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Welcome to another episode of Spooky Gay Bullsh!t, our weekly hangout where we break down all of the hot topics from the world of the weird, the scary, and issues that affect the LGBTQIA2+ community!This week, we cover: deadly mushrooms make a sneaky west coast debut, a man who reportedly amputated his foot to get into medical school, a questionably bigoted poop-flinger seemingly goes unquestioned, a tourist finds themself on the wrong end of a snow leopard after going in for a photo, and word on the mushrooms that make people consistently see elves!See you next Friday for more Spooky Gay Bullsh!t! Join the Secret Society That Doesn't Suck for exclusive weekly mini episodes, livestreams, and a whole lot more! patreon.com/thatsspookyGet into our new apparel store and the rest of our merch! thatsspooky.com/storeCheck out our website for show notes, photos, and more at thatsspooky.comFollow us on Instagram for photos from today's episode and all the memes @thatsspookypodWe're on Twitter! Follow us at @thatsspookypodDon't forget to send your spooky gay B.S. to thatsspookypod@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Your Questions ANSWERED! Michael Sidgwick & Michael Hamflett answer your burning wrestling questions, including...Why Won't WWE Book Cody Rhodes Vs CM Punk?How To Fix Backstage Segments Mostly Suck?What Next For AJ Styles?Dave Meltzer's Impact On Wrestling In 2026?The Undertaker In AEW?!ENJOY! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
January 30th, 2026 Happy Friday P1's its now the weekend so gather up all your friends & other P1's as it's time for the daily convening of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Rushing a divorce can cost you money, leverage, and peace—especially if you're dating, listening to family “advice,” or skipping the right experts. In this episode, Morgan Stogsdill and Andrea Rappaport break down the most common divorce regrets and the smart, strategic moves to avoid them.In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Morgan and Andrea unpack the most common divorce regrets they see over and over again: the ones that quietly cost you money, complicate custody, drag out the process, and make you look back thinking… why did I do that?Get real divorce advice your lawyer may be too polite to share. We break down unpopular divorce opinions and practical divorce tips that can save you thousands of dollars in legal fees, reduce stress, and help you avoid costly mistakes. How Not to Suck at Divorce is the divorce podcast for people who want clarity, strategy, and supportFrom rushing because you've moved on romantically, to letting your dad become your “legal strategist,” to skipping experts like OurFamilyWizard because you're trying to save money—this is your highlight reel of what not to do (and what to do instead).And yes… Billy Bob Thornton and Angelina Jolie make an appearance. Because apparently six marriages is one way to earn a PhD in divorce.In this episode, we cover:The #1 regret: rushing your divorce and leaving money on the tableWhy “I want to be divorced by March” can backfire fastHow outdated financials and an old balance sheet can cost you thousandsWhy your new partner should not be part of the divorce “mischigas”The danger of letting family and friends influence legal decisionsHow well-meaning parents can accidentally run up your legal billWhen outside experts (forensic accountants, co-parenting tools, therapists) actually save you moneyWhy trying to “cheap out” can lead to a future court nightmareThe difference between fighting for what matters vs. fighting over balsamic vinegarHow to decide what's worth it (and what's just ego, fear, or control)Key Takeaways (Quick & Skimmable)1) Don't rush the process and leave money on the tableWhen you're desperate to be done, you cut corners. That's how people sign agreements with missing details, outdated account values, or unclear parenting language—then regret it later.Do this instead: Ask your attorney if your timeline is realistic, and if it is—map the steps from A to Z.2) Don't bring your new relationship into your divorce chaosYour new person may mean well, but they are not your lawyer—and emotionally, it can start poisoning the relationship fast.Do this instead: Process the divorce with your therapist, your support system, and your attorney—not your new partner.3) Don't let non-lawyers steer legal decisionsEven smart, loving parents can unintentionally derail the strategy—especially when they aren't in the day-to-day “trenches” of your case.Do
Craig got a message from a listener that said something to him that he's never heard before. Plus a lot of Jets issues are discussed!
January 29th, 2026 on the back nine of the week so gather up all your friends & other P1's as it's time for the daily convening of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Perhaps a garden for growing grandiose gods?For this episode the Xbox Game Pass "Surprise Me" button has selected the indie adventure developed by LimboLane and published by Fellow Traveller. These developers have some experience making strange and quirky games and it sure looks like this title is in that wheelhouse. In it, the gods are upset and the world is in peril, so the player needs to work with the citizens of the grove to solve the dilemma. Unlike a traditional adventure game, however, the player really need to use their words... or technically, other character's words, to save the day. Suck up key phrases and spit them back out at other characters to hopefully make things better and not tragically worse. Will these novel mechanics prove fun and engaging? Will they keep our hosts itching to continue after the hour is up? Tom and Chris have each done their due diligence and now they team up to debate and decide if this indie adventure is worthy of your time!What do you think? Let us know!Check out all our links here:https://linktr.ee/tc1h1dThanks for taking this ride with us :-)
The Carton Show goes completely off the rails on WFAN as Craig Carton and Chris McMonigle spiral from a bizarre “suck eggs” insult from a Giants fan into a full-blown LeBron James takedown. Carton unloads on LeBron's legacy, MSG tributes, the Jordan debate, and why LeBron gets NOTHING in New York. Plus: Jets trade arguments, Sauce Gardner debates, Fear Factor and Hollywood Squares nostalgia, Wink Martindale, beef jerky hunting across Jersey, and Carton's all-time bad Halloween candy take.
Dan is not happy with how one HOA handled a resident's desire to use a generator during the Nashville Ice Storm, and Chris Hand joins | aired on Thursday, January 29th, 2026 on Nashville's Morning News with Dan Mandis See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Let's make an ecosystem! This week, Tyler and Johnny are covering Thomas Neill Cream: the Lambeth Poisoner (part 1). Plus: the world, Drag Race throws another design challenge at the queens already, and an Australian lawyer gets caught using generative AI on a case!Join the Secret Society That Doesn't Suck for exclusive weekly mini episodes, livestreams, and a whole lot more! patreon.com/thatsspookyCheck out our new and improved apparel store with tons of new designs! thatsspooky.com/storeCheck out our website for show notes, photos, and more at thatsspooky.comFollow us on Instagram for photos from today's episode and all the memes @thatsspookypodWe're on Twitter! Follow us at @thatsspookypodDon't forget to send your spooky stories to thatsspookypod@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. We get to the bottom of: Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to change something within you to make better choices moving forward. Why you do not have to feel guilty for cutting a friend off even if they have zero friends (ahem, accountability) How to deal with a painfully negative mother (whom you adore and do not want to cut out) And what to do if you are at the 7 year mark, unsure if you should stay or leave when there is a house and 2 dogs involved. Don't forget to send through YOUR Head Noise questions to info@dyfmpod.com Sydney Live Show February 4th, tickets are on sale here. Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Follow @alexispredez on TT Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on IG Follow @mindsetrecreationclub on TT Order your Brain Journal here: www.mindsetrecreationclub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
January 28th, 2026 Happy Wednesday P1's, let's gather up the brain trust of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
January 27th, 2026 Happy Tuesday P1's, let's gather up the brain trust of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Moose on The Loose helps Canadians to invest with more conviction so they can enjoy their retirement. Today, I discuss Metro (MRU.TO) latest quarterly earnings with a dividend increase of 10%! It's all about dividend growth investing! Subscribe to the best free dividend investing newsletter: https://thedividendguyblog.com/newsletter Get the 20 income products guide for retirees: https://retirementloop.ca/income/ Get your Investment roadmap: https://dividendstocksrock.com/roadmap
