Blended Family Crusaders

In a Blended Family, even a simple phrase like, “I love you” can be confusing. When we say “I love you” what does that really mean? In the English language there are 9 definitions for the word that we do loosely use. Use of the word, “love” can be confusing even in our relationships. We use the word love to refer to the last football game we watched, or the first sip of our morning coffee. When our partner expresses they aren’t feeling loved, what are they trying to communicate…that they want to watch more football? In today’s episode Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher discuss the Greek words for love, and how recognizing and using each one will strengthen your relationship. They will share personal stories from their own life to get you thinking about the many different ways you can invest in your own relationship. 

With 9 kids Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher get asked all the time how do you make time for each other and how do you make your marriage work? This next series of Podcasts are directed to answering those questions. This series will take you into the dirty details of dealing with your ex, intimacy and the different ways we show and say “I love you.”On our show today we will kick off the relationship series with a subject that causes the a good deal of contention between new partners.  The EX! One of the greatest myths about being divorced is that you don’t have to deal with your ex-spouse anymore! Michael and Christina discuss in detail how we tend to carry over our last marriage into our new one, with unrealistic expectations, bad habits, and the feeling of not being good enough. Listen in and find out how you can be in control of your new relationship and not allow the past, or past person, to dictate your future.

“The Struggle ends when Gratitude begins.”  Neale Donald Walsh. In this week’s episode Blended Family Crusader Michael and Christina Fisher share a new side of Gratitude that most of us don’t even think about or consider.  Why is it so important?  How can it be used to re-write your history?  How can Gratitude can literally change your life and help you and your family become more successful?  All these answers and more, by tuning in.

After watching both of her biological parents get divorced twice, and being part of 4 Blended Families, our oldest daughter Ally shares her remarkable story of love, patience, acceptance and perseverance.  Today’s episode will help you understand the perspective of your child, all in different ages. Through her story you’ll have a greater understanding of what your child is too afraid to share with you, but is vitally important for you and your children to move forward.  Whether your child is young, adolescent, or adult, Ally’s perspective is unique because she has been through divorce of all ages. Our past does not define us, but can make us into something great, but only if we choose.

Being able to find the connections between two different ideas is a key to rapid growth and expands your ability to help others. In this episode we share some of the things we learned from Brendon Burchard’s Influencer 2019, and how those things apply directly to Blended Families.We are leading a Crusade to eliminate the cycle of divorce that plagues our society. All that would happen for evil to take over in the world, is for good people to say nothing. In a similar way, all that would have to happen for something to change in this world is for one generation to decide to do something different. The pain and heartache experienced through divorce can be eliminated in one generation. All it takes is one generation to do something different. Our Crusade is about building and leaving a legacy. A legacy of core values and principles that live on far after we leave this earth. We hear about those who come from privilege or advantage. We hear statistics about how a persons zip coat is the number one factor that predicts a persons success in life and what they accomplish in life. But people rise above the statistics of their zip code and environment everyday. How do they do it? They most often do it because a persons real privilege or advantage does not come from how much money they grew up with, what school they attended, or the color of their skin. They rise above because the greatest predictor of our success comes from the parents and mentors we had and what they taught us to believe about ourselves. Legacy’s are built by being present and parenting on purpose. One of the most emotional times for me at the conference was listening to Brendon share stories about the things his parents taught him intentionally. It was such an emotional moment when he brought his Mother on stage to be recognized. Brendon Burchard, Rachel Hollis and others shared some many stories about the people in their life that just showed up. That’s what our kids will remember. They will remember that we cared enough to show up. They will not remember most of the things you did. They will not remember the words you say. You will not be perfect, but they will remember that you showed up.In this episode we share these thing and many other insights related to blended families that we took this years influencer conference.

It's time to think differently.  It's time to create a movement and change the way we think and act in a blended family.  As a blended family there is so much consideration that is required to make a family successful, but most of the time we just mess it up because we don't know how to effectively be in a step family.  Now there is!  Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher are leading a movement to think differently about blended families.  Join us for today's episode and learn about the Origins of the Blended Family Crusaders, the inside story and why they are so passionate about helping families be successful.  

