Podcasts about emotional abuse

This week on Health Matters, Courtney talks with Dr. Warren Ng, a psychiatrist at New York Presbyterian and Columbia, and the Community Health Director for the Center for Youth Mental Health at NewYork-Presbyterian. Dr. Ng explains what makes narcissistic traits distinct from narcissistic personality disorders, and offers an in-depth explanation of the symptoms and management strategies for navigating relationships with narcissists, whether colleagues, friends, or family members. ___Dr. Warren Ng is a psychiatrist for children, adolescents, and adults with an interest in HIV, public psychiatry, and family issues. He is the Medical Director of Outpatient Behavioral Health and the Director of clinical services for the Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Columbia University Irving Medical Center and NewYork-Presbyterian/Morgan Stanley Children's Hospital. He is also the NYP Behavioral Health Service Line Clinical Innovation Officer. He is the President of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and has been past president of the New York Council on Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. He served on the Assembly and the Council on Children, Adolescents, and Families at the American Psychiatric Association (APA).___Health Matters is your weekly dose of health and wellness information, from the leading experts. Join host Courtney Allison to get news you can use in your own life. New episodes drop each Wednesday.If you are looking for practical health tips and trustworthy information from world-class doctors and medical experts you will enjoy listening to Health Matters. Health Matters was created to share stories of science, care, and wellness that are happening every day at NewYork-Presbyterian, one of the nation's most comprehensive, integrated academic healthcare systems. In keeping with NewYork-Presbyterian's long legacy of medical breakthroughs and innovation, Health Matters features the latest news, insights, and health tips from our trusted experts; inspiring first-hand accounts from patients and caregivers; and updates on the latest research and innovations in patient care, all in collaboration with our renowned medical schools, Columbia and Weill Cornell Medicine.To learn more visit: https://healthmatters.nyp.org

Gugs Mhlungu speaks to Resident Clinical Psychologist, Dr Khosi Jiyane about self-gaslighting, exploring how it differs from gaslighting others, the signs you might be doing it to yourself, and how to recognise and address it. 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu is broadcast on 702, a Johannesburg based talk radio station, on Saturdays and Sundays Gugs Mhlungu gets you ready for the weekend each Saturday and Sunday morning on 702. She is your weekend wake-up companion, with all you need to know for your weekend. The topics Gugs covers range from lifestyle, family, health, and fitness to books, motoring, cooking, culture, and what is happening on the weekend in 702land. Thank you for listening to a podcast from 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu. Listen live on Primedia+ on Saturdays and Sundays from 06:00 and 10:00 (SA Time) to Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu broadcast on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/u3Sf7Zy or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/BIXS7AL Subscribe to the 702 daily and weekly newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Follow us on social media: 702 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Julie Barth is a writer, mother of six, trauma survivor, and founder of the Colin James Barth Outreach, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting women-led households in times of crisis. Julie's memoir, NOTES FROM A BLACKBERRY, is a deeply moving account of love, loss, and resilience, chronicling her journey as a special needs parent while navigating the heartbreaking realities of her first husband's battle with cancer. Website: https://www.juliebarthauthor.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Notes-BlackBerry-Julie-Barth/dp/B0CY675VSC/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2FI6L9DIUIC3P&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-czhI7Lu4y5PL3IP2jDoY9awHkKJo43zfWtySKfekxk.R94elBwW1E4bkN6TD3yxhSJcuiuZbH4bj_JLtECiAUg&dib_tag=se&keywords=notes+from+a+blackberry&qid=1738112221&sprefix=notes+from+a+blackberry%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-1 You may also contact him through email, Jamesperduespeaks@comcast.net

This episode builds off of last weeks where I disussed DARVO in Family Court. I cover exactly how to capture DARVO behavior in a way that lawyers, GALs, and court professionals can actually understand.You'll learn how to:Identify the denial, attack, and role reversal phases in real-time.Translate emotional chaos into factual, court-readable documentation.Recognize when the abuser is using the legal system as a weapon.Communicate patterns to your attorney without being dismissed or labeled “high conflict.”This episode will help you see that what's happening isn't “miscommunication” — it's manipulation, and you can show the truth, clearly and strategically, without losing yourself in the process.For more support, visit emotionalabusecoach.com and https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/documentationSupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Saturday, November 22nd from 10am-Noon Eastern, Join me and my friend, Dawn Marasco, author of the book Continuous Peace for a free virtual workshop to help bring you some helpful tools and encouragement for the approaching the upcoming holidays!  You can sign-up for "Overcoming Obstacles to Joy at the Holidays" by going to www.mentalhealthforchristianwomen.com  We hope to see you there! If you need help to heal from emotional abuse, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, or trauma, I'd love to work with you.  I offer a free 15 minute consultation call that you can book by going to: www.mentalhealthforchristianwomen.com or www.calendly.com/michellecroyle Today is the second part of my interview with 19 Kids and Counting star, Amy Duggar King.  Amy talks about righteous anger, standing up for what is right, and taking back her power through truth and counseling therapy after gaslighting and emotional abuse throughout her life.  Listen in.

November is Family Court Awareness Month, a time to shed light on a system that too often fails to protect survivors and their children. In this episode, I explore what happens when a court system that frequently reframes abuse as “conflict,” rewards manipulation, and punishes protective parents for trying to keep their kids safe.I walk through:What Family Court Awareness Month is and why it matters.How the legal system can retraumatize survivors and reward abusers who appear calm, logical, and “reasonable.”The emotional and strategic toll of trying to protect your child while being gaslit by institutions meant to help.How survivors are adapting—learning to document, regulate, and think strategically to protect themselves and their children.If you're currently navigating family court, divorce, or co-parenting with a high-conflict person, I offer one-on-one coaching and specialized strategy sessions to help you document, organize, and stay grounded through the process.

