Parent Life

Not just surviving quarantine with our kids but making it the best time of our lives. We talk about the small strategies that decrease conflict and allow easy connection. As always we welcome your support on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

How we can step into resonant connection in those pauses between life.

A secret to immediately improving your relationship with your child, especially when it comes to giving instructions. okchomeinspect.com

Our life changes. okchomeinspect.com

Do you ever wonder how to help your young person with confidence and the ability to handle a bully? Here's to strong, kids who are developing excellent interpersonal skills as well as conflict solving ability. https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/3-parenting-approaches-and-concerns/ https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-have-difficult-conversations-when-you-don-t-like-conflict

The bullying tag seems to add unnecessary stigma to conversations about social dynamics between our kids. We need to properly address bullying, but we also need to empower our kids to handle varied situations. Here's how to know the difference. https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/23/well/family/how-to-bullyproof-your-child.html

How do I set the right boundaries for the success of my child?

Disarming resistance through play. Play brings power to connection, and here are some great ideas to do so. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

We move through space in our world oblivious, preoccupied, hurriedly, and sometimes, even aware. The same is true for mental and emotional space. Let's have a specific discussion about spaces and connection with our kids, foster, adopted or biological. shareparentlife@gmail.com

A chapter closing, and the future running bright before us. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Our kids need the right motivation from us. Do you know how to best motivate your child? What works best and how we can stay balanced. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/parentlife https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1998-04530-003 https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/smart-moves/201411/the-problem-praise https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/06/180611133507.htm

Defiance is difficult but how ubiquitous does it have to be? As our kids challenge us in positive and negative ways, a peaceful home can be reality sooner than you think. Support us on Patreon and gain access to every parent episode and topic Parent Life has created. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Is that phone becoming a problem? Wondering how to reclaim your relationship with your teen and their tech? today we navigate the tricky and ever changing world of our kids and the flashing screen. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Conflict is unavoidable, but how do we minimize relational damage when conflict arises between us and our kids? How can we turn squabbling kids into friendly siblings? This and more, welcome to Parent Life! https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

As parents we have to set goals, boundaries and limits. Part of our children becoming adults is challenging those. How do we develop great kids while maintaining healthy boundaries? shareparentlife@gmail.com

Worn out? Tired of the grind? We've been there and are there. Jump in the trenches with us as we put in the work needed to make the relational jumps. https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Ever wonder exactly how much certain aspects of trauma affect our kids? The ACES study provides exceptional lucidity to significant questions. We explore child trauma that becomes adult problems. https://acestoohigh.com/2012/10/03/the-adverse-childhood-experiences-study-the-largest-most-important-public-health-study-you-never-heard-of-began-in-an-obesity-clinic/ https://acestoohigh.com/got-your-ace-score/ https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2012/p0201_child_abuse.html

Wondering how to make Christmas great for your child, especially from a history or trauma? Christmas has the potential to be fantastic, but can end up as devastating. Here's a look at the pitfalls, tips and joy of Christmas. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Reframing the discussion around what motivates and inspires our children. We also walk through using 5% of our time to charge the other 95%. Be intentional with the goal discussion. The future of your kids is worth it! https://www.additudemag.com/parenting-a-defiant-adhd-child/

Are there certain parenting styles that set our kids up for failure? Are romantic sleepovers a good idea? How do I get my kid to stay in bed after bedtime? I'm so glad you asked! Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Women in general slightly happier after having kids, older women especially, teenagers not so much - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/10/141028082454.htm How your parenting style affects your child’s future https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/06/160617082522.htm Pregnancy in foster care https://www.flatlandkc.org/news-issues/sex-pregnancy-foster-care/

Using the personality hack to speed relationship with our kids and connect with kids from trauma before they sever the cord! shareparentlife@gmail.com - Any and all questions/comments Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Parent Life looks at anxiety and how we approach this difficult subject with our kids. Medications, strategies, and coping skills. Any questions or topics you wished discussed let us know. Email - shareparentlife@gmail.com Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC181155/

The gifts love language and using that to connect with your child. We also take a quick glance during Halloween at the difference between suspense and horror. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Horror and Suspense - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-excess/201510/why-do-we-watching-scary-films?inf_contact_key=c446d8ff6568951f191a365f31d1f3ac3d9d168f94d25df158bc755089d27b52

