Let's Be Friends with Tori Segner

Enneagram 9s are known as the peacemakers - their top priority is maintaining peace within themselves and in their world. While they typically avoid conflict at all costs, that does not mean they don't have opinions and feelings! My friends Nicole and Sarah both join me for this really fun episode where we dive into what it looks like to be a 9 - the challenges of sometimes being pushed around, the advantages of being able to value many different points of view, and how these characteristics shape who they are in relationships. Definitely give this one a listen!

Enneagram 8s: the dominant, self-reliant challengers of the enneagram. They know what they want, who they are, and like to have control over their own destinies. However, they do struggle with fear of being taken advantage of, or being controlled, by others. While this type may be known as more aggressive, they have such a genuine desire to fight for the things and people they believe in - and that is so beautiful. My good friend Trish joins me to talk all about what it's like being a dynamic, passionate type 8 and how it impacts her relationships - you will love this one!

Enneagram 7s: the fun-loving, upbeat enthusiasts. They are known as the life of the party or the ones who maintain positivity at all times, but beneath the surface there is so much more. While it's so true that 7s desire to feel joy and have fun, they also work hard to avoid feelings of pain. They are versatile, independent deep thinkers. Learn all about what it's like inside the busy mind of a 7 from my super fun friends Kearsten and Rae! I promise you'll love them as much as I do!

Enneagram sixes are known as the security-oriented type - thinking through worst case scenarios and preparing for them in order to protect themselves. However, 6s are much more than the anxious stereotype they have been given - they are loyal, highly relational, and even tend to be rebellious. This episode is pretty special because both Heather and I are 6's, so we interview each other! We talk all about what it's like inside the perpetually threat-forecasting brain of a 6 and how our personality type affects our relationships. This one is fun - give it a listen!

Enneagram 5s are known as the deeply cerebral, investigative type. They desire to understand the world in detail and to be a knowledgable resource for both themselves and the people they love. My friend Katie Polley sits down with me and describes what it's like being a 5 - what's important to her, how she makes decisions, and how she navigates relationships. If you're seeking to understand the brain of a 5, or if you're a 5 and want to feel understood - give this one a listen!

Enneagram 4s are often thought of as the emotional, artistic, black sheep of the enneagram. While they have a strong desire to feel significant and to know their truest selves, they are so much more than their emotional stereotypes. My friend Abbey Ratcliff shares what it's like inside the head of a 4 - the how she views relationships, how her 4-ness has impacted her career as an artist, and so much more. If you're like me and have been wanting to uncover the mystery that is the type 4, you know and love a 4, or if you're a 4 desiring to grow in relationships - definitely check this one out!

Heather and I share our in depth stories about leaving our jobs that were just not the right fits for us (listen to my very first episode for the backstories!). We talk about how we made our decisions to quit, what went into those decisions, and finish with some Q&A from my instagram followers! Oh and for the first six minutes we blab about Virgin River - so if you're not into that, I suggest skipping ahead :)

Enneagram 3s are known for being highly personable, success-driven, natural leaders. These self-confident individuals desire to be valuable above all else, but they are so much more than workaholics. I interview my friend Anna Hathaway, and she shares all about what it's like being a 3 - how it impacts her relationships, work-life balance, and so much more. If you're a 3 and are hoping to strengthen your friendships, or you know a 3 and want to love them better, this episode is for you! Listen now - lots of laughs and fun stories to be heard!

Enneagram 2s are known as the helpers - they are selfless, warm, and sacrificial people. Beneath the surface, though, they feel a strong desire to be needed and loved. I chat with my friend Kelly Kelly about what it's like being an enneagram 2 in relationships: the joys, the struggles, and everything in between. If you're an enneagram 2 or know an enneagram 2, you'll love this episode! Listen now to learn all about what's going on in the hearts and minds of 2s and how to love them well!

