Podcasts about emotional abuse

When people think of domestic violence, they usually think of physical violence. But there are other forms of abuse that are often subtle and harder to recognize. These mostly non-physical behaviors are used to control, isolate, or frighten. On this Line One, host Prentiss Pemberton and his guest discuss how to recognize signs of abuse and the resources and pathways for those who experience it.

As we close out Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this conversation is more than powerful — it's necessary. In this episode of Inside the Vault with Ash Cash, we sit down with Tiffiny Newton — survivor, author, and founder of Ignite Her Inc. — who courageously shares her story of surviving emotional and financial abuse and how she rebuilt her life, her faith, and her finances from the ground up. Tiffiny's new book, Behind the Smile: The Unseen Signs of Emotional Abuse, reveals how control, manipulation, and money often trap victims in silence — and what loved ones can do to help before it's too late.

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla cover the shocking story of college basketball star Sedona Prince — from her rise to fame as a gender equality advocate to the disturbing domestic violence and assault allegations shared by multiple exes. This episode dives deep into power, manipulation, and healing after abuse during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.⚠️ Trigger Warning: discussions of domestic violence, sexual assault, and emotional abuse.00:00 – Intro + Domestic Violence Awareness Month01:10 – Who is Sedona Prince? Rise to fame on TikTok07:00 – Early relationships & toxic patterns15:00 – Money, control, and manipulation17:00 – Domestic abuse allegations surface31:00 – The viral Mexico trip: Liv's 10-part storytime42:00 – Power, fear, and gaslighting in queer relationships57:00 – Additional victims come forward1:03:00 – Legal fallout, silence, and accountability1:07:00 – Healing, empathy, and advice for survivorsIf you or someone you know has been affected by domestic abuse, please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or Text "Begin" to 88788 Their services are free and confidential, 24/7. Find out more at thehotline.org#WivesNotSisters #SedonaPrince #DomesticViolenceAwareness #LGBTQPodcast #QueerLove #AbuseSurvivor #RelationshipAwareness #TrueStory #ToxicRelationships #PodcastClipConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

Send us a textThe wounds of emotional abuse aren't always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can't see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence.In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—shines a light on the long-term impacts of abuse that often go unnoticed.You'll learn:How isolation keeps survivors trapped and silentWhy the silent treatment and stonewalling leave lasting emotional woundsHow projection and blame-shifting destroy self-trustThe toll abuse takes on your mental health and nervous systemSteps to begin reclaiming your sense of self and reconnecting with your worthThis conversation will help you understand the invisible aftermath of emotional abuse, validate what you've been through, and remind you: you are not broken—you were abused.

Trauma bonds aren't about shared hardship or difficult experiences. They're cycles of abuse and relief that hook your brain and body like an addiction. That's why it feels impossible to just “get over it.”In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really is—and what it isn't. I talk about how intermittent reinforcement keeps survivors stuck, why naming it matters, and why treating it like an addiction can open a path back to yourself.You'll hear practical ways to start loosening the bond, even if you're not ready for big steps yet. Whether that means muting their social media, setting one small boundary, or shifting your focus back to your own needs, this episode is here to remind you: you're not crazy, you're trauma bonded—and you can begin to reclaim your power one choice at a time.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Ask Ava, Ep. 267: "How can you recognize gaslighting?"Gaslighting is when someone uses manipulation and lies to purposely make you question your reality and your experiences. In the second installment of a 4-part Ask Ava series exploring different types of abuse, special guest Jessica Fernandez talks about how to recognize and respond to gaslighting.If you or someone you know needs help, you can reach out to Safe+Sound Somerset's 24/7 Call and Text Helpline at 866-685-1122. For more information, visit www.safe-sound.org.Support the showReal answers for real questions

Control in an abusive relationship often hides behind the illusion of change. They might say the words you've been waiting to hear—"I know I hurt you," "I'm working on myself"—but without real accountability, it's not growth. It's performance.This episode unpacks how shame drives manipulative behavior, why false accountability keeps you trapped, and how tactics like gaslighting, projection, and DARVO are used to destabilize you. It also explores the difference between genuine conflict resolution and the subtle ways control masquerades as care, calmness, or insight.If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling like your pain became the problem, you'll learn how to spot the pattern, trust your reality, and start reclaiming your clarity.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I'll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.

