Podcasts about forgiving

MOVE – Faith Takes Action (4)Sermon Title: Move Forward – Faith Refuses to Go BackWednesday, September 23, 2026God didn't bring you this far to take you backward. When He says “Go forward,” faith refuses to let fear send it back.In this fourth message of the MOVE, Faith Takes Action series, we continue the journey from taking the first step, to staying faithful, to leaving behind what cannot go forward. Now the challenge is clear: MOVE FORWARD.The Israelites stood at the Red Sea with the past behind them and an impossible, looking obstacle in front of them. Fear made them want to return to Egypt, but God had already brought them out, and He was calling them forward.Exodus 14:13–15 reminds us that there is a time to stand firm and trust God, but there is also a time when God says, “GO FORWARD!”FAITH REFUSES TO GO BACKFear can make familiar bondage look safer than unfamiliar freedom. But God doesn't call us to keep returning to what He has already delivered us from.Isaiah 43:18–19 reminds us not to dwell on the former things because God is doing a new thing and making a way where there seems to be no way.This message challenges us to stop romanticizing the past, stop revisiting what God has brought us through, and recognize that what's in front of us is greater than what's behind us.Through the story of the Red Sea and the words of Philippians 3:13–14, we are reminded to:• Forget what lies behind.• Strain forward to what lies ahead.• Press on toward God's calling.You may not be where you want to be yet, but thank God, you're not where you used to be.WHAT DOES FORWARD LOOK LIKE?Moving forward may look different for each of us:• Maintaining a healthy boundary.• Refusing to revisit an offense you've already released.• Continuing the financial discipline you've begun.• Serving even when nobody applauds.• Renewing your mind.• Applying for the opportunity.• Having the conversation.• Forgiving.• Starting again after a setback.• Refusing to mentally return to what God has already brought you through.Your step may feel small, but forward is forward.You don't have to cross the entire wilderness tonight. Just obey God with what's in front of you.Faith Takes Action. Faith Keeps Moving. Faith Leaves It Behind. And Faith Refuses to Go Back.Wherever God is leading you, choose to trust Him, follow Him, and MOVE FORWARD.

Jennifer Hubbard lost her six-year-old daughter Catherine at Sandy Hook, and in the years since, has devoted herself to a love that outlasts loss; building an animal sanctuary, learning to stop comparing her grief with others and how to forgive. Call the I CHOOSE ME Hotline at 844-553-6643 Follow @IChooseMewithJennieGarth on Instagram and TikTok Follow @JennieGarth on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jennifer Hubbard lost her six-year-old daughter Catherine at Sandy Hook, and in the years since, has devoted herself to a love that outlasts loss; building an animal sanctuary, learning to stop comparing her grief with others and how to forgive. Call the I CHOOSE ME Hotline at 844-553-6643 Follow @IChooseMewithJennieGarth on Instagram and TikTok Follow @JennieGarth on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

26th Sunday in Ordinary Time (09/27/26) I don't like mornings. I'm not a morning person, and I never wake up happy. I have a sleep app that asks me to rate how I wake up: angry red, "blah" yellow, or happy green. After years of using it, I've never once chosen green. I'm permanently yellow. But as a kid, there were mornings when I absolutely would have chosen green: waking up to hear, "It's a snow day! No school!" Or Dad waking you up for deer hunting. Those were green-face mornings. But when Dad woke you up because there was work to do? Definitely red. In today's Gospel, a father tells his two sons to go work in the vineyard. The first says, "I will not," but later changes his mind and goes. The second says, "Yes, sir," but never goes. Jesus makes the point clear: words matter, but actions reveal our hearts. And if we're honest, I think most of us already know what God is asking us to do. That's the Holy Spirit—the spiritual gut-check. So: What's God asking you to do right now? Maybe it's calling someone you've been avoiding. Forgiving someone. Asking forgiveness. Going to confession. Making time for prayer. Being kinder to someone who gets under your skin. Giving up a habit or sin you keep excusing. Reaching out to someone who's lonely. Or simply taking the next step toward becoming the person God is calling you to be. The good news is that a bad beginning doesn't have to mean a bad ending. The first son said no, but he changed his mind and went. And even when we say yes, the road won't always be easy. There will be obstacles and crosses. That doesn't mean we've failed. We just keep working in the vineyard. Every time we pray the Our Father, we say, "Thy will be done." Let's not just say it. Let's do it. So here's the gut-check: What's your next step? Whatever the Father is asking of you—go do it. Because this life is our Father's vineyard.  

The people around us are one of the simplest sources of joy, and a card, a wave, or a chat over the fence can brighten a whole day. I begin this week with the way families once lived together, with grandparents sharing wisdom and purpose with the young ones. I share memories of my grandmother, my father's retirement job making rubber stamps for local banks, and my great uncles who farmed into their nineties. Then I talk about a chat with my neighbor at the fence, the birthday cards that reminded me how much I love real mail, and a visit with my ten year old grandson that turned into a mini miracle. Near the end, I share thoughts on forgiving yourself, trying something new, and moving ahead when the road feels uncertain. Episode Highlights How families once lived together, and what the sandwich generation can teach us A grandmother's honest advice that changed my mind at nineteen Why handwritten notes, cards, and phone calls keep us close Reconnecting with old friends, with ideas from Mel Robbins' Let Them A mini miracle with my ten year old grandson Small joys from great uncles, back fence chats, and the changing seasons Forgiving yourself, trying something new, and moving ahead A Moment to Reflect Think of one person you have not spoken with in some time, and write their name on a card. Send it this week, or pick up the phone and say hello. Small moments, repeated with kindness, become mini miracles. Connect & Support Find the full archive of Mini Miracles From Minor Moments at lindagullo.com/minimiraclespodcast, or subscribe for free through Apple Podcasts so you never miss a week. Ready to work through a difficult season with support? Visit lindagullo.com to learn more about coaching and how we can work together. If this podcast brings encouragement to your life, you can support its continued creation at buymeacoffee.com/delightinliving. Thank you for being here. It means more than you know.

Forgiving those who hurt us is one of the most important things we'll ever do. It doesn't always come easy, but it's necessary. Author and teacher R.T. Kendall joins us in continuing our "The Way" sermon season with a message on total forgiveness. We pray this message is inspiring and brings you closer to Jesus! Key Scripture: Genesis 45:1-8 (CSB) Connect With Us: To learn more about Victory Church and to get connected, visit us at https://victory.church/ Worship Gathering Times: To see locations & worship gathering times, visit https://victory.church/locations/ Prayer: We believe in praying big prayers to a big God and expecting big results. If you're in need of prayer, our team would be honored to pray with you. You can reach us for prayer at https://victory.church/prayer Giving: At Victory, we steward God's resources well and with radical generosity. If you'd like to give toward the mission of Victory Church, visit https://victory.church/give/ Follow Us: OKC Campus: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victorychurchokc/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victorychurchok Edmond Campus: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoryedmond/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victory.churchEDM Grapevine (Texas) Campus: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victorychurchgrapevine/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089341962919

Have you ever had to forgive someone who never even said they were sorry? That was me this week after finding damage on my car. Sometimes forgiveness starts with obedience... even when the feelings are not there yet.

