Podcasts about lundy bancroft

If you've contemplated leaving a toxic relationship but then get confused and question your decision because of the 'good times,' then this episode is for you. This episode explores the fluctuating dynamics of toxic relationships, focusing on the cycle of extremes in good and bad experiences, which leads to abuse and trauma bonding. The host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, discusses the psychological tactics used by abusers, including intermittent reinforcement and love bombing, to maintain control over their victims. The discussion includes insights from the book 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft and findings from Chuck Derry's research on abusive men. The episode emphasizes the ways to influence the release from the cycle and the importance of recognizing these manipulative behaviors, setting boundaries, and reclaiming one's sense of self. Deborah offers advice on moving forward and the benefits of cutting ties with manipulative individuals.00:00 Introduction to Toxic Relationships00:46 Understanding Trauma Bonding01:49 The Cycle of Abuse03:31 Do Abusers Know What They're Doing?05:29 Benefits Abusers Gain11:49 Motivations to Stop Abuse14:35 Empowerment and Setting Boundaries18:17 Personal Reflections and Moving ForwardTo learn more or connect with the host visit:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com

April Worthington is a teacher, mother of five, minister, and author of The Debriefing Workbook: Hope and Healing after Spiritual Abuse. In this conversation, April shares her experience involving a retreat led by Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?, a book many of us have clung to in our darkest moments. April's story isn't just one of personal harm, it's a call to action.  As a survivor of both spiritual abuse and high-conflict divorce, April recounts how her initial fan-girl admiration of Bancroft shifted into something far more troubling after an encounter that left her reeling. She shares what unfolded during and after that retreat, the red flags she noticed, and the courage it took to speak out despite the risks. I'm holding space for April as she brings forward not only her own experience, but those of others who have come to her with eerily similar stories. Her insight challenges us to re-examine what it means to trust "experts," and the danger in handing over our vulnerability to uncredentialed individuals cloaked in guru status.  Here's what else we get into, in this episode: The red flags that emerged during and after the retreat (6:03) The emotional fallout of being targeted by someone seen as a “healing” authority (26:24) How April is building a support network for other survivors (28:35) Why separating the author from their work is no longer an option (36:22) Learn more about April Worthington: April Worthington is a teacher, mother of five, minister, and author of The Debriefing Workbook: Hope and Healing after Spiritual Abuse. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild Pastures Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate  Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveApril on FacebookApril's YouTube video: A Warning to Women- RUN GIRL! Lundy Bancroft is not your friend! A Cry for Justice: Lundy Bancroft is a Predator ====== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-319-when-the-healer-harms-speaking-out-against-lundy-bancroft/

The first installment in the "Low Pressure Book Club Series" is a review of 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft. Packed with helpful lists of warning signs, debunked excuses, and key signs of abuse, this book was written to provide insight into the minds of men who don't respect their partners. Throughout, I work to explain unacceptable behaviors by comparing them to similar ones displayed by men on Bravo. The author relies on his 30+ years of counseling men to identify contributing factors and presents a path to change that relies solely on the angry man reaching a point where that anger no longer serves him.Unfortunately, this review begins by discussing recently shared allegations by several women that say Lundy weaponized that same extensive counseling experience to prey upon their vulnerabilities. As a result, a book that presents a thesis that abusers are made, not born, now serves as a helpful guide in more ways than its author intended. https://cryingoutforjustice.blog/2025/01/30/lundy-bancroft-is-a-predator/ All opinions are personal and not representative of any outside company, person, or agenda. Information shared is cited via published articles, legal documents, press releases, government websites, public videos, news reports, and/or direct quotes and statements, and all may be paraphrased for brevity and presented in layman's terms.Wanna support this independent pod? Links below:BuyMeACoffee - https://www.buymeacoffee.com/BBDBVenmo @TYBBDB Get ad-free listening with a Patreon membership Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Activity Continues, host Amy and her co-hosts welcome Brittany Baxter Damron, a mental health therapist with insights into mediumship and paranormal phenomena.Brittany discusses her therapeutic approaches, such as EMDR and ego state parts work, and how they relate to understanding and processing trauma. She also connects these methods to episodes of 'The Dead Files,' exploring concepts like PK manifestations, possession, and the influence of energy on mental and spiritual health.The conversation touches on various aspects of psychology, spirituality, and shared personal experiences, aiming to provide listeners with a deeper understanding of the integration between these realms.This is surely one of our more scienc-y episodes but we still have a great time and a lot of laughs. AND we do connect this to The Dead Files!So, grab your crystals, and join us where… The Activity Continues.And remember, neurons that fire together, wire together! We didn't find anything we thought deserved a content warning, except that we use colorful language. The Activity Continues is a paranormal podcast where soul friends, Amy, Megan, and AP chat about ghost stories, haunts, dreams, and other supernatural and paranormal stuff including the TV show, The Dead Files. Our recaps are full of recurring jokes about recurring tropes. We also occasionally do interviews with people from the metaphysical world, as well as Dead Files clients.Sometimes we get a little scientific. We enjoy trying to come up with possible explanations for some of the things that the clients experience. But this by no means indicates that we do not believe the clients or are invalidating their experiences. We do believe. This episode was recorded on February 24, 2025 and released on April 10, 2025. Chapter Markers00:00 Welcome to The Activity Continues00:42 Introducing Brittany Baxter Damron01:33 Understanding EMDR and Therapy Techniques10:02 The Connection Between Mental Health and Environment22:22 Energy and Emotions: A Deeper Dive34:09 Real-Life Examples and Personal Experiences42:23 Mental Health Misconceptions43:18 PTSD and Violent Outbursts45:26 Parts of Self: Burdened vs. Unburdened46:15 Defense Mechanisms and Dissociation47:34 Courtroom Realities and Mental Health[ad break]01:00:49 Understanding Schizophrenia and Psychic Abilities01:06:35 Intergenerational Trauma and Healing01:10:02 Dark Parts of Self and Abuse01:18:21 PK Manifestations and Poltergeists01:24:14 Conclusion and Contact InformationEpisode links:Higher Awareness Therapy: https://higherawarenesstherapy.com/Visit us at: https://www.theactivitycontinues.com/Leave us a voicemail at: https://www.theactivitycontinues.com/voicemail/Why Does he Do That by Lundy Bancroft - https://amzn.to/3XjcWnYAmazon links could generate a small commission to us at no cost to you.  Credits:Hosted by: Amy Lotsberg, Megan Simmons, and Amy PiersakProduction, Artwork, and Editing: Amy Lotsberg at Collected Sounds Media, LLC.Guest: Brittney Baxter DameronTheme song. “Ghost Story” and segment music by Cannelle https://melissaoliveri.com Affiliates/SponsorsPlease see our Store page for all the links for all our affiliates. https://www.theactivitycontinues.com/store/ Thank you for listening, take care of yourselves. We'll see you next time!If you want to hear us EVERY week, become a Patron, join our Ghosty Fam and get bonus exclusive episodes! https://www.patreon.com/theactivitycontinuesSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/tac/exclusive-content

In this episode, Lundy Bancroft, a renowned expert on narcissism, abusive relationships, and the family court system, reveals how abusive men manipulate both their partners and the legal system to maintain control. With over 30 years of experience working with abusers and training professionals, Lundy exposes the subtle and overt tactics used by high-conflict individuals to gain power in custody disputes and other legal battles. He shares eye-opening insights from his books, Why Does He Do That? and The Batterer as Parent, highlighting the systemic failures in family courts that often work in favor of abusers, despite clear evidence of harm. Lundy explains why survivors of abuse find themselves in difficult, uphill battles when trying to protect their children and the emotional toll this takes. Lundy also provides practical advice for mothers navigating high-conflict divorces and custody disputes, outlining critical steps to level the playing field and protect children from further harm. He dives deep into the biases within the legal process that enable dangerous individuals to gain access to their children, even when their behavior is abusive. Through this conversation, Lundy offers a powerful look into how the family court system operates, how survivors can reclaim their power, and the ways in which we can push back against a broken system. This episode is an essential listen for anyone dealing with narcissism, abuse, and the complexities of high-conflict divorce and custody battles.   Connect with Lundy: Book - Not To People Like Us: https://www.amazon.com/People-Hidden-Abuse-Upscale-Marriages/dp/B0009K75UO Book - When Dad Hurts Mom: https://www.amazon.com/When-Dad-Hurts-Mom-Witnessing/dp/0425200310 Book - The Batterer as Parent: https://www.amazon.com/Batterer-Parent-Addressing-Domestic-Violence/dp/1412972051 Book - Should I Stay or Should I Go?: https://www.amazon.com/Should-Stay-Relationship-Can-Should-be/dp/042523889X Book - Daily Wisdom: https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Wisdom-Does-That-Encouragement/dp/0425265102#:~:text=Book%20details&text=Lundy%20Bancroft%20expands%20on%20his,what%20is%20happening%20to%20you. Book - The Joyous Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Joyous-Recovery-Approach-Emotional-Wellness/dp/0578464691 Book - In Custody: https://www.amazon.com/Custody-Carrie-Green-Novel/dp/B09BGLY3P8 Website: https://lundybancroft.com/ Listen to Lundy's BorderlinerNotes YT episode: https://youtu.be/ywsTdzkiPF0?si=TUOmWrBy1pH8u7n1   Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg A word from our sponsor: TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's early warning signs of an abuser and is the way you're being treated abuse. Plus he discusses the cycle of abuse, patterns of abuse, gaslighting, triangulation, jealousy, intimidation, control, sexual coercion, hypocrisy, blame shifting, devaluation, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - Physical Abuse, Sexual Coercion, & Sexual Assault is mentioned in this episode. *** To buy Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do That?' Click Here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chapter 1:Summary of Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men"Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft provides an in-depth exploration of the motivations and psychology behind abusive and controlling behavior in men. The book is aimed primarily at women who are involved with or have been affected by such men and seeks to help them understand the dynamics of abusive relationships.Bancroft, a counselor with years of experience working with abusive men, categorizes these men into various types based on their behaviors and mindsets. He emphasizes that abusive behavior is often rooted in a desire for power and control, rather than merely being a response to stress or anger. The book highlights common traits and tactics used by these men, such as manipulation, intimidation, and the use of guilt.The author also addresses the misconceptions surrounding abuse, particularly the idea that it is provoked or that there can be effective change in the abuser without willingness on their part to seek help. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing warning signs and understanding the cycle of abuse.In addition to analyzing the mindset of abusive men, Bancroft offers guidance to victims on how to navigate their situations safely, set boundaries, and prioritize their well-being. He encourages readers to seek support and emphasizes that they are not alone.Ultimately, "Why Does He Do That?" aims to empower women by providing clarity about abusive dynamics and fostering a sense of hope and agency in their lives.Chapter 2:The Theme of Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men"Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft is a seminal work that provides insight into the behavior of abusive men from the perspective of an experienced domestic violence counselor. Here are some key plot points, character development aspects, and thematic ideas in the book: Key Plot Points:1. Understanding Abuse: Bancroft lays the groundwork by explaining what constitutes abuse beyond physical violence, including emotional, psychological, and financial control.2. Profile of the Abuser: The author categorizes different types of abusive men based on their behavior patterns and motivations. He discusses the traits common to these individuals, such as entitlement and a need for power.3. The Cycle of Abuse: Bancroft details the cycle of abuse, including tension-building, the explosion (abusive incident), and the honeymoon phase, where abusers often show remorse and promise change.4. Common Excuses and Rationalizations: The book addresses the excuses abusers use to justify their actions, such as stress, substance abuse, or past trauma, while emphasizing that these do not excuse the behavior.5. Strategies for Control: It exposes specific strategies used by abusers to maintain control, including intimidation, isolation, manipulation of children, and financial abuse.6. Impact on Victims: Bancroft discusses the psychological and emotional impact of abuse on victims and their often complicated feelings of love and attachment to their abusers.7. Empowerment and Support: The latter part of the book provides guidance for victims seeking to understand their situation, as well as strategies for safely leaving an abusive relationship. Character Development:- The Abuser: While the book primarily focuses on male abusers as a group rather than individual characters, Bancroft delves into the mindset of these men, illustrating how their upbringing, societal influences, and personal choices shape their behavior.- The Victim: The book offers insights into the experiences of abuse victims, highlighting their courage, resilience, and the complexities of their feelings. Bancroft...

