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Love and Abuse
The type of person that doesn't deserve a second chance

Love and Abuse

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 40:01


How bad does it have to get before you're convinced that the person you're dealing with is never, ever going to change? And how much more hurtful behavior has to happen before you decide enough is enough? Sometimes we are so jaded by and used to emotionally abusive behavior that we forget what being treated with kindness and respect means.

Lead Up for Women
Release Limiting Beliefs and Create the Life You Deserve!

Lead Up for Women

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2021 38:43


Episode #131 Join me as I interview Trina L. Martin, author, speaker, technologist, and podcaster & Alexis Jane, transformational coach joining us from Sydney Australia! Today we are diving into Releasing limiting beliefs and creating the life you deserve! And of course, we invite you to reach out to our guests today as well as join us in subscribing to our podcast, attending our events, or simply following us on social media! https://leadup.libsyn.com/ https://www.leadupforwomen.com/events Interested in becoming a member to step into the spotlight and use your VOICE? Or receive more information about the Memberships, click here https://www.leadupforwomen.com/membershipsYou can also find our videos on Youtube (previous episodes) here. Subscribe today to be kept up-to-date on the latest episodes! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiMMeIgxuD0vgTbxGdIgThgClick here to claim a free copy of our Lead Up for Women Magazine and read all about our cover Spotlight Patty Farmer, Founder Marketing, Media and Money Magazine, Podcast & Events https://www.leadupforwomen.com/claim-free-magazine Thank you to our Hello World Join the No-Problem Parenting community where you will find down to earth, practical, fun, no-nonsense, and even “bass-ackwards” tips and ideas for how to deal with and overcome any parenting challenge, go to noproblemparenting.com and get started now - Become the confident leader your kids crave you to be! How to reach our Guests: Alexis Jane @aottwithalexisjane https://www.facebook.com/AlexisJaneFotaras/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/thealexisjane/ https://Alexisjane.as.me/strategy Trina L Martin Website: trinalmartin.com Book: From a Mess to Amazing: 7 Steps to Create the Life You Deserve ** Free workbook available for download if the book is purchased. LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/trina-l-martin

KBR Sports
Will Russell Westbrook tank the Lakers? Does Ben Simmons deserve all the blame, the NFL's best team, NFL week 7 picks and bets

KBR Sports

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 91:20


Brendan Abban is joined by Rudie Henderson to discuss the Los Angeles Lakers championship viability with Russell Westbrook on their team. They also discuss the drama between Ben Simmons and Joel Embiid. Then they name which teams they believe are the best in the NFL at this time. Then they round it out with their NFL Week 7 picks. Hope you enjoy and don't forget to subscribe, like, and leave a review!https://linktr.ee/Brendanabban​​​​​​​​​​Website: http://brendanabban.com​​​​​​​​​​Follow me!Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbanBrendan​​​​​... & https://twitter.com/kbr_sports​​​​​​​​​​Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kbrsports/​... & https://www.instagram.com/brendanabba...Discord: https://discord.gg/eVp5fkPxkYRudie's YouTube Channelhttps://www.youtube.com/user/Richboi619

Henry Lake
All missing persons deserve attention

Henry Lake

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 17:07


The Brian Laundrie search is such a polarizing issue, and some people might think that we're spending too much time talking about it, but are we really? While we're invested in high profile stories, we can't lose sight of other individuals and need to pay more attention to missing women and persons of color.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

General Fitness Companycast
You Deserve Better (Or Do You?)

General Fitness Companycast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2021 12:17


You probably think you deserve better in life and you probably do...maybe. In today's episode, I'm going to talk about why people don't get what they believe they deserve and what simple things that they are probably not doing to ensure that they get what they want. Also, if you're still unsure after this episode, take a look at this personality test developed by a team of psychologists that can help point you in the right direction. Myers-Briggs Personality Test --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/generalfitnesscompany/support

Movie Trivia Schmoedown
Halloween Kills, Does it Stink or Getting a Bad Wrap?! | The Big Thing

Movie Trivia Schmoedown

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 71:39


Halloween Kills has been getting hammered by a lot of people/ Was it good? Bad? Deserve the hate? Should there be more love? Steph Sabraw breaks down what she thought of the film. Kristian and Kate talk Rogue one as Kate watched it for the first time. Jamie Costa is brilliant and we talk about his performance as Robin and what is next for him. And Steph walked into a wall. Follow on Twitter Kristian Harloff https://bit.ly/31PePMD Mark Ellis https://bit.ly/2U1wKPa Brett Sheridan https://bit.ly/2HBltii Steph Sabraw https://bit.ly/3m0ud0z Kate Mulligan https://bit.ly/3owBneT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rockstar Confidence
You Deserve Happiness!

Rockstar Confidence

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2021 17:42


I mean that from the bottom of my heart--you deserve to be happy. Proving that has been part of my mission forever.   Happiness and joy are your birthright. You are a powerful creator, here to create and experience who you really are. I challenge you to remember that and step into that vibration.   Happiness is not for just a few. It's not for the "lucky" and it's not random. It's meant for YOU.   If this episode RESONATES ;) and you enjoy it, please help the show grow and share the love! Take a screenshot or screenflow, share it to your social media, tag me, and let me know what you liked most!   Join the Quantum Soul Activation Mastermind here!!   Watch the webinar to learn more about Quantum Soul Activation!   If you're ready to try a virtual Reiki session and really release energy blocks and gain CLARITY, to move energy on a SOUL level, click here to book one! (**Card pulls always included with Reiki sessions!)   Purchase a 3-card or 8-card Oracle reading here! (All done via email. Please allow up to 24-48 hours for a response.)   Join The Energy Within Facebook group!   Listen to my podcast episode from this time last year, an interview with PBS Create Chef Nick Stellino!!   Follow me on Instagram! (Message me here if you're interested in talking about doing some shadow work sessions!!)   Follow me on Facebook!   Visit my blog!   Download your FREE Abundance Meditation here!   Create your own positive affirmations without feeling cheesy or fake with the Affirmations Workbook!   Get the Confidence-Boosting Meditation Collection: 12 Guided Meditations to Increase Mindfulness and Focus, Reconnect to Yourself, and Build True Confidence   Support Operation Underground Railroad and stop child sex trafficking! Listen to Tim Ballard, founder of OUR, on the Jordan Harbinger Show!

Spirit-Filled Real Talk with Juliana Page
EP 139 What You Deserve

Spirit-Filled Real Talk with Juliana Page

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 46:36


What do you think you deserve? We tend to get, receive and see evidence of what we expect-for better or for worse. What if I told you, you deserve everything beautiful that life has to offer?  Would you believe that? Many times we miss out on the fullness of what God has given (everything for us to enjoy) because we started, “not working," "not believing," "not obeying." We didn't stay committed and believing, no matter what. We didn't learn the actual amount of effort, the fullness of the process or the weight of the anointing it takes.   From there, we'll never know because we decided it doesn't work.   Unless we pick working back up. And decide it works. All the way until it does. That is when we will know. Exactly how much effort it took, to make it work and that we do deserve our hearts desires if we believe we do and work our faith.   Ready for some simple keys to enjoy the best of what life has to offer?   Subscribe and share Spirit-Filled Real Talk on Spotify or Apple Podcasts! Have you subscribed to The Spirit-Filled Real Talk Podcast?  No more waiting, subscribe, rate it and leave a comment to receive a FREE gift.  Once you've done those things, email info.julianapage@gmail.com, with subject "Free Gift."  

