Podcasts about emotional abuse

They're kind again… so does that mean they've changed? In this episode, we unpack why the “nice” version is part of the abuse cycle — and how to tell the difference between real change and a calculated reset.One of the most confusing parts of an emotionally abusive relationship is when the cruelty suddenly stops — and the “nice” version of the person shows up. Maybe they're warmer, calmer, even kind for a while. You start to wonder… are they finally changing? Was I wrong about the abuse?In this episode, I break down why that “nice” version isn't separate from the abuse — it's part of the cycle. We'll explore how kindness can be used as a tactic, why it often appears when you're pulling away or setting boundaries, and how intermittent reinforcement keeps you hooked in the trauma bond.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Grace is first generation Italian Australian. Her parents immigrated from Southern Italy to Australia when they were  young. Rosa and Alfredo, Grace's parents, met many years later in Australia and started their family of four girls.  Rosa was one of nine children and she was  fifteen when landing in Australia. Alfredo lost both his parents at five years old and had a rough childhood.  He was a victim of abuse and moved from house to house as a child. De Angeli reflects saying "he did the best he could with what he had."Grace insists "that it was a cultural thing" as to why her mother stayed throughout  many years of emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Eventually, Grace and her younger sister became targets as well.  It was always the fear and bullying tactic that their father used especially against their mom, Rosa. Grace says that her father would often scream at her mother "you either stay or you die" or "you leave, I'll kill you." So her mother stayed out of fear.  "We were all brought up with the fear that if we did something wrong we would be killed," remarks Grace. "When I think back to my childhood I wasn't protected by my mother, but she taught me who not to be when I grew up."One would think that this would take a real tole on Grace's life and her future. But the best news is that with the help of her husband and many others, Grace has learned how to transform her life and heal from her scars of her father plus how to beat Breast Cancer with many different treatments and therapies including Eastern and Western Medicines, mind over matter and the list goes on and on. She is a true inspiration. She declares "it doesn't matter where you are in your journey, whether stage 1 or stage 4 breast cancer OR any illness, you need to get things right in your soul and spirit, where you are your most authentic self." She continues, "it doesn't matter as long as you are honest and liberated within yourself, it doesn't matter what happens next."For a young woman who at twenty one years old had contemplated suicide, to becoming this force of nature to heal not only herself but help others on their individual journey is remarkable.There's so much more to this story so please do listen to the episode in it's entirety. Grace is emphatic when saying "we were put on this planet to be ourself. If you can be the best version of yourself, you've done it."To find Grace's podcast use on link below:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1552339592    "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo's “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it's clear why it's a 2023 People's Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers' actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".Check out our website for more background information: https://www.jackietantillo.com/Or more demos of what's to come at https://soundcloud.com/jackie-tantilloLink to website and show notes: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Or Find SHLTMM Website here: https://shltmm.simplecast.com/Listen wherever you find podcasts: https://www.facebook.com/ShouldHaveListenedToMyMotherhttps://www.facebook.com/jackietantilloInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/shouldhavelistenedtomymother/https://www.instagram.com/jackietantillo7/LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/jackie-tantillo/YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@ShouldHaveListenedToMyMother

Podcast favorite Dr. Amelia Kelley is back on the show! Today we're unpacking something I know will resonate with so many of you: our trauma responses. Fight, flight, freeze, or fawn… we all have them. But what if instead of shaming ourselves for these responses, we learned to use them for our benefit? Amelia and I get into what each response actually looks like day-to-day, why they happen so quickly in the body, and how to bring more consciousness when they show up. We also explore ways to reframe them so they can become tools that work in your favor: turning fight into advocacy, flight into creativity, freeze into stillness, and fawn into compassion and service. ✨ Podcast episodes are available in two formats - audio and video! If you'd like to watch the video version of this episode, you can find it here. What you'll hear about in this episode: The four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn (2:36) Why these responses happen so fast in the brain and nervous system (5:41) The role of naming and grounding in shifting your experience (17:47) How to recognize your default response and bring more choice into it (19:55) Using trauma responses in intentional ways, like boxing, cycling, meditation, or setting boundaries (38:20) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley:  Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctor Podcast, researcher, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. Her specialties include art therapy, internal family systems (IFS), EMDR, and brainspotting. Her work focuses on women's issues, empowering survivors of abuse and relationship trauma, highly sensitive persons, motivation, healthy living, and adult ADHD. She is an adjunct professor in Psychology at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life and 411 Teen. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is also a resident trainer at PESI offering continuing trauma-focused education to professionals. She is the author of Powered by ADHD: Strategies and Exercises for Women to Harness their Untapped Gifts, Gaslighting Recovery for Women: The Complete Guide to Recognizing Manipulation and Achieving Freedom from Emotional Abuse, coauthor of What I Wish I Knew: Surviving and Thriving After an Abusive Relationship, as well as Surviving Suicidal Ideation: From Therapy to Spirituality and the Lived Experience, and a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine, as well as Highly Sensitive Refuge. Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo News, Lifehacker, Well + Good and Insider.  Resources & Links: ALL NEW: The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are Now Available on YouTube! Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on InstagramKate on FacebookKate's Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch Dr. Amelia Kelley's websiteDr. Amelia Kelley on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-335-making-your-trauma-responses-work-for-you-with-dr-amelia-kelley/  

