Podcasts about four agreements

Every Word We Speak Matters: Mind, Emotions, Body and LifeEvery word we speak matters. It affects our mind, our emotions, our body, and our life. In this episode of Words... with Jill, Fiona and Jill explore the energy of language and how conscious speech changes the way we move through the world. The idea that words carry power is ancient. Sanskrit traditions hold speech as sacred, and Kabbalah sees the Hebrew letters as the building blocks of creation. Today, research on self-talk and on putting feelings into words suggests that the language we use can ease stress and change how we respond to difficult moments. Drawing on Florence Scovel Shinn's classic Your Word Is Your Wand, Fiona and Jill share practical ways to reframe conflict, meet everyday encounters with empathy, and be gentle with yourself when emotions run high. You'll come away with a new awareness of what you say to others and to yourself, and how much of it is your choice. This week, notice one word you use often. How does it feel in your body? Spiritual and cultural traditions on wordsBuddhism: Right Speech is one of the steps of the Eightfold Path: speak truthfully, kindly, and without harshness or gossip.Hebrew Bible and Judaism: Proverbs 18:21 says death and life are in the power of the tongue. The teaching against lashon hara (harmful speech) is central to Jewish ethics.Christianity: The Gospel of John opens with "In the beginning was the Word."Ancient Egypt: In the Memphite theology, the god Ptah creates the world by thinking and then speaking it. Heka, the power of the spoken word, was central to Egyptian magic and healing.Hawaiian tradition: A well-known saying, "I ka ʻōlelo nō ke ola, i ka ʻōlelo nō ka make," means "in the word is life, in the word is death."Islam and Sufism: Dhikr is the repetition of sacred names as a practice, and a well-known hadith says to speak good or remain silent.Toltec wisdom: Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements opens with "Be impeccable with your word."Aboriginal Australian tradition: Songlines carry the creation of the land through song and speech. Since you know Australia well, you may want to speak to this one yourself.Words, affirmations, and the bodyYou Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay (1984): affirmations and the link between thought patterns and physical wellbeing.The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn (1925): her earlier companion to Your Word Is Your Wand.The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton (2005): how beliefs may influence cells and health. It's popular science, and some of its claims are debated.Molecules of Emotion by Candace Pert (1997): the science-and-emotion link from a neuroscientist.Your Body Believes Every Word You Say: The Language of the Body/Mind Connection by Barbara Hoberman LevineLanguage and the brainWords Can Change Your Brain by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman (2012)Chatter by Ethan Kross (2021): the inner voice and how to work with it.Opening Up (1990) and Writing to Heal (2004) by James Pennebaker: the research on expressive writing.Conscious and compassionate speechThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (1997): "Be impeccable with your word."Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg: speaking from needs and empathy rather than blame.The Art of Communicating by Thich Nhat Hanh (2013): Buddhist Right Speech in practice.Sacred sound and lettersHealing Mantras by Thomas Ashley-Farrand (1999): Sanskrit mantra and its effects.Sefer Yetzirah, translated by Aryeh Kaplan (1990): the Kabbalistic text on creation through letters. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with someone who needs it.www.barefootenlightenment.com,www.fionawhitmore.com,www.earthtriberadio.com www.earthtriberadio.comwww.barefootenlightenment.comwww.fionawhitmore.com

Superwoman Diaries #4: Car Loop Chaos & the Case for Just Being a Good Human It's 99 degrees, school is back in session, and the drop-off line has become a test of character. In this Superwoman Diaries episode, Jessica and Kelly vent about morning traffic, dog walkers who don't know the school schedule, and the car loop parents who turn a two-second drop-off into a full farewell ceremony. What starts as a rant turns into a real conversation about what we owe each other: American individualism versus community, what Lois Lowry's The Giver shows about rule-following societies, and whether kindness needs a religious label at all. Jessica and Kelly land on something simple: be a good human, for whatever reason works for you. Then they get honest about how hard that is when you're running late and someone cuts you off. In This Episode (00:05) Fall is coming, but first, a 99-degree morning and a school run blocked by walkers, bikers, and dog owners (01:50) The $750 school bus fine and how having kids changes how you see school zones (03:07) Car loop etiquette: unclip, backpack in lap, tuck and roll (04:31) Kelly on being considerate as a member of your community (05:19) Americans and individualism, plus reading The Giver with Giovanni (07:37) Kindness, faith, and whether "treat your neighbor as yourself" belongs to any one religion (11:37) Greek mythology, parables, and the stories that shape our moral code (13:17) Staying kind in traffic, road rage, and choosing compassion over "have the day you deserve" (15:18) Kelly's new habit of shopping close to home because her time matters (more on this next Superwoman Diaries) (16:11) Nobody's perfect, and this month's freebie Key Takeaways Being considerate is a shared responsibility. If you know you'll need extra time, whether in the drop-off line or on a busy road, plan for it so you don't slow everyone else down. You don't need a specific faith to live by a moral code. Many traditions teach the same basic idea: be kind and look out for other people. When someone's behavior sets you off, try telling yourself a more compassionate story about what might be happening in their life. Nobody gets this right all the time. Jessica and Kelly are still working on it too. Resources Mentioned The Giver by Lois Lowry The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Brené Brown's books Tara Brach's podcast This Month's Freebie: The One Thing September's free download is The One Thing. Sign up for the Chasing Brighter newsletter to get it: https://chasingbrighter.com/newsletter/ Keywords & Search Terms Superwoman Diaries, Chasing Brighter podcast, school drop-off, car loop, carpool line, back to school, school zone traffic, moms podcast, sister podcast, being considerate, community, kindness, be a good human, individualism, The Giver, Lois Lowry, reading with kids, faith and morality, morals without religion, Greek mythology, Prometheus, The Four Agreements, Brené Brown, Tara Brach, road rage, compassion, traffic, Las Vegas traffic, shopping local, valuing your time, nobody's perfect, Becoming Not Arriving, real over perfect, women's podcast, personal development Connect With Us Website: chasingbrighter.com Instagram: @chasingbrighter TikTok: @chasingbrighter Facebook: @chasingbrighter YouTube: @chasingbrighter Newsletter: Sign up here A few things to check before you publish: I numbered this episode #4 based on the file name. Change it if your episode numbering is different. The transcript says "Tara Brock." I'm assuming you meant Tara Brach. I named Giovanni in the timestamps because you said his name on air. If you'd rather keep the kids' names out of the notes, change it to "reading The Giver with her son."

In this episode of Beautiful Work Beautiful Life, Laurel Holland and Laurel Boivin explore what it means to speak your truth—and to do it well.Speaking up is a skill, and like any skill, it develops through practice. But before we can communicate our truth clearly, we need to understand what we mean by "truth." Our experiences, perceptions, beliefs, and observations all shape how we understand ourselves and the world around us. Recognizing that our perspective is ours, and not necessarily someone else's, is an important part of communicating with greater awareness.Laurel and Laurel discuss the value of staying in your own lane, using "I" statements, and taking ownership of your experiences rather than speaking for others. They also explore the other half of meaningful communication: becoming a skilled listener and respectful receiver of someone else's truth.Speaking your truth well isn't about having all the answers or convincing someone else that you're right. It's about developing the agency, self-awareness, humility, and respect to express what's true for you while remaining open to the experiences and perspectives of others. And like so much of our inner work, it gets better with practice.In This Episode:Why using your voice, and using it well, is a skill developed through practiceHow conditioning around acceptance, belonging, and safety can make it difficult to speak openlyThe difference between our personal experience and the idea of an objective or universal "truth"How "I" statements help us own our experience while respecting the experiences of othersWhy speaking your truth well also requires becoming a skilled listener and respectful receiver of someone else's truthJournaling prompts are suggested to further your exploration. Where in my life am I comfortable speaking my truth—and where do I still hold back?When I communicate something important, how well do I stay with my own experience rather than making assumptions about someone else's?How might my need for acceptance, belonging, or safety influence what I say—or don't say?How well do I listen when someone shares a perspective or experience that differs from mine?What would speaking my truth with greater clarity, respect, and compassion look like in my life right now?Books mentioned:The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Host/Cohost/Guest InfoGuiding others to become effective leaders of their own lives, Laurel Holland has been on a journey of awakening and transformation throughout her life. Writing about inner work, Laurel has authored four books, including Crossroads and Love's 8 Laws. Her books, Live Your Inner Power, the Journal, and Courageous Woman, introduce, share, and explore the eight foundational practices for creating transformation from the inside out. Through her books, programs, and innovative talks, Laurel's great desire is to lift others up and courageously step into the life they came here to live. You can learn more about Laurel, her books, and work she does at www.liveyourinnerpower.com.Laurel Boivin is a leadership coach, speaker, and workshop facilitator. Founder of Flux+Flow Professional Coaching, Laurel works with high-performing professionals and mission-driven organizations to shift from achievement to alignment, helping them connect deeply to purpose, lead with confidence, and create environments where people thrive.  A Reiki master and yoga practitioner, collector of sea glass and antiques, she lives in New Hampshire and summers in Maine.  You can learn more about Laurel and the work she does at www.fluxflowcoaching.com.The email to send questions to Laurel Boivin is laurel@fluxflowcoaching.com and for Laurel Holland - laurel@liveyourinnerpower.com.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn introduces The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz: Be skeptical, but learn to listen. After exploring The Four Agreements, this episode invites listeners to go one step deeper by questioning the beliefs, stories, and inner voices they have inherited. So many of the thoughts we carry about ourselves were never consciously chosen. They were learned, absorbed, repeated, and eventually mistaken for truth. Sharyn explores how healthy skepticism can help us loosen our grip on old conditioning without becoming cynical or closed off. She also explains why deep listening is essential: listening to ourselves, to others, and to life with curiosity instead of judgment. This episode is a gentle invitation to stop believing every thought, question the stories that limit you, and listen for the truth beneath the noise. 5 Key Takeaways Many beliefs about your worth, needs and identity were absorbed from family, culture and past experiences rather than consciously chosen. Healthy skepticism is not cynical or dismissive; it is a gentle curiosity that asks whether an old story is actually the whole truth. Words, gestures and other symbols are interpreted through personal history, which is why two people can experience the same conversation very differently. Your inner critic may be an outdated recording shaped by people who carried their own fears, wounds and judgments. Healing begins when you create space between yourself and the story by remembering that you do not have to believe everything you think.   Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Feel To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Surprise, girl — there's a fifth agreement. If you walked through the Four Agreements series with me (episodes 303–306), you thought we were done at four. But Don Miguel Ruiz came back years later, with his son, and gave us one more. And it might be the one you need most — especially if you're standing at the edge of your recovery, ready to leap but quietly wondering if you have what it takes. The fifth agreement: be skeptical but learn to listen. In this episode: Be skeptical of the loudest voice. The voice saying you'll never fully recover, this is just who you are — loud and familiar is not the same as true. You're allowed to doubt the voice that's been doubting you. (Holy skepticism: take every thought captive.) But learn to listen. Skepticism alone becomes its own prison. Get quiet enough to hear what's actually true underneath the noise — your body's real signals, your recovered voice, the people who love you, and the still, small voice of God. Be discerning about who helps you. You can't do this alone — but be skeptical of fit, not of support itself. If help hasn't worked before, that doesn't mean help won't work for you. Keep looking until you find someone who truly understands eating disorder recovery. You deserve the right support, not just any support. Leap before you see the whole staircase. You don't need the full picture to take the next step. We walk by faith, not by sight. The fact that you're scared and you still want to leap? That's not what disqualifies you — that's the proof you've got what it takes. This week's practice: When "I don't have what it takes" shows up, pause and ask two questions — Is that actually true? (skepticism) and What's the truer thing underneath? (listening). Then take one small step the truer voice would take. You don't have to see the whole staircase to take the step. Doubt the lie, listen for the truth, and leap — because that willingness, right there, IS what it takes. New here? Go back to episodes 303–306 for the first four agreements, then come home to this one — it'll hit even deeper. If you're ready for support that truly understands eating disorder recovery, I'd love to walk with you. Reach out at www.herbestself.co, and come join our community of women doing this together at www.herbestselfsociety.com. Follow the Her Best Self podcast so you never miss an episode — and if this one spoke to you, share it with a woman who needs to hear it today. Connect with Lindsey:

Send us Fan MailI got invited on a podcast with a significant following. Real show. I was excited about it.Ten minutes before we go live, I get a message. Feeling under the weather, need to reschedule. Fine. People get sick.We reschedule two weeks out. This morning, ten minutes before the show, another cancellation. No explanation this time.I'm not outing anybody. He's just the example that showed up on my calendar. And once I got past being annoyed, I realized it wasn't a character problem at all. It was a difference in standards. He was operating exactly to his.I come from a world where if you're on time, you're late.So this episode is about your word — what it's worth, what it costs you when you break it, and how to call somebody out when they break theirs.-------------------------------------------THE FIRST AGREEMENTA lot of you have read The Four Agreements. The first one is "be impeccable with your word."Most people read that and hear "don't lie." That's not what it says.Ruiz breaks the word apart. Impeccable comes from the Latin for "without sin," and he defines a sin as anything you do against yourself.The first agreement was never about the other guy. Being impeccable with your word is about what breaking it does to YOU.-------------------------------------------THE TWO COSTSEvery broken word costs you twice.OUTSIDE YOU, and you never see it. Most people won't tell you. They get annoyed, they write you off quietly, and the invite doesn't come back. The referral goes to somebody else. Nobody sends you a bill for a broken agreement. Your reputation is a pile of decisions other people made about you and never told you about.INSIDE YOU, and this is the one that compounds. Every time you say you'll do something and you don't, some part of you files it away. Then you go set a real goal — the business, the race, the hard conversation — and some part of you won't buy in. You'll call it fear or bad timing or lack of motivation. It's none of those. It's an accurate risk assessment. The man making the promise has a track record, and you've read it.-------------------------------------------YOUR WORD: HONOR IT. OWN IT. CLEAN IT UP.HONOR IT — starts before you say yes. Most broken words start as a yes you should never have given. "I can't commit to that" is a real answer and people respect it more than a yes you don't mean. OWN IT — when you break one, name it in one sentence with no "because" in it. The second you add traffic or the kids or how busy it's been, you've stopped owning it and started defending yourself.CLEAN IT UP — an apology is free, so it isn't a cleanup. Do something that costs you. Reschedule on their calendar. Deliver early. Eat the expense. The cost is the pointWORK WITH MEIf you're good at what you do and can't figure out why it isn't compounding — if you keep making promises to yourself in January and quietly renegotiating them by March — if your team says yes and you can't count on it and you suspect it starts with you — that's not a discipline problem. That's a self-trust problem. And you don't fix that one alone, because you're the one who's been keeping the record.Coaching: https://www.dohardthingscoaching.comSpeaking: https://www.dohardthingscoaching.com/speaking-------------------------------------------Siegfried "Sig" Tiegs is a keynote speaker, high-performance coach, and co-author of the Amazon best seller Life on Offense: A Tactical Guide to Dominate Life and End Mediocrity. A retired Army Major with 27 years of service, he hosts the Do Hard Things™ podcast and coaches high performers at dohardthingscoaching.com.GRIT. PURPOSE. PEACE.Welcome to the Do Hard Things Podcast with your host Jay Tiegs, Are you ready to amplify and improve your life? Then you are in the right place. On this podcast we have unfiltered conversation with inspiring people who take on challenges and share with us, the wisdom from their journey. We talk about how doing hard things adequately enable all of us to deal with life's struggles and challenges and ultimately improve the quality of our lives. Support the showBig things are happening inside Do Hard Things Nation, and I want you with us.Want more support? Join the Do Hard Things Wellness Academy. Four coaches. Weekly mindset training, movement, breathwork, meditation, book club, and challenges. Join as a member here:

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn continues the Fourth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Always Do Your Best. This episode explores why the Fourth Agreement is the one that makes the first three agreements sustainable. Without compassion, “Be impeccable with your word,” “Don't take anything personally,” and “Don't make assumptions” can become another way to judge ourselves. Listeners are invited to practice growth without punishment, accountability without shame, and reflection without self-attack. This episode reminds us that healing is not about doing the agreements perfectly. It is about noticing, returning, and doing our honest best. 5 Key Takeaways The Fourth Agreement holds the other three together. “Always do your best” makes the other agreements sustainable without turning them into another reason to punish yourself. Doing your best means practicing imperfectly. You will sometimes say the wrong thing, take something personally, make assumptions, react from old wounds, or fall back into old patterns. There is a difference between reflection and punishment. Reflection asks what you can learn, repair, or support differently; punishment turns the experience into something wrong with you. Progress does not mean you never repeat an old pattern. Progress can mean noticing sooner, repairing faster, pausing before reacting, asking instead of assuming, or coming back to yourself more quickly. Doing your best is responsibility without shame. It includes apologizing, listening, repairing, getting support, and changing patterns without using mistakes as a reason to destroy yourself. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

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Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn begins the Fourth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Always Do Your Best. This episode explores what “doing your best” really means, and what it does not mean. Many of us were taught that our best should be the same every day, no matter what we are carrying. But our best changes depending on our energy, health, emotions, grief, responsibilities, and season of life. Listeners are invited to release the harsh version of “doing your best” and replace it with something more honest, compassionate, and sustainable: doing what is truly possible today, no more and no less. 5 Key Takeaways Doing your best does not mean being perfect. It means doing the best you can with what you actually have today—your current energy, responsibilities, nervous system, and capacity. Your best will change from moment to moment. What you can give when healthy, rested, and peaceful may be completely different from what you can give when exhausted, grieving, or struggling. Stop measuring a hard time by an easy time's standard. When life changes, your capacity changes, and that does not automatically mean you are failing. Doing your best does not mean doing the most. Sometimes your best means doing less, choosing sustainability over performance, resting, or honoring your limits. Ask yourself, “What is my honest best today?” Showing up honestly with what you truly have—no more and no less—creates less regret and unnecessary self-judgment. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

We made it, sis — the finale of our Four Agreements series. If you've walked through these with me — impeccable with your word, don't take it personally, don't make assumptions — I am so proud of you. Today we bring it all home. And I saved my favorite for last, because this fourth agreement holds a word that means everything to me — it's literally the name of this show. The fourth agreement is: always do your best. Not perfect. Your best. And by the end of today, I hope you feel the weight of perfection lift right off your shoulders — because chasing perfect is exactly what keeps the eating disorder alive, and your best? Your best is enough. (New here? Go back to Parts 1–3 first — they build to this.) This is the agreement that makes the others stick This one comes last for a reason: it's the engine. Doing your best is what allows the other three agreements to become habits. You don't master speaking truth, releasing what others think, or dropping assumptions in a day — you do your best with them today, then again tomorrow, and slowly they become who you are. This agreement isn't about knowing. It's about action. Because information isn't enough — doing your best is how the knowing becomes the living. Not perfection — excellence Doing your best is not being perfect. Perfect is a moving target that doesn't exist — and the eating disorder is obsessed with it, moving the goalposts so your best is never enough. Chasing perfect keeps the disorder alive, because perfect can never be reached, so you can never rest. Your best is different. Your best is excellence — showing up, in alignment with your values, as fully as you can today. And here's the freeing part: your best won't always look the same. Your best in the morning is different than your best at night. Your best on a strong day is different than on a hard day. Both count. When you're exhausted, rest is your best. When you're depleted, nourishing yourself is your best. You're not failing when your best looks different — you're being human. Your best includes rest and grace Doing your best means rest. You'll be productive, yes — but you'll also be good to yourself and to others. The disorder's version of "your best" is grind, punish, earn, never stop. That's not your best, sis — that's self-abandonment in a productivity costume. Real best-doing means taking action because you want to be healthy — not chasing a reward, not running from fear. It means nourishing instead of avoiding, honoring instead of punishing. And when you do your best from love instead of fear, something incredible happens: you learn to accept yourself. No judgment. No guilt. Because you know you showed up as fully as you could — and that is enough. Your best gets better Here's the hope: your best isn't static. As you build better habits — as the first three agreements take root — your best gets better. The woman doing her best today, scared and shaky and imperfect, is building the woman whose best a year from now is steadier, freer, stronger. You're not behind. You're in practice. You're growing. Every time you do your best, you're not just getting through the day — you're becoming her. From love, not obligation If you take action because you have to — dreading it, out of pure obligation — you're better off not taking it at all. So much of what the disorder drives is have to: have to work out, have to eat clean, have to earn it. That's not doing your best — that's obeying a cage. Your best flows from want to: I want to be healthy, I want to be free, I want to be here for my life. And you can't do your best while living in the past or the future — not while replaying yesterday or panicking about tomorrow. Your best only exists right here, right now, in this choice. That's the only place freedom lives. All four agreements, together Look at what we've built: Be impeccable with your word — stop letting the disorder write your inner voice; speak truth over yourself. Don't take anything personally — what others do is about them; your worth was never on the table; come out of isolation. Don't make assumptions — stop believing the disorder's stories and the rules you never questioned; ask for the truth. Always do your best — take action from love, not fear; let your best be enough, and watch it turn the other three into who you are. Four promises to yourself — and every one takes power back from the disorder and hands it to her, the recovered you. This is her best self This show is called Her Best Self for a reason. Not her perfect self — that woman doesn't exist, and chasing her is what kept you sick. Her best self. The woman who shows up, does her best, rests when she needs to, nourishes instead of punishes, speaks truth, and grows a little freer every day. Being your best is just being you. Not the shrunken you, not the performing you, not the perfect you the disorder promised would finally be enough. The real you — nourished, honored, present, growing. That woman is your best self, and she's been in there the whole time. Doing your best is simply how you let her out. Your best is enough, sis. You are enough. You always were. A few lines from the episode "Chasing perfect keeps the eating disorder alive — because perfect can never be reached, so you can never rest." "Your best won't always look the same. When you're exhausted, rest is your best." "If you take action because you have to, you're better off not taking it at all." "Being your best is just being you." "Not her perfect self — that woman doesn't exist. Her best self." "Your best is enough. You are enough. You always were." Your work this week (and beyond) Do your best. Today's best — whatever it looks like today. And when the voice screams that it's not enough, that it's not perfect, you remind her: "My best is enough. And I'm becoming her best self, one day at a time." The series is complete — here's your next step That's all four agreements, sis. Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best. One brave, imperfect, growing, magnificent you. If you want someone walking beside you as you practice these and step into your best self, that's the whole heart of what I do: Connect with Lindsey:

What if love doesn't require attachment? What if grief doesn't have to become suffering? And what if discernment—not judgment—is what actually protects our peace? In this episode of Coffee with John & Joni, John English and Joni Lerner respond to a thoughtful listener question about several powerful Toltec concepts before diving deeply into Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements. Together, they explore: • Attachment vs. Love — the difference between unconditional love and the expectations, conditions, and stories we attach to relationships. • Suffering vs. Grief — how grief can become an expression of how deeply we love rather than another story about what has happened to us. • Judgment vs. Discernment — moving away from making people or situations "good" or "bad" and instead asking a much more useful question: Do I want this in my life? Then John and Joni unpack the Four Agreements: Don't Take Anything Personally Other people do what they do for their own reasons. Their projections don't have to become our reality. Don't Make Assumptions Our minds create stories based on our filters and beliefs. What happens when we stop pretending we know how things will turn out? Be Impeccable With Your Word The words we speak to others—and the words we speak to ourselves—have power. What would change if we became kinder to our own internal dialogue? Always Do Your Best Your best changes from day to day. Letting go of perfectionism and simply showing up fully can free us from the "shoulda, coulda, woulda" cycle. At the heart of this conversation is a simple but powerful invitation: Stop. Look. Choose. Pause. Become aware of what is happening. Notice the story you're telling yourself. And then choose how you want to participate in your own life. If you're ready to explore these teachings more deeply, join John and Joni at Paradise Ranch Retreat in Trinidad, Colorado, or explore Joni's book, STOP LOOK CHOOSE: Your Journey to Peace and Freedom.