Family court is a system that doesn't run on empathy — and that can be one of the hardest realities for survivors to face. In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned about communicating with attorneys while navigating years of custody battles and post-separation abuse.You'll hear why sending every message, email, or update in real time can backfire, how to frame patterns in a way that lawyers and judges can't ignore, and what it means to “play chess instead of checkers” when you're up against an abusive ex. I also talk about the impossible balancing act survivors are forced into: document everything, but don't be “too emotional.”If you've ever felt dismissed, minimized, or like your lawyer just doesn't get it, this conversation will give you strategies to shift how you present your case — without abandoning your truth.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Co-parenting is never easy—but when your ex displays narcissistic or emotionally abusive behaviors, it can feel impossible. You're not just managing logistics—you're protecting your peace, supporting your children, and trying not to lose yourself in the chaos. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Hawkins, founder of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. With over four decades of experience and more than 40 books to his name, Dr. Hawkins brings deep insight into what it takes to stay grounded and emotionally safe while co-parenting with a narcissist. We explore how to shift from feeling powerless to powerful—not by changing the other parent, but by transforming how you show up. Dr. Hawkins and I talk about boundaries, emotional regulation, and how to support your children without getting pulled into manipulation or conflict. This conversation is about empowerment, not blame. If you've been walking on eggshells, exhausted by drama, and worried about your kids' well-being, this episode will bring clarity, courage, and practical tools to help you anchor yourself and protect what matters most. Connect with Dr. Hawkins: Free Resource: Free Ebook - Getting To the Core: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/media/Getting-to-the-Core.pdf Website: www.marriagerecoverycenter.com Email: info@marriagerecoverycenter.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drdavidbhawkins/videos Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-rehab-exposing-narcissistic-emotional-abuse/id1618828831   Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

When you're trauma bonded, wanting them isn't about love—it's about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they're toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.We'll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn't the same as craving love. I'll share real strategies to interrupt the cycle, reframe your thoughts, and take the long-game approach toward freedom—without shaming yourself for how hard it feels.If you've ever felt stuck in the loop of wanting the very person who hurt you, this is your reminder: the craving is not proof you should go back.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Send us a textMost people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—exposes the lesser-known tactics of abuse that rarely get talked about:The intrusive stare that silently intimidatesNegging and backhanded compliments that chip away at your self-worthWord salad arguments that leave you drained and doubting yourselfTriangulation that pits people against each other and fuels insecurityYou'll learn how these hidden tactics show up, why they're so effective at keeping survivors trapped, and how to recognize them for what they are: abuse.Whether you're questioning your old or current relationship, supporting a loved one, or seeking to understand emotional abuse more deeply, this episode will give you language for the confusing experiences many survivors face.

This episode takes a deep dive into the realities of co-parenting and divorcing a high-conflict person. I answer some of the most common questions I hear from survivors—like how to handle manipulation of your child, what to do when the other parent lies about you, what parallel parenting really looks like, and how to survive smear campaigns and legal abuse.You'll hear the patterns I see over and over again in these cases—fake “redemption arcs,” crisis creation before court, love-bombing during divorce, and more—and how to recognize them without getting hooked. This isn't legal advice; it's strategy, grounded in lived experience and years of coaching people through the marathon of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse.If you're navigating chaos, this episode will help you see the landscape more clearly, name what's happening, and start building your own counter-strategy centered on your safety, your sanity, and your long-term peace.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Ask Ava, Ep. 266: "What is financial abuse?"Today we're launching a new 4-part Ask Ava series highlighting different types of abuse besides physical violence. In this episode, special guest Jessica Fernandez talks about the warning signs of financial abuse - when somene gains power and control over another person by manipulating their finances, employment, or educationIf you or someone you know need help, you can call and text our 24/7 helpline at 866-685-1122. For more information, visit www.safe-sound.org. Support the showReal answers for real questions

I'm sharing the truth about a trauma bond I was in—how it formed, why I stayed, and what it took to finally break free. This isn't a highlight reel or a neatly packaged story. It's the messy reality of living in a cycle of harm and hope, of being pulled in and pushed away, of mistaking control for care.If you've ever been asked, “Why didn't you just leave?”—or asked yourself the same thing—I want you to know this episode isn't about shame. It's about understanding. It's about the hooks that keep you tied to someone who hurts you, the ways your nervous system gets rewired to see pain as love, and the hope that becomes the glue keeping you in place.I'll walk you through the moments I clung to, the patterns I couldn't see until I was out, and the shift that finally allowed me to step away. My hope is that by the end, you'll see yourself more clearly—whether you're still in it, rebuilding after it, or trying to make sense of it years later.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it's time to question whether you're being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.

In Part 2 Patrick Doyle goes deeper into the topics of spiritual abuse and emotional abuse plus "trust and healing" which deals with forgiveness and reconciliation. These topics are covered in his videos and his book "Death of a Thousand Cuts - the impact of emotional abuse. A guide to clarity and healing." The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Judy Ho, licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, tenured professor at Pepperdine University, and TV host, about attention-seeking behavior. They take a deep dive into one common type, sympathy-seeking, to explore its root causes, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy attention-seeking, and share practical tips for approaching conversations with empathy. Plus: + Breakdown of 6 Common Attention-Seeking Behaviors + The Biggest Myth About Neuroplasticity—Busted + 15 Tips: Self-Auditing, Parenting, and Tough Conversations Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez 15 Signs of Emotional Abuse with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/246a6f64/self-helpless-snack-15-signs-of-emotional-abuse-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you're trauma bonded, wanting them isn't about love—it's about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they're toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.We'll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn't the same as craving love.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

This episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I'm sharing updates, announcements, and all the ways you can work with me.If you're new here—or wondering what I offer beyond the podcast—you'll hear about:Upcoming divorce-focused episodes and why I'm expanding the podcast to include them.My Substack and daily writing for survivors.Self-paced courses on emotional abuse, boundaries, documentation for court, and breaking trauma bonds.Coaching options: intro calls, validation calls, and ongoing support.Why personalized, trauma-informed support matters and how to connect directly.Whether you're seeking clarity, ongoing guidance, or just curious about my work, this episode gives you a clear map of what's available.