Ask Ava, Ep. 264: "How can I set boundaries without being mean?"Setting boundaries is a form of self-love; creating safety for YOU is not mean to someone else. Special guest Jessica Fernandez joins us to talk about how setting boundaries can be an act of healing and empowerment!If you or someone you know needs help, reach out to our 24/7 Call and Text Helpline at 866-685-1122. For more information, visit www.safe-sound.orgSupport the showReal answers for real questions

Abuse doesn't always leave physical scars, but it always leaves an impact. In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, I sit down with Annette Oltmans — survivor, author, and founder of The M3ND Project — to shine a light on the realities of emotional and covert abuse, and the all-too-common retraumatization that happens when victims seek help but are met with disbelief or dismissal. Annette's groundbreaking work on Double Abuse® gives language to what so many survivors have experienced but struggled to name. Together, we explore what emotional and covert abuse really look like, the risks of misusing terms like “gaslighting” or “narcissism” in legal contexts, and how to safeguard your credibility when telling your story in court or to professionals. We talk about why so many therapists, clergy, and attorneys still miss the signs of abuse and how you can begin finding the ones who truly understand. Most importantly, we discuss how to take those first healing steps with support that validates your experience and helps you move forward. We also highlight valuable resources from The M3ND Project, including free guides, training, and tools designed to help both survivors and professionals respond with clarity and compassion. If you've been struggling to put words to your experience or to find the right help, you are not alone. This conversation will give you insight, hope, and practical direction as you take steps to heal and rebuild your life. Connect with Annette: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themendproject/ Free Monthly Workshop: https://themendproject.com/free-workshops/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/e-book-sign-up  

Lisa McFarland is passionate about transforming the way people approach relationships. After more than 36 years of marriage, she and her husband continue to thrive by applying the tools and insights she gained through her life coaching journey—tools she now shares with others. Lisa believes relationship coaching should be as natural as hiring a personal trainer or business coach. Too often, people carry old wounds and unhelpful patterns into their relationships, expecting them to work without support. Her mission is to change that—to remove the shame around asking for help and inspire people to see it as a path to growth, strength, and fulfillment. Through her coaching, Lisa encourages others to embrace their potential, live authentically, and create the relationships—and lives—they've always dreamed of.   Key Topics: ⭐ Why Most Couples Struggle Without Ever Learning Relationship Skills ⭐ The Midlife Crisis In Men And The Loneliness Of Women In Relationships ⭐ How Childhood Programming Shapes Conflict Styles And Emotional Patterns ⭐ Silent Treatment, Avoidance, And The Hidden Cost Of Poor Communication ⭐ Why Good Intentions Fail Without The Right Tools And Language ⭐ Emotional Safety As The New Foundation Of Modern Love ⭐ Practical Communication Tools: Listening vs. Fixing, Removing “You,” And Grace In Conflict ⭐ The Clash Between Perfectionism, Martyrdom, And Men Wanting To Contribute ⭐ Stagnation vs. Growth: Why Relationships Must Evolve Through Life's Phases ⭐ Rethinking Fidelity, Gender Roles, And Emotional Needs In A Changing World   Connect With David - The Authentic Man:   Breaking The Chains Of Avoidance Waitlist: https://forms.gle/oFyNbPmugYKtjQpRA   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/  Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/  For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net  Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe  Connect With Lisa McFarland:    Website: https://relationshipcoachni.com/ 

n this raw and validating conversation, fitness expert and former pro athlete Holly Rilinger shares her first public telling of the emotional abuse she endured inside a long-term relationship that looked perfect on the outside.Holly opens up about how the relationship began with admiration and love bombing, then slowly eroded her confidence, identity, and sense of self. From subtle criticisms about her appearance to the complete absence of repair after conflict, she found herself living in constant fatigue, self-doubt, and silence — all while running a successful fitness business and motivating others to feel strong in their own skin.The discussion unpacks the patterns of narcissistic abuse, the manufactured discard, the loss of identity, and the physical toll of living in fight-or-flight for years. Holly reflects on the moment a friend finally witnessed the behavior, how she began waking up to the truth, and the small ways she's reclaiming her body, voice, and power in the seven months since leaving.If you've ever questioned your reality in a relationship that looked “fine” to the outside world but felt like slow erasure on the inside, Holly's story will remind you that you're not crazy — and that healing is possible.You can follow Holly here: https://www.theliftedmethodcoaching.com/Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

