Nutrition Nugget! Bite-size, bonus episodes offering tips, tricks and approachable science. This week, Jenn's talking about tacking. This is a sailing term but it's also the magic bullet to making our health and weight management efforts last! Never again will you hang on to that jealous feeling when people around you look like their weight is easily falling off. This will all make sense after you listen. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full length episodes; new releases every Wednesday. Have an idea for a nutrition nugget? Submit it here: https://asaladwithasideoffries.com/index.php/contact/ Become A Member: https://glow.fm/saladwithasideoffries/Want a Free Menu Plan from Jenn? https://www.tlsslim.com/bettermylifenow/weight-loss-profile/?
This is October 17th's exhortation by Matt Carpenter on the standards we hold our kids to. Matt Carpenter taught history for fifteen years and has served in pastoral ministry for ten years. He is married to Amanda and they have four children: Phoebe, Simeon, Emmaline, and Olivia. In his spare time he enjoys cooking, reading, hiking, and fishing. Trinity Reformed Church is a CREC mission church in Huntsville, AL. seeking to extend and unite the Kingdom in the Huntsville area. Check out our website, Facebook or YouTube!
This is the first of three talks of the 'Hope in Dystopia' mini conference by Matt Carpenter. Matt Carpenter taught history for fifteen years and has served in pastoral ministry for ten years. He is married to Amanda and they have four children: Phoebe, Simeon, Emmaline, and Olivia. In his spare time he enjoys cooking, reading, hiking, and fishing. Trinity Reformed Church is a CREC mission church in Huntsville, AL. seeking to extend and unite the Kingdom in the Huntsville area. Check out our website, Facebook or YouTube!
When Steven Tristan Young decided to take on the role of the first-ever CMO for the digitally native fashion marketplace Poshmark three years ago, he knew he had a big opportunity to make a mark on a lesser-known category that was ripe for adoption. And he was no stranger to taking on such a task, having served as VP of Growth for Grubhub at a time when the concept of food delivery was just starting to catch on. In this episode, Young shares what it means to be a tech CMO today and what skills are most needed for marketers moving forward.
Have you ever found yourself saying, “Hey, I'm not perfect. I'm only human?” OR… You've sacrificed progress for the illusion of perfection? First of all, what's perfect got to do with it, anyway? Secondly, why are you using "perfect" as your desired destination, which becomes an excuse? What does “perfect” mean to you? Seriously, how do you define "perfect?" In the traditional way that most people think of it, perfection is really an illusion. Not only is it an illusion, but it's become a prison for a lot of people. So how do you get out? Start by redefining PERFECT. To me, the true definition of perfect is: TRUTH. Good, bad, ugly…if it's the TRUTH, it's PERFECT. Why? Because when you know the truth, it'll set you free. The so-called illusion of perfection takes many prisoners. Don't be fooled. Don't be one of them. Not sure if you're using “perfect” as an excuse? If you're in either of these two camps, then you're definitely using it as an excuse. (As most of us humans do at times.) A: Oftentimes you say things like, “I'm human. I'm not perfect.” You're using it as a reason to NOT grow or learn. You're using it to give yourself an “excuse” to stay the same. Quite simply, it's a cop out. B: You don't do certain things because you fear that you won't do it perfectly. You hold back. You hide. You sacrifice progress because of your idea of perfection. When you do this, you stay stuck where you are. Is it possible that you're striving for something that you haven't even clearly identified? Do you even know what “perfect” is? Again, I'd ask you to take a look at how you define “PERFECT.” It's time to bust out of the DECEPTION + PRISON OF PERFECTION, and trade it for the FREEDOM OF TRUTH. Stop blaming everything on perfect. Either NOT being perfect or trying to be perfect. It's time to start the process of progress and prosperity. Let go of the IDEA of PERFECTION. Stop using perfect as an excuse. Please grab your SACRED S.O.L. D.A.T.E. JOURNAL (Daily Action To Engage yourself.) TODAY'S SACRED S.O.L. STEP: 1. How do YOU define PERFECT? Perhaps it's time to redefine it. 2. Are you holding back in any area of your life because you're trying to do IT perfectly or not learning, growing, or advancing because you're using "perfect" as an excuse to stay where you are? Write that down, and make a commitment today to stop using PERFECT as an excuse. Thank you for being here, and allowing me to Sip On Life with you. If you've been feeling like you're stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you're drowning in your life, please don't hesitate to reach out. YOU ARE NOT ALONE... Request a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well — The Best-Selling 12 Engagements Of Becoming The Great Lover Of Your Life (all you'll pay for is shipping.) www.dateyourselfwell.com If you've received value from the podcast, please let me know. I'd LOVE to hear from you — please email me at: email@example.com AND PLEASE TELL YOUR BESTIES AND INVITE THEM TO SIP ON LIFE WITH US. FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM @doctorshannon! See you there... And learn about an incredible opportunity for a select sacred group of 25 women who are ready and willing to RISE UP AND BE THE WOMAN. If you've been feeling like you're stuck, overwhelmed, or perhaps you still feel like you're drowning, please don't hesitate to reach out. I'd be more than happy to schedule a Discovery Call with you to see if Healing Life Coaching is a good fit for you. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org Come over to the WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE S.O.L. MOVEMENT Closed FB Group and Join the MOVEMENT: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WSOLMovement/ By the way, if you haven't already listened/downloaded my new song (EPISODE 291), you can also listen to it here: letsnottalkaboutex.com, and cast your vote for your favorite version. Visit WomenSippingOnLife.com for more free resources, including my CHECKLIST FOR CHANGE, Engagement Checklist + Evaluation Rating, Six Sacred S.O.L. DATE Secrets…and a FREE copy of my best-selling book, Date Yourself Well. You can also check out my Dr. Shannon Facebook Page for more daily S.O.L. TRAINING. I look forward to seeing you again tomorrow. Please invite your best girlfriends to come and join our S.O.L. PARTY. xo Dr. Shannon. Inspiring minds that want to grow and hearts that want to know, so you can love you, your life, and your life's work well. ONE SIP AT A TIME. A special thanks to the following souls for helping me launch our WOMEN SIPPING ON LIFE podcast… Intro/Outro done by UNI V. SOL Outro music by Jay Man: Mind Over Matter (www.ourmusicbox.com) Podcast cover design and web site done by: Pablo Aguilar (www.webdesigncreator.com) Podcast cover photo by Kate Montague of KM Captured (www.kmcaptured.com)
This episode comes from a discussion held on Clubhouse. The topic: perfectionism. Where it comes from and why it hinders your growth. Better said (and by Winston Churchhill), “Perfection is the enemy of progress.” In this talk, Chris is joined by The Futur Pro Group members Martha Cristina Garza, Jule Kim, and Lola Bakare. Each of them share their experience with perfection getting the best of them. So, how do you fight that intrinsic need to make something perfect before you share it? According to Chris: stay away from the results and enjoy the process. Jim Rohn famously said that success leaves clues, but failure leaves better ones. If anything, it is a gift. Think about this way—everyone that you look up to was once where you are today. They took that first step. They started. And they probably failed at least once. FAIL. First attempt in learning. Sponsored by BetterHelp - https://betterhelp.com/futur Sponsored by LightStream - https://lightstream.com/futur Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join the exclusive Institute for Excellence in Sales here. Read the complete transcription on the Sales Game Changers Podcast website here. DANIEL'S TIP FOR EMERGING SALES LEADERS: "Perfection kills your dreams. Perfection kills your presentation. It doesn't have to be perfect, ladies and gentlemen. Act in spite of the perfection, act. Many times, I've acted and you figure out the details later. The moment you think that it's perfect, it's going to be too late. By that time, months, years may pass by and I've met so many people, Fred, that waited for that perfect moment and it never comes. Nothing's ever going to be perfect but along the journey, you're going to realize you're going to work on your perfection and it's going to get better and better. Next you know, you're going to look back and you'll be like, how did I get here? It's because you acted in spite of the imperfections that your product, your service, and the presentation that you had. You have to act."
