Podcasts about People skills

What do you do when you're in a relationship with parents – who don't seem to be interested in a relationship with you? What do you do if they seem avoidant, distant, or uninterested? Do you continue to engage and interact, or do you back away? Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by Debra from Canada who is wondering how to best navigate a relationship with parents that comes with pain, hurt, disappointment, and frustration. This conversation is a meaningful one for anyone who seems to have a complicated or complex relationship with their parents or their in-laws – how do you “honor” your parents when they make it very difficult? Listen to the entire episode today, and then go deeper with how to interact and engage with people by learning 31 skills that will make all your relationships stronger, by grabbing a copy of People Skills – because your relationships are only as strong as your skills! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

You're using AI to handle more of the work that your team used to do. That’s exactly why the human side of the business has become a competitive advantage. In this episode, Chip and Gini make the case that as AI slop floods everyone’s inbox and feeds, the bar for genuine human interaction has dropped so low that clearing it will make you stand out. Demonstrating real experience and expertise in conversation — not just in content — is where agencies will win. That starts with having actual conversations. Chip argues that meetings have become more valuable, not less, because you can’t fake a real-time interaction the way you can a written deliverable. And Gini adds that it extends to one-on-one meetings with your team, which can be used to get the specific decisions needed from you. Written content is increasingly hard to trust, and Chip admits even he can’t reliably tell his own writing from AI output. Video helps close that gap for now. So does the handwritten note, which Chip still sends to podcast guests when he can track down an address. He jokes that the illegibility is proof of authenticity. In person beats everything. Chip pushes agency owners to budget for it deliberately, with clients, prospects, and remote team members alike. Gini mentions the Augusta Rule as one way to offset some of those costs, though both are quick to say talk to your accountant before you try to benefit from it. Key takeaways Chip Griffin: “In the age of AI, meetings are even more valuable than they were before because you can’t fake this kind of interaction.” Gini Dietrich: “The more time you can spend with a client or with a prospect really understanding their business, the way that they operate day to day, their pain points — those are the kinds of conversations that are gonna make you smarter.” Chip Griffin: “When you hit that inevitable rough patch somewhere down the road, and we all hit rough patches with our clients at one point or another, it gives you that oftentimes reservoir of goodwill that you can draw on because you made that human connection.” Gini Dietrich: “My day-to-day contact there became one of my closest friends. She’s one of my closest friends today, even though we haven’t worked together in 20 years, and the reason being is that we got together in person all the time.” View Transcript The following is a computer-generated transcript. Please listen to the audio to confirm accuracy. Chip Griffin: Hello, and welcome to another episode of the Agency Leadership Podcast. I’m Chip Griffin. Gini Dietrich: And I’m Gini Dietrich. Chip Griffin: And Gini, I think we’re, we’re people people. We’re- Gini Dietrich: We’re people people? Chip Griffin: I’m a people person, so that make us people people. People- People … people. We’ll just keep saying the word people. But in all seriousness, the age of AI, everything seems to be impersonal, so that opens the door to be more friendly to actual people, to be more personable. And so I think we can talk about how we can set ourselves apart as agencies, as leaders in this age where the tech seems to do almost everything for us. Gini Dietrich: Yeah. You know, it’s funny that this conversation is happening right now because I’m coming to this conversation straight from our bimonthly learning session internally. And one of the things that we talked about today was, you know, how to use AI, our critical thinking skills, but also how to use questioning and probing with it- new business prospects and with clients to be able to uncover the real problems of what they’re, the real pain points of what they’re facing versus just the surface level, “I have a measurement problem,” kinds of things. And it’s, it’s definitely not something that you can rely on AI for. You have to actually use your people skills to be able to do that kind of work, and that’s what we spent about an hour going through internally today. Chip Griffin: Yeah, I mean, there’s, there’s so many more opportunities now to leverage the human connection piece with your clients, with your prospects, with your team because so much of what they’re seeing is AI slop. Is technology-driven. And, and whether that’s the pitches that we get in our inbox, and you sit there and you’re like, “I know AI generated this and sent it to me,” and all that. And so trying to find ways where you can break through and make a human relatable interaction with somebody and provide real human insight in those conversations gives you the opportunity to do things that, you know, a couple years ago nobody would’ve paid attention. Now they do. Gini Dietrich: Right. Right. Yeah. You know, one of the things I always talk about is, especially with content, and I think this applies here as well, is demonstrating your experience and expertise because nobody else can do that. And I think if, as you’re thinking about those human relations and the people skills and actually interacting with actual human beings, where you can demonstrate experience and expertise is really what’s going to set you apart in all of those conversations. Because nobody else has your experience or expertise. You know, they may have some of the similar experience, and they may have similar expertise, but nobody does it exactly the same way that you do. And I think being able to demonstrate that in your conversations is where you will win every time. Chip Griffin: Well, I think the key is having actual conversations. Gini Dietrich: Fair. Start there. Chip Griffin: I was talking with a leader today who said, “Look, I just, I don’t even have time to read half the stuff that comes in, even from my direct reports. And so for me, the best way to interact with all of my direct reports is through actual conversations, either in person or by video call because that’s, that’s the only way I have an opportunity to focus on it.” And so, you know, I, I know that we all are of the mindset, geez, you know, we don’t want to be meeting to death and all of that, but I would argue that in the age of AI, meetings are even more valuable than they were before because you can’t fake this kind of interaction. Gini Dietrich: Right. Chip Griffin: If you’re engaging with somebody on Zoom or Teams, I mean, sure, you could have one of those AI apps that, that, you know, the kids are apparently using to interview these days where it puts the answers up on the screen or whatever. I don’t know. But the reality is nobody’s really doing that that I know of, in the agency and client world. So, you know, it’s reasonable to assume that you are actually being yourself when you are communicating with a client, prospect, or team member. And so take advantage of those opportunities. Don’t say, “Well, this could’ve been an email.” Well, yeah, it probably could’ve been, but people are gonna think that was generated by AI. So, you know, don’t meeting yourself to death, but certainly be more open to meetings than you might’ve been five years ago. Gini Dietrich: And I would add to that, that I think the person you mentioned a few minutes ago, I think that’s exactly right. You know, at, I mean, as my agency grows and as we get bigger and, and like the amount of stuff that comes at me every day is impossible to keep up with, and the meetings, especially the one-to-one meetings that I have with my team that are most effective are the ones that they say, “I need this decision, this decision, and this decision,” and then they walk me through so that I’m not having to review decks. I’m not having to review documents. They walk me through what they’re doing. They walk me through their problem-solving, and they walk me through the decisions that they need from me to be able to move forward. Otherwise, it’s gonna sit on my to-do list for two or three weeks when they can use a one-to-one really effectively that way. So I think you’re absolutely right. You don’t necessarily have to have more meetings. You just need to use them more effectively. Chip Griffin: Right. And I mean, even before the age of AI, I always told all my direct reports, “Use those one-on-one meetings to just get every answer you need from me.” Yep. It, it’s the best way… you’ve got me focused. Take advantage of that. Absolutely. Don’t walk away saying, “Geez, I should’ve asked him this.” If you can get the answer, get the answer. And I think we can, we can do that, but it’s also your opportunity to show that you’ve actually got the knowledge yourself in these conversations. You’re not relying on AI to spoon-feed it all to you because, I mean, let’s face it, you know, we’ve all come to distrust the content we see from almost everybody- Mm-hmm … and say, “Well geez, is that really theirs or did that come from AI?” And people are, they’re trying to say, “Oh, well, I can identify the AI.” You can’t. I guarantee you can’t. I can’t tell the difference between my writing and AI writing unless I do a forensic analysis and go back to figure out who wrote the first draft of something. Yeah. And I think that, I mean, honestly, I think the people who have the toughest time with that are the people who, you know, were prolific writers before because prolific writers tended to write in a certain way, which is what the LLM’s all trained on. So, you know, those of us who were professional writers … we used a lot of em dashes. That taught the LLMs, “Use em dashes.” Gini Dietrich: Yep. Chip Griffin: Now, you use an em dash, you must be using AI. Yeah. Baloney. Baloney. Gini Dietrich: Baloney. I still use an em dash, and I will die on that hill because I am not going to stop. Chip Griffin: No. And, that’s the human style that we used to be able to express in writing. I think it’s becoming increasingly difficult to truly express yourself in written form, in a way that is fully trusted by folks. And so I think the, you know, for now at least, there is also an opportunity to do more video in your content creation. Because while, yes, you can fake AI, and that’s getting really good, to be honest with you, the avatars you can create and, and I could create it as if this show was me talking, and nobody would be any the wiser. Gini Dietrich: Yep. Chip Griffin: It’s still rare that that’s