Podcasts about people pleasing

In this raw and hilarious episode of PivotMe, April shares an intensely personal story—her tattoo horror story. But beneath the ink and regret lies a powerful message about people-pleasing, distraction, and the cost of staying silent in critical moments. From battling through a brutal year to permanently marking her comeback on her body, April takes us through a decision made during emotional exhaustion and what it taught her about boundaries, voice, and recovery. Key Takeaways:

Vic is reflecting on turning 28 and the mindset shifts helping her feel more aligned, grounded, and true to herself. From exiting her hustle era and protecting her energy, to pulling back on people-pleasing and rewriting her self-talk, this solo episode is an unfiltered check-in on what's changed, and what's finally clicking. Vic shares why she skipped a big birthday celebration, how she's building deeper self-trust, and the small but powerful ways she's being kinder to herself this year. Tune in for honest reflections on getting older, slowing down, and giving yourself permission to be imperfect.Related episodes:This Will Change Your Life — A Powerful Lesson On Joy From Cancer Fighter Jeffrey SaadHow To Overcome Perfectionism & Self-Criticism w/ Expert Dr. Ellen Hendriksen// SPONSORS // Quince: Go to quince.com/realpod for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Storyworth: Right now save $10 during Storyworth's Father's Day sale when you go to storyworth.com/realpod. Just Thrive: Visit justhrive.com and use code REALPOD for 20% off your first 90-day bottle. That's like getting a month free! Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode. Produced by Dear Media. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Amy is joined by coach Sara Fisk to unpack people pleasing behaviors, learning how women are rewarded for losing ourselves, rethinking our resources, and making more purposeful choices about when and where we people please.Sara Bybee Fisk is a master-certified coach and instructor who teaches women how to overcome people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. She is known for her podcast, the Ex-Good Girl Podcast, and her work with the Life Coach School. Fisk is also a former scholars coach for the Life Coach School.