Morning Mantra: "For every minute you are angry you lose 60 seconds of peace."Anger is punishment we give to ourselves for somebody else's mistake.  Like when someone cuts you off in traffic.It doesn't solve anything.   Did the other driver care if you were angry? No.It builds nothing.  Did it solve anything? No.But it can destroy everything.  Now your day and peace are disrupted.Forgiving  and letting go frees us of from the unnecessary stress that anger creates. It allows people to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands, thoughts, and emotions off of things we cannot control.#BeLessAngryAndMorePeaceful  #BeHappy #BeHorsey #BeHippie #HorseHippie #MorningMantra #inspirationalQuotes #MorningMotivation #Equestrian #HorseLover #QuotesToInspire #HorseHippieBrand #HorseHippieBoutique

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Father Martins offers some wisdom on forgiving yourself, how to discern what is prophetic vs demonic, and what steps to take to remove the influence of the occult in one's past.Thank you to our sponsors!Casper Sleep- Remember: The day always ends well with Casper. Right now save up to 20% on mattresses when you go to Casper.com OneSkin- Get 15% off OneSkin with the code EXFILES at https://www.oneskin.co/EXFILESDose- Ready to give your liver the support it deserves? Head to dosedaily.co/EXFILES or enter EXFILES to get 35% off your first subscription. Your body does so much for you—let's do something for it.Cowboy Colostrum- limited time, our listeners get up to 25% off their entire order, just head to https://www.cowboycolostrum.com/EXFILES and use code EXFILES at checkout. That's 25% off when you use codeEXFILES.Sign up for the Vault here to get Dramatic Episodes a day early- exorcistfiles.supercast.comGrab a copy of Father's Book- FatherCarlosMartins.comFollow us on Instagram- @exorcistfiles @theBetheaSign Up For Our Newsletter- Exorcistfiles.tvSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

One of the most powerful tools that Satan uses to create division is unforgiveness. Far too many people are still carrying the wounds from what has happened to them in the past. Join Melissa for Lesson 1 in this series to discover how God wants to help you to lay down your unforgiveness so that you can receive the healing and freedom God offers to you through the truth in His Word.

When Jesus was crucified, He took the hurt of the hit in incredible proportions. Yet it was from the cross that he granted forgiveness to all those who had caused that hurt as he gave his life to pay for their offenses.

Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى (S2) The Messenger ﷺ: “Contemplate on Allah's سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى creation. Do not contemplate about Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى, for you will simply cannot understand His Magnitude”. The Messenger ﷺ: “Indeed having good thoughts about Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى is part of the excellence of worship”. One of the greatest sins we can commit is speaking ignorantly about Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى. A sinful servant has Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وتَعَالَى, The Lord Who is Merciful and Forgiving. اَللَّٰهُ أَكْبَرُ.

Click here for the DRB Daily Sign Up form! TODAY'S SCRIPTURE: Daniel 9–11; Psalm 123; Luke 5 Click HERE to give! One Year Bible Podcast: Join Hunter and Heather Barnes on the Daily Radio Bible, a daily Bible‑in‑a‑year podcast with 20‑minute Scripture readings, Christ‑centered devotion, and guided prayer.This daily Bible reading and devotional invites you to live as a citizen of Jesus' kingdom, reconciled, renewed, and deeply loved. TODAY'S EPISODE: Welcome to the Daily Radio Bible. Today is September 22nd, day 265 of our journey through the Scriptures, and there are just 100 days left in the year. Our readings today are Daniel 9–11, Psalm 123, and Luke 5. Daniel is carrying a tremendous weight. He looks back upon the ruins of his people and forward into visions of things he can barely comprehend. At one point, the sheer weight of it all leaves him without strength. And then God meets him. Daniel receives another touch. "Don't be afraid," he is told. "You are very precious to God. Peace! Be encouraged! Be strong!" And Daniel says that as these words are spoken, his strength returns. Psalm 123 gives us another picture of dependence. The psalmist lifts his eyes toward God, looking for mercy. Then in Luke 5, people come to Jesus carrying their own burdens. There are exhausted fishermen with empty nets. There is a man covered with leprosy. There is a paralyzed man whose friends carry him through a roof. There is Levi, the tax collector, sitting at his booth. Again and again, Jesus meets people where they are and gives them something they cannot manufacture for themselves. Healing. Forgiveness. Calling. Belonging. Strength. Maybe that's the invitation for us today. We don't have to manufacture what we don't have. We can open our hands and receive another touch. TODAY'S DEVOTION: He Gives Us a Second Touch Daniel was overwhelmed by what he saw. The vision God had given him. The enormity of what was behind him. The uncertainty of what was ahead. The ruins of the past. The challenges of the present. All of it left Daniel saying: "My strength is gone. I can hardly breathe." Have you ever felt that way? You look ahead at something that seems impossible. Or maybe you look behind you at something painful, something broken, something you wish had gone differently. And you feel paralyzed. Frightened. Unable to move. Maybe you can hardly catch your breath. If you've ever been there, you're not alone. Daniel was there too. But then something beautiful happens. Daniel says: "Then the one who looked like a man touched me again, and I felt my strength returning." He touched me again. A second touch. And then Daniel hears these words: "Don't be afraid. You are very precious to God. Peace! Be encouraged! Be strong!" And as Daniel listens, his strength returns. I love that. Daniel doesn't find the strength somewhere inside himself. He doesn't grit his teeth and try harder. He doesn't give himself a motivational speech. Strength comes to him. It is received. God meets him in his weakness. And maybe that's what some of us need today. Another touch. Maybe you've been walking with God for years. Maybe you've experienced grace before. Maybe you know what it is to be carried by love. But today you're tired again. That's okay. Sometimes we need another touch. Sometimes we need to hear again what we've heard before. Don't be afraid. You are precious to God. Peace. Be encouraged. Be strong. And when I turn to Luke 5, I see Jesus doing this everywhere he goes. He meets Peter after a night of empty nets. He touches the man with leprosy. He speaks forgiveness to the paralyzed man. He looks at Levi sitting at the tax collector's booth and says, "Follow me." Jesus keeps moving toward people. Touching. Healing. Forgiving. Calling. Restoring. Giving people what they cannot give themselves. Maybe you need that today. Maybe the road ahead looks daunting. Maybe the road behind carries shame or regret. Maybe you're simply tired. Open your hands. You don't have to manufacture strength. You can receive it. Let Jesus meet you where you are. Let him touch the place that is tired. Let him speak again: Don't be afraid. You are precious to God. Peace. Be encouraged. Be strong. And maybe your prayer today can be very simple: "Yes, Lord. Thank you. I receive your love. I receive your peace. I receive your strength." Sometimes we need a second touch. And sometimes a third. And a fourth. Grace keeps coming. That's the prayer I have for my own soul. That's the prayer I have for my family, for my wife, my daughters, and my son. And that's the prayer I have for you. May it be so. TODAY'S PRAYERS: Lord God Almighty and everlasting father you have brought us in safety to this new day preserve us with your Mighty power that we might not fall into sin or be overcome by adversity. And in all we do, direct us to the fulfilling of your purpose  through Jesus Christ Our Lord amen.   Oh God you have made of one blood all the peoples of the earth and sent your blessed son to preach peace to those who are far and those who are near. Grant that people everywhere may seek after you, and find you. Bring the nations into your fold, pour out your Spirit on all flesh, and hasten the coming of your kingdom through Jesus Christ our Lord, Amen.   And now Lord,  make me an instrument of your peace.  Where there is hatred let me sow love. Where there is injury, pardon.  Where there is doubt, faith. Where there is despair, hope.  Where there is darkness, light.  And where there is sadness,  Joy.  Oh Lord grant that I might not seek to be consoled as to console. To be understood as to understand, to be loved as to love.  For it is in the giving that we receive, in the pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in the dying that we are born unto eternal life.  Amen And now as our Lord has taught us we are bold to pray... Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven, give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not unto temptation, but deliver us from evil, for thine is the Kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. Loving God, we give you thanks for restoring us in your image. And nourishing us with spiritual food, now send us forth as forgiven people, healed and renewed, that we may proclaim your love to the world, and continue in the risen life of Christ.  Amen.  OUR WEBSITE: www.dailyradiobible.com We are reading through the New Living Translation.   Leave us a voicemail HERE: https://www.speakpipe.com/dailyradiobible Subscribe to us at YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Dailyradiobible/featured OTHER PODCASTS: Listen with Apple Podcast DAILY BIBLE FOR KIDS DAILY PSALMS DAILY PROVERBS DAILY LECTIONARY DAILY CHRONOLOGICAL  

