Reaction Reset with Mary Jo Rapini LPC

In episode 3 of In These Shoes, we interview Dawn Callahan, owner of Bags Plus Some and board member of AVDA (Aid to Victims of Domestic Abuse). For Dawn, racism was a fact of life that her parents prepared her since she was a child and a factor in her name selection. Dawn shares how prejudice is a daily encounter and how it impacts her thoughts and actions. Watch the YouTube Version: https://youtu.be/dBJQQ4xBlZo Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Dr. William July, a licensed clinical psychologist in Houston, shares his experiences with racism in this second episode of In These Shoes. Dr. July, a former cop, shares how his terrifying teenage experience with the police prompted him to become an officer and what it was like to grow up as a black child in the 60's. Dr. July explains how anticipating prejudice leads him to live strategically daily even still today. Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. YouTube version: https://youtu.be/J84Nc-cMCNk In These Shoes is a podcast sharing experiences with racism from the black community in an effort to create awareness that racism still exists today. Together, through listening and understanding, we can make a difference. Find all our episodes on SoundCloud and YouTube: http://soundcloud.com/mary-jo-rapini https://youtube.com/mjrapini Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

***Warning: Contains the use of a racist slur during the retelling of Chris' experience with racism.*** In the first episode of In These Shoes, we interview Chris Boykins, the founder of Glory Fitness and the Boykins Youth Foundation. Chris shares his first experience with racism at age 9 on the baseball field and his everyday encounters even still today. Chris, a former college roommate of George Floyd, also shares his thoughts about modern racism and how we can make a change. Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. In These Shoes is a podcast sharing experiences with racism from the black community in an effort to create awareness that racism still exists today. Together, through listening and understanding, we can make a difference. Find all our episodes on SoundCloud and YouTube: http://soundcloud.com/mary-jo-rapini https://youtube.com/mjrapini Follow Mary Jo Rapini on social media: http://www.maryjorapini.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Have you ever been on a date with someone who suddenly starts showering you with compliments and gifts? They don’t even seem to know much about you but quickly tell you they are in love with you and make you feel incredibly special. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses a dangerous manipulative behavior called love bombing and how you can recognize it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/F7t-DG4bLNI Download my PDF activities for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

There’s something thrilling and attractive about someone we can't have. Sometimes we convince ourselves if we could have them, we would be happy. Whether it’s your boss, your best friend’s ex, or someone's spouse, today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses why we fantasize about someone we shouldn't and how to stop it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/UgBe7udEAIY Looking for more help? Download my PDF activities on my website! http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Honesty is always the best policy, but volunteering information that will upset your partner or hurt their feelings is often better left unsaid. Before you share something with your partner, it’s important to consider whether this information will strengthen or grow the relationship. Today on Reaction Reset, I’m sharing my list of 5 things better left unsaid in a relationship. Watch the YouTube version: Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

If you’re feeling more irritable lately or arguing with your partner more, you may be experiencing depression. The signs of depression are often hidden and become more likely with passing years due to changes with brain chemistry and aging. Today on Reaction Reset, we’re talking about subtle signs of depression. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VQBiqIm0QXA Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