happening today. Right. So for now, you have that opportunity to make that human person-to-person connection through video, and so I’m encouraging everybody to do more video. Maybe not instead of the written, but at least in conjunction with it, because it helps to show that you’re putting these thoughts and ideas into your own voice and not just, you know, generating something with Claude or ChatGPT and shipping it without a thought. Gini Dietrich: Yeah. And in person, if you can do it in person, I would recommend that as well. Chip Griffin: Oh, in person’s even better. Gini Dietrich: Like, yeah. Like, I mean, I- absolutely, because- Chip Griffin: ‘Cause you really can’t fake it in person, at least not yet. Gini Dietrich: You definitely cannot fake it in person. Chip Griffin: I mean, we, we don’t have convincing holograms out there that someone  can’t tell is a hologram. Not yet. Not yet. Gini Dietrich: Not yet. I am very much looking forward to that, but not yet. Chip Griffin: Well, I mean, I, I do believe- Mm-hmm … that the world needs more of us out there physically. Gini Dietrich: Yeah. Chip Griffin: I mean, we could take the Chip and Gini Show on the road- Gini Dietrich: We could … Chip Griffin: without having to, to leave anywhere. Just have the AI do it all for us. Gini Dietrich: Fantastic. I love it. Yeah. We’ll just be like Princess Leia and we’ll beam in. I love it. Let’s do it. I think that’s fantastic. Chip Griffin: Ah, yes. But I mean, I think there are other ways that you can make those personal connections. You know, one of the things that I’ve done for a number of years now is I’ve done handwritten notes to people on a weekly basis. Not everybody every week, obviously, but you know- Gini Dietrich: I’ve never gotten a handwritten note from you. Chip Griffin: Uh, I think you did, like, at the very start of this show, I think. I believe I did, but I would have to go back and- Gini Dietrich: Yeah, I think you might be right. Okay, I take it back … Chip Griffin: pretty, pretty sure that you did. I- All right you know, I, I try not to overdo it because at some point it- Fine … it gets cheapened. But, generally speaking, when I have a podcast guest on, for example, I send them a handwritten note after the episode goes out, assuming I have their address. I mean, that’s obviously a challenge in some cases. Sure. And it gets a little creepy when you start asking people for their addresses sometimes. So you gotta … It’s, it’s not as easy as it once was, and sending something to a business address- Right … doesn’t necessarily get there anymore. Yeah, yeah. But when you can get an address to send them a personal handwritten note, it stands out today ’cause nobody gets any mail. Yep. Nobody sees things that aren’t electronic, and even though, in my case, nobody can read my handwriting, but they still know that I put the thought into it. That’s right. Yep. And the fact that they can’t read it tells them it’s real, right? Because if I paid one of the services, ’cause you can pay services that will, you know- Gini Dietrich: To type it out, yeah Chip Griffin: well, no, will do a fake handwritten- Gini Dietrich: Oh, yeah, yeah … Chip Griffin: thing. But it’s computer generated, so it’s, it’s fully legible. Gini Dietrich: Yeah. Chip Griffin: There’s no way anybody would pay for what I send. I mean, it’s just, it’s … I mean, I can’t read half of what I write. And I try. I, I do try, but I just have horrible, horrible penmanship. Gini Dietrich: Yeah, I think that you’re right. Any way that we can create the human-to-human interaction, and lots, there are lots of tools available today that make it easy for us, that’s gonna be, that’s, that is going to set us apart. And like I said to my team earlier today, the more time you can spend with a client or with a prospect really understanding their business, the way that they operate day to day, their pain points, the business’ pain points, those are the kinds of conversations that are gonna make you smarter. And if you use AI, you take that transcript and you dump it in there and say, “These are the kinds of things I’m thinking about. Can you poke some holes in it or tell me what I’m missing?” For sure you can do that, but do that after the conversation so that you, you understand, you can demonstrate your experience and your expertise and really have that human-to-human interaction. Chip Griffin: Well, and, leaning into something you said before- Look for those opportunities where you can get together with people in person. Gini Dietrich: Yep. Chip Griffin: And so again, I think the value of that has been elevated. It’s always been important and useful to, to meet with clients, prospects, team members in person, but I think it’s even more valuable today because, you know, we, as we talked about, you can’t fake that kind of interaction. Technology isn’t doing it for you. But it also allows you to elevate yourself over other people they may be interacting with, whether that’s a prospect looking at different firms, or whether that’s an employee who’s like, “Well, I, I feel disconnected ’cause we’re remote.” I mean, we, we talk about the importance of if you’re running a remote agency, which many of you are, you need to have regular in-person get-togethers, and you need to have budget to get people to travel. If they’re not all local, you still need to bring them in because those human interactions that you have by getting together, meeting in person, sharing a meal, sharing a coffee, those are all things that allow you to strengthen the connection and really set yourself apart in the age of AI. Gini Dietrich: Yeah, absolutely. I mean, and I think you said something really, really important, which is set the budget. So as you’re budgeting – granted, I know not everybody budgets every year, but you should be doing that. As you’re doing that, set some budget aside for these kinds of things. And I will tell you, and certainly I am not an accountant, I am not a finance professional, but in many cases, you can… Even if you host that in your home, something like that in your home, not have people stay there, but host, like, strategy planning meetings or things like that in your home, you can deduct some of that from your taxes. So you can… There’s, there are ways that you can do it so it’s not actually costing you money on top of, like, it’s something that’s deductible. So, you know, talk to your accountant about that, but there are some things that you can do to offset some of those costs, too. Chip Griffin: Yeah, it’s, you’re talking about the Augusta rule. So when you talk with your accountant, ask about the Augusta rule. It is something that is potentially useful, but please, dear God, do talk to your accountant before you do this- Gini Dietrich: Yes, please. Please. … Chip Griffin: Because I’ve talked with some folks, they see someone online say, “Oh, you should use the Augusta rule,” and they’re like, “Oh, cool. Well, I’ll just do…” No, there’s actual proper steps that you have to go through to prove that it’s a legitimate expense, to prove the amount and all of that kind of stuff. So, so please, do make sure that, because it is, that is one of the more complicated areas of tax law, and so you really wanna make sure that you’re getting that one correct so that- Gini Dietrich: Yeah, just- … Chip Griffin: they don’t come in and whack you for- Gini Dietrich: Take our advice to, take our advice to look into it. Yeah. Do not take our advice to just implement it. Chip Griffin: Right. But regardless of how you go about getting together in person, the important thing, at least for this episode, is that you do it, because that does, it, it strengthens that human connection, which pays all sorts of dividends. I mean, even with clients, getting together in person, it, it helps you. You can read body language in ways that you can’t do even on a video call. You can strengthen the relationship so that when you hit that inevitable rough patch somewhere down the road, and we all hit rough patches with our clients at one point or another- it gives you that oftentimes reservoir of goodwill that you can draw on because you made that human connection, and you’re not just, you know, the other end of a contract. You are someone that they’ve gotten to know. And so we want to try to find as many ways as possible to have that relationship with everybody that we work with at every level, vendors, clients, prospects, team members. Gini Dietrich: Yep, yep. Chip Griffin: Whatever it may be. Gini Dietrich: Yep. Yeah, I mean, my newsletter that’s going out in a couple of days, talks about how Ocean Spray was one of my very first clients as a young whipper-snapper working at FleishmanHillard. And there, my day-to-day contact at, there became one of my closest friends. She’s one of my closest friends today, even though we haven’t worked together in 20 years, and the reason being is that we got together in person all the time, we traveled together, we were, you know, sort of in the, the ranks together working through all sorts of issues and challenges and, you know, building… We built a real friendship. And you can’t do that on Zoom. You just can’t. Chip Griffin: Right. And, I know we all want to be more efficient and all of that, and that’s all fine and good, and I am a huge believer in using the technology- Oh, yeah … whether it’s AI or otherwise- Gini Dietrich: Absolutely … Chip Griffin: to, to make yourself more efficient, but you can’t do that at the expense of losing that human touch. Gini Dietrich: Right. Totally. People skills, people skills, people skills. Chip Griffin: They are more important today than they have ever been. And that, that is common throughout history. As, as one thing becomes dominant, the antidote to it, if you will, or the opposite piece of it often becomes equally valuable because everybody else is ignoring it. So find those places where you can stand out, you can be a little bit different. And, many people went into the agency world because they were people people, people. I… it sounds so stupid. Gini Dietrich: People, people people, people pleasers. Person, person, people. People, pe- people Chip Griffin: ‘Cause you’re a people person- A person so if you’re people pe- I don’t know. Gini Dietrich: I don’t know either. Chip Griffin: I feel like I’ve taken this off the rails as I usually do, so maybe this is a good point to, to draw ourselves to a close here before people get peopled out. Gini Dietrich: We are all people people. People people. Chip Griffin: Makes me think of that old song, what is it, the, The Purple People Eater or something like that? Gini Dietrich: Yes, that’s exactly what I was thinking of at the beginning. Yeah. Yep. Chip Griffin: Yeah. Which if I could remember it, I wouldn’t sing it anyway because we’d probably get a copyright strike, so. Or maybe not. I don’t know. I don’t know how all that stuff works. I wouldn’t either. On that note, uh, I’m definitely careening off the rails here, so we will draw this episode to a close. Thanks for listening. I’m Chip Griffin. Gini Dietrich: I’m Gini Dietrich. Chip Griffin: And it depends.

