Seeing 20/20

TW: This episode contains discussions on mental health, depression, suicide, bulimia, and sexual harassment, assault, and abuse. This episode Alice and Nicolette look into how women are often problematically painted by the media and society, and the discussions that surround those portrayals. Our hosts deep dive into how and women are often illustrated as manipulative and victim-playing, are wiped from the mainstream story, or have to put themselves in the public eye while their perpetrators are protected. The ladies look at current examples, from the discussions that circulated about Meghan Markle in the days following her interview with Harry and Oprah, to the allegations of sexual assault in Australian Parliament. It's a big episode, with big questions, and big reasons why things need to change. 00:00 Intro 00:23 Trigger Warning - mental health, depression, suicide, and sexual harassment, assault, and abuse. 00:38 It's been a big week 01:23 International Women's Day 01:50 The media's portrayal of Meghan Markle post-Oprah interview 10:28 The Princess Diana Interview 12:34 Is it really the "Worst Royal Crisis in 85 Years"? aka There are more important, serious issues the media should be focussing on. 16:36 Taylor Swift and Netflix's Ginny & Georgia 20:40 The importance of publicly airing grievances and seeing yourself through representation in media 23:15 How the current allegations of sexual assault in Australian Parliament are being handled by those in power. 24:05 We need structural, systemic change 26:52 Sexism in the workplace and Justice Carolyn Simpson's quote on women in the legal profession 30:00 Aren't things getting better? 30:45 Testimonies in the TeachUsConsent petition 31:55 A quote from Matthew McConaughey's book Greenlights 32:15 Goodbye and outro The Spike article: https://www.spiked-online.com/2021/03/08/the-unbearable-victim-complex-of-meghan-markle/ The Mirror UK's front body language site: https://www.mirror.co.uk/tv/tv-news/ask-body-language-expert-your-23616374 Leigh Sales' interview with Julie Bishop: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbpCk9PQvZI

Unfortunately none of us go through our twenties without becoming familiar with rejection. This episode Alice and Nicolette talk about the rejections they've faced (romantic, professional and otherwise), and the pain and possibility that accompanied them. They unpack exactly why it is rejection is so painful, how they can see rejections in their past as some of their greatest blessings, the difficulty of being in the position of having to reject someone else, and ultimately, how rejection may be something we can learn to celebrate if we can reframe it as leading us in a new direction. Instagram: www.instagram.com/seeing_2020/ Listening Platforms: linktr.ee/Seeing2020 Cover Art: @itsatomlife "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

If there's one thing every 20-something year old wonders about, it's what direction they should take in life. And it can definitely cause some stress. This episode, Alice and Nicolette discuss the feeling of directionlessness and how it can be overwhelming and daunting but also full of possibility. Listen in for a slight meltdown from both girls as they realise they're entering their mid-twenties, Alice's insights on whether to take life as it comes or plan in advance, why Nicolette has come to the realisation she wants a property with timber flooring even though she's living that student budget life, Jane the Virgin references, and more! Instagram: www.instagram.com/seeing_2020/ Listening Platforms: linktr.ee/Seeing2020 Cover Art: @itsatomlife Music: https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/) 00:00 Intro 00:20 Hello's and a disclaimer about noisy painters 00:40 Explaining this episode's title 02:50 This episode's topic and entering our mid-twenties 05:00 Large scale planning and five year plans 09:06 The two contrasting views of planning 13:18 All the what if's and unknowns 15:07 Good vs Lost directionlessness - is it just about perspective? 17:34 Jane the Virgin, the super-planner (also, spoiler alert!) 20:28 Outro References this episode: Impact Theory podcast by Tom Bilyeu Anna Akana on strengths and weaknesses: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2qqoEBUKQvs Jane the Virgin, season 3 episode 1

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Here's an ep for everyone, whether you're into a bold wing or a fresh face. Let us give you the lowdown on makeup from priming to final touches - we go through how makeup is stereotypically perceived vs how we think of it, why we do our makeup and who it's for, the ways makeup is a ritual, how makeup looks have changed over time and from country to country, and the accessibility of products. Alice asks if makeup is a source of joy or a social norm to be challenged, Nicolette makes a Freudian slip, and both ladies try to answer the age old question, 'Why does everyone have an opinion on everyone else's appearance?'