Back To Back
NBA Starts Today! Zion's Status, Lakers preseason woes, and does Ayton deserve the max?

Back To Back

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 65:35


Sam Amick, Anthony Slater and Will Guillory break down opening night, the Pelican's upcoming season, what Zion's status is, Ben Simmons playing soon? and does Deandre Ayton deserve the max? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Menstruation ReWritten
We deserve a rebate and tampons are for sluts

Menstruation ReWritten

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 33:57


Welcome to Season 2! Happy full moon to those listening in real time. Enii and I had a great chat about menarche far from home, the savage rumors of high school girls, and an unceremonious PCOS diagnosis. This conversation was funny, infuriating and enlightening. Topic's covered: - Why San Francisco has a special place in Eni's heart- Getting chocolate because... that's what you do- The anti-climactic response to "becoming a woman"- Managing menstruation with birth control- Enii's recent diagnosis with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)- How Enii plans for periods that lead to vomiting and fainting-  When male bosses are so weird about everything female - Returning to pads after being betrayed by tampons - How high school rumors can shame menstruators - The freedom of complaining about cramps to Enii's brothers - Being hormone free and periods returning with a vengeance - Enii's PCOS diagnosis process- The potential impacts of PCOS and fibroids on having children- Variation in period tracking apps - Enii's  hormone free life and her period not agreeing with that plan- Enii's hope that future generation's won't have to pay for menstrual products. Considering a menstrual cup? Check out Lunette (https://store.lunette.com/?rfsn=4709896.1507ef) or read my answers to common menstrual cup questions (https://menstruationrewritten.com/got-menstrual-cup-questions-ive-got-you-covered/)Reach out at: host@menstruationrewritten.comSubscribe for new episodes each full moon! If you like what you hear, leave a rating or review on Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts so others can find us and have a chance to listen. 

PFF NFL Daily
Ep 176 - Does Derrick Henry deserve MVP hype?

PFF NFL Daily

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 19, 2021 11:30


PFF analysts Steve Palazzolo and Sam Monson discuss Tennessee Titans star running back Derrick Henry, and, after yet another dominant performance on Monday Night Football against the Buffalo Bills, if he is deserving of some MVP consideration.

The Ricochet Audio Network Superfeed
Mock and Daisy: Daily Dish: Does Delta really deserve praise? Also, Kravis is engaged

The Ricochet Audio Network Superfeed

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021


Delta employees aren’t as free as the media is making them out to be. Biden appears crazy in yet another speech. And like always Mock has some Tik Toks for you! Please visit our great sponsors: My Pillow https://www.mypillow.com/chicks Now get BOGO Giza Dream Sheets with promo code CHICKS. Genucel https://lovegenucel.com/chicks Look your best all […]

Mock and Daisy's Common Sense Cast
Daily Dish: Does Delta really deserve praise? Also, Kravis is engaged

Mock and Daisy's Common Sense Cast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 25:55


Delta employees aren't as free as the media is making them out to be. Biden appears crazy in yet another speech. And like always Mock has some Tik Toks for you!Please visit our great sponsors:My Pillowhttps://www.mypillow.com/chicksNow get BOGO Giza Dream Sheets with promo code CHICKS. Genucelhttps://lovegenucel.com/chicksLook your best all summer long!The Association of Mature American Citizenshttps://amac.us/chicksThe benefits of membership are great, but the cause is even greater.My Patriot Supplyhttps://preparewiththechicks.comSAVE $100 on a 3-Month Emergency Food Kit only at PreparewiththeChicks.comAcre Goldhttps://getacregold.com/chicksVisit GetAcreGold.com/CHICKS and start investing in physical Gold today!Omahahttps://omahasteaks.comSave over 50% when you order the Deluxe Grill Out Assortment, plus get 12 FREE Omaha Steaks Burgers. Promo code CHICKS

Buckets Mentality Podcast
Does Deandre Ayton deserve a max contract?

Buckets Mentality Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 3:02


Breaking down the Ayton situation & if I believe he should get the full bag.

Dog and Joe
Celebrities Behaving Badly, What The Fact & Celebs That Don't Deserve Their Fame

Dog and Joe

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 56:30


Listen to the full show for Monday, October 18th, 2021! -The River Rock N' Roll Machine: Scorpions' “No One Like You” -At The Dinner Table: Debt or No Debt? -Celebrities Behaving Badly -This Just In -Safest Cities In The US -What The Fact! -Celebrities That Don't Deserve Their Fame TheDog, Joe and Dana Show is live Monday-Friday 5:45am-10:00am on 93.7 The River in Sacramento, CA!

Camp Half-Pod: A Percy Jackson Podcast
38: It's What We Deserve (LAST OLYMPIAN Ch 22-23)

Camp Half-Pod: A Percy Jackson Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 52:54


That's right folks, we made it through the ENTIRE PJO series!! This episode, we get to hear Manasa's new theory on fatal flaws. We talk about the best “they finally kissed!” moments. We discuss our favorite things from this book and fill you in on our plans for the next season! Tune in next week to hear our season finale! And if you'd like to submit an audio message, please do so here: https://anchor.fm/camp-half-pod/message --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/camp-half-pod/support

The Onside Zone with Big O
Podcast Sunday Miami Dolphins Post Game - Miami Dolphins Fans Deserve Better 10 167 2021

The Onside Zone with Big O

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2021 2:22


Big O says Dolphins Fans deserve better

Business Sustainability Radio Show
Episode 325: Contractors learn how to keep the cash you earn and deserve with Ruth King.

Business Sustainability Radio Show

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 17, 2021 25:22


In this episode, we talk with Ruth King who is an expert at helping contractors manage their cash flow and create profits into dollars. You will learn how to read a cash flow statement and we will share the right template that you can use so you will never have to worry about cash flow.

Football Daily
Mo or Messi, ‘sloppy' Man Utd & does Bruce deserve better?

Football Daily

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 16, 2021 47:48


Ben Haines is joined by former Hull City and Macclesfield midfielder Alex Bruce and The Telegraph's North East Correspondent Luke Edwards to look at Saturday's action, which included a stunning Mo Salah performance and a big win for Leicester City, who in the process ended Manchester United's unbeaten away record. Hear from Jurgen Klopp and Ole Gunnar Solskjaer. And as Steve Bruce approaches his 1000th managerial match, we ask whether he deserves a chance the be at the helm as Newcastle enter a new era, post the Saudi takeover. Alex gives us an insight into how the week has been for his dad, the media speculation on his future and how it has impacted the whole family. Plus, hear what Alan Shearer makes of the takeover, what he thinks the fans really want and why he told Steve Bruce to never take the Newcastle job. TOPICS: 1'00 Goal of the day 3'10 Jurgen Klopp interview 4'20 Mo Salah's Liverpool contract 9'30 Ole Gunnar Solskjaer interview 11'30 'Sloppy' Manchester United and the mounting pressure 17'30 Praise for Brendan Rodgers 18'30 Saturday's other scores 19'20 The latest supercomputer predictor 22'00 Alan Shearer interview 30'00 Alex Bruce on his Dad - Steve Bruce

Cougar Sports with Ben Criddle (BYU)
10-14-21 - Hour 1 - What grades do each position group deserve?

