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Before we dive in: the breakdown of this episode includes a brief discussion of sexual assault. Please take care while listening. Rebroadcast: You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with Dr. Alissa Jerud. She wrote the book Emotion-Savvy Parenting, and I loved getting to chat with her specifically about anxiety and what it looks like to experience anxiety without being consumed by it. Alissa Jerud has a PhD and is a mom of two kids. She's a licensed clinical psychologist, a clinical assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting, which is a compassionate science informed guide for relating more skillfully to painful, unwanted emotions in her private practice. Dr. Jerud specializes in highly effective exposure based treatment for anxiety related disorders, including OCD, PTSD, social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, specific phobias and generalized anxiety disorder. Additionally, she specializes in DBT, dialectical Behavior Therapy skills training, and particularly enjoys helping other parents learn research back strategies for accepting, regulating, and tolerating their emotions as well as their children's. Dr. Jerud also trains other clinicians in exposure based treatments and frequently gives workshops on anxiety, stress, mental health, parenting, and social support to companies large and small. Alright folks, let's dive in. Connect with Dr. Alissa Jerud: Instagram: @emotionsavvydoc Website: https://www.alissajerud.com Order the book: Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection Connect with us: Instagram and TikTok: @seed.and.sew Seed and Sew's NEW Regulation Questionnaire: Take the Quiz Order Big Kids, Bigger Feelings now! Website: seedandsew.org Credits: Host: Alyssa Blask Campbell Co-host: Rachel Lounder Production/Editing: Kristin Mork-McVeigh Graphics: Kayla Kurland-Davis/ Beki Rohrig Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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What happens when the psychologist becomes the patient? In this episode of Conversations with a Chiropractor, Dr. Stephanie Wautier talks with psychologist, chronic illness and pain coach, author, and advocate Dr. Jeffrey Bone about his own decade-long journey with chronic illness and what that experience has taught him about pain, identity, grief, resilience, and hope. Jeff shares how a mysterious collection of neurological and physical symptoms eventually led him through functional medicine, environmental testing, immunology, and a diagnosis of common variable immune deficiency. Along the way, he experienced something many people with complicated or chronic health conditions know all too well: the exhaustion of appointments, uncertainty, conflicting opinions, and simply wanting someone to believe that something is wrong. But Jeff's story is not just about illness. It is about what happens when the life you had planned is no longer available. He and Stephanie talk about grieving your former self, accepting a new normal without surrendering your quality of life, becoming your own healthcare advocate, and finding doctors who remain genuinely curious when the answers are not obvious. That same curiosity ultimately became one of Jeff's most important tools. After years of defining himself largely through work, chronic illness pushed him toward poetry, books, podcasting, creativity, philosophy, new experiences, and a different definition of success. Today, he helps other people living with chronic illness and persistent pain navigate the emotional realities that often receive far less attention than the symptoms themselves. Jeff's challenge is beautifully simple: Ask yourself, "What could be wonderful today?" You do not have to completely reinvent your life. Sometimes curiosity begins with trying something new, asking another question, creating something imperfectly, or simply noticing what has been around you all along. Important Note This episode includes personal experiences and discussion of mold exposure, chronic inflammatory response syndrome, common variable immune deficiency, functional medicine, cortisol testing, supplements, sleep, chronic pain, and other health-related approaches. The experiences and opinions shared belong to the speakers and are provided for education and conversation. This episode is not a substitute for individualized medical or mental health care. Please consult qualified healthcare professionals before beginning supplements, changing treatment, or making decisions about a chronic health condition. Listener Offer This episode of Conversations with a Chiropractor is supported by Lemongrove Oil. Use code DRSTEPHANIE at checkout for 10% off your order. https://www.lemongroveoil.com/ Featured Wellness Resource: Exodus Strong Explore Exodus Strong, a faith-centered wellness company offering red and near-infrared light therapy products including full-body mats, masks, wands, belts and other at-home devices, along with molecular hydrogen and botanical supplements, frequency-based wellness products, and complete Light Code wellness systems. If you're interested in exploring what Exodus Strong has to offer, please use Dr. Stephanie's link below. Purchases made through this affiliate link help support Conversations with a Chiropractor and allow us to keep bringing you new conversations each week. https://exodusstrong.com?a_aid=drstephanie Learn More About Dr. Jeffrey Bone Website: https://drbone.live/ Jeff provides chronic illness coaching throughout the United States. Podcast: To the Bone: Conversations on Pain, Illness and Meaning Available on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Conversations with a Chiropractor YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@ConversationswithaChiro Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wautierwellness Email: drstephaniewautier@yahoo.com Want to be a guest? Send Stephanie Wautier a message on PodMatch: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/drstephanie Credits Podcast production by Brand|Sound. Start your podcast journey by emailing brandsoundpodcasts@gmail.com. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:53 Meet Dr. Jeffrey Bone 01:52 Mold Exposure and the Search for Answers 05:10 Functional Medicine and an Immune Deficiency Diagnosis 08:44 Grieving the Old Self and Accepting a New Normal 12:31 Helping Others Through Lived Experience 17:20 Medical Burnout, Chronic Stress, and Being Believed 20:41 Exploring Treatment and Becoming Your Own Advocate 27:26 Creativity, Writing, and Finding Freedom Again 29:15 To the Bone and Creating Without Perfection 32:06 Curiosity as a Tool for Healing and Growth 37:18 Redefining Success After Chronic Illness 41:18 "What Could Be Wonderful Today?" 42:14 Where to Find Dr. Jeffrey Bone 43:39 Closing Thoughts
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The creature is revenging. What shall we do?Host segments: Biblically accurate grad school stuff; are the ugly girls worth searching for?; so many introductions in this episode!; looks relaxing to be a gill man at first; the legacy of the Creature from the Black Lagoon; in the not-too-distang geological future; apologies to Elisabeth Moss; the revenge of the Helen.
Brian Ruby is the founder of Medifoodz, a company focused on making therapeutic ketogenic nutrition more practical, accessible, and sustainable. Through Medifoodz's Glyvance program, Ruby is combining chef-prepared ketogenic meals with continuous glucose monitoring, digital support, and clinician oversight to help patients translate metabolic health science into everyday life. His work centers on one of the biggest challenges in nutrition-based care: not simply knowing what to eat, but making it easier to consistently eat that way. Dr. Adrian Soto-Mota, MD, PhD, FACP is an internist, metabolic researcher, and professor whose work focuses on human metabolism, ketone biology, and evidence-based approaches to metabolic disease. He earned his PhD in Physiology and Metabolism from the University of Oxford and has conducted research on exogenous ketones, glucose metabolism, and cardiovascular health. In this episode, Dr. Brian, Dr. Tro, Dr. Adrian, and Brian Ruby talk about… (00:00) Intro (02:20) Why Brian Ruby founded Medifoodz (09:49) Dr. Soto Mota's recent study pitting the ADA's recommended diet and a ketogenic diet (22:28) The hardest barrier to entry most people struggle to overcome when starting a keto diet (26:15) Why CGMs are so incredibly valuable sustainability (32:16) Babies, dogs, and real food (39:24) Big Food and subsidies (45:58) Real food and dietary motivation (51:38) The AHA recommended diet diabetes reversal (59:15) Accepting and embracing criticism (01:05:51) Dr. Soto Mota's recent Zetia Study (link below) (01:18:24) Outro For more information, please see the links below. Thank you for listening! Links: Please consider supporting us on Patreon: https://www.lowcarbmd.com/ Brian Ruby: Glyvance: https://medifoodz.com/ X: https://x.com/Medifoodz Dr. Adrian Soto Mota: X: https://x.com/AdrianSotoMota Zetia Study: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12944-026-03034-w Dr. Brian Lenzkes: Website: https://arizonametabolichealth.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/BrianLenzkes?ref_src=twsrc^google|twcamp^serp|twgr^author Dr. Tro Kalayjian: Website: https://toward.health Twitter: https://twitter.com/DoctorTro IG: https://www.instagram.com/doctortro/ Toward Health App Join a growing community of individuals who are improving their metabolic health; together. Get started at your own pace with a self-guided curriculum developed by Dr. Tro and his care team, community chat, weekly meetings, courses, challenges, message boards and more. Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/doctor-tro/id1588693888 Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=uk.co.disciplemedia.doctortro&hl=en_US&gl=US Learn more: https://toward.health/community/
What if accepting yourself can actually be the thing that helps you change? In this episode, I talk about why self-acceptance can feel confusing when you're trying to quit pornography or become a better version of yourself. It can seem like accepting where you are means giving up, but the opposite is often true. I explain why the more you accept yourself, the easier it becomes to change, and why shame, defeat, and feeling like you're not good enough often make it harder to take sustainable action. We'll explore the difference between acceptance and justification, and why changing from a place of self-love creates a stronger foundation for growth. You'll learn why acceptance is not the same as staying stuck, how your thoughts and emotions influence the actions you take, and how practicing self-acceptance can help you create lasting change. This episode will help you shift from fighting yourself to supporting yourself as you work toward the life you want. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://centerforovercoming.com/post/accepting-yourself-makes-change-easierMentioned in this episode:Free TrainingEverything You Were Taught About Quitting Porn Kept You Trapped. Once you see why, you can finally break the cycle and feel free again.Watch the Free Training Here!
What happens when years of medical training teach you to undervalue your own time—and how can that affect the way you earn, spend, and build wealth? In Part 2 of our conversation, Dr. Billina Shaw explores the financial boundaries, money scripts, and deeply ingrained beliefs that can shape women physicians' financial decisions. She discusses why it can be so difficult to charge what your work is worth, how medical training can contribute to financial devaluation and lifestyle creep, and how to move beyond guilt and shame toward more intentional financial choices. Dr. Shaw also shares practical ways to recognize inherited money patterns, build financial resilience, and separate your net worth from your self-worth.Dr. Billina Shaw is a Yale-educated triple board-certified psychiatrist (child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry; addiction medicine) with an MPH from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. She has served as a Senior Medical Advisor at the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), bringing federal-level expertise in behavioral health policy and implementation. Dr. Shaw now works with high-achievers, leaders, and organizations to move from anxious and disconnected to purposeful, peaceful, and prosperous. Through her speaker platform and financial wellness coaching practice, she bridges clinical psychiatry, behavioral health strategy, and the psychological roots of financial decision-making and well-being.In this episode, we discuss:Why do women physicians often feel uncomfortable charging for their time, expertise, and services?How can setting financial boundaries protect your time, energy, peace, and long-term financial goals?How does medical training contribute to the devaluation of physicians' time and expertise—and how can that affect financial decisions later?Why can physicians experience a pendulum swing from extreme financial deprivation to overspending after residency?How can physicians enjoy their money without falling into mindless spending or all-or-nothing financial rules?How do guilt, shame, and financial trauma influence the way we earn, spend, save, and invest?How can you recognize and reshape inherited money scripts that may have been passed down through generations?What can we learn from major financial disruptions or losses that were outside our control?How can viewing your knowledge, skills, relationships, and abilities as assets help you feel more financially resilient?How long does it typically take to make meaningful changes in deeply rooted financial beliefs and behaviors?What is the difference between your net worth and your self-worth—and why does that distinction matter for financial wellness?Ultimately, Dr. Shaw reminds us that financial wellness is about more than numbers. It begins with understanding the beliefs and experiences that shape our relationship with money—and recognizing that our net worth does not determine our worth.Interested in learning more about my telehealth direct specialty care practice? At AmazVita MD, I help patients optimize weight and metabolic health, harmonize hormones in peri/menopause, and enhance wellness and vitality. Accepting new patients now.Website:amazvitamd.comEmail:hello@amazvitamd.comLearn more about me or schedule a FREE coaching call:https://www.joyfulsuccessliving.com/ Join the Voices of Women Physicians Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/190596326343825/Connect with Dr. Shaw:Website:www.drbillina.comLinkedIn:http://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-billina Instagram:@drbillinaText GROW to 55444 to join Dr. Shaw's email list.
