Podcasts about hsp self

In deze aflevering hebben we het over hoe astrologie jou als HSP'er kan helpen om je energie meer te bewaken en met de stroming mee te gaan i.p.v. er tegenin. Want we willen natuurlijk slimmer werken, niet harder!   Enjoy!  Hier kun je HSP Coach Celine de Meersman vinden:  https://www.instagram.com/coachedbyceline/ https://www.coachedbyceline.com/ Boek hier je Biotensor sessie:  ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/biotensor⁠⁠ Boek hier je Astrologie reading: ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/astrologiereading⁠⁠ Boek hier je Solar return reading: ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/solarreturnreading⁠⁠ Boek hier je Synastry reading: ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/synastryreading⁠⁠ Boek hier je gratis match call voor mijn coachingstraject i.c.m. biotensor & astrologie:  ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/coaching⁠⁠ Download hier je gratis astrologie gids: ⁠⁠https://www.danielapreviti.com/astrologiegids⁠⁠ Wil je nog meer over astrologie leren op mijn Instagram account?  ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/danielapreviti_/⁠⁠ Vind je eigen astrologie chart:  - ga naar www.astro.com - klik op “expert “extended chart selection” - klik op "chart drawing, ascendant" en hier mag je je gegevens invoeren :)

Today, I am welcoming Talia Joy of The Awakening Her Podcast onto the show. Talia is a manifestation mentor who is obsessed with helping lightworkers, seekers, and empaths to create a “pinch-me” life filled with purpose, abundance, and joy. Now that's something I can get behind!Today we share a conversation all about:✨ Manifestation✨ The Law of Attraction✨ What it's like to experience the world as an empath or highly sensitive person (HSP)✨ Self-care practices for empaths✨ And how to best support the empaths in your lifeMy takeaway from our time together was truly empowered to fully step into myself. And what I might have once seen as a quirk before I now know is just part of being me and embracing all that encompasses. For me, that means being a highly sensitive person, and there's such a freedom and no longer apologizing for what makes you feel different and instead celebrating it within yourself. In listening to this episode, I hope you too walk away feeling empowered to love and celebrate yourself exactly as you are today, even while making progress in the direction of your dreams!

We all know that the challenges of new motherhood can be many--and overwhelming. If you are an HSP (highly sensitive person), then those challenges may be magnified---and you probably aren’t focusing on any self-care. This topic resonates deeply with me and intrigues me in the way the trait interacts with motherhood and its challenges. Julie Bjelland is an LMFT, an HSP psychotherapist, and the author of Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person: Techniques to Reduce Anxiety and Overwhelming Emotions. Julie’s mission is to help sensitive people reduce the challenges and increase the positives.Through her website specializing in highly sensitive people (the trait also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity), she offers many valuable resources for both HSP’s and parents of sensitive children. Julie has a mission to spread awareness and education about the trait of high sensitivity and believes the world needs the gifts of sensitive people.   Show Highlights: High sensitivity is a trait and not a disorder--and it’s NOT the same as introversion (30% of HSP’s are extroverts and 20% are introverts) From Elaine Aron’s work on HSP’s: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotionally responsive, and Sensitivity to subtle stimuli (DOES) The judgment around being sensitive and its connection to weakness How scientific research shows real brain differences in HSP’s On the positive side, HSP’s are more empathetic, more aware, and more compassionate Common for the HSP mother is to put themselves at the bottom of the priority list and take care of others first Trained HSP vs. untrained HSP Self-care---a conscious action you take to lower your stress and bring you to a balanced state A key for HSP’s is getting enough sleep in order to understand and meet specific needs An HSP mom’s default setting is to be hard on themselves and focus on everyone else’s needs Certain parts of the brain in HSP moms will be overactive, like merging into everyone else’s moods and experiences Many people who seek treatment for anxiety will also have the HSP trait How HSP contributes to overall perinatal depression and anxiety, since everything changes in mind, body, and spirit Why HSP’s need creative ways to get two hours of alone time each day The tendency to measure everything in ourselves and others against the standard of perfection Self-talk, with low levels of self-compassion and criticism of themselves Common characteristics of HSP’s: perfectionism, sleep-deprived, overstimulated, and misunderstood Steps to help HSP’s: Develop self-compassion  (Kristin Neff outlines 3 steps) Take breaks when needed Practice mindfulness 50% of clients in therapy are HSP’s Supporting moms and dads better in pregnancy and the postpartum period could impact parenting differently and offer more support Using the right tools for support in children can prevent many problems and help them gain confidence and have an easier time accepting who they are   Resources:  Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person: Techniques to Reduce Anxiety and Overwhelming Emotions.by Julie Bjelland   The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron    Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff   www.juliebjelland.com Find Julie on Facebook: The Highly Sensitive Person Instagram: hsp psychotherapist Twitter: @juliebjelland LinkedIn: highly-sensitive-juliebjelland

TITLE   Jeff Guenther, LPC, Interviews Patricia About the Strengths of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)   GUEST   Jeff Guenther, LPC   EPISODE OVERVIEW   Does a client who comes to therapy need to learn to be more resilient? If a couple comes to therapy, should the focus be on getting the HSP to be less sensitive? These are questions that Jeff Guenther asks during this interview.  We also talk about how therapeutic ruptures can occur when the therapist is not aware of the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  We talk a little bit about High Sensation Seeking (HSS), and we talk about the strengths and gifts HSPs have to offer the world.   HIGHLIGHTS The interview starts with me saying that I’m tired and depleted, and we talk about why this type of authenticity is important to me We talk about introversion and extroversion and that much that we see about introverts overlays the trait of High Sensitivity, but doesn’t distinguish this I thought I had social anxiety, but it turns out I probably got overaroused and overstimulated when I was younger, and didn’t understand what it was, and assumed I had social anxiety I thought I was an introvert and used it as an excuse to not socialize Turns out, I’m a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, so I need to find my sweet spot for enough socializing, but not too much We talk about High Sensation Seeking (HSS) and what it might look like I give the statistic that men and women equally represent that trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but I neglect to say that I haven’t seen research about how those numbers impact folx who are non-binary or trans Thank you to Dara Hoffman-Fox for bringing this to my attention 50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive (HSP) They are the clients who tend to arrive on time Pay their bills on time Do homework Really want to dig in to therapy If a therapist doesn’t know about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, they may try and get their client to be like the 80% of non-HSPs, this can be detrimental to the client and cause a rupture in therapy without the therapist even realizing it When a therapist is HS Knowledgeable, their client retention increases since they are able to attune to their HS client. It’s a win-win for the therapist and the client In the brain of a HSP, more areas are active and taking in information. An HSP may gather 20 pieces of data from an interaction, and a non-HSP may gather 5. This is how mis-attunement can happen, or why HSPs see and experience things that non-HSPs miss A therapist who is HS Knowledgeable will want to be aware of how they are showing up for the client (are they tired, stressed etc.). It may help the relationship when the therapist communicates their own limitation.  It creates safety for the HS client As therapists and coaches, we want to initially do validating, mirroring, normalization, education, and then skill-building (if that’s in alignment with the client’s goals) Jeff asks if a Highly Sensitive Person came to see me, would I help them be more resilient. I ask Jeff if he’s assuming that HS clients/people need to be more resilient   GUEST BIO   Jeff Guenther, LPC, is a therapist in Portland, OR. He has been in private practice since 2005. Jeff is the creator and owner of Portland Therapy Center, a highly ranked therapist directory. He also hosts a podcast called Say More About That about trending mental health topics. Jeff has launched a new progressive therapist directory at TherapyDen that fights racism, homophobia, transphobia and all other forms of discrimination. Sign up for a profile at TherapyDen and get your first six months free.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS   Jeff’s links:   Jeff’s website-- http://jeffguentherlpc.com/ Therapy Den-- https://www.therapyden.com/ Jeff’s Podcast-- https://www.therapyden.com/news/say-more-about-that-a-podcast-about-what-clients-really-want-in-a-therapist   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Patricia’s links:   HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 33 TITLE Parenting Differently Wired Kids GUEST Deborah Reber EPISODE OVERVIEW   Podcast host, and parent to a neurodivergent son who is twice exceptional, gifted, has ADHD, and experiences challenges with Executive Functioning and Sensory Issues, Debbie talks about how parents can support their differently wired kids.  Is authoritarian parenting effective? What is attachment parenting, and how does our culture view nurturing vs. coddling? What is executive functioning? Are kids really being manipulative or is it due to lagging skills? How can we help our kids have a sense of agency, control and self-direction? What is scaffolding, and how do we teach this to our kids? Debbie gives a special message to kids who are differently wired, and a message to their parents.   HIGHLIGHTS Why self-care is imperative as parents Why vulnerability and open communication with our kids is crucial How parents can support their differently wired kids A message for parents who have kids who are differently wired A message for the kids who are differently wired Our expectations before we have a child (children), and the shifts we have an opportunity to make once we have a child who is wired differently than we are. We can choose to be authoritative parents, or parent the way we had planned, or we have an opportunity to really learn from our child and change how we parent Scaffolding—what is it and why is it important Authoritative parenting—is it effective? Our culture typically doesn’t want us to coddle or spoil our children, when in fact, we may be meeting their needs for attachment and learning in really healthy and adaptive ways (but feeling guilty because we’re not being strict or structured enough) Executive functioning and lagging skills—what is it and why is it important to know about this Kids do the best they can—Ross Greene ADHD (and other neurodiversities) are consistently inconsistent. It can look like manipulation or stubbornness or willfulness, but it’s about lagging skills Where compassion comes in to play with parenting neurodivergent kids (for the parents and the child) BIO   Deborah Reber is a parenting activist, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and speaker who moved her career in a more personal direction in 2016 when she founded TiLT Parenting, a website, weekly podcast, and social media community for parents like her who are raising differently wired children. The TiLT Parenting Podcast has grown to be a top podcast in iTunes’ Kids and Family category, with more than 1 million downloads and a slate of guests that includes high-profile thought leaders across the parenting and education space. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and ADDitude Magazine, Debbie’s newest book is Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. In November 2018, she spoke at TEDxAmsterdam, delivering a talk entitled Why the Future Will Be Differently Wired.   Prior to launching TiLT, Debbie spent more than fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. Before embarking on her own path as a solopreneur, Debbie worked in TV and video production, producing documentaries and PSAs for CARE and UNICEF, working on Blue’s Clues for Nickelodeon in New York, and developing original series for Cartoon Network in Los Angeles. She has an MA in Media Studies from the New School for Social Research and a BA in Communications from Pennsylvania State University. In December 2018, Debbie and her family relocated back to the NYC area after living in Amsterdam, the Netherlands for the past five years.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS/RESOURCES   Debbie Reber Website-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/start-here/ Tilt Parenting Podcast-- http://www.tiltparenting.com/podcast/ Differently Wired—Raising Exceptional Kids in a Conventional World by Deborah Reber TedXAmsterdam--Why the future will be differently wired https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZcrDVruby4   The Explosive Child : A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene   The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Hardcover by William Stixrud PhD (Author), Ned Johnson (Author) Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential by Peg Dawson EdD, Richard Guare PhD     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber   e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

