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Book Fare
Ep 65 - What Can We Learn from Brené Brown?

Book Fare

Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2023 39:31


Today we talk about well-known research-based self-help guru Brené Brown. What is her work about? What book should you read first? What kinds of concepts are in her books? If you are experiencing any issues in your life involving shame, vulnerability, resilience, belonging, emotions, or relationships, this episode is for you! Brene Brown's Books In This Episode: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone  Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience

Unapologetically Sensitive
191 Managing Dysregulation with Compassion and Mindfulness

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later May 16, 2023 28:08


Managing Dysregulation with Compassion & Mindfulness In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Learn the importance of honoring your personal needs and setting boundaries to maintain your emotional well-being. 2. Recognize the impact of differentiating past traumas from present experiences to feel more empowered. 3. The importance of cultivating authentic connections through vulnerability and empathetic listening. 4. Uncover some tools for healing through journaling, meditation, and IFS. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS The resources mentioned in this episode are: Practice self-awareness and tune into your feelings and needs, especially during moments of dysregulation. Honor your emotions and personal boundaries by taking breaks, resting, and setting limits as needed. Use cognitive tools, such as present moment focus, to help manage dysregulation and negative thought patterns. Find a supportive group or community where you feel comfortable and understood, and avoiding situations that make you feel othered. Invest in helpful tools, like noise-cancelling earplugs, to make sensory experiences more manageable. Educate yourself about your own neurodivergence, such as autism, to better understand your needs and experiences. Communicate your needs to friends and loved ones, and allow them to support you during difficult moments. Recognize and challenge unhealthy attachment patterns or expectations in relationships. Practice self-compassion and avoid self-judgment, recognizing that taking care of yourself is not quitting or failing. Seek therapy or support from a mental health professional if needed to help navigate challenges related to being a highly sensitive person. GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Why haven't I healed or awakened yet with Jeff Foster-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRLKZN1LRFM Jen's Links  Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/  Patricia's Links  HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast
250. How To Be Awesome At Winning Days When You Feel Like Shit

How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2023 22:21


We all have days where we just feel just feel like shit. Maybe you are a little sick or under the weather or you're straight bummed out or in a bad headspace or just low on energy… how do you handle it?  I think there are so many ways to handle times when you feel crappy, and turn it into a win. In this episode, I'm sharing lots of ideas of how to turn a wasted day in to a winning day.  So many options - lean into whatever feels best to get you  Some days we have 100% energy and effort and happy headspace - and other days we have like 1% for whatever reason. Rather than label those days as “bad days” and going down a spiral and making it worse- let's be strategic about it and figure out… what's my best approach here? What's the best way to handle this- because we know the other way to the other side is to get through it.  Listen to this today and then again when you're having one of those days… together, we will turn it around.  Let's go!  Lindsay talks about these ways to handle it: -Call it a day on the issue and don't overthink it  -Do the best you can with the cards you're dealt -Hibernate and have some alone time! -Get outside and change your headspace  -Don't label the day as good or bad… you find what you're looking for!  David Goggins style -  -Embrace discomfort - when you're having a tough day, it's easy to want to escape and numb or avoid the pain.  David Goggins style is to lean into the discomfort and push through.  Maybe it's a hard workout or a tough challenge at work or face a tough conversation head on.  -Use positive self talk - reframe your mind - rest  -Embrace the suck- tough times make you stronger and more resilient in life  Brene Brown style- -Practice self-compassion- talk to yourself like you would a good friend -Have empathy - try to put yourself in other peoples shoes - if that's mainly what's bumming you out  -Get support- from people who love you  -Practice gratitude - focus on things you are grateful for and realize it could be worse -Fund meaning in the struggle - the hardest times of our lives and bring the most growth and transformation. When you're having one of those days, try to find meaning in the struggle and see it as opportunity for growth and learning.  The hardest times can help us become strong and more resilient and more compassionate. CHEERS to turning SHITTY days into WINNING days!!

The Dental Marketer
450: Amy Murray | More Than a Resume: Building Lasting Connections Among Your Dental Team

