If someone asked reality TV personality, Ashley Silva, what her single message to the world would be, she would proudly proclaim, "Do That SH!T". After sharing her battle with depression publicly, she learned that there are scores of women who suffer in silence. Imagine days passing you by in the absence of true happiness and joy. Imagine missing some of life's best and most sacred moments due to anxiety and overwhelm with no end in sight. Even worse, imagine leaving this earth filled with untapped potential. In the words of Ashley, fu$k that! You deserve better! Society tells us that those who appear to have it all are somehow exempt from anxiety or depression, but nothing could be farther from the truth. No one is exempt. Societal imposed standards of who and what a woman today should be, coupled with the constant pressure of the need for perfection, leave us to fall apart at the seams. The unfiltered truth is that life is tough, but so are you. Do That SH!T is the straight-shooting voice in your head you never even knew you needed. An unapologetic reminder that you already have everything you need to be the best version of yourself. More than affirmations delicately woven together, this book is a collage of intimate stories, undeniable truths, unapologetic revelations, and most importantly cues that inspire you to reshape the way you think about your life. In this poignant self-redefining guide, Ashley gets real about the realities of self-doubt, depression, chasing the life you need, want, and deserve by any means necessary, and dealing with the realities of the series of events that have served to shape who you are and what you will become. Nothing in this book is sugarcoated, Ashley tells it like it is. Do That SH!T is the response to the voices that inundated us with empty messages of happiness. Instead, you are encouraged to get up, get out, and become the hero of your own life. Whatever you desire can be yours, but you must be willing to conquer yourself to go out and get it. Are you ready?
I get asked a lot of questions on social media and thought that it would be great to combine questions from my followers, gems from my book DO THAT SH!T, affirmations and overall daily questions, conversations and topics we chat about here on my Do That Sh!t podcast. Let's start the year off right. If you have any questions for me or have a topic you'd like for me to talk about shoot me a message on IG: @AshleyBrittney or email me at hey@ashleybrittneysilva.com.Enjoy the 1st episode!ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COMFASHIONASHTON.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 17:YOU DESERVE THAT SH!TYOU DESERVE IT ALL. THE LIFE YOU WANT. THE SUCCESS. THE LOVE. THE HAPPINESS. GO OUT THERE AND GET IT.@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COMDO THAT SH!T
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 16: DO THE F#CKING WORKYou can't do it all yourself. You need help, you need a team. We take away from own success trying to do it all. Learn to delegate. Do the f#cking work.@AshleyBrittneyAshleyBrittneySilva.comDO THAT SH!T
Let's reevaluate the people around us and stop trying to fit into spaces where we don't belong.ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 14: F#CK THAT SH!TPeople say there are 2 sides to a story. I say there are 3, yours, theirs and somewhere in the middle is the truth. That's life. We all don't experience things the same. We are a villain to some and a hero to others. The key is to working on being a better you for you.Also have you have felt like God abandoned you? How did you work through that?DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T CHAPTER 13 -A HOBBY AND SELF CAREWhat are you hobbies? Things you do solely for fun?How do you practice Self Care?ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@AshleyBrittney
DO THAT SH!T CHAPTER 12 -" SET LIMITS IN YOUR LIFE"Everyone's talking about soft girl era this and that. Sorry, life is going to have hardships and that is ok! Walk through, learn threw, grow through the hardships!LET'S DISCUSS: "IF YOU SIT IN SH!T TOO LONG, IT STOPS SMELLING. SO COME THE F#CK UP OUTTA THERE." -JENIFERLEWISDO THAT SH!TASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
Part 2 of Chapter 11 “The Work”, Ashley talks about weaponizing people having insecurities, as if we all don't have them.Affirmation: I get to heal for myself.DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
"DO NOT SPEND THE REST OF YOU LIFE PLAYING THE VICTIM. IT'S TIME FOR A NEW ROLE."In Part 1 of Chapter 11: The Work , Ashley discusses having a safe space, trusted confidants and that therapy is not a "crazy" word. Being open to healing is understanding that hard work needs to be done on your half.DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COMFASHIONASHTON.COMFUNTIMEMOMS.COM
In Chapter 10 of Do That Sh!t, "Realization" Ashley discusses that healing isn't easy, it's hard. It can be gut wrenching to face all your pain, trauma and feeling of being unworthyThe hardest lesson that Ashley has had to learn and is still trying to master is that , "Sometimes, God has people walk out on you, because he knew you would never walk out on them."Be the Hero of your own story.DO THAT SH!TASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
