In the Rough with Steena Marie and Foye

E9: Being an a**hole isn’t about being a horrible person, it’s about maintaining your own personal power, having boundaries, and keeping a sense of humor. TRIGGER WARNING: This convo derailed into some very frank talk about rape and responsibility. We do not talk about specific stories, however, we do candidly share our thoughts about the power play behind rape culture. This is not a conclusive conversation about rape and is not intended to be such.

Foye joins me on this episode that you can find on Systematize Your Thoughts, my solo podcast, to chat about triggers, what it feels like to get triggered, and real time reflections on how I process my emotions with him. We also cover: - Why I hate video games and how it’s not really about the video games :P - Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn behaviors - Visceral triggers and body responses

E7: Join is for a ride off the rails as we chat about having sleepy sex and tangent off into another territory entirely...

E6: Today were talking sexy morning rituals, emotional safety, security, and cummitment issues (THIS EP IS VERY NSFW OR SFKIDS)

E5: Phew this one’s intense! We cover a lot of relationship dynamics and inner workings of our sexual and energetic play in today’s episode. DISCLAIMER/PLEASE BE AWARE: What we share in this episode is not prescriptive advice, this is a challenging topic to unpack publicly as it is nuanced and this convo is RAW. We are open to your questions and curiosity, please hold the criticisms. You can find us @steenamarieandfoye on Instagram. All impact play, rough housing, and communication we share about in this episode is consensual and is not to be misconstrued in any other manner. Thank you!

E4: Today were chatting about the purpose of dating: is it to explore or find a long-term partner? Neither is good/bad or right/wrong...so how do you decide intentionally and keep your eyes wide open about what you’re getting yourself into? Let’s talk about it.

E3: Past sexual and relationship experiences vividly color our present connections. On this episode, we’re talking about real-time thought work during sex and having epiphanies that seem like “duh” moments! It takes a mix of persistence and presence to truly receive pleasure, adoration, and harmonic love...so let’s dive into how to make that happen in your life!

E2: Ever heard the verse “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger?” This week we’re taking a (very) non-religious look at the concept as we look at how we fight, how we work through conflict, and why we’re obsessed with relationship efficiency.

E1: Every one of us has our own sexual “coming of age” stories...and today we’re imagining a world where every person understands the impact of their sexual choices: both the memories they make for themselves and other people through sex. Oh, and we also cover the “The F&$@ Me Diet,” virginity, and sexual shame.

In this raw episode we cover: how fierce independence can sabotage connection and trust when partners have different processing styles handling feeling interrupted  some thoughts and reflections on listening to our own conversations on the podcast We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye ---- Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books  

Menstruation doesn’t have to be a war zone. We’re sharing some tips and tricks to taking advantage of your cycle (or your partner’s cycle) for increased intimacy and flow in your relationship.  In this episode we cover: how to tell when she’s turned on comfort with menstrual blood chocolate as a secret menstrual weapon obscure ideas on mating rituals We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye ---- Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books  

Dominance isn’t just about aggression, overpowering others, and asserting control. When dominance is in the context of a respectful relationship dynamic, so much more is possible. We’re still working out what this means in our relationship and how we can both play with the polarities of dominance and submission/surrender. In this episode we cover: why defining dominance matters communicating desires the language of relationships If you haven’t caught our two-part series about submission and surrender, we’d love to have you listen back to episodes 4 & 5.  We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books

Sexual shame runs deep, and today we’re having a raw conversation about some of our own insecurities and how we’ve handled them in relationships to liberate ourselves. In this honest episode we cover: terms of genital endearment expressing and healing deep insecurities receiving pleasure a little theory about oral fixation, breasts, and breastfeeding We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books

Hometown wanderlust never felt so good.  This episode is a shoutout to all of the businesses, events, and entertainment we’ve enjoyed this winter in Kalamazoo. We’ll be covering: our favorite fine dining in town arts & culture in Kalamazoo out of the ordinary adventures  what we’ll be doing again We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books

Dominance, marriage, monogamy, trust, and open relationships. Why not cover it all on our Valentines Day episode? Join us to hear: how Steena perpetually seems to ruin Valentine’s day and why Foye doesn’t even try in the first place the potential relationship bomb that our first valentines day was why assumptions always sabotage communication the power of agreements and clear relationship definitions We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books

In this audacious episode we cover: 3 relationship ending factors everyone should consider what’s the purpose of being in a relationship understanding what you bring to the table how much sex did it take to get you here? filtering prospective partners  We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved and what you want more of.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books

In this saucy episode we cover: why you never get what you want when you TELL your partner what you want how to communicate your desires in a way that will ‘sell’ your partner on them why fantasy and storytelling are key to communicating what you want We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye ---- Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/steenamarieandfoye/ Grab Steena’s FREE Systematize Your Thoughts flow chart here: www.systematizeyourthoughts.com  Check out Steena’s books including Trigger Proof Your Life: Know When to Leave here: www.steenamarie.com/books  

In this unapologetic episode we cover mood setting is a 24/7 project the no back rub morning... how to set up optimal conditions to create intimacy some simple reasons your partner may say no to touch and affection ways to give her ‘no reason to say no’  We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye

In this deep dive episode we cover: why I think surrender can be a more intimate option than submission why surrender can’t be faked, but submission always can be what you really gain in a relationship by surrendering  what it takes for a woman to feel safe to surrender  We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye

In this blast into our past episode we cover: why submitting a man into leadership doesn’t work how Steena started her education on what it meant to be a woman how religion and conservative values shape gender roles things Steena secretly liked about traditional gender roles and why We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye

In this adult sex ed-esque episode we cover: dating and relationship standards for STD testing and exchanging results  why we’d bring up STD testing very early in communicating with a potential date what to consider if someone tells you “I’m clean” or hasn’t had a partner in 1-3 years.  We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.    Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye P.S. We are not medical doctors and are not giving medical advice of any sort, please talk to your physician about your personal medical health decisions. 

In this sappy and sassy episode we cover: how we guarantee 100% birthday celebration success in our relationship  why we don’t split the bill how Foye interviewed Steena before his big 40 trip We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye

In this inappropriate and ironically intellectual episode we cover: improper verbs  texting while triggered  redefining relationship success in modern culture systematizing thoughts and emotions Foye’s dire need for WD-40 on his v-chair We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  If we made you laugh, think, or feel today, leave us a review in iTunes and let us know what you loved, what you want more of and the longest you’ve kept a house plant alive.  Thanks for hanging out with us! Steena Marie and Foye

We’re kind of like grandma’s goulash. Some people love us, some people love us. Unlike grandma’s goulash, though...we’re anything but wholesome. Join Steena Marie and Foye as they solve the world’s problems one podcast at a time as they wander through the worlds of relationships, communication, business, parenting, lifestyle, and more.  Self-proclaimed as more handy than handsome, Foye is an entertainer, creative, and engineer of ideas who can usually be found at work 50 feet down in a wastewater plant contemplating everything from the philosophy of life to the logistics of parenting. He is a single dad to two teens, a hobby farmer and 4H leader, as well as an enthusiastic critic of fine dining on the highly acclaimed Google reviews.  Once a small town valedictorian, beauty queen, and good-girl, Steena Marie now finds herself writing a rather unconventional life story of entrepreneurship, motherhood, and dynamic relationships. Her communication coaching and copywriting clients describe her as, “Viagra for the soul” while also thanking her through tears for connecting them to their voice like never before. She likes to think of herself as the sassy best friend who makes you wish you had a bleep-out button in the middle of the coffee shop. She knows she’s to blame for her two kiddos’ whip-smart intellect and long list of homegrown vegetable jokes.