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We all face stressful seasons in life, times when we feel like we're treading water and barely getting by. Thankfully, God's Word gives us new strength to keep going, to trust God when it doesn't make sense, and to handle stress even in the most difficult of times. In this series, Pastor Rick explains how to make it across the finish line when you're feeling tired and worn out.How do you keep going when troubles are coming at you from all directions? You get the power to keep going from the same place Jesus and Paul got it— God. In this message, Pastor Rick looks at the lives of people in the Bible to discover biblical principles you can apply when you're feeling overwhelmed.Spectators at a race often shout, “Keep going!” to motivate the athletes. That's also great advice for anyone who feels emotionally, mentally, or spiritually exhausted from running the marathon of life. Join Pastor Rick as he reminds us that God will give us the power we need to finish what he has called us to do. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1103/29?v=20251111
This episode is a re-release; it originally aired on March 10, 2013. New York Times best-selling author, ordained minister and licensed psychologist Dr. Robin Smith explains how she overcame a series of personal setbacks and a condition she describes as "emotional anorexia." As a best-selling author, a regularly featured expert on “The Oprah Winfrey Show” and host of her own national radio show, Dr. Robin appeared to have it all. However, after a serious car accident left her unable to work, Dr. Robin fell into a financial crisis. Dr. Robin says the situation became so dire she was spiritually drained and felt lost. Dr. Robin discusses how she confronted what she calls a gnawing hunger in her soul and how she finally nourished her spirit back to life. Dr. Robin also talks about her book "Hungry: The Truth About Being Full," in which she teaches readers how to recognize, survive, embrace and conquer what she calls "emotional hunger." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Have you ever finished a long day, looked at everything you didn’t get done, and felt like you were falling behind? I have. Sometimes we’re carrying far more than anyone can see, yet we still expect ourselves to keep going as though nothing is heavy. This week on The Love Offering Podcast, I’m talking with Leslie M. Bosserman, author of Emotional Endurance, about what it takes to move through setbacks and disappointment with hope. We talk about: Why a setback doesn’t have to become your identity What to do when healing takes longer than you hoped How to notice when you need rest before you reach a breaking point A simple “ta-da list” that helped me see my day differently That last idea met me right where I am. As someone who loves a to-do list, I needed Leslie’s reminder to notice the good God has already done in and through me, even when the list isn’t finished. If you’re emotionally tired, I hope you’ll listen to this conversation. You can bring your weariness to Jesus, receive support, and take the next step with Him. Connect with Leslie: Emotional Endurance Book: www.EmotionalEnduranceBook.com Read More + Subscribe on Substack: www.lesliembosserman.substack.com Follow on Instagram: www.instagram.com/leadwithintention Watch Leslie’s TEDxTalk: www.bit.ly/TEDxLeslie Leslie’s Coaching Practice: www.LeadWithIntention.com Get Your FREE Gifts: www.lesliembosserman.com/gifts Connect with Rachael: https://rachaelkadams.com/Support the Show: https://rachaelkadams.com/ Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.
An emotionally absent father can be home every single night, and his children can still feel the absence. I know, because I grew up that way. In this conversation, Dr. Warren Farrell, author of The Boy Crisis and Role Mate to Soul Mate, explains what he calls being dad deprived, why boys are falling so far behind, and how the way mothers and fathers each set boundaries shapes a child for life. Warren once served on the board of the National Organization for Women in New York City, and he shares what it cost him to start speaking up for boys and men. We also talk about his practical tools for couples, including how to hear your spouse's criticism without getting defensive, because a strong marriage is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. Warren has spent his career studying men, women, and the family. The Financial Times named him one of the world's top 100 thought leaders, his books have been published in 19 languages, and The Boy Crisis helped launch the current conversation about how our sons are doing. That work is now the subject of a documentary, The Boy Crisis, which is screening in Canada next year and in London in summer 2027, and I encourage you to watch the trailer at the link below. He tells me how his work with women's groups led to starting men's groups, and how listening to those men changed everything. Man after man had quietly given up work he loved so his wife and children could have more. When Warren began sharing what he learned, the standing ovations and the television invitations started to disappear. We talk honestly about the boy crisis and why father involvement matters so much. Warren explains why he never uses the word fatherless, since every child has a father, and why being dad deprived can happen even in a home where Dad never leaves. I share my own story of a father who was always home, yet whose attention I longed for, and how that shaped me. Warren describes what he heard when he asked men in prison about their fathers, and why kids actually get to bed sooner when Dad is in charge, even when Dad sets the later bedtime. He explains why enforced boundaries, paired with the bond that comes from roughhousing, camping, and letting kids take safe risks, build the postponed gratification that helps a child succeed. We also talk about checks and balances parenting, where mom style caution and dad style risk taking work together instead of against each other. The second half turns to marriage. Warren shares the caring and sharing practice at the heart of his Role Mate to Soul Mate work, including a powerful question he asks every couple: would you risk your life to save your partner, and if so, can you listen to them without becoming defensive? He also explains why understanding your spouse's story is not the same as agreeing with it, and why two different stories can live side by side in a good marriage. I share how Jordan and I began dancing in our living room after our first baby was born, and what I have learned about bringing up hard things. We talk about why so many men stop sharing their feelings with their wives, how to move from civil war to civil dialogue with family members who see politics differently, and how I let go of resentment toward someone I love by widening my view of her. Warren was clear that reading about these practices is not the same as doing them together. If you and your spouse want to actually practice them, he leads a Role Mate to Soul Mate: The Art and Discipline of Love couples workshop at Esalen, April 2 to 5, 2027, and I have read the book and can tell you it is a process meant to be shared with someone you love. If you have ever wondered why kids need their dads so much, or how to create a home where both parents are truly present, I think this conversation will speak to you. Watch the trailer for The Boy Crisis documentary: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1h3RutRbU-ZHbTueo6sSrlGzg9DXZpPqM/view Join Warren's Role Mate to Soul Mate couples workshop at Esalen: https://www.esalen.org/workshops/role-mate-to-soul-mate-the-art-and-discipline-of-love-040227 Learn more about The Boy Crisis documentary: https://filmsandfestivals.britishcouncil.org/projects/the-boy-crisis-cancel-warren-farrell Find more from Warren: The Boy Crisis Trailer: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1h3RutRbU-ZHbTueo6sSrlGzg9DXZpPqM/view Role Mate to Soul Mate Workshop at Esalen: https://www.esalen.org/workshops/role-mate-to-soul-mate-the-art-and-discipline-of-love-040227 The Boy Crisis Documentary on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theboycrisisdocumentary/ The Boy Crisis Documentary, British Council Films: https://filmsandfestivals.britishcouncil.org/projects/the-boy-crisis-cancel-warren-farrell Connect with me: My Website: http://tammympeterson.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammy.m.peterson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TammyPetersonPodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tammypetersonpodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/Tammy1Peterson Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/TammyPetersonPodcast
Three weeks into the NFL season and we have one question: Are they actually good… or are we all just making things up?This week we debut “Are They?” and try to figure out what to make of the Raiders, the Rams, and an NFL season where nobody seems to know anything.Then we head back to The Waiver Wire, where Green Bay gets swiped left after an embarrassing first date, the Bills prove they're husband material, and somehow “his bills are on autopay” becomes legitimate football analysis.Plus: Jessie processes the Seahawks' first loss, Isaac celebrates the Broncos through mostly unintelligible noises, and we make a bet ahead of the upcoming Broncos-Seahawks showdown in Austin.Football analysis? Technically.Raw emotion? Absolutely.Welcome to the Gridiron Throne.
How are you doing Emotionally? How's your heart? Are you feeling your feelings? Can you use feeling words to describe your emotions? Are your emotions leaking, stuffing or exploding? What are God's feelings about you and your heart? God loves your heart and He has help for our emotional life. Are you ready to feel the feels?Recorded live at Word of Life Church in Le Sueur, Minnesota, on Sunday, September 27, 2026 with Pastor Jason Lang preaching.
What Are You Worried About? -- What to Do When Life Becomes Too Much to Carry
What Are You Worried About? -- What to Do When Life Becomes Too Much to Carry
How can recognizing emotional abuse, rebuilding trust in yourself, and setting healthy boundaries help break harmful family patterns? Tune in for an inspiring discussion with Beverly Engel, LMFT, on her upcoming book Adult Children of Emotionally Abusive Families: Overcoming the Pain, Dysfunction, and Trauma of Growing up in a Toxic Family.Moments with Marianne Radio Show airs in the Southern California area on KMET1490AM & 98.1 FM, an ABC Talk News Radio Affiliate! https://www.kmet1490am.com Beverly Engel, LMFT is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and expert on the subject of trauma. She has written numerous books on the related subjects of abuse, shame and empowerment, including The Emotionally Abusive Relationship, Healing Your Emotional Self and It Wasn't Your Fault. She has a blog on Psychology Today entitled, “The Compassion Chronicles,” and her writing has been featured in publications including Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, The Chicago Tribune, and The Los Angeles Times. https://beverlyengel.com Pre-Order on Amazon: https://a.co/d/0j3iU3zX Discover inspiring conversations with today's leading authors, celebrities, thought leaders, and change makers. To learn more about the Moments with Marianne Radio Show, explore guest interview opportunities, connect with Marianne, and follow her on social media, visit https://www.mariannepestana.comExplore the Moments with Marianne Book Club and find your next great read: https://www.mariannepestana.com/book-club/Listen to the Moments with Marianne Radio Show on KMET 1490AM & 98.1FM, an ABC News Radio Affiliate, weekdays at 8:06 AM PT / 11:06 AM ET and Sundays at 10:06 AM PT / 1:06 PM ET. Learn more at: https://www.kmet1490am.com/moments-with-marianne
What if you could catch yourself in the moment before an emotional reaction turns a difficult situation into something much worse?When you're under pressure, dealing with mistakes, or faced with a person or situation that triggers you, it's easy to react emotionally before you've had time to understand what's really happening. In this episode, you'll learn a simple framework for recognising the difference between emotional and rational responses, so you can stay calmer, communicate more effectively, and create a better environment for the people around you.In this episode you'll discover:How to recognise the physical and emotional signs that you're responding emotionally rather than rationally.How to get curious about “the story you're telling yourself” so you can challenge your initial interpretation and consider what else might be happening.How labelling the emotion, self-soothing, and asking questions can help you respond more calmly when you can't immediately move past the situation.Play this episode to learn a practical framework for managing emotional reactions so you can handle challenging situations with greater calm, clarity, and consistency.New episodes every Monday, Wednesday and Friday.Take our Free Quote Quiz now to Kickstart Your Sales Growth:https://quiz.typeform.com/to/ByHoaj2bSales & Marketing Workshops with Ben Wright:https://space.1111studios.com.au/workshops-waitlistTo see how we've helped business grow their sales:Read Client ResultsWatch TestimonialsOr email Ben if you would like to get in touch: hello@strongersalesteams.comThis podcast helps the entrepreneur, founder, CEO, and business owner in the trade, construction and industry segments, regain focus, build confidence, and achieve measurable results through powerful sales training, effective sales strategy, and expert sales coaching—guiding every sales leader, sales manager, and sales team in mastering the sales process, optimizing the sales pipeline, and driving business growth while fostering leadership, balance, and freedom amidst overwhelm, stress, and potential burnout, creating lasting peace of mind and smarter decision making for every California business and Australia business ready to scale up with excellence in sales management , through refined sales processes, proven trade sales techniques, and strategic sales leadership that strengthens sales process execution, accelerates sales team development, builds stronger sales teams, improves time management for sales, drives resilience and results, increases team results across the construction industry and wider industry sales sectors, and supports sustainable trading growth that continues to drive results through an effective management process in modern trade sales.
Welcome to Part 3 of my new three-part series, How to Be a Soft Woman!In today's video, we're talking about what it truly means to become a soft woman Physically. Softness isn't just about how you dress, how you speak, or how you carry yourself. It's about the condition of your heart and allowing God to transform you from the inside out.This is your reminder that you can be a strong woman without having a hardened heart. You can have boundaries without becoming bitter. You can be disciplined, confident, and independent while still allowing God to cultivate gentleness within you.Softness is not weakness. Its strength surrendered to God.
Welcome to Part 2 of my new three-part series, How to Be a Soft Woman!In today's video, we're talking about what it truly means to become a soft woman Emotionally and Mentally. Softness isn't just about how you dress, how you speak, or how you carry yourself. It's about the condition of your heart and allowing God to transform you from the inside out.This is your reminder that you can be a strong woman without having a hardened heart. You can have boundaries without becoming bitter. You can be disciplined, confident, and independent while still allowing God to cultivate gentleness within you.Softness is not weakness. Its strength surrendered to God.
Welcome to Part 1 of my new three-part series, How to Be a Soft Woman!In today's video, we're talking about what it truly means to become a soft woman spiritually. Softness isn't just about how you dress, how you speak, or how you carry yourself. It's about the condition of your heart and allowing God to transform you from the inside out.This is your reminder that you can be a strong woman without having a hardened heart. You can have boundaries without becoming bitter. You can be disciplined, confident, and independent while still allowing God to cultivate gentleness within you.Softness is not weakness. Its strength surrendered to God.
Send us Fan MailHi everyone, Here's a quick overview of our topic for today. "Feeling emotionally trapped means experiencing a deep , suffocating sense that your life choices have shrunk and no safe or workable exit exists". It's a scary place to be and many of us have been there at least once in our life. Join us as we give you ways to get past it and move ahead in your life.