Cougar Sports with Ben Criddle (BYU)

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 53:53


Today's Co-Hosts: Ben Criddle (@criddlebenjamin) Subscribe to the Cougar Sports with Ben Criddle podcast:Apple Podcastshttps://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/cougar-sports-with-ben-criddle/id996764363Google Podcastshttps://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuc3ByZWFrZXIuY29tL3Nob3cvMTM2OTkzOS9lcGlzb2Rlcy9mZWVkSpotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/7dZvrG1ZtKkfgqGenR3S2mPocket Castshttps://pca.st/SU8aOvercasthttps://overcast.fm/itunes996764363/cougar-sports-with-ben-criddle-byuSpreakerhttps://www.spreaker.com/show/cougar-sports-with-ben-criddleStitcherhttps://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=66416iHeartRadiohttps://www.iheart.com/podcast/966-cougar-sports-with-29418022TuneInhttps://tunein.com/podcasts/Sports-Talk--News/Cougar-Sports-with-Ben-Criddle-p731529/

Live Better. Sell Better.
Land the job you want then earn the promotion you deserve with Charlie Locke

Live Better. Sell Better.

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 53:49


Landing the right SDR role can literally change your life because it can and will open up so many doors! But you need to know what to look for and then more importantly how to get to the next level. Charlie Locke of SDR nation shares those tips with you today! https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlielocke/

Make Sh*t Happen
Episode 185 - Three Minute Thursday ( get what you deserve )

Make Sh*t Happen

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 4:50


Welcome to Three Min Thursday, episode number 185. Hey, so, you know, I was listening to some stuff while you know, like, my warning runs like I always do. And I listen to a lot of motivational stuff and think about it. And, you know, I heard Jim Ron where he talked about in life. It's not what you should get. What you need is what you deserve. And that really, really touched me about, yes, in life, we feel like we need this and we should be given this. Is that what we should get is what we deserve. And he says a farmer can look at the ground and say, hey, I need my harvest. Well, the farmer knows what he needs to do to get that harvest. He needs to make sure that he puts the seed in, you know, you reap what you sow kind of thing. If you don't sew any seed, if you don't saw the plan, you're not gonna get your harvest. It's just like that. You can't say, I want I want Orange trees coming out of a tree. I want oranges coming out of a tree. But you have never done anything to get those oranges out of a tree. You never even put any seeds up there. And that just opened up my mind. You know, people feel like, especially nowadays, in this age of day, people think they need this. They should get this. You only get what you deserve. And that's what's called life. Life is you have to do hard work in order to deserve something. And the age where we are living at, where everybody has this sense of entitlement. There's a lot of this free money floating around post COVID. I just feel like we have done lazy. There's a lot of people who don't want to go to work because they feel like they need to get more money. It's not what you need to get. It's what you deserve. How much are you gonna input to deserve something people always think about? Oh, man, I need to be making $100,000. But what have you done to get that $100,000? I mean, How's your attitude? How's your work? Are you coming in early, leaving late? Are you making sure are your top performer in your company? Wherever you work, are your top performer in the business. You own a lot of people. They don't even show up to work, like on Friday. nd then they're all Friday at a Sunday, and they feel like their business is not doing good Well, why is your business not doing good? You haven't gone to work. Don't show up to work. And a lot of people when they are new business owners, I feel like they feel like a business should give them. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sammyz/message

Scott Ryfun
Ryfun: The Rich Deserve More Votes?

Scott Ryfun

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 40:05


Hour 2 Basing your influence on the electoral system on your wealth? No thanks! Audio from WGIG-AM and FM in Brunswick, GA

ED ECMO
74: Do 70 year old's deserve ECPR? A Deep Dive into the Economics of ECPR

ED ECMO

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2021 28:22


Have you ever pondered whether all the work over ECPR was worth it?  Even if you did save a few patients, does this really make sense from a societal standpoint?  Am I giving up my life on a project where my efforts could be better elsewhere?  Then this episode is for you (and me).  This month I talk with Melissa Barnes and Ryan Coute about the economics of cardiac arrest and specifically ECPR.  Ryan has just published a great paper in Resuscitation on the costs on OHCA.  We will talk with Ryan and Melissa Barnes, ECMO manager at Sharp Memorial Hospital about benefits and costs to society of OHCA and ECMO.  I learned several pearls from Ryan's paper as well as a paper by Grosse that Ryan references.  Below are the links to both papers with a couple graphs to try to wrap your head around.

Truth For Youth with Micah Murphree
#78. WHAT WE DESERVE

Truth For Youth with Micah Murphree

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 18:59


Episode 78 As living human beings, we don't deserve much but that doesn't stop people from thinking they are entitled to soo much and that they deserve all sorts of blessings, good lives, and on and on. However, God tells us that we have all fallen short! We all have sinned! (Rom 3:23). And He goes on to tell us in Rom 6:23 - "When people sin, they earn what sin pays—death. But God gives his people a free gift—eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord." (easy to read). So in all honesty we deserve death and we deserve separation from God who is Holy and Perfect! But God gives us a way to Him and a way to Life by accepting Jesus as Lord and Savior of our lives! So be grateful you and I don't get what we Deserve and instead God gives us Grace and Eternal Life! If you found this podcast beneficial, please take a minute to leave a review and then share it with someone whom you think can benefit from it. Follow me on Instagram at: Micah - https://www.instagram.com/micahmurphree You can contact me by email: micahmurphree@gmail.com If you would rather watch the podcast, you can watch them on YouTube here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5FShL4iZqwVQDBLxPy0MVg/ If you want to see more about me and my crazy family, check out our family vlog here(Murph Squad Family): https://www.youtube.com/c/MurphSquadFamilyVlog And if you would like to financially support this ministry and podcast; you can do so at Patreon. Here is the link: https://www.patreon.com/micahmurphree

10-Minute Food Truck Training
Pearson Street Part Three: Burgers Deserve Cheese

10-Minute Food Truck Training

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 11:31


Special guests: Chris and Kris Pearson owners of Pearson Street Smashburgers and Melts. Follow one of the best social media accounts for a food truck. https://www.facebook.com/pearsonstreet01 See the YouTuber Brian Eng's review of their amazing food. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9jm7PtVtbE Got questions about the industry? Get on my schedule for a free one-hour no obligation call. https://calendly.com/bill_moore/hour-consultation Check out the best Food Truck group on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/FoodTruckTraining Brand new to food trucking? Check out our training course that comes with 8 hours of one-on-one training. https://www.moorebetterperformance.com/food-truck-101.html For old school folks that like reading books I have you covered as well with a 300 plus page textbook and an optional study guide. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1697684467 We have video training on our YouTube channel. https://www.youtube.com/c/ foodvendorreality Support the pod with a monthly donation. https://anchor.fm/food-truck-training/support Or offer one time support here. https://www.moorebetterperformance.com/store/p7/10_Minute_Food_Truck_Training_Pod_Cast_Support.html --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/food-truck-training/support

Sermons
You don't deserve it

Sermons

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 3:28


BEYOND BARRIERS
Episode 186: Building The Future You Deserve With Applied Materials' Susan Winchester

