Intermittent Philosophy

What might happen if we decided to step into the understanding that nothing is simply one thing and that everything has layers? For every ‘thing’ that we see as one is actually composed of many. What might we be able to understand, about ourselves and others, if we took a moment to step back from compartmentalizing and noticed the complexity of layers in our internal & external worlds?

Have you ever felt stuck in a belief, thought pattern, behaviour or even relationship because you felt like there wasn't another way? Narratives are a common part of our society. Narratives aren't necessarily good or bad. However, narratives can create suffering when we don't allow ourselves to remember that these narratives are ONE way, not the only way. The recognition that there are many narratives out there might be just the insight we need to get unstuck.

The cultural narrative that many of us grew up with focused on how much of a dog eat dog world it is out there. This false belief that it's every Man, Woman, child and household pet out for themselves is a great way to build a perception of total scarcity. In this episode SJ shares a different view. Have you ever sat back and contemplated how interdependence shows up in your life? How every single moment of your existence is actually only possible because of other people/things? If you've never spent time with this realization, now's your chance ;)

When we think of nourishment, most of us think of nutrition.  In this episode SJ offers some insight into a more wholistic understanding as to what nourishment really entails.  Spoiler alert: the foods we eat are only part of what nourishes us as humans. 

Fair to say we live in an overstimulated society.  This episode brings to light how this constant search for stimulation might be negatively affecting our perception of things like monotony and 'the grind'. 

Limiting beliefs and self sabotaging behaviours are common. We all have them.  In this episode SJ breaks down WHY we cling to these destructive behaviours and what needs to happen in order to take our power back. 

Have you ever been so afraid of failure that you wouldn’t even take a chance?  I know I have been guilty of this in the past.  In this episode SJ allows you the space to examine the situation from both sides.

We live in a time where we are lead to believe more is always better.  No only is more better, but we should also value fast over slow, so societal conditioning tells us. Fast and more are great when we are interested in building many shallow holes, but these traits aren't that useful when it comes to the deep inner work.  On this episode SJ breaks down how having too many cooks in your kitchen might be a sign of self sabotage on your part. 

We have all worn a 'mask' before in order to feel safe. As tribal beings, our sense of safety is directly influenced by our sense of love, connection and belonging.  Masking is our programming, so what might be a better option when it comes to building relationships?  If your curious to find out, this episode is for you. 

We live in a society of doing... and of numbing.  We live in a society where some forms of running and numbing are socially acceptable, while others are not.  In this episode SJ allows you the opportunity to get curious as to what your numbing agent of choice is and why you should are about learning to BE. 

You know those people in your life that really get you fired up? The ones that annoy you, frustrate you and/or push you to your limits? Those people are actually more on your team than you might know.  The purpose of this short & sweet episode is to offer you a reframe that places YOU back in control of your life, your actions and reactions. 

Have you ever said yes to something/someone out of the fear of hurting the other persons feelings? People pleasing is a very common learned behaviour which has always been my go to when it comes to self sabotage.  People pleasing has gotten me into some tricky situations. It wasn't until recently that I also realized there was a massive learning lesson behind the behaviour of people pleasing.  In this episode I share with you a major learning lesson I've had when it comes to my relationships and people pleasing. 

Story telling and mythology are the oldest forms of communication and education known to human kind.  Thanks to mythologist Joseph Campbell, a Hero's Journey was created when he noticed there was a similar flow to stories from all different cultures & societies throughout time.  In this episode SJ breaks down the 12 parts of the Hero's Journey and explains why you should care to know all the parts of this empowering cycle. 

We spend a lot of our daily time & energy making micro, and macro, decisions all day long.  What happens to our macro decisions when we spend too much energy making micro decisions? In this episode we are tackling decision fatigue and three simply ways you can limit it. 

In the modern world we are conditioned to live our lives in a constant search for comfort. Having any bit of discomfort is very frowned upon and has a certain negative stigma attached to it.  Is this societal belief beneficial to us, OR is it actually holding us back?  In this episode SJ breaks down how this constant need for comfort limits the amount of power we take in our lives, and how we can work towards taking our power back.

I come from a background of being a worry-connoisseur. Since I was a little girl worry became a type of safety net for me. Worry was a comfortable pain that I was almost dependent on.  In this episode I share with you a massive moment of aha, insight & appreciation I had in the summer  when I noticed the low hum of stress wasn't present in a situation when it would normally be deafening to me. 

