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Know you upside, know your downside. "It's your world, so live in it." Johnny Clegg Every moment you are on this planet you life moves forward. You are only allocated a certain amount of time on this earth, tomorrow is never promised. Don't live in fear to live. Every decision you face can be evaluated and the best choices made, even when it all seems overwhelming.

Give up on not going for it. "Who dares wins." Special Air Services (SAS). You can only win it if you in it. All great leaders and business people fail, its not the failure that defines them, its their ability to get back up and learn from the failure.

Give up wasting time. "The trouble is, you think you have time" Jack Kornfield Remember you will die......so never stop creating your legacy and doing the things that enrich your life.

Give up your need need to be liked. "You can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, and there's still going to be people who hate peaches." Dita Von Teese You cannot be liked by everyone, get over it. Think about this....if everyone likes you, it means you disagree with no one, which in turn means you don't stand for anything specific.

Give up the toxic people. “Stay away from toxic people they have a problem for every solution.” Albert Einstein.

Give up on saying YES to things that don't support your goals. "He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly." James Allen. Successful people know that to attain their goals they have to say no to certain tasks, activities, outings and demands from their friends.

Give up your need to control everything. "Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us." Epictetus Detach from the things you cannot control, they will only cause stress and anxiety.

Give up multi tasking. "Most of the time multitasking is an illusion. You Think you are multitasking, but in reality, you are actually wasting time switching from one task to another." Bosco Tjan Don't be a "jack of all trades, master of none" do one task properly and then move on to the next.

Give up believing in the "magic bullet." "Every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better." Emile Coue Successful people improve and make adjustments every single day, they evolve. Compound these small daily improvements and over time you will see massive results. Just 1% a day means a 100% improvement in a little over 3 months!

Give up the fixed mindset. "The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways." Robert Greene Talent alone does not lead to success, unless you luck out. Successful people know that it takes hard work and perseverance. They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it enhances their lives.

Give you your excuses. "It's not about the cards you are dealt, but how you play the hand." Randy Pausch. Successful people are responsible for their lives. The starting point is not relevant. Having excuses means we will never achieve our goals as there will always be a reason why we did not.

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” — Marianne Williamson

Give up the short term mindset. "You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." Mae West

Give up the unhealthy lifestyle. "Take care of your body, its the only one you will ever have".

"Remember, being happy doesn't mean you have it all. It simply means you're thankful for all you have". Gratitude is the cornerstone of being happy and successful, if you identify what you are grateful for and actively remind yourself of this gratitude you will naturally attract positive energy and thoughts.

Its a bright, brand new New Year! Anything is achievable. The past is in the past, make the changes you want to make to your life and move on! You have a completely blank canvas - paint the picture you have always wanted.

Did You know? "You can "rewire" your brain to be happy by simply recalling 3 things you're grateful for every day for 21 days". Look back on 2018 objectively, what did you achieve, what made you happy, what could you have done better or improve on. Then sit back and decide on what you want 2019 to bring for you. Think about "resolutions", I believe in resolutions for one simple reason - its a goal, you are forced to think about the goal you want to achieve, you write it down and then actively try to achieve it!

“Next time you’re stressed, take a step back, inhale and laugh. Remember who you are and why you are here. You are never given anything in this world you cannot handle. Be strong, be flexible, love yourself and love others. Remember ALWAYS, ALWAYS keep moving forward.”

“There is no straight road where you are going”. In a perfect world we go from point A to point B in a perfectly straight line. But in real life the line is very squiggly, it goes up and down, back and forth, in squares and in circles! If you know there are obstacles, even if we do not know what they will be, we will be prepared to face them and over come them!

“We can’t effectively manage what we don’t understand or protect what we do not know.” Knowledge is power the best way to fully understand your situation and make it better, if need, is to fully understand it.

"To improve is to change, so to be perfect is to have changed often". Most people don't like change. Successful people not only change but the embrace it and welcome it! The best way to embrace change, is to control it. Be the one that makes the change, know what you want to change and make it happen, this way change seldom hijacks you!

"I never "worry" about action, but only about in action". Winston Churchill. Watch children this Christmas morning as they wake up and gather around the tree..... Look at the excitement and complete belief in those shiny wrapped presents. They knew what they wanted and they asked Santa and their parents for what they wanted, now they sit staring at the presents knowing they will get what the wanted. Believe and take action.

"Don't feel bad for outgrowing people that had the chance to grow with you". You are an unfinished product. You change and evolve and grow every single day. If you leave people behind, that's okay. Stay true to your course.

"The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are". This is so obvious but we often need to be reminded! How do you eat an elephant - one bite at a time. Silly I know, but so so true! Take that step into the unknown, the rest will work its self out.

"You can't change someone who doesn't see an issue with their actions". If someone is adamant they are right and their point of view is the only one - often they are not reasonable and open to discussion. they do not approach issues with an open and objective mind. Don't waste time with these people.... Spend your energy on positive people!

"Leadership is not about being best.Leadership is about making everyone else better". The very best leaders have a knack of getting the best out of people, having that ability to push the right buttons to get the maximum and best out of people.