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How do you feel about this episode? Text us!Helen Norbury and Jillian Scott obliterate narcissistic abuse.Jillian shares her journey of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it affected her sense of identity and self-worth. She delves into her experiences with emotional abuse, binge eating, and the challenges of finding her authentic self while in a narcissistic marriage.If you want to apply to have Helen help you exceed your own expectations, email her at helen@helenannenorbury.co.uk or send her a DM on Instagram, or follow her on LinkedIn.Jillian discusses the importance of self-trust, self-belief, and emotional healing, shedding light on her continuous efforts to embrace her true self amidst past traumas. Jillian and Helen offer hope and encouragement for those experiencing similar struggles.As a former binge eater turned trauma-certified life coach, Jillian Scott specializes in empowering clients to overcome the aftermath of emotionally abusive relationships, heal their relationship with food and body, and develop unwavering self confidence and self belief. She's the host of the Hungry for Love Podcast and creator of the Whole Brain Method designed to heal your relationship with food, body, and self. Episode Highlights:00:46 Toxic Family Survival06:48 Narcissistics Aplenty06:59 Self-Identity vs Marriage12:14 Emotional Abuse & Eating Habits17:34 Core Cravings & Emotional Eating19:00 Constant Moving vs Core Identity20:39 People-Pleasing & Self-Worth22:37 Core Wounds vs Self-Truth27:50 Rebuilding Self-Trust Post-Trauma30:20 Living Unapologetically & Setting BoundariesIf you love the show, share it with 2 people who would be inspired by these conversations.

How do you know when it's time to instigate a split? If your partner's behavior leaves you feeling oppressed and defeated, and they refuse to change, and they also don't want to end the relationship, then what? 

Most survivors don't start by asking “Is this abuse?” They ask “Why do I feel crazy?”This episode dives deep into the emotional confusion that defines so many abusive dynamics—especially when gaslighting, blame-shifting, and chronic invalidation are at play. If you've ever found yourself apologizing after being hurt, doubting your memory, or shrinking yourself to avoid their reactions, you're not alone—and you're not overreacting.We'll explore:How emotional abuse trains you to question your realityThe difference between lying and gaslighting—and why the distinction mattersSubtle red flags that keep you stuck in self-blameThe questions that help you reconnect with your truthThis episode is here to help you name the thing you haven't been able to name, and to remind you: confusion is a tactic. Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/YouarenotcrazySupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Welcome to Part 2 of Lisa Bilyeu's riveting deep dive with forensic psychologist Dr. Shannon Curry. Having laid the groundwork of identifying personality disorders and their impact in relationships, this half turns up the heat with unfiltered conversation around actual case studies, the realities of abusive dynamics for men and women, healing after toxic love, and how to reclaim your self-worth and power after manipulation. Shannon and Lisa tackle the infamous Amber Heard-Johnny Depp trial, peeling back the legal layers around trauma claims and public judgment. Dr. Curry breaks down the science behind situational versus characterological violence, how abusers trap their partners, and the societal blind spots that keep both men and women bound in shame. The episode closes with empowering advice on how to forgive yourself, rebuild after heartbreak, and find healthy, secure love—plus a viral pop-culture breakdown that will change how you see relationships forever. Introspective, educational, and fiercely honest, Part 2 is your masterclass in spotting red flags, setting boundaries, and awakening to your own strength. SHOWNOTES44:59 Recognizing True Toxicity—From Charm to Chaos (continued)54:29 Borderline Personality in Relationships—Roleplay & Analysis1:04:44 How Healthy Love Can Heal Old Wounds1:12:01 The Cycle of Emotional Abuse in Abusive Relationships1:29:41 Signs You're in a Truly Abusive Relationship1:36:27 Forgiving Yourself for Falling Again—The Path to Healing1:41:54 Practical Tools: What Traits Make Long-Lasting Relationships1:55:35 Can You Compromise on Identity in a Relationship?2:02:08 Social Judgment, Collective Wounds, and the Power of Non-Judgment FOLLOW DR. SHANNON CURRY:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/currypsychgroupWebsite: https://www.currypsychology.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ Macy's: Upgrade your glam at ⁠https://macys.com⁠ BIOptimizers: Code IMPACTNOW for 15% off ⁠https://bioptimizers.com/impact⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the most confusing and painful parts of surviving a relationship with someone who has Cluster B traits, including narcissistic, antisocial, borderline, and histrionic personality disorders.We explore:The neurological and psychological reasons why people with Cluster B disorders don't changeWhy survivors feel crazy, confused, and exhausted—and why that's by designHow splitting, emotional dysregulation, and weaponized remorse show up in real relationshipsThe difference between low capacity and emotional immaturity vs. willful abuseHow to tell if the “person you miss” was ever real—or just the hookWhy grief work is essential when letting go of the fantasy version of who you thought they wereDr. Kerry offers insight from both her clinical background and lived experience. If you've ever asked yourself “Why won't they change?” or “Was any of it real?”—this episode will help you understand why the answer is more devastating and liberating than you thought.Learn more about Dr. Kerry McAvoy's work and grab her book Love You More at kerrymcavoyphd.com. To join her Toxic-Free Relationship ClubSupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Heather thought her family life was normal. But over time, she uncovered two buried traumas that quietly shaped her childhood—and required deep healing.Years later, as a newlywed, another wound came to light: her husband's secret porn addiction. It shattered her—but it also became the turning point for restoration. Heather now calls it both the worst day and the best day of her life.In this episode, we dive into:Why she didn't leave, and the non-negotiable conditions she set to even consider stayingHer advice for women facing the same gut-wrenching discovery, and for young people who just found out about a parent's addiction or affairHer biggest lesson for anyone from a dysfunctional family—and the practical steps she recommends to start healingIf you've ever found yourself wounded or betrayed, wondering if healing and restoration is possible, this episode is for you.Listen to Abiding TogetherVisit Heather's WebsiteListen to Restore the GloryListen to the Healing Sexual Brokenness SeriesGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!

