Something More Comfortable: The Black Velvet Experience

This episode of based off a recent conversation I had with my wife after watching  @Tony Gaskins  and  @The Table With AO  . I agreed with some of things that would being spoken but as thought sometimes we listen to things that don't really apply to our lives. And ultimately, are we listening to those people in our lives.

It happened y'all. The Kween KL and myself got MARRIED!!! It has been quite the journey. Sit and listen as we discuss not only the lead-up to the wedding and subsequent honeymoon, but our deepest fears heading into marriage. It was a great time with a lot of laughs. We pray that you enjoy. If you do, leave a like, comment, and subscribe to the podcast for more amazing content about relationships and the ups and downs of finding love. For show ideas, comments, or just to say hi, we can be reached at: iamblackvelvethd@gmail.com or Instagram/Facebook at @blackvelvethd The Kween KL can be reached at @thekween_kl on Instagram. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

How late is too late for someone of the opposite sex to call your significant other? Black Velvet addresses the topic and shares an incident that occured in his personal life. Feel free to share your stories and thoughts on this subject. Reach out on IG/Facebook @blackvelvethd or email @ iamblackvelvethd@gmail.com. I will read your thoughts and comments on the Live in the coming weeks. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

Join Ms. Parker and Black Velvet, as we revisit the first poem ever performed on the show, I Want. We discuss what it means to have or seek a 1969 Type of Love. From there we go over many of the things that contribute to that love and what is missing in this day and age. We are even blessed with a poem from Ms. Parker. Please join and tell us what you think about love. Is it still possible to love that hard? Reach us on Facebook and Instagram at @BlackVelvetHD and @Ms.Parker_Speaks.

Join Ms. Parker and Black Velvet, as we revisit the first poem ever performed on the show, I Want. We discuss what it means to have or seek a 1969 Type of Love. From there we go over many of the things that contribute to that love and what is missing in this day and age. We are even blessed with a poem from Ms. Parker. Please join and tell us what you think about love. Is it still possible to love that hard? Reach us on Facebook and Instagram at @BlackVelvetHD and @Ms.Parker_Speaks. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

It is a new year and we are back at it. This episode is a solo mission where I discuss the difference between standards and expectations in relationships. Expectations can be very detrimental to your relationship and dating life in general. Things like Birkin bag or bust turn intimacy into a transaction rather than building a foundation. FB: https://www.facebook.com/blackvelvethd IG: https://www.instagram.com/blackvelvethd Theme Music by Samuel Fuentes https://www.instagram.com/samuelfuentes/  

It is a new year and we are back at it. This episode is a solo mission where I discuss the difference between standards and expectations in relationships. Expectations can be very detrimental to your relationship and dating life in general. Things like Birkin bag or bust turn intimacy into a transaction rather than building a foundation. FB: https://www.facebook.com/blackvelvethd IG: https://www.instagram.com/blackvelvethd Theme Music by Samuel Fuentes https://www.instagram.com/samuelfuentes/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

It is that time again, and I am joined by not just a regular on the show but in my life, Ms. Karen-Leigh, as we relate our birthing journey. There will be some graphic details about the trauma and struggle of having a child in the COVID world. You may even get a brief cameo from lil OG, Olivia-Grace. We thank you as always for the support. Remember to be a part of the contest you have to answer the question at the end of the show. IG: thekween_kl blackvelvethd --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

It is that time again, and I am joined by not just a regular on the show but in my life, Ms. Karen-Leigh, as we relate our birthing journey.  There will be some graphic details about the trauma and struggle of having a child in the COVID world. You may even get a brief cameo from lil OG, Olivia-Grace. We thank you as always for the support. Remember to be a part of the contest you have to answer the question at the end of the show. IG: thekween_kl blackvelvethd

Recently, I noticed that a lot people don't like the movie, Love and Basketball, which is a classic love story in the black community. When asked why people didn't like it, many responses found me scratching my head as to what movie they had watch due to disparity between what the movie portrayed and what viewers said they observed. I wanted to show the parallels between misinterpreting a movie narrative and how easily we can do that same thing in relationships. The signals become so crossed to the point that a couple may find themselves in two separate relationships and not even know it. I would love to hear your thoughts on the movie? Did you like the movie? Why or why not? Any questions or suggestions are also readily accepted and appreciated.

