Podcasts about people pleasing

Pornography addiction isn't a willpower problem. It's a brain problem and, understanding the mechanics changes everything about how you fight it. Today, we go deep into the neuroscience: what edging actually does to your reward system, why desensitization and hypo-frontality reshape how your brain processes stress and pleasure, and why getting exactly what you want can leave you more depressed than before you started. We also unpack what "Rat Park" study reveals about addiction and isolation, and why the opposite of sobriety isn't willpower; it's connection. My guest, Sathiya Sam, and I go beyond the behavior to the coping mechanism underneath it, what porn is really substituting for, what predicts who struggles with it, and why quitting cold turkey rarely works without addressing the root. You'll learn the real skills required to overcome it, why a satisfied heart rarely wanders, and how to build an identity that doesn't need to prove itself through control or escape. If you've ever wondered what's actually happening in your brain when you engage — or how to build something stronger in its place — this episode gives you the science and the path forward.   SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and AI's Impact on Pornography 03:20 - Emotional Connection and AI Sex Bots 05:39 - Dopamine, Variable Returns, and Edging 08:00 - Supernormal Stimuli and Accessibility 10:32 - Meeting Psychological Needs vs. Physical Drive 14:12 - The Rat Park Experiment & Connection vs. Addiction 18:16 - Meaninglessness as the Primary Driver of Vice 22:00 - Practical Skill Building Beyond Behavior Manipulation 24:52 - Connection, Control, and Validation 27:23 - Mainstream Pornography and Aggressive Content Trends 31:40 - Physical Transformation After Breaking Addiction 33:27 - Overcoming 48 Years of Addiction 38:23 - Identity Shifts and Rethinking 12-Step Frameworks 44:00 - Anchoring Identity Outside of Temporary Roles 47:00 - Who You Are and Who Told You 52:17 - Authentic Conviction vs. People Pleasing 56:30 - Public Apologies vs. Personal Alignment 01:00:02 - The Myth That Pornography Only Affects One Person 01:01:59 - The Four Neurological Effects of Pornography 01:03:33 - How Pornography Distorts Relational Intimacy 01:10:50 - Hypofrontality, Sensitization, and Stress Responses 01:18:45 - Replacing Addiction with Purpose 01:22:00 - Where to Find Sathiya Sam and The Last Relapse   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready  

Why Leading with Honesty, Lying, and Anxiety Are All Connected Leading with honesty starts with the courage to stand in truth, even when it is uncomfortable. The Hidden Roots of Dishonesty: Where Lying Begins Most people learn to lie very early in life — not out of malice, but out of self-preservation. People-Pleasing as a Form of Dishonesty People-pleasing is one of the most common — and most overlooked — forms of dishonesty. The Shame Cycle That Feeds More Lying Each dishonest act produces internal shame, which, ironically, drives further dishonesty. Anxiety, the Nervous System, and the Need to Lie Lying and anxiety are deeply intertwined. How Living in Fight-or-Flight Fuels Dishonesty Chronic stress keeps us in fight-or-flight mode, where survival instincts override values. Your Body Already Knows the Truth The body registers dishonesty as friction — a tightness in the gut or chest. Standing in Truth: The Practical Path Forward Standing in truth is a practice, not a one-time decision. Step One — Notice What Your Body Is Telling You Before you can change a pattern, you must be able to see it. Step Two — Use the Holy Pause The pause is one of the most powerful tools in any transformation journey. Step Three — Say It and Stand in It Speaking the truth is only half the work. Release the Outcome Leading with honesty does not guarantee that everyone will respond well. How Standing in Truth Transforms Relationships Whether at work or at home, relationships built on half-truths are fragile. Honesty in Marriage and Family Edie Kay shared a deeply personal story about discovering her husband had been emotionally and physically unfaithful. Leading with Honesty in the Workplace Leaders who model vulnerability create psychologically safe teams. The Difference Between Radical Honesty and Harmful Truth Standing in truth does not mean saying everything you think without a filter. Identity, Faith, and the Freedom to Be Yourself At its deepest level, chronic dishonesty is an identity crisis. Self-Knowledge as the Foundation of Truth-Telling You cannot stand in your truth if you do not know what that truth is. The Internal Freedom That Comes from Alignment When what you say matches who you are, something profound shifts internally. Website for Edie Kay Additional Resources: Your Identity in Christ Leads to Your Purpose to Be Extraordinary Book Referenced: Return to Love by Marianne Williamson Loosen the grip! Anxiety and the need to control aren't helping you. Adopt the Holy Pause to Stop Overreacting

Dr. Aziz Gazipura explains the dangers of people-pleasing tendencies and shares actionable steps for overcoming it. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The massive costs of being a people-pleaser2) How to not feel guilty when saying no3) A surprising strategy to build your discomfort tolerance Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep925 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT AZIZ — Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety.Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence and lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim.• Book: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (site) • Book: Less Nice, More You: Stop Hiding & Become The Most Bold, Authentic Version Of You Now • Mini course: “5 Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence” • Organization: Social Confidence Center • Website: DrAziz.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: Effect of Pain Reprocessing Therapy vs Placebo and Usual Care for Patients With Chronic Back Pain - A Randomized Clinical Trial• Book: Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt • Book: The Way Out: A Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Healing Chronic Pain by Alan Gordon, Alon Ziv• Previous episode: 830: Lessons Learned from the World's Longest Scientific Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger— THANK YOU SPONSORS! — • Shopify. Start your free trial at Shopify.com/awesomepod• Vinted. Download the Vinted app for free to start selling with no seller fees!• Fitnexa. Get $10 off the SomniPods3 with the link and code AWESOMESee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us Fan MailWhat if the person who betrayed you was not the beginning of the pattern, but the person who finally made it impossible for you to ignore?What if, long before someone lied or cheated, you had already learned to silence your intuition, sacrifice your needs, and stay loyal to people who were not loyal to you?In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I sit down with award-winning spiritual psychology coach, bestselling author, and lineage healer Lainne Love for an honest conversation about betrayal trauma, self-betrayal, inherited relationship patterns, and breaking generational cycles.Lainne shares how her experiences with abuse, trauma, and a violent mugging forced her to examine the subconscious patterns she had carried for years. She explains why healing rarely happens through one dramatic breakthrough. More often, it develops through small, intentional choices that slowly rebuild safety, confidence, and self-trust.Together, we talk about:• Why betrayal can expose patterns that began much earlier• How ignoring your intuition can weaken your self-trust• The inherited belief that a good woman must stay, forgive, and hold everyone together• How childhood conditioning shapes what you tolerate in adult relationships• Why recognizing a pattern is different from changing it• How betrayal affects your sense of safety and nervous system• Why leaving can feel impossible when you are emotionally depleted• The importance of asking for practical, tangible support• How to break painful cycles and create a healthier legacyThis episode is for any woman who has ever asked herself:“Why do I keep repeating the same painful relationship patterns?”Or:“How can I trust myself again after betrayal?”If you are healing after infidelity, struggling with self-abandonment, or afraid of repeating the relationship patterns you witnessed growing up, this conversation will help you understand what may be keeping the cycle alive.Taking responsibility for your healing does not mean taking responsibility for another person's harmful choices. It means learning to hear your own voice again, honor what you know, and choose differently one step at a time.If you have recently been cheated on or are struggling after betrayal, you do not have to face it alone. Book a Betrayal Session with me through the link in the show notes.Connect with Lainne Love:Instagram: @lainneloveWebsite: http://www.lainne.com/✨ Not sure why you keep choosing pain over peace? Take the free WHY YOU GOT BETRAYED QUIZ and uncover the pattern you didn't even know was holding you back.If you can't eat, can't sleep, and keep replaying the betrayal in your head, this book was written for this exact moment. Pre-order Betrayal ER™ on Amazon.