The person sitting next to you right now is more connected to your life than you think, and the last stranger you seen at the mall has just as much connection to you as your BFF.  We are all connected in some way, which is why acting from a place of oneness is one of the smartest things you can do for yourself, especially from a business standpoint.  The days of scarcity and competitive living aren't as purposeful, or successful, as we once thought.  In this episode I want to share a new perceptive with you. I want to offer you the opportunity to put your conditioning on hold for a few minutes to notice that there might be a more purposeful, and beneficial,  way of doing things. 

As a society we have a very limiting view when it comes to failing, fears and triggers.  These three principles get unnecessary negative attention which can cause very limiting behaviours.  In this episode SJ breaks down WHY learning how to have an educational relationship with fear, failure & triggers will benefit you MUCH more than having an avoidance relationship with them.  At the end of the day, our most powerful teachers and the ones with the most stigma built around them. 

Have you ever tired something once, it didn't work the way you wanted it to, so you gave up? Or, have you ever tried something for a small period of time, but once again, it didn't work the way you wanted so you said screw it? As modern individuals we tend to only see benefit from investing our energies into things that can be guaranteed to us, with a seemingly instant turn around.  In this episode I get right to the point and show you how this  mindset can be highly limiting when it comes to our deeper internal work. 

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt that nagging, deep inner knowing, that something wasn't right while following the one size fits all 'success' life plan.  Success should be as diverse, and beautiful, as snowflakes are in nature. 

From start to finish I have created 30 episodes prior to this one. If you've listened to all 30 episodes, you would have learnt 30 new mindset tips to apply to your own life... that's ALOT. In this episode I share with you my biggest habit when it comes to self sabotage and why I am taking a break from publishing podcasts this summer.

Criticism is so complicated.  When a loved one is acting in a destructive way, would you say something to her out of love and caring? If you do, she might recognize your act of love and appreciate your opinion on the situation. Or, she might cut you down; who are you to criticize her, what right do you have? We get told to stay in our lanes and mind our own business all the time, which creates a very complicated scenario whenever we express our opinions.  In this episode I challenge you to take a new perspective on criticism and who’s actually to blame and how criticism doesn’t automatically default to a negative. 

We live in a world full of natural resources, some of which are infinite, and some of which are finite.  In grade school we are taught the difference between the two, but in this episode I want to offer you a new perspective on how you might be mislabelling a very integral concept = worth and worthiness. 

My mission, my purpose, and my PASSION is to empower others on their journeys.  I have been put on this Earth to show you that there is another way. Our conditioning plays a massive positive role in our lives, but it can also hold us back.  A common belief that held me back for a long time is that of guarantees. I spent a lot of time searching for guarantees in all of the wrong places as a means to cover up the truth.  If you’re ready to tackle the limiting belief that you can find guarantees outside of yourself, this episode is for you. 

Yin (stillness) and Yang (movement) can both have positive outcomes as well as negative outcomes. Duality surrounds us in all areas of life.  When have you taken the time to see where movement shows up in both your physical world and your mental world? What about stillness? You see we all have varying degrees of Yin and Yang in our lives, which is exactly how it should be. There is no master, one sized fits all, distribution of movement and stillness we should  strive for in order to be happy, authentic, or successful.  What we should be striving to understand instead,  is how both Yin and Yang show up in a positive fashion in our lives so that we can better cancel out how movement and stillness show up in self sabotaging ways for us.  If you're ready to do some balancing of the scales, this episode is for you. 

Hello Pothole Season. For those of you who live in an area where there is an extreme winter followed by summer, you get me on this. It's beautiful outside because the snow is melting, but driving is literally like playing real life Mario Kart trying to avoid potholes.  The thing is, we have a lot more control over how these pothole are going to effect us, and our cars, then we want to admit sometimes.  Tailgating and not paying attention are two of the main factors that limit our ability to doge the dangers that are literally right in front of us as we are driving during this time of year.  What about in your mental world? Are you tailgating the next best Guru you've found? Are you allowing yourself distance to actually decide how YOU want to drive your car?  This episode is all about gaining perspective so that we can all get back to stepping into the drivers seat of our own lives, because no-one will ever do it better than you can.