Just be consistent. Don't be so hard on yourself. Perfection is not relatable. Do you! Be you! There is only one of you! Get out there! Shine your light. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Chris Zemny has been an ARBA member for nearly 40 years, and paved the way for women in the rabbit industry. She has traveled extensively around the United States and been invited to judge countless ARBA Conventions, breed national shows, and inaugural ARBA shows in Asia. In 2010, Chris earned an ARBA Distinguished Service Award, and in 2016 was awarded an ARBA Lifetime Judge License. Also in this episode, Briony and Allen go back in time to 1984, and compare earlier ARBA breed standards to those we know and love today, including the Blue Vienna which was later dropped from the ARBA Standard of Perfection.
It's one thing to hit the local papers with an article written about your classic car. But totally another to have a spread in the Wall Street Journal about the life and times of your 1966 Mustang including the acquisition story and all the details. Here to share her story of her first car, which she still has, welcome Wendy Kozma to Ford Mustang, The Early Years Podcast. Ford Mustang, The Early Years Podcast -- Guest Interview ApplicationDo you own a early year Mustang?: yesIf you own a Mustang, how long have you owned your ride?: 42 yearsWhat do you do for a living?: RealtorIf you've made improvements to your classic car or restored it, what work have you done?: My car and its story appeared in the WSJ, 8/2021. In the 1980s, it went through a "clean-up" restoration, changing its color to the 1966 Springtime Yellow. However, for my 50th birthday, in 2012, my husband had it completely restored and painted to its original color. Wall Street Journal Article: The Mustang She Got at 16 Stills ‘Purrs Like a Kitten'https://www.wsj.com/articles/this-ford-mustang-she-got-at-16-still-purrs-like-a-kitten-11628949600What plans do you have for improvements/restoration/modification of your classic car?: I hope that we are done, and will just continue to pamper the car from this point forward. Connect with Wendy:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wendy.d.kozma Cover Art Photo Credit: Tim Wise https://www.instagram.com/69mustang_e/ Ford Mustang The Early Years Podcast (social media)The Facebook GroupTheMustangPodcast.com/facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/185146876036328Instagram@mustangpodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/mustangpodcast/An Expert's Guide to Maintaining Your Classic Mustangwww.TheMustangPodcast.com/repair Keep it safe, keep it rollin' and keep it on the road. Until next time! ~Doug Sandler
Jesus laid out the standard of perfection for us. How are we to begin on that journey of being perfected. During this episode Nick, Seth & Pancake begin the discussion about the Holy Spirit's role in shaping us and leading in our walk with Christ, so that we can be made perfect. Want to contact the show? Email CompetingBiblically@gmail.com Podcast Website: delawarefca.org/podcast Facebook Page: facebook.com/profile.php?id=10006841569130 Instagram: @competing_biblically_podcast YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCYz_Ka8NNjCO4_ON9fac_-Q Show References: The Handbook on Athletic Perfection Handbook Companion Videos --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seth-daisey/message
In this episode of The Empowering Her Podcast, I will be: - discussing how perfection paralysis stunts our growth - reading an excerpt from my upcoming book Empowered Women, Empower Girls - sharing a personal story about sharing what's real - talking about how to take messy action To hear about when the book is launching, join the waitlist! https://melodypourmoradi.com/book-waitlist Thanks for tuning in week after week! Grateful for you! Let's stay in touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlifeempowerment/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/girlsempowermentbiz/ Contact: Melody@getgirlpower.com Website: www.getgirlpower.com
Liz Recommends - The Something Scary PodcastDo you wanna hear something scary? Join Markeia every week as they bring you the creepiest ghost stories, urban legends, and folktales.Creepy music and really evocative storytelling.They also choose a story each week to animate and post on youtube.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/something-scary/id1438162222Nick Recommends - Edith! After President Woodrow Wilson suffered a massive, paralyzing stroke in the White House, Edith Wilson did the unthinkable: she told no one. And for almost a year following the end of World War I, Edith Wilson acted as the de facto unelected President. She would issue orders as him. She would fire people as him. She would even cause international incidents as him. And all along the way, enemies both internal and external, inched closer to finding out her secret.https://crooked.com/podcast-series/edith/Zane Recommends - The Oysterhttps://www.theparagoncollective.com/In a not-so-distant future, due to overwhelming carbon emissions, The Earth is on the brink of becoming uninhabitable. These conditions are made far more horrifying because the available housing shelters (that can produce sustainable air quality) will only be able to house 80% of the world's total population. To try and save the human race, every person has a government-mandated microchip implanted in their brain to attempt to facilitate the migration of a portion of the population to an underground shelter. In order to decide who gets to be protected and who must stay above ground, the government implements a value scale they have determined based on “usefulness” to future society. If you are valued at a 50 or above, you will be chosen to enter the bunker, and, if not, you must stay above ground and face the end of days. “Neuron” (which acts as both a prestigious brain implant and also a software company) is folded into a sanctioned branch of the government called, “The Ministry of Experience.” Their job now is to develop technologies and software that can replicate the human experience above ground. But what is far more pressing is The Ministry must find a way to reduce the use of resources, or they will run out of all survivable assets before being able to relocate to “Eden” - the one place above ground that might be salvageable in a few years time. Whether Eden will be ready in time remains to be seen, but its existence is literally the last hope for the human race surviving. In a drastic effort to cut emissions and resource usage, “The Oyster” is created. The Oyster is Nirvana - A state absent from the mind while being filled with complete pleasure and bliss. What, then, happens when reality begins to fade and The Oyster is all that remains?The Oyster stars Logan Browning (Dear White People and the Perfection), Mamoudou Athie (Jurassic World), Carla Gugino (Haunting of Hill House), Keith David (Greenleaf), Giancarlo Esposito (Breaking Bad), Constance Zimmer (House of Cards, UnReal), Andrew Santino (Dave) and more.Created by Alex Aldea and Adrienne Schafflerhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1538224217 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.
