The Thinking Thick Podcast

February is the month of love and we are excited to talk about it! Talking about dating and relationships is a big part of our podcast and we are excited to talk to you about "Ideal Relationships" from our point of view! So what do two plus-size, millennial women of color consider to be parts of an ideal relationship? Well you are going to find out! Your hosts, Amaris & Lola, are tackling it and having honest conversations about unrealistic expectations, loving your partner through change, relationship give and takes, and understanding the difference between chemistry and compatibility. Tune in! Don't forget to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

Girls listen up! In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola are talking about the ever controversial "Girl Code." We list off our Top Girl Code Rules that we believe are crucial for cultivating and maintaining significant female friendships and also touch base on a few funny ones! Grab your girlfriends and listen in to our stories of girl code fails and whether or not we believe your friends future baby names are off limits! This is the perfect episode for some wine and a charcuterie board! Remember to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

You guessed it: WE ARE TALKING ABOUT NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS! 2020 threw all of us for a loop and turned our world upside down. To say that we can just forget that whole year and move onto 2021 like nothing has happened is crazy talk! So here we are, your hosts of "The Thinking Thick Podcast" ready to talk about how we are going to try to move forward in 2021 by acknowledging what we have learned about yourselves in 2020. How are we applying that knowledge and growth to our eating habits, our intentions with family & friends, and all other aspects of our lives? Here are our New Years Resolutions, which we are putting out to the universe, with hopes of making 2021 the best that it can be. Don't forget to tell us your new years resolutions by following us on Instagram @thinkingthick.

BYEEE 2020 and HELLO 2021! This is "The Thinking Thick" Podcasts FIRST EPISODE of 2021 and can you tell we are EXCITED! 2020 has been the year of a global pandemic, social distancing, virtual dating, postponed birthday parties, crying sessions, happy our Zoom times, mental health checks and while we will cherish those life lessons for the rest of our lives we are looking forward to what 2021 has to bring! In this episode, Amaris & Lola are counting their top 5 moments of 2020. We are referencing our own personal lives as well as events that have affected the world. Get ready and tune in to hear us talk about the good, the bad, the sad, the happy and the ugly. What will round up our Top 10 Moments of 2020? Listen to find out! Remember to follow "The Thinking Thick" Podcast on Instagram @thinkingthick.

In our very first OUT OF THE VAULT episode, "The Thinking Thick Podcast" girls are back talking about red flags and green flags. What are some qualities that make us stop right in our tracks and say a quick "nope"? Can we look past it? Then on the flip side, what are some things that make men more attractive? Tune into our out of the vault episode and join us in this special episode as we close 2020. See you in 2021! Make sure to follow the Thinking Thick Podcast on Instagram @thinkingthick.

We are officially in Spooky Season and we have to acknowledge the scariest thing about dating…GHOSTING! This paranormal activity haunts almost everyone in the dating world. Whether it is being ghosted or trying to not ghost others, GHOSTING is complicated. In this episode of “The Thinking Thick Podcast” Amaris & Lola poured a bottle of wine and got into this aspect of dating. Have we ghosted people? How do we feel about being ghosted? Tune in and listen to us discuss the different levels of ghosting and our tips on trying to navigate this during Spooky Season and beyond. Make sure to follow “The Thinking Thick Podcast” on Instagram @thinkingthick. Happy Spooky Season!

In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola talk about their experiences growing up and attending a predominately 'white' high school as women of color. How does double-consciousness come into play? What was it like growing up trying to navigate two cultures while not having one of them acknowledge? We look back on our teenage years and think about how we dealt with that time in our lives and the lessons we learned from attending a predominately white high school in the suburbs. Don't forget to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

2020 has thrown the dating game in for a whirlwind and we are still trying to figure everything out. How do we navigate quarantine dating, virtual dating and every other kind of dating that has slid into our lives? In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola revisit quarantine dating and also tackle a new subject: Friends With Benefits. Do they work? Do we believe in them? Have we had them? Will someone catch feelings? Listen and find out! What a way to kick off Season 4! Make sure to follow us on Instagram @thinkingthick