Patrick says "One of the ways I learned about trauma was by being in it." From a traumatic childhood Patrick now is a #1 best-selling author, speaker, and counselor with more than 30 years of experience guiding individuals through healing from emotional abuse, addiction, and trauma. He tells us his Faith Story, his Ministry Story and his Tru316 Story on The Eden Podcast, Part One.Patrick has been a pastor, directed non-profits, spoken at conferences, and appeared on radio, TV, and on YouTube. He is the founder of Pathway to Hope, an online community dedicated to helping women rebuild trust in themselves, set healthy boundaries, and find freedom from toxic cycles. The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Welcome to the Squared Circle Podcast! I am your host Marie Shadows***Support: https://campsite.com/marieshadowshttps://patreon.com/marieshadowshttps://open.spotify.com/show/5nGoROIAggUjr04rAQkKfR?si=7a6958d00f2940f4***This episode isn't gossip. It's a case study in how love, anger, and performance collide until nobody knows where the act ends and the damage begins. Using the Masha Slamovich–Akira situation as a lens, we break down the patterns that trap people in toxic cycles—both in relationships and in industries that profit from chaos.Big Idea 1: The Cycle of Toxic LoveRelationships don't start toxic—they start with care, attention, and the promise that someone sees you. But when affection escalates into humiliation, apology, and repetition, love itself becomes a weapon.Affection That Feels Safe at First: “Because I care about you.” What should be comfort becomes a plea: please don't hurt me again.Words as Weapons: “Now you can love the memory of me.” Poetry as a tether, keeping a victim tied to pain.Devotion Turned Against You: “Once again, my love doesn't come with an asterisk.” Unconditional love can become leverage.Identity Attacks: “You're femme as f* and I'm not gay.” Humiliation disguised as honesty cuts deeper than fists.Big Idea 2: Abuse Isn't Always PhysicalNot all damage leaves a bruise. Emotional abuse can linger for years and is often invisible.Invisible Scars: Words like “you'll never be enough” echo long after a busted lip heals.Silence Feeds the Cycle: Unsounded protests allow the pattern to repeat.Love as a Trap: Staying out of hope that love will “win” can keep someone trapped.Abuse Has No Gender: Men can be victims. Women can be abusers. No stereotype protects anyone.Big Idea 3: Wrestling Culture Makes It WorseThis is bigger than two people. Wrestling rewards chaos and blurs lines between performance and personal boundaries.Brutal Schedules and Frayed Tempers: Exhaustion makes patience harder, and abuse more likely.“Work the Gimmick” = Blur the Line: Selling intimacy as a job makes it easy to forget where the act ends.Public Pain as Content: Online outrage consumes real suffering for clicks.The Pop Isn't Worth Your Soul: No angle, booking, or cheer is worth living in fear.Big Idea 4: Lessons We Have to CarryThis story is a mirror for every relationship and community that confuses passion with pain.Anger Is Not Love: Hitting, throwing, or humiliating is control, not passion.Communication Saves Lives: Speak up. Step away. Break the cycle with conversation.Love Yourself Enough to Leave: Walking away isn't weakness—it's survival.Truth Over Gossip: Talk about hard things without turning pain into entertainment.Three Smaller but Crucial IdeasPerformance Isn't Consent: A crowd pop doesn't erase personal boundaries.Algorithms Thrive on Suffering: Outrage and pain get clicks; popularity doesn't equal truth.Healing Requires Accountability: No one is a cartoon villain. Acknowledging harm is step one.Final ThoughtThe Masha–Akira story isn't about picking sides. It's about recognizing patterns before they trap us, refusing to mistake chaos for love, and remembering that no pop, storyline, or relationship is worth your soul.Time Stamp00:00 – Intro, context, and my personal disclaimers.03:00 – My brief interactions with Masha & Akira in the wrestling scene.08:00 – The first text message exchange—what it reveals about anger and control.17:00 – Overstimulation, bad matches, and misplaced frustration.28:00 – Physical abuse and the pictures of injuries.35:00 – Weaponizing sex and status in a toxic relationship.41:00 – Why communication matters more than winning an argument.47:00 – The breakup texts and what they teach us about self-awareness.50:00 – My call for accountability and healthier outlets for anger.

