Podcasts about people pleasing

I would love to hear from you! Send me a one way text and share how Recover Your Soul is supporting you or what you would like to hear more about.As I prepare for the release of my memoir, Recover Your Soul: A Spiritual Journey of Healing from Addiction, Codependency, and People-Pleasing, on April 13th, I have been going back and listening to past podcast episodes that might offer additional support to those reading the book.Revisiting these earlier episodes has been a tender experience.They were recorded during seasons of my own healing when everything was still fresh, when I was actively untangling old patterns in real time, when I was learning how to turn inward instead of reaching outward in pain. There is a rawness in them that feels honest and important.This episode on betrayal is one of those. It originally aired in 2023 from Season 4.Betrayal can take many forms. It is not only about infidelity. It can be secrecy. Addiction. Emotional withdrawal. Broken promises. The moment when something you believed to be true suddenly isn't. It can feel shattering.And yet, in the Recover Your Soul process, we gently shift the focus away from trying to fix, control, or punish the other person and instead turn toward our own healing.In this episode, I share parts of my personal story, including how early family dynamics shaped my understanding of loyalty and relationship, and how betrayal showed up in my own marriage. You will hear me navigating these ideas from an earlier place in my journey, still learning, still softening, still growing.What remains trJoin the community and Recover Your Soul with Rev Rachel.2026 is a big year offering GROUP COACHING, IN-PERSON RETREATS, and our FREE SUPPORT GROUP.  This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the show FREE Mini Recover Your Soul 9-Step Workbook FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month 1:1 Spiritual Coaching with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Recover Your SOUL CIRCLES Group Coaching with others on a similar path Follow on Social Media RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts for an extra episode every Friday. Free Patreon Members get access 1st week to new episodes. Transcripts

A decades-long research project has learned that the quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships. And what a tragedy that so many of us do not have the tools to create deep, intimate, connected relationships. We have a tendency to hide our true selves behind half-truths, behind saying we're 'fine' when we're not, behind being so amenable and accommodating that we never rock the boat. And yet, in seeking to keep things low-maintenance and easy, we are being dishonest with ourselves and with our partner about who we really are, what we really desire and prefer, and we show up instead as a shallow shell of who we really are. Until we truly learn how to be honest with ourselves and with our partners about who we are and what we really want, we will never be able to create the equal partnerships so many of us crave. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #83 Self-Honesty on Apple on Spotify #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify #218 Honest Relationships on Apple on Spotify #220 Being Low Maintenance on Apple on Spotify #230 People-Pleasing on Apple on Spotify #240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #255 What is Gaslighting on Apple on Spotify #269 Fine - The 4-Letter F-Word on Apple on Spotify #270 People-Pleasing & Kindness - What's the Difference? on Apple on Spotify #271 Equal Partnerships on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #287 Equality in Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth on Apple on Spotify #309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify #317 Fawning- What Is It, Why Do We Do It, and How to Stop on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #384 Relational Living on Apple on Spotify #389 The Partnership of Marriage on Apple on Spotify #396 How to Have an Easy Relationship on Apple on Spotify #397 The Relationship Bucket on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

This week on Anything But Average Mondays, Brittany Anderson and Christina Lecuyer dive into everything from back pain recovery to media overload, conspiracy culture, modern parenting, and the realities of managing health as we age. Christina opens up about dealing with significant back pain and the mental load that comes with physical setbacks. From there, the conversation flows into today's overwhelming media landscape, the Nancy Guthrie case, and the impact of constant headlines on our nervous systems. They unpack conspiracy theories, social media influence, and the challenge of raising grounded children in a world that feels louder and more chaotic than ever. About Brittany and Christina: Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation. Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements. Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results. Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential.   Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

You did everything right. You were the smart couple. The committed couple. The high-achieving, “we've got this” couple. Date nights. Careers. Kids. Goals. You worked hard. You showed up. You performed well. So how did infidelity happen to you? If you've ever thought, “We were the perfect couple. This doesn't make sense,” this episode will open your eyes in the most grounded, compassionate way. In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Rachel Dornianu of Sage Counseling & Wellness to unpack the hidden dynamics behind the “perfect couple” myth — and why high-achieving, Type A, perfectionistic relationships are often more vulnerable than they appear. We explore how perfectionism, people-pleasing, high sensitivity, emotional avoidance, and the Gottman “Four Horsemen” quietly erode intimacy over time — even in relationships that look beautiful on the outside. If you're navigating infidelity, feeling blindsided, or wondering how something could fall apart when you both “did everything right,” this episode will help you understand what really happened — and what healing actually requires. Top 3 Takeaways Perfection Isn't the Same as Connection High achievement, polished date nights, and shared goals can mask roommate syndrome, emotional loneliness, and avoidance. When couples stop pausing, attuning, and truly connecting, resentment and unmet needs quietly build beneath the surface. Performance is not intimacy. Infidelity Is Often a Maladaptive Coping Mechanism While betrayal is devastating, it's frequently rooted in avoidance, trauma, shame, unmet emotional needs, and poor coping skills — not pure moral corruption. Understanding the why doesn't excuse the behavior, but it creates clarity. And clarity is the first step toward healing. Healing Requires Addressing What Was Already There Perfectionism. People-pleasing. High sensitivity. Fawning. Walking on eggshells. Avoidance. Emotional flooding. Infidelity doesn't create these patterns — it exposes them. Whether you choose to stay or separate, the real work is learning how to regulate your nervous system, communicate honestly, and stop performing so you can start being. Favorite Quote “Perfection isn't intimacy. Performance isn't connection. And infidelity doesn't create the cracks — it exposes the ones that were already there.” Loving this show? Ready to go deeper? If this episode hit close to home and you're thinking, “This is exactly what happened in my relationship,” you don't have to figure this out alone. Download your free Betrayal Recovery Toolkit at www.BetrayalRecoveryGuide.com and begin making sense of the chaos. If you're ready for personalized support — whether through Voxer coaching, private sessions, or deeper transformational work — visit www.LoraCheadle.com. And if this conversation resonated, make sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear that perfection is not the goal — connection is. Favorite Quote #PerfectCoupleMyth #InfidelityRecovery #BetrayalHealing #PerfectionismInMarriage #HighAchievingWomen #RelationshipAfterInfidelity #EmotionalIntimacy #MarriageAfterAffair #FlauntPodcast   About Rachel Dorneanu Rachel Dorneanu (she/her) is a licensed therapist, AASECT- certified sex therapist, and board-certified coach specializing in Anxiety, HSPs, People Pleasing, Perfectionism, and Sex Therapy, with a passion for helping people reconnect with their bodies, reduce shame, and find freedom in their wellness journey. She holds a Master's in Counseling and brings over 8 years of experience working with millennial women and moms. Through her work as a therapist and coach, Rachel integrates evidence-based approaches with compassionate education to normalize topics often left in the dark—like pelvic pain, pleasure, and embodiment. She is known for her relatable, down-to-earth style and her ability to make complex or uncomfortable topics accessible and affirming. Outside of her professional life, Rachel enjoys practicing yoga, spending time with her husband and 2 children, and traveling.

