HEAVYWEIGHT LIGHTWORK with @mscheyskye

Getting in touch with the inner you.Want: a desire for somethingNeed: circumstances in which something is necessary, or that require some course of action; necessity.Excerpt:Many of us have learned to align our wants with what others expect of us or with expectations we have created for ourselves to feel accepted by others. Too many times we are willing to settle or negotiate when it comes to honoring or fulfilling our wants fully for fear that they are either out of line or do not deserve to be honored and fully respected by another. We are taught about compromise and that “you can’t always get what you want.” This statement in and of itself causes us to not express ourselves, stand for what we want or align ourselves to all we can have and create for ourselves.Additional resources: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udOLJyDnE7khttps://www.universalclass.com/articles/self-help/how-to-determine-what-you-really-want.htmPodcast and music produced by: https://www.instagram.com/mscheyskye/ 2019 © Heavyweight Lightwork 

Today we delve into the shadow and talk about "Shadow Work."  Shadow Work is a term that is used to embrace and integrate the dark parts of ourselves, the repressed or suppressed parts of ourselves, with the light so that we can self-actualize and become our best selves operating with a greater level of awareness of others and self. References: https://scottjeffrey.com/shadow-mini-course-lesson-1/ https://scottjeffrey.com/shadow-work/ https://lonerwolf.com/shadow-work-demons/#shadow_self_test  https://lonerwolf.com/shadow-work-demons/  https://liveanddare.com/your-shadow-self-and-meditation https://mindfulnessexercises.com/shadow-exercise/ Podcast and music produced by: https://www.instagram.com/mscheyskye/ 2019 ©Heavyweight Lightwork  

Today I get deep and let you in to my world. Please take a listen. I also just posted a booklist on my IG that I created for you guys. These books have really helped me in my journey of healing and consciousness. Booklist:https://www.amazon.com/shop/mscheyskyeMusic and podcast produced by @mscheyskye ©2019 Heavyweight Lightwork

Boundaries Mudaf*ckas!I am going to put it to you like this. If you tell someone either your boss, or your boyfriend or girlfriend not to hit your toe with a hammer because it hurts, then your boss fires you or your lover breaks up with you, do you have anything to feel guilty about. Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything. I do have nine other toes…in this context do you see how ridiculous it is to put up with someone not honoring your personal interest or you not taking a stand for it. Boundaries can be big or small. For your reference and personal work, I have posted links to some of the resources that I went over in the podcast below. Boundaries Overview and Types: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/boundaries-psychoeducation-printout.pdfBoundary Exploration Worksheet:https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/boundaries-exploration-activity.pdfMusic and episode produced by @mscheyskye. © HEAVYWEIGHT LIGHTWORK 2019

You are holding the keys to your dream house. The keys are personal responsibility and forgiveness.Episode Highlights - Where to start:#1: Spend time alone. This is necessary no matter how uncomfortable it is for you, so that you may begin processing your emotions, asking tough questions, and getting clear on your own point of view. You may have had experiences in your childhood that leave you questioning whether your feelings are even real. Maybe you are crazy, yes that is it, take some Prozac, or Percocet, problem solved. You may believe all the abusive things you were told, so you overcompensate and over-perform looking for some confirmation that you are worthy. You need to spend time alone to sort this out. You cannot fill the void with others, especially if others are looking to fill voids just like you.#2: What triggers you? There are your answers. If something someone does makes you have a strong emotion it is likely that it is bringing something up for you that remains unhealed. For example, if you were abandoned by your Father for another family, you may be extra sensitive to wandering eyes, or attract the experience of reliving being abandoned through selecting partners well versed in infidelity or other forms of betrayal. If you were the whipping post for your damaged narcissistic Mother, you may be looking to continue that abuse through toxic relationships and reinforcement of the belief of your inability to be nurtured, accepted or loved.#3: Whatever your lack or wound you will continue trying to bond to that trauma in any way you can. Therefore, it is imperative to follow #1 and #2 and make the decision to become a vigilante for your self-worth. In order to create self-worth, you have to understand the concept of personal responsibility. You must understand that someone cheating on you again and again and blaming them for betrayal, is not going to create feelings of confidence and self-worth. It is only going to fuel your belief of being unworthy. Being a vigilante for your personal value will do the opposite, allowing you to build trust in yourself, even if it feels terrifying, unfamiliar and lonely at first. This is why it will help to make it your life’s mission to follow #4.#4: Research your trauma topics. This is not like the 80’s when you had to go to a library in hopes of finding something on microfiche. Everything is at your fingertips. You have audio books, YouTube videos, Instagram posts and meet-up groups. If you can afford a therapist great, do that too. Try everything under the sun. Go to a 12-step meeting, go to a crystal healing. Whatever it is try it. You will find what is for you, and the sheer act of investigating will start building in you the love and self-respect you lack.#5: Don’t be too hard on yourself! Just kidding. Be hard on yourself. Be the coach to your football team of unruly emotions. Put them in check and decide not to let them control you. You are in charge now. It doesn’t matter what happened to get you here. You have the choice now to go to the Superbowl, so let’s go. Even if you don’t follow the Tony Robbins crowd, do you think he would even have a following if he stood around saying, “Life sure is hard and I can’t get a break.” No.Bonus: Affirmations and Self-Care. In order to create new beliefs, confidence and love for yourself you will need to drill new ideas, concepts and principles into your head until it feels just as natural as it did when you were always feeling pain and encountering “drama.” Any fundamental change in a learned behavior requires repetition. One can always find a reason why they don’t have time or can’t afford something. Every time you choose not to prioritize your healing by failing to do the actions necessary to take personal responsibility for your life, you lose just a little more confidence and respect for yourself. This makes it harder to make the changes that you dream of. You can clean out your cupboards, paint something, read a book, paint your nails, build a shed. All of that is fine, and great self care, but it is of vital importance to dedicate time to healing your trauma and pain. Stop saying, “I try to meditate but I just don’t think it is for me,” instead turning on Netflix to zone out to something you don’t even like. Sit there until you get it, it will change your life.Forgiveness isn’t what you think it is. It is learning how to thank everyone that has ever hurt you. It is honoring them as part of your story and the journey that has led you to today. It is hard to thank someone and be in pain at the same time. It is not a question of if they deserve forgiveness or not. It is not an obligatory makeup with a person it is freeing them from your heart while you free yourself. You are not condoning or excusing or forgetting, you are releasing what does not serve you moving forward. This includes forgiving yourself too. Forgiving them for not being what you felt you needed and forgiving yourself for not acting sooner or for hanging on too long. If you put someone else first and made your worth contingent on how they saw you it will feel hard to forgive. Between the anger and the grieving process there is an area of vulnerability that we must address.   