It doesn't matter what time of year you listen to this episode, you're going to learn something.  Easter is a great example of conflicting ideologies. Is the origin that of Christianity or a Pagan celebration of the changing of the seasons? Not only is the origin widely debated, the main modern day symbols of the holiday aren't as black and white as you might think.  Perspective is a tricky thing. We often forget that there is more than one point of view in any given situation. Understanding this allows us to move from a fixed mindset to that of a growth mindset. 

The world isn’t out to get you.  You aren’t powerless in your circumstances.  Or, maybe you are. Maybe right at this moment the world is really truly eating you alive, and you can’t seem to find any power within yourself. As hard as you try, you can’t see anything but the dark tunnel ahead of you, the light at the end seems mythical.  If that’s you, I’m SUPER excited for you, because your story is sounding exactly like the makings of a great Super Hero Origin story.  No hero ever became a hero without struggle, which is why if you’re currently in the middle of a struggle you get to choose your own adventure as to how the story ends.  If you want to dive deeper with me on this, and change your narrative from Victim to Victor, you're really going to like this episode. 

How complex, and absolutely stunning, is the Sea? Or Ocean, whichever you prefer, I’m not going to discriminate.  Although I am not a water person, I’m blown away by the depths of information and life that lie below the surface. There really is a whole new world, under da sea!!! PS, extra points to you if you sang that in your best Sebastian voice.  In our physical world we can understand that there is a lot we can learn by going deeper than the surface levels of the Sea.. so why in the heck are we so nonchalant about existing from surface level mindsets?  If you're ready to dive deep, this episode is for you. If you're scared to jump right in, this episode is most def for you. 

It's my favourite time of year, SPRING.  This is a time for renewal, rebirth.... and cleaning our houses. Thanks to Netflix and Maire Kondo, Spring Cleaning is very trendy right now, and for good reason.  It feels super refreshing to have a tidy home. It feels amazing to purge the possessions that are no longer serving you anymore.   In this episode I want to share with you a Spring Cleaning tip that will allow you to feel even BETTER than the above mentioned tasks. The thing is, you have to be willing to go to places you might not be used to going to when it comes to your mindset.  If you're willing to go to the places most people pretend don't exist, this episode is for you. 

It's normal to seek external permission, it's something we are conditioned to since birth.  It's normal to give permission to others, it's part of the cyclical nature of life.  It's not as natural feeling for us to be our biggest authority when it comes to permission... but what if we flipped this concept? What would happen if you gave yourself the ultimate hall pass to do, or not do, the things that you KNOW are needed for your happiness, authenticity and fulfillment in life? The purpose of this episode is to allow you to take back your authority and take action on your wants. 

Pauses are very under utilized in our days.  Learning to get comfortable in the discomfort of a pause allows us to create space for others to step into their personal power.  Learning to add a level of intentionality to your own pause before response allows you to step back into the drivers seat of your decisions.  The intention of this episode is to convince you to start building more pauses into your life.  Who's ready? 

This episode is all about understanding that our lives are a mix of creating and consuming. As a society we forget that we are all creative beings. When you understand  that creativity is your birth right, you’re able to take your power back.  Don’t like something that’s happening for you (notice how I didn’t say ‘to you’ because that’s never the case), create a different experience for yourself.  Notice your creativity seems lower than usual? Create an experience that allows you to have less consumption.  My favorite part about creating experiences is that we then allow others to consume and create for themselves. Talk about win/win. 

I often feel pretty misunderstood in my philosophies. Reframing, choosing to understand that every situation has a positive learning lesson, doesn’t mean that I am an advocate for turning a blind eye to the less than sunny side of things.  Fears, shame, regret, hurt… these are real deal things that are present for us during some time in our lives. Yet, how often do you allow yourself to feel these things so that you can also heal from them, vs just turning them off and pretending that they don’t exist? In this episode we are talking about why it’s important to let go of running from the dark and to spend some time with your less desired emotions. 

When we are kids there is SO much outside noise thrown our way. When we are adults we get to decide which beliefs are helping us, and change the ones that are hurting us.  In the new age ‘grind or die’ mindset things get really complicated in a lot of different areas, including perfectionism. The purpose of the newest episode of Intermittent Philosophy is for me to shake up your world by calling your bluff. Disclaimer: I’m not judging anyone who puts perfectionism on a pedestal; I did that for the majority of my life. What I am doing is opening up your eyes to the fact that maybe perfectionism isn’t what you thought it was. 