In this episode of The A Game Podcast: Real Estate Investing For Entrepreneurs, host Nick Lamagna sits down with John "Beef" Keefe, drummer for the multi-platinum rock band Boys Like Girls, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt under Shawn Williams, coach, entrepreneur, and performer. From touring the world on sold-out stages to overcoming serious injuries and earning a black belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, John shares the mindset, discipline, and habits that create long term success in any field. John breaks down the lessons he's learned from over 20 years in the music industry, how Jiu Jitsu transformed his approach to life, business, and relationships, and why consistency beats motivation every time. Whether you're an entrepreneur, athlete, business owner, musician, or someone looking to level up personally and professionally, this conversation is packed with actionable insights. You'll learn how to stay calm under pressure, develop elite habits, improve leadership skills, manage ego, build strong partnerships, overcome setbacks, and create a life centered around growth and purpose. In this episode, we cover: ✅ How consistency beats motivation - and why the best performers show up even when they don't feel like it ✅ Pressure management - the self-talk, breathing routines, and mental frameworks that help you perform under bright lights (or in front of thousands of fans) ✅ Why musicians make great grapplers - the surprising connection between drumming with four limbs and flowing in jiu-jitsu ✅ Recovering from a broken neck - how Beef went from being told he'd never train again to earning his black belt ✅ The ego trap - why the best coaches (and bandmates) say "I don't know" and why that builds more trust than faking it ✅ Band dynamics as a business - how to maintain 20-year partnerships, navigate hierarchy, and handle conflict without blowing up what you've built ✅ Smelling the roses - how to stay present and grateful when the grind makes it easy to miss the moment   Connect with John: John Keefe on Instagram John Keefe on Twitter John Keefe on TikTok John Keefe on Threads   Connect with Boys Like Girls: www.boyslikegirls.com Boys Like Girls on Instagram Boys Like Girls on Facebook Boys Like Girls on YouTube Boys Like Girls on TikTok Boys Like Girls on Threads Boys Like Girls on Spotify Boys Like Girls on Apple Music   Connect with Renzo Gracie Nashville: www.renzogracienashville.com Renzo Gracie Nashville on Instagram Renzo Gracie Nashville on Facebook   --- Connect with Nick Lamagna www.nicknicknick.com Text Nick (516)540-5733 Connect on ALL Social Media and Podcast Platforms Here FREE Checklist on how to bring more value to your buyers

What does it actually look like to love people well in a world that has forgotten how? In part two of People Skills, Pastor Jim continues unpacking the biblical blueprint for building relationships that are healthy, honest, and honoring to God. From learning to get whole before you can truly help others, to making the shift from selfishness to generosity, to knowing when unity requires taking a stand for truth . . . these principles are as practical as they are powerful. If you're ready to grow in the way you connect with the people around you, this message will show you how.

Cynthia Scott, author of "Celebrating God, Our Founder," helps us reflect on the people of faith and the Biblically-infused understanding of liberty that were essential to the founding of the United States.  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, author of "People Skills," reminds us of all God's says over us: His affirmations of us. From there, we can graciously engage others around us.  The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

She was once told she could sell ice to Eskimos. These days she leads one of New Zealand's most inclusive organisations.In this Marketing 4 Business episode, Scott chats with Fran Scholey, Chief Executive of Special Olympics New Zealand, about the people skills behind good sales, strong teams and leadership that actually connects. From selling cars in her twenties to running professional netball and basketball, and now leading an organisation that supported more than 1,200 athletes at last year's National Summer Games, Fran has built her career on one simple idea: meet people where they are.Fran shares insights and lessons you can put to work straight away, including:The one question Fran asks herself before selling anything, and why honesty beats any scriptWhy reaching people where they are matters more than the message itselfThe difference between listening to reply and listening to understandWhy the best leaders ask "what did you see?" instead of handing over the answerHow to keep your whole team engaged, not just the players who get on the courtWhat fostering a police dog (and a blunt comment from her daughter) taught Fran about switching offThe two ways people respond to adversity, and the question that changes everythingHow to find work you actually enjoy, without chasing a title or the moneyIf you're a business owner or leader trying to build a team that wants to turn up, sell with honesty, or simply get better at understanding the people around you, this episode is well worth your time.Download the Local Business AEO Playbook here – a free, step-by-step guide that shows you how to position your business to be recommended by AI.If you find our content valuable and informative, please help us reach more business owners by sharing it with a friend who might benefit. Additionally, please ensure that you're following our podcast on your preferred platform, and if you enjoyed the latest episode, consider leaving us a five-star review. Your support is highly appreciated.See below for ways to get in touch with us…Follow the Marketing 4 Business podcast on Instagram hereFollow Digital Influence on Instagram hereConnect with Scott on LinkedIn hereConnect with Fran on LinkedIn here Have Fun & Take Action