Want to stop feeling like shit? Don't know where to start? Today we talk about some of the ways to start. Episode Highlights - Benefits of Consciousness:Acceptance of self: Dave Richo, PhD says it best in his book Human Becoming. “Look at the record: the history of what you have actually done in the course of your life tells you more about yourself than the fantasy of what you wish you had done or what you say you want.” This could mean you may have been a people pleaser, an over performer, a victim of self-sabotage, a doormat, a liar, an addict. Accepting who you are allows you to start understanding the unnecessary labels you have created for yourself. It also helps you to unify who you have been and who you really want to be.Understanding of self: Understanding why you have certain behaviors allows you to be aware of whether they are something that you want to keep. You may not even be aware of certain behaviors without healthy feedback. Once you do identify behavior you want to change you can use cue altering to change the stimulus either conscious or unconsciously perceived that elicits or signals a behavior. This can mean if you please people in order to feel worthy, try doing a contrary behavior when appropriate, that is best for you. This could mean saying no to spending time with someone when you really don’t want to but are afraid of their reaction.Neutralized emotional reaction: Becoming more conscious allows you to become a separate entity from your thoughts and emotions. You are more present to observe them as a witness and allow them to come and go like a house guest passing through town. You are also able to reflect and acknowledge what you are triggered by when you do feel an emotion, so that you can understand parts of yourself that may have not been recognized before. This leads you right back to acceptance.Healthier relationships: You may have heard (or not) much talk about conscious vs. toxic or karmic relationships. When you work on consciousness you can begin to see your relationships more objectively. As Don Miguel Ruiz simply articulates in The Four Agreements, “Don’t take anything personally.” You can also see what is being reflected to you and what is being taught to you by the relationship. Nothing is ever done to you; except for what you choose to believe you are having done to you. You will also be able to recognize relationships that are there to reinforce the way you see yourself. These tend to be more toxic and/or karmic relationships. These typically involve control, jealousy, and other unhealthy patterns. Or on the contrary, provide a continuous stroke to the ego. A conscious relationship will still have feelings arise, but they will be discussed and acknowledged in relation to what the person is feeling and where they think it is coming from rather than projection of what they are feeling onto you, or vice versa.Recognized Projection onto others: Projection is an ego defense and can be defined as a mental image viewed as reality. It is mostly unconscious. We project our fears or insecurities onto others every day. It shapes the way we show up to our jobs, friendships, romantic relationships and how we parent. In acknowledging this tendency to project you can shrink the gap between how you view yourself and how you are truly behaving. You can begin to accept that maybe your perception of reality has been centered around your ego and is not the reality of how you are showing up.To get a Consciousness Checklist dm me on Insta.https://www.instagram.com/mscheyskye/ on Instagram. https://medium.com/@cheyennetanner on Medium. Music Produced by: @mscheyskye

On the street there is a code, at least on the block anyway. In corporate america however there are different rules, especially when hundreds of thousands of people are being affected. What happens when you have the courage to do something about it? Guest: Chris Lewis Read more here: Keep QuietResources mentioned in Podcast: The Whistleblowers Handbook - A Step-by-Step Guide to Doing What's Right and Protecting Yourself by Stephen Martin KohnMusic Produced by: @mscheyskye 

Hey everyone thank you for tuning in to the Heavyweight Lightwork podcast I am honored to be your host my name is Cheyenne Skye Tanner. Creds I have a BS in Business Management, an MBA from Pepperdine University, a PhD from the school of hard knocks and I’m a recovering executive. Why do you want to listen to me? Well I have seen a lot of things in my humble years on this planet and my goal is to help others that desire more, to think critically about their lives and their belief system. If you are someone that believes there is more to life than what you are currently experiencing I invite you to join me in discussing how we break through the façades of success and happiness and start looking at the beliefs, habits, behavior and choices we need to make or break to experience true fulfillment. Anyone that knows me knows that I have never been a fan of small talk, so we will not small talk here. We will talk about conscious leadership, high performance and address how ego-based belief systems play out in our everyday lives and direct our decisions. So if you are ready to keep it 100 and have some real talk, hopefully walking away more equipped to find out who you really are join me on this adventure. Over and out! Let’s go!