Why Do I Say Sorry for Everything? — People-Pleasing Anxiety Relief | Guided Meditation with 4-2-6 Breathing If you've ever wondered "why do I say sorry for everything?", from bumping into someone to simply having a feeling, today's guided meditation is for you. Calming Anxiety sits with the quiet, exhausting reflex of chronic apologizing, the fear that if you're agreeable enough, easy enough, small enough, nobody will ever be angry with you. We slow the body first with 4-2-6 breathing, in for four, hold for two, out for six, creating the same small pause Martin often had to teach frightened patients as a paramedic: the space between the trigger and the reaction.For daily support beyond this episode, download Anchored on iOS, with Android arriving in a couple of weeks.

Why People Pleasing Is a Trauma Response Do you find yourself saying "yes" when every part of you wants to say "no"? If you constantly put other people's needs ahead of your own, struggle to set boundaries, or feel responsible for everyone else's emotions, your people pleasing may be more than a personality trait. It may be a survival response rooted in childhood trauma. In this episode of the Breakdown to Breakthroughs Podcast, trauma-informed life coach Lisa A. Romano explains the psychology behind the fawn response, one of the most misunderstood trauma responses. You'll discover how growing up in unpredictable, emotionally unsafe, or narcissistic family systems can teach children to survive by becoming agreeable, hypervigilant, and overly responsible for others. Lisa also shares a practical daily strategy to help interrupt automatic people pleasing and begin reconnecting with your own needs.

Not everything is an anxiety disorder, but people pleasing and low self-esteem feed into it constantly. This week we talk about why the two overlap so heavily, and why learning to desensitize almost always requires putting yourself first, which can feel like the least safe thing in the world if pleasing people is how you've kept yourself safe.We get into what people pleasing actually looks like, from constant scanning of other people's moods to guilt as a baseline feeling, why it's usually a learned response rather than a personality trait, and why exposure work doesn't work without some baseline self-acceptance. We also talk about why the values underneath people pleasing, kindness, cooperation, and community, aren't the problem. It's when they become the only way you're allowed to exist.Plus Did It Anyway wins, including six flights taken through a lifelong fear of flying.----Want to talk about this episode, interact with us, and communicate with others that are sharing your experience? We're hanging out in the Disordered Community Spacehttps://disordered.fm/community----The Disordered Guide to Health Anxiety is available now:⁠https://www.disordered.fm/the-disordered-guide-to-health-anxiety/⁠---Struggling with worry and rumination that you feel you can't stop or control? Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Worry and Rumination Explained⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a two hour pre-recorded workshop produced by Josh and Drew. -----Got questions or did it anyways to share? ⁠Send us an email or voicemail on our website⁠.https://disordered.fm---Disclaimer: Disordered  is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Listening to Disordered does not create a therapeutic relationship between you and the hosts or guests of the podcast. Information here is provided for psychoeducational purposes. As always, please consult your mental health and/or medical care providers. If you are having a mental health crisis, always reach out immediately for in-person help.

#393: People pleasing can look like compassion, generosity, and care, but what happens when it comes at the cost of your own needs? This week, I dive into why people pleasing happens, how it becomes a pattern that shapes our relationships and sense of self, and why it can leave us feeling disconnected, resentful, and overwhelmed. I explore how these habits were often brilliant survival strategies that helped us get our needs met, while also showing how they can create challenges for us as adults. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/393 Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:Join The Shift today!You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern: safety, worth, and belonging. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/theshiftThe Shift

What if some of the qualities you've learned to call “strength” are clues to a wound underneath? You may be responsible, independent, productive, and good at taking care of everyone else. But when those patterns become extreme, they can sometimes point to wounds you've learned to carry alone. In this week's episode, Dr. Alison is joined by therapist and author Sheila Wise Rowe for a conversation about the less obvious ways trauma can shape our lives. Together, they explore how people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-sufficiency, minimizing pain, and avoiding conflict can become protective responses—and why healing begins by getting curious about what those patterns are trying to tell us. You'll learn: *How trauma can show up in ways we may not immediately recognize *Why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-sufficiency can become protective patterns *How family and community wounds can shape us across generations *Why minimizing your pain can keep you disconnected from what needs care *The role of lament in bringing your real emotions before God *Why healing rarely happens alone *How small steps, safe people, and God's presence can help create lasting change Healing doesn't require you to minimize what happened or convince yourself that someone else had it worse. It begins with noticing what is true, allowing God into the places that hurt, and taking one small step toward connection. More Resources: With every purchase of Dr. Alison's newest book, The Secure Soul, you'll get exclusive access to her Soul Tending Video Library, including  “Boundaries for the Deeply Feeling Woman” and her masterclass “Healing the Wounds That Still Shape You.” Connect further with @dralisoncook on Instagram

Join The Circle and use code “PODCAST”: https://holplus.co/circle/What if being productive, successful, and dependable is not proof that you are okay, but the mask hiding how much you are struggling?In this episode of hol+ with Dr. Taz MD, board-certified psychiatrist and High Functioning author Dr. Judith Joseph explores the hidden patterns often described as high-functioning depression. These are the people who continue working, parenting, achieving, and caring for everyone around them, even while feeling emotionally empty inside.Dr. Joseph explains why depression does not always look like sadness, how anhedonia can leave you feeling disconnected from joy, and why people-pleasing often comes at the expense of your own mental and physical health.She also breaks down her five Vs for thriving:• Validation: acknowledging and naming what you feel• Venting: expressing emotions in a healthy, authentic way• Values: reconnecting with what gives your life meaning• Vitals: supporting your brain through food, movement, sleep, technology boundaries, and healthy relationships• Vision: planning joy and celebrating your winsDr. Taz and Dr. Joseph also discuss how culture shapes mental health, the effect of toxic relationships, nutritional psychiatry, why children and teenagers are struggling, and how families can create more open communication and emotional connection at home.If you are always “the strong one,” but privately feel exhausted, numb, or disconnected, this conversation may help you recognize what has been hiding beneath the surface.About Dr. Judith Joseph:Dr. Judith Joseph is a board-certified psychiatrist, researcher, speaker, and author who works across pediatric and adult mental health. She is the author of High Functioning: Overcome Your Hidden Depression and Reclaim Your Joy, which explores the hidden emotional struggles experienced by people who appear successful and capable on the outside but feel numb, overwhelmed, or disconnected internally. Through her clinical practice, research, speaking, and educational content, Dr. Judith focuses on making complex mental-health concepts understandable and helping people develop practical tools for greater emotional awareness, meaning, and joy.Connect with Dr. Judith Joseph:https://drjudithjoseph.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjudithjoseph/https://highfunctioningbook.com/About Dr. Taz:Dr. Tasneem Bhatia (Dr. Taz) is a triple board-certified integrative medicine physician, bestselling author, and founder of hol+, a multi-location integrative medicine practice.Learn more: https://doctortaz.com/aboutStay Connected:Connect further with hol+ at https://holplus.co/ and don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated on future episodes of hol+.Book a Hol+ Consultation:https://holplus.co/locations/virtual/Follow Dr. Taz on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/drtazmd/https://www.instagram.com/liveholplus/Subscribe to the audio podcast:https://holplus.transistor.fm/subscribeSubscribe to the video podcast:https://www.youtube.com/@DrTazMD/podcastsProduced by https://ClipGrowth.com (Producer: Pat Gostek)