In todays world, as women, I am a firm believer that we should banned together and bring back the #girlpower movement of the 90s.  However, today I am totally going to be  bashing a super famous ‘female’ we all know.  Lady Luck is not your friend, she kind of a bleeeeep #sorrynotsorry.  In this episode we are breaking down the socially accepted theory of luck.  By first understanding the actual definition of luck, it’s easy to see how luck has actually  been tricking us into giving away a lot of our power.  Not cool!

In December my husband and i checked something off of our bucket list. The three weeks we spent in Korea were mind blowing. From visiting the historical island of Jeju, to seeing all of the modern wonders of Seoul, we made it our mission to soak it all in. Travel is really important to me for many reasons, but the number one reason is it gives me an opportunity to LEARN. On this episode I am sharing with you my favourite, and least favourite, cultural difference between Korea and Canada. Not only am I sharing my least favourite difference, I’m also going to explain to you what I was able to learn about myself from it.

Have you ever had a belief, opinion, or mindset simply because it was trending? I know I’ve been there MANY times in my life. On this episode I free flow my though process breaking down a very trendy topic this time of year; a fresh start. The honey moon stage of January’s motivation is over, and it’s time to check in on our beliefs.

In order to get to know my local CrossFit community better, I signed up to volunteer for a competition. What I got out of my experience was a massive learning lesson that applies to all areas of my life. Whether you are familiar with ‘no repping’ or not, this episode offers some insight into how we can sometimes allow our own fear of discomfort hold others back from learning and growing in their lives.

Last week we dove into the how and why behind our numbing/avoidance tendencies. Today I want to share with you my most common numbing techniques from the past. They might surprise you, allowing you to get really honest with yourself and your behaviours as well.

What would positively change in your life if you no longer relied on bandaid solutions for your feelings of un-fulfillment? The void, the deep dark insecurities that we all have, only needs to be feared when we don’t take the time to get to know the mechanics of how it works. Imagine how freeing your life would feel if you no loner spent all of your energy on quick fix solutions, and instead, took the time to learn to be comfortable in the uncomfortable.

Money, the elephant in the room. Since day one I have been very open that I want to talk about all of the taboos in our society... what's more taboo than discussing our money mindset? Like everything else in life, money is what we make it. Think about it, money itself is a piece of paper that we have decided to place an ideal into, without this ideal it’s literally just paper. This arbitrary concept of value is much more complex than we care to admit... which means it's the perfect topic to tackle on today's episode.

Ever just had enough and got mad at someone you know probably didn't deserve it? What about feeling like there are certain people in your life who are awful, and anytime you are in the same room as them, the hair on the back of your arms stands up? I'm pretty sure we have all had some type of feeling similar to the above mentioned scenarios. Today I want to share a really cool tool with you that's helped me cultivate more caring and compassion in my life while kicking feelings like anger and annoyance to the curb. Remember, what you appreciate appreciates; If you are craving more caring and compassion in your life (vs all the anger and annoyance), cultivate it!

In this episode I am opening up with some of the most real lessons I have had to learn in my life in order to understand what authenticity and fulfillment look like in my own life. My hope is that by doing so, you to can also step back and look at your life from a bigger, more holistic point of view.

This episode is for anyone who has ever given up/not started something because they felt overwhelmed and anxious about the task at hand.

At the end of my coaching sessions with clients I like to ask what were any moments of aha, insight, or appreciation from the session. A while ago I had my own massive AHA moment in regards to my authenticity. This mental transformation inspired me to have a bit of a physical transformation. This is a great episode if you have, or currently, struggle with your own authenticity

This is a topic I have glazed over in previous episodes, but after a comment my Mom made yesterday, I knew it was time to go deeper into this. This is going to be a hard topic for some people, which is another reason why it is time to put some thought into the matter.

In the wake of Halloween this past week not only did I do some digging into the origins of the holiday in Canada, I also realized where a massive limiting belief we hold as a society comes from. Viewer beware, you’re in for a scare ;)

Today’s episode is part pep talk, part reframe. We are digging into YOU today, and how to proceed with forward momentum.

How is your external world negatively affecting your internal world? Or is it even?!?! Let’s dive in.

It’s time to drop a powerful reframe: Self love doesn’t have to be as hard as the trends portray it and it’s ok to openly express your love for yourself.