Melody Beattie passed last year and I burst into tears on a livestream the moment I found out. She's been a spiritual mother to me, her books holding concepts patiently until I was awake enough. For HSPs, empaths, and recovering codependents and people-pleasers, this one matters. That sneaky bastard perfectionism will show up and expect us to fix all the things right now, yesterday even, and we don't have to pressurize-cook ourselves through healing that way. Gratitude turns what we have into enough and more, and for trauma survivors and sensitives whose nervous systems learned that life is war, her wisdom lands like a exhale: let go, let it be, let it happen. Worth is unchanging from the day you were born. Light and love. WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1 :⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/coaching⁠⁠ THE BOOK CLUB! https://emotionalbadass.com/bookclub Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

EVEN MORE about this episode!What if your success was built on people pleasing—and not true soul alignment?Join Julie Ryan and media personality Caroline Hobby as they explore high-functioning codependency, divine timing, identity shifts, and how to stop shape-shifting and start living in authentic alignment. A Grammy-nominated artist and two-time finalist on The Amazing Race, Caroline opens up about realizing her drive to achieve was fueled by a deep need to be loved—and how that awakening changed everything.From surviving Nashville's infamous ice storm (complete with frozen crabs and backyard chickens) to uncovering how she was unconsciously shape-shifting her personality to match everyone around her, Caroline shares the turning points that led her from high-functioning people pleaser to grounded, intuitive creator. Together, she and Julie explore the difference between true soul callings and “sledgehammer doors,” divine timing, and the comforting truth that even when life doesn't unfold as planned—it's still unfolding perfectly.If you've ever wondered whether you're living for approval or alignment, this episode will challenge, inspire, and empower you to trust your own inner knowing—and step fully into who you were always meant to be.Guest Biography:Caroline Hobby is a 6th-generation Texan thriving in Nashville who has experienced the music industry from every angle—performer, publisher, promoter, and TV host for outlets including CMT and the Grand Ole Opry. A two-time competitor on The Amazing Race (finishing 4th and 2nd), she brings that same adventurous spirit to her work as the creator and host of GET REAL, Nashville's first podcast and a top show on iHeart's Bobby Bones Network, where she's known for raw, authentic conversations with some of country music's biggest stars. Off-mic, Caroline is married to Michael Hobby, lead singer of A Thousand Horses, and is mom to their daughter Sunny—living a life that blends love, music, and bold adventure.Episode Chapters:(0:00:00) - Introduction and Nashville Ice Storm Survival(0:05:00) - When Success Wasn't the Same as Alignment(0:09:00) - The Amazing Race Experience(0:15:00) - Divine Timing and Recognizing Soul Callings(0:22:00) - High-Functioning Codependency Revelation(0:35:00) - The Fire Inside and Sledgehammer Doors(0:42:00) - Everything Works Out for the Hobbies(0:48:00) - Creativity as Divine Download(0:53:00) - Why We Incarnate➡️Subscribe to Ask Julie Ryan YouTube➡️Julie's Intuitive Trainings✏️Ask Julie a Question!

Do you want to stop people pleasing, but struggle to keep your boundaries? If you tend to stress or panic the second someone reacts negatively to your boundaries, this episode is for you.This week in the Let's Talk About Mental Health podcast, I'm focusing on “the wobble moment” that often comes from boundary pushback. If you know how to say no but struggle with boundary setting when guilt, tension, or persistence shows up, this episode will help you keep your boundaries without drama. I'll break down why people pleasing in relationships often comes from fear of conflict, conflict avoidance, and fear of disappointing people, and how that leads to over-explaining, self-abandonment, and feeling stuck in your own head. You'll learn practical mental health tips for setting boundaries and holding boundaries in a calmer, clearer way, so you can stop people pleasing and keep your boundaries even when someone doesn't like it. And if you keep thinking “why can't I set boundaries?” or you feel you can't say no because of guilt when saying no, I'll show you how to be more assertive while still being a decent human being.

Are you exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone—and still feeling like it's not enough? In this episode of Adulting With Autism, host April talks with Ruth Hirshberg, former social worker and creator of Grounding with Ruth, about the real root cause behind chronic burnout and people-pleasing: core beliefs about worth. Ruth shares how a Crohn's disease diagnosis forced her to face the truth she'd been avoiding—you can't perform your way to peace. Together, we unpack why "just set boundaries" and "just do self-care" often fails, especially for high achievers, perfectionists, and neurodivergent adults who learned early that being useful was the safest way to belong. Ruth brings an honest, no-fluff approach—calling out toxic positivity and wellness-industry nonsense—and offers practical tools rooted in social work, breathwork, and meditation to build internal safety and sustainable self-worth. In this episode, we cover: What people-pleasing actually is (and why it's not just "being nice") Why boundaries don't stick if you don't believe you're allowed to have needs The hidden beliefs that keep high-achievers trapped in burnout Self-worth vs. productivity: separating value from output Nervous system regulation that doesn't cost money (breathwork you can do anywhere) Meditation for exhausted or traumatized people (starting small, safely, and realistically) Toxic positivity and why "good vibes only" makes healing harder Community as a tool for healing shame and isolation Connect with Ruth Hirshberg: Website: https://groundingwithruth.com Instagram/Facebook: @groundingwithruth Facebook Group: The Enough Project Podcast: Inspired Questions (interviews + guided meditations)

In this episode of 2 Be Better, Chris and Peaches break down what self validation actually means, why your own voice matters, and how chasing approval keeps you stuck in reaction mode, people pleasing, and shaky confidence. You'll hear a straight talk walkthrough of the emotional fallout that comes from ignoring your inner compass, over apologizing, decision paralysis, self betrayal, and losing your sense of identity, plus how external validation and social media “likes” can quietly hijack your self worth and choices. You can expect practical, repeatable tools for building self validation and self care into daily life, pausing before you look outward, naming feelings without shame, rewriting harsh inner talk, celebrating effort, and creating simple rituals like journaling prompts, mirror work, anchoring phrases, micro breaks, breathwork, meditation, sound baths, and boundary choices that help your nervous system feel safe. If you're working through codependency, anxiety, guilt, burnout, or relationship patterns that make you abandon yourself to keep the peace, this conversation gives you language, examples, and a clear path to reclaim agency, hold your no, and live with more clarity in your marriage, family, and life.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

In this encore episode, I talk about something that is foundational to healing after infidelity: learning to trust yourself again by honoring what you truly want. After betrayal, it's so easy to lose your footing. You question your instincts. You second-guess your judgment. You stop trusting your own voice. But one of the most powerful ways to rebuild that trust is by reconnecting with your desires — even the ones that feel small, selfish, or uncomfortable. I walk you through why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want, how people-pleasing and a reflected sense of self keep us stuck, and how honoring your desires actually accelerates your emotional growth. When you lean into what you want, you build integrity, emotional maturity, and strength. You stop abandoning yourself. In this episode, I cover: Your desires are not random — they are invitations to growth Honoring what you want rebuilds self-trust after betrayal Tension is not a sign you're wrong — it's a sign you're growing You can stop people-pleasing and still be loving If you're ready to rebuild your foundation and trust yourself again, I would love to support you. Reach out. You don't have to do this alone. More from me: Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/ Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/ Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes! For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/ © 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this episode, we continue the month's focus on choice by exploring how easily communication can become a way to manage discomfort instead of express truth. Many of us were taught that being clear means saying more, softening our message, or keeping others comfortable—but those habits often pull us further away from ourselves. This conversation invites you to look more closely at over-explaining and people-pleasing, not as communication issues, but as signals that detachment may be missing. Together, we unpack why emotional honesty feels so hard when we're afraid of reactions, and how learning to detach can help you stay calm, grounded, and connected to your truth. Rather than offering scripts or quick fixes, this episode focuses on awareness, self-trust, and the quiet power of choice, especially in the small moments where we usually override ourselves.   Real communication happens when you remember you have a choice.     Check Out this New Resource:    Get Started Asking for What You Need! Identify the healthy ways to negotiate needs and build trust in your relationships. https://findyourvoicecourse.com/saywhatyouneed     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