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Because we're all humans who see the world from our unique perspective, it is inevitable that we will experience conflict in all of our relationships. As we increase our emotional maturity we are able to lean into these conflicts to create connection rather than contention. But what does it look and sound like? That's what we're talking about on this podcast. I have lots of examples for you to understand where you are in your journey to stronger emotional maturity, and be sure to check out the show notes below for more podcasts that will grow your capacity and skills for having more emotionally mature conflict. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #3 Resolving Conflict on Apple on Spotify #5 Learning to Listen on Apple on Spotify #20 Blame and Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #77 Other People's Opinions on Apple on Spotify #110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify #117 Anti-Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #147 Hijacked By Your Emotions on Apple on Spotify #148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify #164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify #165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify #166 Imaginary Friends on Apple on Spotify #167 I Didn't Sign Up For This on Apple on Spotify #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #194 When You Feel Sad, Or Bad, or Mad on Apple on Spotify #196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify #197 Connecting Through Conflict on Apple on Spotify #216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #244 The Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify #245 Transactional Relationships on Apple on Spotify #251 Contention is a Choice on Apple on Spotify #258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #286 How Miscommunication Destroys Relationships on Apple on Spotify #288 When You're in a Tough Marriage on Apple on Spotify #289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify #290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify #298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify #319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify #357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify #369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions on Apple on Spotify #370 Conscious Conflict on Apple on Spotify #386 Overcoming Resentment on Apple on Spotify #392 Vulnerability and Validation on Apple on Spotify #404: People Over Problems and Processes on Apple on Spotify #405: How to Create a Partnership on Apple on Spotify #408: When You Get Triggered on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/
AI is changing dating, relationships, friendships, and even the way people deal with loneliness.. but how far is too far? In this episode of The Journey Podcast, Zach and John break down the rise of AI companionship, ChatGPT relationship advice, emotional cheating with AI, AI therapy, and people using artificial intelligence to replace real human connection. They also discuss AI-generated dating conversations, the future of Gen Z relationships, why more people are struggling to communicate face-to-face, and whether technology is making us emotionally weaker. The conversation eventually turns to accountability, victim mentality, male friendships, and why getting out into the real world still matters more than ever. Is AI simply an incredible tool, or are we slowly allowing it to replace the relationships that make us human?Patreon (EXCLUSIVE EPISODES)https://www.patreon.com/c/TheJourneyPodThe Journey Podcast Merchhttps://thejourneypodcast.shopINSTAGRAMhttps://www.instagram.com/zacharycummings_https://www.instagram.com/thejourneypodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/johnscafiddijrTik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/thejourneypodcast__#ArtificialIntelligence #ModernDating #Relationships #ChatGPT #TheJourneyPodcast
Tickets for AIE NYC now open, and apply for the invite-only AIE CODE. Join us!We have an unusual relationship with today's guest: for years since coauthoring the InstructGPT paper, Diogo Almeida had been saying that API-available frontier models have been going down the wrong path, everything from the alignment to refusals to reliability perspectives, that we have dropped every mode other than autoregressive chat-tuned LLMs because of the overwhelming success of ChatGPT.In a launch video now viewed ~40M times (by comparison, GPT4o was 22M, Fable 5 was 15M, Navier Stokes was 74M, and 6 Astra was 137M), Diogo introduced Jev and it immediately took over the AI timeline — we'll skip full Jev explainers because your favorite AI influencer/educator has probably already done one. We also collected:* the official patterns and cookbooks you should see first, from Allie* Jev usecases* speed based - games and computer use* the voice + computer use example we discuss at 1h34 mins* voice + browser control* The must not miss Doom demo* Driving cars in games* Excalidraw* virtual try-ons* “Smart Games”/smart NPCs* guided responses in text messages* Jev for coding agents has an official guide * jev for linting* compacting tool calls* reasonable pushback from Theo - Diogo has published a note on the Tyranny of the KV Cache that you should read as a followup after the pod for Jev + coding agents, because of his belief that Cache Rules Everything* Programming Languages built atop Jev (Diogo's fave)* Jev for analytics replay and user journey review* “dark data”* entity resolution* natural language search* “smart software”* a core goal of Jev is to “disappear into the background” - eg as unremarkable as regex* Jev as a judge* Jev memes* Jev vs LLM capabiltiies* blending transformers and classifiers* about the confidence api* Jev vs GLiNER (note difference/pushback, agreed, agreed, agreed)* Jev on trolley problem* Jev BushInstead we'll focus on what we can uniquely offer — a broader philosophical and mission-based understanding of how and why Jev was created, and what you should expect next in terms of future models from TypeSafe (ReasoningJev?) and what usecases and ideas you should work on vs the 55th low effort clone of Jev's API or doing a generic JevBench benchmark - something Diogo has rejected publicly.Why RLCD: Three kinds of RLHF, and why they are ALL the wrong north starDiogo knows a good deal about RLHF, given that he was on the team that pioneered post-training at OpenAI — and traces the three branches to Christiano et al 2017 (the robot backflip demo), Stiennon et al 2020 (learning to summarize) and his baby, Ouyang et al 2022 (InstructGPT). From there on, every innovation from Function Calling to Structured Outputs to Reasoning felt like a hack on top of the string based, sequence to sequence prediction paradigm. As he mentions on the pod, from 2023-2024 he struggled unsuccessfully, due to both personal and organization underestimation, to train a model that accurately addressed what he saw as the core problem with making LLMs the heart of software: reliability.Jev's core innovation is "Reinforcement Learning for Calibrated Decisions”, a novel, unpublished technique that optimizes for “answers with epistemically honest probabilities on System One tasks” rather than human rated feedback (RLHF) — which causes hallucinations, sycophancy, and permanent reliance on humans — or programmatically verifiable outputs with rubrics (RLVR) — which solves Navier Stokes but exacerbates jagged intelligence and doesn't integrate well with other software.We've talked about the calibration problem before on the pod, but probably the single best place to understand why RLCD became necessary is Diogo's AIE talk, which discusses why a generation of training helpful AI assistants for humans has impaired them for training models for composable, programmable AI for automation.At the end he also teases his contrarian opinion on scaling laws - which teases how to build a modern neolab without the billions of dollars the major labs have…The Bitterest Lesson: Tasks and Data beats ComputeWe spend a good amount of time discussing Diogo's essay on the Bitterest Lesson:His point is that “You get what you optimize for and the bitterest lesson in ML is that the most important part of it isn't ML at all.” - and picking the right north star, eg upvoting for user preference vs being integrated into tool calls - makes everything else fall in line.We're excited to catch up with a freshly dyed Diogo to discuss:* Why AI can solve extraordinarily hard problems but still fail to automate basic work* What System One Models are and why Jev is built for software rather than chat* RLHF, mode collapse, calibration, and the hidden costs of optimizing for human preferences* Why refusals become a problem when AI is buried inside software dependencies* Why TypeSafe rejects public benchmarks and optimizes for intelligence per dollar* The “bitterest lesson”: why the right task and the right data can matter more than compute* Why TypeSafe thinks of itself as a data lab rather than a model lab* RLCD vs. RLHF and RLVR as fundamentally different North Stars for AI* Why reliability and robustness matter more than simple determinism* Jev's programming primitives and how intelligence maps into software control flow* Why developers should decompose AI workflows into small, measurable decisions* How structured state replaces giant prompts and system messages* Why Diogo thinks AI should eventually disappear into the background of software* The “inverse SaaS-pocalypse” and how AI could supercharge existing software* System One vs. System Two intelligence and the limits of reasoning models* Dark data, computer use, real-time intelligence, and Jev's biggest early use cases* Why Jev could reshape coding agents built around a single-model architecture* Why Diogo says he wouldn't pre-train with $1 billion* The OpenAI journey that led to TypeSafe and why he thinks many neo-labs are approaching AI incorrectly* Coding agents beyond the KV cache, shared state, sub-agents, and the multi-agent futureDiogo Almeida* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diogomda* X: https://x.com/CompleteSkeptic* TypeSafe AI: https://typesafe.ai/Timestamps00:00:00 Jev Launch Week and the AI Economic Revolution00:02:50 What Is Jev? System One Models and Programmable AI00:05:54 RLHF, Mode Collapse, Calibration, and Yann LeCun00:10:29 Programmatic AI, Refusals, and Safety Alignment00:17:21 Why TypeSafe Rejects Public Benchmarks00:20:43 The Bitterest Lesson: Data, Compute, and the Right Task00:24:59 RLCD vs. RLHF and RLVR00:28:42 Why Powerful AI Still Hasn't Automated the Economy00:39:55 Reliability, Robustness, and Determinism00:48:11 Model Versioning, LTS, Speed, and Intelligence per Dollar00:54:04 Inside Jev's API and Programming Primitives00:58:28 How to Build with Jev: Structure, Decomposition, and Small Decisions01:18:28 The Inverse SaaS-pocalypse and AI Disappearing into Software01:33:21 Computer Use, Dark Data, and Jev's Biggest Use Cases01:38:48 How Jev Could Reshape Coding Agents01:41:00 AI Safety, Frontier Pacing, and the Limits of RLVR01:48:03 Why Diogo Wouldn't Pre-Train with $1 Billion01:55:19 The OpenAI Story Behind TypeSafe02:01:41 Why Diogo Thinks Most Neo-Labs Are Getting AI Wrong02:08:00 Coding Agents Beyond the KV Cache and the Multi-Agent FutureTranscriptIntroduction: Jev Launch Week and Developer MomentumSwyx [00:00:00]: Okay, we're in the studio. A special occasion because this week, Diogo, my good buddy, launched Jev, and it's been taking over the complete timeline. How do you feel? What's it like to be you right now?Diogo Almeida [00:00:16]: Emotionally?Swyx [00:00:17]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:00:17]: Never been worse. Like, I'm a ragged corpse of a person right now because there's so much going on, and I'm like a technical CEO, so I have, like, a lot of fires to fight.Swyx [00:00:29]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:00:29]: But mentally, I feel—I say this all the time, and I've been saying this kind of for years in my over-under events. Like, I feel like the entire AI field is like one of those, like, carnival house of mirrors, and everyone is just insane and saying the weirdest stuff that doesn't make sense. And it feels like for just this week, like, I'm on a better in sync with reality and like, oh, people see it now. AI can be so much more than what was once thought.Diogo Almeida [00:01:06]: And like, yes, we are going to make. Like, an AI-based economic revolution is back on the table, and this is f*****g awesome.Diogo Almeida [00:01:17]: I'm so jazzed the developers get it. It's, it's, Yeah, and I want to show my eternal gratitude to the developers andSwyx [00:01:25]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:01:26]: I'm so jazzed about the community and everything. It's so great.Swyx [00:01:28]: Yeah, you were saying yesterday that you decided to prioritize the town hall and not a bunch of, like, VIP, investor-type people because you wanted to make sure that they are the people that you get your most, attention, right? The engineers, the developers.Diogo Almeida [00:01:43]: Yeah, it felt a little like, oh man, I'm talking to, like, really important people right now.Swyx [00:01:47]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:01:47]: I probably shouldn't reveal who.Swyx [00:01:48]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:01:48]: But it feels a little bit dirty for me to, I'm, like, perhaps overly genuine in things. Like, it feels, like, dirty if, like, in my gigantic calendar event of people to talk to, the community isn't one of those.Swyx [00:02:04]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:02:04]: And actually, in my ideal world, it would be, like, community all the time. I was thinking, “Should I host a town hall while walking to your studio?” And I'm like, “No, that's too crazy.”Swyx [00:02:12]: Sure. Yeah. Well, you guys have been hosting town halls on Discord. Discord is now 100,000 people. Your Twitter'sDiogo Almeida [00:02:19]: I don't follow these stats.Swyx [00:02:20]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:02:20]: So holy s**t.Swyx [00:02:21]: Your Twitter's blown up. It was, it was really funny ‘cause, like, at AIE, you were like, “Yeah, follow me please,” and then you didn't, like, provide even your handle.Diogo Almeida [00:02:29]: I'm a noob. I'm a noob.Swyx [00:02:29]: You're such a noob.Diogo Almeida [00:02:30]: I'm a noob.Swyx [00:02:31]: But no, but that, like, that's, like, positive aura that, likeDiogo Almeida [00:02:33]: CoolSwyx [00:02:33]: You don't know how to promote yourself.Diogo Almeida [00:02:35]: Yeah. Someone, like, called me out when I posted, like, “Holy s**t, we're all three twending-- trending topics.” And then they're like, “That's a personal feed.”Swyx [00:02:42]: That's a personal, yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:02:43]: And I'm like, “Oh, no.”Swyx [00:02:44]: Of course, of course it'll trend to you.Diogo Almeida [00:02:45]: Cringe. Yeah.Swyx [00:02:45]: Yes, ‘cause it's what you clicked on.Diogo Almeida [00:02:47]: Yeah.Swyx [00:02:47]: So okay. Let's, Yeah, so congrats on everything.What Is Jev? System 1 Models and Intelligence per DollarDiogo Almeida [00:02:50]: Thank you.Swyx [00:02:50]: We'll talk about more, details as you have them. But let's, for people who are, like, living under a rock or just want, like, the definitive thing, what is Jev?Diogo Almeida [00:03:02]: Whew. Let me think about. That's a hard one.Swyx [00:03:07]: Okay. And I'm happy to, like, re-ask if you wanna kind ofDiogo Almeida [00:03:09]: No. I'm happy toSwyx [00:03:10]: OkayDiogo Almeida [00:03:10]: I'm happy to, like, just jam on it.Swyx [00:03:12]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:03:13]: I will say, like, the first thing that I'm relieved about with this question is now I don't have to answer that question to my parents anymore ‘cause ChatGPT can just explain it.Swyx [00:03:20]: Nice.Diogo Almeida [00:03:21]: So the way I see it is we new-- need a new class of models. We're not attached to naming that class of models. Our-- the most accurate name we've come up with is System 1 models.Swyx [00:03:33]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:03:33]: There will be reasons, but it's-- there's a reason why we don't call them decision models, because, like, they will be. Like, System 1 is beyond that. That's all I can say. We didn't expect this to be our big launch, so we have stuff in the tank.Swyx [00:03:48]: You should have said low-key research preview.Diogo Almeida [00:03:52]: It kind of was, right? It kind of was. But we. So there's a class of models that we describe them as, like, machine-native, System 1, large programmable. I think these are-- is the class of models where the goal is for code to be the consumer. So as opposed to, lar-- pre-trained large language models, which are meant for, like, autocomplete of the internet, or RLHF models, like chatbot instruction-following models, which are meant to, like, reply to text, or RLVR. It's in a weird gray area with RLHF. Like, these are meant to have things that directly are consumed by code, hence the name type safe. So the thing we really want is to have, like, AI, like, be as powerful as possible, and we think the way to do that is to integrate it with software. And we are designing everything, beyond just the outside, the deep internals of the model to be optimized for software. So number one, Jev is our first large programmable model, or a System 1 model, whatever you want to call it. Jev is meant to be optimized for intelligence per dollar, hence the name Jev.Swyx [00:05:03]: Jevons Paradox.Diogo Almeida [00:05:03]: Jevons Paradox, yeah. And it's optimized for intelligence per dollar. I love this debate with people about what is the most important between reliability, cost, calibration, and speed. And Jev is meant to be. Jev will be the name of models that will be on the frontier of intelligence per dollar. There's other ways to optimize it, like, ML, or at least if you're good at ML, it's all about trade-offs. And we are just going all out on that.Calibration, Mode Collapse, and the Limits of RLHFSwyx [00:05:31]: Yeah. And to me, like, calibration is one of the new things that people weren't talking about as much. We've done an episode In the past, with Clementine Foreia of Hugging Face, where they were like, “Yeah, actually, y- they're just.” Or, and this is your whole argument about RLHF, is they're more collapsing towards what you want to hear the mostDiogo Almeida [00:05:50]: OohSwyx [00:05:50]: Or what is most likely, instead of, like, their own internal confidence about a thing.Diogo Almeida [00:05:54]: Can I soapbox on that for a second?Swyx [00:05:56]: Go ahead. Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:05:57]: Cool. Like, I've been heard that your audience is the most technical, so I actually want to get into that.Swyx [00:06:02]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:06:03]: And if- I went through extreme precision to make sure everything in our launch video is accurate and real. Apparently, that's very unusual. One of the things that no one paid attention to was the downsides of RLHF, in particular mode dropping.Swyx [00:06:17]: Mode dropping or mode collapse?Diogo Almeida [00:06:19]: It's the same thing.Swyx [00:06:19]: Is that what you call it?Diogo Almeida [00:06:20]: It's the same thing.Swyx [00:06:20]: All right.Diogo Almeida [00:06:21]: And I wanna have a blog on this eventually, but I, like, want to tell as many people this as possible ‘cause I think it's a very interesting thing. So the spicy take, I believe in Yann LeCun a lot. I think Yann LeCun's takes are actually among the closest toSwyx [00:06:36]: What about this?Diogo Almeida [00:06:37]: Well, should I address this now or should I wait and go into mode collapse?Swyx [00:06:40]: No, later. Go mode, go mode collapse. I don't know.Diogo Almeida [00:06:42]: So I actually think that among takes, Yann LeCun's is among the most accurate. But he has this very famous/infamous slide about,Swyx [00:06:52]: The cake?Diogo Almeida [00:06:53]: LLMs are doomed.Swyx [00:06:54]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:06:54]: Like that one where he, like, has, like, a pie chart with, like, a tiny par-- tiny little thing- and says that as you increase sequence length, the probability of it making an error goes in. Yes, this one. This one. I love this one, because it's one of these things that seems mathematically obvious, but is obviously wrong, right? Like, it's mathematically obvious, but it doesn't empirically hold. And this is my favorite thing to teach people about, like, where youSwyx [00:07:21]: What's the disconnect, right?Diogo Almeida [00:07:22]: Exactly. And may I or you want to tell me?Swyx [00:07:27]: About mode collapse?Diogo Almeida [00:07:28]: Oh, no. Oh, so mode clop-- collapse is related to this.Swyx [00:07:31]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:07:31]: The disconnect happens because if you are in a mode covering or a calibrated distribution, you are, like, not. You are not overly punished about having outliers. You'd expect, like, something. Some amount of the time you'd be out of distribution, some amount of time you'd be in distribution. That's what happens when you cover the distribution. This was like models before GANs. They made blurry images, right?Diogo Almeida [00:07:54]: Instead, GANs mode drop. They, like, drop the minority classes and just do the really common ones. And this is why this effect doesn't happen, right? Like, instead of be-- in order to generate really long strings, without making errors, they need to, like, be extremely conservative because it's e- really easy to see when an error happens. It's very hard to see when, like, a subtle thing that looks correct happens. And that calibration is, like, total poison into, like, the probability distributions of strings.Swyx [00:08:22]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:08:23]: And it's, it's a nuanced take and like, I think that This is why this doesn't happen, and this is why strings are so bad at, decision-making or, overloading the string models are for decision-making is, like, a bad time.Yann LeCun, JEPA, Scaling Laws, and Practical ResearchSwyx [00:08:38]: And while we're on the topic of Yann, do you agree that his fix i- with-- which is like a world model, like a JEPA-type, embedding thing is the right solve? So basically, like, the. One of the reasons that it could fail is because you're trying to reason over token outputs and then, and then just looping back again and going. Keep, continuing going until you reach, like, a end of sentence. Like, is that, And his solve is JEPA, right?Diogo Almeida [00:09:02]: Yes.Swyx [00:09:02]: Which is, like, joint ambition,Diogo Almeida [00:09:04]: YeahSwyx [00:09:04]: Joint embedding prediction. So like, is that the solve or, like, do you have a. Do you have a take on that?Diogo Almeida [00:09:10]: Oh, man. I probably shouldn't talk too much about the insides of ML, but I will say that my brand, other than unhinged, is practical.Diogo Almeida [00:09:20]: Like, even my take here is practical. And like, I'm. Am I a scaling law fan? Depends. It dep-- it's, it's, it's, like, it's. Scaling laws tell you how much better you get at a thing for amount in.Diogo Almeida [00:09:33]: A scaling law does mean exponentially more resources for normally sublinear gains, which looks to be a bad investment unless those, like, linear gains are, like, really valuable. But it's all. To me, it's all about, like, what can we do with what we have to make the biggest possible f*****g difference? I can curse.Swyx [00:09:51]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:09:51]: Yeah.Swyx [00:09:52]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:09:52]: Yeah.Swyx [00:09:53]: We're, we're, we're approved for adults.Diogo Almeida [00:09:54]: Hell yeah.Swyx [00:09:55]: And also we have a scaling law thing if you wanna go into that later.Diogo Almeida [00:09:58]: Oh, I could if we. See, that part is not super relevant right now.Swyx [00:10:02]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:10:03]: I actually. If you wanna go into my bitterest lesson, I think that's more relevant.Swyx [00:10:06]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:10:06]: But like, to me, I'm all about, like, pragmatics. And I think that the JEPA stuff is really cool early research. I really love awesome research. Is it practical yet?Diogo Almeida [00:10:21]: Probably shouldn't say. But like, there's just a lot of.Diogo Almeida [00:10:29]: I just think there's just, like, so many diamonds in the rough let all over the research world right now that haven't been polished because people don't know how to, like, do the right task. And I think that what our launch did, it. Does it kickstart us as a company? Like, yes. Will it be great for us as a company? Yes. I think it's gonna be, like, even greater for this direction of, like, programmatic AI. There was going to be, like, a gold rush on top of us for. ‘cause, like, software is super f*****g charged. But I think there's gonna be a gold rush parallel to us as well on, like, all the different ways we can expose things to make software more powerful so people can make even cooler stuff. And then we are back to, like, early internet energy?Swyx [00:11:12]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:11:12]: And I think that's why, like, the Twitter is just like, “Jev.”? It's, it's like. It is a partySwyx [00:11:18]: It's inspiring because it's, it's, like, so different than what we're used to, which is, “I'm sorry you can't do this, but we do scaling laws and only the big labs can do it,” right?Diogo Almeida [00:11:28]: That. Actually, if I. I'll, I'll make a tangent if that's okay.Swyx [00:11:32]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:11:32]: I think you might enjoy this.Swyx [00:11:33]: Really? Our five tangents in. It's good. It's fun. Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:11:35]: Oh, yeah. I get lost at all my tangents.Swyx [00:11:37]: This is gonna be horrible for the listeners to figure it out, but they're gonna figure it out. It's fine.Safety Alignment, Refusals, and API PhilosophyDiogo Almeida [00:11:40]: Yeah, we can edit it in post.Swyx [00:11:40]: This is my response. Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:11:41]: So popular thing on Discord, that people keep asking me, I haven't had the time to explain it yet, is why am I opposed to safety alignment and why do we not refuse? I'm not opposed to safety as a principle, but I think that safety alignment is generally misaligned with users. And refusal is just, like, obviously a type error. Like, if you're a human being and you're chatting with, like, a bot or whatever, you're cloud coding, and a refusal happens, like, “I'm sorry, I can't read DNA.py.” that's an annoying time. It's anno- it's, it's annoyingDiogo Almeida [00:12:18]: Right? But you can work with it, right? And you're forced to work with it ‘cause of Stockholm syndrome.Diogo Almeida [00:12:23]: I have stories about that too. I need another tangent deep in here. But like, if you ever want this in a dependency running in the background, what happens if that refuses? What if someone else is using that dependency? They don't know what that system is. Like, you want the software to just stochastically break because a user sent, like, a weird message in there?Diogo Almeida [00:12:42]: Like, that is, like, straight-up insanity. It's coming from a place of, like, people who do not understand software, do not understand programming, and like, they are obsessed with, like, I believe this, horseless carriage of, like, AI coworker instead of unearthing, like, the full power of AI.Swyx [00:13:01]: Fair enough.Diogo Almeida [00:13:01]: Yeah.Swyx [00:13:01]: You want something that is the core kernel that is usable everywhere.Diogo Almeida [00:13:05]: Yes. Exactly. Like, the cognitive core, right?Swyx [00:13:07]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:13:08]: And you need this thing to be s- like, so general, so optimized for its use cases. You want it to be, like, you want it to work on all the future use cases, all the weird s**t that people are doing.Swyx [00:13:19]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:13:19]: We obviously didn't train on any of that stuff. Is it surprising that it works? No, ‘cause we trained on weirder stuff, my friend.Diogo Almeida [00:13:28]: So. But one tangent up about, like, safety alignment.Swyx [00:13:32]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:13:32]: Safety alignment makes sense for a product, in my opinion, for, like, ChatGPT and Claude. Like, it, What safety, what makes safety and capability alignment different is capability alignment is, like, about doing what the user wants. That is sick for software engineers. They want their thing to do the thing, and the more predictable it is, the less they have to test it and play around with it. Jeb is not anywhere close to that yet. It could be, but like, there's so many more nines of reliability that we want in order to make it so good, like a database query, that you don't even have to think about it. It is just there when you need intelligence. But safety alignment is, like, the opposite of instruction following. It's when you want to follow someone else's instructions, like OpenAI and AnthropicSwyx [00:14:13]: The RAGs value stack.Diogo Almeida [00:14:14]: Exactly. And this makes a lot of sense for a product. Again, like, ChatGPT should do. Y- you sh- like, if they don't want to, like, do, like, some, not-safe-for-work role play with ChatGPT, that's on them because, like, maybe that's, what their users who have, like, parents and kids want. Like, n- that's fine. But in an API, that's nuts, right? Like, that's completely unacceptable because, like, people need to, like, program around this, and that is, that's so anti-user that it's. It. I'm. Huh. I can be an angry person, so I should try to calm down.Swyx [00:14:52]: It's, People get your passion, and I think that's really good. The one pushback I'll give you is, like, what if we use it to kill people, right? Like, that is the actual. Like, n- the not-safe-for-work thing, it's private, personal, whatever. But like, yes, like, we will use it in war. And like, that is, something that companies can reasonably prefer their APIs not be used for.Diogo Almeida [00:15:14]: I get that. I think that there's, like, pragmatic places where that opinion can be held. I don't think the foundation of, like, a general-purpose technology is that place, personally.Diogo Almeida [00:15:27]: Like, would I prefer that our stuff is not used to kill people? Obviously. Would I prefer it's used for, like, all sorts of, like, great stuff in the world? Obviously. Will I put my thumb in the scale for that? Yes. Will I do it at the technological layer? Absolutely not, because that will fracture the intelligence. Every single time you mean it to overfit to some weird stuff, you're fracturing its intelligence more and more. And like, these things are fractured to the, like. They're so darn fractured right now.Swyx [00:15:54]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:15:54]: So and as a furthermore thing, to me, it's like I think intelligence will be more like a database than a coworker. Like, I don't think it's up to databases to add checks on whether or not they're used for, like, what's something that's not great? Like, CIA. Actually, I don't know what the CIA does, really. You can imagine. You can imagine, killing people who are not even bad or whatever.Diogo Almeida [00:16:21]: And like, I don't think it's the database's responsibility for that. And furthermore, like, a thing that has been weird to me is when people, like, sign up for our thing on Slack and they're like, “Hey, we're gonna deploy this. Can we deploy this thing?” I am just like, “My brother, we are an API. You are a developer. It's none of my business,” right? Like, you shouldn't know what the whole task even isSwyx [00:16:46]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:16:46]: Because it should be decomposed into small things. We shouldn't be able to know what the downstream users are doing, and that is, like, a good boundary to give software engineers maximum power. Ideally, they use it for the good stuff, and ideally, we can, like, help them and like, we've talked about, like, doing open source and charity and all of that. We have absolutely no time for anything else right now. But like, they will get any of that bias out of the technological layer as long as I'm in charge.Privacy, Benchmarking, and Trusting IntelligenceSwyx [00:17:11]: Yeah, that's great. While we're on the topic, let's also briefly talk about your privacy stuff, terms of ser- terms of use, which, got a little bit ofDiogo Almeida [00:17:18]: OohSwyx [00:17:18]: Misunderstanding. I just wanna clarify that upfront.Diogo Almeida [00:17:21]: Hell yeah.Swyx [00:17:21]: I think this probably takes two sentences from you about, like, you will not. You're not being that restrictive about your API. Like, clearlyDiogo Almeida [00:17:27]: Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, so yeahSwyx [00:17:27]: Ideologically, you articulate your role as a platform very seriously.Diogo Almeida [00:17:30]: Yes. Yes. I don't know what you're referring to, but like, this was. I've seen a couple of things about, like, benchmarking.Swyx [00:17:38]: Yes.Diogo Almeida [00:17:38]: Like, obviously we're not stopping people from do. Oh, man, I should be careful about what I say. I'm realizingSwyx [00:17:43]: No, you said, you said it publicly thatDiogo Almeida [00:17:44]: YeahSwyx [00:17:44]: That was in the preview period. You didn't take it out for the launch.Diogo Almeida [00:17:47]: Yeah. Okay.Swyx [00:17:47]: And now you're gonna take it out.Diogo Almeida [00:17:48]: So the team is doing stuff thatSwyx [00:17:49]: YesDiogo Almeida [00:17:49]: I'm not even aware of, so it's great to know the team communicated that. I asked them to check in with the lawyers about that.Swyx [00:17:54]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:17:54]: Like, we are obviously not stopping people from doing that type of thing. I'm extremely in favor. So I'm extremely anti-public benchmarks. I'm extremely in fa- I'm medium about private benchmarks that are proxies. ISwyx [00:18:09]: So are you worried about, saturation or, like, training on public benchmarks? So it's, like, easy to cheat.Diogo Almeida [00:18:15]: Not only is it easy to cheat, there's a lot of ins. So I think that we are. Or anyone who's, like, competition with us that, vaguely there is. Like, you could say, likeSwyx [00:18:28]: There's like 50 Jev clones, yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:18:30]: Well, sure.Swyx [00:18:31]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:18:32]: Well, the, these. Let's say that there is competition.Swyx [00:18:34]: And we'll talk about those. Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:18:34]: Or let's just say that there's. Let's just assume that there's an industry two years from now of people who are doing similar things to us. The thing that we are selling is intelligence per something, per, like, dollar or per second. The. No one. Like, people obsess about the cost and the speed. I believe that is. It's cool, but like, the thing that matters is the intelligence. Like, the cost and the speed are, like, are bad things. You're paying them for something, and you need the thing back, and the intelligence is what truly matters. The problem with intelligence is that there's a je ne sais quoi to it, right? Like, the good model smell. Like, the thing that happened after we launched of, like, two hours later that actually went way bigger than the video, which was like, “Holy s**t.”Swyx [00:19:16]: This is actually usable.Diogo Almeida [00:19:17]: It. WellSwyx [00:19:17]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:19:17]: It's, like, beyond that.Swyx [00:19:20]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:19:20]: Like, the. Whew, the launch was crazy, and people could really sense how hard we care about that, and that's truly what I think the long term of this is. And I think public benchmarks are antithetical to this. Like, they are a way to get people trust in intelligence because intelligence has a je ne sais quoi, but the public benchmarks are extremely gameable. Even if they try not to, they still will. Like, back in the old days, every lab had a team to collect data that looks like MMLU to make it look better, which is just benchmarking with extra steps.Diogo Almeida [00:19:58]: So I believe that in the long run, it needs to be vibes and trust until you put it into a workflow and evaluate it for that workflow and measure it and have your own sense of, like, how it does on the exact workflow that matters. And our job is to keep moving the nines of reliability. This is like an ever-present part of o- of what we need to be doing as a company, and we need to do everything to have people know that this is something we care so much about. Like, if we wanted to, we could have released Jev, like, a year and a half ago if we wanted it to be dumb.The Bitterest Lesson: Tasks, Data, and North StarsSwyx [00:20:34]: Oh.Diogo Almeida [00:20:34]: It. Like, the. My bitterest lesson, right? Like, architecture and Yeah.Swyx [00:20:40]: I'll bring it upDiogo Almeida [00:20:40]: Hell yeahSwyx [00:20:41]: Since you, since you talked about it, here.Diogo Almeida [00:20:43]: Hell yeah. T- like, Sutton says that algorithms beats compute very roughly. Data matters way more than compute, obviously. And doing the right task, having the North Star is the hardest, most important thing. This has happened, in LLM land twice so far, right? Maybe 2.2 times. There's RLHF, which, like, shifted the task to instruction following. No one realized that was possible. RLVR did, like, a tiny little, like, edit to the, to the direction, and now us, right? RLCD. We have a new task, and the goal is, programs in the loop. And yeah, data matters soSwyx [00:21:28]: RightDiogo Almeida [00:21:28]: Unbelievably much.Swyx [00:21:29]: SoDiogo Almeida [00:21:29]: Like, I can't, I can't emphasize it less.Swyx [00:21:31]: Yeah, you consider yourself a data lab rather than, like, a model lab. Is thatDiogo Almeida [00:21:35]: AbsolutelySwyx [00:21:35]: Something. That's the wording you guys use?Diogo Almeida [00:21:37]: Yeah. We are. We will always, like, care so much about data. To me, model capabilities means data. Data is so unbelievably complicated, and that is what gets nines. Like, you have no idea how much data can shift everything. Data is so important.TypeSafe as a Data Lab and Synthetic Data StrategySwyx [00:21:57]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:21:57]: Holy crap. So if people are looking for a job, we are hiring infinite data people, actually infinite.Swyx [00:22:04]: What is a good data person? Like, clearly somebody who cares about reading through the transcripts of, whatever. You've said, for example, that y- all your data is synthetic.Diogo Almeida [00:22:15]: Yep.Swyx [00:22:15]: But that's only, like, the scratching the surface, right?Diogo Almeida [00:22:18]: Yeah.Swyx [00:22:19]: Like, it's not. Like, synthetic, so what, right? Synthetic, but we have people with a lot of taste and a lot of care looking at, looking at these, articulating what's wrong, going back, regenerating. Is that what a good data person is these days?Diogo Almeida [00:22:31]: Let me try to figure out how to. Like, it's, it's super complicated, and like, I literally onboard the data people with a Talk that I assume is longer than this podcast will end up being. So I will try to say, like, the high level of it. So number one, we don't do the kind of synthetic data that people ki. Well, I'll do. Actually, number is zero. Data and synthetic data depends on your task. Like, the shape of your data. The shape of your task changes the data. Like, RLVR's data is kind of environments, right?Swyx [00:23:03]: Yes.Diogo Almeida [00:23:04]: RLHF's is the human feedback? Each task has its own unique kind of data, and we, of course, have our own unique kind of data, right? So number one, we have that. Number two, the thing I. The reason why we don't want to train on our users' data, even if we could, right? Like, we could probably ask for any terms right now, and it will. We. I don't know if it would make a difference. We truly don't want that, because no matter what, the real-world data has so much bias. There's, like, a power law of, like, people, like, asking the same things where you'll end up, like, overfitting to it and like, fracturing to it and all of that. And number two, we are, like, aiming for, like, a complete sci-fi future years from now where, like, these models are going to be, like, the general infrastructure, layers and layers and layers and deep down the stack to, like, things people can't even imagine. Like, I would like to think of our model, like, kind of like, UDP as LLMs and TCP as our models. All sorts of stuff can be built on top of that, and we need to be able to nail those futuristic use cases such that software developers can actually build that futuristic stuff. And the way to do that is even if we had all of the data of the present, we would just overfit to the present, and then it wouldn't work. What we need is to, like.Diogo Almeida [00:24:21]: It almost feels like a. Like, they're the artists? They study this cognitive core. Our cognitive core is, like, way less jagged than anyone else's. And then they find the jaggednesses, and then they address them surgically in a way that. And you can never perfectly do this, right? But they do it in such a way that it addresses it in every single possible, like, dimension, past, present, future.Swyx [00:24:45]: The general case rather than the specific case.Diogo Almeida [00:24:47]: Exactly. And like, that requires a lot of intelligence every time.RLCD vs. RLHF: Defining a New TaskSwyx [00:24:50]: Okay, so we mentioned a little bit. You sort of criticized my thinking as r-- like, very RLVR influence, which is, like, very fair. Let us actually mention RLCDDiogo Almeida [00:24:59]: OohSwyx [00:24:59]: Which obviously you have some secret sauces to our knowledge. You've never actually published a paper or anything like that on it. No, right?Diogo Almeida [00:25:05]: No, not yet.Swyx [00:25:06]: But like, what should people get from this? Like, what. Can you give people some confidence that you're just not just making up jargon for the sake of sounding cool, right? Like, one thing for me is, like, calibration I do think is a. To me, like, well understood because we've covered it in. On the podcast.Diogo Almeida [00:25:22]: Yeah.Swyx [00:25:22]: But I don't know what you mean when you say RLCD versus what people are familiar with.Diogo Almeida [00:25:26]: It's a great question.Swyx [00:25:27]: Yes.Diogo Almeida [00:25:27]: And actually, I will give a related question.Swyx [00:25:29]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:25:29]: What is RLHF?Swyx [00:25:31]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:25:31]: Right? And actually, RLHF means multiple different things, right?Swyx [00:25:34]: Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:25:34]: Like, there's the RLHF of the original. I think it was, like, Paul Christiano teaching a robot to backflip or something like that. Wasn't there somethingSwyx [00:25:42]: Was that it?Diogo Almeida [00:25:43]: That was the originalSwyx [00:25:44]: I referenced the PPO paper, but I don't know.Diogo Almeida [00:25:46]: And so PPO was not necessarily from human feedback, if I recall.Swyx [00:25:51]: Okay. That's trueDiogo Almeida [00:25:52]: But I b- I believe it was, like, an OpenAI alignment work that could teach hard to specify outputs, like a backflip. I'm not 100% sure. And then there was actually learning to summarize. This was work, by a bunch of the team that helped with, instruct-- and co-authored, the instruction following paper, which was teaching, doing PPO on language models.Swyx [00:26:15]: This is the, sorry. I'm trying to, tryingDiogo Almeida [00:26:19]: YeahSwyx [00:26:19]: Trying to manipulate this thing. This is 2017.Diogo Almeida [00:26:23]: Yeah.Swyx [00:26:23]: Right.Diogo Almeida [00:26:23]: I'm not 100% sure, but like, that looks quite right.Swyx [00:26:26]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:26:26]: If it has, like, a robot doing backflips or something like that might be it. Yes. Okay, cool. I guess I got it right. Hell yeah.Swyx [00:26:35]: There you go.Diogo Almeida [00:26:36]: Yeah.Swyx [00:26:36]: That's the one.Diogo Almeida [00:26:36]: So the idea was can, like, can you do, like, ill-specified things with it? So that's, like, version one. Version two was, the learning to summarize work, that, like, OpenAI did, which is actually, like, PPO on language models to do something somewhat ill-specified. This is, like, another thing that people refer to as RLHF Which I did not co-author.Diogo Almeida [00:26:57]: Oh, Dario's there. Cool. Hell yeah.Swyx [00:27:01]: And Radford.Diogo Almeida [00:27:02]: Yeah. Shout-outs to Alec and Ryan. Love them.Swyx [00:27:04]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:27:05]: But the thing that I refer to RLHF is the, Oh, man.Diogo Almeida [00:27:13]: I'll get toSwyx [00:27:14]: You have comments on that, yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:27:15]: I have comments on that paper, but like, we're so many, tangents deep.Swyx [00:27:18]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:27:18]: So the thing that really got. To me, the thing that I'm calling to RLHF is the task of instruction following. It's not about the PPO. That part doesn't matter. It's about, like, setting a North Star of this is a valuable direction. It's kind of like the Bitris lesson North Star.Diogo Almeida [00:27:34]: And for us, RLCD is this new task. And it is not. I don't see it as jargon. Like, I try to communicate with precision. It's just that, “Hey, here's another North Star.” Just like DPO and all of its, like, descendants also do RLHF, despite not using the algorithm in that paper.Swyx [00:27:55]: And so clear- clearly stating the North Star is, being program- programmable AI is one, word that I really catch onto, removing the human in the loop,Diogo Almeida [00:28:06]: YesSwyx [00:28:06]: From. Because RLHF is tuningDiogo Almeida [00:28:09]: YesSwyx [00:28:09]: For this so that you can automate everything.Diogo Almeida [00:28:11]: Yes. Everything that makesSwyx [00:28:13]: Did I miss anything else in the, in the thesis of, like, what the North Star is?Diogo Almeida [00:28:17]: There is. That is. That is right. I'm overly nuanced in my communication. The one nuance is that we need to be practical. We need to be aware of what language models can do really well. Like what AI can do.Diogo Almeida [00:28:30]: Right? Like, there could be programmatic types that are, like, sick AF, but if you. If the technology is not ready for it to. It's not a tragedy if that's not out in the world.Why Programmable AI MattersSwyx [00:28:41]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:28:42]: But to me, like, the pre-Jev world was a tragedy becau-- it sounds arrogant. Hear me out.Swyx [00:28:49]: No. I strongly believe you.Diogo Almeida [00:28:50]: Cool. It sounds arrogant, but like, I felt this way since long before I even had a company.Swyx [00:28:54]: Yeah. I can, I can vouch that,Diogo Almeida [00:28:56]: Yes, I've been talking about this for so longSwyx [00:28:57]: You said this at All Around Her for, like, three years.Diogo Almeida [00:28:58]: Yeah, I've been talking about this for so long. And I've been saying it because I thought it would have been easier. They say they do not do things because they. It. They're easy. They. It's ‘cause they thought it was easy, soSwyx [00:29:08]: Yeah, exactlyDiogo Almeida [00:29:09]: Something like that. I thought it. This whole project would take a week.Diogo Almeida [00:29:13]: And I was unbelievably wrong. So I am so sorry to everyone at OpenAI that I thought. I was like, “Man, I'm solving this right now.” but like, I think that the tragic thing is when. Well, I think overpromise, underdeliver is tragic too. And like, AI is super extreme on that axis. And I think RLVR is, like, the main. Well, both RLVR and RLHF are extreme perpetrators of this.Diogo Almeida [00:29:40]: But like, it. To me, it's like it's just there's just so much potential there. Like, AI is clearly so smart. I l- smart. I love this in my talks, when I ask people, like, “How can AI be so unbelievably smart? How can we, like, solve millennium prize problems in math, but still not automate even the most basics of works?” Like, really basic rote stuff that, like, the. It d- it doesn't take, like, extremely smart people to do this. It's not a satisfying job. Like, there's other things these people could be doing, but yet we need them to do, like, this ba- like, super basic- non- unsatisfying stuff because, like, we can't automate it yet, but we have this, like, supercharged engine of automation that just does not have, like, the right plugs and stuff to plug into all of this economically valuable work. And like, if the whole company of TypeSafe disappears, like, maybe it'll take, like, a year or two for people to, like, truly catch up. I actually don't know how long it'll take. If model quality matters, then we are gonna be in a very good position for a long time. But it, like, it's done, right? Like, there, like, this has changed the path of, like, technological history.Swyx [00:30:49]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:30:49]: And like, we will be exploring that space as a field.Swyx [00:30:53]: Yeah. I think, I definitely agree with that. You've created possibilities. So I think, if I can paraphrase so that people can un- also understand, you should not take the success of TypeSafe and Jev as just like, “Well, that is a new model type. Now we're done. We go back to business.” Like, no. Like, actually, there's, there are, like, five other model types that you should be exploring and like, let a thousand flowers bloom.Diogo Almeida [00:31:15]: Absolutely.Swyx [00:31:16]: Right?Diogo Almeida [00:31:16]: Like, early internetSwyx [00:31:17]: And some of that, some of which you will probably also build.Diogo Almeida [00:31:18]: Of course, yes.Swyx [00:31:19]: Yes.Diogo Almeida [00:31:19]: Early internet energy. I think it's back to tech utopia. It's no longer like, “Oh, man, like, sometimes my coding agents work, but the, all of the best ones are hoarded internally.”Swyx [00:31:29]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:31:30]: Right? It's like creation is back on the menu.Diogo Almeida [00:31:34]: ? Though it's gonna be a wild-ass world, and buckle up.Diogo Almeida [00:31:38]: It's. And I'm so jazzed about that.Manifesto, Launch Strategy, and Early Internet EnergySwyx [00:31:42]: Yeah. And now you have the funding and the momentum to do whatever you envision there, which I, which I think is, like, very gratifying to see you have after, so long of saying these thingsDiogo Almeida [00:31:53]: YeahSwyx [00:31:54]: But actually show the world.Diogo Almeida [00:31:55]: I know. I just. Such a, such an interesting thing to be a tease the whole time. Like, my talk, like, felt like it was a cliffhanger ‘cause I didn't say how the automation would occur.Swyx [00:32:05]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:32:06]: Sean reviewed our manifesto And he's like, “It's a little bit vague in these parts.”Diogo Almeida [00:32:12]: And like, “What's step one? What is, what is the intelligence model?”Swyx [00:32:16]: Well, I asked you for model, and you were like, “Yeah, model coming.”Diogo Almeida [00:32:18]: Yeah.Swyx [00:32:18]: And like, Well, I just, I mainly objected to the word composable But build prod.god is fantastic.Diogo Almeida [00:32:24]: Thank you.Swyx [00:32:24]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:32:25]: I. We've really rallied around that. I'd like to think we're not entirely a cult like some companies are.Diogo Almeida [00:32:32]: But like, we are, like, jazzed about what we're doing, and like, we are. Like, my brand is being practical, and like, we are all, like, so super-duper practical.Swyx [00:32:42]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:32:42]: It's really great.Swyx [00:32:43]: Yeah. So here. And by the way, here is the step, the secret master plan, right?Diogo Almeida [00:32:47]: Yep.Swyx [00:32:47]: Shape, the shape of machine-native composable AI.Diogo Almeida [00:32:49]: It was your idea to make a secret master plan, soSwyx [00:32:51]: It's a, it's that Elon