11 Minutes to Leveling Up

I’m not a financial advisor. Learning about the benefits of long term investing as compared to long term saving has been such a blessing to me as I see how inflation and opportunity cost actually make saving a very expensive decision. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Dreams are powerful tools to tell us more about ourselves and our lives when we’re not awake --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Like finances and negotiation, conflict resolution communication is a critical life skill that we don’t all have the environment to learn growing up. However, as an adult, we have to take responsibility for our own gaps and I am learning how to communicate more effectively in situations of tension rather than being passive or passive aggressive --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

My friend and I are exercising consistently for the first time in a long time because were tapping Into the power of shared accountability for a mutual goal rather than beating ourselves up for a lack of “willpower” --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I finished reading The Five Love Languages book. The questions on my mind as a result are what are the differences between the languages you give love in versus the languages that you receive love in and how can I be more intentional about loving myself in my own love languages? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Saying affirmations has helped me orient my mind in the right direction but has also increased my self awareness of things that have come up for me emotionally throughout the day that I may have ignored or missed --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

There was a time you had to look people up to see what updates they posted on their wall instead of endlessly scrolling a news feed to see what everyone else is up to these days. Getting off social media allows you to take time to be intentional about getting updates from those that you care about as well as learning what you want to learn and see and care about rather than having what other people think you should care about shoved in your face. Try it! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I really hate working out but have managed to find some consistent physical activity by reframing how I approach execrise --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Atomic habits by James clear talks about setting up environmental cues to enable you to build better habits without willpower. Pairing music and flossing has shown improvements for me. Would highly suggest reading the book and finding your own habit forming hacks! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Highly recommend reading the book Atomic Habits by James Clear --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Don’t make the mistake I thinking that your goals aren’t good enough just because they don’t match the goals that somebody else has for themselves --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

An organize conversation between my friend Samuel and myself about the meaning of life, how discomfort leads to growth, the necessity of connection, and learning to start new things despite their imperfections. Please give it a listen!! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

All this time, I had thought that in order to work out, I first have to feel good about working out. I am now realizing that I don’t have to feel good about working out; I have to feel good about the consequences of reaching my goals, making that more important than the discomfort of the means by which I do so --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Take an inventory of who you surround yourself with because you are the average of the five people around you. If you’re going to be the average of something you might as well be the average of excellence. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Demonstrate consistency to yourself before investing time in equipment or memberships that will end up going unused because you managed to convince yourself yet again that you’d be different this time. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Pretend you’re a product. Have you ever leaned into your product market fit, or are you using energy to chase down fixing all of your “imperfections”? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

You don’t have to understand why other people have the feelings they do in order to allow them the space to express themselves. Let people be happy or sad or whatever it is! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

As validating as it is to have someone understand what you’re going through, labels can be a cage you feel you might never escape --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Don’t think about how a contact might pay off in the future; learn to find value in all the ways your relationships already add so much to your life in the present --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Impostor syndrome isn’t an isolated incident. It’s a pattern of thinking. As with all patterns of thinking, it can be unpacked and unlearned --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Instead of being afraid of looking stupid, lean into looking stupid and learn from it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Why do we sacrifice long term loyalty to avoid dealing with temporary immediate discomfort? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Live life in such a way that you won’t regret not dancing while you could still hear the music --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Role models are created from people who had the courage that their differences could make things better! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Ask a different question to find a different answer. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

People often ask how to come up with content or how to get better at certain skills. Well, Nike can answer that question for you. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

And if they are watching, hope that they watch and learn. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Hypnosis - I mean negotiation - starts with an understanding of the weak points in human psychology and in understanding that a rational conversation is never rational --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

It’s hard to find an artist who doesn’t use auto tune nowadays. But there was a time where the artist using auto tune was questioned and dismissed. How did that happen? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I mistakenly thought that I would be worth knowing if hundreds of millions of people knew who I was. I now realize than one person cheering for me who is my whole world has value as deep as the whole world cheering for me, without the stress on my mental health. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I didn’t know what networking meant despite hearing the word for years. Now, I am called the “queen of networking” by some of my peers. How did that happen and how can it happen for you? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

A smile on someone’s face is worth more than the ping pong battles of insecurity going on in your head before taking action. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Do you ever feel like a plastic bag? Maybe you should. They have a lot to teach us about gratitude. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

