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Wrapping up season 7, Episode 1, The Long Morrow. Luke needs a big reality check and Zoe reveals just how little she knows about Borderline Personality Disorder. Fun!Text us!Support the show
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
In this episode, Rose Skeeters welcomes Bob Drozek, a leading expert in mentalization-based treatment (MBT), to discuss how understanding and improving mentalizing can support hope and recovery from borderline personality disorder (BPD). Listeners will gain insights into the foundational concepts of MBT and practical strategies for fostering better emotional and relational health.Key topics:Mentalization explained: Accessing, reflecting, and understanding mental states in oneself and others (00:00:41)The importance of mentalization in everyday life and therapy (00:55:27)How trauma, rejection, and intense emotions disrupt mentalizing abilities (01:26:00)The role of psychical equivalence mode—certainty about negative self-beliefs— in BPD (05:03:00)Differences between skills-based therapies like DBT and relational, reflective approaches like MBT (13:42:00)The structure of MBT treatment: Formulation, collaborative development, and tailored strategies (16:19:00)Tools to assess and enhance self-awareness, including worksheets for identifying mentalizing strengths and vulnerabilities (19:00:00)The certainty toolkit and overcoming rigid beliefs about oneself and others (21:16:00)Building empathy: Overcoming empathic deficits related to shame and self-criticism (31:00:00)Navigating unstable self-identity through perspective-taking and understanding emotional validation (38:06:00)Success stories of MBT applying to real-world recovery, reducing self-harm, and improving relationships (45:30:00)Resources & LinksPurchase Mentalization Workbook here: https://a.co/d/0dIkE170Access Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/MentalizationBookWorksheets: https://global.oup.com/booksites/content/9780198916857/Contact Bob Drozek here: rdrozek@mclean.harvard.eduInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertdrozek/MBT Boston—an organization that Bob Drozek co-founded that offers training and supervision to clinicians across the world in MBT: www.mbtboston.com/Need individual support? Schedule a session with Rose here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/To schedule with Jay, click here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**Thank you to Noah Esreal for sharing his latest song with us, Now Knowing This. If you liked the clip in the beginning of this episode, you can find the whole song at the end of the episode.
Here's what I think about why men are lonely, including some thoughts about society now vs a generation ago, as well as some practical strategies to increase your circle. IF YOU'RE INTERESTED IN THE MEN'S GROUP, it starts June 23. Email us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com to sign up or learn more here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/mens-coaching-groupMy newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/postsTo get over 225 more episodes, most recently "Borderline Personality Disorder in Marriage," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com or visit https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
While many people have heard of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) fewer know about Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT), an evidence-based therapy that is producing remarkable results for people living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In this episode, host Gabe Howard sits down with Robert P. Drozek, LICSW, a teaching associate in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and author of “Mentalization: Utilizing Reflection to Heal from Borderline Personality Disorder.” Together, they explore how mentalization—the ability to understand your own thoughts, feelings, and motivations while considering the perspectives of others—can help reduce the emotional instability, relationship challenges, impulsivity, and self-destructive behaviors often associated with borderline personality disorder. Robert explains what happens when intense emotions or fears of rejection disrupt a person's ability to accurately interpret themselves and others. He breaks down how Mentalization-Based Treatment works, what a typical therapy session looks like, and why some people who haven't connected with DBT may find MBT to be a powerful alternative. Listeners Will Learn: · Discover how Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) was developed and why it is evidence-based · Explore the key differences between MBT and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) · Find out what happens during a typical MBT therapy session · Understand how rigid certainty about yourself or others can fuel emotional suffering Whether you've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, love someone who has, or simply want to better understand this treatable mental health condition, this conversation offers hope, practical insights, and a fresh perspective on recovery. Listen now! “When (people with borderline personality disorder) are overwhelmed by emotion, they stop reflecting. Mentalization helps them get their minds back online.” ~Robert P. Drozek, LICSW Robert P. Drozek, LICSW, is the clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment Clinic at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. He is a teaching associate in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, specializing in the treatment of borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. He is author of the new book, Mentalization: Utilizing reflection to heal from borderline personality disorder—the first book for the general public about mentalization-based treatment. Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I always discuss how if you're depressed or have ADHD, you may get less done than other people, and it doesn't mean you're lazy. But you know what, some people are truly lazy! And that is OKAY.... except if you're a super productive person married to one. Here's how to understand what "laziness" really is and how to think about it in a more objective way.My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/postsJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 220 more episodes, most recently "Borderline Personality Disorder in Marriage," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com or visit https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Have you ever completely fallen apart over something small… only to realize later it wasn't really about that thing at all?Sometimes emotional overwhelm isn't caused by one moment. Sometimes it's weeks of stress, fear, shame, exhaustion, criticism, bad luck, and pressure piling up until one final thing breaks the dam.In this minisode from The BPD Bunch, a side conversation turns into an honest discussion about emotional overwhelm, crying in public, shame, recovery, and what happens when emotions finally catch up with you.The cast shares stories about breaking down at work, crying in front of authority figures, feeling embarrassed by emotional reactions, surviving impossible weeks, and learning that sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop fighting your emotions and let yourself feel them.What starts as a tangent becomes one of the most honest conversations from the recording session.We talk about:* BPD and emotional overwhelm* Shame after emotional reactions* Crying in public* Emotional sensitivity* Fear of criticism* Recovery from BPD* Emotional regulation* BPD and workplace stressIf you've ever felt embarrassed by your emotions, judged yourself for having a hard day, or wondered why one small thing suddenly pushed you over the edge, you're not alone.For the next few weeks, we're taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don't worry though, we'll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻
In this week's new episode of Bold Beautiful Borderline we meet Dr. Smith, who shares about how he feels medicine has lost its mind. What does this mean? It means that primary care is failing people with severe mental health issues. In our episode he proposes strategies to get medicine back on track to best support individuals in need of mental healthcare. Dr. Smith, MD recently published the book Has Medicine Lost Its Mind: https://amzn.to/4aTpola Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Both partners in this dynamic suffer and end up with lower self esteem, even though we usually think the preoccupied attachment/pursuer partner suffers more. How does this dynamic impact both partners negatively?My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/postsJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 220 more episodes, most recently "Borderline Personality Disorder in Marriage," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com or visit https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
Have you ever changed your entire personality just to keep someone from leaving?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Katja, and Solène welcome new cast member Dan for an honest conversation about BPD, foster care, relationships, parenting, treatment, and what recovery actually looks like when life is still complicated.Dan talks about crashing after a breakup, begging and pleading, losing himself in romantic relationships, being afraid of the BPD label, and learning through two years of treatment how to build a life that feels calmer without losing the fun parts of himself.We discuss:* BPD and relationships* Fear of abandonment* Losing yourself in love* BPD recovery* Parenting with BPD* Therapy for BPD* Identity disturbance* Dating after treatment* Radical acceptance* Men with BPDIf you've ever felt like being loved meant becoming whatever someone else needed, this episode is for you.
I've discussed the self-made man before, as this is a common type that I get as a therapy or coaching client. This is about the self-made women! Some differences and some similarities. And how does this woman behave in intimate relationships?Resources I promised:Etched in Sand: https://amzn.to/4e03f5CWall St Journal article: https://www.wsj.com/lifestyle/careers/surprising-lessons-from-talking-with-americas-highest-earning-women-fb7c08e9My newest venture, including ALL BRAND NEW POSTS EVERY DAY: https://buymeacoffee.com/drpsychmom/postsJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: drpsychmom.com/mwgTo get over 220 more episodes, most recently "Borderline Personality Disorder in Marriage," subscribe here! https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmomFor coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/For therapy or coaching, contact us at info@bestlifebehavioralhealth.com or visit https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/
If you've ever felt like your anxiety, depression, or inability to calm down is just who you are — this episode will change how you see your brain. Angie Noack is a licensed professional counselor and Senior VP of Business Development at Braincode Centers, where she specializes in brain mapping and neurofeedback. She has a deeply personal story that led her to this work, and the way she explains how our brains get stuck — and how they can actually be retrained — is one of the most eye-opening conversations I've had on this show. some things we got into: — why you can't think your way out of anxiety no matter how much therapy you've done — the ADHD misdiagnosis epidemic and what's actually going on in those kids' brains — why SSRIs don't heal anything, they just cover it — Bipolar vs Borderline Personality Disorder — what social media and dopamine are doing to our brains (and our kids' brains) — how neurofeedback literally rewires your brain without putting anything into it — simple tools you can use at home today to start regulating your nervous system Sponsored By: → TIMELINE | Timeline's clinically proven formula is now available at a new, lower price. Mitopure now starts at $99, with the exact same science and formula. And my listeners can still get 20% off when you go to https://timeline.com/HEALINGTHESOURCE → PUORI | Go to https://puori.com/HEALINGTHESOURCE and use the code HEALINGTHESOURCE at checkout to get 32% off your first Puori Grass-fed Whey Protein subscription order and get a free shaker worth $25. Resources: Glow Kids book Metabolical book Follow the host, Claudia, on Instagram, check out Elham's Liquid Gold 100% Organic Castor Oil, and enjoy her deep-dives on Substack
Have you ever felt rejected and suddenly found yourself angry before you could even explain why?In this mini-sode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Jack, and Katja respond to a viewer question about regulating anger after rejection. The conversation gets into what can happen when rejection hits an old wound: shame turns into anger, hurt turns into passive aggression, and the body reacts before the mind catches up.They talk about anger as a shield, the difference between real anger and hidden shame, walking away before things escalate, and what it looks like to catch the reaction before it becomes a full blowup.Topics include:* BPD and rejection* BPD anger* Fear of rejection* Shame and BPD* Passive aggression* Emotional regulation* Rejection sensitivity* BPD relationship reactionsIf you've ever lashed out when what you really felt was hurt, this episode is for you.For the next few weeks, we're taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don't worry though, we'll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻
In today's episode you meet Tami Ward who talks with us about her experience with BPD, being misdiagnosed Bipolar, parenting challenges, and going the distance in her marriage. Tami is a therapist and Reiki provider who is excited to share her wisdom. Thank you Tami for joining us! Tami Ward can be found at: https://www.anchoredinhoperi.com/about-5-1 Tami's books can be bought here: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Tami-Ward-LMHC/author/B0F4Q1L43X?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1780858554&sr=1-1&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=85ddfeab-ad55-49a2-bd8a-ff11dcdb1055Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Have you ever confused emotional intensity with intimacy?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Justin, Andre, Carys, and Mo continue their conversation about BPD and intimacy, this time focusing on what actually helped them build healthier relationships in recovery.They talk about fear, jealousy, abandonment panic, choosing chaotic people because stability felt boring, learning not to punish people before having hard conversations, and realizing that love does not have to feel like emotional survival.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.Topics include:* BPD and intimacy* Fear of abandonment* Trust issues in relationships* Jealousy and BPD* Push pull relationships* Emotional permanence* BPD recovery* Healthy relationships with BPDIf you've ever wanted closeness while also panicking the second it started to feel real, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. ⸻
Splitting is so highly demonized in BPD. So, like, what even is it?? Splitting is a defense mechanism in which a person has difficulty holding both positive and negative feelings about themselves, others, or situations at the same time. Instead, people or experiences may be viewed in extreme, “all-or-nothing” ways — for example, someone may be seen as completely caring and safe one moment, then completely hurtful or uncaring after a conflict or disappointment.Splitting often happens during periods of emotional stress, fear of abandonment, rejection, shame, or interpersonal conflict. The shift in perception is usually tied to intense emotions rather than manipulation or intentional behavior. For the person experiencing it, the feelings and interpretations can feel very real and urgent in the moment.In this episode Talon and I review splitting and talk about recent examples in our lives. Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Hi ya'll! Welcome to another DBT skill bonus episode celebrating Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month. This skill is called GIVE FAST and it is an interpersonal effectiveness skill. It stands for: G - Be gentleI - Act interestedV - ValidateE - Easy mannerF - Be fairA - No apologiesS - Stick to your valuesT - be truthful Here's an overview: https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/fast.phpSend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Have you ever felt like losing one person would destroy your entire life… even while the relationship itself was destroying you?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, André, Mo, and Justin talk openly about the intense, chaotic, and often painful relationship patterns that can happen with Borderline Personality Disorder. From abandonment panic and toxic relationship cycles to oversharing, emotional testing, and confusing drama for intimacy, the cast explores what closeness looked like when their BPD symptoms were at their worst.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with intimacy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside empathy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and intimacy* Fear of abandonment* Toxic relationship dynamics* Push-pull relationships* Emotional dependency* Oversharing and testing people* BPD and friendships* Relationship obsession* Emotional reactivity in relationshipsIf you've ever confused emotional chaos with love, stayed in relationships that were hurting you, or felt terrified of someone pulling away, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻
This episode continues the Heal NPD Seminar Series with Dr. Mark Ettensohn, joined by his associates Deanna Young, Psy.D., and Danté Spencer, Ph.D. In this session, the group discusses the paper “Living with Pathological Narcissism: A Qualitative Study” (Day et al., 2020), which examines narcissistic personality pathology from the perspective of partners and family members. Unlike most research on narcissism, this study does not rely on self-report or clinician ratings. Instead, it draws on qualitative descriptions from over 400 individuals in close relationships with someone exhibiting high levels of pathological narcissistic traits. These accounts provide a window into how narcissism is experienced interpersonally, particularly in intimate and long-term relationships. The discussion focuses on the study's central finding: that pathological narcissism is best understood as a system characterized by the co-occurrence of grandiosity and vulnerability. Loved ones described patterns of entitlement, arrogance, and need for admiration alongside insecurity, hypersensitivity, emotional instability, and chronic feelings of emptiness. In the majority of cases, these features were not separate “types,” but fluctuating states within the same individual. The group explores how these findings challenge common assumptions about narcissism, including the tendency to equate it with overt grandiosity or interpersonal abusiveness. Particular attention is given to the limitations of DSM-based models, which emphasize observable traits while underrepresenting the internal dysregulation and vulnerability that define the disorder. The conversation also examines broader relational and developmental themes, including: The oscillation between grandiose and vulnerable self-states The role of dissociation and splitting in personality organization The impact of early attachment trauma and “empathic failures” How narcissistic dynamics are expressed and amplified within close relationships The tendency for polarized, dehumanizing narratives to emerge in response to relational injury Finally, the group discusses the concept of “narcissistic abuse,” noting that while experiences of harm in these relationships are real and often significant, the term itself is not a well-defined clinical construct. The discussion emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between lived experience and explanatory frameworks, and of maintaining a nuanced, non-reductive understanding of personality pathology. Key themes include: Pathological narcissism as a dysregulated self-state system The interdependence of grandiosity and vulnerability Limitations of categorical and trait-based models of narcissism The relational expression of personality pathology The role of trauma, attachment, and development in narcissistic adaptation Clinical implications for assessment, formulation, and treatment This series is intended for clinicians, trainees, and viewers seeking a nuanced, clinically grounded understanding of narcissism beyond popular discourse. To learn more about our work, visit: www.HealNPD.org Additional Resources: Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Assessment and therapy inquiries: https://healnpd.org/contact Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 Citation: Day, N. J. S., Townsend, M. L., & Grenyer, B. F. S. (2020). Living with pathological narcissism: A qualitative study. Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, 7(19). Full Text Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles... About Heal NPD Heal NPD is a clinical practice specializing in the assessment and treatment of pathological narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, and related personality difficulties. We offer comprehensive diagnostic assessments, individual psychotherapy, and consultations for partners and family members. Learn more or inquire about services: https://healnpd.org