In this episode, I discuss some life events that caused me to not make any podcasts for a few months and feelings of being overwhelmed.  We also have a great self-interview from HSP Amanda (INFJ). I'm sure you will be able to relate to so much of her HSP experience!   Episode Resources: These 3 Things Are Big Sources of Overwhelm for HSPs Amanda's YouTube Channel: Expressions Straight from the Heart   Web Twitter YouTube Support the Podcast Be on the Podcast Songs for Highly Sensitive People Supporters: Patreon Sam O. - HSP Inner Circle PayPal Vladimir P. Tamara D.

TITLE Happiness & Rewiring Your Brain Through Mindfulness & Self-Care   GUEST Anne-Kathrin Walter   EPISODE OVERVIEW I talk to Anne-Kathrin Walter, founder of HiSensitives.  We talk about what sensitivity looks like in Europe and The Netherlands compared to the United States. Anne talks about happiness and Positive Psychology and we separate this from the act of escaping our negative feelings. We talk about how our brains want to keep us in a comfortable place and how this can potentially lead to being stuck in patterns. We talk about how to use gratitude as a tool for building a positive environment as well as other exercises we can utilize in our daily lives.   HIGHLIGHTS Anne-Kathrin shares her experience with the perception of sensitivity in her home country, The Netherlands More people are coming out of their HSP closet as a result of more attention being paid to the topic We can often make the mistake of confusing our wounds with traits of being an HSP Anne-Kathrin discusses how sensitivity comes with strengths: Creativity Intuitiveness Empathy We talk about the importance of dealing with trauma in our lives Anne-Kathrin shares the benefits she has experienced through therapy, and her initial struggle with opening up to a stranger Anne-Kathrin talks about how discovering she is an HSP has offered perspective on so many aspects of her past Anne-Kathrin prefers the term ‘Highly Perceptive Person’ Anne-Kathrin explains the symbol that she created for her business HiSensitives. This symbol was so meaningful to her, that she has a tattoo of the logo she created We carefully navigate a discussion surrounding the importance of Positive Thinking and how it can be used as a tool of preparation to face our traumas, not a replacement for addressing traumatic experiences Anne-Kathrin shares the personal story of her negative spiral that lead her into what she does today with Positive Psychology Anne-Kathrin explains how negative thoughts can become patterns/safe spaces for our brains that become challenging to break away from How we can use gratitude to examine what is going well in our lives to rewire our brains away from negative spirals Depending on our background, some people need Positive Thinking and some of us need to address and honor uncomfortable feelings Anne-Kathrin shares the story of a traumatic fire that changed her life Anne-Kathrin explains guided meditation and the process of grounding Anne-Kathrin talks about using shower meditation, standing in the shower and visualizing everything that is not of positive use to you, and being cleansed of those thoughts and having them washed down the drain We discuss box breathing Anne-Kathrin encourages 21 Days of Gratitude - Reach out to 1 person a day to express something you are grateful to them for We talk about how writing down your thoughts can be a helpful exercise for letting things go We discuss the importance of surrounding ourselves with positive, supportive people We talk about Examining your daily habits, and trying to eliminate daily detractors to your mental and physical health We talk about Evaluating your daily consumption: diet, entertainment, news, social, etc. Anne-Kathrin discusses the challenges she faces as an HSP Dr. Elaine Aron suggests that HSPs get 2 hours of quiet time per day Anne-Kathrin shares her superpowers that come with being an HSP   Resources Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/   Christopher Germer: https://chrisgermer.com/   Shawn Achor: http://www.shawnachor.com/   Meditation Minis Podcast with Chel Hamilton https://meditationminis.com/   Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust   BIO Anne-Kathrin Walter is a young, highly sensitive entrepreneur from the Netherlands. In 2018, she founded the brand HiSensitives, which is a brand for highly sensitive people that aims to increase awareness and acceptance of the trait and to connect highly sensitive people worldwide. By diving into the world of positive thinking and changing her own thought patterns, Anne-Kathrin managed to transform her life and to dare to chase her dreams. Through the right relationships, a change of direction when it comes to her career and daily self-care she managed to create a HSP-friendly life for herself. .   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Anne-Kathrin Walter: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/i.am.anne.kathrn/ HiSensitives Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hisensitives/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hisensitives/ Pinterest: https://pinterest.com/Hisensitives/ Website: https://hisensitives.com/ E-Mail: Contact@hisensitives.com   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