You can’t improve what you don’t measure. Learn to track your own success over time in order to develop self awareness and increase your likelihood of becoming of you want to grow into! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I spent a lot of time researching what to incorporate into my diet and supplements in order to live my best healthiest life and wanted to share what I found. I forgot to mention matcha green tea as well! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

There’s always room for improvement. How you view improvement can be expanded from improvement of what is to an expansion into what could be. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Deliberate practice over time is the only way progress can be made because that is the is the nature of progress: it compares points in time and the difference in output between them. This cannot happen unless you get in the ring daily weekly or at your chosen consistent interval to grow yourself and your craft --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Take some time to give to others on a day that’s supposedly all about you. Donating to the community on your birthday is a great celebration of self because it reflects your position in life being one where you are able to give out of an abundance as well as a celebration of your love for others and how we exist in an ecosystem that we all have a responsibility to make better, not in a silo. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

I was awoken to some insights around technology and social media by watching the Social Dilemma that I wasn’t aware despite using these products every day and being a Product Manager myself. What are your thoughts on the state of machine learning in technology, specifically social media? What would you change? How do you plan to implement that change in the world? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

People do a lot to pull from and pour into their relationships with others. I think that something that has really uplifted my life is remembering the relationship that I have with myself to pour into as well. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Boldly go where no one has gone before in order to discover aspects of yourself that you wouldn’t have known before --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

We’re a lot more similar to machines than we may like to admit. One way is in that we learn from the thousands of inputs we get throughout our day. One thing we learn from that is what it means to beautiful, in often highly unrealistic and narrow minded form. I call on you to help reduce the harmful data points out in the world by letting your beautiful be seen unfiltered unedited in the world for others to join you in contributing to a culture of honest true beauty --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

You don’t always have the ability to consistently put out the greatest 4K ultra HD 3D film of all time out but that doesn’t mean that your craft isn’t worth creating because it’s shot on home video. Take what you have at hand and start expressing yourself before you feel ready to. You’ll learn so much in the process that when you do have the perfect materials and opportunities at hand, you’ll be all the more ready. Success is where opportunity meets preparation. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Staring into a screen all day to get to work from the comfort of your own home means having to be extra intentional in taking care of your own eye health. Here are little tricks to keep those eyes moving, seeing, and comfy as well as learning to incorporate physical activity into your day despite being glued to your desk. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

A reminder to you and myself that everyone isn’t going to like us, at times for reasons far beyond our control. So we act on what we can control to resolve the situation and accept what we can’t. It’s hard not to take things personally even after you realize it may have nothing to do with you; even though it hurts, doesn’t mean you have to continue to suffer. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Using self awareness and regular reflection so that you can truly live a life with #noregrets. Life is long enough if you live it right but only you can define what right looks for you. Happiness and fulfillment are the measures of success. How do you measure up? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Therapy isn’t one size fits all. Your experiences and your mind is unique and deserves catered care and attention. A poor therapy experience doesn’t mean it doesn’t work! Prioritize mental health care as preventative, rather than reactive, medicine if you can access it so we can all work to a better, more holistic world with fewer stigmas and self care that actually cares for the self. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

Yes, even if you’re Black. No, it doesn’t need to be SPF 100. Yes, even indoors. No, SPF in your makeup doesn’t count. Just please wear sunscreen-mineral or chemical or mixed-for your health, for your safety, and for that forever youthful glow. **I AM NOT AN ESTHETICIAN or DERMATOLOGIST** also, CHEMICAL exfoliant is what I suggest whereas I mistakenly briefly said physical exfoliant in the episode --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

There’s no need to clap for meeting a basic standard of human rights as if it’s an act of kindness or a luxury. Universal rights and access should never been up for debate in the first place. Diversity initiatives may be analogous to getting an invite to the party but I need the whole party to be rethought if you want my presence to be more than a photo op. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

We all want so badly to be heard, listened to, and validated within ourself and with others. Yet? We rarely give ourselves the space to spend time alone with our thoughts, to fully experience our emotions as they are, or to let others explain their perspectives fully before we jump in to defend, deny, or disagree. Maybe, just listen? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message

People will hide offensive language and demeaning comments under the escape of “issa joke” only to gaslight you in exchange for you addressing an important fact: hurtful humor isn’t funny. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/phyllis69/message