Recalculating

12 “It all started with a chicken dinner….” Another PEI episode! I sat down with Mary two weeks ago to talk about something we haven’t covered at all on the show- how to deal with YOUR PARENTS’ divorce. Mary talks about the effects of her parents’ separation on her and her siblings, and how she views relationships today because of that. We chat about emotional vulnerability, trust, and also our favourite PEI dive bars, and “remembering to love”. Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Mary’s pick for the playlist: You- The 1975 Listen to the full Recalculating playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify

Ep. 11 WHEN LIFE GIVES YOU LEMONS….Mixing it up this week with another not-Ottawa guest! While I was in PEI, I sat down with Maria to talk about what it means when your very first romantic relationship is an abusive one. We touch on some heavy stuff: the post-traumatic symptoms and long term effects, but also rebuilding trust in relationships, self-empowerment and BEYONCE! A TW: this episode discusses issues relating to abuse and post-traumatic stress. Some resources for those experiencing abuse, or unhealthy relationships: One Love Foundation resources Healthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-healthy-relationship/ Unhealthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-unhealthy-relationship/ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/letter-walking-away-abusive-relationship/ Hotlines and resources across Canada http://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help/ Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Maria's Pick for the Playlist: Don't Hurt Yourself- Beyonce ft. Jack White  Listen to the full Recalculating playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify  

This week something new! The show’s first distance interview. I talk to Conor Curran, the founder of Local Laundry about his transition from working in the oil industry to starting and running his own clothing business. Despite some technical difficulties with mics and software, I’m very excited to finally get this episode out. Tune in to hear Conor’s story, as well as how a clothing brand can help build community, give back to the local population and even support Canadian makers. Find Local Laundry here: https://locallaundry.ca/pages/building-community https://www.instagram.com/locallaundry/?hl=en The Four Hour Work Week:https://fourhourworkweek.com/ How to make a T-shirt company video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0yhS_sJkMk Conor’s pick for the playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQHPYelqr0E Listen to the full playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify

Insomnia? Grief? This week is another 'detour' episode: this time featuring listener audio diaries! I share my own experience with sleeplessness, as well as four other people's experiences with insomnia.  My pick for the playlist: Pretty Pimpin'- Kurt Vile Listen to the full playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

Listen to a very groggy me intro today's chat from Denver. Then: Long distance! Communication! Social Media! Oh my! This week's episode (which, yes, features another Drake quote) may sound like some of the same as previous episodes but looks at these issues from a different perspective. What if 'closing the gap' on your long distance relationship was actually what caused the most strife? My guest and I also dig into the silly minutiae of instagram-culture, and the effect it can have on how you process a breakup. Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Listen to the playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify  

Ep. 7 Don’t be a #SadDad Can you really be over your ex, but still in the throes of heartbreak? In this week’s intro I share some listener-mail, and subject everyone to (poor quality) audio from my audio journals. Then I share a (finally!) non-romance related instance of recalculating. Listen to ‘Graham’ share his story of how he left an entire career path behind. From the medical community, to pursuing your passion, Graham and I talk about ‘living to work’ vs ‘working to live’, introversion, and listening to your gut. Graham’s pick for the Playlist: Elegy-Leif Vollebeck Listen to the full playlist here Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Find the show on: Apple Podcasts Google Play Spotify Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com

Ep. 6 “I didn’t have a ‘coming-out’” [TW: Sexual assault, discussion of rape culture.] In this week’s episode, I chat with Clare about how that first ever break-up can affect your relationships years into the future- including how that can shape your sexual identity. From rape-culture, hook-up culture, online dating, polyamory and identifying as queer, we cover it all.  Some support networks for those affected by sexual assault: https://crcvc.ca/links/#supportWomen http://blog.studentlifenetwork.com/2017/09/13/report-sexual-assault/ Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Clare's Pick for the playlist: Spoonful of Sugar- Matt Mays Listen to the full playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify

Is it ok to date "just for fun"? What do those one-off connections that come with casual dating mean? While this podcast isn’t just about breakups, something from episode 4 catches my attention. In this mini-episode you’ll hear a clip from my audio-journal (nerd alert) and some words of wisdom from my favourite podcast host. Special thanks to Andrea Silenzi from Why of Why for permission to use her audio. Audio from Why Oh Why is from episode 5 "A Celebration of Awkwardness". Featured music is 3:4 by Noise Complaints.

e 4: “YOU BROKE UP WITH HER ON THE BUS?!” What do you do when your high school sweetheart lives 3,500 km away?! This week Bailey shares what it's like when your first EVER relationship ends- and what it means when 50% of that was spent halfway across the country. We talk about “the rule of two”, when opposites no longer attract and dating in your early 20's.   Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Bailey’s pic for the playlist:Mr Tambourine Man- Bob Dylan   Listen to the full playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

This week’s episode takes on a difficult, but far too common issue: abusive relationships. My guest this week talks about what it means to end a toxic and unsafe relationship, and we delve into some of the common, and not-so-common misconceptions about emotional and physical abuse. We also get into how to experience life again on your own term, living your #bestlife, and what it means to reclaim your own safety.   Some of the resources Kathy mentions:   Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft   One Love Foundation resources Healthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-healthy-relationship/ Unhealthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-unhealthy-relationship/   https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/letter-walking-away-abusive-relationship/   Men’s Health article for men dating a woman who was abused https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19519621/her-ex-was-abusive/   Hotlines and resources across Canada http://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help/   Terry Crews talk with The White Ribbon Foundation about masculinity and abuse: https://youtu.be/VbypBbQp8kI https://youtu.be/k_BBYL15_qY https://youtu.be/7aYKA_lEsb4   ___________________________ Kathy’s pic for the playlist:Since I Left You- The Avalanches   Listen to the playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify   Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com   Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

FIRST EPISODE! And sit tight, 'cause its a loooong one. We start out with a little background to the who/what/when/where/why of Recalculating. Then I sit down for a chat with my pal Adam about unresolved relationship-grief, and how to lean into the difficult emotions (a la Rose-on-the-bow-of-the-titanic). Adam’s pick for the Recalculating playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Thvm6dADOms Listen to the Playlist: https://itunes.apple.com/ca/playlist/recalculating-the-playlist/pl.u-qxyllEXT2va5VXe ________________________ Follow the show: Instagram: @recalculatingcastFacebook: Recalculating And listen on iTunes, Google Play and Spotify Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

In this episode, we lighten things up a little and talk to my friend, and self-proclaimed serial monogamist Sophia. She shares what it’s like to have only been single for FOUR MONTHS at a time (at most) and what each of those breakups has brought to her current relationship with her ‘forever-person’. We get into high school relationships, the 2009 youtube phenomenon that was Llamas with Hats (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-vsynsE8RQ) and the encyclopedic amount of knowledge you gain when you date someone...for a long time.   Sophia’s pick for the Recalculating playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGksDvKZ9ek   Listen to the playlist: https://itunes.apple.com/ca/playlist/recalculating-the-playlist/pl.u-qxyllEXT2va5VXe _______________________ Follow the show: Instagram: @recalculatingcastFacebook: Recalculating And listen on iTunes, Google Play and Spotify Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

A little taste of what's to come. Stay tuned for the launch in less than two weeks! While you're waiting, check out the show on: Instagram: @recalculatingcast Facebook: Recalculating and get in touch at recalculatingcast@gmail.com Music credits: HAT-Racoon Bandit