Hi ya'll. More men! Today you meet Seth who shares openly about his diagnosis, being raised in a "cult church", parenting his child differently, and practicing as much self-kindness as he experiences self-hate. Thank you Seth for sharing your journey on the podcast! Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Recovering from invalidation is an interpersonal effectiveness skill in DBT. In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), “recovering from invalidation” refers to recognizing when another person dismisses, minimizes, ignores, or misunderstands your emotions and then responding effectively instead of spiraling into shame, self-doubt, or emotional dysregulation. The skill involves grounding yourself in the understanding that your emotions and experiences can still be real and meaningful even if another person does not validate them, while also using interpersonal effectiveness skills to communicate needs, maintain self-respect, and decide how to respond in the relationship. Here's the DBT pages on this skill: https://eymtherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/recovering-from-invalidation.pdfDr. Kristen Neff self-compassion information here: https://self-compassion.org/Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Exploring evidence-based BPD treatment options for teens, from DBT and trauma-informed care to residential programs and family involvement. Learn how early intervention can transform outcomes for adolescents struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder.Info: https://missionprephealthcare.com/mental-health-resources/borderline-personality-disorder/ Mission Prep City: San Juan Capistrano Address: 30310 Rancho Viejo Rd. Website: https://missionprephealthcare.com/
Can someone with BPD feel other people's emotions so intensely that it actually starts getting in the way of empathy?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja continue their conversation about BPD and empathy by exploring the difference between emotionally feeling with someone and actually understanding what they need. They share their top tips, lessons and skills they use to navigate empathy more effectively.In case you're new here, this season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Cognitive vs affective empathy* Emotional mirroring* Rejection sensitivity* Social paranoia* Problem solving vs listening* Emotion regulation and empathy* “Feeling everything” with BPD* The empathy trap* Learning to ask what people needIf you've ever absorbed other people's emotions, assumed you knew what someone needed, taken neutrality personally, or felt emotionally overwhelmed in relationships, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻
More stories from men with BPD today! Clark is here to share his story with Borderline Personality Disorder. He's experienced prison, getting sober, parenting, and is about to embark on a new therapy journey. Thank you Clark for sharing your story! Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Our guest on today’s livestream says not only is parental alienation (mental abuse of children) real, but that work and research done by child advocates show that it’s strongly correlated with having a mother/wife figure with Borderline Personality Disorder. Lisa Chynoweth is a licensed master social worker (LMSW), a mother, stepmother, and a coach/consultant for those dealing with developmental trauma. She joins the Disaffected livestream to talk about the effort get parental alienation recognized in custody cases so that family courts make decisions that are in the best interests of the children. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Happy BPD month ya'll! Each week I'm reviewing a DBT skill as a bonus episode and this week it's DBT Wise Mind. In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), “wise mind” is the state where your emotional understanding and logical thinking work together.DBT describes three “states of mind”:Emotion mind: driven mainly by feelings, urges, or moodsExample: “I'm furious, so I'm quitting immediately.”Reasonable mind: driven mainly by logic, facts, and analysisExample: “Statistically, staying is safer financially.”Wise mind: the balanced middle ground that includes both emotion and reasonExample: “I'm genuinely unhappy here, but I don't need to make a decision tonight. I can plan a thoughtful next step.”Let's get into it! Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Can someone with BPD care about other people and still behave in profoundly unempathetic ways?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Georgette, André, Solène, and Katja explore the uncomfortable reality that Borderline Personality Disorder can sometimes make people so emotionally reactive, hypervigilant, and consumed by fear that they stop accurately understanding or trusting other people's emotions, intentions, and experiences.This season, we're discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). Under the AMPD, difficulties with empathy are considered part of impairments in interpersonal functioning, alongside intimacy. To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning: identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits, which we'll be discussing in more detail later this season.In this episode:* BPD and empathy* Social paranoia in BPD* Misreading neutrality as rejection* Reassurance seeking* Fear of abandonment* Mind-reading and projection* Why emotional overwhelm can reduce empathyIf you've ever convinced yourself someone secretly hated you, struggled to trust reassurance, replayed social interactions for hours, or felt overwhelmed by other people's emotions, this episode is for you.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. If you missed them check them out:Part 1Part 2⸻
I was recently asked in a voicemail to host more cis men on the podcast and so here we go! Meet Charles as he talks his experience with BPD, treatment, suicide attempts, and working towards recovery. Charles thank you so much for your time and wisdom! Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Happy Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month! Having a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Awareness Month matters because it directly addresses the biggest barriers people with Borderline Personality Disorder face: misunderstanding, stigma, and lack of access to effective care. This month I'll be having TWO episodes each week: one interview/regular episode and one DBT skill episode! Today we're following up with the One Mindfully and Non-judgment. Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
Do you struggle to know what you want, stick with a path, or trust your own choices?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys and Solène continue their discussion of BPD and self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), exploring how goals, values, identity, relationships, and recovery can all affect the way we build a life.This episode is for anyone with BPD who has ever wondered why it can feel so hard to know who you are, what you want, or where you're going.We talk about:* BPD and self-direction* changing goals, values, and interests* favorite people and life decisions* identity, emptiness, and sense of self* perfectionism, recovery, and self-acceptance* learning how to follow through without getting trapped* finding direction while still allowing yourself to changeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.Follow Xannie and Solene's music journey @Nxi-Sol In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. ⸻
