Polyammering Podcast

Anton and Carissa join me for the very first episode of Monocorn Perspectives, where we discuss a common challenge: Should I stay or should I go?

Gena and Patrick join me for part two of the Should I stay or should I go conversation.

Recorded September 2, 2020. Polyammering Podcast will be transitioning to Monocorn Perspectives - a podcast that centers the experiences of those who are wired monoamorously and in a relationship with someone who identifies with some form of ethical nonmonogamy.

Season 2 Begins Now! In this mini episode I provide an update on what to expect from Season 2 of the podcast and share some thoughts on how the global Covid-19 pandemic will affect the nature of our relationships moving forward.

In part one of this series, we speak with Ditto - a member of The Trender System. The Trender System is a plural system of 18 people with varying gender and sexual identities on the spectrum of ethical nonmonogamy. Some of them are partnered, some are not, and some are partnered with each other. We'll be joined by Alix and "KL" in the later parts of the series for their perspectives on developing relationships with others while existing as part of a plural system.

Tune in for a lengthy and fascinating discussion with Anton Fulmen, a kink and sexuality author and educator who specializes in consensual power exchange. Anton wrote the books: “The Heart of Dominance,” “How to Find partners on Fetlife,” and “the Dominance Playbook." He shares his own philosophies on the intersection of polyamory and power exchange, and answers some listener questions. Learn more about Anton Fulmen, his books, retreats, and workshops at http://consensualdominance.com.

David Miron (he/him or they/them) is a 60 year old bisexual and polyamorous former methodist pastor, church musician, and certified coach with Erotic Blueprints. We talk about the intersection of religion and polyamory as well as the intersection of polyamory and BDSM. Visit David's website at http://slutofthecloth.org

Meet Kelly (they/them), a nonbinary/genderqueer relationship anarchist who’s about to pull a cross-country move. They also share their outlook on life and dating with a disability caused by Crohn’s Disease, and we bond over our “fake it ‘til you make it” approach to dealing with insecurity. Kelly’s energy is infectious and their insight and approach to relationship anarchy is beautifully inclusive and compassionate. To hear more from Kelly, and specifically more about handling disability and sex - listen to episode 49 of Disability After Dark, a podcast by Andrew Gurza that highlights issues around sex and disability - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4C1iy7JOPIViRMPd6I7ZDh You can follow Kelly on IG at @thesirmixalittle and if you live near Sacramento, maybe head out to one of their drag shows!

Meet my metamour, Elre! We recorded this episode back in April 2019 and I'm so glad it's finally being shared with the world, especially during Pride month! Elre is my non-binary, bisexual metamour, and the person who initially introduced me to our shared partner. Eir pronouns are ey/em/eir, but ey also accept they/them. Last night, Elre told me I am the Gabrielle to eir Xena, and if that doesn't tell you something about our relationship, I don't know what will. Last year, Elre was diagnosed with breast cancer and started undergoing treatment. Instead of plugging the patreon campaign this week, I want to ask people to consider making a contribution to eir gofundme campaign which is helping to cover the costs of medical care. Even with insurance, this has been a financially taxing and stressful experience and your help today can mean a little breathing room as they go through the last few months of chemotherapy treatment. Here's the link: https://www.gofundme.com/help-elre-maki-beat-breast-cancer

Zoe, who uses cis pronouns of she/her, is a grad student who is asexual, a-gendered, and in a relationship with a polyamorous partner. She’s a wonderful guest who very patiently answers a lot of my questions on the differences between emotional and romantic connections and what a typical date looks like when sex isn’t the main goal.

Kyra Grosman is a Brooklyn-based therapist who’s doing something really interesting – he is offering consultation and ongoing supervision for mental health professionals who are working with polyamorous or ethically nonmonogamous patients. Kyra himself has a fascinating story that he shares with us. He doesn’t actually identify as polyamorous himself, but more along the lines of ethically nonmonogamous and has been for the last 15 years. He also shares some insight on his experience as a trans man who was transitioning around the same time that he was getting involved with the person who introduced him to polyamory. Find Kyra's website at http://kgrosmanpsyd.com

Annie Frazier, host of Talk about Love Radio, joins me for a discussion about what they've learned in eight years of practicing polyamory!

Bacon the rigger talks about his five year on-and-off journey with polyamory culminating in an open polyamorous relationship with his wife, girlfriend, and partner. He tells the story of opening up to his family about both kink and polyamory, and sheds some wisdom on what he's learned over the past few years. Plus, we talk about bacon. Visit polyammering.blog for show notes and links mentioned during this episode.

Seren (they/them)– who is bi-gendered and bisexual - lives in the Philadelphia area. They’ve made so much progress in understanding how to navigate polyamory with mental illness, since being diagnosed with Bipolar 2, Borderline Personality Disorder, and PTSD. Seren has also experienced the transition of their traditional marriage into a cohabiting and co-parenting non-sexual relationship that’s working out very well for both of them.

Sarah Underwood is a theatre professional in New York City who identifies as bisexual and polyamorous. She transitioned into polyamory about four years ago while still with her monogamous partner, whom she’d met at 19 years old. Now in her 30s, Sarah’s relationship landscape looks very different than how it did back then. Enjoy episode six with Sarah the Solo Poly Sweetheart.

E.L. Byrne is a freelance writer/blogger who has spent the past four years living abroad. This polyamorous expat was first introduced to the concepts behind polyamory while on a tinder date in Germany two years ago, and is now living and dating in Columbia while maintaining two long distance relationships and writing her memoir.

The first of my three metamours joined me for some cocktails and a chat for this Very Special Episode of Polyammering. She shares a bit about her religious upbringing and how her approach to the concept of polyamory shifted after she lost her faith. We also talk about the “incident” in which I participated in accidentally outing her to a family member, and learn how that all went down from her point of view.

Kara (she/her) and her husband have been together 15 years and have a 9 year-old daughter. How did they approach opening up their marriage 4.5 years ago, and what's changed since then?

Anne More (she/her) is a certified sex geek and self-described "late poly bloomer" who didn't open up her relationship(s) until after the age of 50. Learn how she keeps the spark alive in two long distance relationships, and how learning more about her body and her sexuality changed her life.

Richard has a wife, a girlfriend, a not girlfriend, a high school sweetheart, and a formerly platonic girlfriend who's now a new girlfriend. Learn more about how he manages his time and energy with a hectic travel schedule to boot in this very first episode of the Polyammering Podcast.

Learn more about Phoebe "Phi" Phillips, my polyamory origin story and my mission to reduce judgement and increase awareness and acceptance for unconventional relationships. Future episodes will center around other people telling their stories. This one is mine.