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Wayne Hillier Before Real Estate: Debt, Gambling & Rock Bottom Before the rental properties, businesses, coaching and real estate investing success, Wayne Hillier was living a very different life. He was working at a gas station for roughly $14–$16 an hour, carrying credit-card debt, gambling, trying to keep up with friends who were progressing in their careers, and feeling increasingly stuck. Then one weekend, Wayne bought a sports lottery ticket. For several hours, he believed he may have won approximately $340,000. What happened next became one of the pivotal moments that eventually pushed him to leave Ontario, move across the country to Alberta, meet Gabby and ultimately discover real estate investing. It is a chapter of Wayne's story he says he had almost completely forgotten — and had never shared on the podcast before. The lesson that came from it would eventually shape much of what happened next: No one is coming to save you.
be realistic, expect miracles.The universe is chaotic and the more we fight that the harder it is to deal with it. Resistance of that truth is the problem, not the truth itself. When we finally learn to accept the reality that the universe is unpredictable, we stop limiting ourselves to our expectations. I am constantly at war with the reality of the universe. I cling to shit I can't have and resist shit I can't avoid. But clinging to the illusion of control is a false sense of safety. It makes me feel like I'm doing something of value, when it's simply redirecting the little bit of control I do have into something I have no control over. Accepting that the future is not within our control frees us from the stress of trying to control it. Fighting reality takes so much mental energy and wastes our capacity for changing what actually we can change. Rigid expectations blind us to the limitless possibility of the future. I have an ampersand tattoo on my arm to remind me of the improv principle of “yes and” which is very helpful when I get stuck in my often limiting worldview of “this is it, forever.” I have found that it is a powerful practice to remember that the story doesn't end with the discomfort. Yes, I am in pain AND I can move forward. Yes, that sucked, AND I can make it suck less. As somebody who wants to “fix” everything right away and avoid all discomfort, it's nice to be able to focus on what I can actually affect instead of the reality that there's much I can't control. We can only see so much of the path ahead, our limiting ability of sight doesn't mean the path doesn't exist or we won't be able to navigate it once we get there, it just means we can't see what we haven't approached yet. BE REALISTIC EXPECT A MIRACLE.SOURCES:https://strengtheningyourconsciousself.com/free-will-willpower-and-choices/https://www.universetoday.com/articles/does-free-will-exist-part-2-the-chaotic-universeRead Julie's Medium Blog.Support JULIE (and the show!)Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.Info on War Tax Resistance.Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief FundThe opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Got a great idea to tackle the opioid substance misuse but need funding to get the project started? Washington County Opioid Settlement Council is accepting applications now through October 2. Sheletta chats with a grant administrator and a council member about qualifications, the application process, and how the money can be used. Substance Use, Harm Reduction, & Response | Washington County, MN - Official Website Opioid Settlement Application Form 2026 - Intellistack
We're back with the fourth episode in our series in which we're working our way through Pam's book, The Unschooling Journey: A Field Guide. Today, we're continuing our exploration of the deschooling phase of the journey with stage eight: Accepting the Value of All Experiences. We’ve questioned our beliefs about learning and about parenting. Now we're moving beyond judgement. As our understanding of this new world of unschooling grows, we are drawn to digging deeper. Using the lens of unschooling, we're exploring what it means to be a human being living fully in the world, with all of the ups and downs. We had a great time diving in. We hope you find this episode helpful on your unschooling journey! Watch the video of our conversation on YouTube. THINGS WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE Learn more about Pam's book, The Unschooling Journey: A Field Guide. We invite you to join us in the Living Joyfully Network, a warm and welcoming online community of like-hearted parents. It's a non-judgmental space where you can steep in these unconventional ideas around parenting, relationships, and learning, and explore what they might look like day-to-day in your uniquely wonderful family. We offer a free month trial so you can see if it's a good fit for you. Click here to join us. Sign up to our mailing list on Substack to receive our email newsletters as well as new articles about learning, parenting, and so much more! Check out our website, livingjoyfully.ca for more information about exploring unschooling and navigating relationships. EPISODE TRANSCRIPT PAM: Hello, everyone. I’m Pam Laricchia from Living Joyfully. And I am joined today by my co-hosts Anna Brown and Erika Ellis. ANNA, ERIKA: Hello. PAM: And we are back with another episode in our A Field Guide series. We are working our way through my book, The Unschooling Journey: A Field Guide, which is framed around the hero’s journey and is a weave of myths, contemporary stories and tales from my own journey. We are now deep in the deschooling phase. In the last episode of this series, episode 413, we dug into some of the popular conventional paradigms about parenting, and we found more truths buried there. And as we continue our journey on the road of trials, we’re exploring the idea of accepting the value of all experiences. If you’re newer to unschooling, and this is your first time exploring these truths, you’re likely dancing with these ideas intellectually to understand what they mean and some of their further reaching implications. If you’ve been unschooling for a while and feel like you already intellectually embrace these ideas and have been bringing them into your family’s lives, now’s the time to peel back some more layers to build more connections and context around them, strengthening your web of understanding with your personal experiences, building your wisdom as you move towards believing them in your bones as your own truth. Now we are well into the deschooling phase. In the last two stages, we challenged those conventional pieces of wisdom around learning, like embracing curiosity rather than following curriculum, and parenting, replacing control with connection as our relationship dynamic with our kids. These stages often have lots of twists and turns as we bring these ideas into life, life into our family, and see how things unfold, right? Again, not about right or wrong. We’re gaining experience, we’re seeing how things happen. So this episode, which is stage eight of the journey, we’re exploring the idea of accepting the value of all experiences. In other words, we’re moving beyond judgment. Now here we go. As our understanding of this new world of unschooling grows, we are drawn to digging deeper. Using the lens of unschooling, we’re exploring what it means to be a human being living fully in the world. So Joseph Campbell calls this stage the meeting with the goddess. So in myths and stories, the hero must be spiritually prepared to meet this revered goddess, the universal mother, who represents the whole cycle of life. To meet her in her true form is to rise to her challenge and be able to contemplate the entire birth death cycle that she presents with equanimity with calmness and composure, the ups and the downs, the good and the bad, cosmic creation and destruction, to be able to hold both of these seemingly opposing ideas, opposites in your mind with comparable appreciation. So in the book, I shared that Kali from Hindu mythology is a great example of the kind of goddess you might meet in this stage. As a goddess of time, creation and destruction, she represents both the benevolence of a caring, comforting mother, and the fury of an aggressive punishing one, as well as the expanse of time that contains them both. So, when we look at Kali’s right side, we see good and on the left, we see bad. That’s what she represents. And when we are ready to grasp the truth that lies at the heart of this stage, we see her full nature, both. We see her in full. And we’ve been preparing to meet our Kali with all that we’ve learned so far on our unschooling journey. Like how on earth are we going to link those together? Here we go. We started to see the connections play out between our new perspective on things like we talked about in the last Field Guide episode, like why quitting things isn’t bad, right? Why saying yes more to our kids isn’t bad. Why are kids seemingly doing nothing is not bad. We’ve noticed times when we didn’t stop our child from making a choice that we feared might go badly. And they went on to happily engage with the activity. So by giving our days the time to unfold more naturally, we’ve seen new and interesting things take root in the wake of destruction and upset many times. From a fallen block tower springs a taller, sturdier one. From highly anticipated plans falling through emerges, say, a spontaneous trip to the park, or a cuddly movie day, which turns out to be just what was needed. Without knowing it, we have been thoroughly preparing ourselves for this meeting. And for me, I think the key shift has been your mantra, Anna, there’s plenty of time. The trick was giving moments more time and space to unfold. That allowed me to see how seemingly good and bad moments actually weave together that they’re not like just separate single incidents. They’re not like these distinct events where I can tell you that like, oh, we had five good moments today and seven bad moments. So that was a losing day, or if they were the opposite, that was a winning day, right? To see the fuller, bigger picture, see how this is our life and, and the good and bad were weaving together. But that block tower one is just something I remember, you know, one kid running up and knocking it over. And like just those pieces, think of your own stories in your own life. Think back to when you’ve seen those things go from, from bad something upsetting to working out well, and vice versa. It’s all so very interesting, I think. ANNA: Yeah, it is. And I think Kali is such an interesting representation for this phase, because many people are very afraid to get Kali in a reading because they associate her with destruction. But yes, both pieces are there, creation and destruction. And it fits here so well, because how I see that destruction part is really just a sweeping away of old paradigms, creating a clean slate, allowing us to build a stronger foundation when that tower of our ideas are knocked down, and a new framework to support where we are now with all of this new information that we’re taking in. And it really can’t be built on top of the old. We can take what we’ve learned with us. So it’s not that we’re leaving everything behind. But letting go of the fear around letting go of the old and embracing a new paradigm allows us to fully open to all it can bring us. And a lot of discomfort comes, I think, in straddling the old and new, because we aren’t actually fully in either at that point. And releasing judgment was such a key part of my journey. You know, in my 20s, I loved a good debate and was quite adept at it. And as I started to value connection over winning, I realized how disconnecting the judgment was. I will never know what’s best for another person, even my child. So any judgment of them or their actions actually just keeps me from learning about them, who they are, how they want to move through the world, what their priorities are. And honestly, it keeps my own learning stagnant. If I’m so sure I know what’s best, how do I see a new way, a way that might serve me better in this moment where I am right now. And I love the tally piece that you mentioned because I think it’s a really slippery slope. If we are focused on categorizing the day or the event as good or bad, we’re missing the nuance that exists in every day, every event, because there’s always going to be both, they exist together. And while our brain can like this idea of categorizing as a shortcut, it really takes us out of being present in each moment. And it can end up dictating our emotions around it. So have we had a good week? Okay, then I can feel happy and feel good. I’m a great parent, we’ve done it this week. But then if this week has been bad, then there must be something wrong with me, and I should have done something differently. That type of judgment and kind of surface level ranking just doesn’t serve us personally or relationally. And it can really keep us stuck in this yucky cycle, instead of learning and growing together. And so that is something to watch for that like, oh, this was good and so now this means X, you know, whereas again, I think the idea of plenty of time really does help just let things unfold, and not getting attached to those pieces, we just learn so much more. ERIKA: Yes, I like this phase, because it really feels to me like having gained some perspective, and maybe some maturity, after making a whole lot of huge mental shifts and paradigm shifts we’ve been working through in the last few episodes. And so I just think life is so much more nuanced than there’s one right answer, or there’s one right way to do something. And I think we may absorb that message in school that there is a right answer or one right path. But it’s so much more real and true to living life in this world to be in this gray area, there are infinite possibilities, there are infinite paths, we’re not sure how it’s going to play out. And so I feel a lot more grounded and safe when I have that perspective, and I’m not clinging so strongly to this is good, this is bad. I also feel a lot more generous and nonjudgmental towards other people as well. Because I can recognize, we’re just all doing our best in each moment to meet our own needs and just figure out what’s going to work best for us. And we’re all different. And I don’t need to judge others. And I just feel like it’s a grounding place to be, when we get to this stage. PAM: Yeah. Oh, I love that. Okay, so the next aspect we want to explore around the idea of accepting the value of all experiences is moving beyond this is good and bad. So in the book, I share a quote that’s usually attributed to Alexander Graham Bell. When one door closes, another opens. But we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us. I think that succinctly describes life before this encounter with the goddess, right? We don’t realize the connection between destruction and creation between good and bad on that continuum of time. So this is the wisdom that the stories of Kali and other cosmic mother goddesses are meant to convey, rather than being tossed around by the ups and downs of life, like that whole roller coaster image, we now see the value of and the connection between those moments. So as we’ve been paying attention on our journey, giving things time and space to unfold, which you hear us talking about all the time on the podcast, we’ve soon experienced the cycle and had time to learn that trying to rush through the down times doesn’t work. We can’t pry open a door that doesn’t want to give. We’ve learned that doesn’t mean passively sitting back and waiting. It means being attentive, just like from that quote, right? Maybe knocking on a door, wandering the hallway, noticing the door that’s slightly ajar, hearing the faint click of a doorknob being unlocked. Eventually, something happens and things move forward, maybe in unexpected ways. But in my experience, often in more interesting ways than we had first imagined. That was us looking at that door, that’s where we thought we were going. That’s where we thought things were going to be. But when we there’s just so many more ways that life can unfold. I actually really learned this more through observing my kids’ lives in action. So often, when I was able to stretch my comfort zones and follow them where they were eager to go, the door they wanted to go through, I saw them learning so much, both when things went well and when they didn’t. There’s that good/bad. I was humbled by how often my initial predictions were just flat out wrong. Thank goodness I kept them to myself because I wasn’t ready quite yet to admit how often I was wrong. But without me clouding their experience with my judgment, they could more clearly and directly learn what was most valuable to them in the moment, because that’s where their mind was. That’s where their whole body was. I want to be in this moment, and just see how it plays out. So as my wish to understand my children’s perspective, and choices grew, my need to judge them truly faded. And with that, so did so many of our conflicts, and our trust in each other grew. And again, remember that not judging isn’t about giving in or giving up or saying do whatever you want, right? It’s about engaging more deeply but with openness. The image that helps me is beginner’s mind. What can I learn here? That’s what this stage is encouraging us to discover. It’s about seeing the value of all aspects of life, moving through the bad moments with as much awareness as the good ones, not covering your eyes and trying to ignore them until they pass. Because, as you see, through all the ups and downs, all these moments are integral to our lives. They all mean something. They all help us learn something. ERIKA: Yeah, that’s a huge shift when we can stop labeling things as good and bad. It’s just more complicated than that. And I think our judging tends to influence what happens next. And so I don’t, I certainly don’t want to label my day as a bad day, especially at the beginning, which I do hear people do that sometimes. Because a day has all kinds of moments in it. And we don’t know what’s going to happen next. And by labeling it bad, I think we’re just setting ourselves up for well, now it is going to be bad because we said that. But we learned from it all. In some of the meditation courses I’ve participated in, I really came to understand and value that idea of equanimity. It’s a power that we can cultivate, to be able to just witness the turbulent nature of life and still see the bigger picture. It feels like not getting swept up