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Houseparent for kids from trauma for the past nine years. Tough kids but great to be around. Love this parent life!

Derek Schering

  • Mar 26, 2020 LATEST EPISODE
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  • 49 EPISODES


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Crushing Covid

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2020 23:37


Not just surviving quarantine with our kids but making it the best time of our lives. We talk about the small strategies that decrease conflict and allow easy connection. As always we welcome your support on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Gentle Connection

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2020 19:02


How we can step into resonant connection in those pauses between life.

Verbal Responses

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 8, 2019 27:38


A secret to immediately improving your relationship with your child, especially when it comes to giving instructions. okchomeinspect.com

Transition And Change

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2019 26:25


Our life changes. okchomeinspect.com

Strong, Not A Bully.

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2019 28:23


Do you ever wonder how to help your young person with confidence and the ability to handle a bully? Here's to strong, kids who are developing excellent interpersonal skills as well as conflict solving ability. https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/3-parenting-approaches-and-concerns/ https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-when-you-don-t-like-conflict

Can We Bullyproof Our Kids?

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2019 29:55


The bullying tag seems to add unnecessary stigma to conversations about social dynamics between our kids. We need to properly address bullying, but we also need to empower our kids to handle varied situations. Here's how to know the difference. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/23/well/family/how-to-bullyproof-your-child.html

Boundaries Balanced

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 27, 2019 35:19


How do I set the right boundaries for the success of my child?

Power Play

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 12, 2019 31:46


Disarming resistance through play. Play brings power to connection, and here are some great ideas to do so. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Does Space = Connection?

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 6, 2019 27:52


We move through space in our world oblivious, preoccupied, hurriedly, and sometimes, even aware. The same is true for mental and emotional space. Let's have a specific discussion about spaces and connection with our kids, foster, adopted or biological. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Change

Play Episode Listen Later May 30, 2019 27:46


A chapter closing, and the future running bright before us. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Pouting, Performance And Praise

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2019 30:41


Our kids need the right motivation from us. Do you know how to best motivate your child? What works best and how we can stay balanced. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/parentlife https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1998-04530-003 https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/smart-moves/201411/the-problem-praise https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/06/180611133507.htm

Oppositional Defiance Disorder Deconstructed

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 11, 2019 26:58


Defiance is difficult but how ubiquitous does it have to be? As our kids challenge us in positive and negative ways, a peaceful home can be reality sooner than you think. Support us on Patreon and gain access to every parent episode and topic Parent Life has created. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Targeting Tech

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 3, 2019 28:58


Is that phone becoming a problem? Wondering how to reclaim your relationship with your teen and their tech? today we navigate the tricky and ever changing world of our kids and the flashing screen. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Conflicted? When Training and Relationship devolves into conflict

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2019 25:53


Conflict is unavoidable, but how do we minimize relational damage when conflict arises between us and our kids? How can we turn squabbling kids into friendly siblings? This and more, welcome to Parent Life! https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Boundary Bashing: When kids and teens decide they're going to change our rules

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2019 24:49


As parents we have to set goals, boundaries and limits. Part of our children becoming adults is challenging those. How do we develop great kids while maintaining healthy boundaries? shareparentlife@gmail.com

The Grind

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2019 26:14


Worn out? Tired of the grind? We've been there and are there. Jump in the trenches with us as we put in the work needed to make the relational jumps. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

The ACES Study

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2019 29:33


Ever wonder exactly how much certain aspects of trauma affect our kids? The ACES study provides exceptional lucidity to significant questions. We explore child trauma that becomes adult problems. https://acestoohigh.com/2012/10/03/the-adverse-childhood-experiences-study-the-largest-most-important-public-health-study-you-never-heard-of-began-in-an-obesity-clinic/ https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/ https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2012/p0201_child_abuse.html

The Connected Christmas

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2018 23:52


Wondering how to make Christmas great for your child, especially from a history or trauma? Christmas has the potential to be fantastic, but can end up as devastating. Here's a look at the pitfalls, tips and joy of Christmas. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Conduct Disorder, Trauma And Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2018 34:45


Reframing the discussion around what motivates and inspires our children. We also walk through using 5% of our time to charge the other 95%. Be intentional with the goal discussion. The future of your kids is worth it! https://www.additudemag.com/parenting-a-defiant-adhd-child/

The Parenting Style That Ruins Kids

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2018 28:02


Are there certain parenting styles that set our kids up for failure? Are romantic sleepovers a good idea? How do I get my kid to stay in bed after bedtime? I'm so glad you asked! Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Women in general slightly happier after having kids, older women especially, teenagers not so much - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/10/141028082454.htm How your parenting style affects your child’s future https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/06/160617082522.htm Pregnancy in foster care https://www.flatlandkc.org/news-issues/sex-pregnancy-foster-care/

Personality: Retrievers

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2018 28:23


Using the personality hack to speed relationship with our kids and connect with kids from trauma before they sever the cord! shareparentlife@gmail.com - Any and all questions/comments Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Anxiety

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2018 32:25


Parent Life looks at anxiety and how we approach this difficult subject with our kids. Medications, strategies, and coping skills. Any questions or topics you wished discussed let us know. Email - shareparentlife@gmail.com Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC181155/

Gifts Love Language

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2018 24:18


The gifts love language and using that to connect with your child. We also take a quick glance during Halloween at the difference between suspense and horror. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Horror and Suspense - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-excess/201510/why-do-we-watching-scary-films?inf_contact_key=c446d8ff6568951f191a365f31d1f3ac3d9d168f94d25df158bc755089d27b52

Self Care

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2018 41:07


Self-Care and the beautiful act of making ourselves a priority. Our physical, emotional and mental health is pervasively important to our lives of helping kids from trauma. Guest appearance by Teresa Schering, cancer research assistant at the University of Illinois. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Podcasts about food - https://health.usnews.com/health-news/blogs/eat-run/articles/2016-10-04/10-nutrition-podcasts-to-add-to-your-playlist Cancer in Young People - https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/10/11/17960514/cancer-colon-rectal-causes-younger-people Cancer and lifestyle - https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamaoncology/fullarticle/2522371?widget=personalizedcontent&previousarticle=2522366 Time spent eating - https://qz.com/1419105/a-diet-guru-explains-why-you-should-eat-dinner-at-2pm/

Why The Lie?