thing. When he started TeslaDiogo Almeida [00:32:53]: YeahSwyx [00:32:53]: He was like, “Here's what we'll do.”Diogo Almeida [00:32:54]: But I did. Yeah. I'm giving official credit to you.Swyx [00:32:56]: Oh, thank you. Thank you, thank you.Diogo Almeida [00:32:56]: Yeah.Swyx [00:32:56]: Thank you. But like, you should've told me your, you're also gonna do this model launch, ‘cause you, like, you told me, you told me half of the story, and then the other half, you didn't have the doom demo at the time.Diogo Almeida [00:33:08]: Yep.Swyx [00:33:08]: You didn't have any numbers to give me.Diogo Almeida [00:33:10]: Yep.Swyx [00:33:10]: I was like, “what?”Diogo Almeida [00:33:11]: Well, the problem is I don't believe in benchmarking.Swyx [00:33:13]: Exactly.Diogo Almeida [00:33:14]: Right?Swyx [00:33:14]: Exactly.Diogo Almeida [00:33:14]: So like, it is a thing that you need to feel, and like, I think that this is the way to build long-term trust, even though it, like, hurt, it hurt us a, us a lot? Like last year when we did fundraise, no one believed us.Diogo Almeida [00:33:27]: ? Like, and they wanted just benchmarks and stuff, and we're like, “We're not gonna do that. We are principled. We're gonna stand by our guns. That rewards bad actors. I don't give a s**t, like, what you want. Like, this is who we are, and we are standing by that.” So Sorry. It's notSwyx [00:33:43]: No, yeah. Well, and in some ways, I think, like, choosing the hard path, it. But you end up making the company that you wanna work in.Diogo Almeida [00:33:49]: Yep.Swyx [00:33:50]: Right? Otherwise, if you sell out, then you're just working in, like, OpenAI but with my people, right? Which is like.Diogo Almeida [00:33:56]: Yeah. Yeah. Like, I'm, I don't have too many regrets on that, obviously.Swyx [00:34:01]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:34:01]: Like, it worked out so unbelievably well. And like, I, The. I was emotional last night when I was talking about, like, the reasons I left OpenAI, and because, like, it actually had to change my wording after the launch. My phrasing was, “If an AI winter did happen and I did not do every f*****g possible thing I could to, like, avert that, I would see myself as personally responsible both for, the RLHF direction, which I think really widened overpromise versus under-deliver, and also not going all in on this because I think this is, this is where value is going to just be, like, printed.” So. And it was really cool because I feel likeDiogo Almeida [00:34:47]: The AI winter I'm worrying about is averted. Like, AI will be useful. It'll be used for automation.Diogo Almeida [00:34:53]: It's been less than a week, and like, the numbers are already undeniableSwyx [00:34:57]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:34:57]: That it's, like, being used for real work, and like, there's. It's, it's the Wild West. Yeah.Launch Traction, Tokens, Rate Limits, and Developer UsageSwyx [00:35:03]: Yeah. Can you sh- just if you have top of your head, what numbers are you seeing? Like, what's, what's, like, signups? Like, whatever you can share.Diogo Almeida [00:35:11]: I'm actually not super on top of everything. Like, the team is the ones who are telling me all of these things.Swyx [00:35:16]: Yeah, and I'm sure it's, like, changing every day, right?Diogo Almeida [00:35:17]: It's, it's,Swyx [00:35:18]: But likeDiogo Almeida [00:35:18]: It's kinda nutsSwyx [00:35:19]: If there's a milestone that you're like, “Well, yep, that's one thing we were hoping for. We reached it.”Diogo Almeida [00:35:23]: I will say a milestone that we've passed is tokens per day.Swyx [00:35:27]: Nice.Diogo Almeida [00:35:27]: And this is not, like, fleeting tokens per day.Swyx [00:35:32]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:35:32]: This is, like, even at night, like, it's constantly training, so machines are calling it and not just people trying things out.Diogo Almeida [00:35:39]: So that is, That is so cool. A trillion tokens a day is a lot.Swyx [00:35:45]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:35:45]: So surpassing that is awesome. Signups to me don't really matter. And actually, this was, like, a bit of a mistake we made, if I'm, like, totally honest. People on Twitter were calling us, like, marketing geniuses and all of that, and that was just us. We don't have a marketer. Also hiring. And we were just being our genuine, goofy, like, irreverent selves, and we were, we were just, like, offboarding people off the waitlist so hard. - Our platform team is so unbelievably cracked. I think we have more n- up nines of uptime than Anthropic while having the most Unprecedented launch ever. Like, that is kind of nuts, soSwyx [00:36:21]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:36:21]: Like, props to them.Swyx [00:36:22]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:36:23]: And the thing we didn't realize. So number one, waitlists, waitlist sign-ups don't matter for, like, a developer platform, in my opinion? I would guess that a large number of them are not even developers. So they go in, they try some queries, and a lot of people don't get it because they are not programming, right? Like, they're just like, “What? This is not a chatbot. Where's my ChatGPT 2?”Diogo Almeida [00:36:45]: Right? But if, like. I haven't exactly calculated this. My sense is that if every single human being in the world, like, just wrote a couple of queries, that would be a rounding error compared to, like, one power user's for loop that is just, like, creating value.Swyx [00:37:01]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:37:01]: And the thing we are-- didn't realize with the waitlist is, like, we could just w- off-board anyone off the waitlist. It doesn't matter. The scary part is rate limits. And then once people start getting value from that, then they just want tons and tons of rate limits because this is what software is, right? Like, you spend effort upfront to specify your rote task, and then this rote task creates more value than it takes to put in. And then now that you have thatSwyx [00:37:25]: Set it and forget, yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:37:26]: Exactly, yeah. You run it in the background. You make it a dependency, to, like, other things. You can make, like, higher level stuff. And like, you just create so much value in the world. Early internet people probably did not imagine, like, the wonder of early 2000s internet, which is still not early internet. But like, it's, it's through, no offense, composabilitySwyx [00:37:47]: NoDiogo Almeida [00:37:47]: That all of the crazy stuff happens, and I just really wanted to emphasize that in our manifesto. We are going for emergence. We are going for, like, being the catalyst. We're wanting to empower people, and we are going to do whatever we can for that, be it, like, Discords in our town hall with me wearing a garbage bag or not.Swyx [00:38:05]: And podcasts and Diogo Almeida [00:38:08]: Hell yeahSwyx [00:38:09]: Getting all that.Diogo Almeida [00:38:09]: Absolutely.Swyx [00:38:09]: Like, ‘cause I want the long form, right?Diogo Almeida [00:38:11]: Yeah.Swyx [00:38:12]: It is like, yes, we'll get past the, some of the superficial things, and then we'll go deep andDiogo Almeida [00:38:15]: Hell yeahSwyx [00:38:15]: And people will really trust and understand your mission and like, the people that, will resonate that will end up joining you or, buying you. Or No, but sorry, as a, as a customer.Diogo Almeida [00:38:27]: Oh, as a customer.Swyx [00:38:28]: As a customer, as a customer.Diogo Almeida [00:38:28]: Okay, yeah. That was funny. I'm sorry.Swyx [00:38:30]: Sorry. I didn't, I didn't mean to say that. But no, any-- one version, one very flattering version of this, like, 36 million views of your launch video.Diogo Almeida [00:38:37]: Cool. Up to 38 now.Swyx [00:38:39]: Yeah, rounding error.Diogo Almeida [00:38:40]: Yeah.Swyx [00:38:40]: Navio still has got 74. Fable 5 got 57. So like, as far as, a- and I didn't, I didn't do the stats for, like, original ChatGPT, likeDiogo Almeida [00:38:48]: YepSwyx [00:38:49]: Which there was no video.Diogo Almeida [00:38:50]: Yep.Swyx [00:38:50]: So like, up there, right?Diogo Almeida [00:38:52]: Yep.Swyx [00:38:52]: Like, as far, as far as, like, if you were to launch a Neolab in 2026, I think you're, like, number one right now, which is, like, pretty crazy.Diogo Almeida [00:38:58]: Yeah. Well, I actually would rather. I do have the shirt, like, your favorites Neola-- favorite Neolab's favorite Neolab.Swyx [00:39:05]: Huh.Diogo Almeida [00:39:05]: I don't give a s**t about being a Neolab. I think being a Neolab. Actually, we have a lot of, like, swag that's being a parody of a Neolab. One of them, one of them I have is, like, Neolab with product, which actually is not a Neolab. Like, I don't care about that, really.Swyx [00:39:20]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:39:20]: What I care about is being a reliable dev platform. So Swyx [00:39:23]: YesDiogo Almeida [00:39:24]: Appreciate the comparison, but likeSwyx [00:39:25]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:39:25]: Hopefully we transcend past them and we go back into, like, a thing-- like, a revolutionary moment for developers and like, this stable thing that people can rely on and trust.Reliability, Robustness, and DeterminismSwyx [00:39:35]: Yes. To that end, I think that's one thing that really impressed me about you guys is that, yes, you do talk about reliability. I thought it was mostly about calibration, which, like, we talk about RLCD. But actually it's also about just, like, uptime and scalability and all those things, right? They're, they're all sort of the kind.Diogo Almeida [00:39:55]: And nines.Swyx [00:39:56]: And nines.Diogo Almeida [00:39:56]: It's, likeSwyx [00:39:57]: Which uptime is, in my opinion.Diogo Almeida [00:39:58]: Oh, but that's part of it. But like, there's reliability in, like, how intelligent the thing is. Like, how consistently does it do the thing that you want? And I think that, like, the big reasoning models are very smart. In my opinion, they still lack reliability. I think there's many use cases where you-- they look like they should be smart enough to automate their work. There is economic incentive to automate that work, yet still they're not reliable enough as, at an intern because they're optimized for different things. And so like, I think that there's the reliability of being able to, like, trust the outputs. And also we are. Like, there are dimensions of reliability that we are not yet at that I'm, like, so excited by.Swyx [00:40:38]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:40:38]: Like, I want to automate the easy work before the hard work? Like, I think that's just a common sense thing to do. But to me, we will be sufficient. I don't know if there's such thing as sufficiently reliable, but I wanna get so good that people don't even need to try the model to know that it'll work. It's like, that's like what flow state is in programming, right? Like, I'm just, like, writing queries because I need intelligence in here. And like, when. For non-trivial branching, I can just write it in like a, like a type-safe System 1 query and then get the results out of it and it just branches accurately. Like, that would be so good. Like, that's the. That is the dream.Swyx [00:41:12]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:41:12]: And that is, like, going to be, like, a long slog.Swyx [00:41:16]: Yeah. We're gonna go into your API design in a little bitDiogo Almeida [00:41:19]: OohSwyx [00:41:19]: Just to give people examples and like, maybe paths not taken, that kind of stuff.Swyx [00:41:23]: One thing up the front that I do wonder about in terms of reliability is I noticed that there's no seed. There's no, And so basically, same input, do I always get the same output?Diogo Almeida [00:41:34]: SoSwyx [00:41:36]: And if not, why not?Diogo Almeida [00:41:37]: Oh, great question. So this is actually, like, a common question we have between. So reliability is actually a catchall. Like, whenever AI can't automate something, it's due to some form of reliability. Could be, like, type safety. It could be determinism. It just could be, like, it's, it's jagged, right? So reliability is a catchall. I just think that it's also a catchall for, like, what the North Star is. Re- determinism is, like, same inputs, same outputs. I do believe that this is, like, slightly interesting for unit tests, but I believe that to be the wrong North Star. I believe robustness is what peopleDiogo Almeida [00:42:16]: I don't wanna tell people what they really want, ‘cause that would be a little arrogant of me.Diogo Almeida [00:42:19]: I believe that is, like, the more important property. You want, given similar inputs, get similar outputs. And it's kind of wild how unreliable LLMs are.Diogo Almeida [00:42:31]: Like, a way that we test this is you put, like, UUIDs in, like littleSwyx [00:42:36]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:42:36]: I think they're called nonces In the prompt. And what you want is similar outputs from all of those, ‘cause it's truly semantically the same question, and that is the part where you really want. Th- like, that robustness is where, like, people get, like, burnt with AI making decisions. So I think that is the. A super-duper important property. We could also have determinism. That is, that is a thing that can be available. As far as I can, like, mentally model for programmers, like, it, I- it could be valuable for some use cases, so like, please educate me, in comments or view. But my. In general, it's easy. Determinism is something you can, like, trade off for better cost. Like, we are, we are constantly wanting to be on the intelligence per dollar frontier. We are doing, like, absolutely disgusting things to be there. Like, this is,Diogo Almeida [00:43:32]: I shouldn't say this, but no one's here to stop me.Swyx [00:43:37]: If you s- you sign off on your own PR.Diogo Almeida [00:43:40]: That is not how it works at this company. I believe for this week, my chief of staff, Kay, is the most powerful person in tech.Swyx [00:43:49]: Yeah. And shout-out to Kay for organizing this.Diogo Almeida [00:43:50]: Holy shSwyx [00:43:51]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:43:51]: Holy s**t. She is so f*****g competent and powerful. She's incredible.Diogo Almeida [00:43:58]: She sucks. Don't poach her. But so I try to be a bit more filtered, but like, people are telling me, “Don't call it a Frankenstein's monster of models,” but because that has, like, negative implications. I think Frankenstein's monster was, like, the good guy in this whole. It was innocent, right? I didn't read it. Okay.Diogo Almeida [00:44:18]: I'll, I'll confess. Okay. That. Well, one facial expression, ISwyx [00:44:21]: This is aDiogo Almeida [00:44:21]: My cards on the tableSwyx [00:44:21]: Decent Jacob Elordi movie if you wanna seeDiogo Almeida [00:44:24]: ISwyx [00:44:25]: The adaptation. Anyway.Diogo Almeida [00:44:26]: The. You have no idea how little time I have right now.Swyx [00:44:28]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:44:29]: My priorities are sleep?Swyx [00:44:31]: Developers.Diogo Almeida [00:44:32]: Developers, yes. Developers. But yes. It. We do, like, absolutely disgusting things to be on the Pareto curve of intelligence per dollar, and we are going to keep doing that.Swyx [00:44:47]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:44:47]: We're gonna be doing crazy-ass stuff, and I think people really need to think outside of the box. Like, part of the reason we're surprising is, like, people Are thought inside the box, and we continue to do that. As of right now, we are obviously the best at this, and we want to continue being the best at that whole thing.Swyx [00:45:05]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:45:05]: So Wait, where did, where did we tangent from?Swyx [00:45:07]: No. SoDiogo Almeida [00:45:08]: YeahSwyx [00:45:08]: I asked you about, will you have seeds and determinism?Diogo Almeida [00:45:11]: Oh, yes. SoSwyx [00:45:11]: And then you basically defined reliability and likeDiogo Almeida [00:45:14]: And robustnessSwyx [00:45:15]: How you see it. Yes.Diogo Almeida [00:45:16]: But like, determina- likeSwyx [00:45:17]: I have a robustness example that's, that's, real quick I can show you.Diogo Almeida [00:45:19]: I would love that. I will just say one thing.Swyx [00:45:21]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:45:21]: We can make a deterministic model.Swyx [00:45:22]: Exactly.Diogo Almeida [00:45:23]: Like, we're hap- if people can convince us that is a valuable thing to doSwyx [00:45:27]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:45:27]: And we don't have a gigantic GPU shortageSwyx [00:45:29]: YeahDiogo Almeida [00:45:29]: We can happily make all of these models. We live to please. And rev- and revolt, revolute,Swyx [00:45:38]: You will throw over everything, except you'll do it in a nice way.Diogo Almeida [00:45:41]: Yeah.Swyx [00:45:41]: And findDiogo Almeida [00:45:42]: So like, determinism could be on the cards.Swyx [00:45:44]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:45:45]: It just gets you less intelligence per dollar.Swyx [00:45:46]: Yeah. Well, just having seen the trajectory of OpenAI and Anthropic, you will. Just trust me now that you will be peer pressured into doing it. So like, just people will want it even if they. If you tell them they don't need it. They'll still want it. So like, yeah, that's the TL;DR of that.Diogo Almeida [00:46:01]: Okay.Swyx [00:46:02]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:46:02]: I will love to. Maybe one day we will see how that happens.Swyx [00:46:07]: Yeah.Diogo Almeida [00:46:07]: I've been told I'm, They say that part of our brand is being unshakeableSwyx [00:46:13]: HuhDiogo Almeida [00:46:13]: And they say that's just the nice way of saying stubborn.Swyx [00:46:15]:
