Podcasts about people pleasing

Do you ever feel overwhelmed no matter how much you accomplish? Many women assume stress comes from a busy schedule, work demands, family responsibilities, or an overflowing to-do list. In this episode, resilience coach Charlotte joins me for a conversation about what may actually be happening underneath the overwhelm. We discuss identity-based stress, people pleasing, perfectionism, performance, self-worth, and the pressure many women carry to meet everyone's expectations. Charlotte shares practical ways to recognize the hidden beliefs driving burnout and how building your identity in Christ creates resilience, confidence, and peace even during demanding seasons. If you've been struggling with stress, anxiety, burnout, work-life balance, or feeling like you're constantly carrying too much, I think this conversation will encourage you. In this episode: • Identity-based stress vs. identity-led resilience • People pleasing and performance-driven living • Why work-life balance often leaves women frustrated • Recognizing false identities and unhealthy expectations • Building resilience through your identity in Christ • Practical steps to break reactive stress patterns We hope this conversation encourages you to take a fresh look at the stories you've been telling yourself and draws you closer to the person God created you to be. Connect with Charlotte: https://charlottehaggie.com/

People pleasing may seem harmless, but it could be costing you far more than you realize. In this episode, Mykie Stiller and Arash Vossoughi unpack how the habit of seeking approval can impact everything from your confidence and decision-making to your income, leadership, and emotional freedom. Together, they explore why people pleasing is rooted in fear rather than kindness and how constantly prioritizing others can erode self-respect over time. Arash explains the difference between genuine service and people pleasing while breaking down how these patterns affect business growth, pricing, culture, and performance under pressure. The conversation also highlights the connection between authenticity and leadership, why setting personal standards matters, and how learning to stop seeking approval can transform the way you lead and live. Listen in for a powerful perspective shift on breaking free from people pleasing!Key Points From This Episode:Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness.How the need to be liked shapes the way people show up.The hidden cost of sacrificing authenticity to avoid conflict.Why honesty and genuine service are not the same as people pleasing.How people pleasing and shrinking yourself erode self-respect over time.The damaging effect that people pleasing can have on leadership and culture.How people pleasing influences pricing, productivity, and business growth.Why people pleasers often struggle to perform under pressure.How setting personal standards helps create emotional freedom.Identifying where people pleasing is costing you.Deciding to break the habit of people pleasing.Links Mentioned in Today's Episode:Episode 162: The Identity Shift that Changes Everything Under PressureVoss Coaching CoVoss Coaching Co on LinkedInVoss Coaching Co on InstagramVoss Coaching Co on FacebookEmail Voss Coaching CoMykie Stiller on LinkedInMykie Stiller on InstagramArash Vossoughi on LinkedInArash Vossoughi on YouTube

Some days it feels like everyone wants a piece of you. Your attention. Your time. Your patience. Your energy.This guided meditation offers a gentle space to reconnect with yourself and create healthy boundaries without building walls.Through breath, awareness, and visualization, you'll be invited to notice what is yours to carry and what you can let go.Perfect for caregivers, helpers, parents, people-pleasers, and anyone feeling emotionally drained.When you've given so much to everyone else that you've forgotten about yourself, press play.Send us Fan MailFor those who have reached out asking how to support Adrienne and her family during this time, click here to donate. There is absolutely no expectation—just sincere gratitude.We Didn't Plan For This Special SeriesThis series exists because so many of you reached out and said, “I didn't plan for this either.”If you've gone through a diagnosis, a loss, a life change, a career shift, a divorce, becoming a caregiver, moving, starting over — we want to hear your story.You don't have to have it figured out. You just have to be willing to share honestly.How Yoga Changed My Life a PodcastSend Us Your Stories!If you have a story about how yoga, meditation, breath work, journaling, or movement changed your life, we want to hear from you! These podcasts are really about the same thing — how people move through the seasons of life they didn't plan for, and what helps them along the way.If you'd like to be on the show or share your story:  Fill out our guest form or email us at yogachanged@gmail.com Follow us on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@yogachanged...

For many of us, over-functioning doesn't look like a problem. It looks like competence. It looks like generosity. It looks like being the reliable one. In this candid conversation, Kristin and Julie Raines explore the hidden costs of becoming the emotional engine behind relationships, families, friendships, and entire social systems. Together they unpack how over-functioning becomes automatic, why many women were conditioned to equate worth with self-erasure, what happens when burnout removes the ability to keep carrying everyone else, and how nervous system healing changes the way we show up in relationships. They also discuss neurodivergence, hypervigilance, friendship, reciprocity, self-regulation, boundaries, diagnosis, masking, and the surprising challenge of learning how to support yourself instead of constantly supporting everyone around you. If you've ever been the fixer, the helper, the rescuer, the planner, the emotional regulator, or the person everyone depends on, this conversation is for you.Give yourself a gift and subsribe to Julie's writing at Substack. You can also find her on TikTok.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/mental-health-news-radio--3082057/support.

Do you lose yourself caring for others? In this episode, I talk with Kirsten Davidson, RP about being mindful about self-abandonment and:Understanding the distinction between caretaking from a place of empathy and people pleasing from a place of fear of abandonmentConnecting with all the parts of yourself to heal and guide you in times of insecurityHow to decipher the roots of your anxious experiencesKirsten is a Registered Psychotherapist and the Founder of Mind The Gaps Psychotherapy, where she supports adults, couples, and families in moving through disconnection, emotional overwhelm, and stuck patterns toward more self-led, connected ways of being. Her work is grounded in relational, trauma-informed, and existential approaches, helping clients explore what lies beneath their patterns with curiosity and compassion. Beyond the therapy room, she contributes to broader mental health conversations through public speaking and her writing for Psychology Today, where she explores relationships, identity, and personal growth.Keep in touch with Kirsten:Website: https://mindthegaps.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kirsten.davidsonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirsten-davidson-662742177Resources Mentioned:Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/kirsten-davidsonInternal Family Systems: https://ifs-institute.comFor more deep conversations like this, join me in Sensitive Circles - a cozy online community for highly sensitive people to find meaningful connection and deepen self-awareness at their own pace. More details: https://www.sensitivecircles.com Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengthsYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengthsAnd for more support, attend a Sensitive Sessions monthly workshop: https://www.sensitivesessions.com. Use code PODCAST for 25% off. If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional.  Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.  

Sometimes resentment does not begin with a dramatic betrayal. Sometimes it begins in the small moment when you said yes before you were clear.  In this episode of The Liberated Life, Robin Quinn Keehn explores the quiet cost of the resentful yes — the yes that looks generous on the outside but feels dishonest on the inside. She unpacks the difference between a clean yes and a yes given from fear, guilt, image management, habit, or avoidance.  Through personal stories and practical language, Robin shows how unclear commitments become Open Loops: unfinished truths that quietly drain time, energy, peace, and trust. This episode is not about becoming selfish, unavailable, or unwilling to sacrifice. It is about becoming honest. It is about learning to pause before agreeing, renegotiate when needed, and close the loop with clarity before resentment becomes distance.  If you have been the dependable one, the flexible one, the easy one, or the one who always makes it work, this conversation will help you listen to resentment without weaponizing it — and begin rebuilding self-trust one honest sentence at a time.  Free resource:  Download the free Close One Loop tool at closetheloopsnow.com/tool.  Coming June 29 Robin's 5-Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge will help you identify the unfinished commitments, conversations, and quiet yeses that keep draining your time, energy, and peace. Ready to do this together, with my guidance & support?  Register here.  Robin's book, Stop Stealing From Yourself, is available now on Amazon If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

Before we resume our One Another Study, I wanted to take a look at an issue that really can deeply affect how we treat one another - our tendency to want to PLEASE people.It is natural to want people to like us.But people-pleasing and the need for other people's constant approval can quickly become an idol.From our series in Esther, we see Haman grow enraged when one man, Mordecai, will not bow to him. The rest of the kingdom bows, but that's just not good enough for Haman.And that's how it is with approval addiction. So many people can love us - but once one person does not, our entire sense of self begins to crumble!We take a hard look at our unhealthy need to be liked, as well as so many other things, today on Rinse and Repeat!(RAR2026EP25)