What if you're not actually indecisive? What if you're taking in so much information that you can't hear yourself anymore? For empaths, making a decision can mean processing far more than the decision itself. There's what you want - and then there's someone else's disappointment, your partner's opinion, your family's expectations, another reading, another podcast, another Reddit thread, another certification, and one more attempt to get absolutely certain before you move. In this episode of Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda shares how she knew as early as 2000 that teaching was no longer sustainable for her... and then spent 22 more years finding her way out. She explores what happened when she allowed other people's opinions about her career to become more valuable information than her own lived experience. You'll learn three ways to begin separating what you actually know from all the additional information you're processing: Capture what you know before you poll the room. Stop automatically treating someone else's reaction as information about your decision. Notice when “I need more information” may actually mean “I want certainty.” Brenda also shares a client story about what changed when one woman developed enough nervous-system capacity to stop organizing her choices around other people's reactions, and what Brenda is noticing among people who repeatedly seek another reading or answer even after they've already received one. Because self-trust doesn't mean knowing the right answer every time. It means trusting yourself to respond to what happens after you choose. ✨ YES TO ME happens live September 15 from 6–8 PM Pacific. Bring the decision, relationship, boundary, opportunity, change, or desire you've been circling. You don't need to arrive knowing your answer. You can come fully in the wobble. Details coming soon. ✨ Enrollment for POWER: Self-Trust for Empaths opens in September. The next cohort begins September 29. https://www.brendawinkle.com/power Join us in the Empowered Empath Collective - https://www.brendawinkle.com/membership Reflection questions from this episode: What did I think before I asked everyone else? Whose reaction am I trying to prevent or manage? What information do I genuinely still need—and what am I collecting because I want certainty? What do I know today? What is one honest next step? Download your free energy audit: https://www.brendawinkle.com/audit Keywords: Empath, Empaths, Empath Life, Empowered Empath, Highly Sensitive Person, Self Trust, Trust Yourself, Overthinking, Indecision, Decision Making, Intuition, Intuitive Living, Nervous System Regulation, Somatic Healing, Emotional Healing, Personal Growth, People Pleasing, Boundaries, Empath Boundaries, Spiritual Growth, Self Awareness, Healing Journey, Mindset Shift, Yes To Me, Your Yes Filled Life, Brenda Winkle

Tenderoni Hotline #41: If you know you're a people pleaser but cannot seem to stop, this episode is for you. In this Tenderoni Hotline, I answer two listener questions that go straight to the heart of emotional outsourcing and nervous system healing.First: “I know I'm a people pleaser. How do I stop?” We explore why people pleasing is not a personality flaw or lack of boundaries. It is a nervous system adaptation. When connection felt conditional, your body learned to scan, adjust, perform, and prioritize others to stay safe. That strategy was brilliant. And now it may be exhausting.Then we move into a second question from a listener with CPTSD who shared that words like safe, belonging, and worthy feel abstract or unreachable in their body. If that resonates, you are not alone. Nervous systems do not organize around concepts. They organize around lived experience. So we unpack what “safe enough” actually means in relational terms, how belonging often gets confused with self-erasure, and why worth is less about self-esteem and more about non-abandonment.This work is not about forcing calm or becoming unbothered. It is about learning to stay with yourself when tension arises. It is about building safety from the inside out so you no longer have to abandon yourself to stay connected.Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.comLearn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/coursesFollow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

I'm sitting down with life coach Michelle Gauthier to unpack people-pleasing — that thing so many of us do disguised as just being nice. Michelle drops a reframe that gave me a full-body reaction: people-pleasing isn't really about kindness, it's about trying to control how others see us. The real gift of this conversation is Michelle's Love and Fit Test — two simple questions that help you pause before automatically saying yes: Do I absolutely love this idea, and does this fit into the type of life I'm trying to create? We walk through real examples, from lunch invitations to setting boundaries with family, and explore how making yourself part of the equation doesn't mean you're the only factor — just that you finally count. LAST CHANCE to claim your ticket for About Progress LIVE. Preorder Sticky Habits book today! Join the Book Launch Committee for behind-the-scenes and first peeks at all things book. Join the Supporters Club to keep About Progress around for good.  Michelle's podcast, free consultation Go to Quince for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Your next favorite find is waiting at fromrebel.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if being “nice” is actually holding you back? In Episode 468 of Inner Voice: A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan, Dr. Foojan Zeine sits down with serial entrepreneur, speaker, author, and leadership expert Danny M. Goldberg, author of the provocative book A Little Bit Asshole, to explore people pleasing, confidence, boundaries, assertiveness, leadership, relationships, entrepreneurship, and the courage to say no. Danny's message is not about becoming rude, selfish, or ruthless. Instead, he explains how learning to set healthy boundaries, communicate expectations, understand your self-worth, and stand up for yourself can create stronger relationships and more effective leadership. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction The central idea behind Danny's philosophy: learning when to be assertive without losing kindness. 02:44 – Welcome to Inner Voice Dr. Foojan introduces the podcast and its focus on awareness, relationships, emotional clarity, healing, and personal growth. 06:02 – Danny Goldberg's Journey Danny discusses his corporate background and how being a lifelong people pleaser taught him the importance of boundaries. 08:29 – Why “A Little Bit Asshole”? Danny explains the provocative title and why the book is really about knowing when to say no and stand up for yourself. 09:35 – People Pleasing & Self-Confidence How constantly prioritizing others can cause you to lose your identity—and how boundaries can rebuild confidence. 10:18 – Lessons From Corporate Leadership Danny shares lessons from his career, including his experience at Arthur Andersen and becoming a stronger, more outspoken leader. 10:53 – Setting Boundaries With His Son A personal story about financial boundaries, parenting, independence, and building healthier expectations. 12:03 – Nice vs. Kind What is the difference between trying to be liked and genuinely being kind? 14:01 – Self-Worth & Knowing Your Value Danny explains how boundaries and confidence affect business, relationships, and personal decision-making. 15:04 – Learning to Say No Why listening to your internal signals can help you recognize when you're acting against your values. 16:05 – Why Clarity Matters How clear expectations can reduce unnecessary conflict and improve relationships. 16:32 – Expectations in Romantic Relationships Danny discusses having difficult conversations about expectations with his girlfriend. 17:13 – High Expectations & Personal Growth How challenging expectations can create opportunities for growth, learning, and professional development. 18:31 – Communication & Relationships Why unclear expectations can create problems between partners, employees, managers, and leaders. 19:19 – How to Create Clarity Understanding your needs, expectations, values, and boundaries before entering difficult conversations. 21:23 – Self-Awareness, Values & Integrity How knowing your personal values helps you recognize when your actions are aligned—or out of alignment—with who you want to be. 22:46 – When Values Conflict Danny shares personal and professional experiences involving conflicting values and expectations. 23:32 – Can Relationships Survive Different Values? Dr. Foojan and Danny discuss disagreement, religion, politics, mutual respect, and maintaining relationships despite differences. 25:44 – Mutual Respect & Difficult Conversations Why respectful communication and open-minded dialogue matter when people strongly disagree. 26:26 – Why Danny Wrote the Book Danny explains why he believes many people struggle with people pleasing and boundary-setting. 27:08 – From People Pleasing to Self-Respect Awareness → self-worth → values → expectations → confidence → healthy boundaries. 28:24 – The Benefits of Assertiveness How confidence, boundaries, communication, and self-worth can transform personal and professional relationships. 29:21 – Danny's New Ventures Danny introduces a functional men's handkerchief and discusses his latest entrepreneurial projects. 29:49 – LykeMe: A Values-Based Dating App Danny explains his dating app designed around values, expectations, non-negotiables, and compatibility rather than appearance alone. 30:14 – How LykeMe Works A closer look at compatibility-based matching and user-controlled photo sharing. 31:18 – Connect With Danny Goldberg Where to find Danny and learn more about his work and book. 31:50 – Closing Thoughts Dr. Foojan closes Episode 468 with an invitation to continue listening, growing, and living with greater awareness. If you've ever struggled with people pleasing, setting boundaries, saying no, communicating your expectations, or standing up for yourself without becoming a difficult person, this episode offers a powerful perspective: you can be kind without abandoning yourself. Subscribe to Inner Voice: A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan for conversations about emotional awareness, relationships, leadership, mental health, personal growth, and creating a more fulfilled life.

Berlin, München, beste Freunde, eine Prada-Tasche und die Frage, warum wir eigentlich so verdammt oft ein schlechtes Gewissen haben. ❤️ Diese Folge beginnt mittendrin: mit einer Voicememo von unserem verlängerten Wochenende, Sebastian Fitzeks 20-jährigem Bühnenjubiläum in der Berliner Waldbühne und unserem anschließenden Trip nach München zum Team der Siemens-Betriebskrankenkasse (SBK). Und irgendwo zwischen all den Erlebnissen versucht Jana auch noch, Batomae von einer Prada-Tasche zu überzeugen. Spoiler: Daraus wird unerwartet schnell eine ziemlich grundsätzliche Diskussion darüber, was Dinge wert sind und wie wir eigentlich unseren eigenen Wert bestimmen.