The Dental Marketer

Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2023


This Episode is Sponsored by: Dandy | The Fully Digital, US-based Dental Lab‍For a completely FREE 3Shape Trios 3 scanner & $250 in lab credit click here: https://www.meetdandy.com/affiliate/tdm !‍‍Guest: Amy MurrayBusiness Name: Dental Practice Management AgencyCheck out Amy's Media:‍Website: https://www.dentalpracticemanagementagency.com/‍‍Other Mentions and Links:University of TampaEaglesoftIndeedDISC AssessmentMarissa NicholsonDental IntelBraving Video - Renee BrownShrekUnreasonable Hospitality - Will Guidara ‍‍Host: Michael Arias‍Website: The Dental Marketer Join my newsletter: https://thedentalmarketer.lpages.co/newsletter/‍Join this podcast's Facebook Group: The Dental Marketer Society‍‍My Key Takeaways:Try not to talk over your patients! Instead, be an active listener to really hear the issues and concerns they have.Resumes only show technical qualifications, so always request a cover letter from applicants to really hone in on values and personalities!Always acknowledge patients when they walk in the door! Even just a smile and a wave can make all the difference.Engaging workshops and motivating projects are essential to an effective team meeting system.Having a third party coach that can see your practice from a bird's eye view is a valuable asset!‍Please don't forget to share with us on Instagram when you are listening to the podcast AND if you are really wanting to show us love, then please leave a 5 star review on iTunes! [Click here to leave a review on iTunes]‍p.s. Some links are affiliate links, which means that if you choose to make a purchase, I will earn a commission. This commission comes at no additional cost to you. Please understand that we have experience with these products/ company, and I recommend them because they are helpful and useful, not because of the small commissions we make if you decide to buy something. Please do not spend any money unless you feel you need them or that they will help you with your goals.This Episode is Sponsored by: Dandy | The Fully Digital, US-based Dental Lab‍For a completely FREE 3Shape Trios 3 scanner & $250 in lab credit click here: https://www.meetdandy.com/affiliate/tdm !‍Thank you for supporting the podcast by checking out our sponsors!‍Episode Transcript (Auto-Generated - Please Excuse Errors)Michael: Amy, how's it going? Good, how Amy: are Michael: you? I'm doing pretty good. Thanks for asking. If you don't mind me asking, where are you located Amy: right now? I'm actually in Highlands Ranch, Colorado, so right outside of Denver. Michael: Nice. Okay, wonderful.So if you can tell us a little bit about your past, your present, how'd you get to where you are Amy: today? Well, let's see. I've been in dentistry 25 years. Um, how much time do we have? So I've been in dentistry five years and it's pretty exciting. I started off as a dental assistant and then I moved my way over into administrative roles.So I was a treatment plan coordinator, receptionist, financial coordinator. Moved myself up to an office manager, decided at one point in my life I wanted to go back to college and get my bachelors degree and become a dentist, and that didn't work out very well. I actually fell in love with the topic of sociology applied sociology's degree in as soon as I graduated from University of Tampa Dentistry Concierge in Tampa.Absolutely loved it. Um, from there I had an opportunity to move to Colorado and became a technology advisor. So I'd go into dental offices, I would teach about eaglesoft conversions, um, digital CAD cam training. And then from there I started my consulting role, uh, took a little bit of a time, a break and works for a sleep apnea company for devices and integrations into practice.And now I'm back dental coaching and consulting. Okay. Michael: Wow. So you were able to, you did technology training? Amy: I did, Michael: yes. Okay. Wow. So that's interesting. A a lot of this. So then go back to applied sociology. That's what you started falling in love with more. Why? Amy: Oh, well, I took a class in inorganic chemistry, not once, but twice.And so we didn't agree with, I took a class cause I had to in sociology. My PE professor walked in and, uh, he didn't look like a normal professor. And so I, I sat back and I opened myself up to this class. And what I loved about it is that it allowed me to learn more about, race, ethnic background, gender, um, age.And it really breaks it down into how societies work and how they function with one another. And it's so applicable as to what I do today. Okay. Michael: Okay, so then, so what you do today, how does those two mesh together? Amy: How do they correlate? Well, you know, every day as a dental consultant is something new. So in saying that, I have wonderful clients that I work with.They're, they're, they're the best in the business, I feel. And what I love about them is they are female, they're male, they're different age brackets. They come from different backgrounds and they're personal influences. Their professionals, where they went to dental schools, where they did their undergrad.And so having this sociology background, I can help in understanding how they wanna grow their business and also the element of their team member. Team members come from so many different backgrounds. It's like a melting pot. So to be able to really understand them and the ways of communication and how different cultures, genders, ages, blend, that's how you get a beautiful practice.So that's how I see they've kind of correlated. Michael: Mm-hmm. Okay. Gotcha. So this all kind of stems. From the, so how does that apply when you're hiring, I guess a team, you're finding a team member, you're looking for them. We don't, I mean, do we wanna look at their like, oh, okay. Tell me more about your upbringing, or how does that work?Amy: So, you know, it's quite interesting. I love the hiring pro, uh, process that we do with the agency. Uh, we place an ad, it's typically on indeed, When, um, individuals are applying, we do ask for them to place a cover letter, because a resume only shows me where you work and what your job responsibilities are.A cover letter is huge. That's you telling me with your verbiage, who you are, where you excel, what's your background. I, I love a cover letter. That's just wonderful for me. After I received that, I actually called the doctor, or I call the applicant, and the first question I ask them is, tell me a little bit about yourself.Such a really simple question. However, it's a very powerful, whenever I ask that question, I'm not really focusing on the personal, I wanna hear about your business. I wanna hear how you've, you know, grown your career. Where are you at, things of that nature. Then I'll ask for them, what's important for you in a dental practice to be a part of a team?What is important to you? So I capitalize on those things. From there, I actually ask them if I can send them what's called a DISC assessment. And the DISC assessment actually helps me learn what is the best way that they like to communicate. Michael: Okay. So there's like a system to it, a strategy. Yeah, very much so.When it comes to the cover letter to you, what are things you look at where this is a wonderful, like this is should be framed, cover letter or one that's like, this is nothing, this doesn't tell me anything. Amy: Wonderful, wonderful. Uh, question. So in a cover letter, what I wanna look for is a, that you can spell.That's huge. Right? And grammatically, you know, actually how to place those punctuations. Cause think about it, in our industry right now and dentistry, we do a lot of emails, we do a lot of text messages as well. So grammatically, uh, you wanna be on point. Also, you wanna have a beautiful tonality as well. I want something that's really strike me.So what are the words that you're using?What wrong, uh, verbiage and powerful words are you putting in there for me to be like, okay, this person actually has like, much better, much better, has stepped up the game. So that's what I look for. Michael: Okay. Now, so it doesn't, there's no length that you're also looking for like, oh, it has to be like 10. Amy: Oh, no.Now I always say, show me what you have. Show me who you are and why is it that you are wanting to apply for this position? Michael: Okay, that's interesting. So then you, after you decided, we rewind a little bit back to you, you went to apply sociology, you learned, and then you decided to go into some positions where you're, you know, teaching technology a rep and things like that.And then you switched to consulting. Amy: I did. Why I did, I was actually in a training class. I was training a, uh, software and I had this beautiful person named Marissa Nicholson join in on my training. I had no idea who she was. Uh, her client and her, um, team members. She took me aside afterwards and she says, oh my gosh, you had such a plethora of knowledge, not only about the software, you were giving tips and tricks about how to run an administrative role.I said, yes. I said, well, that's what I used to do in my past. And she says, have you ever thought about dental coaching and dental consulting? I was flabbergasted. I said, wow, you think that I'm good enough for that? She says, I think you're amazing. Okay. And so we started working together at that point. And it's been a beautiful friendship and a professional relationship since then.Michael: And so that was the kickstart, the inspiration, the motivation to go into that? Yes. Very interesting. Yeah. Now, when it comes to an administrative role, you said, because that's, I would say that's your forte. Wouldn't that be your area of expertise? Yes. Amy: That, uh, preservation of culture in the practice.Communication. Oh, yes. Michael: Okay, so when it, well, two questions, but the first one, when it comes to an administrative role, break it down for us. What are some things we need to absolutely have to create that system for an administrative role? And then what are some things that are not as important that we feel maybe are highlighted too much in social media or other stuff?Amy: Mm-hmm. That's a good question. Uh, I would say for an administrative role, what's super important is for somebody, To greet patients, answer the phone with a smile, put a smile on your face, you change your physiology. It's amazing the verbiage and the tonality that comes outta your mouth. So I always think that it's somebody who is charismatic, who's very positive, who wants to be there, and who wants to be a team member.They want to learn from there. I would say open communication. I feel as though in our administrative roles right now, we don't have a lot of people that are considered active listeners. We have a lot of people that want to talk over, talk over the patient. The patients are calling you because they need you, and you need to be the active listener.Ask powerful and appropriate questions. Make sure that you're hearing what the patient has to say. Repeat back to the patient what you heard them say to make sure you're capturing it so eloquently, and then take care of what the need is that the patient's asking for. Michael: Gotcha. What powerful and appropriate questions can you like prep us for that normally happen?Amy: Definitely. I always like to, first I thank patients who call, so if it is calling Dr. Speedo's office, you wanna greet them and you wanna say Thank you for choosing Speedo Family Dentistry. This is Amy, I can help you. It's powerful in that introduction because A, it identifies you know who I am. Thank you so much for choosing.If you could choose anybody, and I'm the person that's gonna be able to help you. From there, I like to ask them. Well, typically at that point they tell me what it is that they need. Mm-hmm. So I'm quiet and so it's appropriate for me to ask the next question. I always like to ask, are you a patient of record?And if they say Yes, I've been there before, that's awesome. If they say, no, I've never seen this dentist before. I said, that's great. Welcome to your new dental home. I'm very happy to take care of you. How can I best support you? Or how can I help you? Mm-hmm. And then from there, again, I'm an active listener.I listen to what the patient says and what it is that they need. If they're calling for a traditional profi appointment cleaning appointment, or if they need to get in and have their emergency met, then I'm asking a more key question. What are you feeling? Can you describe to me what location of the mouth is it?So I like to ask all those fun key questions. It's like an onion. You wanna pull back the layers and keep asking and asking until you get exactly what it's. Michael: Nice. Yeah. I feel like sometimes Amy, I remember when I was in the front, sometimes it would be like I'm rushing it, you know what I mean? The phone drinking, somebody just walked in and I'm like, okay, even though we have another front office.And so when it comes to asking questions, it, two things I feel like it made me realize is one. I'm rushing it. And then the second it's like, Hey, how's everything coming along? Is it good? Is it bad? I'm, I'm giving them options to answer instead of being comfortable with the silence. So how can we be better with, comfortable with, you know what I mean?Like asking 'em a question and then shutting up. And then the second thing would be, um, how do we handle not rushing it? Amy: Definitely not rushing am it's, it's hard, right? That's a double-edged sword, especially being in, um, a very busy practice. Uh, as an administrator, you have people walking in, you have people giving you handoffs from the back.Uh, you have other lines that are ringing. I always like to say that when a patient walks in, you should acknowledge them, acknowledge them with your eyes, even if you're on the phone, acknowledge 'em with their hand, um, and smile. So they know you're gonna be with them momentarily. What's most important, especially if there's a new patient on the phone, you never, ever, ever want, stop that conversation.That's why I initially asked in the beginning, are you a patient of record? Are you a new patient? If they're a patient of record and I have all these other things that are happening, I'm very candid with the patient of record and say, you're extremely important to me. Could you please tell me what I can do to help you?And then if it's something that I can call them back, I will gladly take their number and let them know I will call you back in the next five to 10 minutes. You gotta hold it to your word though. Mm-hmm. You gotta call him back five to 10 minutes. If it's a new patient, I'll simply roll through and do what I need to do.Um, I also would hope that I would have strong enough administrators and team members that are cross trained, that if I'm focused on something, they can also help. But I believe that if you just simply smile and acknowledge and let people know, they generally get that queue and know that you'll be with them as quickly as possible.Michael: Gotcha. Okay. So it involves also like. Letting the team members know, kind of Right. Maybe would you recommend like having like a, a signal or something when you're feeling like, okay, I have too much going on, and, you know, or, or what do you think? Yeah, Amy: yeah, you could actually, I mean, we use this for hygiene all the time with the agency, which I love.We have, uh, different colored cards. So what that means is we have green, if things are going good, there's, there's no. There's, there's not a lot of time that are on this phone call. We have yellow. Yellow is like, Ooh, this is a little bit tricky. Patient's asking a couple of questions, and then we have Ray, oh my gosh.They have a whole lot of things that they wanna get across to us. So what you can do is you can have those series of cards and as somebody walks up without you mouthing anything, miss what the patient's saying. You can easily slide over a card and, and so they know. Mm-hmm. Now that's a visual cue, and then they can know that if it's yellow or red, hey, I need to take care of this patient.Our administrator is really focused. Michael: Gotcha. Okay. I like that. The card situation. Yeah. I feel like whenever you're stuck in a situation when you're with a team and you're having a hard time, there should be like a signal or something. Okay. You know what I mean? Yeah. Yes. Amy: Yeah. There totally should be. There should be.So, yeah. Uh, we help our teams with that, so it's just a fun idea. Michael: Nice. That's wonderful. And so then you also mentioned one of your area of expertise is maintaining the team culture. Mm-hmm. And so first, how do we even. Find the, like I, for example, I'm just gonna give you an example. Like if I go, Amy, I want my culture to be happy.Do we do, how do we go from there? What do we figure Amy: out? So of course I'm gonna ask you what does happy mean to you? Like, give me some more words. That's just a real general, um, description. So I said, give some more words, more specific. Are you looking for team members? Are you wanting to preserve something that people are excited to come to work day?That you're gonna be excited to, um, I don't know, answer the phone every day, things of that nature. Right. So the way that we go about preservation for positive culture in a practice is we actually do what's called observation. With the agency, which I love because this allows us to be able to float from front to back.We watch admin side, we watch our das with our doctors, we watch hygiene, and we do this because there's certain key words that we want to see how the teams are interacting with each other and then also with the patients. So that's huge. not only do we do the observations and we're very candid, we give great feedback, constructive feedback to our team members and to our doctors as well to accelerate that.We also provide monthly team meetings. Which, uh, we, as the business coaches and consultants, we run those. And what I love about them is that we have an agenda. We do fun workshops, we focus on communication. We do disc presentation, so we'll take disc off of everybody and we'll do a fun presentation on that.Um, we'll actually talk about better strategies of how information is given and received by team members as well. Michael: Okay. So then when it comes to the observation part, what are some things you've seen that you can share with us? Like the three most common, this is what happens and this is the solution for why we can stop making that happen when it comes to a problem.Amy: Yeah, so definitely one of the things that we like to observe is the handoff. Those are critical, right? We like to know exactly, uh, that. Hy I'm gonna use hygiene, for example, if that's okay. Mm-hmm. Hygienist is in with the patient, right? It's a very, uh, it's like a dance of a relationship, right? The, the patient is gonna tell the hygienist more than they're gonna tell the doctor sometimes.So what we like to do is we like to have the hygienist, uh, after they do it, the tore of the mouth. That they specifically write down things and they also tell the patient, Hey, you, I'm a little bit concerned. I see some things here, but let's confer with the doctor. When the doctor comes in. It's important, doctor. It's still great for the hygienist to say, you know, uh, Dr. Sido, today we're seeing Mrs. Jones, and what I saw with Mrs. Jones was X, Y, and z. I'm curious about this. Could you please take a look at this and then to go in if there's perio concerns or anything of that nature? there, the doctor's gonna do their dance, but the doctor is listening to the hygienist.That's the beauty of it, right? That the hygienist is actually pointing out areas. And from there, what I love is that the doctor is gonna confer. Yep. You know you are exactly right. I see what you're seeing. Let's go ahead and get this patient scheduled. I'll see you in the next week, two weeks. There's a time and urgency.That's that appointment. So now the patient's, not the patient has heard what they need to have done. Not once, but twice. And then the third time is when they're