Podcasts about compassion based awareness therapy

Episode 024 TITLE We Didn’t Talk For 20 Years Due To A Mutual Therapist GUEST Laura Carr, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Laura Carr, LMFT and I were best friends.  We broke up and didn’t talk for 20 years due to a mutual therapist. We talk about friendship trauma and the grief associated with it. I gave Laura an ultimatum, and so did the therapist. We talk about how this impacted us, and the powerful repair work we have done since we reconnected.  The importance of owning our mistakes, and how we rebuilt trust and established safety.  The power of naming things, and HOW we practice open, vulnerable communication. I also talk at the end about the therapist that was a big part of this. HIGHLIGHTS We experience a tremendous amount of friendship trauma, but we don’t learn how to process it, so the grief and hurt gets buried, but makes it more challenging in subsequent relationships because we haven’t been taught how to process this type of trauma We really need to own our mistakes when we make them.  There is incredible power and healing when we apologize sincerely and work to make living amends.  It builds trust and safety in a relationship. Friendships have seasons, and sometimes friendships are good through certain times of our lives, but they are not meant to last forever. When we focus on rules and not on the relationship, there is no flexibility or ability to work through conflict. How do you develop trust? It takes time, and even though one can apologize, it’s laying a foundation of behaviors that back up the words to develop trust.  It takes time, and it has to be earned. The power in naming things and having depth in a relationship where we can tell the truth from a place of love, and how it brings more depth and security to the relationship The gifts of allowing ourselves to be seen when we’re in relationship with another person who honors us and reflects back our strength.  It allows us to be even more authentic. BIO Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 022 TITLE Laura Carr, LMFT Interviews Patricia Young About Being A Highly Sensitive Person GUEST Laura Carr, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Laura Carr, LMFT interviews me.  I talk about the benefits of knowing you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). We talk about when I got the idea for the podcast, and my mission for it.  I answer the questions I ask my guests about being a Highly Sensitive Person. Laura shares her initial impression when she first heard the term Highly Sensitive Person. How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast, and what I’ve learned in the past 5 months since launching the podcast.  We talk about a new definition of play that may be more suitable for HSPs. I talk about what I would have told my younger self. I talk about being loud and proud, well quiet and proud. HIGHLIGHTS When did I get the idea for the podcast? What’s the benefit of knowing you’re an HSP? Why did I start this podcast? What’s my mission for the podcast. How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast Do I feel articulate? The power of being able to see ourselves authentically. What I would want my younger self to know BIO Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/     HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

What would happen if you integrated themes from humanistic, existential, and attachment theory with the flavor of Zen Buddhism?  You might have something like this week’s guest Laura Carr’s therapeutic method: Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy.     As much as our culture loves a quick fix 12-step program, there are no quick pathways to behavior change.  In fact, behavior is typically the last thing to change.  But there are many opportunities along the way to dial into what we feel, allow ourselves to be seen, and make space for our responses.  And Laura Carr knows this as well as anyone.  By developing Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy, she has seen the profound transformations that can take shape when we are willing to pay attention to our pain and our guilt.   In this conversation, Laura and I discuss:   What Compassion-Based Awareness Therapy is and how Laura uses it in her work with couples. Why our typical view of compassion is inaccurate and what compassion really means. The differences between guilt and shame, and when they are helpful or unhelpful. What happens when we blame or are blamed while being disconnected from our bodies. The importance of being willing to sit with our own pain and discomfort and what that offers us. Taking 100% responsibility for our behavior and our relationships, and why there’s no such thing as 60/40, 70/30, 50/50. How we can determine whether our values and our habits are ones that were inscribed for us or whether they are ones that we believe in. Why the validation of being seen isn’t enough to transform us. Why seeking truth is problematic, the difference between being with the content and being with the emotion, and why going on “autopilot” makes pain seem easier to manage. How to know whether sitting with our emotions is creating more suffering or is a path to freedom. How slowing down and grounding creates spaciousness when we feel resistance. Why, for all our inner work and processing, behavior is the last thing to change. The difference between anger that is violent and anger that is productive, and teaching our children not to fear anger.     You can find Laura Carr online at cfmrsandiego.com      Referenced in this Episode:   Cheri Huber, Laura’s Zen teacher and author John Bradshaw’s work on shame Terry Real’s work on grandiosity and guilt Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning Harville Hendrix and IMAGO Relationship Theory & Therapy Plus, get a copy of Rebecca’s handout she mentions in the show here.         Have feedback to share?  We love hearing what our listeners think about the conversations we’re having here on the #POBScast.  Send us your feedback and suggestions here.