Marriage Grace with Heather

3 Simple Ways To Increase Intimacy In Marriage It's important to know ways to increase intimacy in marriage. And if you told me that 10 years ago, I might have just laughed because intimacy builds very naturally early on in relationships, but little did I know that over time it requires intentionality, especially as life demands and responsibilities increase. This is going to sound obvious, but the way to increase intimacy in marriage is to actually spend quality time together. The key here is “quality” time. Not just time sitting in front of the TV together or chauffeuring your kids from one activity to another other together, but instead time spent connecting and continually learning about each other. If these examples are what your marriage looks like for time spent together, you're at risk of being one of those statistics that end in separation after the kids grow up because you realize that you don't even know each other anymore. That is not what I want for you. What I want for you is a happy, joyful marriage now and well into the future. To get there and to continue to deepen your intimacy throughout life together, you must make the investment now. And in this episode, I'm helping you do exactly that. I'm spelling out three simple ways to increase intimacy in marriage. I'm sharing what I do in my own marriage that has truly made a big impact in deepening my relationship with my husband. If you lead a busy lifestyle and put quality time with your spouse on the back burner… …or could just use a few tips when it comes to ways to increase intimacy in marriage, I recorded this episode with you in mind. I'm sharing some fun ideas to bring the joy and laughter from your dating days to your marriage. You're in for a treat! Click play to listen! Here's a glance at this episode… >> What the bible says about investing in your marriage. >> How to actually find time for each other. >> Simple ideas and ways to increase intimacy in marriage that I also use in my own marriage. >> A practice that is often used in business and that can also have a big impact on growing your intimacy when used in your marriage too. Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

Let's Be Kind Kind vs. Nice. You've heard both of these words, but do you really know the difference? Let me break it down for you. To be kind is to be friendly or generous, and considerate in nature, but it's not about keeping the peace or appeasing someone else. No matter if you're behaving kindly or nicely in your relationships, I get it. And I'm here to help you move forward. I truly don't think I'd be here today if it weren't for two things… One, investing in myself and my relationship with God. And two, learning fundamentally the BIG difference between being kind and being nice. So in this episode, I'm breaking down exactly how you can learn the difference of what it means to be kind vs. be nice, and how to self-identify when you're behaving one way or the other. Learning to be kind, not nice, is right for EVERYONE. This applies to couples and singles alike. In all relationships and aspects of your life. Click play to listen! Together in this episode, we'll talk about: The difference between kindness vs. niceness and what the bible says about it. How you can self-identify when you are behaving “nicely” or “kindly” in your relationships across 5 common character traits. How to overcome and grow from these challenges when you relate to one or more of these 5 character traits. Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

The Opposite Of Love Is Fear How To Overcome Your Fears “Where you are in your journey, I hope you, too, will keep encountering challenges. It is a blessing to be able to survive them, to be able to keep putting one foot in front of the other — to be in a position to make the climb up life's mountain, knowing that the summit still lies ahead. And every experience… is a valuable teacher.” – Oprah Winfrey Ask any psychologist about the opposite of love and they'll tell you: it's fear. Did you know that in order to have that happy, loving marriage that you so desire, it requires 10 positive interactions to every negative interaction? What is your positive to negative interaction? And how do you get to be a 10 to 1 or better? This is what God offers us in a sanctified marriage and it is available to all those who believe in Jesus Christ. In this episode, I'll be helping you to avoid letting Satan have power in your life and stop letting your marriage spiral further and further out of control. I'll be walking you through a 3-step plan that will give you a new freedom in the Holy Spirit to guide your marriage in all circumstances and allow you to release all the stresses and worries of this world. You and your marriage can reach that 10 to 1 positive interaction ratio and begin experiencing more joy in your marriage as you overcome your fears and stop operating out of the opposite of love. Taking action on this 3-step plan will alleviate the roller coaster of emotional up's and downs and guide you on a path to a healthy, stable, loving marriage. I'll also be sharing with you exactly what you can start doing now to begin making real change in yourself and your marriage. Stick around until the end of the episode for this! Click play to listen! Here's this episode at a glance: The opposite of love and the most common fears that most people are operating by in everyday living. How to gain awareness of your own operating system. How to begin using the right operating system that God gifted you with and wants you to use. How to build a stronger relationship with God for guidance and to live out His beautiful plans for you. Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