by every little thing that’s happening. And it helps keep me going and moving towards the things that I want. Whereas if I am getting swept up, it makes it so I’m so overwhelmed that I can’t even face what’s happening or make decisions or move forward. And so I feel like if we can move away from judging ourselves, judging others, judging all the moments as good or bad, I think there’s just so much more potential and so many more possibilities in front of us. To me, it has a very spacious feeling. ANNA: Yeah, I really like that visual, witnessing the turbulent nature of life, but not getting swept away. I think that therein lies that practice of equanimity and just presence. I feel like the categorizing that I mentioned earlier keeps us from really appreciating the nuances of all the experiences. Each experience brings with it a wealth of knowledge and understanding about ourselves, about each other, about the world. And the idea of releasing good or bad always brings to mind for me the Taoist farmer story. I’ll post a better version in the show notes. But the idea is that there’s a farmer who has a series of events happen to his family at each event, the village wants to weigh in with, Oh, what bad luck you’re having? Or Oh, what good luck you’re having? And each time the farmer answers maybe. His horse runs away, bad luck. Maybe. His horse returns with six more wild horses. Good luck. Maybe. His son breaks his leg on a new horse. Bad luck. Maybe. His son doesn’t have to go to war when all the other young men do. Good luck. Maybe. As the story unfolds, you see how something first appears is never the whole of the story. And if we can step away from preconceived notions and judging everything as good or bad, it opens us to more nuances, to new paths, to new ideas. Even just bringing “maybe” into our mind when something happens can slow us down and help us widen our view. Because we get caught up with the quick snap judgment, and it creates this ripple that really narrows our focus, and keeps us from seeing the bigger picture. And that’s the thing with good or bad, it is just this narrowing of the focus. And so if instead, I acknowledge that what is happening just is, I’m more open to seeing the opportunities for growth and learning, I’m more open to actually experiencing it. And I guess that’s a big piece for me, because judging really takes us out of the moment and puts us back into our head. We’re categorizing, this is a problem, this is not good, this is bad, end of story. But there’s no end to the story. Each bit of life leads to another and weaves into this larger tapestry. And with openness and willingness, we can create this massive tapestry that keeps us learning and growing throughout our life. And once we understand that for ourselves, we can see that our kids are doing exactly the same. They are on their own unique journey, building their own unique, massive tapestry. PAM: I love that piece. And the word maybe could be so helpful if you’re navigating this stage right now. And just put a little card that says maybe somewhere where you see it. It’s just a little reminder that judging something in that moment, maybe you’re right but maybe not. Let’s let things unfold. Okay, so the next aspect we want to explore around the idea of accepting the value of all experiences is the epiphany moment. We’ve talked before about how we often understand things intellectually before we feel them as truth in our bones. And in the book, I liken the intellectual understanding as puzzle pieces we have floating around in our minds, right? They each make sense to us on an intuitive level, but they haven’t really quite solidly clicked into place. So as you begin this stage of moving beyond judgment, you may not yet have enough puzzle pieces to grasp what this not judging thing might look like in the bigger picture. And then at some point, the piece appears that kind of changes everything. The moment that sparks this epiphany, as with so many other insights on our unschooling journey, truly might be quite ordinary. It doesn’t need to be a special puzzle piece. It’s just the puzzle piece for you. This is the one, for some reason, that gives you the flash of insight. All of a sudden, you can see the picture you’re building, and how the pieces are going to fit together. So, the naivete, it’s so easy to write, less so much to say. But this naive urge to judge something becomes clear, and our understanding of the value of all experiences, good, bad, otherwise, medium, whatever word you’re using, or words you’re using to judge things, rises out of the confusing free-for-all that we first envisioned at the thought of moving beyond. If we’re not judging things, everything is just, everything’s good then? What does that mean? From this turning point, this epiphany, our perspective shifts. We stop desperately trying to avoid or escape bad moments. Understanding that they, while, absolutely not what we’ve hoped for, are just moments. And, as you often talk about, Anna, we grow to trust ourselves to handle whatever kind of moment comes our way. A deeper sense of confidence begins to take root, as we more mindfully engage in all the moments of our days. And, we more clearly see our children living this trust and confidence. I think it’s something humans are born knowing. But, we lose track of it growing up when we’re immersed in judgment, shame, and fear. And those being used to control us. Going back to that last episode of Control and Connection. And, it hits us now. We’ve got this puzzle piece. Life isn’t about trying to avoid the bad moments, so we can finally live our good lives. And, we’re just like, I want this good life. I want this good life. We have been living our full lives, our rich lives, all along. ANNA: I think there’s just such a beautiful freedom in recognizing that life is going to contain it all. It’s not about optimizing. It isn’t something we can control. There is not one path that will lead to everything being perfect. I think, as the Buddhists would say, the suffering is in the attachment to that outcome. And so, to me, it really plays out. If I’m gripping so tightly to control, thinking I can somehow make the right choice, and then everything will always be great, it feels so dysregulating when it doesn’t happen that way, when I’ve tried so hard, and then the mark has been missed. Again, that goal that we talked about a little bit earlier. If instead, I’m just open and curious, and greeting things as they come, be them obstacles or gifts, with the same open energy, I can stay regulated, and I can find the growth available to me in all of those areas, in both, in obstacles and the beautiful gifts of life. And that’s where I got to the place that you mentioned. The epiphany for me was seeing how well we worked together, how we survived whatever came our way. We had tools to get through it, and that doesn’t take away the sting of disappointment or loss when it happens, because it still can sting. But our relationships were solid. Nothing felt shaky there. And from that foundation, the bumps felt more manageable. So, instead of the acrobatics of trying to miss the bumps, my focus was on strengthening our connection and our communication, so that we could roll over the bumps together. That was something that I could actually influence. Attempting to stop the bumps never worked, no matter how hard I tried. It’s outside of my control, and it ends up taking me out of the moment, and I’m actually not using the time or energy to strengthen my relationships. I’m over here juggling and trying to do something perfectly. And I think this can be really hard at first, though, because we really have been taught that there are answers, that things fit nicely into good and bad and right and wrong. And so, when something so widely accepted, like school, isn’t working for your family, it can feel very intense. We become invested in finding the next right answer, but it’s not about that. Life is about nuance, growth, exploration. It’s messier and more unpredictable than that. But again, I think once we embrace that and understand what we can control, which is basically just how we show up and who we are, there is a freedom, a release that happens. It opens you up to see the beauty in all of it, the beauty and the value in all experiences. So, back to the theme. ERIKA: I love that, and I know it feels hard sometimes, because it really does feel like maybe I can control everything, and then I’ll know how it’s going to turn out, and it’ll all turn out perfectly. But life shows me that it doesn’t work like that. But that’s not failing. That’s just life. And so, I can connect with other people, because we all are sharing this human experience of all of these parts. Life has it all. And if someone in my life seems unable to see that for themselves, I know that’s just where they are on their own journey. I don’t have to pull them to where I am. Life has it all, the ups and the downs, and we’re just going to roll with it. If someone’s not ready for that, I can’t get them there. It’s one of those things that I think just has to click for us in time, and I guess that’s why we’re calling it the epiphany here. So, yeah, I love that. PAM: It has to click for us. I love that. I love that. And, okay, so this last aspect that we want to dive into is embracing the value of time. And just imagine, time is what we’ve been talking about to see how good and bad are actually linked together, and they don’t need to be judged. They’re things that happen. They’re things that have happened, and this led to this and maybe to this. Anyway, I had mentioned earlier that I think the key shift for me in understanding this stage of the journey was really in your mantra, Anna, there’s plenty of time. This is the piece that I wanted to bring out because there’s two aspects of time for me that came to me. One was giving moments more time and space to unfold. That’s what we’ve been talking about. Most often, we don’t need to solve moments, right? I don’t need to ride the high of good as long as I can, and I don’t need to fix the bad as fast as I can. That is just something that fades alongside the urge to judge them, that this is what comes with the epiphany. But the other was more time to ponder things. There’s a deeper level of understanding that comes with continuing to poke and prod our thoughts, to look at our ideas from this way and that way, up close, far away, sideways. Giving myself that time and space allowed me to see how seemingly good and bad moments actually weave together. It’s just the up and down and in and out of playing with things. It’s like, oh, it was so useful to me to recognize when I get stuck in something, right? I need to change how I’m looking at something. And truly, if you are persistent, you will reach deeper levels of understanding, moving from the comprehension, if this is kind of your first engagement with these kinds of ideas, that makes some sense to experience. Then you see these ideas in action. So often for us, it’s seeing them in action with our kids, right? And then to the truth, you’ve seen them play out multiple times in multiple circumstances, and you’re starting to see how they might actually apply to you as well. And this stage is just a great example of this. If discovering the truth around learning and parenting in the last two stages was akin to adding new landmarks to your map, this stage was about taking the time to explore them more fully, eventually revealing like the secluded trails that connect them. We also get our first taste of the fruits of this inner journey. Releasing that need to be constantly judging things is just so freeing. I mean, the curiosity that bubbles up from that, it was just life changing for me. Time is a priceless and integral part of both our journey to understand and embrace unschooling, but also the practice of unschooling itself forevermore. We’ve gone from intellectually understanding that life encompasses good and bad moments to experiencing the learning about the world and about ourselves that is found in both kinds of moments, to embracing the truth that all moments, good, bad, and all manner in between moments have value in our lives. We are learning through the ups and downs, through the good and bad. This is life or as Campbell describes it, which I thought was cool, the nature of being. Yeah, that lands for me. ERIKA: That’s beautiful. I love that. I can definitely find myself clinging to time when things are feeling good, and just wishing it would slow down. But really the only way to slow down time that I’ve found is to get really present, and take note of all the things that are happening in this moment. There are all kinds of feelings, experiences, things to see, people to be with. And so I don’t typically wish away time even when things are hard. I think it’s a human impulse to do that though, like I just wish this day was over. But I think my personality specifically tends to cling to time rather than hope it goes by faster. But I have found there’s plenty of time to be just such a soothing phrase. It’s a reminder for me to just relax, let go of my intensity about finding that solution or getting to a certain place. I mean, even physically getting to a place, we have to get to whatever, get to the party on time. And I love how we all hear Anna’s voice in our minds with that reminder. It really helps me move out of that kind of tunnel vision and to a more grounded place where I can see what’s actually in front of me and make decisions about what to do next. And even just taking a breath can be so helpful too, just to settle down my nervous system. There’s plenty of time. We’ve got this. And just let me be present in this moment. ANNA: Yeah. Oh my goodness. How many times do we remind each other that we’ve got this during any given week and that there’s plenty of time?! It really does calm my nervous system and sometimes it feels cheesy to type or hear. But it also calms my nervous system every time because it’s true because we have a history of having gotten it. And so I know we will keep doing it, but I do think it’s fun to think about time. It’s just such an interesting concept and it can drive so many feelings and behaviors, or I guess maybe more accurately our reactions and interplay with time drives the feelings and behavior, but understanding that helps us see the choice, right? So time can seem to be crawling and then it can fly by in a blink and can often feel out of our control. But I like the pieces that have been pulled out, like the idea of giving space to a moment, not needing to rush in with solutions or move quickly through it. I think we do that sometimes because we don’t like to sit in discomfort. But that discomfort has messages for us. It’s not a scary place. It can be a place of growth and we miss that if we’re rushing through it, just like we miss the joy present in those small moments, as well, if we’re always rushing ahead to the next thing. And the unfolding became such an important concept to me. I was a planner. I still am, but with a lighter, more playful grip. Allowing moments and days to unfold, I started to see this organic flow that was always present, a flow I had really missed in my tightly controlled timelines. And I started to feel a real difference in my body. The tightness that I was literally carrying as I was trying to plan and control all the things versus the softness, the openness in my body when we just allowed a day to unfold. And that learning could happen in a moment when I stopped talking and observed. These things were not easy for me. That is why ‘there’s plenty of time' is such an important mantra for me, because I could feel myself relax with that reminder. And it is not my natural state of being. I am wanting to do, do, do, maximize, go, do. There’s not enough time. But boy, it really helps ground me. And then the part you mentioned, Pam, about time to ponder, that was also really critical. I had to slow down and trust in the time to find the deeper layers, to better understand myself and the people around me. And it doesn’t happen overnight. It happens with an intentional commitment to take the time to feel the feelings, to dig into the layers, to understand the connections, the reactions, the context, the ideas that we’re holding on to. I don’t think you can grow, have growth without time to be in that space. And so what I learned about myself was that my kind of go, go, tight control and planning was really me trying to outrun some past trauma pieces and things I didn’t want to look at about myself, and maybe even about the world and the things around me. And slowing down felt really scary. But I really allowed myself space to feel the feelings and understand how my patterns from childhood were showing up now. And that was really the only way I could make changes and show up in new ways to be the person I wanted to be for my kids. So that shift is kind of what you’re talking about Pam, the ideas, they feel great, this kind of intellectual understanding. But it took me doing this slowed down work to really get to feel it in my bones and be able to act on it from my bones versus just this intellectual understanding. PAM: Yeah. Oh, and just to wrap things up, as I was writing the book and really thinking about the phases. I could see how those three ideas came together. That’s why I love choosing Kali, here’s a goddess who is time, creation, and destruction, those three things good, bad and unfolding, are just so integral to growing as a human being to understand what’s going on at some level. There are always more layers, as we talked about, but it’s just fascinating for me to see how these things so beautifully weave together as part of this tapestry. I love that image, too. Okay, so thanks so much to everyone for joining us. We hope you enjoyed this dive into the third stage of the de-schooling phase of our journey, as we explored the idea of accepting the value of all experiences. And we invite you to join us in the Living Joyfully Network to continue this conversation because we love talking about this stuff. It’s a warm and welcoming online community of like-hearted parents, a non-judgmental space where you can steep in these unconventional unschooling ideas, and just start to explore and talk about what they might look like day-to-day in your uniquely wonderful family. Your first month is free, so you can get a sense of whether the community is a good fit for you. We are excited to welcome you. To learn more and join us, just follow the link in the show notes or go to livingjoyfully.ca and choose Network in the menu. Wishing everyone a lovely day. Thanks so much, you guys. Bye.
