All The Smoke

In this Season 3 (reboot), Samone and Meek revisited the "button," discussed their experiences with sex on drugs and to do or not to do (masturbation) with sex toys. Is there really a sexual button, that when pushed, drives Men and Women wild? Do most people have positive sexual experiences while intoxicated? Do any drugs inhibit orgasm? Do people have better experiences with or without aids/sex toys? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/allthesmoke/message

Part 2 of the Season opener with King Curt Live from "The King's Court" and Head Nerds In Charge. What are the implications for the styles of Derrick Jaxn & Kevin Samuels and the "characters" they portray? Who is the most toxic and most damaging to the community and why? ATS and King Curt Live, of the King's Court (and Head Nerds In Charge), continue the conversation and attempt to challenge some notions about how we receive and absorb information about ourselves and the state of Black relationships. Sponsored by SHE Essentials: www.sheessentials.shop Head Nerds in Charge: www.headnerdsincharge.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/allthesmoke/message

The long awaited All the Smoke Season 3 opener begins with an in-depth look into the sensationalism and exploitation of the so-called "relationship gurus," with particular focus on Kevin Samuels and Derrick Jaxn. What are the implications for each of their styles? Who is the most toxic and most damaging to the community? ATS linked up with King Curt Live of the King's Court (and Head Nerds In Charge) to challenge some notions about how we receive and absorb information about ourselves and the state of Black relationships. Sponsored by SHE Essentials: www.sheessentials.shop Head Nerds in Charge: www.headnerdsincharge.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/allthesmoke/message

In the Season 2 finale (finally), Samone & Meek reflect on the season, discuss lessons that have been learned and tell a story (or two). What was your favorite moment from Season 2? Season 3 coming early 2021! Keep sending the Lemonade letter submissions, feedback, questions to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com. Also looking for guests for Season 3 and other pods who'd like to collab. We APPRECIATE you all!

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the continued tensions in the current political climate, the murder of Walter Wallace, LoveCraft Country and a "Lemonade" letter. How do people romanticize trauma and the bonds that are established based on circumstances? How important is the verbal declaration of "love?" How does one quantify romantic feelings? Is the expectation that partners feel the same way about one another in order for a relationship to be deemed "successful?" Send feedback, questions or submissions for Lemonade Letters to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek link up with the Mr. Know It All podcast, for out first collaboration, to discuss current events: Cardi & Offset, Dr. Dre & his wife, the death of RBG, the issues with intellectual property & the upcoming Roy Jones VS Mike Tyson fight. Pls forward all feedback and Lemonade Letters to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com. Also, check out more episodes of The Mr. KnowItAll podcast on all your fav streaming platforms.

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the last Verzus battle, "Imposter" syndrome, Toni Braxton and the show, "Married at First Sight." Are you the person you present to be? What happens to your self-identity if you are not? Is there an expiration on the "hoe phase?" At what point is a woman's desire to explore her sexuality no longer driven by her upbringing/familial values? in current day, is virginity still valued/promoted? What happens when someone is no longer physically attracted to his/her partner? How is intimacy re-established in a relationship? Feedback, questions, entries for Lemonade Letter, pls contact us at: allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone & Meek discuss Ben Shapiro's "analysis" of Cardi B. and Meg the Stallion's song, WAP, Meg naming Tory Lanez as her shooter and the "What are we" convo. Can Whyte Men give any productive commentary on the Black Women's narrative on sexuality and sexual expression? Why are Black Women expected to protect Black Men who harm them? Who is responsible to broaching a conversation about the direction a relationship should take? Should a person reserve certain tasks for a relationship based on its title? Is there a such thing as "wifely"/"husbandly" duties?  Send any questions, feedback or scenarios (Lemonade Letters) to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss a couple videos regarding “scorned” lovers, included the widely circulated video of the case of the VA woman who ran over her lover with her car. Who’s responsible for identifying someone’s “breaking point?” Is there any circumstance that would justify a violent response from a partner? Does society teach us that “stick and stay” signifies a successful relationship? Pls forward feedback, questions or letters to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek review Cardi B’s newest release, WAP (featuring Meg Stallion), sexual perceptions and mishaps, values and opinions and mismatched couples. Do female lyrical artists use their sexuality/sensuality to stay relevant? What shaped your values and opinions around sex? Have you has to challenge familial messages regarding sex? Should you love who loves you? What should romance look like? Send feedback to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the varied responses to "romantic" gestures, boundaries and consent, how maleness and masculinity protects itself and seeking to meet one's needs through multiple relationships. Should consent be solicited before one "shoots their shot?" Could a romantic gesture be "creepy?" How are romantic gestures perceived based on the person giving and receiving? Do men defend one another's actions, solely based on the "Boys Club" mentality? Should one seek to get their wants/needs met by their partner? As always, feedback is welcomed and appreciated. Send questions, topic suggestions and/or letters to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the conflict between art and life values, how one's view and behavior in relationships impact their lives and normalizing different relationships structures. Can you identify and call out misogyny, yet support artists who's messages encourage it? Do men, who "lay up" with women with whom they see no future, hurt their futures? What is a "normal" relationship? How are relationship structures "normalized?" *Pls submit any feedback to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com We appreciate you...