Have an episode suggestion? Text us!In this episode of Paige's Perspective, we dive into some of the most impactful books that have shaped my journey through life's toughest moments. Instead of focusing solely on addiction or codependency, I recommend books that emphasize personal growth, shifting perspectives, and stepping out of comfort zones. I walk you through key takeaways from works by Lundy Bancroft, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, David Goggins, and many others. These books are designed to push boundaries, encourage self-awareness, and challenge limiting beliefs. They remind us that life isn't about avoiding struggles but growing through them.Books Covered:Why Does He Do That? by Lundy BancroftThe Power of Now by Eckhart TolleChange Your Thoughts, Change Your Life by Dr. Wayne DyerCan't Hurt Me by David GogginsStop Doing That Sht* and Unfuk Yourself* by Gary John BishopThe Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* and Everything is Fcked* by Mark MansonGood Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurstEnough is Enough by David E. ClarkeThe Comfort Crisis by Michael EasterWe explore essential lessons, like recognizing toxic patterns, taking ownership of your life, and understanding that action is the antidote to fear. I share how these books have helped me overcome challenges, reframe my mindset, and find strength. Listen in to learn practical strategies and discover why embracing discomfort is the key to transformation.Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages!On the web:www.twfo.comOnline Course: www.independentlystrong.comUse code WHEELIES75 for 75% off the entire course!Follow us on TikTok:https://tiktok.com/@twfo_coupleFollow us on Instagram:https://instagram.com/twfo_couple/Follow us on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/TWFOCoupleFollow us on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@twfo_coupleFind Taylor Counseling Group:https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/Donate to Counseling for the Future Foundation:Donate Here

Send us a textDangerous relationships rarely begin physically abusive. Initially, you think you've met a fantastic partner, but slowly, the toxicity turns into something more insidious and lethal.Trigger warning: this week, Lisa Sonni and I share vulnerable details of how we missed the early signs of danger in our narcissistic relationships.IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.References: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft https://amzn.to/4e505fw Blind to Betrayal by Jennifer Freyd  https://amzn.to/4d3xwxWRo's TikTok warning video:   https://www.tiktok.com/@_rollercoasteroflove/video/7397857556867271942?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7413141517819479583Am I the a-hole for divorcing my husband TikTok video: https://www.tiktok.com/@comfortlevelpodcast/video/7404870008377150766?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7413141517819479583Is there an escalating pattern of abuse in your relationship? Learn the practical strategies to protect yourself in this week's podcast extra interview.  Become a subscriber today for immediate access to this helpful interview:  https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Support the show

Send us a Text Message.Have you noticed that too off family court becomes just another battle ground for the narcissist? Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss post-separation of abuse. Most of us passionately want to protect our children from our toxic ex only to experience more helplessness in the mediation and courtrooms. To learn how to tip the scales in your favor legally, join me for the Podcast Extra interview by becoming a paid subscriber. Learn the common mistake too many parents make, and what to do instead. Get immediate access here: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse?utm_source=edit-profile-pageResources Referenced:Emotionally Bulletproof Kidshttps://strongerthanbefore.ca/webinar-bulletproof-kidsWhen Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft: https://amzn.to/3Xbg8mjAngela - Family Court Corner: https://www.familycourtcorner.comFollow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Support the Show.

I talk about how to ACTUALLY get over a break up - even if you didn't ACTUALLY date. I also cover toxic break ups and the confusing and terrible time that follows. The book I recommended in this episode was Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft! It helped me sooo much. Becca's Instagram:   / becccamooore   Becca's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@becccamooore?... For the Girls TikTok:   / forthegirlspodcast   If you would like me to answer an advice question you have, email forthegirlswithbeccamoore@gmail.com Thank you guys for listening!! If you love me rate 5 stars on your streaming platform!!  

Healing is in the air! Ready to break free from narcissistic abuse? Discover these 5 essential books to help you heal, release the fear, and rebuild your life. Learn how to break free from toxic patterns, regain your self-esteem, and find inner peace.     Steph discusses the need to focus on healing from narcissistic abuse through recommended resources, emphasizing the importance of moving beyond seeking validation through shared traumatic experiences.   Book Recommendations:   It's Not You: Indentifying and Healing from Narcissistic People by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, PhD - https://amzn.to/4d7RJn9 Focuses on healing from narcissistic abuse rather than discussing the abuser, providing insights into recovery.   Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft - https://amzn.to/3SzJrfg Explores the mindset of abusive men, offering understanding and validation for those recovering from such relationships.   Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship by: Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD - https://amzn.to/3WRjMla Offers comprehensive guidance for those still in abusive relationships, covering practical aspects like finances and children.   Boundary Boss, Terri Cole: the Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free - https://amzn.to/4cgCKWt Provides concrete tips and scripts for setting and maintaining boundaries, especially with toxic individuals.   Writing to Heal: A Guided Journal for Recovering from Trauma and Emotional Upheaval by James Pennebaker, PhD - https://amzn.to/3WNaTst Encourages journaling as a therapeutic tool to process and release trauma, with proven psychological and physiological benefits. What's on the Horizon Shifting Focus to Healing and Thriving: Steph emphasizes the need to focus on healing and thriving rather than dwelling on the trauma and identity tied to narcissistic abuse. Seeking ways to find our voice and create meaning through interests that light us up and help give us something to build and look forward to each day, whether a blog, a product, a hobby to share publicly to gain confidence being seen and standing in your power.   Personal Experience and Self-Care: She shares her personal journey and the importance of self-care to get through the worst of times and deeper emotional work. Steph intends to develop resources like an eBook and mini-course to help others in similar situations. Watch for announcements about these and a curated newsletter focused on healing and thriving.   Engagement and Community Support: She encourages listeners to engage with her content, share their own recommendations, and leave feedback to foster a supportive community for healing from narcissistic abuse.   Thank you for listening! Sending lots of Love, light, and prayers to you!!   Love you! Steph xoxo *This may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!  

This 2-part interview with Traci Condra details her 15+ year marriage with her husband, Kyle, who struggled for years with worsening anger and rage. After years of prayer and counseling, Traci and their two daughters found themselves at a low point, wondering if this was just what life would be like. Then, the But God moment. National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

In this final episode of season 3, Maria MacMullin and Genesis CEO Jan Langbein take you on a reflective journey through the most impactful moments from the past three seasons of Genesis the Podcast. Special highlights include transformative insights from renowned expert Lundy Bancroft, whose work has been pivotal in reshaping how we view abuser accountability and support for survivors.This episode doesn't shy away from the tough issues. We explore the devastating impact of non-physical forms of abuse and the lethal risks posed by firearms in abusive relationships. Hear compelling stories from survivors like Stephanie Bond, who bravely shares her struggles and triumphs in seeking legal protection. Learn why recent Supreme Court decisions offer hope but also underscore the ongoing need for vigilant advocacy and legal reforms. We also delve deeper into the psychological barriers victims face and why love and abuse can tragically coexist, drawing on Rachel Louise Snyder's thoughtful perspectives.Finally, we celebrate the milestones and memorable guests that have shaped our journey since launching the podcast in September 2021. Reflect on the wisdom of advocates like Leslie Morgan Steiner who remind us that survivors are their own best experts. With a look towards the future, we discuss the importance of continued education, community support, and effective safety planning. This episode is a powerful call to action, urging all of us to support and stand with survivors in the fight against domestic violence. Don't miss this poignant and empowering conversation as we wrap up season three and lay the groundwork for what's to come.

In this episode I interview Annabelle Daniel OAM, Founding CEO of Women's Community Shelters, to delve into the critical issues of domestic violence and women's homelessness.Annabelle shares her extensive experience working with local communities in New South Wales to establish crisis shelters, transitional housing, and homes for older women experiencing homelessness. We discuss the complexities of domestic violence, the challenges faced by women navigating conflicting advice from various organizations, and the ongoing efforts to create more shelters and preventative programs.Annabelle has a world of knowledge and I got a lot out of this conversation and I hope many others will do too.Resources that Annabelle mentioned for practitioners and anyone that is listening are listed below:1. NSW Police Risk Assessment Toolhttps://sydneynorthhealthnetwork.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/09/Domestic-Violence-Safety-Assessme...2. A very good, evidence-based risk assessment tool. Victoria uses a similar one called MARAM.3. Why Men Choose to Use Abuse: An insightful article discussing the benefits perceived by abusive men.https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/4. One of the best books on this subject is Lundy Bancroft's ‘Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men'. Lundy worked in Men's Behaviour Change programs for decades and provides some absolutely fantastic insights into the nature of abusive men, and the genesis of behaviours. Here is the link for interested:.https://www.amazon.com.au/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656Please share this episode far and wide as we need to educate as many people as we can.

This 2-part interview with Traci Condra details her 15+ year marriage with her husband, Kyle, who struggled for years with worsening anger and rage. After years of prayer and counseling, Traci and their two daughters found themselves at a low point, wondering if this was just what life would be like. National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

When we seek validation about narcissistic abuse, we think it's helping us heal. But be warned: The Truth About Narcissistic Abuse Validation is not what we think. We're drawn to memes and videos that validate our experience, comfort us, and maybe even help us feel seen...and sane. But is this the best thing for us to heal and grow beyond the abusive programming? In this episode, I'm sharing some thoughts about how we use content to validate our feelings and what can happen as as result. Here's the video with Lundy Bancroft that I mentioned at the beginning of this episode. Narists vs Abusers: https://youtu.be/0iYfG8x80Yw?si=dkiHPw8BcE7Ae-3f - check the comments and add to the conversation. QUESTION Who are the people, and what are the channels, books, and podcasts you're following to focus on healing and breaking free from narcissistic programming? I'd love to know so I can utilize them and feature them for others--share in the comments. Thank you!! RESOURCES - Feeling hopeless? Dial the 988 Crisis line for compassionate support. - CNN article on the research: https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/12/health... - The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474 - The National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or online.rainn.org FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL   / stephaniroberts      / audaciouslife      / audaciousmamas      / audaciousmamas   THE AUDACIOUS LIFE PODCAST https://www.theaudaciouslife.com/ THE AUDACIOUS MAMAS SHOW https://www.audaciousmamas.com/ WANT TO BE A GUEST ON PODCASTS? Check out my free lesson to learn about the power of podcast guest appearances to build an audience, amplify your authority, and build your brand while growing your email list with warm leads. Thank you for listening! Lots of Love! xoxo!!

hey everyone! in this week's episode, i talk about male content creators, the early signs of ab*se in relationships and how to spot it, losing friends, enjoying time alone, the new book i'm reading, changing your routine based on your cycle, and more!! enjoy & dont forget to tweet/ig story me a screenshot of you listening! instagram http://instagram.com/stellaraepodcast listen to and/or support the podcast: https://anchor.fm/stella-rae tiktok: http://tiktok.com/@stellaraeherself twitter: http://twitter.com/stellarae goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/10449999-stella-rae my fav books/products/health: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stellarae join my patreon for ad-free episodes, early access, merch discounts, behind the scenes, & more! https://www.patreon.com/stellaraepod listen on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DMbeh7EqiqgROIjvW0sI9 listen on apple podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stella-rae-podcast/id1255618182 how i make my shorts using AI: https://klap.app/?via=stella Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft https://amzn.to/3XuPDIW Hidden Potential: The Science of Achieving Greater Things by Adam Grant https://amzn.to/3z4laqR #stellaraepodcast 00:00 - 12:59 male content creators, early signs of ab*se, & more 12:59 - 16:55 what to do when you lose friends 16:55 - 19:31 my first solo date leveled up 19:31 - 23:29 the science of achieving greater things 23:29 - 24:51 how I change my routine when im on my period & last thoughts --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/stella-rae/message

It is episode 100 and we are flipping the script and doing something completely different.  My good friend, Lundy Bancroft is interviewing ME, so that you can get a behind the scenes look at how I got started doing this work and why I am so passionate about helping you.We touch on the lack of training mental health professionals get specific to working with domestic violence and coercive control, some of the shifts in the field that I have seen and the shifts that need to happen, how I make decisions that are in the best interest of the survivors I serve and more.This was a fun episode and a way for you to get to know the woman behind the microphone.  I hope you enjoy it!Lundy's Bio: With over thirty years' experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families, Lundy Bancroft has authored seven books, including the world's best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That? and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.'s first counseling program for men who batter, and was involved in over 2000 cases as counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.Show Resources:Order Lundy's many booksAnd Then We Do Harm - E-Book by Sybil CumminWe're running a contest, come join! If you have ever wanted to ask me a direct question, I am doing a live ask me anything on Friday, May 31. To get the link to join, either write a review for the Rising Beyond Podcast on Apple Podcasts, or repost one of our 100th episode posts on Instagram (@risingbeyondpc) to your Instagram stories and send me a picture of whichever one you do, or both! Then send me a pic and fill out this form so we know who has entered into the contest. https://forms.gle/foEqGpEAHGnv6jyP8. For the contest, I'm going to choose 2 people who entered who will get a free month in the Rising Beyond Community and 1 additional winner will get a free 45 minute consult call with me. The contest ends at 11:59 MST on May 28, 2024. Please leave us a review! Reviews help the show get out to more people. Register Here for our June 5th Parenting Workshop - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/parenting Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest

In this episode we plunge into the web of lies men construct to shroud their patterns of abusive behavior with expert and author Lundy Bancroft. Exploring façades of helplessness as a guise for manipulation, the twisting of narratives that paint victims as aggressors, and the chilling ease with which abusive men deceive authorities and loved ones are all part of our unflinching look into domestic violence tactics as well as the lives of the women who endure it, often in silence and isolation.The conversation also addresses the systemic issues plaguing the fight against domestic abuse. We reveal the startling imbalance in how society responds to male and female victims of abuse, dissecting the gendered nuances of power dynamics that often tip the scales in favor of men. Bancroft offers insights into the damaging effects of sexual mistreatment within these dynamics, the disturbing incidence of post-separation violence, and the formidable hurdles women face in custody battles. This episode serves as a reminder that despite progress in women's rights, the struggle against ingrained misogyny and the societal structures that enable it is relentless.Ending on a note of empowerment, this episode calls upon the spirit of activism that birthed the battered women's movement and insists on its necessity today. We discuss the urgent need for activism that ignites change and challenges the status quo, alongside the critical support structures like Genesis Women's Shelter, which offers help and hope for victims of domestic violence. This episode is a rallying cry for every listener to take action, to raise their voice in protest and support, and ensure that the flames of progress continue to burn bright against the darkness of abuse and inequality.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. *** Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here SUPPORT US BY SUPPORTING OUR SPONSOR: To receive 35% off Cozy Earth bedding, loungewear, and everything site wide, use the code “NAP” at Cozyearth.com If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to get more of Lundy Bancroft? That's one of the most common questions I get. People often ask where Lundy Bancroft is and they want more access to his work. Lundy has a program called the Peak Living Network (PLN) that helps with emotional healing and recovery.  And as a gesture of support through this holiday season and into the New Year, I want to share some of the best places to find Lundy and possibly be trained by Lundy in his Peak Living Network for emotional healing.  I was in his PLN program and found it incredibly beneficial. If you join now you may be approved and able to start learning ways to connect with others in a safe way, virtually and in-person. Peak Living Network (PLN) - https://peaklivingnetwork.org - Based on Lundy's book "The Joyous Recovery." - Involves co-counseling sessions in groups or pairs to share and process emotions. - Not a substitute for therapy but can be a helpful adjunct. - An option if you can't afford therapy or are waiting to access it. - Requires some training first before joining the network. - International network with an online option. Other Ways to Connect with Lundy - https://lundybancroft.com has his books, articles, resources lists etc. - Active Facebook page with over 23k followers.   / lundybancroft   - Mentions upcoming events, podcast interviews etc. - HelpGuide.org has resources on abusive relationships. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ab...  - Consider joining Peak Living Network for more direct contact with Lundy. - Check his website and Facebook page for updates. - Provide suggestions for other content from Lundy eg podcast, YouTube channel. Check out my FREE video Lesson and get the pitch sheet. ➡︎ https://bit.ly/pod-lesson Check out The Audacious Mamas Podcast website and blog ➡︎ http://audaciousmamas.com Check out The Audacious Life Podcast website and blog ➡︎ http://theaudaciouslife.com  Learn more at http://audaciousmamas.com

What needs to happen for survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse to get a fair shake in family court?The overwhelming majority of people you ask will say family court reform or maybe that we need to burn it down to the ground and start again.And while those of us in this space see the egregious nature of how survivors are treated in family court, at this point there does not seem to be a clear path on how to have sustainable change of this larger, patriarchal system.So, what needs to happen for us to create a sustainable and powerful social movement to see actual change?On this episode I talk again with Lundy Bancroft as a follow up for our discussion in episode 60.  We touch on the shift of domestic violence agencies and professionals moving away from a support group and community support style of help to a more one-on-one approach to helping individual survivors as they go through family court.  And while some of the one-on-one strategy is extremely helpful, the isolation of survivors is causing challenges to the overall healing of women and children.  We discuss how a community support model could be extremely beneficial to support women who are in a position to start doing advocacy work.We also discuss moving away from only focusing on education of court professionals and more to the accountability of these family court professionals in following laws that are already created and the importance of creating more protocols for these cases to follow. We also touch on the importance of safety measures to ensure that survivors can speak out as well as their allies.https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/https://centerforjudicialexcellence.org/https://www.mothersontherise.org/https://peaklivingnetwork.org/If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/ And if you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community. Free Updated Canned ResponsesOur FREE Download a Roadmap to Communicating with your Narcissistic Ex Free Mini Guide to Decrease Your Child's Anxiety Around VisitsWhere to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest

The Woman Beings have been searching high and low for a man, any man, that could show their historical support and advocacy for women! This week, they sit down with TikTok's one and only @expatriarch (Brent) who has been doing incredible work to educate men and women alike on patriarchy, toxic masculinity, and misogyny with a facts-based and research-driven approach. In this episode, they discuss what toxic masculinity really means, why influencers like Andrew Tate are so popular, and what it takes to create equity in a patriarchal society. It's finally here! The episode the men have been waiting for. Follow Brent: https://www.tiktok.com/@expatriarch?_t=8gYGxQpLyXe&_r=1 Resources Mentioned: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft: https://bit.ly/40cP7ih Messy: God Likes It That Way by A.J. Swoboda: https://bit.ly/3ZYYMbY --- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womanbeingpodcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@womanbeingpodcast Website: https://www.womanbeingcommunity.com/

Tonight, my special guest is Monique Faison Ross, who's here to discuss how she narrowly escaped her obsessed ex-husband, who attempted to murder her in broad daylight.   This domestic abuse survivor's memoir shares an “engaging, powerful, and ultimately shocking story" of a bad marriage that ended in attempted murder (Lundy Bancroft, author of The Joyous Recovery). Monique Faison, the daughter of San Diego Charger's football great Earl Faison, married her high school sweetheart soon after she discovered she was pregnant with his child. Her relationship with Chris had always been shaky, but his verbal abuse only increased—and then gave way to physical attacks. Eventually, Monique took their children and left. That was when the stalking and serious threats began. Nothing stopped him—not protection injunctions, police warnings, or even arrests. One fateful Monday morning, Chris kidnapped Monique in front of her children. After a nightmarish car ride that involved car crashes and rape, Chris beat her on the head with a shovel and abandoned her brutalized body in the woods, presuming she was dead. But playing quiet was what saved her life.     It's super easy to access our archives!   Here's how:   iPhone Users: Access Mysterious Radio from Apple Podcasts and become a subscriber there, or if you want access to even more exclusive content, join us on Patreon.   Android Users: Enjoy over 800 exclusive member-only posts to include ad-free episodes, case files, and more when you join us on Patreon.    Please copy and Paste our link in a text message to all your family members and friends! We'll love you forever! (Check out Mysterious Radio!)

What does an expert with over 30 years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families think about our family court system?  I had the privilege to sit down with Lundy Bancroft to discuss the current state of our family court system and his thoughts on how it is continuing to harm mothers and their children.  We discuss the recent passing of Kayden's Law in Colorado and his thoughts on the impact of legislation.  His belief is that we should not be creating a movement solely to pass a law, but use the momentum from the passing of a law to create a movement.We take a look at how many advocacy groups passionate about supporting survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse are working within silos, which is preventing the movement from generating the traction needed for significant change.Lundy shares the approach for writing his first novel with the hopes that it will have a greater reach to helping family and friends of survivors dealing with post-separation abuse and the family court system.And in case you don't know who Lundy Bancroft is:Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years' of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored seven books, including the world's best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That?, and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.'s first counseling program for men who batter and was involved in over 2000 cases as a counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. His new book and first novel is In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery, in which domestic violence meets the family law system.References:Order Lundy's book In CustodyCenter for Judicial ExcellenceConnie Valentine of the California Protective Parents AssociationCome join us, and others like you, for a mini retreat in Golden, Colorado on Thursday, October 5, 2023. The Journey Back to You is an opportunity to begin practicing the skills that will help you get back to you post-separation. Rediscover who you are again. Wake up each morning knowing you can find more joy and meaning each day. Knowing you are showing up and modeling authenticity and integrity for your children each day. We can't wait to see you there.

Une bonne éducation des garçons commence à la maison Au cœur d'un festival féministe consacré à l'âgisme et à la transmission entre générations, un atelier s'organise pour partager des expériences autour de l'accompagnement des garçons dans un monde patriarcal. Y participent des mères, surtout, et quelques papas. Des personnes célibataires ou en couple hétérosexuel ou homosexuel. Des grands-mères et des taties, des femmes sans enfants, des habitantes de lieux collectifs, et beaucoup de personnes qui tentent de faire famille autrement.L'une constate que ses fils se bagarrent sans cesse alors qu'avant l'entrée à l'école, ils étaient doux comme des agneaux. L'autre tente de transmettre à son garçon le goût du travail domestique et l'empathie. Une troisième est éprouvée à la vue de son petit dernier, revenu de l'école en pleurs : il voulait porter une jupe, ses copains se sont moqués de lui. Des animatrices de colonies tentent de lutter contre les comportements violents des garçons, tout en s'interrogeant sur leur pouvoir en tant qu'adultes… Comment élever des garçons dans un monde sexiste ? Comment empêcher qu'ils ne deviennent des agresseurs ? Et si c'est le cas, que faire ? Est-ce que le patriarcat s'effondrera grâce à l'éducation ? Ce mot même est remis en cause par celles et ceux qui luttent aussi contre la domination adulte.  Avec :  - Les participantes à un groupe de parole lors du festival Kozh, organisé par le collectif Very Bad Mother. - Gabrielle Richard, sociologue - Vanina Mozziconacci, sociologue- Adrien Brossard, psychologue Lectures :  - « Sister Outsider », Audre Lorde, Éditions Mamamelis, 2018- « La nuit infinie des mères », Virginie Noar, Éditions Les Pérégrines, 2021- Introduction du livre d'Andrea Dworking « Women Hating, De la misogynie » Rudi Dutschke et Julien Beck Liens :  - « Qu'est-ce qu'une éducation féministe ? Égalité, Émancipation, Utopie », Vanina Mozziconacci, Éditions de la Sorbonne, 2022- « Faire Famille autrement », Gabrielle Richard, Binge Audio Éditions, 2022- « Hétéro, l'école ? », Gabrielle Richard, Les éditions du remue-ménage, 2019- « Et si on réinventait l'éducation des garçons ? », Christine Castelain Meunier, Éditions Nathan, 2020- « Quand les garçons rejoignent le club des garçons », Judy Y.Chu, First Éditions, 2022- « La volonté de changer - Les hommes, la masculinité et l'amour », Bell Hooks, Éditions Divergences, 2021- « À propos d'amour », Bell Hooks, Éditions Divergences, 2022- Le blog d'Adrien Brossard  - « Pourquoi fait-il cela ?  Dans l'esprit des hommes colériques et contrôlants », Lundy Bancroft, Editions Libre, 2023 Enregistrements : avril, mai 2023 - Prise de son, montage, textes et voix : Charlotte Bienaimé - Réalisation, musiques, mixage : Daphné Paysage - Lectures : Estelle Clément-Bealem - Accompagnement éditorial : Sarah Bénichou - Illustrations : Anna Wanda Gogusey - Production : ARTE Radio

Brandon discusses the triangulation tactics of Lundy Bancroft's 9 abuser types and the abusive parent/child triangulation types. Plus he discusses, shame, guilt, fear, gaslighting, manipulation, passive aggression, flying monkeys, victim playing, love bombing, hoovering, and much more. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com This episode is sponsored by BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get on your way to being your best self today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

Brandon talks about the 'top 10 reasons why an abusive partner doesn't want to change' from the book 'Why Does He Do That?' by Lundy Bancroft. Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor NEW MAJORITY VENTURES. To listen to their new podcast, Porch Talks, click here. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brandon talks about the 'top 10 reasons why an abusive partner doesn't want to change' from the book "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. Thank you to our sponsor NEW MAJORITY VENTURES. To listen to their new podcast, Porch Talks, click here. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

Today's episode, the final one of series 3,  is all about a topic which doesn't get spoken about enough: coercive control.  We've specifically chosen to release it today, Valentine's Day, because we know that underneath the public face of all too many "happy" relationships there's a darker story at play.Victoria Cilliers' chilling memoir I survived is the story of what many of us will remember from the press as "the parachute jump attempted murder".  It is the story of a physio, a mum, a wife whose husband charmed everyone, tried to kill her and her children and did it in such a way that she, a professional, capable, intelligent woman, had no real awareness of what was happening to her.SOME USEFUL RESOURCES IF SUPPORTING PATIENTS IN A SIMILAR CONTEXThttps://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/https://www.womensaid.org.uk/https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/https://dasd.org.uk domestic abuse support specifically for doctors run by Dr Kathryn Haymanhttps://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-helphttps://www.mankind.org.uk/https://galop.org.uk/Emma specifically recommends the book Why does he do that?  by Lundy Bancroft  https://lundybancroft.com/

Lundy Bancroft wrote the book on exposing abusive men and domestic violence. For over 20 years he has helped survivors and professionals in the field of domestic violence answer the question: why does he do that? In this episode, Lundy interprets the contents of his best-selling work, "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men", identifying common abusive personalities, behaviors, tactics, intentions, causes of abuse, and a whole lot more while offering no excuses for men who act from a position of entitlement toward women. Lundy also shares a passage from his new novel, "In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery", a fictional work that explores the corruption in the family court system. Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored seven books, including the world's best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.'s first counseling program for men who batter, and was involved in over 2,000 cases as counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. 