BEYOND BARRIERS

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 13, 2021 38:42


Do you ever feel that you are not good enough at work? Well, you are not alone. All over the world, billions of people go to work every day feeling anxious, defensive, isolated, braced for attack, overwhelmed, uncertain that they're worthy. The good news is that there are actions you can take to disrupt those patterns so that you can build the future you deserve. Meet Susan Winchester, Senior Vice President, Chief Human Resources Officer for Applied Materials, whose passion is teaching and inspiring executives, leaders and professionals how to succeed by discovering greater self-acceptance, fulfillment and joy at work and in life. Susan shares her career journey and how learning to identify and address her limiting beliefs allowed her to step onto a conscious healing career path. Susan has more than 30 years of experience in HR providing executive leadership most recently as Head of HR for Rockwell Automation and prior to that in multiple leadership roles for the Kellogg Company. She continually looks to meet today's global business challenges with creative HR strategies that engage people, support a dynamic, inclusive corporate culture, and enable company exceptional performance. Susan is also the author of the book, Healing at Work: A Guide to Using Career Conflicts to Overcome Your Past and Build the Future You Deserve, with Martha I. Finney. In this episode, Susan shares why it is important to identify our limiting beliefs, the 3-step process to managing conflicts at work, and why self-acceptance is the key to creating a more joyful world for ourselves. Visit https://www.iambeyondbarriers.com where you will find show notes and links to all the resources in this episode, including the best way to get in touch with Susan. Highlights: [02:49] Susan's journey [05:23] Overcoming limiting beliefs [11::06] Three step process to managing a bumper car moment [15:04] Understanding our triggers and disrupting patterns [24:20] Teaching self-acceptance [28:03] Recognizing dysfunction [33:29] Susan's message to our listeners Quotes: “There is an opportunity to become aware of your limiting beliefs and disrupt past patterns and discharge that emotional energy in moments when you are triggered.” – Susan Winchester “You have a choice every day on whether your inner critic or inner coach will be in charge of your day.” - – Susan Winchester About Susan Winchester: Susan Schmitt Winchester is the Senior Vice President, Chief Human Resources Officer for Applied Materials, a Fortune 200 Silicon Valley company, and its more than 24,000 global employees. She has more than 30 years of experience in HR providing executive leadership most recently as Head of HR for Rockwell Automation and prior to that in multiple leadership roles for the Kellogg Company. She continually looks to meet today's global business challenges with creative HR strategies that engage people, support a dynamic, inclusive corporate culture, and enable company exceptional performance. Her passion is teaching and inspiring executives, leaders and professionals how to succeed by discovering greater self-acceptance, fulfillment and joy at work and in life. Susan is also the author of the book, Healing at Work: A Guide to Using Career Conflicts to Overcome Your Past and Build the Future You Deserve, with Martha I. Finney. Additionally, Susan is a fellow of the National Academy of Human Resources—the highest professional honor for leaders in HR. She serves as a Board member for the HR Policy Association and on the Executive Committee of the Peer Roundtable for CHROs. She is Vice Chair, Leadership Advisory Board to the Dean of Engineering, College of Engineering at the University of Michigan. And Susan is a member of the Forbes HR Council. Links: Website: https://www.susanjschmitt.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanschmittwinchester/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healingatwork/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HealingAtWork

May I Elaborate? Daily Wisdom from JB Smoove

Today JB Smoove and Miles remind you that there's nothing wrong with shooting for the stars. Today's Quote:“We can be grateful for what we have while also demanding what we deserve.” – Abby Wambach (A Year Of Gratitude: Inspiration For Living Life As A Gift, Workman Publishing). Follow JB on Twitter.Follow Miles on Twitter.Keep up with Team Coco Podcasts on Instagram.

On Point
Why science says you deserve to be happy

On Point

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 48:09


What determines your happiness? We talk about why science says, even with every problem in the world right now, you deserve to be happy. Laurie Santos and Jack Beatty join Meghna Chakrabarti.

Locked On Hawkeyes
Iowa Hawkeyes deserve to move up in AP Poll plus Riley Moss injury updates and analyzing Tyler Goodson's success on the ground

Locked On Hawkeyes

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 30:02


The Iowa Hawkeyes moved up to #2 in the AP Poll after a huge win over the Penn State Nittany Lions. We discuss why national media doesn't like it, and why their opinions don't matter because they can't see the big picture. Iowa wins ugly, and they win with great special teams which is the Moneyball way of winning for a program like Iowa. We also have a developing story on Riley Moss' injury based on the recently released depth chart so we break down who might be stepping up before getting into recruiting updates with Xavier Nwankpa. We wrap up the show with a quick dive into the analytics including when the Iowa football team was successful on the ground with star runningback Tyler Goodson. Support Us By Supporting Our Sponsors!SweatBlock Get it today for 20% off at SweatBlock.com with promo code LockedOn, or at Amazon and CVS. Built Bar Built Bar is a protein bar that tastes like a candy bar. Go to builtbar.com and use promo code “LOCKED15,” and you'll get 15% off your next order. BetOnline AG There is only 1 place that has you covered and 1 place we trust. Betonline.ag! Sign up today for a free account at betonline.ag and use that promocode: LOCKEDON for your 50% welcome bonus. Rock Auto Amazing selection. Reliably low prices. All the parts your car will ever need. Visit RockAuto.com and tell them Locked On sent you. PrizePicks Don't hesitate, check out PrizePicks.com and use promo code: “LOCKEDON” or go to your app store and download the app today. PrizePicks is daily fantasy made easy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jesus 911
11 Oct 21 – We Get the Kings We Deserve

Jesus 911

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 51:15


Today's Topics: 1) Why do people believe that Adam and Eve ate an apple when the bible does not say so? Are apples evil fruit? 2, 3, 4) Scripture – The kings we deserve https://www.countdowntothekingdom.com/scripture-the-kings-we-deserve/

Ball Game Times
Newcastle Takeover, International Football & Did Ronaldo Deserve POTM Award Over Mo Salah?

Ball Game Times

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 32:30


Football fanatics. Welcome back to Ball Game Times Podcast. With Basel unavailable, Mubarak sat down with Iyanuoluwa (Chelsea fan) and Abdul-Azeez (Arsenal fan) to discuss the Newcastle takeover, Ronaldo clinching September‘s Premier League player of the month award, while taking a trip down memory lane to some of the coolest celebrations in football. They also touched on some international football, including; Italy's 37-game unbeaten run coming to an end in the hands of Spain in the semifinals of the UEFA Nations League and Central African Republic pulling off the biggest upset against Nigeria's Super Eagles in the CAF World Cup qualifiers. Before rounding it off with Claudio Ranieri's appointment as Watford manager and Barcelona's ongoing struggles under Ronald Koeman. WHICH FOOTBALLER HAS GOT THE COOLEST CELEBRATION EVER IN YOUR OPINION? – Head over to our Spotify community or hit our DMs on Twitter and Instagram @ballgametimes. Follow our personal handles (Twitter and IG): @MubbDeep @alhasani_basel and be sure to subscribe to us on your preferred podcast streaming platform so you never miss an upload. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ballgametimes/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ballgametimes/support

Mental Beauty
You deserve better

Mental Beauty

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 32:42


Don't allow pride to keep you in an abusive relationship# --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/yolanda-key/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/yolanda-key/support

Locked On Diamondbacks - Daily Podcast On The Arizona Diamondbacks
Does Wander Franco deserve to be in the Rookie of the Year conversation?