In this episode, Ben sits down with Dr Shyamal Mashru, Consultant Psychiatrist and Medical Lead for Adult ADHD, for a clear and compassionate deep dive into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD).Often misunderstood or dismissed as being “too sensitive,” RSD is explored here as a real, neurological experience - one that can hijack rational thought, flood the body with emotional pain, and quietly shape relationships, work, and self-worth. Dr Shyamal explains what RSD is (and isn't), how it shows up differently across people, and why ADHD brains may be especially vulnerable.They unpack the science, the role of trauma and hormones, why RSD isn't currently in the DSM, and what actually helps when rejection hits hard.If rejection feels overwhelming, confusing, or deeply personal - this conversation offers clarity, relief, and language for what you may have been carrying alone.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.________Host: Ben BransonProduction Manager: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergHead of Marketing: Kristen Fuller00:00 Introduction01:00 Dr Shyamal Mashru's ADHD Background & Clinical Work03:15 What Surprises Clinicians About ADHD Assessments04:41 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Explained: What RSD Is & Why It Hurts09:16 RSD Coping Mechanisms: Shutdown, People-Pleasing & Avoidance11:44 Is It RSD or Something Else? How to Tell the Difference15:05 The Neuroscience of RSD: Why Rational Thinking Switches Off17:27 RSD in Romantic Relationships & Attachment21:33 How to Support a Partner With Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria22:50 How Aware Is Society of RSD?24:38 RSD, Hormones & ADHD: Menstrual Cycle, Perimenopause & Menopause26:33 Is There an Upside to RSD? Emotional Depth & Sensitivity29:56 Can Non-ADHD People Experience RSD?31:55 RSD vs Trauma & Fear of Failure34:46 Why RSD Is More Than “Not Handling Rejection”36:15 Why Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria Isn't in the DSM40:00 How RSD Shows Up in Children41:29 Early Signs & Patterns Clinicians Look For42:59 How Common Is RSD in ADHD — and When It Appears46:20 Treating RSD: Therapy, Medication & Regulation56:18 The One Thing Dr Shyamal Would Change About RSD AwarenessThe Hidden 20% is a charity founded by AuDHD entrepreneur, Ben Branson.Our mission is simple: To change how the world sees neurodivergence.No more stigma. No more shame. No more silence.1 in 5 people are neurodivergent. That's 1.6 billion of us - yet too many are still excluded, misunderstood, or left without support.To break the cycle, we amplify voices, challenge myths, and keep showing up. Spotlighting stories, stats and hard truths. Smashing stereotypes through honest voices, creative campaigns and research that can't be ignored.Every month, over 50,000 people turn to The Hidden 20% to feel safe, seen and to learn about brilliant brains.With your support, we can reach further, grow louder, and keep fighting for the 1 in 5 who deserve more.Join us at hidden20.org/donate.Become a monthly donor.Be part of our community where great minds think differently.Brought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348______________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20charityBen Branson @seedlip_benDr Shymal Mashru @adhdhealthclinicwww.adhdhealthclinic.co.ukIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if the opposite of people-pleasing isn't selfishness… but self-trust?In this episode, host Elizabeth Mintun explores people-pleasing through a compassionate nervous system lens, understanding how it often begins as an adaptive survival strategy rooted in relational intelligence, emotional attunement, and a deep value for harmony and connection. She looks at how immediate relief, identity reinforcement, fear of relational rupture, and external approval can quietly keep the pattern in place, and why saying no can feel physically unsafe. Most importantly, Elizabeth reframes the work: the opposite of people-pleasing isn't selfishness at all, but self-trust. It's about growing the ability to notice your internal signals, pause, and respond in ways that honor both yourself and your relationships.Key TakeawaysPeople-pleasers are highly attuned emotional readers and that relational intelligence is a strength.People-pleasing often feels like kindness, not “pleasing.”A quick “yes” brings immediate nervous system relief (and reinforces the habituated response).Healing requires expanding capacity to tolerate discomfort.Resources Sign up for the free workshop From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: Reclaim Yourself Without Burning Bridges here:https://go.thecalmingground.com/people-pleasing-to-self-trustLearn more about 1:1 Coaching with Elizabeth Mintun here. Contact Elizabeth: elizabethmintun@thecalmingground.comFind Elizabeth on Facebook & IG @thecalminggroundSubscribe to The Calming Ground Podcast so you never miss an episode. If you loved this conversation, please share it with a friend!

Want to tell me something? Send me a text!I want to encourage all of us to be a little more selective and conscious with our people, pleasing their families with their kids and her husbands.  I   example where I instantly decided to change my whole plan  whole meal just to people please someone who was upset until I stopped and  what if it's OK that he doesn't like this and he's upset what if I could just be OK with him not liking this and it worked 

Compliance can quietly drain energy in leadership relationships. This episode explores how nervous system bracing and self-editing create pressure before conflict ever appears, and why this isn't failure but an invitation to identity-level recalibration.For many high-performing, capable humans, compliance didn't come from fear.It came from wisdom.From reading the room, navigating power, and keeping things stable without unnecessary friction.But over time, that same strategy can begin to cost more than it protects.In this episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly walks alongside listeners through the Release stage of Identity-Level Recalibration, exploring how nervous system appeasement patterns and long-held relational stories quietly drain energy, often before any conflict ever occurs.This episode is especially relevant if you:Feel pressure or fatigue before conversations that matterNotice yourself softening, self-editing, or staying quiet to keep things smoothCarry responsibility without holding final authoritySense internal strain even when relationships appear stableWant alignment without becoming sharper, louder, or confrontationalRather than asking listeners to change behavior or trust themselves prematurely, this episode reframes Release as subtraction, not substitution.Release is not about confrontation.It's not about becoming more demanding.It's not about hurting people you care about.It's about learning that you don't have to override yourself immediately.Julie gently explores how these patterns once protected connection, and why loosening them can feel tender without being wrong. This episode honors the quiet grief that can surface when long-standing strategies begin to soften, without pathologizing or rushing the process.This is not mindset work or productivity advice.Identity-Level Recalibration is root-level alignment that makes every other tool effective again.Today's Micro Recalibration:The next time you notice yourself defaulting to compliance, ask quietly:“What am I protecting right now?”No fixing.No reframing.Just noticing.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes. → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things

Have you ever stopped and thought, Why do I keep getting stuck in the same patterns?Or wondered why midlife brings up so many questions about identity, confidence, and purpose?In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I'm joined by Drenda Thomas Richards, author of Dare to Remember, for an honest and eye-opening discussion about the stories we've been carrying since childhood — often without even realizing it.We talk about how early messages from family, culture, church, and society quietly shape our beliefs, decisions, and fears in midlife. From feeling “too old” or “not qualified,” to staying quiet, playing small, or believing it's too late — these stories can run the show unless we pause and name them.This episode isn't about fixing yourself.It's about awareness, compassion, and understanding why certain patterns make so much sense.In Part 2, we'll move into faith transitions, grace, and how to begin stepping forward with more freedom and peace.Key Takeaways:Drenda's journey from a strict religious upbringing to discovering her authentic selfHow subconscious beliefs formed in childhood continue to influence adult decisionsCommon midlife stories women carry: “I'm too old,” “I'm not qualified,” “I missed my chance”Fear-based thinking and people-pleasing patternsCultural and church messages that encourage women to stay quiet or play smallWhy awareness is the first step toward freedomConnect with Drenda:https://www.drendathomasrichards.com/Dare to Remember Book  Resources:Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/shellyniehaus/Simple Shifts Newsletter: https://midlifemadesimplepodcast.com/tipsWomen Entrepreneurs In Prayer Call - https://midlifemadesimplepodcast.com/prayer

If there were an Olympic medal for people pleasing, I think I would have won it. In this episode, I open up about my decades-long journey of trying to be who I thought others wanted me to be, from childhood to my corporate career. I reflect on the pain of not knowing who I really was and the freedom that came with realising I didn't have to earn love. I also share how self-compassion, not rejection from others, was the missing ingredient in my life. This episode is an invitation to stop living for approval and start living from your heart.

