Not Out Loud

I am tired, you are tired...aren't we all just tired. Fuuuuuck.

Not big on resolutions? Us either. But....we do love reflecting and setting goals. This short and poorly recorded episode is our welcome back after the holiday whirlwind shit storm.

What is it like to be human? Why do we try to be a superhuman? We can often feel shame when we can't hit the marks we set for ourselves and can easily forget that it is ok to be human.

We are only temporarily ending this conversation. I don't think we truly can, nor should we, stop talking about this.

Breaking down sex and the shame that surrounds us as sexual beings.

Today we are talking about stress. Negative patterns, triggers, avoidance, coping and tying to see the light through the shit storm. Stress is something we can't escape being humans. Some of us thrive in stress some of us crumble. How do we (or don't we) cope?

Today we are talking about relationships and what it is like to find balance when one of us is an emotional deep diver. Sometimes a partner can potentially be more enlightened emotionally or perhaps require a bit more depth and exploration into discussing feelings. Are you constantly wanting to dig into all the things relationship, emotions, sex, feelings...is your partner here for it? Do they struggle to grasp the depth to which you want to explore? Let's fucking chat about it. We are talking boundaries, emotions, changing your partner, and more.

Well, we all know Mollie doesn't cry and Rachel does. But, let's have a conversation around why that is. Do we sometimes use crying to manipulate certain situations? Is it bad if we don't cry?

After a recent incident while being out with friends, we are getting loud about men's unwanted touch. WARNING: We do talk about rape and assault. If this is a triggering conversation, we suggest you skip.

In typical Rachel and Mollie form, rambling and catching up turns into a deep convo about happiness and whether we have it or not.

We are back from a quick summer break and are ready to bring it all to you. Here are some of the topics we will be discussing this season! Burning man talk Single parenting Age-appropriate dating Rules of fighting Living your emotions – you don't have to be your emotions New boyfriend intro to kids Moving too fast in a relationship? What is a fight? Sorry, not sorry Patience is a virtue Commitments – under committing and over committing Passion in your life We will also be doing some new solo recordings as we go through challenging yet meaningful moments in our life. So there should be a lot to share!

A lot of firsts on this episode. First eveing recording session, first time drinking alcohol while recording and our FIRST FUCKING GUEST! We are chatting with Dr. Jillian Cachinero this episode. We are talking about pelvic floor health and what the means to you!

Wrapping up this topic for now and we are diving into what makes you happy. We can choose our hard as long as we can keep the focus on what actually makes us happy.

Today we focus on work and the choices we make everyday to stay where we are. We are in the thick of big, heavy, impactful decisions that come with a lot of weight and worry. What drives us to stay on this path? Why do we choose to do these hard things? What keeps us focused and motivated.

Where is the line? Why do we draw a line? What makes us judge other women for their choices? We are diving into the topic of body enhancements, injections, and plastic surgery. We talk about our past, conversations with our daughters and how we are navigating these choices in a culture full of judgement and fear.

What does sex look like after a long term relationship? Is it ok? Help us navigate this potentially stressful, potentially amazing topic.

What is up with this idea of work life balance? Here is our perspective as business owners, mothers and overall busy fucking women. Interested in more resources? Work/Life Bucket exercise Julia Arndt - Stressed Podcast Get Julia's planner here. Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! Thank you!

Julia arent Calendar exercise Value down time Free calendar program - white space 5 love languages book Self love practices Atlas of the heart - envy / jealousy

A little game we thought of to have fun and learn more about each other. Enjoy! Play a game like this at home! Try Let's Get Deep Friends Edition

Why do we say yes to so many things? Why do we constantly feel the need to add to our full plates? Why do we always hide behind doing more?

The feelings, thoughts and stories behind divorce. Fuck.

EPISODE WARNING: RECORDED BEFORE MOLLIE BECAME SINGLE. Hahah, don't worry, we will touch on the breakup soon. In this episode we are talking about sex with our partners, being moms and trying to navigate this amazing and sometimes stressful act. We are taking it back here to an earlier recording in a basement in 2021 when Mollie was in a relationship. Ted Talk with Erika Lust  erikalust.com/

Coping mechanism, overcommitting, priorities...why do we?

All about habits and reflection. Getting into the nitty gritty of habits in life as women and moms. Fuck the "shoulds."

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