Are you the person everyone counts on—the one who can always figure it out, squeeze it in, or take on one more thing?Being capable is a gift, but it can also become a trap.In today's episode, I'm joined by business strategist and executive coach Dawn Andrews, Founder and CEO of Free Range Thinking, to talk about what happens when capable women become responsible for too much—at work, at home, and everywhere in between.Dawn shares why highly capable women are especially vulnerable to burnout, how caring leaders can accidentally take on responsibilities that belong to other people, and why doing more isn't always the best use of your capacity.We also dive into boundaries—and a completely different way to think about them. Instead of waiting until you're exhausted and finally declaring, “I can't do this anymore,” Dawn encourages us to build boundaries around what we value and want to protect.In this episode, we talk about:The “curse of the capable” and why capable women often end up carrying moreWhy doing less can actually make you a better leaderThe difference between supporting someone and taking responsibility for themWhy holding space for someone is different from holding their weightHow over-functioning prevents the people around us from growingWhy boundaries can feel so difficult for dependable, high-achieving womenHow to set boundaries based on your values instead of your exhaustionWhy your capacity should be spent on what you chooseThe power of pausing before automatically saying yesDawn's simple three-question boundary check using energy, resentment, and enthusiasmIf you're tired of automatically asking, “How can I make this work?” every time something lands on your plate, this conversation will help you start asking a much more important question: “Do I actually want to?”Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected!Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com!Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.comSecrets of Supermom on FacebookSecrets of Supermom on Instagram

What if people-pleasing isn't your personality, but a collection of invisible rules you learned years ago? CBT psychotherapist and confidence coach Ludovica Colella joins me to talk about the beliefs that can keep us prioritising other people at our own expense. In this episode, we discuss: The invisible rules behind people-pleasing How being constantly adaptable can erode your sense of self The difference between genuine kindness and helping to feel safe or accepted Why guilt doesn't necessarily mean you've done something wrong What can happen to relationships when you start setting boundaries Using the "broken record" technique to hold your ground Find Ludovica at lu-cole.com or on Instagram at @permissiontob.me. Find Suzanne at https://www.suzanneculberg.com/  Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach 

Why Do I Never Feel Good Enough? — Confidence, Self-Worth and the Half-Smile Breath | 10 Minute Guided Meditation You have already done the hardest thing today. You woke up, and you came back. No fanfare, nobody clapping — you just did it. And I wonder whether anyone has told you lately that this counts, because there is a particular kind of tiredness that comes from believing you have to earn your place over and over, every single day. Today we are going to put that down. This session is about calm and control, about positive breathing, about confidence and self-worth, and about the smallest, simplest thing in the world — a smile on the out breath. Inside Anchored there is now a whole tab given over to confidence and self-worth. Not a handful of sessions buried somewhere: a tab, its own place. Free to download, offline whenever you need it, and on Android next month.

In this episode of Acta Non Verba, Marcus Aurelius Anderson talks with Stefanos Sifandos, an author and transformational advisor. They discuss closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. Stefanos shares his own journey through childhood bullying, addiction, and self-worth struggles. He explains how self-forgiveness, radical honesty, and genuine relational connection create lasting transformation. The conversation also covers fatherhood, marriage, control, resilience, and living in one's truth. Episode Highlights: 0:55 Marcus introduces Stefanos Sifandos and his 25 years working with Olympians, CEOs, and top performers. 10:06 Stefanos explains that self-forgiveness comes from being met with compassion and non-judgment. 22:12 They discuss truth-telling as a remedy for disconnection in relationships. 38:06 Stefanos opens up about the profound love he feels as a father. Stefanos Sifandos is an author and transformational advisor. He has spent 25 years working with Olympians, world champions, CEOs, and leaders at the top of their fields. His work focuses on closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. He uses behavioral science, trauma resolution, and spiritual truth to guide his clients. His new book, Tuned In and Turned On, is available now at tunedinandturnedonbook.com. Learn more about the gift of Adversity and my mission to help my fellow humans create a better world by heading to www.marcusaureliusanderson.com. There you can take action by joining my ANV inner circle to get exclusive content and information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us Fan MailWhy is it so hard to ask for help without immediately feeling like you need to apologize for it?Matt and Steve talk about the shame that can come with needing support, the belief that we should be able to handle everything ourselves, and the fear that struggling will make other people think less of us. They also get into pride, people pleasing, emotional overwhelm, and the difference between actually owing someone an apology and simply being uncomfortable with needing them.Recovery doesn't make the need for help disappear. Sometimes it teaches us how to stop treating that need like a personal failure.Support the show

As promised, while on hiatus, we're bringing back episodes from the archives starting with people pleasing in power exchange. It was originally published in 2022. This is a stripped down version so no old... The post From the Archives: People Pleasing appeared first on Loving BDSM.

I've been thinking a lot about how we choose to see and interact with the people in our lives. Especially the ones we love the most.What if we could begin to see them not just as their choices, their behaviors, their wounds, or the stories we've created about them, but as souls having their own human experience?What happens when we stop trying to fix people?What happens when we release the need for them to be different so that we can be okay?And what happens when we remember that their soul journey is theirs, just as ours is ours?This is a deeper conversation about the spiritual side of Recover Your Soul, about remembering our wholeness, releasing judgment, and beginning to see the people around us in a different way.I'm sharing some of what I've been learning and experiencing, including some ideas about souls, our human experience, and why I believe the people who challenge us can sometimes be some of our greatest teachers.As always, take what you need and leave the rest.I'm just sharing what I'm discovering on my own journey, and I hope something in this conversation opens a new way of seeing for you too.

In this episode, Dr. B will cover the hidden costs of people pleasing—how constant yeses erode self-trust, blur boundaries, and drain joy. She breaks down the subtle signals, the emotional toll and the quiet ways it reshapes your identity, so you can start noticing where you're trading authenticity for approval.The HOPE Zone...where there's HOPE for every situation!

Send us Fan MailWhat if the most painful part of betrayal isn't the betrayal itself?What if it's realizing that you've spent years living by rules you never consciously chose?In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I sat down with scientist, wellness coach, researcher, and author Apurva Sawhney for a powerful conversation about identity, conditioning, self-abandonment, and the expectations women inherit from family, culture, and society.Together, we explore why so many women lose themselves in relationships, why betrayal often triggers a deep identity crisis, and how years of living according to "shoulds" can disconnect us from who we really are.We talk about: • Why women blame themselves after betrayal • The hidden cost of people-pleasing • Fear, guilt, shame, and cultural conditioning • How to stop self-abandoning and start trusting yourself • Why being "good" isn't always healthy • The difference between being broken and being badly managed • How to rebuild your life on your own termsThis episode is for any woman who has ever asked herself:"Am I living my life, or the life other people expected me to live?"If you've been betrayed, questioning everything, or trying to find yourself again after years of putting everyone else first, this conversation will challenge you to think differently and help you reconnect with your own voice. Because healing isn't just about recovering from betrayal.Sometimes it's about unlearning everything that taught you to betray yourself.