What if your business didn't have to feel like a constant grind, but instead served as a direct extension of your spiritual practice? In this episode, Emily sits down with Kayla Winter, multidimensional brand strategist, systems alchemist, author, and President of Solopreneur Productions. Together, they dive deep into what it truly takes to run a high-vibrational spiritual business without burning out your human self. Kayla shares her unique approach to blending corporate strategy with mystical wisdom, how to apply the Four Agreements into daily business operations, and why building sacred systems is the key to creating sustainable abundance and long-term impact. In this episode, we cover: Life as a Spiritual Continuum: Why there is zero separation between your "everyday life" and your "spiritual life" it's all divine code and choices. The Anthropology of Business: Understanding why people gather, why they buy, and how to authentically steward your sphere of influence. Business Operations via The Four Agreements: Applying radical transparency, non-attachment, and flawless communication inside high-vibration teams. Nervous System vs. Sacred Systems: How to stop relying on your nervous system to hold your business together and start building repeatable, supportive containers. Content & Abundance Systems: Simple, aligned ways to archive content ideas, price your services accurately, and detach from energetic bottlenecks. The Star Prints Framework: Kayla's channeled archetypal system, the Matrix of Refraction, and how understanding your divine prism shifts you out of shadow dynamics. About Kayla Winter Kayla Winter is a multidimensional brand strategist, visionary leader, and systems alchemist. Her career as an international marketing and tech consultant bridged the corporate realm and her passion for brand alchemy and systems architecture. Most of all, she's obsessed with the anthropology of why people gather, why they buy, and why they believe. Today, she brings all of that to her work as President leading Solopreneur Productions alongside CEO Joeaux Robey. Connect with Kayla & Resources Mentioned Conscious Creator Circle (CCC): Join the community at soulopreneur.com/ccc (Use code EMILYCCC for your first month free!) The Star Prints System & Book: Discover your profile at thestarprints.com Soulopreneur Productions: Learn more about brand visibility and support at soulopreneur.com Soulmate Client Clarity Guide | Custom GPT: http://soulopreneur.com/yes-please Episodes with Soulopreneur:Interview with Joyeaux Robey Interview with Marilyn Harper of Adironnda If you loved this episode, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review and share it on Instagram - don't forget to tag @emilythemystic! Work with Emily

We're on Part 3 of our Four Agreements series, sis — and this one might be the sneakiest of them all. So far we've learned to be impeccable with our word, and to stop taking things personally. Today's agreement ties them together: don't make assumptions. Because here's the truth — the eating disorder is a master storyteller. It makes up stories all day long, then hands them to you as if they're facts. Today, we learn to stop believing the lies. (New here? Go back and start with Parts 1 and 2 — they build.) We assume about everything The problem isn't that we make assumptions. It's that we swear they're real. As the book puts it, "we make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do." She didn't text back — she's mad. He looked at my plate — he thinks I'm eating too much. They went quiet — they were talking about my body. We don't check. We don't ask. We decide it's true and live like it's true. And from that one habit, so much suffering is born — we blame, we react, we misunderstand, we create drama out of thin air. Almost all of our sadness is rooted in making assumptions. The eating disorder is a master storyteller The disorder doesn't deal in facts — it deals in stories. It fills every silence, every glance, every unanswered question with the same story: they noticed. they judged. you're not enough. You have no evidence for any of it. But because the story feels so real, you believe it, react to it, restrict because of it, isolate because of it. We only see what we want to see — and when your lens is a disorder, you'll find "proof" for its lies everywhere. Making assumptions leads to chaos, and the disorder loves chaos, because it keeps you too spun-out to question it. The assumptions that become rules Here's where it gets really sneaky in recovery — assumptions don't just create stories, they create rules. We assume wellness culture knows best — that the influencer, the diet, the "clean eating" plan knows what your body needs better than your body does. So we take on their rules as gospel: can't eat past this hour, have to earn it, have to burn it, never skip the workout. And we never stop to ask: Is this actually nourishing my body? Is this genuinely healthy for me? Or is it just diet culture wrapped in a pretty bow of fake news? Because we don't ask, we obey — and every unquestioned rule makes the disorder stronger. The assumption becomes the cage. My biggest assumption I lived this one, sis. My biggest assumption in my whole journey was: if I eat more, I'll never stop gaining weight. I was convinced that if I nourished myself, my body would balloon endlessly and everyone would look at me and go, "Oh my gosh, look at her." That assumption left me chained. Trapped. Terrified for a very long time — too scared to move forward, but exhausted from the cycle of restriction and over-exercising. I was suffering over something that had never happened and that I had zero evidence for. I just assumed it was true, and let it run my life. The question that cracked it open: "But do you like it now?" Here's the question I want to ask you, gently. You're assuming that if you gain weight, you won't like your body. But sis… do you like it now? The disorder promises that staying exactly like this — restricting, controlling, shrinking — is protecting some peace with your body. But are you at peace right now? Or are you already at war with your body while telling yourself you're staying this way to avoid being at war with it? You don't need to gain a pound to be miserable in your body — the disorder has you doing that today. The peace you're protecting doesn't exist. So you're not actually choosing between peace and weight gain. You're choosing between this war and the chance at real freedom. The antidote: ask The antidote to making assumptions is to ask. With people: "Hey, are we okay?" instead of assuming. With the rules: "Is this actually nourishing me, or a rule I never questioned?" With yourself: "Do I have real evidence for this — or did the disorder just hand me a story?" Asking is how you find your voice. It's how you get to the truth. And the truth is almost always so much kinder than the story the disorder tells. How this ties the agreements together This is why it's the third agreement — it weaves the first two together. When you stop making assumptions, you naturally become impeccable with your word (no more false stories), and you naturally stop taking things personally (you ask what's true instead of assuming it's all about you). The three agreements hold hands. Information isn't enough You can understand every word of this and still stay stuck. Because information isn't what changes your life — action is. Knowing the disorder makes up stories doesn't set you free. Catching the story and choosing to ask instead — that's what sets you free. That's the difference between the woman who listens to recovery podcasts forever, and the woman who actually gets free. A few lines from the episode "The problem isn't that we make assumptions. It's that we swear they're real." "The eating disorder doesn't deal in facts. It deals in stories." "Because you don't ask, you obey — and every unquestioned rule makes the disorder stronger. The assumption becomes the cage." "You're assuming that if you gain weight, you won't like your body. But do you like it now?" "Information isn't what changes your life. Action is." Your work this week Catch the story. Every time you notice yourself assuming — they're judging me, if I eat more I'll never stop, this rule is keeping me safe — pause and ask: "Is this true, or is this a story the disorder wrote?" Then do the brave thing: ask the real question. Question one rule. Seek one truth. Find your voice. Coming up: the finale This is Part 3 of the Four Agreements in Recovery — one to go. Make sure you're following so you don't miss the finale, where all four agreements come together. You don't have to untangle the lies alone If you're realizing how many stories and rules you've been living inside — and you want support separating the disorder's lies from the truth — that's exactly the work I do with women one-on-one and in the Recovery Collective. Connect with Lindsey:

In this episode, Dr. Debi sits down with Stacie Shifflett, founder of Modern Consciousness, to explore what it takes to move from anger and betrayal into clarity, intention, and joy. After her 28 year marriage imploded, Stacie refused to simply drift like a leaf bumping along the current. Instead she threw herself into over a decade of personal development, working with figures like Tony Robbins and Joe Dispenza, before surrendering to an idea she'd resisted for two years: building a company around everything she'd learned about the human condition.  Stacie shares the moment she realized she didn't want to become the woman she met in a grief support group, someone who hadn't left her house in five years after losing a child, and how that realization became a turning point in her own healing. She and Dr. Debi dig into the real difference between insight and rumination, why intuition sounds different from your inner critic, and why intentionality, not a single big leap, is what actually moves people forward.  Whether you're navigating divorce, betrayal, grief, or simply a season of disruption, this conversation offers a grounded, practical roadmap for reclaiming your peace of mind and choosing who you want to be next.  In This Episode:  Why Stacie describes her post-divorce self as 'a leaf going down the stream, bumping into rocks,' and the moment she decided to stop  How two years of resistance turned into the founding of Modern Consciousness  The real difference between insight and staying stuck in analysis  A story from a grief support group that reframed how Stacie thinks about staying stuck versus moving forward  Why 'sometimes the right thing to do is the hardest' became a phrase she coined for herself  The difference between the voice of intuition and the voice of the ego, and how to tell them apart  Why intentionality, not a single big decision, is what actually creates change  How the Four Agreements shaped her early healing, especially the practice of not making assumptions  Why she believes peace of mind is our greatest personal asset  The one question she keeps coming back to: do you want to stay where you are?  Resources Mentioned:  Treasure Map to Joy — Stacie Shifflett (book, a parable of one woman's journey from disruption to joy)  The Four Agreements — Don Miguel Ruiz  The Five Stages of Betrayal Recovery — ThePBTInstitute.com  Connect with Stacie Shifflett:  Website: modernconsciousness.com  Connect with Dr. Debi  The PBT Institute: https://ThePBTInstitute.com 

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn concludes the three-part exploration of the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode focuses on the daily practice of living with more clarity, emotional maturity, and tolerance for uncertainty. Sharyn explores how assumptions show up not only in relationships, but also in the way we judge ourselves, predict the future, and interpret our own healing journey. Listeners are guided through practical tools for separating facts from stories, asking direct questions, tolerating not knowing, and replacing fear-based assumptions with grounded truth. This episode is a compassionate reminder that peace often begins when we stop treating our guesses as facts. 5 Key Takeaways The goal is not to never make assumptions. The practice is to notice when you are assuming and choose clarity over fear. Separate what you know from the story you created. Ask yourself what is actually true, then identify what meaning you added on top of it. Ask direct questions instead of filling in the blanks. Clarifying what someone meant can interrupt anxiety, resentment, and the stories your mind creates. Learn to tolerate not knowing. You do not have to fill uncertainty with your worst fear; sometimes the most honest answer is simply, “I do not know yet.” Pause, name it, check, and choose. Notice the assumption, identify what you actually know, decide what you can ask, and then choose whether to wait, clarify, soothe yourself, or speak directly. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Earlier this week in Episode 303, we starved the eating disorder voice by getting impeccable with our word. Today, we're coming for the next thing the disorder feeds on — and sis, this one is sneaky, because it feels like just being "sensitive" or "self-aware," when it's actually one of the fastest ways you hand the disorder your power. The one thing the eating disorder loves? When you take everything personally. Because taking things personally leads you straight into the place the disorder thrives most: isolation. Today, in Part 2 of our Four Agreements series, we're breaking that cycle — and I'm sharing the research on why the isolation is so soul-sucking, and so hard to climb out of alone. Here's the truth that stopped me cold: you take things personally because you assume everything is about you. That comment. That look at your plate. The friend who didn't text back. You absorb it and make it mean something about your body, your worth, your not-enoughness. But here's the freeing truth: nothing others do is because of you. What people say, do, and think is a projection of their reality — their beliefs, their wounds, their bad day, their own relationship with food and body. When someone comments on your body, even a "compliment," that's coming from their programming. It's a window into them. It was never the truth about you. Why the eating disorder LOVES this: The disorder is obsessed with making everything about you. It's the most self-focused voice in your head — narrating every glance and comment as they're judging you, they noticed, they know. Why? Because when everything is about you, you turn inward. You shrink. You isolate. And an isolated woman is so much easier to control. When you take things personally, you pull back — you skip the dinner, cancel the plans, avoid the room. You retreat right into the disorder's arms, and it loves that. Taking things personally is one of the fastest ways to hand the disorder your power. This is the part I really want you to hear, because it's backed by real research. Studies show that disordered eating and loneliness feed each other in a vicious cycle — the disordered eating drives you to withdraw and hide your behaviors from people who love you, and that isolation and loneliness then drive more disordered eating as a way to numb and to feel in control. Round and round. The disorder isolates you, and the isolation strengthens the disorder. And here's the part that gives me chills: researchers have found your brain has shared circuitry for hunger and social isolation. Meaning — when you're cut off from people, your brain craves connection the way it craves food. You are literally starving for connection when you isolate. Your soul is hungry, sis — and the disorder keeps telling you to eat alone in the dark. How to take your power back: When someone says or does something and you feel that sting — that is this about me? spiral starting — pause and say: "This is about them, not me." The friend who didn't text back → she's overwhelmed with her own life. The mom watching your plate → that's her anxiety, her generation's diet culture, her wound. The comment about your body → that's their programming, not the truth about your worth. None of it requires you to shrink. Because your worth is not up for a vote. When you stop taking things personally, other people's opinions lose their power over you — you can let a comment pass right through you, like wind through a screen door. It doesn't have to land. It doesn't have to become another brick in the disorder's wall. The faith anchor: Your worth was not assigned by people, so it cannot be revoked by people. You were fearfully and wonderfully made by a God who doesn't make mistakes — and if your worth was settled by Him before you took your first breath, then no comment, no glance, no opinion at a dinner table gets to override it. When you know whose you are, you stop needing everyone else to tell you who you are. A few lines from the episode: "You take things personally because you assume everything is about you. It never was." "When someone comments on your body, that's a window into them — not the truth about you." "An isolated woman is so much easier for the disorder to control." "You are literally starving for connection when you isolate. Your soul is hungry." "Your worth is not up for a vote." "Let it pass through you, like wind through a screen door." Your work this week: When something stings — a comment, a look, a silence — catch the spiral and practice: "This is about them, not me." Let it pass through. Then do the brave thing the disorder hates most: don't isolate. Send the text. Say yes to the plan. Stay in the room. Reach toward a person instead of retreating into the disorder. Coming up in the series: This is Part 2 of the Four Agreements in Recovery. Two agreements down, two to go — and each one takes a little more power back from the disorder. Make sure you're following so you don't miss what's next. You don't have to do this in the dark: If the isolation has been especially heavy — if you're realizing just how alone this disease has made you — that's exactly why I built the Recovery Collective: a room full of women who get it, so you never have to do this alone again. Your soul is hungry for that connection, sis. Let's feed it.