What happens when you finally stop asking permission to be yourself? If you’ve been wondering how to stop people-pleasing as a homeschool mom, this conversation will show you it’s possible. Homeschool mom and creative entrepreneur Latoya shares her journey from living for everyone else to discovering what she actually wants—and why that shift changed everything in her homeschool life. This month’s focus: Nurturing the Nurturer — because you can’t give what you don’t have, and your kids don’t need your perfection. They need your presence. Latoya hit 40 and realized she’d spent decades doing what everyone expected—but had never asked herself what SHE actually wanted. As a homeschool mom, restaurant management graduate, and someone who always made sure everyone else was okay, the idea of prioritizing herself felt selfish. Scary. Wrong. But when she finally gave herself permission to explore her creativity, build her crochet business, and trust her own voice? That was when things began to shift. Her homeschool days became more peaceful. Her kids became more autonomous. And she discovered that choosing herself wasn’t selfish—it was the best thing she could do for her family. How to Stop People-Pleasing as a Homeschool Mom: Latoya’s Journey from Self-Sacrifice to Self-Trust What You’ll Discover in This Episode The Permission You’ve Been Waiting For: Why serving yourself actually serves your family better How to distinguish between what you want and what others expect of you The power of silence and solitude in discovering your authentic voice Why “waiting for the answer” is part of the process From Rigid to Present: Redefining Homeschool Success What a “good day” used to look like (spoiler: checking all the boxes) vs. what it looks like now How to choose peace over productivity for a more meaningful family life Why your kids’ autonomy grows when you honour your own The truth about gaps, “behind,” and what kids actually need to thrive Caribbean Flow vs. Hustle Culture: The cultural pressure to always be “doing something” Why presence matters more than productivity How to give yourself permission to just BE with your people What happens when you stop measuring success externally Creative Work as Life Force (Not Luxury): Why Latoya’s crochet business isn’t “extra”—it’s essential How creative pursuits actually fuel better mothering Choosing fulfillment over financial gain (and being okay with that) Teaching your kids to honour their interests by modeling it yourself The Inner Work Nobody Talks About: Why inner work is gritty, messy, and nothing like social media portrays How to extend to yourself the same compassion you give others The first small decision where you stop explaining and start trusting yourself Why disappointing others is sometimes the most aligned choice “What is best for you, for me is what’s best for them because it trickles into everything else. So the happier I become, the more comfortable I become with myself, the better everything around me gets.”  — Latoya Why This Conversation Matters This isn’t just another interview about homeschooling. It’s about what happens when you finally permit yourself to ask: Who am I beyond the roles I play? If you’re struggling with how to stop people-pleasing as a homeschool mom, Latoya’s story is for you. She’s every mom who’s ever wondered if wanting something for herself makes her selfish. But here’s what Latoya discovered (and what you will too): When you choose yourself, your kids don’t suffer. They thrive. Because they get to see what it looks like to honor your own voice, trust your own knowing, and live from alignment instead of obligation. Your homeschool doesn’t need more curriculum. It needs more of YOU—the real you, the aligned you, the unapologetic you. Connect with Latoya YouTube: Toya in Stitches Instagram: @toya.in.stitches Latoya creates DIY crochet tutorials that go beyond simple instructions—she teaches you to understand your body, measurements, and personal style so you can create garments that actually fit YOU. Coming This Week on the Confident Homeschool Life YouTube Channel: “The Inner Critic Pattern So Many Homeschool Moms Don’t Realize They’re In” How you talk to yourself REALLY matters. So you’ll definitely want to catch those on YouTube. Join the Calm the Inner Critic Workshop Ready to go deeper and learn how to stop the inner critic as a homeschool mom?This month, I’m hosting a workshop to help you see what’s been driving you—and choose something different. Not to fix yourself. But to untangle the overwhelm and stop reacting from inherited survival mode. So you can lead your homeschool life from a place that actually feels like you—with presence, calm, and clarity. YES, I NEED THIS Want more support? Join the Confident Homeschool Mom community Read: Homeschool Mama Self-Care: Nurturing the Nurturer Listen: Previous episodes on setting boundaries Episodes You’ll Also Love: Unlearning People-Pleasing as a Homeschool Mom How to Stop the Inner Critic as a Homeschool Mom: The Charmed Life I Was Chasing (& the Pattern I Didn't Know I Was Living) Homeschool with Purpose: Honouring our Values & Priorities Stop Asking These 6 Homeschool Questions (That Sabotage Your Life) Finding Healing & Purpose When Life is Life-ing How to Stop Being a Hostage to Homeschool Pressure (& What to Do Instead) Deschooling and Life Purpose: Is there a connection? The Real Reason You’re Overwhelmed (It’s Not the Curriculum) How to Make Confident Homeschool Decisions (Without Seeking Permission) Awakened Homeschool Family: Living with Purpose, Learning from Heart Self-Compassion for Homeschool Mamas Course to Nurture You Share This Episode Know a homeschool mom who’s been living for everyone else and wondering when it’s her turn? Send her this episode. It might be exactly the permission she needs to finally ask herself: What do I actually want? Remember: Your kids don’t need your perfection. They need your presence. They need to see what it looks like when you honor yourself, trust yourself, and choose alignment over obligation. Because when you give yourself permission to stop people-pleasing? That’s when everything shifts. Press play and discover how to stop people-pleasing as a homeschool mom—and start leading from the inside out. 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Resentment, people-pleasing, and past hurt—they're more connected than you think. In this episode, we break down why resentment often isn't about others, how over-giving can quietly drain you, and why past wounds shouldn't give anyone a free pass to hurt others. If you've ever felt frustrated by your own boundaries—or struggled with people-pleasing—this episode will give you insight, clarity, and practical ways to reclaim your energy and relationships.

Welcome to the The Achievers Podcast. I'm your host, Amber Deibert, Performance Coach. I help enterprise sellers unlock their full potential by aligning their work with how they workout and cleaning up mindset trash, so they can sell more, stress less, and take back control of their time and success.   If you've ever found yourself reading the room, adjusting your behavior, or avoiding asking for what you need because you "don't want to be a burden," this episode is for you. I'm unpacking why high performers, especially enterprise sellers, fall into people pleasing, how it served you once, and why it's sabotaging your success now.  You'll walk away with the clarity and courage to set boundaries, speak up, and stop outsourcing your energy to everyone else.  

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Du sagst ständig Ja – obwohl du eigentlich Nein meinst? Dann lebst du vielleicht im Funktionsmodus, ohne es zu merken. In dieser Folge spricht Fabienne mit Wirtschaftspsychologin Laureen Süß über den Preis der Anpassung – und darüber, wie du mit einer einfachen Reaktionspause raus aus dem People Pleasing findest. Du erfährst, warum Grenzen setzen kein Egoismus ist, sondern Selbstfürsorge, wie Selbstmitgefühl den inneren Kritiker beruhigt und welche Kindheitsprägungen dein automatisches Ja antreiben. Eine Folge voller ehrlicher Einblicke und praktischer Tools – für mehr Leichtigkeit und weniger Erschöpfung.

I'm excited to welcome my friend, Paula Diaz, as this week's guest on the podcast. Paula is a momma, nana, wife, career professional, and a people pleaser. Join me this week as Paula and I discuss how she recognized when people pleasing was taking over and how she got support to navigate through to become a recovering people pleaser. Be sure to tune in!..Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/NtccnhVn2PVn9nSQ6..#doneapologizingpodcast #doneapologizingforbeingme #doneapologizing #womenempowerment #womensupportingwomen 

People pleasing and rejection sensitivity are common struggles for adults with ADHD, especially in work and relationship settings where power dynamics and fear of disapproval are present. In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah talks with licensed therapist Billy Roberts, owner of Focused Mind ADHD Counseling, about why people pleasing develops and how it connects to rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), trauma responses, and self worth. Billy explains how many ADHD adults learn to manage fear of rejection by prioritizing others' needs, avoiding conflict, and taking on too much responsibility. While this can feel protective in the moment, it often leads to burnout, shame, and feeling disconnected from your own goals and identity. Together, they explore how people pleasing shows up in daily life, from over apologizing and over explaining to avoiding honesty and self advocacy. Billy also shares small, practical ways to begin shifting these patterns with more awareness and self trust. In this episode, we talk about: – Why people pleasing is common in adults with ADHD – How rejection sensitive dysphoria influences behavior – The "fawn response" and its role in relationships and work – Overcommitment, over responsibility, and over accommodation – Conflict avoidance and ADHD masking – How shame can make honesty feel unsafe Billy also shares practical strategies, including: – How to recognize when you are people pleasing – Ways to practice being more honest in low risk situations – Why self awareness is the first step toward change – How telling the truth builds confidence and agency – Why learning to trust yourself supports healthier communication If you often feel responsible for other people's emotions or afraid to speak up at work or in relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and realistic starting point for understanding why — and how to begin changing it. Resources mentioned: Focused Mind ADHD Counseling Billy Roberts' upcoming book on people pleasing and ADHD Adult ADHD therapy and coaching services