Locked On Diamondbacks - Daily Podcast On The Arizona Diamondbacks

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 26:14


Millard Thomas is joined by JT Shorter once again where they break down their picks for Rookie of the Year and Coach of the Year. Support Us By Supporting Our Sponsors! Built Bar Built Bar is a protein bar that tastes like a candy bar. Go to builtbar.com and use promo code “LOCKED15,” and you'll get 15% off your next order. BetOnline AG There is only 1 place that has you covered and 1 place we trust. Betonline.ag! Sign up today for a free account at betonline.ag and use that promocode: LOCKEDON for your 50% welcome bonus. Rock Auto Amazing selection. Reliably low prices. All the parts your car will ever need. Visit RockAuto.com and tell them Locked On sent you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

F*ck Silence with Joe Walsh
125. We Get What We Deserve

F*ck Silence with Joe Walsh

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 26:28


It's sometimes said that we get the government that we deserve, which raises the question, "What responsibility do we the people bear for our divided nation?" I try to answer that question in this episode.

Truth To You
What We Don't Deserve

Truth To You

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 8:11


Genesis 8

WEEI at Night
Mut at Night: Does Chaim Bloom or Alex Cora deserve more credit for the Red Sox making the ALDS; Bradfo joins the show. 10-06-21

WEEI at Night

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 38:05


Hour 4: Mut is joined by Bradfo to start the final hour to talk about the Red Sox victory over the Yankees in the AL Wild Card. They also talk about the upcoming ALDS matchup against the Rays. Does Bill Belichick deserve all of the blame for the Stephon Gilmore situation? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Straight Garbage
Not only did he deserve it, but he earned it! Part 2

Straight Garbage

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 78:08


My ferrets nuts are how big? Let's make a puppet! Why have 3 cats if they won't catch any mice, maybe coyotes will work. Gassing gofers and reaching up under the mower: how to lose gingers. What janky vet cut my dogs balls off and left him with this Frankenstein looking vagina scar, oh, it was Mitch

Dirty Devotional
108 | Do They Deserve Your Love?

Dirty Devotional

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 11:14


Thank you for listening to the Dirty Devotional Podcast! This is episode 108 and I hope today you feel seen, known, and loved by a real God.In today's devotional, we ask the question, "Are the people in my life that hurt me deserve my love?"Also, be sure to follow us on Facebook or Instagram @dirtydevotionalBe Blessed!

The Onside Zone with Big O
Podcast Wednesday - Chris Grier And Brian Flores Deserve Opportunity To Fix It 10 06 2021

The Onside Zone with Big O

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 2:36


Big O on if Grier & Flores are fired this season.

New Fab You Show Podcast with the fabulous Dorris Burch
Do You Believe You Deserve with The Fabulous Dorris Burch – New Fab You Show Episode 72

New Fab You Show Podcast with the fabulous Dorris Burch

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 12:21


ADDRESS THE INNER STUFF. Decide you can have what you desire... therefore what you deserve, whatever you long for, because you decided to and that's it. Period, The End! 'Decide?' 'Yep. That's it. I mean ... obviously, there's a lot more that can be said, but really it all just comes back to decision'.

Doug & Wolf Show Audio
Wolf & Luke discuss if Kliff Kingsbury and Steve Keim will get the credit they deserve

Doug & Wolf Show Audio

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 39:15


Wolf and Luke discuss if Kliff Kingsbury and Steve Keim will get the credit they deserve if the Cardinals continue their winning ways. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

rePROs Fight Back
A Patchwork of Access: Young People Deserve Better

rePROs Fight Back

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 38:27


Young people deserve access to comprehensive sexual and reproductive healthcare—but those needs aren't always easy to acquire in the United States. Diana Thu-Thao Rhodes, Vice President of Policy, Partnerships, and Organizing at Advocates for Youth, sits down to talk with us about the barriers young people face when in need of sex education and sexual and reproductive health services.Young people's access to sex education in the United States isn't a pretty picture; a patchwork of legislation at the federal and state level impact sex education, meaning there isn't an overarching federal bill that mandates safe sex education. State policies include a wide-range of practices—for example, 39 states and D.C. mandate some form of sex education or HIV education, but what is included in those lesson plans vary across the country. State-by-state and school-district-by-school-district lessons could be abstinence-based, abstinence-stressed, or must include teachings on certain topics, leading to entirely different education experiences based on where young people live and go to school. On top of facing a patchwork of sex education legislation, young people feel disproportionate barriers to accessible sexual and reproductive healthcare. Many young people may not feel that they can make their parents aware of their healthcare needs, may not have access to transportation or money, or may not feel supported by the current health infrastructure where they live if they are transgender or gender expansive. Similar barriers make young people jump through a variety of hoops to access abortion care, as well. In addition, if a young person does not want to inform a parent or guardian in a state that requires parental notification, young people must seek a judicial bypass, a legal process that necessitates permission from a judge to receive the procedure. Six-week abortion bans, like the one recently passed in Texas, will undoubtedly and unduly impact young people who need access to abortion care. To better support young people in their access to sexual and reproductive healthcare and sex education, we must advocate for policies that ensure young people's confidentiality when accessing sexual health services, pass legislation that expands sexual health service access across the country such as the Real Education and Access for Healthy Youth Act (REAHYA) and the Women's Health Protection Act (WHPA), address state-by-state patchwork comprehensive sex education legislation, remove forced parental-involvement laws, allowance of over-the-counter oral contraception without age restriction, and strengthen protections for LGBTQ youth and gender-affirming healthcare. A culture shift is required to support the health and rights of young people—young people's sexuality is a natural part of adolescent development and cannot be shamed, ignored, or met with silence. LinksAdvocates for Youth on TwitterAdvocates for Youth on FacebookAbortion Out Loud campaign Free The Pill campaignSupport the show (https://www.reprosfightback.com/take-action#donate)

Light After Trauma
Episode 63: "I Don't Deserve To Heal" with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