This week we're bringing back the energy of those classic 90s magazine quizzes — but with a spiritual growth twist. I've created a five-type people pleasing quiz specifically for sensitives and empaths, because most conversations about this topic don't account for how differently these patterns show up when you can actually feel other people's emotions.People pleasing doesn't always look like people pleasing — and if you're a sensitive or an empath, it can be especially hard to spot in yourself.In this episode:The five sneaky people pleasing types that hide in plain sight — especially for empathsWhy your gift of sensitivity can make people pleasing feel like kindness instead of self-abandonmentHow to score yourself as we go — and what your total score actually meansWhy this isn't about never being flexible or never showing up for othersThe moment of recognition that changes everythingGrab something to write with and play along — you'll have your score by the end.Get Joy's Free "Sign Magnet" 3 Day Mini Course HERE https://www.joyfulmedium.com/sign-magnetJoy's Website: www.joyfulmedium.comInstagram: @JoyfulMediumTikTok: @JoyfulMediumFacebook: @JoyfulMediumFacebook Group: Joy's Soul SpaYouTube: Psychic Medium Joy Giovanni 

People pleasing is not an effective strategy on the path to healthy, conscious relating. But adopting an approach towards autonomy that amounts to ‘I don't owe anyone anything' is…not it either. These extremes were adaptive patterns; they helped us survive difficult childhoods, but they don't help us much as adults.True autonomy, when you really understand it and put it into practice, will strengthen your relationship, deepen your connection, and allow you to experience a new level of freedom. And non-monogamy presents a wealth of opportunities for coming into a deeper relationship with your own autonomy and that of your partners.In this episode, we talk about:— What autonomy actually means (and what it doesn't mean)— The difference between autonomy and individuation, and why that matters— How autonomy can be weaponized or used defensively in relationships— The tension between wanting autonomy and wanting deep interconnection with others— Why "you don't owe anyone anything" is a problematic framework for relationships— The horseshoe effect: how enmeshment and individualism can actually loop back around to each other— The subtle language patterns that reveal whether you're truly practicing autonomy or deflecting responsibility— Permission-based dynamics vs. responsibility-based autonomy— How cultural expectations around monogamy influence our understanding of autonomy— The importance of grounding into your autonomous self while hinging between multiple partners— Why writing down (or recording) your agreements can reveal unconscious patterns in how you relate to autonomy— How practicing real autonomy actually strengthens your relationships rather than weakening themJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & supportLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

Send us Fan MailJoined by our host, Jared Bulman, Grant & Laurel discuss dealing with substance addictions, the loss of loved ones, people pleasing &  much more. If you'd like to listen to this conversation, check out the audio version at podcast.ctk.church or wherever you listen to podcasts.We'd love to hear from you! If you'd like to send any encouragement, questions, or feedback about this episode to Grant & Laurel, please email us at live@jesus.netSpecial Thanks to:Audio Production:Jared BulmanTheme Song:Stephen Folden – stephenfoldenmusic@gmail.comPodcast Graphic:Dejah KutrovskiWe'd love to hear from you! If you'd like to send any encouragement, questions, or feedback about this episode to Grant & Laurel, please e-mail us at podcast@ctk.church.Special Thanks to:Audio Production: Gabe ChartierJared BulmanTheme Song: Stephen Folden – stephenfoldenmusic@gmail.comPodcast Graphic:Dejah Kutrovski

Be honest.How many times have you said "sure, no problem" when your spirit was screaming "absolutely not"?In this episode, we're talking about people-pleasing: why you do it, where it comes from, why "just set boundaries" isn't always helpful advice, and how trying to make everyone happy can leave you exhausted, resentful, and still not liked by everybody.We'll explore approval addiction, fear of rejection, childhood conditioning, and the surprising reason your brain keeps choosing "yes" even when you desperately want to say "no."In this episode:• The paradox of people-pleasing• Practical ways to start setting boundaries• Learning to disappoint people without feeling guiltyLet's stay connected:Email: helloayanpella@gmail.comIG: @ayanpellaX: @ayanpella_TikTok: @ayanpellaIf this episode resonated with you, please consider subscribing, leaving a review, or sharing it with someone who might need it.See you next time. 

Du funktionierst. Du lieferst. Du machst „alles richtig" – und trotzdem fühlt sich das Leben irgendwie eng an.In dieser Folge ist Kathie Kleff zu Gast: Moderatorin, Autorin und traumasensible Coach. Wir reden über das, was niemand wirklich gelernt hat – dass Hochleistung, Perfektionismus und der Drang, immer mehr zu geben, oft keine Persönlichkeitszüge sind. Sondern alte Schutzstrategien des Nervensystems.Was dich erwartet: – Warum Trauma fast jeden betrifft – auch ohne „schlimme Kindheit" – Das Window of Tolerance und warum dein Körper nicht einfach loslassen kann – Hochfunktionalität als Traumafolge – der Satz, der vieles erklärt – Innere Anteile: Wut, Angst, People Pleasing neu verstehen – Was Trauma-Integration wirklich heißt – Meine eigene Geschichte mit Panikattacken und NepalDas hier ist keine Folge über große Dramen. Es geht um die leisen Muster, die uns steuern – und darum, wie wir aufhören, uns selbst zu bekämpfen.Mehr zu Kathie Kleff: Podcast „Get Happy" https://open.spotify.com/show/1uU42oy24DJ2W7xRMgtgu2?si=7034e6dd381e4dceWebseite: https://www.kathiekleff.com/coachingInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kathie_kleff/Mehr zu Miriam: https://miriamwechner.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/miriamwechner/Danke fürs Abonnieren und Teilen der Podcastfolge!

Vertrauen nach Betrug aufzubauen, gehört zu den schwierigsten Dingen nach einer toxischen Beziehung. Du bist raus. Und trotzdem traust du dir und anderen nicht mehr. Das Misstrauen bleibt. Der innere Alarm schaltet sich bei Nähe ein, nicht bei Distanz. Und du fragst dich: Wie soll ich je wieder jemandem vertrauen?In dieser Folge spreche ich darüber, was Betrug wirklich mit dir macht, warum Vertrauen sich nicht einfach entscheiden lässt und wie der Weg zurück zu dir aussieht.Das erwartet dich in dieser Folge: ·      Warum Betrug so tief trifft und was er mit deinem Selbstbild macht·      Was Verrat mit deinem Nervensystem anrichtet und warum dein Körper sich erinnert ·      Wie du lernst, dir selbst wieder zu vertrauen als ersten Schritt ·      Woran du erkennst, ob jemand wirklich vertrauenswürdig ist ·      Warum Vertrauen kein Entschluss ist, sondern ein ProzessDu möchtest endlich Nein-Sagen lernen?Wenn du spürst, dass dieses Thema dich tief betrifft und du endlich aus dem Kreislauf des People Pleasing aussteigen möchtest, dann ist mein neuer Kurs „People Pleasing stoppen“ genau für dich gemacht. Oder, wenn du dich im Liebeskummer befindest und du diesen mehr und mehr loslassen möchtest, unterstützt dich der Kurs „Liebeskummer auflösen“ darin. Alle Infos findest du unter diesem Link: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/onlinekurse/Welche Gedanken hast du zu diesem Thema oder welche Erkenntnisse konntest du für dich aus der heutigen Folge mitnehmen? Teile sie gerne in den Kommentaren oder unter meinem aktuellen Beitrag auf Instagram @martinabamesberger oder auf meinem Blog auf meiner Website www.masterclass-of-mind.deIch freue mich auf dich. Wenn du dir Unterstützung wünschst auf deinem Weg, kontaktiere mich sehr gerne und buche dir dein kostenloses Erstgespräch. Ich freue mich auf dich. Von Herz zu Herz, deine Martina❤️ Hier kannst du Kontakt zu mir aufnehmen: Erstgespräch buchen: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/erstgespraech/Email: info@masterclass-of-mind.deWebsite: www.masterclass-of-mind.deInstagram: @martinabamesbergerBuch „Eiskalt“ erhältlich auf Amazon und überall dort, wo es Bücher gibt  