Are your friendships or relationships feeling unaligned, unclear, or just plain confusing? Are you doing the work but still not experiencing the depth of connection you truly crave?Right now, we're in the midst of a collective relationship reckoning. In this potent episode, Jessica breaks down why manifesting love, intimacy, and deep friendship can feel harder than ever—and why it's reflecting the exact parts of you that are ready to be healed.If you're feeling romantically adrift, unseen, or wondering why your dream partner or soul-aligned friendships haven't arrived yet, this episode will help unlock your next step forward. It's not just about recognizing patterns; it's about stepping into the version of you who can say no to what no longer fits, stay regulated in the face of fear, and source your worth from within.With real expander stories and powerful energetic reframes, this episode is a must-listen if you're ready to deepen your relationships from a place of embodied self-love.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (It's not too late to join in. Start any time!)The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential. LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin the Pathway now - Return to Magic Challenge available now! New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! In this episode we talk about:Why many are feeling unseen or unfulfilled in their relationships right nowHow nervous system regulation is essential for intimacy and manifestationThe mirror principle: using relationships as a tool for self-awarenessThe trap of pedestal-ing your manifestationsThe power of detaching from outcomes and falling in love with your lifeHow fear and protector parts sabotage relational growthReleasing urgency and timelines around your manifestationsUsing the Return to Magic challenge to understand your relationship blueprintLearning to love and have compassion for your shadowExpander stories of partnership breakthroughs and healingFriendships as mirrors: projecting vs. authentic connectionBuilding trust and communication in long-term relationships Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 373 - Elizabeth Endres on How to Choose Yourself and Become MagneticExpanded x Ep. 365 - How to Manifest the Love You Desire with Jillian TureckiExpanded x Ep. 342 - Top Tips for Self-love, Manifesting Love, & a Deeper Connection with Your PartnerExpanded x Ep. 300 Best in Class: Love - Romantic, Self-love, FriendshipExpanded x Ep.  298 - Reimagining Love, Relationships & Breaking Codependency with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeathExpanded x Ep. 265 - People Pleasing, Dating Apps, & Manifesting Self Love – Unblocking: Love & PartnershipEp. 236 - Best in Class The Love/Money ConnectionExpanded x Ep. 197 - EXPLAINED Divorce and Relationships w. LMFT Janelle NelsonWatch our full-length video episodes on Youtube!Find our Return to Magic Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Self-Love Playlist, Calming DI, Reset DI, Conflict DI and Safe with Money DI) HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill)Available now! The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

If you're stuck people pleasing, over explaining, apologizing too much, scanning everyone's mood, and saying yes fast then resenting it later, this episode breaks down what's really happening and why it feels so hard to stop. You'll learn how people pleasing often forms as a nervous system survival strategy, the fawn response, where being agreeable once meant safety, approval, or belonging. We talk through the root causes, conditional love, performance conditioning, fear of conflict, and why setting a boundary can trigger guilt, anxiety, and an intense urge to fix, rescue, or smooth things over. You'll also get practical tools to recover from people pleasing without turning cold or selfish, including regulation skills, grounding, breathing, and simple boundary language that's short, calm, and clear. The focus is rebuilding self trust, making your yes mean something again, and ending the cycle of obligation, burnout, and resentment in relationships. If you struggle with saying no to family, a partner, friends, or coworkers, and you want a clear framework for boundaries, emotional safety, and confident communication, this episode will give you what to listen for in yourself, and what to do next.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

This week, I'm joined again by emotional eating expert Tricia Nelson. This time, we explore the intricate connection between emotional eating and romantic relationships. We talk about how emotional responsibility includes becoming aware of the ways food struggles can impact intimacy and communication in relationships.We also discuss how isolation can intensify emotional eating, why connection and honesty are essential to healing, and the underlying reasons food becomes a coping mechanism. Tricia shares practical ways she has helped people shift these deep-rooted patterns, including how processing, expressing, and communicating how we're feeling is essential to changing compulsive eating behaviors. It's an honest conversation about how long-term struggles with food can affect the people in our lives, with practical advice for how to feel and connect with others instead of numb and avoid with food. Show Notes | Resources | Mentions:Emotional Eating Free QuizBook: Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating NowInstagram: @tricianelson_Website: healyourhunger.comTricia's Book: Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating NowPodcast: Heal Your Hunger Show on Apple Podcasts If you liked this episode, try this one from the archive: Why We Eat Our Feelings (and What to Do Instead)—Tricia Nelson Explains

Send a textTune in to learn about some recent podcast updates this week!Book a free consult call: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: info@restovergrind.comInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova Download the "Getting Out of Procrastination," "Getting Out of Perfectionism," and "Getting Out of People Pleasing" videos: restovegrind.com/free-videos

In this episode of Owning Pleasure as a Black Woman, we explore that awful, anxiety-ridden feeling that comes after you set a boundary—what I call the people-pleasing hangover. If you've ever said no to something and spent the next 48 hours replaying the conversation, checking your phone obsessively, or planning how to take it back, this episode is for you. We dive into why your nervous system treats boundary-setting like a threat, how generational conditioning makes saying no feel dangerous, and practical ways to sit with someone else's disappointment without fixing it.Key Takeaways:The people-pleasing hangover is a nervous system response, not a character flaw—your body learned early that saying yes equals safety and saying no equals dangerThe discomfort you feel after setting a boundary isn't evidence you did something wrong—it's evidence you did something different, and your nervous system is adjusting to a new patternYou can care about someone AND let them have their own feelings—their disappointment is not an emergency you need to fix, and managing their emotional experience keeps you trapped in the people-pleasing cycleResources Mentioned:Free 7-Day Self-Care Reset Designed for women who've been people-pleasing so long they've forgotten what they actually want. Includes a full day on relational boundaries. Download at javerywellness.com/resetIndividual Therapy at Javery Integrative Wellness Services Ready for personalized support to rewire people-pleasing patterns? Our culturally responsive therapists specialize in helping Black women move from survival mode to thriving. Complete intake form at javerywellness.com/get-startedWatch on YouTube: Prefer to watch instead of listen? Head over to our YouTube channel to catch the full episode. Watch at @javerywellnessConnect with Us:Instagram: @javerywellnessFacebook: @javeryIWSYouTube: @javerywellnessWebsite:

Wonder why you people please, over explain, or shut down?  Here's what's going on and how to help yourself with it. FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide   WORK WITH MICHELLE CROYLE, LPC: If you are a Christian woman who feels ready for deeper, focused trauma healing than typical weekly talk therapy can offer, you may want to consider an EMDR-based Therapeutic Intensive with me.  I clear my schedule to work with you over the course of one to three days for three to six hours per day on a focus target of your choosing.  Intensives are designed to support meaningful change in the way the nervous system feels safest, not rushed into an hour here and there.  Ready for deeper healing?  If you live in Pennsylvania or are willing to travel to Pennsylvania for a therapy intensive, you can learn more or schedule a reserve a free consultation by clicking here: Learn More or Reserve a Free Consultation

People pleasing kept me safe. But it was costing me my voice. If you struggle with saying no, disappointing people, or hiding parts of yourself to keep the peace — this conversation is for you.