TITLE My Husband and I Talk About How We Met and Some of the Challenges We Have in Our Marriage   GUEST Steve Young   EPISODE OVERVIEW My husband, Steve Young, and I have a candid discussion about our origin story, detailing our lives before we met; first impressions upon meeting each other, and the challenges we experience as a couple, who have been married for more than 21 years. We talk about our differences being an HSP and non-HSP, and how we navigate those areas.     HIGHLIGHTS We discuss how we met, and our first perceptions of each other Living as an HSP with a non-HSP We share different examples of how we are wired differently, and how differences in our family upbringing may have contributed to our wiring The traits that we love about our partners can also be the traits that just drive us crazy sometimes We discuss the ways that we navigate those moments of frustration or tension We share specific examples, from both perspectives, of when the differences in our personalities create challenging situations Communication is key - Discussing and naming our feelings and  fears Steve shares his thoughts about learning I was a Highly Sensitive Person--we look back on our relationship after learning this We talk about how being able to name the challenges we experience has helped with acceptance in our daily lives We discuss the importance of recognizing and honoring each other’s differences     PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures  

TITLE Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) & Understanding How to Build Trust and Strengthen Connections   GUEST Anya Surnitsky, LCSW   EPISODE OVERVIEW We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to continue our discussion about security, safety, and steps to building strong relationships. We talk about the marble jar and how trust can be established. We discuss vulnerability and how our needs can be met through connection and intimacy, as well as how to set boundaries to create safety. We include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and looking through the lens of Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN). HIGHLIGHTS Braving--the 7 components of trust from Brene Brown's work Giving ourselves permission to try and understand, that even though we experienced wounding before, that the new people in our lives won't necessarily be like the old people in our lives The Marble Jar method and, how it works in relationship building We discuss the importance of being shown by someone that you matter to them We talk about the importance of vulnerability HSPs often need to have time for transition before and after (work, getting up, arriving home, etc.) The importance for HSPs to be fully rested before having difficult conversations, so we are resilient and can be fully present We discuss how to check in with yourself; understanding where in your body, you are having reactions, and slowing down before you respond We talk about the relationship between Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), wounding, neglect, shame triggers and how to work through these things BREATHING --the 7 components of trust as outlined by Brene Brown is explained: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Fault, Integrity, Non-judgement, and Generosity   Resources Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust   CES Therapy http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/integrative-mental-health-care/201809/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation-ces-anxiety   BIO Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.     Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future.  With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.   Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core.  For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp .   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a coach & therapist in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California, and she provides coaching to people all over the world. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy or coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Links: www.couragecompasstherapy.com   Facebook: www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy   Instagram: https://instagram.com/couragecompasstherapy Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor -- David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - www.facebook.com/PitselehPictures

GUEST Anya Surnitsky, LCSW EPISODE OVERVIEW We use Brene Brown’s work on attachment to talk about security, safety, how we get our needs met, and how to survive when our needs aren't being met. What we all want is to be seen, heard, and to feel valued. Oftentimes, we are triggered due to Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and trauma, which creates conflict in our relationships. We talk about shame, and Brene Brown’s antidote, which is empathy. In order for shame to survive, it requires secrecy, silence, and judgment. HIGHLIGHTS Anya discusses her personal experience as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) We are wired for survival and connection What is attachment? Everyday examples of what attachment is, and how it is affected by the world around us We discuss fear, and how it can be used productively Safety and connection are basic needs A lot of times, in relationships, we don't feel safe during a disagreement or a conflict Shame develops when we are let-down or abandoned. We tend to question what we did wrong. Anya provides some great tools for recognizing when we get triggered, and how we can work through shame attacks in order to move from our Reptilian Brain ('T-Rex Brain') back to our frontal lobe where productive communication can take place We discuss Alice Miller's book The Drama of the Gifted Child⦁ As adults, we often begin to recognize the effects of traumatic events from our childhood We discuss trauma with a little 't' Often times, there is a direct correlation between our caregivers' parental strengths and our strengths as adults Anya shares examples for different kinds of triggers Anya explains 'Box Breathing' as an effective tool to use when we feel triggered A technique for breathing includes the concept of--'smell the roses; blow out the candles' We discuss positive ways to navigate situations when we are activated We discuss The Story We Make Up In Our Heads, and how it can be used to break up shame; feel safe in our vulnerability, and restore security in our relationships Resources Brene Brown Super Soul Sunday on trust: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-what-to-do-when-you-struggle-with-trust CES Therapy http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulationhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/integrative-mental-health-care/201809/cranial-electrotherapy-stimulation-ces-anxiety BIO Anya Surnitsky is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice outside Philadelphia, PA. She helps anxious high achievers and overgivers with big wounded hearts to transform their pain into power and avoidance into action.    Anya uses her training in EMDR, Ego State Therapy, and Childhood Emotional Neglect, as well as her certification in The Daring WayTM to aid clients in making peace with the past, embrace the present, and develop confidence for the future. Anya is passionate about educating clients on how trauma and/or neglect affects the developing brain to understand how unhealed wounds from the past show up in the present and can have a negative impact on their future.  With these various approaches, Anya shows clients how to heal from both a top-down and a bottom-up approach; we can heal the brain so it can learn to help itself, and we can also learn skills to help ourselves on a conscious level.  Throughout her personal and professional journey, Anya has learned that what people want more than anything is to be seen and heard for who they are at their core.  For Unapologetically Sensitive listeners, Anya has put together some scripts for hard conversations to help HSP’s ask to be heard and dare to be seen in their relationships. Go to www.couragecompasstherapy.com/hsp.   PODCAST HOST Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. LINKS www.couragecompasstherapy.com Facebook www.facebook.com/couragecompasstherapy Instagram @couragecompasstherapy Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/  HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/  HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2  select “view in itunes” choose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.comPodcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Editor - David Petlansky of Pitseleh Pictures - facebook.com/PitselehPictures