Recently, I noticed that a lot people don't like the movie, Love and Basketball, which is a classic love story in the black community. When asked why people didn't like it, many responses found me scratching my head as to what movie they had watch due to disparity between what the movie portrayed and what viewers said they observed. I wanted to show the parallels between misinterpreting a movie narrative and how easily we can do that same thing in relationships. The signals become so crossed to the point that a couple may find themselves in two separate relationships and not even know it. I would love to hear your thoughts on the movie? Did you like the movie? Why or why not? Any questions or suggestions are also readily accepted and appreciated. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

I am so excited to welcome back the Queen, Ms. Karen-Leigh, to the show as we discuss long distance relationships. We get personal as ourselves are currently very far apart. Her being in Raleigh, NC and myself in St Louis. Speaking not only on the struggles, but additionally the benefits of the distance, namely the focus on communication. Also, unpacking traumas and baggage from our childhoods and past relationships. This remains a judgment free zone. So please understand that these are simply our thoughts. We would love to hear what you have to say on the subject. You can reach me on Facebook or Instagram @blackvelvethd. Emails should be addressed to iamblackvelvet@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

I am so excited to welcome back the Queen, Ms. Karen-Leigh, to the show as we discuss long distance relationships. We get personal as ourselves are currently very far apart. Her being in Raleigh, NC and myself in St Louis. Speaking not only on the struggles, but additionally the benefits of the distance, namely the focus on communication. Also, unpacking traumas and baggage from our childhoods and past relationships. This remains a judgment free zone. So please understand that these are simply our thoughts. We would love to hear what you have to say on the subject. You can reach me on Facebook or Instagram @blackvelvethd. Emails should be addressed to iamblackvelvet@gmail.com  

The @host_with_the_post of IG, Ms. Briana Craig and I reminisce on our first loves. The laughter ensues as we discuss the way that we met them and how those relationships impacted our future relationships. Additionally, we talk about our current relationships and how people from our past show up out of the blue trying to get back what they had. Or more accurately, what they believe to be their possessions. If you desire to see and hear more from Briana, you can her on Facebook or Instagram; where she talks about everything. The links are included below: Ms. Briana Craig Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/watch/brinc65/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/host_with_the_most/ Black Velvet Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/blackvelvetHD IG - https://www.instagram.com/blackvelvethd/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

The @host_with_the_post of IG, Ms. Briana Craig and I reminisce on our first loves. The laughter ensues as we discuss the way that we met them and how those relationships impacted our future relationships.    Additionally, we talk about our current relationships and how people from our past show up out of the blue trying to get back what they had. Or more accurately, what they believe to be their possessions.    If you desire to see and hear more from Briana, you can her on Facebook or Instagram; where she talks about everything. The links are included below:   Ms. Briana Craig Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/watch/brinc65/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/host_with_the_most/     Black Velvet Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/blackvelvetHD IG - https://www.instagram.com/blackvelvethd/      

This episode is a special request from one of the show's fans. The story is of a man with a wife and three children. He finds that after 8 years together he feels like a stranger in his own home. This is because he knows that all 3 of his children aren't his though all were conceived during his marriage. The reason that he knows this fact, DNA tests notwithstanding, is that he was injured in his youth and it has made him sterile. The man posted his story to Facebook, which is where I was introduced to it by a fan. He wanted to hear my take on the subject, seeing as this is a common occurrence in today's relationships. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

This episode is a special request from one of the show's fans.  The story is of a man with a wife and three children. He finds that after 8 years together he feels like a stranger in his own home. This is because he knows that all 3 of his children aren't his though all were conceived during his marriage. The reason that he knows this fact, DNA tests notwithstanding, is that he was injured in his youth and it has made him sterile.  The man posted his story to Facebook, which is where I was introduced to it by a fan. He wanted to hear my take on the subject, seeing as this is a common occurrence in today's relationships.   

This episode will address losing one's virginity, and how that can and/or has affected our current and future relationships. With the start of our new season, we also have gone away from asking just three questions in favor of a more free flowing show. I am joined once again by the lovely Ms. Candice Thornton of MN8Beauty.com. As is always the case when joined by Candice, we find ourselves going off script but find that the spirit leads to some remarkable places. We really unpack some things and pray that that allows you as the listeners to really do your own soul searching. This remains a judgment free zone. So please understand that these are simply our thoughts. We would love to hear what you have to say on the subject. You can reach us on Facebook or Instagram @blackvelvethd. Emails should be addressed to iamblackvelvet@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

This episode will address losing one's virginity, and how that can and/or has effected our current and future relationships. With the start of our new season, we also have gone away from asking just three questions in favor of a more free flowing show. I am joined once again by the lovely Ms. Candice Thornton of MN8Beauty.com. As is always the case when joined by Candice, we find ourselves going off script but find that the spirit leads to some remarkable places. We really unpack some things and pray that that allows you as the listeners to really do your own soul searching. This remains a judgment free zone. So please understand that these are simply our thoughts. We would love to hear what you have to say on the subject. You can reach us on Facebook or Instagram @blackvelvethd. Emails should be addressed to admin@iamblackvelvet.com  

