Podcasts about hands off parents

Probably best if you hear for yourselves. We love you, Steph and Abby

This week, Abby breaks down a bit in her frustrations with disciplining her kids. What should you do to channel all of that kid rage? Why do you feel like you're being held hostage in your own home? How do you get kids to listen when you don’t even know how to talk to them? If only there was a book! Steph reminds her that there is and Abby should listen to this podcast named Hands Off Parents. So should you!

The "Summer of Maternity" continues on Hands Off Parents, and Abby is thrilled to welcome back previous guest, and hilarious person, Stacey Daniels. Stacey is a loving aunt and takes the job very seriously. Coincidentally, she and Abby are both going through some aunt challenges, and they discuss the extreme love you can feel for your siblings' kids. Also, Stacey definitely tells Abby about what makes a cute kid and what doesn't. Is your kid cute? Of course they are! All kids are cute. Post pics of your cute kids on the Hands Off Facebook page @handsoffparents.

Money is not important enough to let it control our life! So why not learn how to control our money so we gain more control of our life?  But money is like water.  It's a valuable resource necessary for life that can easily slip through our fingers.  The key is to not let it slip through our fingers without our permission. In this round table discussion, we share some of the things we have done to build money management paradigms and processes into the fabric of our individual and family finances.  We reference The Gienger Good Stewardship plan that we developed to help debt proof our family and give our kids a solid financial foundation for their adult lives.  Several times in this episode, we reference the following introduction to the plan which we used when we first presented these concepts in our family: The Gienger Good Steward Plan Gienger Family Mission Statement:  To courageously lead generations of people to become devoted friends and sold out followers of Christ. Gienger Family Vision Statement:  To be intimate Friends of God and effective Kingdom Builders. Gienger Good Steward Plan Purposes: To develop our kids into effective manager’s of God’s resources which He provides them so they can be generous on every occasion in ways that result in thankfulness to God. To teach our kids to be channels of God’s material blessings to the world so that people will be lead to become devoted friends and sold out followers of Christ. To help our kids learn to give, save and spend money wisely and avoid consumer debt in order to give them a solid financial future. To gradually turn over to our kids the money required for their care and support as members of our family. To trust them to be good stewards of a portion of the Gienger family resources. To provide a foundation of personal financial management training that will serve them well the rest of their lives. Plan Guidelines Salary and Other Income While on the plan, kids will receive a monthly “salary” that will become theirs to manage. The amount of salary will be determined by the parents.  Salaries will be subject to annual review by parents, or more often as deemed necessary.  Salary will be reviewed and may be increased on the first day of each new school year at parent’s discretion according to the kid’s real needs and demonstrated ability to be an effective and wise financial manager.  Note that additional money may be earned to supplement the base salary from income producing jobs…inside the home for specific pre-agreed extra tasks for extra money beyond normal “privileges” for being a part of this family. Giving and Saving Requirements Kids must give away at least 10 percent of the total salary and other income to things that directly build God’s Kingdom.  They must save or invest at least 10 percent of total salary and other income in a real bank or other parent-approved investment vehicle.    The balance of the monthly salary will be used according to the kid’s plan and in keeping with our family’s values.  Note that kids can give additional money and/or save up more in short term savings for future larger purchases from additional earnings or under spending. Financial Responsibility List Kids will have a list of items and activities the parents will no longer pay for while the kid is receiving a monthly salary.  The list is subject to review and revision at any time by the parents.  Additional items will be added to the list on the first day of each new school year related to the increase in salary. Home Privilege Responsibility List Kids will continue to have a list of tasks they will be responsible to do as a privilege because they are part of the community of this family.  Citations with fines may be required if these tasks aren’t done in the time or manner agreed. Spending Plan and Record Kids are asked to develop a plan for how much money they intend to spend in each category and keep a record of actual expenses by category.   The next month salary will only be given after the record of all spending from the prior month is shown to parents. Once It’s Gone, It’s Gone Kids will not borrow money from anyone including parents, not even for five minutes.  There will be no “advances” on ahead of pay day.  It they run out of money before the next payday, that’s their choice, but there will be no more income until the next pay day. Hands-Off Parents will not criticize or interfere with the kid’s management decisions as long as the child follows these guidelines and demonstrates their ability to live and manage their salary according to the family’s values. Graduation Date Kids will graduate from the Gienger Good Steward Plan within two months after they are no longer full time students or when they move away from home, at which time their salary will cease.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you'd like to use the cash envelop spending system that we reference, it is helpful to have an envelop for each budget category.  That envelop gets funded at the beginning of each month with the monthly amount of cash budgeted for that category.  All cash spent for items in that budget category comes out of that envelop and you write a something on the front that describes what it was spent for.  We just used standard legal size envelops, ran them through the desktop printer and then punched holes in them so they could be held vertically in a regular three ring binder.  If you want to create your own cash spending envelops, here's a link to our word document which you can customize and print.  Envelop Spending Record At the end of each month you total up what you spent in each category as recorded on each envelop as you spent the money throughout the month.  Then you write the total amount of spending for each category on a summary spreadsheet that shows your budgeted amount for each category and the actual amount that you actually spent that month in each category.  At the beginning of each school year, we created a new list of expense items and monthly budget for those items that each child was responsible to pay for with their "salary" money.  And we also listed which expenses that mom and dad would continue to pay for.   Here's a link to the spreadsheet we used which you could customize for yourself. Spending Plans-Blank   THANK YOU! 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This week Steph and Abby are thrilled to welcome Rabbi Joshua Fixler, who just happens to be a new dad AND an amazing human being. Don't worry! This is not a religious conversation, but rather one about how a rabbi dad does it all (HINT: His wife is amazing). But then, yeah, they spiral into the meaning of life and explore how to MAKE meaning in your own family. At the end of the day, it seems like marking the good moments in your life and simply being grateful for them is what makes for good parenting - and just good human-ing. ALSO: OMG! Steph is having a baby this week! Hands Off Parents will be back after a brief maternity leave (Abby is just being lazy). Stay tuned for pics of the new baby!