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I've been reading a book that wrecked me in the best way — The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz — and I could not stop seeing recovery on every single page. So we're kicking off a brand-new series: the Four Agreements, through the lens of eating disorder recovery. These four simple promises you make with yourself have the power to break the stories and the self-betrayal that keep you stuck — which is exactly why they're so pivotal to becoming free. We're starting with the first, and the one I believe everything else stands on: be impeccable with your word. Because sis, that voice in your head has been holding the pen for far too long — and today, we start taking it back. What "impeccable" really means Most of us hear "be impeccable with your word" and think don't lie, keep your promises to others. But it goes so much deeper. Impeccable traces back to a root meaning "without sin" — without self-betrayal. So being impeccable with your word means your words stand in full integrity with your truth. It means you don't use your words against yourself — not the ones you say out loud, and especially not the ones you say silently, in your own mind. And if you have an eating disorder, hear this: your words haven't been impeccable — not because you're bad, but because the disorder has been writing them for you. Your word has been hijacked The word is the most powerful tool you have. It can create, and it can destroy — and the eating disorder knows it. Think about what you say to yourself in a single day: I'm disgusting. I shouldn't have eaten that. I'll start over Monday. I have no self-control. I don't deserve to rest. That's not you being impeccable with your word. That's you using your most powerful tool as a weapon against your own body and soul. Every time you speak those words — even silently — you're agreeing with the lie, signing a contract that says this is true, this is who I am. The eating disorder voice survives on your word. It cannot keep its grip if you stop agreeing with it. Standing in your truth, no matter what Being impeccable with your word in recovery means you stand in your truth, no matter what the voice says. The voice will come — you don't need to eat, you've had enough, earn it first. Being impeccable means you don't repeat it, don't co-sign it. You catch the word and correct it back to truth: Voice: "I'm disgusting." → Truth: "My body is healing, and I am worthy right now." Voice: "I'll start over Monday." → Truth: "I honor my body today." You are not obligated to believe every thought that passes through your mind. You get to decide which words you agree with — and every time you refuse the lie and choose truth, you weaken the disorder and strengthen her, the recovered you. The words you speak over others boomerang back There's a sneaky layer here: being impeccable also means how you speak about other people's bodies and lives. When you comment on another woman's body — even a compliment, even "she looks so good, she must've lost weight" — you reinforce the very belief system keeping you sick. You're agreeing, out loud, that bodies are for ranking and thinner is better. And that word boomerangs right back onto you. A woman who is free doesn't trade in the currency that keeps everyone imprisoned. This is a faith thing, too This agreement is all over Scripture. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. The word spoke the whole world into being. Your words aren't neutral, sis — they're creative. They're building something every day: either a prison, or a path to freedom. So what are you speaking over yourself? Over your body? Over your recovery? Are your words building the life you say you want — where there's so much more than this, where this cannot be it — or quietly agreeing with the thing keeping you stuck? Why this is the foundation You can't rebuild trust with your body or step into your true identity while your word is betraying you every day. Being impeccable with your word is the daily, moment-to-moment practice of refusing to speak the disorder's language. And I promise you — it is only a matter of time. If you stand in your truth no matter what, catching your word and correcting it back to what's real, again and again? The voice cannot survive in a mind that stops agreeing with it. A few lines from the episode "That voice in your head has been holding the pen for far too long. Today, we take it back." "You're using the most powerful tool you have as a weapon against your own body and soul." "The eating disorder voice survives on your word. It can't keep its grip if you stop agreeing with it." "You are not obligated to believe every thought that passes through your mind." "A woman who is free doesn't trade in the currency that keeps everyone imprisoned." "Death and life are in the power of the tongue — your words are building a prison or a path." Your work this week Catch your word. Every time you notice yourself speaking something cruel — out loud or in your head, about yourself or anyone else — pause. Name it: "That's not my truth. That's the disorder's word." Then speak the true thing instead — even if you don't believe it yet. Especially if you don't believe it yet. The belief follows the word. Coming up in the series This is Part 1 of the Four Agreements in Recovery. Be sure you're following the show so you don't miss the next agreement — because each one builds on this foundation, and together they've been pivotal in my own recovery and in the work I do with clients. You don't have to do this alone If you want support learning to speak truth over your recovery — someone in your corner catching the lies with you and calling you back to who you really are — that's the heart of what I do in one-on-one coaching and the Recovery Collective.

In this Growth Amplifiers episode, Kenny Harper welcomes returning guest Alicia Katz Pollock of Royalwise to discuss rapid changes in QuickBooks and AI. Alicia explains how Intuit's new QuickBooks Online interface (July 2025) forced her to rewrite a 600-page QBO textbook for Questiva Consultants and revamp Royalwise's 50+ NASBA CPE-certified courses through a weekly “Great QBO Refresh.” She shares outcomes from rebuilding her curriculum in order, describes translating the training library into Spanish using AI voice technology, and highlights challenges of fast-moving AI tools, shiny-object chasing, and the risks of trusting people-pleasing LLMs for financial decisions. Alicia outlines how Royalwise's membership community and office hours help users keep up with QBO changes, notes Royalwise's BDO Alliance growth strategy award, and cites The Four Agreements as guiding principles. This video breaks down key concepts from the book Mastering Online Complete, focusing on how professionals can improve their presence during virtual meetings. Whether you are leading a team call or presenting to clients, understanding how to command attention through a screen is essential for clear communication. Kenny and Alicia discuss specific techniques for holding materials, engaging your audience, and maintaining focus while on camera. By applying the principles of Mastering Online Complete, you will see how minor adjustments in your video conference setup can lead to more professional and impactful interactions. These online communication tips are designed for anyone looking to refine their virtual presentation skills. Subscribe for weekly virtual communication breakdowns, and tell us in the comments which online presentation challenge you want us to cover next.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn continues the Third Agreement from The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode focuses on how assumptions quietly create conflict in relationships. From assuming we know what someone meant, to assuming others should know what we need, to turning one moment into a fixed story about someone's character, assumptions can create distance, resentment, and misunderstanding. Through relatable examples and therapeutic reflection, this episode invites listeners to practice asking direct, gentle questions instead of reacting to unverified stories. It is a reminder that clarity is often more loving than certainty, and that many relationship conflicts soften when we are brave enough to ask instead of assume. 5 Key Takeaways Assumptions can do serious damage in relationships. Conflict begins when we respond to the meaning we assigned instead of what the other person actually meant. Our wounds can translate neutral words into painful meanings. Pause long enough to separate what was actually said from the story you created about it. People cannot read your mind—even when they love you. Clearly communicating what you need gives the relationship a better chance than hinting, hoping, testing, or expecting. Hidden tests create hidden resentment. Instead of testing whether someone cares, bring your needs into the open and give them the opportunity to respond. Don't treat unverified guesses as confirmed truth. Stay curious and communicate directly while still recognizing genuine patterns, red flags, and repeated behavior. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this episode, Dr. Judith explores how many patterns people try to change aren't simple habits but unconscious “childhood rules” learned in families—often invisible, unspoken conclusions about what you must do to stay safe, valued, and loved. She explains how these rules can masquerade as personality traits and function like an outdated alarm system that triggers guilt, fear, and over-responsibility in adult life. Through examples of Claire, who struggles to receive help, and Renee, whose independence blocks trustworthy connection, Dr. Judith shows how survival strategies can become prisons. Using the Exodus “wilderness” metaphor and Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements, she offers reflective questions and practical steps: identify the rule, honor what it once protected, name what it costs now, choose a new commitment, and practice one small action to embody freedom and soul progress.00:00 Hidden Childhood Rules01:25 Visible vs Invisible Rules03:04 Rules Disguised as Personality07:00 Claire The Strong One12:19 Outdated Alarm System15:25 Inherited Family Patterns18:28 Exodus And Inner Freedom23:56 Renee And Trust29:06 Four Agreements Reframed35:18 Rewrite The Rule40:53 Practice New Evidence43:50 Closing Reflection

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn begins the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode explores why the mind creates stories when there is missing information, especially in moments of silence, uncertainty, or emotional vulnerability. Whether it is an unanswered text, a change in someone's tone, or a look we interpret as rejection, assumptions can quickly turn uncertainty into suffering. Listeners are invited to notice the difference between what actually happened and the story they built on top of it. This episode offers a compassionate look at why we assume, how assumptions connect to old wounds, and how healing begins when we learn to pause before believing every story our mind creates. 5 Key Takeaways Assumptions turn missing information into stories. We often react as though those stories are facts, even when the original situation may be simple. The mind assumes because it wants certainty and safety. It fills gaps using past fears, old wounds, and expectations. Pause between the trigger and the story. Ask what you actually know, what you are guessing, and what else could be true. Assumptions can become self-fulfilling prophecies. A defensive reaction to an unverified belief can create the very conflict you feared. Separate facts from assumptions. You do not need to punish yourself with worst-case guesses or treat fear as fact. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

What if the things causing you the most suffering are also the places where you're giving away your power? In this second episode of Coffee with John & Joni, we go deeper into the Toltec understanding of power and explore the Four Practices of Power: non-attachment, non-judgment, non-suffering, and walking in beauty. John English, bestselling author and longtime teacher of the practical Toltec Path of Freedom, explains how these four practices can transform the way we experience relationships, challenges, decisions, and everyday life. We talk about: • How attachment creates expectations—and suffering • The difference between connection and attachment • Why letting go doesn't mean giving up • How non-judgment opens the door to discernment • Why the need to be right creates conflict • How to distinguish physical pain from emotional suffering • Why talking about our challenges can help us see more clearly • What it means to "walk in beauty" • How the Four Practices connect with The Four Agreements • How to use these teachings as practical tools rather than simply ideas Joni also shares personal stories about relationships, people-pleasing, learning discernment, and discovering the freedom that comes from no longer needing to be right. These are the kinds of conversations John and Joni have been having over coffee for years. Now they're inviting you into the conversation. And perhaps the most important invitation from today's conversation is this: Dare to believe that you are so much more than you ever dared to dream—and that walking in beauty is your birthright. The next Coffee with John & Joni conversation will explore The Four Agreements and how they can be applied to everyday life. Learn more about coaching, retreats, and Warrior's Gate 1: Seeing the Dream at ParadiseRanchRetreat.com.

http://FisherMultiMedia.comAre you a pest control owner looking to grow? Join Our Facebook Group with 4,600+ Members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/pestcontrolmillionairesBenjamin Williams is the founder of Pest Ref Services, a Central Florida pest control company he built from the ground up in 2020. A former technician turned entrepreneur, Benjamin is passionate about systems, personal growth, and mentoring the next generation in an industry he calls a hidden gem.Pest Ref Services: https://www.pestrefservices.com/Jonas's Socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonasaolson/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonas.olson.18/Check out Jonas's Book ‘'Zip Code Kings'': https://pestcontrolmillionaires.com/zip-code-kings/The Pest Control Millionaire Podcast is all about helping small business owners scale their lawn and pest companies by talking to experts in the service industry.For business coaching and mentorship, visit: pestcontrolmillionaires.com Produced by Sofia Salaverri and Dalton Fisher, Fisher Multimedia LLCFisherMultiMedia.comChapters: 00:00 — Welcome & Intro01:03 — Growing Up & Early Jobs03:29 — The Pivot King: Welding, Trucking & Finding Pest Control06:03 — Getting Started at Massey Services09:24 — The Entrepreneur Bug & Moving into Sales12:44 — The Non-Compete, COVID & Taking the Leap16:16 — Going Full-Time18:15 — The First 100 Customers & Building the Brand22:24 — Getting Out of the Technician Box26:36 — The Hardest Days30:25 — Rebranding, Systems & Growing to $2 Million42:33 — The Four Agreements & Final Advice#pestcontrolmarketing #pestcontrolbusiness #pestcontrolleads #pestcontrolowner #pestcontrolpodcast #jonasolson