  Episode 25 TITLE Creativity & Feeling Like an Outsider GUEST Grace Chon EPISODE OVERVIEW Grace’s ability to connect with animals, has brought her success. Creativity is about the feelings that are evoked when we look at art, dance, etc. and how this relates to being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  Being a child of immigrant parents motivated Grace, and she talks about how she straddled traditional Korean culture and American culture, but felt invisible at school.  We talk about how being an HSP (and not knowing it), may have contributed to her sense of feeling like an outsider. Grace talks about the ways creativity shows up, but we may not identify what we’re doing as creativity. HIGHLIGHTS Creativity is your unique human expression, and everyone is creative! Creativity is just a natural innate part of being human; we all have it. It’s just a matter of tapping into it and cultivating it. Creativity is any sort of innovation, and that can come through daily activity Creativity is an expression of feeling Scarcity verse abundance mindset How Grace’s parents came to the U.S. from South Korea with $50 and a suitcase, and made new lives for themselves and their children How Grace straddled 2 cultures How People can tap into their creativity Creativity and parenting   BIO GRACE CHON is a commercial and editorial animal photographer, acclaimed for her highly expressive portraits of animals and authentic photos of people and their pets. Her clients include ad agencies, pet brands, magazines, publishing companies, celebrities, and TV shows. Now as a commercial and editorial photographer, Grace works with clients like Purina, Milkbone, Fancy Feast, Woman’s Day Magazine, Men’s Journal, and celebrities like Chris Pratt, Chelsea Handler, Clinton Kelly, Margaret Cho and Boo the Dog. Her work is featured in advertising, magazines, greeting cards, calendars, books, and television. In 2014, her photo series “Zoey and Jasper,” featuring her son and rescue dog, went viral around the world, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Mashable, Good Morning America, Buzzfeed, The Today Show, and countless mentions by the international media. In 2016, her photo series “HAIRY,” featuring dogs before and after their wildly cute haircuts, went viral again, with mentions by The Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, Refinery29, HelloGiggles, INSIDER, Yahoo, O the Oprah Magazine, Good Housekeeping, Vanity Fair Italia, and a number of international press from around the world. In 2018, newly photographed images from the “HAIRY” series went viral yet again, with mentions around the globe. Grace is also the author of 2 dog photography books - Waggish: Dogs Smiling for Dog Reasons and Puppy Styled: Japanese Dog Grooming Before and After. From creating award winning, viral ad campaigns to personal photography work that has gone viral multiple times, Grace knows how to craft ideas that get noticed. She believes the key to life is tuning in deeply to what your natural gifts are and sharing them others. She is passionate about empowering and teaching others how to do the same on her new podcast. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, son, and 2 rescue dogs Maeby and Zoey. View her photography work at www.gracechon.com. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://gracechon.com   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert   TIME The Science of Creativity To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 024 TITLE We Didn’t Talk For 20 Years Due To A Mutual Therapist GUEST Laura Carr, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Laura Carr, LMFT and I were best friends.  We broke up and didn’t talk for 20 years due to a mutual therapist. We talk about friendship trauma and the grief associated with it. I gave Laura an ultimatum, and so did the therapist. We talk about how this impacted us, and the powerful repair work we have done since we reconnected.  The importance of owning our mistakes, and how we rebuilt trust and established safety.  The power of naming things, and HOW we practice open, vulnerable communication. I also talk at the end about the therapist that was a big part of this. HIGHLIGHTS We experience a tremendous amount of friendship trauma, but we don’t learn how to process it, so the grief and hurt gets buried, but makes it more challenging in subsequent relationships because we haven’t been taught how to process this type of trauma We really need to own our mistakes when we make them.  There is incredible power and healing when we apologize sincerely and work to make living amends.  It builds trust and safety in a relationship. Friendships have seasons, and sometimes friendships are good through certain times of our lives, but they are not meant to last forever. When we focus on rules and not on the relationship, there is no flexibility or ability to work through conflict. How do you develop trust? It takes time, and even though one can apologize, it’s laying a foundation of behaviors that back up the words to develop trust.  It takes time, and it has to be earned. The power in naming things and having depth in a relationship where we can tell the truth from a place of love, and how it brings more depth and security to the relationship The gifts of allowing ourselves to be seen when we’re in relationship with another person who honors us and reflects back our strength.  It allows us to be even more authentic. BIO Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 022 TITLE Laura Carr, LMFT Interviews Patricia Young About Being A Highly Sensitive Person GUEST Laura Carr, LMFT EPISODE OVERVIEW Laura Carr, LMFT interviews me.  I talk about the benefits of knowing you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). We talk about when I got the idea for the podcast, and my mission for it.  I answer the questions I ask my guests about being a Highly Sensitive Person. Laura shares her initial impression when she first heard the term Highly Sensitive Person. How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast, and what I’ve learned in the past 5 months since launching the podcast.  We talk about a new definition of play that may be more suitable for HSPs. I talk about what I would have told my younger self. I talk about being loud and proud, well quiet and proud. HIGHLIGHTS When did I get the idea for the podcast? What’s the benefit of knowing you’re an HSP? Why did I start this podcast? What’s my mission for the podcast. How my view of myself has changed since starting the podcast Do I feel articulate? The power of being able to see ourselves authentically. What I would want my younger self to know BIO Laura Carr is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Diego, CA. Laura has been in private practice since 1998. She co-created the orientation, Compassion Based Awareness Therapy which is an approach that integrates psychological theory and mindfulness. She opened Center for Mindful Relationships (CFMR) in 2012 which offers affordable counseling services to the public. This site also offers training to therapists who are gaining hours towards their MFT licensure. Laura has many roles: a mom, wife, friend, therapist, supervisor, meditator, animal lover, athlete, entrepreneur, and student of Zen. Laura is passionate about personal growth and development.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website--https://cfmrsandiego.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/     HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 21 TITLE Intuition and Knowing Your Worth GUEST Kelly Covert EPISODE OVERVIEW We address the following questions in this episode--What is intuition? Is one’s Inner Voice ever mean or critical? How do you encourage people to get in touch with their intuition? How do we encourage or shut down intuition and communication in kids? We talk about creating meaningful relationships with your children instead of letting rules dictate the relationship. Kelly shares about creating a family mission statement. HIGHLIGHTS Intuition is that inner voice/wisdom We all have intuition It’s a Divine part of who you are We just need to take time to listen to it Intuition is never mean or critical—that’s our ego, which comes from our head How do you encourage people to explore their intuition: Listen to your inner voice Find practices that get us still enough to hear it Journaling (or verbally processing) to get our of your head How do you encourage intuition and communication in kids? Lead by example Ask the right questions Put the relationship before the punishment or judgment How can you tell the difference between intuition and fear? Intuition is never mean Inner mean girls and critical voices are egocentric What’s your superpower as an HSP? If you listen deeply, you can hear other people’s inner voices, and you can help people connect to their inner voice. I have amazing ideas for other people that come to me through Divine Inspiration “Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.” What would you tell your younger self? You are enough. You don’t have to try so hard “My inner voice is loving. It knows my worth, and that I am worthy. It guides me. It’s powerful, encouraging and it can show us the error of our ways.” BIO Kelly Covert is an inner voice coach with a passion for helping women believe and achieve their big vision by connecting deeply with the wisdom that is inside of them all while owning their worthiness each and every day. Through her intuitive, heart-centered coaching, she helps women awaken to their true power as creators and world-changers.  She is the creator and host of In Her Voice, a podcast for women who feel called to more - to lead, to create, to dream and to change the world. Her work has been featured on The Huffington Post, The Elephant Journal, YourTango.com, and she has been a featured guest on many podcasts.  Kelly is also a professional flutist with Symphoria, a wife and the mother of 2 boys, 15 and 12, and 1 beautiful beagle named Piper. PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Many clients who come to see her experience depression & anxiety, and they report struggling with perfectionism and not feeling good enough. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website-- https://www.kellycovert.com/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/kellyjcovert/ Twitter-- https://twitter.com/Kellyjcovert   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff   Dr. Ross Greene--https://www.livesinthebalance.org/ The Explosive Child Dr. Ross Greene Lost at School Dr. Ross Greene   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Episode 20 TITLE Part 2 Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), & the HSP GUEST Dr. Erika Martinez EPISODE OVERVIEW What is Childhood Emotional Neglect and how does it affect non-HSPs and HSPs? A Highly Sensitive Person being raised by a non-HSP parent could cause CEN. Some symptoms of CEN-- feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out. We talk about vantage sensitivity, attachment styles and exercises to work with CEN. HIGHLIGHTS What is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)? A Lack of parental attunement to the child’s emotional needs, and a lack of responsiveness to their emotional needs CEN is such an invisible thing—it’s what failed to happen for you     Symptoms of CEN—feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out   If you’re an HSP, and your parents were non-HSPs, that in and of itself could cause CEN   Counterdependence—difficulty asking for help   Notes from Dr. Jonice Webb’s article “Childhood Emotional Neglect Undermines the Highly Sensitive Person’s Best Strengths “You feel things deeply and powerfully…When you grow up emotionally neglected, you learn that your emotions are useless and should be ignored and hidden. This takes your powerful force from within, disempowers it, and perhaps even shames you for having it.” “You are a deep thinker who needs to have meaning and purpose in your life…you get the message that your feelings don’t matter…since your emotions are the most deeply personal expression of who you are, it’s natural for you as a child to internalize the message as ‘I don’t matter.’…going through your adult life, you tend to feel less important than other people, and this undermines your ability to experience yourself and your life as meaningful and important. “Your intense feelings and your need to have meaning and purpose in your life both make your relationships heartfelt and genuine…you miss out on the opportunity to learn how to understand and manage your emotions and the emotions of others. Truth or Myth—Because I have CEN and had to learn to read the environment to survive, the CEN CAUSED me to be an HSP Vantage Sensitivity—HSPs will thrive and benefit more in a positive environment than non-HSPs, and conversely, HSPs will be more negatively affected in adverse environments (CEN) than non-HSPs. So HSPs respond better and worse in positive and negative environments/settings than non-HSPs When HSPs find themselves in environments that don’t validate and mirror their feelings, they develop coping mechanisms to push down and bury their emotional world. The HSP learns to “dim” or turn down their emotions to fit in the household, but it comes at the expense of their HSP gifts. 4 Types of Attachment Styles—the 1st is a secure style and the remaining 3 are insecure style Secure attachment Dismissive or avoidant—they don’t connect or seek out relationships Anxious or preoccupied—they’re very worried about being in a relationship; they’re worried about their partner, or their partner’s needs. There can be excessive rumination/worry and racing thoughts Fearful or avoidant—they seek out relationships, then they run away from them. It’s a yo-yo relationship Shame Shields from Dr. Brene Brown’s Research Move toward people—anxious, preoccupied. They tend to be perfectionistic or people-pleasing Move away/withdraw--dismissive Move against—aggressive (passive aggressive), act out, fearful, avoidant, condescending Specific exercises from the book Running on Empty by Dr. Jonice Webb Understand the purpose and value of emotions Alexithymia—being emotionally illiterate and having a difficult time understanding the behavior of other people Identify your own emotions 3x/day Monitor your feelings and how they shift throughout the day Accept and trust your feelings Learn to express yourself effectively Self-care and self-compassion Self-discipline (there is usually an excess of or a lack of)   BIO Erika Martinez, Psy.D., a Florida licensed psychologist and certified educator, specializes in the assessment and treatment of a variety of mental health conditions in young adults. Combing her expertise in neuropsychology, assessment, trauma, and shame resilience, she helps others explore life’s challenging areas and brainstorm solutions using their personal strengths. With greater self-awareness and confidence, they are able to move forward and lead personally and professionally rewarding lives. Dr. Martinez provides therapy to high-achievers, professional millennials, and entrepreneurs facing quarter-life crises, relationship meltdowns, and existential dilemmas which can present as a myriad of symptoms including anxiety, destructive behaviors, self-sabotage, depression, loneliness, burn out, poor self-esteem, shame, and impaired social skills.  She previously worked in graphic design, human resources, and community mental health.  Prior to private practice, she worked in secondary and university public education settings for a decade helping parents, educators, and counselors better understand and serve students with AD/HD, Giftedness, and learning disabilities.  Dr. Martinez is also a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (CDWF), bringing the groundbreaking research and curriculum on vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness developed by Dr. Brené Brown to South Florida.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website https://envisionwellness.co Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/ErikaMartinezPsyDCoralGables Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/envisionwellnessco/   https://drjonicewebb.com/   https://drjonicewebb.com/how-childhood-emotional-neglect-undermines-the-highly-sensitive-persons-3-greatest-strengths/   Running on Empty Dr. Jonice Webb Running on Empty No More Dr. Jonice Webb   Daring Greatly Dr. Brene Brown Rising Strong Dr. Brene Brown Gifts of Imperfection Dr. Brene Brown   Ted Talks Brene Brown The Power of Vulnerability https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en Listening to Shame https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame/transcript?language=en   Daring Way Weekend Intensive (Dr. Brene Brown’s work) https://thedaringway.org/group/rising-strong-daring-way-weekend-intensive/     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 20 TITLE Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and the HSP GUEST Dr. Erika Martinez EPISODE OVERVIEW What is Childhood Emotional Neglect and how does it affect non-HSPs and HSPs? These are some symptoms of CEN-- feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out. Dr. Martinez talks about how to identify CEN and ways to begin the healing process. HIGHLIGHTS What is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)? A Lack of parental attunement to the child’s emotional needs, and a lack of responsiveness to their emotional needs CEN is such an invisible thing—it’s what failed to happen for you     Symptoms of CEN—feelings of emptiness (a void), feeling deeply and fatally flawed; don’t feel good enough; feeling unlovable/unlikable; seeking external validation to know you’re ok; being very self-sufficient; may have been parentified, may struggle with being assertive, being angry, experience self-blame; have a hard time asking for help; may have trust issues, may be anxious, depressed or stressed out   The HSP in a household with CEN is often the scapegoat and they are ridiculed for their deep processing of emotion. They can feel very wrong, and like they don’t fit in. Sometimes they are referred to as the blacksheep of the family. They are the “disrupter.” Often this person is the healthiest and most differentiated in the family and they are often the “truth teller.”   3 types of groups parents fall into Self-involved, narcissistic, sociopath, addicted, authoritarian Struggling parents—depressed, bereaved, divorced, special needs children or caring for relatives or aging parents Well-meaning—neglected as children, workaholics, achievement oriented, perfectionistic, permissive, tiger parents   Counterdependence—difficulty asking for help   BIO Erika Martinez, Psy.D., a Florida licensed psychologist and certified educator, specializes in the assessment and treatment of a variety of mental health conditions in young adults. Combing her expertise in neuropsychology, assessment, trauma, and shame resilience, she helps others explore life’s challenging areas and brainstorm solutions using their personal strengths. With greater self-awareness and confidence, they are able to move forward and lead personally and professionally rewarding lives. Dr. Martinez provides therapy to high-achievers, professional millennials, and entrepreneurs facing quarter-life crises, relationship meltdowns, and existential dilemmas which can present as a myriad of symptoms including anxiety, destructive behaviors, self-sabotage, depression, loneliness, burn out, poor self-esteem, shame, and impaired social skills.  She previously worked in graphic design, human resources, and community mental health.  Prior to private practice, she worked in secondary and university public education settings for a decade helping parents, educators, and counselors better understand and serve students with AD/HD, Giftedness, and learning disabilities.  Dr. Martinez is also a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator (CDWF), bringing the groundbreaking research and curriculum on vulnerability, courage, shame, and worthiness developed by Dr. Brené Brown to South Florida.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS Website https://envisionwellness.co Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/ErikaMartinezPsyDCoralGables Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/envisionwellnessco/   https://drjonicewebb.com/   https://drjonicewebb.com/how-childhood-emotional-neglect-undermines-the-highly-sensitive-persons-3-greatest-strengths/   Running on Empty Dr. Jonice Webb Running on Empty No More Dr. Jonice Webb         Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   Dr. Ted Zeff’s website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/ Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 19 TITLE The Key To Helping Someone with Rejection Sensitivity is Helping Them Develop a Sense of Security GUEST Jared DeFife Ph.D. EPISODE OVERVIEW Dr. DeFife works with people who are emotionally intense, tend to be perfectionistic and sensitive to criticism. He talks about Rejection Sensitivity, which has 3 primary components. Dr. DeFife talks about the 3 Cs to help if you experience Rejection Sensitivity.  We talk about 2 types of perfectionism, muscle dysmorphia and the benefits of self-disclosure and authenticity by therapists in the therapeutic relationship. HIGHLIGHTS Rejection Sensitivity Anxious anticipation of [rejection] Ready perception of [seeing rejection in neutral situations when it may not be there] Intense reaction to [criticism, failure, set backs, exclusion, lack of belonging] Rejection Sensitivity is highly correlated with aggression and hostililty—this can look like behavior that is snide or snippy. The person engages in hostile and rejecting behavior, then creates the rejection due to their behavior. The person ends up creating what they are most afraid of. They get into this vicious cycle. Rejection Sensitivity can also include reactions where the person engages in social avoidance or shutting down. Rejection Sensitivity is a process that people engage in to avoid feeling shame. In Anxious Anticipation Of—the person imagines that they probably won’t be accepted or liked before the interaction. They may imagine that the other person will think they’re stupid. Perfectionism isn’t really about wanting things to be perfect At the root, it’s that other people will see that we’re defective and inadequate Perfectionism can be a survival skill for some, and if you take it away, you’re taking away the way they believe they can fit in. There are different types of perfectionism Self-oriented perfectionism—competing against yourself (like an athlete would). This can be a healthy form of perfectionism. Socially prescribed perfectionism—If I don’t get this right, people will think I’m an idiot, or I’ll be rejected.     Rejection Sensitivity is transdiagnostic—you will see it across many different diagnoses like depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders and substance use disorders. Muscle dysmorphia—"is a subtype ofbody dysmorphic disorder (BDD), in which people, mostly males, are obsessed with the size of their muscles.  They worry that they are not muscular or lean enough or that their bodies are too underdeveloped and weak.  Their symptoms cause significant distress and hinder their ability to socialize, go to work, and/or participate in daily activities.  In many cases, people with muscle dysmorphia have average or above average muscularity.”  Quoted from https://mghocd.org/what-is-muscle-dysmorphia/ The Key to helping someone with Rejection Sensitivity is to help them develop a sense of security. The way to do this is with the 2 Cs Calmness—to calm down that fueled intense reactivity Clarity—learning what your wants and needs are, and knowing your life story so you are clear about your own desires, motivations and interests Connections—having safe relationships with others where you can be vulnerable, and open with others and you don’t have to keep your feelings to yourself Being a psychologically health person isn’t about being a perfect person. Of course it’s  about being vulnerable RESOURCES— Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing With Rejection Elayne Savage PhD Books by Brene Brown--https://www.google.com/search?q=brene+brown+books&oq=brene+brown+books&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.2786j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Mentalization Based Therapy Schema Therapy DBT—Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Metacognitive Interpersonal Therapy Radically Open DBT   BIO Jared DeFife, PhD (www.jareddefife.com) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Atlanta, GA and an Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Emory University School of Medicine. Dr. DeFife specializes in helping people who identify as “emotionally intense”, perfectionistic, self-critical, and interpersonally sensitive to criticism or rejection. His practice integrates from interpersonal and personality-focused therapies drawing from Schema-Focused, Mentalization-Based, and RO-DBT approaches for chronic depression/anxiety, interpersonal problems, and personality disorder concerns. Dr. DeFife has published widely in professional journals and been a frequent media commentator on mental health and interpersonal relationships for numerous television, podcast, and print outlets including the BBC World News, Psychotherapy Networker, Yahoo! Health, Self, Bustle, Women’s Health and Men’s Health magazines, and The Huffington Post. He is a regular blog contributor to Psychology Today.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. LINKS Website—https://www.jareddefife.com/   http://grantome.com/grant/NIH/R01-MH081948-04   https://www.ffri.hr/~ibrdar/komunikacija/seminari/Downey,%201996%20-%20Rejection%20Sensitivity%20for%20intimate%20relationsh.pdf   https://www.researchgate.net/publication/200008742_Self-esteem_and_rejection_sensitivity_in_close_relationships     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 017 Part 2 TITLE Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist GUEST Dara Hoffman-Fox EPISODE OVERVIEW Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns Dara uses.  Dara defines CIS gender, and we explore microagressions (how they show up in the LGBTQ+ population, and how Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPS) may experience them on a daily basis. Dara also discusses the challenges in trying to get the gender markers changed with the DMV to reflect Dara’s non-binary status. BIO DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook pWage, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com. LINKS Websites: http://darahoffmanfox.com/ http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/ http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com Facebook (friend request): https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3  Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/ Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy: https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language. https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/ http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/ HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review"  Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 017 Part I TITLE Conversations with a Non-Binary HSP Therapist GUEST Dara Hoffman-Fox EPISODE OVERVIEW Dara talks about being non-binary, and the challenges with the use of language and pronouns that many non-binary persons encounter.  We discuss topics that include defining “transgender,” as well as what it’s like to go through what feels like the “wrong” puberty, which can be one of the more challenging aspects of the experience of being transgender. Dara also talks about the distinction between sexual orientation and gender identity; defines “cisgender,” and why using a person’s pronouns are important. I also talk about my concern and worry about wanting to use the “right” language, and having to think SO hard because I want to be respectful, because it takes a lot of concentration to use new language. BIO DARA HOFFMAN-FOX, LPC, is a queer-identified gender therapist in private practice in Colorado Springs, CO. As a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues, Dara is the creator of the "Conversations with a Gender Therapist" YouTube channel as well as the author of the Amazon #1 bestseller YOU AND YOUR GENDER IDENTITY: A GUIDE TO DISCOVERY. Dara's goal is to get as much education, resources, and support out there as possible to the trans and gender-questioning persons of the world. Through the magic of the internet Dara is am able to do this through their Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and Facebook page, media and podcast interviews, and the content you’ll find on their website, found at darahoffmanfox.com.  LINKS Websites: http://darahoffmanfox.com/ http://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/ http://www.thebohemiansanctuary.com  Facebook (friend request): https://www.facebook.com/dara.hoffman.3  Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/darahoffmanfoxlpc/  Trans-Affirming Therapists Academy: https://trans-affirming-therapists-academy.teachable.com/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/darahoffmanfox An in-depth article about the "do's and don'ts" of trans-sensitive language. https://radicalcopyeditor.com/2017/08/31/transgender-style-guide/   http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/ Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/ HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/ Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/ To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 16 TITLE The Gift Of Vulnerability is Connection; That’s Why I Take the Risk GUEST Christina Miglino EPISODE OVERVIEW The gifts of vulnerability! What is vulnerability? Why would you want to be vulnerable? What makes it difficult to be vulnerable? How shame can inhibit vulnerability.  Calling our power back. We also talk about the connection between courage and vulnerability by Brene Brown. HIGHLIGHTS I didn’t really fit the model of the 9-5er who’s hustling to make ends meet Being highly sensitive means I need breaks; I need time alone; I need to pay attention to my energy systems I get to own my schedule and make time for the things that do matter and allow me to perform really well and to be my best self in my work I’m highly sensitive and I’ve pushed myself to a level that is totally unhealthy work wise Symptoms can be like arrows pointing to where we need to slow down Symptoms can include—migraines, fatigue, depression, overwhelm, irritability, being more negative We get to see that we’re more similar than different It’s not unusual for someone to feel too afraid to step through that [being vulnerable] and expose themselves Fear keeps me from being vulnerable because I’m afraid I’m going to be rejected Brene Brown defines vulnerability as having these elements uncertainty emotional risk emotional exposure Brene Brown talks about the relationship between courage and vulnerability Can’t have courage without vulnerability Can you think of a time when you were courageous and you DIDN’T have Uncertainty Risk Emotional exposure BIO Christina Miglino is a Soul Catalyst, Shamanic Practitioner, and Artist, who has traveled all over the US and Canada as a Teacher, Healer and Public Speaker. She has hosted and taught many workshops on Personal Power, Leadership and Emotional Intelligence.   Christina is passionate about supporting people in upleveling their soul’s ascension process, stepping into their power and listening more to their intuition so that they can have the life and business that they were meant for.    She currently has open enrollment for her 9-month Group Program called, The Sea Within for visionary soul’s seeking to activate their creativity and soul’s potential! for more information about that program please send an email.   LINKS Email: info@christinamiglino.com  Website: www.christinamiglino.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christina.miglino Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinamiglino/   Glennon Doyle Melton   Brene Brown—Courage and vulnerability   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