In this very fun episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest open the mailbag and answer questions from listeners about people pleasing, the potential (and pitfalls) of using AI as a therapist, and what to do when you develop strong feelings for your therapist. They discuss existential themes like aloneness and agency, whether Gandalf would have made a good therapist, and close with some heartfelt thoughts about what supports a long and loving relationship. Rick's Attachment Course: Rick is offering a 5-week course on healing insecure attachment that helps people work through attachment issues and improve their relationships. All the sessions are up now, and there's a live Q&A event on May 27, 2025 at 12pm PT via Zoom. You can learn more at RickHanson.com/attachment and get 25% off with coupon code BeingWell25. Key Topics: 0:00: Introduction and Opening Banter 2:50: Question 1: People-Pleasing vs. Prosocial Advice for Depression 6:10: Follow-Up: Do We Train Others to Ignore Our Needs? 11:20: Creating Reciprocal Relationships 12:23: Question 2: AI as a Therapist 31:16: Question 3: Sexual Transference in Therapy 39:56: Question 4: Is Remembering That We're ‘Ultimately Alone' Helpful? 56:55: Question 5: What's the Secret to a Long and Happy Marriage? 1:07:13: Wrap-Up and Final Thoughts Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Head to acornsearly.com/beingwell or download the Acorns Early app to help your kids grow their money skills today.  Get Notion Mail for free right now at notion.com/beingwell, and try the inbox that thinks like you For a limited time, get Headspace FREE for 60 days. Go to Headspace.com/BEINGWELL60. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/beingwell.  Go to ZOE.com and find out what ZOE Membership could do for you. Use code WELL10 to get 10% off membership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this juicy episode, Brittany and Christina dive into the real-life rollercoaster of parenting teens in the digital age—hello, driving anxiety and tracking apps! As their kids step into more independence, they share honest reflections on what it means to let go, trust, and stay connected in today's tech-heavy world.From there, the conversation shifts to beauty, healing, and everything in between. The duo gets candid about their personal journeys with cosmetic procedures, recovery expectations, and the emotional layers of beauty enhancements like microblading and CO2 lasers. They even pitch the idea of a girls' trip abroad for beauty treatments—because yes, procedures in places like Vietnam can be that much more affordable.Brittany and Christina also pull back the curtain on social media strategies, content creation, and why your online presence matters more than ever. They talk algorithms, authenticity, and why platforms like Instagram are more than just pretty pictures—they're search engines, trust-builders, and marketing powerhouses.If you're a mom navigating tech-savvy teens, a beauty junkie curious about procedures, or an entrepreneur building your brand online—this one hits it all.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Let us know what you enjoy about the show!Ever wonder why a stranger's approval often feels more valuable than our own self-acceptance? This thought-provoking episode explores our collective obsession with external validation and the exhausting mathematics of people-pleasing.We dive into the dangerous equation many of us follow: dividing ourselves into smaller and smaller pieces to meet others' expectations until we're stretched impossibly thin, serving no one well – especially not ourselves. I explore how we've become masters of relationship politics, pretending everything's fine when it isn't, then feeling frustrated when nobody notices our unspoken distress. This growing gap between our authentic selves and our public personas creates a mathematical impossibility – trying to be everything to everybody simply doesn't add up.But there's profound freedom in recognizing yourself as the only common denominator in your life – the prime number that cannot be divided. Consider this: of the 7+ billion people on Earth, most will never know you existed, and of those who do, how many truly know the authentic you? When we shift focus from external approval to internal alignment, we discover that what matters isn't universal acceptance but personal integrity. Yes, standing in your truth means some people won't like what you have to say – and that's perfectly okay. The journey will be messy and imperfect, but gloriously yours. By showing up authentically, you not only reclaim your power but create space for others to do the same. Isn't that a much more fulfilling way to contribute to the world than endless people-pleasing?What might change in your life if you stopped seeking validation from others and started honoring your inherent worth? I'd love to hear your thoughts – share your experiences or reflections in the comments, and if this message resonated with you, please subscribe and share with someone who might need to hear it.If you are enjoying the show please subscribe, share and review! Word of mouth is incredibly impactful and your support is much appreciated! Support the show

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!From People Pleaser to Empowered Woman: Wendy's Story of Healing & Growth Series: Empowered & Unfiltered (Part 2 of 3) Guest: Wendy Adamson | Luxury Portrait Photographer & Empowerment AdvocateEpisode Description: What happens when a daughter finally says, “I won't sacrifice myself for your love anymore”?In this raw and powerful conversation, Wendy Adamson opens up about growing up under the control of a narcissistic mother—and what it took to finally break free. From being groomed to take over a family foundation to being emotionally cut off and financially abandoned, Wendy's story is one of reclamation, creativity, and courage.We explore the cost of generational people-pleasing, how trauma warps identity, and the deep healing required to live life on your own terms. Today, Wendy empowers women 45+ to see their true beauty through luxury portraiture—and helps them reconnect with their authentic selves.✨ Topics we explore:What it's like growing up with a narcissistic parentFinancial control, golden handcuffs & emotional manipulationReclaiming identity after decades of people-pleasingHealing through creativity, portraiture, and self-worthInner child work, boundaries, and becoming your own nurturer

Send us a textIn this candid solo episode, Andrea Atherton unpacks the powerful and often misunderstood gift of boundaries. She invites listeners into a compassionate exploration of how people-pleasing behaviors are formed—often as childhood survival strategies—and how they silently erode our self-worth and relationships in adulthood. If you've ever found yourself saying "yes" when you meant "no," struggling with guilt after setting a boundary, or wondering why you attract emotionally unavailable or even toxic partners, this episode will feel like a homecoming.Through the courageous story of a client named Jill, Andrea weaves together lived experience, trauma-informed insight, and the transformational path of learning to feel your feelings, trust your body, and honor your truth. She explores the hidden motivations behind people-pleasing and gently challenges the belief that saying no is selfish. Instead, she reframes boundaries as an essential form of self-care—one that allows for deeper connection, emotional safety, and inner peace.Listeners will leave this episode with a renewed understanding of pausing, checking in with their bodies, and setting small but powerful boundaries that lead to lasting change. With practical tools, heartfelt storytelling, and Andrea's signature warmth and wisdom, this episode offers both permission and a path forward for anyone ready to stop abandoning themselves and start coming home.4o30-minute Consultation with Andrea https://www.andreaatherton.com/booking-calendarAndrea Atherton Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/Love Anarchy Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/podcasthttps://loveanarchypodcast.buzzsprout.comLove Anarchy Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/loveanarchypodcast/Andrea Atherton Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/andreaatherton-17/