In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen How to distinguish real connection from performative affection Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again Why This Matters Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality. This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life. Take the Next Step Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Method is a neuroscience-based program designed to help you uncover the subconscious beliefs keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles. Learn how to heal from emotional abuse, build a healthy self-concept, and reconnect to your intuition. Explore the Breakthrough Method at 50% Off https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

What happens when a mother sees her son not as an individual, but as an extension of herself? In this powerful episode, we dive into the hidden dynamics between narcissistic mothers and their sons—and how this enmeshment can shape identity, independence, and relationships for decades.Author and psychotherapist Christine Louis de Cannonville joins us to explore the making of a so-called “mama's boy,” the long shadow of emotional manipulation, and the pathways to freedom. From enmeshment and silenced voices to the liberating act of reclaiming one's power, this conversation is both a mirror and a map.You'll hear stories of sons who struggled under the weight of their mother's control, the painful impact on their partners and families, and a breakthrough moment on the beach where a blocked voice finally found release. Christine shares how spiritual and therapeutic practices—like shamanic journeying and boundary work—can help survivors reconnect with their essence, reclaim their voice, and step into authentic adulthood.This episode isn't about blaming mothers. It's about recognizing the patterns, breaking the cycle, and moving forward with compassion, clarity, and self-love.Christine Louis de Cannonville is a psychotherapist, author, and educator specializing in the treatment of narcissistic abuse. Known for her compassionate yet direct approach, she has written extensively on the dark triad, shame, and recovery from narcissistic relationships. Christine blends trauma-informed therapy with spiritual and shamanic practices to help clients reclaim their voice and their power. Her work has supported countless survivors worldwide in moving from trauma to transformation.Learn more about her work at www.narcissisticbehavior.netBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.

I'm sharing one of the most requested and emotionally charged topics: the trauma bond. This episode is part of my private podcast series Unhooked: Mapping the Cycle of Abuse, and I felt it was important to bring it here too—for anyone who's stuck in the pain, confusion, or shame of staying in a relationship they know is harming them.We explore why trauma bonds form, how they keep you hooked, and what it takes to begin breaking free. This isn't just about naming abuse—it's about understanding how your nervous system got wired for survival in an environment where love and harm coexist.Inside this episode:What a trauma bond actually is (and how it's different from love)Why your body clings to the person who hurts youSigns you might be trauma bondedWhy it feels impossible to leave—even when you know the truthWhat happens during withdrawal after leavingHow to start untangling yourself, one step at a timeThe myth of mutual abuse and why blaming yourself keeps you stuckThis conversation comes directly from Unhooked, my in-depth series designed to help you map your personal cycle of abuse, reconnect to your clarity, and take back your power. If what you hear in this episode resonates, I invite you to join me inside the full series.