What if the biggest obstacle to your healing isn't that you're doing the work wrong... but that you're turning the work itself into another impossible standard?In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, HeatherAsh Amara welcomes longtime friend and bestselling author Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. for an honest exploration of conditional love, personal freedom, and what it really means to practice the Toltec teachings.Together they unpack the surprising difference between The Four Agreements and what Miguel calls the Four Conditions—those moments when we use spiritual teachings to judge ourselves instead of set ourselves free.They also dive into the Five Levels of Attachment, why we cling to identities and beliefs, and how reclaiming our ability to choose is at the heart of genuine healing.Whether you're new to these teachings or have practiced them for years, this conversation offers a compassionate invitation to loosen your grip on perfection and return to yourself.In This EpisodeWhy we unconsciously turn spiritual teachings into another form of self-judgmentThe difference betweenThe Four Agreementsand the "Four Conditions"How conditional love shapes the way we relate to ourselves and othersThe Five Levels of Attachment and how beliefs become identitiesWhy personal freedom begins with reclaiming your ability to chooseHow to course-correct with compassion instead of punishmentThe role of unconditional love in healing and transformationMentioned in This EpisodeThe Four Agreementsby Don Miguel RuizThe Five Levels of Attachmentby don Miguel Ruiz Jr.Living a Life of Awarenessby don Miguel Ruiz Jr.The Mastery of Selfby don Miguel Ruiz Jr.About Don Miguel RuizDon Miguel Ruiz Jr. is a Toltec Master of Transformation, speaker, and author of The Mastery of Self, The Five Levels of Attachment, co-author of The Seven Secrets to Healthy, Happy Relationships, and The Mastery of Life.Raised in the Toltec lineage by his father, don Miguel Ruiz, and grandmother, Sarita, Miguel Jr. has spent his life integrating the deep spiritual teachings of his ancestors with practical tools for awakening.He speaks around the world, helping people break free of illusion and live from the heart.

In this brief but valuable episode, Dr. Shaw makes reference to one of the four principles explored in one of her favorite books, The Four Agreements, and that principle is to not take things personally.   Here, Dr. Shaw tells a tale that came from her own recent real life experience, and she shares the revelations that came to her from that experience. The life lessons and learning lessons that were built into that experience gave her some new perspective that she shares in this podcast.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this third episode on the Second Agreement from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, Sharyn turns inward to explore how we can take our own thoughts personally. This episode looks at the inner critic, shame stories, emotional triggers, and the old voices we mistake for truth. Listeners are invited to see thoughts as messages, not identities, and to practice relating to their inner world with more curiosity and compassion. Don't take anything personally does not only apply to other people's words. It also applies to the painful stories our own minds tell us. This episode offers listeners a gentle path toward freedom from old inner narratives. 5 Key Takeaways Not every thought is the truth. Fear, shame, anxiety, and old agreements can speak through your inner voice. Separate facts from the stories your mind creates. Pausing creates space to question assumptions before believing or reacting to them. Emotional activation is not confirmation. Feeling afraid, rejected, or ashamed doesn't automatically mean something is actually wrong. Your inner critic is not your identity. You can hear critical thoughts without allowing them to define who you are. You can choose a new agreement. Notice painful thoughts, question them, comfort yourself, and consciously choose what you believe. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

The Four Agreements The Four Agreements offer a practical way to examine how we speak, think, react, and show up in our relationships. Today we'll talk about being impeccable with our word, not taking things personally, avoiding assumptions, and doing our best—and how these principles can support honesty, emotional balance, personal responsibility, and recovery. They are simple ideas, but practicing them consistently can change how we handle conflict, fear, resentment, and the stories we tell ourselves. #TheDailyTrudge #TheFourAgreements #Recovery #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalSobriety #PersonalResponsibility #HealthyRelationships #SpiritualGrowth #OneDayAtATime

You know the feeling. You open your laptop, see that little notification, and your stomach drops before you've even read the words… a one-star review. Your hands go sweaty, your mind starts spiralling, and suddenly all the beautiful work you do feels invisible. Andy and Jacinta have both been there, and in this episode they're walking you through exactly what to do when it happens, why it stings so much, and the reframe that turns your first critic into proof you're doing something right.In This Episode:Discover the "judgment tax" reframe, and why the more people you serve, the more opinions and criticism come with the territory (it's the price of visibility, not a sign you're failing)Hear Jacinta's raw story of getting her very first critic after her first live event, and the phone call with her mentor that changed how she sees negative feedback foreverLearn the peach analogy that gives you full permission to stop trying to be liked by everyoneGet the exact first move to make when a bad review lands (hint: it's not replying straight away)Find out the one question to ask yourself before you respond, and why even 5% of truth is worth listening toLearn how to write a response that actually wins over future clients, using conscious communication, kindness, and zero defensivenessUnderstand when to report a fake or unfair review to Google and get it taken downDiscover how to "bury the bad boy" with a simple five-star review drive in your practiceTry the Seven Levels Deep exercise to reconnect with your big why so no review can shake youKey Quotes: "You can be the juiciest, ripest peach and not everyone likes peaches. It's not that you have to change what type of peach you are." - Jacinta"Congratulations, you have your first critic. For you to have someone not like what you did, it means you were big enough and polarising enough to stand for something." - the advice that changed everything for JacintaMentioned in this episode:The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (a short, powerful read on not taking things personally)The Seven Levels Deep exercise (learned from Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi) for reconnecting with your whySchedule your FREE Practice Plan CallIf this episode lit something up in you and you're ready to build a business that supports your life instead of consuming it, book a free Practice Plan call and let's map out your next chapter together.

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Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this second episode on the Second Agreement from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, Sharyn explores what “Don't take anything personally” does and does not mean. This episode focuses on emotional hooks, old bruises, criticism, projection, and boundaries. Listeners are reminded that not taking things personally does not mean accepting mistreatment, avoiding accountability, or pretending words do not hurt. Instead, it means learning to separate someone else's behavior from our worth while still responding with clarity and self-respect. This episode offers a grounded, healing-centered interpretation of the Second Agreement for real relationships, real conflict, and real emotional pain. 5 Key Takeaways Other people's behavior is a reflection of their world, not your worth. Don't confuse someone else's actions with your identity. Not taking things personally doesn't mean accepting poor treatment. You can set healthy boundaries while honoring your own value. Strong reactions often point to old wounds. Use emotional triggers as opportunities for healing rather than proof that something is wrong with you. Receive feedback with discernment. Learn from constructive criticism without accepting character attacks as truth. Your worth comes from within—not from praise or criticism. Build self-respect by responding from your truth instead of seeking external validation. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this first episode on the Second Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements, Sharyn explores the liberating idea that what others say and do is a reflection of their own inner world, not a final truth about who we are. Through relatable examples like being cut off in traffic, receiving a cold email, or feeling rejected by someone's mood, this episode gently unpacks why we so often take things personally and how doing so creates unnecessary suffering. Listeners are invited to begin separating other people's behavior from their own worth. This episode is not about becoming numb or pretending we are not hurt. It is about learning to pause, breathe, and remember that someone else's reaction is not the same thing as our identity. 5 Key Takeaways / Highlights Most emotional suffering comes from the meaning we attach to an event—not the event itself. When someone criticizes you, ignores you, or behaves in a hurtful way, it's easy to create a story about your worth. Learning to separate what actually happened from the story you tell yourself creates greater emotional freedom. Other people's reactions are shaped by their own experiences, beliefs, and wounds. The way someone responds to you is filtered through their personal history, perceptions, fears, and emotional state. While their behavior may affect you, it is not a definitive statement about who you are or your value. Taking things personally often comes from old survival patterns. Many people learned as children to monitor others' moods, facial expressions, and behavior to feel safe. As adults, these adaptations can cause us to assume responsibility for other people's emotions when, in reality, those emotions belong to them. Protect your self-worth without accepting harmful behavior. Understanding that another person's actions come from their own internal world does not mean excusing poor behavior. It means refusing to build your identity or sense of worth around someone else's reactions, criticism, or approval. Pause before reacting and question the story you're creating. When something feels hurtful, ask yourself what actually happened, what meaning you're assigning to it, whether there could be another explanation, and what part of you feels activated. Creating this space helps you respond with greater self-awareness instead of reacting from old emotional patterns.     Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this episode I break down The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and show you how each one applies directly to your fitness journey. Be Impeccable with Your Word: the promises you keep (or break) with yourself shape whether you follow through. Don't Take Anything Personally: a bad workout or a stalled scale is data, not a verdict on your worth. Don't Make Assumptions: stop deciding what will or won't work for your body and start testing it, like I did with my own 30-day recomposition experiment. Always Do Your Best: your best changes day to day, and that's the antidote to all-or-nothing thinking. If you've ever felt stuck in guilt, comparison, or perfectionism around your training, this episode will change how you think about consistency for good.   Next Level Links: Work With a Nutrition Coach - Schedule A Consultation Nutrition Coaching - www.becomenextlevel.com   Partner Links: Try Thrive Lab Free For One Month - Start Here Order Supplements From Transform - Shop Here Order Supplements From Cured Nutrition - Shop Here Order Supplements From Legion (use code keynutrition for 20% off first order) - Shop Here   Be Featured on the Show: Apply to be a live calller guest on the show - Submit Application Here Submit Q&A Questions to be read live on the show - Submit Here   Free Guides: Eating Out Guide - Get The Guide High-Protein Fast Food Orders - Get the Guide Macro Food Options Guide - Get The Guide Join Us On Patreon - Join Here   Connect with us on Instagram: Host Brad Jensen – @thesoberbodybuilder Next Level Nutrition – @mynextlevelnutrition

In this episode, psychologist Traci Stein explores the painful but universal experience of rejection — and how shifting our mindset around it can open doors to something even better. Traci shares the story of Jamie Kern Lima, founder of IT Cosmetics, who experienced years of rejection from investors and retailers and near bankruptcy before selling her company for $1.2 billion. Traci shares Kern Lima's strategies for staying sane and keeping on going despite rejection, as well as how Don Miguel Ruiz's Four Agreements apply to thriving despite rejection.Tips for Navigating Rejection include:Reframe the "no" tDrop bitterness Guard your self-worth Audit your circles Shift "I have to" to "I get to" Don't take things personallyAvoid assumptionsPractice mindfulnessMove your body Zoom out Trust your pathResources MentionedWorthy and other books by Jamie Kern LimaThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizTraci's Mindfulness Meditations album: https://tracistein.com/products/mindfulness-meditations-mp3-download