What happens when two wheelchair users fall in love, get married, build careers, travel the world and navigate life together? Apparently, people have questions. After sharing more of their life as a disabled couple online and seeing an overwhelming response, Alycia Anderson brings her husband, Marty Anderson, back to Pushing Forward with Alycia for a lighter, candid and often hilarious Q&A about their nearly 15 years of marriage. Who is more stubborn? Who notices an accessibility problem first? Who takes longer to get ready? Who carries more disability-related gear? And when the world is not designed for two wheelchair users, how do they figure it out? As Alycia and Marty quickly discover, the answers lead to much bigger conversations about disabled relationships, wheelchair accessibility, accessible travel, independence, interdependence, ableism and belonging. Two Disabled People. One Very Normal Marriage. One of the biggest misconceptions Alycia and Marty encounter is the assumption that when disability exists in a relationship, one person must automatically become the caregiver. Their reality is much different. They help each other. Sometimes that means Marty holding Alycia's wheelchair during a transfer or Alycia grabbing onto Marty's chair for a tow. Sometimes it means reviewing an email, figuring out a business decision or helping each other navigate a difficult moment. And sometimes it simply means knowing somebody is standing beside you. As Alycia puts it, having Marty on her team makes her feel braver in the actions she takes in her life. Their partnership illustrates something much bigger: support in a relationship does not always move in one direction. When Accessibility Assumes Disabled People Are Alone Some of the funniest stories in the episode expose something decidedly less funny: much of the world is still designed around the assumption that a wheelchair user will be accompanied by a nondisabled caregiver. Movie theaters may provide one wheelchair space and one companion chair. Venues may offer accessible seating without considering that two wheelchair users might actually want to sit beside each other. Transportation systems may have accessibility policies but still create frustrating or alienating customer experiences. Hotels may technically meet accessibility standards while still making everyday tasks difficult. Alycia and Marty have spent years navigating those gaps together. Their solution is often the same: Figure it out. For Alycia, that mindset is deeply connected to disability itself. When the world is not designed for you, creativity and adaptation become part of everyday life. The Airport Shuttle Stress Is Real Accessible travel gets its own unofficial therapy session in this episode. Alycia and Marty talk about one of their biggest travel stressors: getting from the airport to the rental car facility. Wheelchair-accessible shuttle experiences can be unpredictable. Ramps may not work. Drivers may approach wheelchair passengers differently. Other travelers may board while wheelchair users are still waiting. Policies can sometimes override a simple conversation about what actually works best for the individual passenger. The frustration is not always about the equipment. It is about the experience. Marty describes accessibility as something that should create a feeling of being invited rather than treated like an exception. That distinction between technical access and true belonging sits at the center of much of Alycia's work. Accessible Parking Is More Complicated Than It Looks Alycia and Marty also tackle one of disability culture's perennial hot topics: accessible parking. They are quick to point out that disability does not have one appearance. Someone using an accessible parking space may have a completely legitimate non-apparent disability. But they also raise an important distinction around van-accessible spaces and access aisles. Those striped areas next to certain spaces are not extra parking. They provide the room someone may need to deploy a wheelchair ramp, transfer from a vehicle, use a walker or maneuver mobility equipment. It is another example of how accessibility education can make systems work better for everyone. What Do Nondisabled Couples Take for Granted? Their answer? Sometimes, spontaneity. Traveling without researching accessibility. Accepting an invitation to someone's house without wondering whether you can enter. Booking a rideshare without thinking about whether a wheelchair will fit or whether the driver will refuse the trip. Checking into a hotel without wondering whether the mirror can actually be seen from a wheelchair. These may seem like tiny details individually. Collectively, they shape whether people can participate fully and independently in everyday life. Disabled Relationship Myth Busting Perhaps the biggest misconception Alycia and Marty challenge is the belief that two disabled people somehow live a fundamentally different kind of relationship. Their marriage has accessibility logistics and mobility adaptations, yes. It also has careers. Finances. Intimacy. Arguments. Love. Partnership. Medical challenges. Travel. Laughter. And almost fifteen years of figuring life out together. Disability is part of their relationship. It is not the entirety of it. Marriage Is Still Marriage Near the end of the episode, Marty asks Alycia what nearly fifteen years together has taught her that has nothing to do with disability. Her answer becomes one of the episode's most beautiful moments. Marriage, she says, is one of the hardest things she has ever committed to, but also one of the very best. Creating a life with another person remains one of the accomplishments she treasures most. And after several heavy weeks for the Anderson household, their final Pushing Forward Moments are wonderfully simple. Marty's: Take life a little lighter. Have some fun. Everything does not have to be serious. Alycia's: All you need is love. Sometimes pushing forward means solving the accessibility problem. Sometimes it means advocating for change. And sometimes it means laughing with the person sitting beside you while you figure everything else out. IN THIS EPISODE Alycia and Marty discuss: What life is actually like for two married wheelchair users Who is more stubborn about asking for help Why asking for help can be difficult when independence has been ingrained in you Who notices accessibility barriers first Wheelchair travel and airport shuttle frustrations Accessibility versus genuine hospitality and belonging Why Alycia carries more disability-related supplies while traveling When they speak up about inaccessible environments How two disabled partners physically and emotionally support each other The assumption that every disabled person has a nondisabled caregiver Why theaters and entertainment venues often fail wheelchair-using couples Disability, marriage and intimacy Accessible parking and non-apparent disabilities Why van-accessible spaces serve a specific purpose Rideshare and transportation discrimination Why accessible hotel rooms should not have thick carpet How disability creates everyday problem-solving skills Automatic doors and universal access Spontaneity and the hidden planning involved in disability What nearly fifteen years of marriage has taught them Finding more fun, light and love in everyday life KEY THEMES
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Being punished was easy for me. Accepting grace was almost impossible. I spent years believing grace was the opposite of being a man. Then Brett Knight said something on this show that changed how I see it.In this episode: why men either reject grace as weak or hide behind it as an excuse, what years of self punishment cost me before I got healed, and what changed it.My grace is sufficient for thee, for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Second Corinthians 12:9.Drop the word STRONG in the comments if you're going to say the real thing to one man this week. I read every one.If this hit close, "Are You Ready? A Practical Battle Plan for Christian Men" is on Amazon.Companion episode: Brett Knight, criminal defense attorney and pastor, on why punishment and grace were never the same thing. [add Ep. 135 link once it airs]If this is you right now, don't sit in it alone. Find a Celebrate Recovery group near you. In crisis, call or text 988.New episodes every week. Guest interviews Wednesday, solo Thursday. Search The Intentional Guy Podcast.Subscribe: http://youtube.com/@intentionalguyNewsletter: http://intentionalguy.riverside.com/newsletterWant to be a guest: http://cal.com/michael-chestnut-hfbot2/podcastLet's get coffee. Let me be your brother. Let me walk beside you. Until next time, keep being intentional.#ChristianMen #Grace #Masculinity #PornRecovery #CelebrateRecovery #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndFamily #IntentionalLiving #MensMentalHealth #Accountability
Money decisions aren't always just about numbers, budgets, or financial knowledge. In Part 1 of our conversation, Dr. Billina Shaw explores the often-overlooked psychological side of money—examining how childhood experiences, professional training, past financial struggles, and deeply held beliefs can shape the way women physicians earn, spend, save, and think about wealth.Dr. Billina Shaw is a Yale-educated triple board-certified psychiatrist (child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry; addiction medicine) with an MPH from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. She has served as a Senior Medical Advisor at the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), bringing federal-level expertise in behavioral health policy and implementation.Dr. Shaw now works with high-achievers, leaders, and organizations to move from anxious and disconnected to purposeful, peaceful, and prosperous. Through her speaker platform and financial wellness coaching practice, she bridges clinical psychiatry, behavioral health strategy, and the psychological roots of financial decision-making and well-being.In this episode, we discuss:How do childhood experiences and past financial struggles shape the way we think about and manage money?Why can financial advice focused on what we “should have” done earlier create guilt and shame rather than lasting change?How can medical training and a career centered on serving others affect physicians' sense of worth and relationship with money?Why might women feel over-responsible for financial problems that aren't entirely theirs to solve?How can a past financial struggle continue to shape your identity even after your circumstances have changed?Why do some people continue to feel financially insecure even when they are objectively doing well?How can a scarcity mindset lead to overspending, hoarding, avoidance, or anxiety around money?What does your spending behavior reveal about the deeper needs or emotions you may be trying to meet?How can connecting your financial goals to your values and vision for your life make them more meaningful?Where do your core beliefs about money come from, and how can you begin to change beliefs that no longer serve you?Why can feeling worthy of wealth—and allowing yourself to want more—be an important part of changing your relationship with money?Drawing on her background as a psychiatrist and financial wellness coach, Dr. Shaw shares why feelings of scarcity, guilt, shame, and unworthiness can persist even when someone's financial circumstances have changed. She also discusses how understanding your relationship with money, shifting your identity, and connecting your financial decisions to your deeper values can help you move toward greater peace, freedom, and abundance.Interested in learning more about my telehealth direct specialty care practice? At AmazVita MD, I help patients optimize weight and metabolic health, harmonize hormones in peri/menopause, and enhance wellness and vitality. Accepting new patients now.Website:amazvitamd.comEmail:hello@amazvitamd.comLearn more about me or schedule a FREE coaching call:https://www.joyfulsuccessliving.com/ Join the Voices of Women Physicians Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/190596326343825/Connect with Dr. Shaw:Website:www.drbillina.comLinkedIn:http://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-billina Instagram:@drbillinaText GROW to 55444 to join Dr. Shaw's email list.