Breadcrumbing can be a manipulative way to keep someone in your mind so that you can't fully move forward, keeping you as a pawn in another person's game. In this episode, a person wrote to me talking about their ex, a 13-year breadcrumber!

Send us a textAre you struggling with the hidden effects of emotional abuse — like chronic fatigue, anxiety, brain fog, or constant overthinking? In this episode, Allison shares how emotional abuse impacts the body, memory, and relationships long after the abuse ends, and why it's not your fault. You'll learn how trauma gets stored in the nervous system, why symptoms like insomnia, headaches, and poor focus are so common for survivors, and most importantly, how you can begin to heal.This episode is for women recovering from emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse, or toxic relationships who want to stop ruminating, release self-doubt, and finally feel safe in their own skin again. If you've ever asked yourself “Why can't I move on?” or “Will I ever feel like myself again?” — this conversation will give you hope and real answers.Support the showEmail: Allison@radiatenrise.comFree 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/To learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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This encore episode features passionate human rights advocate Annette Oltmans, and we're talking about covert emotional abuse, one of the most insidious and overlooked forms of domestic violence. If you're in it, have been through it, or suspect something's not right in your relationship, this is one you don't want to miss (or re-listen to). Annette shares her personal experience of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage, along with what she's learned through years of recovery and deep field research. Her work around Original Abuse and Double Abuse® led her to found The M3ND Project in 2016, an organization dedicated to helping survivors name what's happening and start to heal. What you'll hear about in this episode: What motivated Annette to found the M3ND Project  Some of the definitions of covert emotional abuse like blame-shifting or minimization of the victim's perspective Annette shares the four pillars of abuse and what drives abusive thinking Realizing you are a victim and changing the worldview of your relationship with your abuser brings on a new layer of stress  Abuse recovery and insights and advice for those thinking about repairing their relationship after their partner has begun therapy  Learn more about Annette Oltmans: Annette Oltmans is a philanthropist and passionate human rights advocate. Annette's personal experiences of prolonged emotional abuse in marriage and her extensive journey of recovery including comprehensive field research into the topics of Original Abuse and Double Abuse® ignited her passion to founding The M3ND Project in 2016. While seeking the help of professionals and responders, she experienced Double Abuse® in the form of spiritual and institutional abuse. These harmful encounters compelled Annette in her relentless pursuit for solutions that involved interviews with hundreds of victims and survivors. She uncovered common threads that cause victims prolonged states of confusion as well as what ultimately led them towards healing. Her journey also involved interviews with hundreds of faith-based leaders and therapists which led her to discover that most are untrained and ill-equipped to identify and help victims of emotional, verbal, and psychological abuse. In working to prevent and remediate such harm, Annette developed protocoled models that are now being taught and implemented with therapists, churches and professional organizations across the United States. She consulted with esteemed experts in abuse, trauma, and healing to ensure the materials align with the highest professional standards. Annette also serves on the Board of Pepperdine University's Boone Center for the Family and is a Board of Trustee member of Northrise University in Zambia. Her writing on these topics of abuse, domestic violence, and bullying has been published in the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC), Teen Vogue, and numerous other publications. Annette is also a contributing author in the newly released book, “Created to Thrive: Cultivating Abuse-Free Safe Communities”. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate The Divorce Survival Guide Resource BundlePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveKate on Instagram @kateanthony_divorcecoachKate on FacebookThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage The M3nd Project Website Tools and Resources from The M3ND Project The M3ND Project on Facebook The M3ND Project on Instagram The M3nd Project on YouTube The M3nd Project on Twitter =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/encore-episode-covert-emotional-abuse-with-annette-oltmans/