Sexual coercion is one of the most misunderstood and silenced forms of abuse. It's not seduction. It's not miscommunication. It's pressure, guilt, manipulation, and punishment used to get sex when you've already said no, shown hesitation, or felt unsafe. It's not about intimacy—it's about power and control.This is a bonus episode from Unhooked—my private podcast series for survivors breaking free from emotional abuse.In this episode, I break down how sexual coercion works, the subtle (and not‑so‑subtle) ways it shows up, and how it maps directly into the cycle of abuse. You'll learn:What sexual coercion actually is—and what it isn'tExamples of how it sounds and why survivors often can't name it in the momentHow coercion weaves through the tension‑building, incident, reconciliation, and calm stages of the abuse cycleThe emotional and body‑based trauma responses it creates, including dissociation and loss of sexual agencyWhy “yes” isn't real consent if it's given out of fear, exhaustion, guilt, or to avoid conflictIf you've experienced this but never had the words for it, this episode will help you see it, name it, and understand that it is abuse.This bonus episode is part of Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse—a private podcast where we break down each phase of the abuse cycle, explore trauma bonding in depth, and help you reclaim your clarity, your nervous system, and your sense of self.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

The shot heard around the world, the shock that came from the death of Charlie Kirk. Marvin and Tony are talking with fred on the Marvin Nemitz podcast about the goodness of God. Though it is a tragic thing that has happened, as we pray for his family, we must focus on the what God will do.  

The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse? 

They're kind again… so does that mean they've changed? In this episode, we unpack why the “nice” version is part of the abuse cycle — and how to tell the difference between real change and a calculated reset.One of the most confusing parts of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the cruelty suddenly stops — and the “nice” version of the person shows up. Maybe they're warmer, calmer, even kind for a while. You start to wonder… are they finally changing? Was I wrong about the abuse?In this episode, I break down why that “nice” version isn't separate from the abuse — it's part of the cycle. We'll explore how kindness can be used as a tactic, why it often appears when you're pulling away or setting boundaries, and how intermittent reinforcement keeps you hooked in the trauma bond.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Grace is first generation Italian Australian. Her parents immigrated from Southern Italy to Australia when they were  young. Rosa and Alfredo, Grace's parents, met many years later in Australia and started their family of four girls.  Rosa was one of nine children and she was  fifteen when landing in Australia. Alfredo lost both his parents at five years old and had a rough childhood.  He was a victim of abuse and moved from house to house as a child. De Angeli reflects saying "he did the best he could with what he had."Grace insists "that it was a cultural thing" as to why her mother stayed throughout  many years of emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Eventually, Grace and her younger sister became targets as well.  It was always the fear and bullying tactic that their father used especially against their mom, Rosa. Grace says that her father would often scream at her mother "you either stay or you die" or "you leave, I'll kill you." So her mother stayed out of fear.  "We were all brought up with the fear that if we did something wrong we would be killed," remarks Grace. "When I think back to my childhood I wasn't protected by my mother, but she taught me who not to be when I grew up."One would think that this would take a real tole on Grace's life and her future. But the best news is that with the help of her husband and many others, Grace has learned how to transform her life and heal from her scars of her father plus how to beat Breast Cancer with many different treatments and therapies including Eastern and Western Medicines, mind over matter and the list goes on and on. She is a true inspiration. She declares "it doesn't matter where you are in your journey, whether stage 1 or stage 4 breast cancer OR any illness, you need to get things right in your soul and spirit, where you are your most authentic self." She continues, "it doesn't matter as long as you are honest and liberated within yourself, it doesn't matter what happens next."For a young woman who at twenty one years old had contemplated suicide, to becoming this force of nature to heal not only herself but help others on their individual journey is remarkable.There's so much more to this story so please do listen to the episode in it's entirety. Grace is emphatic when saying "we were put on this planet to be ourself. If you can be the best version of yourself, you've done it."To find Grace's podcast use on link below:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1552339592    "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo's “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it's clear why it's a 2023 People's Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers' actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".Check out our website for more background information: https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantilloLink to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Or Find SHLTMM Website here: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother

Podcast favorite Dr. Amelia Kelley is back on the show! Today we're unpacking something I know will resonate with so many of you: our trauma responses. Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn… we all have them. But what if instead of shaming ourselves for these responses, we learned to use them for our benefit? Amelia and I get into what each response actually looks like day-to-day, why they happen so quickly in the body, and how to bring more consciousness when they show up. We also explore ways to reframe them so they can become tools that work in your favor: turning fight into advocacy, flight into creativity, freeze into stillness, and fawn into compassion and service. ✨ Podcast episodes are available in two formats - audio and video! If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. What you'll hear about in this episode: The four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn (2:36) Why these responses happen so fast in the brain and nervous system (5:41) The role of naming and grounding in shifting your experience (17:47) How to recognize your default response and bring more choice into it (19:55) Using trauma responses in intentional ways, like boxing, cycling, meditation, or setting boundaries (38:20) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley:  Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is an adjunct professor in Psychology at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life and 411 Teen. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is also a resident trainer at PESI offering continuing trauma-focused education to professionals. She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness their Untapped Gifts, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, as well as Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine, as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Lifehacker, Well + Good and Insider.  Resources & Links: ALL NEW: The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are Now Available on YouTube! Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch Dr. Amelia Kelley's websiteDr. Amelia Kelley on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-335-making-your-trauma-responses-work-for-you-with-dr-amelia-kelley/  