Lundy Bancroft wrote the book on exposing abusive men and domestic violence. For over 20 years he has helped survivors and professionals in the field of domestic violence answer the question: why does he do that? In this episode, Lundy interprets the contents of his best-selling work, "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men", identifying common abusive personalities, behaviors, tactics, intentions, causes of abuse, and a whole lot more while offering no excuses for men who act from a position of entitlement toward women. Lundy also shares a passage from his new novel, "In Custody: A Carrie Green Mystery", a fictional work that explores the corruption in the family court system. Lundy Bancroft has over thirty years of experience specializing in interventions for abusive men and their families. He has authored seven books, including the world's best-seller on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, and the prizewinning professional book The Batterer as Parent. Lundy is the former Training Director of Emerge, the U.S.'s first counseling program for men who batter, and was involved in over 2,000 cases as counselor and clinical supervisor. He has served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness. 

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's early warning signs of an abuser and is the way you're being treated abuse. Plus he discusses the cycle of abuse, patterns of abuse, gaslighting, triangulation, jealousy, intimidation, control, sexual coercion, hypocrisy, blame shifting, devaluation, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - Physical Abuse, Sexual Coercion, & Sexual Assault is mentioned in this episode. *** To buy Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do That?' Click Here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor NOBODY SHOULD BELIEVE ME PODCAST. I loved this podcast. And you can find the podcast website by clicking here or at Apple Podcasts by clicking here. You can reach the host Andrea Dunlop at her website by clicking here or you can reach her on Instagram by clicking here. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's early warning signs of an abuser and is the way you're being treated abuse. Plus he discusses the cycle of abuse, patterns of abuse, gaslighting, triangulation, jealousy, intimidation, control, sexual coercion, hypocrisy, blame shifting, devaluation, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - Physical Abuse, Sexual Coercion, & Sexual Assault is mentioned in this episode. *** To buy Lundy Bancroft's book "Why Does He Do That?' Click Here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor NOBODY SHOULD BELIEVE ME PODCAST. I loved this podcast. And you can find the podcast website by clicking here or at Apple Podcasts by clicking here. You can reach the host Andrea Dunlop at her website by clicking here or you can reach her on Instagram by clicking here. Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

Narcissistic abuse damages our sense of self because our sense of self is constantly in flux. An exchange of psychological influence occurs between us and those around us.This episode will look closely at this process and how abuse impacts it as well as outline some ways to begin healing self-esteem after abuse.Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar. Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphdSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com

Does abuse affect children the same way as the adult partner? Today, I'm joined by Bri Peterson of Abuse is Abuse. Both of us experienced emotional or narcissistic abuse as children and adults.In this episode, we will explore the differences between both types of abuse. Was the cognitive dissonance the same? How did that affect our sense of self?Watch the replay of the webinar with Dr. Sandra L. Brown "How Could I've Fallen for a Dangerous Man?"Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar. Follow Bri Peterson on her social media channels.Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphd Let me know how we can improve the podcast. Send me a DM.Also follow Bri on her Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and FacebookSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com

Anyone looking for a mental health clinician with expertise in narcissistic abuse knows this is challenging. What makes this so difficult?In this episode, we'll explain why finding a therapist is difficult and give tips on how to vet a potential one.Watch the replay of the webinar with Dr. Sandra L. Brown "How Could I've Fallen for a Dangerous Man?"Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar. Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphdSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com

Trauma bonds are painful connection with another person that is based on fear. There's an addictive quality making them very hard to break.In this episode, we will briefly define a trauma bond and then identify the initial steps to breaking one.Get early bird tickets to How Could He Do That? Live Interview with Lundy Bancroft. Watch the webinar live and have some of your questions answered. Ticketholders will also get a recording of the webinar. Follow me on Tiktok, Instagram, Youtube and Facebook! @kerrymcavoyphdSign up for the online course! First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist. Are you looking for community support after narcissistic abuse? Become a member of Dr. Kerry McAvoy's exclusive Facebook group, Toxic-Free Relationship Club! Want to read a true story of narcissistic abuse?LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double CrossAvailable here at the following online stores.And be sure to sign up for Dr. McAvoy's 50 free Surviving Narcissism tips & exercises!Consider donating the cost of a cup of coffee to support this podcast!More at resources.kerrymcavoyphd.com

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. *** Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. *** Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?' can be purchased by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETTERHELP. If you need online counseling from anywhere in the world, please do go to https://www.betterhelp.com/nap Get started today and enjoy 10% off your first month. If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA

A lot of people wonder if covert narcissists, or narcissists in general, feel remorse. The answer may shock you, which is yes, they actually do feel remorse. However, the experience it differently than other non-narcissistic people do. We explore the difference and how to deal in this episode. Resources mentioned: "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft

A lot of people wonder if covert narcissists, or narcissists in general, feel remorse. The answer may shock you, which is yes, they actually do feel remorse. However, the experience it differently than other non-narcissistic people do. We explore the difference and how to deal in this episode. Resources mentioned: "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft

I recorded this video in June and sat on it. It's one of many I recorded in response to my channel's Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial and comments. I recorded another response last week, but this original is more natural, so I decided to let it flow without editing. I've been asked questions, and here finally responding to some of what came up while I was posting, including suggestions to have Lundy Bancroft back as a guest.    As I've been saying, I feel strongly that dwelling in the darkness doesn't serve us, and we will all be better off finding ways to reach for and stay in the light.    Focusing on what's possible, finding more purpose, and creating ways to improve life are all far more helpful than arguing over celebrity breakups and media spin. That's what I aim to do!    I'm inviting you to tune in and do your best to play with me weekly as we try to stay in the light despite dark times and the swirl around us. My upcoming videos will be about everything from preparing for or thriving as a single mother to finding simple ways to increase your income and get your time back through side hustles, affiliate marketing, an online business, and more. Also, spiritual support, mindset shifts, tools for your online business, success stories, and experts can help with all of the above.    Turn dark times around! Grab the FREE Best Year game tracker sheet! https://www.audaciousmamas.com/bestyear    Want the lowdown on tools that give your biz an edge? https://www.audaciousmamas.com/moms-i...    Healing from Toxic relationships? Check out The Audacious Life Podcast  http://theaudaciouslife.com    Get the 11 Audio Affirmations to Help You Recover From Abuse  http://bit.ly/affirm11    -------------------------------- Let's connect on social media! Facebook ➡︎ http://bit.ly/AL-fans  Instagram ➡︎ http://bit.ly/AL-instagram  Twitter ➡︎ http://bit.ly/AL-twitter    *This post contains affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!  Thanks for listening!! xoxo  

I am incredibly honored to have Lundy Bancroft on the show with me to talk about what life is like after domestic abuse, post-separation abuse, and healing from trauma. Lundy Bancroft is the author of five books in the field, including the national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent, Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, Daily Wisdom and Should I Stay Or Should I Go? He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor, and has served as clinical supervisor on another thousand cases Show Highlights Acknowledging that you do have a right to be heard about the injustice that was done. But do it in a way that is not hurting you (8:20) What to do when you get in a custody dispute with your abuser, why you need an attorney who understands divorcing an abuser, as well as, what to know if you represent yourself (10:51) The myth that a man can abuse a child's mother and still be a great dad. It's impossible. The single best predictor of how a man will treat their children is how they treat their child's mother (28:34) How a woman can increase her chance of a favorable divorce outcome (34:05) Social change and what is really needed to reform the family court system (45:14) How the fathers' rights movement is an abusers' movement and what we can do in the face of it (50:37) Learn more about Lundy Bancroft: Lundy Bancroft is the author of five books in the field, including the national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent, Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, Daily Wisdom, and Should I Stay Or Should I Go? He has worked with over a thousand abusers directly as an intervention counselor and has served as a clinical supervisor on another thousand cases. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness in domestic violence and child abuse cases. Lundy appears across the United States as a presenter for judges and other court personnel, child protective workers, therapists, law enforcement officials, and other audiences. Resources & Links: Links and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/lundy-bancroft Last chance to Book a Sanity Saver Session in June!Lundy's website  Lundy's books Mothers on the Rise TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM   An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? JOIN THE SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO FACEBOOK GROUP

Despite what we may have been taught by the media and TV, there is no one way to be a victim. Following up on our examination of the public backlash that domestic violence survivors face, today we are discussing the vast intricacies of domestic abuse relationships and what it means to be a "true victim". From power imbalance and gaslighting to love bombing and psychological disorders, these situations are never as simple as they seem. Topics/Triggers: What domestic violence really looks like What people often get wrong about domestic violence relationships The concept of reactive abuse Control and power Lundy Bancroft's book Why Does He Do That? Psychological and emotional abuse What "love bombing" is and how it contributes to why people stay ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ If you took anything away from today's podcast, please share it with someone who may need to hear it. And if you really want to support the podcast please give us a rate/review. If you or anyone you know is suffering from trauma contact the National Sexual Assault hotline at 1-800-656-4673 or online for 24/7 support. (This podcast is not a replacement for psychotherapy or mental health care. You can obtain a referral for mental health care provider from your primary care physician, or search on Psychology Today's Find a Therapist directory) Find more Initiated Survivor content here and on Instagram!

From the normalization of unhealthy relationships to the blatant dismissal of racism in the United States, how is it possible to heal in a culture that is plagued by toxicity? These topics and many others are the center of discussion on today's episode. Join your host, Chelsea Cora, and special guest, Dr. Shareece Cannonier, as they highlight what it means to heal in a culture of toxicity. Shareece Cannonier, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist who is passionate about spirituality, psychology, and helping people heal from trauma and toxic relationships. Dr. Cannonier sees clients for psychotherapy and spiritual life coaching through her telehealth practice, Cannonier Psychological Center LLC. She also shares weekly videos about spirituality and life lessons on her Spirit Soul Sense YouTube channel. Dr. Cannonier is a native of St. Croix, USVI and a proud mother of a 14-year-old drummer and Muay Thai student. Dr. Cannonier and her son currently reside in Atlanta, GA.Get in touch with Shareece:Cannonier Psychological Center LLCWebsite: https://www.cannonierpsychologicalcenter.com Email: scannonier@cannonierpsychologicalcenter.comPhone: 678-383-7393Spirit Soul Sense LLCWebsite: https://www.spiritsoulsense.com YouTube: http://youtube.com/c/SpiritSoulSenseEmail: spiritsoulsense@gmail.comSpirit Soul Sense Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spiritsoulsense/Spirit Soul Sense YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SpiritSoulSenseResources mentioned: "The Power of Now" by Eckhart TolleGary Zukav"Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood"Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk "Year of Yes" by Shonda Rhimes April Mason Trevor Noah discussing racism in South Africa vs. in the U.S: https://youtu.be/XUuLDkDSJKgPocket Watching with JT: https://www.youtube.com/c/pocketwatchingwithjtrealaccountantreactsFollow The Soulful Self Podcast on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/thesoulfulselfpodcast/Follow Chelsea Cora on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/iamchelseacora/Watch the video version of this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oHJ-EJsHQqU

Brenda J and Karen W interview Lundy Bancroft on his latest novel, "In Custody". Lundy is an Author of many books including, "Why Does He Do That" and "When Dad Hurts Mom" and is also a workshop leader and consultant. They talk about the issues with the current court system and also discuss the topic of why the child sometimes sides with the abuser. lundybancroft.com

Brenda J and Karen W interview Lundy Bancroft on his latest novel, "In Custody". Lundy is an Author of many books including, "Why Does He Do That" and "When Dad Hurts Mom" and is also a workshop leader and consultant. They talk about the issues with the current court system and also discuss the topic of why the child sometimes sides with the abuser. lundybancroft.com

Sneak Peek into episodes 60 and 61 of "In Custody" with Lundy Bancroft.

Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change.This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This is not true for manipulative people.Yes, abusive men can absolutely change, but as Lundy Bancroft explains: true, lasting change is a deeply transformative process requiring “deep work” and committing to living amends for a lifetime.Few men choose to take this road. Staying in your relationship because he might be changing or has committed to change may not be the best option for you.This episode scratches the surface of what a toxic person would need to do to move from abusive to respecting you.Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:The Verbally Abusive Relationship: Can He ChangeWhy Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling MenIf you need support, you can find me at emotionalabusecoach.com

And we're back with part 2 of our discussion of Lundy Bancroft's "Why Does He Do That," a book on recognizing abusive patterns in relationships. We continue our discussion by diving into types of abuse, the characteristics of abusers, when the Queen of England is going to die, and the siblings brainstorm writing a Predator-style action film starring only abuser archetypes. This is best appreciated by listening to part one, but we do summarize the content of that at the top of the episode.  You can find a copy of "Why Does He Does That?" here. Our apologies to Jaleel Ahmad White for the use of his likeness. Joel enjoyed "Gone Girl," which is a pretty straightforward murder mystery by David Fincher. Even if you don't see the movie, the trailer (like most Fincher trailers) is great.  Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here. Support the show

We break our "Female - Only" Rule for the man who wrote THE bestselling book on abusive men, Lundy Bancroft, author of the oft-cited and highlighted "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men". Lundy provides insight on how cultural forces help create abusive men, why its concerning to call all abusers "narcissists",  and how the legal system is rigged against mothers, which inspired his new novel "In Custody" : https://www.amazon.com/Custody-Carrie-Green-Novel/dp/B09BGLY3P8   Thank you to our sponsors!! Lets Get Checked - Confidential  At-Home STD Testing https://www.letsgetchecked.com 30% Off Code : STRATEGY!    Simply Earth Essential Oils https://simplyearth.com/FDS FREE $20 GIFTCARD W/ BOX! using our link   Links to Lundy Bancroft's Book: "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-Do-That-audiobook/dp/B0058R8AP2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1254N0S500UM&keywords=why+does+he+do+that&qid=1641976095&sprefix=why+does+he+do+that%2Caps%2C154&sr=8-1   Follow us! Weekly Bonus Content/Merch/Discord on Patreon: https://ww.patreon.com/TheFemaleDatingStrategy Website:https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/home @femdatstrat Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_thefemaledatingstrategy/  @_thefemaledatingstrategy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/The-Female-Dating-Strategy-109118567480771  

Opening 2022 with a bang, we've got Naomi finally back in the studio to discuss "Why Does He Do That," a early 2000s book on relationship abuse by Lundy Bancroft (we don't think there's been a more recent edition published, but there really needs to be given all the post-MeToo developments in modern culture). We discuss general stats on abuse in America, abusive relationships in media, and debunk some stats people have about the general profile of abusers.  Shockingly, we keep this conversation mostly cheerful; might just be all the holiday cheer reserves we saved up in December. You can find a copy of "Why Does He Does That?" here. Our theme music is “Drop” by the artist Ketsa. If you like their music, you can find more of it here. Support the show

Should I stay or should I go? This is one of the hardest choices to make in a relationship be it a love relationship, a friendship, or even relationships with family. Staying or going might be an even harder decision for survivors of trauma, since we may have had less examples growing up of what a healthy relationship and healthy conflict looks and acts like. Today I'm going to discuss the book Should I Stay or Should I Go?  A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can- and Should- Be Saved and how it helped me decipher my way out of my eight-year marriage. I give some top signs that led me to my decision to leave, and I share some of the best advice from the book on how to tell if you're in a relationship that can handle growth, or if you're stuck in a dead-end cycle. Book to purchase: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved: Bancroft, Lundy, Patrissi, JAC: 8601234577928: Amazon.com: BooksAuthor websites: Lundy Bancroft: https://lundybancroft.com/   Jac Patrissi: https://growinganewheart.org/You can find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/or join the facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/925184671535182or call me and leave a voicemail at 1-951-502-0505. Let me know if I have permission to use your voicemail on an upcoming podcast.YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.

I appreciate your patience if you've followed my lead-up to interviewing Lundy Bancroft.    This interview is coming in the nick of time with the holiday season.   Maybe you've been drawn back to the sparkly seasonal web of Love Bombing.    Maybe you're feeling guilty and questioning whether this version of them is REAL. And you've temporarily forgotten most of the hurtful things they've done throughout your relationship.   Or you're out of the relationship and now managing thoughts and ruminating about interactions and trying to figure out what makes this person tick and WHY they do the things they do.   Lundy covers   Differences between the Narcissist and Abuser Why differentiating between them matters. His background and what led him to advocate for women What we as a society can do to create healthy male allies What male abuser programs look like and how successful ones keep in close contact with the woman who's been abused How men and women are conditioned to expect and accept domineering "sexy" qualities Personality disorders vs. abuse orientation Inability to empathize vs. choosing NOT to empathize Healing from trauma and how we can intentionally connect with others who are on the healing journey through Lundy's Peak Living Network (PLN) Note: this network is not specifically for abuse survivors and is meant for people outside of deep crisis who are able to give 50% and receive 50%. Focus on YOU 100% first, if you're in deep crisis. You should know Lundy said, "Both narcissists and abusers do a lot of collecting allies." Boy does that ring true! You may be feeling the destruction and erosion of your reputation or relationships due to their actions.    You may be regrouping and dealing with trauma from an ongoing invasion of your loved ones and friends network.    Please take extra good care of yourself and find at least one person who can validate and understand your experience. And if no one near you understands, focus on yourself and do what feels good to lift your spirit.   Move physically, pray or meditate, dance around to music, start a short gratitude journal each night and morning to focus on what's good and going right in your life. Look for the tiniest things that make your day. These simple acts can shift you and keep you out of a dark spiral. I'm speaking from experience. These work! :-) I hope this interview helps answer some questions about abusers and their behaviors. And I would love to know what stood out for you and if more questions surfaced.    Please send comments my way by Instagram direct messaging to @AudaciousLife Or reach out via the website contact or recorded audio. For audio, click the microphone graphic on the page.  Read Lundy's blog about Narcissists vs. Abusers Check out the Peak Living Network Read The Joyous Recovery Listen to my description of the Peak Living Network from my perspective learning co-counseling from Lundy Listen to the episode about Dealing with Toxic Families during the holiday season.   *This post may contain affiliate links, which means I may receive a small commission at no cost to you if you purchase through a link here. I would never recommend a product I don't use or love myself!   Wishing you a Happy and Peaceful Holiday! Sending lots of Love and Light your way!!   

  A quick update about the upcoming Lundy Bancroft interview and an ask to share your abuse quotes if you've left and you have examples of the abuse continuing in post-separation. Tina Swithin of One Mom's Battle has a movement to send these words of the abuse to the family courts to show the abuse that continues after parents are separated and how this post separation abuse impacts children. You can send your abuse quotes to postseparationabuse@gmail.com Follow Tina's movement for Children's rights on Instagram @CustodyPeace --> Angelina Jolie has joined this effort!! See One Mom's Battle website for more details about November's Family Court Awareness Month and the movement to shed light on Post-separation abuse. Thank you for advocating for our children and keeping yours safe! Coming up next on the Audacious Life! Lundy Bancroft on Narcissists vs. Abusers We're discussing his blog post and digging deep.  Check out his post before you listen to the show. https://lundybancroft.com/narcissists-vs-abusers/ Thanks for listening! Please subscribe, review, and share!

If you've been feeling disconnected, stuck, or paralyzed, sensing a deep yearning for something more, it may be a desire to find safe people to be with in real life. People who are accepting won't judge you for opening up and sharing what you're going through. There's a collective desire to be seen and heard and indeed find a point of connection with other human beings. Included in this episodev I share some of Lundy Bancroft's books that helped me find the type of more personal support I've been looking for. I think all or any of these are helpful for understanding, validating, and moving on from abuse. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That The Joyous Recovery Peak Living Network (Lundy Bancroft's Network for co-counseling) I hope you find these resources above helpful and they lead to more support or emotional peace for you. Lots of Love, Steph

HALLOWEEN PODCAST SPOOKTACULAR The Don & Seaniebee launch their new climate change initiative - The CowNappy™ - they talk Squidgame, domestic violence, homosexuality in the Catholic Church, and round the pod off on the rather grim subject of bullying. (But don't worry, there are still a few chuckles along the way). LINKS: Domestic Violence "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft(book recommended by The Don): https://tinyurl.com/y5n9vcjt childline.ie womensaid.ie Bullying spunout.ie belongto.org Mental health turn2me.ie Visit Child helpline International for resources in your local country. NB: While this notice is still here, The CowNappy™ concept, name and idea is available for purchase by #P&G (first option) or any other bovine climate change corporation for a cool 5 million dollars (half of which, your favourite podmongers will donate to their favourite climate-change-based charity or business idea). If you don't have the $5m, and still like the podcast, feel free to donate $5 at www.patreon.comseaniebee Release Date: October 28th 2021 Runtime: 76m Recorded: Dublin

I am back with another solo episode this week. October is domestic violence awareness month, so, I wanted to take this opportunity to talk about a specific type of domestic violence: emotional abuse. Yes, emotional abuse is a form of domestic violence.   Talking about emotional abuse is part of my healing, my personal journey, and my growth. So much of the work that we do in my Facebook group is around helping women identify emotional abuse and come to terms with the fact that that's what's happening to them. We have to talk about emotional abuse.   We have to talk about it because the more we talk about it, the more we realize we are not alone.   When women talk about abuse and relate to each other's stories, that's when we rise up and say, “Oh, hell no. No fucking more.” Show Highlights Owning your victimhood is very important. It is one of the most powerful things you can do. (2:43) You are never going to agree with your abuser about the narrative.  But you get to have your narrative and you get to own it. (8:39) Signs of emotional abuse seen during the traffic stop in the case of Gabby Petito and what the police could have done differently. (11:53) Gaslighting creates and distorts your perception of reality. (13:21) Emotional abuse can look very different from person to person and relationship to relationship. (20:44) Abuse has nothing to do with an abuser's feelings. It's about control and entitlement. (23:52) You are not crazy, trust your perceptions! (27:49) Resources & Links: For show notes and resources, also visit:  https://kateanthony.com/podcast/shedding-light-on-emotional-abuse/ Divorce Survival Program is here!  Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men, Lundy Bancroft

Michelle Goodloe is a Licensed Social Worker and Author. Coming from a high stress job, she found her expertise in self care and healing from burnout. We talk about implementing self care and different ways to create boundaries. *Trigger Warning* Domestic Violence Find Michelle on IG: @thegmichelle Website: gmichelle.com Michelle's Books Self Explore, Self Restore Self Care Investment Domestic Violence Resources Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds... book by Lundy Bancroft (thriftbooks.com) When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse: Bancroft, Lundy: 9780425200315: Amazon.com: Books Coercive Control During Covid 3 Ways To Help A Friend Dealing With DV --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Michelle Goodloe is a Licensed Social Worker and Author. Coming from a high stress job, she found her expertise in self care and healing from burnout. We talk about implementing self care and different ways to create boundaries. *Trigger Warning* Domestic Violence Find Michelle on IG: @thegmichelle Website: gmichelle.com Michelle's Books Self Explore, Self Restore Self Care Investment Domestic Violence Resources Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds... book by Lundy Bancroft (thriftbooks.com) When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse: Bancroft, Lundy: 9780425200315: Amazon.com: Books Coercive Control During Covid 3 Ways To Help A Friend Dealing With DV --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