Do you feel responsible for keeping everyone in your family happy? Do you find yourself trying to fix your kids' hard feelings, keep the peace, or make everything okay?What if deeper connection with your kids actually starts with learning how to connect with yourself?In today's episode of The Secrets of Supermom Show, Lori talks with Diane Sorensen, certified Transformational Coach and host of the Chaos to Connection podcast, about breaking generational patterns, understanding our emotional triggers, and creating stronger relationships with our children.Diane shares how her daughter's mental health crisis and her own divorce forced her to look at patterns of perfectionism, people-pleasing, emotional suppression, and approval-seeking that she had unknowingly carried into motherhood.Together, Lori and Diane discuss:Why connection with your children starts with connection to yourselfHow to recognize your emotional triggers—and what they can teach youWhy trying to keep everyone happy can actually hurt connectionThe difference between feeling an emotion and knowing how to be with an emotionHow perfectionism and “good girl” conditioning can show up in motherhoodWhy your child's emotions are not yours to manageHow to be okay when your kids are not okayWhy connection isn't about spending more time or money on your kidsHow to listen to your children without immediately fixing, reframing, or teachingA simple practice you can use today to start building more emotional awareness and connectionOne of Diane's most powerful reminders? The secret to being a Supermom isn't never struggling—it's learning how to navigate the struggle while staying connected to yourself.If you've ever worried that you're doing motherhood wrong, felt responsible for everyone else's emotions, or struggled with mom guilt when your kids are having a hard time, this conversation will give you a completely different way to think about connection.Connect with Diane Sorensen:Website: dianesorensen.netInstagram: @dianesorensen.bbPodcast: Chaos to ConnectionFree Resource:Drama to Empowerment — Learn how to move out of reactive patterns and into greater awareness, connection, and empowerment.Listen now and discover how doing the inner work can transform the relationships around you.Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected!Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com!Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.comSecrets of Supermom on FacebookSecrets of Supermom on Instagram

You keep replaying the conversation. Not because you don't understand it — but because you do. Sometimes you already know what happened. The real conflict isn't figuring them out. It's what the truth would require you to do about it. In this episode, I unpack how compassion — for someone's history, their pain, their good intentions — can quietly become a sophisticated form of self-abandonment... In this episode: Why you replay conversations you've already figured out The difference between explaining behavior and excusing impact How compassion, taken too far, becomes self-betrayal The one question that moves you from stuck to clear: not "Why did they do it?" but "What does this pattern require of me now?" "Explanation doesn't erase impact. You're allowed to hold both." — Take the free QUIZ - What's Your Communication Under Pressure Style? 

Your cup is empty, and you've been calling it love. I get a version of this question all the time: who's supposed to be the number one priority in your life? And this week I gave you an answer most of you don't want to hear. Because the version of people-pleasing nobody warns you about isn't the one where you're afraid to say no to a stranger. It's the one where you've spent years putting everyone you love ahead of yourself, until there's nothing left in the cup to pour. This one's built around some of the conversations that shaped how I think about this, with Tony Robbins, Jay Shetty, and Rob Dyrdek. Not soundbites. Real, lived-in wisdom from three guys who've actually done the work on themselves.Here's what you'll gain from this episode: The stake in the ground: Why you keep telling yourself you can't move, even when you could walk away in a second. Tony's rock bottom story: What he did the night he had nothing left, and how it rewired the rest of his life. The three date rule: A simple set of questions Jay Shetty says can reconnect you with someone you think you already know completely. The million hour mindset: How Rob Dyrdek thinks about time that makes every single day feel different. Your own worst enemy: Why the way you talk to yourself is training the universe how to treat you, and the one phrase that flips it. Time is not unlimited, and neither is your patience with yourself. You have been the last person on your own list for too long. Fill your cup first. Not because it's selfish. Because it's the only way you have anything left to give the people you love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I share a recording of a teaching I recently did talking about the perils of people-pleasing and what we should do about it.Scriptures referenced:Psalm 119:18Luke 6:22-23, 26Exodus 32Proverbs 29:251 Corinthians 4:3-52 Corinthians 11:2-5, 12-15, 21-28Galatians 1:10Philippians 3:2-9Luke 19:1-7Matthew 27:11-141 Peter 2:23John 6:60-71Matthew 23John 2:13-22Mark 10:13-16Matthew 11:291 Corinthians 10:32-33Romans 15:2-3Matthew 22:34-40Matthew 17:24-27Philippians 2:3-11Proverbs 27:6Matthew 9:9-13Psalm 27:10Hebrews 13:5Matthew 12:15-21James 4:6BibliographyLucado, Max. You Are Special. Wheaton, IL: Crossway Books, 1997.Feel free to email the podcast at ijustwanttotalkabout@gmail.com, and we will respond as soon as we are able!I WANT TO BE DISCIPLEDI am on staff with another ministry called Mentoring Men for the Master (M3). M3 is a discipleship ministry; so, if you are interested in being discipled and having someone come alongside you to invest in you and your walk with Jesus, or if you would like to do this in someone else's life, feel free to email us at info@mentoringmen.net. You can also check out M3's website by clicking "I want to be discipled". Also note that despite the ministry's name, M3 disciples both men and women; so, the offer is open to all!I WANT TO SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTERIf you would like to sign up to receive newsletter updates, simply click "I want to sign up for the newsletter" and fill out the form. Also, feel free to check out our most recent newsletter.I WANT TO SUPPORT THE PODCASTIf you feel so led, you can support the podcast by clicking "I want to support the podcast". I Just Want to Talk about the Bible is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization, which means that any donations made are tax-deductible. Thank you so much for giving as the Lord leads!...

Episode 269: More on People Pleasing takes a fresh look at a topic I've taught before, but with new insights that have come from years of coaching preparing missionaries, currently serving missionaries, returned missionaries, parents, and mission leaders. People pleasing isn't simply about trying to make other people happy. More often, it's an attempt to manage how we feel about ourselves by seeking reassurance, validation, or approval from others. In this episode, I explore why people pleasing "works," why it's so tempting, and why it ultimately leaves us feeling emotionally exhausted. We talk about the difference between genuine kindness and people pleasing, why the same outward action can come from two completely different motivations, and how to recognize when you've attached invisible strings to your service, relationships, or acts of generosity. I also share practical examples from missionary life, dating, family relationships, and everyday experiences to help you identify what belongs in your lane, what belongs in someone else's, and how to give freely without depending on another person's response to determine your worth. If you've ever found yourself overthinking someone else's reaction, feeling resentful after serving, or wondering why your efforts didn't bring the response you hoped for, I hope Episode 269: More on People Pleasing helps you recognize the subtle ways people pleasing can show up in your life. My hope is that you'll learn to serve from love instead of obligation, trust your own worth without needing someone else's approval, and experience the freedom that comes from giving with no strings attached. As always, if you found this episode helpful, I want to invite you to subscribe if you aren't already, share this episode with your friends and missionaries you know, and write a review. I know this work will help LDS missionaries around the world and it would mean so much to me if you did. Until next week my friends.   00:00 – Introduction 00:55 – Why People Pleasing Still Matters 04:35 – Why People Pleasing "Works" 07:37 – Kindness vs. People Pleasing 10:09 – The Hidden Strings We Attach 15:11 – Stay in Your Lane 19:07 – What Are You Trying to Believe? 24:59 – Try a "No People Pleasing" Diet 27:23 – Give Yourself What You're Seeking 29:46 – The Freedom of Giving with No Strings Attached 33:14 – Outro   Website | Instagram | Facebook   5 Ways to Process Any Less-Than Happy Mission Memories Article: HERE   Get the Full Show Notes and Text/PDF Transcripts: HERE   Free PDF Download:  Podcast Roadmap   Free PDF Download:  Preparing Missionary Cheat Sheet   Free Training for Preparing Missionaries:  Change Your Mission with this One Tool   RM Transition Free Video Series:  3 Tools to Help RMs in Their Transition Home   Free Guide:  5 Tips to Help Any Returning Missionary   Schedule a Free Strategy Call:   Click Here