Jamie Leigh Lorente joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about not getting to know her biological father who emigrated from Cuba during the Cold War from Cuba as an unaccompanied minor until the end of his life, how we learn to understand and accept one another despite our cultural differences, evolving as a writer and human as we write memoir, being able to comfort and repair the different versions of ourselves, coming of age and being safe, experimenting with alternating points of view to increase compassion and empathy, discovering a softening toward men, feeling too vulnerable to share a story, the existential fear of exile from our communities, loving each other despite our conflicts, the memoir writing process allowing us to get closer to loved ones, returning to and forgiving our authentic selves, and her new memoir My Three Fathers.   Also in this episode: -complex trauma -Jungian empty chair exercise -mentally preparing to let a story out into the world   Books mentioned in this episode: Clam Down by Anelise Chen Family Trouble: Memoirists on the Hazards and Rewards of Revealing Family edited by Joy Castro Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg Her by Christa Parravani   Jamie Leigh Lorente is a Cuban-American writer, veteran, and advocate. She writes to reclaim the body and reframe the narrative of survival. Her work appears in My Teeth Don't Chew on Shrapnel, the Anthology of Veterans Writing, Afterwords: The Real Me, and Poetic Prosthesis: Trauma and Language in Contemporary Veterans' Writing (Edinburgh University Press, 2022). She teaches writing at San Francisco Film School and facilitates veteran writing workshops. Her short documentary, My Body Is explores the healing power of poetry. https://vimeo.com/1013310340?share=copy   Connect with Jamie: Website: www.jamieleighlorente.com. (not live yet)  Instagram: jamie_leigh_lorente Substack: Jamie Leigh Lorente @jamieleighlorente   – Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.  She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit's Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank   Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social

What if the relationship that needs healing most is the one you have with your body? Tune in on for an inspiring discussion with Ann Saffi Biasetti, PhD, LCSW on her new book Your Body Never Meant You Any Harm: A Somatic Guide to Forgiving and Healing Your Relationship with Your Body.Moments with Marianne Radio Show airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate! https://www.kmet1490am.comAnn Saffi Biasetti, PHD, LCSW, is a Transpersonal Psychologist and psychotherapist specializing in somatic psychotherapy and eating disorder recovery. She is the creator of Embodied Self-Compassion (ESC) and the Befriending Your Body (BFYB) program, as well as a certified yoga therapist, yoga teacher, and respected trainer in interoceptive awareness and self-compassion. Ann is the author of Befriending Your Body and Awakening Self-Compassion Cards. She teaches for PESI (Professional Education Systems Institute) and the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, and has led workshops, retreats, and professional trainings in the U.S., Canada, and the U.K. Ann is a frequent podcast guest and a featured author in The Handbook of Self-Compassion in Psychotherapy. She maintains a private practice in Saratoga Springs, New York, and is dedicated to fostering self-compassion, embodiment, and community through her writing, teaching, and clinical work. https://www.anembodiedlife.comDiscover inspiring conversations with today's leading authors, celebrities, thought leaders, and changemakers. To learn more about the Moments with Marianne Radio Show, explore guest interview opportunities, connect with Marianne, and follow her on social media, visit https://www.mariannepestana.comExplore the Moments with Marianne Book Club and find your next great read: https://www.mariannepestana.com/book-club/Listen to the Moments with Marianne Radio Show on KMET 1490AM & 98.1FM, an ABC News Radio Affiliate, weekdays at 8:06 AM PT / 11:06 AM ET and Sundays at 10:06 AM PT / 1:06 PM ET. Learn more at: https://www.kmet1490am.com/moments-with-marianne

Send us Fan MailWhat do you do when you forgave them; but you are still hurt?Not because you are bitter.Not because you are immature.Not because you did not “forgive for real.”But because they never acknowledged what they did. They never showed remorse. They never took accountability. They never tried to repair the damage. And now you are left trying to keep your heart soft while carrying pain they may never admit they caused.In this new episode of Just Nona, I'm answering this question with insights from my new book, The Power of Petty Prayers. A podcast listener named Peju asked how to sustain forgiveness after a significant betrayal when the person who hurt her has no remorse; especially while still being in close proximity to them.This is a real conversation about forgiveness, remorse, repentance, trust, boundaries, and the pain that remains when the person who wounded you keeps living like nothing happened. Order The Power of Petty Prayers TODAY by clicking here: https://www.nonajones.com/books

Series: N/AService: Sun MorningType: SermonSpeaker: Warren King

This episode originally came out in 2024 Holding a grudge is a tantalising temptation. Especially when someone has clearly wronged us. After all, they deserve to be held accountable for what they did, right? In this episode, Petra and her guests explore what the big fuss is with forgiveness. And we’re not just talking about the earth-shattering acts of forgiveness, but garden variety forgiveness that can be weaved into our everyday life as we inevitably bump into the people around us. Petra talks to counsellor and podcaster, Charlotte Cummings about the emotional world of forgiveness, and Rev Dr Malcolm Gordon about the nuts and bolt of the forgiveness process. So if you’ve got a grudge that won’t budge, you’ve come to the right place. Sacred Text: Excerpt from The Book of Forgiving by Desmond and Mpho tutu. Rev Malcolm Gordon's Podcast Series: A Field Guide to Forgiveness Featured Music: The Light by The Album Leaf I'm Not Sorry by Morrissey Brother by The Brilliance

My friend Dan Hamby (married father of four) joins us to share his super powerful story of meeting with and ultimately forgiving the man who murdered his father Everett when Dan was 7 years old. Dan talks he wasn't looking to connect with or forgive his father killer—but how that unlikely connection was established by his seminary teacher. Dad talks about how forgiving his father killer helped him in ways he didn't know he needed. Dad talks about meeting with his father's killer after his mission and how they helped him better understand God love for all of us and how our “value never changes” This is one of the most powerful and moving podcasts we've ever done. A must listen. If you are navigating the unfairness and wounding of life, please listen to Dan's story along with his testimony of the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ to heal. It will give you more hope and vision of the possibilities in your future. Thank you, Dan, for being on the podcast. I was so moved and uplifted listen to your story—a story that gives all of us more vision on the power of forgiveness. Links: Facebook: www.facebook.com/dan.hamby IG: @dan_hamby72 e-mail: danhamby@outlook.com