Helen Villiers, psychotherapist and narcissist expert, joins me to unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissism. From love bombing and gaslighting to the trauma bond that keeps victims trapped, we explore why it's so hard to leave, how narcissists use empathy as a weapon, and the powerful steps to reclaiming your identity and self-worth.Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist, coach, and author specializing in narcissism, emotional abuse, neurodivergence, and recovery. She is the co-author of the Sunday Times bestseller 'You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse', hosts the popular podcast 'The Liberation Effect', and has been featured on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour and in publications including The Independent, The Telegraph, The Mirror, and Hello! Magazine. Follow Helen:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helenvilliersmaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@helenvilliersma YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@helenvilliersma Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelenVilliersMA/ ⌚️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Introduction 04:15 - The Most Surprising Thing About Narcissism 05:50 - The Five Core Traits of Narcissism08:53 - Narcissism: Personality Type, Disorder, or Both? 10:15 - When Self-Absorption Becomes Harmful 10:55 - Love Bombing and Early Red Flags 14:14 - The Science Behind Trauma Bonds 17:00 - Do Narcissists Know What They Are Doing? 18:10 - Do Narcissists Target Empaths? 21:01 - Confidence vs Control: How to Tell the Difference 22:48 - The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle Explained 28:15 - The Emotional Fallout After The Discard 31:06 - The “Gray Rock” Method: How To Escape a Narcissist 32:45 - Rebuilding Identity After Narcissistic Abuse 38:00 - Overcoming the Fear of Being “Selfish” 39:30 - Perfectionism and the Fear of Judgment 45:30 - How Therapy and Community Help Recovery 47:16 - Choosing the Right Therapist (and Avoiding the Wrong One) 50:28 - How to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Abuse 51:58 - How Long Healing Takes (and What It Looks Like) 54:45 - Why People-Pleasing is Toxic 56:35 - Can You Heal Without a Therapist? 59:04 - What a Healthy Relationship Really Looks Like 01:01:15 - Final Message: It's Not You.

I want to hear your thoughts about the show and this episode. Text us here...In this powerful episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie sits down with author, veteran, and recovery advocate Eva Navarez St. John, whose award-winning memoir, When Tough Cookie Crumbles, tells the true story of friendship, murder, manipulation, addiction, and healing.Eva shares the story behind her friendship with Janice, how their lives ran in parallel through military service in the 1970s, and the devastating events surrounding Janice's disappearance and murder. She opens up about falling into the orbit of a sociopath herself, navigating unresolved trauma, struggling with addiction, and what it really takes to rebuild your life when the story you planned is shattered.This conversation is raw, honest, and deeply compassionate. Together, Julie and Eva explore: how predators isolate and groom, why smart, strong, independent women are not immune, the heavy weight of shame and self-blame, and the freedom that comes from tellingJoin Julie's upcoming Confident You CEO Retreat — a powerful space designed for women entrepreneurs who are tired of hustling without results, feeling scattered, or second-guessing every decision. → GoConfidentlyCoaching.comGo Confidently ServicesEmpowering Women Entrepreneurs with Julie DeLucca-Collins | Go Confidently Services This is an invitation to join a supportive community of purpose-driven entrepreneurs who are creating an impact in the world.A mastermind is a community of peers who exchange ideas, provide support, and offer sound advice for running a successful business.Join the Confident YOU Mastermind now at https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/confidentyoumastermindBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showOther helpful resources for you: For more about me and what I do, check out my website. Are you ready to get some help with:Podcast launch/re-launchPodcast growth, to increase your authority and position yourself as the thought leader you are. Or Leveraging your podcast to build your online biz and get more clientsSign up for a FREE 30 minute Confident Podcast Potential Discovery Call In this session I will: Identify the pain point that is holding you back. Suggest a next step strategy for solving the pain point.https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/30-minutes-free-coaching-sessioin Then we will talk about working together to accelerate the process. Do you want a podcast audit? Check out this link If you're looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call to explore if you'd be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. ...

If you've ever felt like your abuser managed to twist the truth so completely that you ended up defending yourself against their behavior — this episode is for you.Today, I'm breaking down DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — and how it shows up in divorce and custody cases. DARVO is psychological warfare disguised as concern. It's the reason you end up explaining, over and over, why following a court order isn't “withholding,” or why setting a boundary isn't “abuse.”We'll walk through:What DARVO actually means — and why it's so effective in family court.Real examples of how it plays out in co-parenting communication.How to respond when your protective actions are reframed as “control.”Practical steps to document and communicate clearly when this pattern appears.If you've been accused of being the problem simply for following the plan, this episode will help you see what's really happening — and how to get back to solid ground.You can find the documentation course, my “Divorcing a Narcissist 101” course, and more tools to support your case and your nervous system at emotionalabusecoach.com or highconflictdivorcecoaching.com.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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Ask Ava, Ep. 268: "What does verbal abuse look like in an abusive relationship?"Verbal abuse can be scary and have lasting impacts. Hear from special guest Jessica Fernandez about how to recognize verbal abuse in this third installment of our series looking at different types of abuse. If you or someone you know needs help, contact our 24/7 Call and Text Helpline at 866-685-1122. For more information, visit www.safe-sound.orgSupport the showReal answers for real questions