“Good Girl” consciousness isn't a personality trait. It's actually a rigid, self-righteous construct. It's a way you're trying to feel safe, loved and worthy; but truly it kills your desire, alienates you from others, diminishes your creativity and inhibits intimacy.In this episode, grace breaks down how the most common signs the good girl programming are running your nervous system, your relationships, and even your business. She traces where the programming comes from, why it often collapses into martyrdom or control, and what it takes to trade goodness for a more pleasurable, wild wholeness instead.We discuss —(0:33) what good girl consciousness is — a pattern in your nervous system and a paradigm about how the world works(6:55) not feeling “good enough” to want what you want(8:36) being rigid about everyone else's behavior and beliefs(12:41) believing it's your job to save others, and resenting those who aren't trying to “save the world”(15:39) the real point of a spiritual practice is not being a good person(19:34) driven by the fear of being misunderstood and performing so people won't leave you(33:41) the suffering artist story surrounding your gifts(40:02) pride in hyperindependence and the fear of “wanting too much”If you enjoyed the episode, check out —finding your true Gift

We spend a lot of time telling ourselves what we should be doing.We should be further along. We should have it figured out. We should say yes. We should be handling things better.Honestly, sometimes we just need to stop should-ing all over ourselves. This short guided meditation is your permission slip to rest, change your mind, say no, take more time, or simply not know what comes next.You don't have to earn rest. You don't have to explain every choice. And you definitely don't have to have it all figured out.When you're tired of should-ing all over yourself, press play. Send us Fan MailHow Yoga Changed My Life a PodcastSend Us Your Stories!If you have a story about how yoga, meditation, breath work, journaling, or movement changed your life, we want to hear from you! These podcasts are really about the same thing — how people move through the seasons of life they didn't plan for, and what helps them along the way.If you'd like to be on the show or share your story:  Fill out our guest form or email us at yogachanged@gmail.com Follow us on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@yogachangedFollow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yogachanged/More info, go to https://howyogachangedmylife.comFor those who have reached out asking how to support Adrienne and her family during this time, click here to donate. There is absolutely no expectation—just sincere gratitude.The theme music for this episode, “Cenote Angelita”, was written and produced by Mar Abajo Rio AKA MAR Yoga Music. Dive deeper into this and other orig...

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Spoon's survivor story and examines how grooming, learned beliefs, people pleasing, and the loss of self-trust shaped her vulnerability to abuse. Brandon discusses how Spoon's groomer became a truth teller in her world, teaching her to override her own discomfort and trust someone else's interpretation of what she was experiencing. He also explores how Spoon's “cool girl” identity taught her to minimize her needs, how people pleasing became tied to her search for self-worth, and how placing that worth in other people's hands made it easier for manipulative people to use approval, rejection, and withholding against her. The episode also looks at one of Spoon's most important lessons in recovery: slowing relationships down long enough to compare someone's words with their behavior. By giving herself time to observe patterns, Spoon began learning to trust what she saw instead of relying solely on what someone told her.  *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses child sexual assault. *** If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Being nice and being a pushover are not the same thing, and only one of them gets you respected.Danny Goldberg wrote the book on this, literally. He's the author of "A Little Bit of A$$hole," and he joins the show to talk about the fine line between people pleasing and having real boundaries, and why the leaders who get remembered are the ones who know the difference.Here's what you'll learn:The gut-check question that tells you it's time to stop people-pleasing, before resentment builds.Why pushing harder when someone stalls backfires, and exactly what to do instead.The real difference between confidence and being a jerk, which means you can stand firm and still be liked.Why companies hire resumes and fire personalities, and why that's exactly backwards for building a team.The one thing you should never do at the end of a talk or a hard conversation, so next time you leave people with your strongest point instead of a shrug.Boundaries don't make you a jerk. They make you someone people respect.If you needed permission to stop over-explaining every no, this is it. Grab Danny's book, "A Little Bit of A$$hole," at littlebitahole.com.Connect with Danny M. Goldberg at:https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannymgoldberg and on Twitter - DannyMGoldberg>>> Book an Executive Presence Audit at https://speakandstandout.com/executive-presence>>> Experts Edge newsletter delivered right to you inbox: https://speakandstandout.com/bid-newsletterConnect with me on:LinkedIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-ann-murabitoInstagram: @laurieann.murabitoVisit my website for more advice and tipsThank you for listening, LA

What happens when the life that looks successful from the outside no longer feels like yours?For Lisa Pulliam, that realization came while standing on a beach in South Texas.She had built a successful business, led a team of more than 2,000 consultants and customers, spoken on major stages, and checked many of the boxes we're told represent success.But behind the accomplishments, Lisa was burned out.Her health was suffering. Her marriage was strained. One of her children was struggling. And somewhere in the relentless striving, performing, achieving, and showing up for everyone else, Lisa realized she had lost touch with herself.In this deeply personal episode of Casa De Confidence, Julie DeLucca-Collins sits down with Lisa for a conversation about burnout, people pleasing, midlife reinvention, motherhood, grief, social media, finding purpose, and what Lisa calls "the journey back to me."Lisa shares why she believes peace is an essential measure of success, how she began separating her worth from her accomplishments, and why sometimes the most courageous thing we can do is become quiet enough to hear ourselves again.They also explore Lisa's 30-day social media experiment, her practice of "Soul Time," morning pages, learning to surrender what we cannot control, and why the second half of life may actually become our most meaningful chapter.In This EpisodeThe moment Lisa realized her successful life wasn't working anymoreWhat burnout can look like when everything appears fine from the outsideWhy achievement and accomplishment don't necessarily create peaceHow people pleasing contributes to burnoutSeparating your identity from what you accomplishWhy Lisa deleted social media from her phone for 30 daysWhat happened when she stopped reaching for her phone every morningLisa's "Soul Time" practice for reconnecting with yourselfThe power of silence, mindfulness, nature, and morning pagesCarrying emotional "bricks" that were never yours to carryMotherhood, grief, surrender, and letting go without losing yourselfWhy feeling your emotions is part of healingRediscovering purpose in the second half of lifeWhy small moments can create enormous meaningWhat Lisa wishes she could tell her 40-year-old selfMemorable Quotes"If in the middle of that there is no peace, then I say there is no success.""You are enough just as you are.""Feeling our feelings is the beginning of healing.""Surrendering is an act of trust.""Until you breathe your last breath on this planet, there is a purpose for you."

Listen to the Episode Someone praises your work and your hands are up before they finish the sentence. "It was a team thing." "It was nothing." You think you're being humble. In this solo episode, executive coach and certified counselor Jahmaal Marshall takes you underneath the reflex — to the subconscious origin belief that's been writing your brain chemistry, driving your over-functioning, and manufacturing a burnout no vacation ever seems to fix. This is root-cause work, not surface-level advice. If you've ever felt successful on the outside and quietly depleted on the inside, this one's the mirror.   What You'll Learn in This Episode Why a compliment can feel like a threat - the nervous-system reason your body braces, squirms, and deflects when you're praised The core belief hiding underneath the deflection: "I'm only worthy when I'm useful" - and where it got installed How high-functioning codependency and people-pleasing keep you running a reward system that can spend but can't receive The chemistry of burnout: why nothing you accomplish is ever allowed to count Emotional neglect of self, masked as empathy - the survival radar you were taught to call a gift Why you can't behavior-modify your way out of a belief-level pattern, and what actually moves it at the root For HR, Founders & Talent Acquisition Leaders The way you frame yourself isn't private, it's a broadcast. Deflect your value and you train the room to value you exactly as little as you value yourself. Fix the belief, and your framing changes on its own; and so does how you're perceived, paid, and promoted. That's not confidence you fake. That's alignment. Take the Next Step If something in your chest went "that's me," that's the invitation. Come do the root-cause work inside 12 Weeks of Transformation and stop leaking your worth into a system that only knows how to take it.  [Book a conversation with Jahmaal / Start 12 Weeks of Transformation]   → Visit: listenthenspeak.com  → Or DM the word CLARITY on Linkedin to check availability This is not a sales call. It is strategic, honest, and built for people who are done with insight without implementation. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