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the Jada Smith and August Alsina "entanglement" situation. Could a helper/helpee romantic relationship ever be appropriate? How does one's self-esteem/ feelings of self-worth impact their decisions when choosing partners? Why do some people choose to remain in relationships which do not suit their wants/needs? If a person knows that their partner is cheating and chooses to stay, are they giving consent for said behavior to continue? Is "financial abuse" a thing? Send feedback, questions and scenarios for Lemonade Letter to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In the episode, Samone and Meek discuss the ways social media acts as a platform for outlets/discussions around race, racism & relationships. How can White supremacy be dismantled? Whose responsibility is it? How can Black Men and Women unify while fighting oppression and systematic racism? Are celebrities the new "figure heads" for the movement? How can the wrong messages from Black people hurt progress?

In this episode, Samone & Meek discuss racial and gender privilege, how so-called White, Liberal women respond to having their privilege challenged, the instances surrounding Unbroken Designs (fitness apparel), the Central Park bird watcher, the death of George Floyd & the entertainer, Doja Cat. Who was "Miss Millie?" How does her whiteness protect her? How does whiteness warrant automatic protection? Whose responsibility is it to dismantle the system of racism and oppression? How does whiteness (it's assumed value, privilege and prioritization) dictate how POC view themselves? Pls forward questions, input/feedback to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com Ebony Janice Peace - "How to Be An Ally Like Miss Millie" https://youtu.be/5Ew4K82zOT8

In this episode, Samone & Meek discuss "Karens" going wild,  the Kevin Gates sex tape, Boosie IG Live & the most recent Lemonade Letter. Why do White women uphold supremacy? What was “up” with Kevin Gates performance? How are men socialized to prioritize their own sexual pleasure over their partners? How does views around molestation/rape differ when the “victim” is a male/boy? Does our culture have relaxed views on molestation/rape? Are men acknowledged in the “MeTOO” movement? How does your partner’s views on your vices/habits impact your decision to engage?

In this episode, Samone and Meek continue the conversation on COVID and its impact on how people are functioning, their relationships and economic operations, how social constructs control pleasures and Samone shares a story. What strategies and coping mechanisms are people using to manage stress, anxiety, boredom & fear? What is considered "important," and therefore, "essential?" How does societal narratives dictate our view of sex, sexuality and pleasure? How do women participate in misogynistic practices? Why do some people choose to engage in risky sexual practices?  Send feedback, questions or letters to: allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek further discuss the impacts of the COVID-19 pandemic, how it's influencing relationships, both intimate & familial, and the coping skills that are being used to manage frustration, fear and isolation. What does "social distancing" mean for intimate relationships? How can relationships survive? What happens to couples when there is already tension? How do we protect vulnerable populations? What are some creative ways to manage boredom? How do you cope with jealousy, uncertainty and loneliness when you're unable to be with your partner? *Send feedback and letters to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com*

In this episode, Samone & Meek practice social distancing while discussing the quarantine instituted as a result of the COVID-19 pandemic. How should you consider the Corona virus when engaging in intimate relationships? How are people responding to feelings of isolation/separation from the outside world? What is our social responsibility to "do our part" in minimizing/eliminating the spread? What conspiracy theories exist related to this outbreak? *KOTW will no longer be explored via the recordings. If you would like to further converse with us, pls follow our FB page/FB group page. Send all questions, feedback, inquiries for the "Lemonade Letters" to allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com Social media: FB- @allthesmokepodcast; IG- @all_the_smoke_podcast; Twitter- @allthesmoke_pod *Intro song - "Quarantine Fucking," Marc Rebillet

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the pandemic which is COVID-19, the KOTW, disabilities and sexual experiences and the most recent advice letter. What is an acrotomophile? Do fetishes reduce a person to his/her "parts?" How does consent present in parties where access to sexual experiences are limited? Is sex work a viable option to meet the needs of persons with disabilities? Why is it so difficult for men to go to DR appts? What are the perceptions of illness? Would you attempt to "hook up" a friend with a ex-lover?  Featuring the "She Said...She Said What She Said" advice segments...now referred to as the Lemonade Letters

In this episode, Samone and Meek identified the KOTW, discussed a scenario which led to violence and the justifications for the behavior, a prank that results in an impactful lesson and explored a submission for "She Said...She Said What She Said" segment. What is Salirophilia? Is betrayal, anger or embarrassment justification for violence? Do mothers' protect their sons more than their daughters? Are we teaching young people, particularly boys, that they don't need to care for their responsibilities? How important is sex in a relationship? Is a relationship over if the individuals involved don't share similar sexual interests? **Intro music - Messi (Jus O, feat Jizza Raw)**