On today's show we welcome Kim Day, LMHCA, CCPS therapist who specializes in relational abuse. For the next three weeks Kim and Amie discuss the different elements of abuse in relationships. We start the discussion today by discussing the importance of awareness. "I spent a lot of time studying addiction and I knew that was a component, but there was this nagging feeling like I was missing something. And it wasn't until I read Lundy Bancroft's book, Why Does He Do That? That I started to put it in this other and make sense of this other picture that I had never seen. It just hadn't really crossed my mind that there was abuse in the relationship." If you are experiencing abuse in your relationship please reach out to someone who is trained to help you navigate your path and healing. Please call 1800-799-SAFE for more information and help with abuse

Will he change? How will you know if the change is real? How do you protect your kids? Why is the legal system backtracking in this area? About Lundy:Lundy Bancroft is an author, workshop leader, and consultant on domestic abuse and child maltreatment. His work focuses on three areas:-Training professionals on best practices for intervening with male perpetrators of violence against women, toward the goal of promoting accountability and requiring change.-Training professionals on the dynamics of emotional injury and recovery in children who are exposed to a man who abuses their mother, to prepare participants to offer the most effective and safe assistance possible to children and their mothers.-Supporting healing and empowerment for abused women, with an emphasis on advocating for the human rights of mothers and their children.Lundy has authored several books including the national prize-winner The Batterer as Parent, Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, Daily Wisdom and Should I Stay Or Should I Go?, and The Joyous Recovery. To find out more about Lundy visit: https://lundybancroft.com/Sarah helps high-performing, ambitious and exceptional women who want to create AMAZING lives despite having been hurt by a toxic partner or parent.Private Facebook Group for women currently in a confusing relationship. Private Facebook Group for women out of their relationship and ready to find love and success.Sarah's BlogA Free gift from SarahClick HERE to check out what others are saying about Sarah.Click HERE if you are ready to work with Sarah.

Tonight, my special guest is Monique Faison Ross who's here to discuss how she narrowly escaped her obsessed ex-husband and his jealous rage. This domestic abuse survivor's memoir shares an “engaging, powerful, and ultimately shocking story" of a bad marriage that ended in attempted murder (Lundy Bancroft, author of The Joyous Recovery).   Monique Faison, the daughter of San Diego Charger's football great Earl Faison, married her high school sweetheart soon after she discovered she was pregnant with his child. Her relationship with Chris had always been shaky, but his verbal abuse only increased—and then gave way to physical attacks. Eventually, Monique took their children and left. That was when the stalking and serious threats began.   Nothing stopped him—not protection injunctions, police warnings, or even arrests. One fateful Monday morning, Chris kidnapped Monique in front of her children. After a nightmarish car ride that involved car crashes and rape, Chris beat her on the head with a shovel and abandoned her brutalized body in the woods, presuming she was dead. But playing dead was what saved her life. Follow us on Instagram @mysteriousradio Follow us on TikTok mysteriousradioTikTok Follow us on Twitter @mysteriousradio Follow us on Pinterest pinterest.com/mysteriousradio Like us on Facebook Facebook.com/mysteriousradio Visit our website: https://www.mysteriousradio.com and click the microphone icon to leave me a voicemail! Check Out Mysterious Radio! (copy the link to share with your friends and family via text) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger warning: in deze aflevering bespreken we heftige onderwerpen. Tip: Luister samen zodat je het na afloop kan nabespreken. Naar aanleiding van het artikel over de kunstenaar Juliaan Andeweg, dat recent verscheen in het NRC Handelsblad, maar ook gebeurtenissen in de anarchistische scene hebben Harriet en Sietske besloten om het deze aflevering te hebben over giftige mannelijkheid en verkrachtingscultuur. We gaan hierbij niet zo zeer in op de daders van seksueel geweld, maar de cultuur die seksueel geweld mogelijk maakt. Deze aflevering is een eerste aanzet om het met elkaar over dit onderwerp te hebben. Dus luisteraar de vragen die we stellen zijn ook aan jou gericht en de onderwerpen hebben ook betrekking op jou! We willen heel graag je input. Dus stuur je mail naar poetsdiemuur@riseup.net en we zullen jullie respons geanonimiseerd een volgende aflevering bespreken. Verder willen we deze aflevering ook onze solidariteit uiten naar alle mensen die seksueel misbruik hebben meegemaakt. Aanraders: Artikel over Juliaan Andeweg: https://www.nrc.nl/nieuws/2020/10/30/hoe-een-kunstenaar-carriere-maakt-onder-aanhoudende-beschuldigingen-van-aanranding-en-verkrachting-a4018047 Artikel over Hoogleraar B: https://www.nrc.nl/nieuws/2019/05/14/bij-hoogleraar-b-moesten-de-vrouwen-hakken-dragen-a3960238 Artikel over papierrestauratie docent: https://www.nrc.nl/nieuws/2020/11/02/uva-nam-klachten-over-grensoverschrijdend-gedrag-niet-serieus-a4018328 Artikel over spirituele leiders: https://bodhitv.nl/waarom-slachtoffers-van-misbruik-vaak-geen-aangifte-doen/ Artikel over Jamy van Temptation Island: https://hardhoofd.com/verleider-jaimy-lacht-om-verkrachting/ Boek: Waarom feminisme goed is voor mannen van Jens van Tricht Boeken: Down Girl, the logic of Misogyny en Entitled van Kate Manne Boek: Stop being reasonable van Eleonor Gordon Smith Boek: Why does he do that? van Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft shares how victims of abuse are betrayed by faith communities, court systems, and others. Women can triumph over trauma and regain their sense of self. BTR can help.

Children are always affected by an abuser's behavior, even if they never see it. Victims are not powerless. Lundy Bancroft explains how mothers can protect and help their children process and heal from abuse.

Jade and Dionne Lacey were bored rich kids who lived a thugish life. Jade thought he was gonna be a superstar rapper. They both carried guns, sold drugs around the Gold Coast and enjoyed a spot of biffo. One day their love of violence went too far and ended in a brutal murder.TCNT: Nicole tells us about the book is 'Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men' by Lundy Bancroft.Aussie As: A bloody legend saves his wife from a great white shark attack.For our sources, see our website www.bloodymurderpodcast.com.Become a Bloody Murder Patron (for as little as $1 per month, which you can cancel at anytime) and have access to dozens of Patron only episodes (including our whole first season and AD FREE episodes released early!) with new patron only content added every month!Go to https://www.patreon.com/bloodymurderLevels $5 and over go into our monthly merchandise draws and get Stickers and hand-made Barney Badges!See our website! bloodymurderpodcast.com for all our social media links, contact details, a gallery, fabulous merchandise.True Crime Nerd Time, a segment on Bloody Murder, needs your help because it stars you! We want you, our listeners, to submit your recommendations for anything true or fiction crime related! Email here! bloodymurderpodcast@gmail.com. Oh and if you give us your postal address we'll send you some stickers as a reward!Bloody Murder is supported by BetterHelpBetterHelp offers licensed professional counselors who are specialized in issues, such as depression, stress, anxiety, relationships, sleeping, trauma, anger, family conflicts, grief, self esteem and more. You can connect with a professional counselor in a safe and private online environment. Anything you share is confidential and it's so convenient. You can now get help at your own time and at your own pace. You can schedule secure video or phone sessions plus chat and text with your therapist. As a Bloody Murder listener you get 10% off your first month with the Discount code: BLOODYMURDERSo why not get started today? Go to betterhelp.com/bloodymurderSimply fill out a questionnaire to help them assess your needs and get matched with a counselor you’ll love. That’s: betterhelp.com/bloodymurder With the discount code: BLOODYMURDER See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, we'll hear from Latosha Vines and Leesa Misra who experienced domestic violence; but they made no excuses for moving forward successfully in life!   Latosha Vines shared her organization, Pink and Pearls, through which she empowers unyieldingly women who suffer from domestic violence; contact her via: pinkandpearlsempoweringwomen@gmail.com (also on Facebook).   Latosha shared the following organizations, for men and women, located in the Greater Raleigh/Durham NC area: Step Up Ministry: stepupministry.org Dress for Success: https://trianglenc.dressforsuccess.org InterAct: interactofwake.org   Leesa Misra shared her company Elluminent--a healthcare tech company, which builds products that create positive social impact; contact her via: lmisra@elluminent.com.   Leesa shared the following organizations for men and women: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233; or http://www.thehotline.org/what-is-live-chat/visit disclaimer page National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474; or http://www.loveisrespect.org/get-help/contact-us/chat-with-usvisit disclaimer pageor text “loveis” to 22522 National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673, choose #1 to talk to a counselor; or secure online private chat at: https://ohl.rainn.org/online/visit disclaimer page Leesa shared also the book entitled, Why Does He Do That? written by Lundy Bancroft.

Abuse dynamics are so painful and can fill us or those witnessing what is going on with fear, anger and confusion. This may be a challenging episode for some to hear and as always make sure you have adequate support for yourself if you feel you need it. This is a complex area which I feel requires even more general public awareness and education. The episode draws from a number of areas but I certainly wanted to mention Lundy Bancroft author of Why Does He Do That? and Should I Stay or Should I Go? in conjunction with Jac Patrissi, also Jess Hill author of See What You Made Me Do? Through greater clarity and awareness the more we can generate effective solutions for couples and families going forward.

Have you been told you're insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with “it's only a joke, you're too sensitive!“? Well then you'll want to listen to this.Shannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone.*Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist*We go over:// What is a narcissist? There's a spectrum, including the healthy kind.// What is gaslighting?// I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode.// You don't have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslighting.// Not all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists.// Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it?// How & why people become gaslighters.// How to deal with a gaslighting parent.// Complex PTSD.// Why we think it's our fault when we're being gaslighted.// The signs that you're being gaslighted.// The Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding Syndromes.// Why gaslighters thrive on targeting successful people.// Abuse amnesia and cognitive dissonance.// The importance of not throwing the label out ‘just because' someone doesn't cater to our every whim or just isn't a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren't malicious.// The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslighting.// Why some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationship.// What specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent).// It doesn't always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator.For current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies:// Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefits.// Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.// Somatic Experiencing Therapy.// EMDR.// Brainspotting.Shannon's recommended resources:// "Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People" & "Whole Again" Jackson MacKenzie.// “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft.// "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" Shannon Thomas, LCSW.// "The Empath's Survival Guide" Judith Orloff, M.D.// "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" George K. Simon, Ph.D.// "Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder).// "Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists" Sandra Brown, M.A.// "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse" Debbie Mirza.// "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" Pete Walker, M.A.// choosecourage.orgFind Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpcFind me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com

Controlling someone alone is hard. Sometimes, it helps to have allies.  If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence please call the National Domestic Violence Helpline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org/ Recommended Reading:  "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

In part 1 of Emotional Abuse, we break down what it is, how it happens, and why it can be so difficult to spot.  If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence please call the National Domestic Violence Helpline at 1-800-799-7233 or visit https://www.thehotline.org/ Recommended Reading:  "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft 

On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Jess Hill, an investigative journalist who has been researching and writing about domestic abuse since 2014.  Jess was listed in Foreign Policy's top 100 women to follow on Twitter and one of the 30 most influential people under 30 by Cosmopolitan magazine.  We speak with Jess today about her book, “See What You Made Me Do:  Power, Control and Domestic Abuse” and the issues it addresses with regard to how patriarchy constructs masculinity and its intersection with how society defines abuse, enables it, minimizes it, and misconstrues it.  In our conversation, Jess and I also delve into the ways her book and research offers examples of success and disruption that are worth exploring. During our conversation, Jess and I referenced the following resources and topics: The case of Luke Batty in 2014 that started Jess to report on domestic abuse Jess' approach as a journalist on how she investigated and told these stories Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That? Domestic abuse as "coercive control" and Evan Stark's book by the same name Diana Russell's Rape in Marriage Albert Biderman's "Chart of Coercion" Different types of perpetrators and common behaviors or behavioral drivers The impact of attachment theory in family court outcomes and, subsequently, abusers' use of disinformation tactics like Richard Gardner's "Parental Alienation Syndrome" theory to bias family courts against victims of abuse across the globe Ferraro and Johnson's list of six ways in which women rationalize their abuse to stay in their relationships Women's police stations in the global south, including Brazil, Argentina, India, that offer female police officers that help other women leave abusive relationships and pursue accountability through the courts The Northpoint, NC, "focused deterrence" or "transformative justice" approach to increasing abuser accountability --- Thanks for tuning in to the en(gender)ed podcast! Be sure to check out our en(gender)ed site and follow our blog on Medium. Consider donating because your support is what makes this work sustainable. Please also connect with us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to subscribe to the show!