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Send us Fan MailAaron, Trent, and Peaches sit down with Justus, a Security Forces airman out of Moody Air Force Base, to talk about one of the nastiest, coolest, and most under-discussed opportunities in the Air Force: jungle warfare training in Panama.Justus walks through how he ended up in the Air Force, why Security Forces was not what he expected, and how a career field that gets roasted constantly can still open doors if you are fit, positive, prepared, and willing to say yes when opportunities show up.He breaks down life in Security Forces, deploying to Prince Sultan Air Base, supporting the F-22 demo team, competing in Defender Challenge, and eventually getting to the 820th Base Defense Group at Moody — a unit built around defending and opening forward air bases in contested environments.Then the episode gets into the real reason he is here: Panama Jungle School.We talk tents, heat, humidity, malaria meds, mosquitoes, botflies, leaf cutter ants, black palm, trench foot, dysentery, wet boots, wet uniforms, and the harsh reality that the jungle itself is usually the hardest enemy. Justus explains the combat water survival assessment, jungle 5K, knot tests, survival phase, food and water procurement, firecraft, shelter building, rope systems, Z-pulley, one-rope bridge, jungle tactics, and the final Green Mile.The best part? He is not bitter, negative, or trying to scare anyone away. His message is simple: Security Forces has opportunities everywhere, but you have to be ready when they appear. Be in shape. Ask questions. Find the people doing hard things. Say yes.If you are in Security Forces, stop telling yourself the job is just gates and patrol cars. There is more out there. Go find it.00:00 - Intro and Ones Ready01:04 - Panama Jungle School Preview03:44 - Justus Joins the Team Room04:20 - How Justus Joined the Air Force06:08 - Security Forces Is More Than the Jokes06:42 - Basic Training and Tech School09:10 - Langley, Gates, Patrols, and Reality11:44 - Defender Challenge Opportunity12:21 - What Is the 820th Base Defense Group?14:12 - Mindset Changes the Career Field17:36 - Base Defense Group Mission and Schools20:28 - Air Assault on Short Notice22:05 - Panama and the Jungle School Opportunity24:23 - Training, Tryouts, and Preparation27:07 - Arriving at Fort Sherman29:18 - Bugs, Plants, and Things That Want You Dead33:25 - Wet Boots for Three Weeks34:16 - Combat Water Survival Assessment36:38 - Fail Early, Stay Anyway37:04 - The Jungle 5K Gut Check40:18 - Why Jungle Movement Is Different42:05 - Survival, Tactics, and the Jungle Is Neutral44:44 - Food, Water, Traps, Fire, and Shelter46:27 - Finding Fun in the Suck47:04 - Jungle Tactics Are Different48:51 - Rope Systems and the Z-Pulley50:48 - Boot and Training Recommendations52:58 - Can Airmen Outside the 820th Go?54:09 - Culminating Exercise Prep54:58 - Accepting the Jungle59:12 - The Green Mile01:01:44 - What Is Next for Justus?01:03:10 - 824th Base Defense Squadron Shoutout01:03:52 - Why More Airmen Should Go01:04:16 - Final ThoughtsSupport the showJoin this channel to get access to perks: HEREBuzzsprout Subscription page: HERERegister for our Operator Training Summit: OperatorTrainingSummit.comFind an Air Force Recruiter: AirForce.comCollabs:Ones Ready - OnesReady.com 18A Fitness - Promo Code: ONESREADY ATACLete - Follow the URL (no promo code): ATACLeteDanger Close Apparel - Promo Code: ONESREADYDFND Apparel...
What happens when your life changes in an instant, and then, just when you think you're beginning to rebuild, you're faced with another life-altering diagnosis? Shannon Michelle knows that experience firsthand. After a devastating motorcycle accident left her in a coma with a traumatic brain injury, Shannon had to relearn how to walk, read, speak and navigate a life she no longer remembered. Then, during her recovery, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Today, Shannon joins us to talk about her breast cancer experience, the emotional realities of healing, and how an unimaginable series of events changed the way she sees her life. Key Takeaways Stay present, especially when life feels overwhelming Self-care is essential to recovery Accepting a new reality can be empowering Let go of what you cannot control Give yourself permission to be the best version of yourself today Chapters 00:00 — Surviving a devastating accident 04:30 — A breast cancer diagnosis 07:57 — The PATCH framework for healing 16:50 — Accepting a new reality 23:50 — Letting go of control Learn more at realpink.komen.org and komen.org Real Pink, by Susan G. Komen, shares real stories and expert insights to support people navigating breast cancer, from diagnosis through survivorship.
This week we're discussing Courage to Ask for Help. Asking for help is something most solo parents will tell you they're working on, and almost none of them will tell you they've figured out. It's not just pride, though that's part of it. It's the fear of being a burden, the mental math of what you might owe someone, the exhaustion of having to explain your situation one more time, and the quiet identity that gets built around being the one who handles everything. This episode goes right at that tension and hopefully stays there long enough for something to shift. Robert Beeson, Founder and CEO of Solo Parent, Elizabeth Cole, a single parent, and Amber Fuller, a counselor with a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy and single parent, bring their own stories to this conversation. None of them have this perfectly figured out either, which is exactly what makes it worth listening to. Key Insights from this episode: Refusing help has a hidden cost that shows up in your kids. The stress of carrying everything alone doesn't stay contained to you. It moves through you and lands on the moments and the people closest to you. Accepting help is an act of honor, not weakness. When you say yes to someone who wants to help, you're telling them their generosity matters and their presence in your life counts. Building the muscle starts with a list and a yes. Identify what you can offload, write down five people you trust, and practice saying yes, thank you without the explanation attached. Resources Mentioned in this episode: Brené Brown reference on shame and vulnerability Stay Connected + Get Support: Download our Solo Parent App Join a Solo Parent Group Learn more about Solo Parent Follow us on Instagram
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70% of the HVAC industry has been swallowed by private equity. Brian McNally chose to stay independent. Today McNally's has 80 employees, nearly $25 million in revenue, and 4.9 stars across 2,500+ reviews — and customers are leaving PE-owned companies to come to him.In this episode, Brian shares how he built from Craigslist ads and a borrowed van to one of the most recognized local brands in Chicagoland. Founders will learn why staying independent while competitors cash out creates an unfair advantage, how hiring people smarter than you transforms the business, and why the simplest rule your dad taught you is still the best growth strategy.Key takeaways:00:00:00 Introduction00:01:28Q: How did Brian McNally start an HVAC company from scratch with no funding?A: Brian McNally posted Craigslist ads while working full-time, traded an AC install for a van, and a customer wrote a check to his company before it existed, forcing him to form the business.00:04:19Q: What is the simplest strategy for standing out against competition?A: Brian McNally says success comes down to what your dad taught you — show up on time and do what you said. The competition makes it easy to stand out by being reliable.00:12:53Q: What is the hardest part of removing yourself from the business as a founder?A: Brian McNally was scared to hire people smarter than him because they would tell him he was doing things wrong. Accepting that truth and making those hires transformed the business.00:21:04Q: How has private equity changed the HVAC industry?A: Brian McNally says 70% of HVAC is PE-owned. PE companies cannibalize customers and skip community investment, so independent shops benefit from the customer and employee falloff.00:28:24Q: What is the biggest marketing mistake founders make with their brand?A: Brian McNally learned through pain that marketing sends a message that either promotes or damages your brand. Attracting the wrong customers through the wrong message is costly.00:46:55Q: How do you balance growing a business with being a present father?A: Brian McNally learned to draw boundaries and say no. People respect the no, and being one authentic person across all areas of life improved both his relationships and business.Subscribe and share this with a founder building their business into an asset.
On Culture Friday: John Stonestreet considers what the Lindsay Clancy trial is being made to say about motherhood. The Magic Faraway Tree invites families to rediscover wonder. Plus: theologian and artist Michael Milton shares three books that shaped his calling, and the Friday morning news.Support The World and Everything in It today at wng.org/donate.Additional support comes from Ascend by Unbound. A higher education program focused on practical skill development and career preparation. beunbound.us/worldFrom World Watch, a 10-minute daily news program that explores current events for students 5-12th grade. This high-energy show connects learners to the present, history and communities around the world. Join 40,000 Christian families that utilize World Watch as a tool to foster curiosity and have conversations about today's news as a discipleship rhythm within their families. “Whatever the news, the purpose of the Lord will stand!” First time? Take advantage of a 30-days free trial at worldwatch.news/podcast Not ready to sign up? Check out a free episode at https://get.worldwatch.news/free-episodeAnd from St. Dunstan's Academy, a boarding school launching Fall 2027. Accepting ninth and tenth grade boys. stdunstansacademy.org
In this episode of How to Deal When the Shit Gets Real, Jenn and I talk about closure, what it means to each of us, and whether we actually need it in order to move forward.We're often taught that healing requires one final conversation, an explanation, or an apology. But what happens when that conversation never comes? Or worse, when you finally get the answers you've been waiting for and they don't make you feel any better?We talk about why closure may be overrated, the difference between getting answers and actually healing, and why sometimes the person who hurt you simply isn't capable of giving you what you're looking for.In this episode, we discuss:• What closure means to us• Why we crave answers after being hurt• Waiting for an apology that may never come• Why getting answers doesn't always bring peace• Accepting that you may never know why• How our brains fill in the blanks when we don't have answers• Why closure doesn't mean forgetting• Whether forgiveness is actually necessary to move on• Creating your own closure• Letting go of the need for someone else to understand your pain• Choosing peace instead of continuing to search for answersSometimes closure isn't getting the explanation you wanted. It's reaching the point where you realize you don't need one anymore.This conversation is about letting go of the idea that someone else has to give you permission to heal and recognizing that sometimes, moving forward is the closure.
Ukraine's drone war reaches deeper into Russia as faster attacks leave Kyiv residents less time to find shelter. Federal officials investigate questionable billing for transgender procedures on minors, and a longtime music publicist Lance Cowan releases the songs he set aside for his family. Plus: police branch out against distracted driving, David Closson considers how algae acquired a constituency, and the Thursday morning news.Support The World and Everything in It today at wng.org/donate.Additional support comes from St. Dunstan's Academy, a boarding school launching Fall 2027. Accepting ninth and tenth grade boys. stdunstansacademy.org From Ascend by Unbound. A higher education program focused on practical skill development and career preparation. beunbound.us/worldAnd from World Watch, a 10-minute daily news program that explores current events for students 5-12th grade. This high-energy show connects learners to the present, history and communities around the world. Join 40,000 Christian families that utilize World Watch as a tool to foster curiosity and have conversations about today's news as a discipleship rhythm within their families. “Whatever the news, the purpose of the Lord will stand!” First time? Take advantage of a 30-days free trial at worldwatch.news/podcast Not ready to sign up? Check out a free episode at https://get.worldwatch.news/free-episode
In the last budget cycle, Keisha Hudson, Chief Defender of the Defender Association of Philadelphia, asked the city for $5 million. Instead, the city council and the mayor gave her office $0. Now, Keisha is looking at cutting back client services and even potentially refusing to accept new DUI and drug possession cases. On this episode, you will hear Keisha explain how this all happened and what comes next for the office. Guest: Keisha Hudson, Chief Public Defender, Defender Association of Philadelphia Resource: Defender Association of Philadelphia's Contact https://phillydefenders.org/ https://www.facebook.com/phillydefenders/ https://www.instagram.com/phillydefenders/ https://x.com/phillydefenders/ Contact Hunter Parnell: Publicdefenseless@gmail.com Instagram @PublicDefenselessPodcast Twitter @PDefenselessPod www.publicdefenseless.com Subscribe to the Patreon www.patreon.com/PublicDefenselessPodcast Donate on PayPal https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=5KW7WMJWEXTAJ Donate on Stripe https://donate.stripe.com/7sI01tb2v3dwaM8cMN Trying to find a specific part of an episode? Use this link to search transcripts of every episode of the show! https://app.reduct.video/o/eca54fbf9f/p/d543070e6a/share/c34e85194394723d4131/home **** ALL OPINONS SHARED BY HOST HUNTER PARNELL DO NOT REFLECT THE THOUGHTS OR OPINIONS OF THE AURORA MUNICIPAL PUBLIC DEFENDER****
Nine weeks in a row.Nine weeks of paying for studio time.Nine weeks of showing up.And now I'm sitting at home listening to the work asking myself a question I can't avoid anymore:Am I actually going to take this craft seriously, or am I eventually going to have to find something else to do?Because dreaming is easy.Paying for the dream every week is different.Practicing is different.Listening back critically is different.Accepting when something isn't good enough is different.And doing all of that while tired, frustrated, dealing with bad customer service, trying to protect your money, fighting distractions, maintaining your relationship with God, showing up for family, and still trying to become something greater—that's the actual Road to Victory.I could stay home.I could waste entire days chasing quick pleasure.I could watch porn, scroll, disappear into entertainment and avoid every uncomfortable responsibility.And some days, that sounds easier.But easier and more important are not the same thing.What's important?My spiritual life.My dreams.My family.My health.My craft.The people who genuinely support me.And yes—my TikTok family too.Tonight isn't about pretending temptation doesn't exist.It's about deciding what deserves my life more.