This week, we interviewed Dawn Callahan, a domestic violence survivor and board member of AVDA - a nonprofit organization that supports domestic abuse victims. Please join us for Dawn's incredible story, starting from when she realized she was in an abusive relationship to how she escaped and recovered. Interviewer Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/TyuqTAco7yo Domestic Abuse Resources: Aid to Victims of Domestic Abuse (AVDA): https://avda-tx.org/ Love is Respect (for teens): https://www.loveisrespect.org/ National Domestic Abuse Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/ Women's Shelters (nationwide directory): https://www.womenshelters.org/ Want to learn more about relationship abuse? Find more of my videos below: Signs of Emotional Abuse: https://youtu.be/EyCvuNJ-bQQ Escaping Brainwashing and other Emotional Abuse: https://youtu.be/4mMSckwA-Zo 7 Tactics of Brainwashing Abusers: https://youtu.be/FlZTSTVRulI 5 Signs of a Dangerously Dysfunctional Relationship: https://youtu.be/vaaA5fgSKOU Dating a Sexual Assault Survivor: https://youtu.be/zAKxSk9OIF0 Trauma-Bonding: Why Abusive Partners are Difficult to Let Go: https://youtu.be/VWYS0tZBA1g Trying to escape emotional abuse? Download my PDF activity: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/escaping-emotional-abuse Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Have you grown so distant from your partner that sex seems awkward? You’re not alone. Over time, couples often grow distant physically and became involved with their kids, personal interests, and work, and then stop having sex. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses how to start talking about sex with your partner. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/4yUuYb-crSw Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

When you marry someone, you share your lives through the good and bad times, and this is what gives marriage it’s incredible depth and meaning. You're in a position of powerful and unique influence that can either build your partner up or tear them down. Today on Reaction Reset, I'm sharing 7 crucial times your spouse needs your love, care, and attention. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/ZU3tdBkQGGg Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

It can be difficult to understand each other when you fall on different sides of the extroversion and introversion spectrum. Extroversion and introversion refer to where people draw their energy from. Extroverts draw their energy from social interactions while introverts draw their energy from solitude. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist shakes 4 communication skills to help bridge the extroversion and introversion divide. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/zw5LijHbGS8 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Most of us relate the word "foreplay" to the bedroom. However, foreplay is the way you talk to your partner when you first wake up and how you make them feel throughout the day. Your actions and words determine what happens (or doesn’t happen) in the bedroom. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares good and bad examples of foreplay. Watch the YouTube version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ac2TbkPs7rk Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. http://www.maryjorapini.com There are six types of intimacy every relationship needs. Not sure you're meeting them all? Check out my PDF activity: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-p... Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Maybe it’s the magazines or romantic comedies, but we all seem to believe a set of expectations or myths when it comes to marriage. If you’re struggling with your marriage or about to tie the knot, we challenge you to see how many of these myths you hold true. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares 6 marriage myths she often sees in her office. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/2ECYt9TpZyY Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

It may sound strange to want to go back to someone who insulted, manipulated, or eve hit you, but it’s not uncommon. Trauma-bonding is the result of ongoing abuse that involved a reinforcement of reward and punishment and can be mistaken for love. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains the emotional tricks your brain plays that keep you attached to your abuser. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/VWYS0tZBA1g Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Divorces are painful, and the people going through them are confused, angry, frustrated, and overwhelmed. You’re on a roller coaster of feelings and posting how you feel on social media about your divorce or your ex can lead to more drama. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses 5 social media posts that can make the aftermath of a divorce even more destructive. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/1wjw-lADOa0 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Sometimes we use relationships to cover up areas of our lives we don't like, such as insecurity, toxic family, or a lack of friends. These are called band-aid relationships. Deep down we know they are temporary, and it can create even more self-loathing and instability. On Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares some signs you're in one. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/OrQDfTC-u8I Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Ever get in an argument and you’re not sure what you are arguing about? Maybe what you're saying isn't what’s being heard. Something is misconstrued or taken out of context and, suddenly, the person hearing it becomes incensed. It happens at work, school, and home. Today on Reaction Reset, we’re talking about how miscommunication happens, its effects, and how to avoid it. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/6oUWYAJope0 Need help fighting fairly? Check out our PDF assignments! www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

When couples split up, everyone wants to know what happened. Was there an affair? A big fight? In truth, it’s not always the big things that cause the biggest threat. Sometimes it’s the little things – the numerous times you broke a promise, didn’t show gratitude, or forgot a special occasion. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini goes through 5 everyday things you do that ruin a relationship. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/Y6GLSN6zoB0 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

