Talking About the No-No's

What is our cultures ideal body image? Why? Let’s talk about our experiences and unfold these lies together. Share your story with us on our insta! “Pay attention to your patterns. The ways you learned to survive may not be the ways you want to continue to live. Heal and shift.” Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis

It's been a while since we've talked. We aren't done talking about the no no's be any means. Let's jump in to chat about Dolly Parton, Ted Lasso, ER, a no no book club and more!

We talk with Whitney about grieving. Grief is more than just losing a person. Listen in as we discuss the layers of grief. Grieving during COVID-19 quarantine is a whole different beast.  "Grief is the death of something" David Kessler

Kathryn and Chelsea continue their COVID chronicles. What a wild time we are living in. Hear about Kathryn's best moments this year and what books Chelsea is reading now. What has the last few months been like for us? What have they been like for you? Connect with us @talkingaboutthenonos !

We are so thankful to have been able to talk with Rebekah from Methodist Children’s Home  about child abuse awareness and families in crisis. There’s a lot of help and support available. COVID-19 has revealed fractures in many families. Listen to tips on finding support with whatever topic your family is challenged with to what supporting suspected abuse looks like. Protect children. Listen and share this episode!

On this episode we discuss grief with Whitney. "Grief is like the ocean; it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it's overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." -Vickie Harrison 

Join our hopeful conversation with Lauren as she tells us about her experience living with anxiety disorder and the insight she has learned on her journey. What about medication? What about medication and THE CHURCH? ... she shares about the no-nos of anxiety and gives so much hope and support to others. COVID-19 has definitely increased anxiety for so many right now. Listen to the hope, the help and how to better support those around you. "You”ll never get better until you stop trying to get better.” Paul David

Episode 19 and sheltering in place strong. We talk more about COVID-19, sheltering in place with young kids and what we're up to during this time. It's a crazy time for sure and Kathryn's "just trying to live!"

On this episode we speak with Hollie about infertility. Hear her talk about the hurt and loss, the hope on the other side and how "dirt and therapy" saved her life. We were honored that she shared about such a difficult subject and it's our hope this reaches others needing support and gives more information to supporters. We all need each other.  April 19-25 is national infertility awareness week. Listen in, reach out. "Your trauma is valid.Even if other people have experienced “worse.”Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn’t feel debilitated by it.Even if it “could have been avoided.”Even if it happened a long time ago.Even if no one knows.Your trauma is real and valid and you deserve a space to talk about it.It isn’t desperate or pathetic or attention-seeking.It’s self-care.It’s inconceivably brave.And regardless of the magnitude of your struggle, you’re allowed to take care of yourself by processing and unloading some of the pain you carry.Your pain matters.Your experience matters.And your healing matters.Nothing and no one can take that away." - Daniell Koepke

Life has majorly shifted for most of us right now. Kathryn and Chelsea talk about what this week has been like, offer a fun #ronameme contest and chat about whats been helpful and encouraging in the midst of such major shifts due to COVID-19. This is hard stuff you guys and we're all in it together. There's laughs, there's fun, there's the raw emotion, there's hopeful resources. Let's be friends and get as close as we can while staying at home together. Exercise:https://linktr.ee/onepelotonhttps://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene Fun:https://m.youtube.com/c/livefromhereapmhttps://artsandculture.google.com/partner Bible Study:https://lifewaywomen.com/2020/03/20/free-online-bible-studies-and-5-ebooks-to-stay-in-the-word/https://www.northcoastchurch.com/ Kids:https://www.getepic.com/?utm_channel=search&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIlb3Q1uap6AIVkZ-fCh33kQ6SEAAYASAAEgKa1vD_BwEhttps://stories.audible.com/start-listenhttps://www.today.com/parents/how-homeschool-during-coronavirus-crisis-t176020https://m.facebook.com/groups/200515717953545?group_view_referrer=profile_browserhttps://instagram.com/busytoddler?igshid=wvzs0d2ozoouhttps://instagram.com/happytoddlerplaytime?igshid=fwq83f1cu2nehttps://youtu.be/K5guOVOuVMshttps://www.youtube.com/user/GoNoodleGameshttps://www.youtube.com/user/CosmicKidsYoga North County San Diego:https://www.northcoastchurch.com/covid-19-resources/http://www.ffccsd.org/