In the final part of Chapter 9: HEAL THAT SH!T , Ashley opens up about her mother's reoccurring cancer, an abortion, drinking to mask the pain, getting a DUI, having a miscarriage and losing one of her closest friend in a friendship breakup.DO THAT SH!TASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 9: HEAL THAT SH!T. PART IIIIn Chapter 9: HEAL THAT SH!T. PART IIIAshley learns of her mother's is diagnosis with Stage 4 Lymphoma Cancer, which leaves her feeling like a failure again because she wasn't a match to donate her stem cells to her mother. Ashley also discusses watching her mother on what could have possibly been her death bed, her podcast not doing well, masking her pain with drinking, friendship breakups and ultimately wanting her pain to end and trying to end her life.DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 9: HEAL THAT SH!T. PART IIIn Part II of Chapter 9: Heal That Sh!t, Ashley talks of overcompensating to show her love ,the pressure to overachieve as a mom. Feeling like a single married mom, married on paper, but alone all the time. Ashley also uncovers how a chance doctors appoint lead to her official depression diagnosis, the stigma behind mental health in the black community and taking off the "strong black women armor." Mental Health can infect us all. Depression is an infection, an illness. But even after her initial diagnosis, seeking therapy and medication...nothing helped. Bullsh*t kept piling on a break in at her home, developing insomnia, gaining 30lbs in less than a month and her marriage in turmoil.DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 9: HEAL THAT SH!T. PART ONEIn this 1st part of Chapter 9: Heal That Sh!t, Ashley uncovers how titles placed on her from her childhood have caused her life lasting emotional trauma and insecurities . From being called "The Bad Seed", "Bad" , "Imperfect". "Not The Favorite.".Ashley also talks about how that trauma manifested into her being for lack of better words, a bitch and defined her into adulthood.Ashley also has emotional Author's note as she recalls her relationship with her grandfather who passed away over 30 years and his lasting love.DO THAT SH!T@ASHLEYBRITTNEYASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 8: BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE INSTEAD OF ASHAMED OF WHO YOU AREN'TIn this chapter, Ashley discusses the difference between who you really are and who you POST to be.DO THAT SH!TASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 7: THE 1ST STEP TO CHANGE IS TO BECOME AWARE OF YOUR OWN BULLSH!TASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 6: REFLECTIONIn this chapter Ashley turns the mirror on herself and encourages you to do the same. Take a deep dive into what it is that you want out of life? You get one life. Live it on your own terms.AshleyBrittneySilva.com@AshleyBrittney
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 5 : REVELATIONAshley discovers that the things she credited herself with minimally , like starting a blog & podcast in 2010 and being "just" a mom & wife , weren't minimal accomplishments at all.ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEYDO THAT SH!T
DO THAT SH!T-CHAPTER 4: WHO THE F#CK ARE YOU?In this Chapter, Ashley discusses how childhood limitation manifested into adulthood self doubt and not being sure of herself.ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
IT'S TIME TO GET INTO THE WORK AND STOP THE BULLSHIT EXCUSES.ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEYDO THAT SH!T
DO THAT SH!TCHAPTER 2 "HOW I GOT IN HERE"In chapter 2 Ashley uncovers moments in her life that made her feel abandoned and unworthy. From her grandmother's death, to her 1st friendship breakup to her mom moving out when she was 16. Ashley also discovers that placing blame on others has been detrimental to her life, mental health and healing.ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COM@ASHLEYBRITTNEY
PART 1Authors NoteDedicationAcknowledgmentsDisclaimerChapter 1- IT TAKES A VILLAGEJournal PromptsAffirmationsSociety tells us that those who appear to have it all are somehow exempt from anxiety or depression, but nothing could be farther from the truth. No one is exempt. Societal imposed standards of who and what a woman today should be, coupled with the constant pressure of the need for perfection, leave us to fall apart at the seams. The unfiltered truth is that life is tough, but so are you.DO THAT SH!T is the straight-shooting voice in your head you never knew you needed. An unapologetic reminder that you already have everything you need to be the best version of yourself.More than affirmations delicately woven together, this book is a collage of intimate stories, undeniable truths, unapologetic revelations, and most importantly cues that inspire you to reshapes the way you think about your life. In this poignant self-redefining guides, Ashley gets real about the realities of self doubt, depression, chasing the life you need, want and deserve by any means necessary, and dealing with the realities of the series of events that have served to shape who you are and what will become.Nothing in this book is sugar coated, Ashley tells it like it is. Do That Sh!t is the response to the voices that inundated us with empty messages of happiness. Instead, you are encouraged to get up, get out, and become the hero of your own life. Whatever you desire can be yours, but you must be willing to conquer yourself to go out and get it. Are you ready?ASHLEYBRITTNEYSILVA.COMIG @ASHLEYBRITTNEY