In this episode, business coach Christi Johnson teaches you a fun game to play to make your daily operations in your business more fun: Chuck the Suck. To play Chuck the Suck, you write down all the things that you absolutely hate doing in your business and don't bring you joy. You then tear them off into little strips and decide what to do with the strips. Do you want to burn them? Rip them up and throw them away? Or make a game out of it like one example Christi gives? Once you've decided what you never want to do again, you then commit to running your business without all the sucky things because the truth is there's nothing that you HAVE to do. You can either not do the thing or delegate it. Let Christi know what you put on your Chuck the Suck list! Message her on Instagram at @christijohnsoncreative or email her christi@christijohnsoncreative.com
Back into the water today with an explosive episode focusing on early vertical forearm and the catch. We get into things like the proper entry, whether or not you should glide, and how to get maximum efficiency from your stroke. We go over tons of typical mistakes by triathletes, including diving too deep with your hand. We look at a few great drills and how they can help you develop better form and be more economical, which is the key to great triathlon swimming. We talk about technique sets vs. swimming long just to build yards. We get into efficiency, anxiety, and how to build confidence in the water. Sometimes it's just hard because you think you're bored. Start slow. Be patient. Build. Topics: Snow shoveling tips Swim as compared to a bike fit Body position and breathing Early Vertical Forearm - what does it mean The catch phase - propulsion Bad return on investment Why hand control is underrated Should you "glide?" What about entry Should fingers be spread open? Diving too deep with the hand Understanding early vertical forearm "leverage" Hip driven freestyle Shoulder over elbow over wrist Paddle and visual cues Tarzan drill and swimming with balls Long sets with rocks Skulling 24 x 100 or 2400 straight? Efficiency is speed Stop obsessing about yardage every time Maximum efficiency Economical athletes get the most return Shorter technique driven swims Getting faster with better form Fear and anxiety vs. confidence Take time to be more efficient Sometimes it's just hard because you think you're bored. Mike Tarrolly - mike@c26triathlon.com Robbie Bruce - robbie@c26triathlon.com
Allan Hockett bageled his first two weeks in pest control. His manager pulled him aside and said, "Allan, you suck at this job. Sell five next week or you're fired." He barely scraped by with five. That was 11 years ago. Now he's a 4-time Golden Door winner.In this episode, Hunter sits down with Allan to unpack what changed—from running between doors and studying the top producer to building momentum systems that compound all summer. Allan shares the olfactory trigger he uses to lock in before every shift, why he believes "if you're not drowning daily, you're doing it wrong," and the mid-summer slump that had him in bed for two weeks. He also talks about the text from his wife that changed everything: "If you want to be the best, you have to be different than everyone else."Books mentioned:Can't Hurt Me by David GogginsThe Miracle Morning by Hal ElrodThank you for listening! Don't miss out on future episodes! Subscribe to The D2D Podcast on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Follow us on Facebook and Instagram. You may also watch this podcast on YouTube!You may also follow Sam Taggart on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok for more nuggets on D2D and Sales Tips.
(00:00) AROUND THE NFL: Fred, Hardy and Wallach go around the league to showcase some highlights (and lowlights) from NFC championship!(16:12.74) Sizing up the Patriots to the Seahawks in Super Bowl (31:49.68) Fred was no fan of Tony Romo, the CBS broadcast, Bert Kreischer and helicopters.Please note: Timecodes may shift by a few minutes due to inserted ads. Because of copyright restrictions, portions—or entire segments—may not be included in the podcast.CONNECT WITH TOUCHER & HARDY: linktr.ee/ToucherandHardyFor the latest updates, visit the show page on 985thesportshub.com. Follow 98.5 The Sports Hub on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. Watch the show every morning on YouTube, and subscribe to stay up-to-date with all the best moments from Boston's home for sports!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this live episode from APTA's Graham Sessions, Jimmy sits down with Steven Coen — CEO of SaRA Health — to talk about the untapped power of Remote Therapeutic Monitoring (RTM). Steven explains how most clinics are already doing 90% of the work — but not getting paid for it. Learn why naming your RTM program matters, how text messages can save lives, and what the new CMS Access program means for the future of value-based rehab.What You'll Learn:What RTM really is (and isn't)How to increase plan of care completionWhy branding your patient communication program mattersWhere CMS is heading with value-based PT paymentHow one simple text saved a patient's life post-opGuest:???? Steven Coen, CEO of SaRA Health???? www.sarahealth.com???? steven@sarahealth.com
Fun and work in the same sentence? For most of us, that's a “does not compute” moment… and that's exactly why this conversation matters. Workplace culture expert Bree Groff (author of Today Was Fun: A Book About Work. Seriously.) breaks down why we've been trained to treat joy like it's “unprofessional,” why busyness is murdering brilliance, and how to start building workplaces (and workdays) that are actually fit for human life. In this episode, we get into: Why “hard” doesn't automatically mean “valuable” (and why we need to stop romanticizing suffering) The two toxic extremes: “Work is called work for a reason” (aka: misery cosplay) “Do what you love and you'll never work a day” (aka: burnout bait) Bree's “third way”: work can be a nice way to spend our time on the planet—not a daily punishment Why people don't buy your work because you suffered—they buy it because it creates value (pain is optional) The “infinite workday” problem: nonstop meetings, constant interruptions, and zero space to think Why brilliance requires spaciousness: “do nothing” time, thinking time, walking time, shower-epiphany time How conformity kills creativity (and why “professionalism” can be a creativity straightjacket) The case against delayed gratification when it turns into: “I'll live later” (spoiler: later is not guaranteed) Wrap-up: Work doesn't have to be miserable to be meaningful—and if your job demands your whole life in exchange for a paycheck, that's not ambition… that's a bad deal wearing a blazer. Thank you to our sponsors! Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Bree: Website: https://www.breegroff.com/home Book: https://www.breegroff.com/book Related Podcast Episodes Work Shouldn't Suck: How to Make It Good with Moe Carrick | 356 How To Play: Shift Your Thinking, Inspire Connection & Spark Creativity with Cas Holman | 355 The Ambition Trap with Amina AITai | 309 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!
In today's episode, we're diving into a deeply personal and highly requested topic in today's episode: strength training and pregnancy - what actually changed for Iris, what didn't, and why so much of what we hear about prenatal fitness is flat-out wrong. We get honest about fatigue, nausea, modifying lifts as the bump grows, why resistance training is not only safe but incredibly beneficial, and how mindset plays a huge role in staying active through every trimester.We also move into a raw and compassionate conversation around postpartum depression - what it felt like when it hit me hard, how my husband helped me recognize I wasn't okay, and why getting support (including medication) changed everything. We talk about the emotional roller coaster of postpartum life, the importance of advocacy and support systems, and why moms deserve care, strength, and joy - not martyrdom.If you're pregnant, postpartum, or supporting someone who is, this episode is equal parts education, validation, and encouragement.“Pregnancy and birth are hard work - why wouldn't we want to strengthen our bodies to prepare for something that demanding?”- Amy Rudolph“More is not better. Better is better. It's not about the length of the workout - it's the intention, intensity, and progression you bring to it.”- Iris DeadliftsThis week on Here's the Deal: Fitness, Nutrition and Mindset for People Who Don't Want Life to Suck:Evidence-based truth about resistance training during pregnancyWhat actually changed in my workouts across trimesters (and what didn't)How nausea, fatigue, and fueling influenced training decisionsSmart modifications for lifting with a growing bellyCore training that supports pregnancy instead of scaring you away from itThe reality of coning, diastasis, and what “listening to your body” really meansA very real conversation about postpartum depression and getting helpEncouragement, compassion, and support for moms in every phase of the journeyConnect with Us:Iris Deadlifts on InstagramAmy Rudolph on InstagramWork with us at Beth Feraco FitnessThanks for tuning in to this week's episode of Here's the Deal: Fitness, Nutrition, and Mindset for People Who Don't Want Life to Suck, where we challenge the common understanding of what it means and what it takes to be fit and healthy! If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to subscribe and leave a review wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts.Apple Podcasts | SpotifyBe sure to share your favorite episodes on social media and tag us!Join Iris Deadlifts on Instagram and Amy Rudolph on Instagram.