Not every discard looks like a dramatic blow-up. Sometimes it comes quietly — through silence, stonewalling, and indifference. That kind of ending can be even more destabilizing, because it leaves no scene to point to, only the hollow feeling that something is over.This episode unpacks what it means to be discarded in this way, how it twists reality and casts you as the villain, and why holding your boundaries in the face of emotional withdrawal is an act of self-preservation. If you've ever been left with the ache of “Did that really happen?” this conversation will help you see the pattern clearly and remind you that you're not crazy for feeling the way you do.Recoverycast: Mental Health & Addiction Recovery StoriesReal talk, real recovery, actually entertaining. Find Recoverycast now.Listen on: Apple Podcasts SpotifySupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Welcome to Flourish-Meant, where we dive deep into topics that matter most to your emotional and spiritual well-being. In this inspiring episode, host June Hunt sits down with Tina Yeager, founder of the worldwide ministry Hope for the Heart and respected radio host of Hope in the Night, to unpack the complexities of verbal and emotional abuse. Drawing from decades of experience, Tina Yeager offers heartfelt wisdom and personal stories—revealing how emotional and verbal abuse often stems from control, manipulation, and covert behaviors that leave victims feeling isolated and perplexed. Together, June Hunt and Tina Yeager explore practical steps for identifying and protecting yourself from toxic relationships, establishing boundaries, and finding healing through spiritual transformation. If you've ever felt diminished, misunderstood, or longed for approval in your relationships, this conversation provides clarity, hope, and empowering biblical truths to guide you toward restoration. Stay tuned for profound insights and actionable advice on how to flourish even in the midst of adversity. What is Verbal & Emotional Abuse? Many people aren't fully aware of what emotional abuse looks like, or how it's present in their relationships. June Hunt compassionately defines emotional abuse as "any ongoing negative behavior to control another person." She explains that while verbal abuse includes belittling, lies, and attacks, emotional abuse is often the unseen fallout from all forms of abuse—hurting our spirits and robbing us of joy. Personal Stories & Insights June Hunt shares candid stories from her own life, including a poignant childhood marked by rejection and the struggle for approval—illustrating how the need for acceptance can leave us vulnerable to covert forms of manipulation. She describes experiences with both close friends and family members that shaped her understanding of boundaries, abuse, and healing. Finding Hope & Setting Boundaries A powerful theme in this episode is learning when and how to say "no"—not out of rebellion, but as an act of caring for your heart and honoring God. June Hunt encourages us that, "at times we have to say no to people so that we can say yes to God." She shares uplifting scriptures that helped her heal, reminding us that we're never truly alone ("The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" - Psalm 34:18). Resources from June Hunt If this episode resonates with you, June Hunt invites you to explore over 100 topics through Hope for the Heart, and to reach out for support. You can also join her live call-in radio program, Hope in the Night, airing from 11pm to midnight (1-800-488-HOPE). We're thrilled to accompany you on this journey of faith, growth, and transformation. As always, we appreciate your support! Please subscribe and share this episode. We can't wait for you to join us for future episodes of Flourish-Meant. To book Tina as a speaker, connect with her life coaching services, and more, visit her website: https://tinayeager.com/ Optimize your mind and body with my new favorite, all-inclusive supplement, Cardio Miracle! I love the energy and focus this health-boosting drink mix provides without toxins, caffeine, or sugar! Get a discount on your purchase with my link: http://www.cardiomiracle.com/tinayeager Use the code TINA10 at checkout. To flourish in all seasons of life with the highest quality nutraceutical health supplements that benefit charitable causes, shop NutraMedix wellness supplements. Be sure to use my link  https://www.nutramedix.com/?rfsn=7877557.b6c6785 and add my special code TINA to get 10% off your entire purchase! If you're a writer, subscribe to Inkspirations Online (devotional publication by writers for writers): https://www.inkspirationsonline.com/ Manage stress and anxiety in 10 minutes a day with the course presented by 15 experts, Subdue Stress and Anxiety https://divineencouragement.onlinecoursehost.com/courses Connect with Tina at: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tyeagerwriting/ Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tinayeager/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tina.yeager.9/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TinaYeager Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/tyeagerwrites/ Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3865622.Tina_Yeager

This week, I'm sharing a private Q&A episode usually reserved for my Patreon and Substack members. I wanted to make this one public because it speaks to something so many survivors struggle with: the pull of the trauma bond, the shame that lingers, and the confusion around whether someone has truly changed.In this episode, I answer two powerful listener questions:1️⃣ How do I stop the shame and craving when I'm still trauma bonded? 2️⃣ How do I know if my ex is really changing — or if it's just the cycle repeating itself?We talk about what's really happening in your body when you crave the “good version” of them, how to starve the cycle without starving yourself, and how to recognize when “healing language” is being used as another form of manipulation.If this episode resonates, there's a whole archive of private Q&As, coaching deep dives, and exclusive content waiting for you on Patreon and Substack. You can submit your own questions, join private discussions, and get access to extended episodes and strategy sessions I don't share anywhere else.

When people think of domestic violence, they usually think of physical violence. But there are other forms of abuse that are often subtle and harder to recognize. These mostly non-physical behaviors are used to control, isolate, or frighten. On this Line One, host Prentiss Pemberton and his guest discuss how to recognize signs of abuse and the resources and pathways for those who experience it.