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  Words have power—but the most important words are often the ones we speak to ourselves. In this episode of Feel to Heal, we will continue to explore the first of the Four Agreements, Be Impeccable With Your Word, by Don Miguel Ruiz, and discover how our inner dialogue shapes our emotions, relationships, and sense of self-worth. Together, we'll examine how self-criticism, limiting beliefs, and unconscious stories keep us stuck in cycles of shame and fear. You'll learn practical ways to replace judgment with compassion and begin speaking to yourself with honesty, kindness, and integrity. Healing begins with the conversations happening inside your own mind, and this episode will help you make those conversations a place of safety instead of criticism. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist based in Los Angeles, California, with over 30 years of experience in mental health and wellness. She offers an integrative approach that blends evidence-based therapy—such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—with time-tested mindfulness and meditation practices, somatic tools, and Human Design to support deeper self-awareness and lasting change. Sharyn helps clients recognize signs of stress, regulate their nervous systems, and shift unhelpful thought and behavior patterns. As a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, she also supports the mind-body connection—helping clients feel more grounded, present, and connected to themselves. Known for her warm, compassionate presence, Sharyn creates a safe space where clients can explore their full emotional experience—especially the feelings that tend to get avoided, like frustration, anger, resentment, and grief. Her work supports clients in moving from reactivity and emotional exhaustion toward clarity, self-trust, and a more peaceful relationship with themselves and others. Through her own journey, Sharyn has learned the power of focusing on what's truly within our control—and letting go of what isn't—so life can feel less like survival and more like choice. Are you ready to feel your feelings without being overwhelmed, break old patterns, and live from the truth of who you are? https://www.feeltoheal.com To get more of Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols, be sure to visit the podcast page for replays of all her shows here: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  Words have power—but the most important words are often the ones we speak to ourselves. In this episode of Feel to Heal, we will continue to explore the first of the Four Agreements, Be Impeccable With Your Word, by Don Miguel Ruiz, and discover how our inner dialogue shapes our emotions, relationships, and sense of self-worth. Together, we'll examine how self-criticism, limiting beliefs, and unconscious stories keep us stuck in cycles of shame and fear. You'll learn practical ways to replace judgment with compassion and begin speaking to yourself with honesty, kindness, and integrity. Healing begins with the conversations happening inside your own mind, and this episode will help you make those conversations a place of safety instead of criticism. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist based in Los Angeles, California, with over 30 years of experience in mental health and wellness. She offers an integrative approach that blends evidence-based therapy—such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—with time-tested mindfulness and meditation practices, somatic tools, and Human Design to support deeper self-awareness and lasting change. Sharyn helps clients recognize signs of stress, regulate their nervous systems, and shift unhelpful thought and behavior patterns. As a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, she also supports the mind-body connection—helping clients feel more grounded, present, and connected to themselves. Known for her warm, compassionate presence, Sharyn creates a safe space where clients can explore their full emotional experience—especially the feelings that tend to get avoided, like frustration, anger, resentment, and grief. Her work supports clients in moving from reactivity and emotional exhaustion toward clarity, self-trust, and a more peaceful relationship with themselves and others. Through her own journey, Sharyn has learned the power of focusing on what's truly within our control—and letting go of what isn't—so life can feel less like survival and more like choice. Are you ready to feel your feelings without being overwhelmed, break old patterns, and live from the truth of who you are? https://www.feeltoheal.com To get more of Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols, be sure to visit the podcast page for replays of all her shows here: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

This podcast is made possible by our listeners and viewers. If this show has brought you value, you can support it by becoming a member of The Way Forward, our platform designed to help you find the health and freedom community (people, practitioners, schools, farms, and more) near you. Your membership directly supports the podcast and the work we do.Get all the details and secure your tickets at Anarchapulco here. Use promo code thewayforward at checkout to get 10% off your ticket! Anarchism is not what they made you believe.Catherine Bleish Bonandin spent two decades in the freedom movement, got arrested twice, was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, and eventually walked away from frontline activism after a police officer added her name to a monitoring list while she was raising an infant.She now produces Anarchapulco in Mexico and Liberpulco in Serbia, and partners with Liberland. She lives on Greenbriar, a consensus-based intentional community in Texas, where she homeschools her kids and teaches Game of Village.Her story starts as a Ron Paul delegate at the 2008 RNC, learning she was being handed chant cards like a movie extra. What came after is the part most podcasts skip: fusion centers, FBI provocateurs in Austin activist circles, and the slow recognition that "agitator" was a role she had to retire from.Greenbriar runs on consensus, accountability, and the four agreements. Anarchapulco went through the darkness HBO documented in The Anarchists and came out the other side. Both prove the same point Catherine kept circling back to: freedom without responsibility isn't freedom.This one runs deep on what real community looks like when nobody's making you stay.You'll Learn:[0:00] Introduction[8:02] How DHS profiled Ron Paul supporters as potentially violent militia members[24:05] The YouTube chant that put Alex Jones on notice[32:11] When your principles start getting in the way of your actual freedom[38:57] The fourth option Claire Wolfe missed: becoming a Monopoly player[46:35] Why the health freedom fight can't be won in Washington [52:44] What HBO's The Anarchist got right, and the transformation it refused to film[1:02:48] The Howard accusation, the CIA psyop email, and what provocateur behavior looks like[1:37:31] How Cherán, Mexico, kicked out the cartels and the cops, and kept them out[1:59:29] Inside Greenbrier: the consensus-based community that's lasted since 1968[2:05:53] What Liberland actually is and how Vit found land no country was claimingResources Mentioned:"Government" - The Biggest Scam in History. Exposed! | BookBlack Flags and Windmills: Hope, Anarchy, and the Common Ground Collective by scott crow | BookThe Iron Web by Larken Rose | BookFind more from Catherine:Use promo code thewayforward for 10% off Anarchapulco/Luberpulco TicketsAnarchAwakening | Get Tickets Greenbriar Community School | WebsiteFind more from Alec:Alec Zeck | Instagram | XThe Way Forward | InstagramDonate to The Way Forward here.The Way Forward is Sponsored By:PaleoValley: 100% Grass-Fed Bone Broth Protein is a nutrient-dense, easy-to-digest source of collagen and essential amino acids. Sourced from grass-fed cows, this protein powder provides the building blocks for healthy joints, skin, and gut function—without fillers or artificial ingredients. Support the show and claim 15% off your PaleoValley order!Eating well shouldn't be complicated. Dr. Cowan's Garden makes it simple to increase your daily nutrient density with their signature vegetable powders, clean pantry staples, and pasture-raised products. Family-run and committed to "beyond-organic" quality.* Offer: Use code THEWAYFORWARD for 15% off your first order.* Shop: Dr. Cowan's GardenRMDY Academy & Collective: Homeopathy Made AccessibleHigh-quality remedies and training to support natural healing. Enroll: HereExplore: Here

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  Words have power—but the most important words are often the ones we speak to ourselves. In this episode of Feel to Heal, we explore the first of the Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, and discover how our inner dialogue shapes our emotions, relationships, and sense of self-worth. Together, we'll examine how self-criticism, limiting beliefs, and unconscious stories keep us stuck in cycles of shame and fear. You'll learn practical ways to replace judgment with compassion and begin speaking to yourself with honesty, kindness, and integrity. Healing begins with the conversations happening inside your own mind, and this episode will help you make those conversations a place of safety instead of criticism. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist based in Los Angeles, California, with over 30 years of experience in mental health and wellness. She offers an integrative approach that blends evidence-based therapy—such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—with time-tested mindfulness and meditation practices, somatic tools, and Human Design to support deeper self-awareness and lasting change. Sharyn helps clients recognize signs of stress, regulate their nervous systems, and shift unhelpful thought and behavior patterns. As a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, she also supports the mind-body connection—helping clients feel more grounded, present, and connected to themselves. Known for her warm, compassionate presence, Sharyn creates a safe space where clients can explore their full emotional experience—especially the feelings that tend to get avoided, like frustration, anger, resentment, and grief. Her work supports clients in moving from reactivity and emotional exhaustion toward clarity, self-trust, and a more peaceful relationship with themselves and others. Through her own journey, Sharyn has learned the power of focusing on what's truly within our control—and letting go of what isn't—so life can feel less like survival and more like choice. Are you ready to feel your feelings without being overwhelmed, break old patterns, and live from the truth of who you are? https://www.feeltoheal.com To get more of Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols, be sure to visit the podcast page for replays of all her shows here: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this solo episode of the Soul Inspiring Business Podcast, Kara Chaffin Donofrio revisits one of the powerful agreements from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz: Don't Take Anything Personally. Kara explores how this principle applies to leadership, business, relationships, social media, and self-worth. She shares practical ways to stay grounded, protect your energy, honor your boundaries, and lead from a place of peace instead of reacting to outside opinions.Episode Topics:The second agreement from The Four Agreements: Don't Take Anything PersonallyWhy other people's opinions often come from their own perspective and experiencesHow leaders can respond to feedback without absorbing it as truthThe importance of building self-worth from withinMorning routines, prayer, meditation, and grounding practicesThe “glass ball and rubber ball” story for understanding prioritiesHonoring boundaries in business, friendship, and family lifeSurrounding yourself with people who lift and inspire youLimiting social media comparison and protecting your energyA grounding practice for meetings, events, and meaningful conversationsInsights:Not everything someone says about you is truth. Often, it is a reflection of their own perception, wounds, or life experience.Leadership requires groundedness. When you are rooted in who you are, outside criticism or praise does not have the same power to shake you.Positive feedback can be just as dangerous as negative feedback if your worth becomes dependent on outside validation.Boundaries help protect your peace, especially when life, family, and business responsibilities feel overwhelming.Knowing the difference between “glass balls” and “rubber balls” can help you decide what truly needs your attention and what can be released for now.Your energy is one of your greatest assets, and protecting it is part of showing up well for yourself, your family, your clients, and your team.Surrounding yourself with people who lift you helps you grow into a more expanded, inspired version of yourself.Highlights:00:00 Welcome and Intro00:46 Personal Freedom and Leadership 01:27 Core Agreement: Don't Take Anything Personally06:45 Self-care and Morning Routine10:54 Boundaries and the Glass vs. Rubber Ball Metaphor13:17 Surrounding Yourself with Supportive People16:00 Social Media, Comparison, and Energy Protection17:55 Grounding and Energetic Practice Before Meetings21:34 Podcast episode endedResources:The Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizMorning routine, prayer, meditation, or quiet reflectionThe “glass ball and rubber ball” priority exerciseSocial media boundaries and intentional screen timeGrounding and energy-setting practices before meetings, events, or conversationsThis week, practice not taking things personally in one conversation, meeting, or moment where you normally might feel triggered. Pause, ground yourself, and ask: “Is this true, or is this someone else's perception?” Then choose to respond from peace, presence, and alignment.Connect with Kara to share your thoughts on the series:Website - http://www.kcdrealestate.com/Email - kara@kdcrealestate.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/karachaffindonofrio/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/karachaffin1?_rdc=1&_rdrYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/KaraChaffinLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/karachaffin/Don't forget to visit freegiftfromkara.com for our special giveaway, the Dynamic Life Journal to help you maintain your authentic voice and intuitive wisdom while navigating the balance between technology and human connection in your business and personal life.Special Listener Offer: Unlock Your Soul-Aligned Brand with Jen CudmoreAs a gift to our Soul Inspiring Business community, I've convinced my incredible mentor and business coach, Jen Cudmore, to create an exclusive package just for you—our loyal listeners. This special offer includes a powerful private session to dive into your branding archetypes and a 3-month coaching package at a deeply discounted rate.Ready to clarify your message, magnetize your dream clients, and grow your business from the inside out?Click here to claim your exclusive Soul Inspiring Business listener package

Change is inevitable. The question is: how do great leaders respond to it?In this episode of The H.I.T. Podcast, Toby Kennedy sits down with returning guest Magalie René, speaker, consultant, and expert in compassionate leadership and change management.Together, they explore how leaders can become more adaptable, communicate more effectively, and guide their teams through uncertainty without sacrificing accountability or performance.Topics include:Why adaptability is a skill that can be developedHow to become more agile in the face of constant changeThe role of compassionate leadership in today's workplaceUsing personality frameworks like DISC to communicate more effectivelyWhy different people need different communication approachesA practical framework for handling difficult conversationsHow intention impacts the outcome of feedback and conflictThe concept of "Living Your Legacy" and creating meaningful impact through everyday interactionsMagalie also shares leadership lessons from books that have influenced her work, including Who Moved My Cheese?, The Four Agreements, and The Alchemist.Whether you're leading a team, navigating organizational change, or simply looking to become a more effective communicator, this episode offers practical insights that can be applied immediately.Like and subscribe for weekly conversations at the intersection of HR, insurance, and technology.