  EPISODE Episode 15 TITLE Releasing Accumulated Belongings Can Lead to Greater Freedom in all Areas of Life GUEST Michael Spencer EPISODE OVERVIEW I admit for the first time in my life that I’m a closeted woo, and I came out of my baby woo closet. Michael is Super Woo (I called it Woo factorial). We talk about how accumulating stuff can impact how we feel and how energy can get stuck when things pile up in our homes.  Michael talks about ways to shift the energy, and energy tools we can use to help in this process. We talk about Marie Kondo and her book and Netflix show Tidying Up, and ways as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we can modify her techniques, so we don’t get overwhelmed.  Energy vibration includes feelings like sadness, anger, depression, gremlins, joy, happiness, hopefulness, optimism and excitement. HIGHLIGHTS We can use our intention to tune in in to the vibration of objects We can use energy tools (sound, crystals, sage) to help move stuck or stagnant energy in things or in our environment Everything in the universe is made of energy We can shift the energy of our homes When we feel stuck or stagnant, it’s possible we are ignoring or denying a part of ourselves Part of how we tend to ourselves is by gently and mindfully exploring the possibility of shifting the energy and our relationship to our stuff There’s a difference between seasonal storage that we pull out regularly, and the other stuff that has been put away and has been left there. We often have emotions around clearing our stuff We need to honor how we clear our spaces so we don’t get overwhelmed BIO Michael Spencer is the founder of Let's Purify!, an online business dedicated to the purification and upliftment of the home energy of our living spaces, personal energy fields, and our planet. Michael has honed a process called Home Energy Purification to help soulful people release attachments to accumulated belongings and experience greater freedom in all areas of life. With training as a mental health counselor, Reiki practitioner, and Modern Day Priestess, Michael brings a wide variety of expertise - and a whole lot of heart - to her services. You can connect with Michael on her website - letspurify.energy - and her podcast - The Let's Purify! Podcast. You can also sign up for Michael's email list on the Home Page of her website. When you do, you'll receive her free giveaway: 15 Clarity-Boosting Questions for Decluttering and Purifying LINKS Website: letspurify.energy Podcast: The Let's Purify! Podcast  - website link: https://letspurify.energy/podcast/ iTunes link: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lets-purify-podcast/id1428645349?mt=2 Email: michael@letspurify.energy   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Marie Kondo The life Changing Magic of tidying up Netflix: Tidying Up with Marie Kondo   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