I explain how abusers redefine what abuse is, minimize their actions, and use comparisons to “someone worse” as a shield from accountability. I break down how they weaponize therapeutic language, flip the script so boundaries look like cruelty, and create a public image that leaves survivors questioning their own reality.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

As we close out Domestic Violence Awareness Month, this conversation is more than powerful — it's necessary. In this episode of Inside the Vault with Ash Cash, we sit down with Tiffiny Newton — survivor, author, and founder of Ignite Her Inc. — who courageously shares her story of surviving emotional and financial abuse and how she rebuilt her life, her faith, and her finances from the ground up. Tiffiny's new book, Behind the Smile: The Unseen Signs of Emotional Abuse, reveals how control, manipulation, and money often trap victims in silence — and what loved ones can do to help before it's too late.

In this episode of Wives Not Sisters, Alix and Kayla cover the shocking story of college basketball star Sedona Prince — from her rise to fame as a gender equality advocate to the disturbing domestic violence and assault allegations shared by multiple exes. This episode dives deep into power, manipulation, and healing after abuse during Domestic Violence Awareness Month.⚠️ Trigger Warning: discussions of domestic violence, sexual assault, and emotional abuse.00:00 – Intro + Domestic Violence Awareness Month01:10 – Who is Sedona Prince? Rise to fame on TikTok07:00 – Early relationships & toxic patterns15:00 – Money, control, and manipulation17:00 – Domestic abuse allegations surface31:00 – The viral Mexico trip: Liv's 10-part storytime42:00 – Power, fear, and gaslighting in queer relationships57:00 – Additional victims come forward1:03:00 – Legal fallout, silence, and accountability1:07:00 – Healing, empathy, and advice for survivorsIf you or someone you know has been affected by domestic abuse, please call The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 or Text "Begin" to 88788 Their services are free and confidential, 24/7. Find out more at thehotline.org#WivesNotSisters #SedonaPrince #DomesticViolenceAwareness #LGBTQPodcast #QueerLove #AbuseSurvivor #RelationshipAwareness #TrueStory #ToxicRelationships #PodcastClipConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker

Send us a textThe wounds of emotional abuse aren't always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can't see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence.In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—shines a light on the long-term impacts of abuse that often go unnoticed.You'll learn:How isolation keeps survivors trapped and silentWhy the silent treatment and stonewalling leave lasting emotional woundsHow projection and blame-shifting destroy self-trustThe toll abuse takes on your mental health and nervous systemSteps to begin reclaiming your sense of self and reconnecting with your worthThis conversation will help you understand the invisible aftermath of emotional abuse, validate what you've been through, and remind you: you are not broken—you were abused.

Trauma bonds aren't about shared hardship or difficult experiences. They're cycles of abuse and relief that hook your brain and body like an addiction. That's why it feels impossible to just “get over it.”In this episode, I break down what trauma bonding really is—and what it isn't. I talk about how intermittent reinforcement keeps survivors stuck, why naming it matters, and why treating it like an addiction can open a path back to yourself.You'll hear practical ways to start loosening the bond, even if you're not ready for big steps yet. Whether that means muting their social media, setting one small boundary, or shifting your focus back to your own needs, this episode is here to remind you: you're not crazy, you're trauma bonded—and you can begin to reclaim your power one choice at a time.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Control in an abusive relationship often hides behind the illusion of change. They might say the words you've been waiting to hear—"I know I hurt you," "I'm working on myself"—but without real accountability, it's not growth. It's performance.This episode unpacks how shame drives manipulative behavior, why false accountability keeps you trapped, and how tactics like gaslighting, projection, and DARVO are used to destabilize you. It also explores the difference between genuine conflict resolution and the subtle ways control masquerades as care, calmness, or insight.If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling like your pain became the problem, you'll learn how to spot the pattern, trust your reality, and start reclaiming your clarity.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you find yourself obsessively attached to someone who hurts you, is it a sign of a trauma bond? I'll tackle this challenging subject, shedding light on why you might stay in a relationship despite enduring hurtful behavior and what this could mean for your sense of self-worth and emotional well-being.

Family court is a system that doesn't run on empathy — and that can be one of the hardest realities for survivors to face. In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned about communicating with attorneys while navigating years of custody battles and post-separation abuse.You'll hear why sending every message, email, or update in real time can backfire, how to frame patterns in a way that lawyers and judges can't ignore, and what it means to “play chess instead of checkers” when you're up against an abusive ex. I also talk about the impossible balancing act survivors are forced into: document everything, but don't be “too emotional.”If you've ever felt dismissed, minimized, or like your lawyer just doesn't get it, this conversation will give you strategies to shift how you present your case — without abandoning your truth.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Co-parenting is never easy—but when your ex displays narcissistic or emotionally abusive behaviors, it can feel impossible. You're not just managing logistics—you're protecting your peace, supporting your children, and trying not to lose yourself in the chaos. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. David Hawkins, founder of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute. With over four decades of experience and more than 40 books to his name, Dr. Hawkins brings deep insight into what it takes to stay grounded and emotionally safe while co-parenting with a narcissist. We explore how to shift from feeling powerless to powerful—not by changing the other parent, but by transforming how you show up. Dr. Hawkins and I talk about boundaries, emotional regulation, and how to support your children without getting pulled into manipulation or conflict. This conversation is about empowerment, not blame. If you've been walking on eggshells, exhausted by drama, and worried about your kids' well-being, this episode will bring clarity, courage, and practical tools to help you anchor yourself and protect what matters most. Connect with Dr. Hawkins: Free Resource: Free Ebook - Getting To the Core: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/media/Getting-to-the-Core.pdf Website: www.marriagerecoverycenter.com Email: info@marriagerecoverycenter.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drdavidbhawkins/videos Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marriage-rehab-exposing-narcissistic-emotional-abuse/id1618828831   Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

