Hey There, It's Danielle

Oh it's here! Part two of the Loving Your Humanity series. Danielle dives right in this week to share about the cross-pollination effect that takes place when we get good at self-compassion. When we get okay with our own mess, mistakes, emotions, imperfections, realness then we become that safe place for others and vice versa! If I'm holding myself to a standard of perfection, odds are I'm holding everyone else in my life to the same. So, what happens when I make a mess is what happens when others make a mess too: shame, punishment and distance. OOF. Want others to be safe, good with conflict, good at messy, human imperfection and real relationships? Spoiler alert: it's an inside job. Take 19 minutes (a quick drive to target, a morning cup of coffee or a walk around the neighborhood) and let's chat about it!

Join Danielle this week as she unpacks what it means to be human! Ok so maybe not ALL of humanity wrapped up into one 17 minute bite-sized episode goodness -- but more of her journey into connecting to herself with both compassion and empowerment through weakness! Did you know you're human? Did you know you're weak? Or have you been airbrushing and stuffing the human parts for so long that you've forgotten? Fun fact, Jesus himself was human and in His humanity He showed us how to offer grace, compassion and connection to our ugliest and messiest parts! It's a journey for sure, but one that brings life, freedom and joy!

What is coming up for you in this season that you can't take with you into the next? If you're in a season that is bringing up some painful, ugly, messy, difficult stuff, chances are it's coming up to come out. Our natural bend may be to shove the difficult and painful stuff and keep moving without acknowledging the things that we need to be rid of in order to move into what's next! Danielle Stinespring shares this week about the season she finds herself in and how embracing your current season is actually the key to stepping into the next one!

Chat with me, Danielle Stinespirng, as I teach a few simple phrases that helped me validate and empower my kids in moments when I previously would have entered and engaged in a power struggle! These tools are incredible when used in relationships to children but we can absoluely apply the principles to our adult relationships as well! Take a listen and see what happens when "maybe so" is in your tool belt!As promised, my friend Tara Concelman can be found ok instagram @theconnectionlab

In my first ever chat-style episode, I sit down with one of my favorite people in the world to talk about how people are inherently good at fixing problems. But perhaps, this isn't always a good thing! Join me and my first guest (who just so happens to be my husband, Andy) as we unpack why “fixing” isn't always the best solution to a problem.

This week, we're diving in to look at how our surface response to things may not actually be what we're upset about... More often, our emotions are a clue of something else going on inside of us! Take a listen this week to find out why it's just not about what you think it is.

This week, let's chat about why there's been all this focus on health and abundant living. Why am I so focused on these things? Why am I passionate about seeing you live an abundant life? Why does the church need to be having these conversations? Join me this week as I dive into all of the "why's" to what I'm doing here with the podcast and with the things that are "in the works"! 

We've spent a lot of time on emotional responsibility lately, but a recent conversation with a friend reminded me of a piece of this "responsibility puzzle" that I don't want you to miss. We know that our own emotions require our responsibility, but what about the emotions of someone else? Can't I manage those too? Is it possible for someone's anger/rage/fear/sadness/disappointment to be my responsibility or fault?Join me this week as we discover the truth that we aren't responsible to manage anyone's internal world but our own AND aim towards the goal of relationship which is two free and responsible humans.

Wait. What?!?Join me, Danielle Stinespring, while I unpack my actual goal with my kids and dive into how obedience as the goal can shift our priorities in a way that isn't even God-designed. And for you non-parents? As always, this parenting episode has implications for how we relate to God and to other's in our world!

We went through several working titles for this episode before settling on the above. A few of our favorites? "Oh Boy, It's a Doozy", "The Real 'F' Word" and "The One Where Danielle Attempts to Unpack the Weightiest Topic Yet".This week on the Hey There Podcast, Danielle tackles a topic that probably needs more like 6 weeks to address adequately and fully. But what you can expect this week is two-fold. 1. Some serious myth-busting and 2. an honest look at one of Danielle's personal experiences with that "f" word. Are we actually steps away from unlocking our own freedom when we recognize the power of forgiveness and walk through it thoroughly, realistically, and vulnerably?As mentioned in the episode, Nothing Hidden Ministries is a fantastic resource for relationship tools and you can find the Forgiveness Tool here:  https://app.nothinghidden.com/tools/c/0/i/26211453/forgiveness

Boundaries in relationship actually create freedom, not restriction -- allowing us to show up safely as our most authentic selves. Why then wouldn't we also create boundaries for the relationships we have through and with social media? This week, Danielle dives into a few of the reasons why boundaries are critical social media and some of her own examples of what the boundaries she has created. When we know what we will and will not allow into our internal world, we create systems to cultivate our environment. Let's dive in this week, hear a few ideas and grab a paper and pen to take notes and create your own systems and boundaries to set up your life and relationships for the most thriving and abundant success!