Episode 154Why modern music sounds “perfect” (and why that's boring). This week on Songs That Don't Suck, we explore quantization, imperfect tempos, and five standout new songs from The Brook & The Bluff, The Claypool Lennon Delirium, The Band LIGHT, Lime Garden, and Silversun Pickups.Head to the Songs That Don't Suck website to check out this week's songs, join the Patreon (it's Free), and more. Be sure and like, review, and subscribe to the podcast where ever you may be listening, and if you want, connect with Songs That Don't Suck on social media including Instagram, BlueSky, and Threads.
Clean Food, Dirty Girl co-founder Molly Patrick brings a refreshing energy, honesty, and practical wisdom to the plant-based world. Her commitment to helping people eat more plants—while celebrating human imperfection—feels both real and deeply needed. Molly's fascinatingly unconventional upbringing laid the foundation for the whole food, plant-based lifestyle she lives today. In our conversation, we explore navigating the discomfort of ... READ MORE The post Embracing the Suck: Molly Patrick of Clean Food, Dirty Girl. appeared first on Healthification.
Heisman winner and national champ Fernando Mendoza's father never stood to cheer during the big game, staying seated to support his wife with multiple sclerosis who couldn't stand—capturing quiet, profound love amid the spotlight. A Virginia couple who eloped 70 years ago finally renewed their vows at ages 91 and 90, surrounded by family for the wedding they'd always dreamed of. Plus, an honest recap of a recent smoke detector failure that derailed an early-rising streak, a four-year missing cat reunion, everyday heroes lifting a crashed medical helicopter to save lives, and the surprising dominance of religion-focused podcasts in a massive English-language data set. No Suck Saturday, Fernando Mendoza family, multiple sclerosis support, 70-year vow renewal, smoke detector mishap, missing cat reunion Tinsel, helicopter crash heroes, religion podcasts data, CS Lewis Mere Christianity Hope, good news roundup
In this week's Short Suck, we revisit the 2006 Duke Lacrosse scandal—the case that felt like an open-and-shut story of privilege and violence… until the facts started falling apart, the DNA didn't match, and the real rot turned out to be the rush to convict. It's a brutal look at how media narratives, campus outrage, and a DA chasing votes can turn “everyone knows what happened” into one of the most infamous examples of what happens when due process gets trampled.For Merch and everything else Bad Magic related, head to: https://www.badmagicproductions.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Welcome to another episode of Spooky Gay Bullsh!t, our weekly hangout where we break down all of the hot topics from the world of the weird, the scary, and issues that affect the LGBTQIA2+ community!This week, we cover: a bank receives a stern warning about the potential impact of alien contact on economics, a study shows that horses can smell our fear, early days of an investigation surrounding a woman who died after riding a rollercoaster, a woman claims temporary amnesia after stabbing her dog-killing ex, and news from the world of tasteless theme restaurants!See you next Friday for more Spooky Gay Bullsh!t! Join the Secret Society That Doesn't Suck for exclusive weekly mini episodes, livestreams, and a whole lot more! patreon.com/thatsspookyGet into our new apparel store and the rest of our merch! thatsspooky.com/storeCheck out our website for show notes, photos, and more at thatsspooky.comFollow us on Instagram for photos from today's episode and all the memes @thatsspookypodWe're on Twitter! Follow us at @thatsspookypodDon't forget to send your spooky gay B.S. to thatsspookypod@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Today, we go deep on swimming but keep it relatively simple so you can work on things that matter and lock them in. We talk about some of the most important fundamentals regarding swimming: breathing, body position, and body control. There will be big wins in your swimming if you can master the basic principles of swimming. We also get into how you should be breaking up your week regarding form, intensity, and endurance. We'll look at getting a bigger return for your energy investment, why the hips are critical, why you're probably too tense in the water, and the soon to be famous Light Switch Test. Topics: Does op 20 swimming list hold up? Swimming and focus on the details Obsession over aero and watts but not swimming 90 Day Challenge Picking up swimming later in life Correct form + muscular endurance End of Ironman running form Uncomfortable doing hard swims? Efficient form for return of energy investment Day One - Pick one day for technique (AR) Day two - Focus on top speed and turnover Day Three - Longer swim for muscular endurance How to breathe Why to breathe every stroke Breath 2-4 Bilateral breathing?? Build a strong side Body position Head is number one Forehead down Body Control Head raises - body sinks A body drill with paddles Outside cues to get a better feel for the water Video from the front cue Splayed out? Hips way too open Hip control Steering wheels in swimming The Light Switch Test Mike Tarrolly - mike@c26triathlon.com Robbie Bruce - robbie@c26triathlon.com
January 23rd, 2026 Happy Friday P1's its now the weekend so gather up all your friends & other P1's as it's time for the daily convening of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
January 22nd, 2026 on the back nine of the week so gather up all your friends & other P1's as it's time for the daily convening of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I speak with Katie K. May, a licensed therapist and author of the book You're On Fire. It's Fine: Effective Strategies for Parenting Teens With Self-Destructive Behaviors. We discussed children/teens who are “fire feelers”, why intense emotions can lead to risky behaviours, how to respond to self-harm urges, how to stay connected or rebuild your connection with your teen, and what parents of younger children can do now to prevent challenges in their teen years.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!We talk about:* 00:05 — What Is a Fire Feeler?* 00:06 — What Emotional Dysregulation Really Means* 00:07 — Fire Feelers Often Have Fire-Feeler Parents- Genetic and Environmental Components* 00:10 — Why Teens Are So Easily Overwhelmed* 00:12 — What Fire Feelers Do When Overwhelmed* 00:20 — How Parents Should Respond to Self-Harm Urges* 00:22 — When to Get Professional Help* 00:24 — Why Depression Looks Different in Teens* 00:25 — Teens Still Need Their Parents* 00:26 — How to Stay Connected to Teens* 00:28 — Judgment vs Validation* 00:31 — How to Rebuild Connection When Things Are Broken- Katie's Hierarchy of Connection* 00:34 — Sensitivity & Impulsivity* 00:35 — What Parents of Younger Kids Can Do Now* 00:37 — Why Control Works When Kids Are Young — and Fails Later* 00:38 — Why “Tough Love” Doesn't WorkResources mentioned in this episode:* Evelyn & Bobbie bras* Yoto Player-Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Get a free chapter of Katie's book * Katie's website Connect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in the summer for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session.Our sponsors:YOTO: YOTO is a screen free audio book player that lets your kids listen to audiobooks, music, podcasts and more without screens, and without being connected to the internet. No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREEvelyn & Bobbie bras: If underwires make you want to rip your bra off by noon, Evelyn & Bobbie is for you. These bras are wire-free, ultra-soft, and seriously supportive—designed to hold you comfortably all day without pinching, poking, or constant adjusting. Check them out HEREPodcast Transcript:Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guest is Katie May. She's a therapist and the author of You're On Fire. It's Fine: Effective Strategies for Parenting Teens With Self-Destructive Behaviors. We talked about why some teens are what she calls “fire feelers,” and about how best to support them—and ourselves—when emotional dysregulation is common, troubling, and can be destructive.If you don't have a teen yet, but you have a kiddo with big feelings, have a listen, because Katie also talks about what she wishes parents of younger kids knew so they didn't end up with these sorts of challenges down the road. Let's meet Katie.Sarah: Hi, Katie. Welcome to the podcast.Katie: Hey, Sarah. I'm glad to be here. Excited to talk about teens and parenting today—stuff I'm jazzed to share.Sarah: Me too. Yeah. And I loved your book. I'll ask you about that in a second—or maybe you can tell us who you are and what you do.Katie: Yeah. My name is Katie K. May. I'm a licensed therapist in Pennsylvania, and I lead a team of other therapists. We all specialize in working with high-risk teens and their parents. So every day, we're in the trenches working with teenagers who are suicidal, self-harming, have eating disorders, are not going to school, and we're helping them learn skills while also teaching their parents how to respond effectively—so the whole family is working together as a system in harmony.Sarah: And your book's called You're On Fire. It's Fine. I like it. My book—Katie: Go ahead.Sarah: No, it's a great title.Katie: Yeah. So I came to that title from this idea of biologically sensitive teens—or very sensitive teens—often feeling like they're on fire with their own emotions. And I can dig into any part of that. But the idea is that parents who are well-meaning will many times say things like, “You're fine. It's okay. Go take a nap. Go get a snack.” And it feels like a little squirt gun trying to put out this big fire of emotion. So I thought that title captured those two points initially, to bring people into the framework that I teach.Sarah: I love that. And it's funny—I had a different interpretation of the title, and my interpretation, now that you said what you meant it to be, I can totally see that. But my interpretation was more like, “You're on fire. You can handle these big feelings. It's fine.” Like, this is just—let's get used to feeling the feelings. So I guess it could be read either way.Katie: I like both interpretations, and I think your interpretation speaks to probably how you support and parent. It's nurturing and supportive of the process.Sarah: Yeah. So tell us: what is a fire feeler?Katie: A fire feeler is someone who is biologically sensitive. And what I mean