From a marriage she knew was ending long before she admitted it to a 48-hour move from Silicon Valley to New York, Amber Rae and I talk about why some of us stay too long while others leap too fast. If you've ever wondered whether you're honoring your instincts or just avoiding discomfort, this conversation is for you. You'll discover: The question that reveals whether you're staying from love, fear, growth, or guilt The surprising way a “safe” relationship can fuel creativity, risk-taking, and reinvention How voicing sexual fear, shame, and insecurity can become the beginning of real intimacy Amber also gets candid about control, body image, Adderall, eating disorders, and the shift from chasing outward approval to choosing what actually feels good. We unpack people pleasing, direct communication, friendship dynamics, and learning to tolerate the discomfort of disappointing others when you stop abandoning yourself. If you feel stuck between knowing and doing, keep outgrowing old patterns but hesitate to make the leap, or find yourself looking for help figuring out what you already know deep down, listen up. Amber left me with a simple but powerful challenge: face the hard truths you've been avoiding, and freedom is often on the other side. SHOW NOTES & RESOURCES: Follow Amber on Instagram @heyamberrae Learn more about Amber Rae here | Feelings Journal Sign up for Amber's Newsletter Katie's Substack | Instagram: @letitouttt + @katiedalebout | Zine shop Katie's Creative Clinic If you liked this episode, try this one from the archive: Episode 477: Erin Claire Jones on Decision Making in Career & Relationships & How Human Design Can Help

How often do you say "It's fine" when it really isn't?  Or agreeing to something you don't want to do just to keep the peace? So many of us have become experts at pretending.  Pretending we're okay.  Pretending we don't have needs.  Pretending someone else's behavior doesn't bother us.  While those habits may have helped us as kids (or in our emotionally immature relationships), they hold us back as adults and women trying to be in supportive, emotionally safe and mature relationships. Pretending and people pleasing leave us feeling disconnected from people in our lives (not to mention exhausted!) In this episode of The Love Your Life Show, I come to you with a mid-year invitation to stop pretending and start choosing you.   You'll learn: Why people pleasing and pretending aren't personality traits, they're protective patterns How the "good girl" conditioning keeps so many women stuck What one of the top regrets of the dying can teach us about living today Simple ways to stop self-abandoning without becoming "selfish" How small moments of honesty build confidence and self-trust (and are the very things we need in our adult relationships and that we want to model for our preteens and teens!) If you're ready to stop performing, stop apologizing for things that aren't yours, and start living more in alignment with who you truly are, this episode is for you. The world doesn't need another exhausted woman pretending she's okay. It needs the real you.  

The word "sure" is quietly costing high-conflict divorce dads their parenting time. If you're the guy who keeps the peace at work but gets cornered at pickups, pulled into off-the-record texting, ignored by your own attorney, or slowly stripped of parenting time through "one quick change" — this episode breaks the pattern.We unpack the high-functioning "yes man" pattern in divorce and co-parenting: years of peacekeeping and absorbing conflict that quietly become your default. Then we cover what changes once divorce becomes an adversarial legal process — where documentation, consistency, and enforcement decide outcomes. Ground you don't defend gets taken. Boundaries aren't combative; they're calm, clear, and non-negotiable — especially with your kids watching.You'll get a real framework for parenting apps like OurFamilyWizard and TalkingParents, attorney responsiveness, and one-directional parenting-time swaps: Name It, State It, Hold It. Plus BIFF-style communication so you stop feeding emotional bait and start building a clean record.In this episode:The "yes man" pattern and why it forms during peacekeeping yearsWhy undefended ground always gets taken in high-conflict divorceThe Name It, State It, Hold It boundary frameworkBIFF replies for parenting apps and co-parenting communicationHow to stay calm and non-negotiable without becoming combative Support the showBeing unprepared is how great fathers become weekend visitors. Most ground is lost quietly through "drift" and decisions made under pressure. Stop the drift today at TheDivorcedDadvocate.com.Access your tactical tools:Weekend Visitor Risk Assessment (TheDivorceQuiz.com): Identify your "quiet loss" exposure in 10 minutes.Strategic Risk Consultation (TalkWithJude.com): Book a private triage to ensure your mistakes don't become your permanent reality.Your kids are counting on you.

This lively and enlightening conversation features Cassandra Pickett, a certified CliniCoach, licensed therapist, and host of the "Girl, You Good?" podcast. Cassandra joins us to discuss the complexities of identity that hinder ambitious women.Cassandra shares her own transformative journey and the challenges of living authentically in a world that often demands people-pleasing and perfection. Together, we explore why so many high-achieving women struggle with self-alignment, how to redefine self-compassion, and why reclaiming an identity like “bitch” can be a revolutionary act of empowerment. Are you ready for candid truths, actionable insights, and a celebration of coming home to yourself?

Jesus calls us to repent of our hypocrisy so that His light can shine through us to others.

Jesus calls us to repent of our hypocrisy so that His light can shine through us to others.

Send us Fan MailIn this Spiritual Spotlight Series Quick Tip, Rachel Garrett shares a practical reset for self-trust, intuition, and coming back to your inner authority. If you have ever known what you wanted but still asked five people, searched for signs, pulled cards, or looked outside yourself for confirmation, this episode is for you.Rachel explores the difference between seeking support and giving your power away, why people-pleasing and “not making waves” can disconnect you from your own knowing, and how to recognize when you are asking for guidance versus asking for permission. You'll also learn two powerful reflection questions: “What do I already know?” and “Am I asking for guidance or am I asking for permission?”This episode also discusses how inner knowing may show up in the body through expansion, contraction, heaviness, relief, and quiet clarity. If you use oracle cards, astrology, energy healing, or the Akashic Records, Rachel shares how to let these tools support your intuition without replacing your own truth.If you are ready to stop outsourcing your truth, strengthen your self-trust, and reconnect with your soul's wisdom, this quick tip will help you come back to yourself.Support the showSpiritual Spotlight Series is hosted by Rachel Garrett, RN, CCH — Akashic Records Practitioner, Master Energy Healer, and Certified Crystal Healer.Conversations about the things we almost don't say out loud. For the ones who feel everything — but question it.Each episode features real stories of spiritual awakening, healing, and transformation from guests across all walks of life, alongside solo teachings on Akashic Records, crystal healing, nervous system support, and intuitive development.Healing doesn't have to be heavy.New: Join the monthly live Akashic reading → YouTube membership at $4.99/month → youtube.com/@rachelgarrett/membership✨ Explore More Spiritual Wisdom & Stay Connected

In this rerelease episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon explores the different ways people pleasing can appear and how qualities such as loyalty, caretaking, peacemaking, and a desire to help can become unhealthy when boundaries disappear. He discusses five people-pleasing archetypes and how trauma, childhood experiences, financial insecurity, oppression, and stigma can shape these patterns. Brandon also examines fawning as a survival response within abusive relationships. He discusses walking on eggshells, suppressing your needs, taking responsibility for another person's emotions, and changing yourself to avoid conflict or retaliation. The episode concludes with ways survivors can begin reconnecting with their identity, recognizing their needs, creating boundaries, and learning that caring for others should not require abandoning themselves. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Send us Fan MailWhen betrayal happens, most women don't fall apart publicly. They keep working. Keep performing. Keep smiling. While internally, their nervous system is collapsing.In this powerful episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I sat down with master coach and hypnotherapist Sophie Kish to explore the hidden emotional reality of high-performing women living in survival mode.Together, they unpack: • betrayal trauma and emotional burnout • fear of abandonment and self-betrayal • nervous system dysregulation after cheating • why ambitious women ignore red flags • high-functioning anxiety and emotional suppression • how women disconnect from themselves while still succeeding externally • and what real healing actually looks likeSophie also shares her personal story of addiction, burnout, heartbreak, and rebuilding herself through somatic healing, subconscious work, breathwork, and nervous system regulation.This episode is for the woman who feels exhausted, emotionally overwhelmed, disconnected from herself, or secretly breaking down while trying to keep everything together.If you're searching for:“betrayal trauma recovery”“why do I feel crazy after cheating”“fear of abandonment”“nervous system healing after betrayal”or “how to emotionally recover after infidelity”this conversation will deeply resonate with you.Follow Sophie Kish here!✨ Not sure why you keep choosing pain over peace? Take the free WHY YOU GOT BETRAYED QUIZ and uncover the pattern you didn't even know was holding you back.If you can't eat, can't sleep, and keep replaying the betrayal in your head, this book was written for this exact moment. Get Betrayal ER™ on Amazon.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1959DM Who did you have to be as a kid to get your parents' love? Aaron Doughty asks Lewis that question and the whole conversation cracks open from there. He explains why "I'm a people pleaser" is a lie you've been telling yourself. It's not who you are. It's a pattern you built to survive your childhood. Aaron gets specific about his own story, an ex-stepmom, a house where keeping the peace felt like life or death, and how that turned into a lifelong habit of absorbing other people's tension as his own. He names exactly who people pleasers attract without realizing it.  Takers. People who are impossible to please. People you feel responsible for fixing. Then he goes somewhere most conversations about boundaries never go, into the anger you've been suppressing under all that niceness, and why touching that anger is the actual doorway to freedom. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