When you're trauma bonded, wanting them isn't about love—it's about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they're toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.We'll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn't the same as craving love. I'll share real strategies to interrupt the cycle, reframe your thoughts, and take the long-game approach toward freedom—without shaming yourself for how hard it feels.If you've ever felt stuck in the loop of wanting the very person who hurt you, this is your reminder: the craving is not proof you should go back.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Send us a textMost people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars.In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—exposes the lesser-known tactics of abuse that rarely get talked about:The intrusive stare that silently intimidatesNegging and backhanded compliments that chip away at your self-worthWord salad arguments that leave you drained and doubting yourselfTriangulation that pits people against each other and fuels insecurityYou'll learn how these hidden tactics show up, why they're so effective at keeping survivors trapped, and how to recognize them for what they are: abuse.Whether you're questioning your old or current relationship, supporting a loved one, or seeking to understand emotional abuse more deeply, this episode will give you language for the confusing experiences many survivors face.

This episode takes a deep dive into the realities of co-parenting and divorcing a high-conflict person. I answer some of the most common questions I hear from survivors—like how to handle manipulation of your child, what to do when the other parent lies about you, what parallel parenting really looks like, and how to survive smear campaigns and legal abuse.You'll hear the patterns I see over and over again in these cases—fake “redemption arcs,” crisis creation before court, love-bombing during divorce, and more—and how to recognize them without getting hooked. This isn't legal advice; it's strategy, grounded in lived experience and years of coaching people through the marathon of high-conflict divorce and post-separation abuse.If you're navigating chaos, this episode will help you see the landscape more clearly, name what's happening, and start building your own counter-strategy centered on your safety, your sanity, and your long-term peace.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

I'm sharing the truth about a trauma bond I was in—how it formed, why I stayed, and what it took to finally break free. This isn't a highlight reel or a neatly packaged story. It's the messy reality of living in a cycle of harm and hope, of being pulled in and pushed away, of mistaking control for care.If you've ever been asked, “Why didn't you just leave?”—or asked yourself the same thing—I want you to know this episode isn't about shame. It's about understanding. It's about the hooks that keep you tied to someone who hurts you, the ways your nervous system gets rewired to see pain as love, and the hope that becomes the glue keeping you in place.I'll walk you through the moments I clung to, the patterns I couldn't see until I was out, and the shift that finally allowed me to step away. My hope is that by the end, you'll see yourself more clearly—whether you're still in it, rebuilding after it, or trying to make sense of it years later.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you find yourself constantly being blamed for everything going wrong, it's time to question whether you're being manipulated into believing what may be a deflection. In this episode, I tackle the sometimes tricky dynamics of responsibility and blame.

In Part 2 Patrick Doyle goes deeper into the topics of spiritual abuse and emotional abuse plus "trust and healing" which deals with forgiveness and reconciliation. These topics are covered in his videos and his book "Death of a Thousand Cuts - the impact of emotional abuse. A guide to clarity and healing." The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Delanie Fischer chats with Dr. Judy Ho, licensed clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, tenured professor at Pepperdine University, and TV host, about attention-seeking behavior. They take a deep dive into one common type, sympathy-seeking, to explore its root causes, distinguish between healthy and unhealthy attention-seeking, and share practical tips for approaching conversations with empathy. Plus: + Breakdown of 6 Common Attention-Seeking Behaviors + The Biggest Myth About Neuroplasticity—Busted + 15 Tips: Self-Auditing, Parenting, and Tough Conversations Self-Helpless on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com EPISODES RELATED TO THIS TOPIC: Understand Your Attachment Style with Thais Gibson: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/228cc412/craving-a-healthy-relationship-understand-your-attachment-style-with-thais-gibson What If You Did The Opposite Action Today? with Dr. Luana Marquez: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/273fa5be/self-helpless-snack-what-if-you-did-the-opposite-action-today-with-dr-luana-marquez 15 Signs of Emotional Abuse with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/246a6f64/self-helpless-snack-15-signs-of-emotional-abuse-with-dr-stephanie-sarkis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you're trauma bonded, wanting them isn't about love—it's about relief. The relief of the fight being over. The relief of feeling seen again, even for a moment. In this episode, I break down why your body can know they're toxic and still long for their presence, and why that doesn't make you weak—it makes you human.We'll explore how your nervous system and brain chemistry keep you hooked, why reconciliation feels addictive, and the painful truth that craving relief isn't the same as craving love.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

This episode is a little different. Instead of diving into a specific topic, I'm sharing updates, announcements, and all the ways you can work with me.If you're new here—or wondering what I offer beyond the podcast—you'll hear about:Upcoming divorce-focused episodes and why I'm expanding the podcast to include them.My Substack and daily writing for survivors.Self-paced courses on emotional abuse, boundaries, documentation for court, and breaking trauma bonds.Coaching options: intro calls, validation calls, and ongoing support.Why personalized, trauma-informed support matters and how to connect directly.Whether you're seeking clarity, ongoing guidance, or just curious about my work, this episode gives you a clear map of what's available.