handed off from the hygienist to the administrator. So the patient is now hearing what they need three times. This is a beautiful dance because us as humans, we don't listen to things.We don't grasp them one time. So by the time we're ready to get appointed, we're now hearing it three times and we know that is an urgency because the doctor has placed that. That really helps in the scheduling of practice. Michael: Mm. It helps finalize it, right? Yeah. Yeah. Like to, to get it in there. Interesting. So do you ever feel, Amy, when you're doing the observations like. Team members act or perform kind of thing in front of you, right? And then they go back to like, because I mean, somebody watching, somebody's watching me. So I'm like, I gotta turn it on. And then maybe like somebody else is like Amy, he really doesn't act like that around here.He just, you know what I mean? Does that happen? Amy: Oh, it happens all the time. Happens all the time. Um, a lot of times myself, uh, Marissa and Nicholson and Chris Hamal, the main coaches, uh, we actually don't do a lot of the observations. We have our administrators, we have two administrators, uh, Jamia and Alexa, who actually go in on our behalf because we know how our team members act.So if it's a different set of eyes, they might get a different reaction as well. you know, we're humans, so we go straight into our automatic, it's what we know. And if we know that somebody's watching us, like you said, we can step up our game a little bit and then we kinda fall back. Um, we definitely go in.We try not to let everybody know that we're coming in so we can actually see them in their natural, uh, capabilities and where they land. Some of the times it's inevitable. If they see us, they see us. Uh, but a lot of times what we do like to do is kinda go in on the stealth mode and a different set of eyes.It might get a different return. So Michael: yeah. Okay. That's interesting. So then how can we main, we figured out how we can find the culture. How do we maintain it? Amy: Maintaining. So it's critical to have those monthly team meetings. A lot of offices, the moment you say, oh, let's have a meeting, all of a sudden people are like, no, I don't wanna have a meeting.Cause it's just by PowerPoint or there's people complaining and that's no fun, right? Mm-hmm. Uh, so I always like to say team meetings need to be motivated. Be transparent with your team about your numbers. We use a great digital software platform, Intel, and I love dental Intel. It only works with certain softwares, however, it will take within that software and put it in a dashboard, um, metric.so doctors are really transparent with their teams and you're gonna get the best outta your teams. Now, they're also held accountable for daily goals. For DR. And hygiene as well. from there I always like to do what I like to call personal and professional check-in, so gimme one one of each and everybody around the room does that.And I love it because a lot of times our teams don't have time to get to know each other, so everybody shares something great that's happened with them personally and professionally. Very clear about numbers. And then I'll actually bring in a workshop. Workshops are huge. You can go on YouTube and actually Google different type of inspirational videos.Brown is one of our. And you can pull from what she's saying and you can actually make that into a really small workshop. Ask your team powerful questions, have them work together and that is beautiful. Cause at the end of the day, you're preserving that culture cuz you're teaching everybody how to properly communicate.Michael: Yeah. What have been some amazing workshops that you've done, Amy? Well, I Amy: love disc. Disc is my favorite. When we make it really fun, we actually use the movie Shrek as a part of our disc presentation. Mm-hmm. Because, uh, you have the dominant person, you have the other person who's very interactive. You have the one that needs and the one that needs consistency. And, uh, so this has to be my absolute favorite. Second would be braving, uh, by Brene Brown. Mm-hmm. It's actually teaching everybody how to trust a team member and how a person needs to be what's called a vault. And when you tell somebody something who is a bolt, you know that they are gonna take whatever you say, to their grave.And so I love that one as well. And it's really learning how to trust one another, which a lot of times is a work in progress. Huh? Michael: Can you give us some steps right now on how we can tell our team, like you, you need to trust, you need to trust Suzy Bell, like, you know what I mean? How can we, yeah. What are some things we can do?Amy: Well, definitely I always say if you have an upset with somebody, you have to go directly to that person, right? And you have to clear the air. A lot of times it's very difficult to do. We do teach people how to do that so they feel comfortable in their own skin and to be able to go to that person. We also like to talk about how in breathing that it's super important to know that. When you set that positive culture in the practice and you know that I can go and I can talk to this person, and this person is not going to, uh, take what I say, take it outta context, share it with other people, um, we teach them that you'll have a beautiful friendship and professionalism for the rest of your life.Right, and it's really, it's learning to like and love each other. And that disc plays an important role because it's how, how can I read that person? Are they very direct? Are they mostly like a high, they're not. Listen, So it's really understanding the disc part and establishing those parameters and boundaries, um, for giving in, receiving information, and the, the three all work together, so Beautiful.Michael: Nice. When you do these workshops and assessments, or even before that, what do you do when you notice there's a team member who you're like, you don't fit, man. Like, you just don't, you're. You're negative or something. Like what? What happens with that? Amy: Ooh. Those are what I like to call crucial conversations.Mm-hmm. Right? Mm-hmm. Uh, you even see it outside of the team meeting, you can pretty much pick it up pretty quickly, right. Um, what I like to do, always like to believe in the beauty of everyone. I will ask the doctor if it's okay for me to take that team member aside and really one-on-one. I'll ask the team member, are you doing okay?That's the first thing I'll ask them. If they say, yes, I'm doing fine. Say, okay, well I've noticed that there's a little bit of, um, you're not being your best self. And what I mean by that is I see so much beauty in you. How Courtney does that sound right? Me? Just saying that I see the beauty in you. It's true though.Cause look, I just said it to you and you smiled and you left. Mm-hmm. Right? Made you feel good. I see the beauty in you and I can see that you are so much more than what you're giving right now. So how can I get the very best out of you? And usually once I do that, even if you are the highest in their D category of dominant.I can get a pretty good response back and I kinda figure out what's going on with them. Michael: Gotcha. Also, you normally see that in the dominance. Like people who are like I, you know what Do you think it's that? Because it's like somebody else is coming into here and I run it kind of thing? Or, or no? Amy: Oh yeah.Oh yeah. Some of the highs, I love them. Each category has a special place in my heart, but the highs, they're gonna tell you what they need and what they want and everything else just doesn't really matter to them. It's okay. They have a special place in this world. to teach them to be more open and better communicators.That's where I kind of land when I ask them those questions. Michael: Gotcha. I have a question for you then, because I guess what do you do when, what is the best way, if you can tell, like the listeners, this will help facilitate the coach coaching consultant team or coaching consultant practice. So much easier if you do these steps.If you don't, you're gonna put the blame on me, or you're gonna put the blame on somebody else. You're just not gonna see the results you want. What would help Amy: with that? Well, I would say definitely, uh, look at a dental coach, right? They are, I know a lot of doctors are like, gosh, you know, I have, I have so many overhead expenses, and, and it can be costly.I understand that. Hiring a dental coach is taking a third party person who is actually looking for the betterment of you for the betterment of your practice and keeping your team sustainable. And that's huge. I feel as though, uh, bringing somebody on board who has the outside perspective that can look in and be very honest with you.I am honest with all of my clients. Good, better, indifferent at the beginning of our relationship. I tell them at times, you may not like what I'm gonna say, and I understand that I am looking out for the betterment for you guys to be successful. I always tell my my wonderful clients as well, I, I don't plan on being with you forever and ever.Amen. I'm gonna teach you the tools and I want you to fly, and if you need me to come back to redirect, I'm gonna be there. but we are together for a period of time. So a lot of times doctors think, oh my gosh, I'm gonna get this consultant. They're gonna be with me forever. And sustainability and financial agreements, um, our agency doesn't operate like that.Again, we will, uh, teach you how to fish and then we want you to go up and be completely successful and we'll always be your biggest cheerleaders. Michael: Okay. So it's mainly like the communication that you want. All the time. Right to, yeah. Let them know like, hey, yeah. Be, because I remember we, we would have a lot of coaches and consultants, like even with Somewhere, I'm like, where do you come from?Like, you know what I mean? Like, I've never heard of some of these before. Like I'm just like, where are you? Right? And so I never knew what they did in the sense of, oh, now we're just taking Medicaid or Medicare. You know what I mean? Now we're just doing something else. And I would see them kind of run through the door.And I remember our office manager sometimes or other people, they'd be like, yeah, you know what, they don't know what they're talking about. Yeah. They're not gonna come in here and fix it. And I'm like, maybe if we were more flexible, it would've worked. Or maybe if they knew what they were, you know what I mean?Kinda Amy: thing. Yes, yes. It's very, very true. It's very, very true. I always love to give team members, I always like to let them know I am joining to help you grow. A lot of times when team members hear the word consultant or business coach, they automatically think that they're not gonna have a job.And that's scary. So of course their defenses are already up. So when Chris, Marissa, or myself go into a practice, we always introduce us who we are. I give them my background. I always say to administrators, I used to do what you did. I know how important your role is. Mm-hmm. And I'm here to help you.You had three things. Three things you love in this practice, tell me. And then they'll tell me. I said, okay, if you had three things that you wanna make better in this practice, what are they? And I asked every single team member that question, and let me tell you, nine times outta 10, they're all saying the same thing.They might say it differently, there's a common thread. And that's when I typically take that common thread back to the doctor and I say, okay, so this is what I'm hearing. This is what I'm seeing. But I like to let the team members know that I'm there for them. I want them to grow and for them to be successful.Michael: Mm. Okay. I like that. Three common things, you know what I mean? Yeah. Especially if they're all like, what's this one person? Then, you know, like, ok, then we gotta get rid of that one person. Whatever. Interesting. I'm kinda ok. Yeah. Yeah. So these next questions are just to get into the head of someone who isn't totally involved on the clinical side of dentistry, working every day in the mouth, right?Yeah. What would you like to see more from a dentist? Amy: Oh goodness. What I would love to see more from a dentist is, Look at your team members, be appreciative of your team members, and know that they are there every day, day in and day out to make you better and to support you. I think a lot of times as dentists, we overlook that.They are so worried about, um, overhead, right? Getting more new patients. How do I market myself better? There's so many things that they're thinking of, and a lot of times we really don't look inside and we really don't appreciate the team that is supporting us and helping us grow. So what I mean by that is I always tell my doctors once a quarter, do an activity with your team.Show them how much you appreciate them. My goodness. Um, order, coffee, things of that nature. It's the small things that really mean a lot. one workshop that we do, it's really great, we talk about value, um, morals and values, and I learn while the doctors there, what their team member values. And some of the times the doctors sit back and they're like, I never knew that that's what they needed.That's what them going in the day. So I, I feel as though that type is, um, really gonna make it better for, for the, for the dentist all the way around. Michael: Mm. Okay. I like that. Like doing activities with them, letting them know you appreciate them. Yeah. Um, understanding that it is true. You need them to, you know what I mean?You need Amy: them. Yeah. You need them. Michael: They're important. Okay. All right. So next question is right now. What do you dislike or hate about dentistry? Amy: Oh, goodness. That's a tough question. I would have to say, uh, what I dislike with dentistry right now is, um, everybody is looking for new patients, right? The, the dentist believe that more new patients I have is the bigger and better that I'm gonna grow, and they miss that.They miss what's most important. What's most important is the current patients that you're serving. So what do I mean by that? Well, when your patients walk, the first question that your administrator needs to ask is, how is your visit today? That's such an important question because that one question, if they had a great visit and the patient responds, oh, it was awesome.It was great. That is so wonderful. We are accepting new patients. Do you know of anybody who's looking for a new dental home? And then again, active listeners don't say anything. Mm-hmm. Don't say anything. And if they say, well, you know, I don't know. Here's some of our cards. We love patients just like you.So if you do, please send them our way. What a beautiful compliment you just gave somebody. Right? And positivity. They're gonna go and they're probably gonna tell other people. And by organic growth, we're getting new patients. And I think that if dentists would take a moment and take a step back and really listen to what I have to say in regards to that, you would be amazed what you would get.Mm, Michael: doing that with every single patient, right? Every single patient. Amy: And it flows, it really does flow. Uh, at first when you tell administrators to do this, they look at you and they say, I don't have enough. That's what they say. I don't enough time. You actually do have enough time. It really just rolls off so easily because you know Mrs.Jones, you know she's amazing and you want more people like her. So give her that beautiful compliment and let her know you guys are looking for new patients and when you want people just like her. Mm-hmm. Michael: Beautiful. I like that. I like that a lot. Okay, so focus on the internal marketing kind of thing.Yeah. Yeah. Awesome. Okay. And then right now, what do you absolutely love about dentistry? Amy: What I love about dentistry is, um, all the beautiful team members that I get to work with and the wonderful clients that I have. It's super important. With our agency, we focus on the quality of our clients, not the quantity.The quantity doesn't define us. What definitely defines us as the quality. I love the fact that, um, my clients know they can call me whatever time, day or night, and I'm gonna be there for them even on the weekend. I cherish them. I cherish our relationship. I love the fact that they were like a, they opened their kimona for me to come into their practice and to help them succeed.So, being an open dentist, it really does open you up to so many capabilities and possibilities. It's pretty awesome. That's what I really love about dentistry now. Nice. How Michael: does, let me ask you side note, how does that affect your, I guess, like personal life? If they're always like, you can call me no matter what, whenever.All the time. Yeah. What does that look like? Amy: Oh, it's great. It really is. Uh, a lot of times they don't always take me up on that. However, if it's a nine one emergency, they know that I'm gonna be there. You know, Chris, Marissa, myself, we do like to spend time with our families and outta town. The beauty about our working relationship is that we will cover for one another as well.Mm-hmm. So we communicate if somebody's gonna be non-available, that person, the other coach will be responsible to take those calls. So I try to kinda balance it the best as possible. But again, it comes down to the quality of my clients and not the quantity. I, I love them all dearly and I wanna take the very best care of them.So whatever it takes. Michael: Yeah, that's nice. That's wonderful. And then to you thinking of the general population, what needs to change for people to be more open to dentistry? Amy: Well, you know, unfortunately we live in a populace where we have a lot of patients who are very fearful of the dentist. And so they won't go, and I'd like to think that, you know, unfortunately, fortunately, COVID actually brought a lot of attention to this because it's the oral cavity, right?Oral cavity is the gateway to your systemic health. And so what I'm really, really hoping is, is that people will take their oral health very seriously. So where does that come from? It actually comes from, um, you know, children being in school and they have a hygienist.embrace your child to take them. Find a great dentist that suits you. as a patient, when you call a dental office, ask specific questions. Ask how long have they been in dentistry? What do they special? Do they do history? Uh, let let the administrator know. If you're high fear, you know, gosh, I just don't like coming to the dentist.Right? And find that right practice. That's going to love you and support you and help you in your dental journey. Okay. Michael: I like that a lot. And then, what's one of the best advice you've ever received that you can share with our listeners? Oh, Amy: in general. In general? Mm-hmm. In general, um, you know, One of our, uh, Chris Oval, this one is the best for me.I've gotten better. I've gotten better. I was not the person who was always on time, right? Mm-hmm. And I love philosophy. If you're on time, you're late, so you need to be early. And that's considered on time. I think that that was actually the best piece of advice she has ever given to me and has shown me.Because for me, when you're early to something, it shows that person that you're meeting, Hey, I'm here undivided attention. I'm waiting for you. I'm excited to meet you. So I always like to live with that, that theory of if I'm early, I'm one time. Yeah. And I'm winning. And it shows that person that they're very important.Nice. Michael: Wonderful. Awesome. Amy, thank you so much for being with us. It's been a pleasure. But before we say goodbye, can you tell our listeners where they can find you? Amy: Oh, yes, you can. You can go to www.dentalpracticemanagementagency.com and you will find myself, Marissa Nicholson and Chris Hamal. Awesome. Michael: So guys, that's gonna be in the show notes below.And Amy, thank you so much for being with us. It's been a pleasure, and we'll hear from you soon. Amy: Thank you so much. It was a pleasure.