How I went from 3 clients to $3000 in 30 days. How I did it without the website or having “all the things”. Keep business simple ✨ basics the foundation to your success. Warning ⛔️ baby in the background 2x in the episode. Referencing the book Believe it from Jamie kern Lima and will talk about the book Emptional intelligence 2.0 next week
How Progression Over Perfection is the way to reach their goals! The principle of “Progression over Perfection” that BootyBands & Barbells teaches is changing Womens Lives rapidly. The results are amazing and here is proof from a Real Booty Bands Member. Paris has been stuck in a Self Sabotage Loop of emotional eating, feeling like a failure with a healthy lifestyle and she used to think.. “I guess I meant to be fat.” After Paris finished her Mindset Master Class she discovered what was trapping her. You can hear the excitement in her voice… as she is now more confident and living her healthier lifestyle. We all Cheer you on! We know you can do it! Share this podcast with a friend or family member who can value from this episode.
[Comment: God Alone Suffices] Friends of the Rosary: Today is the Memorial Day of St. Teresa of Jesus, also known as St. Teresa of Avila, the sixteenth-century Spanish mystic and Doctor of the Church, founder of the Carmelite Discalced order, and author of three classic spiritual books — that are available online for free: The Life of St. Teresa of Jesus, Interior Castle, and Way of Perfection. With the help of St. John of the Cross, she reformed most of the Carmelite convents and founded new ones. Teresa of Avila achieved the highest degree of prayer and through prayer obtained an amazing knowledge of divine things and reached a mystical union with God. St. Teresa composed these well-known lines, which we can use as simple prayer to calm our nerves: Let nothing disturb you. Let nothing frighten you. All is passing. God ever remains. Patience obtains all. Whoever possesses. God cannot lack anything. God alone suffices. Ave Maria! Jesus, I Trust In You! St. Teresa of Avila, Pray for Us! + Mikel A. | TheRosaryNetwork.org, New York —- • Watch this Rosary Live. Every day at 7:30 PM ET or at any time on-demand. Please share it! • Free Online Video Course: Essential Questions on the Rosary
In this interview, I'm joined by Nick Quient, a PhD student in New Testament, to discuss the issue of the ordination of women in the Bible. Is Christianity sexist? Nick Quient is a PhD candidate in New Testament at Ridley College in Melbourne, AU. He also earned an MA in New Testament from Fuller Theological Seminary and a BA from Biola University. He has published in the Canadian-American Theological Review, Priscilla Papers, and the Evangelical Review of Theology and is the author of “The Perfection of Our Faithful Wills” (Wipf & Stock, 2019). He is an ordained Baptist pastor serving in Southern California. Link to the YouTube Video: Our Website: www.capturingchristianity.com Our Patreon: www.patreon.com/capturingchristianity
Consistency can be the number one predictor of success. In this episode, Jeff talks about the importance of consistency over perfection. Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/DsrSzWsqJFU The post Consistency Over Perfection appeared first on After The License.
Friday of the 28th Week in Ordinary Time Memorial of St. Teresa of Avila, 1515-1582; along with St. John of the Cross, a reformer of the Carmelite order; a woman of prayer, discipline, and compassion; her writings, especially “The Way of Perfection” and “The Interior Castle” have helped generations of believers Office of Readings and […] All show notes at Daybreak for October 15, 2021 - This podcast produced by Relevant Radio
Full Text of ReadingsMemorial of Saint Teresa of Jesus, Virgin and Doctor of the Church Lectionary: 471All podcast readings are produced by the USCCB and are from the Catholic Lectionary, based on the New American Bible and approved for use in the United States _______________________________________The Saint of the day is Saint Teresa of AvilaTeresa lived in an age of exploration as well as political, social, and religious upheaval. It was the 16th century, a time of turmoil and reform. She was born before the Protestant Reformation and died almost 20 years after the closing of the Council of Trent. The gift of God to Teresa in and through which she became holy and left her mark on the Church and the world is threefold: She was a woman; she was a contemplative; she was an active reformer. As a woman, Teresa stood on her own two feet, even in the man's world of her time. She was “her own woman,” entering the Carmelites despite strong opposition from her father. She is a person wrapped not so much in silence as in mystery. Beautiful, talented, outgoing, adaptable, affectionate, courageous, enthusiastic, she was totally human. Like Jesus, she was a mystery of paradoxes: wise, yet practical; intelligent, yet much in tune with her experience; a mystic, yet an energetic reformer; a holy woman, a womanly woman. Teresa was a woman “for God,” a woman of prayer, discipline, and compassion. Her heart belonged to God. Her ongoing conversion was an arduous lifelong struggle, involving ongoing purification and suffering. She was misunderstood, misjudged, and opposed in her efforts at reform. Yet she struggled on, courageous and faithful; she struggled with her own mediocrity, her illness, her opposition. And in the midst of all this she clung to God in life and in prayer. Her writings on prayer and contemplation are drawn from her experience: powerful, practical, and graceful. She was a woman of prayer; a woman for God. Teresa was a woman “for others.” Though a contemplative, she spent much of her time and energy seeking to reform herself and the Carmelites, to lead them back to the full observance of the primitive Rule. She founded over a half-dozen new monasteries. She traveled, wrote, fought—always to renew, to reform. In her self, in her prayer, in her life, in her efforts to reform, in all the people she touched, she was a woman for others, a woman who inspired and gave life. Her writings, especially the Way of Perfection and The Interior Castle, have helped generations of believers. In 1970, the Church gave her the title she had long held in the popular mind: Doctor of the Church. She and St. Catherine of Siena were the first women so honored. Reflection Ours is a time of turmoil, a time of reform, and a time of liberation. Modern women have in Teresa a challenging example. Promoters of renewal, promoters of prayer, all have in Teresa a woman to reckon with, one whom they can admire and imitate. Saint Teresa of Avila is the Patron Saint of: Relief from headaches Click here for more on Saint Teresa of Avila! Saint of the Day Copyright Franciscan Media
First Draft Episode #327: Benjamin Dreyer Benjamin Dreyer, vice president, executive managing editor and copy chief of Random House, and New York Times bestselling author of Dreyer's English: An Utterly Correct Guide to Clarity and Style and Dreyer's English (Adapted for Young Readers): Good Advice for Good Writing. Links to Topics Mentioned In This Episode: “Meet the Guardian of Grammar Who Wants to Help You Be a Better Writer,” by Sarah Lyall in The New York Times Before and After the Book Deal: A Writer's Guide to Finishing, Publishing, Promoting and Surviving Your First Book by Courtney Maum (hear Courtney weigh in on the traditional publishing process in Track Changes: Publishing 101) #1 New York Times bestselling author and Pulitzer Prize winner Elizabeth Strout, author of Olive Kitteridge, Olive Again, and the recent release Oh William! Shirley Jackson, author of The Haunting of Hill House, The Lottery, and more
Listen and explore:Julie-Roxane is finally a green card holder!Aligning with Truth and the path of least resistanceThe error in mistaking the path of least resistance as passivityThe error in mistaking all resistance as a force to break throughInner resistance and outer resistance and what we can learn from eachWhat happens when we align with the ego's plans and what happens when we align with life's plansSurrendering to greater forces than the egoIs resistance a sign we are headed in the right direction or that we are out of alignment?Mentioned on this episode:The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life's Perfection by Michael A. SingerThe War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven PressfieldThe I Ching or Book of Changes by Brian Browne WalkerCutting Through Spiritual Materialism by Chögyam TrungpaConnect with us:Website: www.thefarout.lifeEmail us at email@example.comWild Within @ www.thewildwithin.orgSupport this podcast:Discount link to purchase organic, raw ceremonial-grade cacao ethically sourced in Guatemala (a portion of proceeds support this podcast)Become a patron at: https://www.patreon.com/thefaroutcoupleMake one-time donation with PayPal (our account is firstname.lastname@example.org)Leave a review on iTunes!Share this episode with a friend! :DCredits:Intro music: "Complicate ya" by Otis McDonaldOutro music: "Running with wise fools" written & performed by Krackatoa (www.krackatoa.com)
When you've been working stand-up stages for over a decade, you get pretty good at landing a joke. If you're Rob Christensen, you get so good that you end up being selected out of a pool of 2,400 applicants to write for Jon Stewart's new TV show. Rob is a born and raised New Yorker and continues to work way through the ranks of the stand-up comedy scene. There is absolute zero doubt as to how he got to where he is today... He is OBSESSED with comedy writing. It's really that simple. He is constantly working on his act, building upon his material, and remains laser-focused about where his career will go next. In this episode we talked about his process of writing a stand-up set, how rules and boundaries are a good thing for creativity, and what the writers' room is like on The Problem with Jon Stewart. If you want to keep up with Rob you can follow him on Twitter @roblovesbagels or check out where his next stand-up set will be at brooklynrob.com I'm doing a content challenge from now through the end of 2021. If you want to follow the chaos. Hit those links below: Twitter - @ry3dunn Instagram - @destinationdifferent TikTok - @destinationdifferent
The Hump is PUMPED to present a special episode this week honoring the birthday of bass legend, Ray Brown! Enjoy clips from Christian McBride, Larry Grenedier, John Clayton and more as they remember and share stories about Ray Brown. Tune in to find out why this episode is called, "'Nuff Said!"