It's Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we've covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we've never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them. Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don't see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn't always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn't a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It's a lack of tools to manage what's happening in real time. So, whether you're struggling with a mental health condition, or this is impacting someone you care about, we're deepening our understanding of personality disorders like Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, and the tools that can help people who are really struggling. With the help of Dr. Suzanne Wallach, we explore how approaches like Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) can shift the focus from why you feel this way to what you do when you feel this way so you have concrete skills, like emotional regulation and distress tolerance — even when you're triggered. Dr. Wallach is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California with a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and Doctorate in Psychology. She's a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy expert who works with personality disorders like Borderline, substance abuse and addiction, eating disorders, and complex trauma. She's been on podcasts like Call Her Daddy, and is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to treating complex conditions with compassion and skills-based techniques. Tune in to learn: The truth about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the trauma that leads to it Signs you might be dating a narcissist Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder How to be in relationship with people who have personality disorders The difference between Type 1 and Type 2 Bipolar Disorder When medication is needed, and the different modalities that can help How Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers real-world tools for people with mental disorders Why sequencing and developing distress tolerance in therapy matters more than most people realize When to do psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy VS behavioural techniques The difference between between DBT, CBT, and MCT If you've ever felt like talk therapy made you more self-aware but didn't actually change your destructive patterns or improve a mental disorder, this episode might help with a new approach. Wherever you are in your mental health journey, know that you are not alone, and there's life-changing help available. Connect with Dr. Suzanne Wallach:https://suzannewallach.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drsuzannewallach/ For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube
What does BPD actually feel like from the inside?In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, meet our new cast member, Justin, a musician navigating life with borderline personality disorder.In this episode, we talk about: • What it was like getting diagnosed with BPD, and why it felt both relieving and complicated • The reality that understanding yourself does not automatically make things easier • What BPD felt like for him internally, including how he describes “living off his amygdala” • His experience with therapy, and why finding the right therapist matters • The role of creativity and music, including why it is not always healing • How music can bring you back into past emotional states • Navigating rejection, identity, and self-worth in the music industry • Learning boundaries, self-compassion, and the power of saying noIf you've ever felt like finally having an answer didn't change how hard things still feel, this conversation will probably resonate.
Happy Borderline Personality Disorder Awareness Month! Having a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Awareness Month matters because it directly addresses the biggest barriers people with Borderline Personality Disorder face: misunderstanding, stigma, and lack of access to effective care. This month I'll be having TWO episodes each week: one interview/regular episode and one DBT skill episode! Today we're starting with the ACCEPTS skill from distress tolerance. DBT ACCEPTS SKILL INFO CAN BE FOUND HERE Send us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderlineCorey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports:National Suicide Preve...
What happens when BPD affects your goals, career choices, and sense of direction in life?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Madhurima, Carys, and Solène talk about self-direction through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders.We explore:• why people with BPD may struggle to stick with one job or career• constantly changing direction and starting over• tying your identity to work and what happens when that falls apart• being influenced by other people's goals or expectations• the belief that if it's “right,” it should feel easy• how self-direction connects to identity and recoveryIf you've ever asked yourself “what am I doing with my life?” and felt like the answer keeps changing, this episode is for you.This is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A⸻
Have you ever had a friend not text you back, and you're certain that they're mad at you? This is often a disruption in the process of mentalization: the ability to recognize that our thoughts and feelings might not be facts. Mentalization is a process we can all struggle with, but it's particularly important for people who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). In this episode, Forrest is joined by psychotherapist and author Robert Drozek to discuss mentalization-based treatment (MBT) and the tools that can help us develop more flexibility and curiosity around our assumptions. Bob outlines the three common modes of mentalizing, explains how childhood experiences shape mentalization, and offers a map for building healthier ways of relating to our thoughts and feelings. About our Guest: Robert Drozak is a clinical social worker, the clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment Clinic at McLean Hospital, and a teaching associate in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. His new book, Mentalization: Utilizing Reflection to Heal from Borderline Personality Disorder, is the first book about Mentalization-Based Treatment aimed at a general audience. Key Topics: 0:00: Intro: what is mentalization? 