About the Guest: Eric Ries has been a force in entrepreneurship and innovation for over twenty years. He is the creator of the Lean Startup method and the author of The Lean Startup, The Leader's Guide, and The Startup Way. His ideas have shaped how startups and large companies approach growth, decision-making, and innovation. As a founder, Eric has applied his principles with ventures like The Long-Term Stock Exchange (LTSE); Answer.AI, an AI research lab; the Lean Startup Co.; Virgil, a legal services startup; and IMVU, where many of the concepts that became the Lean Startup method were forged. He has served as an entrepreneur-in-residence at Harvard Business School and IDEO. Eric lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with his wife and three children. What You Will Learn: How to create systems and cultures that encourage experimentation and learning Lessons in influencing and leading without formal authority Why long-term thinking matters for both founders and teams The importance of compounding small, deliberate actions over time Insights on how Lean Startup principles can transform established organizations Join us for a deep dive into leadership, innovation, and the mindset that allows founders and executives to build companies that last. Eric's approach is practical, disciplined, and forward-thinking. Tune in to gain strategies that go beyond theory and into the real-world application of building lasting organizations. Please rate and review this Episode!We'd love to hear from you! Leaving a review helps us ensure we deliver content that resonates with you. Your feedback can inspire others to join our Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Podcast community & benefit from the leadership insights we share.

In part one of this three-part series, Pastor Jim tackles one of the most practical and needed topics in the Christian life: People Skills. Drawing from Romans 14:19 and a wealth of real-life wisdom, you'll explore eight biblical principles for building stronger, healthier relationships . . .from understanding how the way you see yourself shapes the way you see others, to the simple but powerful habit of catching people doing something right. In a world increasingly ruled by screens and disconnection, this message is a timely reminder that people matter . . . and that with God's help, you can learn to love them well.

A lot of us are tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix. We're doing the things — the work, the list, the showing up — and still, something is pulling at us. A low hum of unfinished. For years, Robin Quinn Keehn thought that hum was a personal failing: not disciplined enough, not organized enough. It wasn't any of that. It was Open Loops. This is the backbone episode of the show — the one to send anyone who's new. Robin defines an Open Loop plainly (a commitment, promise, or agreement that's unfinished, incomplete, or outdated, quietly draining your time, energy, and peace), then walks through the three kinds almost all of us carry: Relational Loops with other people, Self-Loops — the promises we break to ourselves — and Unspoken Brokens, the things that needed to be said and never were. You'll hear why loops stay open (it's avoidance, not discipline), what they actually cost — especially what broken self-promises do to your confidence — and the three ways to close any loop: end it, evolve it, or recommit to it, on purpose. This is also where Robin introduces the free 5-Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge, starting June 29. In this episode: What an Open Loop actually is — and why it stays quiet The three kinds: Relational Loops, Self-Loops, and Unspoken Brokens Why broken promises to yourself quietly erode your confidence Why open loops are an avoidance problem, not a discipline problem The real cost: time, energy, peace — and belief in yourself The three ways to close any loop: end it, evolve it, recommit to it An invitation to the free 5-Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge (starts June 29) If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

What you'll learn in this episode Why listening—not talking—is the ultimate sales skill The 3 steps of the CPI framework: connect energetically, ask adept questions, actively listen How to uncover what clients are afraid to admit Why setting emotional expectations prevents frustration and blame How to turn predictable problems into opportunities for trust The difference between fake rapport and real connection Why influence is something you're given, not something you chase How authentic listening positions you as the trusted expert Teach to Sell Preorder: Teach to Sell: Why Top Performers Never Sell – And What They Do Instead To find out more about Dan Rochon and the CPI Community, you can check these links:Website: No Broke MonthsPodcast: No Broke Months for Salespeople PodcastInstagram: @donrochonxFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/NoBrokeMonths/Facebook: Dan RochonLinkedIn: Dan RochonTeach to Sell Preorder: Teach to Sell: Why Top Performers Never Sell – And What They Do Instead

Today on the show I'm joined by Angie, who's greiving the fact that her adult daughter went “no contact” recently, withdrawing from family activities and isolating her daughter from seeing her grandma. Angie is grieving both the loss of her relationship with her daughter as well as her granddaughter, and wondering if there is anything she can do to move toward reconciliation and connection. I talk her through the building blocks of a safe relationship,what she can and what she can't do, and what it means for her to work on creating a space of safety and security for her adult daughter and their relationship with one another, even through their differences. According to Angie, their differing political views have kept her daughter away, so we spend some time talking about navigating the difficult territory when there is a stark contrast of views and perspectives between two people, whether politically, theologically, or otherwise. This episode is more important in this generation and culture than it ever has been before, so take the time to listen, process, and learn alongside Angie. To go deeper in your relationships with others, grab a copy of People Skills and learn the skills you need to strengthen your relationships.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

On this episode of the Becoming a Sleep Consultant podcast, I'm joined by The Doula Darcy, a business coach who specializes in supporting both doulas and sleep consultants.This conversation is all about PEOPLE SKILLS, something that often gets overlooked when we talk about building a business.In such a human-centered profession—where trust, empathy, and communication are at the core—how you connect with others can make or break your business. Whether you're talking to a tired parent, handling a tough conversation, or simply showing up online, the way you engage with people really matters.Darcy shares incredible insight into how bringing your full self into your business—your warmth, your emotional intelligence, your ability to truly listen—can help you grow in a way that feels authentic and aligned.If you've ever felt unsure about how to “sell” your services, or you're wondering what makes someone stand out in this space, this episode is for you.Links:Website: https://douladarcy.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedouladarcy/Membership Program: https://douladarcy.com/my-doula-villageIf you'd like to learn more about becoming a Sleep Consultant, please join our Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeasleepconsultantCPSM website: https://thecpsm.com/Book a free discovery call to learn how you can become a Certified Sleep Consultant here: https://jaynehavens.as.me/CPSM-Inquiry

When something feels off with someone we care about, most of us don't blow up. We go quiet. We change the subject. We say "it's fine." We tell ourselves we're being kind, being mature, keeping the peace. But silence is rarely neutral. When we go quiet, we think we're closing the subject — and instead we're leaving it wide open, handing the other person a blank space to fill with their own story. Usually a worse one than the truth. In this episode, Robin Keehn looks at the engine underneath resentment: going quiet. The many polite costumes it wears, the reasons we reach for it, and the real cost — trust that erodes in the unsaid, distance that grows one quiet day at a time. She offers an honest test for telling wise restraint apart from avoidance, and a small place to start: one sentence, beginning with "Here's what I've noticed." This episode builds on Episode 1 (How Resentment Quietly Builds) and pairs with Robin's piece The Apology No One Thinks to Give. In this episode: Why we go quiet instead of saying the hard thing The polite costumes silence wears — "it's fine," the dropped subject, the slow pull-back How to tell wise restraint apart from avoidance What silence actually does: the story the other person invents, the erosion of trust, the growing distance Why "keeping the peace" often means keeping the loop open How to start with one honest sentence — and what to do when the other person is already gone  Ready to Close Your Loops? Join the 5 Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge June 29-July 3rd.  Register here. https://pplskillz.com/challenge If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