Jackie Batson shares why she hasn't given up hope on finding the man of her dreams. Then Max talks with actress Susan Lucci about what playing the same role for 41 years — Erica Kane on the soap opera All My Children — taught her about herself and about getting older. -- Know someone who should be on 70 Over 70? We're looking for all types of stories and people to feature at the top of the show. To nominate yourself or someone else, email email@example.com or call 302-659-7070 and tell us your name, age, where you're from and what you want to talk about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Failure. Success. Progress. Perfection. One of these things is not like the other. Do you get the feeling that you are not living up to your potential? Is it a gnawing feeling that makes you feel like you need to do so much more? It likely is due to the unwritten rules that dictate we have to be people-pleasers and perfectionists. The truth is that perfection is a theoretical concept. Once we learn that we are unique and perfectly individualistic, we can stop chasing someone else's idea of perfect. We all struggle with these concepts and yet we fail and then see the failure as shame-provoking. Failure is necessary and helpful. It's how we learn. Failing fast and often is a necessary obstacle to our eventual progress. Learning to embrace failure needs to be a dominating attitude in midlife health and fitness, a career, and anything of importance in our lives.
Now that we have laid out the standard of perfection, where do we begin in our journey to pursue perfection? In the episode Nick, Seth, and Pancake talk about the beginning of a journey with Christ and how faith in Jesus and help from the Holy Spirit can equip and empower us to live a life according to God's Word, by God's Power, and for God's Glory. Want to contact the show? Email CompetingBiblically@gmail.com Podcast Website: delawarefca.org/podcast Facebook Page: facebook.com/profile.php?id=10006841569130 Instagram: @competing_biblically_podcast YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCYz_Ka8NNjCO4_ON9fac_-Q Show References: The Handbook on Athletic Perfection Handbook Companion Videos Luke 11:11-13 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/seth-daisey/message
Fr. Roger J. Landry Chapel of the Missionaries of Charity, Bronx, NY 28th Sunday of Ordinary Time, Year B October 10, 2021 Wis 7:7-11, Ps 90, Heb 4:12-13, Mk 10:17-30 To listen to an audio recording of today’s homily, please click below: https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/catholicpreaching/10.10.21_Homily_1.mp3 The following text guided the homily: As a young king […] The post Following Jesus on the Road to Perfection, 28th Sunday in Ordinary Time ( B ), October 10, 2021 appeared first on Catholic Preaching.
Today I take a deep dive into one of my favorite anime Fullmteal Alchemist Brotherhood showing and teaching us that perfection doesn't exist and why we should except and embrace our mistakes and the beauty of being human and experiencing life I think you as the listener can take something away from this hope you love it as much as I did making it --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/professional-smartass/support
While "perfect," is an unattainable standard, many people struggle to accept the inevitable: that striving for the impossible goal of perfection leads to stress, burnout, sickness and feelings of failure. SHOW NOTES We know that perfection is the state of being without flaw or defects - and we all know that perfection is not really attainably. It may be that some of us everyone once in a while achieve perfection, but perfection is not something most of us achieve. Perfectionism is the refusal or inability to accept anything short of perfect. Friend, do you see the cognitive dissonance here, the undeniable catch-22? Perfectionists are trying to achieve the unattainable. Painful - to the individual who is the perfectionist as well as those around her. We want to make sure not to confuse high achiever with perfectionist. And there are even some great descriptions for this. Adaptive perfectionist: aka high-achievers: adaptive perfectionism means that a person thrives on doing some, but crucially not all, things well. In the words of Stoltz & Ashby 2007 “adaptive perfectionism is characterised as a normal, healthy type of perfectionism and is defined by deriving satisfaction from achievements made from intense effort but tolerating the imperfections….” Adaptive perfectionists are the women who embrace the reality that it's simply impossible to achieve complete perfection and instead aim for a high standard of work in those tasks they do well, and that play to their unique strengths. These women are telling themselves more of the truth about who they are and the circumstances that are in - they are adaptive. Maladapted perfectionism is such a great descriptor because we start off right away knowing this is not a good thing. The maladapted perfectionist is likely on a path to pain. These women are very hard on themselves when perfection is not achieved. And these kinds of unrealistic expectations and responses lead to depression, anxiety and increased levels of stress. We can have high standards, the question is what happens when reality comes crashing in and our high expectations have not been mer. Failure is inevitable - and, you guessed it - far more stressful on the maladapted gal than the adaptive gal. Crina shares a story about her own sense of perfectionism getting in the way of her own fun - she wanted to be excellent and when she was not, she gave up - until, smarty chick that she is - she realized that approach was no way to love and it was far better to have more fun - even if she was not excellent at whatever was fun. As with most things, none of us neatly fall into one category or another and may see ourselves in both. What are the indicia of tipping over into maladaptive rather than the sweet spot of adaptive: Do people tell you you are difficult to change Do you want to change your body? Do you notice others' mistakes? Do you notice the mistakes you made? When you try something new that you are not good at - do you give up? Do you focus on the success or the failure? Do you procrastinate or avoid tasks regularly? Mistakes are flaws versus opportunities to learn? Kirsten shares that the legal profession is toxic perfectionism. Making a mistake can hurt your client - and is malpractice - there is no room for mistakes. It is the part of practicing law she has most struggled with over her career because it is based on a falsehood - we all make mistakes and that standard of perfection fails to acknowledge the human behind the work. The disturbing news is that perfectionism is on the rise. A 2019 study that evaluated more than 40,000 college students found a 33% rise in perfectionism from 1989 to 2016. But this should be good news for the workplace, right? We want a bunch of perfectionists doing great work, right? Surprisingly, no - we do not! A vast meta-analysis of 30 years of studies, conducted at the Georgia Institute of Technology, found there was no relationship between perfectionism and job performance for either group (failure avoiding or excellence seeking) , says researcher Dana Harari, who worked on the meta-analysis. “To me, the most important takeaway of this research is the null relationship between perfectionism and performance,” she says. “It's not positive, it's not negative, it's just really null.” Is that the craziest thing? Perfectionism does not lead to better work performance. You know our hosts are not going to leave our lady friends hanging! Go for the B Give 80%- As Cinzia BuBois says, “Giving 100 percent should be saved for those special passion projects or for those most treasured people in your life. If you give 100 percent to everything and everyone around you, the quality of your output will go down. You'll become burnt out, exhausted, and resentful. Not only is 100 percent unrealistic, it doesn't allow room for learning. Getting an 80 percent always puts you in the higher tiers of anything in life; it's not perfect, but it's still rather outstanding. By striving for 80 percent, you allow room for perseverance, flexibility, and