Self-Care and the beautiful act of making ourselves a priority. Our physical, emotional and mental health is pervasively important to our lives of helping kids from trauma. Guest appearance by Teresa Schering, cancer research assistant at the University of Illinois. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife Podcasts about food - https://health.usnews.com/health-news/blogs/eat-run/articles/2016-10-04/10-nutrition-podcasts-to-add-to-your-playlist Cancer in Young People - https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2018/10/11/17960514/cancer-colon-rectal-causes-younger-people Cancer and lifestyle - https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamaoncology/fullarticle/2522371?widget=personalizedcontent&previousarticle=2522366 Time spent eating - https://qz.com/1419105/a-diet-guru-explains-why-you-should-eat-dinner-at-2pm/

Parent Life: Lying, why kids do it and what we can do about it. How to connect with the little dissembler in your life. Contact email - shareparentlife@gmail.com Anthony Gignac - https://www.vanityfair.com/style/2018/10/he-actually-believes-he-is-khalid-the-odyssey-of-a-counterfeit-saudi-prince Upward Mobility Study- https://www.citylab.com/equity/2018/10/rural-areas-are-better-economic-mobility/571840/ Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/parentlife

Parent Life: Random Rants about technology, attachment, biological parents and of course commitment. May you be encouraged and equipped parent! Dr Martin Seligman - The Hope Circuit Dr Talia Sharot

Parent Life: Reactive Attachment Disorder and how attachment is connected to happiness. Looking at studies about happiness and how we and our kids can enjoy ourselves more in the minutia of the day to day. Bruce Feiler: Secrets of Happy Families Journal of Psychology and Aging Vol 22 The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time, Alex Korb Psychology, Volume 29, Issue 5, November 2008, Pages 632-642 https://toxics.usgs.gov/highlights/antidepressants_fish.html

Parent Life: Raising a lion cub who is going to be a leader! We look at that lion personality and how it affects foster care and our biological family. We are joined by a real lion personality on this episode. shareparentlife@gmail.com

Parent Life explores the Words of Affirmation Love Language. How we can show our kids love in a way they understand. An effective antidote to defiance, resistance and emotional detachment.

Parent Life: When defiance kicks into overdrive. A look at Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the best way to work with and heal an ODD kid.

Parent Life: Constantly arguing with your child can make life miserable. How can we teach them to think independently as well as follow our instructions? Next week we get into how to handle the explosions!

Frustrated with the arguments? We discuss how to set parameters for arguing and making life with that wonderful kid more pleasant.

For parents and foster parents looking to do conflict well with their kids. We also discuss medications and potential difficulties.

Parent Life: We discuss displacement in foster families and the pain it produces. Pertinent to adoption, parenting, teenagers and families.

Through the lens of parents, foster parents and adoption parents we look at the various factors that constitute ADHD and how we can approach a diagnosis carefully and help the child.

Today on Parent Life we look at what is happening regarding changes in your child's brain. How to avoid the Devil's cocktail, how long it takes negative emotion to "wash out" and how to develop a deep connection with that special kid.

Perfection for Parents is hard but trying to be a perfectionist when you're a child? Very frustrating. Especially if your parents aren't. The struggle and joys of raising That Perfect Child.

Showing love to our bio and foster kids through acts of service. Pitfalls, ideas and stories. Love those kids well!

We dive into Connie Rae's book about her journey being parent to a troubled teen to which Derek adds stories and suggestions.

Frank Alberson joins us to give a perspective from the other side of the aisle. Frank grew up in multiple foster and group homes and shares the challenges he faced as well as the experience of being adopted at nineteen.

Looking at some of the difficulties surrounding cell phones, screen time and adolescents. We then look at appropriate boundaries around cell phones as well as what to do if screens have taken over the house. Questions? email us at shareparentlife@gmail.com

We take a look at the book The Mindful Parent by Dr. Charlotte Peterson and how it can play a role in our work with kids from trauma. Dr. Peterson did not respond to attempts to interview her but her insights on how peaceful cultures interact with and value their children is excellent.

Consequences can either destroy a relationship or help your child become a world changer. Good, practical advice on how to assay and walk the minefield of discipline and relationship.

How parenting is affected by our personalities as well as our children's. This episode focuses on the original party animal, the otter. Learning the best way to reach your playful child and especially understanding children from trauma equips us as parents to be more effective in our parenting styles.

Using the safety plan tool to help kids manage strong emotions during blowups and a look at the social brain.

Discussing family connections and how to show love and affection

What we learned parenting 85 kids and what you're going to want to know.

What steps to take when your child becomes defiant

Understanding what is happening in the brain of your child and how to use that understanding to build relationship.