Tyler Chisholm is a CEO, author, speaker, and podcast host who shows leaders that curiosity isn't optional — it's the edge that builds trust and drives growth.Early in his career, Tyler Chisholm believed leaders had to know it all. The smartest in the room. The clearest voice. The one with the answers.But when the weight of certainty started breaking both plans and people, he discovered a better way: curiosity.As co-founder and CEO of clearmotive for over 15 years, host of two long-running podcasts, and author of Curious as Hell, Tyler has built his career on that lesson. Across boardrooms, interviews, and keynote stages, he shows leaders how asking better questions builds stronger teams, sharper decisions, and results that last.Connect with Tyler:Website: https://www.tylerchisholm.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tylerchisholm/Additional Resources:"Curious As Hell" by Tyler Chisholm on AmazonListen to the Podcast, subscribe, leave a rating and a review:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-of-curiosity-why-leaders-must-be-curious/id1614151066?i=1000770523862 Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/episode/2RsXXoexnZ9BW9fnyd8DuX?si=E0HFDldlTcaaSU7w5u1ZvA YouTube: https://youtu.be/lQ2BSfMhi9k

Licensed counselor and author Debra Fileta is back for her third appearance, and this one hits different — she's here to talk about the skill we're all convinced we already have. Levi and Jennie dig into Debra's new book People Skills, unpacking why our tech-saturated world is quietly eroding our ability to connect, why most of us privately think this book is for someone else (spoiler: it isn't), and how communication styles — passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive — show up in something as simple as a wrong order at a restaurant. Plus: Debra shares the moment God changed her perspective on public speaking anxiety, Jennie confesses she's a chameleon in social situations, and Levi admits cocktail parties are somehow scarier than 10,000-person crowds. Connect with us on social! Debra: @debrafileta Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Get Debra's book People Skills: https://bit.ly/4fco6Vl Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:07:46 – Introducing People Skills — and Jennie's very tabbed-up copy 00:08:26 – Why we're losing the art of real human interaction 00:18:44 – The room full of strangers exercise: how do YOU show up? 00:25:45 – Stop focusing on what they give you, focus on what you can give 00:49:10 – Passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive

Licensed counselor and author Debra Fileta is back for her third appearance, and this one hits different — she's here to talk about the skill we're all convinced we already have. Levi and Jennie dig into Debra's new book People Skills, unpacking why our tech-saturated world is quietly eroding our ability to connect, why most of us privately think this book is for someone else (spoiler: it isn't), and how communication styles — passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive — show up in something as simple as a wrong order at a restaurant. Plus: Debra shares the moment God changed her perspective on public speaking anxiety, Jennie confesses she's a chameleon in social situations, and Levi admits cocktail parties are somehow scarier than 10,000-person crowds. Connect with us on social! Debra: @debrafileta Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Get Debra's book People Skills: https://bit.ly/4fco6Vl Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:07:46 – Introducing People Skills — and Jennie's very tabbed-up copy 00:08:26 – Why we're losing the art of real human interaction 00:18:44 – The room full of strangers exercise: how do YOU show up? 00:25:45 – Stop focusing on what they give you, focus on what you can give 00:49:10 – Passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive

Sensitive Content Disclaimer: The following conversation includes sensitive information, covering themes of abuse. Today on the show I am joined by my friend Tim Ross for an on-air counseling session as we process the concept of vulnerability in relationships. What does it mean to be vulnerable? I guide him through the analogy of seeing vulnerability like a pool – equipped with both a shallow end and a deep end. Vulnerability means to go first, to take that first jump, and to invite people to the deep end of your life, and share authentically. He opens up about the moment that changed everything for him, where he decided that he will never keep a secret again, and his journey toward being open and honest in every part of his life. We process through both the benefits and the risks of vulnerability, how to find friends who are willing to go there, and why being open and honest is not a gender thing – it's an invitation to all. This episode is filled with lessons to learn and things to process about your own life, and what holds you back from sharing authentically. Don't miss this on-air session, and then go deeper with your relationships by grabbing a copy of People Skills.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

My friend Debra Fileta sat down with me to share her perspective on people skills, and it totally shifted how I show up in my relationships. Not only is Debra a wife, mother, and professional counselor, but she's also the author of nine books, including her latest book, People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills. You'll love hearing her expert advice for navigating relationships with intentionality and vulnerability. Highlights from Today's Episode Receiving the right feedback Tracking patterns of tension Easing into vulnerability Related Resources Connect with Debra Fileta on Instagram or Facebook. Grab a copy of Debra's latest book, People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills. Visit Debra's website to learn about her books, podcasts, and counseling offerings. Check out this previous episode with Debra, reminding us that It's Time to Heal. CLICK HERE FOR FULL SHOW NOTES The post #574 – Do You Have People Skills? with Debra Fileta first appeared on Chrystal Evans Hurst.

Devices and social media have "connected" us to each in amazing ways, but many struggle with real life relationships—or face to face communication. On this Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman, counselor and author, Debra Fileta wants to help you reclaim the art of connection. How do we build stronger relationships and less social anxiety? Hear the encouragement on Building Relationships with Dr. Gary Chapman. Featured resource: People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your SkillsDonate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/buildingrelationshipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the path to inspiring others starts with understanding yourself first? Kevin sits down with Bruce Mayhew to explore why inspired leadership starts with looking inward, not for self-focus, but to serve better and lead others. They discuss the connection between learning and leadership growth, the importance of saying "I don't know" as a pathway to curiosity and trust, and why so-called soft skills are better understood as human skills. Bruce also shares a powerful distinction between motivation and inspiration, reminding us that leaders cannot manufacture motivation in others, but they can create the conditions that help people do their best work. Along the way, they unpack why accountability should be seen as an opportunity rather than blame, how leaders must balance individual needs with team cohesion, and why organizations should focus less on trying to empower people and more on enabling their success. Listen For 00:00 Introduction: The Path of an Inspired Leader 01:33 Meet Bruce Mayhew & His New Book 03:06 The Big Idea Behind Inspired Leadership 04:18 Why Leaders Must Keep Learning 05:10 The Importance of Saying "I Don't Know" 06:06 Human Skills vs. People Skills 08:24 Balancing Individual Needs & Team Cohesion 11:14 Difficult Conversations & Positive Accountability 14:23 Millennials, Work & Leadership Identity 18:35 Inspiration vs. Motivation Explained 20:50 How Leaders Inspire Their Teams 24:06 What Organizations Must Do Better 25:18 Stop Trying to Empower People 27:11 Books Bruce Mayhew Recommends 29:08 Where to Connect with Bruce Mayhew 30:15 Kevin's Final Leadership Challenge: "Now What?" Bruce's Story: Bruce Mayhew is the author of The Path of an Inspired Leader: Inspire Greatness, Lead with Integrity, and Build a Loyal Team Culture. He is a keynote speaker, corporate trainer, and author, with interviews in CBC, CTV, Global Toronto: The Morning Show, and bylined articles in HuffPost and The Globe & Mail. He holds over 11 years of leadership experience working at one of Canada's top 5 banks, and over 20 years' experience helping people and organizations succeed. https://brucemayhewconsulting.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/brucemayhewconsulting/ Looking to Develop Stronger Leaders? Want help developing the leaders in your organization? Reach out to explore how the Kevin Eikenberry Group can support your team at info@kevineikenberry.com.  Book Recommendations The Path of an Inspired Leader: Inspire Greatness, Lead with Integrity, and Build a Loyal Team Culture by Bruce Mayhew Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert The Witching Hour by Anne Rice Flexible Leadership: Navigate Uncertainty and Lead with Confidence by Kevin Eikenberry Like this? Compassionate Accountability with Nate Regier How Leaders Can Inspire Accountability with Michael Timms Leave a Review If you liked this conversation, we'd be thrilled if you'd let others know by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. Here's a quick guide for posting a review. Review on Apple: https://remarkablepodcast.com/itunes    Join Our Community If you want to view our live podcast episodes, hear about new releases, or chat with others who enjoy this podcast join one of our communities below. Join the Facebook Group Join the LinkedIn Group   Podcast Better! Sign up with Libsyn and get up to 2 months free! Use promo code: RLP  