"New Year, New Me" really had us going for two months. We had written our goals, made our plans and were getting ready to scratch items off our bucket list and then...COVID happened. In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast" Amaris & Lola reminisce on simpler times and take a trip down memory lane...all the way back to February. How has 2020 treated us so far? Have we stuck to our 2020 resolutions? Lets find out! Make sure to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

What would you tell your high school teachers if you got the chance? In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast" Lola & Amaris discuss what they wish their old high school teachers would have known when they were in high school...back in the day. From dealing with bullying to how they glorify high school as the best years of your life, we are getting honest about our high school experiences and the teachers we have encountered in our academic life. Tune in to hear both the good and the bad. Don't forget to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

Fall is here and that means pumpkin spice lattes, brisk autumn days, cozy sweaters and cuffing season! Oh its that time when the weather is getting colder that we start wanting to warm up with someone, at least for the winter months. In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola discuss "Cuffing Season." Get ready because we are talking about everything you ever wanted to know about this relationship season; from why we start to crave someone to cuddle with to how long we expect these relationships to realistically last. We are ready to officially enter Cuffing Season 2020 and if this year has taught us anything is that anything can happen. Remember to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

The post-breakup stage can be difficult to navigate, especially when it comes to figuring out whether or not to stay friends? What would that look like? Are you strong enough to emotionally handle it? Do you stay in contact? What about social media? Lets talk about it! In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola discuss what post-breakup looks like and how to handle even contemplating the idea of maintaining a friendship with an ex. Make sure to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

Let's talk about having "Friend Crushes!" When was the last time that you met someone new and thought to yourself, "I want to be their friend!"? How do we develop friend crushes? What do we do when someone rejects being our friend? In the latest episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," your hosts Amaris & Lola talk about their friend crushes, how they approach trying to become friends with someone new and what are the qualities in a person that caught their eye! Take a listen and make sure to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

GET READY because we are tackling the age-old question, "can guys and girls just be friends?"! In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," your hosts Lola & Amaris are talking about having platonic friendships with people of the opposite sex, how Hollywood contributes to the idea that men and women cannot JUST BE friends, and our thoughts on how we would feel if our partners had opposite-sex best friends! Listen to our "thick thoughts" and follow us on Instagram @thinkingthick.

Why does being unfriended on social media hurt so much? We don't want to admit it but let's be honest, social media holds more weight in our lives than we would want to give it. So if unfriending in real life hurts, why wouldn't unfriending on social media be the same? In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Lola & Amaris discuss about their experiences with being unfriended on social media and doing the unfriending! Hear our thick thoughts and make sure to follow on Instagram @thinkingthick.

WE WERE ON A BREAK! If you don't know that infamous phrase, we got you covered! On this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola are discussing the idea of "taking a break" from a relationship and our thoughts on "entanglements." From what the experts say, to making up plausible scenarios that might lead to couples wanting to "take a break" to even our OWN personal experience, lets talk about it all! Are we agreeing with famous couples like Will & Jada or are we saying that taking a break is one step away from a breakup? Tune in to find out! Make sure to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick.

In the newest episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Lola & Amaris are excited to welcome another guest, Joe, who is joining us to talk about "hooking up." This brave soul agreed to talk to us about the guys side of hooking up and using online dating apps for hookups. We grill him on ghosting, ask him why guys always say "I'm not looking for a relationship right now," and got him to tell us some horror dating stories! Tune into the episode and don't forgot to subscribe and rate! Follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast," on Instagram @thinkingthick.

In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Lola & Amaris are excited to welcome their guest, Adam, to talk about long distance relationships. Adam joins us and opens up about his feelings and "thick thoughts" on how he felt about long distance relationships before being in one and what it is like to be in a committed long distance relationship. From how it all started to what is the hardest part of dating someone who lives in a different state, we talk about it all. Make sure to follow Adam and listen to his podcast "Perpetually Dissatisfied Podcast" @ perpetuallydissatisfiedpodcast on Instagram. Follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast," on Instagram @ thinkingthick and don't forget to subscribe and rate!