by that is this is a kid who feels things very deeply. Their emotions are big and oftentimes overwhelming for them. And not just that—these are your zero-to-sixty-in-ten-seconds-flat kind of kids. They're reactive, they're easy to trigger, and when they're triggered and they're feeling their emotions in these very big ways, it also takes them a very long time to calm down or get back to their baseline.And this is important because if you think about that slow return to feeling settled or centered again, oftentimes they're being triggered again before they get back to that place of calm. And so they have a nervous system that's constantly in a state of dysregulation—constantly triggered and upset. And it is very hard to access safety or calm or feeling okay because of that.Sarah: And you mentioned emotional dysregulation, and in your book you have a very specific definition of emotional dysregulation. I thought it was a little more helpful and also a little bit more unusual. Can you give us your definition of emotional dysregulation?Katie: So when someone is emotionally dysregulated, when they are triggered, it sets off this chain of emotions for them. Again, we go back to this idea that they feel on fire with their emotions. They're often at this skills-breakdown point where it's difficult to access skills or to calm down. And when you're feeling on fire with your emotions, it makes sense that your brain comes up with escape strategies—things like self-harm, suicidal ideation, substance use—because it's so big and hard to hold that the brain would do anything to make those emotions go away.Sarah: I love that. And you also mentioned that people are biologically predisposed to be fire feelers, so I'm guessing that usually a teen's one or both parents are also fire feelers, which would add a complication to the mix.Katie: I would say so. I often find myself telling parents: some kids are born naturally good at sports. Some kids are born naturally good at music or art. And some kids are born naturally good at emotions—which means they're very attuned to emotional states or nuances in the emotions of others.And when we think about that as a genetic trait or a biological trait, it also makes sense that at least one of their parents carries this trait and is passing it down. And I think when I start to describe fire feelers—who they are and what it looks like—I regularly have at least one parent saying, “Oh, that's me,” or “That's you, honey.” They recognize it.Sarah: Totally. Yeah. So I guess that makes home more complicated too when you've got a fire feeler and a fire feeler trying to find their way together.Katie: It's almost like if you yawn and it's contagious—and the other person catches it. So if you have two people that are both biologically sensitive and they're in the same room, one of them is triggered, one of them has a high state of emotional activation, it's hard in general for another person in the room not to respond to that.So there's something that I teach. It's called the transactional model. So let's say a teenager is boiling over with frustration, and they're exhibiting it. They're bawling their fists. They're snapping back at their parent. The parent then absorbs that emotion and they're snapping back: “Don't talk to me like that,” or, “It's not okay for you to say that,” or “Don't walk away from me.” Which then influences how the teen responds. And then the teen will continue to push or yell back, which then influences how the parent responds.So we're always looking at: How is it that I am influencing how you respond? How is it that you are influencing how I respond? And if everybody feels their emotions in these very big ways, it's going to make that escalation that much bigger or faster because everyone's overwhelmed in their emotions.Sarah: So hard. I'm sure a lot of people listening can relate even when their kids aren't teenagers yet—because that happens with little kids too.Katie: Absolutely. It applies to all ages. I just happen to work with teenagers and parents.Sarah: Speaking of teens, you mentioned in your book that teenagers are more prone to overwhelm. Can you briefly explain why that is? Because I talk about that too. I always say, “The drama is real.”Katie: The drama is real. Thank you for saying that. So the way I look at it: teens are in this developmental state when so much is happening for them. They have unfully formed frontal lobes, which helps to regulate their emotions. They're also dealing with hormonal changes, developmental changes, social stressors, peer stressors. They're in school six hours a day, five days a week. There's so much stress that's placed on our teens.And so if we think about a stress cup holding stress, it's oftentimes just this one little extra drop that makes them lose control or makes them feel overwhelmed in their emotions. And I would say that's probably true for everyone—that we're all holding a lot, and it only takes a little to push us over the edge—but I think it's the brain development that makes it even more challenging.And then I'll add to that the lack of control or agency over their own lives. They don't have a lot of choice about what they do each day or what they have to do or who's telling them what to do. So there's a lot that's outside of their control, and that makes it even harder to control or manage their emotions.Sarah: I'm so glad you work with teenagers. You have such an empathetic view of what it's like to be a teenager, and I think a lot of people—just a little sidebar—teens get such a bad rap in our culture and they're so wonderful. I love teenagers. And also, I would never in a million years choose to go back to those years.Katie: I wouldn't either, but I do feel like I have a strong connection with the teen population. It's interesting—we run parent groups at my center, and that's a question that we'll ask: Do you remember being a teenager?And I think it's hard for a lot of adults to empathize with the teen experience. But being able to do so—being able to put yourself in a teenager's shoes—is going to help you support them so much more. Which is one of the things that I talk about in my book and in my work often: acceptance or validation before change. We always want to be understanding of the experience before we're trying to problem-solve or change that experience.Sarah: I want to ask you about validation a little bit later in our conversation, but before we get to that: what are some common reactions of fire feelers to overwhelm?Katie: Yeah. Some of those common reactions tend to be self-destructive because, again, if we think about this idea that fire feelers are overwhelmed with their emotions—the big, fiery, painful experience for them—it's not a conscious decision, but they would do anything to make that fire go out.So this could be self-harm. This could be thinking about suicide. This could also be lashing out at parents. It could be numbing out in front of the TV or scrolling on social media for hours because it hurts too much to feel and I need to numb myself from that. It could be cutting themselves off from friends because the experience of relationships is so painful.So a fire feeler will have a strong attunement to nuance and facial expressions and tones of voice. And so what might feel okay for one person, for a fire feeler might be interpreted as rejection or might be interpreted as “I did something wrong,” or “There's something wrong with me.” And so the natural response of a fire feeler is to do whatever it takes to protect themselves from being on fire.Sarah: I don't even know if I totally understand it—but how do, and I know a lot of people don't, how does self-harm bring relief to those feelings of overwhelm?Katie: So there's a biological response to it: when you self-harm—when one engages in a self-harm or self-destructive behavior—there is short-term relief. So if you think about emotions rising, rising, rising, what happens is it either blocks the escalation of those emotions, or it makes the emotional state come down quickly. It's body physiology.In addition to that, there are two parts to it. The first part is that it's called negative reinforcement, and that doesn't mean that something negative happens; it means it's the removal of something that's difficult. So that's what I just described. You self-harm, you start thinking about suicide—it becomes an escape. It helps you to feel a sense of relief.The second part of that is positive reinforcement, and that's the social piece. A parent finds out that I self-harmed, and all of a sudden I am given warmth. You're sitting on my bed. We're having a heart-to-heart. You're emailing the teacher to say that I don't have to go to school tomorrow.So there's this one-two stack of: I feel better in the moment because it brings my body physiology back into a state of balance or regulation. And then on top of that, I'm getting my social needs met. And therefore it makes it really hard to break that cycle because there are all of these—this chain reaction of things that happen—that make me go from feeling awful to okay, and sometimes even more supported than before.Sarah: That was such an interesting thing to read about in your book because I thought, “Oh man.” If I were a parent and had a teen that was self-harming, it would be so hard not to do that second part—the positive, what you call the positive reinforcement. So how do you support a teen without making it, “I self-harm and then I get a lot of really lovely warmth and attention”?Katie: Yeah. So it's not about removing the warmth and attention. It's about changing where you put that warmth and attention. Instead of it being directly after self-harm, maybe it's in structured and measured doses throughout the day.So maybe we're having a heart-to-heart in the morning. Maybe we're going out and spending time together or watching TV together just because—and not because I self-harmed.The other thing that I like to make sure that parents are familiar with and practiced with is how they respond when a teen shares an urge to self-harm or an urge for suicide. Because the way that it typically plays out—at least the first time a parent finds out about urges or that a behavior has happened—they're crushed. Of course. Their face falls. They're hurt. It hurts them to see that their child is hurting. They might cry. They might feel really anxious or helpless.But a teen that's witnessing that is interpreting that as, “My parent can't handle this information, and therefore I can't go to them with this information again.”And so the practice for parents is