"You have set up this pattern where you completely abandon yourself unconsciously and make it about the other person because you believe on an unconscious level that that is the way that you will get love, connection, and ultimately survive."Codependency is one of those words I've avoided for a long time, not because it isn't real, but because I think it gets oversimplified in a way that misses what's actually happening. The deeper I go in my own process and the deeper I take my clients who've been doing this work for a while, the more I see that the layers of codependency we're dealing with aren't just behavioral. They're energetic. They started before we had language for any of it. And they've been running silently underneath every relationship, every decision, and every moment we've felt depleted, resentful, or like we're hitting a wall, without understanding why.What I've been uncovering, for myself and for the women I work with, is that so much of what we think is just "who we are" is actually a set of coping mechanisms we created in childhood to survive the emotional environment we were in. The way we automatically say yes. The way we absorb other people's feelings and lose track of our own. The way we don't even realize we have a choice. In this episode, I'm diving into what the deeper layers of codependency actually look like energetically, why they're so hard to see, and what it's meant for me to start pulling on these threads in real time, including some very personal things I've been navigating.TODAY'S HIGHLIGHTSWhy codependency goes far deeper than its mainstream definitionHow childhood coping mechanisms get wired into the nervous system as survival responses, not conscious choicesThe mother wound as the blueprint for every relationship pattern that followsThe Boomer generation, Pluto in Leo, and why narcissistic tendencies in parents are more common than most people realizeWhy highly sensitive, empathic women often can't tell the difference between their own feelings and everyone else'sThe moment I recognized I'd been operating from guilt and shame every time I said yesHow the same patterns that come from trauma become your greatest gifts once they're alchemizedThe energetic and astrological context for why so many of us are in a deep unraveling right nowThe questions to ask yourself when you're stuck, depleted, or repeating the same patterns**WAYS TO ENTER MY WORLD**When you leave a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts and send us a screenshot of it, we'll send you a $250 credit that you can apply to anything else in my world.Check out Breathwork to Heal Anxiety on my YouTube channelJoin me in The Metamorphosis which is my 3-month, groundbreaking, flagship program to rapidly and efficiently clear the familial and ancestral trauma that is blocking you from experiencing the wealth and freedom that you desire.Starting a business or working with clients? You need to sign up for The Metamorphosis Method This is the only Breathwork and Trauma Certification Program that closes the gap between spirituality and therapy to create predictable and permanent results with your clients. We start again at the end of September.Questions? Let's jump on a call CONTACT ALYSEYouTube @alysebreathesalysebreathes.comIG @alyse_breathesinfo@alysebreathes.com

Ist es ein legitimer Dealbreaker, wenn zwei Menschen unterschiedlich leben? Eine Hörerin erzählt von einer Kennenlerngeschichte, die eigentlich perfekt lief, bis plötzlich die Frage aufkam, ob ihr Alltag überhaupt zu seinem passt. Kann Liebe wirklich an Hobbys scheitern oder reicht es, sich gegenseitig zu supporten, auch wenn man nicht dieselben Leidenschaften teilt? Wir sprechen darüber, wie wichtig gemeinsame Interessen in einer Beziehung wirklich sind und ob man für die große Liebe plötzlich zum Marathonläufer werden muss. Außerdem geht es um Overthinking im Alltag und warum eine Starbucks Tasse plötzlich zur persönlichen Grundsatzdiskussion werden kann. In der FDH erwartet euch ein zehnjähriger Schwiegerfamilien Fiebertraum voller People Pleasing, unausgesprochener Konflikte und der Frage, wann man endlich lernt, Grenzen zu setzen. Und natürlich diskutieren wir auch noch über Serien und ob es wirklich ein Vertrauensbruch ist, heimlich weiterzuschauen. ❤️ Viel Spaß! (mehr Informationen zu unseren Werbepartnern und die entsprechenden Links zum Einlösen der Rabatte findet ihr unter https://linktr.ee/zweidreissiger.partner - auch dabei viel Spaß)Direkt zu Saily: http://saily.com/dreissigerUnseren neuen Merch gibt es auf: https://zweidreissiger.de/Folgt dem Podcast auf Spotify und hinterlasst gerne eine Bewertung. Feedback und Werbeanfragen an: hey@zweidreissiger.deUnser Kaffee: https://flowersandmels.de/ Zu Melisa: https://Instagram.com/findingmelisa/ Zu Flo: https://Instagram.com/floriangerl/Zum Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/zweidreissiger/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week on Blended, Kate is joined by Nathalie and special guest co host Natalie Lue, author of The Joy of Saying No and host of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions.Today's dilemma comes from a stepmum who had a moment that shook her. During a situation where her stepdaughter was being praised, she corrected something small and immediately felt like she had taken the shine off her. It triggered a deeper fear that she might be repeating the same subtle patterns she experienced growing up.They discuss how old wounds can quietly show up in parenting, especially in blended families where emotions can already feel heightened. Nathalie talks about how simply acknowledging the pattern is something previous generations often never did.Kate opens up about how she sometimes swings between overreacting and then overcompensating. She shares how easy it is to correct too quickly, then feel guilty and flip into people pleasing mode to balance it out.Natalie Lue breaks down the “mother load” and how much emotional responsibility women carry without even realising it. She challenges the idea that every moment needs to be handled perfectly and asks what would actually happen if we didn't overmanage everything.It's an honest conversation about insecurity, boundaries and the fear of passing down patterns you worked so hard to escape.Don't forget to rate and review, also we love hearing from you so follow @blended on Instagram to share your story. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorce can be overwhelming, especially when you are trying to figure out how to explain it to your children. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer a listener's question about the first stage of divorce, talking about it with her kids, and why starting with your thoughts and feelings, not just actions, is what makes the next steps clear. I also tackle a question about people-pleasing and seeking external validation. You'll hear why prioritizing other people's needs over your own can feel like love and connection, but it actually undermines your authenticity, and how to cultivate genuine connection instead. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotline Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/499Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Future Coach Podcast is Here!The Future Coach: How to Succeed as a Life Coach Today, Tomorrow, and Beyond is finally here. Every other week, you'll hear practical advice about becoming a coach, improving your coaching skills, and antidotes to the most common concerns, questions, and brain drama that come up with this work, whether you're just starting out or you're years into your career. If you want to find out more, you can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts and hit that follow button.WE'RE HIRINGGo to unfuckyourbrain.com/hiring to learn more about these positions and to apply.

The life you've been looking for—more energy, more love, less stress, less frustration, more fulfillment, and more feeling like yourself—is waiting for you on the other side of people pleasing. When your attention, energy, and love finally come home to you, you stop existing as a resource for everyone else and start experiencing your own life more deeply. Relationships become more authentic, your generosity becomes sustainable, and you discover the freedom of letting other people care for you too. You can still be kind, caring, and supportive—you're just finally included in the care. Free Class Sign Up: Embracing the People Pleaser in You at www.rympodcast.com

You've named the pattern. You've asked the identity question. Now it's time to look at what people-pleasing is actually doing in your body — specifically, recognizably, and honestly. In the final episode of The Dying to Please Series, certified Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and Christian Life Coach, Tanya Engesether, walks through five specific signs that your nervous system has been running in chronic fawn mode for too long — and what those signs look like in your hormones, your gut, your sleep, your mood, and your sense of self. Then she gets practical. Tanya offers a grounded, grace-filled starting place for women who are ready to stop managing symptoms and start addressing what's driving them — in their bodies and in their lives. This episode is for the woman who is ready. Not perfectly ready. Not have-it-all-figured-out ready. Just ready to begin. Key Takeaway The women who heal most fully are not the ones who found the perfect supplement or the perfect protocol. They are the women who decided they were worth addressing at the root. That decision is the beginning of everything. The Dying to Please Series — Full Series Episode 281: Dying to Please — The Real Health Cost of People-Pleasing Episode 282: Who Am I? Rebuilding Your Identity Outside of People-Pleasing Episode 283: Five Signs Your Body Is Paying for Your People-Pleasing — And Where to Actually Start (this episode)   I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya   Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 3 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Book a FREE discovery call with me to find out more about functional health coaching. It's the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/coaching   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   3️⃣ CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.   Click here to view our privacy policy.   Reminder:  The information you hear on this show is not meant to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.  It is for educational purposes only. Always consult with your own health practitioner before you make any changes to your health.