In today's episode we speak with Brandy about boundaries. Think boundaries is just a buzz word or code for punishment? Not sure where to even begin or maybe you have boundaries that keep getting breeched? We invite you to listen as we discuss boundaries in regards to our relationships with others but also ourselves. Boundaries are loving. Let's learn together how to do this better.Want to submit a boundary question?https://forms.gle/jjFdKBQv54rdEEjt5Book discussed:https://www.boundariesbooks.com/

On today's episode we get to talk with Anthony about living hard-of-hearing. Anthony is Kathryn's husband. We hope this episode gives you insight and better ways to support people who are hard-of-hearing around you. We're also very excited that for this episode we were able to record video. Anthony shares his story audibly but also with American Sign Language. Use the link below and enable closed captioning to see the full script text. Video of today's podcast

Kathryn and Chelsea discuss friendship. The ups and downs of what that looks like when you're going through difficult seasons. How can you be a better friend? How have you not been a good friend?"We need a move a body friend" - Brene Brown

We talk with Brandi about what it's like living with rheumatoid arthritis. Listen in for perspective and ways you can support people in your life. "Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing we'll ever do." - Brene Brown

Do you love new year goals or hate them? We talk about our plans for the new year, updates on how we feel after finishing our first two series and what you can look forward to with us. Does the word intention bother you? Kathryn too. What are we listening to? Reading? Check it out!

Rebekah share's her insights and what she's learned in a continuation of her episode last week where she shared her story about betrayal, trauma, living with PTSD, gaslighting, therapy and the journey of healing. In this episode she talks more about the healing process and what she's learned."Discovering more joy does not save use from the inevitability of heartbreak. In fact, we may cry more easily, but we will laugh more easily, too. Perhaps we are just more alive." Desmond Tutu in the Book of Joy

Rebekah shares about betrayal, gaslighting, living with PTSD, divorce, individual health and choosing to love again. “If we are going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of what we’re supposed to be is brave. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.” Brene Brown in Daring Greatly 

Chelsea shares resources and helpful info about marital betrayal, sexual addiction, healing for betrayed spouses and supporting people around you. Check @talkingaboutthenonos for a list of the resources!

Chelsea shares her story about partner betrayal and we discuss sexual addiction. Resources for todays episode are Intimate Deception by Sheri Keffer, It's Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst, The Healing Choice Guidebook by Susan Allen, Wired for Intimacy by William W. Struthers

Of course you want to know our feelings about Pumpkin spice and everything nice. Scented toilet paper? Who knew! Listen in for a giveaway!

In today's episode Kathryn shares valuable insights and resources to help prevent child sexual abuse and how to support survivors. She also shares insights on helping survivors heal.

On this episode we hear a male survivor of sexual assault share his story. “Your son has a much higher chance of being sexually assaulted than he does of being falsely accused of sexual assault. A much, much higher chance.” -Rachael DenhollanderResources specific for men are 1in6.org , Malesurvivor.org

On today's episode we hear Kathryn talk with her sisters about their family experience and hear their story. Rainn.org, D2L.org, Themamabeareffect.org, https://adultchildren.org/

On this episode we speak with Kathryn's mom about what life was like for her being a parent of a child who had been abused. She talks about the concerns, fears and difficulties around supporting and protecting her daughter. This is such a brave conversation. Resources - mosac.net rainn.org

Kathryn shares her survivor story of sexual abuse and sexual assault. She shares her experience and resources as well as giving perspective on how to be a good friend to someone going through something difficult or who shares about a no-no with you.rainn.org, D2L.org, victornotvictim.net Book Rid of my disgrace by Justin Holcomb, God made all of me, by justin and Lindsey Holcomb.

On today's episode hear why Kathryn and Chelsea decided to start talking about all the no-no's, taboos and hard stuff. We'll tell a little bit about our stories and give an intro to the upcoming series with Kathryn sharing her sexual assault survivor story. Other highlights include the enneagram (and the enneagram assassin), stand up comedy and complicated ice cream flavors.