In this episode of the I Have ADHD podcast, I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Ari Tuckman to talk about one of the most layered and misunderstood topics in the ADHD world: productivity—and how it's tangled up in our relationships, our childhoods, and the expectations we carry from society.We dove deep into how our early experiences shape the way we function (or struggle to function) as adults with ADHD. So many of us grew up feeling like we were “too much” or “not enough,” and those messages often turn into people-pleasing patterns and unrealistic productivity standards that are so hard to shake.Ari and I explored what it really means to be productive—not based on hustle culture or external pressure—but in a way that feels aligned with our personal values, goals, and life circumstances. We also talked about how this plays out in relationships, and how important it is to communicate openly with our partners about what's going on beneath the surface.We touched on the emotional labor of living with ADHD, the frustration of not meeting expectations (especially our own), and the real need for self-compassion as we navigate personal growth. Because here's the truth: being in relationship with yourself—and with others—requires space for change, grace for the messiness, and a deep understanding that we're always evolving.This episode is for anyone who's ever felt like they're not measuring up, who's navigating the push-pull of productivity and self-worth, or who's simply trying to do the best they can with the brain they have. I hope it helps you feel seen, understood, and a little less alone in the process.Ari's website Buy Ari's book here Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokAG 1 by Athletic Greens

Shannon tried Fen-Phen, the Ideal Protein Diet, Noom (twice), and even did the HCG Diet w/ the HCG shots. Did she lose weight? Yes. Did she regain it? Oh yes.At one point, Shannon lost 110 pounds, was scared to even sniff a cookie, and realized she really wasn't enjoying her life at all. She said she was always trying to cram her life into some diet, all while battling anxiety, perfectionism, and people pleasing. And then she finally realized all that just wasn't working and something had to change. In this episode, Shannon shares her story and where she is now. I guarantee you'll identify with what she shares and walk away encouraged and inspired!ANTI-DIET CLASS: https://AntiDietClass.comFREE MENOPAUSE DOWNLOAD: http://coreylittlecoaching.com/menopauseTRANSFORMATION TRINITY CLASS: https://EverybodyHatesDiets.com

You've probably heard the phrase: “It's always the nice ones.” And maybe, like me, you once thought that was a compliment. But it's not. That phrase haunted me during my years in healthcare, whispered between nurses and doctors when patients who “did everything right” still ended up with the worst outcomes. And now, after years of working with high-achieving women as a hypnotist, I understand exactly why that happens. In this episode, I'm getting real about the hidden cost of being the nice one—the self-sacrificer, the peacekeeper, the one who puts everyone else first. I walk you through how people-pleasing and emotional suppression don't just exhaust you mentally… they actually impact your nervous system, your hormones, your immune response, and your genetic expression. Here's what we're diving into: Why N.I.C.E. = Neglecting Inner Compass Every day—and how that pattern forms How childhood conditioning wires us to seek validation through self-abandonment What chronic low-level stress does to your immune system, cortisol, and long-term health The real reason women get stuck in “doing what's expected” even when it makes them miserable Why it's not selfish to choose your joy—it's necessary for vitality This is about more than mindset. Your body knows when you're out of alignment. And the longer you override your intuition in order to be good, pleasing, or acceptable, the more strain you place on your system. I share how hypnosis helps clients release these subconscious patterns—whether it's perfectionism, over-giving, guilt, or the fear that they're only lovable when they're useful. You'll hear how even identity-level beliefs, like “I'm responsible for everyone's happiness,” can finally be released when the subconscious feels safe enough to let go. It's not about becoming someone new—it's about becoming who you were before the world told you to be nice.

