Return to Self

In this episode, I have a candid conversation with my friend-Aranxta King-about depression. We unpack what led her there, what it felt like in the lowest of lows, and her continuous path to recovery. It is a beautiful story about self-discovery, courage, and healing. I hope it touches you as much as it touched me.

I'm kicking off this season with an episode dedicated to survivors of sexual assault who are trying to find their way back to themselves in light of the emotional and psychological trauma in the aftermath of an attack. My intention with this episode is to ensure all survivors recognize one thing; the abuse was not your fault, you were not complicit and you are not alone.Joining me on the podcast today is none other than Kemi DaSilva-Ibru ; the founder of Women at risk International Foundation (WARIF) which is a non profit organization founded in 2016 in response to the high incidence of sexual violence, rape and human trafficking occurring among young girls in Nigeria.In this episode, we explore a number of topics including the range of effects of sexual assault, how to identify grooming, preventing interventions and resources which victims can accessWARIF provides a range of resources for survivors which includes in person counselling at the centre, telephone counselling via the 24 hour confidential helpline and online counselling via the website.The WARIF center at 6 Turton street off Thorburn avenue provides survivors with medical services as well as counseling and social welfare services WARIF website: https://warifng.org/ 24 hour free toll-free confidential helpline: (+234)-8009-210-0009If you would like to support the work WARIF is doing please make a donation here https://warifng.org/get-involved-2/ and/or register to be a volunteerYou can also follow them on social media - @WARIF_NG

In part 2 of this episode, Chude Jideonwo, co-founder of Red media and founder of Joy inc, continues our discussion. He talks about the numerous techniques he has used to heal from depression and how he now lives a life that is truly fearless.

To round off this year I am posting the very first episode I ever recorded. I was terrified to release it when I first recorded so I procrastinated left right and centre lol..... but here it is. In this episode, Chude Jideonwo, co-founder of Red media and founder of Joy inc, personifies vulnerability in its truest form. He talks about his battle with depression, relationships and so much more.

I have been asking myself this question lately-what could I achieve if I was not afraid? I am intrigued by people who seem to feel the fear and do it anyway. I want to understand what it is about them that makes them so courageous. On this episode, I interview Donald Duke, former Governor of Cross River's state and one of Nigeria's youngest Governors ever. He has had some spectacular successes and also some spectacular failures but that hasn't held him back. We sat down for an intimate 2 hour conversation about his rise to Governor, his battle with cancer, his 2 presidential runs, his involvement with AMCON...all of it. We start off this episode talking about his rise to Governor. Enjoy!

On this episode I have a heart to heart with Hilda Kabushenga Kragha about the fears that come with releasing creative content in the world. Hilda is the former CEO of Jobberman Nigeria and MD of ROAM Africa Jobs. We talk about her own journey to creating the successful blog Modern African Mother-a community to help mothers navigate motherhood in the context of modern day Africa. In our interview, Hilda is brutally honest about how she had to overcome the voices which said 'you are not good enough', 'what you have to say is not important' and how she has been able to create a mindset shift that has set her on a path to achieve her fullest potential.

In Part 2, Vivian is brave enough to take on my questions about God. We explore Christian concepts like 'Ask and You Shall Receive', 'Sovereignty vs Free Will' and the 'Discrepancies between the Old and New Testament God.'

In this episode I share my ongoing journey to tear down my beliefs about God through the lens of Christianity to trying to discover God and 'see his face'. Vivian Ojo shares her personal journey through Baha'i faith, Islam and Christianity and how she came to find God in what she emotionally describes as 'coming home to a place you have never been before.'

On this episode Shola and I talk about the committee of voices in our heads when it comes to motherhood; nanny envy, how difficult it is to achieve a guilt free Netflix binge and the overriding fear that your child won't receive the love they deserve in this world.

In this episode I talk about my relationship with grief after losing my mother and how the lessons I learned started me on a path to returning to myself.