In this episode, we explore three relational skills that often get confused: Validation says, “If I am you—with your history, family of origin, and the meaning this held for you—I understand how you got there.” Agreement says, “I reached essentially the same conclusion.” Accepting influence says, “Because you matter to me, what you shared is allowed to affect my understanding or what I do next.” We also talk about epistemic humility: trusting what we know without assuming we know everything. We may be wrong. We may have forgotten something. We may not have communicated as clearly as we thought. If we haven't asked for another perspective, we can't assume there isn't one. Drawing from John Gottman's work, we look at why men in heterosexual relationships may be less likely to recognize when they are resisting their partner's influence—especially when their own perspective begins as “right” and she has to prove it wrong. And we name an important limit: good relational skills can become harmful in relationships without safety, accountability, and mutuality. You don't have to abandon what you see to become capable of seeing more. Listen to the full episode of Thanks for Sharing. Have a question or something you'd like me to talk about in a future episode? https://thanksforsharingpodcast.my.canva.site/thanks-for-sharing-links #Validation #AcceptingInfluence #CouplesTherapy #Relationships #EpistemicHumility #GottmanMethod #RelationshipSkills #ThanksForSharingPodcast
This episode is for the days when you may want to give up. The ones when you may be questioning everything and feeling very helpless. A different perspective coming from someone who has been through major loss and fertility struggles. A different way to view God's role and your own! The episode starts with how-to steps that are powerful and simple. TRIGGER WARNING: This show may discuss sensitive topics that are difficult for some listeners to hear. Use your own discretion. As promised, Podcast Host Heather has provided her link to join her email subscriber list and grab her top tip to conceive now! Click here: Grab my tip! Reminder: This podcast is not intended to treat, or advise, your medical journey in anyway. Always discuss all things medical with your own medical team. Heather is a Doctor, but she's not yours. Nothing in this podcast episode constitutes health, or medical (physical or mental) advice. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. See full website disclaimer at https://canyoucurecancer.com/disclaimer If you'd love to hear your company's advertisement read on this podcast by Heather for Season 4, or you'd like to hear your own pre-recorded ad run during the show, email Heather to see if Sponsor space is still available. If you have topics you want covered on this podcast, email Heather at the email below. Heather's email is heather@canyoucurecancer.com Thank you for all of the listens, shares, follows and downloads! If you haven't yet, don't forget to subscribe, so you never miss an episode! Letting just one friend know about an episode that inspired you will help me immensely, while passing on the inspiration to someone you love! My listeners are the absolute best, thank you for always supporting me. Keep returning and remember to subscribe in case additional weekly episodes are added, so that you never miss a show! Remember, if a hypnosis session interests you, reach out in an email!
What does it really mean to have an AI assistant working alongside you? In Part 2 of our conversation, Dr. Ladan Davallow takes a closer look at the safety considerations involved in using AI, from protecting personal and patient information to setting appropriate guardrails for AI agents. She also shares more of the ways she uses AI to automate tasks, conduct research, create presentations and content, and support both her clinical practice and everyday life.Dr. Ladan Davallow is a practicing pediatric endocrinologist and founder of Aimforth, where she teaches physicians how to use AI practically and responsibly to save time, reduce administrative burden, and make medicine work better—without compromising patient privacy, clinical judgment, or the human side of care.Since 2023, she's invested thousands of hours and five figures testing AI across clinical medicine, academia, private practice, and business. In this episode, she cuts through the hype to share what physicians actually need to know: which AI tools are worth their time and which aren't, how to think about HIPAA compliance and patient privacy, what you should—and shouldn't—put into AI, how to navigate hallucinations and unreliable outputs, and whether AI is really coming for physicians' jobs. Most importantly, she shares what she wishes she'd known when she started, so physicians can use AI more confidently without spending years figuring it out themselves.In this episode, we discuss:What privacy and security considerations should physicians keep in mind when using AI? How can physicians protect personal and patient information when using AI tools and agents? What guardrails should be put in place when giving AI access to other applications and information? What kinds of tasks can physicians automate with AI? How can AI assist with presentations, scheduling, patient care, research, and content creation? How can physicians use AI for academic medicine and research? How can AI be used as a personalized tutor, coach, or educational resource? How can physicians decide which tasks to delegate to AI and which are better handled by a person?What possibilities emerge when physicians can build AI agents without extensive technical or coding skills?Dr. Davallow also shares some of the unexpected ways she has incorporated AI into her life, including creating a presentation on short notice, developing personalized systems for managing her household, and using AI to support her children's education.Whether you're already using AI regularly or are just beginning to explore what it can do, this episode offers a look at the increasingly broad range of ways physicians can use AI to simplify their work and create more time for the things that matter most.Interested in learning more about my telehealth direct specialty care practice? At AmazVita MD, I help patients optimize weight and metabolic health, harmonize hormones in peri/menopause, and enhance wellness and vitality. Accepting new patients now.Website:amazvitamd.comEmail:hello@amazvitamd.comLearn more about me or schedule a FREE coaching call:https://www.joyfulsuccessliving.com/ Join the Voices of Women Physicians Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/190596326343825/Connect with Dr. Ladan Davallow:Save Your Seat for the FREE Live Masterclass:Build Your First 3 AI Employees Livehttps://www.aimforthstudio.com/masterclass Learn more about Aimforth - Practical AI for Physicians:https://www.aimforthstudio.comEp 204: How to Create More Time and Money with an AI Team with Dr. Ladan Davallow Part 1Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-204-how-to-create-more-time-and-money-with-an-ai/id1630624425?i=1000782661448 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/64e35tqwcI1BcZjsWhLWbL?si=Oqp1MgkCQ5OQZzcDJe5PHA
See what the team at The Successful Bookkeeper has on right now →Jon Sheldon has lived through more transitions than most people can imagine — Marine Corps infantry, corporate finance director, and now founder of Belleau Wood Coaching. This episode is a practical conversation about what it actually takes to lead yourself and your team well: getting clear on purpose, planning for what will go wrong, and building the kind of confidence that only comes from taking action. Whether you're just starting your bookkeeping practice or managing a growing team, there's something here for you.Chapters[00:00] Purpose as the Common Thread[02:54] Jon's Background: Marines to Finance[08:00] Life's Purpose vs. Purpose Right Now[10:48] Accepting the Cost of Transition[15:00] Contingency Plans Beat Burning Boats[17:54] The Six-Step Decision Framework[22:00] Failure, Resilience, and Confidence[26:00] The Four-Pillar Performance Blueprint[31:00] Accountability and Radical Honesty[34:00] How to Connect with JonPurpose Is Not Just a ClichéJon believes purpose is the most overlooked driver in business — and in life. "Most people I run into don't ever take the time to, or have never taken the time to, really plan it out or think about what, how are they living a purposeful life?" It doesn't have to be a grand existential answer. Finding what fills you with purpose right now is enough to start leading better — yourself and the people around you.Plan for What Will Go WrongOne of the most practical ideas Jon brings from his Marine Corps days is what he calls "accepting the cost." Most people building a business focus on the vision and avoid thinking through what could go wrong — because they don't want to scare themselves out of it. Jon flips that: "Most battles are won with better contingency plans. That's how most missions are won — by thinking through the challenges and obstacles that are inevitably going to come." Knowing your worst-case scenarios in advance doesn't kill confidence. It creates it.A Six-Step Decision FrameworkJon teaches a repeatable process he calls Clarity, Condition, Cost, Align, Act, Adapt. Get clear on what you're deciding. Do a gear check — do you have everything you need? Establish the cost of what could go wrong. Make sure your first action actually aligns with your goal. Act. Then adapt based on what you learn. "I've had the best plan and then the first action has nothing to do with pushing my business forward." The framework keeps that from happening.Failure Is Part of the DealJon is direct about this: failing is how you build the confidence to lead. "You might not hire the right person the first time. You might not make a great investment here or there. It's how you bounce back from that and get resilient that's going to really boost your confidence." If you're just getting started, expect some rough patches. If you have a clear purpose tied to where you're going, those rough patches are easier to push through — because the destination still matters.The Four-Pillar Performance BlueprintJon works with every client through a four-pillar framework: Purpose (your why), Vision (a day-in-the-life picture of where you're headed, three years out), Ecosystem (who and what you're surrounding yourself with — including your tools and your workspace), and Motivators (what actually energizes you to take action). From there, his coaching is high accountability and action-driven: clients leave every session with a tracked action step, session notes, and metrics they've defined themselves. As Jon puts it, he's "tactfully tough and radically honest" — because most business owners don't have enough people in their corner telling them the truth.Links mentionedBelleau Wood Coaching website: belleauwood.coachInstagram: @belleauwood_coachingLinkedIn: Jonathan Sheldon (search "Jonathan Sheldon Belleau Wood Coaching")Start With Why by Simon SinekAbout the guestJon Sheldon is the founder of Belleau Wood Coaching and a former Marine Corps infantryman who completed two back-to-back deployments to Iraq, leading 13 Marines through more than 200 combat missions. After leaving the military, he built a 14-year career in financial planning — running his own practice and then directing a regional team — before going full time into leadership coaching. He works with business owners and their teams on purpose, decision-making, and building the kind of resilient confidence that actually holds up when things get hard.About the hostMichael PalmerMichael Palmer is the host of The Successful Bookkeeper podcast and co-founder of Pure Bookkeeping and The Successful Bookkeeper. He started this work because of his father — a brilliant electrical contractor who worked twice as hard as he should have had to, because nobody on the financial side was in his corner. That gap is what The Successful Bookkeeper exists to close. His view: bookkeepers are the most undervalued force in small business — and every bookkeeper who builds a real business changes two families: theirs, and their clients'.
Episode 515: Ask David Parenting Meltdowns, Real-Time TEAM-CBT, and When Negative Thoughts Won't Stop What do you do when your child has a public meltdown—and you feel your own frustration rising just as quickly? And what if your mind feels so overwhelmed with anxious or depressive thoughts that completing a Daily Mood Log seems impossible? In this Ask David episode, Dr. David Burns is joined by host Kevin Cornelius, LMFT, and Psychiatrist/TEAM-CBT therapist Dr. Matt May to answer two thoughtful listener questions that many parents and therapy enthusiasts will recognize. Together, they demonstrate TEAM-CBT techniques live, showing not only what to do, but how to think differently in the moment. Along the way, they explore why changing your relationship with your own thoughts is often more important than trying to control other people's behavior. In This Episode Question 1: How Do I Use TEAM-CBT in Real Time When My Child Has a Meltdown? A listener describes taking his two young sons to the driving range when one child suddenly wants to leave while the other wants to stay. As frustration mounts, so do the automatic thoughts: "He's being a brat." "He's too immature for this." "He's ungrateful and whines all the time." Although the listener can challenge these thoughts later using a Daily Mood Log, he wonders: How can I use TEAM-CBT in the middle of an emotionally charged parenting moment? David, Kevin, and Matt explore this question through several live demonstrations. Topics Include: Why self-compassion comes before effective parenting The danger of "should" statements directed at yourself How beating yourself up actually makes it harder to respond compassionately Why practice outside emotional moments prepares you for success inside emotional moments Accepting your own imperfections as a parent Matt demonstrates how to respond to his own inner critic using Externalization of Voices, replacing self-criticism with realistic self-acceptance instead of perfectionism. Challenging "Shoulds" About Other People The conversation then shifts to another common trap: Trying to make other people different than they are. Together they examine several automatic thoughts parents commonly experience: "He's being a brat." "He's too immature." "He's ungrateful." David helps Matt and Kevin identify the cognitive distortions hiding inside these thoughts, including: Labeling Hidden should statements Unrealistic expectations Blaming Rather than arguing intellectually, they demonstrate TEAM-CBT methods such as: Acceptance Paradox Self-Defense Counterattack Externalization of Voices The discussion highlights an important insight: Much of our emotional suffering comes not from other people's behavior—but from insisting they should be different than they are. Kevin shares a personal story about using the Feeling Great app's Paradoxical Magnification exercise to dissolve his own "should" statements about parenting through humor and acceptance. Question 2: What If My Mind Never Stops Producing Negative Thoughts? The second listener has struggled with depression and anxiety since adolescence. Although he believes in TEAM-CBT, he finds the Daily Mood Log overwhelming because his mind produces what feels like hundreds of negative thoughts every minute. His questions include: How long should I spend on a Daily Mood Log? Do I need to answer every negative thought? Why can't I create positive thoughts that actually feel believable? David's Advice Dr. Burns explains that: 10–20 minutes of Daily Mood Log work is usually enough. You do not need to answer every negative thought. Most automatic thoughts are simply variations of a handful of core beliefs. Consistent practice matters much more than perfection. Using his own recovery after recent surgery as an example, David reminds listeners that small, steady efforts often produce remarkable long-term change. Helpful TEAM-CBT Strategies Discussed Kevin describes how simply sitting down with the Daily Mood Log often quiets his racing mind and helps him focus on what truly matters. David recommends another powerful exercise: Negative Practice Instead of fighting racing thoughts: Schedule a few minutes. Record every negative thought without challenging them. Then listen back to the recording. Many people discover that simply hearing their thoughts aloud changes their relationship to them. Matt also emphasizes several uncovering techniques that help identify the deeper beliefs generating so many automatic thoughts, including: The What-If Technique Individual Downward Arrow Cost-Benefit Analysis Positive Reframing Rather than trying to "think positively," TEAM-CBT first helps eliminate the hidden resistance that makes positive thoughts difficult to believe. A Quick Speed Round Near the end of the episode, David introduces a new experiment: Rapid-fire Ask David answers. In just thirty seconds, he explains one of the central concepts from Feeling Great: The Four Deaths of the Self The death of the Special Self (depression) The death of the Fearful Self (anxiety) The death of the Angry, Blaming Self (relationship conflict) The death of the Entitled Pleasure-Seeking Self (habits and addictions) David explains that each "death" ultimately reveals something surprising: There was never anything essential to lose—only freedom to gain. Listener Feedback The team asks for your input: Would you rather hear: Longer, in-depth discussions of just a few questions? Faster "speed round" answers covering many listener questions? Let them know through this week's listener survey. Resources Mentioned Feeling Great by Dr. David Burns The Feeling Great App Episode 507: Mastering the Daily Mood Log: Small Details, Life-Changing Results Daily Mood Log Memorable Takeaways Self-compassion is often the first step toward becoming the parent you want to be. Your emotional suffering usually comes from your thoughts—not from other people's behavior. You don't need to defeat every negative thought to feel dramatically better. Practice emotional skills when you're calm so they're available when emotions run high. Small, consistent Daily Mood Log work can create profound change over time. As always, thank you for listening to the Feeling Good Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and send us your questions—you just might hear them discussed on a future Ask David episode. Contact Information You can reach Matt May, MD @ https://www.matthewmaymd.com Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!
