Slut or Nut: The Podcast

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with survivor, writer and activist Mandi Gray about her big takeaways after the trial of her rapist concluded. Mandi Gray is also the star of the documentary film- Slut or Nut: The Diary of a Rape Trial. This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. More episodes and the full show notes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast You can also arrange a screening of the film for your community and access our discussion guide via our website www.SlutorNut.ca and by emailing us. Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with sexual assault and personal injury lawyer Simona Jellinek about what it is like to sue in a civil suit if you have been sexually assaulted or sexually abused. While victims of sexual assault often thing of going to the police to report a sexual assault, suing the person who abused or assaulted you, or suing the institution that hid or perpetuated your assault, or protected the perpetrator of the assault is also an option, and sometimes is an option that has better long term results for the survivor of the assault. Simona discusses what it is like to go through the civil suit process, things to consider, the statute of limitations in civil cases, the impacts of childhood sexual abuse, historical assault cases, liabilities, damages, and the pros and cons of suing individuals and institutions who had a role in your sexual assault. As the law around these sexual assault and sexual abuse in civil cases is constantly changing and varies significantly in different locations, we advise you to consult with a personal injury lawyer in your own area if you are considering pursuing a civil suit related to your sexual assault or related to past sexual abuse you may have experienced. For more information on Simona Jellinek’s law firm and work: http://www.jellineklaw.com/ For background on the Maple Leaf Gardens Sexual Abuse Scandal mentioned in this episode: https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/stuckless-victims-tell-of-lifelong-suffering-due-to-maple-leaf-gardens-abuse-1.2838019 Further reading for survivors in the United States: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/career/a13127101/how-sexual-harassment-settlements-really-work/ This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Full show notes and more episodes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with counselor and activist Deb Singh about how to support victims of sexual assault and why the government should be doing more to aid survivors of assault. Deb Singh is a counselor and advocate at the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre / Multicultural Women Against Rape. She also discusses how drastically underfunded sexual assault centres are in Canada, and what MAG money is and how this funding can be used to support survivors of sexual assault. You can find the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape (TRCC/MCWAR) at https://trccmwar.ca/ To reach the TRCC Crisis Hotline, call: 416-597-8808 or email: crisis@trccmwar.ca For more links and videos related to this episode go to episode-10-featuring-deb-singh-from-the-toronto-rape-crisis-center-and-multicultural-women-against This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. More episodes and the full show notes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with survivor and activist Roslyn Talusan about sexual assault in the workplace and actions victim’s can take if they are assaulted at work. Roslyn is also featured in the documentary film- Slut or Nut: The Diary of a Rape Trial. Roslyn Talusan shares her experience of fighting for justice and fair treatment after she was raped by a coworker while working for the federal government of Canada. You can find Roslyn on twitter at @rozzybox And read her writing here: https://rozzybox.contently.com/ Other links: Trauma and Recovery by Dr. Judith Herman https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Recovery-Aftermath-Violence-Political/dp/0465061710/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1547047041&sr=8-2&keywords=judith+herman+trauma+and+recovery Cost of Rape https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3NhWdyR7BKs What one Rape Cost Our Family https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/24/opinion/what-one-rape-cost-our-family.html Rapenomics Demonstration https://nowtoronto.com/news/the-rapenomics-of-sexual-assault/ Rapenomocs with Mandi Gray https://www.flare.com/news/mandi-gray-interview/ Rape, Who Actually Pays https://www.robsoncrim.com/single-post/2017/03/14/Rape-Who-Actually-Pays This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. More episodes and the full show notes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with retired Ontario Judge, writer and teacher Marvin Zuker about his verdict and sentencing in the rape trial of R. vs Ururyar, the case featured in Slut or Nut the Diary of a Rape Trial. Zuker is also in the documentary film. Kelly asks him “Should judges be feminists?” The answer isn’t so simple. One can’t help but think that part of the process is broken. The beautiful verdict that Zuker wrote was overturned in the appeal court. The man accused of raping Mandi Gray never did community service, and he never served his 18-month sentence. He never had restrictions about being around females and drinking alcohol. Instead, he got a one-year protection order - stipulating that he would not go near Mandi Gray- also known in Canada as a Peace Bond. She could have gotten the same thing just from a stalking charge, or a harassment or trespassing charge. Not only did he not serve his sentence, but the maximum time the peace bond could be legally applied, was only for 1 year. Now that year is up. Now Mandi faces see him around the corner, in the hallways, and at the food court of her workplace, as he has also returned to work there. So I ask you, if the system is broken, which it appears it is, what now for victims of sexual assault? What now for the average person wanting to help prevent sexual assault? Changing the legal system sounds impossibly hard, but what is the alternative? Protests? Doxing? Public Shaming? Just what is the point of spending hours reporting to the police, going through a trial, having your personal details laid public, and possibly missing hours of work - just to have the person who assaulted you return to work with you a year later after the peace bond expires. And why can’t we have peace bonds that last forever? Until the other person dies? Why would you need to go through the bureaucratic headache of renewing a protective order every year? I just don’t get it…. Link to the full verdict discussed: http://www.documentcloud.org/documents/2998128-318957546-Full-Text-Justice-Marvin-Zuker-S.html This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Full show notes and more episodes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie If you would like to support the defense fund for the women in the trial, including Mandi, featured on this podcast today- Slut or Nut will be donating the proceeds from any merchandise or DVD sales till December 31 to support the legal costs for these survivors. You can place those orders directly on our website at www.slutornut.ca. And you can find out more about the defense fund or donate to it directly by visiting www.gofundme.com/galloway-suit-defense-fund and on www.facebook.com/slutornutthemovie