This week, in between the rambles, Staph and Abby try and figure out what it means to "have rules." When implementing them and setting boundaries--such as no TV--who is really being punished? What is a strict rule anyway? Like no eating food from the garbage can or... is that OK to break sometimes when no one is looking? Also, it's Mother's Day and the ladies chat about the things they want most. Sleep. That's all they want. They also want you to share Hands Off Parents with the other parents in your life!

Stephanie Wittels Wachs is the co-creator of Rec Room HTX, beautiful host of the Hands Off Parents podcast, and a general badass who gives the girls all the space in the world to do they silly comedy they love to do. She is also a mom. (But like a cool mom, not a regular mom, even though she won't buy us beer.) We talk about married mom sex!!! Rate and review on iTunes for a special sexy treat from us!!

Hands Off Parents 40th episode! Steph and Abby are as shocked as anyone that they have kept at it. They have continued because they've been getting some fantastic and helpful emails/messages, so this week they discuss YOU! Just kidding, they discuss themselves. But the topics are directly sourced from messages you sent including: using a treasure chest to get your kid to sleep, boring mom clothing, and Pinterest craziness. Send them more messages. They love it so much! Thank you for listening for 40 episodes! Share if you want them to keep at it.

Well, they tried. They tried to pretend that all was normal in the country and their biggest issues were with their kids eating nothing but pasta and cookies together in one bowl, but they just had to talk about it. Unlike most things in this world, they couldn't just pull a Frozen and "let it go." Yep. The election. It's tomorrow. Steph and Abby are scared. What's going to happen to the country? What have we all lost in the process? What have we gained? And furthermore, how do we discuss it with our children? How have you all been discussing this with your kids? Have you? Write them and tell them on Facebook.

On this week’s episode, Steph chats with a special guest star (her husband) about the family vacation they are currently on. What are the highs and lows of traveling with kids? Is any of this worth it? Will we ever do it again? Do we still love each other and our child? Find out all of this along with great places to eat near the Grand Canyon on this week's special, on-location episode of Hands Off Parents.