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Hey, it's Amy Newmark with your Chicken Soup for the Soul and today I'm sharing a couple of stories from one of our latest audiobooks, the one that we made for Chicken Soup for the Soul: Care for the Caregiver. We have a lot of audiobooks out there, and a lot more coming, and I thought you'd enjoy hearing some of the stories narrated by professional actors. So today, with permission of Simon & Schuster, I'm going to share a couple of stories from the Simon & Schuster audiobook version of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Care for the Caregiver. It's copyright 2026 by Chicken Soup for the Soul, and available now in all the places you go to listen to audiobooks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Anika sat down with Kiana Webb to explore how leaders can move beyond the trappings of external success to foster genuine human flourishing. The conversation revealed a counterintuitive truth: sustainable business growth is not about extracting value at the expense of employees, but about creating ecosystems where people are free to operate in alignment with their inner truth. Kiana's transition from scaling 17 McDonald's franchises to leading a personal transformation movement offered practical insight into the power of "perfect world" systems and the courage required to prioritize authenticity over the pressure to perform. In This Episode The "Webb Family" legacy: growing up in the boardrooms of a fast-food giant How to teach critical thinking and autonomy rather than simple imitation The McDonald's model: using rigid systems to create human upward mobility Leaving the height of financial success: the internal call to personal sovereignty Operating as a "highly functioning depressed person" and the shift toward presence The "Perfect World" framework: aligning daily actions with a higher vision Shifting from transactional, extractive business models to human-centric flourishing Defining the four pillars of experience: self, family, professional life, and community The "Luxaris Arise" philosophy: using AI in service of human love and connection Timestamps 00:00 Introduction: Challenges as gifts and the internal compass 01:18 From 17 McDonald's franchises to personal transformation 03:33 Lessons from a trailblazing corporate father 06:02 Building upward mobility: Helping employees graduate college 08:47 The moment of unfulfillment: Leaving security for truth 11:30 The "Perfect World" system: Envisioning, parsing, and building 13:13 Human flourishing defined: Coherence, alignment, and ease 16:43 Overcoming the "thought of fear" to take decisive action 17:36 Bridging the spiritual and material: Why you don't have to choose 19:47 Celebrating the whole story: Accepting past and present truths 21:53 The intersection of AI, technology, and human service 23:27 The Luxaris Arise app: Building a digital partner for self-love 27:44 Business growth through flourishing: Why extraction kills retention 32:30 Navigating the shift from "doing" to "being" 36:49 Why your story shapes resiliency but does not define you 42:28 Final thoughts: Every human is inherently deserving of love Key Insights & Takeaways Insight 1: Systems Can Be Used to Benefit Humans While McDonald's is known for rigid operational systems, those systems can be repurposed for radical empathy. By implementing scholarship programs and mentorship, business owners can use corporate infrastructure to create upward mobility, treating employees as the community members they truly are rather than just labor units. Insight 2: The "Perfect World" Envisioning Tool Transformation doesn't require massive complexity. By creating a "perfect world" vision and aligning every minor action to it, leaders can eliminate the paralysis of analysis. The goal is to start the day, a meeting, or a business venture by intentionally choosing the state of being and feeling you wish to experience, then acting in accordance with that choice. Insight 3: Flourishing is an Internal Coherence Human flourishing is not about reaching a specific milestone; it is about operating in alignment with one's own truth. When you are internally coherent—where your thoughts, feelings, and actions are synced—resources naturally gravitate toward you, reducing the need for the exhausting, ego-driven "striving" that characterizes most corporate success stories. Insight 4: The Danger of Giving from an Empty Cup Many founders and leaders pride themselves on helping others at their own expense. Kiana argues that if you are giving from an empty cup, you are honoring your ego rather than providing true service. True leadership requires putting yourself in the center—not out of selfishness, but because a leader who is not flourishing cannot sustain the growth of their organization. Insight 5: AI as an Extension of Humanity AI technology should not diminish the human experience; it should be designed to be in service of it. When building agent ecosystems, the litmus test is simple: Does this system enhance the human it serves? If the technology does not prioritize the user's flourishing and self-love, the architecture is flawed. Insight 6: You Are Not Your Past Resiliency is shaped by trauma and hardship, but these challenges are not your identity. While it is important to honor the parts of your story that have molded you, you must also be willing to excavate and "surrender" the ego patterns and identities—such as the need to always be the one in control—that prevent you from living fully in your current power. Resources & Links Mentioned KianaWebb.com Luxaris Arise (App) Webb Family Enterprises About Kiana Webb Kiana Webb is a business leader, author, and CEO of Webb Family Enterprises, where she previously scaled and operated 17 McDonald's franchises. Her career has been defined by a deep commitment to people, systems, and upward mobility. Today, she is the founder of Luxaris Arise, a movement and technology platform dedicated to human flourishing, personal transformation, and the integration of the spiritual and material worlds in business. Connect with Kiana LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kiana-webb/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kiana_webb/ Website: https://www.kianawebb.com/ Like the show? Leave us a rating or review: https://lovethepodcast.com/67940257010b317cdaa9d857Follow the Show: https://followthepodcast.com/67940257010b317cdaa9d857Send a Message: https://podcastfeedback.com/67940257010b317cdaa9d857Check out our Website: https://www.yourbrandamplified.comSpeak to my Delphi Clone: https://www.delphi.ai/amplifywithanika Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
The Technical Leadership Paradigm: Evolving from Hands-On Builder to High-Impact CEO with Vladimir BaranovIn a recent episode of The Thoughtful Entrepreneur Podcast, host Josh Elledge sat down with Vladimir Baranov, Tech Founder Coach, Executive Coach, and Founder of Human Interfaces, to address the complex psychological and operational hurdles that emerge when technical experts transition into corporate leadership. Vladimir, a seasoned strategic coach specializing in guiding scientific founders and engineering executives through structural organizational shifts, details why traditional technical mindsets frequently create decision paralysis and team friction within scaling companies. This conversation delivers an essential, actionable manual for technical founders, scientific leaders, and C-suite executives who want to repurpose their analytical strengths, navigate business ambiguity, create safe operational sandboxes, and step confidently into executive leadership.The Leadership Transformation Engine: Repurposing Analytical Mastery and Navigating Corporate AmbiguityThe fundamental struggle facing technical founders during rapid organizational growth is the sharp transition from deterministic, logic-driven systems to the ambiguous, human-centered realities of corporate leadership. Vladimir Baranov explains that engineers and scientific experts are trained to solve predictable problems with complete data sets, often causing them to experience acute discomfort when forced to make high-stakes executive decisions with incomplete information. To successfully bridge this gap, technical leaders must reframe their existing analytical skills—repurposing scientific experimentation into iterative management tests and systems thinking into intentional organizational design. Accepting that technical education rarely covers interpersonal dynamics allows founders to view leadership development as a learnable, structured discipline rather than an innate talent they lack.Evolving from a hands-on technical builder into a transformational CEO requires an intentional identity shift that moves leadership beyond simple theoretical reading toward active behavioral execution. Many technical founders fall into the "comfort trap," retreating to familiar coding, product architecture, or laboratory tasks to escape the discomfort of team management, strategic planning, and business development. To break this avoidance cycle, executives must create low-risk operational sandboxes within their organizations to practice crucial leadership behaviors—such as delegating authority, delivering constructive feedback, and facilitating high-stakes alignment meetings—without fear of catastrophic failure. Consistently testing new leadership behaviors and gathering direct team feedback builds the psychological resilience required to lead through market unpredictability.Furthermore, sustaining long-term enterprise growth demands that executive leaders ruthlessly prioritize uncomfortable, high-yield business activities over daily technical execution. Establishing structured coaching cadences and peer accountability ecosystems provides founders with an objective sounding board to evaluate strategic choices, dissect team friction, and refine their corporate vision. By letting go of the need for total technical control and embracing the role of chief talent builder and strategist, founders enable their organizations to scale far past the limits of key-person reliance. When analytical skill mapping, deliberate leadership experimentation, and structured executive coaching are synthesized into a single growth framework, technical founders successfully shed operational friction, empower their leadership teams, and predictably expand enterprise valuation.About Vladimir BaranovVladimir Baranov is a Tech Founder Coach, Executive Coach, and the Founder of Human Interfaces. Drawing from a personal journey from Ukraine to the United States and a deep background in technical engineering, Vladimir specializes in coaching scientific founders and technical executives through the complex leap into organizational leadership. He is a prominent executive coach focused on helping technical leaders transform their mindset, repurpose their analytical strengths, navigate corporate ambiguity, and build high-performing company cultures.About Human InterfacesHuman Interfaces is an elite executive coaching consultancy and leadership advisory firm engineered to support tech founders, scientific entrepreneurs, and engineering executives as they scale their businesses. The firm specializes in delivering custom executive coaching frameworks, leadership skill mapping, organizational design consulting, and founder-identity transformation playbooks. Through structured discovery sessions and ongoing advisory programs, Human Interfaces enables technical leaders to eliminate leadership bottlenecks, optimize team performance, and maximize market equity.Links Mentioned in This EpisodeHuman Interfaces Official Website: humaninterfaces.coVladimir Baranov on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/vladimirbaranovKey Episode HighlightsMapping Technical Competencies to Leadership: Repurposing analytical problem-solving, systems design, and scientific experimentation into high-leverage organizational leadership tools.Overcoming the Technical Comfort Trap: Recognizing when founders default to hands-on technical work to avoid high-stakes business decisions and people management.Creating Safe Leadership Sandboxes: Establishing low-risk environments to experiment with new management styles, delegate authority, and build leadership muscle.Navigating Ambiguity and Incomplete Data: Shifting executive decision-making away from rigid determinism to embrace iterative, hypothesis-driven leadership.Redefining Executive Identity: Transitioning internal self-perception from individual technical builder to visionary CEO to drive scalable organizational growth.ConclusionThe conversation with Vladimir Baranov reinforces that evolving from a technical expert into a transformational leader is an intentional architectural process rather than an unreachable shift. By standardizing internal corporate governance, creating safe environments for leadership experimentation, and embracing strategic uncertainty, technical founders can transform an overwhelming executive transition into a highly structured, self-sustaining growth engine.More from The Thoughtful Entrepreneur
What if the trip you thought was impossible was simply waiting for the right access? For many disabled travelers, dreaming about a destination comes with an immediate second thought: But can I actually go there? In Episode 154 of Pushing Forward with Alycia, Alycia Anderson sits down with Karen Morales, luxury travel advisor, speaker, wheelchair user, disability travel advocate, and leader within Fora Travel's accessibility initiative, for a conversation that may completely change the way you think about accessible travel. Karen lives with limb girdle muscular dystrophy and began using a wheelchair full time in 2020. But losing mobility did not mean losing her identity as a traveler. Instead, it pushed her to rethink what independence, adventure, and possibility could look like. And she went exploring. Japan. Morocco. Sicily. Costa Rica. France. Canada. Africa. Karen discovered that some of the destinations disabled travelers assume will be impossible can deliver extraordinary experiences when the right people, information, creativity, and hospitality come together. Her work is also proving something the travel industry cannot ignore. Fora's accessibility initiative has been associated with $75 million in accessible travel sales, showing that accessible hospitality is not merely about regulations or checking an ADA box. It represents a significant and underserved business opportunity. Karen's philosophy is refreshingly simple: Travel is travel. Hospitality is hospitality. Whether someone needs a roll in shower, a specific bed height, allergy accommodations, a medical refrigerator, sensory support, a service animal accommodation, or simply a different pillow, great hospitality begins by understanding what that traveler needs before they arrive. This conversation goes far beyond accessible hotel rooms. Alycia and Karen talk about accepting mobility devices, reclaiming independence, traveling with progressive disability, universal design, raising expectations, the power of lived experience, and why disabled people should not have to beg to participate in life's most beautiful experiences. And Karen leaves us with one invitation: Stop assuming the world is closed to you before you explore what might actually be possible.
