Street For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Millions of people around the world dream of being their own boss one day and I'm no exception. As beautiful as that dream is, anyone who is their own boss, or has started that journey, knows it sucks sometimes. From scrambling for capital to sleepless nights and constant rejection, it's a tough road to walk down. Check out this wisdom from this multi-dimensional entrepreneur, on what it takes to chase your dream. To Connect with Shantell - https://www.facebook.com/shantell.thomas.353 For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Do you see yourself as limited and unable to learn, or as someone who can conquer any challenge with enough practice and effort? Scientists have proven - Grey matter in the brain can grow and regenerate, Grit beats natural-born talent Emotional Intelligence is a learnable skill Why would you ever doubt your capabilities? For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

A divorce doesn't define you. A divorce doesn't label you as "broken." Check out my conversation with Colleen of Be Well BFLO on how she overcame divorce. Be sure to check out more of her story and inspiration at WWW.BEWELLBFLO.COM or reach out directly at BEWELLBFLO@GMAIL.COM For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Would you talk to your friends the way you talk to yourself? If you don't understand your self-talk, you don't understand yourself. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Change means a whole new world of unknowns, and that scares a lot of people - myself included. Having a fear of change is normal, but letting that fear paralyze you is detrimental to your success. Raquel talks to us about how she went from fearing to enjoying change, and how she overcame the fear of the unknown along the way. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Losing a loved one sucks. There's no magical way to put it, and I wish this wasn't part of life - but it is, which means we have to learn to embrace it and keep pushing through. Rick talks to us about how he had to embrace the worst pain imaginable, the loss of his son, and what he does now to remain positive and present for his beautiful wife and daughter. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1

Embrace the Suck isn't just a cool catchphrase, its a way of life that was taught to me. For more on my work, Amazon.com @ Brenden Whelehan https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Survival-Guide-understanding-intelligence/dp/1655595393/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=brenden+whelehan&qid=1592994598&sr=8-1