5:12: Ways mentalization can go wrong 13:25: Borderline Personality Disorder as a deficit in mentalization 22:13: How mentalization is shaped in childhood 28:54: The alien self 32:23: Developing an MBT formulation 42:03: MBT in the therapy room 54:40: Challenging your beliefs and assumptions 1:11:21: How to get out of pretend mode 1:21:37: Addressing problems with interoception 1:30:00: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sleep Reset is offering a free 7-day trial, available only at thesleepreset.com/podcast. Start your first week of real, clinician-designed insomnia treatment tonight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This episode gives parents of adults with borderline personality disorder insights into the experience of parenting someone with BPD and strategies for supporting their children. When your child struggles with intense emotions, it's heartbreaking for any parent. But when you're a parent of an adult child with borderline personality disorder (BPD), you're walking on eggshells trying not to make things worse. In this episode, Dr. Kibby shares powerful, research-backed strategies for parents of grown children with intense emotions, revealing how your approach can prevent crises from escalating and rebuild vital connections.You'll discover why family dynamics often reinforce emotional storms, and how shifting your perspective can de-escalate fights before they explode. Dr. Kibby breaks down practical, compassionate tools like validation, boundary-setting, and safety planning—skills that empower you to stay calm and present, even when your loved one is in chaos. Plus, she reveals why involving the whole family system is essential, not just the individual with BPD, and how to handle crisis moments like threats or self-harm without reinforcing harmful behaviors. We'll also explore the impact of trauma, shame, and guilt that parents carry and how your own mental health is intertwined with theirs. If you're exhausted by cycles of overwhelm, blame, or hopelessness, this episode is your guide to navigating the unthinkable with clarity and kindness. Perfect for parents, partners, or anyone supporting someone with borderline or emotional dysregulation.Resources:Join KulaMind, Dr. Kibby's support program for parents and partners of people with BPDBook: Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help Your Child (of Any Age) with Borderline Personality Disorder without Losing Yourself
How do you actually build a sense of self with BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja continue the conversation on identity, this time focusing on what's helped us move toward a more stable sense of self. Still through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), we're looking at identity as something you can actively shape over time.If you've ever felt empty, disconnected, or like you're constantly reinventing yourself… this is the part where we talk about what starts to change that.We talk about:• how chronic emptiness and dissociation connect to identity• relying on relationships or external validation to define who you are• the difference between emptiness and boredom (and why that matters)• finding purpose, values, and small anchors that make you feel more “real”• learning who you are without labeling yourself as “broken”• building identity through creativity, feedback, and lived experience• integrating different parts of yourself instead of rejecting them• why identity takes time and doesn't form all at onceThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.(In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. )⸻
Artist and actress Makhyli (Boys World) joins Nicole to chat about her experience dating while in a pop girl group. Makhyli shares how she literally created a "Build-A-Boy" slideshow presentation to manifest her current boyfriend - and it actually worked! The girls swap their worst car-date horror stories, from a guy so cheap he forced Makhyli to share a single McDonald's french fry, to a man who casually had rotting food in his backseat. Makhyli opens up about navigating relationship paranoia with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and the two discuss tips they've picked up for dating with ADHD. Plus they chat about their love for the latest season of Love on the Spectrum.Makhyli's new single, I Need You (Cat and Mouse) is out now!Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTake our listener survey and shape the future of the podcast!Support this podcast and get discounts by checking out our sponsors:Jones Road: Use code DATEME at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Shimmer Face Oil with your first purchase! #JonesRoadBeauty #adWarby Parker: Our listeners can buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/DATEME — and using our link helps support the show.Lola Blankets: Get 40% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code DATEME at checkout. Experience the world's #1 blanket with Lola Blankets.Follow:All Links: linktr.ee/whywontyoudatemeTour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenYouTube: @WhyWontYouDateMePodcastTikTok: @whywontyoudatemepod Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerThis is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Dr. Frank Yeomans is an Adjunct Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University Vagelos College of Physicians and Surgeons. He is one of the developers of Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP). In this episode, he offers a deep dive into the theory and clinical practice of TFP as a treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder. Drawing on object relations theory, Dr. Yeomans explains how BPD is understood through the lens of identity integration and split internal representations, and walks clinicians through the full arc of TFP treatment — from thorough assessment and diagnostic feedback, through contracting and frame-setting, to active intervention using clarification, confrontation, and interpretation. He also addresses the clinical use of countertransference as a window into the patient's internal world, signs of therapeutic progress, and how object relations principles can be applied even outside a formal TFP frame.Published On: 4/16/2026Duration: 40 minutes, 21 secondsEarn CME for listening to this episode here.
Dr. Nancy Grechko explores how stigma, trauma, and emotion dysregulation shape borderline personality disorder, helping clinicians reconsider diagnostic assumptions, recognize internalized and overlooked presentations, and apply a trauma-informed lens to support more accurate, compassionate care. Presentation. Earn CE credit for listening to this episode by joining our low-cost membership for unlimited podcast CE credits for an entire year, with some of the strongest CE approvals in the country (APA, NBCC, ASWB, and more). Learn, grow, and shine with Clearly Clinical Continuing Ed by visiting https://ClearlyClinical.com.
What does identity instability's actually feel like in BPD?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Carys, Solène, André, and Katja, start looking at identity through the lens of the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD). It's a way of understanding BPD that focuses more on patterns and functioning, not just labels.If you've ever had that “who even am I?” moment… yeah. This is that episode.We talk about: • what it's like to feel like you don't have a solid sense of self • why you might feel like you don't know who you are • masking and becoming whoever you need to be to avoid rejection • losing yourself in relationships, jobs, or even your diagnosis • when BPD starts to feel like your whole identity • how identity struggles show up in everyday lifeThis is part of our Season 7 series where we're breaking BPD down in a more real, human way while also connecting it to newer ways of understanding personality.In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explained what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 here: https://youtu.be/MD3kL0yQAYUWatch part 2 here: https://youtu.be/KtVhStCqH1A⸻