This question drove so much of my life for so long. What do you think about me? How am I perceived by you? And for a long time, others' perceptions of me was 100% my responsibility. Spoiler alert, I was exhausted and emotionally drained all the time. As we are working through what is OUR responsibility, you'll be thrilled to know that there are some things that aren't yours to own! Your thoughts, feelings, actions are all yours to manage. But what falls into someone else's management? Take a listen to quite possibly my favorite episode yet as we get more and more powerful and free in healthy relationship. 

Uh oh, another episode where we take a hard look at owning our own "stuff" and being responsible people. We've jumped headfirst into emotional health, managing your thought life and being powerful people. In this episode, Danielle reminds us that it is no one's responsibility to manage our feelings but ourself. And the more we grasp this truth, the freer and more powerful we become. Take a listen and then continue the conversation with yourself, your people and with God as these teaser episodes are meant to serve as conversation starters! We're all growing and becoming who we're made to be, grab a tip or a tool along the way and apply it to your journey!

Ok we need a hard reset. All this talk about "best self" creates a static standard of behavior, emotional well-being, and effort that literally cannot be achieved. It's time we take a look at our "best self" as a fluid process rather than a destination of perfection. One day, your best self is going to do ALL the things, feel SUPER great about life and win the day! The next day, your best self may need a nap and a good cry! So long as we're staying connected to the Father and committed to the journey of being conformed into the image of Jesus, our "best" can shift.

This week, I take a hard look at "the way we've always done it" when it comes to parenting. When I realized a completely new mindset and thought process, I hopped on mic to process it out-loud with my listeners for the first time! So this is definitely one of those "work-in-progress" episodes where I am still personally unpacking some new ideas and beliefs! Join me, Danielle Stinespring, as I share some new thoughts on parenting but also how we relate to the world around us! My hope is that even those without young kids will find a nugget or take away some truth for your own journey! And bonus: you'll hear some pretty cute voices hop on the mic for a moment!

It's my first ever marriage episode! If you're married or not, tune in! In this episode, I dive into some of my favorite tips for being intentional in your relationship! Hear about how Andy and I prioritize our marriage even in the middle of work, busy schedules, young kids, ministry, and our personal dreams and calls! Married people: get out the pen and paper! Single people: store away some of these goodies for your future! ALL people: a lot of these tips apply just to intentional living -- which of these can you apply to yourself personally?

It's time to talk about my sabbatical! How does my story of finding myself in a new season relate to your own journey of processing where you are AND how you got there? Join me, Danielle Stinespring as I let you into my own process in hopes that it brings clarity to yours! 

Recognizing that we were created to operate in a rhythm is something that can be really difficult but ultimately incredibly freeing. Seasons of DOING and accomplishing are so important (and FUN!) but seasons of rest and waiting and stillness are equally as important for our health and ultimately for our longterm sustainability and productivity. When I realized that God's Grace for my life matches the season I'm in, it changed everything! Listen in and let's talk about it!. 

Uh oh -- my thoughts are taking over my life! Sometimes, especially in difficult seasons, its a good reminder to let your thoughts know who is in charge. Chat with me, Danielle Stinespring, while I give a few thoughtful tips on managing our thought-life! 

Last week, we heard a story about allowing yourself space to process emotions! Today we talk about not letting those emotions totally rule the world! Join me, Danielle Stinespring, as we dive into emotional intelligence again this week. 

This week, I'm diving into emotional health -- one of my favorite topics EVER! Tune in to see what my 4-year-old's mega meltdown reminded me about emotional processing and why it's so critical to our health!

In this introductory episode, Danielle gives us a peek inside where the Hey There idea came from, her vision for the podcast and, yes, a recap her entire life's history in under 2 minutes! Tune in to get a feel for what they Hey There podcast is gonna be about, get encouraged, inspired and maybe learn a little something!