Perfectionism, people pleasing, and pretending you have it all together are often talked about as personality traits.What if they're actually survival strategies?In this conversation, I sit down with clinical psychologist and executive coach Dr. Anne Welsh to explore why so many ambitious women find themselves stuck in these patterns, even when they know they're no longer serving them.We talk about the hidden cost of constantly performing, why success can still feel empty when you're disconnected from yourself, and how years of focusing on everyone else's needs can make it difficult to even know what you want anymore.Dr. Anne shares why people pleasing isn't really about being nice, why perfectionism is often rooted in fear, and how self trust is built through small moments of choosing yourself rather than waiting until you're confident enough to do it.We also explore the difference between fear based striving and healthy ambition, and why the goal isn't to become less ambitious but to become more aligned with what you're actually striving for.This is a conversation about coming home to yourself while still creating the life, work, and impact that matter to you.Resources Mentioned:Connect with Dr. Anne Welsh: Instagram | https://drannwelsh.comAmbitious Mothers book (pre-order, Release Day Aug 6) The Should Session: To Stop you from bringing work stress home! Find out exactly what belief is keeping you stuck in should energy. Only 5 spots available, expiring on 10/6/2026.Work with me:Breakthrough Intensive - You already know you should slow down, delegate more, stop overcommitting & be emotionally present. So why can't you? That's what we figure out in 90 minutes + integration call 1 week later. Book your BreakthroughExhale: Private Coaching - For women ready to do this work until it sticks and you can't revert back. 3 open spots: Work with meConnect with Sam: Instagram | Facebook

Send us Fan MailWe don't think about this a lot, but people pleasing often comes with a lot of mental math. We try to figure out the exact right "threshold" at which it's OK to say "no" to a new request. At what number of overtime hours can we legitimately say we're too busy to turn down a project? At what level of stress? That fear of just saying you are at capacity without having an ironclad proof that you deserve it leads to a lot of overworking, stress, and burnout. During the "Too Perfect, Too Nice, Too Tired" webinar on June 25th, I will teach you how to step away from that mental math and start feeling more confident in your instincts of when there is too much on your plate.  To register, go to restovergrind.com/webinar.Book a free consult call with me: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: info@restovergrind.comDownload my free videos on the 3Ps of Exhaustion (People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Procrastination): restovegrind.com/free-videosInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova 

If you've ever felt too depleted to even begin taking care of yourself; if you've given and given until there was nothing left and somehow kept giving anyway, this episode was made for you.It just so happens to be the last client session. Twelve seasons. Seven and a half years. Hundreds of souls who trusted me with their most vulnerable pieces. This is the final client session ever shared on The Higher Self Hotline, and I want you to know I am feeling every single bit of this as much as you are.She's navigating a fresh start in occupational therapy after a long season of feeling lost and disconnected. The new role is everything she hoped for, and yet the old patterns followed her there: over-giving, self-forgetting, and pushing past her limits until the tank runs dry.What unfolds is a deeply human conversation about the weight highly sensitive people carry and what it actually looks like to choose yourself every single day.In this episode we talk about:(00:00) Welcome Back to The Higher Self Hotline with Zoey Greco(00:52) Saying Goodbye to Client Sessions and Why This Was Meant to be the Final One(13:25) The Pattern of Self Neglect(17:22) Burnout Is Not What You Think(20:11) The Emotional Weight You're Carrying(42:18) Letting Go of People Pleasing(45:30) Start Before You're Ready(47:42) Reclaiming Your EnergyGet Your 10% off your yearly Numerology Report here: http://zoeygreco.com Don't miss the next Pajama Party! http://zoeygreco.comTake my FREE quiz!What's your intuitive style? Discover your unique intuitive gifts with my free quiz: http://zoeygreco.com/quiz Did you love this episode? The Higher Self Hotline Team lovingly asks for your support!We'd be eternally grateful if you'd rate, review, and subscribe! We want to make sure you never miss a dose of divine guidance.If this conversation resonated with you, we hope you share it with someone you think would connect with the message.Stay connected with us and your higher self! Follow Zoey on socials.Connect with Zoey here: Instagram: @thezoeygrecoTikTok: @thezoeygrecoWebsite: ZoeyGreco.comAudio Editing by:Mike Sims | echovalleyaudio.comContact: echovalleyaudio@gmail.comkeywords: people pleasing recovery, how to stop people pleasing, burnout recovery, why am I always exhausted, how to set boundaries without guilt, sensitive people and burnout, over giving and depletion, healing for helpers and healers, how to trust yourself, start before you're ready, emotional depletion, empaths and burnout, spiritual guidance, life path 11, self abandonment

What do you do when God starts revealing unhealthy patterns in your life—and suddenly you can't unsee them? In this episode, I close out the people-pleasing series by talking about what happens after awareness comes. We discuss the discomfort that can come when God begins uncovering deeper emotional patterns, why healing often feels disruptive before it feels freeing, and how to take your next step without fear or shame. If you've been feeling stirred up, emotionally exposed, or unsure what to do with everything God has been revealing lately, this episode will help you understand why awareness is actually an invitation into healing—not condemnation. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN [00:00] Why Emotional Awareness Can Feel So Disorienting [02:00] The Snow Globe Analogy for What Happens During Healing [04:00] God Reveals So He Can Heal [06:00] Why Healing Often Requires Discomfort and Change [08:00] The Cost of Ignoring What God Is Revealing [10:00] Why Change Only Happens When We're Ready to Do Something Different [14:00] The First Step: Noticing and Admitting the Pattern [15:00] Counting the Cost of People-Pleasing in Your Life [17:00] Practical Next Steps for Deeper Healing and Growth [20:00] Psalm 23 and the Reminder That God Leads Gently RESOURCES: The People Pleasing Mindset Makeover is an 8-session one-on-one coaching process designed to help women understand the deeper roots of people-pleasing, rewire unhealthy patterns, and build healthier emotional responses through brain science, biblical truth, and practical tools.  Learn more or apply here: 

Are you feeling stuck, burnt out, or like you're living life on autopilot? In this powerful episode, transformational coach Karen Bartholomew shares her signature Pause Method framework for helping women break free from limiting beliefs and step into their full potential.Discover how to:Recognize when you're triggered and use it as an opportunity for growthUncover the root stories and messages holding you backChoose a new truth and embody it dailyBuild a supportive community on your own termsGive yourself permission to rest and recharge without guiltIf you're ready to trade hustle for intention, fear for clarity, and old stories for empowered truth, this episode is a must-listen. Karen's no-nonsense approach and real-world wisdom will leave you inspired to reclaim your vitality and start designing the life you truly desire.Karen also shares details on her upcoming retreats, group coaching programs, and the free Sanctum Community where you can connect with like-minded women and access bonus teachings and live coaching.Mentioned in this episode:Karen's Website: https://karenbartholomew.comThe Pause Method Free Webinar1:1 and Group Coaching with KarenSanctum Online CommunityKaren Bartholomew is the founder of the Pause Method, a transformational coaching approach that helps women and leaders break free from autopilot living. After her own awakening 14 years ago, Karen dedicated herself to helping others release limiting beliefs and step into their full potential.Drawing on 20 years of corporate experience and certifications in personal development and sales coaching, Karen guides her clients to trade hustle for intention, fear for clarity, and old stories for empowered truth using her signature Pause, Realign and Rise framework.Karen is passionate about women's empowerment and helping clients confidently design their next chapter through 1:1 coaching, group programs, retreats, and her online Sanctum Community.✨ The deeper work lives on Substack and in my book.Rose Wippich — weekly essays on Remembering, Returning, and Reclaiming the energy, voice, and years that are yours.If you're ready to stop fading and start reigning, meet me there. Substack LinkRose Wippich is an Energy Alchemist, Reiki Master Teacher, qigong and yoga instructor, and author of Empress Rising. She's here for the woman who knows she's ready for something more — the one who feels the pull of her next chapter but isn't quite sure how to step into it.Through her book, podcast, and teaching, Rose inspires and guides women in midlife to reclaim their energy, identity, and voice — and step boldly into their Empress years.