Light After Trauma

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 5, 2021 32:45


Have you ever felt like you just don't deserve to be happy? Or more specifically, have you ever found yourself having self-harm urges or feeling suicidal after someone is genuinely kind to you? If so, you are not alone. Tune in to understand the reasons why this might happen as well as how you can train your brain to start accepting love and kindness. Support the podcast and the movement! Light After Trauma website Transcript:   Alyssa Scolari [00:23]: Hey, Warriors, what's up? And welcome back to another episode of The Light After Trauma podcast. I am your host, Alyssa Scolari ,and I am honored to be here with you. We're doing a solo episode today. So some housekeeping things first. I just wanted to say thank you so so much for 15,000 downloads on the podcast. I am blown away and continue to be blown away. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. That was a really exciting milestone. Alyssa Scolari [00:56]: The other thing I wanted to say is head on over, if you haven't done so already, to my Instagram page lightaftertrauma is the handle. So it's just the exact same title as the podcast. And check out some of the content and let me know what you think. If there's more you want to see. I have really been boosting the amount of content and really putting it out there. I'm trying to put out content about four days a week and I'm also going to be doing an Instagram live this Thursday, October 7th, at 8:00 PM Eastern time. So that's Eastern standard time. I would love it if you could make it. Even if you can pop in for only 30 seconds to just say hi, I would love to meet you. This is my first official Instagram live. So I'm really excited for it. Alyssa Scolari [01:50]: And yeah, I can't wait to meet the folks who have been listening to the podcast because it feels like I have a bunch of friends out there. And I know I've said this before, but it just feels like I have so many friends out there, but I don't know their names. And I would love to just talk to you. And thank you personally, we're talking about stress management on the Instagram live, so I'm going to share some stress management tips because Lord knows we all need it. Alyssa Scolari [02:14]: So that's this Thursday, October 7th at 8:00 PM. Eastern Standard Time. I will be on Instagram live, feel free to come join. The Instagram handle is lightaftertrauma and thank you always for your support and your love. I love you all so much. And also if you haven't done so already, please leave a rating or review for the podcast. The more ratings we get, the more we grow and the wider audience we reach so that we can give even more free content to people all around the world. Alyssa Scolari [02:49]: So if you are a listener of the podcast and you like what you're hearing, or if you hate what you're hearing and you want things to be different, just go leave an honest review. Let me know your thoughts. I would be honored to hear from you because this podcast really is for you. So yeah. Please leave a review. I would really appreciate it. Alyssa Scolari [03:12]: Okay. So today, so I cannot take credit for the inspiration for the topic of today's episode. This topic came from a podcast listener, so thank you. I will not name their name because they did not give me permission to do so. So you know who you are. I told you I was going to be doing an episode about this topic this week. Thank you so much for reaching out and sending me an email. It was great to connect with you. Alyssa Scolari [03:42]: So today we are talking about feeling like you don't deserve to heal and feeling like you don't deserve nice things or compliments or healthy relationships, or really any kind of genuine relationship. Feeling like you just deserve loneliness and heartbreak because that is the narrative that you grew up believing because that is what you had experienced for of your life. Alyssa Scolari [04:22]: I love this topic because it really resonates with me. When I first started my recovery journey and I was in therapy, my therapist, who was truly not, she's not the greatest at all. And she did a lot of harmful things and this was one of them. When I started this process and started uncovering a lot of repressed memories, I was in a spiral. I was going out of my mind. They were definitely some of the worst years of my life and, dare I say, at many points I often remember saying to my therapist or my husband, "This process is actually harder than experiencing the trauma itself." And that's not a fact. That's just my lived experience is that having to like work through it and having all those memories come to the surface so much harder than the trauma itself. Again, that's just my experience. Alyssa Scolari [05:28]: So when all of this started happening and I started having all these memories flood back, my therapist was really good at showering me with compliments. Which, I think that there's a debate on whether or not therapists should be constantly complimenting their patients. I think it depends on the type of compliment. It depends on the goal of the compliment. But my therapist, wasn't very good at holding space for me being in that spot. She very much wanted me to be healed and happy and she wanted me to immediately see how wonderful I was and be done. And I wasn't there. It was going to me a long time to get there. But in that process, all of her compliments, and when I say compliments I mean things like, "Look at how well you're doing. Look at how you're still functioning in life even though you've been through so much." Alyssa Scolari [06:35]: Let's see, what else did she say? Oh, she was full of them. "Look at what a wonderful family you have. Look at the husband that you have." She used to talk about my husband like, "He's such a wonderful guy and you did all of these things. You have this amazing, wonderful life now." And what I noticed was happening for me is the more she talked about how amazing my life is, right? She would kind of say, "Yes, this trauma happened. These terrible things happened, but your life is so amazing now." And the more she would say that to me, the worse I would get when it came to self harm, any kind of like self-deprecating, the self-deprecation increased. Really all the self-destructive behaviors skyrocketed. And I noticed this pattern early on, but I didn't quite understand it enough. Alyssa Scolari [07:33]: So I wasn't really able to talk to my therapist about it at the time because I didn't understand what was going on. But it wasn't just my therapist. Right? It was anybody in my life. If somebody would say, particularly the words, "I'm proud of you," were really hard for me to hear. And if somebody would say that I would spiral. I can recall a time where, so I have, had a supervisor, I should say. My supervisor has now blossomed into a wonderful friend and mentor, Rebecca Christensen. She's been on the podcast before. She's amazing. She's just, she's an angel on earth is really what I can say about Rebecca. Alyssa Scolari [08:21]: But you know, when I first started meeting with Rebecca and she helped me ultimately open up my private practice and she would often say, "I am so proud of you for doing this. I am so proud of you for doing that." And don't get me wrong. She didn't mean anything about it. She had no idea that I was panicking when I would hear those words and neither did anybody else, so this is not a blame game. My therapist definitely knew. So I do place the appropriate amount of blame on her, but for everybody else, this is not a blame game. Alyssa Scolari [08:56]: So she would say all the time, Rebecca, "I'm really proud of you. Look at all you're doing. You're amazing. You're going to do great things in life." And I would, she might say that in a text message. And I would not be able to look at it. If I were to open up my phone and I could see like the, the first, I don't know, whatever, three to five words of the text. And if I could tell that it was a compliment, I would have to shut my phone off and put it down and I couldn't look at it. Alyssa Scolari [09:25]: And then I would start to panic. And then I would call for David. And then I would usually end up crying or having a panic attack. And then eventually I would read the kind message and I would have another panic attack. And then I would talk to David about it incessantly. And I would be like, "Well, David, what does this mean? Do people actually think that I'm kind? Do people actually think I'm a good person? How can this be?" And then I would say, "Well, David, they just don't know the truth. They just don't know what I'm really like. They just don't know how evil I am, how insane I am." Alyssa Scolari [10:09]: Because I truly thought that I was in every sense of the word, insane. That all of the memories that were coming back were false and that something just broke in my brain. So I said to David all the time, "These people who are showering me with compliments and telling me I'm a good therapist, they just don't know the real me. And if they really knew what I was like, they would hate as much as I hate me." Alyssa Scolari [10:42]: How sad is that? I take a moment to pause and reflect on that because I was fighting for my life and I couldn't even tell how amazing I was doing it. It wasn't until, let me think. Yeah. You know, it, it wasn't really until the last year or so. And I attribute so much of my healing to this podcast. Hasn't really been until the last year that I have been able to sit with compliments. So I'm sure that I'm not alone in this. And I know I'm not because the podcast listener, that I was referring to earlier, emailed me and told me that this is one of the most difficult things for them. And I could not agree more in the beginning when I was first understanding everything I had been through and trying to make sense of it all. I couldn't hear that I was a great person. Alyssa Scolari [11:40]: I couldn't hear how strong I was, because I didn't even know if what I was remembering really happened. Or if what I was remembering was just some figment of my imagination. And I think a lot of trauma survivors feel that way. Whether or not we repressed our abuse or not. Whether or not we have repressed trauma or we have a full memory of it, I think a lot of us feel this way. Well, what if I made something up? Well, what if I could have done something differently when I was traumatized and then nothing bad would've happened to me? Alyssa Scolari [12:15]: We find ways in our head all the time to make the trauma our fault, because that gives us a sense of control. And it makes us feel like we could have done something about it. So I just couldn't handle it. And I know that I would resort to binge eating really before, before I was able to recover from my eating disorder, lots of compliments and lots of praise and lots of attention would often result in binge eating and occasionally cutting. Alyssa Scolari [12:46]: But I would say more so binge eating to try to stuff down any of the feelings that were coming up from me when I was having somebody genuinely love me and care for me. I couldn't tolerate it. And I'm sure a lot of us are wondering, right? Like, "Well, why?" Like, "Yes, I do that too. You know? Yes, I also can't take a compliment. Why is that? I get really uncomfortable when people will praise me or compliment me. Why am I like that?" And let's break it down on the most basic, like a fundamental level. Alyssa Scolari [13:21]: So when we look at your brain structure, when you have complex trauma and you have a history of being invalidated, unheard, unseen, gaslit, made to feel like your voice doesn't matter. If you've been sexually abused, physically abused, emotionally abused, whatever it's been, your brain develops., especially if you experience this as a child, that changes the development of your brain. So without getting too technical, because I am a brain nerd and I could absolutely go off on this, but I won't. So without getting too technical, what happens is your brain develops and gets to this sort of homeostasis where it is so used to the invalidation. Alyssa Scolari [14:18]: It is used to being ignored. We are used to being unheard. So, you know, somebody gas lights us. We're like, "Yep. That's just one more person trying to fuck with my head." Somebody sexually abuses us. We're like, "Yep. That's just one more person who doesn't respect my body." Doesn't mean that it's not traumatizing. Please don't misunderstand me because it is all extremely traumatizing. But when you're in it and you're in the thick of it, we learn to expect the worst things to happen to us. "Well, yeah, of course my mom said that to me." Or, "Of course my dad said that to me. That's what he said his whole life. That's just dad. That's just what he does." Alyssa Scolari [15:06]: So we sort of developed this pattern of accepting the abuse and accepting things that people say that hurt us. Shit, if I could go back now and talk back to all of the people who have ever said horrible things. Whew. I wish I could. I wish I could. And, and sometimes I have, right? Sometimes I have. But I know for so many of us, we can't and back then, I know for me, I was just like, "Yep, this is one more person who has let me down or disappointed me. Or one more person who has crossed a boundary, but I don't feel of comfortable speaking up or I'm not going to say anything because you know what, that's what people do. People don't respect my boundaries. So I'm used to it." Alyssa Scolari [15:58]: So then you have somebody come along, and a lot of times it's your therapist, because we