After a breakup, it’s common to second guess yourself or feel lonely and isolated. Sometimes, these feelings are so intense that you find yourself seeking out your ex for intimacy or sex. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses the problems that arise in seeking out sex with your ex. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/mO0cli9Meu8 Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

We all have secrets that we don’t share with our partners, especially when it comes to their feelings. However, there are important things you should not keep from your partner. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares 6 topics that can disrupt or destroy a relationship. Watch the video version on YouTube: https://youtu.be/BXvS3nGzWlE Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Most people think of grief as a reaction to death. But there are many types of grief, including the loss of identity, loss of autonomy, loss of safety, and the loss of dreams or expectations. On this Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini talks about these 4 types of hidden grief, and how important it is to take time to grieve what you feel and share that grief. Watch the YouTube version: Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Full of ups and downs, affairs are thrilling and intoxicating. You may find yourself, quite literally, addicted to the ride. On this Reaction Reaction, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains how affairs impact our brain chemistry in four stages. Watch the YouTube version of this: https://youtu.be/G5SrqpdRlME Trying to leave an emotional affair? Check out this PDF assignment: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/ending-an-emotional-affair Need help healing from infidelity? If both partners are committed, it can be done. This PDF activity can serve as a beginning guide: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/restoring-a-relationship-after-infidelity Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships. Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Feeling as though you don’t love your partner anymore can be an overwhelming thought. Feelings of embarrassment, guilt, and fear may lead you to keep it to yourself. However, unless dealt with immediately, these feelings can lead to complete emotional disconnect, affairs, and possibly divorces. In this Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains how common this feeling is and how to start the conversation with your partner. Need more help? Download my PDF activities from my website on a variety of topics like divorce, infidelity, fighting fairly, and intimacy: http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/dxL_b0RC5gs Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

No matter how committed your marriage is, there are common intimacy issues that arise for many couples. Those issues often come with painful feelings of embarrassment, shame, and guilt. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares 5 common reasons clients come to her for sex and intimacy counseling and a few tips for each. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/Ae1FzYva3ho Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Within the first two years of your marriage, a marital style is being created. Unfortunately, couples rarely reflect or talk about their style. Once developed, it will either support or erode the marriage. Today on Reaction Reset, psychologist Mary Jo Rapini discusses about 5 marital styles and how they work. Need help determining your marriage style or reshaping it? Download my corresponding PDF activity! http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/wUQ_ulmYhS0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. However, there are relationships that are troubled more than average. They may be dangerously dysfunctional and staying in them can be harmful for your self-esteem and physical health. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini shares 5 signs you may be part of a dysfunctional relationship. Feel entrapped in emotional abuse? Take the first step towards escaping with my PDF activity: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/escaping-emotional-abuse Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/vaaA5fgSKOU Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Being in a relationship with a manipulator can feel like a roller coaster of guilt, shame, and self-loathing. You can be pressured into uncomfortable or even illegal situations. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains 5 ways to protect yourself and regain some of your confidence and control. Watch the YouTube video version: https://youtu.be/xIsEwa3-Iq0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Being the partner of a commitment phobic is not easy. You are pushed and pulled, and the relationship has lots of stop and go moments. Today on Reaction Reset, we're talking about how people develop a fear of commitment and questions to ask yourself if you're love with a commitment phobe. Watch the YouTube version: https://youtu.be/sFCzjACVWdM Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Many romantic movies feature an almost obsession-like love. However, in real life, an obsessive love story can quickly turn into a scary, twisted nightmare. In this Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini delves into the mind of an obsessive lover, explaining the different stages of an obsession and how to get out. Download the corresponding PDF handout: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/escaping-emotional-abuse Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/mfIZBiKff9Q Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Fighting is inevitable and sometimes can even be beneficial when it gets issues out in the open and repaired, but it must be done fairly and with respect. Psychologist Mary Jo Rapini shares her top 5 rules for fighting fairly in this Reaction Reset. If each fight or argument leaves you feeling humiliated, abused, and shamed, it may be time to implement these rules with your partner. For further help, download my PDF companion assignment: http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/fighting-fairly-in-relationships Watch the YouTube Version: https://youtu.be/_YObVCT5GEg Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