After a two month long interlude, Seeing 20/20 is back for part 2 of our second season (woo!). Having reached the half way point in the year (first of all, how??), this episode we reflect on the year so far, discuss how motivation changes with routine (or lackthereof), and look forward to what we can expect in Act 2 of 2020. There's a cute book recommendation from Nicolette, a very fitting lemon metaphor from Alice, and the promise of a very introspective and spicy final 6 episodes in 2. Cover Art: @itsatomlife Instagram: @seeing_2020 Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY

You asked, we answered! This episode Alice and Nicolette are delivering all the goods on the questions you sent to our Instagram about everything from creativity slumps, dealing with regret, relationships and dating (in quarantine?!) to things we're certain we'll never do (or are we?), who we'd want to have as a guest on our podcast, and when the last time we cried was and why (spoiler: it was in the last 24 hours. No, really. Iso be like that.) Cover Art: @itsatomlife Instagram: @seeing_2020 Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY

This episode things get a lil bit personal, vulnerable, juicy and lighthearted as we play the get-to-know-you-better card game "We're Not Really Strangers". What does Alice never want to change about herself? What's the hardest part about dating Nicolette? What were our first impressions of each other? Instagram: @seeing_2020 Cover Art: @itsatomlife Music: https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

You know that icky feeling - the one where you have to say no or cancel plans? Saying no can mean disappointing someone or letting ourselves down, but it can be a good thing. This episode, we talk about the benefits of saying no and how to be okay with someone saying no to you. We address how we're always taught to say no by following up with an explanation even though we shouldn't have to, and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. We also keep this ep quarantine-relevant by addressing how to end a call with someone while social distancing measures are still in place (we know, it can be hard to get out of the black hole of conversation in this routineless-world we're living in) and the fact we all need to prioritise self-care (which might not be exactly what you think it is). Instagram: @seeing_2020 Cover Art: @itsatomlife Music: https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

These past two weeks everyone has had to adapt to the cornavirus outbreak, so this episode we talk over how we've settled into our new quarantined reality. It felt remiss not to address such a global event, so this week we share our own experiences social distancing so far including keeping up with the news, handling anxieties, and how to keep calm in what is a very unique situation. Whether you've been in isolation for a few weeks or for a few days, we hope you're staying safe and healthy during this strange time and we also hope we can help take the edge off with our weekly podcast eps. Seeing 20/20: https://www.instagram.com/seeing_2020/ Podcast Art: https://www.instagram.com/itsatomlife/ Intro/Outro Music: https://filmmusic.io // "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) // License: CC BY // (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/) (disclaimer: this was recorded on 10 March 2020)

We've all been there. You're at a party and you ask about a girl you don't know and someone drops the line "Oh, her? She's ___." Fill in the blank - she's a good girl, she's innocent, she's a slut, she's easy, she's a prude. It doesn't matter what the label is, people like to have an easy way to define others, so these sorts of names are thrown around all too often. But you're still not totally sure what to say in response. Maybe someone's even said this about you. Don't worry, Alice and Nicolette have gotchu. This week, we talk about the assumptions people impose on others, especially women, and the idea that we need to be "definable." We sound off about out own personal experiences of being labelled, quote Slyvia Plath's book The Bell Jar, fangirl over the recently released Taylor Swift doco, and of course reference Married At First Sight. If you've every felt judged for being [fill in the blank], this is one episode that we hope will have you clapping along from beginning to end. Instagram: @seeing_2020 Art: @itsatomlife Music: https://filmmusic.io"Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

We're back for another season of good conversation, laughing at cringe-worthy moments, and figuring out life as we go. This week we share our Valentines Day crises (how does one V-day??) and Galentines Day stories. Did we go dancing with our gal pals in an empty club and request Lizzo? Did Alice question what to get her S/O for her first V-day? Did Nicolette have pizza two nights in a row and prefer half-priced flowers the next day? Yes to all. Seeing 20/20: https://www.instagram.com/seeing_2020/ Podcast Art: https://www.instagram.com/itsatomlife/ Intro/Outro Music: https://filmmusic.io // "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) // License: CC BY // (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

It's time to wrap up season 1 of Seeing 20/20! This episode Alice and Nicolette bring things full circle with good chats about looking back at what we've achieved and struggled through this past year and looking forward to the year (and decade) ahead! Seeing 20/20 will return in 2020 - stay tuned for season 2 updates at @seeing_2020 on Instagram Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

If there's one thing every twenty-something year old can understand like no other generation, it's online dating - and somehow we're still confused! Is online dating worth it? Why do we do it? Is it possible to actually find love on them? Whatever your perspective on online dating is, we've covered all bases - a never-before online-dater, an experienced online-dater, and one who found a relationship through online dating! Join Alice, Nicolette and special guest, Irene, for a whole lotta laughs this episode. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