Growing up immersed in the teachings of the Toltec tradition, Don Jose Ruiz has dedicated his life to sharing this ancient wisdom with the modern world. In this episode, he reflects on the profound influence of his father, Don Miguel Ruiz, and the timeless truths of The Four Agreements. Don Jose explores how we can break free from limiting beliefs, heal from the addiction to suffering, and step into our roles as creators of our reality. Drawing from his book, “The Shaman's Path to Freedom,” he offers insights on aligning with gratitude, intent, and personal freedom to lead a more fulfilling and joyful life. In this episode, Darius and Don Jose will discuss: (00:00) Introduction to Don Jose Ruiz (01:16) The Ruiz Family Legacy and Toltec Tradition (07:51) Understanding the Four Agreements (11:22) The Journey of Self-Discovery and Healing (19:29) The Power of Consciousness and Energy (29:40) The Fifth Agreement: Skepticism and Listening (39:38) The Shaman's Path to Freedom (45:32) The Afterlife and the Nature of Energy (51:12) Conclusion  Don Jose Ruiz is a bestselling author, speaker, and spiritual teacher who carries on the Toltec wisdom passed down by his father, Don Miguel Ruiz. Co-author of “The Fifth Agreement,” Don Jose has dedicated his life to guiding individuals in breaking free from limiting beliefs and embracing their true, authentic selves. Through his teachings, books, and global workshops, he inspires people to live with greater awareness, freedom, and love, sharing the transformative power of Toltec wisdom to help others create lasting positive change in their lives. Connect with Don Jose: Website: https://www.miguelruiz.com/don-jose-ruiz  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donjoseruiz/  Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/don-Jose-Ruiz/author/B07C875RR7  Connect with Darius: Website: https://therealdarius.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dariusmirshahzadeh/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imthedarius/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Thegreatnessmachine  Book: The Core Value Equation https://www.amazon.com/Core-Value-Equation-Framework-Limitless/dp/1544506708 Write a review for The Greatness Machine using this link: https://ratethispodcast.com/spreadinggreatness.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Karla Ruiz grew up watching her grandmother Sarita — a Mexican immigrant, healer, and spiritual force in San Diego — pull people from all over the world into her living room. She didn't fully understand what she was witnessing. Now, 15 years into working with the Ruiz family and stepping into her own voice as a teacher, she's starting to.In this conversation, HeatherAsh and Karla talk about what the Toltec teachings actually look like from the inside, why women keep circling back to the same shame, perfectionism, and people-pleasing no matter how much work they've done, and what it really takes to break the spell. Karla brings something to this conversation that's hard to describe but easy to feel — a steadiness, a gentleness, a refusal to rush toward answers that aren't ready yet.They also get into what it looks like to run a full life without losing yourself in it, how to be present with your kids when the world is feeding you fear, and why awareness is only half the equation if you're not willing to give yourself grace for the other half.Episode Highlights:How Karla spent 15 years behind the scenes with the Ruiz family before she felt the pull to teach — and what finally shiftedThe Smoky Mirror women's program: what women actually come in carrying, and what changes by the endWhy shame, people-pleasing, and perfectionism are all the same wound showing up in different clothesThe practice of looking at your emotions as information rather than evidence of something wrong with youHow Karla manages a full life — motherhood, partnership, business — without the myth of doing it allWhat to model for your kids when the collective fear is loud: presence over perfectionResources & Links:Learn more about Karla and the Smoky Mirror program: https://www.karlaruiz.love/Learn more about the Ruiz family and Toltec teachings: https://www.miguelruiz.com/Follow Karla on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karlaruiz/About Karla RuizKarla Ruiz is a teacher and facilitator of Toltec Wisdom. She guides people to see clearly, releasing limiting beliefs and creating a life rooted in truth and love. Her work brings the teachings of Don Miguel Ruiz, including The Four Agreements, in a way that feels modern, practical, and easy to apply with a focus on awareness, selfrust, and authentic expression.

In this episode of the Loan Officer Podcast, host Dustin Owen is joined by Marketing Mike and Karina Mojica for an in-depth exploration of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Together, they break down each of the four agreements in detail: being impeccable with your word, not taking things personally, avoiding assumptions, and always doing your best. The hosts dive into the meaning and practical application of each agreement, sharing both personal anecdotes and professional experiences that highlight how these principles can positively impact business partnerships, internal self-talk, and interpersonal relationships within the mortgage industry and beyond. Throughout the discussion, Dustin, Mike, and Karina reflect on the challenges and rewards of implementing these agreements in their daily lives, offering listeners actionable insights and relatable stories. Dustin also shares key takeaways from his recent visit to United Wholesale Mortgage, providing listeners with an insider's perspective on industry trends and best practices. As the episode draws to a close, the hosts present four reflective questions designed to help listeners internalize the lessons from The Four Agreements and apply them to their own lives and careers. They wrap up with a reminder about an exciting upcoming Caribbean event, encouraging listeners to stay engaged and look forward to future episodes.   TLOP's Originator Coaching: https://tloponline.com/mlo-coaching-programs  Reserve Your Cabin For TLOP UNITE 2026: Caribbean Takeover

Welcome to Part 2 of my conversation with the brilliant Annie M. Henderson—a transformational life coach, educator, and former licensed professional counselor who specializes in whole-brain approaches that work with the subconscious and nervous system—about The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, I highly recommend listening to this one first as you're here and then go back and listen to Part 1. In Part 1, we covered the fable about how we're all made of light, breaking generational curses, and the first two agreements: Be impeccable with your word and don't take anything personally. Today in Part 2, we're picking up with Agreement 3: Don't make assumptions, and Agreement 4: Always do your best. These last two agreements really build on the first two. And Annie points out something so interesting—how breaking one agreement kind of triggers breaking the others, like a domino effect. And how practicing any one of the agreements strengthens the others. We dive deep into what "your best" actually means, especially for those of us with perfectionist tendencies who hold ourselves to impossible standards. Annie also shares about a modality I have never heard of before called Regenerating Images and Memory (RIM). It's one of those tools that could be useful if you've tried a bunch of things in therapy or coaching and you haven't made the progress you want to make yet. And we have so much fun with the Questions for Couples Journal. Annie showed up with her own copy and had a question for me! Here is the scoop on what we talked about — ✨ Episode at a Glance Agreement #3: Don't Make Assumptions—and the courage to ask questions  Agreement #4: Always Do Your Best—and what "your best" actually means  How the four agreements work together like dominoes  What RIM (Regenerating Images and Memory) is and how it works  How RIM gives you the experience of a psychedelic journey without psychedelics  The levels of awareness and how they shift  Questions for Couples Journal fun with Annie  Why social media can be a tool for liberation (even when it's designed as a weapon) Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Questions for Couples Journal Private Coaching with Maggie Free Workshop: The Growth Gap Marriage Mindset Makeover The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Visit Annie's website www.anniemhenderson.com  Follow Annie on IG @life_coach_annie Follow Annie on TikTok @Anniemhenderson  

  Most sales leaders invest in process, technology, and training. Almost none of them invest in the one lever that silently controls all three: the language their people use — out loud and in their own heads. Andy Weins has spent 20+ years in the military as a mass resiliency trainer, built a business from scratch, and studied the neuroscience and psychology of how the words we choose wire our behaviour. In this episode, he and Marcus Cauchi go deep on the specific phrases that signal avoidance, underperformance, and self-sabotage, and the language patterns that drive ownership, execution, and results. If you lead a sales team or run a company, this is not a soft conversation about mindfulness. It is a diagnostic tool. By the end, you will recognise the exact words your team uses when they are not going to close the deal, and you will know what to replace them with. Why This Matters Every sales team has what looks like a pipeline problem, a skills problem, or a market problem. Often it is a language problem in disguise. When your salespeople say "I just wanted to follow up," they are signalling low value before they have even started. When they say "I should call that account," they are parking it indefinitely. When they say "we need more leads," they are frequently deflecting accountability for what they already have. The language your team uses in CRM notes, forecast calls, and customer conversations is data. It tells you who is owning their number and who is performing learned helplessness. This episode gives you the framework to hear that signal clearly. Key Themes and Takeaways 1. Blame, Excuse, and Denial: The Three Default Failure Modes Andy opens with a concept drawn from Brené Brown's work on shame: when there is a gap between what we want and what we have, the brain defaults to one of three responses — blame, excuse, or denial — because they require the least cognitive effort. In sales, this shows up as: Blame: "The prospect went dark." "Marketing isn't generating quality leads." "The economy is tough." Excuse: "I didn't have time to prep." "The deck wasn't ready." Denial: "I didn't really want that account anyway." The correction Andy offers is deceptively simple: ask "Where is my DNA in this?" Even if you are 1% responsible for a poor outcome, claiming that 1% shifts you from passenger to driver. For sales leaders running deal reviews, that question, where is your DNA in this?, is worth installing as a standard. 2. "Just" and "But": The Two Words That Kill Credibility Before You've Started Marcus flags two words that most people use dozens of times a day without realising their cost: "Just" — minimises what follows. "I'm just calling to check in" communicates low value, low confidence, and low intent. Andy's framing: just justifies the nonsense that's about to happen. Train your team to remove it entirely from outreach language. Not "I just wanted to reach out" — "I'm calling because..." "But" — cancels everything before it. "Great work on that proposal, but..." means the compliment is noise. Two conflicting ideas, only one of which is true: the one that comes after but. In coaching conversations with reps, this matters. In customer conversations, it is fatal. These are not stylistic preferences. They are trust and credibility signals that prospects and internal stakeholders pick up subconsciously. 3. The Difference Between a Desire and an Expectation — and Why It Determines Whether You Hit Target Andy draws a sharp distinction that has direct application to how sales leaders manage their teams and how salespeople manage their customers: An expectation is what you want from someone else. It sets you up for resentment, conflict, and passivity — because other people are not here to meet your expectations. A desire is what you want. It is owned. It creates agency, because the question that follows is what are you willing to do to get it? In sales management, the difference sounds like this: Expectation: "My reps should be hitting 80% of quota by Q2." Desire: "I want a team hitting 80% by Q2. What am I prepared to do to coach, structure, and resource them to get there?" The second version puts you back in the problem. That is where leverage lives. 4. "Need" vs "Want": Why Needs Create Victims and Wants Create Agency Drawing on Dan Sullivan's 10x Is Easier Than 2x, Andy argues that needs are a trap. When you say "I need a six-figure salary" or "we need more pipeline," you are constructing a prison: a world where survival is contingent on something outside your control, which justifies inaction when that thing doesn't arrive. Wants work differently. "I want more pipeline" immediately opens the question: what are you willing to do to generate it? The conflict becomes internal — which want is greater, your want for comfort or your want for results? — and internal conflict is where growth happens. For founders: audit the language in your strategy meetings. Count how many times need is used as a reason not to act rather than a prompt to act. It is a reliable indicator of where learned helplessness has taken root. 5. People Talk About Results to Justify Decisions They've Already Made This is one of the episode's sharpest insights, and it maps directly onto how sales forecasts and pipeline reviews get distorted. Andy's framing: the people who get funded on Dragons' Den are the ones who talk about the work — "we will take this influencer, they will post three times a week, that will reduce our customer acquisition cost by X" — not the ones who say "we'll increase sales and grow the business." Watch for this in forecast calls. Reps who say "I'm going to close this at the end of the month" are describing a result. Reps who say "I have a confirmed call with economic buyer on Thursday, legal review is booked for the following week, and we've agreed the commercial terms" are describing work. The second rep knows what they're doing. The first is hoping. Marcus extends this: the work is the reward. Not a soft point — a structural one. Fixating on the number makes you passive. Fixating on the three specific actions that produce the number makes you active. Build your pipeline reviews around activity and methodology, not outcomes, and the outcomes improve. 6. The Six Most Powerful Statements — A Framework for High-Performance Internal Dialogue Andy's framework for replacing avoidance language with accountable language is built on six sentence-starters, used in sequence. For sales leaders, this is a coaching script and a self-assessment tool. I am — Identity. Who are you as a seller, a leader, a professional? This sets the anchor. It also establishes boundaries: I am not going to take that approach is more powerful than I can't or I won't. I can — Capability. Honest inventory of what is within reach. Not everything, but something. What can you actually do? In coaching conversations, this is where excuses go to die. I feel — Emotional data. The body knows before the brain articulates. I feel uncomfortable with this account's timeline is information. Suppressing it is expensive. Andy's recommended construct: I feel [emotion] when [specific behaviour occurs]. Clean, ownable, actionable. I know — Empirical grounding. Not assumption, not interpretation. What do you actually know versus what are you telling yourself? In sales, this is the difference between a forecast based on facts and one based on optimism. I want — Stated desire. Now that you are grounded in reality, what do you actually want? This is where new thinking enters. It plants a direction. I will — Commitment. A contract with yourself. Time-bound, specific, testable. This is where language stops being self-talk and becomes execution. Run your 1:1s through this lens. What do you know about this deal? What do you want to happen? What will you do in the next 48 hours? That is a coaching conversation. 7. Should → Could → Can → Will: The Language Ladder That Turns Avoidance into Action This is Andy's most immediately deployable tool for sales managers dealing with stalled activity, sandbagged pipeline, or reps who are busy without being productive. Should — moralises and parks. "I should call that enterprise account" means it will not happen. It creates guilt without commitment. It is where people store things they have decided not to do. Could — generates options. Crucially, Andy argues that you must start here with unlimited time, money, and resource. No constraints. Let the brain go wide. This is how you break out of small thinking. In team exercises, this is the brainstorm phase. Can — grounds in reality. Take the expanded could list and ask: what can we actually do, given current constraints? You typically get more options than if you'd started with can directly — because could first opens more neural pathways. Will — is the commitment. Specific. Time-bound. Testable. And Andy's observation from hundreds of workshops: the will is almost always a small, basic action that the person had been avoiding simply because they had never written it down. For sales leaders: run this sequence on any stalled deal, underperforming territory, or strategic initiative that has been sitting in should for more than two weeks. It takes fifteen minutes and it moves things. The Four Agreements Applied to Sales Leadership Marcus frames the episode's second half around Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements and their antithesis — a framework that maps precisely onto how high-performing versus underperforming sales cultures operate: Agreement What it looks like in a strong sales culture What the antithesis looks like in a broken one Be impeccable with your word Forecasts you can trust; commitments that stick CRM noise; happy-ears forecasting; overpromising Don't take anything personally Reps who hear objections as information Reps who go quiet after one rejection Don't make assumptions Proper discovery; testing hypotheses with buyers Pitching to an assumed need without qualification Always do your best Consistent activity; incremental improvement Effort contingent on mood or certainty of outcome   The antithesis that Marcus outlines is worth reading carefully as a diagnostic of cultural dysfunction: using language to protect yourself rather than communicate clearly; speaking to justify rather than clarify; making everything about yourself; filling information gaps with untested stories; and making effort conditional on comfort. If that describes your forecast calls, your deal reviews, or your 1:1s, this episode is the starting point for changing it. Reflect, Realise, Regulate: Why Acknowledging a Problem Is Not Step One Andy challenges the received wisdom that acknowledgement is the first step. His model: reflection comes first. Reflect — how did I show up? What is frustrating me? What brings me clarity? This is the diagnostic phase. Realise — who are the right people to involve? What behaviours am I responsible for? What choices do I actually have? Regulate — pick accordingly. Act from awareness, not reaction. This has direct application for sales leaders managing underperformers. Jumping to the problem — "your close rate is 12% and the team average is 28%" — before the rep has reflected produces defensiveness, not accountability. Create the conditions for reflection first. The numbers become a shared investigation rather than a verdict. The Start/Stop/Continue Framework and Where Sales Organisations Leave Most Value Marcus closes with a direct provocation: if you audit the dead work, the rework, and the pointless activity that most sales organisations inflict on themselves, you can recover 60–80% of your working week. The stop list is the highest-leverage intervention. Not because stopping things is easy, but because it creates the cognitive and calendar capacity to do the things that actually matter. Ask your team: what are you doing right now that if you stopped tomorrow, no one — including your customers — would notice? That conversation, done honestly, is worth more than most sales methodologies. A Five-Minute Exercise for You and Your Team Name one should that has been sitting on your list for more than two months. Generate five coulds — with no constraints. Strip it to two or three cans — given actual resources and time. Write one I will with a day and a time attached. Identify the one word in your vocabulary you will remove this week to stop yourself wriggling out of it. Do this in your next team meeting. Watch what surfaces. About Andy Wines Andy Wines is a fourth-generation entrepreneur, 20+ year US Army veteran, and mass resiliency trainer. He owns and operates a junk removal business and has built a speaking and consulting practice focused on the language of leadership and the psychology of performance. His first book, Words F**king Matter, identifies 13 phrases that are actively limiting performance. His second book, Stop Avoiding Your Numbers, is a guide to financial confidence for business owners. Andy is available on LinkedIn — his phone number and email are public and he actively responds. You can also reach him at andyweins.com.   #sales leadership #sales team language  #sales coaching #founder mindset #accountability in sales #B2B sales performance #sales productivity #sales culture #high performance sales teams #sales pipeline management #sales manager coaching #sales mindset Chapter Markers 7 Truly Insightful Moments for Sales Leaders and Founders Timestamp Chapter Title 0:00 Intro — Why the Words Your Team Uses Are Your Biggest Revenue Leak 2:00 Blame, Excuse, Denial: The Three Ways Salespeople Avoid Accountability 3:29 "Just" and "But": Two Words That Destroy Credibility Before the Call Has Started 7:35 Desires vs Expectations: Why Sales Leaders Who Set Expectations Fail Their Teams 10:19 Talking About Results vs Doing the Work — How to Spot Who Will and Won't Close 20:27 The Six Most Powerful Statements: A Framework for Accountable Sales Conversations 41:43 Should → Could → Can → Will: The Language Ladder That Kills Pipeline Avoidance 45:00 The Stop List — Recovering 60–80% of Your Team's Week by Removing the Right Things