minding your tone—being calm—minding your face, being more like, “Thank you for trusting me,” than, “I'm going to fall apart right now,” and minding your pace—staying calm and regulated and not rushing forward or feeling frantic.And when we do this, what we communicate to our teens is: “I can handle this information. Therefore, in the future, you can come to me when you're having an urge and we can handle it together, rather than you taking care of it by acting on it—and then me finding out afterwards.”So that's how we change the cycle: structured and measured warmth, consistent support, ongoing—not just after an event—and also being able to handle the information, even if you're falling apart inside, because that is completely valid. But showing to your teen: “You're not going to freak me out. I'm not going to fall apart if you tell me the hard stuff. I'm here for you. Come to me and we'll handle it together.”Sarah: And find your own support elsewhere.Katie: One hundred percent. Yeah. Parents—I think any parent is going to need support, whether that's their village, their people, their partner, their friend, a therapist. Parenting alone is tough stuff, and I wouldn't recommend it.Sarah: And I should have asked you this earlier in the interview, but when—are there any signs? A parent finds out your kid is self-harming or telling you they have the urges—is it straightaway “get help,” or are there early stages you can handle it yourself as a parent? When is this 911 getting help, and when is it, “Okay, we're going to figure this out”?Katie: It's somewhere in the middle of “911” and “we're going to figure this out.” The stance would be: if your teen has already self-harmed, they need to be in therapy. It's beyond the point of handling it on your own.When you're noticing—it's such a tough line because on one hand there are these typical teen behaviors: “I'm going to spend more time in my room.” Teens are moodier. They're more irritable. They want less to do with parents. They're more private. They don't want to talk to parents. And so I don't want there to be an overreaction to typical teen behavior.But if we're starting to see a duration, intensity, and frequency of that behavior that's beyond typical—which, again, is going to look different depending on the child—my measure is usually: if my teen for two weeks is more tearful, more self-critical, more hopeless, not enjoying or engaging in activities that they used to—these are signs of depression. And that would be the point when I would want to engage more professional help to support in the process, because that's where we're going to start being proactive and head off escalation of crisis.What happens is—and especially for teenagers—the symptoms of depression can lead to self-harm because there's an overwhelm of that emotion. There's a sense of hopelessness. Suicidal thoughts are one of the descriptors of the diagnosis of depression. We don't want it to get to that point. We want to put help in place sooner.Sarah: That makes sense. I read something the other day that in teenagers depression can look different than adults and sometimes it looks like irritability.Katie: It really depends on the person. So I always go back to—we've all heard “nature and nurture,” but I think of it as biology and environment. Same idea, different words. But for some people, their environment can feel really safe to be vulnerable. It can feel really natural to express emotions, to cry, to be in that more vulnerable state. And for others, it doesn't.Or for others, they've learned that being vulnerable isn't safe for them. It isn't manly enough for them. It really depends on the culture and environment. And so it can come across as irritability. It can come across as anger—different dispositions as to whether someone internalizes their emotions or externalizes them or sends them outward to others.Sarah: That makes sense. I think it's good for parents to have an eye on things that maybe look different than they expect, just to keep track.Katie: Yeah. And parents and teens don't always express emotions the same way. I'm a very expressive and emotional person. I'm a therapist. I've also spent my whole life figuring out how to express my emotions. And I would say that my child is probably the opposite of that and doesn't like being vulnerable in front of other people. So what you think makes sense may not make sense to the brain of another person.Sarah: You were talking before about warm connection with parents, and you mentioned that it is normal for teens to want to spend more time by themselves or with peers. But one thing I wonder—and I wonder if you come across this too—parents often think that means, “My kid doesn't want to spend time with me anymore,” or, “My kid doesn't need me.” And my experience with my kids as teenagers was that wasn't true at all—that even as they were moving away and differentiating, they still did like to spend time with their parents, and they still did like to do stuff with us and be close to us. What are some ways that you find are helpful ways for parents to connect? And how do you assure them that, “Yeah, you still are important”?Katie: Yeah. As a child is growing and gaining more independence, it is such a natural experience for parents to feel grief and loss in that process because the relationship is changing. Teens do need parents less. Teens are more independent. They don't want as much time spent with parents.And so it's important, one, to recognize that as a developmental milestone, and two, to recognize that means the way that you interact and respond to your teen changes as well. And so you're not expecting the same attention or response from them as you did before.But this is a grief process because you're grieving the relationship as it used to be. You're grieving your teen as they used to be. But you're also—and this is the part we don't think about—grieving yourself as you used to be because you have to become a new version of yourself to show up for your teen in a new way.And so all of that is to say that it requires a lot of flexibility, openness to evolving, willingness to change how you see, interact, and speak with your teen. And so in thinking about that, it's helpful to think about: What is it that my teen needs from me now?They might not need me to cut up their food or call their teacher for them or set up their playdate for them. They might need me to drive them somewhere and listen to the music that they like and not be the one leading the conversation. They might need me to sit on the couch with them while they watch The Office and notice the parts they laugh at and just be there with them.And both of those examples really nicely illustrate that your teens need less from you, but they don't not need you. They need you to be more of a partner and less of a doing-for.Sarah: When my husband and I both had pretty stable teenage years, we also had parents who were working a lot and not home when we were home. And I'm not saying this to make anyone feel guilty who isn't home after school, but we really tried to structure our lives so that somebody would be home after school even when the kids were teenagers. Because our joke was: even if it's just somebody who's there that they can ignore.Katie: It's so true. But they know that you're there.Sarah: Yeah. Yeah. So you talked a little bit about validation before. Can you talk a little bit about validation and its opposite—judgment—maybe starting with judgment: what to avoid when our teens are having big feelings? I mentioned before that I often say the drama is real. I think that's where some of the judgment comes in with parents sometimes. Like, “Oh, come on, you can't be that upset that the jeans you were hoping to wear are still wet in the washing machine.” Where do parents make mistakes in terms of that judgment?Katie: For me, I see judgments as the fuel to the emotional fire. So when we are seeing our teen act in certain ways, judgments are our interpretation of their experience. One of those examples might be: a teen is having a hard time getting up and going to school because they're really depressed, and they've been white-knuckling every single day, and today is just the day that they can't. They can't do it.And so judgments from a parent might look like, “Why can't you just go? Everyone else is going. Just get up. Here's the list of coping skills that your therapist gave us. Use your coping skills.”So it's this judgment that they can, and they're choosing not to.Other judgments that I hear regularly are: “They're manipulative. They're doing this on purpose to upset me. They're attention-seeking.”Oftentimes our judgments are because if we weren't judging and casting blame, we would be having to hold a really frustrating or painful reality. So if I'm not judging my teen and saying, “Why can't you just get up and go to school? Just use your coping skills. It's not this bad,” then what I'd be having to hold is: my teen is really struggling right now. My teen—the person that I love the most in the world—is thinking about wanting to die right now. And that's awful for me.And so judgments are a way of pulling ourselves out of this emotional pain, but also shifting that blame to the other person. And instead of being able to hold their experience.And if we're not judging, we're able to first just notice and name and sit with the experience, which is kind of what I described: “My teen is in a lot of pain right now. They're struggling to get out of bed and even function in their day, and that's really hard.” And when I can name that, I can feel that for myself, and it feels really hard and painful and difficult.And then the outward version of that is validating them: being able to say, “I see how hard you're struggling right now. I see the pain on your face. I hear the lack of energy. This is really hard for you right now.”So we can name the experience for ourselves with our notice-and-name, and then we can validate the experience for our teen by noticing and naming their experience.And when we do this, it does often make the emotion feel more painful because we're naming it. I think a common experience of that is: if you've ever been struggling and then someone in your life, in passing, says, “What's wrong? You look like you're going to cry right now,” and then all of a sudden the tears come because someone has named the experience. The experience was there all along, but having someone see it—having someone tell you, “This is real, this makes sense,” or “I notice what you're going through”—it makes it come to the surface.It's