In those moments of your blended family life, when you are overwhelmed, the kids are at each others throats, or zombie out on their phones. We go through our day living a mechanical life and then wonder why we want out. And that's exactly what you should do. GET OUT! Pack up your family and go create a new experience, new memories, and a new perspective on life.In todays podcast Blended Family Coaches Christina and Michael Fisher tell their stories of how getting their family out has had surprisingly amazing outcomes that has brought, and continues to bring, them closer together. And how creating new experiences can ultimately be the key to your blended family success.

Disciplining your children is hard enough especially when you have kids with varying personality types. In a blended family this is compounded because kids don't want to receive direction from anyone other than their parent and the Step parent feels they aren't in a place to discipline. The process can be messy and the outcome generally isn't a postive one. In today's episode Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher discuss the pro's and cons of this debate and bring to light a new way of looking at the way we discipline our children and step children and show you how this process can be a positive process to bring your relationship closer together.

Putting kids first rather than your relationship is one of the greatest debates there is in the blended family and stepfamily community. Neither the experts or the masses of communities can come to an agreement on this issue. Why is that so hard to do? Arguably there are pros and cons to both sides- so which is it?! In this episode Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher, look at both sides of the argument, and get to the real root of this debate and by dissecting it, and bringing a new perspective.

Have you ever traveled somewhere with the idea that the streets will be beautiful, the sky will be clear, and even though you know it will be different, you still believe you will have an unbelievable time. Only to quickly find out that the way the locals live is completely different, the food makes you sick, the bathrooms are filthy and the people are just not as friendly as you though has envisioned. You don’t have to travel to a third world country to experience culture shock- just try and blend 2 families into one! Whether you are new to the blended family world, or whether you’ve been a family for many years, you have experienced the clash of two worlds. Everything from what to eat,  how you eat when you eat, to bedtimes, chores, discipline, hobbies, music, standards of cleanliness, expectations, and the list goes on and on. In this episode Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina bring you head to head with these types of blended family difficulties, how to overcome them and ultimately move your family forward. 

This episode on insecurities is a must listen for anyone in a blended family. The way we view the world and our interactions with others is determined by our past experiences, how we feel about ourselves and what we feel we are worth. Not dealing with and overcoming the false things we believe about ourselves is ultimately the number one destroyer of blended families. This makes battling this issue a top priority.Our insecurities too often drive our behavior. We allow events and interactions with those we love to remind us of the things we dislike most about ourselves. In these moments we often act outside of out true character out of self-protection. We get angry, blame others or shut down all together.We must remember that much of what we perceive in the world and our interactions with others is just made up in our head. We naturally default to think that others think of us the same negative way we think of ourselves. Unchecked, our personal insecurities lead to misunderstanding, hurt relationships and destroyed blended families.In this episode we discuss ways of overcoming the insecurities you have in your own life. Even something as simple as giving voice to the false things we believe about ourselves begins to take away the power our insecurities have over us.

Blended Family Crusaders Michael and Christina Fisher are a blended family of 11, with 9 children and 2 goldendooddles. The first ever episode begins with a bang as they passionately lay out their mission, purpose, what inspired them to create the Crusader movement. They dive right into things holding blended families back, and what families can do to move their life, relationships and families forward. Christina and Michael will lift you up, motivate and inspire you to be your best self as you overcome the challenges of blended family life.Members of blended families are not alone, but we often feel that way. Through loss and divorce, we struggle with the feeling that we have failed. Openly talking about our step family becomes difficult for so many. We feel it shines a light on our mistakes like an admission of where we have failed. So we stay silent. Crusaders Michael and Christina lead out in a movement to change that as they boldly declare, “You are not alone.”Whether through the loss of a spouse or divorce, remarried families are quickly becoming today’s most common family unit, yet there is little help for struggling blended families. Much of the information you do find is negative, ignoring the many amazing things about blended families, or it’s just plain wrong and misguided advise.The Fisher’s are passionately driven to help others and have devoted their lives to the cause. They will share stories from their own life and how they navigate the challenges and celebrate the joys of blended family life. They will provide tips, tools and practical advice, but most of all, they will lift you up, motivate and inspire you to have the confidence and courage to act on the things you know are best for your own blended family.Christina and Michael Fisher believe blended families are amazing. It is our super power that provides us with greater opportunities for growth and achievement. They believe it is not our past that defines us, but what we focus on, the emotions we choose to feel and the actions we choose to take. They believe that yesterday’s answers and failed solutions do not solve today’s challenges. The Blended Family Crusader Podcast will make you laugh, and cry, but most of all, it will move your family forward.