EPISODE Episode 014 TITLE What Exactly Is a Highly Sensitive Person, co-hosted with Matthew Morgan, LPCC GUEST Matthew Morgan, LPCC EPISODE OVERVIEW We talk about the 4 Core Characteristics that encompass being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP); how our culture views sensitivity; how to tease out our superpowers; the correlation between depression, anxiety and being a Highly Sensitive Person. Why being an HSP is genetically a survival strategy and how this trait has been identified in over 100 animal species.  How to deal with overstimulation and overwhelm and ways to cope and manage.  The 5 things HSPs need. All the data in this episode is based on the research by Dr. Elaine Aron who initially researched the trait, then named it. HIGHLIGHTS 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S Depth of processing Overarousability & Overstimulation Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy Sensory Sensitivity Being an HSP is an innate trait 30% of HSPs are extroverts; 70% are introverts High Sensation Seekers (HSS) Inherent problem with being an HSP is being easily overstimulated How to cope What is good self-care Sleep and the HSP 5 Things HSPs need Believe the trait is real Reframe the past Heal traumas Don’t live like the other 80% Surround yourself with other HSPs Mirror Neurons Differential Susceptibility BIO Matthew E. Morgan has run the gamut of careers: starting out as a youth minister after earning his BA in Biblical Studies and Pastoral Ministries, he also taught high school while earning his Master of Arts degree in Professional Counseling from Liberty University in Virginia.  He has dedicated his life to helping families recover or reconnect. Matthew has been married for over 20 years. After 13 years of struggling with infertility as a couple, they welcomed their son – a very unexpected blessing. When not spending time with his family, Matthew enjoys writing, gardening, and gaming.      LINKS http://covenantfamilywellness.com/about-cfw/ https://www.facebook.com/ourcfw/   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   Susan Cain Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking   Movie—Inside Out   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 13 TITLE Parent Your Highly Sensitive Child Like a Ninja GUEST Megghan Thompson, LCPC EPISODE OVERVIEW Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) can be challenging—especially if your child has meltdowns.  Megghan talks about the Shame Meltdown Cycle; What works to raise an HSC; how to avoid sending the message to your child that that they are wrong; how to communicate with your HSC to strengthen your relationship, and effective ways to communicate with your child to build a solid relationship and mirror your child’s strengths.  We talk about the challenges that external validation (reward/sticker programs) pose as well as ways to avoid communicating in a way that increases shame and perfectionism. highlights DBT—Dialetctical Behavioral Therapy Vantage Sensitivity—when parents change how they parent, the Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) will benefit more than a non-HSC, and the HSC will feel better about themselves. The HSC will thrive and do much better and will respond faster than a non HSC. Differential Susceptibility—Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) suffer more in highly negative environments compared to non HSPs. The opposite is also true in the HSPs benefit more in highly positive environments than non HSPs. HSPs/HSCs also notice more positive things in positive environments A little bit of positivity can give an HSP hope, but if an HSC is having frequent meltdowns, they end up feeling incapable and say things like, “You guys would be better off without me.” Or “I wish I was in a different family.” “I wish I were dead.” For children, a little bit of positivity goes a long way Traditional parenting says it’s the child that needs to learn skills, but Megghan has learned that when the family changes the environment and how they parent, everyone benefits The HSC changes how he/she feels about himself/herself when the parents change the environment Shame can be pervasive for HSCs and HSPs   Shame Meltdown Cycle— The HSC feels shame—I’m a bad kid; I didn’t do it fast enough or good enough This is followed by having big feelings—they are told not to worry They learn to hide their emotions, internalize, or think there is something wrong with them What does the HSC do with these feelings—they learn to stuff, bottle or deny their feelings Eventually the child explodes They are given a consequence, but there is no repair work; no tools taught, the family is still not talking about feelings or validating the HSC’s feelings so the cycle repeats itself Don’t tell your child not to worry! It’s really important to validate their feelings!   BIO   Megghan Thompson is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor and Parent Coach who has specialized in working with Highly Sensitive Children and their parents for a decade. She helps parents eliminate daily meltdowns in as little as 8 weeks without giving in or doing a complete overhaul of their household, and strengthen the relationship with their child in the process. Growing up with a Highly Sensitive sister, she also has firsthand experience of the struggles families face when they don't understand the needs of Highly Sensitive Children. She has extensive training and experience working with sensitive teens who engage in self-harmful and life-threatening behaviors, and has made it her mission to build an army of ninja parents of Highly Sensitive Children to prevent this from happening for other sensitive kids and their families.  She owns a group practice in Mount Airy, Maryland that specializes in treating Highly Sensitive Children, teens, and their families. You can find her on Facebook through her group: Parent Your Highly Sensitive Child Like a Ninja, and a link to her free training for parents of HSCs will be in the show notes.   LINKS Parent Your Highly Sensitive Child Like a Ninja Facebook Group: https://goo.gl/yTre1h Free Parent Training: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/p/5steps Schedule a Free Consultation: https://www.megghanthompsoncoaching.com/p/talk     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