diligence, uncorrupted by the fear of failure (or rather, imperfection).” The Perfectionism Epidemic. We live in a society where failure is… | by Cinzia DuBois | Achology Don't let perfect be the enemy of the good. Done is better than incomplete or worse, never started Realizing failure isn't the opposite of success, but part of it. No one can learn without making mistakes, and no project, skill, or relationship can grow without learning. We're not supposed to be perfect the first time around Recovery activities are critical when you do give it your all - you need to rest and restore and re-energize - you know self-care. To all you fabulous females out there, some of this may be counterintuitive in the workplace, but the data supports that perfectionism is not correlative with performance - and it can cause suffering - to our minds, our hearts and our bodies. Get yourself a B and carefully choose when you bring the A game. Good reads Being a perfectionist is good for your career, right? Obsessed with Perfection: How to Overcome Toxic Perfectionism in a Highly Competitive World The Trouble with Toxic Perfectionism The Pros and Cons of Perfectionism, According to Research (hbr.org) Obsessed with Perfection: How to Overcome Toxic Perfectionism in a Highly Competitive World Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. (apa.org)
When we seek perfection, sometimes we may take God out of the equation. In our earthly life, we will never achieve perfection. In fact, we may just realize that God wants us to go to Him with our imperfections. Join me as we talk about finding freedom in perfection. https://zb362.infusionsoft.com/go/fitting/karendebeus/ http://simplylivingforhim.com/2021/10/07/finding-freedom-from-perfection/
Today, Maria reports to you from the couch! Maria and the team sit down to piggyback off of Lisa Donovan's episode and dive deeper into the topic of perfection. Maria breaks down the 3 types of perfectionism (we didn't know there was more than 1 type either!). The team also discusses how as women, we are pressured by society to always be perfect, while our male counterparts don't face that same expectation. We hope you enjoyed this episode and if you did, please like and subscribe! It helps us so much and we really appreciate the support :) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/better-together-w-maria/support
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In Part 5, the final installment, of our Schooling Effectively @ Home Series, we will talk about how practice makes progress. Perfection is not what we are going for here. Our guest, Deslyn Mecham suggests that practicing routines and procedures will eliminate some of the disruptions and allow more opportunities for learning. #K12OnLearning To leave a voice message for our host and add your story or comments to our podcast, please leave a message here: https://www.speakpipe.com/K12OnLearningPodcast
In his first year as head coach, Nick Sirianni is demanding – of himself first, and everyone around him as well. So, a three-game losing streak isn't making him happy as he looks for continual growth from his 1-3 Eagles heading into Sunday's game at the 3-1 Carolina Panthers. Here is our weekly exclusive one-on-one with Sirianni as well as a first look at the Panthers. Listen and subscribe: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eagles-insider-podcast/id1089196692 Like the show? Leave a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/eagles-insider-podcast/id1089196692 Follow @EaglesInsider on Twitter Follow theeaglesinsider on Instagram Discover more Philadelphia Eagles Podcasts: https://www.philadelphiaeagles.com/audio/
In episode 259, we sit down once again with Carl Hostetter, editor of the latest volume of JRR Tolkien's writings, The Nature of Middle-earth. We focus our attention on Appendix I: Metaphysical and Theological Themes. CONTENTS: - How has the response been to The Nature of Middle-earth? » 3:38 - What inspired this appendix on the "religious and Catholic" question? 9:50 - Ages of the World » 13:19 - Body (Hröa) and Spirit (Feä) » 21:50 - Evil as Lack of Perfection » 24:20 - Contingency of Existence » 32:35 - Theistic Evolution » 40:53 - Hylomorphism » 45:55 - The Fall of Man, The Elves, and the Númenoreans (and Mary) » 52:50 - Incorruptibility of Saints, Odour of Sanctity » 1:03:40 - Marriage » 1:08:30 - Christ's Incarnation and Middle-earth » 1:12:25 EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Andrew T, John R, Ms. Anonymous LINKS: - buy The Nature of Middle-earth: https://amzn.to/3Fbz5Ki - listen to Episode 251, our first interview with Carl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_-raT... - Tolkien's New Book » REACTION » The Nature of Middle-earth » Reincarnation, Beards, and more: https://youtu.be/1yykDzgEnpM SPECIAL THANKS:Andrew T John R Ms. Anonymous Kaitlyn of Tea with Tolkien Shannon S Brian O Emilio P Zeke F James A James L Chris L Chuck F Asya V Ish of the Hammer Teresa C David of Pints with Jack Jonathan D Eric S Joey S Eric B Johanna T Mike M Robert H Paul D Julia Werty
Join me as we discover explore all the elements of perfectionism, from its root causes to its surface manifestations, through an Internal Family Systems lens, grounded in a Catholic world view. Through poetry, quotes, research findings, personal examples and the current professional literature, I pull together many strands into a unified whole to help you deeply grasp the internal experience of perfectionism. Intro The Quintessential Persona Leanna Smith We are together in this great adventure, this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am honored to be able to spend this time with you. I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, we are taking on the tough topics that matter to you. We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith. Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com Let's get into answering the questions -- the who, what, where, when, why, and how of perfectionism. This is episode 85 of the Interior Integration for Catholics Podcast it's titled: Perfectionism: Who, What, Where, When, Why, and How Perfectionism -- a major, major problem for so many Catholics. A major, major problem for so many of us. Thomas Curran and Andrew Hill 2019 Psychological Bulletin Article: Perfectionism Is Increasing Over Time: A Meta-Analysis of Birth Cohort Differences From 1989 to 2016 reviewed dozens of studies from a 27 year timespan all using the same instrument the Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale by Hewitt and Flett 164 study samples comprising more than 41,000 college students in the US, Canada and Great Britain between 1989 and 2016 Results: there is no doubt. Perfectionism among college students is on the rise. Between 1989 and 2016, the scores for socially prescribed perfectionism — or perceiving that other have excessive expectations of me — increased by 33%. Other-oriented expectations — putting unrealistic expectations on others — went up 16% and self-oriented perfectionism — our irrational desire to be perfect — increased 10% The Who of Perfectionism -- the Parts The What of Perfectionism -- What is it? What are the different kinds of perfectionism, what are the elements? Where Does Perfectionism Come From Within Us When Does Perfectionism Get Activated? Why Does Perfectionism Start and Why Does it Keep Going? How Do We Overcome Perfectionism? How do we resolve it? Not just a descriptive diagnosis, but a proscriptive conceptualization that gives a direction for healing, resolving the perfectionism. Not just symptom management, this is your cross nonsense. There are real crosses that God gives us. Yes. But those crosses fit well. The crosses we impose upon ourselves do not fit well. What -- What is perfectionism? You know that I want precise definitions when we dive into deep topics together. I think it's ironic that there is a lot of unclear, sloppy thinking about perfectionism by perfectionists. Shining a bright clear light on it. Definition of Perfectionism Brene Brown: The Gifts of Imperfection: Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels the primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize painful feelings or shame, judgment and blame Marc Foley O.C.D. Editor of Story of a Soul: Study Edition There is an unhealthy striving for perfection which psychologists call perfectionism. Perfectionism is the state of being driven to achieve a standard of perfection in an area of life that is fueled by either the fear of failure or the need for approval. This unhealthy striving is not the type of perfection to which God calls us. So you may have perfectionistic parts that would like to challenge me on this. Your perfectionistic parts may say to me So, Dr. Peter, Mr. Catholic Psychologist, you want us to have low standards, huh? You think that would be better, for us to be lazy, to be weak, to take our ease, to relax, to give up the fight, to be mediocre, to be lukewarm, huh? Is that what you are saying? Didn't St. Jerome say: Good, better, best, never let it rest, 'till your good is better, and your better's best First off, let's start with your quote. Often attributed to St. Jerome, but there's no evidence for it in his writings: Fr. Horton addresses this alleged quote on his blog fauxtations. September 26, 2016 post. "Good, better, best: St. Jerome?" Oldest google books attribution is from 2009. 