If you're a parent, you probably know this feeling.No matter how old our children are, we never stop wanting to protect them. We want to guide them, encourage them, and help them avoid some of the heartache we experienced ourselves.I've been thinking about that a lot lately.As my own boys have grown into adulthood, I've realized that one of the greatest invitations of this stage of parenting isn't learning how to love them more. It's learning how to trust their journey while continuing to love them deeply.For a long time, I believed that if one of my children was struggling, it was my job to figure out how to make it better. I thought worrying meant I was being a good mom. I thought helping meant offering advice, solving problems, and trying to keep them from making mistakes or being uncomfortable.But my own healing has gently shown me something different.What if our adult children aren't ours to fix, change or even to tell them what to do?What if they're here to have their own unique human experience, learning through both their joys and their challenges on their soul journey?What if loving them doesn't mean keeping them from discomfort, but trusting that even the difficult parts of their journey have purpose too. That doesn't mean we stop caring. It doesn't mean we stop loving or even supporting in a healthy way.It simply means we begin releasing the belief that their happiness determines our own.This conversation isn't about becoming a perfect parent. I certainly haven't been one. It's about exploring another way of seeing.One that has brought so much more peace into my own heart.If you've been lying awake worrying about your adult children, wishing you could make different choices for them, or wondering how to love them without losing yourself, I hope you'll find something in this conversation that may shift how you are seeing the situation and the people in your life- and in the end you find a little peace. In This EpisodeWhy worrying can quietly become another form of trying to controlSeeing your adult children through love instead of fearHow our own discomfort often fuels our desire to fix someone else's lifeWhy acceptance becomes a path to peaceTrusting your adult children's soul journey while continuing to love them deeply with healthy detachmentReleasing the belief that someone else's happiness determines your ownReturning your attention to your own healing and spiritual awakeningA Few Questions to Sit WithWhere am I carrying responsibility that isn't mine?What fears come up when I imagine letting go of control?Can I love someone deeply without trying to change them?What might become possible if I trusted both my journey and theirs?Continue Your Soul Recovery Journey

Have you ever looked like you had everything under control while quietly falling apart inside? Have you ever thought, "I'm fine. I just need to get through this." Or maybe... "I don't want to be difficult." "I don't want to inconvenience anyone." Today I'm sharing a much more personal story than I usually do. What was supposed to be a once-in-a-lifetime family trip ended with three broken ribs, a collapsed lung, and a hospital stay — and it forced me to confront something I'd been minimizing for years. This isn't really a story about a vacation gone wrong. It's about people-pleasing. It's about powering through pain. It's about how easy it is to ignore your own needs while making sure everyone else is comfortable. And it's about why those patterns matter so much when you're building an alcohol-free life. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/the-wake-up-call-i-didnt-see-coming-people-pleasing-pain-and-protecting-your-sobriety/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I'll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday 

There's one childhood question that's secretly running your whole adult life. Aaron Doughty asks it straight: who did you have to be as a kid to receive Mom or Dad's love? Whoever that was became the role you're still performing, the pattern you keep mistaking for your identity. Aaron built a YouTube following of over a million people teaching exactly this kind of subconscious pattern work, and in this conversation he walks through his SHIFT framework for breaking free of people pleasing, self reliance, and the need to be liked. You'll hear why the dark side of people pleasing is buried anger, why setting a boundary can make you look like the bad guy before it makes you free, and why someone else's tension was never actually your job to manage. Aaron also opens up about losing his mom, the message she sent him two hours before she died, and what he now believes real freedom actually feels like. Aaron's Instagram Aaron's YouTube Aaron's Facebook Join The Shift Academy In this episode you will: Learn the SHIFT framework for breaking the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck  Discover why people pleasing is a childhood survival strategy, not a personality trait Recognize the difference between healing someone and enabling them Overcome the fear of being disliked or misunderstood Build a new relationship to boundaries, tension, and authentic expression For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1959 More SOG episodes we think you'll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

→ Aqua Tru |  Go to https://AquaTru.com now for 20% off (your purifier) using promo code DRG. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee. Episode Description: You eat perfectly all day. You are disciplined, productive, hitting every goal. And then night hits, the phone goes down, the day is over, and something takes over. You are not broken. You are wired. Amber Romaniuk is an emotional eating, hormone, and digestive health expert who has been doing this work for over a decade. She knows what it is to eat tables full of food in one sitting. To throw food away and go back to the dumpster for it. To lose and regain over a thousand pounds across five years. And she knows how that pattern started, what was underneath it, and how it ends. This conversation goes far beneath the behavior into the nervous system, the hormones, the gut, and the childhood wounds that drive the whole cycle. In this episode, you'll discover:  •   Why high achieving women who are disciplined in every other area of their lives are often the most susceptible to emotional eating, and why no amount of external success can fill the internal void that is driving it  •    How people pleasing drives cortisol, suppresses progesterone, tanks thyroid function, and creates the exact hormonal environment that makes nighttime cravings feel impossible to resist  •    The three questions to ask yourself the moment a craving hits at night to tell the difference between physical and emotional hunger, and how to start rewiring the neural pathway that has been lighting up every evening This is not about willpower. It is about what is underneath. Amber Romaniuk: Website: https://amberapproved.ca/ Instagram: ​​https://www.instagram.com/amberromaniuk/?hl=en Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 2:07 - Rapid Fire: The Signs, the Patterns and Why Restriction Always Backfires 7:05 - Amber's Own Story: From Binge Eating to Digging Through a Dumpster 11:05 - The Moment She Realized This Was Never About Food 13:00 - Why the Most Disciplined, High-Achieving Women Often Struggle the Most Behind Closed Doors 19:00 - The Nervous System, Hormones and How They Drive Eating Behavior 28:00 - Why Emotional Hunger Feels Physical (And How to Tell the Difference) 34:00 - How Unresolved Trauma Lives in the Body and Shows Up at the Kitchen 42:00 - The Role of Shame, Self-Loathing and Negative Self-Talk in the Cycle 46:00 - Can Excess Weight Actually Be the Body Protecting Itself From Trauma? 51:00 - People Pleasing, Self-Abandonment and How They Fuel Disordered Eating 56:30 - What to Do Tonight When the Craving Hits — Three Grounding Questions 58:00 - The Two-Minute Body Check-In That Can Change Everything 59:00 - Where to Find Amber and How to Get Support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam Thompson has made a career out of making people laugh, but behind the pranks and infectious energy, there's a lot of panic and overthinking.In this chat with Fearne, Sam shares how anxiety and undiagnosed ADHD shaped everything from his relationships to his self-confidence, and why it took years of therapy before he understood the patterns he kept repeating. Who do you call in a crisis? Sam has three people he goes to for very specific reasons when he's spiralling.Sam and Fearne also debate the people-pleaser and non-people-pleaser ways to leave a party, and Sam reveals some of the (amazing!) BTS goss from his content creation with Pete Wicks.Plus, why was Sam willing to pay to go on I'm A Celeb...??Sam's book, You, Me, and ADHD is available now.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like:Louise ThompsonJamie LaingAnt and Dec Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.