Effective Boundaries For Relationships: How to Enforce Them And Be Accountable What kind of marriage do you dream of having? What kind of impact will your marriage have? If you don't think it's possible to achieve these dreams for your marriage because your boundaries are being broken over and over again… then you're in for a treat today. I was once exactly where you are at now with lines that were being crossed again and again and felt like boundaries didn't work for my marriage. The problem was that I wasn't enforcing my boundaries. I didn't even know how to do that. Since then I've figured out the missing piece to effective boundaries for relationships, and my marriage has transformed. Today I'm on a mission to help you transform your marriage with effective boundaries for relationships. To go from broken boundaries to boundaries that you hold accountable. I'm going to warn you that it's not easy. But I don't just talk the talk, I walk the walk, and I know you can too. In this episode, I'm breaking down how to use consequences in your boundaries to give your marriage the reset it needs for love to be sustained. So click to listen! Here's a glance at this episode… What happens to a marriage where boundaries are continually broken. When people are in denial of the truth, they only respond to pain and loss. A powerful tool to protect you and your marriage and uphold effective boundaries for relationships. Who is in control of your boundaries. How to be accountable to your boundaries. A framework for how to use consequences in your boundaries. How to identify your values for your boundaries in your relationships. Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

How To Make Boundaries Respect You & Protect Your Love: The 2-Step Formula How's your breathing today? Deep and restorative? (Or did that question just prompt your first deep inhale of the day?) And your shoulders? High and tight OR relaxed, breezy, and unburdened by the weight of the world? The unfortunate reality for a healthy marriage is that the “love is enough” mantra simply isn't true and many of us find that out the hard way. This reality can leave you shaken and unsure of what you need for your love to sustain and grow. It can especially leave you to experience the pain and frustration with broken boundaries. Growing can be painful. It's the very reason why we often don't change until a circumstance in our life calls for it. But, not for you. Not today. Because in this episode, I'm adding one of the required tools in your marriage toolbox. The additional thing that you need beyond love to sustain your marriage, which is healthy boundaries. A great marriage takes continual learning, practice and growth. Boundaries are not automatic and must be learned and practiced. Boundaries respect you and protect your love and marriage. I'm so excited to share my 2-step formula needed to create boundaries that work. More specifically, I'm excited to talk about how I overcame my own struggle with establishing boundaries and how you can apply this 2-step formula in your own marriage. This formula will help you to understand that your boundaries respect you and are all about your own self-respect and self-control. And the coolest part? Boundaries are something that you are fully in control of in your life and your marriage. They are all about knowing where your personal limits are in relationships and how you will respond if someone crosses one of your lines. By the end of today's episode, you'll have a clearer picture of where you will draw your lines for boundaries that respect you, learn how you can apply the 2-step formula to create boundaries that work in your marriage, and start experiencing the change that you desire to see in your marriage. So click to listen, then fill those lungs, drop those shoulders, and give your burdens to God. Here's a glance at this episode… What you think is a boundary vs. what is actually a boundary What happens when we don't have boundaries How boundaries respect you and protect your love The 2-step formula for creating boundaries that work My personal story and how I overcame my struggle with boundaries The boundaries God wants you to have Questions to ask yourself to define your own boundaries The importance of self-control for upholding your boundaries Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

Stop Stressing And Start Growing With Love Have you ever seen a bright married couple completely in love… and felt that tight knot of envy form in your stomach? Well, bid that feeling farewell, my friend. Because in this episode, I'll be showing you the recipe for your marriage to begin growing with love using two key ingredients. These two ingredients unlock the freedom God has granted you to operate from your core values, and to stop operating from fear. Setting your relationship up for growing with love requires discomfort and in this episode, I'll be sharing the false beliefs that Satan, the great deceiver, is spreading in society to damage your love. Gaining awareness of false beliefs that you may be operating by is necessary for protecting your love and allowing it to continually grow. If you're looking for the recipe to start growing with love or you're simply looking for more courage to make and tackle a few big leaps in personal growth – this episode is a MAJOR can't-miss. Here's a glance at this episode: The recipe for love to grow, including two key ingredients. The freedom of free will that God has given and how important of a role this freedom plays in your marriage. How to apply the recipe for growing with love in your marriage, and what you are responsible for. The common false beliefs that you may be operating by that cause love to be damaged. How to overcome these false beliefs and fear based operating system. Introduction to boundaries and how healthy boundaries protect your marriage to allow love to continually grow. Click play to listen! Free Resource Here: > Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