Patrick says "One of the ways I learned about trauma was by being in it." From a traumatic childhood Patrick now is a #1 best-selling author, speaker, and counselor with more than 30 years of experience guiding individuals through healing from emotional abuse, addiction, and trauma. He tells us his Faith Story, his Ministry Story and his Tru316 Story on The Eden Podcast, Part One.Patrick has been a pastor, directed non-profits, spoken at conferences, and appeared on radio, TV, and on YouTube. He is the founder of Pathway to Hope, an online community dedicated to helping women rebuild trust in themselves, set healthy boundaries, and find freedom from toxic cycles. The Tru316 Foundation (www.Tru316.com) is the home of The Eden Podcast with Bruce C. E. Fleming where we “true” the verse of Genesis 3:16. The Tru316 Message is that “God didn't curse Eve (or Adam) or limit woman in any way.” Once Genesis 3:16 is made clear the other passages on women and men become clear too. You are encouraged to access the episodes of Seasons 1-11 of The Eden Podcast for teaching on the seven key passages on women and men. Are you a reader? We invite you to get from Amazon the four books by Bruce C. E. Fleming in The Eden Book Series (Tru316.com/trubooks). Would you like to support the work of the Tru316 Foundation? You can become a Tru Partner here: www.Tru316.com/partner

Welcome to the Squared Circle Podcast! I am your host Marie Shadows***Support: https://campsite.com/marieshadowshttps://patreon.com/marieshadowshttps://open.spotify.com/show/5nGoROIAggUjr04rAQkKfR?si=7a6958d00f2940f4***This episode isn't gossip. It's a case study in how love, anger, and performance collide until nobody knows where the act ends and the damage begins. Using the Masha Slamovich–Akira situation as a lens, we break down the patterns that trap people in toxic cycles—both in relationships and in industries that profit from chaos.Big Idea 1: The Cycle of Toxic LoveRelationships don't start toxic—they start with care, attention, and the promise that someone sees you. But when affection escalates into humiliation, apology, and repetition, love itself becomes a weapon.Affection That Feels Safe at First: “Because I care about you.” What should be comfort becomes a plea: please don't hurt me again.Words as Weapons: “Now you can love the memory of me.” Poetry as a tether, keeping a victim tied to pain.Devotion Turned Against You: “Once again, my love doesn't come with an asterisk.” Unconditional love can become leverage.Identity Attacks: “You're femme as f* and I'm not gay.” Humiliation disguised as honesty cuts deeper than fists.Big Idea 2: Abuse Isn't Always PhysicalNot all damage leaves a bruise. Emotional abuse can linger for years and is often invisible.Invisible Scars: Words like “you'll never be enough” echo long after a busted lip heals.Silence Feeds the Cycle: Unsounded protests allow the pattern to repeat.Love as a Trap: Staying out of hope that love will “win” can keep someone trapped.Abuse Has No Gender: Men can be victims. Women can be abusers. No stereotype protects anyone.Big Idea 3: Wrestling Culture Makes It WorseThis is bigger than two people. Wrestling rewards chaos and blurs lines between performance and personal boundaries.Brutal Schedules and Frayed Tempers: Exhaustion makes patience harder, and abuse more likely.“Work the Gimmick” = Blur the Line: Selling intimacy as a job makes it easy to forget where the act ends.Public Pain as Content: Online outrage consumes real suffering for clicks.The Pop Isn't Worth Your Soul: No angle, booking, or cheer is worth living in fear.Big Idea 4: Lessons We Have to CarryThis story is a mirror for every relationship and community that confuses passion with pain.Anger Is Not Love: Hitting, throwing, or humiliating is control, not passion.Communication Saves Lives: Speak up. Step away. Break the cycle with conversation.Love Yourself Enough to Leave: Walking away isn't weakness—it's survival.Truth Over Gossip: Talk about hard things without turning pain into entertainment.Three Smaller but Crucial IdeasPerformance Isn't Consent: A crowd pop doesn't erase personal boundaries.Algorithms Thrive on Suffering: Outrage and pain get clicks; popularity doesn't equal truth.Healing Requires Accountability: No one is a cartoon villain. Acknowledging harm is step one.Final ThoughtThe Masha–Akira story isn't about picking sides. It's about recognizing patterns before they trap us, refusing to mistake chaos for love, and remembering that no pop, storyline, or relationship is worth your soul.Time Stamp00:00 – Intro, context, and my personal disclaimers.03:00 – My brief interactions with Masha & Akira in the wrestling scene.08:00 – The first text message exchange—what it reveals about anger and control.17:00 – Overstimulation, bad matches, and misplaced frustration.28:00 – Physical abuse and the pictures of injuries.35:00 – Weaponizing sex and status in a toxic relationship.41:00 – Why communication matters more than winning an argument.47:00 – The breakup texts and what they teach us about self-awareness.50:00 – My call for accountability and healthier outlets for anger.

The shot heard around the world, the shock that came from the death of Charlie Kirk. Marvin and Tony are talking with fred on the Marvin Nemitz podcast about the goodness of God. Though it is a tragic thing that has happened, as we pray for his family, we must focus on the what God will do.  

The emotionally abusive relationship can sometimes be hard to define. How long must abusive behavior go on before actually admit that what's really happening is abuse? 