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#381: What happens when you stop people pleasing and the people around you are no longer pleased? If the thought of setting boundaries, speaking up, or disappointing someone makes your nervous system panic, this episode will hit home. I explore why so many of us stay stuck in over-functioning, over-giving, and self-abandonment, and why growth often comes with discomfort from the people who benefited from the old version of you. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/381 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.EEO Pre-Sale

What if midlife awakening isn't about having all the answers?What if it's about finally telling yourself the truth?In this deeply personal solo episode, Wendy reflects on her own midlife awakening and the long journey toward self-trust, listening to her body, and no longer explaining away what she knew deep down.For years, she became a master at minimizing discomfort, rationalizing away red flags, and convincing herself that things were "fine." Sound familiar?This episode explores the quiet ways many women lose touch with themselves through people pleasing, self-abandonment, and the habit of putting everyone else's needs ahead of their own.Wendy shares:✨ Why awakening has its own timing

God will fully receive anyone who accepts what Christ has done on their behalf. It's an incredible, transformational exchange: Jesus takes all your sins and gives you His righteousness. But though the gospel is powerfully sufficient, not every Christian walks in its practical, daily freedom. Some still live under the soul-enslaving grip of others' opinions, tethered to man's approval while claiming to rest in God's. Read, Watch, Listen: https://lifeovercoffee.com/breaking-the-bondage-of-people-pleasing/ Will you help us to continue providing free content for everyone? You can become a supporting member here https://lifeovercoffee.com/join/, or you can make a one-time or recurring donation here https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/

If you've ever felt anxious around someone because you're constantly trying to keep the peace, this episode is for you.Maybe you're choosing your words carefully. Replaying conversations afterward. Walking on eggshells because you're worried they'll take something the wrong way. The harder you try to keep the peace, the more anxious you become.In this episode, friendship coach Zoe Asher shares the mindset shift that helped her break free from years of people-pleasing, peacekeeping, and relational anxiety. Through a powerful story, biblical wisdom from Romans 12:18 and 1 Peter 3:16, and practical insights on integrity, boundaries, and self-control, you'll learn the difference between keeping the peace and living at peace.Get your "12 Questions to Ask Before You End the Friendship" Guide for FREE here!Support the showWant to work with Zoe 1-on-1 for personalized friendship coaching for that extra push and source of accountability? Zoe has limited slots available on a rolling basis, so please email contact@accidentallyintentional.com (subject line: COACH ME) and the team will be in touch with next steps!Subscribe to the Leveled Up Friendships YouTube channel!

What if the thing holding you back isn't a lack of strategy, confidence, or capability, but a pattern you've been unconsciously living inside for years? In this episode, you'll listen in on a real coaching session with Chayenne, a successful entrepreneur who came looking for greater peace, clarity, and confidence in her next chapter of life. As our conversation unfolds, a deeper pattern begins to emerge, one that has been quietly shaping her decisions, relationships, and experience of herself for years. No scripts. No preparation. No performance. Just a real conversation, real emotion, and a powerful breakthrough. If you've ever found yourself carrying the weight of other people's expectations, seeking approval, or wondering why peace still feels elusive despite everything you've achieved, this conversation may be exactly what you need to hear. If you'd like to explore what coaching with me could do for your life, please visit the link below to learn more: https://jamilsayegh.com Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not provide professional advice. The views expressed are those of the host and participants alone.

In this solo Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler tackles some of the most common challenges men face in midlife: complacency after success, leading a family without becoming controlling, overcoming conflict avoidance, dealing with regret, and building meaningful male friendships. Ryan shares practical frameworks for finding purpose after you've achieved your goals, developing conviction without coercion, stepping into leadership at home, and letting go of past mistakes through accountability and changed behavior. He also offers candid advice on creating deeper connections with other men and why meaningful struggles are essential for growth and fulfillment.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:12 - Introduction and Iron Council Preview Call 01:20 - Staying Sharp After Success and Comfort 07:09 - Passing Faith to a Teenage Son Without Control 12:32 - The Midlife Emptiness Many Men Experience 15:28 - Overcoming Conflict Avoidance and People-Pleasing 30:50 - Leading Your Family Without a Power Grab 44:18 - How to Deal with Real Regret and Move Forward 55:32 - Why Men Struggle to Build Deep Friendships 01:05:30 - Where to Find Strong Male Relationships 01:06:55 - Final Thoughts and Closing Remarks   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

Last week, we started a conversation about people pleasing, overgiving, and what happens when helping everyone else starts hurting you. This week, we're going deeper. Because the real issue isn't helping people. The real question is: Who are you if nobody needs you?Many of us learned that being useful was the safest way to receive love, approval, connection, or a sense of worth. We became the helper, the fixer, the caretaker, the strong one. We learned to anticipate other people's needs while often ignoring our own. But eventually, that way of living catches up with us. The exhaustion. The resentment. The feeling of being unseen. The disappointment when the people we've given so much to don't show up for us in the same way. In this episode of Cacao Conversations, we're exploring the deeper wounds beneath people pleasing and the hidden cost of building your identity around being needed. We talk about: -why helping others can feel so good -the difference between love and validation -overgiving, burnout, and resentment -why so many helpers struggle to receive support -healthy community versus rescuing -what happens when your worth becomes tied to your usefulness -how to begin reconnecting with your value beyond what you do for others Because being needed is not the same as being loved. And your worth was never meant to depend on how much of yourself you give away. New episodes of Cacao Conversations drop weekly. Sip. Connect. Awaken. Hey! Thanks for listening! If you liked this episode, please send us a message. We'd love to hear from you!Your cup is full, your journey awaits. Let's sip, chat, and transform together. Find out more at https://www.bodyandsoulevents.love/ Julietta Wenzel Founder of Body & Soul Ministries, Julietta is a healer, guide, and visionary dedicated to helping others remember their true selves and step into their authentic power. With a background as a physical therapist turned spiritual practitioner, she combines individual healing sessions, sacred ceremonies, and transformative retreats to guide her community toward joy, fulfillment, and alignment. https://bodyandsoulministries.love/ Instagram: @bodyandsoulministries Dorice Ross Elder of Body & Soul Ministries, Dorice is a healer, educator, and guide devoted to supporting others in remembering their divinity and lived experience of Oneness. With a background in physical therapy and university-level teaching, her path has always bridged the body, mind, and spirit. Rooted in both psychology and energy healing, and inspired by diverse spiritual traditions, Dorice creates safe, compassionate spaces where healing unfolds naturally. Her work is guided by love, deep listening, and trust in the wisdom of Source.  Instagram: @rossdoriceShine bright and have a magical day!Julietta & Dorice

What if the most loving thing isn't the comment everyone else is leaving? Before you hit "proud of you," "you look beautiful," or "live your truth," ask yourself: are you encouraging someone toward life, or cheering them further into the very thing that's destroying them—and what does God think about it?#ChristianTikTok#ChristianReels#JesusChrist#BibleTruth#BiblicalTruth#ChristianPodcast#FaithOverFeelings#KingdomMindset#FollowJesus#DiscipleOfChrist#LoveAndTruth#SpeakTheTruth#TruthInLove#RealLove#BiblicalLove#ChristianLiving#ChristianEncouragement#FearGod#RepentAndBelieve#Watchman#CultureAndChrist#CounterCulture#ChristianPerspective#WorldVsWord#ModernChristianity#HardTruth#DeepFaith#ThinkAboutIt#TruthMatters#WakeUpChurch#LikingTheirPostsWontSaveThem#YoureNotHelpingThem#LoveDoesntCheerForSelfDestruction#IdentityInChrist#CreatedByGod#SpiritualDiscernment#ChristianContent#BibleTeaching