Hey, it's Amy Newmark with your Chicken Soup for the Soul and I'm pleased to share new stories with you from Chicken Soup for the Soul: Let It Go, which is our best-selling self-help book from last summer. It's all about how you can find freedom in your own life by using the power of forgiveness. It really works, too. I've adopted it in my own life, and now I even do what I call “pre-forgiveness”, saying to myself “Well if I'm going to forgive this behavior anyway I might as well not even get mad in the first place.” Pre-forgiveness is a great way to live. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

B”H What if one of the biggest obstacles in your financial life isn't actually a lack of financial strategy? What if it's something you're still carrying — a grievance, a mistake, a financial decision you wish you could undo, or a story from the past that is quietly still running your relationship with money? Maybe it's time to forgive all that. Forgiveness is the topic of my conversation with Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, best-selling author of the new book The Forgiveness Experiment: What Would Your Life Look Like If You Let It All Go?  Known to many as the Love Rabbi, Rabbi Bernath is the senior rabbi of Rohr Chabad NDG in Montreal. He is also a matchmaker, screenwriter, actor, and now a best-selling author. The Forgiveness Experiment grew out of Rabbi Bernath's own 17-year personal journey of forgiveness. We talk about forgiving ourselves for financial mistakes, forgiving others, even forgiving God, and why we sometimes keep what Rabbi Bernath calls “emotional receipts” in our marriages. Rabbi Bernath takes us through some of the exercises from the book.We also talk honestly about Rabbi Bernath's own financial mistakes, money anxiety, trust, and tzedakah. This episode is a big reframe of forgiveness—one that I think you'll find very refreshing, empowering, and helpful. Here's Rabbi Yisroel Bernath. Get The Forgiveness Experiment: What Would Your Life Look Like If You Let It All Go? HERE. The post 473: Forgiving Our Money Mistakes with Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, Author of The Forgiveness Experiment appeared first on Yael Trusch.

Father William Danaher gives his sermon on the Sixteenth Sunday After Pentecost at Christ Church Cranbrook.

At 19 years old, Rhiannon survived a kidnapping and assault that would shape her life's purpose. Now an attorney and public speaker, she uses her voice to empower others—especially survivors of trauma. Rhiannon is the author of the upcoming memoir My Beauty From Ashes, a deeply personal account of healing, identity and reclaiming one's story. Her writing journey has evolved into a powerful path toward forgiveness as a force for healing. In 2023, Rhiannon delivered a TEDx talk titled Forgiving the Unforgivable, where she shared her perspective on trauma, recovery, and forgiveness. Through her work as a writer and in the courtroom, she continues to advocate for mental health awareness, victims' rights and survivor empowerment. Hear the uncanny power of forgiving the unforgivable.

Today's lessons talk about slavery, debts' and forgiveness. Pastor Hannah explains that in biblical times, slavery was very different from the way we think about it - selling yourself into slavery was a way to pay off a debt you owed someone, and that slavery ended when the debt was forgiven or repaid. When Jesus tells the parable of the slave who's debt was forgiven, he is warning that we should forgive others sins (debts) against us because we ourselves have been forgiven a much greater debt. And when he tells Peter that he should forgive "seventy-seven times," he is saying that forgiving others should be a habit.

Forgiving the sinful woman

Jesus wants us to forgive, 70x7 times. He makes it abundantly clear that we need to forgive. But how do we do that when we have been betrayed and assaulted in unforgivable ways?We continue our study of The Lord's Prayer

Gospel- Matthew 18: 21-35

It's easier to forgive if we are living for the Lord rather than living for ourselves. Additionally, if we realize all God has truly done for us it helps us be more generous with others including our time, our talent, our treasure, and our forgiveness. 

Matthew 18:21-35The Parable of the Unmerciful Servanthttps://innerworkteachings.com/https://theosisbooks.org/"Parable Wisdom: Spiritual Awakening in the Teachings of Jesus" a new edition by Theodore J. Nottingham is on Amazon, Kindle, Audible.

Fr. Jeremiah Caughran Forgiving through Receiving Forgivness, Matthew 18.21-35 When St. Peter asked Jesus how much he should forgive his brother who sins against him, Jesus told him that forgiveness must be unlimited because we have been forgiven more by the Father in heaven than any amount of sin that can be done against us by our brother.Image: The Unmerciful Servant, John Everett Millais, Public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

Romans 3:21-31 | Simon Murphy | 13 September 2026

On encountering and easing the past, creating the conditions to feel and offer compassion, and equanimity as practice.  (0:00) - Introduction and Guest Overview (2:20) - Table of Contents and Initial Discussion (7:17) - Belonging in Space and Emptiness of the Material World (16:05) - The Art of Lessening Thoughts and Emotions (24:57) - Parenting and Work-Life Balance (29:08) - Equanimity and Play (39:33) - Breathing and Equanimity with Success (42:49) - Forgiving and Being Forgiven (45:23) - The Art of Lessening the Ego Self (48:19) - Final Reflections and Closing Billy Wynne is a health and wellbeing entrepreneur, Zen Buddhist, mindfulness meditation teacher, and author of The Empty Path: Finding Fulfillment Through the Radical Art of Lessening, which was published by New World Library in March 2025. He founded Impact Health, a mission-driven consultancy, Awake, an alcohol-free bar, and other companies. Billy has served on several boards, including Operation Smile, 365Health, Cherish Children Adoption International, the Zen Center of Denver, and Colorado's Natural Medicine Advisory Board, which is implementing the state's psychedelic therapy program. He received a BA in Government and Religion from Dartmouth College and a JD from the University of Virginia. He is currently pursuing a Master of Arts in Buddhist Studies from the Institute of Buddhist Studies. Billy lives in Carbondale, CO with his wife, son, and two shih-poos, Oscar and Archie. Their daughter is in college.

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Mary Hutton and Fr Raymond McCarthy read the parable of the unforgiving servant, the man whose ten thousand talents were written off before he took a fellow servant by the throat over a hundred denarii. Fr Raymond's worry is how few people come to confession while so many come forward for communion, and whether that is his own fault for not preaching more stridently. Mary offers something more practical for anyone carrying a wound they cannot put down: three steps, the last of which is to say the words long before you can mean them. Feedback and questions: info@radiomaria.ie, or by text or WhatsApp to +353-89467-2000. L'articolo Gospel Tidings – Say It Before You Mean It: Three Steps to Forgiving – Mary Hooton and Fr Eamonn – 24th Sunday OT [Year A] proviene da Radio Maria.