In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host Gary interviews Yeve Chitiga, a former lawyer turned certified executive and leadership coach. Yeve shares her journey from big law and in-house roles to launching her own coaching practice. Together, they discuss the challenges lawyers face with people-pleasing, boundary-setting, and aligning career success with personal fulfillment. Yeve offers insights on overcoming burnout, reconnecting with inner values, and supporting women in law. The episode highlights the transformative power of coaching for lawyers seeking greater joy, confidence, and authenticity in their professional and personal lives.Yeve leads Yevedzo Coaching and Consulting, an executive and leadership coaching and consulting practice that supports high-achieving women and senior leaders who want to lead with clarity, confidence, and alignment. A lawyer with Big Law and in-house counsel experience and a former financial institution internal auditor in both the US and UK, Yeve brings deep corporate experience to her coaching. As an ICF Professional Certified Coach she blends empathy and strategy to help clients elevate their leadership, strengthen their presence, and align their work with their values and vision.The Power of Coaching (00:03:33)Personal Trainer for the Heart, Mind, and Soul (00:06:11)Redefining Success: Internal vs. External Validation (00:09:04)Listening as a Superpower (00:11:41)Challenges for Women Lawyers and Leaders (00:16:28)People Pleasing and Burnout (00:21:11)Setting and Maintaining Boundaries (00:24:42)Reconnecting with Inner Wisdom (00:28:43)Achieving Alignment, Not Just Success You can find The Free Lawyer Assessment here- https://www.garymiles.net/the-free-lawyer-assessmentWould you like to learn what it looks like to become a truly Free Lawyer? You can schedule a complimentary call here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-callWould you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free

In this episode, I respond to a question about a nine-year-old who presents as mature, responsible, and "put together," yet shows strong perfectionistic and people-pleasing tendencies in session. I unpack what is often happening beneath that polished exterior — faking good, fear of judgment, low self-esteem, and a deep resistance to vulnerability. When a child thrives in collaborative activities but withdraws during independent play, that often signals discomfort with ownership, mistakes, and being fully seen. I also address what it means when a child consistently rejects reflected feelings. In many cases, it's not that the reflection is wrong — it's that naming the emotion makes it real. For children who lack emotional vocabulary or have learned to suppress their internal experience, acknowledging feelings can feel threatening. I discuss how small enlargements, gentle juxtaposition, and patient adherence to the model help build self-trust, identity, and emotional awareness over time. Ultimately, this episode is a reminder to trust the process, recognize incongruence for what it is, and allow perfectionistic children the safety they need to gradually let their guard down. PlayTherapyNow.com is my HUB for everything I do! playtherapynow.com. Sign up for my email newsletter, stay ahead with the latest CCPT CEU courses, personalized coaching opportunities and other opportunities you need to thrive in your CCPT practice. If you click one link in these show notes, this is the one to click! Topical Playlists! All of the podcasts are now grouped into topical playlists on YouTube. Please go to https://www.youtube.com/kidcounselorbrenna/playlists to view them. If you would like to ask me questions directly, check out www.ccptcollective.com, where I host two weekly Zoom calls filled with advanced CCPT case studies and session reviews, as well as member Q&A. You can take advantage of the two-week free trial to see if the CCPT Collective is right for you. Ask Me Questions: Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Brenna's CCPT Hub: https://www.playtherapynow.com CCPT Collective (online community exclusively for CCPTs): https://www.ccptcollective.com Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/playtherapypodcast Common References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948 Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

Why does setting boundaries feel so scary—even when you know they're healthy?If you feel guilty saying no, anxious about disappointing people, responsible for other people's emotions, or afraid that boundaries make you selfish, this episode of Mental Health School is for you.In this episode, we unpack people-pleasing, boundary anxiety, and attachment patterns—and why boundarylessness is not a flaw, but an adaptation your nervous system learned early in life.You'll learn:• How people-pleasing forms in childhood• Why attachment felt safer than authenticity• Why boundaries trigger anxiety in the nervous system• How people-pleasing functions as a protective survival strategy• The difference between attachment-based survival and authentic self-expression• How to begin setting boundaries without becoming cold, harsh, or disconnectedDrawing from attachment theory (often discussed by Gabor Maté) and internal systems work (developed by Richard Schwartz), this episode explains why a child will always choose connection over authenticity—and how that pattern can follow us into adulthood.You'll also be guided through a calming affirmation practice designed to help your nervous system feel safe with boundaries, unwind people-pleasing, and build tolerance for authenticity without self-abandonment.If you struggle with:• people-pleasing• fear of disappointing others• difficulty setting boundaries• boundary guilt or anxiety• losing yourself in relationshipsthis episode will help you understand why boundaries feel threatening—and how to rebuild safety around being yourself.You don't need to abandon yourself to stay connected. You can be authentic and still belong.

We just hit a major milestone—Episode 200 of the Fly on the Wall Podcast.And before I say anything else, I just want to say thank you.Whether you've listened to one episode or all 200… whether you've shared the podcast, sent it to a friend, or applied the leadership principles in your ministry—I'm genuinely grateful. This podcast exists to serve pastors like you, and it's because of your support that we've made it this far.Now, for Episode 200, we're tackling something that every leader feels—but not every leader knows how to address:Have you ever realized you're making leadership decisions based more on keeping people happy than moving the mission forward?If so—you're not alone.In Episode 200, I'm joined by my good friend Hannah for an honest coaching conversation about one of the most common leadership traps pastors face: people pleasing—and the anxiety that often comes with it.What I love about this session is Hannah's transparency. She shares how her people-pleasing tendencies have started shaping her leadership culture—especially as she's onboarding new leaders. And she asks a question every pastor needs to wrestle with:How do you overcome people pleasing and anxiety as a lead pastor… without losing your heart for people?In this episode, we cover:How people pleasing quietly controls your leadership decisionsWhy you'll never outlive this struggle—you can only outgrow itThe truth about identity: where it really comes from when nobody's watchingWhy “your vision is for sale” when people pleasing takes overHow to discern the source of criticism (and when not to receive it)Why busyness can create a false sense of productivity in your churchHow churches become “busy but not productive”—and what to do insteadThe In-N-Out principle: doing a few things exceptionally well instead of everything averageThe difference between task-driven ministry and leader-multiplying cultureWhy systems—not personality—are what sustain long-term growthThis one is packed with insight, conviction, and practical leadership clarity—especially if you're leading in a smaller church context where relationships, giving, and criticism can feel personal.

Okay, y'all. Buckle up for a full-body reminder: there is nothing wrong with you. In this episode, I'm throwing down the truth about judgment (yours and everyone else's), ego meltdowns, pink hair stereotypes, and what happens when you finally shut up long enough to hear what's going on in your own head. We get real about red pepper anxiety, the silent retreat that changed me, and the quote that's been living rent-free in my brain: “No one will ever love you the way you want to be loved… because that's your job.” Spoiler: there's also a blue breath meditation to clear out your throat chakra so you can speak your truth without all the noise. It's part pep talk, part truth bomb, and all heart. Let's go.

What if people-pleasing is your nervous system doing exactly what it has learned to do to keep you safe?In this episode, host Elizabeth Mintun explores people pleasing through the lens of the nervous system, specifically the fawn response, a survival strategy organized around connection and safety. Rather than trying to “overcome” or shame this pattern, we look at why it made sense in the first place - and how understanding it with compassion can create real, sustainable change.Key TakeawaysPeople-pleasing is a nervous system strategy. It often develops as a way to stay safe, connected, and regulated in environments where harmony, approval, or emotional attunement mattered for belonging.The fawn response is organized around connection. Alongside fight, flight, and freeze, the fawn response seeks safety by accommodating, smoothing, helping, or staying agreeable (especially in relationally sensitive people).Shame and force don't create lasting change. Trying to “override” people pleasing by pushing yourself to say no often backfires because the nervous system still perceives danger.Understanding comes before changing a pattern. When we understand why people-pleasing once made sense, we can honor it rather than fight it - and patterns often begin to shift naturally.Resources Sign up for the free workshop From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: Reclaim Yourself Without Burning Bridges here:https://go.thecalmingground.com/people-pleasing-to-self-trustLearn more about 1:1 Coaching with Elizabeth Mintun here. Contact Elizabeth: elizabethmintun@thecalmingground.comFind Elizabeth on Facebook & IG @thecalminggroundRelated episodes that do focus on boundaries: Episode #27 The Gift of Boundaries for Compassionate Presence: An Interview with Dawn GlascoEpisode #29 Growing Our Boundary Muscles: An Exploration of Inner & Outer Boundaries with Kelli Younglove Episode #30 Honoring Ourselves: Freeing Ourselves from People-PleasingSubscribe to The Calming Ground Podcast so you never miss an episode. If you loved this conversation, please share it with a friend!