One of the reasons couples therapy is ineffective is because couples spend years ignoring or exacerbating deep issues. If you're avoiding therapy, it may be because your unsure it will help. In this Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini lists 6 signs marriage therapy can help and 3 situations where it won't. Need more help communicating with your partner? Download my PDF assignments to fill out with your partner! www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Watch the YouTube version of this podcast: https://youtu.be/_0LrDO68SX0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

There is a myth that you can change your partner after you’re married. Trying to change your partner is destructive to your marriage so it's much better to determine whether your marriage has healthy qualities before tying the knot. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini lists 5 qualities that sets up a marriage for success. Are your expectations for your relationship realistic and healthy? Download this PDF to work through them! http://www.maryjorapini.com/product-page/what-did-you-expect-communicating-expectations-in-a-relationship Download the podcast: Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Whether you got cut off in traffic, bullied at school, or cheated on in a relationship, we’ve all felt the desire for revenge. Although that desire is understandable, seeking it or even achieving it will rarely soothe you. Today on Reaction Reset, Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini explains how revenge only perpetuates the cycle of pain. Need more help? Download the companion handout for this video: https://goo.gl/zi2zHE Watch the video version of this podcast: https://youtu.be/e7Zy3Te1tho Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

When couples lose desire or interest in their partner, they often blame the problem on less action in the bedroom. That may be part of the problem, but the issue is usually more complex. Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini walks you through 5 OTHER types of intimacy that are crucial for your relationship. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/yyx_klepotk Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Getting over an ex is hard - it's even harder when you're still connected to their social media. Orbiting is a new phenomenon that describes someone who leaves your life but continues to be involved in your social media. In some cases, it can make it incredibly hard to move on and establish healthy relationships. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini gives you 4 reasons people orbit their exes and 3 ways to make a change. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/Zjb262dqusI Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

If you’ve been in relationships that involve recreational sex without an emotional component, you’ve probably felt the loneliness, uneasiness, and uncertainty that come with it. This can lead to cynicism and confusion about real, healthy love. If you're ready for a stable relationship, it may be time to change how you view sex. On this episode of Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini will give you 4 tips that can push recreational sex towards a deeper, intimate connection. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/IO0qFOAF-tE Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Being ghosted can be incredibly painful and heart-wrenching. The sudden disappearance creates confusion and insecurity, but the most psychologically damaging part of being ghosted is the lack of closure. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini will give you 5 ways to move on after being ghosted. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/BnT4F1KuIz0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

A common relationship problem is when partners start competing against each other rather than working together as a team. It begins subtly, but over time you find yourself feeling angry and critical of your partner without fully understanding the reason. Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini talks about what happens when your partner, who use to be your best friend and confidant, becomes a rival. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/1naUufrk2qo Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

When couples talk badly about their partner, both partners begin feeling more resentful, jaded, betrayed, and unappreciated. All of sudden, you cannot imagine feeling turned on or sexual toward your partner. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini talks about how to change the way you talk about your partner. Watch the Video Version: https://youtu.be/xVhL-kMB3AI Need more resources? Download Mary Jo Rapini's Reaction Reset companion handouts: http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Social media has many wonderful benefits but just as many dangerous downfalls. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses the perils of the "comparison trap" and how to avoid losing ourselves to filters and staged photos. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/3E-AkEqY9e4 Considering a social media break? Here's a great study on how 30 minutes a day of social media is ideal: https://www.goalcast.com/2018/11/26/n... Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Life can be scary, and we'll all experience a personal crisis at some point. Being prepared to hold yourself together could save a life and help you keep your sanity. In this Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini will give 4 steps for surviving a personal crisis while sharing one of her own past experiences. Watch the video version: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RSkiil9JsQ8 Feeling overwhelmed, scared, depressed, or suicidal? A great resource is to text the Crisis Text Line at 741741. https://www.crisistextline.org/ Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjor.com/maryjorapini