Worship leader Laura Story, author of "Stand in Awe," talks about the importance in awe and reverence for God, trusting in Him as He writes our lives, and allowing that to transform us into His image.  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, author of "People Skills," talks about our body language, which communicates as much, if not more, than the words we use.  How do cultivate an open body language style.   The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here

About the Guest Janice Bryant Howroyd is the Founder and CEO of The ActOne Group, a global workforce solutions company operating in more than 30 countries. She is recognized as the first African American woman to build a multi-billion-dollar enterprise. A best-selling author and global speaker, she has been honored for entrepreneurship, leadership, and innovation, and has advised leaders across business, government, and education. Her work focuses on connecting people to opportunity through a deeply human-centered approach to business. What You Will Learn: Why “no shortcuts, no excuses” is a leadership mindset for long-term success How asking better questions and listening drives stronger outcomes Why resilience is essential when facing adversity How AI is changing work but increasing the need for human skills Why people must remain at the center of leadership and growth Please rate and review this Episode!We'd love to hear from you! Leaving a review helps us ensure we deliver content that resonates with you. Your feedback can inspire others to join our Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Podcast community & benefit from the leadership insights we share.

“We talk all the time, but I still feel alone in my marriage.” If that sentence has ever crossed your mind on a Tuesday night, mid-load of dishes, with your partner three feet away, you are not imagining it. And you are not the only one. In this episode, I sit down with Debra Fileta, the licensed therapist who has spent more than twenty years in clinical practice helping couples figure out exactly this. Debra is the author of nine books and the host of the nationally syndicated podcast Talk To Me, and her newest book, People Skills, is built around an idea that I think is going to be a relief for a lot of you. Most relationship pain is not a love problem. It is a skill problem. And skills can be built. In This Episode The three levels of communication, and why almost every couple stalls at level two without realizing it Why “we talk all the time” is not the same thing as feeling close, even after twenty years of marriage The thirty-minute weekly ritual Debra and her husband John have used for fifteen years to keep their marriage from drifting Why being “nice” is not the same as having strong people skills, and the people-pleasing trap that masquerades as kindness How to tell the difference between a one-time conflict and a relationship pattern that is pointing at something deeper The volume-dial reframe for couples where one partner feels everything at a 7 and the other at a 3 The empathy practice that takes thirty seconds and changes the way you see almost everyone in your life Why “I keep attracting the wrong people” is the wrong question, and the better one Debra asks instead Why This Matters This episode is for anyone who has caught themselves thinking, something has shifted between us and I cannot put my finger on what. For the partner who feels like they are always the one initiating real conversation. For the couple who used to talk for hours and now mostly talks about logistics. For anyone who has wondered if needing more depth in their marriage is asking too much. It is not. And the way back is more learnable than you might think. Episode Breakdown 02:30 It is Not a Lack of Love, It is a Lack of Skill 06:30 Patterns vs. Pain Points (How to Tell If You Are the Common Denominator) 10:30 Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (And How to Change Your “Magnet”) 14:00 The Three Levels of Communication: Why Most Couples Never Get Past Level Two 17:30 Duck Floaty or Scuba Diver? The Sunday Night Check-In That Saved a Marriage 23:00 When One of You Feels Everything at a 7 and the Other at a 3 29:30 The Yalom Story: How to Actually Look Out Your Partner's Window 33:00 Trauma Does Not Excuse Us, But It Does Explain Us Resources Free Communication Training (two-part video plus workbook) Work with a couples counselor or relationship coach on my team If something in this conversation lands somewhere specific for you, that is the signal to do something with it. Start with the free communication training at growingself.com/communication. It is two short videos and a workbook, and you can do it this weekend. And if you want to go a little deeper, we do free first conversations at growingself.com. No pressure, no commitment, just a real conversation about what is actually going on in your relationship and whether what we do here might be a fit. I will see you back on the podcast soon. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the podcast Upwork — When you need specialized talent fast, Upwork gives you access to vetted professionals across 125+ categories, from marketing to web development to operations support. No long recruiting cycles. No guesswork. Just the right person, when you need them. Check it out at upwork.com — posting a job is free. Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. OSEA — Amazing, clean, science-backed skincare made with the power of the sea. Use code LHS at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order. Quince — Quality products you'll actually use that feel like luxury without the price tag. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/lhs. LNutra Prolon — A science-backed, plant-based nutrition program that supports fat loss, metabolism, cellular rejuvenation, and overall longevity. Head to ProlonLife.com/LHS for 15% off your first order + a bonus gift.

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Life is a people-centered journey. If we're going to thrive at work, school, or home, we need to grow in how we relate to others. In our new series, People Skills, we'll learn from the ultimate expert on relationships of all kinds – Jesus Himself. Join us as we discover timeless principles to strengthen our human connections.Let us know you're here! If you have a need or prayer request we can support you: thecompass.net/connectioncardIf you call The Compass your church home or you'd like to partner with us in what God is doing here, near, and far, you can visit thecompass.net/give

Join me today as I chat with the beautiful  Debra Fileta who gives us a lifeline to THRIVING! Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor and bestselling author of eight books. She's a national speaker who travels the country reaching millions of people with the message of mental, emotional, and relational healing. Her work has been featured by numerous media outlets, national television, syndicated radio, and ministries and churches nation-wide including Saddleback Church, Fresh Life Church, Lakewood Church, Focus on the Family, Better Together, The 700 Club, and many more. She's also the founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, a national team of faith-forward, clinically-informed counselors, integrating faith and psychology to help people navigate personal and relational issues. Debra is also the host of the popular podcast, and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me, where she hosts on-air counseling style sessions with people from across the country including notable pastors and leaders, as well as every-day hotline callers talking about the things many others shy away from. She is the author of eight books, including True Love Dates, Choosing Marriage, Love in Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, Soul Care, and her first children's book, Any Day Emotions. She and her husband, John, and their four children live in Lancaster, PA. You can connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Jess sits down with counselor and author Debra Fileta to talk about her newest book, People Skills, and what it looks like to build healthier, more peaceful relationships. From emotional triggers to communication habits, this honest conversation will help you grow in self-awareness and change the way you show up, so you can experience more peace in every relationship.Let's go.Don't Miss:Order Debra Fileta's Book, People Skills. Grab Jess's favorite bedding and loungewear from Cozy Earth. Head to cozyearth.com and use the code JESS for up to 20% off! And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, make sure to let them know you heard about Cozy Earth here.Preorder Jess's Book: You Can't Be Brave Until You're ScaredJoin us at Brave 2026! A two-day gathering for Kingdom women in Charleston, SC Grab your ticket!Jess partnered with the Dwell Audio Bible App to create a 5-day devotional, Mothering as a Daughter of God, to help you be filled, held, and rooted in His love. Listen now at dwellbible.com/jess for up to 50% off.