The hardest part of recognizing a people-pleasing pattern isn't the recognition itself. It's the quiet, unsettling question that surfaces right after: But if I stop... who am I? In Part 2 of The Dying to Please Series, Tanya Engesether goes beneath the surface of the people-pleasing pattern to the identity question at its core — because for many high-capacity women, people-pleasing isn't just something they do. It is who they are. The strong one. The reliable one. The capable one. The selfless one. And the prospect of changing that pattern doesn't feel like healing. It feels like losing themselves. In this episode, Tanya explores how people-pleasing becomes identity over time, names the specific roles many women have built their lives around, and addresses the grief that comes with letting go of a familiar story — even a painful one. She then goes to the theological root of the issue: the difference between a worth that is performed and a worth that is established by God before you ever did a single thing. This is not a ten-step plan. This is an honest, grace-filled conversation about what it means to begin rebuilding your identity on a foundation that does not shift — and what becomes possible when you do. In This Episode You'll Learn: How people-pleasing transitions from survival strategy to identity over time The specific roles high-capacity women build their lives around — and what each one is costing them Why letting go of a people-pleasing identity involves real grief — and why that grief is valid The theological foundation of worth — what God says about your value before your performance begins The difference between performing an identity and living from one What Psalm 139, Ephesians 2:10, and Galatians 5:1 say about identity and freedom What it practically looks like to begin untangling worth from usefulness Why receiving is a spiritual practice — and why people-pleasers struggle with it How identity-level work is the foundation of sustainable physical healing Scripture Referenced Psalm 139:14 — "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made." Ephesians 2:10 — "For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works." Galatians 5:1 — "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free." Galatians 1:10 — "Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God?" Key Takeaway Your worth was established before your performance began. Rebuilding your identity outside of people-pleasing doesn't happen all at once — it happens in small, repeated, often uncomfortable moments of choosing differently. And the woman you find on the other side of that work is worth knowing. I hope this episode blesses you! Xoxo, Tanya   Book a FREE functional health discovery call HERE.   Episode Resources: Episode Catalog   My trusted Supplement Dispensary: Aligned Vitality Fullscript Dispensary My trusted Telehealth Peptide Provider:  EllieMD_Tanya Engesether *I do get a small commission when you use one of the above affiliate links. 3 Ways To Connect With Me: 1️⃣COACHING: Are you READY to Lead Well, Live Well and BE Well? Book a FREE discovery call with me to find out more about functional health coaching. It's the accountability and guidance you need to reclaim your health and happiness! ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/coaching   2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others navigating life and leadership ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/community   3️⃣ CONTACT: Leave me a question or comment ➡︎ https://alignedvitalityhealth.com/contact   "Yes! Finally, a podcast helping others become the thriving leaders they're meant to be outside of hustle-culture! This is an amazing resource! Thank you so much for sharing and helping us become Spirit-driven, peaceful leaders!"    If you can relate, please consider rating and reviewing my show! It helps me reach more people – just like you – to help them change their future. Don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss any episodes! And, if you're feeling really generous, I'd be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.   Click here to view our privacy policy.   Reminder:  The information you hear on this show is not meant to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent disease.  It is for educational purposes only. Always consult with your own health practitioner before you make any changes to your health.

What if people-pleasing isn't just about saying yes too often or avoiding conflict? What if it's showing up in ways you haven't even recognized yet? In this episode, I walk through 17 surprising signs of people-pleasing and the deeper emotional patterns that often drive them. We talk about thought patterns, communication habits, emotional triggers, behavioral tendencies, and identity-level beliefs that can quietly keep you stuck in exhaustion, resentment, and fear. If you've ever wondered Do I actually struggle with people-pleasing? this episode will help you notice the signs, understand what may be underneath them, and begin taking the next step toward healthier, more honest relationships. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN [00:00] What People-Pleasing Really Is (And What It Isn't) [04:00] Thought Patterns That Can Reveal Hidden People-Pleasing [05:00] Communication Habits That Quietly Point to People-Pleasing [09:00] Why Do Emotional Reactions Often Reveal People-Pleasing Patterns? [12:00] Behavioral Signs That May Be Keeping You Stuck [14:00] Identity-Level Fears That Keep People-Pleasing Going [23:00] What Is Fawning and Why Does It Matter? [33:00] Why Inner Healing Has to Come Before Lasting Boundary Change RESOURCES: The People Pleasing Mindset Makeover is an 8-session one-on-one coaching process designed to help women understand the deeper roots of people-pleasing, rewire unhealthy patterns, and build healthier emotional responses through brain science, biblical truth, and practical tools. Learn more or apply here:

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Live to please Christ rather than people.Preached May 31, 2026Pastor Aaron Frasier

We've all done it: said yes before we even finished thinking, then immediately regretted it. Clay and Adam dig into why people-pleasing feels like the kind thing to do, why it isn't, and what it quietly costs you as a leader: trust, clarity, energy, and the hard conversations that only get harder the longer you wait. Plus, five moves to start breaking the reflex this week.

People pleasing feels like it's about being considerate. About keeping the peace. About being a good person. But at its core it has nothing to do with other people at all. It's about your fear. Fear of rejection, conflict, withdrawal, not being enough. In today's episode, Celeste gets to the real root of people pleasing — and why naming the fear underneath it is the only thing that actually changes it. Today's shift: Name the specific fear that drives your people pleasing — and get honest about whether that fear is running your decisions.