talk about this stuff in therapy all the time. It's a little bit easier to brush off compliments from friends because we're just like, "Ah, yeah. You're my friend. I know you like me. Whatever." A kind of take it for granted type of thing. But when we finally go to therapy and we are getting treatment and our therapist is genuinely proud of us. Or we we can tell that whatever was said, whatever that therapist said, gave us this message that they genuinely care. That they genuinely want us to get better. That they genuinely see the good in us our brains initially are kind of like, "We're not used to this. What is this? Somebody respecting my boundaries? Oh no, I can't handle it." Alyssa Scolari [16:53]: And then what happens? Right? We panic. Oftentimes we feel guilty. Oftentimes we get extremely uncomfortable. We feel shame. And we just kind of want that moment to be over. And we want to brush it under the rug, because we're really uncomfortable. Sometimes it gets even worse where that comment kind of sits in our brain. And then we feel like we have to self destruct because it's like, "Nah, my therapist said that to me. And that can't be true. That can't be true. My therapist just doesn't really understand what a monster I am. So I'm going to show them what a monster I am." And a lot of this is subconscious. I want to point that out. Right? I don't think any of this for most people is like a conscious stream of thought that we sit in. Alyssa Scolari [17:39]: It's like, "Well, how can I show my therapist what a monster I am?" I do think a lot of this is subconscious and for me it certainly was subconscious. So our brains simply can't tolerate it because it is so new. And the brain on trauma is very hypervigilant. It is extra wired for protection. So when we are receiving information that is brand new to us, we automatically label it as a threat, even though it's a compliment, right? Even though it's something like, "Hey, Alyssa, I just really love the way that you are so resilient and you keep going and you keep getting up and you're able to also work through your own shit and be there for other people. I think that's amazing. You're doing great things in this world." Alyssa Scolari [18:26]: Oh, I'm cringing. I'm cringing as I say it. Cringing as I say it, because it is so hard and my brain is like, "No, that can't be right. That can't be right. We're not used to receiving this kind of information." So even though it's good stuff, my brain is hearing that and going, "Ugh, no, no, no, no, no. This must be a threat. This must be a threat." And then what happens when your body perceives a threat, right? You go into fight, flight, freeze, or falling. And we panic or we self destruct or we shut down or we kind of just laugh because we don't know what else to do. Or we kind of mimic the facial expressions of the person next to us because that's what's supposed to keep us the safest. Alyssa Scolari [19:10]: So that is, breaking it down on a fundamental level, that is why this happens. So the good news is this changes. It has certainly changed for me. I had somebody text me, I want to say, what's today? It's Sunday, October 3rd, when I'm recording. So I had somebody text me on Friday, October 1st. And this person was somebody that I used to work with a few years back and she follows me on social media and she texted me only to say, "I am so proud of you. And I hope that one day I can be half the clinician that you are." And man, that was amazing to hear. Alyssa Scolari [20:08]: But I have to say that if this were to two years ago, I would've not been able to tolerate it. I would've started sobbing and I would've showed David and I would've had a panic attack. And I would've said, "She doesn't know the real me. She does not know the real me." But today I open up my phone and I see that and I go, "Oh man, this is awesome." Alyssa Scolari [20:39]: This is somebody who did not have to do that. With as busy as everybody is, people don't have time for compliments. People usually just make time for the complaints. People are so much more likely to complain than compliment someone. So for her to find the time out of her busy day to pick up her phone and compliment me when it's, doesn't really, it's not going to affect her. Right? This was a completely selfless act, as small as it might seem, it actually feels really big to me. And I just smiled and I teared up a little bit, but I teared up because I'm just so grateful and very humbled by the love that I've received, but I can tolerate it now. Alyssa Scolari [21:34]: And the reason I can tolerate it is because of this podcast. So it does get better. What you are doing by trying to sit with people saying kind things to you and trying to accept people saying kind things to you and trying to accept relationships where people respect your boundaries you are rewiring your brain. Alyssa Scolari [22:03]: Your brain is forming new neural pathways all the time through this process called myelination and, I believe I said that correctly, if I didn't someone correct me, but I believe the process is called myelination. Where your brain is forming these new neural pathways. And the more we allow ourselves to be around people who shower us with love and affection, unconditional love, I should say, and kindness, the more our brain is rewiring itself. So that now when it receives that information, when it gets that input, it goes, "Oh, we know what this is. This actually, isn't a threat. This is good stuff. So we're going to file this away as a really good moment and not a moment to freak out and panic." So I really hope that makes sense. And unfortunately the process of rewiring your brain it takes a long time. Alyssa Scolari [23:09]: You know, the great news is that it can be done it. I am living proof that it can be done. The brain is neuroplasticity, right? That means that the brain is constantly changing and evolving. So in the same way that your brain learned that only boundary crossing and abuse and gas lighting was safe, that's the same way in which we can learn that unconditional love and affection and genuine compliments are safe. It takes time and it takes practice. So what does that look like? Right. It's nice to talk about that in theory, right? "Oh yeah. Okay, great. My brain needs to rewire itself, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." But what are some things we can do to work on that? Because it takes work, right? It's not just something we're going to wake up one day and go, "Oh God, look. I can accept these compliments now and I can accept healing. And I can accept that. I'm getting a little bit better." Alyssa Scolari [24:12]: Could be because it's not just, and I should say this, I should have said this from the beginning, but it's not just compliments, right? It's the healing process. It's anything positive in our lives, right? It's healing when we're getting better. When normally a triggering situation would've made us self destruct or self harm or use our eating disorders. And then in this instance, we didn't, and we overcame this triggering situation without self-harming, all of that, right? Any kind of steps towards healing, healing your brain, healing your nervous system, healing your relationships, and your social life. All of it can be difficult. So what are some things that we can do when we notice that we are starting to have better people in our life, or when we notice that we're starting to not self destruct, when time get tough, what can we do? Alyssa Scolari [25:09]: Here are some things that I did. So one of the things that a lot of DBT skills, which I'm sure many of you may be familiar with, I know that I've talked about them before on the podcast. So DBT stands for Dialectical Behavior Therapy and DBT is really wonderful for like distressed tolerance and has really effective coping skills. And honestly, I hate the word coping skills because I think it's just so hard to use coping skills when you're triggered. And it's so hard to find coping skills that are actually good and effective, but I can say, I promise you, DBT skills are where it's at and go a really long way in helping to sit with this kind of stuff. So DBT skills are meant for like, well, they're not meant just for self harm, but they definitely are used in self harm. Alyssa Scolari [26:08]: And that's really what this process is, is you're having a really great healing experience or a really great interaction with somebody and your brain is perceiving that as a threat and therefore self-destructing. So for me, I find that what helps is sitting with it and trying to talk through what exactly is happening inside of my brain and why I'm perceiving this as such a threat. And sometimes I can't, right? Sometimes that like good interaction is way too much for me. And that's when I have to do other stuff, which is like, "Okay, I'm going to sit with this, but I'm also going to go take a bath." Or, "I'm also going to go take a walk." Or sometimes what we need to do is distract. And that can be key. Alyssa Scolari [27:05]: A lot of times, that's what I need to do. And the thing for me is as much as I want to distract, I don't want to forget about it because it really is special to me when somebody is kind to me. Or when I have a really good interaction with somebody it's very, very special to me. So while my system might not be able to tolerate it in that moment, I very much want to come back to it. So what I have found most helpful is I will write it down. Whether I keep like a note in my phone, or if it's a text message, I'll take a screenshot and then I will immediately distract it with somebody else or with something else or somebody, right? I'll talk to my husband or I'll be playing with the dogs, or I will, a really big fan of Epsom salt baths. Or we'll just go to the gym. Or we'll kind of go read emails if I'm in the middle of a work today. Alyssa Scolari [28:02]: But writing it down really how helps me to be able to like put it someplace and then kind of move on with my day. So it's like, "Okay, my system can't tolerate this right now. So I'm going to distract. I'm going to do something that's going to calm my nervous system." Whatever that might be. Also another big one making a hot cup of tea. Ugh. So soothing to me. So do things to soothe your nervous system, if you can't tolerate it. Alyssa Scolari [28:29]: And I know that that sounds kind of silly, right? Like why should I have to try to calm my nervous system or use coping skills because I received a compliment? But again, it goes back to the way your brain is wired, which as a result of trauma, your brain is wired so that you're used to being shit on. But when somebody is actually respectful, your brain's like, "Uh oh, what is this?" Right? It really should be the opposite in folks without a history of trauma they're used to people respecting them. And then when somebody is disrespectful, then they're nervous system gets dysregulated and their brain is like, "Rut oh, this is a threat." Alyssa Scolari [29:10]: So sitting with those feelings, trying to work them through, going through DBT skills, I won't go through all of them. I think that a lot of sensory stuff is really helpful for me. Whether it's cold water, whether it's, like I said, a hot cup of tea, whether it's a massage, an infrared sauna, I'm a very sensory oriented person. So you can Google DBT coping skills and you can find a list of skills. And again, I know that that might sound like a lot of work, but I am telling you it is so, so worth it. Alyssa Scolari [29:47]: And over time, as you continue to be able to incorporate this new information into your body and into your brain, this new information that tells you, "Oh, hey, maybe I am not a horrible human being after all. Maybe I'm just a person who had terrible things happen to them." It will get easier and easier to accept wonderful interactions. And it will be easier and easier to accept your healing. And you will find yourself craving healing and you will find yourself feeling worthy and deserving of healing. Alyssa Scolari [30:28]: So I hope that that helps spread some awareness and insight as to why it is so hard for people to take a compliment or for people to have a genuinely a good interaction with other people in this world. Why we self sabotage with our healing sometimes because it's really difficult, right? The trauma is hard, but the healing is hard too. So I know that I'm not alone in this, as I said earlier, and you are not alone in it either. It's really difficult, but you can get there and you will get there. Alyssa Scolari [31:07]: So with that said, I hope that everybody has a wonderful week. Remember again, I am going live on Instagram this Thursday at 8:00 PM. Eastern time again, that is this Thursday, October 7th. My Instagram handle is lightaftertrauma. Be sure to go check that out as there is lots of great stuff on that page now. We're really rolling out the content and I am holding you all in the light. My husband has brought home some Rita's water ice. So I am going to go chill out with him, have some Rita's and enjoy my Sunday night. Wishing you all the best. Take great care. Alyssa Scolari [31:47]: Thanks for listening everyone. For more information, please head over to lightaftertrauma.com or you can also follow us on social media. On Instagram. We are @lightaftertrauma and on Twitter. It is @lightafterpod. Lastly, please head over to patreon.com/lightafter trauma to support our show. We are asking for $5 a month, which is the equivalent to a cup of coffee at Starbucks. So please head on over. Again, that's paton.com/lightaftertrauma. Thank you. And we appreciate your support.