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2018 37:09


Parent Life: Lying, why kids do it and what we can do about it. How to connect with the little dissembler in your life. Contact email - shareparentlife@gmail.com Anthony Gignac - https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2018/10/he-actually-believes-he-is-khalid-the-odyssey-of-a-counterfeit-saudi-prince Upward Mobility Study- https://www.citylab.com/equity/2018/10/rural-areas-are-better-economic-mobility/571840/ Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Random Rants

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2018 34:00


Parent Life: Random Rants about technology, attachment, biological parents and of course commitment. May you be encouraged and equipped parent! Dr Martin Seligman - The Hope Circuit Dr Talia Sharot

RAD And Happy

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2018 35:34


Parent Life: Reactive Attachment Disorder and how attachment is connected to happiness. Looking at studies about happiness and how we and our kids can enjoy ourselves more in the minutia of the day to day. Bruce Feiler: Secrets of Happy Families Journal of Psychology and Aging Vol 22 The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time, Alex Korb Psychology, Volume 29, Issue 5, November 2008, Pages 632-642 https://toxics.usgs.gov/highlights/antidepressants_fish.html

Lion Personality

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2018 35:47


Parent Life: Raising a lion cub who is going to be a leader! We look at that lion personality and how it affects foster care and our biological family. We are joined by a real lion personality on this episode. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Words Of Affirmation Love Language

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2018 31:46


Parent Life explores the Words of Affirmation Love Language. How we can show our kids love in a way they understand. An effective antidote to defiance, resistance and emotional detachment.

ODD: Oppositional Defiance Disorder

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2018 34:30


Parent Life: When defiance kicks into overdrive. A look at Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the best way to work with and heal an ODD kid.

More Arguing

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2018 29:55


Parent Life: Constantly arguing with your child can make life miserable. How can we teach them to think independently as well as follow our instructions? Next week we get into how to handle the explosions!

Arguing

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2018 30:35


Frustrated with the arguments? We discuss how to set parameters for arguing and making life with that wonderful kid more pleasant.

Meds and Conflict

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2018 26:05


For parents and foster parents looking to do conflict well with their kids. We also discuss medications and potential difficulties.

Displacement: Prevention And Pain

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2018 31:37


Parent Life: We discuss displacement in foster families and the pain it produces. Pertinent to adoption, parenting, teenagers and families.

ADHD

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 24, 2018 24:07


Through the lens of parents, foster parents and adoption parents we look at the various factors that constitute ADHD and how we can approach a diagnosis carefully and help the child.

Brain And The Child, Part 2

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2018 40:31


Today on Parent Life we look at what is happening regarding changes in your child's brain. How to avoid the Devil's cocktail, how long it takes negative emotion to "wash out" and how to develop a deep connection with that special kid.

Beaver Personality: That Perfect Child

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 9, 2018 31:00


Perfection for Parents is hard but trying to be a perfectionist when you're a child? Very frustrating. Especially if your parents aren't. The struggle and joys of raising That Perfect Child.

Acts of Service Love Language

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2018 35:13


Showing love to our bio and foster kids through acts of service. Pitfalls, ideas and stories. Love those kids well!

Hope And Troubled Teens

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2018 40:06


We dive into Connie Rae's book about her journey being parent to a troubled teen to which Derek adds stories and suggestions.

Fostering Perspective

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2018 37:00


Frank Alberson joins us to give a perspective from the other side of the aisle. Frank grew up in multiple foster and group homes and shares the challenges he faced as well as the experience of being adopted at nineteen.

Tech And The Teen

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2018 33:29


Looking at some of the difficulties surrounding cell phones, screen time and adolescents. We then look at appropriate boundaries around cell phones as well as what to do if screens have taken over the house. Questions? email us at shareparentlife@gmail.com

Mindful Parent

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 11, 2018 24:56


We take a look at the book The Mindful Parent by Dr. Charlotte Peterson and how it can play a role in our work with kids from trauma. Dr. Peterson did not respond to attempts to interview her but her insights on how peaceful cultures interact with and value their children is excellent.

Consequences

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 8, 2018 28:39


Consequences can either destroy a relationship or help your child become a world changer. Good, practical advice on how to assay and walk the minefield of discipline and relationship.

Otter Personality

Play Episode Listen Later May 23, 2018 30:41


How parenting is affected by our personalities as well as our children's. This episode focuses on the original party animal, the otter. Learning the best way to reach your playful child and especially understanding children from trauma equips us as parents to be more effective in our parenting styles.

Safety Plans +

Play Episode Listen Later May 15, 2018 26:16


Using the safety plan tool to help kids manage strong emotions during blowups and a look at the social brain.

Quality Time Love Language

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2018 22:02


Discussing family connections and how to show love and affection

85 Kids and Counting

Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2018 11:37


What we learned parenting 85 kids and what you're going to want to know.

Defiance

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2018 37:27


What steps to take when your child becomes defiant

The Brain and the Child, Part 1

Play Episode Listen Later May 2, 2018 36:14


Understanding what is happening in the brain of your child and how to use that understanding to build relationship.

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