If you want to be humbled. Read the book of Job. I didn't realize how much I was "playing" God in my own life. God is in charge and in full control of everything and i'm learning to humble myself before him and stop trying to be in control of everything. Journaling prompt: What is one area of your life that you are trying to be in control of and why?
On today's Free Swim Dana Beers is back from London and has brought a humorous list of thing he was concerned by. Were also get into strangers asking to switch seats on planes, and an on or off the leash question around wedding travel.You can find every episode of this show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or YouTube. Prime Members can listen ad-free on Amazon Music. For more, visit barstool.link/thedogwalk
You aren't supposed to be anywhere else but where you are in your life today, right now, in this moment. This is where you're supposed to be right now. Accepting reality in this way creates more peace, possibility, and freedom. Learn how letting go of the pressure to be somewhere else allows you to ask what you want to do, what you want to change, and what you need right now. You can accept exactly where you are while still growing, making choices, creating your future, and becoming who you want to be. Free Classes and Free Mind Shift Coaching Call: www.rympodcast.com
Mariano Rivera — the greatest closer in baseball history — was willing to teach his rivals exactly how to throw his most devastating pitch. He knew that, regardless of their strength or skill, unblessed they were blessed by God to throw they wouldn't be able to. The Stoics understood it. They called it "amor fati" — love of fate. There are things within our control and things outside our control. The wise person focuses entirely on what's within their control and releases entirely what's outside. In this episode Raghunath and Kaustubha explore how doing one's best and then accepting one's fate is favorable for Bhakti, alongside the Bhagavad-gīta's five factors of action and the Mahabharata's story of Drona, who taught the military arts to the student who he knew was fated to kill him. Srimad Bhagavatam 10.36.9-40 ******************************************************************** LOVE THE PODCAST? WE ARE COMMUNITY SUPPORTED AND WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO JOIN! Go to https://www.wisdomofthesages.com WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtube.com/@WisdomoftheSages LISTEN ON ITUNES: https://podcasts/apple.com/us/podcast/wisdom-of-the-sages/id1493055485 CONNECT ON FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/wisdomofthesages108 *********************************************************************
What if AI could do more than write an email or summarize a document? In Part 1 of our conversation, Dr. Ladan Davallow shares how she went from experimenting with AI to building AI assistants that help her manage both her personal life and clinical practice. Drawing on her experience as a pediatric endocrinologist, practice owner, and physician who has spent thousands of hours exploring AI, she explains how physicians can begin using these tools in practical ways to reclaim their time and reduce administrative burden.Dr. Ladan Davallow is a practicing pediatric endocrinologist and founder of Aimforth, where she teaches physicians how to use AI practically and responsibly to save time, reduce administrative burden, and make medicine work better—without compromising patient privacy, clinical judgment, or the human side of care.Since 2023, she's invested thousands of hours and five figures testing AI across clinical medicine, academia, private practice, and business. In this episode, she cuts through the hype to share what physicians actually need to know: which AI tools are worth their time and which aren't, how to think about HIPAA compliance and patient privacy, what you should—and shouldn't—put into AI, how to navigate hallucinations and unreliable outputs, and whether AI is really coming for physicians' jobs. Most importantly, she shares what she wishes she'd known when she started, so physicians can use AI more confidently without spending years figuring it out themselves.In this episode, we discuss:How did Dr. Davallow's frustration with inefficiencies in medicine lead her to explore AI?How can physicians use AI to organize their lives, prioritize tasks, and manage their schedules?What can AI assistants and agents actually do for physicians beyond answering questions or generating text?How can AI help physicians work with lengthy medical records and other clinical information?How can physicians use AI scribes more effectively and reduce the amount of editing required?What should physicians know about HIPAA compliance and protecting patient information when using AI?How can physicians reduce the risk of hallucinations and inaccurate information in AI-generated outputs?How can physicians learn to use AI effectively without having a technical background?How might the rapidly evolving capabilities of AI change the way physicians work?Dr. Davallow also shares how she taught herself to use AI, why she began investing significant time and money into learning the latest tools, and how those skills have allowed her to automate tasks and explore new possibilities beyond traditional clinical work.Whether you're already experimenting with AI or aren't sure where to begin, this episode offers a practical introduction to how physicians can start thinking about AI as an assistant rather than simply another tool to learn.Interested in learning more about my telehealth direct specialty care practice? At AmazVita MD, I help patients optimize weight and metabolic health, harmonize hormones in peri/menopause, and enhance wellness and vitality. Accepting new patients now.Website:amazvitamd.comEmail:hello@amazvitamd.comLearn more about me or schedule a FREE coaching call:https://www.joyfulsuccessliving.com/ Join the Voices of Women Physicians Facebook Group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/190596326343825/Connect with Dr. Ladan Davallow:Save Your Seat for the FREE Live Masterclass:Build Your First 3 AI Employees Livehttps://www.aimforthstudio.com/masterclass Learn more about Aimforth - Practical AI for Physicians:https://www.aimforthstudio.com
Links to Steven Webb's podcast and how you can support his work.Donate paypal.me/stevenwebb or Coffee stevenwebb.ukSteven's courses, podcasts and links: stevenwebb.ukIf this were my last podcast, what would I want to leave you with?I sat down with a cup of coffee, almost no script, and one line from Rainer Maria Rilke that stopped me in my tracks.The first thing is to accept this moment wholeheartedly. It is already here. We cannot change the weather that has arrived, the thought that has appeared or the cushion underneath us. We can only choose what we do next.That does not mean becoming stuck. We can get comfortable with the present moment and still keep our shoes nearby. Some pain asks us to rest. Some pain asks us to move. Both can be true, sometimes within the same hour.In this episode, I explore why difficult memories stay with us, what happens when we exile the emotions we do not like, and why listening to an inner voice is not the same as letting it lead. Rilke's poem Go to the Limits of Your Longing becomes a companion for making room for beauty and terror, while remembering that no feeling gets the run of the whole house.I finish with a small practice. Ask what needs accepting right now, what you may be refusing to hear, and what small colour you can let back into your life.Stillness in the Storms is independent and advert free. To contact me, join the Weekly Calm or support my work, visit https://stevenwebb.ukWhat is in this episode(00:00) The Rilke line that stopped me in my tracks(00:45) If this were my last podcast, what would I leave you with?(01:15) Welcome and thanks to the people keeping the podcasts advert free(02:15) Accepting the moment that has already arrived(03:20) Why we cannot simply replace every difficult thought(04:10) Getting comfortable on the cushion, but not too comfortable(05:10) When suffering pulls us inward and when it pushes us forward(06:10) Why the difficult memories stay with us(07:20) Samsara and the whole spectrum of being alive(08:15) Grab a pillow, but keep your shoes nearby(08:45) Listening to every inner voice without giving each one equal weight(10:20) Rainer Maria Rilke and Go to the Limits of Your Longing(11:15) The Rilke words that inspired this episode(11:35) No feeling gets the run of the whole house(12:20) Why live with only half the rainbow?(14:20) How we narrow life to the colours and feelings we already know(15:35) Love, grief and the two ends of the same stick(16:40) The advice I would leave behind(17:50) A small practice for acceptance and a wider lifeThe chapter times are taken from the final transcript and should be checked against the finished audio before publishing.One practice for this weekPause and ask:What needs accepting right now?Is there a feeling or a voice I am refusing to hear?What small colour can I let into my life?You do not have to obey every voice or enjoy every feeling. Just let it be heard. Then decide what deserves the steering wheel.Notable quotes from the recording"Learn to get comfortable on the cushion you're on, but not too comfortable." (04:10)"Grab a pillow, get a little comfortable, but keep your shoes nearby." (08:15)"If we exile half the emotions that we don't like, we lose half the information." (10:05)"No feeling needs to be banished. No feeling needs to get the run of the whole house either." (11:35)"Remember all voices are valid, but they've not all got the same weight." (17:40)"What needs accepting right now?" (17:50)LinksContact Steven, join the Weekly Calm or support the podcasts: https://stevenwebb.ukRainer Maria Rilke's Go to the Limits of Your Longing, translated by Joanna Macy and Anita Barrows: https://onbeing.org/poetry/go-to-the-limits-of-your-longing/Poem creditIn this episode I quote from and reflect on Go to the Limits of Your Longing by Rainer Maria Rilke, from Rilke's Book of Hours: Love Poems to God. The English translation is by Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy and was published by Riverhead Books.Copyright in the English translation remains with the copyright holders. The short quotation is fully credited and discussed in the context of commentary and reflection.You can read the credited translation and hear Joanna Macy's own reading at https://onbeing.org/poetry/go-to-the-limits-of-your-longing/Thank youSangha, Jesse, Anita, Sue, Evelyn and Glenn. Your support helps keep Stillness in the Storms and Inner Peace Meditations free from adverts.
Playing the Long Game: Lessons from a HUD Specialist and a Soft Serve Stand I sat down with Gemma Geldmacher, Managing Director of Mortgage Banking at Berkadia, to talk about her successful career and her blog — Playing the Long Game: Hard Lessons Through Soft Serve. It's the story of watching her parents immigrate from Australia in 1984 with three kids, buy a local community ice cream shop, and the lessons that came with it. The business lessons inside that shop can help all of us in business and life. Here are a handful of the lessons Gemma and I talked about: * Efficiency is an act of love. * The universe may have plans you didn't expect. * Consistency isn't a tactic. It's a legacy. * The partner you choose changes everything. * Showing up isn't optional. * The rigid path is a trap. * Someone saw it before you did. * Legacy is built in the ordinary moments. * Reflection is a competitive advantage. * AI won't replace you. Accepting the output will. --- Gemma is a managing director at Berkadia where she has been a loan originator for 10 years. Prior to that she had over eight years experience underwriting and screening commercial real estate loans. Connect with Jon Dwoskin: Twitter: @jdwoskin Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonathan.dwoskin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejondwoskinexperience/ Website: https://jondwoskin.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jondwoskin/ Email: jon@jondwoskin.com Get Jon's Book: The Think Big Movement: Grow your business big. Very Big! Connect with Gemma Geldmacher: Website: www.berkadia.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gemmageldmacher Article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/playing-long-game-hard-lessons-through-soft-serve-gemma-geldmacher-q05he/? Bio: https://www.berkadia.com/people-and-locations/people/gemma-geldmacher *E - explicit language may be used in this podcast.
Hard things don't get easier when we pretend they aren't hard — they get easier when we stop wishing they were different.In this solo 5x5, Ben answers one listener question from each of the five factors: dealing with a chaotic home situation with a napping toddler, chasing a federal special agent fitness standard, eating clean on the road, deciding whether to have more kids in your 40s, and navigating a child's fear of the dark.Acceptance is not approval. When we stop spending energy wishing our circumstances were different, we free that energy for actual solutions. That's the thread running through all five questions — and the foundational move of the Awareness → Intention → Action cycle.