Abusive behaviour and mindset in Intimate Relationships is highly complex and certainly not always well understood! The more insight and clarity we have the more effective our interventions can become. When it comes to romantic relationships, abuse dynamics stem from beliefs, attitudes and thinking patterns that are often underpinned with a sense of justification and entitlement: ‘If you don't submit to my power and control then I am entitled to utilise whatever tactics I deem necessary to make that happen.’ ‘No matter what is going on as an abuser, my needs getting met come first! You need to focus on me whenever I want you to focus on me. What you want and need are not as important as what I want and need!’ ‘I am entitled to forgiveness, I am entitled to control how you think and behave!’ Of course, the list goes on! There are a number of foundational elements that make up the abuser mindset and in this episode, we look at the element of entitlement. As I have mentioned before there are a number of exceptional resources in this area. I certainly recommend a look at the work of people like Lundy Bancroft, George Simon, Jerry Wise, Ann Jones and Susan Schechter and there are many more. All these experts bring elements and expertise to areas that help us all move into better relating.

Monique, the daughter of San Diego Charger’s football great Earl Faison, married her high school sweetheart soon after she discovered she was pregnant with his child. Her relationship with Chris was shaky from the start, but turned tumultuous as he became verbally and physically abusive. When she could no longer put up with the abuse, she left him with their children. That was when the stalking and genuine threats began. Nothing stopped him—not protection injunctions, police warnings, or even arrests. One fateful Monday morning, Chris kidnapped Monique in front of her children and drove off on a nightmarish car ride that involved car crashes and rape. He mercilessly beat her on the head with a shovel and abandoned her brutalized body in the woods in the rain. He left, presuming she was dead…but was she?"Monique Faison Ross shares with us her engaging, powerful, and ultimately shocking story of brutal intimate violence. Her survival, her strength, and her wisdom are an inspiration and a lesson to us all. This is a not-to-be-missed opportunity to hear what the targets of domestic violence are trying to tell us, told in a way that will keep you turning the pages."-- Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? and The Joyous Recovery"Playing Dead is a compelling book—a true page-turner. Smart, strong, and protective of her children, Monique was barraged with snide comments and criticism, yet had no idea that this was verbal abuse and never suspected its extreme escalation. Every chapter compels the reader forward to what's next."—Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Controlling People, and more. www.VerbalAbuse.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Monique, the daughter of San Diego Charger’s football great Earl Faison, married her high school sweetheart soon after she discovered she was pregnant with his child. Her relationship with Chris was shaky from the start, but turned tumultuous as he became verbally and physically abusive. When she could no longer put up with the abuse, she left him with their children. That was when the stalking and genuine threats began. Nothing stopped him—not protection injunctions, police warnings, or even arrests. One fateful Monday morning, Chris kidnapped Monique in front of her children and drove off on a nightmarish car ride that involved car crashes and rape. He mercilessly beat her on the head with a shovel and abandoned her brutalized body in the woods in the rain. He left, presuming she was dead…but was she?"Monique Faison Ross shares with us her engaging, powerful, and ultimately shocking story of brutal intimate violence. Her survival, her strength, and her wisdom are an inspiration and a lesson to us all. This is a not-to-be-missed opportunity to hear what the targets of domestic violence are trying to tell us, told in a way that will keep you turning the pages."-- Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? and The Joyous Recovery"Playing Dead is a compelling book—a true page-turner. Smart, strong, and protective of her children, Monique was barraged with snide comments and criticism, yet had no idea that this was verbal abuse and never suspected its extreme escalation. Every chapter compels the reader forward to what's next."—Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Controlling People, and more. www.VerbalAbuse.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Emotional healing doesn’t have to be an arduous and lonesome process. In fact, with the right support system, we can transform our relational wounds into reconciliation. On this episode, bestselling author, Lundy Bancroft, shares insights from over 25 years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and emotional recovery. Discussing the content from his latest book, The Joyous Recovery and his newly formed healing community, The Peak Living Network, you are guaranteed to see your own healing journey in a new light.  To learn more about the show and gain access to additional content (including the show notes), visit TheTruthParadigm.com.

Stephanie first told us about the detours that led her from math, art and political science to computer science. We then discussed her first jobs and her first mentor. We then touched on how she joined Oculus and Unity and their respective interview processes before switching gears and talking about entrepreneurship and her creating her own business. Stephanie was then very open about her technical burn out and explained how she feels it coming back.Stephanie Hurlburt is a graphics engineer and co-founder of Binomial, a software company based in Seattle that makes Basis, a popular image/texture compression product. Among other things, she previously worked on graphics engineering and engine programming at Oculus and Unity.Here are the links of the show:https://stephaniehurlburt.comhttps://twitter.com/sehurlburtGiving Back: The Role of Ethics in Open Source and Online Communities video with Scott Hanselman (@shanselman): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BNSwKNadx4Book recommendations (affiliate links):"Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend: https://amzn.to/2ZnWXcH"Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft: https://amzn.to/2Zsgfxx"The body keeps the score" by Bessel van der Kolk https://amzn.to/2LjFKHvCreditsMusic Aye by Yung Kartz is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivatives 4.0 License.Your hostSoftware Developer‘s Journey is hosted and produced by Timothée (Tim) Bourguignon, a crazy frenchman living in Germany who dedicated his life to helping others learn & grow. More about him at timbourguignon.fr.Want to be next?Do you know anyone who should be on the podcast? Do you want to be next? Drop me a line: info@devjourney.info or via Twitter @timothep.Gift the podcast a ratingPlease do me and your fellow listeners a favor by spreading the good word about this podcast. And please leave a rating (excellent of course) on the major podcasting platforms, this is the best way to increase the visibility of the podcast:Apple PodcastsStitcherGoogle PlayThanks!Support the show (http://bit.ly/2yBfySB)

Lundy Bancroft has specialized for thirty years in confronting domestic abusers and supporting their victims and children. He has authored six books, including the U.S.'s best-selling book on domestic violence, Why Does He Do That?, and the national prizewinner The Batterer as Parent. He trains professionals across the continent including advocates, therapists, social workers, judges, and police. Lundy also leads weekend healing retreats for women who have escaped abusive partners. His new book (his first one for a general audience) is The Joyous Recovery: A New Approach to Emotional Healing and Wellness.   Find Lundy: www.LundyBancroft.com www.PeakLivingNetwork.org www.facebook.com/LundyBancroft

In this Episode you will listen to Mr. Bancroft explain why he is an advocate for abused women. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/april-stephens/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/april-stephens/support

Heavy topics: Jack sucks for a million reasons and we're gonna talk about as many as we can Alcoholism and the mindset of the alcoholic Emotional and physical abuse Abusive men and patterns of abusive behavior What the fuck is in that playground tunnel The lighter side: Mean Girls and The Shining: two great tastes that taste VERY BAD together Wendy Torrance is a goddamned hero Stuart Ullman is GREAT at his job Jack is TERRIBLE at his job Horace Derwent is Howard Hughes, we dunno if you got that, it's kind of subtle Recommendations: Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson, House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski, Creating the Innocent Killer by John Kessel, and Alcoholics Anonymous. Follow us on Twitter: @Listen_Stephen Email us: listenstephenpod@gmail.com Support the show at: patreon.com/listenstephen Follow Margot on Twitter: @whattehfoxtrot Our intro song is by Lena Orsa

On this episode of The Tip of the Iceberg, Faryn and Livvy interview award winning, internationally renowned domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft. Tune in to hear Lundy chime in on issues that survivors are facing across the country.

Marriage should be the most trusted and intimate relationship of all, but for Ramona Probasco, marriage quickly turned into a prison of fear and danger. She suffered and persevered through two decades of physical, emotional and verbal abuse. And in spite of her ex-husband's evil intent, Dr. Ramona triumphed-not only escaping the abuser, but in the process becoming personally whole and professionally equipped to help thousands of other women overcome domestic abuse. Show Notes and Resources Healing Well and Living Free From an Abusive Relationship by Dr. Ramona Probasco. https://shop.familylife.com/p-5418-healing-well-and-living-free-from-an-abusive-relationship.aspx Dr. Ramona's Website: DrRamona.com "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000Q9J0RO Dr. Ramona's interview on FamilyLife Today® https://www.familylife.com/podcast/series/living-free-from-abusive-relationships/

Content warning for abuse, given events that happened in the roleplaying community this week. The regular episode begins at: 3m51s. In this episode, Luke, James, Dev, Michael and Jimbles talk over the idea of reusing your characters - The same characters in multiple games? Same characters in different settings? Tune in to hear aaaallll our thoughts. The Gauntlet's statement, which we echo: https://www.gauntlet-rpg.com/blog/the-gauntlets-statement-on-zak-s List of harrassment and Abuse resources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/19dcz9emdzzylSlI8qMoqzgpnM6QAvORQ91Sy5lPETO0/edit Excerpt from Lundy Bancroft's book Why Does He Do That?: https://www.facebook.com/notes/rebecca-cummings/abuser-profiles-from-why-does-he-do-that-by-lundy-bancroft/480862655302912/ RAINN: https://www.rainn.org/ Apple Podcasts: https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/professor-jimbles-dicebag/id1080181132?mt=2 SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/professorjimblesdicebag/discussion-episode-reusing-your-characters Jimbles on Twitter: twitter.com/Prof_Jimbles James on Twitter: @Wyrmwoods Dev on Twitter: @DeksDM Luke on Twitter: @WildWoodsGames FeelingsFirst on Twitter: @FeelingsFirst_ Facebook: www.facebook.com/ProfessorJimblesDiceBag/ Professor Jimbles' Dice Bag is a hobbyist podcast - We create episodes for fun! Please rate and subscribe on iTunes in your favourite app, and tweet your favourite parts to @Prof_Jimbles on Twitter. If you think anyone would enjoy listening to us, send them a link! If you think we're idiots, tell us so with a 5-star review in iTunes, I promise I'll read them and be sad. Finally, you can always contact Jimbles and the crew on the facebook page: www.facebook.com/ProfessorJimblesDiceBag/ or at ProfessorJimblesDiceBag@gmail.com

When a spouse is being abused, one of the challenges they may have to face is that other people around them may not believe that they are being abused. When this happens, there are even fewer resources available to empower the person experiencing the abuse. Let’s look at how this happens and then what to do about it. We wanted to bring this topic forward today because social support is a vital support for helping women recover from all forms of abuse[i]. However, when a woman is in a genuinely abusive situation and her support network do not understand the severity of the problem, then she feels even more isolated and stuck in the abusive relationship[ii]. Often the abuser is pretty slick and he has maybe convinced others — even her own family — that’s she’s having mental health issues or is just not stable or not rational. So you can imagine how profoundly trapped a woman might feel in this kind of situation. It really shakes her core sense of reality and truth. We hope that with this episode you’ll have some real clarity and also a bit of plan for how to navigate your way through this. What Is Emotional Abuse? We have covered the definition of abuse before, but a quick review of the main factors of emotional abuse is in order[iii]: Threats: these can be overt threats to harm you, your children or your family in any way. It includes threats to withhold basic needs: food, healthcare, financial support, safety, etc. Control: control or placing restrictions on your life. This could include things like depriving you of sleep, denying you access to friends, support, money, food or transportation. Destabilization: ongoing intimidation, insults, degradation or trying to convince you that you are inferior and undeserving of better treatment. One-off instances of these behaviors are not necessarily a sign of emotional abuse. A study from 2013[iv] states that for these actions to cross over from bad marital behavior to abusive behavior then it must reoccur repeatedly, without the abuser showing any sign of responsibility for or awareness of the issue. Common Mistakes Others Make Even counselors may not always see the abuse for what it is. A study from 2010[v] gives a helpful list of reasons why therapists may miss identifying abuse, and these are reasons that other people in your support network may be prone to as well: Failing to recognize that emotional abuse is an act of violence just as physical abuse is. Not having an understanding of patriarchy, power and gender can lead to blindness toward abuse. Holding you in any way responsible for your husband’s pervasive pattern of abuse In the context of helping someone see the abuse you’re experiencing, you may need to educate them on one or more of these issues. Referring them to articles such as ours on abuse, or giving them good books such as “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans or “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft may help them begin to see the issue. On the other hand, if you come from a family where all of the men operate in a patriarchal mindset it may be impossible to involve them as resources in your support network. Instead, you may choose to turn to others who already are better prepared to understand the abuse and confront it alongside you. Why Do Others Not See the Abuse? They Only See the Good Abuse normally occurs in a simple cycle. You have a period of abuse followed by reconciliation and then a honeymoon period where the abuser is especially kind and loving. Since the actual abuse is normally only done in private, other people only see the honeymoon phase where the abuser appears to be a perfect, even doting, spouse[vi]. Mind Games and Justification Abusive husbands are often very good at belittling their spouses, damaging their self-esteem and convincing them that the abuse is their own fault. Abused women can often be so disoriented by suffering abuse from the person they love that they end up rationalizing or...