disembodied
interview with victoria rader

disembodied

Play Episode Listen Later May 11, 2023 54:12


Victoria Rader is the Possibility Coach™ and founder of YU2SHINE. Through thousands of client sessions and seminars, Victoria has witnessed that the cap to one's fulfillment is defined by their subconscious programming. As a result, she created products and services with a unique success formula of healing one's heart, freeing one's mind, and expanding one's skills to see, create and live a life of infinite possibilities. As a recipient of the CREA GLOBAL AWARD by Brainz Magazine, Victoria stands alongside Brene Brown, Richard Branson and others in receiving recognition for creative and innovation ideas, adaptability in business, and contributions to sustainability and mental health projects.https://yu2shine.com/

The Midsters Podcast -  Friendship & Midlife
Ep 49. Create Healthy Boundaries in Midlife

The Midsters Podcast - Friendship & Midlife

Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2023 34:17 Transcription Available


Do you know how to have strong boundaries? Are you able to say no to others when you don't want to do something? Do you ever feel taken advantage of? Do you feel other people don't take your wants into consideration? If you answered yes to any of those questions you may have issues setting Boundaries. Setting boundaries is the key to good mental health and a life skill we all need to master - and midlife is a great time to do it or strengthen what you've been doing. Ellen and Tish share what they've learned from reading Melissa Urban's best-selling book The Book of Boundaries - Set the Limits That Will Set You Free. Learn why we need healthy boundaries, a three-step process to creating and maintaining them, why clear and kind communications are important, and understand self-boundaries too.  Please support us with a monthly subscription and get a quarterly live  Q&A with Ellen and Tish.Obsessions - please use these links to support the show!Tish: Support us on PATREON here.  You will get access to a quarterly bonus Q&A.  Ellen: Melissa Urban's book on boundaries - The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free. What we talk about in this episode:Healthy boundaries, Melissa Urban's Book, The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free, Patreon, kind and clear communication, having boundaries doesn't make you selfish, setting boundaries is empowering, the 6 area you want to set boundaries for, Brene Brown, learn to communicate and don't expect people to read your mind, self boundaries, sexual boundaries Give us a review... Click hereWant to start podcasting?  Click here to let Buzzsprout know we sent you, this gets you a $20 Amazon gift card if you sign up for a paid plan, and help support our show

Win Today with Christopher Cook
342: NBA Performance Coach David Nurse on Why "Potential" is a Dangerous Word, The Devious Side of Influence, The Physiology of Stress, and Why People Quit

Win Today with Christopher Cook

Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2023 49:28


This week, we sit down with one of my close friends, NBA performance coach, David Nurse, to discuss some of the most pressing topics in the world of psychology and personal development. David shares his insights on why the word "potential" can be a dangerous trap for individuals, how influence can have a devious side that we must be aware of, and the physiological impact of stress on our bodies and minds. Additionally, David explores the reasons why people quit, and offers practical tips and strategies for overcoming obstacles and achieving success. Whether you're looking to improve your own performance, lead a team, or are simply interested in the fascinating intersection of psychology and personal growth, you won't want to miss this insightful and thought-provoking conversation with one of the leading experts in the field. Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with David, I'm sure you'll also enjoy the following: 324: Katherine Morgan Schafler on What Perfectionism Really Is, Emotional Illiteracy, and How to Leverage Perfectionism for Your Good 316: Pat Lencioni on Discovering Your Working Genius, Quiet Quitting, and How to Work in Alignment ++++++ Episode Links: David's Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Buy David's Latest Book on Amazon! Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Get the "Win the Week" email newsletter here. ************************** This week's show partners: Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************

The Long and The Short Of It

After "gravitas" was brought up in many of Pete's recent workshops, he and Jen dig in to the meaning of the word and how it might be applied to leadership.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What does gravitas even mean, and is it something to aim for?If you are feeling stuck, what are some tools for getting unstuck?What are some qualities, in addition to gravitas, that might be useful for leaders? And how might those be cultivated?To hear all Episodes and read full transcripts visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box o' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos and other interesting things Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.comLearn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Obsessed
Obsessed with Laziness and The Brilliance of Bill Gates

Obsessed

Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2023 14:06


Laziness often gets a bad rap, but the truth is that it can actually make life easier. When we embrace our lazy tendencies, we tend to prioritize our tasks and focus on what truly matters, avoiding unnecessary work and busy work. This can lead to more efficient and effective use of our time and energy. Additionally, being lazy can push us to find innovative and creative solutions to problems, as we look for the easiest and most efficient way to accomplish tasks. So, the next time you feel guilty for being lazy, remember that it can actually be a powerful tool for making your life easier and more successful.The Power of LazinessContrary to popular belief, laziness can be a powerful tool for success. When we're lazy, we tend to look for ways to accomplish tasks in the easiest and most efficient way possible. This can lead to innovative solutions and creative ideas that we may not have come up with otherwise. In addition, being lazy can actually help us prioritize tasks and focus on what's truly important. By avoiding busy work and unnecessary tasks, we can focus our energy on the tasks that will have the greatest impact on our goals.Bill Gates' Theory on LazinessBill Gates, the founder of Microsoft and one of the most successful entrepreneurs in history, has a unique theory on laziness. He believes that lazy people make the best employees because they will always find the easiest and most efficient way to complete a task. Gates has also said that he likes to hire lazy people because they'll find the quickest way to automate a process, saving time and resources in the long run. How to Embrace Laziness in Your LifeNow that we've discussed the power of laziness and Bill Gates' theory on the subject, let's talk about how you can embrace laziness in your own life. One of the best ways to do this is to focus on what truly matters and prioritize your tasks accordingly. Don't waste time on busy work or tasks that aren't important to your goals. Additionally, look for ways to automate or streamline your tasks to make them easier and more efficient. By doing so, you'll be able to accomplish more with less effort.GET TIA'S BOOK-- OBSESSED WITH MINDFUL EATING HERE! Or find it on Amazon--Obsessed with Mindful Eating By Tia MorellGet Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith. We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living. We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you. Learn More About Your Hosts: HereFor More About Julie Lokun Check Her Out: Here