This episode we're getting bookish with English major, avid reader and friend, Nicky to get some spicy book recommendations and answer ALL the questions, like are audiobooks killing the experience real books offer? Where do we stand on book to movie adaptations? Do we rate erotic novels? How do we imagine characters - why are they headless?? Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

We go through a lot of firsts in our twenties and that's because we're always trying new things like starting uni or getting our first job. We're expected to do more than we know and feel like we should know more than we do, when in reality, we're just amateurs who are learning on the fly (#stillfiguringitout). This episode we talk to friend, student, and play director, Tushar, on imposter syndrome and what it means to be creative, see value in your work, share your work with others, grapple with big labels when you're just starting out, and whether any of us ever actually 'make it.' Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Exams, assignments, assessments - ew, ew ew! It's that time of year when everything is getting just that little bit too stressful. Whether you're a complete stress-head or you have everything under control, listen in for how to recognise when you're feeling the pressure, what you can do to ease the stress and also pick up a few hot tips for your next study sesh along the way. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Gather 'round kiddos, this episode we're throwing it back to the good old days. Joined by special guest Aniket, we're deep-diving into our childhood memories and experiences - what did we love doing as kids? What challenges did we face growing up? How do we have fun in our twenties? And have any of us really grown up or are we all just Peter Pan-ing our way through young adulthood? Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

If there's one thing we try and avoid at all costs, it's failure. It bruises our ego, makes us put up walls and front like we're okay. Yet, it's arguably the one thing that can teach us life lessons, give us experience, and redirect us toward success through trial and error. Your 20s is all about figuring it out so let's talk about the not so great parts and how they can actually be blessings in disguise. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Sometimes it feels like dating has become a murder mystery case. Questions like "Where do I stand?" "Why aren't they messaging?" and "Has Halloween come early with this year or have I just been ghosted?" seem to be the norm in the situation-ship stage of dating. Whether you've been ghosted or had to go "Boo!" yourself, we and our special guest, Beth, are here to talk you through breadcrumbing, online dating, and being honest, decent and confident despite the uncertainties of dating in your 20s. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

This week we're discussing quarter life crises - are we too young to have them in our early twenties? Should we really be calling them 'crises'? Why can't we just pick an avocado? Is there a way out of the tea cup? Get existential with us as we and our first ever guest, Erin, figure it all out. Or at least try to. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

When something significant happens in our life - a crush, a job opportunity, a spat with a loved one - we want to tell our friends. But it can be tricky to know which friends to trust, how much to tell them or whether to tell them at all. This week we're wondering where the line is between being honest and oversharing when it comes to the big and little moments in your life. Whether you're a private hermit like Mr Heckles or an open book like Charles Boyle, listen in and let us know what you think. Instagram: Seeing_2020 Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

You'd think we'd have outgrown the whole 'You can't tell me what to do, mum/dad,' angst in our teenage years, but even in our twenties, our parents' advice, opinions and fears play a bigger role in our lives than we might like to believe. This week we're talking about the joys, frustrations and privileges of protective (and sometimes overprotective) parents and how this relationship impacts our twenties. Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Now here's a topic we can claim to be experts about. Being single is often considered the void of waiting in between relationships, but there's a lot more that goes on in a single person's life than pining after love. This ep, we're talking about all the parts of single life, from feeling jealous about your friends' relationships (yikes) to embracing your singleness! Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

Overproduced. Trashy. Fake. Reality TV has earned a pretty infamous name over the years. But you can't deny it's addictive as hell, especially when it comes to portrayals of love. Whether you love it or love to hate it, grab a glass of rosé and join us for a chat about whether reality TV is a fun time, a waste of time, or wind-down time. Music from https://filmmusic.io, "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com), License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)

In our first ever podcast episode (woo!), we launch into all things new beginnings and fresh starts. We discuss new years resolutions, how we set (and forget) goals, and consider the different ways we measure progress in our lives.

Oh, hey! Are you a 20-something year old with no clue what you're doing with your life? Cos same. Welcome to Seeing 20/20, the podcast all about the ups, downs and confusing thoughts we have in our 20s. Join Alice and Nicolette, two university students and major FRIENDS fans, as they talk about everything from travel and uni to reality TV and dating. Basically, it's the podcast about your life and you should totally listen in. ------ Music from https://filmmusic.io "Inspired" by Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com) License: CC BY (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/)