Enneagram 1s are so much more than perfectionists with strong convictions. They are a force to be reckoned with, principled people you want in your corner, and deeply passionate individuals who wish to do everything with integrity. I interview my college roommate, Michaela Stovall, about what it's like being an enneagram 1 and how it impacts her relationships - and we relive quite a few old memories in the process. If you're a type 1 or are friends with a 1, you will love Michaela's insight and advice. She's just the best!

My friend Tamara lets me ask her all the questions about new motherhood: how her life changed once she had kids, how she adapted, and how her community changed as a result. She reflects on some very challenging and lonely memories in new motherhood, her journey with anxiety, and how she found strong community to help her through it all. As a woman who is expecting my first baby this year, I couldn't get enough of her advice and insight! Do yourself a favor and listen - this episode has lots of funny stories, raw moments, and everything in between!

My friend Taylor Smalley and I talk all about grief: what it's like to go through it yourself and what it's like to support a friend during their season of grief. Taylor shares her own grief story and how she involved her community, prioritized important relationships, and allowed others to support her during this incredibly painful time. Finally she provides practical advice both for those who are grieving and wish to lean on their community and for those who wish to care for a grieving friend. This is a heavier topic, and I am so thankful for Taylor's raw vulnerability. You don't want to miss this!

This week my friend Jami joins me as we both chat about our experiences navigating community while working weird hours. We have both worked tiring and unconventional shifts as nurses, which definitely impacted our abilities to foster strong community. We talk all about the challenges of working odd hours, how to prioritize community when your schedule is different from your friends' schedules, and how to thrive in your community without overextending yourself. As always, we end with practical advice for all of you who work strange hours but desire to invest in your community. Enjoy!

One of my very best friends, Kelly Kelly (yes, that's her real name!), joins me to discuss the value of long distance friendships and how to invest in them. Our friendship has been long distance for over three years, and she has many more long distance friendships of her own. Kelly has also been an ICU nurse throughout the pandemic and has learned many lessons regarding the importance of community and support, even if not always in person. Lastly, we share practical advice on how to nurture your long distance friendships and keep them thriving!

Two of my most fun friends, Kearsten and Taylor, share what it's like navigating community as single adults. Together we break down both the advantages and unique challenges of singleness and how it impacts your ability to form strong community. They also share their raw, honest opinions regarding what they wish married couples knew and believed about single adults - you don't want to miss these hot takes! Finally, they provide practical advice for both people who are discontent in singleness and for singles wishing to grow into deeper community in adulthood. If you're single and wishing for better community, this episode is for you!

My husband and I sit down with our good friends, Sarah and Elliott Nelson, and we chat all about community in marriage: How your community and priorities change once you get married, how to establish a diverse set of relationships that encourage your marriage, and how to balance it all. We speak from personal experience and share some fun stories regarding these topics, and we provide practical advice on how to build a healthy, thriving community as a married couple.

My friend of 14 years, Nicole Kessler, and I chat about prioritizing community when you have many other time-demanding responsibilities. Nicole shares her story of almost moving to a new city due to her lack of community, finding community where she was at, and making time for it despite her very busy lifestyle. We talk about honoring each part of your life and the capacities you have as an individual, establishing realistic expectations, and learning as you go. Finally, Nicole provides practical advice that will help you grow in your community, even if you struggle to find enough time.

I interview my friend Ashley Robin, who was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis three years ago. She shares her story of being diagnosed, adjusting to her new physical limitations, and how her community was impacted as a result. She discusses the importance of boundaries and communication with friends, and provides great advice on how to strengthen your community even while battling a physically limiting chronic illness.

My friend Heather Myers and I discuss jobs that we hated and the significant role that community played during those seasons. Heather shares her story of working in two different jobs: the first without an established community in a new city and the second with strong community to support her. I also share my story of feeling miserable in a job and how I leaned on my community to pull me through. We share how our relationships were grown and strengthened during these times, and we provide practical advice on how to prioritize your community in the midst of hating your day job.

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