We don't really talk about them but it doesn't mean they don't hurt. Friendships play a very significant role in our lives and when a friendship ends, whether mutually or in a catastrophic way, we are experiencing a breakup that is equal to that of a romantic relationship. So how do you process going from "You will definitely be one of my bridesmaids when I get married," to being strangers? How do we navigate learning to let go of people who played such an important role in our lives? In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola talk about the tough friendship breakups they have had to endure, how they survived and what they learned, not only about themselves, but about friendships in general. Listen to "The Breakup You Never Saw Coming: Friendships," to hear our thoughts about what it is like when the friendship is over. Make sure to follow "The Thinking Thick Podcast" on Instagram @thinkingthick and rate, comment and subscribe.

We need to talk about what happened to George Floyd. Once again our country is being confronted with images of Black Americans being killed at the hands of the police and dialogue is crucial, now more than ever. In this episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," Lola & Amaris talk about the devastating death of George Floyd and what this means for the Black community and other communities of color. In this episode, we talk about how our experiences as a person of color in America helped shape our views on racism, interactions with the police and how we grieve the loss of another black man. Make sure to follow our Instagram @thinkingthick for more updates and ways you are able to help support Black Lives Matter.

In the newest episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," your hosts Amaris & Lola are doing their part to end the stigma around mental health. For the last episode of May and to celebrate Mental Health Awareness Month, we are talking about how mental health has affected our lives and many different factors that we believe contribute to how our minority groups view and treat mental health. We are excited to share with you our thoughts on a subject that is extremely important to us! Make sure to follow the podcast on Instagram @thinkingthick

In the newest episode of “The Thinking Thick Podcast,” Amaris & Lola are excited to have our guest, Mike, tell us about all the cringing & hilarious dating stories of every time he asked himself “What is the worst that could happen?” Through laughs and gasps, we make our way through his dating history to how he found his own Disney Happily-Ever-After and is now navigating marriage! This episode is all laughs, pop culture references and learning that sometimes asking ourselves “What is the worst that could happen?” might actually work out. Make sure to follow “The Thinking Thick Podcast” on Instagram @thinkingthick.

We are still under quarantine and trying to survive! In the new episode of "The Thinking Thick Podcast," your hosts talk about all things quarantine. From still trying to social distance to the ever popular dating while quarantine, we are trying to cover it all! Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @ thinkingthick to see if Lola gets convinced to make a TikTok!

Don't you just love talking relationships? In this episode of the "Thinking Thick Podcast," Amaris & Lola will be discussing a very common practice in today's dating world...leading people on. Have we done it? Do we do it? Has it happened to us? Spoiler, it happens to everybody, but how do we feel about it? How are we coping and how much do we care? Also, find out which one of us is playing devil's advocate. Tune in, follow, rate and don't forget to follow us on Instagram at thinkingthick.

When it comes to relationships, friendships aren't talked about enough! Equally important and emotional, our friendships have a way of molding us into the person we will become. There is good, there is bad and there is ugly. Amaris & Lola discuss the re-kindling of their friendship, learning to let go of seasonal relationships, and what makes friendships last for the long haul. Tune in and make sure to follow on Instagram @thinkingthick.

Everybody is Social Distancing...even the Thinking Thick girls! During this crazy and uncertain time one thing is still certain, we have a lot of thoughts about this pandemic. Listen to the newest episode of The Thinking Thick Podcast where Amaris & Lola talk about social distancing and social media during this time that will go down in history. Millennial's, we will have some stories to tell our children! Stay safe, stay sane and stay 6 feet apart! Much Love.

We are finally picking the male brain and getting all the answers we have ever wanted! This week we welcome Jansen as our co-host to give us the millennial guy perspective on dating, relationships and dating apps. What is considered ghosting? How to know they want a second date? What goes through their heads when they create their dating app profiles? We have all the answers, well Jansen has some of them. Listen and follow on Instagram at @thinkingthick.