In this episode, we're joined by M.Ed, Master Life Coach, and IFS Practitioner Andrea Tessier to explore how the next-level version of you is already inside—she is just crowded by protective parts. Andrea introduces the power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you build unshakeable self-trust and step into a model of liberated leadership.Tune in to learn:How to identify and unblend from the protective sub-personalities—like the perfectionist, inner judge, and people-pleaser—that create hesitation in your leadership.The secrets to navigating the cycle of self-doubt and over-responsibility by shifting from generic external roadmaps to your own internal guidance.Practical ways to use the power tool of unblending to regain your agency and create space for compassionate self-leadership when you feel internal resistance.How to lead from your wise, calm core to make bold decisions and step into your authority with grace and courage.By learning to navigate your internal world with compassion, you unlock the ability to lead your business and life from a place of deep alignment.Free Gift: Self-Trust Starter KitThe Self-Trust Starter Kit is a powerful introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS) and shows you how to understand the parts of you that create self-doubt, hesitation, and overthinking. Inside, you'll learn how to work with these protective patterns so you can build genuine, embodied self-trust from the inside out. If you're ready to make confident decisions, honour your inner wisdom, and lead yourself with clarity, this guide will show you where to begin.Andrea's Giveaway Contribution: IFS Coaching Experience 90-minute IFS Coaching Experience—a deep, personalized session designed to help you understand the parts driving your patterns and reconnect with the clarity of your Self. Together, we'll explore what's been blocking your confidence and map out a customized path forward so you can lead yourself with greater ease, alignment, and conviction. You'll walk away with a personalized roadmap and a renewed sense of inner authority (Valued at $500!).Connect with Andrea: Website | Instagram---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!

In this episode, we are joined by Spiritual Strategist, Retreat Host, and Author Latha Jay to explore how to bridge the gap between "woo" and "wow" by rewriting your worthiness story. Latha reveals why imposter syndrome is a pattern of the nervous system rather than a character flaw and provides the tools to shift your internal vibration to create real-world success in your business and life.Tune in to learn:How to break the exhausting cycle of "good girl" conditioning that causes high-achieving women to shrink their voices and undercharge for their value.The secrets to identifying where you have been holding back and how to move past people-pleasing into a state of deep, internal alignment.Why transformation is both practical and mystical, and how to use shadow work and nervous system regulation to rewire your internal safety.Practical steps to set "brave boundaries" with your time, your rates, or draining relationships to create the clarity necessary for your authority to flourish.Everything starts on the inside—it is time to water the root of your authority and stop shrinking to fit others' expectations.Free Gift: Business is Spiritual E-BookDiscover how to align your professional strategy with your spiritual path by bridging the gap between the practical and the mystical. This eBook provides a soulful roadmap for shifting your internal vibration to create sustainable, real-world success in your business and life.Latha's Giveaway Contribution: 1-1 Business SessionReady to break through the internal barriers holding your business back? Enter the giveaway to win an exclusive 1:1 Business Session with Latha to identify your specific mindset blocks and align your energy for your next level of expansion! This is a rare opportunity to work directly with a master strategist!Connect with Latha: Website | Instagram ---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!

In this episode of I'm Fine, It's Fine, we sit down with comedian, artist, and impressionist Melissa Villaseñor for a thoughtful, grounding conversation about healing through creativity, movement, and learning how to listen to your nervous system.We talk about how running became a form of regulation, how art and expression create safety, and what it looks like to untangle people-pleasing patterns while staying connected to yourself. Melissa opens up about emotional sensitivity, self-trust, and the ways creativity can help us process what words sometimes can't.This episode explores nervous systems, identity, and the quiet work of choosing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable.Hosted by licensed trauma therapist Melanie Reese (LMFT) and comedian Amber Autry. Subscribe for two exclusive episodes per month.Check out Melissa's upcoming tour dates and artwork: https://www.melissavillasenor.com/Follow Us!

In this episode, Brittany Anderson and Christina Lecuyer dive into the kinds of conversations many people are thinking about — but not always saying out loud.From the Grammys and public authenticity to money habits, subscriptions, student debt, and the real cost of education, this episode blends cultural commentary with real-life financial awareness. Brittany and Christina unpack how quickly expenses can add up, why understanding your personal finances is a form of self-leadership, and how women in particular often undervalue their worth — both personally and professionally.They also explore alternative paths to success beyond traditional education, the rise of trades and small businesses, and the importance of real-world experience over checking boxes. At its core, this conversation is about ownership — of your voice, your money, your value, and your life.If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances, questioned the “right” path, or struggled to confidently ask for what you're worth, this episode is for you.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

In this episode, we are joined by Executive Coach and Leadership Strategist Arivee Vargas to help high-achievers transition from fear-based habits to purpose-led leadership. She breaks down the common patterns that keep women playing small—including people-pleasing and perfecting—and introduces a transformative framework designed to foster deep self-trust and personal alignment.Tune in to learn:How to break free from the exhausting internal and external pressure to have it all together and the fear of not being enough.The secrets to identifying the 5P patterns of high performance—Pressure, People-Pleasing, Perfecting, Proving, and Performing—that often stem from a childhood need for compliance.How to replace fear-based habits with a framework built on Purpose, Priorities, Presence, Power, and Permission.Practical ways to use journaling and micro-decisions to honestly name your struggles and start leading a life that feels full and alive.Through honest self-reflection and Arivee's expert guidance, you will learn how to stop pretending and start leading with sustainable high performance. Free Gift: Boundary ToolkitGrab your FREE Boundary Toolkit: 3 Proven Strategies to protect your time, reclaim your energy, and feel more in control at work and in life. Perfect for anyone done with depletion and ready to lead from a place of clarity and intention.Arivee's Giveaway Contribution: Bestselling Book Your Time To RiseEnter to a win a copy of Arivee's book, Your Time to Rise: Unlearn Limiting Beliefs, Unlock Your Power and Unleash Your Truest Self! Connect with Arivee: Website | Podcast | Instagram---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!

People pleasing is often seen as being helpful, reliable, or easy to work with. But for busy professionals, executives, entrepreneurs, and business owners with ADHD, it can quietly become one of the biggest drivers of burnout, overcommitment, and frustration. In this episode, Dave talks about how people pleasing shows up in leadership and the workplace, why it's so common in high-achieving adults with ADHD, and what it actually costs you over time. More importantly, Dave will explore practical ways to recognize these patterns and how to begin shifting toward healthier boundaries that support sustainable success. In this episode: Why people pleasing in ADHD is less about being "nice" and more about emotional regulation How people pleasing shows up in leadership, business ownership, and professional roles The link between rejection sensitivity, conflict avoidance, and overcommitment Subtle signs of hidden people pleasing in high performers The professional, financial, and personal costs of chronic people pleasing Why saying yes often feels easier than tolerating discomfort Simple mindset shifts to move from automatic yes to intentional choice Practical strategies to reduce people pleasing without damaging relationships If you've ever felt overwhelmed, resentful, or stretched too thin while trying to be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. **Do you want to work with Dave one-on-one? Go to www.overcomingdistractions.com and book an introductory Zoom chat. Or go directly to Dave's calendar; https://calendly.com/davidgreenwood1/15min  