Unapologetically Sensitive
190 The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later May 9, 2023 38:37


The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond How do you navigate ruptures in therapy if the therapist overshares, or does not meet your needs? Rupture and repair are possible. Are there ways to self-disclose in appropriate ways that benefit the client? We share a vignette about therapeutic rupture. As a client, do you know how to bring up concerns to your therapist? As a therapist, are you creating safety for your clients, so they know that you welcome their feedback? If done skillfully, repair work can create a stronger therapeutic bond, and more intimacy. GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC  HIGHLIGHTS Speak up if your therapist violates your boundaries or wastes your time. You have a right to use your voice and say that this behavior was not okay. Consider giving your therapist feedback if they make a mistake or have an off day. This can help repair any ruptures in the therapeutic relationship and strengthen the alliance. Remember that therapy is a partnership, and you have agency in the process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need or express your feelings. If you're struggling to show up authentically, consider seeking out a therapist or coach who can help you feel safe and supported. If you're a therapist, practice skillful self-disclosure by sharing information in a measured, appropriate, and helpful way that helps your clients feel connected. Be open to discomfort and learning to tolerate it. The goal of therapy is not always to feel better, but to learn how to manage conflict and discomfort in a healthy way. GUEST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS  Jen's Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

My Business On Purpose
636: Maturity Assessment Checklist: How To See Maturity BEFORE Hiring

My Business On Purpose

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 15:03


For six years Ashley and I coordinated the meeting of a group of young men who met weekly during the school year.  Some weeks there were four, and others there were sixteen.  All between 15 and 18 years of age and all at different stages of maturity.   We walked these young men through a variety of discussions, situations, and scenarios and even adapted a five stage growth pyramid for each to understand where they were at in their level of maturity.   For these young men we relayed the identification of those stages as  Boy Adolescent Man Mentor Patriarch Upon introduction many of the young men in our group presumed that age was the entry point to each stage.  Turn 13 and you become an adolescent.  Turn 18 and you become a man. One astute young man asked a resonating question around our communal fire pit, “at what age do you become a mentor?” It was akin to asking, “at what year do you become an expert in your field?” In 1964 US Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart was providing an opinion on the use of obscenity in the public square  in the State of Ohio's  case vs. Jacobellis who had been reprimanded for showing what was considered by some to be an obscene movie.   Justice Stewart explains, “I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description ["hard-core pornography"], and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I see it…” We will certainly do our best to layout helpful marks of maturity within a civil society, and yet maturity can be validated in part under the mantra of “I know it when I see it.” My response to the young man asking at what age you scale the stages of manhood?  I asked, “have you ever seen a 19 year old boy walking around in a 54 year old body?” He understood a primary principle of maturity: Maturity equals maturity. Age equals age. You can have age without maturity. You can have some maturity without age. You cannot have full maturity without the combination of age and wisdom. Wisdom is a cocktail of time, understanding, trial, error, learning, teaching, consideration and circumspect, humility, confidence, and curiosity. Wisdom gone right is shrewd and helpful. Wisdom corrupted is deception and gaslighting. The secret to wisdom is this…GO PURSUE WISDOM! How do we know what to pursue, or what a wise person, a mature person even looks like? Here are NINE marks of maturation that we can pursue ourselves and begin looking for in others.  These marks do not prove full maturity, but simply a pursuit of maturity at some particular mile marker on the highway.   First, a maturing person is someone who has written and defined principles (mission, values) for their life. We all like to think that writing things down and defining “purpose” in our lives is good for the self-help section at Barnes and Noble, but in real life we can never find time for that. The maturing person makes time to articulate the things that drive them and the things they value.  Our family has a drive to create space and be a light through adventure, wisdom, and time around the table. One of the more sacred spots in our day to day is any table we find ourselves at together whether it be our dinner table in Bluffton, a bleacher seat in Winston-Salem, a tray table in row 31 seat C, D, and E somewhere over the Atlantic, or a restaurant table in Cinque Terre.  The table is an indicator for us to limit distractions, share peaks and pits, discuss a wide range of recent events and future plans, and to play 3 rounds of a twitchy card game. It's written, we talk about it, and it has become a habit at this point. If you don't write them down, they do not exist.  Second, the maturing person invests a bulk of time into a recurring “thing” (Reps):  Distraction has become chaos' tool of choice in our modern battle to fight.  Desire is rarely the enemy that keeps us from progressing to expert status.  We have a desire to fly planes, learn a language, love yoga, travel to Siberia, or hike the Cascades.   Distraction then hijacks desire in mid-flight rendering us aloof and frustrated not being able to achieve that thing we know would satisfy and re-energize.   While at the Chick Fil A mothership in Peachtree City, GA we heard a recurring idiom that for a while felt like classic corporate goofiness and then over time was sobered up to a well trained conviction; “Full Time…Best Effort”.   It's one thing to “be at work” all day vs. “working all day”.   While we are at work all day, distraction begins hovering like sand gnats on a warm May afternoon at a southern coastal ball field.  It nips, bites, frustrates, until we either leave, or take measures to battle against.   Three hours at work is not the same as working for three straight hours.  One gives the allusion of maturity.  The other implements boundaries which lead to maturity and exponential value to you and the people you impact. When you mature to give your full time…best effort, choosing not to work in a short series of fits and starts, you are setting the stage for a mass accrual of reps in a given task or skillset providing you a valuable path to expertise and value. Immaturity always welcomes distraction.   The third mark of a maturing person reveals a sober judgment and intuition spending time looking at a “thing” from multiple angles.   For most of my life I didn't “get” art.  People would sit and look, observe, think, contemplate, review, change angles and keep looking. “What are they looking at?”, I would think with disdain and arrogance. Perspective is a hallmark in appreciating great art.  Today I would accept an invitation into just about any display of artistic creation.  One of my favorite art displays is the small, dark Museo Leonardo Da Vinci.  A two minute walk from the infamous Duomo in Florence is a unique museum displaying recreations of da Vinci's drawings.   Da Vinci was a prolific illustrator drawing fine details of human anatomy, mechanical machinery, and novel tools.  Many of these drawings were never manufactured into tangible instruments.  The da Vinci museum displays actual (in some cases life size) creations of da Vinci's drawings like a tank, a flying machine and others.  These tools in essence jump off the page into real life and the museum gives you a unique opportunity to look at aa Vinci's mind and work from multiple angles and perspectives.  What might have seemed hideous or impractical on paper is now meaningful and unique when built in real life.   Maturity is making the time to walk around and see the various angles of a thing not in hopes of proving your opinion, but instead to reformulate your convictions with great understanding.   The fourth mark of a maturing person is situational awareness; the ability to “read the room” knowing who is in the room, when to act and how to act. Walk down a terminal in most major airports and he will be nearby, the guy with the bluetooth headset talking as if Nine Inch Nails are playing a live set at the next gate down and he's got to make sure the person on the other end can hear everything he has to say. Your response, “READ THE ROOM”. Solitude is helpful, isolation less so.  We (yes, even introverts) live in a communal society with shared spaces.  It serves us well to read the room and respond in kind to the dynamics of that room.   If people are tired, frustrated, jet lagged, in a hurry, delayed, short-fused and in need of space and peace, probably best not to add volume to that chaos.  Read the room. If people are energized, fired up, ready to storm the hill and score the winning touchdown, probably best not to reveal your inner Eeyore.  Read the room. There is a time and place for everything and the maturing person is willing to reveal their “true self” in moments where their true self will be invited and welcomed.   Read the room. A hallmark of situational awareness is the ALL important SELF-awareness.  Spending time discovering the inner workings of yourself will open up a world of insight and aha's as to why you are the way you are, do the things you do, and act the way you act. Maturity in self-awareness never uses what you have discovered as a crutch to excuse preference.  “Well, I'm an ‘S' on the DISC so you shouldn't ask me to do that.”  Or, “I have no Tenacity on the Working Genius so you can't expect me to have that done so quickly.” Profiles and enneagram numbers are helpful; these are third party tools that give us objective insight into the intangible parts of our personality.  As you learn, the mature person asks, “what are the things that I naturally love to contribute, and what are the things that I need to be aware that I am not as prone to so I can push through those areas when needed?” Maturing people realize that Jim Rohn was right, “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”  In fact, you are likely the average of the five books you read, the five foods you eat, the five songs you listen to, and the five things you spend your money on. A new rhetorical question that we are going to begin adding to our hiring process is this, “if I asked you to setup a dinner with the five people you spend the most time with, would you be excited for me to meet with them?” Life and business necessarily intersect.  Who you are out there, is who you will be in here.   Run with chaos out there, and you will want to burn the building down here.  Run with wisdom out there, and you will want to build up the culture in here.   Who are the five people you spend the most time with?  Would I enjoy dinner with them? The sixth element of a maturing person is they feel compelled by gratitude to reinvest the wisdom they have received into others.  This reinvestment is less about waiting until you have hit a threshold of wisdom to start giving that wisdom away, and more about immediately teaching the wisdom you have to the people you interact with immediately. Did you learn something today?  Use it today and teach it today. Seneca, the Roman Philosopher said, “while we teach, we learn”.   Benjamin Franklin said, “Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.” In just a few minutes, I will involve you in an exercise that will help teach the things I'm learning so that we can all grow and perpetuate the wisdom to our co-workers, partners, families, and friends.   The maturing person is always teaching out of the gratitude they have for being taught.  The seventh mark of a maturing person are the stress-tests they've endured.   Our family loves to hike, to walk along trails in the woods with no distractions and to simply look around and take it all in…to see what is out there and allow our minds to voyage into peaceful places.   My son has a bazaar tradition when we are hiking in the woods, if he sees a tree he thinks is dead or dying he will work to “truck the tree”.  He'll give it a few pushes casually to see if the tree is vulnerable and off balance; to see if it has some “give”. After a few pushes he then makes a highly scientific judgment call to determine that tree's “truckability”.  Can he make that tree fall if he were to deliver a linebacker like form tackle to its trunk?  Mis-judge the tree and the tree wins whilst you get an Uber ride to the Orthopaedics office.  Judge correctly and you feel like a dominant predator of the woods knocking down trees with your bare shoulders.   The maturing person has been pushed, pressed, and had tested through a variety of trials and tests both personally and professionally.  It is unreasonable and naive to think that you will live life on Lake Placid, where your waters will always be smooth and your skies will always be blue. That testing is a gift because it breeds and develops endurance.  Endurance then works itself into hope, into a light at the end of a tunnel that is opportunity, life, conviction, belief, and satisfaction.  It is said that having hope will never disappoint.   The maturing person will be aware of their response when they are rejected, or when they win. Notice the maturing person may or may not respond perfectly to rejection or to winning, but they are aware of their response and the impact that response has on themselves and on others around them. Rejection is fertile ground for shame.  Brene Brown has been studying shame for decades and describes shame as an “intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” Each of us has unique shame triggers, events that happen that open the door for that intensely painful feeling because our flaws have been revealed. You could have just received a stern response, a cross glance, a critique on your work, a roll of the eyes in response to your contribution, or a harsh pushback from a client.   Maybe your Dad only calls when he needs something or your Mom still treats you like you were 8 years old. Maturity is not never feeling rejection.  Maturity is being aware of how you feel when you are rejected and then intentionally using emotional tools to grow from that rejection instead of self-medicating with rage, anger, return shame, substances, or loneliness.  Victory and winning are equally as important.  When you win, how do you win?  Maturity will always lead with humility, joy, satisfaction, and gratitude.  Maturity will never thrive in an environment of arrogance, stand alone pride, gaslighting, and trash talking. Humility is the currency of the wise.  On par with self-awareness, Shakespeare “A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool.” We are told it is the “foolish things of the world that are used to shame the wise, and the weak things of the world to shame the strong.” A ninth mark of a maturing person is how they respond to authority, to coaching, and to the less fortunate. The coaches you remember are the coaches that were hard, the ones who demanded more, and who were convinced that you had more to give. Dr. David Crutchley was a professor of mine in graduate school.  I studied more for his classes than I did anyone else's in the history of my education.  I never scored above a B minus on any exam or paper I turned into him. Frustrated I tried to reason with him as to why I earned higher grades.  His response echoed, “I would rather you get a C in my class and walk away having truly learned, than for you to ace my class and to learn nothing.” A life of 5.0's and 10 out of 10's on everything is a life that is ultimately not helpful towards resilience.   Karen Arnold, a researcher who followed 81 High School Valedictorians came to an eye-opening conclusion: “Even though most (valedictorians) are strong occupational achievers, the great majority of former high school valedictorians do not appear headed for the very top of adult achievement arenas….Valedictorians aren't likely to be the future's visionaries . . . they typically settle into the system instead of shaking it up.” This is not license to not work hard, to not grow in diligence, and to not give great effort.  This is motivation to seek and appreciate hard coaching, serious feedback, and honest insight.   Remember, the launching point into a life of wisdom is to simply GO LOOKING FOR IT.  If you find someone willing to do the hard, emotionally taxing work of giving you honest feedback, GO SIT WITH THEM and go get wisdom.   Wisdom will be the road sign to maturity.  