1904 Dictionary of Modern Proverbs 1897 Christian Work: Illustrated Family Newspaper. Others attribute it to Tim Duncan, NBA all-star player, often considered the greatest power forward of all time. I want you to pursue excellence. Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence or a commitment to self-improvement. There is a critical distinction between striving for excellence and perfectionism. Let's discuss what perfectionism is not. Brene Brown: Perfectionism is not self-improvement./ Perfectionism is, at it's core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance Most perfectionists were raised being praised for achievement and performance (grades, manners, rule-following, people-pleasing, appearance, sports). Somewhere along the way, we adopted this dangerous and debilitating belief system: I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect. Healthy striving is self-focused – How can I improve? Perfectionism – is other focused – What will they think?” End quote. What will they think? Brene Brown Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead: “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is a defensive move. It's the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.” Agnes M. Stairs, Smith, Zapolski, Combs, and Settles: Clarifying the construct of perfectionism Assessment 2012 732 people 15 different perfectionism measures -- Factor analytic modeling Found nine different personality traits associated with perfectionism: Need for Order, Need for Satisfaction of a Job Well Done, Details and Checking, Perfectionism toward Others, High Personal Standards, Black and White Thinking about Tasks, Perceived Pressure from Others, Dissatisfaction with Personal Performance, Reactivity to Mistakes. 9 personality traits Order I like things to be neat Things should always be put away in their place I like to be orderly in the way I do things Satisfaction I feel satisfied with my work after I do something well I get excited when I do a good job I feel great satisfaction when I feel I have perfected something Details and Checking I often check my work carefully to make sure there are no mistakes It takes me a long time to do something because I check my work many times Perfectionism toward Others I have high standards for the people who are important to me I expect a lot from my friends I expect others to excel at whatever they do High Standards I set extremely high standards for myself I expect high levels of performance from myself I have very high goals Black and White Thinking about Tasks and Activities I will not do something if I cannot do it perfectly There's no point in doing something if I cannot do it perfectly Perceived Pressure from Others People expect high levels of performance from me Others expect me to be perfect I often feel that people make excessive demands of me Dissatisfaction It feels like my best is never good enough I often don't live up to my own standards I rarely feel that what I have done is good enough Reactivity to Mistakes When I make a mistake, I feel really bad If one thing goes wrong, I feel that I cannot do anything right I feel like a complete failure if I do not do something perfectly Signs of Being a Perfectionist GoodTherapy.org article last updated 11-05-2019 Not be able to perform a task unless they know they can do it perfectly. View the end product as the most important part of any undertaking. As a result, they may focus less on the process of learning or completing a task to the best of their ability. Not see a task as finished until the result is perfect according to their standards. Procrastinate. People with perfectionism may not want to begin a task until they know they can do it perfectly. Take an excessive amount of time to complete a task that does not typically take others long to complete. Examples of Perfectionistic Behaviors -- GoodTherapy.org article last updated 11-05-2019 Spending 30 minutes writing and rewriting a two-sentence email. Believing that missing two points on a test is a sign of failure. Difficulty being happy for others who are successful. Holding oneself to the standards of others' accomplishments or comparing oneself unfavorably and unrealistically to others. Skipping class or avoiding a chore because it is pointless to make an effort unless perfection can be achieved. Focusing on the end product rather than the process of learning. Avoiding playing a game or trying a new activity with friends for fear of being shown up as less than perfect. The Who of Perfectionism -- the Parts Definition of Parts: Separate, independently operating personalities within us, each with own unique prominent needs, roles in our lives, emotions, body sensations, guiding beliefs and assumptions, typical thoughts, intentions, desires, attitudes, impulses, interpersonal style, and world view. Each part also has an image of God and also its own approach to sexuality. Robert Falconer calls them insiders. You can also think of them as separate modes of operating if that is helpful. Types of perfectionism -- Jay Early IFS therapist Self-Therapy Volume 3. Four types of perfectionist parts -- Not-enough perfectionist Creative Block perfectionist Control perfectionist Inner Critic Not-Enough perfectionist Always must do more on your projects -- not good enough yet. Working right up to deadlines, perfecting. Afraid to finish project because your perfectionistic parts believe this will expose your shortcomings and led to being judged and ridiculed -- humiliation. Creative Block Perfectionist Need to be perfect the first time Ideas are not good enough Fear of being judged and rejected. Mike Litman: You don't have to get it right. You just have to get it going. This podcast is an example. Didn't know what I was doing. Early episodes were very different. Learning curve. How many people listened? Not many. Control perfectionist World must be perfectly in control and in order. I must always do the right thing. I must always make the right choice Rigid control over behavior Saps vitality Obliterates sponteneity Need predictability to feel safe Inner Critic Enforces the goals of being perfect Judges and shames about your work, your life, your spiritual practices Labels you stupid, incompetent, sloppy, inadequate or bad. Good intention: to help you avoid being judged or shamed for mistakes. Types of Inner Critic: Jay Earley Personal-Growth-Programs.com -- Transforming your Inner Critic. Freedom from your Inner Critic. Perfectionist This critic tries to get you to do things perfectly. It sets high standards for the things your produce, and has difficulty saying something is complete and letting it go out to represent your best work. It tries to make sure that you fit in and that you will not be judged or rejected. Its expectations probably reflect those of people who have been important to you in the past. Guilt-Tripper This critic is stuck in the past. It is unable to forgive you for wrongs you have done or people you have hurt. It is concerned about relationships and holds you to standards of behavior prescribed by