SummaryStruggling to balance eating out with your weight loss goals? You're not alone. In this episode, Chase and Chris sit down with weight loss coach Emily Moss to talk about one of the most common struggles they see in clients: navigating restaurant meals while trying to make progress.The truth is — dining out isn't the issue. It's going in without a plan, hoping you'll “be good,” and wondering why nothing changes. In this episode, you'll learn how to stop winging it and start making smart, intentional decisions around food… without giving up your social life.Whether you're eating out once a month or 3x a week, this episode will help you feel more in control, aligned with your goals, and confident in any setting.Chapters(00:00) Dining Out Isn't the Problem… So What Is?(01:56) Why Eating Out Feels So Hard When You're Dieting(04:40) The Social Life That Revolves Around Food(06:35) Is This Meal Actually “Special” — Or Just Habit?(08:03) Why Winging It Always Backfires(09:45) Frequency Matters More Than You Think(11:48) Coaching Expectations Around Dining Out(13:44) “Healthy” Salads That Aren't Actually Helping(16:06) Protein-First: The Strategy That Changes Everything(17:42) People Pleasing and the Pressure to Fit In(20:16) Using Context to Guide Your Choices(23:35) Yes, You Can Lose Weight While Eating Out (But…)(26:22) Bread, Alcohol, Dessert — Pick One(28:12) Scale Fluctuations After Dining Out(32:23) Honest Tradeoffs: Speed of Progress vs Flexibility(33:34) How Alcohol Affects Your Fat Loss Timeline(36:04) Set a Limit Before You Go(40:25) Want to Feel Better Tomorrow? Decide Today(41:07) Recognize and Interrupt Your Patterns(43:22) Be the One Who Chooses Where You Eat(45:03) Tactical Restaurant Hacks That Work(49:03) The #1 Rule: Don't Wing It(50:19) Emily's Favorite Trick to Stay Focused(51:36) Final Thoughts and Where to Find Emily MossConnect with Emily: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nutritioncoaching365/Website: https://www.nutritioncoaching365.comSUBMIT YOUR QUESTIONS to be answered on the show: https://forms.gle/B6bpTBDYnDcbUkeD7How to Connect with Us:Chase's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/changing_chase/Chris' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conquer_fitness2021/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/665770984678334/Interested in 1:1 Coaching: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/1on1-coachingJoin The Fit Fam Collective: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/fit-fam-collective

When you've been hurt by someone you trusted, it feels impossible that you'll ever let go of the pain and shame around what happened and be able to stand in your power again. The truth is that though you feel like a victim, and you feel taken advantage of, or like you're completely broken, it is possible to move past this situation and open yourself to love and safety without fear. Najwa Zebian has joined us on Women of Impact multiple times and each time she's been able to put words to the pain that has blindsided many women and offer a new perspective through which we can move out of survival mode and truly start healing.  She's the bestselling author of Welcome Home, Mind Platter, Sparks of Phoenix and so much more. As a woman she's experienced the difficulties of life, going against culture, and being open and vulnerable with the wrong people.  In this episode, Najwa and Lisa are bringing you a fresh look at setting boundaries. It's not about keeping people out or giving other people a set of rules to follow, it's about your personal value and how you see your self-worth. Being a people pleasing woman may have landed you in painful situations, but you can make peace with that version of you and ask yourself the one question that will bring you to tears, healing, and freedom. Follow Najwa Zebian: Website: ⁠https://najwazebian.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send Dr. Li a text here. Please leave your email address if you would like a reply, thanks.In this episode, Dr. Christine Li talks with mental health therapist and coach Allison Ly about how to set healthy boundaries—especially for adults with immigrant parents. Drawing from personal and professional experience, Allison Ly explains why boundary-setting is often challenging in immigrant families.The episode features practical advice for tuning into your own needs, navigating family pushback, and handling guilt, highlighting that boundary-setting is a gradual process that strengthens relationships rather than weakens them. By sharing strategies and resources—including her "Say No" cheat sheet—Allison Ly offers listeners a pathway to healthier, more peaceful family dynamics.Timestamps00:00:00 – 00:02:44: Dr. Christine Li introduces the episode, guest, and upcoming event.00:02:49 – 00:04:14: Formal welcome and start of discussion on boundaries.00:04:15 – 00:08:34: Allison Ly on boundary challenges in immigrant families.00:08:44 – 00:12:49: Examples and personal experiences with boundaries.00:12:50 – 00:16:22: Handling pushback and emotional awareness.00:16:59 – 00:29:08: Gradual boundary change and effects on relationships.To get the free download that accompanies this episode, go to: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/saynoJoin Allison's live workshop on February 26th at 11 am PST Adults with Immigrant Parents: The Key to Stop People Pleasing and Spiraling in Guilt: https://heyallisonly.com/secretTo sign up for the Waitlist for the Simply Productive Program, go to https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPFor more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comGain Access to Dr. Christine Li's Free Resource Library -- 12 downloadable tools and templates to help you bypass the impulse to procrastinate: https://procrastinationcoach.mykajabi.com/freelibraryTo work with Dr. Li on a weekly basis in her coaching and accountability program, register for The Success Lab here: https://www.procrastinationcoach.com/labConnect with Us!Dr. Christine LiWebsite: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoachThe Success Lab: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lab                       Simply Productive: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPAllison LyWebsite: https://www.heyallisonly.comPodcast: https://www.heyallisonly.com/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyallisonlyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyallisonly

In today's episode, Jennie answers real questions sent in by listeners - questions about anxiety, people-pleasing, parenting, ministry, and how to know what voice you're listening to when your thoughts won't slow down. You'll hear encouragement for single moms, worship leaders battling fear, and anyone feeling unqualified or unsure in their calling. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, or stuck in your head, this conversation will meet you right where you are.Resources & Links:Jennie's new book "The Lie You Don't Know You Believe" is available for pre-order NOW - GRAB A COPY HERE!Join the fight clubFight Your Lie Tour Tickets hereREGISTER TO HOST AN IF:LOCALListen to more episodes: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTubeLearn More About JennieFollow Jennie on social:InstagramFacebook

In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one's authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: ⁠David Protein ⁠Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠⁠Hungry Root⁠⁠: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to ⁠⁠www.hungryroot.com/feed ⁠⁠and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Alan P. Brown to understand why adults with ADHD are more likely than our neurotypical peers to struggle with poor self-image, and learn how to let go of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination to get things done. ADHD and Self Esteem: Resources Free Download: Social Anxiety Facts and Falsehoods Read: 25 Positive Affirmations That Uplift ADHD Brains Read: "What Happens When We Begin Logging Tiny Wins" Read: Self-Sabotage and ADHD: Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? Access the video and slides for podcast episode #593 here: https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/adhd-self-esteem-perfectionism-people-pleasing/ This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/additude and get on your way to being your best self. This episode is also brought to you by Neuroclinic USA. Learn more at NeuroclinicUSA.com. Thank you for listening to ADDitude's ADHD Experts podcast. Please consider subscribing to the magazine (additu.de/subscribe) to support our mission of providing ADHD education and support.

End the People-Pleasing Cycle: 3 Tips That Actually Work Kwame Christian sits down with life coach and hypnotherapist Amy Green Smith to unpack the hidden costs of people-pleasing—and how to finally break free. Together, they explore the surprising ways emotional intelligence, self-advocacy, and societal expectations shape your ability to negotiate—whether in the office, at home, or in everyday life. Amy reveals the evolutionary roots of people-pleasing, when it can actually help you, and when it slowly erodes your self-worth. By the end, you'll understand exactly how your self-perception impacts your influence, your relationships, and your overall life satisfaction—and what to do about it. Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan: ⁠https://incogni.com/anything⁠ Connect with Amy ⁠⁠https://amygreensmith.com/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Check out Amy's 1 on 1 Worthy Program: https://amygreensmith.com/worthy/⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Follow Amy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyamygreensmith⁠⁠ ⁠⁠The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast Contact ANI ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!⁠⁠