Thank you Lynette, Save our democratic republic, Tamar Kranick, Gilda Johnson, LBW, and many others for tuning into my live video!* Houston's $300 Million Question: Public Safety Grant or Immigration Enforcement?: Houston's $300 Million Question: Public Safety Grant or Immigration Enforcement? [More]* Secret Trump Drug Deals Reveal Perks for Big Pharma, Uncertainty for Patients: “The Trump team appears to be doing more to protect pharma profits than patients' pocketbooks,” said Public Citizen. [More]* ‘This Violence Cannot Continue': ICE Shooting of Man in Austin Sparks Outrage: “ICE has been terrorizing our country for far too long,” said Congressional Progressive Caucus Chair Greg Casar, who represents the district where the shooting occurred. [More]* Trump Greenland Deal Panned as ‘Largely a Rebranding of the Status Quo to Claim a Win':“Trump did an incredible job negotiating for things we already had in Greenland,” said one US critic. [More]The chats reflected a politically engaged audience that strongly agreed with the program's accountability framing. Participants expressed anger and anxiety about authoritarianism, ICE, corporate influence, economic insecurity, voter access, and government grants carrying ideological or enforcement conditions. At the same time, the communities remained friendly, supportive, and appreciative of the program.Substack chatThe Substack discussion was active, communal, and conversational. Lynette anchored the room by greeting participants and encouraging interaction.Major themes included:* Division and culture wars: Participants described racism, religion, and manufactured cultural conflicts as tools used to divide working people and advance corrupt agendas.* Money in politics: Several comments blamed Citizens United, dark money, corporations, and political greed for weakening representative government.* Economic insecurity: Participants connected stagnant wages with corporate control of housing and rising living costs.* Houston's federal grant: The audience questioned what Houston would surrender to obtain the money. Several participants worried that officials would accept the grant regardless of its conditions.* ICE and public safety: The strongest discussion concerned whether ICE can be reformed or must be abolished. Participants said aggressive immigration enforcement made them feel less safe.* Voting access: One participant asked whether Houston residents could legally finance buses to ballot drop boxes and polling locations.* AI: A participant said the program's AI discussion reduced her fear and helped her understand the technology better.Substack sentiment: The political sentiment was overwhelmingly negative toward the Trump administration, ICE, corporate power, dark money, and establishment politics. Emotionally, the chat combined anger, fear, frustration, and distrust. The social sentiment, however, was strongly positive: participants welcomed one another, shared personal updates, promoted the upcoming Zoom coffee, and expressed appreciation for the program.Facebook chatFacebook participation was smaller and less conversational, but its political tone was sharper.Major themes included:* Concern that local government spending could worsen housing and consumer costs.* Support for media organizations reportedly challenging White House restrictions on press access.* Strong opposition to fascism, authoritarianism, and efforts to punish critical news organizations.* Discussion of election security and how voting data and ballots are handled.* Comparisons between attacks on American media and Vladimir Putin's destruction of independent Russian media.* Concern that AI data centers and automated political accounts could manufacture artificial public support and manipulate voters.* One apparent spam message appeared and contributed nothing to the discussion.Facebook sentiment: The dominant sentiment was alarmed, confrontational, and anti-authoritarian. Participants showed intense distrust of Trump and concern about press freedom, propaganda, election integrity, AI-enabled manipulation, and affordability.Overall assessmentThe combined sentiment was progressive, highly critical, and politically energized. The audience broadly accepted the program's argument that concentrated political and corporate power threatens democracy, economic security, civil liberties, and public trust.Substack supplied the stronger community atmosphere and deeper participant interaction. Facebook delivered fewer comments but more pointed warnings about authoritarianism, press suppression, and technological manipulation. Despite considerable fear and frustration, the chats did not convey resignation. They reflected an audience seeking reliable explanations, collective action, and opportunities to remain politically involved. This post has bonus content for paid subscribers. 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If you feel stuck or awkward expressing emotions, I've been there! In this episode, I confront how avoidance, people-pleasing, fear of judgment, and more keep you emotionally distant from yourself and the people who want to connect with you.
This is a list that will have many of you questioning how much you share with others, who you share that information with, and why you’re sharing it in the first place. Oversharing is a common trait in many of us, but sharing itself isn’t the problem, it’s when you’re sharing to get affirmation that’s at issue. Emotionally secure people don’t need their life to be witnessed in order to feel seen, and they don’t need others to confirm what they already know about themselves. We’ll go over the 8 things emotionally secure people keep to themselves, and how they choose to share their stories in a more meaningful way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This is a list that will have many of you questioning how much you share with others, who you share that information with, and why you’re sharing it in the first place. Oversharing is a common trait in many of us, but sharing itself isn’t the problem, it’s when you’re sharing to get affirmation that’s at issue. Emotionally secure people don’t need their life to be witnessed in order to feel seen, and they don’t need others to confirm what they already know about themselves. We’ll go over the 8 things emotionally secure people keep to themselves, and how they choose to share their stories in a more meaningful way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This is a list that will have many of you questioning how much you share with others, who you share that information with, and why you’re sharing it in the first place. Oversharing is a common trait in many of us, but sharing itself isn’t the problem, it’s when you’re sharing to get affirmation that’s at issue. Emotionally secure people don’t need their life to be witnessed in order to feel seen, and they don’t need others to confirm what they already know about themselves. We’ll go over the 8 things emotionally secure people keep to themselves, and how they choose to share their stories in a more meaningful way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This is a list that will have many of you questioning how much you share with others, who you share that information with, and why you’re sharing it in the first place. Oversharing is a common trait in many of us, but sharing itself isn’t the problem, it’s when you’re sharing to get affirmation that’s at issue. Emotionally secure people don’t need their life to be witnessed in order to feel seen, and they don’t need others to confirm what they already know about themselves. We’ll go over the 8 things emotionally secure people keep to themselves, and how they choose to share their stories in a more meaningful way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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When Holly and Nathan Miller learned their baby was breech late in pregnancy, the unmedicated vaginal birth they had been preparing for suddenly felt out of reach. Living in rural South Georgia, they explored their options, including finding a provider experienced in vaginal breech birth, but ultimately faced limited choices close to home. In this episode, EBB Childbirth Class graduates Holly and Nathan share how they shifted their focus from the birth they had originally envisioned to creating a family-centered Cesarean experience. They talk about advocating for a clear drape and immediate skin-to-skin, navigating conflicting information from providers, and finding ways to remain active participants in their baby's birth. They also reflect on Cesarean recovery, the importance of partner support, and what they learned about speaking up for their preferences even when circumstances were outside their control. (01:27) Finding Evidence Based Birth® and Preparing for an Unmedicated Birth (03:33) When Birth Plans Began to Change (05:03) Navigating Birth Options in Rural South Georgia (07:51) Exploring ECV, Vaginal Breech Birth, and Cesarean (10:24) Shifting Toward a Family-Centered Cesarean (12:50) Advocating for a Clear Drape and Immediate Skin-to-Skin (15:10) Holly and Nathan's Cesarean Birth Story (17:43) What a Cesarean Felt Like Physically and Emotionally (22:03) Meeting Eliana and Beginning Skin-to-Skin (25:31) Breastfeeding and Recovering from a Cesarean (28:53) Partner Support During Postpartum Recovery (30:09) Advice for Navigating Breech Birth and Unexpected Changes (31:53) Looking Ahead to a Future VBAC Resources EBB 256 – Top 3 Recommendations for Preventing Pelvic Floor Dysfunction after Birth with Dr. Sarah Duvall, Founder of Core Exercise Solutions All About Breach EBB 299 – A Breech Vaginal Birth Story with EBB Parents Naoma Kleisner, RN, MSN and Mohamed Koraichi EBB 298 – Overcoming Barriers to Breech Vaginal Birth with Dr. Emiliano Chavira, OB/GYN and Maternal Fetal Medicine Specialist EBB 297 – Frequently Asked Questions about Breech with Dr. Rebecca Dekker and Sara Ailshire, MA EBB 296 – Evidence on Breech Birth with Dr. Rebecca Dekker and Sara Ailshire, MA EBB 173 - Evidence on External Cephalic Version for Breech Positioned Babies EBB 172 – Breech Vaginal Birth with Dr. Rixa Freeze and Dr. David Hayes EBB 171 – The Experience of a Unique Vaginal Breech Birth with Janae and Andrew Rick EBB 111 – Positioning Breech Babies with Dr. Elliot Berlin
Arif and James are back to discuss the victory over the Packers and rank the funniest moments of the fourth quarter. We also go over our yearly travel guide to the Twin Cities and if this Vikings win was a cruel trick. You can become a sustaining member of the show and access exclusive content at http://www.patreon.com/norsecode Arif - @Arifhasannfl James - @bigmono Please send any questions or feedback to norsecodepodcast@gmail.com or tweet to @norsecodeDN. If you like our show please donate to http://www.paypal.me/norsecode We have merch! You can visit our shop at: https://norsecode.threadless.com/collections/norse-code/ Also a special thank you to DrawPlayDave for our new logo and merchandise design! You can follow him on bluesky @thedrawplay.com and visit his main comic page here: www.thedrawplay.com
What happens when you press pause on making financial decisions in your group practice?In this solo episode, Linzy digs into the reasons why group practice owners often make reactive, emotionally driven decisions in business. She also uncovers the three most common financial mistakes that group practice owners make and shares what it takes to make grounded financial decisions in group practice.Whether you run a group or solo practice, this episode offers valuable insights to give you the clarity and confidence you need to make intentional, strategic choices in your business that allow you to build a healthy, sustainable practice.Doors are open for the Fall 2026 cohort of Money Skills for Group Practice Owners, which starts in October. Visit moneyskillsfortherapists.com/msgpo to learn more or register today to save your spot in the Monday or Thursday session.Timestamps:02:48 - Emotionally driven decision making in group practice08:37 - The three most common financial mistakes group practice owners make16:45 - Grounded decision making in group practice18:41 - Anchoring financial decisions to your top three values21:05 - Being with your numbers at three different levels26:47 - Pressing pause on financial decisions in private practiceMentioned in this Episode: Ep 223: Give Every Dollar a Job: Creating Meaning & Purpose for Your MoneyWant to feel more calm and confident about your money? Join one of Linzy's online workshops for private practice owners to shift your money mindset, transform your relationship with money, and gain practical tools and strategies to manage your business finances with greater clarity and ease. Explore upcoming workshops and sign up to save your spot or register to receive the replay.You can also join the private WhatsApp community to connect with other therapists, health practitioners, and listeners of Money Skills for Therapists: The Podcast. Submit your request to join the community today.For dedicated coaching and support with your group practice finances, register for our October 2026 cohort of Money Skills for Group Practice Owners.For dedicated coaching and support with your solo practice finances, join the Money Skills for Therapists waitlist to hear when enrollment opens for our January 2027 cohort.About Linzy Bonham:Linzy Bonham is a therapist turned money coach who helps private practice owners and health professionals feel calm, confident, and in control of their finances through her podcast, workshops, and comprehensive programs: Money Skills for Therapists and Money Skills for Group Practice Owners. You can learn more about Linzy here.Connect with Linzy:LinkedInInstagramFacebook
Live Group Coaching: Mental Restriction, Emotional Eating & The Fuck Yes to YourselfThis one is a live hot seat coaching session from inside The Freedom Collective.Sandy joins me for coaching today, and what unfolds is one of those conversations that touches something really universal. She has done so much work already: she left restriction behind, rebuilt her relationship with food, got into her body in a completely new way. And then life hit hard. Loss, family illness, exhaustion. And food became the thing she defaulted to. And now she is in her head about it, ashamed of herself for it, and wondering why she cannot just choose the things she knows will make her feel better.Sound familiar?This session is for you if:You have done a lot of recovery work and then life happened and you feel like you have gone backwardsYou are emotionally eating and giving yourself a hard time about it even though you know it makes senseYou find yourself mentally restricting even when you are physically eating freelyYou have thoughts of going back to old diets or food rules and then sabotage yourself in response to those thoughtsYou want to understand what the difference between restriction and genuine choice actually feels likeIn this episode, we cover:✨ Why emotional eating during an emotionally depleted season of life makes complete and total sense✨ Why food should always be on your emotional support list, and why putting it there is not a step backwards✨ The difference between being back here and being here: why there is no back, only forward✨ Mental restriction: how judging your food choices, even subtly, creates the same biological drive to eat as physical restriction✨ Why thoughts of going back to old rules or diets can trigger the exact sabotage you are trying to avoid✨ What your brain and nervous system need to see before they will trust that restriction is not coming again✨ The fuck yes to yourself energy: who she is, how she thinks, how she moves through the world and how to start embodying her now✨ Why attachment to outcomes at the gym creates suffering whether you achieve them or not✨ Seasons of life: why this moment is not the moment to overhaul everything, it is the moment to be held by everything you have already built✨ Homework: write the letter to yourself, visit the grocery store as your fuck yes self, notice when mental restriction is quietly running the showPowerful quotes from the episode:
Have you ever gotten to the end of the day and thought, why am I so tired? Not physically tired. The kind of tired where your body is on the couch but your mind is still running a marathon, and when you look back at your day, nothing dramatic even happened.This week I break down three hidden reasons behind that exact kind of exhaustion, and none of them are about doing too much. They're about carrying too much.I'm also opening something brand new starting October 5th to help you actually start putting some of it down: the 7-Day Protect Your Peace Practice.One week. One simple practice each day. A gentle reset for women who are tired of carrying everything.Click here to sign up today: https://www.ldsmentalhealthco.com/protect-your-peace-practice_______________________________Have a question or struggle you'd like Niki to help with?Click here to share it anonymously. Your question may be answered on a future episode of The LDS Mental Health Podcast, and it could help another LDS woman who's struggling with the same thing too.