EPISODE Episode 12 TITLE How To Navigate Challenges in Relationships GUEST Solo episode—Patricia Young EPISODE OVERVIEW Navigating conflict and having competing needs in relationships can be difficult.  How do we evaluate if our friendships are meeting our needs? I provide criteria that may be helpful when evaluating relationships and compatibility.  What do we do when there is a stressor in a relationship, and it causes a breakdown in the relationship? We aren’t often taught how to choose relationships; what to do when our needs aren’t getting met, and as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), we tend to be loyal (sometimes to a fault), and we feel guilty renegotiating relationships, or leaving relationships when they don’t work for us anymore.  I provide information to Dr. Elaine Aron’s website if you’re curious to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).  BIO Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice, and sees clients who live in California via online therapy.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  HIGHLIGHTS Sometimes relationships work until there is a stressor, and the relationship (or the skills that one or both of the individuals have) cannot tolerate the stressor, and this can cause a relationship to decline or end Values to check for in relationships Depth of processing Similar interests Does the person have the capacity to manage intense feelings? What is their emotional literacy (emotional intelligence) are they able to identify their feelings Are they introspective Do they have insight Into their own behavior Into their triggers Can they handle when there is conflict Can they handle when there are competing needs How vulnerable are they willing to be How much time do they want to spend together in the relationship How available are they Are they dependable Can you count on them when you need them   LINKS Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