The Four Agreements. I read this book over 20 years ago. It change the way I move through life on a daily basis and I hope it does the same for you. Whether this is the first time you hear about it or it's one of your classic favorites too.  I just had an amazing conversation about the book with the brilliant Annie M. Henderson—a transformational life coach, educator, and former licensed professional counselor who specializes in whole-brain approaches that work with the subconscious and nervous system. We had such a deep and in-depth conversation that it ended up being a longer than usual episode.  So I wanted to cut it into two sections to make it easy to reflect on the first part, easy to reflect on the second part, and to digest the lessons we're talking about—what we learned from the book, how to put it into practice. It was so rich that I just wanted to give it space to breathe. In this episode, Part 1, we walk you through the fable at the beginning of the book. If you're not familiar with the book, don't worry. You don't need any prior knowledge. We walk you through everything. Then we do a deep dive into the first two agreements: Be impeccable with your word and don't take anything personally. Annie brings such a beautiful perspective to being impeccable with your word and how to think about it. I had never heard it explained quite like she did. In Part 2, our next episode, we will cover agreements three and four: Don't make assumptions and always do your best. Annie is also a specialist in a really fascinating modality called RIM—Regenerating Images and Memory. And we're going to tell you all about it in Part 2. Here is the scoop on what's included — ✨ Episode at a Glance The fable from The Four Agreements about how we're all made of light What the "fog" is made of—all the agreements we've absorbed about who we are  Breaking generational curses by making new conscious agreements Agreement #1: Be Impeccable with Your Word—and how we talk to ourselves  Agreement #2: Don't Take Anything Personally—and what to ask instead The movie analogy for reconciling divinity with difficult people Why domestication keeps us in an unconscious pen How to use "What if it's not about me?" in your marriage The power of one: How you shift first and they react to that shift Resources Mentioned In This Episode: The Questions for Couples Journal Private Coaching with Maggie Free Workshop: The Growth Gap Marriage Mindset Makeover The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Visit Annie's website www.anniemhenderson.com  Follow Annie on IG @life_coach_annie Follow Annie on TikTok @Anniemhenderson

Garnett Carson is a spiritual seeker, conscious cannabis coach & host of the balancing act podcast.  This was an eye opening conversation on the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Garnetts links: Garnett's Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/share/1Adgd74SUW/?mibextid=wwXIfrGarnett's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/distant.relativ?igsh=NWRyMHZyYzFqZmd3Garnett's YouTube:https://m.youtube.com/@thebalancingact47Garnett's podcast feed:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-balancing-act/id1882446268

Somebody once pulled me aside at a men's mental health event I created and asked a question that hit way harder than it should have: “Who's qualified to speak about mental health?” I didn't argue, I didn't perform confidence, I just felt that sting and later realized what it really was, insecurity with a spotlight on it. That moment became the lens for a deeper talk on imposter syndrome, triggers, and why the comments that linger are often the ones trying to teach us something. I also connect the dots to The Four Agreements and the idea of “black magic,” the way words can plant shame that follows you for years. Then we get practical: some insecurities are fixable skill gaps that need reps, study, mentorship, and better systems. Others are emotional wounds like fear of rejection, abandonment, needing validation, or feeling unattractive, and those require internal work like therapy, support, spirituality, and honest conversations with yourself. The anchor is the Serenity Prayer: accept what you can't change, change what you can, and build the wisdom to know the difference. We talk about owning your background without negotiating your worth, why perfection kills confidence, how routines build self-trust, and even how parents can help boys unpack teasing before it hardens into lifelong shame. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who's been struggling quietly, and leave a review with the insecurity you're ready to stop protecting and start facing.Join our Patreon CommunityBuy some merch and ebooksIG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. David Rabin for a mind-expanding conversation on what we've fundamentally gotten wrong about mental health—and why treating symptoms instead of root causes keeps us stuck. They unpack how smartphones hijack our dopamine, why modern convenience works against our nervous systems, and what it really takes to break free from a chronic sympathetic (fight-or-flight) state. From the ancestral role of dopamine and the science behind hugs to nuanced discussions on anxiety, autism spectrum disorder, psychedelics, and ibogaine, this episode bridges ancient biology with cutting-edge research. Dr. Rabin also dives into the “Ape Theory” and the importance of understanding specific mushroom strains rather than lumping them all together. The conversation wraps with insights on Apollo Neuro, sleep optimization, respiratory rates, the “first night effect,” and a refreshing reminder that living a simple, happy life may be the most powerful biohack of all.Dr. David Rabin, MD, PhD, is a translational neuroscientist, board-certified psychiatrist, health tech entrepreneur & inventor who has been studying the impact of chronic stress in humans for more than two decades. He is the co-founder & Chief Medical Officer at Apollo Neuroscience, which has developed the first scientifically-validated wearable technology that actively improves energy, focus & relaxation, using a novel touch therapy that signals safety to the brain.In addition to his clinical psychiatry practice, Dr. Rabin is currently conducting research on wearable and technology-based solutions for mental illnesses and the mechanism of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy in treatment-resistant mental illnesses. He received his MD in medicine and PhD in neuroscience from Albany Medical College and specialized in psychiatry with a distinction in research at Western Psychiatric Institute & Clinic at the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. He has been married to his co-founder, Kathryn Fantauzzi, since 2016.SHOW NOTES:0:40 Welcome to the podcast!4:06 About Dave Rabin5:03 Welcome him to the show!6:36 What have we gotten wrong about mental health?8:15 Interaction with our smart phones11:12 Treating symptoms, not the cause12:25 Breaking free from sympathetic state15:48 The ancestral purpose of dopamine19:06 Patience vs Convenience24:08 Why we need hugs for health28:29 *CALOCURB*29:40 Anxiety & Autism Spectrum Disorder 32:09 When are psychedelics appropriate?35:34 Knowing your mushroom strain39:42 Ibogaine benefits46:21 Germ theory & antibiotics51:12 The Ape Theory57:13 About the Apollo1:03:05 How it increases deep & REM sleep1:04:01 Average respiratory rates1:08:05 “First Night Effect”1:08:54 How to live a simple, happy life1:11:32 “The Four Agreements”1:15:03 His final piece of advice1:17:40 Thanks for tuning in!RESOURCES:Calocurb - code: RENEE10_______________Website: David Rabin MD, PhD, Apollo NeuroApollo Neuro - Discount code: BIOHACKERBABESDr. Rabin's Book: A Simple Guide to Being AliveInstagram: @drdavidrabinTwitter: @daverabinWikipedia: David Rabin MD, PhDPodcast Website: The Psychedelic NewsDocumentaries: How to Change Your Mind, War in WavesMycology Psychology FREE Community CallSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/biohacker-babes-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

On this episode of The Nikki & Brie Show Nikki flies solo for a heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply inspiring conversation with her longtime friend and fellow WWE powerhouse, Bayley! From Grand Slam Champion to locker room mentor, Bayley opens up about the journey that's shaped her—inside and outside of the ring. She talks growing up as a wrestling fan, finding her passion, and the defining moment that made her believe she could become a WWE Superstar.The two talk about evolution—both personal and professional. Bayley shares how the “hugger” years shaped her early identity, how confidence came later, and how her current role is about lifting others. She gets candid about what's next: her first all-women's wrestling seminar, plans for coaching, and why she's passionate about bridging the gap between the indie scene and WWE. Oh—and yes, there are stories of cats, chaotic road trips, and some unforgettable wrestling memories.Nikki and Bayley play a hilarious round of “UnBaileyvable”, a rapid-fire game where Bayley reveals her celebrity crush and why Nick Miller from New Girl might be her soulmate. The episode closes with a powerful Inspiration Affirmation inspired by The Four Agreements and a reminder that—especially in this business—“don't take anything personally” might just be the best advice of all. Call Nikki & Brie at 833-GARCIA2 and leave a voicemail! Follow Nikki & Brie on Instagram, follow the show on Instagram and TikTok and send Nikki & Brie a message on Threads! Follow Bonita Bonita on Instagram Book a reservation at the Bonita Bonita Speakeasy To watch exclusive videos of this week's episode, follow The Nikki & Brie Show on YouTube, Facebook, and TikTok! You can also catch The Nikki & Brie Show on SiriusXM Stars 109! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.