Saying 'Yes' when you want to say 'No'? We explore the hidden cost of people-pleasing, the nervous system behind it and how to start setting boundaries without guilt.  If you'd like more practical brain-based tools, join my newsletter where I'll send you tools, tips and techniques every Friday to your inbox. Subscribe here https://bit.ly/Brainnewsletter Or try out a Free Neurosculpting® Audio for Emotional Regulation and Stress. Download here https://bit.ly/neurosculptingstressrelease

This week on the Anxious Creative Podcast, I'm getting real about the messy intersection of anxiety and imposter syndrome. I'm sharing my own hilarious (in hindsight) and cringe-worthy experience of quitting my dream job because my anxiety convinced me I was a fraud. We'll dive into the oh-so-familiar feelings of panic, the urge to please everyone, and that deep-seated belief that you're just not good enough. But don't worry, it's not all doom and gloom! I'm also dropping some hard-won wisdom and actionable tips on how to actually move through these feelings without resorting to hiding, quitting, or those tearful bathroom floor moments.If you've ever felt like anxiety is running your life or that little voice of self-doubt is screaming louder than your ambition, this episode is for you. We'll explore:why taking imperfect action is crucial, how to feel your way through anxiety instead of overthinking it, and why sometimes, the most rebellious thing you can do is disappoint others to step into your own power. Plus, I'm sharing a book recommendation that's been a game-changer for me. If you're ready to ditch the overwhelm and build a business with genuine confidence and integrity, stick around – and maybe check out my free masterclass!Links & Resources:Join Rock Your Business to align your decisions with your goals.Get instant access tp my FREE Masterclass on From   Overwhelmed to ProfitableFollow me: Instagram: www.instagram.com/dawnbradleyYoutube: www.youtube.com/dawnbradley  For more info on RYB, Retreats etc: www.dawnbradley.com

In this raw and refreshingly honest conversation, Christina opens up about her recent eye surgery—from the surprising decision to do it awake to the rollercoaster of recovery. Joined by Brittany, the two dive into the deeper layers of pain management, body image, and the mindset behind cosmetic enhancements. They reflect on societal beauty standards, the role of community support, and the courage it takes to make—and talk about—personal choices that are often judged or misunderstood.This episode also explores how self-improvement journeys like 75 Hard intersect with personal growth and confidence, and why it's time to ditch the shame and embrace open conversations about beauty, wellness, and investing in yourself—inside and out.Whether you're considering a procedure, recovering from one, or just curious how others navigate the decision, this episode brings compassion, realness, and a touch of humor.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Welcome back to the Elite Expert Insider podcast! In today's episode, our host Jenn Foster has the pleasure of introducing Tonya Herb, a transformative coach who's passionate about empowering women to conquer obstacles like overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Tonya shares her journey from aspiring teacher to life-changing coach, where her philosophy is encapsulated in the insightful "BIKE" concept: Be unapologetically you, seek Insight, practice Kindness, and Engage fully. Learn More: https://tonyakay.co/