For help controlling your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Most people who become emotionally abusive don't wake up intending to hurt the person they love. But unmanaged anger can quietly become emotional abuse without you ever recognising the pattern. This episode explains how it happens, and how to stop it before it destroys your relationship.Many people think emotional abuse only applies to extreme relationships. In reality, it often develops slowly through repeated anger, criticism, intimidation, stonewalling, controlling behaviour, or making a partner feel unsafe. These behaviours frequently grow out of anger problems rather than deliberate cruelty, but the damage they cause is no less real.In this episode, Alastair explains what emotional abuse actually is, why intent doesn't erase its impact and how fear, shame, and emotional insecurity quietly develop inside relationships. You'll learn why emotionally abusive behaviour often begins with anger that goes unchecked, how to recognise the warning signs in yourself, and why taking responsibility is the turning point that allows real change to begin.Alastair also shares the five-step process he teaches clients to break these destructive patterns: developing honest self-awareness, accepting responsibility without excuses, understanding the emotional impact on your partner and children, identifying your anger triggers, and committing to lasting behavioural change. Through the story of one client who rebuilt safety in his home, you'll see that change is possible—even after years of damaging behaviour.The Anger Secrets Podcast helps men and women master anger management, improve relationships, rebuild trust after anger, and create calmer, happier families. Hosted by anger specialist Alastair Duhs, creator of The Complete Anger Management System.
The Rizzuto Show starts innocently enough with football picks and somehow ends up asking whether artificial intelligence will wipe out humanity — with stops along the way for NASCAR drivers, a $34 million brothel empire, terrible celebrity guesses, folding phones, wedding-band disasters and the very real possibility that Rizz could someday be killed by a meatball.So, pretty standard week around here.The Seahawks kick off a strategic scoring controversy as the crew tries to figure out how Devon fits into their competition against The Fast Lane. Does her score count? Does the other team need another player? Should they take the best five scores? Why did nobody figure this out before the season started? These are questions normally reserved for leagues with commissioners and bylaws. Instead, we have Rizz.Then Take Five takes over, as listeners try to match answers with Lern, Moon, Devon and Rizz for concert tickets. Lern survives the dreaded “NFL team with an animal mascot” category by landing on Jaguars with her fifth and final guess. Moon, meanwhile, is asked to name a Beatles song and confidently begins with “Let It Go,” briefly creating the greatest Beatles/Frozen crossover nobody requested.Moon then proceeds to tour the entire Adam Sandler filmography without finding Big Daddy and gets painfully close to Deep Purple by wandering around “deep blue something.” Devon temporarily forgets that famous people named Mike exist, while Rizz correctly identifies Frosted Flakes on his first try before losing the entire game because his caller named fictional supervillain Lex Luthor as a “famous bald person.” Technically correct. Emotionally devastating.Today's show somehow raises the stakes by presenting the crew with the investment opportunity of a lifetime: the Bunny Ranch legacy portfolio in Nevada for roughly $34 million.Suddenly Rizz and the gang are analyzing brothel real estate, acreage, branding, financials and whether the oldest profession might be recession-proof. Lern reminisces about HBO's Cathouse, Moon wants to see the P&Ls, and everyone briefly becomes an investment expert in an industry where absolutely nobody should trust their advice.Then a Nebraska musician accused of taking deposits, double- and triple-booking events and sending multiple clients the same last-minute car-accident excuse gets Lern and Moon talking about the realities of working musicians and why ruining somebody's wedding is generally considered poor customer service.Technology gets its turn when the crew debates an expensive foldable iPhone, whether anyone should ever buy the first generation of a new gadget, planned obsolescence and the eternal Apple-versus-Android battle. Rizz's Meta glasses also spark the important distinction that not everyone wearing them is a creep…but apparently every creep might own a pair.There's also Nirvana, Billy Joel, Soundgarden, streaming-password confusion and NASCAR drivers Jordan Anderson, Blaine Perkins and Jeb Burton joining the day's lineup ahead of racing at World Wide Technology Raceway. Because why have one coherent theme when you can have seventeen?So far things have been far too normal.Lern nearly sleeps through three alarms, launching a full investigation into how everyone wakes up. Some people prefer peaceful gradual sounds. Rizz and Rafe apparently prefer alarms that simulate catastrophic submarine emergencies. Moon explains why using birds as an alarm eventually trained his brain to associate actual birds with going to work, which feels like an unnecessary punishment for both Moon and nature.From there, Rizz introduces the cheerful morning topic of whether AI could eventually pose an existential threat to humanity.The crew dives into warnings surrounding increasingly powerful artificial intelligence, self-improving systems, oversight, regulation, infrastructure and the difference between AI actively hating humans and simply not caring about us at all. Terminator gets mentioned, obviously, but the scarier discussion is whether something vastly more intelligent than humans could eventually treat us the way humans treat an anthill sitting where we want to build a highway.You know. Light morning entertainment.That leads naturally — somehow — into questions about death. Would you want to know the exact date you die? Would you want to know how? Who attends your funeral? What was your biggest missed opportunity?And most importantly: what happens if Rizz learns he dies by meatball?Suddenly every plate of spaghetti becomes a potential crime scene. A rogue meatball could come from anywhere. A restaurant. A waiter. Across the room. Knowing your fate doesn't necessarily help when your fate is apparently covered in marinara.The crew also gets nostalgic over TV dinners, Hungry Man meals, Salisbury steak, dangerously hot desserts and the random corn kernel that somehow migrated into every compartment. The upcoming Cheesecake Factory leads to a discussion about its famously over-the-top decor, which then inspires an even better — and substantially worse — restaurant concept: Stepfather's Pizza.Picture the divorced-dad dining experience perfected. Old televisions playing MAS*H, Cheers, Weather Channel and World War II documentaries. Dim lighting. Half-folded laundry. A smoke detector chirping somewhere in the distance. Finally, a restaurant where the atmosphere says, “Your mother will pick you up Sunday at six.”Across these three episodes, The Rizzuto Show delivers exactly what a comedy podcast should: sports arguments nobody prepared for, games nobody can successfully play, celebrity and music chaos, questionable investment opportunities, technology nobody needs, existential dread nobody requested and enough bizarre hypotheticals to make you reconsider answering questions around these people.Come for the Seahawks, NASCAR and celebrity news. Stay for Moon rewriting Beatles history, Rizz shopping for brothels, Lern fighting her alarm clock, Devon forgetting every Mike on Earth, AI potentially destroying civilization and one meatball patiently waiting to fulfill its destiny.Follow The Rizzuto Show → linktr.ee/rizzshow for more from your favorite daily comedy show.Connect with The Rizzuto Show Comedy Podcast online → 1057thepoint.com/RizzShow.Hear The Rizz Show daily on the radio at 105.7 The Point | Hubbard Radio in St. Louis, MO.‘Gambling with our lives': Another AI employee quits over safety concernsThe Greatest TV Dinners From Recent HistoryWest County Mall Cheesecake Factory set to open in NovemberApple joins foldable phone race with $1999 passport-shaped iPhone DuoSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
What does it actually mean to become a man?In this episode of The Breaking Free Podcast, I sit down with Harley Gonzalez for a raw conversation about men's mental health, relationships, sexuality, emotional intelligence and personal growth.We dive into the sexual shame many young men carry, the lack of meaningful initiation into puberty and adulthood, and what happens when boys are expected to figure out manhood entirely on their own. Harley and I also unpack the difference between falling in love and consciously choosing to love someone, the challenges of opening your heart after heartbreak, and why emotional intelligence is so important for healthy relationships.Harley opens up about rebuilding his relationship with his son and his journey of personal growth, while I share his own experience of meeting his partner Britt through a series of seemingly unlikely coincidences.The conversation goes deeper into masculine and feminine dynamics, hypergamy, manifestation, presence, emotional processing and what men can do to become more grounded, self-aware and emotionally capable.A conversation about what it means to grow up, open your heart, take responsibility and become the man you were meant to be.Thank you for listening and watching wherever in the world you are.. PRE ORDER YOUR COPY OF BREAKING FREE: A TEENS & YOUNG ADULTS GUIDE TO IDENTIFYING THEIR ADDICTIONS & OVERCOMING THEM RIGHT HERE: https://bit.ly/46cVR3uJOIN THE Stoic Rebellion Brotherhood: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3722365171377579Part One AUDIO: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0J4MUtfDcXswWvewCOihUd?si=8b7a98287b6c46f8VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2hk023MIBI&t=1060sPart II AUDIO: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4PUMye0aWJZ2r7ysI25iQl?si=15388a016a1849f2VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02XYUpc-4v0Jump on BonCharge and grab yourself some protection from wifi, 5G, blue/red light and so much more…At the Checkout Use Code “Nath22” to receive 15% offRight here: https://www.boncharge.com/?rfsn=7434501.689abcConect With Harley Gonzalez:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harlztalks/Connect With Me (Nathan Francis Coach/Mentor) Substack: https://substack.com/@nathanfrancisFacebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/OSS.Health.MindPersonal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nath.francis69Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@nathanfrancis222?_t=8iKxXw8R2ee&_r=1Telegram: https://t.me/nathf94  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nathanfrancis__/Email me anytime: nathanselfsabotage@gmail.comThe Breaking Free Podcast Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1fHxmfbFZwyZPIcOrjw3Hf?si=q42PtUR4Qeu8SvUuWDMrpwApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/breaking-free-podcast/id1657951151Youtube: https://youtube.com/@nathanfrancis__?si=df69YA7zK-CUeG8-
In today's episode, I diving into the wild ride that is Fall. If you're feeling thrown off by all the new expenses and busy schedules… same here. In this episode, I'm sharing grounding practices that actually help, both with your money and your mindset. I'm sharing simple habits like weekly check-ins, jotting down a note or two about your finances, tiny rituals to reset, and giving yourself permission to pivot when things don't go as planned. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If you loved this episode, please take a moment to follow, rate, or review Money Isn't Scary — it helps more women find these much-needed conversations. You can also find me here:
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dig into why we react so quickly with anger during conflict. We explore how fear often hides beneath our anger — fear of being seen as weak, invisible, or unworthy. Stephen shares practical tools for building self-awareness, like pausing to ask yourself, "What am I really afraid of?" or explore the reasons that certain emotions arise when particular triggers are present.We also talk about finding peace in God's unconditional love, so we don't need others' approval to feel worthy. This is a truly eye-opening conversation about emotional growth and healthier relationships! To get more thoughts and insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional growth in relationshipsHandling conflict and angerThe role of fear in emotional responsesSelf-awareness and its importance in managing emotionsUnderstanding personal triggers and emotional patternsThe impact of past experiences on current reactionsThe significance of patience and dialogue in emotional transformationThe relationship between anger and care for othersThe value of seeking support from counselors or spiritual guidesEncouragement to explore feelings and foster curiosity about emotional responsesMore Resources: Do You Fight (And Argue)? (blog post from DoctorMarriage.org)Untangling Emotions* by Groves and SmithDealing with Conflict Podcast BundleRelated Podcasts:How to Turn Emotional Triggers Into Opportunities for GrowthThe Harms of Negative TalkingAssumptions vs. Communication: The Battle for Relational Harmony*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple and SpotifyFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.
She thought sex would be the EASY part of marriage.Then she got married.Almost a year into her marriage, a listener writes in because intimacy hasn't become what she imagined it would be. Her first sexual experience with her husband left her disappointed—not only physically, but by the way he responded to her in such a vulnerable moment.They've talked about it. He's apologized.But something still doesn't feel right.She says she doesn't feel emotionally safe with her husband. He believes spending time together, watching things she enjoys, and participating in her interests should create connection.But she's looking for something deeper.She wants him to study her.To be curious about her.To WANT to know her.And that disconnect has started showing up in their sex life.But we had to ask a different question:Is emotional safety actually the problem?NEW SONGS BY BELEAF: https://monopoly.lnk.to/fdphie BLACK LOVE STORY https://monopoly.lnk.to/4epgfn SUGAR WATERResources & LinksEmber mug Yvette Loves
Have you ever worked with a leader whose mood seemed to determine the mood of the entire team? In this solo episode of Becoming Unshakable, I'm looking at the hidden cost of emotionally unpredictable leadership and why our emotional consistency has such a powerful effect on the people around us. Teams are constantly reading their leaders, often before a single word is spoken. They notice our tone, body language, reactions, and energy, and those signals can influence whether people feel safe enough to speak up, challenge an idea, admit a mistake, or raise a concern. That is where emotional contagion and psychological safety begin to overlap. When leaders are unpredictable, people often become more cautious. They hesitate. They avoid risk. They spend energy trying to work out which version of the leader is going to show up that day. In this episode, I talk about why self-regulation is not about becoming emotionless or pretending that pressure does not affect us. It is about learning how to experience stress without automatically transferring it to everyone else. I also share a practical tool I call the 15-minute buffer protocol, which gives leaders space to process difficult information before responding to their teams. Sometimes the most responsible thing we can do is resist the urge to react immediately and give ourselves enough time to respond with greater steadiness and intention. Our people do not need leaders who never experience stress. They need leaders they can trust not to make their stress everyone else's burden. Because emotional steadiness is more than a personal skill. It is part of the environment we create for everyone we lead. How predictable is your presence when the pressure rises?