Darryl Strawberry's story is bigger than baseball. In this deeply personal episode of Mick Unplugged, Darryl opens up about the mother who raised five children alone, the pain of an absent and abusive father, the cost of success without healing, and the freedom he found through forgiveness. Darryl shares why talent and fame could not repair what was broken inside him. He reflects on addiction, consequences, discipline, ministry, marriage, and the moment he finally forgave his father at his bedside. Mick also shares how Darryl's book, Another Life, helped him process his own relationship with his late father and begin thinking differently about forgiveness and self-forgiveness. The conversation moves from baseball to faith, but the central lesson is universal: your past does not disqualify your purpose, and the way you start does not have to determine the way you finish. IN THIS EPISODE • Why Darryl's mother became the foundation of his resilience • How proving his father wrong fueled his early ambition • Why success exposes who you are • The consequences Darryl could not outrun • How forgiving his father gave him freedom • Why Tracy's boundaries helped redirect his life • The difference between talent, identity, and purpose • What Another Life reveals about healing and faith • Why Darryl believes it is not how you start, but how you finish • The legacy he wants to leave for his children MICK'S BOOK OFFER Mick is purchasing 50 copies of Darryl Strawberry's new book, Another Life, for members of the Mick Unplugged community. To request a copy, message Mick the words "another life" on LinkedIn or Instagram. The offer is limited to the first 50 eligible responses and is available while supplies last. BOOK Another Life: Discovering the Healing Power of Purpose on My Long Journey from Player to Preacher Darryl Strawberry https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Another-Life/Darryl-Strawberry/9781637748848 CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 02:16 The Because 02:54 Darryl's purpose and the mother who never quit 07:15 Success exposes who you are 10:07 The Unplugged Truth 11:39 Forgiving his father 17:38 Hot Takes 21:11 Discipline, faith, and ministry 24:23 The Room 27:15 Another Life 29:54 Mick's 50-book giveaway 31:34 The Unplugged Five 32:46 The legacy Darryl wants to leave 33:17 Closing Connect & Discover Darryl: Instagram: @darrylstrawberry18 Website: darrylstrawberry18.com Facebook: @therealdarrystrawberry Threads: @darrylstrawberry18 Book: Another Life: Discovering the Healing Power of Purpose on My Long Journey from Player to Preacher Strawberry Ministries: @livingrestored FOLLOW MICK ON: Spotify: MickUnplugged Instagram: @mickunplugged  Facebook: @mickunpluggedYouTube:  @MickUnpluggedPodcast  LinkedIn: @mickhunt  Website:  MickHuntOfficial.com Website: howtobeagoodleader.com Website: Leadloudseries.com Apple: MickUnplugged #MickUnplugged #Leadership #Podcast #darrylstrawberry

In this shocking episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, host Mark Sing tackles approach anxiety head on, but not in the way you'd expect. Instead of telling you to just go do it, he lays out five ways to build the skill before you ever have to talk to a woman you're actually interested in.  Mark's philosophy is simple: the guys who get good with women aren't the ones who are naturally gifted, they're the ones who practiced enough that it stopped feeling like a big deal. This episode gives you the techniques to get in those reps, get in that practice, without actually having to get in front of a hot woman. Key Takeaways: How to practice talking to women without needing a woman Why practicing speaking alone still builds real, usable confidence The storytelling formula for showing your value without bragging Why practicing on someone low-stakes sharpens your delivery fast The off-the-cuff trick for never running out of things to say Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] – Episode Intro [00:01:01] – Practicing without ever approaching a girl [00:02:43] – Concept 1: Forgiving yourself for having approach anxiety [00:09:15] –Practice your stories by yourself [00:11:12] – Concept 2: What would I say to her if I were to approach her? [00:13:52] – Concept 3: Practicing on people who don't matter [00:15:21] – Client success story [00:18:09] – Concept 4: Flipping attractive and unattractive in your mind [00:20:33] – Concept 5: Talking about anything, completely off the cuff [00:24:04] – Episode Outro  Connect With Mark: Apply for Mark's 3-Month Coaching Program: https://coachmarksing.com/coaching/ Check Out The Perks Program: https://coachmarksing.com/perks/ Email: CoachMarkSing@Gmail.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachmarksing/ Grab Mark's Free Program: The Approach Formula - https://www.CoachMarkSing.com/The-Approach-Formula   About The Unapologetic Man Podcast The Unapologetic Man Podcast is your resource for mastering dating, attraction, and relationships from a confident, masculine perspective. Hosted by Mark Sing, this podcast gives men the tools and mindset shifts needed to succeed in their dating lives and build lasting, high-value relationships. #UnapologeticMan #MensPodcast #TheIck #TryHard #Attraction #DatingAdvice #Confidence #SelfImprovement   

In this episode of A Spark of Awareness, I want to share something very personal: how forgiving my father became one of the deepest turning points in my life, my relationships, and my business.We often look outside ourselves when something isn't working. When a business struggles, we look at the market, the strategy, the economy, or our clients. When a relationship breaks down, we look at the other person. But sometimes the biggest shift doesn't come from changing anything outside of us. It comes from understanding what is happening within us.Over the past year, my business has expanded into new spaces, from working with people in technology and venture capital to conscious leadership and retreats. But I realized that for my work to make a quantum leap, I also had to make a quantum leap within myself. No investor, coach, friend, or external opportunity could make that leap for me.That realization became especially clear after a painful separation last year. I had spent much of my life believing that if I made good choices and had a good plan, I could keep things under control. Then a relationship I had invested deeply in ended, and many of the plans I had for my future disappeared with it.I had to face the uncomfortable truth that I am not in control of everything. Instead of trying to rebuild the old plan, I began asking myself what my life and relationships had been trying to show me. What patterns was I repeating? What was happening inside me that was attracting certain experiences?Through that process, I discovered something I had understood intellectually for years but had never fully embodied: I didn't completely trust other people.I had experienced betrayal and situations where I felt controlled, used, or taken advantage of. I had learned to rely primarily on myself. That had made me strong and independent, but it had also created a layer of protection around my heart. I could explain the pattern. I could analyze where it came from. But knowing something intellectually is very different from actually being free from it.Eventually, I reached the source of it: my relationship with my father.I realized that much of the resentment I had carried toward men in my life was connected to what I had experienced with him. I had felt controlled, unheard, and pressured to fulfill expectations that weren't necessarily my own. And for years, I had unconsciously been looking for something from other men that I had never received from him: acknowledgement and an apology.At some point, I understood that I might never receive those words.So I had to find another way to become free.For me, forgiveness wasn't an intellectual decision. It meant going back to the hurt itself and allowing myself to see my father differently—not only as my father, but as a young man who had left Vietnam at eighteen, lost many of his own dreams through war and displacement, and had to rebuild his life from almost nothing.I began to see that he, too, had carried wounds, shame, disappointment, and a sense of failure that he didn't necessarily have the tools to process. Some of what he carried had been passed on to me.And I realized that I didn't have to carry it anymore.After one particularly deep period of inner work, I wrote my father an eleven-page letter containing everything I had never said. I eventually burned it. I didn't need him to read it anymore. I needed those words to leave me.Something shifted after that.I felt less distrustful, less guarded, and more open to life. And perhaps most importantly, I stopped feeling that I needed external achievements to prove that I was worthy. I didn't need to become a mother, build a huge company, become popular, or be recognized in order to feel that I was enough.I began to feel that nothing was missing.Happiness is what's there when you remove the sense that something is missing in your life— Naval RavikantAnd from that place, I started building differently.Instead of asking, What can this business give me? recognition, success, money, popularity, validation…I could ask, What does the world need? What am I here to create, of value for the world?That distinction has changed the way I lead my work.I can listen more deeply. I can change direction when something no longer feels relevant. I can allow my business to evolve without feeling that my identity or worth is attached to it.Because I am not my business.This is also why my work has been evolving toward conscious leadership, retreats, deeper human connection, and spaces where people can reconnect with themselves and others. I see a growing need for this in a world where technology and AI can increasingly provide information and efficiency, while human beings are still searching for meaning, connection, love, and belonging.So if you are trying to change something in your life or business, I invite you to look beyond the surface problem. Instead of only asking, What should I change externally?, ask yourself what might be underneath it. Where did you first learn not to trust? What are you still protecting yourself from? What are you trying to prove? And what are you carrying that doesn't actually belong to you?Because sometimes the obstacle to your next level isn't your strategy. It's an old pattern still running underneath it.For me, forgiving my father didn't change him. It changed me. And because I changed, my relationship with my work, my relationships, my partnerships, and my future changed too.That is the paradox I've experienced: sometimes the fastest way to create an external quantum leap is to stop forcing the outside world to change and have the courage to go deeper within.The real transformation starts there.Thanks for reading Rise and Play! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit riseandplay.substack.com