For this episode, we chat with Defense Lawyer and online violence expert Angela Chaisson about online sexual violence, whisper networks, and what happens when your rapist sues you for defamation. Full show notes and links available at www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Full show notes and more episodes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with Jane Doe and Mandi Gray about why judicial reform isn’t working for sexual assault survivors, why we need survivor pensions, and what not to say to your victim support worker. Mandi and Jane Doe are also featured in the documentary film- Slut or Nut: The Diary of a Rape Trial. Jane Doe cannot use her real name due to a publication ban on her name as a result of testimony in the trial of the man who sexually assaulted her and with survivor, researcher and writer Mandi Gray. You may recognize the voices of both women as they are both featured in the documentary Slut or Nut the Diary of a Rape Trial. Since the recording of this episode- Mandi Gray has been sued for speaking in support of another survivor of sexual. Sued for supporting another survivor? Sued for tweeting? Sued for supporting a friend? What? Yes. So in Vancouver writer and former University of British Columbia professor Stephen Galloway has sued twenty different women, mostly students he has never met, including Mandi for tweeting and talking about him in their pursuit of supporting their friend who alleged that Mr. Galloway sexually assaulted her while she was his student. He is suing the women for defamation of his character for their tweets and public comments surrounding the case. This lawsuit is going to trial and the women being sued, mostly students, survivors of sexual assault and activists are now facing legal costs and must hire lawyers to represent them in British Columbia, where most of them do not even live. So next time someone wonders why a woman doesn’t report. Well, you get the picture. Because if your rapist isn’t found guilty- which only 6 out of every 1,000 are... Then homeboy can just turn around and sue you. True Story. If you would like to support the defense fund for the women in the trial, including Mandi, featured on this podcast today- Slut or Nut will be donating the proceeds from any merchandise or DVD sales till December 31 to support the legal costs for these survivors. You can place those orders directly on our website at www.slutornut.ca. And you can find out more about the defense fund or donate to it directly by visiting www.gofundme.com/galloway-suit-defense-fund and on www.facebook.com/slutornutthemovie Link to Jane Doe’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Story-Jane-Doe-Book-about/dp/0679312757 This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Full show notes and more episodes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

Welcome to Slut or Nut: The Podcast. Episode 05: Featuring Nneka Macgregor, the Director of WomenattheCentre. On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with Nneka about building a community of survivors of assault to inform public policy, about the downside of reporting to the police, and about lifetime memberships to the angry women's club. Nneka is also featured in the documentary film- Slut or Nut: The Diary of a Rape Trial. This episode features music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. To be a guest on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Full show notes and more episodes are available on www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

Welcome to Slut or Nut: The Podcast. Check out our 4th episode hosted by Kelly, the director of Slut or Nut. We talk to Coral, Anais, Cherlene, Kayla, and Mandi about how Canadian women are feeling in response to sexual assault front and centre in US politics. Featuring music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. For full shownotes and episodes visit www.SlutorNut.ca/Podcast To be featured on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

Welcome to Slut or Nut: The Podcast. Check out Episode 3: Special Edition Kavanaugh Part 2 - Prep School Predators On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with Jes and a few other women on sexism and sexual assault in conservative, preparatory high schools, and what it is like to experience the Senate hearing to nominate Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court while living in a small southern town. For full show notes to our episodes, please visit www.SlutorNut.ca/podcast Featuring music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. Produced by Kelly Showker and Mandi Gray. This is a special edition and the 2nd part in a series of chats on the impact of sexual assault on current events. To be featured on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

Welcome to Slut or Nut: The Podcast. Check out Episode 2: Special Edition Kavanaugh Part 1 Sophie Rose On this episode of Slut or Nut: The Podcast, Kelly chats with Sophie about the aftermath of the Senate hearing to nominate Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court from the perspective of a sexual assault survivor. For links to the articles mentioned in this episode, please visit www.SlutorNut.ca/podcast Featuring music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. Produced by Kelly Showker and Mandi Gray. This is a special edition and the first part in a series of chats on the impact of sexual assault on current events. To be featured on future episodes of Slut or Nut: the Podcast, please email us. Email us: slutornutthemovie@gmail.com Tweet us: @slutornutmovie Tweet Kelly: @kellyshowker Tweet Mandi: @gotmysassypants Follow us on Instagram: @slutornutthemovie

Therapist and social worker Farzana Doctor talks about recovery after trauma, how to support sexual assault survivors, and counselling from a feminist perspective. Music by Lora Bidner and Jennifer Holub. Full show notes available at: www.slutornut.ca/podcast

Slut or Nut: The Podcast Episode one, Kelly talks to Mandi Gray about the best and worst parts of making a movie about a rape trial- and about why cops are not helpful. Featuring tracks by Lora Bidner and "The Wolf" by Jennifer Holub from the documentary film Slut or Nut: The Diary of a Rape Trial. Full show notes available at: www.slutornut.ca/podcast