Evergreen Christian Community
Shift 4 - From Shields Up to Shields Down

Evergreen Christian Community

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2023 44:29


James 5:13-16What if the thing that leads to our greatest security in life is not building walls barriers, but rather building a connection?Big Idea: The greatest peace we can experience is by living in authentic connection. Authenticity with God"Our relationship with God is the foundation of our entire lives. It affects how we see ourselves, how we see others, and how we see the world." - Charles StanleyGenesis 3:6-10• “made coverings for themselves.”• “and they hid from the Lord God” • “I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”James 5:13Psalm 139:23“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experiences.” - Daring Greatly, Brene BrownAuthenticity with OurselvesJames 1:6-8Romans 8:1-22 Corinthians 3:4-5World's view: You are/what you made yourself into.Christian view: You are/what Christ has made you into.Authenticity with Others."When we live in authentic community, we learn to trust, to forgive, and to serve one another. We become more like Jesus, who came not to be served, but to serve." - Timothy Keller1 John 1:9Proverbs 28:13Response:• Enjoy vulnerability before God. • Be authentic with ourselves. • Experience healing in community.DISCOVERY BIBLE STUDY► This week's Passage: Matthew 22:34-40► Connection questions:1. What are you thankful for?2. What is a challenge you are facing?3. How did you do with last week's “I will” statement?► Have at least one member of the group restate the passage in their own words► Individual answers to five questions:1. What stands out to you?2. What does this passage tell us about people?3. What does this passage tell us about God?4. Based on the passage, what is one thing I could do differently starting now and what would happen if I did? (each person commits to their action for one week using an “I will…” statement)5. Who are you going to tell about what you discovered? (each person commits to having that conversation before the next meeting)

Win Today with Christopher Cook
341: Ken Coleman on When to Quit Your Job for Better Mental Health, Redefining Success and Finding Fulfillment Beyond a Lousy Leader, and the Anti-Work Movement of Socialism

Win Today with Christopher Cook

Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2023 62:55


This week on the podcast, we will discuss how to recognize when it's time to quit your job and how to handle a difficult boss. With insights on identifying your purpose and the telltale signs that it's time to move on, Ken Coleman, our guest today, offers actionable strategies for taking control of your career. Plus, he shares tips for dealing with a bad boss, including open communication, setting boundaries, and seeking mentorship. That's where we're headed today in this must-listen episode for expert advice on how to know when to quit your job and how to handle a challenging work environment.  Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with Ken, I'm sure you'll also enjoy the following: 324: Katherine Morgan Schafler on What Perfectionism Really Is, Emotional Illiteracy, and How to Leverage Perfectionism for Your Good 316: Pat Lencioni on Discovering Your Working Genius, Quiet Quitting, and How to Work in Alignment ++++++ Episode Links: Ken's Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Buy Ken's Latest Book on Amazon! | Take the Get Clear Career Assessment Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Get the "Win the Week" email newsletter here. ************************** This week's show partners: Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************

Morning Fire!
Recommitting from Scared to Sacred with Victoria Rader

Morning Fire!

Play Episode Listen Later May 3, 2023 24:21


Victoria is a possibility coach, transformational speaker andfounder of YU2SHINE that empowers coaches, entrepreneurs, and people that seekpersonal development to grow in all areas of their life through the proven formulafor success so that they have more peace, purpose and prosperity. She is an eight times bestselling author who is globally recognizedalong with Brene Brown, Richard Branson, and others for creative and innovativeideas, adaptability in business and contribution to sustainability and mentalhealth projects with CREA Global Award by Brainz Magazine. Where to find Victoria:https://yu2shine.com/ https://www.instagram.com/vica_rader/

How to Run a Successful Business (and still have a life!)
S1E101: Simply Business Summit Speaker: Tahnee Sanders of The Strategy Studio

How to Run a Successful Business (and still have a life!)

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 13:34


Summit is less than 2 months away and today we talk to guest speaker and summit presenter Tahnee Sanders from the Strategy Studio about what she is going to be presenting in Byron bay in June.  We still have spots available so book now at simplystacey.com/summitSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Driven Woman
Cultivating Authenticity, Vulnerability & Belonging with Sacred Walker

The Driven Woman

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 33:30 Transcription Available


When a young immigrant moves to a new city, she must learn how to blend in and code-switch to survive. But no matter where she goes, she remembers one thing: she has chosen to believe that she lives in a friendly universe and she uses this knowledge to build brave spaces for others and to find her own sense of belonging. In this conversation, my guest, Sacred Walker, and I share our thoughts on being driven women in a world that projects assumptions onto us, and the courage it took to carve out our own unique paths of being and belonging.Sacred's journey began in Kingston, Jamaica, and her experiences have taken her across the globe, including India and the United States. Using her expertise in creating intentional community spaces, Sacred has become a beacon of hope and inspiration for those seeking to foster genuine relationships while maintaining their own unique identities. Her ability to blend, code-switch, and adapt to various environments has made her an invaluable resource for leaders from all walks of life.In this episode, you will learn how to:Embrace authenticity and vulnerability for deeper connections and a sense of belonging.Overcome the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships and self-acceptance.Cultivate self-care, reflection, and grounding techniques for assured leadership.Encourage unique self-expression to overcome rejection and take risks.Support empathic visionary leaders by building intentional community spaces.Now, you know how much I love storytelling, right? Well, Sacred surprised me with some of the favorites that she uses to help women in her community develop their capacity for authenticity, courage, and belonging. You are going to want to listen for her “pepperoni” analogy and her “frying fish” metaphor. When you hear them and resonate with them, tag both Sacred and me on social media to let us know! Mentioned in this episode:Brene Brown's quote on belonging vs fitting in: https://youtu.be/CkC6PeseGdsSacred Walker's Mastermind: https://bit.ly/3LuNaI0Sacred's podcast: Self Love For Everyday Superheroes: https://bit.ly/3Lfvwa6The key moments in this episode are: 00:00:00 - Introduction - Belonging and Connection, 00:01:07 - Fitting In vs. Belonging, 00:03:26 - Making Friends as an Adult, 00:09:18 - Healing and Peeling off the Pepperoni, 00:13:13 - Belonging as a Dance, 00:15:20 - Grounding Yourself Before Entering a Room, 00:19:28 - The Importance of Mission in Leadership, 00:22:47 - Taking Off the Brakes and Being Yourself, 00:26:03 - The Power of Belonging in Leadership,The only way you can work with me right now is through my 1:1 coaching program., and the first step is to schedule a free 30-minute consultation right here: https://bit.ly/3qrJ9YQIf you love this podcast, did you know that I just launched a PRIVATE PODCAST and you can listen to it from the same podcast player where you enjoy this one? It's called “Show Up Like a Boss” and you can grab it right here: https://bit.ly/3ZOD3CKPodcast reviews really do motivate me to keep creating this show & bringing you awesome guests and no-BS solo episodes, so if you are a regular listener and haven't left one yet, what are you waiting...