"Leaders who don't listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing to say". Your subordinates have to challenge you, question you and make you better and stronger. You do not want to be surrounded by "yes" people! All they do is agree with you, not push and challenge you.

"I was raised to treat the janitor with the same respect as the CEO". Treat all people like you want to be treated. Simple.

"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal". Henry Ford Keep your eyes on the peak, that's your goal. You will go through peaks and troughs, that's just life! When you hit an obstacle, figure it out! Don't look for issues, just face them when they arise.

"The butterfly does not look back at the caterpillar in shame, just as you should not look back at your past in shame. Your past was part of your own transformation". One thing is certain you are not the same today as you were 10 years ago. You may inherently be the same person and stand for the same things but what is important to you now will certainly be different. Know too that some of your changes will be orchestrated and decided by you. While others will happen because life happens, you cannot predict live altering events like falling in love or losing a loved one and these will change the way you view life. So embrace yourself at each stage and see it as a stepping stone to the next phase.

"Stop overthinking. You can't control everything. Just let it be." There is no point in worrying yourself to death over something that you cannot change. If you can change it change it, if there is absolutely nothing that you can do then you need to let it go and get on with you life.

"I am in competition with no one. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone. I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday". If you improve by just 1% a day, so today you are better by 1% than yesterday, in just over 3 months you will be 100% improved!!

"At the end of you life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend, or a parent". Barbra Bush Live your life to its maximum. Once time is spent you can never get it back, so use it wisely.

"When you replace "why is this happening to me" with "what is he trying to teach me?" - everything shifts". One door closes, another opens. Everything happens for a reason, embrace the change with a positive, can do attitude.

"Leadership is not about titles, positions or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another." Be the change! Be the bigger person, lead by example. leadership comes in many forms - its not about authority its about people wanting to follow your lead.

Being accountable to ourselves is what helps us achieve our goals. With out holding ourselves accountable we will never attain our goals.

Sometimes the hardest battle is against yourself.....

Decisions. "We can think about things, turn them over in our minds a million times, play out possible scenarios, but really when it comes down to it, you have to go with your heart and move forward. maybe things will go well. Maybe they'll turn out poorly. Every decision brings with it some good, some bad, some lessons, and some luck. The only thing that's for sure is that indecision steals many years from many people who wind up wishing they'd just had the courage to leap."

"The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach". You cannot achieve a result if the result is not defined! Start with the biggest goal and break it into smaller goals.

"Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough". Its okay to say no! Don't be a push over, don't let people take advantage of you.

"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life's about creating yourself". You are not a "finished" article and never will be! You will constantly evolve! Keep creating the the "best" you

Abraham Lincoln - "Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be". You are what you think.... Think positive thoughts and the world will conspire with you, you will attract positive vibes, call it karma or by any other name but the universe gives you more of what you portray!

There IS such a thing as a dumb question. All my life I was of the opinion that there is no such thing as a dumb question. However, I have changed my mind..... in a world where we have such instant access to so much information most answers are close at hand. By not seeking answers and simply asking for the solution we stop using "critical" thinking, this in turn means we stop thinking at all.

Sir Richard Branson "If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you're not sure you can do it, say yes - then learn how to do it later". You're a resourceful being, you also live in a world where our access to information is more powerful than ever before. Don't pass up on opportunity - figure it out.

"I'm somewhere between giving up and seeing how much more I can take". We have all been there ....quit or fight on. So many great entrepreneurs failed but kept trying, they have "stickitivity" never roll over but keep trying. In the words of the iconic Nelson Mandela "Its not how many times you get knocked down but how many times you get up".

"Good friends help you find important things when you have lost them..... things like your smile, your hope and your courage". That's what friends are for! Your friends are your most trusted inner core of people, they love you unconditionally and always have your best interests at heart. Let them help you or be your sounding board!

On this special day take a moment to be grateful. But really grateful, reach out to someone who means a lot to you and reminisce about an old fond memory or reach out to a family member or friend who you may have fallen out with and make it right....now is the season to show your gratitude and let by gone's be gone.

"One day you'll look back and realize that you worried too much about things that really don't matter". This is in line with one of my 10 core life changing WOW moments - Will it matter in 3 weeks? Don't let something trivial ruin your day or week, make a conscious effort to address what ever it is that is causing you grief and sort it out!

"Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces people into thinking they can't lose". Be careful of judging your success against others, especially gurus or market leaders. Modern advertising will always only tell you the run away success story ...."I made $xxxxx in 2 days!!, you can too!". Can you? Absolutely, will you probably not because of the 2000 people who tried it, only one made that, how ever it doesn't mean that you cannot achieve you won goals. Set real goals, break it down into mini goals and you will succeed!

"If you don't control your mind, someone else will." In line with yesterdays lesson. Your mind is hugely powerful, you need to have control of it, fill it with positive energy and thoughts and it becomes such a powerful weapon, fill it with negative thoughts and hate and it becomes very destructive.

"When it rains look for rainbows. When it's dark, look for stars." Always look on the bright side, if you look for the positives and you look for the good, you will naturally attract the same. Call it karma or whatever else but positive breeds positive!