On this episode of en(gender)ed, our guest is Lisa Fischel-Wolovick, an attorney who has represented battered women for almost thirty years. She is also the author of numerous publications including her recent book: Traumatic Divorce and Separation:  The Impact of Domestic Violence and Substance Abuse in Custody and Divorce, just recently published by Oxford Univ. Press, this past March.  Lisa also helped to organize the first Criminal Court that specialized in domestic violence. Before becoming an attorney, Lisa obtained her Master's in Social Work and worked in hospital social work which included advocacy and counseling for battered women. Lisa also currently teaching courses in Family Violence and Child Maltreatment at the City University of New York, in John Jay's Graduate Program in Forensic Psychology. Lisa speaks with us about her new book and how divorce impacts families differently, especially for those experiencing high-risk factors of domestic violence, mental illness, and/or substance abuse and the risks and harms that they face in the process.  We will also explore the recommendations and conclusions she has to improve our family and criminal court systems and practices and policy reforms she believes is necessary to see real, significant, positive change. In our conversation, Lisa and I touch upon the following topics: The difference between domestic violence and high-conflict cases vs. "traumatic divorce and separation" The impact of traumatic divorce and separation on survivors and children Judith Herman's book, Trauma and Recovery How survivors and children from the US Border migrant children crisis and from the US family court crisis are at similar health risks from the trauma of separation Lundy Bancroft's book, The Batterer as Parent Evan Stark's interest and research into how batterers are using coercive control on children The problems with Kelly and Johnson's Typology of Domestic Violence which fail to take into account the history and pattern of coercive control The research of Kathleen Kendall-Tackett on how Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) from trauma and domestic violence puts children at greater risk of adult illness Gender bias in family courts and the task forces that attempted to study it. Legal Momentum has a guide for establishing them. Family court gender bias studies from the Voices of Women Organizing Project and from the Wellesley's Center for Women and its report The work of Dr. Kathleen Faller and of Viola Vaughn-Eden on how child welfare workers and other professionals should assess child sexual abuse Ross Cheit and his book, The Witch Hunt Narrative:  Politics, Psychology and the Sexual Abuse of Children Daniel Saunders' study published for the National Institute of Justice/DOJ, entitled, "Child Custody Evaluators' Beliefs About Domestic Abuse Allegations:  Their Relationship to Evaluator Demographics, Background, Domestic Violence Knowledge and Custody-Visitation Recommendations" --- Thanks for tuning in to the en(gender)ed podcast! Be sure to check out our en(gender)ed site and follow our blog on Medium. Consider donating because your support is what makes this work sustainable. Please also connect with us on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Don't forget to subscribe to the show!

Today, we have a special guest on What I wish people knew! Lily Camp is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Domestic Violence Professional with years of experience providing counseling and advocacy services for survivors of domestic violence and their families. She has advocated for many domestic violence survivors in family court cases related to custody, visitation, parentage, and child support. Today she is here to talk about some of her experiences and educate others on the topic. Resources: www.acceptingtherapy.com Family wizard app: https://www.2houses.com/en/?q=%2Fen%2F&campaign_id=GOO-US-EN-competitors&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIn-6Xw6313AIVGYTICh0Ovw1aEAAYASAAEgLzYfD_BwE Talking parent :https://www.talkingparents.com/home Lundy Bancroft: http://lundybancroft.com/child-custody-justice/what-can-i-do/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/whatiwishpeopleknew/support

In this episode Kim interviews colleague and fellow therapist Julie Clockston who provides detailed insight into what emotional abuse is and how to recognize it.  They talk about specific signs to be aware of that one might not otherwise consider to be emotional abuse.  You might be surprised at some of the behaviors that are considered emotionally abusive.  The discussion goes deep as they talk about the differences between psychological abuse and emotional abuse, and explain in detail terms like "love bombing", "flying monkeys" and "gas lighting", which are all behaviors that are red flags signaling emotional abuse in a relationship. Take some time to listen, learn and share this episode with others. SOMEONE NEEDS TO HEAR THIS!!! And it's information, you won't want to miss! How to contact today's guest, Julie Clockston: http://juliejmsw.wixsite.com/counseling https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/julie-clockston-denver-co/320555   Additional Resources discussed on show: Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995 Healing from Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomas, LCSW https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Hidden-Abuse-Recovery-Psychological/dp/0997829087/ref=pd_sim_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0997829087&pd_rd_r=675c358b-86bc-11e8-a9f0-db3dc51fc8a8&pd_rd_w=96eY2&pd_rd_wg=T6WbG&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_p=7967298517161621930&pf_rd_r=KFR7A9F4N4KD96SZKBCK&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&psc=1&refRID=KFR7A9F4N4KD96SZKBCK Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1531500515&sr=1-1&keywords=why+does+he+do+that   Relationship Recipes Resources: Relationship Recipes Book by Kim Knight FB Group: Relationship Recipes Lounge FB Page: Relationship Recipes   Need therapy??   Therapy for Black Girls Therapy for Black Men Psychology Today Directory Remember to share the podcast with family and friends, and don't forget to leave a review in iTunes! Let us know what topics you want to hear us discuss.  Leave suggestions in the FB Group Relationship Recipes Lounge!   Contact Kim at:  relationshiprecipespodcast@gmail.com  

This week’s episode takes on a difficult, but far too common issue: abusive relationships. My guest this week talks about what it means to end a toxic and unsafe relationship, and we delve into some of the common, and not-so-common misconceptions about emotional and physical abuse. We also get into how to experience life again on your own term, living your #bestlife, and what it means to reclaim your own safety.   Some of the resources Kathy mentions:   Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft   One Love Foundation resources Healthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-healthy-relationship/ Unhealthy relationship: https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-unhealthy-relationship/   https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/letter-walking-away-abusive-relationship/   Men’s Health article for men dating a woman who was abused https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19519621/her-ex-was-abusive/   Hotlines and resources across Canada http://endingviolencecanada.org/getting-help/   Terry Crews talk with The White Ribbon Foundation about masculinity and abuse: https://youtu.be/VbypBbQp8kI https://youtu.be/k_BBYL15_qY https://youtu.be/7aYKA_lEsb4   ___________________________ Kathy’s pic for the playlist:Since I Left You- The Avalanches   Listen to the playlist here Find the show on: iTunes Google Play Spotify   Feedback? Have a story to share? Want to be on the show? Email recalculatingcast@gmail.com   Special thanks to @Racoon_Bandit_ and @noisecomplaints.band for our theme music!

Mickie Zada is a change-agent, a content creator and an advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse.  Her passion is to inspire and empower survivors in their transition to safe, healthy lives.   Mickie speaks openly and honestly about living in domestic abuse for 34 years (she says she stayed waaay tooo long at the dance!), the reality of her mind-set during that time (most of the time she was married, she didn't recognize that she was an abused spouse) and her belief that we create our reality.  She says that there are as many excuses for remaining in abuse as there are women who stay.  She chose to believe it was her Calling to help her ex-husband stay between the lines.  Now she recognizes that she was not responsible for his life, the only person she could change was herself.  She always had the option to leave; she chose to stay. Finances, false security, personal insecurities, potential loneliness, responsibility for children, fear for safety... these are all reasons to stay.  Once we leave, we see that none of those excuses were valid.  As victims we bond with our excuses, we accept them as real.  They are not. Mickie is a strong believer in Dr. Wayne Dyer's statement, "When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change."  She teaches that the only way to change the cycle of abuse is through personal growth.   Abuse victims become survivors when we accept the reality of our past experiences and use those lessons to continue growing and sharing with others. Changing the way we look at our past creates the opportunity to change our lives.  And, to inspire others. Where to find Mickie: Website Facebook LinkedIn iTunes Additional Resources Mentioned in the episode: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason MS and Randi Kreger Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

Season 1, Episode 13: Ellie Nelson Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund are honored to have as our guest, Ellie Nelson. Ellie has been married for ten years and is a mother of two children. Her family also has two dogs, two cats, and a lizard. She has her BFA in printmaking and painting and her BSN (psych certified). She was born in Cedar Rapids, IA and she has lived in Kansas City, MO and currently lives in Denver, CO. Important notes from Ellie: in the casual style of the interview, I left out a lot of teaching. I worry about that. I want to ensure that those that require help get the assistance they need. Obviously, I can't cover every topic but these are the most important things I'd like to get across; 1) If you or someone you know is experiencing a mental health concern, PLEASE reach out for help. It's available. In the event of a crisis, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). In addition, the National Alliance on Mental Illness has excellent information available and can be accessed at nami.org. Please take mental health seriously; ask questions, validate feelings and, most importantly, take action. 2) If you are experiencing domestic violence, please know you are not alone. You are not stupid or incapable or unworthy of being treated with respect. When you are ready to get out, there are people that can and will help you. It is not easy and it may get worse before it gets better. But, this doesn't have to be a secret. Absolutely no one has a right to hurt you, let alone someone that claims to love you. A good starting point is thehotline.org or call 1−800−799−7233 (please be careful). In addition, for me personally, the book Why Does He Do That; Inside the Mind of Angry and Aggressive Men by Lundy Bancroft was particularly helpful and eye-opening. 3) Please take care of yourselves and love on those around you. Sometimes simply asking a question can be life-saving. Be bold. Don't hesitate. It can be scary. But, realistically, even if you have an inaccurate perception, the person you ask will hear your love and concern. The Curiosity Hour Podcast is hosted and produced by Dan Sterenchuk and Tommy Estlund. Please join our Facebook Group, The Curiosity Hour Podcast, to continue the discussion about this episode online: www.facebook.com/groups/thecuriosityhourpodcast/ If you have any guest suggestions, comments, or feedback, please email us at guestsuggestions@thecuriosityhourpodcast.com. Disclaimers: The views and opinions expressed by the guests on this podcast are solely those of the guest(s). These views and opinions do not necessarily represent those of The Curiosity Hour Podcast. This podcast may contain explicit language. Notes: The brief music at the beginning and end of the podcast is the track, "Trail" on the album "Trail EP" by Nobara Hayakawa. We are using under creative commons license. The artist/publisher does not endorse or approve any of the content of this podcast. freemusicarchive.org/music/Nobara_Hayakawa/

About the Author: Lundy Bancroft has spent the last twenty-five years of his career specializing in the tactics of abusive men and their impact on women and children. He is author of four books in the field, including Why Does He Do That?,  the nation's largest-selling book on domestic abuse, When Dad Hurts Mom, and co-author of Should I Stay or Should I Go?.  He has also written over a dozen articles in professional publications. The former Co-Director of Emerge, the nation's first program for abusive men, he is now a national trainer and public speaker for nonprofit, governmental, and judicial agencies on dealing with domestic abuse situations. Lundy leads weekend healing retreats for women who have escaped destructive relationships. Most recent book on Amazon: Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?: Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men http://amzn.to/1HBtcT0 See all his books and resources at: http://www.lundybancroft.com/ Q. What are some red flags women and girls should be aware of when dating? Q. How can women minimize the psychological grip that their abusers have on them even after leaving? One thing that we have noticed in the abuse support groups I'm involved in is that these men use the same tactics and some of the phrases are identical. Many have joked that it's as if they've gone to a training somewhere. Q. What are your thoughts on this (use of the same tactics)? Q. What can mothers do to mitigate the impact of an abusive father on his children.

Lundy Bancroft is the former co-leader of Emerge, the first batterers treatment program in the United States, and the author of Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. Lundy debunks common myths about male abusers, explaining that violence happens in a larger context of needing control as a form ...read more » The post The Psychology of Abusive Men with Lundy Bancroft appeared first on Safe Space Radio.