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss the KOTW, the Dwayne Wade situation, the oppressed being oppressive, parenting and its potential impact on romantic relationships and a new relationship dilemma. What is Somnophila? Have you ever had sex dreams (sexsomnia)? How does one oppressed group justify oppressive behavior/tactics towards another marginalized group? How does parenting style impacted engagements/interactions in romantic relationships? Who should be responsible for permanent birth control decisions? Would you consider a FWB with someone with whom you aren't attracted? *Still looking for submissions for advice segment, "She Said...She Said What She Said" *Contact us at allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this lighthearted episode, Samone & Meet discuss first Meet & Greet (details below), introduced Kink of the Week (KOTW) - Pygaphila (and Anailngus), Hemotolagnia and responded to the first scenario during Advice Segment (She Said/She Said What She Said). Would you perform analingus on your partner? How do you discuss kink explorations? How transparent should you be with disclosing information to new partners?  ***1st Meet & Greet of 2020! The Fig Café & Hookah Lounge, 437 Old York Rd, Jenkintown, Pa 19046 (USA), Mar 14, 2020 @ 7p*** Contact: allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this Season 2 opener, Samone and Meek chat with guest, Focus James (The Focus of Love) about LOVE, boundaries & the need to have a village when faced with processing relational difficulties. What is LOVE and is that definition ever evolving? How do you identify, establish and implement boundaries to potential partners? How do you create new dynamics when a relationship has transitioned?  Listen for details regarding contest to win free E-Book (What is the Focus of Love?) & consultation with Life Coach, Focus James (thefocusloflove.com) Looking for stories for our relationship advice segment... Contact ATS:  allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com FB: All the Smoke Podcast (Group: YAFI-ATS Podcasts Group Page) IG: All_the_Smoke_Podcast

In this very jovial episode, Samone and Meek discuss FB dating, birth control and sexual health and a sensual massage video. When is an appropriate time to discuss safer sex practices? Also, Season 1 ending, with two episodes left. Hosts solicit questions from listeners regarding Ask the Hosts segment of last show. Send in questions to: allthesmokepodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, Samone and Meek discuss ATS, Season 1 ending and a few topics which generated buzz based off of by social media content: What's mine is OURS in marriage?; Tank and the two suck rule; Big Boy Fall vs. Thick Girl Fall; Pre-dating as a prerequisite for dating...

A review of social media viral videos, friendzoning, the "good guy" and the hero complex. Why do people choose to post certain videos? How is one placed in the friendzone? Can you get out? Why are some men compelled to "save" women?

In this episode, Samone and Meek continue the convo around sex and intimacy. How is intimacy defined? Is sex inherent in intimate relationships? Should a person consider how a potential partner was raised before they decide whether to date them? How does a dominant/submissive relationship dynamic present outside of the bedroom? Can one who subscribes to either role have intact self-esteem, self-worth and/or self-esteem?

A comedic review of the "Top Ten Lies Men Tell," unsolicted d*ck pics and consent and an exploration of boundaries and we how communicate them. What are the most common lies men tell when attempting to initiate (and maintain) relationships with women? Why do men send unsolicited pics? What do we surmise about them? How do people establish boundaries with partners? Why are they important and what are the potential ramifications for not setting and enforcing them?

A discussion about platonic relationships and how women manage relationships with friends once they enter into romantic relationships and a continuation on how to handle relationship expirations. Are women able to maintain both healthy relationships with friends and partners? What are some of the reasons we stay in toxic relationships past their expirations?

A discussion about relationship expirations and the concept of sexual fasting. How does one know when a relationship has reached its breaking point and is "broken?" Whose responsibility is it to terminate the relationship once it's deemed to be over? What is sexual fasting? How is it differentiated from celibacy? Do men participate in the practice?

The first ATS/YAFI collaboration episode...female fuckboy equivalent, sex, money and agreements, as well as dating in 2019

A discussion around some unpopular opinions regarding parenting, child rearing and relationships. What is your view on the importance of familial ties and relationships? Should Black folx spank their children? How does the power of patriarchy impact gender roles in LGBTQIA relationships?

A discussion on trust and cheating, micro peen and the "cucumber challenge". Is it a violation to go through your partner's personal items, ie. cell phone, computer, email, even though cheating is suspected? Should women pursue potential love interests? Why do some women appear to go through great lengths to be "chosen?"

The real on reciprocity in relationships; An evaluation of the concept of Energy. What does it mean to you?

A discussion around polyamory as a relationship structure and the continuation on the topic of sex and sexuality. How are they intertwined? How closely related are your views on your own sexual identity to who you engage with sexually? Are sex and sexuality mutually exclusive? What outward messages are we sending with who we choose to love?

How do one's own identified sexuality correlate with their sexual preferences? Can heterosexual men enjoy "butt play?" Who makes the rules?

Should women take a subordinate position in relationships? What are the weakest shots/pick-up lines you've ever heard? How do men (and women) perceive their level of attractiveness after the "baby body?"  

How much does pride effect your relationships with partners? How strong is your ego functioning? Are you able to give and receive the type of "love" you want? Help us explore, via our own experiences, how these concepts can impact healthy relationships.

Agreements in situationships. Can you cheat in a situationship?

On the first episode of the All The Smoke Podcast, we introduce Samone & Meek, the hosts of the show, as they speak on "Sex On The First Date" and other interesting topics.