Abuse doesn't always leave physical scars, but it always leaves an impact. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Annette Oltmans — survivor, author, and founder of The M3ND Project — to shine a light on the realities of emotional and covert abuse, and the all-too-common retraumatization that happens when victims seek help but are met with disbelief or dismissal. Annette's groundbreaking work on Double Abuse® gives language to what so many survivors have experienced but struggled to name. Together, we explore what emotional and covert abuse really look like, the risks of misusing terms like “gaslighting” or “narcissism” in legal contexts, and how to safeguard your credibility when telling your story in court or to professionals. We talk about why so many therapists, clergy, and attorneys still miss the signs of abuse and how you can begin finding the ones who truly understand. Most importantly, we discuss how to take those first healing steps with support that validates your experience and helps you move forward. We also highlight valuable resources from The M3ND Project, including free guides, training, and tools designed to help both survivors and professionals respond with clarity and compassion. If you've been struggling to put words to your experience or to find the right help, you are not alone. This conversation will give you insight, hope, and practical direction as you take steps to heal and rebuild your life. Connect with Annette: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/ Free Monthly Workshop: https://themendproject.com/free-workshops/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up  

Lisa McFarland is passionate about transforming the way people approach relationships. After more than 36 years of marriage, she and her husband continue to thrive by applying the tools and insights she gained through her life coaching journey—tools she now shares with others. Lisa believes relationship coaching should be as natural as hiring a personal trainer or business coach. Too often, people carry old wounds and unhelpful patterns into their relationships, expecting them to work without support. Her mission is to change that—to remove the shame around asking for help and inspire people to see it as a path to growth, strength, and fulfillment. Through her coaching, Lisa encourages others to embrace their potential, live authentically, and create the relationships—and lives—they've always dreamed of.   Key Topics: ⭐ Why Most Couples Struggle Without Ever Learning Relationship Skills ⭐ The Midlife Crisis In Men And The Loneliness Of Women In Relationships ⭐ How Childhood Programming Shapes Conflict Styles And Emotional Patterns ⭐ Silent Treatment, Avoidance, And The Hidden Cost Of Poor Communication ⭐ Why Good Intentions Fail Without The Right Tools And Language ⭐ Emotional Safety As The New Foundation Of Modern Love ⭐ Practical Communication Tools: Listening vs. Fixing, Removing “You,” And Grace In Conflict ⭐ The Clash Between Perfectionism, Martyrdom, And Men Wanting To Contribute ⭐ Stagnation vs. Growth: Why Relationships Must Evolve Through Life's Phases ⭐ Rethinking Fidelity, Gender Roles, And Emotional Needs In A Changing World   Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance Waitlist: https://forms.gle/oFyNbPmugYKtjQpRA   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Connect With Lisa McFarland:    Website: https://relationshipcoachni.com/ 

n this raw and validating conversation, fitness expert and former pro athlete Holly Rilinger shares her first public telling of the emotional abuse she endured inside a long-term relationship that looked perfect on the outside.Holly opens up about how the relationship began with admiration and love bombing, then slowly eroded her confidence, identity, and sense of self. From subtle criticisms about her appearance to the complete absence of repair after conflict, she found herself living in constant fatigue, self-doubt, and silence — all while running a successful fitness business and motivating others to feel strong in their own skin.The discussion unpacks the patterns of narcissistic abuse, the manufactured discard, the loss of identity, and the physical toll of living in fight-or-flight for years. Holly reflects on the moment a friend finally witnessed the behavior, how she began waking up to the truth, and the small ways she's reclaiming her body, voice, and power in the seven months since leaving.If you've ever questioned your reality in a relationship that looked “fine” to the outside world but felt like slow erasure on the inside, Holly's story will remind you that you're not crazy — and that healing is possible.You can follow Holly here: https://www.theliftedmethodcoaching.com/Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Struggling with divorce and emotional abuse? Learn how the right support can help you.

How do you feel about this episode? Text us!Helen Norbury and Jillian Scott obliterate narcissistic abuse.Jillian shares her journey of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it affected her sense of identity and self-worth. She delves into her experiences with emotional abuse, binge eating, and the challenges of finding her authentic self while in a narcissistic marriage.If you want to apply to have Helen help you exceed your own expectations, email her at helen@helenannenorbury.co.uk or send her a DM on Instagram, or follow her on LinkedIn.Jillian discusses the importance of self-trust, self-belief, and emotional healing, shedding light on her continuous efforts to embrace her true self amidst past traumas. Jillian and Helen offer hope and encouragement for those experiencing similar struggles.As a former binge eater turned trauma-certified life coach, Jillian Scott specializes in empowering clients to overcome the aftermath of emotionally abusive relationships, heal their relationship with food and body, and develop unwavering self confidence and self belief. She's the host of the Hungry for Love Podcast and creator of the Whole Brain Method designed to heal your relationship with food, body, and self. Episode Highlights:00:46 Toxic Family Survival06:48 Narcissistics Aplenty06:59 Self-Identity vs Marriage12:14 Emotional Abuse & Eating Habits17:34 Core Cravings & Emotional Eating19:00 Constant Moving vs Core Identity20:39 People-Pleasing & Self-Worth22:37 Core Wounds vs Self-Truth27:50 Rebuilding Self-Trust Post-Trauma30:20 Living Unapologetically & Setting BoundariesIf you love the show, share it with 2 people who would be inspired by these conversations.