Disclaimer: This interview includes in-depth discussions of serious mental health topics, such as personality disorders and other highly sensitive subjects. These topics may be distressing or triggering for some listeners.In this episode of SHE MD, Mary Alice Haney and Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi sit down with Dr. Suzanne Wallach, a leading expert in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), to unpack what every woman should understand about emotional regulation, trauma, and personality disorders. From the difference between borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, and narcissism to the real signs of emotional dysregulation, this conversation brings clarity to topics that are often misunderstood and misdiagnosed.Dr. Wallach breaks down how trauma shapes behavior, why narcissists rarely seek help, and what narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look like in relationships. The conversation also explores how to recognize unhealthy patterns, why you should never stay in a relationship where you're being disrespected, and how emotional overwhelm impacts your ability to think clearly or problem-solve in the moment.You'll also learn practical, science-backed tools you can start using immediately, including DBT techniques like the TIPP method for panic attacks and emotional distress. The episode expands into parenting and generational trauma, offering insight on how to raise emotionally healthy children through validation, boundaries, and consistency. If you've ever struggled with your emotions, relationships, or mental health, this episode is filled with actionable strategies to help you regain control and build a more stable, grounded life.Subscribe to SHE MD Podcast for expert tips on PCOS, endometriosis, fertility, hormonal balance, mental health, and more. Share with friends and visit SHE MD website and Ovii for research-backed resources, holistic health strategies, and expert guidance on women's health and well-being.SponsorsMidi: Ready to feel your best and write your second act script? Visit JoinMidi.com today to book your personalized, insurance-covered virtual visit. Ka'Chava: Get 15% off your first order at kachava.com with code SHEMD.Talkiatry: Head to Talkiatry.com/shemd and complete the short assessment to get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes. Ancient + Brave: Go to Ancientandbrave.com/planet and use the code SHEMD for 10 dollars off any purchase. MudWtr: Head to mudwtr.com and grab your starter kit today! Right now, our listeners get an exclusive deal—up to 43% off starter kits, plus free shipping and a free rechargeable frother when you use code SHEMD.Gusto: Try Gusto today at gusto.com/SHEMD, and get three months free when you run your first payroll.What You'll LearnThe difference between borderline personality disorder (BPD), bipolar disorder, and narcissismWhy narcissists rarely self-diagnose, and why they're difficult to treatSigns you may be experiencing emotional dysregulation or unresolved traumaWhat narcissistic abuse and gaslighting actually look likeWhy BPD is often misdiagnosed as bipolar disorderThe role of childhood trauma in personality disordersHow to tell if someone is a narcissist. or just not treating you wellWhy you should never stay in a relationship where you're being disrespectedThe DBT “TIPP” method for panic attacks and emotional overwhelmHow to lower distress quickly and regain control of your thoughtsWhy you can't problem-solve while emotionally floodedThe importance of sleep, nutrition, and physical health in emotional regulationHow to raise emotionally healthy children without shame or overpraiseWhy validation and boundaries must coexist in parentingHow generational trauma develops, and how to break the cycleKey Timestamps(0:00) Introduction to SHE MD(3:16) Welcome Dr. Suzanne Wallach!(4:54) What Is Narcissism?(6:36) Is Narcissism Based On Childhood Trauma?(8:27) Borderline Personality Disorder vs Narcissism?(12:41) Borderline vs Dependent Personality Disorder(13:37) Cluster B Disorders: Higher Risk of Self-Harm & Suicide(14:05) Women Are Overdiagnosed With Personality Disorders(15:58) Many Therapists Avoid Treating Borderline Personality Disorder(22:15) DBT Skills Coaching: 24/7 Support in Crisis Moments(23:36) Thoughts vs Ideation(27:00) How Dr. Suzanne Handle Patients With Suicide Plans(30:29) Does Trauma Come First in Treating Cluster B Disorders(37:35) How to Avoid Raising a Narcissist as a Parent(38:20) Praise Parenting: Where's the Healthy Balance?(42:24) Opposite Parenting Styles After Divorce(48:01) Should Trauma Be the First Focus in Treating DBT?(58:54) How to Recognize BPD or Narcissism: Key Signs & Diagnosis(1:02:44) What Is Bipolar Disorder?(1:04:40) Bipolar vs BPD: Genetics vs Trauma(1:05:05) The TIPP Skill(1:13:45) Rapid Fire QuestionsKey TakeawaysYou can't think clearly during emotional distress. Regulation must come firstPersonality disorders are treatable, and many can go into remissionTrauma often drives behavior, but it doesn't excuse staying in harmful situationsEmotional regulation is a skill that can be learned with the right toolsBoundaries are essential, even when you understand someone's painParenting requires both emotional validation and consistent consequencesSmall daily tools (like breathing or cold exposure) can dramatically reduce anxietyGuest BioDr. Suzanne Wallach is a clinical psychologist and DBT specialist based in Los Angeles. She is the founder of SoCal DBT, where she and her team provide high-fidelity, evidence-based Dialectical Behavior Therapy for individuals, couples, and families. 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What does BPD actually look like in real life, and what does recovery really take? In this episode of The BPD Bunch Brunch, Megan shares her lived experience with Borderline Personality Disorder, including identity struggles, painful relationships, self-deception, emotional chaos, and the communication skills that helped her heal. This is an honest conversation about BPD recovery, relationships, truth, and learning how to feel seen and heard.In this episode, we talk about: • What BPD actually felt like in everyday life • Why relationships can feel impossible with BPD • The role of self-deception in BPD • What it means to “stop lying to yourself” • A communication skill that helped improve relationships • Why healing from BPD takes longer than people expect • How pain can become something you use, not just survive