Grace is first generation Italian Australian. Her parents immigrated from Southern Italy to Australia when they were  young. Rosa and Alfredo, Grace's parents, met many years later in Australia and started their family of four girls.  Rosa was one of nine children and she was  fifteen when landing in Australia. Alfredo lost both his parents at five years old and had a rough childhood.  He was a victim of abuse and moved from house to house as a child. De Angeli reflects saying "he did the best he could with what he had."Grace insists "that it was a cultural thing" as to why her mother stayed throughout  many years of emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Eventually, Grace and her younger sister became targets as well.  It was always the fear and bullying tactic that their father used especially against their mom, Rosa. Grace says that her father would often scream at her mother "you either stay or you die" or "you leave, I'll kill you." So her mother stayed out of fear.  "We were all brought up with the fear that if we did something wrong we would be killed," remarks Grace. "When I think back to my childhood I wasn't protected by my mother, but she taught me who not to be when I grew up."One would think that this would take a real tole on Grace's life and her future. But the best news is that with the help of her husband and many others, Grace has learned how to transform her life and heal from her scars of her father plus how to beat Breast Cancer with many different treatments and therapies including Eastern and Western Medicines, mind over matter and the list goes on and on. She is a true inspiration. She declares "it doesn't matter where you are in your journey, whether stage 1 or stage 4 breast cancer OR any illness, you need to get things right in your soul and spirit, where you are your most authentic self." She continues, "it doesn't matter as long as you are honest and liberated within yourself, it doesn't matter what happens next."For a young woman who at twenty one years old had contemplated suicide, to becoming this force of nature to heal not only herself but help others on their individual journey is remarkable.There's so much more to this story so please do listen to the episode in it's entirety. Grace is emphatic when saying "we were put on this planet to be ourself. If you can be the best version of yourself, you've done it."To find Grace's podcast use on link below:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1552339592    "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo's “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it's clear why it's a 2023 People's Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers' actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".Check out our website for more background information: https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantilloLink to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Or Find SHLTMM Website here: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother

Podcast favorite Dr. Amelia Kelley is back on the show! Today we're unpacking something I know will resonate with so many of you: our trauma responses. Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn… we all have them. But what if instead of shaming ourselves for these responses, we learned to use them for our benefit? Amelia and I get into what each response actually looks like day-to-day, why they happen so quickly in the body, and how to bring more consciousness when they show up. We also explore ways to reframe them so they can become tools that work in your favor: turning fight into advocacy, flight into creativity, freeze into stillness, and fawn into compassion and service. ✨ Podcast episodes are available in two formats - audio and video! If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. What you'll hear about in this episode: The four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn (2:36) Why these responses happen so fast in the brain and nervous system (5:41) The role of naming and grounding in shifting your experience (17:47) How to recognize your default response and bring more choice into it (19:55) Using trauma responses in intentional ways, like boxing, cycling, meditation, or setting boundaries (38:20) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley:  Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is an adjunct professor in Psychology at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life and 411 Teen. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is also a resident trainer at PESI offering continuing trauma-focused education to professionals. She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness their Untapped Gifts, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, as well as Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine, as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Lifehacker, Well + Good and Insider.  Resources & Links: ALL NEW: The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are Now Available on YouTube! Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch Dr. Amelia Kelley's websiteDr. Amelia Kelley on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-335-making-your-trauma-responses-work-for-you-with-dr-amelia-kelley/  

Abuse doesn't always leave physical scars, but it always leaves an impact. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Annette Oltmans — survivor, author, and founder of The M3ND Project — to shine a light on the realities of emotional and covert abuse, and the all-too-common retraumatization that happens when victims seek help but are met with disbelief or dismissal. Annette's groundbreaking work on Double Abuse® gives language to what so many survivors have experienced but struggled to name. Together, we explore what emotional and covert abuse really look like, the risks of misusing terms like “gaslighting” or “narcissism” in legal contexts, and how to safeguard your credibility when telling your story in court or to professionals. We talk about why so many therapists, clergy, and attorneys still miss the signs of abuse and how you can begin finding the ones who truly understand. Most importantly, we discuss how to take those first healing steps with support that validates your experience and helps you move forward. We also highlight valuable resources from The M3ND Project, including free guides, training, and tools designed to help both survivors and professionals respond with clarity and compassion. If you've been struggling to put words to your experience or to find the right help, you are not alone. This conversation will give you insight, hope, and practical direction as you take steps to heal and rebuild your life. Connect with Annette: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/ Free Monthly Workshop: https://themendproject.com/free-workshops/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up  

Lisa McFarland is passionate about transforming the way people approach relationships. After more than 36 years of marriage, she and her husband continue to thrive by applying the tools and insights she gained through her life coaching journey—tools she now shares with others. Lisa believes relationship coaching should be as natural as hiring a personal trainer or business coach. Too often, people carry old wounds and unhelpful patterns into their relationships, expecting them to work without support. Her mission is to change that—to remove the shame around asking for help and inspire people to see it as a path to growth, strength, and fulfillment. Through her coaching, Lisa encourages others to embrace their potential, live authentically, and create the relationships—and lives—they've always dreamed of.   Key Topics: ⭐ Why Most Couples Struggle Without Ever Learning Relationship Skills ⭐ The Midlife Crisis In Men And The Loneliness Of Women In Relationships ⭐ How Childhood Programming Shapes Conflict Styles And Emotional Patterns ⭐ Silent Treatment, Avoidance, And The Hidden Cost Of Poor Communication ⭐ Why Good Intentions Fail Without The Right Tools And Language ⭐ Emotional Safety As The New Foundation Of Modern Love ⭐ Practical Communication Tools: Listening vs. Fixing, Removing “You,” And Grace In Conflict ⭐ The Clash Between Perfectionism, Martyrdom, And Men Wanting To Contribute ⭐ Stagnation vs. Growth: Why Relationships Must Evolve Through Life's Phases ⭐ Rethinking Fidelity, Gender Roles, And Emotional Needs In A Changing World   Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance Waitlist: https://forms.gle/oFyNbPmugYKtjQpRA   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Connect With Lisa McFarland:    Website: https://relationshipcoachni.com/ 

Struggling with divorce and emotional abuse? Learn how the right support can help you.