In 1998, Alexander Love's father was murdered. Years later, he sat down — on Zoom — with the man who did it. And what he found there was not what anyone expected.Alexander Love is an acupuncturist, developmental coach, and senior faculty at the Newfield Network, where he created the Lumina Process — an integrative approach to shadow work weaving together Eastern wisdom, Integral theory, parts work, and polarity work. His TEDx talk is titled “How Embracing Pain Creates a Legacy of Love,” and his forthcoming book, the Evolutionary Gestures Trilogy, opens with the story of his father's murder and the restorative justice dialogue he pursued with the man convicted of it. In this solo conversation with Will (Jon was away), Alexander makes a radical, gentle case: pain is not something to escape but a doorway to walk through — and the courage to turn toward it is what actually makes a good man.IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:1.  Why pain is a doorway, not a problem to eliminate — and what opens when you turn toward it2.  The restorative justice dialogue: forgiveness, and why “hero and villain” falls apart on contact with a real human3.  The belief that human beings are fundamentally good — even the man who took his father4.  The three-step practice: turn toward, locate the sensation in the body, and lovingly embrace it5.  Why the cultural story that “real men feel no pain” is a marketing myth — and being a good man takes the oppositeMore about Alexander Love:1.  Website: alexanderlove.org3.  TEDx talk: “How Embracing Pain Creates a Legacy of Love” — search on YouTube4.  Newfield Network (9-month coach & personal transformation training): https://www.newfieldnetwork.com Check out our Awareness-to-action Self Mastery COURSE & COMMUNITY:12 modules on attention, presence & performance. Work at your own pace plus a community built for Inspiration and connection.1.  www.focusnowtraining.com/a2a-CourseJOIN US IN PERSON — Future Events and Retreats.1.  Live in-person event: Warrior Defined. We will be in Charlotte, NC, September 25, 2026 more info HERE: Or mentalkingmindfulness.comGET MORE FROM MTM:Text MTM to 33777 — free weekly newsletter1.  Subscribe: mentalkingmindfulness.com2.  FNT: focusnowtraining.comBRING FNT TO YOUR TEAM:1.  focusnowtraining.com/contactProduced by Robert Lopez | https://www.cratesaudio.com/

Underneath It All: What Is Your Life Built On?We all spend a lot of time thinking about the visible parts of our lives—our careers, families, homes, accomplishments, relationships, and reputations.But the most important part of a house is the part nobody sees: the foundation.And the same is true of our lives.1. We're All Building SomethingYou may not consider yourself a builder, but every decision you make is building something.Your words build something.Your attention builds something.Your reactions build something.Your choices become habits, habits become patterns, and those patterns shape the life you're living.The question is:What are you building—and will it last?2. The Foundation Matters More Than the AppearanceJesus tells the story of two builders in Matthew 7:24–27.One builds his house on rock.The other builds on sand.On a sunny day, the difference may not be obvious. But when the storm arrives, the foundation is revealed.That's true for our lives, too.Storms don't create your foundation. They reveal it.3. Good Things Can Become Bad FoundationsMoney isn't bad.Success isn't bad.Relationships aren't bad.Planning isn't bad.Family isn't bad.The problem comes when we take something good and make it the ultimate thing—asking it to provide the security, identity, or meaning that only God can provide.Everything created has a weight limit.Nothing other than God was designed to carry the full weight of your life.4. What Has to Stay Secure for You to Be Okay?This may be the hardest question in the episode:What is the thing you cannot imagine losing without losing yourself?Your job?Your reputation?Your health?Your family?Your bank account?Your plans?Someone's approval?Your sense of control?The answer doesn't necessarily mean that thing is bad. It may simply reveal that you're asking it to carry more weight than it was designed to carry.5. Hearing Jesus Isn't the Same as Following JesusJesus doesn't say the wise builder is simply the person who hears His words.The wise builder hears His words and puts them into practice.That's the difference.Faith isn't simply agreeing that Jesus is right. It's building your life around who Jesus is and what He says.6. Let Jesus Carry What Only Jesus Can CarryYour job matters—but it doesn't have to define you.Your relationships matter—but they don't have to save you.Your future matters—but you don't have to control it.Your life matters—but you weren't designed to carry its full weight alone.The challenge is to let Jesus be more than an addition to your life.Let Him be the foundation.7. Lay One Brick of ObedienceRebuilding your life doesn't have to happen all at once.Start with one thing.What is one thing Jesus has already told you to do that you already know you need to do?Maybe it's: Forgiving someone Asking for help Returning to community Opening Scripture Apologizing Serving someone Becoming more generous Releasing something you can't control Taking a step toward baptism Trusting God with something you've been trying to carry yourselfOne step.One conversation.One act of obedience.One brick.

The Parables of Jesus – Week 6Remember the Mercy (Matthew 18:21–35)Forgiving someone who has hurt us can be one of the hardest things Jesus asks us to do. In the parable of the unforgiving servant, Jesus reminds us that the mercy we have received should shape the mercy we extend to others. As we remember the debt God has forgiven, we can release the offenses we were never meant to carry and choose forgiveness again and again. Remembered mercy produces repeated forgiveness.

https://wels2.blob.core.windows.net/daily-devotions/20260906dev.mp3 Listen to Devotion [Jesus said] “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” Matthew 18:15 Forgiving and Forgetting When Jesus lived in this world, he demonstrated again and again his great love for people. He helped them with their physical needs, but more importantly he shared with them the message which satisfied their spiritual needs. He stated that he had come to seek and save the lost. The lost sometimes included people with whom he was well acquainted. Recall, for example, how Jesus went to Peter who had disgracefully denied his Lord and reminded Peter of his sin and then lovingly restored his apostle. In today’s Bible passage, Jesus is speaking about the personal ministry we have with and for other Christians. When we see a Christian slip into sin and continue to live impenitently in that sin, Jesus wants us to do something about it. Jesus’ concern is not that we try to reform a fellow Christian’s irritating habits or change his personality quirks. He is speaking about living impenitently in a particular sin which defies the Word of God. Can we dare to become apathetic about a person who is in danger of eternal separation from God? Hardly! Jesus says, “Go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.” Take the initiative. Don’t wait for the person to come to you. And go alone first. Keep the matter as private as possible. Jesus doesn’t want sin spread around. When you have pointed out someone’s sin, and he listens to you and agrees, then assure him that God forgives him and so do you. Then be sure to leave the sin behind. If not letting go of someone else’s past and forgiven sins is something you struggle with, take this to God in prayer. Ask your heavenly Father to help you forgive and forget the sin of others just as he has dealt with your sin through Christ. God declares, “I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). Prayer: Heavenly Father, as you have forgiven me through Jesus, so help me to forgive others from the heart and gladly do good to those who sin against me. Amen. Daily Devotions is brought to you by WELS. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0 United States License. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. ™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide.