How do you know when it's time to instigate a split? If your partner's behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what? 

Most survivors don't start by asking “Is this abuse?” They ask “Why do I feel crazy?”This episode dives deep into the emotional confusion that defines so many abusive dynamics—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, and chronic invalidation are at play. If you've ever found yourself apologizing after being hurt, doubting your memory, or shrinking yourself to avoid their reactions, you're not alone—and you're not overreacting.We'll explore:How emotional abuse trains you to question your realityThe difference between lying and gaslighting—and why the distinction mattersSubtle red flags that keep you stuck in self-blameThe questions that help you reconnect with your truthThis episode is here to help you name the thing you haven't been able to name, and to remind you: confusion is a tactic. Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/YouarenotcrazySupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Welcome to Part 2 of Lisa Bilyeu's riveting deep dive with forensic psychologist Dr. Shannon Curry. Having laid the groundwork of identifying personality disorders and their impact in relationships, this half turns up the heat with unfiltered conversation around actual case studies, the realities of abusive dynamics for men and women, healing after toxic love, and how to reclaim your self-worth and power after manipulation. Shannon and Lisa tackle the infamous Amber Heard-Johnny Depp trial, peeling back the legal layers around trauma claims and public judgment. Dr. Curry breaks down the science behind situational versus characterological violence, how abusers trap their partners, and the societal blind spots that keep both men and women bound in shame. The episode closes with empowering advice on how to forgive yourself, rebuild after heartbreak, and find healthy, secure love—plus a viral pop-culture breakdown that will change how you see relationships forever. Introspective, educational, and fiercely honest, Part 2 is your masterclass in spotting red flags, setting boundaries, and awakening to your own strength. SHOWNOTES44:59 Recognizing True Toxicity—From Charm to Chaos (continued)54:29 Borderline Personality in Relationships—Roleplay & Analysis1:04:44 How Healthy Love Can Heal Old Wounds1:12:01 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse in Abusive Relationships1:29:41 Signs You're in a Truly Abusive Relationship1:36:27 Forgiving Yourself for Falling Again—The Path to Healing1:41:54 Practical Tools: What Traits Make Long-Lasting Relationships1:55:35 Can You Compromise on Identity in a Relationship?2:02:08 Social Judgment, Collective Wounds, and the Power of Non-Judgment FOLLOW DR. SHANNON CURRY:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/currypsychgroupWebsite: https://www.currypsychology.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy's: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off ⁠https://bioptimizers.com/impact⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather thought her family life was normal. But over time, she uncovered two buried traumas that quietly shaped her childhood—and required deep healing.Years later, as a newlywed, another wound came to light: her husband's secret porn addiction. It shattered her—but it also became the turning point for restoration. Heather now calls it both the worst day and the best day of her life.In this episode, we dive into:Why she didn't leave, and the non-negotiable conditions she set to even consider stayingHer advice for women facing the same gut-wrenching discovery, and for young people who just found out about a parent's addiction or affairHer biggest lesson for anyone from a dysfunctional family—and the practical steps she recommends to start healingIf you've ever found yourself wounded or betrayed, wondering if healing and restoration is possible, this episode is for you.Listen to Abiding TogetherVisit Heather's WebsiteListen to Restore the GloryListen to the Healing Sexual Brokenness SeriesGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!

In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

What happens when a mother sees her son not as an individual, but as an extension of herself? In this powerful episode, we dive into the hidden dynamics between narcissistic mothers and their sons—and how this enmeshment can shape identity, independence, and relationships for decades.Author and psychotherapist Christine Louis de Cannonville joins us to explore the making of a so-called “mama's boy,” the long shadow of emotional manipulation, and the pathways to freedom. From enmeshment and silenced voices to the liberating act of reclaiming one's power, this conversation is both a mirror and a map.You'll hear stories of sons who struggled under the weight of their mother's control, the painful impact on their partners and families, and a breakthrough moment on the beach where a blocked voice finally found release. Christine shares how spiritual and therapeutic practices—like shamanic journeying and boundary work—can help survivors reconnect with their essence, reclaim their voice, and step into authentic adulthood.This episode isn't about blaming mothers. It's about recognizing the patterns, breaking the cycle, and moving forward with compassion, clarity, and self-love.Christine Louis de Cannonville is a psychotherapist, author, and educator specializing in the treatment of narcissistic abuse. Known for her compassionate yet direct approach, she has written extensively on the dark triad, shame, and recovery from narcissistic relationships. Christine blends trauma-informed therapy with spiritual and shamanic practices to help clients reclaim their voice and their power. Her work has supported countless survivors worldwide in moving from trauma to transformation.Learn more about her work at www.narcissisticbehavior.netBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.

Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!

Send us a textAre you struggling with the hidden effects of emotional abuse — like chronic fatigue, anxiety, brain fog, or constant overthinking? In this episode, Allison shares how emotional abuse impacts the body, memory, and relationships long after the abuse ends, and why it's not your fault. You'll learn how trauma gets stored in the nervous system, why symptoms like insomnia, headaches, and poor focus are so common for survivors, and most importantly, how you can begin to heal.This episode is for women recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, or toxic relationships who want to stop ruminating, release self-doubt, and finally feel safe in their own skin again. If you've ever asked yourself “Why can't I move on?” or “Will I ever feel like myself again?” — this conversation will give you hope and real answers.Support the showEmail: Allison@radiatenrise.comFree 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/To learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

This encore episode features passionate human rights advocate Annette Oltmans, and we're talking about covert emotional abuse, one of the most insidious and overlooked forms of domestic violence. If you're in it, have been through it, or suspect something's not right in your relationship, this is one you don't want to miss (or re-listen to). Annette shares her personal experience of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage, along with what she's learned through years of recovery and deep field research. Her work around Original Abuse and Double Abuse® led her to found The M3ND Project in 2016, an organization dedicated to helping survivors name what's happening and start to heal. What you'll hear about in this episode: What motivated Annette to found the M3ND Project  Some of the definitions of covert emotional abuse like blame-shifting or minimization of the victim's perspective Annette shares the four pillars of abuse and what drives abusive thinking Realizing you are a victim and changing the worldview of your relationship with your abuser brings on a new layer of stress  Abuse recovery and insights and advice for those thinking about repairing their relationship after their partner has begun therapy  Learn more about Annette Oltmans: Annette Oltmans is a philanthropist and passionate human rights advocate. Annette's personal experiences of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery including comprehensive field research into the topics of Original Abuse and Double Abuse® ignited her passion to founding The M3ND Project in 2016. While seeking the help of professionals and responders, she experienced Double Abuse® in the form of spiritual and institutional abuse. These harmful encounters compelled Annette in her relentless pursuit for solutions that involved interviews with hundreds of victims and survivors. She uncovered common threads that cause victims prolonged states of confusion as well as what ultimately led them towards healing. Her journey also involved interviews with hundreds of faith-based leaders and therapists which led her to discover that most are untrained and ill-equipped to identify and help victims of emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse. In working to prevent and remediate such harm, Annette developed protocoled models that are now being taught and implemented with therapists, churches and professional organizations across the United States. She consulted with esteemed experts in abuse, trauma, and healing to ensure the materials align with the highest professional standards. Annette also serves on the Board of Pepperdine University's Boone Center for the Family and is a Board of Trustee member of Northrise University in Zambia. Her writing on these topics of abuse, domestic violence, and bullying has been published in the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), Teen Vogue, and numerous other publications. Annette is also a contributing author in the newly released book, “Created to Thrive: Cultivating Abuse-Free Safe Communities”. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoachKate on FacebookThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage The M3nd Project Website Tools and Resources from The M3ND Project The M3ND Project on Facebook The M3ND Project on Instagram The M3nd Project on YouTube The M3nd Project on Twitter =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/encore-episode-covert-emotional-abuse-with-annette-oltmans/

Verbal and emotional abuse is often invisible and hard to detect, but its effects run deep. In this episode, Haley and Dustin discuss the impact and power of our words, and how abuse can shape our sense of worth, identity, and dignity. They explore what verbal and emotional abuse is — and what it isn't — and discuss the types of verbal abuse found in Scripture as well as the subtle and not-so-subtle forms of emotional abuse. They also walk through what to do if you've experienced verbal and emotional abuse and steps to take if you've been the one who has hurt others with your words. Whether you've been hurt or have hurt others, this episode provides biblical insights and practical steps to find healing and be changed by the power of God's Word. Subscribe to the podcast and tune in each week as Haley and Dustin share with you what the Bible says about real-life issues with compassion, warmth, and wit.   So you have every reason for hope, for every challenge in life. Because hope means everything.   Hope Talks is a podcast of the ministry of Hope for the Heart.   Listen in to learn more : (05:55) The Impact of Verbal Abuse  (18:36) Importance of Tone in Verbal Abuse  (25:35) Recognizing and Fighting Verbal Abuse  (34:46) Recognizing Verbal and Emotional Abuse  (39:34) Speaking Truth With Responsibility  (46:23) Healing Both Abuser and Abused  (49:55) The Power of God's Healing  (54:04) Sword of Healing and Harm ( (56:19) Addressing Verbal Abuse in Ministry    -------------- Hope for the Heart resources Learn more and sign up for our fall Hope Together conference: https://hopetogether.com/    Order our newest resource, The Care and Counsel Handbook, providing biblical guidance  100 real-life issues: https://resource.hopefortheheart.org/care-and-counsel-handbook   Free resource on Abuse Recovery: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/breaking-free-from-abuse-resource   Bible Study of Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/bible-study-on-understanding-verbal-emotional-abuse    Book on Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/abuse-recovery    Video course on Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/abuse-recovery-video-course  Connect with Hope for the Heart on social!    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hopefortheheart   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopefortheheart    Want to talk with June Hunt on Hope in the Night about a difficult life issue? Schedule a time here: https://resource.hopefortheheart.org/talk-with-june-hope-in-the-night   God's plan for you: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/gods-plan-for-you/   Give to the ministry of Hope for the Heart: https://raisedonors.com/hopefortheheart/givehope?sc=HTPDON    ---------------------------- Bible verses mentioned in this episode   James 3:3-10 — When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one's life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.