Life is a people-centered journey. If we're going to thrive at work, school, or home, we need to grow in how we relate to others. In our new series, People Skills, we'll learn from the ultimate expert on relationships of all kinds – Jesus Himself. Join us as we discover timeless principles to strengthen our human connections.Let us know you're here! If you have a need or prayer request we can support you: thecompass.net/connectioncardIf you call The Compass your church home or you'd like to partner with us in what God is doing here, near, and far, you can visit thecompass.net/give

Today's caller, Ron from California, is wondering what to do about cell phone addiction, especially as it relates to your marriage and relationships. How do you handle the issue of cell phone addiction before it has a negative impact on a marriage? What are some practical ways you can bring this area to the attention of your spouse, or other loved ones who struggle with being on their phone too much without getting into an argument? To help me answer this question, I'm joined by Larinda, one of the DFCN counselors, and together we unpack the neurological and relational impacts of cell phone addiction, as well as some really practical and gentle ways you can begin bringing up the conversation and making changes in your family and in your marriage with regard to screen time addiction. If you or someone you know is distracted by their screens more often than not (and let's get real – we ALL need to work on this) this episode is for you! Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. Go deeper with the 60 minute RESET from screens and social media seminar HERE.   The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Burnout rarely announces itself with a flashing warning sign. It sneaks in through good intentions, old “shoulds,” and the quiet belief that being needed equals being faithful. We sit down with licensed professional counselor and best-selling author Debra Fileta to talk about soul care, rest, boundaries, and what actually changes when we stop treating health like a luxury and start treating it like stewardship.We dig into the real roots of burnout and why personality, family of origin, trauma history, and theology can all shape how we say yes and no. Debra shares one of the most freeing reframes for high achievers: Jesus honors his capacity. He withdraws for alone time, protects his time with the Father, and refuses to be driven by other people's opinions. That example gives us permission to set boundaries, protect our calling, and choose rhythms that keep us filled rather than depleted.You'll also hear practical guidance for discerning God's will through relationship and familiarity, plus a grounded take on “spiritual warfare” when the real issue might be low sleep, low blood sugar, or dehydration. From there, we zoom out to family life: keeping God at the center, strengthening marriage, navigating different parenting styles, and making decisions as a true team. Debra also introduces her new book People Skills and why ownership, empathy, and communication matter in a screen-shaped world.Subscribe for more conversations on Christian parenting, mental health, and practical faith, then share this with a friend who's running on empty and leave a review. What is one boundary you know you need to set this week?ABOUT US:The Brainy Moms is a parenting podcast hosted by cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore and Sandy Zamalis. Dr. Amy and Sandy have conversations with experts in parenting, child development, education, homeschooling, psychology, mental health, and neuroscience. Listeners leave with tips and advice for helping parents and kids thrive. If you love us, add us to your playlist and follow us on social media! CONNECT WITH US:Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: BrainyMoms@gmail.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMomsSubscribe to our free monthly newsletterVisit our sponsor's website: www.LearningRx.com

Life is a people-centered journey. If we're going to thrive at work, school, or home, we need to grow in how we relate to others. In our new series, People Skills, we'll learn from the ultimate expert on relationships of all kinds – Jesus Himself. Join us as we discover timeless principles to strengthen our human connections.Let us know you're here! If you have a need or prayer request we can support you: thecompass.net/connectioncardIf you call The Compass your church home or you'd like to partner with us in what God is doing here, near, and far, you can visit thecompass.net/give

This conversation with Debra Fileta on The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast with host Ginny Yurich gets right to the ache so many women are carrying: the feeling of being stretched thin by good things, needed by everyone, and running on empty. Debra brings the kind of wisdom that makes listeners feel both seen and steadied as she talks about burnout, boundaries, soul care, screen time, motherhood, friendship, homeschooling, and the deep-rooted beliefs that keep so many of us overextending ourselves. Her reminder to stop living at 100 percent and start building margin is extremely practical. This is the kind of episode that helps you exhale, tell the truth about how tired you are, and start making a way back to joy. Learn more about Debra here Also check out her books: Soul Care, People Skills, Any Day Emotions, and ⁠True Love Dates Listen to her podcast here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when a long-term friendship suddenly comes to an end? How do you deal with the pain of rejection, misunderstanding, and even abandonment in close relationships — especially when you didn't see it coming. Today on the podcast, Pastor and Author Alex Seeley opens up about a recent rupture of a close friendship that left her feeling misunderstood and abandoned. In our on-air session, we talk about healthy ways vs unhealthy ways to deal with the sudden loss of a friendship, how to know what's yours to own vs. what's not yours to own, and where to go from here. If you've dealt with the loss of a friendship, this episode will be life-giving and encouraging, and it will give you loads of practical next steps as you heal and decide whether or not you can move toward repair. Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

About the Guest Jake Rawson leads Craft Sportswear North America with a focus on innovation, resilience, and performance. Inspired by the principles of Dale Carnegie, he has built a culture that values collaboration, encouragement, and incremental improvement. Beyond business, Jake applies the same endurance mindset to family and coaching, proving that small, consistent actions can lead to extraordinary outcomes. Whether guiding his team, developing athletes, or mentoring his children, he turns lessons into action and emphasizes the power of patience, persistence, and positivity. What You Will Learn: How treating business like an endurance sport drives long-term success The power of small, incremental gains in leadership and personal growth Practical applications of Dale Carnegie's principles in work and life Why saying “yes” to opportunities can unlock hidden potential Building confidence, resilience, and positive habits in yourself and others Join us for a candid conversation about perseverance, mindset, and growth. Jake isn't just running a business—he's running the long game, stacking wins, and showing how small steps lead to big results. Tune in today and discover the incremental edge in life and leadership. Please rate and review this Episode!We'd love to hear from you! Leaving a review helps us ensure we deliver content that resonates with you. Your feedback can inspire others to join our Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Podcast community & benefit from the leadership insights we share.