People-pleasing often looks like kindness on the surface. You're agreeable, generous, and easy to be with. You're “cool” and don't complain much. But underneath, there's often a fear: “If I disappoint someone, I might lose them.”Whether you're a people-pleaser or you're dating one, here are five ways people-pleasing may be sabotaging your love life.►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►FREE download: “The Green Light Guide to Dating After 50” https://lastfirstdate.com/green-light-guide/ ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ► TikTok → https://www.tiktok.com/@lastfirstdate1►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Drawing from Asaph’s transparent confession in Psalm 73:2-3, this reflection explores how unresolved hurt and constant focus on injustice can slowly lead us toward disillusionment. Like Asaph, many believers struggle when they see harmful people thriving while their own wounds deepen. Yet the turning point in the psalm comes when Asaph intentionally enters God’s sanctuary and regains an eternal perspective. In God’s presence, he remembers that earthly success is temporary, but God’s love, justice, and guidance are eternal. This devotional encourages Christians to stop carrying pain alone and instead seek refuge in the Lord. God does not dismiss our hurt or ignore injustice. He sees every wound, strengthens weary hearts, and offers healing to those who draw near to Him. Even when circumstances remain difficult, His presence steadies us and renews our faith. Highlights Psalm 73 honestly addresses discouragement over injustice and evil. Comparing our suffering to others’ success can lead to bitterness and despair. Rumination and isolation often pull us further away from God’s peace. Asaph found clarity only after intentionally entering God’s presence. God offers refuge, healing, and perspective in seasons of pain. Justice may seem delayed, but God remains faithful and sovereign. Drawing near to God strengthens faith and quiets fear. Do you want to listen ad-free? When you join Crosswalk Plus, you gain access to exclusive, in-depth Bible study guides, devotionals, sound biblical advice, and daily encouragement from trusted pastors and authors—resources designed to strengthen your faith and equip you to live it out boldly. PLUS ad free podcasts! Sign Up Today! Full Transcript Below: When We Feel Discouraged by the Evil in Our WorldBy: Jennifer Slattery Bible Reading:But as for me, my feet had almost slipped;I had nearly lost my foothold.For I envied the arrogantwhen I saw the prosperity of the wicked. - Psalm 73:2-3 (NIV) Some time ago, I met with a sweet woman trying to heal from some deep emotional wounds. Because of past harm, she struggled to trust others and feel safe in relationships. Relatively new in her faith and transformation journey, she was just beginning to make sense of her emotions and inner world. As her understanding grew, so did her anger. This multiplied when she learned the person who’d most harmed her had slandered her to others, causing some to misjudge her and others to withdraw completely. She felt like she would never break free from her pain and bitterness. Worse, her offender didn’t seem to suffer any consequences for her actions. The person actually seemed to be thriving. Have you been there? Watching someone else treat others with ruthless cruelty, and not only get away with it, but benefit from your pain and the wreckage they caused? We can all probably think of situations in which injustice left us deeply wounded, wondering why God allowed us to experience such pain. We’ve also probably watched others seem to get away with horrendous behavior, while our suffering only increases. This was precisely how Asaph, the royal musician who penned Psalm 73, felt. We don’t know when he wrote this passage. But if this is the same Asaph who served during the time of King David, he may have been watching the betrayal David experienced at the hands of his son. Or perhaps the wickedness he refers to hits closer to home. His words might also stem from a more existential reflection on considering the world at large. At times, it does seem like the wealthy, powerful, and unscrupulous thrive, with little worries or pain, while we fall into one crisis after another. And in those seasons when someone else’s success seems to mock our pain, it’s easy to question the heart, promises, and plans of God. Unfortunately, if we cease tending to our souls, our sorrow can turn to disillusionment and eventually bitterness. Our inner angst can turn us from, rather than to, the One who knows us fully, loves us deeply, and is always working on our behalf. When we sense ourselves tiptoeing toward disillusionment and despair, we can follow Asaph’s example, as revealed in verses 16-17. Initially, he attempted to make sense of his circumstances on his own (v. 16). This only increased his inner angst. But then, in the next verse, we read: “… till I entered the sanctuary of God; then I understood their final destiny” (NIV). He intentionally turned to God. I don’t know how far he needed to travel to reach the Temple. But this required effort and determination. It also meant setting aside whatever other tasks he wanted to complete that day. When we’re hurting, frightened, or struggling with doubt, it’s easy to get stuck in our heads as we rehearse all the evils we’ve experienced or seen. The more we ruminate on what feels hard and uncertain, the more powerless and discouraged, and potentially, even abandoned, we feel. And our mind rarely remains focused on the inciting incident. Often, one negative thought leads to another, then another, until we’re overwhelmed. And like I said earlier, unmitigated introspection can pull us further from God, which only increases our fear or despair. But the converse occurs, as well. When we turn to God, seek His presence, and authentically engage with Him, He meets us in the intensity of our emotions and speaks clarity to our confusion, truth to our doubts, and surrounds us with His love. Did you catch how the Lord did this for Asaph? In God’s sanctuary, the place in which His presence dwelt, He gained faith-building understanding. Yes, the wicked seemed to thrive without any concerns or consequences. But justice would come, and Asaph would experience God’s goodness. Notice how he ended his poetic prayer. In verses 23-26, we read: Yet I am always with you;you hold me by my right hand.You guide me with your counsel,and afterward you will take me into glory.Whom have I in heaven but you?And earth has nothing I desire besides you.My flesh and my heart may fail,but God is the strength of my heartand my portion forever. And then, in verse 28: But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; Intersecting Life & Faith: I don’t know what you’re going through currently, what feels heavy and unfair and unjust. But I do know God sees you, loves you, and is for you. He won’t abandon you in your pain, nor will He allow the wicked to thrive forever. He brings justice, healing, hope, and refuge. If you’re feeling disillusioned by someone else’s sinful behavior, bring your emotions, unfiltered, to God and trust Him to meet and to heal you there. To shield and uphold you in His love. Before you sign off, if this episode hit a tender place in your soul and you’re struggling to make sense of some relational patterns that are leading to more anxiety than joy, visit the Faith Over Fear podcast to listen to my conversation with Jennifer Renee Watson on the threads of people pleasing and how to gain the confidence to tend to your soul—when others try to beat you down. That episode is titled "When People Take Advantage of Your Kindness: Biblical Help for People Pleasing." Further Reading: Psalm 37:1-7 Romans 12:19 Psalm 94:1-3 Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

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WelcomeHello, lovelies. It's Juliette here, and today I'm joined by Anna Knight, coach, truth-teller, and creator of The Audacious And.In this conversation, we speak about the “I'm not good enough” spiral, body shame, identity, trolling, self-love, and what happens when you stop twisting yourself into shapes that were never yours.Anna shares their journey from corporate pretzeling, an emotionally unsafe marriage, and years of shrinking, into becoming fully, fiercely, unapologetically Anna.This episode is about refusing to make yourself smaller.Not by pretending the hard parts do not exist, but by learning to hold all of you.

Do you constantly over-do, over-give, and over-perform to "earn your keep" in your relationships? On this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton transitions to an all-new, single-topic format to take a deep, evidence-based dive into the world of over-functioning. Through real community stories and personal reflections, Kati maps out the 6-stage cycle that leads from automatic over-giving straight into quiet resentment, eventual blowups, and toxic guilt. But this isn't just an emotional burden. Kati shares fascinating, decades-spanning clinical research—including the concept of "unmitigated communion," a 7-year study following 1,340 couples, and a chilling 2022 medical study linking "self-silencing" directly to physical cardiovascular risks like carotid plaque. If your body is carrying what your mouth refuses to say, it is time to break the loop. Tune in to get a clear, 4-step actionable framework to practice "deliberate under-functioning," express specific needs, and tolerate the discomfort of choosing growth over chronic exhaustion. Chapters: 00:00 - A New Format for Ask Kati Anything 02:00 - What is Over-Functioning? Community Stories 04:00 - Fawning, People-Pleasing, and the Need to Feel Safe 07:40 - Earning Love: Kati's Personal Story with Perfectionism 11:50 - The 6 Rungs of the Over-Functioning Cycle 22:02 - Episode sponsor message: BiOptimizers Magnesium Breakthrough - go to https://bioptimizers.com/kati and use code KATI for 15% off your entire order Plus a Free bottle of Masszymes 23:34 - Unmitigated Communion: When the Self Disappears 30:23 - The Relationship Trap: 7-Year Study of 1,340 Couples 35:36 - The Cardiovascular Cost of Self-Silencing 38:27 - Step 1: Identify Your Current Rung 40:34 - Step 2: Deliberate Under-Functioning 45:30 - Step 3: Make a Single, Specific Ask 49:15 - Step 4: Tolerate the Discomfort (Data vs. Danger) 52:43 - Next Week's Preview: Understanding Health Insurance Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it, leave your questions for next week's topic in the comments, and don't forget to subscribe! Books Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month) While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: https://betterhelp.com/kati PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  If you've been listening to the last few weeks of the Daily Shift — the burnout series, the grief series, the anxiety and uncertainty series — this episode is going to connect some dots that might change everything. Because underneath most burnout is a people pleaser who couldn't say no. Underneath most anxiety is a people pleaser who is terrified of disapproval. And underneath most grief is a people pleaser who lost themselves trying to keep everyone else okay. In today's episode, Celeste names the thread that connects it all. If you've been wondering why the same patterns keep showing up in different areas of your life, this one is going to give you the answer. Today's shift: Ask yourself honestly — how much of what I'm carrying right now is the result of saying yes when I needed to say no? Events Store Follow Celeste podcast page on tick tock , facebook and instagram Follow STWYT Wellness center on tick tock , facebook and instagram