Happy Mindful Monday Everyone! In this week's episode, our host, Allie Brooke, is interviewed by the amazing Lauren House for the Hot Girl School Podcast. Lauren asks questions about finding the root of perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies and how to overcome them. Lauren and Allie dive deep into the intertwined challenges of perfectionism and people-pleasing, revealing how these deeply ingrained patterns, often stemming from childhood, can lead to feelings of unfulfillment and potential burnout. We'll break down the distinct signs of perfectionism (self-criticism, control issues, fear of failure) and people-pleasing (constant availability, saying yes to everything, seeking external validation), and explore how these seemingly separate tendencies often bleed into one another, limiting your authentic self. Discover why society often praises perfectionism and how this conditioning can prevent true self-discovery. Most importantly, Allie provides practical exercises, like "dating yourself" through journaling to understand your wants and values, and in-the-moment techniques to stop self-shaming and regulate emotions. Learn the crucial skill of saying "no" as a recovering people-pleaser and understand how setting healthy boundaries ultimately honors yourself and teaches others how to treat you. This episode is your guide to recognizing these limiting patterns and taking actionable steps towards embracing your authentic self with clarity and confidence. Episode Topics The Perfectionism & People-Pleasing Trap: Unmasking the Signs and How They Intertwine (Focuses on identifying the core issues and their connection.) Reclaiming Yourself: Practical Exercises for Self-Discovery Beyond Perfectionism and People-Pleasing (Highlights actionable steps for understanding your authentic self.) The Power of "No": Setting Boundaries and Overcoming the Urge to Please Everyone Else (Addresses a key challenge for people-pleasers and its importance.) From Self-Shame to Self-Grace: In-the-Moment Techniques for Regulating Emotions and Challenging Your Inner Critic (Focuses on immediate strategies for managing negative self-talk and building self-compassion.) How to Connect w| Lauren and The Host Girl School Podcast Instagram Website The Growth METHOD. Membership ⁠⁠Join Here!⁠⁠ (Both FREE and Premium) Use Code:growthmindsetgal for 50% off your first month's subscription! 1:1⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ GROWTH MINDSET COACHING PROGRAMS! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Application Form ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Coaching Programs⁠⁠ information⁠⁠ What are the coaching sessions like?⁠⁠ Tailored weekly discussion questions and activities to spark introspection and self-discovery. Guided reflections to help you delve deeper into your thoughts and feelings. Thoughtfully facilitated sessions designed to provide maximum support, accountability, and growth. Please apply for a FREE discovery call with me! Allie's Socials Instagram:@thegrowthmindsetgal TikTok: @growthmindsetgal Email: thegrowthmindsetgal@gmail.com Links from the episode Growth Mindset Gang ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ Broadcast Channel⁠⁠ Growth Mindset Gang ⁠⁠Newsletter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Growth Mindset Gal ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠ Better Help Link: Save 10% ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/growthmindsetgal⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Flashback Friday episode of SolFul Connections author, speaker, and holistic life coach Trina Stutzman talks about finding her voice and a path toward knowing, pleasing, and heeding her inner voice. In this conversation, Trina discusses the importance of self-worth, the gradual shift from people pleasing to authenticity, and the steps to breaking free from the cycle.Trina emphasizes the joy of connection and vulnerability, the significance of clear communication, and the impact of literature on personal growth. She offers advice for those struggling with people pleasing and highlights the importance of finding joy in life.www.trinastutzman.comReady to launch your own podcast? Check out the SolFul Connections affiliate link for your discount and join the fun!Riverside: HD Podcast & Video Software | Free Recording & Editing

Girls be like I needed this and its just boundaries and their bed... Wellness isn't about being perfect. It's about being real — and that starts with stopping the cycle of people pleasing.This one's for my recovering “nice girls,” my people pleasers, and anyone who's tired of saying “yes” when they really mean “no.”In today's episode, we're unpacking:What people pleasing actually looks like (it's sneakier than you think)Why so many of us learned to put others first at the cost of our own peaceHow to gently but powerfully break the habitA big sister pep talk to help you reclaim your voice, your time, and your energyIf you've been feeling drained, resentful, or like you don't even know what you want anymore… this episode is your reset. You're allowed to have needs. You're allowed to disappoint people. You're allowed to take up space.Let this be your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as your full self — messy, honest, worthy.