Minority Time, hear us out- it is a real thing! Amaris & Lola are going to talk about how growing up on minority time has shaped the way they view time, value their time, and prioritize their time. From our perspectives, to being called out, to trying to figure out the appropriate about of time it is tolerable to be late, we are covering it all! So friends, take a listen and don't hate us if we are late next time we hang out, we are trying!

Happy Valentine's Day! We are coming to you with a surprise impromptu episode for Valentine's Day to talk all about our love, or hate, for this love-filled, mushy, butterflies in your stomach holiday! Amaris & Lola laugh about chocolate, flowers, and the idea that men really believe their girlfriends don't want anything for Valentine's Day. You'll want to eat some of that chocolate while you listen to this episode!

New year, new me? Well, maybe not completely but your hosts are talking about all their New Year resolutions and intentions for 2020! No resolution is too big or too small so let's talk about why we are setting the goals we are and how we are placing them into motion.

In the second episode of season two, your co-hosts Amaris and Lola discuss all anxieties surrounding first dates and what comes after. Should I text first? Are we mutually ghosting each other? How aware is he of his past dating traumas and is he actively working on them? We talk about it all!

Online dating is never easy and is filled with do's and don'ts that no one ever tells you! On the first episode of Season 2 of The Thinking Thick Podcast, your hosts talk about what they don't like seeing on guys profiles and what guys shouldn't do when online dating. Get inside the female mind and finally hear some of don'ts through our stories.

Let's talk about one of our favorite topics: Dating! Episode 8 is here and we are talking all things Dating Apps. Your co-hosts, Amaris and Lola, dive into the topic and explore their thoughts on dating in today's technologically linked world. How have dating apps like Tinder, Hinge and Bumble changed the dating game? Are millennial's moving in the right direction with the invention of dating apps or are we sabotaging any chance we might have of developing meaningful connections with people? Pick our brains as we talk about the dreaded ghosting, our experiences on Tinder and hear our worst online dating experiences!

In the seventh episode of The Thinking Thick Podcast, we are revisiting stereotypes . This time, however, we are taking a deeper dive into some stereotypes that have been applied to black Americans and Hispanics. Your hosts, Amaris and Lola will discuss how they believe these stereotypes negatively impact other individuals as well as themselves.

In the sixth episode of the Thinking Thick Podcast we are bringing up stereotypes! What are some stereotypes for Latina Women? What about Black women? Do we fit them? Your co-hosts, Amaris and Lola, self-reflect on themselves and the stereotypes that people place on us.

Body insecurities, we all have them. From "Thinking" our thighs are too big or our hairline is weird looking, to even being extremely self conscious about our height, they are different for everyone but the concept is universal. In the fifth episode of the "Thinking Thick" Podcast we talk about our own insecurities, where they stem from and how we are counteracting the negative thoughts in our heads.

In the fourth episode of the "Thinking Thick Podcast," we talk about the idea that a plus-size woman cannot look for a partner that is the "whole package." Do we want a nice, sweet, caring partner? Or do we want someone who we find attractive? Why are we told that our ideal partner cannot have both the personality we desire and the looks we are attracted to? We talk about and try to make sense of our real life personal experiences, our friends reactions to our past partners, how society portrays plus-size women dating versus plus-size men, and much more!

Dating...it is already complicated for everyone but what is it like to date white men when you are a woman of color? From our preferences, to how our families react, In this episode we talk about our experiences "Dating White" and everything that goes with it.

In the second episode of The Thinking Thick Podcast, we are discussing the times that people tell us we have "such a beautiful face." Is it a compliment? Are we reading too much into it? The idea of hearing "you have such a beautiful face" brings up a lot of feelings, so lets talk about it!

Season 1: Episode 1 of "The Thinking Thick Podcast." In "Hi, Nice To Meet You," you get to meet your hosts, Amaris and Lola. Get to know the women behind the mic that are probably eating cookies and drinking wine while recording this very introductory episode in a Chicago apartment. Podcast Soundtrack: "Island Chill Out" by Kabbalistic Village.