People pleasing is often misunderstood as simply being "too nice," but for many people it's much deeper than that. It can become a nervous system survival strategy shaped by childhood conditioning, fear of rejection, emotional hypervigilance, and the longing to feel safe, accepted, loved, and connected. In this episode, Colette explores people pleasing through the lens of Ayurveda, nervous system healing, and emotional awareness. She shares how these patterns can disconnect us from our true nature and why healing involves much more than simply "setting boundaries" or "learning to say no." Drawing from both Ayurvedic wisdom and her own personal journey, Colette discusses how chronic people pleasing can manifest as anxiety, burnout, perfectionism, exhaustion, over-responsibility, insomnia, digestive imbalance, nervous system depletion, and emotional disconnection. She also explores the connection between people pleasing and the nervous system's fawn and freeze responses, and why the body may still perceive boundaries as unsafe even when the rational mind knows they are necessary. In this episode, you'll learn: Why people pleasing is often a nervous system adaptation rather than a behaviour The connection between people pleasing, the fawn response, and freeze response How childhood experiences can shape patterns of self-abandonment The Ayurvedic understanding of people pleasing through Vata and Pitta imbalances Why boundaries alone are often not enough for healing How chronic hypervigilance impacts the body, mind, digestion, hormones, and nervous system How Ayurveda supports nervous system repair, emotional awareness, embodiment, and self-trust Gentle practices to help reconnect with your voice, truth, and authentic self Check out Colette's online services:  Online Consultations - https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/consultations Private Digestive Reset Cleanse - https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/digestive-reset-cleanse Online Daily Habits for Holistic Health Program - https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/daily-habits Reset-Restore-Renew Program - https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/reset-restore-renew Have questions on Colette's online services? Book a FREE 15 min Services Enquiry Call here. https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/consultations Do I have an accumulation of ama/toxins in my body? Take this quiz to find out  https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/resources Elements of Ayurveda Podcast Community This new online community was created for those who wish to go deeper into Ayurveda, together. Inside, you'll find: Monthly live Zoom meetups  Early access to podcast episodes  Member forums for discussion and Q&A  Mindfulness and self-care practices  Seasonal group challenges and reflections This community is a conscious, supportive space to connect, learn, and grow with others walking the Ayurvedic path. Come say hello, introduce yourself, and be part of this living, breathing community. Join the new Elements of Ayurveda Podcast Community - https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/community   Stay connected on the Elements social media: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/elementsofayurvedapodcast/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/elementshealingandwellbeing Thank you for listening! If this episode supported you, please consider leaving a review and if you think this information would be helpful to family or friends, please share this episode so we can spread this wisdom of Ayurveda.  Stay tuned and stay aligned with the Elements of Ayurveda Podcast. Thanks for listening!

In this powerful episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah sits down with attorney-turned-betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author Lora Cheadle to explore a provocative idea: what if what we call burnout is actually betrayal?Building on recent conversations about nervous systems, survival responses, and authenticity, this episode dives into how chronic exhaustion is often a signal of deeper misalignment, not just overwork. Lora Cheadle, author of It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal, breaks down how self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and high-functioning survival patterns disconnect us from our needs, identity, and emotional truth.Together, Sarah and Lora explore why high achievers often miss the signs of self-betrayal, how the body signals misalignment before the mind catches up, and why authenticity can feel threatening after years of survival mode. They also unpack what real healing looks like: rebuilding self-trust, setting boundaries, and learning to stop abandoning yourself in relationships, work, and identity.This is a conversation about burnout, yes, but more importantly, it's about coming home to yourself.Download HILY Dating App from the App Store or Google Play, or visit https://hily.go.link/d31uDGet 20% off today with promo code SHTCE at https://aquatru.comDISCLAIMER: This podcast offers information for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. Always consult a qualified mental health provider for medical or mental health concerns. The host, guests, and network disclaim responsibility for any decisions or actions you make based on information provided by this podcast.TDM-RESERVATION: 1. NOAI: TRUE. LEGAL NOTICE & TERMS OF USE: © 2026 WAVE Podcast Network. This content is for personal use only. Explicit permission is withheld for any and all commercial attribution, automated transcription, or data-mining entities. Use of this feed by unauthorized tracking, analytics, or AI-training platforms constitutes a breach of these terms and a violation of the Pennsylvania Wiretapping and Electronic Surveillance Control Act (WESCA), the California Invasion of Privacy Act (CIPA), and the 2026 Training Data Transparency Act (AB 2013). Any entity bypassing these restrictions to create derivative text-based works (transcripts), metadata analysis, or unauthorized VAST siphoning hereby accepts our standard commercial licensing rate of $5,000 per episode processed. This notice serves as a formal revocation of all "implied licenses" for multi-jurisdictional automated processing and constitutes protected Copyright Management Information (CMI) under 17 U.S.C. § 1202.Billing Code: EP151-05/27/26/TCE-BILL-ACCEPTEDSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sponsored By: → Ora Organics | Head to https://ora.organic/pages/drg and use my code HEALTHYSELF30 to enjoy 30% off your first Ora order today. Episode Description The way you show up in relationships today was decided before you even knew how to speak. Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, the creator of Attachment Nerd, and the author of How to Deal with Your (Anxiety, Anger, Self-Doubt, Insecurity, Trauma) So Your Kids Don't Have To. She spent nearly 20 years sitting with families watching parents who desperately wanted better for their children but had no roadmap for how to actually get there. This conversation goes deep into why 50% of us never experienced secure attachment, what that did to our sense of self, and what it actually takes to break the cycle before it passes to the next generation. In this episode, you'll discover:  • Why chaos can feel more like home than safety, and why the people who confuse you are often more magnetic than the people who make you feel secure  • What happens developmentally when a child grows up in an unpredictable home and how that wound silently shapes every relationship, every breakup, and every parenting moment that follows  • The difference between intellectually knowing this work and actually doing it, and why your kids will find every unhealed part of you no matter what This one is for every parent, every soon to be parent, and every adult who is still trying to figure out why love feels so complicated. Find Eli:   • Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com   • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd   • TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd   • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerd   • Book: How to Deal with Your (Anxiety, Anger, Self-Doubt, Insecurity, Trauma) So Your Kids Don't Have To — https://www.amazon.com/Deal-Your-____-Kids-Dont/dp/1632175967 Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:41 - Meet Eli Harwood: Licensed Therapist & Creator of Attachment Nerd  2:34 - Rapid Fire: Familiar vs. Safe, Anxiety vs. Love & Why "Boring" Partners Feel Wrong  8:18 - What Brought Her to This Work (Her Own Insecure Childhood)  10:33 - What Happens to a Child's Sense of Self When Parents Are Unavailable or Chaotic 12:22 - The Upside-Down Parent-Child Relationship: When Kids Take Care of Their Parents 16:27 - Children Know by Age One Whether Their Caregivers Are Reliable 19:32 - The Still-Face Experiment: What Happens When a Parent Goes Emotionally Blank  22:44 - How Kids Cope: Performing, People-Pleasing, Drinking, Managing  25:00 - You Notice Others' Tension Before Your Own (And Why)  27:41 - What Secure Attachment Actually Looks Like in a Family  30:12 - Breaking Generational Patterns: Why Knowledge Alone Isn't Enough  33:43 - How to Apologize to Your Kids the Right Way  38:08 - Fighting in Front of Your Kids: What the Research Actually Says  43:12 - The Moment He Turned the Lens Inward (And Why Relationships Are the Boot Camp) 47:05 - Your Kids Are Heat-Seeking Hovercrafts for Whatever Is Unhealed in You  51:33 - Why This Research Is Now Accessible (And Why It Wasn't Before)  55:22 - What We Bring Into Relationships When We Don't Have a Healthy Sense of Self  59:42 - The Book: A Guidebook for Parents Who Didn't Have Secure Modeling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Making friends as an adult can feel intimidating, especially when it seems like your upbringing didn't give you the skills to navigate social connections. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two listener questions about friendships and social interactions. I explore why it is possible to build friendships while continuing your self-work, and why the story you tell yourself about your friendship skills can keep you stuck.I also tackle the tricky line between honesty and people pleasing. I break down why volunteering opinions that nobody asked for is not automatically people pleasing and why the key is understanding your own motivations behind sharing advice or judgments. This episode will help you distinguish between speaking your truth for yourself and managing your behavior out of concern for others' approval.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: schoolofnewfeministthought.com/493Follow along on Instagram: instagram.com/karaloewentheil/Mentioned in this episode:The Future Coach Podcast is Here!The Future Coach: How to Succeed as a Life Coach Today, Tomorrow, and Beyond is finally here. Every other week, you'll hear practical advice about becoming a coach, improving your coaching skills, and antidotes to the most common concerns, questions, and brain drama that come up with this work, whether you're just starting out or you're years into your career. If you want to find out more, you can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts and hit that follow button.The Future Coach Podcast is Here!The Future Coach: How to Succeed as a Life Coach Today, Tomorrow, and Beyond is finally here. Every other week, you'll hear practical advice about becoming a coach, improving your coaching skills, and antidotes to the most common concerns, questions, and brain drama that come up with this work, whether you're just starting out or you're years into your career. If you want to find out more, you can find it anywhere you listen to podcasts and hit that follow button.