The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.

If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn't matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation How beliefs like “I'm not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation  Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it's about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa's neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the

The gold medal athlete opens up about how she dealt with emotional and verbal abuse at the hands of coaches, the key role her mother played in advocating for her, and why leaving her beloved sport for a while was exactly what she needed."Habla Now," HBO Latino's award-winning "Habla" series, features Laurie Hernandez in its latest installment. It is now available to stream on HBO Max.Follow Laurie Hernandez on Instagram at @lauriehernandez. If you loved this episode, listen to How Jennifer Mercedes Made Herself an MVP in Sports Journalism. Show your love and become a Latina to Latina Patreon supporter!

Sharay “Punisher” Hayes is a former professional dancer and author who found himself at the center of one of the year’s most high-profile cases — testifying in the civil trial against music mogul Sean “Diddy” Combs. His story goes beyond the headlines, revealing how fantasy, silence, and shame can trap men just as deeply as violence and power can trap women. Follow Sharay on Instagram: @getpunishedCheck out his new book: In Search of FREEZER MEAT — a raw and personal story about male mental health, erectile dysfunction, and the unexpected solution that changed his life. Episode Description: In Part 2, CSI Sheryl McCollum continues her raw and revealing conversation with Sharay Hayes — a dancer turned courtroom witness in one of the biggest trials of the year. This time, the focus turns inward. Sharay opens up about the emotional and psychological toll of being pulled into someone else’s fantasy, how he rationalized what he saw, and why the truth didn’t hit until the headlines did. They also dive into erectile dysfunction, male performance pressure, and the silence around mental health that keeps so many men trapped. Sharay’s story may have started in the club — but it ends in court, with real consequences and a long road toward healing. Show Notes: (0:00) The money, the setup, and a moment that still raises questions — a man in a hijab enters the room (2:00) Sheryl asks the big question: Did Sharay ever suspect Combs was abusive? (4:00) “ I always thought it was something for her ” — Sharay explains how he rationalized it all in real time (5:00) Domestic violence, denial, and realizing that what you see isn’t always what’s happening (6:30) What Sharay would say to Cassie — and how hindsight shapes what he sees now (9:00) Sheryl shifts focus to his book — and why In Search of FREEZER MEAT made her nervous to Google (10:00) What ED taught Sharay about pressure, shame, and being a man in a fantasy job (12:30) A 14-year-old, a school rumor, and the first wave of anxiety (14:00) How performance anxiety quietly wrecks confidence, connection, and self-worth (16:00) Sheryl shares a Vegas story — and why pressure hits differently face-to-face (17:00) Testifying in court — the nerves, the backlash, and how Sharay stayed honest with no horse in the race (21:00) Why his book’s helping more than readers — and what men are telling him (22:30) Sheryl closes the episode with a quote from Sean Combs himself: “You have to be somewhat crazy if you wanna be successful.” Thanks for listening to another episode! If Zone 7 is part of your weekly routine, show us some love with a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It helps more folks find the show—and helps us keep telling these stories. --- Sheryl “Mac” McCollum is an Emmy Award-winning CSI, a writer for CrimeOnline, Forensic and Crime Scene Expert for Crime Stories with Nancy Grace, and a CSI for a metro Atlanta Police Department. She is the co-author of the textbook Cold Case: Pathways to Justice and the founder/director of the Cold Case Investigative Research Institute — a collaboration between universities and the criminal justice community that advances techniques for solving unsolved homicides, missing persons, and kidnapping cases. Social Links: Email: coldcase2004@gmail.com Twitter: @ColdCaseTips Facebook: @sheryl.mccollum Instagram: @officialzone7podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You walk into an emotionally abusive relationship as one person, but where do you go after you're in one for a while? Is the person you're with trying to change you into someone you're not? 

Love can feel like a double-edged sword, cutting deep despite the tender moments. Or is that really love? Caring and kindness mixed with toxic, controlling behaviors create a dangerous emotional cocktail of bonding and trauma.