How To Start Loving Yourself First This episode is setting us ALL straight when it comes to loving yourself first… … getting in touch with your feelings… …and showing up for yourself. You see, if you don't get in touch with your painful feelings, you lose a bit of yourself and prevent yourself from healing. Having painful feelings are all part of life as life is full of challenges. In this episode, you will discover your deeper feelings to gain awareness and bring them to the surface. I'll also be sharing how to show up for yourself through prayer whenever you experience these types of feelings in marriage and life. This is one of those episodes where you'll not only walk away with a notebook full of practical steps for loving yourself first… …but with a fire in your belly for all that life has to offer you. Here's a glance at this episode: Big ah-ha moments covering 3 important steps to loving yourself first that I have personally practiced in my own life. In Matthew 22, the bible instructs us to the most important commandment that we are to follow in our lives. To love each other and experience overflowing joy, you must first learn how to start loving yourself first. Only then will you have love to share. The most common painful feelings experienced in marriage, that I also experienced, and how to start showing up for yourself during these moments. The six questions you must ask yourself and have balance in to take care of yourself every single day. Click play to listen! Free Download Here: > Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

Finding happiness in yourself even when your marriage feels hopeless Years ago, I shared the same hopelessness in my marriage that you are experiencing, and it was getting in the way of my happiness. And since then, just about everything has changed. My walk with God… my mindset and what I'm focusing on… the connection in my marriage… the size of my family… my personal growth and mental health… even my address looks wildly different. Well, for me, learning to become responsible for my own happiness and being intentional about focusing on the abundance in my life has significantly influenced and inspired how I experience happiness within myself. I thought you might be curious to also learn simple actions you can take in your life today to begin finding happiness in yourself despite your marriage challenges. So, I've decided to record an episode that's fully transparent with you about how I rely more on my own values and depend less on other people's (including my husband's) reactions. In this episode, I'm walking you through how to take responsibility for your own happiness, learn about who you are and what your values are, and how to be intentional about focusing on what you are grateful for. I'm sharing my own personal mission statement of values, including a framework for how you can write your own, and the steps that I take to build new healthy habits into my everyday life. It's going to be personal… including my personal values and my own mistakes. So click play to listen to an honest recount of what finding happiness in yourself looks like, and all I'm learning on my own journey of life. Here's a glance at this episode: Your spouse, your kids, your parents, your friends, your colleagues are not responsible for your happiness, you are. Find out a key piece needed for you to take personal responsibility for finding happiness in yourself. Your worth and value are not in what you do. It's who you are in Christ. Learn how to uncover your own values and mission statement. My favorite book of the bible, Philippians, as Paul provide an example of right-mind thinking and a positive mindset. Be intentional about what you are grateful for and how to build an attitude of gratitude as a daily habit. Click play to listen! Episode Free Download: > Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!

Are you ready to take the first step of learning how to heal a broken marriage? The first step may surprise you because it has everything to do with you, and nothing to do with your spouse. That sounds backwards, I know. I hear you. I've been there before. But I want to challenge you on how that mindset of focusing on your spouse first, instead of yourself, is most likely working against you… and I'm doing just that in this episode. In this episode, I want to talk to you about rethinking how to heal a broken marriage. I want to lean into what God provides as a strength underneath all that pain and frustration. And I want to challenge you in an area that you're probably not focused on enough as you face constant marital conflict. My friend, borrow as much inspiration as you need from me – and this episode – to take the first step of learning how to heal a broken marriage and begin stepping into the wonderful plans that God has been calling you to. I believe in you with my whole heart! So click play to listen and let's have a chat, shall we? Here's a glance at this episode: What if you left your self-pity behind and found joy in your life outside of your marriage? I want to challenge you to look at your life from a bigger point of view through the parable of the Sower of Seeds. Stresses of this world, including your marriage, can lead open doors for Satan (the great deceiver) to enter your life, unless you are careful to sow seed in good soil. How do you sow seed in good soil? Let's take a look at the differences from each type of soil to gain awareness and understanding of what actions you can take in your own life. Once you're sowing seed in good soil, how do you produce a harvest of thirty, sixty, or even one hundred times what was planted? Paul shares with us in Philippians all about right mind thinking, and this lesson here is at the core of the first step of how to heal a broken marriage. Click play to listen! Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Marriage Grace with Heather.” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people – just like you – move toward the life and marriage they desire. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, follow the podcast. I'm adding new episodes every week, and if you're not following, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Follow now!