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Today Dr. Dave Schramm interviews co-host Dr. Liz Hale on the best strategies for finding the right marriage therapist. They discuss what to look for, key questions to ask, and the importance of fit and specialized training in couples therapy. Whether you're considering marriage therapy for the first time or want to ensure you're working with the right professional, this episode provides practical advice to navigate the process effectively.   About Dr. Liz Hale Dr. Liz Hale is a passionate marriage and family therapist with over 30 years of experiencehelping couples navigate the complexities of their relationships. Whether working with thoseeager to save their marriage or couples uncertain about their future together, Dr. Liz creates asafe, supportive space to explore the best path forward. Her flexible private practice allows forextended sessions tailored to each couple's unique needs, blending joint and individualconsultations to foster open communication and effective progress. Dr. Liz’s approach is rooted in personal experience and professional expertise. She understands the challenges of marriage firsthand, viewing it as both a humbling teacher and a source of profound fulfillment. With a doctorate in Clinical Psychology and specialized training from renowned experts like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. David Burns, she integrates research-backed methods with personalized care to help couples thrive. As a former host of KSL's The Dr. Liz Hale Show and current resident expert on Studio 5, Dr. Liz is known for her relatable, insightful advice on everything from stress to intimacy. While LDSherself, she welcomes clients of all backgrounds, incorporating their beliefs and values into acollaborative approach that strengthens their relationships. Dr. Liz is dedicated to guidingcouples toward happier, healthier marriages built on mutual respect, trust, and connection.   Inights: Liz: "Liz addressed tough topics like the financial aspects of therapy and when divorce might be necessary. To enhance her impact, she could share more personal anecdotes or client stories (anonymized) and suggest simple, actionable steps listeners can take athome. Her focus on accountability and kindness created a lasting impression." Resources: Marriage Friendly Therapist: https://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/ Gottman Referal Network: https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/ American Association of Marriage & Family Therapist https://www.aamft.org/ Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Good Therapy https://www.goodtherapy.org/   Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.org  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/  Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/    Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com  http://drdavespeaks.com    Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com  

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on Good Therapy, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.   Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!   They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on Good Therapy, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru.   They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.        

Are you struggling with low self esteem but don't know it? Seeing value and worth in yourself despite what others think and what you go through is important to your overall wellbeing. It can affect how you think, feel, and act towards yourself, and also impact how you let others treat you. While many may think that low self-esteem looks like someone who is sitting alone by themselves not wanting to do anything all the time, it can actually manifest in a number of different ways, some which may surprise you. We also made a video on the signs of low self esteem:    • 8 Signs of Low Self Esteem   Writer: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Avneet Kaur YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References "Self-Talk". Healthdirect.Gov.Au, 2019, www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-talk. "Self-Esteem And Mental Health". Healthdirect.Gov.Au, 2021, www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-esteem. Barutçu Yıldırım, Funda, and Ayhan Demir. "Self-Handicapping Among University Students: The Role Of Procrastination, Test Anxiety, Self-Esteem, And Self-Compassion". Psychological Reports, vol 123, no. 3, 2019, pp. 825-843. SAGE Publications, doi.org/10.1177/0033294118825099. Cherry, Kendra. "How To Stop Being A People-Pleaser". Verywell Mind, 2021, www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412. Ferdian Farhan, Febi. "The Relationship Between Self-Efficacy, Self-Control And Self-Esteem To Students Academic Procrastination". SSRN Electronic Journal, 2020. Elsevier BV, doi.org/10.2139/ssrn.3644522. Gilbertson, Tina. "Signs Of Low Self-Esteem, Part III: Disinterest In Health And Passivity - Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog". Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog, 2010, www.goodtherapy.org/blog/low-self-esteem-therapy/. Hajloo, Nader. “Relationships between self-efficacy, self-esteem and procrastination in undergraduate psychology students.” Iranian journal of psychiatry and behavioral sciences vol. 8,3 (2014): 42-9. Kille, David R. et al. "Who Can't Take A Compliment? The Role Of Construal Level And Self-Esteem In Accepting Positive Feedback From Close Others". Journal Of Experimental Social Psychology, vol 68, 2017, pp. 40-49. Elsevier BV, doi.org/10.1016/j.jesp.2016.05.003. Accessed 3 Jan 2022. Muoio, Deb. "Dangerous Dualities: Perfectionism And Low Self-Esteem". Blog.Archprofile.Com, 2015, blog.archprofile.com/archinsights/perfectionism-and-low-self-esteem. Rufus, S. "11 Disguises Of Low Self-Esteem". Psychology Today, 2021, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stuck/202107/11-disguises-low-self-esteem?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost. Woolfe, Sam. "How Social Isolation Can Fuel Low Self-Esteem | Healthyplace". Healthyplace.Com, 2019, www.healthyplace.com/blogs/buildingselfesteem/2019/8/how-social-isolation-can-fuel-low-self-esteem.

According to a survey from the Be Real Campaign, about 1 in 3 young people report that they are highly concerned about their body image. At a young age, many of us internalize beauty standards from society. These standards can often contribute to having a negative body image, and are made even more prominent by our age of social media. Here are a few signs you struggle with body image. We also made a video on body dysmorphia and body dysmorphic disorder:    • Body dysmorphic disorder.. What is it?   Disclaimer: The information in this video is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All content in this video is for general information purposes only, and does not replace a consultation with a doctor or health professional. Script Writer: Max Feng Script Editor: Brie Cerniglia Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera (   / amandasilvera  ) Animator: Chantal Van Rensburg YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Clemmensen, T. (2015, March 13). Shape Checking and Body Image. Eating Disorder Hope. www.eatingdisorderhope.com/information/body-image/shape-checking-and-body-image Fardouly, J., Vartanian, L. Appearance comparisons and body image in women's everyday lives. J Eat Disord 3, O20 (2015). doi.org/10.1186/2050-2974-3-S1-O20 Klinger, D. (2010, August 2). How Body Shame Can Affect Clothing Choices. GoodTherapy. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-body-shame-can-affect-clothing-choices Understanding Body Image Struggles. (n.d.). The Jed Foundation. jedfoundation.org/resource/understanding-body-image-struggles/ Wade, T. D., & Tiggemann, M. (2013). The role of perfectionism in body dissatisfaction. Journal of eating disorders, 1, 2. doi.org/10.1186/2050-2974-1-2 www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/articles/body-image-report-executive-summary

In this episode of the Anxiety Society podcast, hosts Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale and Cali Werner are joined by Ryan Judd, a seasoned therapist, to dive into the world of therapy. They explore the distinctions between good and bad therapy, the importance of evidence-based treatment, and how to ensure you or a loved one are getting the right help. From understanding diagnoses to recognizing red flags in therapy, this episode is packed with insights to help listeners navigate their mental health journey effectively.Key Points:- [0:00] Welcome and Introduction Dr. McIngvale and Cali kick off the episode by welcoming Ryan Judd, discussing the importance of understanding what good therapy looks like.- [0:55] Ryan's Background and Passion for Therapy Ryan shares his journey into therapy, fueled by personal experiences with anxiety and OCD, and his commitment to evidence-based care.- [3:03] The Anxious Moments Segment The hosts share their weekly "anxious moments," from Cali's edgy new look to Ryan's anxiety at a slide park with his nephews.- [8:10] What is Therapy? A deep dive into the true purpose of therapy, how it should help solve problems, and why it's not just about feeling good after each session.- [12:10] Therapy as a Coaching Relationship Ryan explains how effective therapy should be like a coaching relationship, with structure, goals, and accountability.- [15:10] Diagnosis and Treatment Planning The importance of receiving a clear diagnosis and treatment plan within the first few sessions, and why it's crucial for effective therapy.- [30:43] Red Flags in Therapy Identifying red flags such as therapists who claim to treat all disorders or use too many different approaches, and why these might indicate inadequate care.- [41:36] What to Expect in Therapy Sessions A discussion on the structure of therapy sessions, the importance of setting goals, and why therapy should be time-limited for specific issues.Quotable Moments:[11:43] "Great therapy doesn't always feel good in the moment, but it's necessary for real change." - Ryan Judd[29:24] "If you're seeing a therapist for years and still struggling, it might be time to reassess your treatment." - Dr. Elizabeth McIngvale[12:10] "Your therapist should be a coach, pushing you to grow, not just a friend who listens." - Cali WernerLinks Mentioned:SAMHSA.gov: https://www.samhsa.govThis episode sheds light on the critical aspects of choosing the right therapy and therapist. If you've been in therapy without significant progress, it's time to reassess. Reach out to qualified professionals, ensure they're using evidence-based practices, and don't hesitate to ask about their training and experience. For more episodes and insights, subscribe to the Anxiety Society podcast, and follow us on social media for more tips.

In this episode, Tyler talk about finding good therapy and share valuable tips on how to choose the right therapist. They discuss the importance of the therapeutic relationship, different therapy modalities, and personal experiences with various therapeutic approaches. // SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION // We would love to answer any questions you have about addiction, trauma, recovery, healing, and anything you can think of. Click the link below to submit your question (and if you're open to being a guest on the podcast, you can schedule your call time as well)! We're also curious to know if there are any topics you'd like to hear us discuss on the podcast. ⁠⁠https://www.therapybros.com/call-in-and-ask-a-question/⁠⁠ Send mail to: Therapy Brothers, 40 W Cache Valley Blvd Ste 3c, Logan, UT 84341  // Brannon Patrick LCSW | "The Expert" // Website: ⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com⁠⁠ Therapy Practice: ⁠⁠https://therapyutah.org/⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://instagram.com/brannon_patrick⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/ExpertBrannon⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/user/bpatricklcsw⁠⁠ // Tyler Patrick LMFT | "The Wandering Therapist" // 15-Minute Free Consultation Call: ⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/consultation-call⁠⁠ Therapy Practice: ⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠https://instagram.com/the.wandering.therapist⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠https://facebook.com/love.strong.org⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXaR4084r-Z_251xVdoyMFQ⁠⁠ // SUPPORT OUR CHANNEL // Newsletter: ⁠⁠https://www.therapybros.com/subscribe⁠⁠ Donations: ⁠⁠https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=XQUZPJ6QNC22C⁠⁠ Theme Music By: ⁠⁠Max Wardle Music⁠⁠ Books & Audiobooks We Recommend (We earn a small percentage from your purchase with any of the books links on this page): ⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/most-impactful-books/⁠⁠ // OUR COURSES // Boundary Bootcamp: ⁠⁠https://www.brannonpatrick.com/Boundarybootcamp⁠⁠ Pornography Addiction Recovery Kickstart: ⁠⁠https://lovestrong.com/courses/overcome-pornography-addiction/⁠⁠ // OUR EVENTS // Radiant Dawn | Women's Retreat: https://radiantdawn.org Rising Son | Men's Retreat: ⁠⁠https://risingson.org⁠⁠ Vibrant Love | Couple's Retreat: ⁠⁠https://vibrantlove.org⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/therapy-brothers/message

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.   Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!   They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on Good Therapy, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

"How do I know the difference between bad therapy and good therapy?" This listener wanted to know our hot take on the new book "Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up" by Abigail Shrier. As counselors who believe in the power of the therapeutic relationship, we were curious to find out what this author had to say about therapy. Some of the concerns Shrier raises are: - the over diagnosing of children with mental health disorders - therapeutic practices that have an unhelpful focus on feelings - a growing lack of parental involvement that requires "experts" to treat children for normal life struggles. Shrier's book addresses a potentially polarizing topic as she questions some of the prevailing practices and ideologies within therapy, particularly in regards to the impact on kids. John, Lynn and Austin all weigh in on these concerns, talk about the role a therapist can play in a person's life, and distinguish the difference between bad therapy and good therapy. Thankfully, good therapy - and good therapists - do exist! But we think you should read the book and be an informed parent on this important topic. Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier Would you take a moment and rate this podcast on your player? Your 5 star ratings and positive reviews will help others find us. Thank you! For more great content you can subscribe to our newsletter at withyouintheweeds.com and follow us on Instagram @withyouintheweeds.