In this episode, we take a very hilarious yet real look at the concept of being/having a homie, lover, friend. I am joined by the chill vibes of Mrs. Tamara Blue. Not only did she tackle my questions with some profound responses, but also hit me with a few humdingers of her own. We had an amazing time and I know you guys will love it. If you are interested in hearing more from Mrs. Tamara Blue, you can check out her podcast, Barely Bougie Mamas on all platforms including Anchor. In her podcast, Tamara and her cohost address the lives of being mothers and trying to create a different environment for their children. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/blackvelvet/support

In this episode, we take a very hilarious yet real look at the concept of being/having a homie, lover, friend. I am joined by the chill vibes of Mrs. Tamara Blue. Not only did she tackle my questions with some profound responses, but also hit me with a few humdingers of her own. We had an amazing time and I know you guys will love it. If you are interested in hearing more from Mrs. Tamara Blue, you can check out her podcast, Barely Bougie Mamas on all platforms including Anchor. In her podcast, Tamara and her cohost address the lives of being mothers and trying to create a different environment for their children.  

In this episode we dive deep and discuss the topic of toxic relationships and the behavior that is exhibited in these situations. Not simply those of our partner/significant other, but also our own behavior. I am joined by the lovely Ms. Candice Thornton of MN8Beauty.com. This beautiful spirit joined me to really break down how to truly address the most toxic relationships that we will ever encounter, and that is the relationships that we have with ourselves.  The vibes were on a hundred thousand trillion and the spirit was flowing heavy like a generous bartender. I can't wait for you guys to hear it.  

We have a very special episode to bring in the New Year. I am joined by the lovely Ms. Karen-Leigh aka The Voluptuous KL, as we discuss dating as a full-figured woman. The different obstacles that women deal with when dating as a BBW. We dive into some pretty deep topics such as fetishism when speaking about voluptuous women.     

We are blessed to be blessed with the presence of guest Sinse Golden. This episode we tackle the sometimes dreaded approaching of someone you are interested in and that first date. It can be very scary to approach someone you interested in, so we talk about our experiences in this area. From there we speak on first dates and ideal dates.   The questions for the episode: 1. What is the best approach you ever used or ever had used on you? 2. What was your best date? 3. What is your ideal date?     Sinse Golden's IG: sinsegoldenwolf and sinserlyyoursnbp Sinse Golden product wesbite: www.sinserlyyoursnbp.com Black Velvet IG: blackvelvethd Black Velvet Website: www.iamblackvelvet.com

We are so excited to once again be joined by Ms. Karen-Leigh. This episode we hit close to home... literally. We tackle what home means, how to keep our homes and relationships balanced and if and when we found that one that made us feel at home.   The questions for the episode: 1. What does home mean to you? 2. What are some things that you need in your home that keep you balanced? 3. When do or did you know that you have/had found that someone that made you feel at home?     Ms. Karen-Leigh IG: thevoluptuous_kl Black Velvet IG: blackvelvethd Website: www.iamblackvelvet.com

We are so excited to once again be joined by Ms. Jamika. As always, it is a definitely treat to share positive energy with someone that you have known for quite some time.   This episode we dig into a little of the sexual side of relationships. Those moments when you truly feel connected on the physical, mental and spiritual planes.    The questions for the episode: 1. What would a man/woman have to say to make you cancel your girls/guys night out? 2. What is that one thing that gets you in the mood everytime? 3. What is the dream night with your significant other?     Ms. Jamika IG: justjamika1 Black Velvet IG: blackvelvethd Website: www.iamblackvelvet.com

This episode I am joined by the lovely and talented Ms. Jamika. She is a amazing singer and songwriter. Her most recent single, I'll Go, is streaming on Apple, Google Music ,Spotify, Tidal and wherever music is streamed. This evening we discuss the situationships that we find ourselves in at times, and how we have dealt with those problems.   The questions for the episodes: 1. Is there a difference between love and happiness? 2. Have you ever mistaken the two before? 3. If you have, did you leave immediately, or was it like quicksand?   Ms. Jamika IG: justjamika1

This episode I am joined by the inspiration for the poem, The Awakening, Queen Michelene. We discuss how we met, some of the adventures we have had, and ultimately, this show is full of shenanigans.    The three questions for the show if you are interested in answering:   1. Do you believe in love at first sight? 2. If you do, can it be sustained long-term? And what does that require? 3. Is sex a part of love or a continuation of it? 

This episode is about what we believe a 1969 type of love is, whether we have seen it in our lifetimes, and if it possible to achieve in this day and age.

The very first episode of the podcast. Just a short intro that gives the details and lays the groundwork for the future. This is all about love, respect, and honest conversations about relationships and life.