EPISODE 011 TITLE I’ve been high achieving, and I’ve been reinforced for that; to be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity GUEST Allison Puryear, EPISODE OVERVIEW Allison talks about having to slow down for health reasons and how this impacted her sense of worth and value.  What do you do when you’re a striver and you’re used to pushing through?  How to set up structure to support having more balance. We talk about being in the sandwich (or panini) generation, where you’re getting “pressed” from both generations.  How to manage caring for, and attending to parents and children and managing medical appointments, disappointing news, and taking care of yourself. Allison utilizes her DBT, ACT, CBT skills to manage high stress levels. We talk about how to see if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, and we talk about that 30% of HSPs are extroverts and 70% are introverts.  Jaquelyn Strickland has written an article on being an HS Extrovert. We review the 4 traits of Highly Sensitive People (DOES)—Depth of Processing, Overarousal/overstimulation, Emotional responsiveness/empathy and Sensory Sensitivity.  WE talk about courage and vulnerability and Brene Brown’s work.  We also talk about Allison’s guest appearance on Lauren Selfridge’s podcast This Is Not What I Ordered. BIO Allison Puryear is an LCSW with a nearly diagnosable obsession with business development. She has started practices in three different states and wants you to know that building a private practice is shockingly doable when you have a plan and support. She teaches everything you need to know about building a private practice in the Abundance Party, where you can get practice-building help for the cost of a copay. You can download a free private practice checklist to make sure you have your ducks in a row, listen in on consultations and interviews on the Abundant Practice Podcast, and hop into the free Facebook Group full of over 13,000 other clinicians in private practice. Allison is all about helping you gain the confidence and tools you need to succeed. HIGHLIGHTS 4 Characteristics of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) D-O-E-S Depth of processing Overarousability /Overstimulation Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy Sensory Sensitivity Monthly check-in asking What is important to me? My health Managing stress levels (which is a trigger for poor health) Making sleep a priority Family Business It’s easy to use scheduling as a way to avoid feelings Feel the feeling, AND look at the schedule What are the things that are important (paper and action) Does your schedule reflect your values? Leave computer at home No work apps on phone   QUOTES My worth doesn’t lie in what I create I had to sit with the feeling that people are disappointed that I’m only putting out one piece of content now instead of four. What if people are let down by the shift? What does that mean about me? It doesn’t mean anything, what somebody else thinks about me. For my whole life I’ve been high achieving and I’ve been reinforced for that To be moderately achieving felt like I’d lost a piece of my identity I was driving myself too hard for something people weren’t even asking for I would love to be one of those people who learns from others’ mistakes, but most of the time I have to fail on my own I have this rule—If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no You can have frustration tolerance and be tough and handle what’s thrown at you, AND be highly sensitive LINKS https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/ https://abundanceparty.com/join-now   Allison’s guest appearance on the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered with Lauren Selfridge-- http://thisisnotwhatiordered.libsyn.com/27-entrepreneurship-chronic-illness-with-allison-puryear   Dr. Elaine Aron’s website—https://hsperson.com   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail--info@unapologeticallysensitive.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

We all know that the challenges of new motherhood can be many--and overwhelming. If you are an HSP (highly sensitive person), then those challenges may be magnified---and you probably aren’t focusing on any self-care. This topic resonates deeply with me and intrigues me in the way the trait interacts with motherhood and its challenges.   Julie Bjelland is an LMFT, an HSP psychotherapist, and the author of Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person: Techniques to Reduce Anxiety and Overwhelming Emotions. Julie’s mission is to help sensitive people reduce the challenges and increase the positives.Through her website specializing in highly sensitive people (the trait also known as Sensory Processing Sensitivity), she offers many valuable resources for both HSP’s and parents of sensitive children. Julie has a mission to spread awareness and education about the trait of high sensitivity and believes the world needs the gifts of sensitive people.   Show Highlights:   High sensitivity is a trait and not a disorder--and it’s NOT the same as introversion (30% of HSP’s are extroverts and 20% are introverts) From Elaine Aron’s work on HSP’s: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotionally responsive, and Sensitivity to subtle stimuli (DOES) The judgment around being sensitive and its connection to weakness How scientific research shows real brain differences in HSP’s On the positive side, HSP’s are more empathetic, more aware, and more compassionate Common for the HSP mother is to put themselves at the bottom of the priority list and take care of others first Trained HSP vs. untrained HSP Self-care---a conscious action you take to lower your stress and bring you to a balanced state A key for HSP’s is getting enough sleep in order to understand and meet specific needs An HSP mom’s default setting is to be hard on themselves and focus on everyone else’s needs Certain parts of the brain in HSP moms will be overactive, like merging into everyone else’s moods and experiences Many people who seek treatment for anxiety will also have the HSP trait How HSP contributes to overall perinatal depression and anxiety, since everything changes in mind, body, and spirit Why HSP’s need creative ways to get two hours of alone time each day The tendency to measure everything in ourselves and others against the standard of perfection Self-talk, with low levels of self-compassion and criticism of themselves Common characteristics of HSP’s: perfectionism, sleep-deprived, overstimulated, and misunderstood Steps to help HSP’s: Develop self-compassion  (Kristin Neff outlines 3 steps) Take breaks when needed Practice mindfulness 50% of clients in therapy are HSP’s Supporting moms and dads better in pregnancy and the postpartum period could impact parenting differently and offer more support Using the right tools for support in children can prevent many problems and help them gain confidence and have an easier time accepting who they are   Resources:  Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person: Techniques to Reduce Anxiety and Overwhelming Emotions.by Julie Bjelland   The Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron    Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff   www.juliebjelland.com Find Julie on Facebook: The Highly Sensitive Person Instagram: hsp psychotherapist Twitter: @juliebjelland LinkedIn: highly-sensitive-juliebjelland

GUEST: CANDY CRAWFORD Candy Crawford, MSW, LCSW, is a therapist, educator, and advocate for highly sensitive people. She maintains a private practice in the Chicago area, where she specializes in working with the highly sensitive and facilitates workshops and retreats in collaboration with Elaine Aron, research psychologist and pioneer in the study of this trait. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON FACTS: Highly Sensitive Person is a layman’s term. The scientific name is Sensory Processing Sensitivity. It is innate and occurs in 20% of the population. Therefore, 1 in 5 people have this trait. It is not a disorder or developmental issue. It occurs equally in men and women. 70% are introverted. 30% are extroverted. The tendency is found in the immune system, as well as the central nervous system. It is found in over 100 animal species. FOUR PILLARS OF HSP: D.O.E.S. D: Depth of processing. O: Over arousal or overwhelm. E: Emotional intensity. S: Sensory sensitivity. “Our brain is processing information in a more concentrated form.” By Candy Crawford HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM HIGHLY SENSITIVE? If you think you might be a Highly Sensitive Person, you may want to take a self assessment test to get an indication (by Elaine Aron). Here are a couple of examples from Elaine Aron’s HSP Self-test: “I am easily overwhelmed by strong sensory input.” “I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.” “I have a rich, complex inner life.” “I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.” If you are a parent and want to determine if your child is a HSP, then you can take this self-test to identify if your child has the trait. BENEFITS AND CHALLENGES TO BEING A HSP People who are highly sensitive offer great gifts to the world. They typically offer unusual depth and complexity, tenderness, and conscientiousness. They tend to be great listeners, leaders, and loyal companions. They are often creative and compassionate. One of the main drawbacks of having this trait is 80% of the population doesn’t understand the experience of a highly sensitive person. Therefore, a highly sensitive person often feels misunderstood. Another consideration is that the demands of our modern, busy, chaotic world can feel overwhelming. “We exhibit such a full range of humanity.” by Candy Crawford Important notes: Self-care is a critical key to thriving as a highly sensitive person. HSP’s need daily down time. The goal is to strive for an Optimal Level of Arousal, which is where the nervous system is moderately alert and aroused, in that too much or too little stress can be problematic. “It requires a certain level of courage and a sense of self to live in alignment with your trait.” by Candy Crawford SENSITIVITY AND INTIMACY: HSP’s tend to get very bored in relationship. They don’t enjoy small talk and prefer deeper conversations. They enjoy discussing existential topics. They love to process about their relationships. They bring a level of intensity. They can become overwhelmed quickly when in conflict. They look for meaning and significance in relationship. Understanding and gaining education about the needs of the highly sensitive person can be helpful in enabling the couple to work together in collaboration rather than resorting to blame, comparisons, and criticism. Helpful ways to interact with a HSP: Take an interest in your partner. Be curious. What has moved you? What was something you wondered about today? Tips for a HSP: Know your limits. Remove yourself when you get overwhelmed. Take care of yourself. Communicate your needs. To learn an important suggestion in how to develop a stronger sense of self, please listen to the interview with Candy Crawford. “In relationship, you want two fully functioning independent people showing up.” by Candy Crawford MENTIONED: The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine Aron (website) HSP Self-Test (self-test) Candy Crawford LCSW (website) The Highly Sensitive Person (book) Sensitive (documentary) Sensitive and In Love (documentary HSP and Horses (event) HSP Gatherings (event) Is Your Child Highly Sensitive? (self-test) TRANSCRIPT: Click on this link to access the transcript for this episode: If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. Thank you! ❤ If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Empowered Relationship Course or doing relationship coaching work with me.