Obsessed
Obsessed with Controversy, Radical Acceptance and Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex

Obsessed

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 15:48


In recent years, the public has been captivated by the controversy surrounding Meghan Markle, the American actress who became a member of the British Royal Family after marrying Prince Harry in 2018. Meghan has faced intense scrutiny and criticism from both the media and the public, leading to a broader conversation about issues of racism, mental health, and the importance of living your truth.One of the key themes that have emerged from the controversy surrounding Meghan Markle is the concept of radical acceptance. Radical acceptance refers to the process of accepting and acknowledging the reality of a situation, without judgment or resistance. In the case of Meghan, radical acceptance means acknowledging the systemic racism and sexism she has faced, both from the media and from members of the Royal Family. It also means accepting the mental health struggles she has experienced as a result of this scrutiny.Living your truth is another important theme that has emerged from the Meghan Markle controversy. This means being true to yourself, even if it goes against societal norms or expectations. Meghan has been criticized for breaking with tradition and asserting her own identity as an independent woman and a person of color. However, many have applauded her for being true to herself and for using her platform to speak out against injustice and discrimination.Overall, the Meghan Markle controversy has sparked important conversations about issues of racism, mental health, and living your truth. By practicing radical acceptance and staying true to ourselves, we can all work towards creating a more just and equitable society.GET TIA'S BOOK-- OBSESSED WITH MINDFUL EATING HERE! Or find it on Amazon--Obsessed with Mindful Eating By Tia MorellGet Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith. We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living. We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you. Learn More About Your Hosts: HereFor More About Julie Lokun Check Her Out: Here

The Long and The Short Of It
240. Broken Habits

The Long and The Short Of It

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 17:15


Pete and Jen share a few of their habits that have been broken, and together they discuss how to get back on track.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What might cause a habit to become broken in the first place?Why can the act of starting be so difficult sometimes?How might lessening the scope of your habit or goal help resurrect a broken habit?To hear all Episodes and read full transcripts visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box o' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos and other interesting things Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.comLearn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Unapologetically Sensitive
189 Setting the Groundwork for the Holidays with the Emotionally Immature Person part 2

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2023 43:11


Setting the Groundwork for the Holidays with the Emotionally Immature Person part 2 Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why we repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP) even when you don't want to. She talks about how to stay in touch with your true self and how to plan your actions to support you.  She also helps you understand when to confront and when to let go, as well as providing tools and mantras to remind you that you have needs, and a right to exist.  GUEST  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.  HIGHLIGHTS 5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP) 1.    Egocentric 2.    Poor empathy 3.    Not self-reflective 4.    Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions 5.    Avoids emotional intimacy Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to: How do Emotionally Immature Parents (EIPs) or Emotionally Immature Persons get you to knuckle under and let them do what they want (emotional coercion)? What makes you repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Parent (or Person) even when you don't want to? Dr. Gibson talks about what makes you give in even when you have a bad feeling about it. Why don't you listen to your instincts when confronted with a pushy EIP? How do you stay in touch with your true Self, and plan your actions according to what's healthy and less stressful for you? What's the best overall approach, or the mantra to remember to get through a holiday visit without serious stress? When do you let things go, and when do you confront? GUEST BIO  Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more). LINKS Dr, Gibson's links Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/ Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@hsppodcast e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com 

Monday Morning Mindset Shift
Vulnerability - Brene Brown explained

Monday Morning Mindset Shift

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 16:32


What is vulnerability according to Brené Brown? “The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.But vulnerability is not weakness; it's our most accurate measure of courage.When the barrier is our belief about vulnerability, the question becomes: 'Are we willing to show up and be seen when we can't control the outcome?'When the barrier to vulnerability is about safety, the question becomes: 'Are we willing to create courageous spaces so we can be fully seen?”-- Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone In this episode, we talk more about what vulnerability is and isn't, but also how you can learn to expose yourself, little by little, in order to live a life you've dreamed of.Would love to have you join the conversation on IG: instagram.com/jaim91Or come hang in my Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/teamjaim91

What's Next for Women Podcast
EP 120 Unsung HERstory with Ifabrizzia and Event by Tasha Mother's Day Vendors Shawnta, and Debbie

What's Next for Women Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 27, 2023 48:54


Ifabrizzia Soto is a virtual assistant and graphic designer who helps life coaches create a powerful brand and email marketing systems to better serve their clients. Her specialties include branding and marketing strategy for authentic personal brands and email campaigns that establish trust. Shawnta is the CEO of Self Care Club and a goal-focused, optimistic Self-care Life Coach. She creates uplifting and empowering products that inspire people to take an active role in their self-care and love themselves. Debbie Bates-Ricks is the owner of De La Ke's LLC, which offers Fruit of the Spirit Body Oils, and a partner in Love Patient Care LLC. KEY HIGHLIGHTS Why Envision Me Talkshow was created and its purpose. Get to know more about Shawnta, Debbie, and Ifabrizzia. Discussion of each guest's recent Wins and their What's next The advice and tips they want to leave with listeners. Discussion of the obstacles each of them has faced and how they overcame them. Ifabrizzia's role and qualifications in her field, as well as her target market Know why she recommends "Atlas of the Heart" by Brene Brown. Discover Ifabrizzia's self-care routine Announcement of Envision Me Talkshow's upcoming women's empowerment conference. Know why Pam always asks people what their "what's next" is and what her "what's next" is for Vision Made. KEY TAKEAWAY: If they don't know where to start, start first by praying about what it is that you want. - Debbie For me, spirituality is a form of self-care. So I think that once you tap into that and you receive direction, the big thing to look into is what serves you. - Shawnta Everything is possible… If you keep pushing forward, solutions are there. - Ifabrizzia To connect with Nicole visit her at: Facebook: Cielafa - Professional Creative Design Assistance To connect with Shawnta visit her at: Facebook: Shawnta Hill To connect with Debbie visit her at: Facebook: Debbie Bates-ricks Connect with me on Facebook at: Facebook: Pamela Stone Vision Made Media www.visionmadenetwork.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/whatsnextforwomen/support

Your Authentic Path to Powerful Leadership
Episode 84: Intersections with Susie Vaughan

Your Authentic Path to Powerful Leadership

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2023 60:58


For Episode 84, Marsha hosts her dear friend and trusted colleague, Susie Vaughn to the show today and we're going to have an opportunity to explore some of the intersections between the work she has done over the years with me and the Power of Self program with the content she is also certified to deliver from Brene Brown's work on Dare to LeadTo access a full transcript of this episode, please visit http://www.marshaclarkandassociates.com/transcripts/intersections.To find out more about Marsha or to purchase a copy of her book, "Embracing Your Power: A Woman's Path to Authentic Leadership & Meaningful Relationships," visit her website at www.marshaclarkandassociates.com.

Win Today with Christopher Cook
340: Levi and Jennie Lusko on Rejecting Passivity in Relationships, Prolonged Adolescence in Men, How to Suffer Together in Crisis within a Marriage, and the Key to Intimacy

Win Today with Christopher Cook

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 26, 2023 66:32


This week is going to be fun. Levi and Jennie Lusko are here and I'm excited to talk to them about rejecting passivity in relationships, prolonged adolescence in men, how to suffer together in crisis within a marriage, and their keys to intimacy. This is Levi's fifth time on the podcast, but having Jennie here, too, is a real treat, so I hope you lean in with curiosity and receptivity. Levi Lusko is the lead pastor of Fresh Life Church, a multi-site church in Montana, Wyoming, Utah, and Oregon which he and his wife, Jennie, pioneered in 2007. He is also a public speaker and the author of six books. Jennie is also a speaker and a prolific author in her own right. Together, they have five children. Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with Levi and Jennie, I'm sure you'll also enjoy the following: 339: Debra Fileta, M.A., L.P.C. on Why We Are Not Self-Healers, Our Trigger-Avoidant Culture, Rejecting Passivity, and What it Really Takes to Reset Your Emotional Health 319: Dr. Alison Cook on The Cocktail of Codependency, Learning Surrender, and the Dysfunction of Spiritual Bypassing ++++++ Episode Links: Levi and Jennie's Website | Levi's Instagram | Jennie's Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Buy Levi and Jennie's Marriage Devotional Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Get the "Win the Week" email newsletter here. ************************** This week's show partners: Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************

Distressed to Joyful; Bailey’s Way

Bailey takes the time to discuss the importance of Brene Brown's “Shitty First Drafts” and how writing out her feelings has been incredibly beneficial to her. Additionally, she explains how taking the time to write out what she wants to say to someone when conflict is in the midst has helped save important relationships. She hopes that you'll leave this episode feeling inspired and ready to try something new! SHOW NOTES: http://whatisheybailsdoing.com/2023/04/27/s4-episode-6-write-it-out-show-notes/  WEBSITE: https://whatisheybailsdoing.com/  WIN OF THE WEEK: http://whatisheybailsdoing.com/win-of-the-week/  SHOP: https://baileyswaydesigns.etsy.com  SUPPORT THE SHOW: http://whatisheybailsdoing.com/support-the-show/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/distressedtojoyful.baileysway/  INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/distressedtojoyful_baileysway/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@whatisheybailsdoing

Obsessed
Obsessed With Untamed, Being A G*Damn Cheetah, Kicking Perfection to the Curb & Glennon Doyle

Obsessed

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 19:08


Tia, Jules, and Mika talk about their obsession with Glennon Doyle!In this episode, we explore the idea of perfection and how it can limit us from enjoying the journey of life. Our guests share their experiences of how they've learned to embrace imperfection and find joy in the process.⭐The conversation begins with a reflection on how being human means being imperfect, and the word "perfect" can hold us back from enjoying the journey. The guests share personal stories of how they've struggled with this mindset, such as feeling like they should be further along in life, or their children should be achieving more despite their best efforts.⭐Tia, a new mom, shares how she's learned to appreciate the present moment with her son and take what she's learned each day to improve herself as a parent. She acknowledges that being imperfect is part of the journey and that she can still strive to be better without the pressure of perfection.⭐Mika discusses how the idolization of perfection can cage us and limit our potential. She shares how she's tried to show her imperfections on social media, especially after her sister's death, to be honest about the reality of grief and its ongoing impact on her life.Conclusion:The episode concludes with a message of embracing imperfection and finding joy in the journey. By acknowledging our imperfections and striving to improve, we can lead a more fulfilling life without the pressure of perfection.GET TIA'S BOOK-- OBSESSED WITH MINDFUL EATING HERE! Or find it on Amazon--Obsessed with Mindful Eating By Tia MorellGet Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith. We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living. We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you. Learn More About Your Hosts: HereFor More About Julie Lokun Check Her Out: Here

Attention to Intention
Are You Enjoying or Are You Numbing?