A lack of self confidence can be pretty tricky to tame, especially if you're not paying attention to the ways it affects your everyday behavior. A lack of confidence can have a dramatic effect on your life. It will keep you in your comfort zone because that's where you feel safe with little risk of failure. Over time, you risk losing your motivation, which can also cause low self esteem. Do you think you might lack confidence? Are you looking for tips on how to be more confident? In this video, we will be talking about the signs you might lack confidence. This will look and feel different from person to person, so take what resonates with you! If you relate to this video and would like to know whether you might be dealing with low self esteem, we've got you covered too: https://youtu.be/qRT0vnWgO9w Writer: Gabrielle LaFrank Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Animator: Grace Cárdenas Cano YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong “Body Posture Affects Confidence In Your Own Thoughts, Study Finds.” ScienceDaily, ScienceDaily, 5 Oct. 2009, www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/10/091005111627.htm. Rose, Hannah. “Why Do We Constantly Seek the Approval of Others?” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 June 2019, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/working-through-shame/201906/why-do-we-constantly-seek-the-approval-others. Team, GoodTherapy Editor. “Isolation.” Learn about Emotional and Social Isolation, Treatment For, GoodTherapy, 8 Aug. 2018, www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/isolation. If you have any stories or topic requests that you would like to share with us, feel free to email us at editorial@psych2go.net

Do you know someone who might have a manipulative personality? What does it mean to be manipulative? Manipulation involves the use of deception or underhand methods to achieve personal aims. Manipulative people love to control, change, and warp the behaviors or perceptions of others. Do you anyone in mind who you think people be a manipulative person, but you aren't sure? To help you with that, let's go through some of the signs of a manipulative personality. Did you know that there are different types of manipulation? To find out more, watch this video: https://youtu.be/j5AOp93S1F4 Credits Writer: Julian Heng Script Editor: Rida Batool & Kelly Soong VO: Amanda Silvera Storyboarder: Yi Lin Animator: Anthony Shek YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References “9 Classic Traits of Manipulative People.” Psychology Today. Sussex Publishers. Accessed February 12, 2020. www.psychologytoday.com/sg/blog/in-flux/201610/9-classic-traits-manipulative-people. GoodTherapy. 2020. “Manipulation”. Goodtherapy.Org Therapy Blog. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/manipulation. Lancer, Darlene. 2020. “How To Spot Manipulation”. Psych Central. www.psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-spot-manipulation/. Do you have any personal stories or video requests that you would like to share with us? If so, email us at editorial@psych2go.net

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.     Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!     They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on Good Therapy, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru.     They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.   Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!   They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru.   They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

In one of the most interesting conversations we've ever had on the podcast, Forrest is joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Jacob Ham to explore what really helps people work with - and be with - trauma. They begin with Dr. Ham's background and what drew him to trauma work before Forrest asks him how he "conceptualizes" different kinds of traumatic experiences. Dr. Ham then takes them away from the conceptual, and toward the felt. They talk about cultivating a felt sense of connection, empathy as a way in to relationship, and the value of anger. Dr. Ham shares about his own process taking risks as a clinician, using parts work, moving away from the "false idol" of cognizing, and finding a unique way in for each individual.About our Guest: Dr. Jacob Ham is a clinical psychologist, Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Mount Sinai, and the Director of the Center for Complex Trauma. He was the therapist former podcast guest Stephanie Foo wrote about in her wonderful book What My Bones Know.You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction2:30: Jacob's background5:20: Cultivating a felt sense of connection vs. idolizing the concept of trauma11:00: A monastic, medical, and artistic approach13:00: Knowing our intentions, and feeling others' pain as a therapist18:00: Surrendering to overwhelming grief23:50: Love, vulnerability, and authenticity29:45: The value of anger, the energy it demands, and navigating it with humility34:45: Presence, and taking risks as a clinician40:40: How Jacob does parts work, and finding what works with each individual46:15: Staring at the finger that's pointing at the moon49:25: Does a good therapist need to have experienced trauma?52:30: Honoring our inner protectors, surrendering to pain, and knowing it won't last forever56:20: Shaping others' ability to help you, and processing trauma without professional help1:00:15: Tipping points and surrender1:04:15: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Sponsors:Start speaking a new language in just 3 weeks with Babbel! Get 55% off at Babbel.com/BEING.Zocdoc helps you find expert doctors and medical professionals that specialize in the care you need, and deliver the type of experience you want. Head to zocdoc.com/being and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.Factor delivers fresh, never-frozen, fully prepared meals right to your door. Head to factormeals.com/beingwell50 and use code beingwell50 to get 50% off. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Finally get that project off the ground with Squarespace! Head to squarespace.com/beingwell for a free trial, and when you're ready to launch use coupon code BEINGWELL to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.   Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!   They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru.   They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

Could jumping out of an airplane be the solution to rising mental health issues? Doctor Eric Bryner talks to John about how 'adrenaline inducing' activities could be a great form of therapy. Listen to John Stanley 8pm-12pm Monday-Thursday and 7pm-11pm on FridaysSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Steve Bisson is LMHC in Massachusetts and creator and host of Finding Your Way Through Therapy Podcast. He recently created a journal, Empower Your Mind: The 30-Day Journey to Mental Clarity, a groundbreaking journal designed for individuals eager to enhance their mental well-being and develop the skills to journal for themselves in the future.  In this episode, Steve and I chat about what makes for good therapy. Learn more about Steve and listen to his podcast.  The Therapy Show with Lisa Mustard is sponsored by TherapyNotes! Why not find out what more than 100,000 mental health professionals already know, and try TherapyNotes for 2 months, absolutely free. Click here: www.lisamustard.com/therapynotes or enter promo code “Lisa” at www.TherapyNotes.com. Are you looking for continuing education contact hours?  Want to learn while on the move? For a limited period, grab 15 NBCC approved contact hours for just $30! Explore the offerings here: https://www.lisamustard.com/podcourses Buy the podcourse bundle today, and enjoy future podcourses added to your bundle at zero extra charge! Act fast, as the bundle price is set to rise soon. I'm in the process of crafting an ethics podcourse set to launch this autumn – ensure you seize this opportunity! Curious about podcourses? Imagine a podcast blended with a self-study course. Listen at your convenience, and when you're set, take a brief quiz, finish the podcourse assessment, and claim your certificate!  Learn about Holistic Counseling with Chris McDonald, LCMHC Learn How to Help Your Clients Resolve the Parent Trap with Christian Jackson, LPC Learn How to Integrate Breathwork into Your Clinical Sessions with Chris McDonald, LCMHC Ready to start your podcast? Connect with Chelsea Weaver Podcasting. Transforming Your Relationship With Anxiety Course - Click HERE to get a FREE course on transforming your relationship with anxiety from Mindfulness.com (affiliate link) Learn about the Psychcraft Network. Find a therapist options: Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us Mental Health Resources and Support:  988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support via phone or chat for people in distress, resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. Includes information on finding your local crisis center. Phone: 988 Website: http://suicidepreventionlifeline.org SAMHSA's National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.SAMHSA's National Helpline | SAMHSA It's important to stress that these episodes are not meant to take the place of any work you're doing with your therapist or doctor. In fact, please run these ideas by your counselor or doctor before you act on them to make sure you are ready for them or even fit for the suggestions. I can't stress this enough, each person is unique and their situation is unique so please talk to your dr before starting anything new I may be suggesting. The Therapy Show with Lisa Mustard, and the information provided by Lisa Mustard, is solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and is not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Lisa Mustard is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health.    

Enjoying our content and want to support us directly? Join our premium subscription for access to our podcasts, bonus content, merch discounts and more! Visit: www.psych2go.supercast.com Childhood is commonly a period of our lives associated with blissfulness, fun, and most importantly, development. Unfortunately, not all of us are fortunate to grow up in great households. We can pick up on unhealthy behaviors that follow us throughout adulthood and impact the way we feel about ourselves and others. To better understand our emotional health and development, in this video, we'll be looking at eight signs of emotional childhood neglect. Are you dealing with childhood trauma? Here are a few signs to look out for: https://youtu.be/EHj9Apr49ME CHILDHELP NATIONAL HOTLINE: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ Disclaimer: Hey there Psych2Goers, this is a disclaimer that this video is for informative purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or prevent any conditions. If you feel that you're struggling, please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional. If you suspect you or someone you know is a victim of abuse, please contact the child abuse hotline. Writer: Sidney Thompson Script Editor: Isadora Ho Script Manager: Kelly Soong VO: Lily Hu Animator: Zuzia YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: Brandt, A. (2020, January 3). 9 Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect, and 3 Ways to Heal. PsychologyToday. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/202001/9-signs-childhood-emotional-neglect-and-3-ways-heal Summers, D. MA, LMFT, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert. (2016, February 18). How to Recognize and Overcome Childhood Emotional Neglect. GoodTherapy.Org Therapy Blog. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165 Fergen, J. (2020, January 28). 5 Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect. Jadi Fergen. altitudecounseling.com/5-signs-of-childhood-emotional-neglect/ Holland, K. (2019, November 25). Childhood Emotional Neglect: How It Can Impact You Now and Later. Healthline. www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/childhood-emotional-neglect Webb, J. (2018, July 15). 7 Signs You Grew Up With Childhood Emotional Neglect. PsychCentral. blogs.psychcentral.com/childhood-neglect/2017/07/7-signs-you-grew-up-with-childhood-emotional-neglect/

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I wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings today of Becky Blades – she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she's basically run from the board room to the home room, she's an artist herself, and she's an inspiring and highly creative author of two books; Her first book, Do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone, Advice Your Mom Would Give if She Thought You Were Listening, which she wrote and illustrated, was named a Best Books of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. It received the prestigious Kirkus Starred Review and was an Amazon best seller for six consecutive years. Now she's written another wonderfully illustrated book (her own drawings and illustrations) entitled Start More Than You Can Finish. And I wanted it to be a real fresh-er-up-er for those of you wilting in the heat of the summer or fending off one more winter storm – dependent on your hemisphere. And the Next Big Idea Club  has selected it as one of  “the most essential nonfiction books of the year." She calls herself a bad cook, a hopeful gardener, a passionate tree hugger and a licensed private pilot – and I'm delighted not only to have her on SelfWork...  but to call her a friend. Advertisers Link:  Have you been putting off getting help? BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! Vital Links: My TEDx talk that today has earned 72,000 views! You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, The Selfwork Podcast.  Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you! Episode Transcript This is SelfWork. And I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford At SelfWork. We'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. I'm Dr. Margaret and SelfWork is a podcast dedicated to you, taking just a few minutes today for your own selfwork. Speaker 2: Hello and welcome or welcome back to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, and I'm so excited about bringing you a friend of mine and someone that I truly, truly admire. Becky Blades. I wanted to offer you the advice and very creative teachings of Becky today. Not only has she founded and sold an award-winning communications firm, she's basically run from the boardroom to the homeroom. She's an artist herself, and she's an inspiring and highly creative author of two books. Now, the first one was, do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone, subtitle being Advice Your Mom Would Give If She Thought You Were Listing. She not only wrote and illustrated that book, it was named a Best book of 2014 and one of the Top 100 Indie Releases by Kirkus Reviews. And it received the prestigious Kirkus starred Review and was an Amazon bestseller for six consecutive years. Speaker 2: That is a long time. Now, she's written another wonderfully illustrated book. Again, her own drawings and illustrations entitled Start More Than You Can Finish. And I thoroughly enjoyed it. I wanted it to be a real fresher upper for those of you who are wilting in this heat of the summer, or if you're in another hemisphere, fending off one more winter storm. Her point in this book is that we can get so afraid of failing, we don't start and starting is so important. In fact, she advocates being a startist. And this book also has high praise. It's been named a Must Read by the Next Big Idea Club, which by the way, the members of that club are Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Susan Kane, and Daniel Pink, not bad company. And they call it one of the most essential non-fiction books of the year. It is truly inspiring. Speaker 2: She calls herself a bad cook, a hopeful gardener, a passionate tree hugger, and a licensed private pilot. And I'm delighted not only to have her on SelfWork, but I'm lucky enough, like I said, to call her a friend. Before we hear Becky's interview, let's hear from BetterHelp. So many people start or go back to therapy when their kids are starting school. And that's not too long from now. So everyone's starting something new. I'd recommend calling very early for a therapist in your locale, but with better help. You don't have to worry about that. They're ready to see you when you are ready to be seen. Speaker 2: I recently heard a fascinating reframe for the idea of asking for help. Maybe you view asking for help as something someone does who's falling apart or who isn't strong. So consider this. What if asking for help means that you won't let anything get in your way of solving an issue, finding out an answer or discovering a better direction? Asking for help is much more about your determination to recognize what needs your attention or what is getting in your way of having the life you want better help. The number one online therapy provider makes reaching out about as easy as it can get. Within 48 hours, you'll have a professional licensed therapist with whom you can text, email, or talk with to guide you. And you're not having to comb through therapist websites or drive to appointments. It's convenient, inexpensive, and readily available. Now you can find a therapist that fits your needs with better help. And if you use the code or link Betterhelp.com/self work, you get 10% off your first month of sessions. So just do it. You'll be glad you did. That. Link again is better help.com/selfwork to get 10% off your first month of surfaces. Speaker 2: And now I'm delighted, absolutely delighted to introduce you if you don't already know her. To Becky Blades. I was trying to remember when you and I met, was it at a midlife bloggers Speaker 3: Associated? It was at, it was at BlogHer that in San Jose. Speaker 2: That's right. Yeah, that's right. Speaker 3: And it was my first one. Do did you go to a lot of those? No, Speaker 2: I think I went to two. I went to the one there. I went to one in Chicago, I think, and then I went to that one I didn't go to anymore. Speaker 3: And who invited me were Mary Speaker 2: Mary Dell Harrington, and Mary Speaker 3: Darrell Harrington and Lisa Heffernan. And I had just put out that first book. And I, you know, gosh, I am, I'm, you know, everybody I met there was so nice. And I just have still loved maintaining those relationships. Speaker 2: Listen, I was so glad that I took the time to read all of your book because I just laughed and I smiled and I teared up a couple of times and you had me from the very beginning. Your artwork is just incredible. A line is a dot that wasn't, this is what you say, a line is a dot that wasn't afraid to get started. I mean, that's like, Speaker 3: I loved that. Yeah. And a dot can be a splatter. I mean, dots don't need to be neat, perfect little dots. They can be little cuddles. Speaker 2: I didn't remember that until it, then I refreshed my memory and I wrote it that you are also, you're an author, but you're an an artist and you're, you're, you really love combining those things. And can you, why don't you tell SelfWork listeners a little bit about you? Speaker 3: Okay. Yeah. I had a career in public relations, which came out of a degree in journalism. And so I've always liked writing. I didn't like being poor. So journalism wasn't, you know, the job that I wanted out out of school. I grew up poor. So I, I chose to find a way to make money in an, the agency business, the journalism public relations agency business. There were a lot of opportunities for creativity. So I started my own firm in when I was 30. Wow. And ran that for 13 years. And then when I, kind of parenting was at a, at a pitch that I wanted to be home and in, in my creative space at home more too, sold the business and started building what what we now call a portfolio lifestyle. So I had the business oh, I like Speaker 2: That name. I've never heard this Speaker 3: . Yeah. And, and, and then I had the, I had an art studio and I remember  - to kind of jump over to this book  - when I one time my soon after I sold the business, my daughters were talking, they came home from school and they wanted it an identity for me. 'Cause you know, kids talk what your mother do, you know, what does your mom do? So my youngest said, "Mom, what are you, are you an artist? Are you a business person?" And I said, "Honey, why do those labels matter?" And her sister from the other room said, "She's a startist" . 'cause I was starting some other businesses and you know, they got confused by how I dress different days. So, so during that time, I, I went through my first and second midlife crisis. First that empty nest crisis that, you know, and have been such a great expert on my first book was do Your Laundry or You'll Die Alone. Speaker 3: And that was the subject line of the email I sent my daughter of all these journal entries with advice that I was kind of afraid to give her in person. So after she left for college, I sent it all to her. And, and then, you know, after that, I'm, I, I don't mind saying I'm 64 now. And those, these past 10 years of being kind of all, you know, almost the entire time empty, nested has given me the chance to really see how what I love and what I, who I love spending time with. And I've realized it's, it's people like you who when they think they wanna do a podcast, they'll just haul off and start it, or people have ideas and act on them. So Speaker 2: No, and the, the name of this book is Start More Than You Can Finish. And, and I so agreed with it. I, one of the things that I say to patients all the time is, it doesn't matter where you go, it's that you go Exactly. Just go, just make a choice. Just go. And I, I was just humming along with your book Thinking , I agree. . Speaker 3: And it's been fun to think about the mental health aspects, of course, you know, to, to make the case for something that seems as contrarian as this notion of start more than you can finish, you know, kind of in defiance of what our parents may have said. But the mental health aspects of creativity, we're learning more and more as you know about how creativity makes us flourish and thrive and, and the and then we have other things we can talk about, anxiety, depression as I studied the neuroscience of it, I, I decided, you know, I discovered hidden benefits that I didn't know I had been partaking in. Speaker 2: Wow. What are those? Speaker 3: Well, starting with self-discovery, self-esteem, getting out of anxiety and depression. I'll, I'll tell you a story that I haven't, it didn't make it in the book and I haven't told many people because it seems like kind of a downer, and we wanted the book to be upbeat. But part of my catalyst for writing the book was I was taking art lessons to domestic violence shelters. I did this for a few years. I, I didn't call it art therapy. Now they did because mm-hmm. All art is therapy, but I'm not a, I'm not a licensed therapist. Mm-Hmm. or an art therapist. But what I discovered in my time with those amazing women is that the thing that, that spectrum of creativity, I used to think it was started with, oh, oh, I'm not creative, and ended with, oh, I can start anything on a dime. Speaker 3: Well, the spectrum really starts way over in a place where we feel totally powerless. Totally. devoid of even knowing what we like. Right. What gives us joy, what our idea of beauty is, and our inability to make a decision. So this book is about starting, it's taking that first step, like you said, it's not where you go, it's that you go. And the example is, in the very first class, these women, all of them could not even make that first initial decision. I, I would kind of lay out a little project, very simple. I had all these enticing art supplies, but they literally needed my permission to choose a color. Like, what should I start with purple? Yes. Purple would be a great place to start. They had lost, I mean, they had literally had mm-hmm. the creativity beaten out of them because creativity is, it's trusting our own ideas and owning them, and then also having the, the courage to experiment and say, okay, you know, what? If purple doesn't work well, when we're terrified, when we're traumatized, when we're stuck, I don't think we have the courage to know that the stakes aren't that high. You know, if I choose color, if I choose purple and I don't like it, I can paint over it. Sure, of course. Or as I said, I'll give you another piece of paper . Speaker 2: That's a great point. It's that shutting down of, of risk of any, even, even how what, even no matter how tiny the risk, or seemingly tiny, it's not seemingly, it's not tiny to them. It's like, oh, right. I'm gonna make a choice and it's gonna be out here for other people to see. And yeah, it's right. But, you know, I, and you may Speaker 3: Not know, you know, I think when we're beaten down, we don't know what the risks are. There's this free floating sense of, I'm taking a chance, I'm doing something I haven't didn't do yesterday. So what might happen, because, you know, life doesn't treat us rationally. And for those women who had been, you know, abused, they, they had been abused for much less things than making a wrong color decision. Right. So the healing so to, you know, get back to your first big question was the, the ancillary benefits of acting on our ideas and following that creative process are things we don't even know we need, I think. And, and yet I could really see it dramatically with those, those women who, and this was another really fun thing, is that they came out of that so fast, so joyfully really, that just a few weeks, you know, just, you just give that affirmation that Yeah, purple would be great, and that looks great, and you know what, this other color might work too. And then they start with the self, with their own self-talk. And I mean, they just, those, those stays and those shelters aren't that long. So I only got to see 'em for a short period of time, but it was, it was fast and miraculous. Speaker 2: That's incredible. You know, I got my start in this business by volunteering at a domestic shelter. Oh. Speaker 3: So you get it. Speaker 2: Love so much so, so, so much. Anyway. Mm-hmm. , you know, I, I'm gonna quote you again. It's not that finishing isn't vital and great, but not finishing is not failure. And I, I love that because you know, how many times have I heard the phrase, well, that didn't work out like, that says something bad about me. I mean, you asked in the book to, to make a list of, you know, the things we've started and didn't finish. And to make, I mean, my first two marriages came to mind immediately, Speaker 3: , Speaker 2: I finished them, but Speaker 2: Not in, not in the way that I thought I was going to. And, and I mean, I carried those around with such shame for so long mm-hmm. that that wasn't okay. And and it's not ideal, perhaps, but it, you know, I learned something along the way. And then, but I, I love the fact that in the book, you also take time to say, all right, stop reading or, you know, whatever. And, and let's apply this. Let's, what can you do? Mm-Hmm. , what can you do with, with your, and you have four stages, you imagine, think, decide, and act. Which, you know, I, I think when people, a lot of people hear the word well, just imagine, just imagine mm-hmm. mm-hmm. , that feels like real shaky ground to just imagine. Mm. Speaker 3: Mm-Hmm. Mm-Hmm. mm-hmm. . And if we imagine and some people are really good at that part mm-hmm. , but some people, that is the toughest part because they imagine very small. They only imagine with the reality that they can touch and hold Right. Then. some people are great imagining and they imagine backwards, you know, they only pull from what they've already been able to do. So what, what I do with those four steps was research and find out how to do them better to, to start better and start more. So imagining it really comes down to imagining more and bigger the, the more we noodle and think about how things might be a future reality, which we're all gonna have, you know, we're gonna have a future anyway. Yeah. Speaker 2: Speaker 3: . So why not imagine it in all the, and it's all, its glorious colors and possibilities. Speaker 2: You know, I'm, I'm thinking about your work on Dreams with Start. I love that book. That, that's a great word. You, you, you should thank your daughter , because it says to write down your dreams, but then you very quickly said, but I don't have enough something. I don't have enough. Mm-Hmm. time. I don't have enough money, I don't have enough talent. I don't how whatever it is that you convince yourself to, to stop dreaming. Speaker 3: Exactly. It's, it's the, the answer to the question. The answer to the question. Why haven't you started that thing? And I asked actual people, art students of mine create very creative people after they told me something they wanted to do, I asked them why they hadn't started. And the answer was always, I don't have enough blank. They, they would word the answer many different ways. Sure. It could be confidence, like, I don't think I can do it. You don't have enough confidence. Right. enough permission, enough validation, you know, space and permission could be just from your family to think that you could take the time away for yourself. Mm-Hmm. to do that. I call that enough permission. You know, and, and obviously money and time are the big ones. Sure. Speaker 3: But we do have enough to start those things. That was the big learning. I think the big aha in the research was if you've started anything, like you probably didn't know that you'd be doing a podcast for this long pss I can, I've decided I can never do a podcast. I . So respect the ability to all the skills that come into this. But when you started your first one a start only thinks, thinks mostly about how I will start it, how I will do the first step. Yeah. And that is the healthy way. If you think your finish, if your finish was to get it produced and get it picked up by a big syndicate, you would not think you had enough of whatever to do that. And Speaker 2: I was determined to do at least eight podcasts because I was told in my class that that was the average number of podcasts that people do before they finish before they start Speaker 3: Really? Eight. Eight. Wow. Speaker 2: Eight. And so when I got to nine, I thought, oh, why ? Speaker 3: See, there you go. And what if you hadn't known those numbers? That's fascinating. Yeah. Speaker 2: Yeah. So I I just, the support you give in the book and the humor and the asking people to look at themselves, I you know, you, you sort of break down these four parts, the imagine, think, decide, and act, and you you said, thinking brings ideas to life, not overthinking. What do you mean by that? Speaker 3: Not overthinking? Well, you may be familiar with, you know, all the research that mm-hmm. says that when we, that we are programmed, how would you state it? That we are, we are engineered for security as, as species, we're engineered for survival. So there's an, a natural avoidance to risk, which is healthy. Mm-Hmm. . So if we let ourselves to think, think too long, so we go to that imagining place and we're very successful and imagine something wonderful, then the next step is we think about it. We think about how that future state looks into reality. How would we do it? Where would we start? How long will it take? Who do I need to, you know, kinda warn about this? Sure. In that it is that process where we talk ourselves out of it, and we really do a number on ourselves be, and the more perfectionist a person is, the better or worse they, they do that part. So I, you know, I say imagine more, think less. Because the truth is that even if you plan, if you're thinking involves this elaborate detailed plan, the minute you start something, that plan changes. I, Speaker 2: I wrote that reality, Speaker 3: Circled it. Reality is a big old truth pill. And we cannot, we cannot predict it. Speaker 2: Mm-Hmm. No, we cannot. So like I have that in red, circled in red plans change as soon as you start. And you also talked, there was a section that I, I maybe 'cause of my theater experience, but you talked about how they're tenets of improv improvisation that are really important for start. Mm-Hmm. and I, I've done a little bit of improvisation, and it is, it's not easy . 'cause One of these things that you brought up, you, you know, you have to just say yes and yes. And it's a rule of agreement. And then you Oh, don't tell. There are no mistakes. And you stay in the moment, like you said it, it's like somebody can just start, an audience member will say, okay, we're gonna talk about diaries and cowboys. Speaker 3: Yeah. Speaker 2: Somebody has to start something about a diary and a cowboy. And it may not make any sense. It is like, you have no idea where they're going, but you, you, you say something and you bring along. And then, oh, and then there was a, there was another cowboy, but he had a black horse, but he wanted a white. I mean, it's just, it's, it's, yeah. Then the story evolves. And so it's, I I loved that. Maybe, I don't know, is it an analogy, a metaphor that this Speaker 3: Yeah. Speaker 2: Creation is like improv. Speaker 3: And you know, the best quote I heard in my interviews with those people is it's about what we do, but mostly it's about what we do with what we did. So that first step, again, the stakes are reduced. You just gotta do something. It's throwing the mud on the wall. It's on an improv stage. There are like five actors, somebody has to say the first thing mm-hmm. , that takes courage. But really the hardest job is the person that says the second thing. Sure. . Or maybe it's easiest because then you have something to respond to. So we need to give ourselves something to respond to, to really flesh out our ideas. And I mean, I also learned that all kind of comedy really works like that because, you know, finding out what makes other people laugh is an exploration. You think, oh, this might make me laugh, but you don't know. 'cause You're hearing it on your, in your own head. So Exactly. My husband's taken to doing open mic nights. And Speaker 2: That's brave. That, Speaker 3: That is brave. It's also brave to be in the audience of those because it's, it's usually young men who who have, have lost their mothers laughing at them. So they're, you know, they don't know what's funny, but they're willing to, at, at late night climb on a stage and tell jokes and for taste. But what happens is that's how, that's how comedy's worked out. And even the, even the best joke writers, you know, go on stage over and over again before they will go lifetime Yeah. And tweak this and try that and shorten this. And, and that's, you know, that is the creative process. It's iterative, it's exploratory, it's curiosity. And I mean, I think mental health wise, I too believe when you, when you, when I am mentally healthy, I am my most curious Exactly. When we're shut down, we're, we're not curious. Speaker 2: But it's also an external energy. It's, it's going energy from internal traveling externally. When you're curious because you are either, whether it's how you make a good glass of iced tea. I'm sitting here looking at my i d or whether it's gosh, I, you know, I'm interested in what those green books are behind her. You know, it's, it's, you are, you're engaging with something. Maybe it's an idea or a person or a thing that's not, but you are, you, your focus is outward. Speaker 3: Yeah. I never thought of that, that way. That's, that makes sense. Which is a Speaker 2: Antidote to depression for sure. Hmm. And in many ways, anxiety, because you have to be in the moment. You have to be, whereas anxiety puts you into the future. Hmm. So what, tell me what you learned about yourself in, in writing this book. Speaker 3: Oh gosh. I learned that the very beginning of the research was learning that all of my unfinished business, and I'm doing air quotes visually here was were treasures. And that when I, you know, we rarely let ourselves dig back into the things that didn't go forward. You know, even things I didn't consider failures or unfinished, I just forgot about them. Mm-Hmm. . I just saw the link to how they made me who I am. And the big finishes in my life, the big finishes always had some roots and some unfinished business from, I found my college art supplies. As when you're, when you write and make art, you have all these records back there. Now, you may not have, in other types of curiosity, in other types of creativity like gardening or cooking, you may forget those things you tried. And so I think what I learned is I need to memorialize and celebrate my starts more. Speaker 3: And I do now. The, the rationale for this book was to to help other people that don't act on their ideas and make those people more fun companions, in a way. . And I had, and one of the things I found is after I sold my business, people were saying to me like, what are you, what have you, what are you doing now? What have you finished lately? They didn't use those words, but I could hear that people thought I had a lot of plates spinning. I do have a lot of plates spinning. That's something I'm good at. I'm good at starting things and, you know, maybe I could be the world expert because I have all the failures, and now they're documented. I do probably have a d d there are maybe not the, I Speaker 2: Was just about to ask you about that. Mm-Hmm. Speaker 3: . Yeah. but I no longer, I do not let people shame me about things that I started that are in a pause button. Mm-Hmm. , you know, because when we, like, the, the big lovely lesson or gift I hope this book gives people is that there is every benefit and very low price to, to trying something and setting it aside for another day for trying it and finding out, Hey, I don't really like that. I have a couple of big things I could have totally not what Speaker 2: I thought it would be, or would've Speaker 3: , or I scratch that itch and I'm good. And oh, what a, just a, it's just a glorious way to live. And that's how I wanna live the rest of my life. And I wanna do it with people who feel the same way and are not, and, and, you know, that feed off of me and I feed off of them. So after my first book, you, you may have experienced this too. People will come to you who have the same kind of dreams. Maybe they wanna start a practice, start a podcast, start a book, and they'll say, you know, I have, "I saw your book. I, I, you know, I think I could write a book like that." And so I would say, "Oh gosh, you should1"  You know, advice is personal. Everybody could write an advice book and about one in 10, and, and this bears out in other research, about one in 10 people will actually act on an idea that's even fully formulated. Speaker 3: And, and I would try to help them. And, and you could just see that they ditch the others that were not gonna act on it. They had taken it as far as they wanted to go, and there was not a whole lot you could do for them. So that's what I wanna change. They had, they had, you know, is that mindset that says I can't start it unless I have made room in my life mm-hmm. to be an author. I can't start a book unless I've made room in my life to add a writing practice, find a publisher, whatever they think writing a book is. Yeah. And, you know, so Speaker 2: And it's funny, I, I had lunch with someone that was interested in the TEDx process and was asking me about it. And she's starting to write a book and, and, or she wants to. And she was asking me all about that. And this is a very I, I feel like I'm having the same conversation twice this morning or this afternoon, Uhhuh because she is kind of at that place of, well, I don't know how I'm gonna make room for it. I wanna do it. And I have had this idea for a long time, but, and I looked at her and I said, "you know, start this afternoon."  You know, make, did you Speaker 3: Good for you. I Speaker 2: Said, if you've got 10 minutes, just take 10 minutes. Speaker 3: Exactly. Speaker 2: Just start jotting down some ideas and you don't have to what's the word I'm looking for? You know, you, you don't have to corral the time or say, okay, I'm gonna have gonna do this in on it. It's like, if you just put some consistent energy into it, it, it's gonna grow. It's just a, it's just exactly watering the idea every now and then so that it, it has, it can sustain you with time away from it. But you also, when you get back to it, you go, oh, oh, I hadn't thought about that. And Speaker 3: Exactly. Speaker 2: It, it's, it's, it's kind of refreshing. It's, it's like having a, starting a conversation and realizing the more you have it, the more you really value it. Mm-Hmm. . Mm-Hmm. And that's adding something. So Speaker 3: It's like such sort the Nik effect which I wrote about a little. Speaker 2: Yes. I had never heard of that. Speaker 3: I mean, it's just that, it's just what you said. Once you make it real, once you tell your brain, we're gonna do this, or I have a problem if, if we accept it and don't say like, those nine out of 10 people said, I'm probably not gonna do this. If you're one of the ones that said, "Okay, I'm writing a book" -  whatever you declare as starting maybe that's writing your first two sentences, our brain tells us, our brain gets the message that they're on the job. Yeah. And subconsciously we are homing devices to pieces of information, to problem solving help, to meeting people. You know, you meet somebody and you think, oh, like, did they just say something about a book? Are they an author? You know, we are, we're, we wonder, we think there's new information coming out, we're just zeroed into it. Sure. And that we, you know, that happens all the time in our lives. And that effect it's also responsible for the thing that happens after we're done with something. Like we're done studying for tests. We take the test, it's over, and all that information just dumps out more . Yes. Speaker 2: It just goes away. Speaker 3: Well consider the opposite of that true for something that we've started and we haven't finished. So if you, if you take that fall smallest first step, declare it started, the world gives us a bling bag full of gifts. And that's, that's really why I say that the more we start the better and the, even if we start things that are very short term and finish 'em, start a limerick, start a, a soup , things that we, but declare that muscle in ourselves that says, you know, just like it was your instinct to say, start this afternoon. Very few people would say that, but it's that instinct that gets our ideas out and flowing. Mm-Hmm. , Speaker 2: I, I just, I, I really felt very supported. And I, I think if, if you're interested in this and you, you wanna get Becky's book, it is, it is, it is an, it's not, it's not a hard read at all. What is, what is compelling about it to me is that it does go against so much of what many of us are taught that mm-hmm. You know, you don't wanna start something and not finish it because, you know, that means that you're wasting time or you're wasting energy. Mm-Hmm. shame yourself for that. And, and rather than saying, well, what did I learn when I started that I learned this. And so when I start the next thing, I may start it a little differently, or I may, I don't know. I mean, it just gives you information. One of the things that I, I have people say to me all the time when they're trying to make changes, they'll say, well, this isn't really a big deal, but I go, wait, wait, wait. Yes. It's, it's a big deal. . Speaker 3: Yeah. What you're just Speaker 2: About to say is a big deal. Yeah. Speaker 3: And, and you know, a clarification on the finish start more than you can finish. What, and you, because you brought up di divorces in that example of something that wasn't finished or could have been called failure mm-hmm. , because what's the finish? What, what I'd like to say, it doesn't make a very pithy title, but start more than you can finish just exactly as you plan to everything has its finish. But great Speaker 2: Point. What Speaker 3: We don't start because we don't think we can finish as planned. If somebody said, "You're gonna have eight years with a person who you love for six of them, and you learn all these things for each other from each other" you know, maybe you can make that decision to not start because you didn't like that finish. But that's not how things work. And relationships are very creative undertaking. So in many ways, a relationship is a very good example. Yeah. a courageous creative start. So anyway, it's not, it's not don't finish. Finishing is always the end game. We wouldn't, you know, you don't start something you don't want to finish, but it, it's just a, it's just trying to trick that. Because I think when our parents said, "Don't start more than you can finish, don't bite off more than you could chew," they did not make us finish more. They only made us start less. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 3: They just didn't wanna mess left out . Speaker 2: Right, right. Wow. I wonder how you think this affects the newer, the younger generations. This don't start because they, you know, one of the things that I read a lot about, and then I have a 28 year old, so I'm somewhat in touch with what's hopefully in touch with what's in his world, is that they have not, there's been so much comparison with what other people have started around the world where I knew maybe somebody in Little Rock, you know, in Arkansas, and I was in Pine Bluff and oh, well, you know, I, I didn't know what somebody was doing in Bangkok or, or Toronto or California. I knew my little group of friends and that was it. And, and yet, so maybe some of this don't start anxiety is also about, well, what am I spo, you know, how do I compare what I'm starting to, what somebody else is starting or mm-hmm. , whatever Speaker 3: The biggest learning I had about that and this generation, and remember this was, this book was pretty much done when Covid hit. And the data then on business starts, particularly by young people, was on a 25 year decline. Really. And the research showed that that really came from how we're raising our kids. We no longer say, "Yes, Joey, you can have a lemonade stand. I don't have time to help you, but go for it". No, now we are, we are over parenting. We are trying to get kids in the, in the right schools. So my kids didn't do a lemonade stand after they were four because they were on club soccer teams because, or the debate team, because maybe they could get a scholarship. It was we have very structured instead of free range childhoods. Right. So how do you, you know, it just, it's a subliminal message that there's not time for your ideas. 'cause You have to follow society's schedule. Mm-Hmm. Speaker 2: mm-hmm. . Speaker 3: That's my hunch. And I think it's tragic. So, but then now there have to, and, and then Covid necessitated this boom in business starts because a business start is also, you know, your son starting a freelance business because he has to in Covid. Now, you know, it, it remains to be seen whether those starts will be sustained or whether they were just out of necessity. But that is a good, that is a reason for this rally cry, is that our kids are gonna need to start whole careers for themselves. Mm-Hmm. , I mean, we know things aren't going back the way they were. So that statistic, energy and confidence needs to be nurtured. And they've, they've gotta reduce their risks of trying something, not liking it and then trying something else. It's Speaker 2: Pulling on your face. I mean, you know, it's just, oh, well this didn't work out quite as way, I thought. Yeah, Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. And then again, start something else. , so mm-hmm. . Yeah. Well, I I love your book again. It's called Start More Than You Can Finish. I created Permission Slip to unleash your Best Ideas. The art is absolutely delightful in it. Oh, I'm so glad. I'm as to the enjoyment and pleasure of the book. You know, I told you that I couldn't, I I didn't want to interview you ne last week because I had not had a chance to actually read all of it. And I was so glad that I took the time. I'm too, I just had this real excitement about it. And I, and I hope self work listeners will check it out and and see what it holds for you. And Becky, I couldn't thank you more for being on self work. Thank you so very much. Speaker 3: It was so fun to reconnect. Thank you, Dr. Margaret. Speaker 2: You betcha. Speaker 2: I know you enjoyed that interview. Isn't Becky absolutely fantastic?. I wanna remind you that we now have episode transcripts at the end of every episode of Self Work. I don't know why I haven't done that in the past. It's really been far easier to do do it than I imagined. And so I apologize in many ways to those of you who may struggle with hearing like I do because I have tinnitus. And if I can find a way to add in other episode transcripts, I will. But at least for now, each episode of Self-Work has its own episode transcript. I also wanna remind those of you who maybe haven't subscribed to my website@drmargaretrutherford.com, you can get a free ebook called The Seven Commandments of Good Therapy. But most importantly, you get one weekly newsletter from me, just one, and it offers to you both my weekly blog posts, which some of you may be interested in reading. Speaker 2: I write one still every week, or sometimes we revamp an old one to bring it up to speed and make it applicable to today. And then of course, this podcast and any other news or information that I think you might be interested in, love to have you join, you can subscribe at the website. So now the subscription or the subscribe now is basically embedded when you scroll through the website. It's much easier than it was and I hope far less irritating. But I'd love to have you as a member of my newsletter, thank you to those of you who've listened to my TEDx talk as I record this. We are right at 63,000 views and wow, that's incredible. So keep 'em coming if you can. If you haven't watched I'd so appreciate you going to YouTube, Dr. Margaret Rutherford and TEDx, and you'll get the talk. Or you can go to my Instagram page and you'll see it in the links. That's instagram.com/dr. Margaret Rutherford. Thanks so much for being here. Again, my immense gratitude to you, and I hope this in every episode is helpful to you. Please take care of yourself, your family, and your community. I'm Dr. Margaret, and this has been self work.    

John Sovec is a therapist, coach and counselor based in Pasadena, California. He is a nationally recognized expert on creating affirmative support for LGBTQIA+ teens and their families during the coming out process. John is the author of Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your LGBTQIA+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond. He is a frequent contributor to numerous publications on providing LGBTQIA+ support, speaks at conferences nationally, and provides training and consultation on LGBTQIA+ competencies for community agencies, schools, and non-profits. He is a nationally recognized expert on creating affirmative support for LGBTQIA+ adolescents with his work featured on The Rikki Lake Show, OWN, FOX, The Advocate, Bravo, LA Talk Radio, The Washington Post, and columns for Huffington Post, Medium, and Good Therapy. John is the host of OutTalk, a monthly web series for OutCare Health.In this episode of Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories, host Anne-Marie Zanzal talks with John Sovec about all of the thoughts, feelings, and considerations families experience when a child comes out as Queer or trans. John helps us understand the sometimes bumpy road to acceptance, gives great advice on how to respond when your kid comes out, and explains the nuanced differences between the experiences of having a child come out as Queer and having a child come out as trans.You can learn more about John Sovec and the good work that he does at www.JohnSovec.com and www.GayTeenTherapy.com.You can purchase John's book, Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your LGBTQIA+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond, here: https://www.amazon.ca/Out-Parents-Supporting-LGBTQIA-Through/dp/1839974249/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LA72EGXF...A coming out song that John loves is Cher's 'Believe.' You can listen to it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZXRV4MezEwYou can follow John on Instagram: @JohnSovectherapy or on Twitter, @JohnSovec

John Sovec is a therapist, coach and counselor based in Pasadena, California. He is a nationally recognized expert on creating affirmative support for LGBTQIA+ teens and their families during the coming out process. John is the author of Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your LGBTQIA+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond. He is a frequent contributor to numerous publications on providing LGBTQIA+ support, speaks at conferences nationally, and provides training and consultation on LGBTQIA+ competencies for community agencies, schools, and non-profits. He is a nationally recognized expert on creating affirmative support for LGBTQIA+ adolescents with his work featured on The Rikki Lake Show, OWN, FOX, The Advocate, Bravo, LA Talk Radio, The Washington Post, and columns for Huffington Post, Medium, and Good Therapy. John is the host of OutTalk, a monthly web series for OutCare Health.In this episode of Coming Out & Beyond: LGBTQIA+ Stories, host Anne-Marie Zanzal talks with John Sovec about all of the thoughts, feelings, and considerations families experience when a child comes out as Queer or trans. John helps us understand the sometimes bumpy road to acceptance, gives great advice on how to respond when your kid comes out, and explains the nuanced differences between the experiences of having a child come out as Queer and having a child come out as trans.You can learn more about John Sovec and the good work that he does at www.JohnSovec.com and www.GayTeenTherapy.com.You can purchase John's book, Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your LGBTQIA+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond, here: https://www.amazon.ca/Out-Parents-Supporting-LGBTQIA-Through/dp/1839974249/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LA72EGXF...A coming out song that John loves is Cher's 'Believe.' You can listen to it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZXRV4MezEwYou can follow John on Instagram: @JohnSovectherapy or on Twitter, @JohnSovecThis podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Chartable - https://chartable.com/privacy

On this special two-part episode of the podcast, Tina reads a letter she received from an estranged adult child whose estrangement story began with childhood enmeshment. You'll learn about enmeshment's impacts on children, and why those impacts are sometimes invisible to even loving, conscientious parents. Listeners may gain clarity about their own situations through understanding that estrangement is not necessarily a failure of forgiveness. Estranged adult children are not necessarily stuck in the past or holding a grudge. The message of hope is that even though the past can't be changed, the future of your relationship depends on what you do today in order to heal, learn and grow. Tina wants to acknowledge and thank the person whose letter made this informative special episode possible: May you and your mother be happy, peaceful, and joyfully connected. Links about enmeshment:  GoodTherapy article on enmeshment The Enmeshed Family: What It Is and How to “Unmesh” Signs of Parent Enmeshment Checklist by Patricia Love Parentification interview with Steve Berman, LCSW (members only) RC Podcast episodes mentioned: 147: When to Stop Trying to Reconnect 95: The Deep Pain of the Rejected Parent  125: The GOOD Parent's Biggest Blind Spot (See also Part 2)  46 You Can't Change the Past (But It Doesn't Matter) Members can log in and discuss this episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join. Check out Tina's book, Reconnecting with Your Estranged Adult Child

Many therapists starting private practice consider working with a partner.Some may feel motivated by impostor syndrome around going into business alone, or they may just have a friendly relationship with another therapist and think that starting a business together sounds great.Whatever the reason, partnerships can be really amazing, but they also can be complicated and not go as planned, so it's important to establish the expectations, boundaries, and "break up" from the beginning.If you've ever considered a business partnership for private practice, then this episode is for you.In this episode, I talk with Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT, and Katie Lemieux, LMFT, co-owners of The Private Practice Startup.Top 3 reasons to listen to the entire episode:Understand why a good partnership begins with planning for "divorce."See how Kate and Katie have expanded their business ventures and maintained a successful partnership for over a decade.Identify the qualities of a healthy and successful business partnership, and learn how to set the foundations for one.If you are considering having a business partner for your private practice, take the time to prepare and plan from the start. With a plan that takes you from the beginning to the literal end, you'll be in the best position to make a partnership that works and thrives.More about Kate & Katie:The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work, and play in South Florida. They both built their 6-figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding, and marketing. They love helping private practitioners work with the clients they love, profit more in business, and create the freedom to truly enjoy a lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, John Clarke's Cast, Private Practice University, Practice of Therapy Podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, Become a Group Guru, and more. They are the creators of Private Practice Marketing E-Course and Coaching and provide free podcasts, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists. Visit PrivatePracticeStartup.com for more info!-------------------------------------------------------

We have 3 listener questions. In the first question Keith wants to know how therapists determine whether a session is good or bad.  Then Ellen (11:35) tries to make sense of her reaction after her therapist names something in her past as abuse. Finally, Jane (17:42) was frozen at the end of her last therapy session and wonders if it's worth going back.  Feedback is at 10:52. If you have questions or feedback please send a message (voicemail or email) on our website: https://www.callthepsychiatrists.com You can also message us on Facebook or Instagram @callthepsychiatrists.

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

Some parents of estranged adult children may already be familiar with the serenity prayer, popularized by AA and other 12-step groups: "God, grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference." Knowing when to take action and when to stand down is helpful in gently moving an unwanted estrangement in the direction of healing. But that knowledge is elusive for most parents. We all have innate wisdom. However, estrangement from one's own adult child(ren) is highly stressful; circumstances like these can affect your ability to access your wisdom, let alone allow it to guide you. In this contemplative episode, Tina lists five different practices to follow, to cultivate your highest wisdom during estrangement from your adult child(ren)… And even find moments of peace. For information on what causes estrangement, and ideas on how to repair your parent-adult child relationship, read Tina's book, Reconnecting With Your Estranged Adult Child. Reconnection Club members can discuss this and every episode in the General Discussion forum inside the Reconnection Club. Not a member yet? Learn more and join. RESOURCES: RC Podcast 92: Lead By Example Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings By Letting Yourself Have Them Therapist directories: Traumatherapistnetwork.com Psychologytoday.com Goodtherapy.org

Lisa Danylchuk, LMFT, E-RYT is back. And for a great reason: She's pretty amazing. She's super smart, compassionate and has an incredible energy about her. She's one of those people that as you're talking to her you can't help but think to yourself, "This person must be an amazing healer."Lisa is an author, licensed psychotherapist, and founder of the Center for Yoga and Trauma Recovery and creator of the Yoga for Trauma program.A graduate of UCLA and Harvard University, her work has pioneered the field of trauma-informed yoga and transformed our understanding of embodiment practices in therapeutic work. More than 450 providers from 25+ countries have completed Lisa's Yoga for Trauma (Y4T) Online Training Program, the first virtual program to train providers offering yoga for trauma recovery. She serves on the Board and as UN Committee Co-Chair for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, was elected to the role of Secretary in 2018 and was nominated President-Elect in 2020.She's written for publications like Good Therapy and the American Psychological Association and was named one of the top 20 Inspirational Yoga Teachers To Follow in 2016. Lisa's books include Embodied Healing: Using Yoga to Recover from Trauma and Extreme Stress (2015), How You Can Heal: A Strength Based Guide to Trauma Recovery (2017), and Yoga for Trauma Recovery: Theory, Philosophy, and Practice (2019).In This EpisodeHow We Can Heal PodcastThe Center for Yoga and trauma recoveryTo receive a Free copy of Lisa's book, How You Can Heal, click here.Lisa's booksLisa's online training programs---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 600+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist NewsletterThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

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The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida.   Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices!   They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business.   Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru.   They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.  

Lowest of the Low: Exposing the lowest of the low in HBO's “Low Country: The Murdaugh Dynasty”: I share my thoughts on the docuseries. Alex Murdaugh, who is currently on trial for the murder of his wife Maggie, and youngest son Paul, reminds me of my psychopathic father with all of the destruction his selfishness caused.  Rusted and Busted: This week, charges of involuntary manslaughter were brought in New Mexico against actor/producer Alec Baldwin and armorers Hannah Guitierrez Reid for the negligent and tragic death of cinematographer Halayna Hutchins on the set of the indie film RUST. What would a conviction look like and how would this impact the filmmaking world? I share my own story of how on-set negligence nearly cost me my head.  Bye Bye Brady: This week saw the surprise retirement of two living legends: 7 time Super Bowl Champion and GOAT quarterback Tom Brady said goodbye, again, after 23 NFL seasons, and daytime talk show icon Dr. Phil McGraw of “The Dr. Phil Show” says he will be retiring from the show after this current season ends. Balloon?: A Chinese weather / “spy balloon” has been spotted over Billings, Montana in the United States, having many calling into question our National Security. Wanna say thanks for a great episode? Buy me a coffee! Join our Patreon: for exclusive content, member-only meet n' greets, support this podcast & more: https://www.collierlandry.com/support Shop & Support: You can support this program by using our Amazon Affiliate link: https://www.collierlandry.com/amazon Subscribe to my YouTube Channel http://www.youtube.com/collierlandry I go live on Instagram TUESDAY'S 11 am PT/2 pm ET on @collierlandry -Official Socials- TikTok: @collierlandry Instagram: @collierlandry Twitter: @collierlandry Facebook: /collierlandry *This podcast episode touches on the themes of trauma, emotional well-being, and resilience in the face of tragedy. It is ideal for listeners interested in mental health and true crime. In addition to these resources, it's also important to consider seeking support from a licensed mental health professional or support group. Talking with a trusted friend or family member can also be beneficial in overcoming trauma and its aftermath. Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ GoodTherapy: https://www.goodtherapy.org/ Trauma-Recovery.org: https://trauma-recovery.org/ American Psychological Association: https://www.apa.org/ National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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A followup to our therapy 101 episode where we talked about what to expect from therapy. On this episode, Haley Lafferty and Kevin Foley help us dig a little deeper and explore what good therapy can look like, as well as answer some other questions about the therapeutic experience.

Why do we feel helpless? What causes helplessness? I'm usually independent but currently what makes me feel helpless is the state of the world. I know I can't change the world by myself. But I can do something big or small to help the community. So, how can I give back? One way I give back is with this podcast. I search for topics that can help the listener ask introspective questions. The only one that has the answers to those questions would be the person asking them. I sometimes get those ah-ha moments, and I might have asked myself the same question many times. Sometimes, it's just the phrasing of the question. The Cambridge Dictionary defines helplessness as: The feeling or state of being unable to do anything to help yourself of anyone else. GoodTherapy.org: Feelings of helplessness can be fueled by trauma, grief, stress, mental health conditions, isolation, and many other factors. "The loneliest moment in someone's life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly." F Scott Fitzgerald. "It takes courage to grieve, to honor the pain we carry. We can grieve in tears or in meditative silence, in prayer or in song. In touching the pain of recent and long-held griefs, we come face to face with our genuine human vulnerability, with helplessness and hopelessness. These are the storm clouds of the heart." Jack Kornfield "One of the biggest defects in life is the inability to ask for help." Robert Kiyosaki Asking for help is difficult, especially when you don't know what to ask for. You just need help. I have found myself in this dilemma many times. Sometimes, just stating you need help will let others know you need help. I was once told when I asked for help that I surprised them because I needed help, since I usually look like I can do it all. I can't, it isn't possible. A few suggestions I've tried on asking for help. Talk to someone you trust. Write it down. I wrote several books of poetry to get through my emotions. Meditation helped me be clearer minded, so that I can ask for what I needed. Always be kind to yourself. You are valuable. Know your worth. The poem for this week is Frozen from Inspire Me: Raw and also in the compilation book Inspire Me Series: Book 1 and 2.   FROZEN Sitting on a stoop in a barrio of Chicago Summertime and everyone's outside Escaping sweltering heat from Un-air-conditioned apartments   Everyone vocalizes in Spanish accents Puerto Rican, Mexican—some Gypsies too It's Bucktown in the sixties   No attention to their surroundings Cars breezing by—open windows Giving relief to drivers   A two-year-old Trotting down the sidewalk—Mom unaware   He steps out onto the street Pounding heart—can't speak!   I see, but no words Feel guilty, but can't move He walks and hits side of moving car Is thrown into the gutter His mom screams, but he's okay Life continues. Reliving that moment…   I did nothing. I froze.   Many Blessings   https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/helplessness   Music: Kevin MacLeod: Parting of the Ways - Part 1 Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4195-parting-of-the-ways---part-1 License: https://filmmusic.io/standard-license  

Dr Zucker is an American-Canadian psychologist and sexologist who has worked in the field of gender since 1975. He was psychologist-in-chief at Toronto's Centre for Addiction and Mental Health and head of its Gender Identity Service until its closure in December 2015. Since 2001 he's been editor-in-chief of Archives of Sexual Behavior. In this episode of Transparency, he describes the work that was done with children and adolescents at the CAMH clinic, from a developmental perspective. This discussion is set in the context of clinician whistleblowers and the Cass Review in the UK which led to an announcement that the UK's central gender clinic at the Tavistock will be closed in the spring of 2023. Per the review, the evidence for the now popular model of care - with little to no psychological framework or therapy - is poor, and harm has been done to young people as a result of hasty medicalization. Links A Follow-Up Study of Boys With Gender Identity Disorder: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.632784/full Cass Review: https://cass.independent-review.uk Jesse Singal - How the Fight Over Transgender Kids Got a Leading Sex Researcher Fired https://www.thecut.com/2016/02/fight-over-trans-kids-got-a-researcher-fired.html ************* Support our work: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/GDAlliance?country.x=CA&locale.x=en_US For more information: www.genderdysphoriaalliance.com

In this episode we went over how exercising is a form of therapy. Thanks for listening make sure to like , comment and share download the episode follow me on ig @jordand_0721 stay tuned for the next episode. #fitness #stress #mood #therapy #exercise

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

In Episode 11 of Open Door Conversations. titled “Self-Care: Fill Your Cup” We are talking about self-care.  We often hear about the need to engage in self-care and yet so many of us continue to place everything and everyone else above taking care of ourselves.  We're told we are selfish if we take time nurturing our own cup.  In today's episode we open the door on this conversation of self-care and why it is so important for you to take time for yourself.  Listen in, get some ideas and hopefully walk away knowing and trusting that there is nothing selfish about taking care of your own cup.  Hope this conversation blesses you in some way.  Thanks for listening!   Highlights from the episode   What is self-care and why is it important? Examples of self-care  Being unapologetic about caring for yourself  For more on this topic, hit us on email or follow up on social media   Resources: ‘Find a Therapist' Websites: Psychology Today, Therapist.com, Goodtherapy.org Social Media: Ask for therapist referrals from groups or your friend list/followers  Google Search: Therapists in my area (by zip code), counseling agencies in my area Local: Contact Catholic/Jewish Charities, Church-based counseling centers     *Disclaimer: While we may be recognized as mental health professionals, our topics are in no way a substitute for any listener obtaining the professional support of a mental health clinician in your local area.  Please use this podcast and its content as a resource only.     Contact Info: Connect with Fatima Williams and Renata Akinkuowo, LCSW Email: OpenDoorConvo@gmail.com Instagram: @opendoorconvo Facebook: Open Door Convo  

Welcome back to Episode 10 of Open Door Conversations. Today's topic is titled “Deal With Yo Stuff, What Are You Needing to Heal From?” It's not easy to consider how we may be contributing to the challenges in our life and relationships. For some, passing the buck or blaming others may seem easier and yet one of the most rewarding experiences for your life and relationships is ‘dealing with your own issues.'  In this episode we opened the door to discuss just how powerful and courageous you are when you decide to address the behaviors that may be negatively impacting your  life and relationships.   Hope this conversation blesses you in some way.  Thanks for listening!   Highlights from the episode   Learning to recognize your own toxic traits, look in the mirror Healing from your past, addressing maladaptive or toxic behaviors How your community can help hold you accountable  The power, influence, and impact you have when you address your own issues   For more on this topic, hit us on email or follow up on social media   Resources: Websites: Psychology Today, Therapist.com, Goodtherapy.org Social Media: Ask for therapist referrals from groups or your friend list/followers  Google Search: Therapists in my area (by zip code), counseling agencies in my area Local: Contact Catholic/Jewish Charities, Church-based counseling centers     *Disclaimer: While we may be recognized as mental health professionals, our topics are in no way a substitute for any listener obtaining the professional support of a mental health clinician in your local area.  Please use this podcast and its content as a resource only.     Contact Info: Connect with Fatima Williams and Renata Akinkuowo, LCSW Email: OpenDoorConvo@gmail.com Instagram: @opendoorconvo Facebook: Open Door Convo  

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

Do we want to be part of the solution? This episode provides amazing insight from a well respected black therapist. Want the world to change? Remember CHANGE is a complete sentence."I am a part of the change I wish to see"--Dr. Catherine JacksonThe Wednesdays With Watson podcast awarded one of Dr. Jackson's patients funds for pro bono counseling. This is the purpose of this podcast, if you are interested in supporting this mission, click here.Stick around until the end as Dr. Jackson walks us through a guided meditation to calm our nervous systems.Dr. Catherine Jackson joins the Wednesdays With Watson podcast to end the series on racial trauma. It was important to us to secure a therapist of color that could speak to racial trauma from a personal point of view as well as an educated view as a clinical psychologist. Dr. Jackson walks through the interviews on racial trauma and helps us understand the psychological aspects. A little about Dr. Jackson:Dr. Catherine Jackson (Dr. J) is a licensed clinical psychologist and a board certified neurotherapist.  A sought after international speaker and media expert who's been featured in Forbes, Oprah Magazine, The Huffington Post, CNN and many other media outlets, Dr. J shares a wealth of information with others on topics related to mental wellness, the brain and holistic health. She is the owner of Optimal Neuroholistic Services (ONS), author of The Couch Experience: A Guide to Good Therapy and creator of The Couch Experience Therapy and Wellness Card Decks. Dr. J is a DEIJ expert and clinical supervisor  who is passionate about mental health. She helps people rewire their brains, mindset and habits so they think, feel and communicate at their best. To Contact Dr. Jackson, click here.Scripture: Phil 1:13, Genesis 1:26-27

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The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

I enjoyed a lively conversation about Spotting Good Therapy with best selling author, screenwriter, and Clinical Psychologist, Dr. Noam Shpancer.  Dr. Shpancer has written on topics about the therapeutic process and describes elements of what makes therapy a positive and beneficial experience for clients.  Dr. Shpancer's bestselling novel, The Good Psychologist was translated into six languages. A movie he co-wrote, The Other Story, premiered at the Toronto Film festival and was the most successful Israeli movie of 2018, receiving broad international distribution. Dr. Shpancer teaches at Otterbein University, and he's also a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice, specializing in the treatment of anxiety disorders.

The Private Practice Startup is co-owned by Kate Campbell, PhD, LMFT and Katie Lemieux, LMFT. They're two therapists with entrepreneurial spirits who are crazy about business. They live, work and play in South Florida. Kate and Katie both built their 6-Figure private practices in less than 2 years from the ground up and love inspiring ambitious mental health professionals to brand themselves and grow their dream private practices! They have a hunger for business, branding and marketing. They love sharing their expertise and inspiring private private practitioners across the globe from startup to mastery. They have helped therapists increase working with the clients they love the most, profit more, increase their rates, have more time off and enjoy a true lifestyle business. Together, they have been featured as guest experts on GoodTherapy.org, Therapy Sites, Your Badass Therapy Practice, Abundance Practice Building podcast, Selling the Couch podcast, Practice of the Practice podcast, Brighter Vision's podcast, Taboo Talk Time podcast, Marketing Workshop podcast, Love Your Practice podcast, and Become a Group Guru. They provide free podcasts, webinars, online courses, private practice coaching, INSPIRE Networking, and customizable Attorney Approved Private Practice Paperwork for therapists.

Where do I even begin to look for a therapist? How do I know what I can afford? How can I know if I've found the right therapist for me? If you're thinking about getting a therapist but are feeling overwhelmed by all of it, this is the episode for you! Alyssa discusses some simple ways to begin looking for a therapist as well as how you can feel empowered in choosing the right person to help you on your healing journey.   **Every donation to Patreon for the month of March will go to Doctors Without Borders to help support those injured in Ukraine. Alyssa will personally match your donation. See the podcast Patreon and learn more about Doctors Without Borders below!** Learn more about Doctors Without Borders   Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma   Transcript Alyssa Scolari [00:23]: Hello. Welcome back to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I am your host, Alyssa Scolari, and we are back with another solo episode, took a little bit of a break last week and recycled an older episode about EMDR. And I hope that you all liked it because I know so many of you are new to this podcast. And we did that EMDR episode over a year ago at this point. And I think that it's a really good episode. It's one of my favorites that we've ever done on the show. Melissa Parks is amazing. So if you have not listened to it, I strongly encourage you to go check it out, because I think it's awesome. And part of the reason why I recycled that episode last week is because I've had quite a busy week this week and I really needed some time for just relaxation and recuperation. Alyssa Scolari [01:19]: I know I was mentioning in the last episode that things with my private practice have been a little bit just very hectic good, but, well, good and stressful, but hectic, nonetheless. And I also started EMDR myself. So at the time that I'm recording this, I had my first session this morning and I was so nervous. I really did not think I would be that nervous, but I have to say I loved it. It's really funny because I am so stubborn that it is infuriating, even to me sometimes. I have heard through and through from so many people that EMDR is exhausting, it's so tiring. It's really difficult for folks. It's very intensive. And so I walked into this guy's office, the therapist's office and he said exactly that he was like, I just want you to know this is, it's a really exhausting process. So make sure that your schedule is as clear as it can be for the rest of the day after your sessions. And I was like, eh, I'll be fine. It's fine. I'll power through, how exhausting can it be? Alyssa Scolari [02:40]: Oh my God, I was so wrong. I was so wrong. By six o'clock this evening, I could barely keep my eyes open. I had to just go take a shower and get ready for bed. And I had some dinner and I feel like I have a little bit more energy and I really wanted to record, because I wanted to talk about the stuff while it's fresh on my mind. So I have some energy, so I'm here recording, but honestly the first session was really good. We didn't get too deep into anything, but I was really proud of myself for going. And this therapist that I have is a male. And that was a really, really big challenge for me to have a male therapist. And I chose a male therapist almost intentionally. It's really hard to find a therapist right now. Alyssa Scolari [03:33]: Therapists, the demand is so high and there are few and far between. So it's really hard to find one. And I had reached out to a few women who specialized in EMDR and they did not have any openings. And then I found this place, this trauma center and the only people who had availability were male. And I was thinking to myself and I was like, do I want to do this? And I, even the thought of working with a male was really starting to make me upset. Just the thought was causing me a distress. And honestly, I took that as a sign that it's like, okay, I need to work on this. If just thinking about interacting with a male, aside from my husband, of course, is causing me that much stress, then maybe that's a sign that I actually should do this and should try to face my fear and process this and work through it. And I have to say, I'm really glad I did. Alyssa Scolari [04:41]: And now listen, that's not going to be the case for everybody. Please honor your fear response, honor your anxiety, honor where you're at in the moment, because trust me, there were times in my life where I was absolutely not. I never saw myself working with a male, but I just feel like it's time. I feel like it's time. And it went really well. It was really interesting. And I will be very curious to see where this goes and I'm looking forward to sharing it all with you. I have been exhausted, as I said, and I think that it's going to be a really intensive process, but I am really looking forward to feeling better. I couldn't be more excited about this. Alyssa Scolari [05:31]: So I feel like I made the right move. And when I was sitting with him today in his office, I realized, you know what? It's actually very, very hard to find the right therapist. And I'm not necessarily going to say a good therapist, because I don't really want to play so much judgment. I feel like most therapists, most, not all, are really doing the best they can. So I don't want to say good versus bad. I want to say the right therapist. It is way harder than I think people really even talk about. And I got very lucky and I don't know, I've only had one session. So who knows, I might go back next week and maybe something will happen and I'll be like, oh my goodness, I don't think this is going to work out. Building that relationship is going to take more than one session. Alyssa Scolari [06:30]: But I really liked him in that session. And it's actually rare to meet somebody the first time for therapy and feel like, okay, I got this. This is great. Maybe I shouldn't say rare. But what I should say is, it's not uncommon for people to go through a few different therapists before they find the right one. And I don't know if people even realize that there is a such thing as finding the right therapist. I think that so many folks go to therapy thinking that all therapists are generally the same and they don't realize that they have the power to say, I don't really think this is working for me. I think I might need to look for somebody else. And this just got me thinking about how so many folks don't really even know where to begin with looking for a therapist, because it is such an overwhelming and daunting task. And it's this fear of having to disclose all of your secrets or your trauma or your problems with somebody who is a complete stranger to you. People really don't know what to expect. Alyssa Scolari [07:50]: And it just hit me today while I was sitting in there as a first time client with this man, I was just sitting there and I was like, oh, I need to talk about this on the podcast, because people don't know, people don't realize that they have power and choices and options and they don't know what they should be looking for, where they should be looking. So I want to talk about that today, because even as somebody who's very aware of what it's like to navigate the finding a therapist world, this is what I do for a living. So I know what it's like. But even as somebody who is well aware of the process, it was still hard for me, not so much with this new therapist that I have, but it has still been hard for me in the past to find a therapist. Alyssa Scolari [08:45]: And I think that if I knew then what I know now, I wish that I could go back in time and equip my younger self with the tools that I have now to be able to be more selective about the therapists that I work with, because I have had some doozies. I have had some doozies for therapists, for sure. Again, I've had some bad therapists. I am going to play some judgment here. I've had some really shitty therapists, and I've had a very harmful therapists, therapists who have done things that honestly, one day I will tell you all about, but today is not that day. So I am here to talk about this today, to equip you with the tools, if you are somebody who is like, I want to start talking to somebody, but I'm afraid. I don't even know where to begin. It's very overwhelming. Can I afford it? We are going to talk about all of those things today. Alyssa Scolari [09:40]: So I want to start off first by talking about finances and touching on it briefly, because it, well, and I should say this. What I'm about to say is not necessarily going to be a universal. So I'm only aware as far as it concerns the United States, but I know we have listeners from all over the world. So I do not know if this is going to still hold true for you if you are in another country. So I'm just going to touch on this briefly. So in the United States, it basically comes down to therapists who accept insurance, and therapists who don't. If you're looking at certain websites for therapists, you might see a very common phrase called out-of-network. An out-of-network therapist means that they do not accept any insurance upfront, meaning that you would have to pay the full fee out-of-pocket. Alyssa Scolari [10:37]: Now, it can be very, very expensive to do that, especially if you're in therapy once a week, let's say your session is a hundred dollars an hour. And I don't know, that could be high in some places, that could be lower in some places. But let's say that the therapists fee is a hundred dollars an hour. Well, now you're looking at $400 a month. So these fees can add up. So out-of-network therapists can be expensive. But with that being said, there's something that you should know, which is that your insurance company, depending on what plan you have, may reimburse you a percentage of your therapist's fee. So if you are thinking that you might want to work with an out-of-network therapist, then you would call your insurance company and ask what are my out-of-network benefits for mental and be behavioral health. Alyssa Scolari [11:40]: And at that point, your insurance company is going to say, well, you don't have any on your plan, or, well, we will reimburse you 70% of every session. And if the therapist fee is a hundred dollars and your insurance is going to reimburse you 70%, what they're going to do is every 30 days, they're going to mail you a check. Well, I shouldn't say every 30 days, I think that it depends on the insurance company, but they're going to mail you a check for 70%, meaning you're now only paying $30 a session. Now, of course, that's assuming that you have that money to be able to put up front, that can also be a problem for folks. So these are just things for you to think about, but don't automatically shy away from out-of-network therapists because you never know, your insurance company might actually pay for a part of it. Of course, your insurance company doesn't like to tell you that, because they would rather have you see somebody in-network, but it doesn't hurt to ask. Alyssa Scolari [12:45]: And then, of course, you have your in-network therapists, and these are therapists who accept your insurance and you would pay, I think probably a smaller copay or really depends on your insurance plan, $30, $5, $10. And your therapist would be in charge for billing your insurance. And then the insurance company would pay your therapist. As opposed to you paying your therapist with an out-of-network person and your insurance then reimbursing you, it would be you just pay the copay and then your insurance company will pay your therapist. I hope that was not too confusing, but those are basically the two categories when it comes to looking at finances. And so you really want to think about that, in terms of the differences and competency levels. Honestly, I have a therapist who's out-of-network and I have a therapist who's also in-network right now. I have two therapists right now. Alyssa Scolari [13:44]: Is that a little bit out of the ordinary? Yes. Ideally we do not want to have more than one therapist, because things can get very messy. And who wants that much therapy? The reason that I have two therapists right now is because I am doing EMDR, which is a short term type of treatment. And I am sticking with the therapist that I have been with for quite some time now. So I just added a second therapist for the EMDR component, but it's definitely not a typical thing to have two therapists. So as I said, one of my therapists is out-of-network, one of my therapists is in-network. And I love, the therapist that I have been with the longest is in-network. My EMDR therapist is out-of-network, and I love the therapist that I have now. She's amazing. She has taught me so much. She has helped me heal from so much. Alyssa Scolari [14:47]: So I really can't say anything about the competency levels. It really isn't like, oh, this person's out-of-network, because they have a greater skillset and they're better. No, no, I really don't feel like that way whether it's in-network versus out-of-network. I also really don't feel that way when it comes to the degree type either. I have met people with master's degrees who are therapists and they are phenomenal, but I've also met psychologists, people with doctorate degrees who are also phenomenal. So none of that stuff really matters. Really the point in knowing if you have out-of-network benefits or not, is so you know what your options are, what are my choices when I'm going to look at a therapist? Because one of the most upsetting feelings is when you doing your research online and you go and you think you find a therapist and you read all through their profile and you love what you're reading. And you're like, oh my goodness. I think I could really see myself working with this person. And then you reach out to them and they're like, ah, I'm out-of-network. I'm out-of-network. I don't accept your insurance. Alyssa Scolari [16:04]: And then it just becomes disappointing because then you're like back to square one. So I think it's important to know what your options are. And I think it's something that's important to look out for when you are doing your searches. And speaking of searches, where do you search? Where do you even begin? One of the most common search engines for therapists and really for anything obviously is Google, but there are also some different sites where you can check off certain qualifications or specifications, especially when it comes to insurance, or when it comes to the type of therapy that you're looking for. And you can do that, there's a website called psychology today. So if you're not familiar with it, you can go right to www.psychologytoday.com, and then you can list either your zip code or the town that you live in and your insurance and your age. And then it will give you a list of all therapists in that area that meet those very specific qualifications. Alyssa Scolari [17:09]: That saves you a lot of time, because then you're not rifling through Google, looking for therapist after therapist, having to click on the page, read through, see if they take insurance, websites like Psychology Today save if you a ton of time. And then there's also a website called GoodTherapy. That is very, very helpful for people too, so I think it's www.goodtherapy.com. And there are other websites, but those are two of the main ones that I see. There's definitely a bunch of others. So you will certainly find them, even if you just google therapist, therapist websites, or websites to search for a therapist on, you will find plenty, but it was probably a lot more time saving for you to go through a website like that rather than Google. Alyssa Scolari [18:03]: Now, with that being said, not every therapist is necessarily listed on those websites. So maybe Google will be your friend. Who knows. It's difficult. It's one of those things when you have to try to see for yourself what feels right for you. So, that's just the therapist search. Then comes scheduling an appointment and getting in the door. That is the hardest part is showing up to your first session. And I feel like so many people don't realize when they go to their first session, that they are interviewing the therapist just as much as the therapist is questioning or interviewing them. Alyssa Scolari [18:51]: I don't think people realize that they can ask questions to their therapist. They can ask about their degrees. You can ask about their specialties, their training, their experiences. These are things you would want to know, because ultimately you are entrusting this person with your care. And if you went to a doctor and you hated that doctor, you wouldn't go back to that doctor. I would hope not. You would be like, forget that doctor. I'm never going back. Same thing goes for a therapist. I don't know if people really understand the variability that comes among therapists. And it really is a matter of you trying to find what you are looking for. Some people want a therapist who is a blank slate, who can sit there and be like a mirror who just reflects back what you're saying. Some people really want that. Some people hate that. Some people want a therapist who is a little bit more involved, who can give. Some advice, who can give some opinions and thoughts. Some people are looking for that. Alyssa Scolari [20:01]: It completely depends. You might not even know what you're looking for until you walk in, until you walk right into the office and sit down and start talking to that person, you might be like, I don't even know if I'm feeling this or, oh, I really do like this. Here's the thing about therapy. And I say this to everybody who comes in my office, their very first session, any single one of my clients can attest to the fact that I've had this spiel with them. The most important predictor of success in therapy is the relationship that you have with your therapist. So, if at the end of the day you aren't looking forward to talking to your therapist. If you don't really care for your therapist that much. If you disagree with the way your therapist does things, you are not going to really make much progress or headway in therapy, because the most important thing is feeling like you have a good connection and a good relationship. Alyssa Scolari [21:07]: So I encourage you when you do start meeting with therapists, and when you do sit down for those appointments, ask questions, maybe write down ahead of time what kind of questions do you have? What would you want to know about somebody who you are entrusting with your trauma? What would you want to know? Some things that I'd like to know is what's your experience with this? What types of trauma have you worked with? Something I would like to know is why? Why do you do what you do? I think that's a really important question. I really like vulnerability. I think that when you are able to see your therapist as a human being, I think that, that can be really, really powerful. Alyssa Scolari [21:58]: So maybe ask that question, why did you choose to do that? And again, you're not asking so you can get your therapist to disclose their deepest, darkest vulnerabilities, but it's just like, why do you care? It's almost like, why do you care about me? Why would you care about this? What do you do this for? Any therapist, I think would be more than happy to answer that question. And along with any other questions you may have that aren't, again, super invasive. You don't want walk in there and be like, how many kids do you have? Do you have a history of trauma? Are you married? Have you ever had an addiction? We're not grilling them. We're not grilling them, but asking questions that pertain to you and the treatment process. You are interviewing your therapist. Alyssa Scolari [22:48]: And if you don't like it, you don't have to stay. That is one of the most important things. I wish I had known this when I was younger, the very first therapist I ever had. Oh, for the love of God, she was great. However, she couldn't be great all of the time and nobody can. I'm not expecting perfection. But what I mean by that is when she was focused, she was really helpful to me. But there were so many times throughout our sessions where I would be talking about something horrific. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship. My whole family turned against me. Nobody was talking to me. I was so lost and so isolated because everybody blamed me for what happened. Alyssa Scolari [23:55]: So I am about as raw and as vulnerable as I could possibly be. And I would be sitting there trying to talk to her, and in the middle of me talking, she would cut me off because she would be like, oh my God, I have to get up and I have to fix the blinds. The blinds are uneven. The blinds are uneven. I'm sorry, I have ADHD. I'm sorry, I have ADHD. And she would say that to me, I would be in the middle, not to mention during this time I was so sick with anorexia, that it is actually very upsetting to even think about. And I remember there was this one time where I was telling her that I was not eating. I was like, hey, I think that I have a little bit of a problem, because I'm not eating, and I hate my body all of the time. Alyssa Scolari [24:48]: And in the middle of me trying to say that, she cut me off and was like, oh my God, do you see these curtains? Do you see how uneven they are? And there was another chair sitting next to me in the office. Yo, this woman, this woman got up out of her chair, walked over to me, stepped up on the chair next to me, took the curtain rod off and was readjusting the curtains as I was trying to tell her that I was not eating. And then she had really no remorse. I don't even think she realized how inappropriate it was. I didn't even realize it, because I had never had another therapist. I didn't realize that was wrong. I was so used to being ignored and unheard. Alyssa Scolari [25:45]: And so I'm like, okay, well, she's just not listening to me right now. So, that's an extreme example. I'm not saying that you are going to maybe pick up on something like that, because I actually don't think most therapists do that. She was wildly inappropriate. I hope most therapists don't do that. If they do, we've got problems, we've got big problems. But look for things that make you feel uncomfortable. And when I say look for things, I don't mean actively seek out and try to find something wrong with your therapist. Listen, none of us are perfect. Are you kidding me? There are times where I have cut people off. I've been aware of it. There are times where I have said things that I have meant to be helpful, but were not helpful, and may have been hurtful. And I've had to own that and sit with that. We are not perfect. Alyssa Scolari [26:47]: So I'm not saying go looking for something that's wrong. What I'm saying is pay attention to those feelings in your gut that say, I don't know if this is going to work. If you're really feeling uncomfortable and not really wanting to talk or open up, pay attention to that, try to figure out why? Maybe it is something you talk to your therapist about. I actually think that, that is the way to go. If you're not feeling something, or if you have concerns about something, talk to your therapist about it if you feel safe. If you don't feel safe, and if you're like, this person is absolutely not the one for me, and I feel really unsafe emotionally, not physically, if you feel physically unsafe, well, again, we got real big problems than we got to talk, but I'm talking about a sense of emotional safety here. Alyssa Scolari [27:46]: So those are things you need to pay attention to. And if you feel like you can't bring it up with your therapist, or you just don't feel comfortable talking to your therapist about it, then maybe that's a sign that this isn't the right therapist for you. And maybe not. Maybe it's just a sign that you've had a bad week. What I'm saying here, the advice that I'm giving, it's not a blanket statement. It's not blanket advice, meaning it's not something that's going to apply in every single situation. I love the therapist I have now, but I can tell you that there are some days where I'm like, I can't talk to her today. I can't open up to her today, but that doesn't have anything to do with her making me uncomfortable. Alyssa Scolari [28:27]: I hope that this is making sense for you all who are listening on the other side, because I do not want you to walk away from this thinking, oh, well, I felt like I couldn't really open up to my therapist today. So they must be terrible and I must not be doing this right. And I must need a new therapist. I'm not saying that at all. I'm just saying that you have the power to walk away. You have the power to ask questions and that you are in the driver's seat. You are the one in control here. Yes, your therapist is technically an authoritative figure. Your therapist is the professional there helping you as the client, but this is your treatment. This is your care. And nobody knows the way to help you better than you, not even the best therapist on the face of the planet. Alyssa Scolari [29:21]: So I just want you to feel empowered, to be able to recognize that and make those decisions. I wish that I knew what I know now about being able to walk away from a therapist, about the fact that it's okay if you don't click with a therapist. That's totally fine, and even normal. I remember I had another therapist who I saw for a few sessions and I was, again, this was when I was in the thick of my anorexia and I was hating my body. I was really, really severe with a body dysmorphia. And this therapist kept saying, but Alyssa, you're beautiful. You're beautiful. You're skinny. And you're so pretty. And it made me really uncomfortable. I didn't understand why back then, because I really didn't know much about eating disorders. I didn't even understand that I had an eating disorder. Alyssa Scolari [30:22]: And we know now, I know now that, that's not the thing to say to somebody who is struggling with that kind of stuff, it's really not at all. It just further terrified me because I knew that I was incapable of remaining that thin for the rest of my life. And she was glorifying me for my thinness, but you're beautiful and you're thin and you have nothing to worry about. So there was a little bit of some fat phobia there. She was not an eating disorder therapist, and it was not a good fit. I didn't feel that I could tell her that. And so I totally ghosted her and I really do regret it, because being a therapist now, I know that's not a good feeling. It's a horrible feeling when clients ghost you. And I wish that I had the tools back then to know, hey, it's okay to say, I'm sorry, but I just don't think we're a good fit, but thank you for your time, in a simple email. Alyssa Scolari [31:30]: I wish I would've done that. I didn't. And I don't even remember her name at this point, but again, I think I would've saved myself so much trouble and I would've felt less guilty about leaving and walking away. And I would've found a therapist who was a better fit for me much sooner if I knew that I could. So I hope that this is making sense and that this is helpful. It's so important when it comes to trying to find somebody who can help you, because this isn't something to be taken lightly. The person that you want to help you is going to be there for you in your most vulnerable moments. And that's not something that I want you or anybody to walk into blindly, or feeling like you don't have control. You have control. Just because you have one session with a therapist does not mean that you are committed, and your voice matters in therapy. Alyssa Scolari [32:41]: So if you are thinking about starting therapy, or if you're with a therapist right now that you don't know if it's really doing you a whole lot of good, or you don't really know if you're connecting very well. These are just some things I want you to think about. Start asking questions, start doing some reflection, start seeing if there's anyone else out there who you think might be a little bit better for you, or maybe just consider the fact that you're having a really bad week and it's really hard to open up. I can't answer that for you, I wish I could, but I do know that if you keep these things in mind that I've talked about today, it's going to help get you the answers that you need, and it's going to help get you better therapy. Therapy where you feel comfortable, where you can be vulnerable, therapy that isn't breaking the bank, all of the above. Alyssa Scolari [33:38]: So on that note, I will close off by saying thank you as always for all of the support. Just some housekeeping things. So for the entire month of March, we are making donations to Doctors Without Borders, who are right now helping in Ukraine. And you can go right to the links in the show notes and learn more about Doctors Without Borders. But if you sign up to become a Patreon member for the month of March, whatever you donate for March on my Patreon, I will match your donation and that money will go directly to Doctors Without Borders. Thank you so much for the patrons who have signed up so far. It is really exciting. Also remember that if you are a patron, you can message me on there and you can ask for specific episode topics that I'd be more than happy to talk about. And again, all of it is in the show notes. And I am wishing you all a wonderful week. I love you all. I am so grateful for the support. I am holding you in the light and I will see you next week. Alyssa Scolari [34:56]: Thanks for listening everyone. For more information, please head over to lightaftertrauma.com, or you can also follow us on social media. On Instagram we are at Light After Trauma, and on Twitter it is at Light After Pod. Lastly, please head over to patreon.com/lightaftertrauma to support our show. We are asking for $5 a month, which is the equivalent to a cup of coffee at Starbucks. So please head on over, again, that's patreon.com/lightaftertrauma. Thank you. And we appreciate your support. Speaker 4 [35:33]: Sunday morning lost my shoes, I got [lust 00:35:47] in you.

Welcome to Hearts & Stripes podcast.  Today we are talking about therapy.  In this discussion, I hope to shed the light on what therapy is and why it may be a resource more people consider to support them.  Personally, I have seen a counselor and really enjoy it.  This is something I'd verbally supported, but never actively engaged in until now.  Lean in as we talk about therapy and share resources that may help you find a clinician near you.   DISCUSSION: What is Therapy? (Good Therapy : https://www.goodtherapy.org/what-is-therapy.html) Where can I get it?  Military OneSource: https://www.militaryonesource.mil/confidential-help/non-medical-counseling/military-onesource/free-confidential-face-to-face-non-medical-counseling/ On or Near Installation: Military and Family Life Counselor (MFLC), Tricare Referral for Clinical Psychologists  Other Options: betterhelp.com , therapyforblackgirls.com , www.life-giver.org/cliniciandirectory/ What types of therapy should I consider? Non-medical counseling vs Medical counseling   COLLECTIVE COMMUNITY Learn more here: https://www.breecarroll.com/community Doors open on March 24th, but you can join the waitlist now to get all the details first!   Today's Heart Track is Breathin by Ariana Grande  Listen to our Heart Tracks 3 playlist on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3izcNRGc44G4rHt4qcJzUJ?si=eaef4f0267684ed0   MILITARY MARRIAGE RESOURCE GUIDE Learn more here: https://www.militarymarriageday.com/resources   Let's Connect: To get even more on Hearts & Stripes podcast, resources, community, and more head to https://www.breecarroll.com Connects with Bree on IG https://www.instagram.com/itsbreecarroll Connect with Bree on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/itsbreecarroll

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