Over the next 6 weeks we are asking you, "How are you doing?" I'm actually asking you 5 questions. How are you doing Physically, Mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually, and Relationally? We are going to take a look under our hoods and check out how we are doing and then hear from God's Word how God meets us where we are.Recorded live at Word of Life Church in Le Sueur, Minnesota, on Sunday, September 6, 2026 with Pastor Jason Lang preaching.
Do you ask yourself if your mother is truly narcissistic or “just” emotionally immature? And most importantly, does this make a difference for your recovery and healing journey?Most daughters of either narcissistic or emotionally immature mothers don't truly understand the difference, and get caught in trying to figure this out instead of focusing on their own healing. Listen to this episode to:1- Gain clarity on the real differences between narcissistic and emotionally immature2- Get clear on the common trait between the two that truly matters for your recovery and healing. Transforming your life is not about labels but about knowing what your next step is. Listen to the full episode to know to know how to heal the mother wound and shift from surviving to thriving. Check out our new complete self-paced course “Regulate, Set Boundaries & Reclaim Your Authenticity”
What do you actually need when you're carrying a lot emotionally and you don't even know where to start? In this episode, we're slowing down and looking at five different emotional needs that can show up when life feels heavy—from feeling completely overwhelmed and unable to think clearly, to needing rest, deeper connection with God, community, or help navigating a specific situation. Instead of assuming you need to try harder or learn “one more thing”, let's talk about how to identify what you actually need in this season and choose a next step that fits. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN [00:00] When Your Emotions Feel Like Too Much to Handle [05:00] Why You Need to Regulate Before You Process [10:00] When You've Been Carrying Too Much for Too Long [18:00] Creating a Regular Rhythm of Connection With God [24:00] Turning What You've Learned Into Real-Life Practice [27:00] When You Need Help With a Specific Situation [31:00] Figuring Out What You Actually Need Right Now [33:00] Taking One Next Step Instead of Staying Stuck RELATED EPISODES: Ep 374: 5 Types of Emotional Overwhelm—Which Are You Experiencing? Ep 373: What Is Emotional Regulation (And Why It's More Than Calming Yourself Down) Ep 372: Why Managing Overwhelm Is Where Emotional Healing Begins RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Emotional Overwhelm Reset System — In under 30 minutes, learn my simple “prep before you process” approach to calm overwhelming emotions and find clarity. AliciaMichelle.com/overwhelm Rest + Restore Retreats — Step away from the noise for deep rest, soul replenishment, and meaningful time with God. AliciaMichelle.com/retreats Virtual Rest + Restore Retreat — Experience a flexible, Bible-based retreat from home, on your schedule. AliciaMichelle.com/virtual-rest-retreat 30 Christian Meditations for Calm — 30 short Scripture meditations to quiet your mind, find calm, and connect with God. AliciaMichelle.com/meditation Emotional Confidence Club — Practice practical emotional tools alongside a supportive community of Christian women. AliciaMichelle.com/club Private Coaching with Alicia — Get personalized support for a specific relationship, emotional struggle, or life situation. AliciaMichelle.com/coaching Send us Fan Mail
Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com Episode 3133: Leo Babauta shares how years of emotional neediness quietly damaged his relationships, and what changed when he stopped treating other people as the source of his happiness. He offers a short self-test for emotional dependence, traces the pattern back to childhood, and suggests practical alternatives: sitting with your own mind, comforting yourself, reassuring yourself, and giving instead of waiting to be given to. The payoff he describes is loving from wholeness rather than need, which is the foundation of steadier relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenhabits.net/self-reliance/ Quotes to ponder: "I wanted someone else to make me happy, blamed others for my unhappiness, sought to fulfill my emotional needs through others." "We look for happiness from others, but this is an unreliable source of happiness." "Create your own source of built-in happiness. Walk around as a whole, happy person, needing nothing." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and parenting, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Men can run a company, complete complex projects, and accomplish challenging physical acts. When it comes to emotionally and relationally connecting with a child, however, it can be like speaking a foreign language. Not only is connecting with a child important, but being able to disciple them in the ways of God is even more crucial. On this week's show, Manhood Journey founder and President Kent Evans talks about his new project - Father on Purpose (http://fatheronpurpose.org) They are partnering with Dads and providing resources to help them talk about the things of God in a way that is purposeful and intentional. (This is a repeat episode - enjoy!)
Send us Fan MailWomen's health is having a moment—but there are still some pretty massive gaps in what actually happens when a woman walks into a doctor's office and says, “Something doesn't feel right.”Enter Amy and Jodi, the women behind Vibe Women's Health Collective.Their story started nearly two decades ago after Amy was diagnosed with breast cancer at 44. Physically, she recovered. Emotionally? Totally different story. Then she met Jodi, a physician assistant who actually saw the part of her that wasn't showing up on a scan or a lab result—and the two of them basically fell in love. Years later, that relationship became Vibe.We get into why medical care and mental health HAVE to talk to each other, the giant gap that exists after cancer treatment ends, health anxiety, menopause, perimenopause, HRT, sexual health, painful sex and why women deserve way more than a rushed 15-minute appointment.And because this is apparently where the conversation wanted to go, we also cover neck lifts, pickleball, husbands trying to understand menopause, whether men need their own support group and why women have got to stop apologizing for making money.This episode is funny, incredibly honest and also a pretty damn important conversation about what it looks like when women see a problem, stop waiting for someone else to fix it and build the thing themselves.Go check out Vibe Women's Health Collective—and if you're in Columbus, you're going to want these women on your radar.Subscribe to The Keri Croft Show on YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.And as always, keep moving, baby.
What if secure attachment isn't about doing everything perfectly? In this episode, HeHe sits down with licensed therapist and attachment expert Eli Harwood, aka Attachment Nerd, to break down what secure attachment actually looks like, how co-regulation and attunement shape our relationships with our kids, and why being “regulated enough” matters way more than being a perfect parent. HeHe and Eli unpack the difference between attachment and simply being connected, why responsiveness matters more than following a specific parenting philosophy, and what happens when our own mental health, stress, or childhood experiences make it harder to tune into our kids. They talk about the still face experiment, the reality that even securely attached parent-child pairs are only perfectly in sync some of the time, and why repairing after you mess up is one of the most powerful things you can do. And if you're trying to break generational patterns, this conversation goes DEEP. Eli shares how grieving what you didn't receive in childhood can actually help you parent differently, plus practical ways to apologize, reconnect, and create safety after a rupture. They also get into daycare, temperament, neurodivergence, clingy kids, proximity-seeking, self-soothing vs. shutting down, gentle parenting vs. permissive parenting, and the long-term impact of secure attachment. And yes, they talk about spanking, why it can disrupt trust, and what repair can look like when you've already made a parenting choice you regret. Basically, this episode is your reminder that secure attachment isn't about never getting it wrong. It's about creating a relationship where your child knows you're there, keeps coming back to you, and learns that even when things go sideways, connection can be repaired.
Why are we wired to want what's bad for us? Emotionally unavailable? I'm intrigued. Criminal record? I'm listening. Still lives with his ex? Send me his instagram. This week Tray & J are talking about the red flags that somehow make people MORE attractive, why we're drawn to them, and what the psychology says about our questionable choices.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen talk all about emotionally immature parents and in-laws, the boundaries that can get blurry in family relationships, and how to protect your peace without losing yourself. They explore why understanding emotional immaturity and childhood emotional neglect can be so validating, especially when family members see the relationship very differently than you do.They answer listener questions about setting boundaries with in-laws, navigating a partner's relationship with their parents, witnessing unhealthy family dynamics, and breaking patterns when both partners grew up with emotionally immature parents. Along the way, they get into lowering expectations, sharing less, and figuring out what parts of yourself feel safe to bring into difficult family relationships.Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:45 to skip the intro and get straight to today's content.Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group!ShrinkChicks on InstagramOur Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBgA special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:Skims: Shop SKIMS Cotton, and all of our favorite pieces, at SKIMS.com. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that followsOneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SHRINKCHICKS at https://www.oneskin.co/SHRINKCHICKS #oneskinpNine to Kind: Go to ninetokind.com and use code SHRINKCHICKS for 20% off your orderZenni: Go to Zenni.com/podcast and use code PODCAST15 for 15% off your first orderTumble: For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/SHRINKCHICKSQuince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
There's a subtle moment in dating when everything can start to change. At first, you're paying attention to them. Do I like this person? Do I feel good around them? Are they kind? Interesting? Emotionally available? Do I want to see them again? Then you start to really like them, and suddenly the focus flips. Do they like me? Now you're checking your phone. Analyzing texts. Wondering why they took three hours to respond. Replaying the date and looking for clues. And without even realizing it, you've stopped deciding whether you want them and started trying to figure out how to make sure they want you. That shift matters. Because once being chosen becomes the goal, it's incredibly easy to abandon your own experience. You can overlook how anxious you feel around someone, make excuses for behavior you don't actually like, or become so focused on whether you're enough for them that you forget to ask whether they're enough for you. And this doesn't only happen while we're dating. It's one of the reasons rejection and breakups can hurt so much. Sometimes we're grieving the person. But sometimes we're also grieving the fact that they didn't choose us, and those are two very different wounds. In this Language of Love Bite, I'm talking about why we can become so consumed with being wanted, what attachment and old relationship wounds have to do with it, and the question I often ask people after a breakup that can completely change the way they see what they've lost. Because yes, you deserve to be chosen. But you're doing some choosing, too. In this episode, you'll learn: How to recognize when you've shifted from getting to know someone to auditioning for their approval Why uncertainty can make you obsess over texts, conversations, and tiny changes in someone's behavior The difference between actually wanting someone and wanting the validation of being wanted by them Why rejection can hurt even when the relationship itself wasn't right for you The question I ask after a breakup that can change the story you're telling yourself How to notice what your own experience is telling you about a relationship How to date without abandoning yourself in the process Whether you have experienced dating anxiety yourself or love someone who has, this episode will help you understand what is really happening beneath the surface and offer practical, compassionate tools to move forward with confidence. If this hits home, follow The Language of Love wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. If someone came to mind while you were listening, make sure to share this episode with them. You can also email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave a voicemail at languageoflovepod.com to have your own question answered in a future session. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Rachel felt a distance she could never explain from day one. One explosive fight revealed the truth: her husband was struggling with an addiction to painkillers and had been hiding it from her since the day they married. What followed were years of chaos, a husband who disappeared into his addiction, and four children she raised almost entirely alone. When she was two weeks postpartum, he left to go through withdrawal in a hotel. She cried herself to sleep every night. She felt like she was living with a zombie, surviving one day at a time with no direction and no hope left. Then she walked into a class and decided this narrative was hers to rewrite. Today Rachel wakes up next to her best friend. Her husband is sober and present both emotionally and physically. Every evening he draws her into their quiet ritual of tea and books. On their eighth anniversary, he said he felt like they were newlyweds, and the vulnerability and connection between them told her he meant every word. If emotional distance has been a quiet presence in your marriage, Rachel's story will give you something to hold onto. Hope. Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming your relationship today! Click here: https://lauradoyle.co/4xQTK0M
Scott Rizzuto has apparently reached the stage of adulthood where there's a 75% chance that if you contact him between 4 and 5 p.m., he's peeling garlic. Not relaxing. Not enjoying a hobby. Peeling garlic. Meanwhile, Lern accidentally ordered enough garlic to make her house legally inaccessible to vampires, which sends the crew into garlic oil, home remedies and other advice nobody should blindly follow just because five people with microphones said it confidently.And somehow, that's one of the more normal conversations in this comedy podcast.King Scott's baby is getting CLOSE, which means it's time to dig up the official baby pool and see who predicted the date, time and weight correctly. Scott says he's about 60% ready, the go-bag exists somewhere, and the car seat installation is still hanging out on the to-do list. So basically, fatherhood is proceeding exactly according to plan.That turns into kid birthday party etiquette, whether “NO GIFTS” actually means no gifts, and the worst possible present you could give a five-year-old if your real goal is making sure the parents never invite you anywhere again. Drum set? Puppy? Gold bars? The Rizz Show remains committed to providing absolutely terrible parenting resources free of charge.Then school season arrives and brings back memories of first-day outfits, high school parking spaces, Scott spray-painting his initials onto school property like a criminal mastermind who also signed the evidence, college costs, and the crew trying to understand why Illinois keeps catching strays.But eventually we arrive at the question that could divide America:Can you drink a non-alcoholic beer at work?More specifically, what happens if your SURGEON walks into the room before your operation holding one?Technically, it's non-alcoholic. Emotionally? Your brain has already requested another doctor.The crew runs the experiment through surgeons, pilots, school bus drivers, air traffic controllers and other professions where “don't worry, it's an NA” probably isn't the comforting sentence you were hoping to hear. Then Rafe introduces an equally troubling alternative: your heart surgeon walking in with a Capri Sun and struggling to get the straw into the pouch.Choose your fighter.From there, today's comedy podcast tackles low-key addictions, Rafe's mint supply, bad-breath paranoia, online shopping, Amazon delivery drivers asking customers to stop ordering cases of bottled water, and whether water baking in a brutally hot delivery truck makes that expensive alkaline stuff slightly less impressive.Then we get into homeowner association insanity, because apparently owning your house doesn't necessarily mean you're allowed to sit wherever the hell you want on it. One homeowner gets accused of doing “porch-type activity” while sitting in his garage — yes, that's apparently a category now — while another woman deals with HOA fines over a dead bush by simply spray-painting the thing green.Problem solved. Botanists hate this one simple trick.It's another comedy podcast packed with daily humor, weird news, St. Louis stories, ridiculous arguments, parenting panic and the sort of pop culture commentary that starts with a reasonable question and ends with five adults debating whether they'd trust a surgeon holding a Capri Sun.So, another productive morning at The Rizzuto Show.Follow The Rizzuto Show → linktr.ee/rizzshow for more from your favorite daily comedy show.Connect with The Rizzuto Show Comedy Podcast online → 1057thepoint.com/RizzShow.Hear The Rizz Show daily on the radio at 105.7 The Point | Hubbard Radio in St. Louis, MO.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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