How do you know when it's time to instigate a split? If your partner's behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what? 

Welcome to Part 2 of Lisa Bilyeu's riveting deep dive with forensic psychologist Dr. Shannon Curry. Having laid the groundwork of identifying personality disorders and their impact in relationships, this half turns up the heat with unfiltered conversation around actual case studies, the realities of abusive dynamics for men and women, healing after toxic love, and how to reclaim your self-worth and power after manipulation. Shannon and Lisa tackle the infamous Amber Heard-Johnny Depp trial, peeling back the legal layers around trauma claims and public judgment. Dr. Curry breaks down the science behind situational versus characterological violence, how abusers trap their partners, and the societal blind spots that keep both men and women bound in shame. The episode closes with empowering advice on how to forgive yourself, rebuild after heartbreak, and find healthy, secure love—plus a viral pop-culture breakdown that will change how you see relationships forever. Introspective, educational, and fiercely honest, Part 2 is your masterclass in spotting red flags, setting boundaries, and awakening to your own strength. SHOWNOTES44:59 Recognizing True Toxicity—From Charm to Chaos (continued)54:29 Borderline Personality in Relationships—Roleplay & Analysis1:04:44 How Healthy Love Can Heal Old Wounds1:12:01 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse in Abusive Relationships1:29:41 Signs You're in a Truly Abusive Relationship1:36:27 Forgiving Yourself for Falling Again—The Path to Healing1:41:54 Practical Tools: What Traits Make Long-Lasting Relationships1:55:35 Can You Compromise on Identity in a Relationship?2:02:08 Social Judgment, Collective Wounds, and the Power of Non-Judgment FOLLOW DR. SHANNON CURRY:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/currypsychgroupWebsite: https://www.currypsychology.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy's: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off ⁠https://bioptimizers.com/impact⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Heather thought her family life was normal. But over time, she uncovered two buried traumas that quietly shaped her childhood—and required deep healing.Years later, as a newlywed, another wound came to light: her husband's secret porn addiction. It shattered her—but it also became the turning point for restoration. Heather now calls it both the worst day and the best day of her life.In this episode, we dive into:Why she didn't leave, and the non-negotiable conditions she set to even consider stayingHer advice for women facing the same gut-wrenching discovery, and for young people who just found out about a parent's addiction or affairHer biggest lesson for anyone from a dysfunctional family—and the practical steps she recommends to start healingIf you've ever found yourself wounded or betrayed, wondering if healing and restoration is possible, this episode is for you.Listen to Abiding TogetherVisit Heather's WebsiteListen to Restore the GloryListen to the Healing Sexual Brokenness SeriesGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!

In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!

This encore episode features passionate human rights advocate Annette Oltmans, and we're talking about covert emotional abuse, one of the most insidious and overlooked forms of domestic violence. If you're in it, have been through it, or suspect something's not right in your relationship, this is one you don't want to miss (or re-listen to). Annette shares her personal experience of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage, along with what she's learned through years of recovery and deep field research. Her work around Original Abuse and Double Abuse® led her to found The M3ND Project in 2016, an organization dedicated to helping survivors name what's happening and start to heal. What you'll hear about in this episode: What motivated Annette to found the M3ND Project  Some of the definitions of covert emotional abuse like blame-shifting or minimization of the victim's perspective Annette shares the four pillars of abuse and what drives abusive thinking Realizing you are a victim and changing the worldview of your relationship with your abuser brings on a new layer of stress  Abuse recovery and insights and advice for those thinking about repairing their relationship after their partner has begun therapy  Learn more about Annette Oltmans: Annette Oltmans is a philanthropist and passionate human rights advocate. Annette's personal experiences of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery including comprehensive field research into the topics of Original Abuse and Double Abuse® ignited her passion to founding The M3ND Project in 2016. While seeking the help of professionals and responders, she experienced Double Abuse® in the form of spiritual and institutional abuse. These harmful encounters compelled Annette in her relentless pursuit for solutions that involved interviews with hundreds of victims and survivors. She uncovered common threads that cause victims prolonged states of confusion as well as what ultimately led them towards healing. Her journey also involved interviews with hundreds of faith-based leaders and therapists which led her to discover that most are untrained and ill-equipped to identify and help victims of emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse. In working to prevent and remediate such harm, Annette developed protocoled models that are now being taught and implemented with therapists, churches and professional organizations across the United States. She consulted with esteemed experts in abuse, trauma, and healing to ensure the materials align with the highest professional standards. Annette also serves on the Board of Pepperdine University's Boone Center for the Family and is a Board of Trustee member of Northrise University in Zambia. Her writing on these topics of abuse, domestic violence, and bullying has been published in the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), Teen Vogue, and numerous other publications. Annette is also a contributing author in the newly released book, “Created to Thrive: Cultivating Abuse-Free Safe Communities”. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoachKate on FacebookThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage The M3nd Project Website Tools and Resources from The M3ND Project The M3ND Project on Facebook The M3ND Project on Instagram The M3nd Project on YouTube The M3nd Project on Twitter =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/encore-episode-covert-emotional-abuse-with-annette-oltmans/

The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.