actually a helpful experience, because if we don't name what's happening, we're judging it, we're stifling it, we're ignoring it. And that's like holding a beach ball under water. Eventually it's going to pop out, but we can't control what happens when it does. Someone's going to get hit in the face.So we want to take ownership, we want to validate, we want to notice and name what we're experiencing, and these are the ways that we move toward acceptance of what is, so we have an ability to move toward problem-solving.Sarah: Where would somebody start who's listening to this and hearing all of the examples that you're giving of communication—if they're not even at a point where their teen is communicating with them? Like, things have gotten so fraught and feel so broken. Where would somebody start with that?Katie: It's what I call my hierarchy of connection. Oftentimes there is this big rift in the relationship because it's not just one time that something has happened—it's years or multiple experiences that have gotten them to this point, of this rift in the relationship.So the hierarchy of connection is our blueprint and our path back to connection. It starts with parent and teen being in the same room together—not interacting, but also not criticizing, not having this tension or conflict happening.The example I give often is: I'm in the kitchen putting groceries away. Teen is sitting on the couch scrolling social media or watching YouTube. But I'm not saying, “Hey, did you do your homework? Did you take your medicine? Did you do this?” I'm just existing and they're just existing. And we need to practice being in the same space together without that criticism or nagging happening.When that can happen, we can move into shared activities. This would be watching a movie together, watching TV together, driving somewhere, listening to music. Again: no tension, no conflict, no criticizing. Doing the same thing together without any of those things happening.And this could take a very long time. It's not one, two, three. It could be six months of doing the same thing at the same time before you're moving on.The final step is moving back to interactive activities. This could be something like playing a board game and talking to each other, having an actual conversation at the dinner table, or a deeper conversation about something that's a bigger experience. It could be the ability to do this within the context of therapy, so you're able to have some of those scarier conversations.But there needs to be a level of trust, and an ability not to act on urges to criticize or lead the conversation to nag or check off the to-dos. You have to be able to hold the space—to be in the space with your teen—before that can happen.Sarah: One thing that you mentioned in the book is that there's a link between sensitivity and impulsivity. Can you talk about that? I found that really interesting. Why is that?Katie: When someone is more biologically sensitive—again, there's this urge to make those emotions go away. And so when you are more overwhelmed with emotions, the idea of impulsivity makes more sense, because the desire and need for short-term relief is higher than it may be in others.And so when my emotions are really big, I also have really big urges to make those emotions go away, and it's harder for me to hold these big emotions.Sarah: That was really helpful. If you could have the parents and teens that you work with currently—if you could have had them ten years ago, because a lot of people who listen to the podcast have younger kids and they don't have teenagers—what would you like them to be practicing or working on? Is there anything preventive that you've noticed, that if people had an awareness earlier on, when their kids were younger, they might not get to this point with teenagers?Katie: Absolutely. What I find myself saying often is: parents go first. And what I mean by that is that it is a parent's job to learn emotion regulation skills, to learn how to notice and name emotions, to learn how to validate—essentially to model all of the ways that we handle really big emotions.So that when our teen is having this experience—or our child growing into our teen is having this experience—we have the skills to manage our own emotions and we know how to respond to their emotions, because that validation helps the emotion go down more quickly.When I'm working with younger children—and I don't anymore—but that is part of the process: we're working with parents first for many weeks to give them the skills before we even start working with the child.So that would be my biggest piece of advice for parents of younger children: practice the skills, know how to manage your own emotions, have your own support.And I will add to that: if you had the experience of being parented in a way that was painful for you as a child, address those issues, because they're going to show up in the teen years. In the opposite way, you're going to feel like it's karma, but it's really just generational patterns continuing—and you want to be able to change those patterns and rewrite stories that were painful for you so they don't repeat with your own teen.Sarah: I love that. It's interesting because I think when kids are little, fire feelers don't develop as teenagers, right? Like a fire feeler is a fire feeler whether they're five or whether they're fifteen. But a five-year-old—you can put them in their room and hold the door shut. Not that I'm advocating that. You can pick them up and move them places. I think parents probably—unless they're more aware of emotions and being, in my brand, a peaceful parent—they probably rely on things that then, as their kids get older, just don't work. But they maybe have missed opportunities to practice all the things that are effective as teenagers because they were relying more on external control when their kids were younger.Katie: I one hundred percent agree. I think coercive control is easier to implement when your child is younger. But practicing validation, direct communication, emotion regulation is going to pave the way for more success as a teen.And what I would say is: I think most parents recognize, when I talk about this idea of fire feelers, when they have a three-year-old. I have a sister who has two toddler girls, and she'll say, “I think they're fire feelers,” and they are.And so you know your kid. You know their disposition. You know when they're more sensitive or they're a deep feeler. And so knowing that now can help you pave the way for what's to come.Sarah: Can you speak briefly on—when I was a teenager in the eighties, there was a “tough love” approach for teens who were having a hard time: drugs and alcohol, not going to school. And the approach was like: crack down. Kick them out if they don't follow your rules. I'm pretty sure that's not what you would advocate for.And I do think there has been a shift because people recognize that doesn't work. So maybe if you could speak to that for a few minutes—why getting more strict and more controlling with a teenager who's having a hard time isn't going to be an effective strategy.Katie: I have two thoughts on that: one is about the teen, and one is about the relationship.So when we think about a teenager who's struggling, who has these big emotions, if the message in the family is, “You're too sensitive. Just suck it up. Just get it together. Why can't you do this like your siblings can?”—what happens over time is they internalize that message as, “There must be something wrong with me, that everyone else around me can do this and I can't.”And so they begin to lose trust in their own emotional experience, in their own emotion meter. And that is one of the contributors to self-harm behaviors, because then when an emotion shows up for them, their brain thinks, “Well, this must be wrong.” Everyone keeps telling me that my emotional state is the wrong thing or it's too intense, so let's make that go away quickly so that I can continue to function in my life.What I'll say is: at my center, we see hundreds of kids every week—teens and families. A lot of them are these high-achieving, perfectionistic, private-school kids, and they're self-harming and they're suicidal. And one of the reasons is that that's a strategy that keeps them going in this life that is expected of them.So I want to be really intentional about broadening the picture that we may have of the type of teen who engages in self-harm.The other side of that—the relational piece—is that when the parent is consistently giving this message of, “Just get it together. Suck it up and keep going,” it creates a rift in the relationship. The parent is no longer a safe person to come to when a teen is struggling, because they're not going to get what they need.And so if it's important for a parent to have a strong relationship with a teen—and I think that is for most parents—we need to learn the strategies that welcome open communication, that are able to hold that struggle, so that teens come to us with the little stuff and the big stuff.And I'll add to that: so that teens want to stay connected to us after they leave home.Sarah: Yeah, that makes so much sense. Before I let you go, there's a question I ask all my guests, which is: if you could go back in time to your younger parent self, what advice would you give yourself?Katie: To my younger parent self? I think what I would say is that it doesn't have to be perfect. And that's something that I learned through my own education and the theory of good-enough parenting: that you only really need to get it right twenty percent of the time, and the rest of the time it's how you repair, how you respond, and how you keep moving forward in the most loving and compassionate way for both you and your child. So that would help take the pressure off—both for younger me and also for probably a lot of other parents out there—that you don't have to get it right all the time. You just have to want to keep going and want to keep trying to get it right.Sarah: Nice. Where's the best place for folks to go and find out more about you and what you do?Katie: Yeah. To grab a free chapter of my book, You're On Fire. It's Fine, you can go to youreonfireitsfine.com. And for a therapist or media listening, katiekmay.com has all of my other projects and my counseling center and endeavors there.Sarah: Wonderful. Thank you so much, Katie.Katie: Thank you This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe
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#363: Skeery leased a new car & Brody thinks he got scammed; Brody is bent over a tube of toothpaste and basil on his chicken parm; Skeery ditched the fatloss detox for something else and makes a big life change announcement...See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
What if the secret to transforming workplace culture is simply refusing to tolerate bad leadership? Rosie sits down with Eric Harkins, leadership consultant, keynote speaker, and author of "Great Leaders Make Sure Monday Mornings Don't Suck." With over 25 years of experience reshaping how leaders lead, Eric shares the two critical things that keep organizations from being great, and what to do about them. Together, they unpack why underperformance and toxic leadership persist, even in companies striving for people-first cultures. From the importance of courageous conversations to building a leadership model rooted in self-awareness, Eric lays out his practical LEAD framework to create workplaces people actually want to show up for. If you've ever rolled your eyes on a Monday morning or felt stuck working with someone who drains your energy, this episode is your call to action. Get ready to laugh, learn, and rethink what it really means to show up as a leader. Additional Resources: Get Eric's book - "Great Leaders Make Sure Monday Mornings Don't Suck" Connect with Eric on LinkedIn Check out Eric's website for more! Connect with Rosie on LinkedIn Learn more about Salveo Partners Follow PeopleForward Network on LinkedIn Learn more about PeopleForward Network Key Takeaways: Leadership starts with self-awareness and accountability Under-performers destroy culture faster than anything Courageous conversations are non-negotiable for real leadership Subject matter experts don't equal good people leaders Build teams where Monday mornings don't suck
What's it like to be you? This week, Tyler and Johnny are covering the Death Ship of Chebogue. Plus: alternate ways to take your daily Kool-Aid, Canada's Drag Race ends as another begins, and a seemingly-violent merfolk gets caught trespassing!Join the Secret Society That Doesn't Suck for exclusive weekly mini episodes, livestreams, and a whole lot more! patreon.com/thatsspookyCheck out our new and improved apparel store with tons of new designs! thatsspooky.com/storeCheck out our website for show notes, photos, and more at thatsspooky.comFollow us on Instagram for photos from today's episode and all the memes @thatsspookypodWe're on Twitter! Follow us at @thatsspookypodDon't forget to send your spooky stories to thatsspookypod@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
January 21st, 2026 Happy Wednesday P1's, let's gather up the brain trust of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Coming at you LIVE from Benny Frank's! Where we are joined by Food Network's ‘Chopped' Champion Chef Enrique where he gives us some incite to being a chef, his speciality menu at Benny Frank's and the perks of being Chef Enrique. Plus Voo hits us with 21 questions where things get a little spicy. Follow us on social media @AaronScenesAfterParty
January 20th, 2026 Happy Tuesday P1's, let's gather up the brain trust of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
January 19th, 2026 Start of a new week & it's once again time to gather up the brain trust of the Sweet Spot (Sean Bass & David Mino) & the Hardline (Corby Davidson, Bob Sturm & Dave Lane) led by Justin Montemayor to give us birthdays, shoutouts, 'on this day in history' and any other nuggets to show you Why Today Doesn't Suck. Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and X Listen to past episodes on The Ticket’s Website And follow The Ticket Top 10 on Apple, Spotify or Amazon MusicSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
So close! The Boston Celtics came within a Jaylen Brown near-miss of beating the first-seeded Detroit Pistons. Plus, Jaylen Brown is an all-star starter, Jayson Tatum put on his most physical workout yet directly in front of the media, and the New York Knicks suck at basketball. Sam LaFrance of Hardwood Houdhini and the How 'bout Them Celtics podcast joined us live on YouTube after the game. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Two years ago, I was ready to throw hands at the next person to tell me to go mobile. I had only recently ditched ladder stands for climbing stands, which I considered mobile enough. The last thing I wanted to do was learn a new hunting system. I put up a brave fight against peer pressure, but ultimately caved. I'm in my second season of stacking up deer from saddles and ultralight hang-on stands while my climbing stands collect dust. I hate to...
“We had been promised relief but none was coming, and all of us in Bataan shared a sense of betrayal.” This is the story of the United State's earliest—and most disastrous—days of war in the Pacific. Almost immediately following Pearl Harbor, America and the Axis powers exchange rapid-fire war declarations. While embattled Britain breathes a sign of relief to have the US officially in the war, the Japanese Empire's sun is rising on the Pacific fast—and at great cost to the Philippines. As the Commonwealth's islands fall one by one, General Douglas MacArthur is forced to beat a hasty retreat. He evacuates to Australia and pledges to return; but what of the American and Filipino forces cornered on a small peninsula on Luzon? Well, they're not called the “Battling Bastards of Bataan” for nothing. But there's only so much they can do without outside support. Many thousands of POWs will be murdered or massacred in the post-surrender Bataan Death March of April 1942. Amid these defeats and the ensuing crisis of morale, Washington concludes a successful counterattack on the Japanese home islands just might be the psychological win that America needs. Lieutenant Colonel James “Jimmy” Doolittle will lead an air attack… on Tokyo itself. ____ Go to squarespace.com/HTDS for a free trial and use the offer code HTDS to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain from our advertising partner Squarespace. Connect with us on HTDSpodcast.com and go deep into episode bibliographies and book recommendations join discussions in our Facebook community get news and discounts from The HTDS Gazette come see a live show get HTDS merch or become an HTDS premium member for bonus episodes and other perks. HTDS is part of Audacy media network. Interested in advertising on the History That Doesn't Suck? Contact Audacyinc.com. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
This week, Liat and her sister Talia sit down with Dr. Maya Shankar, cognitive scientist, former Senior Advisor and founder of the White House Behavioral Science Team, Head of Behavioral Economics at Google, host of A Slight Change of Plans, and author of The Other Side of Change.Maya shares how she landed in rooms that didn't even have a role for her yet (BCBAs, take notes), and opens up about losing the identity she built as a Juilliard-trained violinist after a career-ending injury. We unpack why change is so threatening to our sense of self, why our brains hate uncertainty, and how to build a “soft landing” when life makes other plans.Liat also shares her own story of navigating serious health struggles and letting go of what she thought her career was going to look like. We talk identity, loss, growth, Love Is Blind takes, and why you are so much more than what you do.Maya's new book, The Other Side of Change: Who We Become When Life Makes Other Plans, is out now - click the link below to get your copy!Behavior Concepts Covered:PairingReinforcement Antecedent Consequence Contingency Variable ratio schedule High response effort Connect with Dr. Maya:Order Maya's book and join our book club on Mar 10th!Listen to a Slight Change of PlansInstagramYoutubeXSubstackMayaShankar.comConnect with Behavior BitchesInsta: @behaviorbitchespodcastFacebook: Behavior Bitches PodcastWebsite: BehaviorBitches.comContact Us: For podcast inquiries, episode ideas, or just to say hi, email us at behaviorbitches@studynotesaba.com Leave us a 5-star review in the Apple Podcast App so we can read it to everyone during our episodes and make us super happy!Looking for BCBA Exam Prep or CEUs?• Whether you need help passing the BCBA exam or are looking to earn CEUs, Study Notes ABA has you covered. Check out our website for comprehensive exam prep materials, prep courses, and CEUs• Test Prep: StudyNotesABA.com• CEUs: CEU.StudyNotesABA.com• PairABA: PairABA.com
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Ads are coming to ChatGPT, but they don't have to follow the same tired playbook as search and social. This episode outlines a five-part plan for doing ads differently: giving users real control and transparency, shifting from pay-for-attention to pay-for-outcomes, building a genuinely useful offers exchange, letting brands fund capabilities and action-oriented agents instead of banner placements, and creating ad programs people actually want to support through small business and AI-native founder grants. Ads may be inevitable, but a conversational interface creates a rare chance to make them feel like features, not interruptions. Brought to you by:KPMG – Discover how AI is transforming possibility into reality. Tune into the new KPMG 'You Can with AI' podcast and unlock insights that will inform smarter decisions inside your enterprise. Listen now and start shaping your future with every episode. https://www.kpmg.us/AIpodcastsZencoder - From vibe coding to AI-first engineering - http://zencoder.ai/zenflowOptimizely Opal - The agent orchestration platform build for marketers - https://www.optimizely.com/theaidailybriefAssemblyAI - The best way to build Voice AI apps - https://www.assemblyai.com/briefLandfallIP - AI to Navigate the Patent Process - https://landfallip.com/Robots & Pencils - Cloud-native AI solutions that power results https://robotsandpencils.com/The Agent Readiness Audit from Superintelligent - Go to https://besuper.ai/ to request your company's agent readiness score.The AI Daily Brief helps you understand the most important news and discussions in AI. Subscribe to the podcast version of The AI Daily Brief wherever you listen: https://pod.link/1680633614Interested in sponsoring the show? sponsors@aidailybrief.ai
Valenti goes off on a rant about all the media-related things he couldn't stand last weekend. Plus, Mike & Rico discuss a report from The Athletic's Jim Bowden about Skubal/the Tigers, pose a mock trade for the Pistons, break down the latest gambling scandal to rock the sports world, and react to the Dodgers signing Kyle Tucker.