Attention to Intention

Play Episode Play 30 sec Highlight Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 15:59


Don't you love when the words you need find you at just the right time. What a gift in this thing called life.I picked up Brene Brown Daring Greatly & DAY-YUM, if you're ready for a hard long look in the mirror, this is the book. In this episode, we unpack the idea of are you enjoying or are you numbing? It's not about the what, it's about the why. The TV show - are you actually watching it for enjoyment or are you watching it on the coach with the drink in one hand, phone in the other to numb?The social feeds - are you looking to see what your friends, what your family is doing or are you hyper scrolling through, not even letting the images or the video resonate to numb?Join us for this mic drop action packed micro conversation that will have you asking 'am I enjoying or am I numbing?'Brene Brown; Daring Greatly: https://brenebrown.com/book/daring-greatly/Order your copy of our international best seller: Voices of the 21st Century / Women Transforming The World: https://www.megan-miller.com/the-book/p/voicesofthe21stcenturyJoin Our Tribe: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/megan.b.miller/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meganmillerintention/

Wired For Success Podcast
PURPOSE, POSSIBILITIES, PROSPERITY, AND PEACE OF MIND WITH VICTORIA RADER | EPISODE 134

Wired For Success Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 25, 2023 33:29


EPISODE SUMMARY Join scientist and mindset & high-performance coach Claudia Garbutt and possibility coach & transformational speaker Victoria Rader as they talk about purpose, possibilities, prosperity, and peace of mind.   In this episode we talk about:   - Inspired action & empowerment - Giving up resistance & surrendering to LOVE - Finding purpose & fulfillment   EPISODE NOTES   Victoria Rader, Ph.D. Possibility Coach™, transformational speaker and founder of YU2SHINE empowers coaches, entrepreneurs, and spiritual seekers to manifest miracles by uncovering and solving underlying hidden problems and patterns with innovative possibilities, reigniting PASSION and expanding PEACE, PURPOSE, and PROSPERITY.   She is an eight times internationally bestselling author who is globally recognized along with Brene Brown, Richard Branson, and others for creative and innovative ideas, adaptability in business, and contribution to sustainability and mental health projects with CREA GLOBAL AWARD by Brainz Magazine.   Links: YU2SHINE website - https://yu2shine.com/ YouTube -http://free2b1.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/vica_rader/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriarader/ Facebook Business - https://www.facebook.com/Yu2shine Twitter - https://twitter.com/vicarader   Free Ressource: manifestmiracles.me   ------------------   Music credit: Vittoro by Blue Dot Sessions (www.sessions.blue)   -----------------   If you enjoyed this episode, learned something new, had an epiphany moment - or were reminded about a simple truth that you had forgotten, please let me know by rating & reviewing this show on https://linktr.ee/wiredforsuccess.   Oh, and make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss out on any of the amazing future episodes! If you don't listen on iTunes, you can find all the episodes here.       Disclaimer: Podcast Episodes might contain sponsored content.

The Long and The Short Of It
239. Explorement

The Long and The Short Of It

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2023 16:34


As is one of Jen and Pete's favorite pastimes, this week they make up a word and ponder the question, what might it mean to explorement?Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:Can explorementing make smaller tasks more engaging and enjoyable?How might the addition of made-up words bring some levity to any given situation?What are some ways that Jen and Pete explorement in their every day lives?To hear all Episodes and read full transcripts visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box o' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos and other interesting things Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.comLearn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Inside The Bubble with Harli G
Episode 42 - Self-care: The non-negotiable

Inside The Bubble with Harli G

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 24, 2023 61:18


As a mother-on-the-go, I know what it feels like to not have enough time in the day. Take a listen and find out about these four tips that can help you get started on your self-care journey. Have awareness Acknowledge where you are Honor yourself through self-care Build a bubble around your self-care This is not the last conversation that we will have about this but we have to start somewhere. Come on in Inside The Bubble. "There's purpose in your story" Farmers Insurance: https://agents.farmers.com/ga/kennesaw/9501413-austin-brumit   As a partner of this episode, listeners can access the BetterHelp link located below to receive 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp AND get matched with a therapist who will listen and help. https://betterhelp.com/insidethebubble Don't forget to get your new 2023 planner: https://shop.lhagenda.com/reflih/678/?campaign=InsideTheBubble  Bodybar Pilates: https://bodybarpilates.com/studio/  Subscribe to your favorite podcast: https://glow.fm/insidethebubblewithharlig/  Join me in reading one of my favs"Atlas Of The Heart" by Brene Brown. Here is a special link to get the book: https://apple.co/3LOh7l6  Follow "Inside The Bubble With Harli G" on: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidethebubblehg/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Insidethebubblehg  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk81QumjCJ26BTMicp1YTIQ   

Sugar Pills
Episode 211 | Coaching Session: Manifesting Moving to L.A. + Imposter Syndrome | How to Manifest a Move to L.A. | The Soft Life

Sugar Pills

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2023 10:48


Ready to start your journey to healing and self-love? Then this is the episode for you. Journal Prompt: "What is something new and exciting I would like to try?" Affirmation: "It is natural for me to love myself." Quote: “Talk to yourself like someone you love.” – Brene Brown.  * Manifestation, Self-Love, and Lifestyle Design Courses: https://candywashington.com/courses * Free Newsletter + Self-Love Guide: https://bit.ly/3GBUS0w * Soft Life Patreon Community: http://bit.ly/40eP0BK  * YouTube: https://bit.ly/3tJAvZc * Instagram: http://bit.ly/2ws0Izy * Connect: assistant@candywashington.com  1214 Media Premium: https://apple.co/36AffLW/ Spotify Premium: https://bit.ly/3LFHvzg  * Disclaimer: This Podcast and YouTube channel is a supplement to your self-care practices and not a substitute for a relationship with a licensed professional. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/candy-washington/message

Sugar Pills
Episode 209 | Coaching Session: Trauma Dumping vs. Authenticity, Manifest Moving to L.A., Creating Boundaries in Romantic Relationships | The Soft Life

Sugar Pills

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2023 65:39


Ready to start your journey to healing and self-love? Then this is the episode for you. Journal Prompt: "What is something new and exciting I would like to try?" Affirmation: "It is natural for me to love myself." Quote: “Talk to yourself like someone you love.” – Brene Brown.  * Manifestation, Self-Love, and Lifestyle Design Courses: https://candywashington.com/courses * Free Newsletter + Self-Love Guide: https://bit.ly/3GBUS0w * Soft Life Patreon Community: http://bit.ly/40eP0BK  * YouTube: https://bit.ly/3tJAvZc * Instagram: http://bit.ly/2ws0Izy * Connect: assistant@candywashington.com  1214 Media Premium: https://apple.co/36AffLW/ Spotify Premium: https://bit.ly/3LFHvzg  * Disclaimer: This Podcast and YouTube channel is a supplement to your self-care practices and not a substitute for a relationship with a licensed professional. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/candy-washington/message

KindSight 101
Beyond Self Care with Gail Markin, Lisa Baylis, and Morgane Michael

KindSight 101

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2023 28:21


In this special episode, I feature a podcast episode hosted by new author, Gail Markin, about her book Beyond Self Care! She interviews Lisa Baylis (author of Self Compassion for Educators) about her chapter on taking care of ourselves, what it truly means to offer ourselves self-compassion, and how to take time to be truly present.  

Resilient Podcast Network
Julie Zaruba Fountaine: The Courage to Empower

Resilient Podcast Network

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2023 24:57


Julie Zaruba Fountaine, Well-being Specialist/Facilitator/Coordinator and Founder of EMPOWER Possible, LLC, talks with us today about empowering yourself and tips for structuring your life for doing so. We also talked about books, (one of my favorite things, of course!). I'm starting the books Daring Greatly and The Gift of Imperfection by Brene Brown and Fierce Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff after speaking with Julie. Thanks to her for the reminder! I feel like great authors come in and out of your life when you need them, particularly after a good conversation. Look for these things that I learned from Julie in this episode: How the key to success is adaptability How important it is to not shame yourself The gift of letting go of attachments Contact Julie at Empowerpossible.com or info@empowerpossible.com, and follow her on Instagram @empowerpossible, LinkedIn, YouTube, or Facebook. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thecouragechecklist/message

Zen Commuter
1942: Victoria Rader - Founder of YU2SHINE, Helps People Get Unstuck

Zen Commuter

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2023 47:53


Victoria Rader, Ph.D. Possibility Coach™, transformational speaker and founder of YU2SHINE empowers coaches, entrepreneurs, and spiritual seekers to manifest miracles by uncovering and solving underlying hidden problems and patterns with innovative possibilities, reigniting PASSION and expanding PEACE, PURPOSE, and PROSPERITY.   She is an eight times internationally bestselling author who is globally recognized along with Brene Brown, Richard Branson, and others for creative and innovative ideas, adaptability in business, and contribution to sustainability and mental health projects with CREA GLOBAL AWARD by Brainz Magazine.

Win Today with Christopher Cook
339: Debra Fileta, M.A., L.P.C. on Why We Are Not Self-Healers, Our Trigger-Avoidant Culture, Rejecting Passivity, and What it Really Takes to Reset Your Emotional Health

Win Today with Christopher Cook

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2023 63:15


This week, my good friend, a professional counselor, Debra Fileta, joins us to talk about why we are not self-healers. We're also going to explore our trigger-avoidant culture, the need to reject passivity, and what it really takes to reset our emotional health. Debra is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in dating, marriage, and relationship issues, along with a spectrum of mental health disorders. She's also the author of several books and the host of the Love + Relationships Podcast, a hotline-style show where people call in to get their relationship questions answered! Her popular relationship advice blog TrueLoveDates.com reaches millions of people each year with the message of healthy relationships! Dive Deeper: If you enjoy this episode with Debra, I'm sure you'll also enjoy the following: 279: Dismantling “Project Self” and How to Transform a Generation (feat. Jon Tyson) 276: Victim Consciousness, Heartache, and How Coping Mechanisms Create a False Sense of Health (feat. Dr. Dan Allender) ++++++ Episode Links: Debra's Website | Instagram | Facebook | Buy Debra's latest book on Amazon! Subscribe to #WinTodayShow on YouTube. Join the conversation wherever hashtags are welcome using #WinTodayShow. Get the "Win the Week" email newsletter here. ************************** This week's show partners: Get LMNT and a free gift with your purchase here! **************************