https://wels2.blob.core.windows.net/daily-devotions/20260906dev.mp3 Listen to Devotion [Jesus said] “If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over.” Matthew 18:15 Forgiving and Forgetting When Jesus lived in this world, he demonstrated again and again his great love for people. He helped them with their physical needs, but more importantly he shared with them the message which satisfied their spiritual needs. He stated that he had come to seek and save the lost. The lost sometimes included people with whom he was well acquainted. Recall, for example, how Jesus went to Peter who had disgracefully denied his Lord and reminded Peter of his sin and then lovingly restored his apostle. In today’s Bible passage, Jesus is speaking about the personal ministry we have with and for other Christians. When we see a Christian slip into sin and continue to live impenitently in that sin, Jesus wants us to do something about it. Jesus’ concern is not that we try to reform a fellow Christian’s irritating habits or change his personality quirks. He is speaking about living impenitently in a particular sin which defies the Word of God. Can we dare to become apathetic about a person who is in danger of eternal separation from God? Hardly! Jesus says, “Go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.” Take the initiative. Don’t wait for the person to come to you. And go alone first. Keep the matter as private as possible. Jesus doesn’t want sin spread around. When you have pointed out someone’s sin, and he listens to you and agrees, then assure him that God forgives him and so do you. Then be sure to leave the sin behind. If not letting go of someone else’s past and forgiven sins is something you struggle with, take this to God in prayer. Ask your heavenly Father to help you forgive and forget the sin of others just as he has dealt with your sin through Christ. God declares, “I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). Prayer: Heavenly Father, as you have forgiven me through Jesus, so help me to forgive others from the heart and gladly do good to those who sin against me. Amen. Daily Devotions is brought to you by WELS. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0 United States License. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. ™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide.