Join Aaron and Bella for another uplifting No Suck Saturday, where the news cycle takes a well-deserved break. This week features five stories that genuinely don't suck: a young Eagles fan's hilariously blunt post-game rant, a 90-year-old grandfather's unforgettable aisle performance at a wedding, and more. Plus, they dive into the chapter on charity in C.S. Lewis' "Mere Christianity." No Suck Saturday, positive news, heartwarming stories, C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity, charity, Christian love, puppy rescue, baby delivery trooper, wedding grandfather, RJ Mitte, Can Do Canines, personal goals, habits, family podcast, uplifting content, conservative family
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Welcome to another episode of Spooky Gay Bullsh!t, our weekly hangout where we break down all of the hot topics from the world of the weird, the scary, and issues that affect the LGBTQIA2+ community!This week, we cover: a man gets caught with over 100 human skeletal remains in his home, a harrowing hairball story out of Vietnam, a viral app that checks to see if you're dead or not, a spa employee puts everything she has into defending her workplace from a health inspector, and an update on the bear found in a California crawlspace!See you next Friday for more Spooky Gay Bullsh!t! Join the Secret Society That Doesn't Suck for exclusive weekly mini episodes, livestreams, and a whole lot more! patreon.com/thatsspookyGet into our new apparel store and the rest of our merch! thatsspooky.com/storeCheck out our website for show notes, photos, and more at thatsspooky.comFollow us on Instagram for photos from today's episode and all the memes @thatsspookypodWe're on Twitter! Follow us at @thatsspookypodDon't forget to send your spooky gay B.S. to thatsspookypod@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Most people are struggling in modern relationships, and it is not because they are broken. It is because the systems around them are. In this episode, you'll learn why roughly 65 percent of people operate from insecure attachment, why that quietly destroys energy, trust, and intimacy, and how secure attachment becomes a critical biohacking upgrade for human performance, longevity, and emotional resilience. Watch this episode on YouTube for the full video experience: https://www.youtube.com/@DaveAspreyBPR Host Dave Asprey sits down with Adam Lane Smith, MA Psych, a leading global expert on Attachment Theory and the neurobiology of human bonding. Adam has spent over 16 years studying and working in psychology, helping individuals, couples, and families repair broken relationships, rebuild trust, and develop secure attachment. His work focuses on skill-based nervous system training rather than talk therapy alone, often creating change in months instead of years. He now runs a global coaching practice and is on a mission to bring secure attachment to one billion people worldwide. Together, Dave and Adam break down why modern dating, career pressure, and social isolation have produced a generation of adults who feel emotionally exhausted, disconnected, and stuck in survival mode. They explain how insecure attachment keeps people operating at low capacity, why bonding hormones like oxytocin and vasopressin regulate stress, sleep optimization, and emotional stability, and how broken attachment patterns sabotage metabolism, focus, and recovery. The conversation also covers AI companionship, dating apps, community collapse, and why no supplement, nootropic, fasting protocol, ketosis strategy, or carnivore diet can fully compensate for unsafe nervous systems. You'll Learn: • Why 65 percent of people struggle with modern relationships • How insecure attachment caps energy, focus, and emotional resilience • Why secure attachment matters more as you age, not less • How bonding hormones regulate stress, sleep, and recovery • Why high performers still burn out without nervous system safety • How men and women experience attachment and regulation differently • Why AI and dating apps can worsen disconnection if used poorly • How community and shared purpose rebuild secure attachment • Why supplements and nootropics cannot replace real connection • Where to start if you want stronger relationships and higher capacity Dave Asprey is a four time New York Times bestselling author, founder of Bulletproof Coffee, and the father of biohacking. With over 1,000 interviews and 1 million monthly listeners, The Human Upgrade is the top podcast for people who want to take control of their biology, extend their longevity, and optimize every system in the body and mind. Each episode features cutting edge insights in health, performance, neuroscience, supplements, nutrition, hacking, emotional intelligence, and conscious living. Thank you to our sponsors! -KillSwitch | If you're ready for the best sleep of your life, order now at https://www.switchsupplements.com and use code DAVE for 20% off. -Screenfit | Get your at-home eye training program for 40% off using code DAVE at https://www.screenfit.com/dave. -MTE | Get 20% off MTE at https://www.getmte.com/dave using code DAVE. -Timeline | Go to https://www.timeline.com/dave and get 35% off a subscription with their New Year offer. Dave Asprey is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, founder of Bulletproof Coffee, and the father of biohacking. 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Keywords: adam lane smith, adam lane smith attachment theory, adam lane smith secure attachment, adam lane smith relationships, attachment theory podcast, secure vs insecure attachment, nervous system regulation relationships, oxytocin vasopressin bonding, modern dating psychology, relationship burnout, loneliness epidemic, attachment styles explained, biohacking relationships, dave asprey adam lane smith, dave asprey relationships, human performance psychology, midlife purpose and relationships, aging mindset, adam land smith dave asprey relationships Resources: • Get a discount on any of Adam's courses with code “daveasprey10” at checkout! https://adamlanesmith.com/ • Get My 2026 Biohacking Trends Report: https://daveasprey.com/2026-biohacking-trends-report/ • Join My Low-Oxalate 30-Day Challenge: https://daveasprey.com/2026-low-ox-reset/ • Dave Asprey's Latest News | Go to https://daveasprey.com/ to join Inside Track today. • Danger Coffee: https://dangercoffee.com/discount/dave15 • My Daily Supplements: SuppGrade Labs (15% Off) • Favorite Blue Light Blocking Glasses: TrueDark (15% Off) • Dave Asprey's BEYOND Conference: https://beyondconference.com • Dave Asprey's New Book – Heavily Meditated: https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated • Upgrade Collective: https://www.ourupgradecollective.com • Upgrade Labs: https://upgradelabs.com • 40 Years of Zen: https://40yearsofzen.com Timestamps: 0:00 – Trailer 2:54 – The 30% Capacity Problem 4:19 – Historical Breakdown of Human Connection 9:31 – Building Pseudo-Families & Tribes 15:09 – The Modern Dating Problem 19:21 – Solutions for Women 26:49 – The Four Levels of Safety & Peace 33:04 – Solutions for Men 37:45 – Building Community & Finding Partners 45:26 – Marriage, Partnership & Legacy 52:23 – The Future & Social Culling 1:03:18 – Red Flags vs Green Flags in Dating 1:07:23 – Dating After 50 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.