your community, culture and family It tries to protect you from repeating past mistakes by making sure you never forget or feel free. Underminer This critic tries to undermine your self-confidence and self-esteem so that you won't take risks. It makes direct attacks on your self-worth so that you will stay small and not take chances where you could be hurt or rejected. It is afraid of your being too big or too visible and not being able to tolerate judgment or failure. Destroyer It makes pervasive attacks on your fundamental self worth. It shames you and makes you feel inherently flawed and not entitled to basic understanding or respect. This most debilitating critic, comes from early life deprivation or trauma. It is motivated by a belief that it is safer not to exist. Molder This critic tries to get you to fit into a certain mold based on standards held by society, your culture or your family. It wants you to be liked and admired and to protect you from being abandoned, shamed or rejected. The Molder fears that the Rebel or the Free Spirit in you would act in ways that are unacceptable. So it keeps you from being in touch with and expressing your true nature. Taskmaster This critic wants you to work hard and be successful. It fears that you may be mediocre or lazy and will be judged a failure if it does not push you to keep going. Its pushing often activates a procrastinator or a rebel that fights against its harsh dictates. Inner Controller This critic tries to control your impulses: eating, drinking, sexual activity, etc. It is polarized with an Indulger –addict who it fears can get out of control at any moment. It tends to be harsh and shaming in an effort to protect you from yourself. It is motivated to try to make you a good person who is accepted and functions well in society. Three Main Manager Roles Contribute to Perfectionism in Catholics. Often in serious Catholics there is a triumvirate of managers who govern the system if there is not sufficient self-energy. Triumvirate trium virum, genitive plural of tres viri "three men," from tres "three" (see three) + viri, plural of vir "man" a group of three men holding power, in particular ( the First Triumvirate ) the unofficial coalition of Julius Caesar, Pompey, and Crassus in 60 BC and ( the Second Triumvirate ) a coalition formed by Antony, Lepidus, and Octavian in 43 BC. Standard Bearer, Primary Manager and the Inner Critic. Talking only about Catholics here, Catholics who take their faith seriously. I'm going to simplify this down. Three roles. Most people are mostly blended most of the time. Rare for someone to be really recollected at a natural level And most of the time with reasonably well functioning people, the blend is with a manager. Managers are the parts who run our systems in such a ways as to proactively minimize exiles being activated and breaking through Managers handle the day-to-day activities Some of these managers are very, very competent, very good at what they do. Efficient, effective. They work strategically, with forethought and planning to keep in control of situations and relationships to minimize the likelihood of you being hurt. They work really hard to keep you safe. controlling, striving, planning, caretaking, judging, Can be pessimistic, self-critical, very demanding. Three major roles in perfectionism. The standard bearer, the primary manager, and the internal critic. Standard Bearer Definition of a Standard for a military unit -- Wikipedia: A bright, colorful flag acting as a strong visual beacon to the soldiers of the unit -- -- it doesn't always have to be a flag. The standard for a Roman Legion was their aquila -- their eagle. The standard of the Roman Legion, the eagle had quasi-religious importance to the Roman soldier, far beyond being merely a symbol of his legion. To lose a standard was extremely grave, and the Roman military went to great lengths both to protect a standard and to recover it if it were lost Is the standard the deep and loving relationship with God? Nope. Is the standard the close, intimate relationship with our Mother Mary? Nyet. What is the standard that the standard bearer carries aloft The standard is the unwritten list of rules and expectations that the standard bearer has come up with by his or her own limited vision, about what he or she things Gods wants from us. The standard is the code of conduct that the standard bearer wishes to impose on all the parts The standard might be quite unreasonable, especially in the extreme cases of perfectionism and scrupulosity And the standard needs to be interpreted -- other parts are not deemed capable of deciphering the standard. Oh no. Who needs to decipher and interpret the standard? That's right, you've got it -- the standard bearer. In the tripartite Freudian model of the mind, The standard bearer corresponds to the superego. The standard bearer wants to act in the role of conscience, giving directives to the system. Why? To keep us safe and secure. That's the goal. Safe from internal enemies (such as exiles with their burdens -- especially shame -- the exiles with their burdens are Freud's Id) and external enemies. Satan, demons, villains of all kinds And also to keep us safe from God's Wrath. Or God's Apathy. Or God's disappointment. Or Something Undesirable from God -- you like, like being smited with a thunderbolt. Good Boy in my system IIC 71 -- A New and Better Way of Understanding Myself and Others If blended. That's key if he blends with me, takes over with other managers, he will lapse into this role of being a standard bearer. Otherwise, he's not like that. Primary Manager This is a part that is blended and in charge almost all the time in fairly "well-adjusted people." When there seems to be a consistent single "personality" you are often seeing what I call the primary manager part. This part can have a lot of self-energy, and only blend to certain degree. This part can also believe that it is essentially the self, or that it needs to function in the role of the self Primary manager parts either Doesn't trust the self Or forget. Lapse back into old patterns Or get caught up when exiles are activated. Collaborator in my system -- formerly the Competent One Inner Critic Evaluator in my system. Formerly my Internal Critic. My internal critic's attitude toward farms growing up in Wisconsin. If I ever have a farm. Now I have a farm. Radical new views. Never painted my barn. How my parts work together on this podcast episode When I am blended and have taken over the self, I set the standards. I speak for God. I am in the role of standard bearer. When I am blended, I shielded Good Boy from the unreasonableness of his demands. I goaded Collaborator, pressed him on to ever better performance. I am the workhorse. Executing. Trying to make it all happen I'm a firefighter. I get angry and rebel against the triumvirate of managers -- YouTube time. Other firefighter activity -- Chocolate, video games, masturbation, porn, food, shopping, chocolate. Backlash exacerbates the polarization. I work to protect us. Where Does Perfectionism Come From Perfectionism is a symptom. It's an effect of a deeper issue. Still a problem in itself. Curran and Hall: Our findings suggest that self-oriented perfectionism, socially prescribed perfectionism, and other-oriented perfectionism have increased over the last 27 years. We speculate that this may be because, generally, American, Canadian, and British cultures have become more individualistic, materialistic, and socially antagonistic over this period, with young people now facing more competitive environments, more unrealistic expectations, and more anxious and controlling parents than generations before. Pete Walker “Perfectionism is the unparalleled defense for emotionally abandoned children. The existential unattainability of perfection saves the child from giving up, unless or until, scant success forces him to retreat into the depression of a dissociative disorder, or launches him hyperactively into an incipient conduct disorder. Perfectionism also provides a sense of meaning and direction for the powerless and unsupported child. In the guise of self-control, striving to be perfect offers a simulacrum of a sense of control. Self-control is also