The Get More Podcast
Does Everyone Deserve The Basics- Money Monday

The Get More Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2021 21:52


Do you belive that all people deserve to have the basics in life? Housing, food, transportation and health care? Why or why not? Lets have the conversation. If you agree tell me what it would look like for you and if you disagree let me know why? Cassie Moore: Host of the The Get More Podcast, Felines and Finance blogger, money coach and card carrying cat lady forever.  On a mission to empower women to take control of their finances, get out of debt and fall in love with money. Having paid off 48K in debt in 19 months using her Signature Budget Blueprint which blends practical money management with soulful purchases, instead of the typical shame filled forced changes. You can have it all when it comes to money, saving, spending and enjoying yourself.  Instagram @cassieannemoore  Clubhouse @cassmooremoney Blog:  https://tinyurl.com/felinesandfinances (https://tinyurl.com/felinesandfinances)

The Faviolous Podcast
The Love We Deserve

The Faviolous Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 4, 2021 12:19


In this episode Faviola takes a step further in finding our soulmate, by talking about the love we deserve. Just because we are looking for a soulmate doesn't mean we won't attract negative love. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Psychology In Seattle Podcast
You Deserve Accolades

Psychology In Seattle Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2021 77:16


Dr. Kirk answers emails. Become a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactGet merch: https://teespring.com/stores/psychology-in-seattleDr. Kirk's Cameo: https://www.cameo.com/kirkhondaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Discord: https://discord.gg/6QR4sE8x9KReddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/PsychologyInSeattle/Twitter: https://twitter.com/PsychInSeattleFacebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/Facebook Fan Page (run by fans): https://www.facebook.com/groups/112633189213033The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

The Sasquatch Lounge with Bart Scott
Ep. 55: Even Chubby Muggles Deserve A Chance to Fly

The Sasquatch Lounge with Bart Scott

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2021 81:24


Back from Universal Orlando with a new trip report, including another round of Halloween Horror Nights 30, lost of good good (and more good drinks), and a MAJOR personal accomplishment for a lifelong Harry Potter fan. And a new segment: Spooky News! 

The Morning Mess
The Morning Mess - You Deserve to be Fired

The Morning Mess

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2021 15:42


There was a massive astroid heading toward Earth, we're all still here so clearly it missed us... BUT NASA DIDN'T DETECT IT EARLY. So whoever was in charge of that should be fired... And so should Miranda! You have to hear her talking about how she slept her way to the top...  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.