Verbal and emotional abuse is often invisible and hard to detect, but its effects run deep. In this episode, Haley and Dustin discuss the impact and power of our words, and how abuse can shape our sense of worth, identity, and dignity. They explore what verbal and emotional abuse is — and what it isn't — and discuss the types of verbal abuse found in Scripture as well as the subtle and not-so-subtle forms of emotional abuse. They also walk through what to do if you've experienced verbal and emotional abuse and steps to take if you've been the one who has hurt others with your words. Whether you've been hurt or have hurt others, this episode provides biblical insights and practical steps to find healing and be changed by the power of God's Word. Subscribe to the podcast and tune in each week as Haley and Dustin share with you what the Bible says about real-life issues with compassion, warmth, and wit.   So you have every reason for hope, for every challenge in life. Because hope means everything.   Hope Talks is a podcast of the ministry of Hope for the Heart.   Listen in to learn more : (05:55) The Impact of Verbal Abuse  (18:36) Importance of Tone in Verbal Abuse  (25:35) Recognizing and Fighting Verbal Abuse  (34:46) Recognizing Verbal and Emotional Abuse  (39:34) Speaking Truth With Responsibility  (46:23) Healing Both Abuser and Abused  (49:55) The Power of God's Healing  (54:04) Sword of Healing and Harm ( (56:19) Addressing Verbal Abuse in Ministry    -------------- Hope for the Heart resources Learn more and sign up for our fall Hope Together conference: https://hopetogether.com/    Order our newest resource, The Care and Counsel Handbook, providing biblical guidance  100 real-life issues: https://resource.hopefortheheart.org/care-and-counsel-handbook   Free resource on Abuse Recovery: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/breaking-free-from-abuse-resource   Bible Study of Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/bible-study-on-understanding-verbal-emotional-abuse    Book on Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/abuse-recovery    Video course on Verbal & Emotional Abuse: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/store/product/abuse-recovery-video-course  Connect with Hope for the Heart on social!    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hopefortheheart   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopefortheheart    Want to talk with June Hunt on Hope in the Night about a difficult life issue? Schedule a time here: https://resource.hopefortheheart.org/talk-with-june-hope-in-the-night   God's plan for you: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/gods-plan-for-you/   Give to the ministry of Hope for the Heart: https://raisedonors.com/hopefortheheart/givehope?sc=HTPDON    ---------------------------- Bible verses mentioned in this episode   James 3:3-10 — When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one's life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell. All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles, and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.

The way someone talks about their relationship reveals a lot. Abuse victims and perpetrators each have their own language patterns. Knowing these language patterns will help you understand on which side of the fence you're on.

Trauma Bonding—a term that's often misunderstood and sometimes avoided because naming it means facing the abuse beneath it. In this episode, I break down what a trauma bond is (and isn't), why it's more than “shared trauma,” and how it functions as an emotional and physical addiction. Then, we talk about something that might feel uncomfortable: the places where you do have control once you've recognized you're trauma bonded.I cover:The truth about intermittent reinforcement and why it keeps you hookedWhy naming a trauma bond matters for healingHow to treat it like an addiction without shaming yourselfSmall, doable ways to create space and reclaim your powerHow to stop looping on them and start focusing on youResources & Links:Join the Patreon: Exclusive bonus content, Q&A, unreleased material —  https://patreon.com/YouarenotcrazyTrauma Bonding Playlist: Every episode I've recorded on this topic — https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6iOynoEO7SelaOTe2yzne0?si=CvyvQYn9QWutSgYAJmG-8w&pi=o4AQRKjrQ_mh5 Coaching & Support: emotionalabusecoach.comSupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

If you're still feeling anxious, jumpy, or emotionally raw long after leaving a narcissistic relationship, you're not alone.(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website athttps://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 common emotional triggers survivors experience after narcissistic abuse — and explain why these intense reactions may actually be symptoms of Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).I look at how they all trace back to what you endured in that toxic dynamic.I walk you through how narcissistic abuse rewires the brain, why emotional flashbacks are so real, and how to start healing from the inside out.If you've ever asked yourself,

I Was Held Hostage And Beaten By My Cheating Girlfriend. Here Is My StoryBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

If you grew up feeling emotionally unsafe, unseen, or like your feelings didn't matter, you may have unknowingly developed codependent behaviors rooted in childhood emotional neglect. In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, codependency recovery expert, breaks down how early life experiences shape your nervous system and self-worth—and why the "invisible child" often becomes an adult trapped in patterns of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and toxic relationship cycles.  In This Episode, You'll Learn: How childhood trauma, emotional instability, or neglect programs the brain for codependency Why feeling unsafe as a child rewires your nervous system to seek external validation How beliefs like “I'm not enough” become subconscious blocks to self-esteem The hidden link between early emotional trauma and compulsive rescuing or caretaking How to start reclaiming emotional safety through boundaries, self-awareness, and nervous system regulation  Why This Episode Matters Codependency is not just about behavior—it's about the emotional blueprint you were given as a child. If no one ever mirrored your worth or made space for your needs, you may now unconsciously look to others for permission to feel safe, lovable, or whole. But healing begins with visibility—recognizing your patterns and rewiring the beliefs that keep you stuck.  Take Action: Journal Prompt: When was the first time you felt emotionally unsafe or invisible? How is that experience still influencing your relationships today? Self-Awareness Practice: Next time you feel the urge to fix or please someone, ask yourself: “Is this about honoring me—or avoiding rejection?”  Continue the Journey: Discover Lisa's neuroscience-based system for codependency recovery in the

The gold medal athlete opens up about how she dealt with emotional and verbal abuse at the hands of coaches, the key role her mother played in advocating for her, and why leaving her beloved sport for a while was exactly what she needed."Habla Now," HBO Latino's award-winning "Habla" series, features Laurie Hernandez in its latest installment. It is now available to stream on HBO Max.Follow Laurie Hernandez on Instagram at @lauriehernandez. If you loved this episode, listen to How Jennifer Mercedes Made Herself an MVP in Sports Journalism. Show your love and become a Latina to Latina Patreon supporter!