safer to pursue because abandoning parents typically reserve their severest punishment for children who are vocal about their negligence.” Jay Earley: Self-Therapy Vol. 3 chapter on perfectionism. Fear Need for approval Marie Forleo, Everything is Figureoutable “Perfectionism at its core isn't about high standards. It's about fear. Fear of failure. Fear of looking stupid, fear of making a mistake, fear of being judged, criticized, and ridiculed. It's the fear that one simple fact might be true: You're just not good enough. Michael Law “At its root, perfectionism isn't really about a deep love of being meticulous. It's about fear. Fear of making a mistake. Fear of disappointing others. Fear of failure. Fear of success.” Hiding -- driven by shame. Genesis 3. Chinonye J. Chidolue “Perfection is a faux. It's a mask carved by our own poor esteem to hide who we really are and make others see what really isn't us.” But what's behind those? Let's go deeper Shame. Deep sense of fundamental inadequacy. Not being loved. Not being lovable. Essentially flawed. Being bad. Unworthy. Episodes 37-49 When Does Perfectionism Get Activated? Some are perfectionistic all the time Some are episodic. Some of the time. Situation factors or internal factors activate Shame. Fear Anger Shame is: a primary emotion, a bodily reaction, a signal, a judgement, and an action. Why Does it Keep Going? Self Images Shame -- that is the main driver of perfectionism. I am unacceptable as I am right now. I have to engage in a self-improvement program. That's what he took away from experience. Not just taught, but construed. The potential to become good enough to earn the love -- provides hope for the future in the short run. But hamster on a wheel. Breeds rebellion, acting out. Perfectionistic parts always get what they don't want. Winding up alienated, isolated, alone Glennon Doyle Melton "We can choose to be perfect and admired or to be real and loved." Ze Frank -- salty quote: “Perfectionism may look good in his shiny shoes, but he's a bit of an asshole and no one invites him to their pool parties.” How Do We Overcome Perfectionism? Standard Advice -- focused on symtpoms Oregon Counseling Become more aware of your tendencies toward perfectionism Focus on the Positives Allow yourself to make mistakes Set more reasonable goals Learn how to receive Criticism Lower the pressure you put on yourself Focus on meaning over perfection Try not to procrastinate Cut out negative influences Go to therapy. Others Sharon Martin, LCSW in California Practice self-compassion Adopt a growth mindset Instead of focusing on outcomes, enjoy the process Be true to yourself rather than trying to please everyone Be more assertive with your own needs Love your imperfect self. Tanya Peterson Choosing Therapy.com Keep track of your thoughts Practice mindfulness Focus on your strengths Stop comparing yourself to others Find your own meaning and purpose Rekindle your sense of pleasure and gratitude Think about your life at age 100 Let yourself experiment. These are almost all symptom based approaches. Superficial. Likely to not get to the root cause. Sound good. Hard to accomplish though because of the perfectionism and its roots. Two major types of approaches Treat perfectionism as an enemy to be ignored, dismissed, fought against, or overcome. Byron Brown based on the Diamond Approach 1999 Souls without Shame. Robert W. Firestone and colleagues in their Voice Therapy approach Conquer your Inner Critical Voice Rick Carson in his 1983 book Taming Your Gremlin By far the approach most serious Catholic favor in dealing with perfectionism and scrupulosity Will power Suppression Domination over the undesireable internal experience. Triumph of the will! Victory. Never works. Not for long. And when it seems to work, it's unstable, tenuous, shaky. Revenge of the repressed. But what if perfectionism and the parts around it have something important to say to you? Treat perfectionism as an ally to be seen, heard, to be accepted, befriended, understood, and ultimately transformed. Hal and Sidra Stone based on Voice Dialogue, 1993 Embracing your inner critic: turning self-criticism into a creative asset Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss based on Internal Family Systems therapy 2010 Self-therapy for your inner critic: transforming self-criticism into self-confidence Ann Weiser Cornell based on Inner Relationship Focusing in her 2005 book The Radical Acceptance of Everything Pat Allen also takes this approach in her 1995 book Art Is a Way of Knowing. These approaches see the inner critic as attempting to help or protect the person—but in a covert, distorted, or maladaptive way. This perspective makes it possible to connect with the critic and transform it over time into a helpful ally. Earley's approach. Getting to the root. Shame IIC 37-49. Engage with the parts burdened with shame. Neural Networks -- one neural network Dan Siegel's interpersonal neurobiology. Lee Health IFS is considered a brain-based psychotherapy designed specifically to access and modify neural networks through intentional interactions via a guided meditative processes. These brain based interactions are the key to helping create different pathways often referred to as “rewiring” or “remapping”. IEADP Foundation These processes serve to engage the brain stem, limbic system and prefrontal cortex simultaneously in the safe and emotional tolerable setting of the therapist's office. This increase in the individual's ability to stay in the window of tolerance while being present with strong emotional states, body sensations and memories allows the client to engage the “witnessing mind” and increases the response flexibility to the strong emotional states that previously would elicit eating disorder behaviors Experiential Exercise What did you think -- let me know call or text 317.567.9594. Also, if you have found great resources that were helpful for your scrupulosity or perfectionism let me know. Next episode Episode 86, will come out on November 1, All Saints Day Scrupulosity -- I have such a different take -- Scrupulosity is what happens with perfectionism gets religion. One more element that we haven't discussed that is so central to scrupulosity, that make scrupulosity much more than a religious spiritual perfectionism. My own battle with scrupulosity. Grandpa Roberts: God helps those who help themselves. Today we laid a foundation for understanding perfectionism. Next episode, we get much more into Solutions for scruplosity and perfectionism. Remember, you as a listener can call me on my cell any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM. I've set that time aside for you. 317.567.9594. (repeat) or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Resilient Catholics Community. 84 on the waiting list. Greater discussion of that in the last episode, episode 84. We have been working through the Individual Results Sheet for dozens of RCC members -- amazed at how our Initial Measures Kit can provoke all kinds of new thinking about their parts and their internal worlds. 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Can you be disciplined without being rigid or inflexible? Can you be structured and also spontaneous? We're answering these questions and more today! Plus, I'm sharing my own current goals! Mentioned In Today's Episode: Happy Juice Pack (code 30968 saves you $10) 75 Questions PDF
Today's episode is a classic segment from GaryVeeTV! Perfection is only an excuse people use to hide their insecurities or explain why they aren't doing something they don't want to do. Aiming for "perfection" is actually slowing you down from reaching your goals. Once you realize that perfection is impossible, you will move much faster, learn a lot quicker, and reach your true ambition in half the time you would trying to make your content "perfect". Enjoy! Let me know what you thought. Tweet Me! @garyvee Text Me! 212-931-5731 My Newsletter: garyvee.com/newsletter Check out my new NFT project: veefriends.com Join the VeeFriends Discord: https://discord.gg/veefriends Checkout my new co-hosted podcast with DraftKing's founder--Matt Kalish on all things sports, business, and alternative investing: https://linktr.ee/propsanddropspod