I think there is this idea that when you forgive someone, part of that is letting them back in. Like forgiveness automatically means reconciliation. Like because you let go of the anger, they get their old access back. And I think that is one of the biggest misunderstandings about forgiveness. Because I can forgive you and still not trust you. I can wish you well and still not want you in my space. Those things are not contradictions. That is clarity. Forgiveness, for me, is about releasing what I no longer want to carry. The anger. The resentment. The replaying. But forgiveness does not delete the data. I still remember what you showed me. I still remember what happened. I still get to make decisions based on that information. And if nothing has changed, giving someone access again is sometimes just giving them another opportunity to do the exact same thing. So today we are talking about how to forgive without reopening doors that need to stay closed. How to release resentment without abandoning your boundaries. And I think learning the difference between forgiveness and access is one of the most important lessons there is when it comes to protecting your peace. FORGIVENESS AND RECONCILIATION ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS I think this is where so many people get confused. Forgiveness is internal. Reconciliation is relational. Forgiveness is something you can choose by yourself. Reconciliation requires two people. You can decide: "I am done being angry about this." "I am done letting this take up space in my mind." "I am done wishing things were different." "I am going to move forward." None of that requires you to restore the relationship. Reconciliation requires rebuilding. It requires accountability. Change. Consistency. Trust. Effort. Time. And sometimes, even after all of those things, you may still decide that the relationship is better left in the past. Forgiveness does not automatically create an obligation to reconnect. FORGIVING SOMEONE DOESN'T DELETE THE DATA I love this idea: Forgiving you doesn't delete the data. Because sometimes we treat forgiveness like we are supposed to suddenly become forgetful. But experiences give us information. If someone lied repeatedly, that is information. If someone betrayed your confidence, that is information. If someone consistently disrespected your boundaries, that is information. If being around somebody repeatedly left you anxious, depleted, insecure or confused, that is information. You don't have to be angry about the information in order to use it. That is such an important distinction. You can say: "I'm not mad anymore. But now I know." That is wisdom. You don't need to keep touching the stove just because you forgave it for burning you. You learned. And learning is supposed to change your behavior. FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE SAME THING AS TRUST This is another huge one. You can forgive somebody and still not trust them. Because forgiveness can happen in a moment. Trust is built through behavior. Trust is evidence. Trust is repetition. Trust is somebody consistently showing you: "My words and actions match." "I respect your boundaries." "I take responsibility when I hurt you." "I have actually changed." You do not owe somebody instant trust because they apologized. And you definitely don't owe them trust simply because you decided to forgive them. You can forgive freely. Trust should be earned. ACCESS SHOULD BE EARNED Not everyone deserves the same level of access to you. I think we need to normalize this. There are levels. Someone can be somebody you care about but don't confide in. Someone can be somebody you are cordial with but don't spend time alone with. Someone can be somebody you love but know you cannot have an emotionally close relationship with. Someone can be somebody you forgive from a very large distance. Access is not a punishment. Access is a boundary. Your time is access. Your home is access. Your children are access. Your private thoughts are access. Your energy is access. Your vulnerable moments are access. Those things should not be automatically available to everyone. Especially someone who has already shown you they cannot handle that access responsibly. YOU CAN WISH SOMEONE WELL FROM FAR AWAY This is where people think boundaries somehow mean hate. They don't. You can genuinely hope somebody has a beautiful life. You can hope they heal. You can hope they grow. You can pray for them. You can celebrate something good happening to them. And still say: "I do not want to participate in your life anymore." Those things are not contradictions. You do not have to hate somebody in order to leave. Sometimes you leave because you finally stopped hating them. You stopped fighting. Stopped trying to prove your point. Stopped trying to make them understand. Stopped trying to get the apology. And you simply accepted reality. THE GOAL OF FORGIVENESS ISN'T TO GET THE RELATIONSHIP BACK Sometimes the goal is just peace. That's it. Not closure from them. Not an apology. Not a reunion. Not some perfectly wrapped ending. Just peace. Peace that says: "That happened." "I didn't like it." "I learned from it." "And I am not going to keep paying for it emotionally every day." Forgiveness can simply mean that the event no longer gets to control your nervous system. You stop waking up thinking about it. You stop rehearsing imaginary conversations. You stop checking whether they finally understand what they did. You reclaim your attention. That is freedom. SOME PEOPLE DON'T WANT FORGIVENESS. THEY WANT THEIR POSITION BACK. This one is important. Sometimes somebody says: "Well, I thought you forgave me." But what they really mean is: "I thought I would get the same access again." Those are not the same thing. Some people aren't upset that you're still angry. You're not angry. They are upset that there are consequences. They want to skip accountability and go directly back to proximity. They want your forgiveness to erase the natural consequences of their choices. But forgiveness does not require you to protect somebody from consequences. If I learn that I cannot trust you with certain parts of my life, the consequence may simply be less access. Not revenge. Not punishment. Just a new boundary based on new information. PROXIMITY WITHOUT CHANGE IS JUST ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY FOR THE SAME PATTERN This line really matters: Proximity without change is just a second opportunity to do the same thing. Because people will sometimes rush reconciliation because the discomfort of distance feels awkward. But if nothing actually changed, what are we reconciling? Did the person become more accountable? Did the behavior stop? Did communication improve? Were boundaries respected? Was there actual repair? Or did enough time just pass that everyone feels uncomfortable talking about it anymore? Time passing is not the same thing as growth. An apology is not the same thing as transformation. Words matter. Behavior matters more. STOP PERFORMING REUNIONS YOU DON'T ACTUALLY FEEL I think sometimes people reconcile because they don't want to look mean. They don't want family members to think they're difficult. They don't want mutual friends to feel awkward. They don't want to be accused of holding a grudge. So they perform closeness. And inside they are thinking: "I don't trust this person." "I don't feel safe around this person." "I don't actually want this relationship." That kind of relationship becomes exhausting because now you're spending energy pretending. You do not have to manufacture intimacy to prove that you're healed. Sometimes healing actually looks like being able to peacefully say: "No thank you." YOU DON'T NEED ANGER TO JUSTIFY A BOUNDARY You don't have to still be mad in order to say no. You don't need a dramatic reason. You don't need another explosion. You don't need them to do something terrible one more time. You can simply decide: "This relationship no longer works for me." We have been conditioned to think boundaries need a courtroom argument. They don't. You are allowed to notice patterns. You are allowed to recognize how somebody affects you. And you are allowed to make decisions accordingly. BEING AT PEACE DOESN'T MEAN BECOMING AVAILABLE AGAIN Peace sometimes looks like silence. Peace sometimes looks like not responding. Peace sometimes looks like seeing their name and feeling nothing. Peace sometimes looks like being able to be in the same room without needing to confront them. And peace sometimes looks like never seeing them again. There is no universal picture of forgiveness. Sometimes people assume healing means everybody gets back together. Maybe healing means you no longer need everybody to get back together. YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE AND STILL LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO LEAVE This applies to friendships, family relationships, romantic relationships, work relationships and everything in between. Love by itself does not make every relationship healthy. Sometimes you can genuinely love somebody and still recognize: "We are not good together." Or: "I cannot keep exposing myself to this." Or: "I care about you, but I cannot keep participating in this dynamic." That doesn't make the love fake. It means love isn't the only factor in the decision. You also have to consider trust. Respect. Safety. Compatibility. Peace. Values. Patterns. STOP WAITING FOR THEM TO UNDERSTAND YOUR BOUNDARY One of the hardest parts about boundaries is realizing the other person may never agree with yours. They may call you dramatic. Cold. Unforgiving. Sensitive. Difficult. Selfish. And if your entire goal is getting them to approve of your boundary, you're going to stay stuck. Sometimes the person who benefited most from you having no boundaries is going to hate your boundaries the most. That doesn't automatically mean the boundary is wrong. You have to be able to tolerate being misunderstood.   THE HIGHEST LEVEL OF FORGIVENESS MAY BE INDIFFERENCE Sometimes we think forgiveness means having this big emotional moment where you suddenly feel warmth toward the person. Maybe. But sometimes forgiveness is much quieter. You just stop caring. Not in a cruel way. You simply stop being emotionally hooked. Their choices don't ruin your day anymore. Their name doesn't trigger a twenty-minute rant. You don't need everyone else to agree with your version of what happened. You don't need revenge. You don't need validation. You moved on. That is powerful. ASK YOURSELF: WHAT DID THIS EXPERIENCE TEACH ME? Instead of only asking: "How could they do this to me?" Ask: "What did this teach me?" Maybe it taught you to stop ignoring red flags. Maybe it taught you to speak up sooner. Maybe it taught you that chemistry does not equal compatibility. Maybe it taught you that history does not equal loyalty. Maybe it taught you that an apology without changed behavior means very little. Maybe it taught you to trust your instincts. Maybe it taught you that you can survive losing a relationship you once thought you couldn't live without. Take the lesson. Leave the bitterness. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO CREATE A NEW VERSION OF THE RELATIONSHIP Sometimes the answer isn't all-in or completely gone. Maybe the relationship needs a different shape. You can move someone from your inner circle to your outer circle. You can reduce frequency. You can change what topics you discuss. You can stop sharing private information. You can stop asking them for emotional support. You can see them at family events without maintaining a close personal relationship. Boundaries don't always mean cutting someone off. Sometimes they mean creating the appropriate distance. IF RECONCILIATION DOES HAPPEN, LET BEHAVIOR LEAD If you do decide that you want to rebuild a relationship, don't rush it. Let the person show you. You don't have to immediately hand them the keys again. Start small. Pay attention. Do they respect your boundaries? Do they take ownership? Do they become defensive when the past comes up? Do their actions match their apology? Can they tolerate earning trust slowly? Real change can handle patience. Manipulation usually demands immediate access. YOU DON'T HAVE TO HATE THE OLD VERSION OF YOU WHO ALLOWED IT Sometimes after a difficult relationship, we get angry with ourselves. "How did I not see this?" "Why did I stay?" "Why did I give them another chance?" But you made choices with the information, confidence and perspective you had at the time. Now you know more. The goal isn't to shame your previous self. The goal is to become somebody who responds differently now. Growth means the lesson changes your future behavior. PROTECTING YOUR PEACE IS NOT REVENGE There is a major difference between creating distance to hurt somebody and creating distance to protect yourself. If your goal is: "I want them to suffer." That's revenge. But if your goal is: "I don't want to live in this dynamic anymore." That's a boundary. You know the difference internally. Protecting your peace does not require you to punish anybody. Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is simply remove yourself.     I think one of the strongest forms of emotional maturity is being able to say: I forgave you. I'm not angry. I'm not bitter. I don't spend my days thinking about what happened. I genuinely hope you have a great life. And I still don't want you close to me. There is nothing contradictory about that. You are allowed to forgive somebody without restoring their previous position in your life. You are allowed to release anger and keep the lesson. You are allowed to stop carrying resentment while still maintaining boundaries. Forgiveness doesn't delete the data. Forgiveness doesn't automatically rebuild trust. Forgiveness does not require reconciliation. And forgiveness does not come with a key. Sometimes the healthiest ending isn't everyone hugging and going back to the way things were. Sometimes the healthiest ending is simply: I learned. I released it. I wish you well. And the door stays closed. That isn't bitterness. That's clarity and some of the BEST kind of it. 

This episode is a re-release; it originally aired December 15, 2022. In this podcast, Eckhart talks briefly about what he calls the beingness behind our five senses which lead to the deeper essence of who we are. Eckhart then answers a question about forgiveness. He says until we are strongly connected to our deeper self, all of us will act out unconscious patterns that cause suffering. Eckhart says eventually we wake up and ask, “How could I have done that?” He says recognizing our unconsciousness is forgiveness. He believes once we realize we can make amends to those we've hurt and learn to forgive our unconsciousness, we understand that we didn't have the awareness to make a different choice at the time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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