No one can escape the effects of divorce. It’s painful and can have frightening physical and emotional impacts. Society may encourage you to have a post-divorce party and friends may tell you to celebrate, but this is the reality of divorce. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini discusses ways to take care of yourself and begin to heal. Watch the video: https://youtu.be/Q0_z6WRPvIE Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

When 30 million Americans are addicted to a vice for coping with uncomfortable feelings, it's critical that we practice emotional sobriety. Emotional sobriety may not necessarily bring you happiness and joy, but it can provide stability, healthy relationships, and a peaceful mind. Today on Reaction Reset, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini is talking about staying emotionally sober when life gets difficult. Watch the Video Version: https://youtu.be/9r55IF-93sE Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

If you’re dating or married to someone who has confided in you about their assault, it is important that you understand your dating life will be different. This video discusses 5 ways that you can help support your partner. Remember, not every partner can manage the emotions of the survivor, and it’s important that you’re honest with yourself and them. Watch the video: https://youtu.be/zAKxSk9OIF0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

From the outside, codependency may appear to be a close, intense love. However, on a psychological level, you’re giving your power to another, limiting your ability to develop your own interests and beliefs. In this episode, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini gives four examples of a codependent relationship versus a healthy relationship. Looking for more help? Check out the PDF handouts available on my website: http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Watch the YouTube: https://youtu.be/KQqSxrYPFsI Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

One problem that strike many relationships is when a partner becomes addicted to a vice. Regardless of the addiction, they involve similar destructive patterns and effects. In this episode, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini talks about the important steps to take when you decide to love your partner through an addiction. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/WrOxqOIQ3i0 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/mjrapini Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Picking up dirty socks or staying up all night with a sick baby isn’t exactly what Hollywood romance advertises. You may start to think, “Where has the passion gone?” If you’re feeling isolated, ignored or resentful, tune into this episode of Reaction Reset on keeping your marriage hot when you have young kids at home. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/oK42Wp5v2uk Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Emotional abuse can take many forms, but the victims all agree how it makes you feel - crazy, unworthy, confused, stupid. It's the abuse we don’t often hear or talk about, but it exists in many relationships. On today’s Reaction Reset, we’re talking about how to identify emotional abuse and the steps you can take to get out. Watch the video version: https://youtu.be/EyCvuNJ-bQQ Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Very rarely do couples consider the question, “How much of ‘us’ are we open to sharing?” Yet as social media grows and the internet blurs the lines on privacy, we are more likely to over-share than ever before. Today on Reaction Reset, we’re talking about 6 topics that should stay private in your relationship. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/RBJBBxjDly4 Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: YouTube: www.youtube.com/mjrapini Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

We often shrug failed relationships off to people who were emotionally unavailable, but sometimes we are our own biggest obstacle. Whether you're seeking validation, obsessed with rescuing people, or counting on your partner to change, here are 5 ways you may be sabotaging your dating life and setting yourself up to fail. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5s3tJlOsEQU Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini

Does it seem like all your relationships crash and burn? You may be picking out people who are emotionally unavailable. Whether you’re trying to find someone who wants to commit or you’re going on a first date, here are 8 warning signs of someone who is emotionally unavailable from psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/yHqwbuFIUrE Reaction Reset is a self-help series that explains the psychology behind why we react negatively and how we can begin to make a positive change. Subscribe for a new episode every other Wednesday! Check out the companion handouts on my website! http://www.maryjorapini.com/reactionreset Visit my website for more help: http://www.maryjorapini.com Follow me on social media: Twitter: https://twitter.com/maryjorapini Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryjorapini Tumblr: https://maryjorapini.tumblr.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryjorapini