Honestly ... I'm Lonely

We made it, peeps! It is Christmas Day!!! Thanks for joining us on the podvent journey, it has been a joy. Today Deli and Kate chat the highs and lows of Christmas, the sadness and the joys all on one day. They talk comebacks, and even make a little announcement ...The song Kate recommends is Christmas in Australia By the Teenie Tiny Steevies.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One more sleep till Christmas! It is Christmas Eve, for Kate she thinks it is almost better than Christmas itself ... Deli and Kate talk about anticipation and how we had much more of it when we were children, but can we reclaim some of the excitement and anticipation as adults? Even when we are kinkeeping can we have excitement for the big day, when we are exhausted? We think we can ... Kate and Deli also talk about giving your significant other a "Christmas performance review" Happy Christmas Eve to you all, Hopefully Santa leaves you something special under the tree tonight xxIf you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Two more sleeps till Christmas, and today the gals talk about sh*t gifts. Lots of people have messaged Kate and told her about the rather ordinary gifts they have received. So today they are talking about crappy gifts! Kate talks about never buying a gift for a woman that makes her do more work (she learnt this from Mandy Hose! They talk all aspects of gifts that were not given with love, or empathy or with you in mind! Deli has lots of words of wisdom as always.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate and Deli are back, and it is almost Christmas ... Podvent is nearly over. Today, Podvent is purely about wrapping paper! Kate talks about her dream job of owning a wrapping paper shop/coffee shop. Kate talks about her love of making presents look beautiful with wrapping paper and talks all about it. Yep, an entire episode of wrapping paper. She thinks that for her, wrapping a gift shows love, a little pocket of love. But she does not feel like you have to do it!! They discuss if gift vouchers are good gifts or if they are not. They talk about people who are working right through the season, people who are at "max capacity" and acknowledge them. And they hope you get at least one beautifully wrapped present this year!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's gravy day. Deli and Kate chat about the song, the movie and all things gravy.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Due to popular demand Garry is back to chat all things Chrismas with Kate. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Deli and Kate talk new rituals, old rituals and making your own Christmas ritual, whatever that may be ... They talk about potatoes Kate's Irish heritage means that potatoes are never far from her thoughts! And how some rituals can be so expensive, and we might need new, cheaper ones. Deli talks about her love of making gifts xx Oh and Kate got the nuts wrong ... where did Sebastian come from?? If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when Christmas dinner has some tricky personalities, when you are trying to all get along and then someone says something mean or rude halfway through the meal? Deli says to think about things in advance, decide what you can and cannot live with, and try and decide in advance how you will respond.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kym is back chatting with Kate again today on podvent, Kym had too much to say so she had to be on twice. Kym loves Christmas, not just the day, but the entire month! They chat about maybe loving the month more than the day! They also talk about making Christmas special for themselves! Kym and Kate both have beautiful Christmas trees that they bought on sale, but they were still too expensive, but they bring a lot of joy! Kate has no regrets about buying an expensive tree back when she had a little bit more money. So yep, they talk a lot about Christmas trees! It is a podvent calendar after all, how can it not talk about Christmas trees. And then they wrap up this chat with Christmas movies .... They both love Arthur Christmas it is the cutest Christmas movie. A very moody Christmas is up there, they love the dysfunction of an Australian Christmas movie!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate chats with Natalie, a pod friend! Natalie is a primary school kitchen garden teacher! Natalie loves cooking and loves to share her love of food with her family and students she teaches ... Natalie is a baker at heart and is writing a picture cookbook! So today, they talk about food! Christmas food, as the podvent luck would have it! They talk about their love of the great Australian bake off. Natalie's house has an amazing Christmas elf that makes cinnamon scrolls for the 1st Day of December, even gluten-free ones!They chat about food and Christmas and go over the usual podvent time. But hey it is Christmas, it is supposed to be joyful. Natalie talks about Sophie Hanson and her book basket by the door. And christobels spicy nuts.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on the podvent Deli and Kate chat about Christmas Carols ... Do you love them? Do you hate them? Do you know why you love or hate them? Kate loves them (no surprise there). Deli talks about how deep and powerful music can be. So love them or hate them, today is about Mariah and BubleIf you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Kate talks with Kym, her long time friend, Kym was on the podcast back in May ... but today she talks all about Christmas. Kym, loves Christmas, she loves advent calendars and all things Christmas. Kym lives in PNG so is often missing friends and family, so really loves being home for Christmas. Kym, also talks about buying her own presents, and the "want, need, read, wear" Christmas gift system. Kym brings her own joy buying her own presents and truly enjoys it!!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you do Christmas when you are grieving ... or when someone you loved has passed away? Deli and Kate agree on some things and disagree on others, that's grief though, right? It's messy and tricky, and it definitely doesn't go away for Christmas ..If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate talks well with herself ... She talks about the losses and gains of no longer having a set religion at Christmas ... What happens when all of your old rituals no longer gel with your new beliefs (or lack there of). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate and Deli chat about how they don't even know what day it is on the podvent calendar, and there isn't much more of a December thing than that! But after that they talk giving back, getting out of your own headspace and helping someone else! Maybe giving gingerbreads to a neighbour (yes Kate manages to talk about gingerbreads again;) Deli talks about what it can do you to neuro chemically to give love, money or time into something that helps someone else this Christmas. Kate talks about https://neighbourseveryday.org/ check them out.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Peas are back together ... Mandy Hose joins Kate today from her car ... Mandy talks about her dislike of snow at Christmas, and has a no snow policy. She talks about buying her 14-year-old the Gilmore Girls Advent calendar, which in her words was sh*t. She also talks about buying her own advent calendar and how much she is loving it! Not only that, but she encourages you all to buy your own advent calendar. Mandy and Kate talk about how proud they are of an Aussie Christmas, and own our Christmas traditions. They talk about some of the trickiness of gifting, and different finances amongst friends or family. They chat about making Christmas simpler if possible, whilst still making it magical."say no to the snow and that is it from Mandy" xxIf you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Grinchmas ... Today, Deli and Kate chat all about the Grinch, they talk to the Grinch and what it is like to be on the other side of the table from a Grinch. They talk about how hard it is to be a Grinch and to have a Grinch at Christmas. Do Grinches know they are a Grinch? Deli asks why do you feel like a Grinch? And asks lots of good questions.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On day 8 of the podvent calendar, Deli and Kate talk about random useless tasks, but then get back on track to talk about filling your own stocking this Christmas. We are all worthy of a full stocking on Christmas morning, even if it means filling it ourselves. You can buy your own presents, wrap it up and enjoy it. If you are a parent, you can also teach your children how to give gifts, and think of others. We just wanted to say today is about you, not just about everybody else .... If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's topic is a tricky one ... We are talking about being estranged from someone you love or loved at Christmas. Missing that person or relationship during the festive period. Maybe you put the boundary up, maybe they did, it can still be a big wound that feels like it isn't able to heal. Deli has advice as always that is a Christmas gift in and of itself.She talks about new things that we can imagine and make come true ... we can create a different Christmas xIf you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ikea ... today Deli and Kate chat about a cheaper, cuter Christmas. Kate talks about her love of Ikea candles, her love of op shop decorations, and vintage or re-using Christmas decorations. And in news to no one, Kmart and Target have affordable Chrissy stuff too! What about paper chains? Let's face it, Christmas is so expensive, so let's make it the way we want it, and not spend a fortune! They get all nostalgic and talk about their childhood Christmas' that were not expensive but still so magic. And maybe it's time we value someone "giving" us, not money! Budget Christmas, and thoughtful Christmas, that's the 2024 aesthetic baby. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate talks about her love of Gingerbread ... Her recipe will be in the substack this week ... It is one of her fave xmas things! They bring joy! Do you have something that just means Christmas to you? Deli says it's cooking food for people she loves! They even go down the chocolate ripple cake road! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It is the 4th day of podvent, the dog barks as ever and Deli and Kate talk a little bit about being single on Christmas day, well Deli can when Kate stops talking. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

White Wine in the sun Christmas ....Today on your podvent calendar Deli and Kate talk about the magic of Christmas in Australia ... the summer nights and all that it means to us! The magic of an Aussie Christmas, pool days, cricket in the backyard and white wine (or cordial) in the sun!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's day two of the podvent calendar and Deli and Kate talk gifts and Kate talks about her love of Pinterest, and how it is easy to find what people love if you follow them. They talk about buying early and putting some thought and time into buying for someone you love. How it is nice to plan ahead, and somehow they talk about pygmy goats, and how gifts are a way of showing love. They talk about gift giving on a budget, op shop gifting, making pressies and how it's not about Money!! They talk about the memories of Christmas that are so much better than any gift they received. What happens when you put thoughts into everyone else's gifts, but you get a rather ordinary or thoughtless gift? Deli has advice ... Happy day two!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Podvent Day one! It's a pod first (well Kate says it is) .... and we are bringing you an episode a day for the lead up to Christmas, a podvent calendar if you will! We know Christmas is a tricky, wondrous, awful, magical, good, bad time of year the highs and the lows, and we are going to talk about them all .... Together we can get through December lonely hearts! If you are like Kate you are putting your tree up today (watch her insta she will be annoying with all her Christmas content!)Kate talks about "restarting the Christmas clock" each year and making Christmas what we want it to be ... and enjoying the beginning of December before it gets all hectic!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate pops in to say hi and to talk about the Podcast Advent Calendar that is happening in December.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Friday friends, Deli and Kate are back in your ears today, having a little catch-up. They also have a pretty cool (Well, they think that it is cool)December/ Christmas announcement coming.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On Friday therapy which is actually coming out late Saturday night (tech issues), Deli and Kate chat all things gratitude, yeah we know it's been said before, but not by us ;)There is something to be said for being grateful .... We hope you enjoy.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on Friday therapy (which is released on a Saturday because it would not load on Friday), Deli and Kate chat about what you do on a down day, a slump day, how do you unslump? They also chat about the changing seasons and how extra daylight can pop a spring in your step.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, on the pod Deli and Kate talk all about being "seen." Seen at work, at home, and in all relationships. How it can make you feel to be constantly not seen, and maybe even how you can 'see' yourself sometimes. They talk about having the "hard conversations" in all sorts of relationships so we can be seen and how worthwhile it is! And how it is worth fighting for. Deli has lots of pearls of wisdom and per normal, and Kate has lots of questions (as per normal).If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel safe? What do you do when you don't feel safe? Today, Deli and Kate discuss feeling safe and how it can impact us when we don't feel safe. Deli suggests writing a "safe list" a list of the things that make you feel safe, that you can look at when you don't feel so safe. They meander around as always but hope this episode makes you feel a little safer.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Honestly, I'm Lonely is back lonely hearts, and today I chat with the lovely Wayne, who is such a delight and share his lonely journey. We talk about being scared, and how not feeling safe can lead to such loneliness and isolation. Kate and Wayne talk about being in the queer community, especially when you live in a rural setting like Wayne does. Wayne answers the lonely questions. Talks about how safe he feels in his relationship but not his community. How he gives back, and loves to volunteer. He even gives free haircuts! He was a delight to chat with.The struggles you feel when you don't feel comfortable in your own skin, the honesty he lives is refreshing and raw. He talks about the joy of motorbikes and the feeling of freedom and stress relief!If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello lonely hearts, on this ep Deli and Kate chat overwhelm .... Kate talks about her 15-minute block trick, Deli says we all probably all have different strategies, she loves background noise in her headphones. Kate says she retreats when she feels overwhelmed, and sometimes feels like everyone copes better than her. They chat about how sometimes they drop the ball, sometimes they pick it back up again, and sometimes someone else has to pick up the ball. How hard it is to ask for help!!If you want to send us a speak pipe, you can on Kate's website .... and we can answer your questions (maybe;)If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It is Friday therapy with Deli and Kate today, they chat about the wind that Melbourne and Victoria have had over the last week. Kate visits a shopping centre she hasn't been to since she was 18, and that brings up some memories, but what they are actually here for is to talk about "taking up space!" How do we take up space? Kate has too many questions, Deli has great answers as always. The book Deli mentions is People Skills by Robert Bolton. We talk mid-life crisis, learning to ask for what we want, and they even talk about Christmas! If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on the podcast we talk about Fathers Day, so often the "big days" are full of emotion and loneliness, joy, disappointment, saddness, laughter or maybe all of that! These days are tricky for lots of us, and amazing for others of us. Today Garry and Kate talk about Fathers Day, and Kate listens to Garry talk about it from a dad's point of view. Garry has two adult children and explores with us what becoming a dad means to him. Garry talks about how hard it is to be a vulnerable around other men. Kate learns lots of things and of course adds some of her own thoughts in.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Friday therapy is back, and today we talk about how to make yourself feel "better". Kate talks about her dislike of self-care or the word self-care. But Deli talks about great ways to help yourself feel better, that are not self-care! How do we find support. Deli talks about making a list in the good times to use in the not so good times. Plus lots of other good tips! Deli talks about why we go into siege mentality or shock. Oh and the dog barks! If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate and Deli talk about what happens when you are mis- characterised, which can cause, we think, intense loneliness. What happens when you get bullied, or excluded, or people think things of you that are not true? How do you deal with that? What happens to your self-esteem? What happens when you fall out with someone you love, and you feel they misjudged you? How do you "re-group" after being attacked, or ostracised? How do you feel when you hear that people have been gossiping about you? The importance of having someone on your side and to be beside you when you feel vulnerable. How do we feel ok with who we are when others seem not to be ok with us? Deli as usual has lots of wisdom for Kate's constant questions. How do we set up boundaries? What happens when we have different values to our loved ones? If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Deli and Kate are back with their final in the grief trilogy, but before they get into that they talk about Deli's latest hard rubbish rescue, and being creative or in Kate's case making her home "cute."Today the gals talk about how hard it can be to downsize or, de clutter and dive into the reasons why it is hard. Why "things" are important and why they sometimes they are not just "things" . Deli of course has ideas and wisdom.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Friday therapy is back and Kate and Deli are back talking about grief, today is the second in our three part grief pod. They talk about how hard it is to study grief, how individual grief can be, and how important it is to share the stories of grief. Kate asks Deli when should you talk to a therapist about grief. They talk about the grief of being estranged from someone you love. If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today after many requests we start our little series on Grief. Kate and Deli chat about how there are no stages and right or wrong way to grieve ... they also did not get through all they wanted to say, so will be back with more on Friday TherapySend us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review and follow the show xx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate chats with a high school friend, Carl. Carl talks about connection and belonging as a high school band kid, and then the loneliness of leaving the band and heading home. They reminisce about high school and how they struggled to find their identity. They talk long and hard about the connectivity of music and concerts. They bonded over A-Ha as kids and today Ball Park Music as adults, and continue to bond over music and the connection it can bring.Carl talks about loneliness being a measure of unkept expectations. He has learnt to expect less, and it has made him happier. They are two very curious humans and talk about curiosity and learning and examining why things make you feel the way they do. How you can be proud of loneliness. The pressure of the big days like Christmas, or Mother's Day and how we can create our own loneliness sometimes by thinking things have "to be" a special way or the way they always were.Woven in and out of the chatting, Carl answers the lonely pod questions with refreshing honesty. We hope you enjoy!Feel free to rate and review this podcast if you like it.Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi friends, it is time for Friday Therapy again and Deli and Kate talk about the shudder of receiving a compliment, the way we "hate ourselves" and why?! They chat parental expectations, parental identity and developing a sense of self as a child (or adult). They go deep and talk false sense and true self, and even the birth of our true self as adults. How often do we integrate ourselves and reflect on who we are?They talk about losing friends after big life events, and sometimes re-finding them. How friends can be just as important as family. How we sometimes "over talk" trauma or a big life event, but hopefully we metabolise it ...They go off-topic and back on again ...Feel free to rate and review this podcast if you like it.Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on the podcast, Kate gets interviewed by Garry. He turns the tables and asks her the lonely questions. As always, he is so easy to listen too, and we think it's a lovely chat.Kate recommends My Therapist Ghosted Me and Shagged Married Annoyed, The Handsome Pod, and of course Mamamia outloud, when Garry asks her what her fave pods are.Feel free to rate and review this podcast if you like it.Send us a speak pipe on Kate's website ...If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's Friday therapy again, and Deli and Kate are back with some therapy for you. They talk about recording in the pod laundry while the cat eats their lunch, and the conversation rolls on from there. They talked about active listening, deep listening and just listening in general. They talk about "not being heard" and not being validated, ego ... and Deli talks about Cahot again. They chat validation, praise and even kids sports ... as per normal they go "off track" again. And they get back on track, mostly.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today it is the two K's chatting, Kelly and Kate. Kelly has a great definition of what lonely means to her, she talks about the loneliness that comes from being a solo business owner, how loneliness is a little companion that hangs around in the background, and sometimes it sleeps on the couch and drinks all the milk. Kelly talks about learning it is ok to realise that not everyone will be your people! Kelly talks about music, listening and playing and the emotions that both of those things brings up. Stay in touch with Kelly here https://knowable.me/If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Friday Therapy. Deli and Kate chat about their week, people smoking at pubs, and feeling old! This week we chat a little more about our Tuesday ep which was all about anger. Kate talks about feeling guilty about feeling angry (there is always something, isn't there?;) Deli talks about a "compound fusion" where anger and guilt have for some reason become fused. Maybe this stuff is even from our childhoods. Give it a listen and see what you think. If you have any questions or comments, you can send us a speak pipe on Kate's website.If you want to stay connected with Kate, you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today on Honestly I'm Angry we discuss another feeling ... Anger. Don't worry, there will be lonely chats again next week, but every so often we will cover some other feelings! This week it is Anger. Kate talks about her previously long held belief that "all anger is bad". Deli unpacks the roots of anger and tells us that anger can be good, and it is definitely not all bad!They talk about the way we are raised, our values and our ideas on anger and hate. What does anger mean to you? Is anger a behaviour? Do we even know how to deal with our anger? Deli says anger is a spectrum from feeling miffed to rage. They chat about how we were never taught to deal with our anger or how to grow with it! They talk about socialisation around gender, and go deep! Kate goes on lots of tangents and asks lots of questions, Deli patiently answers ;)They talk about how to find out why we do things or think things, especially when it's almost unconscious in us. Where does fear sit in all of this?Is it ok to be angry about things that are not fair? How do we "discharge" anger? How do we have anger control? Deli introduces rupture and repair. It is an interesting discussion, we hope you get something out of it.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kate and Deli chat all things Winter Solstice, Renovation Australia on abc i view, and surviving a cold snap by binge-watching TV under the doona. They do a deep dive into can a relationship survive when you take the common things you share out of a relationship? Like when Kate left the church? Deli has her answers, of course. They talk about "Who gets the friends when a couple breaks up?" "Does everyone take a side when a couple break up?" They discuss what it is like when you break up a long term relationship and people outside the relationship struggle. They go deep, people. And talk about digging deep within ourselves, even when it feels like there is no way of digging.Deli and Kate chat for longer than the 30 minutes Kate said these episodes would be, but hey ... it was a good chat.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can here;Follow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review the pod if you are enjoying it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Kate talks to her brother Aran. Aran who wrote the theme music for this podcast, he is breathtakingly honest about his loneliness, loneliness from moving to a country town, his marriage ending, even how he felt in primary school when he moved to a different country town as a child and didn't fit in. He has dipped in and out of being lonely over his life, as have most of us. He has really thought about the answers to his questions, and we think you are going to really lean in to his story.The different loneliness of leaving a relationship, even when it is the best thing for you, it is still lonely ... Kate and Aran talk about "who gets the friends?" when a long term relationship ends, and how "everyone takes a side if you are honest". And they ask themselves if there is still a "stigma" still that comes with divorce?They talk about the loneliness of being in a long term relationship that is not a connected relationship, and how achingly hard that is. He reflects on the times he felt connected to community and family and times he didn't.They discuss if you can be in a relationship without a common purpose, like footy or religion?The big emotions that come with relationships being severed, and how horrid it makes you feel.He has some good ways to combat loneliness, and how to create a sense of community around yourself.The App Aran talks about is How We Feel.If you want to stay connected with Kate you can hereFollow Kate on insta here https://www.instagram.com/podbarkate/Get Kate's Newsletter here https://katemulholland.substack.com/https://katemulholland.com.au/Please rate and review the pod if you are enjoying it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.