Life is a people-centered journey. If we're going to thrive at work, school, or home, we need to grow in how we relate to others. In our new series, People Skills, we'll learn from the ultimate expert on relationships of all kinds – Jesus Himself. Join us as we discover timeless principles to strengthen our human connections.Let us know you're here! If you have a need or prayer request we can support you: thecompass.net/connectioncardIf you call The Compass your church home or you'd like to partner with us in what God is doing here, near, and far, you can visit thecompass.net/give

Mary DeMuth, author of "Restory," talks about how through Jesus, He's not just saving you from past sin and hurt, but He actually reframes that past, rewrites your present and redefines your future.  Embrace your "restory."  Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, host of "Talk to Me" and author of "People Skills," understand that sometimes it's hard to know what to talk about or how to communicate what you want to talk about.  She offers help for us to understand the levels of communication and how to gain comfort in having conversations.   The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here    

What happens when you don't fit into the social norms? What happens when the social skills that are “supposed to” feel “easy”, feel like an incredibly difficult challenge? This is a glimpse of what it's like to live with neurodivergence, and a diagnosis that impacts your social skills, such as ADHD or Autism. Today on the show Kendall Mariah, Instagram influencer and content creator, opens up to me about the burden and struggles of living with social challenges in a relational world. She never felt like she was “normal” growing up, and she couldn't figure out why friendships were so hard for her. It's been a long journey for her, and one that's not finished yet, but she's learned how to steward her differences and see the blessings in her diagnosis – and you will too. If you or someone you know struggles with being “different” or having some type of neurodevergence, this episode is for you! Learn more and go deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Today I'm joined by my friend and co-author of one of my books, Gary Thomas. He's opening up about many different times in his life when he's either felt misunderstood, slandered, or dealt with toxic interactions (some even from childhood) – and how he's learned to respond as a person who typically leans toward peace and repair. We talk about how to set proper boundaries in relationships with different people, depending on their level of safety and health. Dig deeper into dealing with difficult people and setting healthy boundaries, by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, host of "Talk to Me" and author of "People Skills," talks about some of the junk that gets in the way to having true, fruitful people skills: having that ability to convey God's love in a pure way.  How do you break the pattern of unhealthy people skills.  Casey Hough, author of "Known for Love," offer help for those with who have friends, neighbors, and family who may be in an unhealthy lifestyle and follow some destructive gender ideologies.  How do you love them well? How does the Church love them well, while not compromising the truth around God's design?  How can we be known for love while upholding truth.   The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here  

What do you do when you keep hitting a wall trying to go deeper in friendship? Today, I'm joined by Nicole who is feeling hurt by the cycle of trying to go deeper with friends, but finding herself at a dead end. She's feeling discouraged and wondering if it's even possible to connect with people on the level that she's desiring for friendship. I challenge her to dig deeper into some of her personal fears and triggers that might lie underneath the surface, particularly regarding rejection wounds, and then I give her practical steps for what to do next when you want to go deeper in friendship. If you're struggling to find the right fit in friendships, you have to listen to this episode! We cover this and more, in today's episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper into going deeper in your friendships and connections by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Today on the show, Kevin calls in to talk to me about dealing with church hurt and trauma. He's a licensed counselor himself, and finds himself counseling people through church trauma issues on a regular basis. He wants to know how to best serve those who are struggling with this kind of trauma. He's worked through his personal journey of church trauma, but as a counselor at a local church, he wants to find better tools to help those who are in the thick of it. If you find yourself walking through church trauma, this conversation will offer encouragement and next steps. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Rachel calls in to the hotline today to Talk To Me about her struggles with feeling secure standing alone. After the loss of her husband, she realized she'd never really dealt with abandonment wounds from the past, and is having a really hard time feeling secure in her singleness. How can a person begin to develop that confidence, and even enjoy being alone? Is it wrong to have a desire for a relationship, and how do you know if your desire for connection is healthy or unhealthy? We cover this and more, in today's episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

About the Guest: Wemimo Abbey grew up in Lagos, Nigeria, where he witnessed his mother borrow at 400% interest to fund his education. That early experience inspired him to co-found Esusu, helping millions of Americans get credit for paying rent and access fair financial services. Abbey has been recognized on the TIME100 NEXT List and named EY Entrepreneur of the Year in 2023. He serves on the SEC Small Business Capital Formation Advisory Committee, the Smithsonian National Portrait Gallery, the University of Minnesota Crookston Board of Trustees, LEDA, and co-chairs the LACMA Director Circle. He graduated magna cum laude from the University of Minnesota and earned an M.P.A. from NYU's Robert F. Wagner Graduate School of Public Service. What You Will Learn: How to turn early adversity and rejection into entrepreneurial success The power of resilience, faith, and purpose in leadership Why failure is a stepping stone and “falling forward” accelerates growth Strategies for building mission-driven companies that create tangible impact Lessons on teamwork and collaboration: going far together, not just fast alone Discover how to lead with impact, embrace failure as a tool for growth, and create opportunities for others while building a sustainable business. Join Joe and Wemimo for a conversation full of inspiration, practical wisdom, and the mindset needed to make a difference. Please rate and review this Episode!We'd love to hear from you! Leaving a review helps us ensure we deliver content that resonates with you. Your feedback can inspire others to join our Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Podcast community & benefit from the leadership insights we share.

Can friendship bring up old wounds? Today Royneka calls in to the hotline to chat about a friendship that seems to be triggering her. How can she tell if the triggers mean she should step away from this friendship, or if the triggers are revealing something in her that needs to be healed? We unpack friendship triggers, how to deal with them, and when to confront them or step away. Knowing your triggers is an important people skill, and we talk through it in this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Today I'm joined by Michelle, who has been on a journey of saying no to passivity. Being the oldest child in the family, she has had a tendency to become more accommodating than she should. This pattern has followed her into her adulthood and developed into passivity. We talk about 3 important mindset shifts that have to happen in order to see assertiveness as the best way to take care of yourself and others. In order for relationships to be healthy, they have to be balanced! Assertiveness is an important people skill, and we talk through it on this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

We are so excited to celebrate the official launch of my new book People Skills today! People Skills offers 31 transformational social skills that will strengthen your interpersonal relationships, increase your influence, and help you create meaningful interactions. Rooted in Scripture and informed by science and psychology, this roadmap offers practical lessons on empathy, clear communication, listening, body language, conflict resolution, attachment styles, and more.  As we continue this People Skills series on the show, I'm joined today by Anthony, who called in to Talk To Me About how to move past the hurt he experienced at his past church. Anthony talks through the church hurt he experienced after serving relentlessly at his last church, and after giving so much yet getting so little in return.  This episode takes an interesting turn when I start to notice this pattern of “giving too much” in Anthony's life and history…and we start to make some really significant connections. Learning to own your role in a relationship is a really important people skill, and it's one that we discuss in depth in this important episode of Talk To Me. If you've been hurt in relationships, again and again, it's time to start looking for patterns. This episode will help you learn how. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.  The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

Apply to Alli's Intern Program - https://alliworthington.com/interns    Today I'm talking with my friend Debra Fileta about her new book, People Skills, and why many relationships seem harder than they should. If you've ever left a conversation thinking, That's not what I meant, there's a reason—and it's not because you're unkind or uncaring.   This episode is for the try‑hard people. The ones who show up with good hearts and good intentions, yet still feel misunderstood. If you've ever thought, My heart is in the right place, so why does my message keep landing sideways? This conversation is going to feel like a deep exhale.   Debra explains why good intentions don't guarantee good communication, how to avoid being an accidental jerk (even the nicest people can be), and the four stages of conversation most people never move past. We discuss why vulnerability builds trust and how small shifts in awareness can transform how people experience you. It's honest, freeing, and will make every relationship in your life feel more open and connected.   Timestamps: (01:08) - Why We're So Quick to Label Other People as the Problem (04:38) - The Subtle Ways We Accidentally Damage Connection Without Realizing It (17:35) - The Conversation Levels That Separate Surface Talk from Real Connection (22:10) - The Three People Skills That Matter More Than Anything Else (25:53) - Why Listening Is Harder Than We Think    WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE Links to great things we discussed:  Debra's Song Recommendation - The Goodness of God Debra's TV Recommendations - The Great British Baking Show & Hometown Debra's Book Recommendation - The Circle Maker Wise Woman Era People Skills Apply to Alli's Intern Program - https://alliworthington.com/interns