Wedding Photographers, What's the Weirdest Thing You've Caught On Tape?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Dumbest Reasons for Divorce 3 HOURS!Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

All I Could See Was Her Brain Blown Away By My Gun | Reddit Cheating StoriesBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

I Found Out My Wife is Cheating On Me with a TEENAGER.. CRUSHED.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Mom Left Me At Neighbor's For 'An Hour' & Never Came Back But 20Yrs Later She Calls & Asks To Meet.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Kicked My Cheating Wife Out Of Our Son's Birthday PartyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Step Daughter Kicked Me Out Claiming She Don't Need No Men, So I Stopped Paying Mortgage & BillsBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Wife Used My Weight As An Excuse So She Can Have Fun With Her Former College BuddyBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Porn photographers what is the most awkward moment you had?Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Divorce Lawyers Share MOST Screwed People They Ever SeenBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

My Girlfriend Cheated on Me, So I Sent her to a Week-Long Trip and Banged Her Mom.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/true-cheating-wives-and-girlfriends-stories-2025-true-cheating-stories-podcast--5689182/support.

Sharay “Punisher” Hayes is a former professional dancer and author who found himself at the center of one of the year’s most high-profile cases — testifying in the civil trial against music mogul Sean “Diddy” Combs. His story goes beyond the headlines, revealing how fantasy, silence, and shame can trap men just as deeply as violence and power can trap women. Follow Sharay on Instagram: @getpunishedCheck out his new book: In Search of FREEZER MEAT — a raw and personal story about male mental health, erectile dysfunction, and the unexpected solution that changed his life. Episode Description: In Part 2, CSI Sheryl McCollum continues her raw and revealing conversation with Sharay Hayes — a dancer turned courtroom witness in one of the biggest trials of the year. This time, the focus turns inward. Sharay opens up about the emotional and psychological toll of being pulled into someone else’s fantasy, how he rationalized what he saw, and why the truth didn’t hit until the headlines did. They also dive into erectile dysfunction, male performance pressure, and the silence around mental health that keeps so many men trapped. Sharay’s story may have started in the club — but it ends in court, with real consequences and a long road toward healing. Show Notes: (0:00) The money, the setup, and a moment that still raises questions — a man in a hijab enters the room (2:00) Sheryl asks the big question: Did Sharay ever suspect Combs was abusive? (4:00) “ I always thought it was something for her ” — Sharay explains how he rationalized it all in real time (5:00) Domestic violence, denial, and realizing that what you see isn’t always what’s happening (6:30) What Sharay would say to Cassie — and how hindsight shapes what he sees now (9:00) Sheryl shifts focus to his book — and why In Search of FREEZER MEAT made her nervous to Google (10:00) What ED taught Sharay about pressure, shame, and being a man in a fantasy job (12:30) A 14-year-old, a school rumor, and the first wave of anxiety (14:00) How performance anxiety quietly wrecks confidence, connection, and self-worth (16:00) Sheryl shares a Vegas story — and why pressure hits differently face-to-face (17:00) Testifying in court — the nerves, the backlash, and how Sharay stayed honest with no horse in the race (21:00) Why his book’s helping more than readers — and what men are telling him (22:30) Sheryl closes the episode with a quote from Sean Combs himself: “You have to be somewhat crazy if you wanna be successful.” Thanks for listening to another episode! If Zone 7 is part of your weekly routine, show us some love with a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. It helps more folks find the show—and helps us keep telling these stories. --- Sheryl “Mac” McCollum is an Emmy Award-winning CSI, a writer for CrimeOnline, Forensic and Crime Scene Expert for Crime Stories with Nancy Grace, and a CSI for a metro Atlanta Police Department. She is the co-author of the textbook Cold Case: Pathways to Justice and the founder/director of the Cold Case Investigative Research Institute — a collaboration between universities and the criminal justice community that advances techniques for solving unsolved homicides, missing persons, and kidnapping cases. Social Links: Email: coldcase2004@gmail.com Twitter: @ColdCaseTips Facebook: @sheryl.mccollum Instagram: @officialzone7podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this eye-opening and deeply healing conversation, I'm joined by Debbie Mirza, bestselling author of The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist, to explore one of the most confusing and devastating relational dynamics: covert narcissism.We dive into the subtle signs of manipulation, why highly empathetic and spiritual people are often the targets, and how covert narcissists use spiritual language, fake empathy, and even sexuality to undermine your self-trust. Debbie also shares what healing actually looks like after this kind of relationship—how to become the safest place for yourself, rewire your understanding of love, and rebuild a connection with your heart that no one can take from you.This conversation is for you if you've ever felt drained, confused, or like you're “too sensitive” in a relationship—and especially if you've been taught to doubt your intuition in the name of growth.Connect with Debbie:https://www.debbiemirza.com/www.instagram.com/debbiemirza_authorYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@debbiemirza1744/videosAmazon Author Page:https://www.amazon.com/stores/Debbie-Mirza/author/B06XBLPD4T?ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true&ccs_id=14280a74-8667-4ab0-8f95-4863c445e659❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥Join HeartSpace monthly community with a free trial: ⁠⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠⁠❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Covert narcissists aren't obvious—but your body always knows the truth.""Healing is about becoming the safest place possible for your own heart. That's where the power starts to come back.""Love will never confuse you, drain you, or make you question your worth. Love brings peace—not chaos.""Unsolicited advice, spiritual superiority, and weaponised 'wisdom'—those are red flags, not guidance.""You were not too sensitive. You were being used. And now, you get to come home to yourself."Covert Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Trauma Healing, Debbie Mirza, Spiritual Manipulation, Self Trust, Emotional Abuse, Narcissistic Traits, Nervous System Healing, Empath Boundaries, Somatic Healing, Deep Within Podcast

 Are you constantly wondering if that "quirk" is actually a warning sign? In "Decoding Disaster," we dive deep into the often-ignored, sometimes-subtle, and always-critical red flags that pop up in relationships. Join LET THE STREETS REJOICE Podcast as they share personal anecdotes, expert insights, and listener stories to help you identify manipulative behaviors, unhealthy patterns, and compatibility mismatches before they lead to heartbreak. From gaslighting and love bombing to control issues and a lack of empathy, we'll equip you with the tools to spot the danger zones and build healthier, happier connections. 

You walk into an emotionally abusive relationship as one person, but where do you go after you're in one for a while? Is the person you're with trying to change you into someone you're not? 

Love can feel like a double-edged sword, cutting deep despite the tender moments. Or is that really love? Caring and kindness mixed with toxic, controlling behaviors create a dangerous emotional cocktail of bonding and trauma. 

Have you ever sat in a women's Bible study, nodding politely while someone says “your husband is your spiritual covering,” and inside you're thinking, I think I'm dying a little bit every time I say “yes, dear”?In this episode, I get real about complementarianism, the nice-sounding theology that quietly hijacked our self-worth, autonomy, and sanity. I share how I was the poster child for it once (hello, Created to Be His Help Meet), and how that life script nearly destroyed my soul.I'm unpacking the research, the psychology, the theology, and yes, the “are you kidding me right now?” stories from real women who've lived this. It's systemic. And it's deeply damaging.What You'll Learn: How complementarianism teaches learned helplessness (like, literal textbook psychology)That a shocking number of women from these teachings suffer from anxiety, decision fatigue, and depression but think it's a faith issue, not a mental health oneWhy your pastor's advice to “submit harder” is about as helpful as telling someone with a broken leg to “walk it off with a godly attitude”That yes, the research confirms it: biblical womanhood theology messes with your brainHow to tell the difference between “conviction” and religious traumaRead the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Head to our website to find ALL the resources I packed into today's episode.Check out some related Flying Free resources, including an article I wrote called “How Complementarianism Causes Abuse in Churches and Homes” and an episode called “Do Gender Roles Contribute to Emotional Abuse in the Home and Church?”

In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt dives into the insidious world of gaslighting—a form of emotional manipulation that can leave victims questioning their own reality. With her characteristic candor, Brianne explores the ten signs of gaslighting, providing listeners with the tools to recognize and combat this toxic behavior in their relationships.Throughout the episode, Brianne breaks down the various tactics employed by gaslighters, from denying events and twisting narratives to playing the victim and shaming their partners. She shares relatable anecdotes, including a story from a client who discovered the truth about his own gaslighting experience. By unpacking this complex topic, Brianne empowers listeners to trust their instincts and reclaim their sense of self-worth.Listeners will learn practical strategies to navigate encounters with gaslighters, including the importance of establishing a support system, documenting experiences, and focusing on self-care. Brianne emphasizes the significance of connecting with one's intuition and recognizing the signs of emotional abuse, urging everyone to take control of their narrative and set healthy boundaries. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to illuminate the dark corners of gaslighting and inspire you to reclaim your power.