Hey…This isn't the video we planned for today.This past week, I lost my dog. And I needed a little more time than I expected to get back on my feet.I thought about just skipping this upload entirely, but there was something in this experience that felt important to share. Especially when it comes to what recovery from BPD actually looks like in real life.There's this idea that recovery means things won't hurt as much anymore. And I've found that it's not exactly that simple. A lot of emotional contexts can and do change drastically in recovery, and it's possible to get to a point that feels emotionally stable most of the time.But one of the universal human truths is that if you care a lot about someone or some creature, losing them will be painful. No amount of recovery will erase the grief process. And there's nothing abnormal or disordered about you if you feel the pain of loss.So this video is a bit different from the usual, it's just where I'm at right now and something I didn't think we talk about enough.Thank you for being here, seriously. I'll be back to our regular episodes next week.If you do want the more in-depth version of what's been going on, I shared that over on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/i-had-to-put-my-155040984(this one is available to free members as well!)❤️ Xannie_____
In this episode of Relationship Factor, Kingsley chats with Registered Psychotherapist and founder of “Mind Over Borderline” Melanie Goldman to explore what it means to love and be loved by someone living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Melanie offers a compassionate approach at understanding how BPD traits can manifest in relationships and impact intimacy, conflict and sexual connection. Borderline Personality Disorder relationships often have a "push and pull" dynamic which can be very overwhelming for both partners involved. Beneath this intense dynamic, however, are very human needs for safety, closeness and understanding. This episode challenges the stigma and stereotypes associated with Borderline Personality Disorder. Melanie reminds us that with the right support and relational tools, meaningful and fulfilling relationships are possible.Whether you identify with BPD yourself, love someone who does, or are simply curious about the dynamics of intense relationships, this episode offers insight, compassion, and hope.You can find more information about Melanie's work and support groups at https://mindoverborderline.ca/work/Melanie's IG: @mindoverborderlineFollow us at @lifecollectivecounsellingHave questions about intimacy or need relationship support? Email us at help@lifecollectivecounselling.com
Welcome to PsychEd, the psychiatry podcast for medical learners, by medical learners.This episode covers Working with Borderline Personality Disorder in the Emergency Department with Dr. Bruce Fage, a psychiatrist in Toronto working in emergency and acute care psychiatry, and an Assistant Professor at the University of Toronto. His interests include the relational and systems issues that shape psychiatric care in crisis settings. He is also a former founding member of PsychEd!The learning objectives for this episode are as follows:Explain how the emergency department environment influences presentations of borderline personality disorderKnow when to apply the diagnosis of borderline personality in the emergency settingDemonstrate effective management strategies for patients with BPD in the EDEvaluate appropriate use of emergency and inpatient care for BPD presentationsGuest:Dr. Bruce FageHosts:Sara Abrahamson (MS3)Shelly Palchik (MS4)Angad Singh (PGY2)Audio editing:Angad Singh (PGY2)For more PsychEd, follow us on Instagram (@psyched.podcast), Facebook (PsychEd Podcast), X (@psychedpodcast), and Bluesky (@psychedpodcast.bsky.social). You can email us at psychedpodcast@gmail.com and visit our website at psychedpodcast.org.
So… what even counts as “BPD” anymore?Last week, we explored how the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD) moves away from strict categories. This week, we're taking it further:What does BPD actually look like in this model, and do you even need the label at all?We break down the core of BPD through self and interpersonal functioning, how traits shape the “borderline” pattern, and why diagnoses like BPD and NPD might not be as separate as people think. If you've ever felt like the DSM didn't fully capture your experience, this might hit differently.This is Part 2 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe to see what these traits actually look like from a lived experience perspective!
What if Borderline Personality Disorder isn't just a checklist of symptoms?In this episode of The BPD Bunch, we explore the Alternative Model for Personality Disorders (AMPD), a framework that shifts how we understand BPD from a set of categories to patterns of functioning, severity, and relationships.Joined by leading clinicians in the field, we break down what's changing, why it matters, and how this model could reshape diagnosis, treatment, and stigma.This is Part 1 of a 2-part series.⸻Featuring:Dr. Carla Sharp — Clinical psychologist and Professor at the University of Houston. Director of the Developmental Psychopathology Lab, with a focus on personality disorders, mentalization, and adolescent development.Dr. Frank Yeomans — Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and Director of Training at the Personality Disorders Institute. Internationally recognized for his work in Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP).Dr. Alex Stein — Clinical psychologist, researcher, and advocate known for her work on attachment patterns and “favorite person” relationships in BPD.⸻Subscribe for Part 2 where we break down what BPD actually looks like under this model.
In Sunday Live, we dig into boundaries with dysfunctional and unhealthy parents, neediness, borderline personality disorder, religious OCD, scrupulosity and more! I start off with why Paul was able to break through the fear of death and end the broadcast addressing a 68-year-old pastor who has spent decades tormented by the fear that his past […]
From Borderline to Beautiful: Hope & Help for BPD with Rose Skeeters, MA, LPC, PN2
Rose Skeeters explores a challenging phase of recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, focusing on grief, brokenness, and identity fragmentation. She shares personal insights, developmental psychology perspectives, and practical steps for healing.Need individual support? Schedule a session with Rose here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/individual-sessions/To schedule with Jay, click here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/22608/Gift cards now available for purchase here: https://www.thriveonlinecounseling.com/product/gift-card/**This episode is colloquial not clinical, using personal anecdotes to support conveying information in an informal, relatable way**KeywordsBorderline Personality Disorder, recovery, grief, identity fragmentation, mental health, self-awareness, healing, therapy, resilience
Borderline Personality Disorder has been described as emotional “third degree burns over ninety percent of your body.” It’s as close to a curse as a personality disorder can be: deep fear of being abandoned creates behaviors that end up driving people off. Learn all about it in this classic episode.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.