This week on the Artist Academy Podcast, I'm sharing the behind-the-scenes struggles that come with running a mural business—specifically the stress and burnout that can sneak up on you when you're trying to do all the things. From overbooking to underpricing to saying “yes” way too often, I've been there. In this episode, I'm talking about how I learned (sometimes the hard way) to set boundaries, raise my rates, and prioritize my mental health—without letting clients down.If you've ever felt stretched too thin or afraid to say no, this episode is your reminder that protecting your peace is part of the job.

Are you ready to say YES to yourself? The Say YES Sisterhood is your invitation to a vibrant community of women who are embracing their dreams, reclaiming their joy, and living life with intention. Join today!In this heart-expanding episode, Wendy sits down with Kamini Wood, a certified life coach and author, to explore what it really means to reclaim your agency and say yes to yourself. Together, they dive into topics like people-pleasing, high-functioning codependency, reparenting the inner child, and navigating the discomfort of rest. Kamini shares practical tools for self-reflection and personal growth, from values-based decision making to Internal Family Systems and journaling as a path to healing. If you've ever felt stuck in over-functioning, this episode is your invitation to slow down, tune in, and remember who you really are beneath all the roles you play.About Kamini:Kamini Wood, an entrepreneur, author, podcaster, and certified life coach, specializes in helping high achievers—teens through adults—overcome anxiety, stress, perfectionism, ADHD, toxic relationships, and more. As the founder and CEO of Live Joy Your Way and the creator of the AuthenticMe® method, Kamini empowers individuals to break free fromlimiting beliefs, release trauma, and rediscover their authentic selves.She is the author of the bestselling book Om: Life's Gentle Reminders, a compilation of inspirational stories designed to help readers live a joyous and fulfilled life. Kamini's coaching combines her deep understanding of patterns with certifications in life and wellness coaching, high-performance coaching, and teen life coaching. Her expertise includes breathwork, meditation, conscious uncoupling, and promoting diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging. She also holds board certification from the American Association of Drugless Practitioners and is currently pursuing a Master's in positive psychology at the University of Pennsylvania.Connect with Kamini:KaminiWood.comOn Instagram @itsauthenticmeOn FacebookReferenced in this Episode:Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. GibsonHealing from Emotionally Immature Parents with Lindsay C. Gibson on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast________________________________________________________________________________________ Say YES to joining Wendy for her: Say YES Sisterhood PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated France TripsInstagram: @phineaswrighthouseFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright HousePodcast Production By Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!Thank you for listening to the Say YES to yourself! podcast. It would mean the world if you would take one minute to follow, leave a 5-star review, and share with a friend.

Are you constantly saying “yes” when you want to say “no”? Do you feel like you're never quite “enough” no matter how hard you try? If so, you're not alone—and this episode is for you.In this episode, we're diving deep into the hidden pressures of people-pleasing and perfectionism, the silent habits that keep so many people stuck, burnt out, and disconnected from who they truly are.You'll hear:Where these patterns come fromHow to start saying no without guiltWhy being kind isn't the same as pleasing peopleThe emotional and physical cost of always trying to “get it right”This episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start living. It's time to let go of who you think you should be—and finally embrace who you really are.Episode Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠Ludovica ⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠Ludovica ⁠Instagram

If you're tired of editing yourself to stay likable, this is your call to lead without the performance mask. This episode unpacks how hidden people-pleasing shows up in entrepreneurship and content creation, especially when you're afraid of being misunderstood.Start with this post if you suspect this pattern runs deeper than you thought.https://deniseglee.com/how-to-stop-people-pleasing/Enjoyed this episode?If this conversation resonated with you, here's how you can support the show and stay connected:✅ Subscribe so you never miss an update.✅ Share this episode with someone who might benefit.✅ Leave a review—your feedback helps others find the show and grow on their journey.⸻Stay Connected with Me!Want to dive deeper? Visit DeniseGLee.com to:

In this episode of 'Steps to Trusting,' host Erin Michele continues her enlightening conversation with Mary Rooney Armand. They delve into how 'identity thieves'—pride, fear, unforgiveness, and disappointment—negatively affect our relationships and faith. Mary also introduces 'identity restorers' like gratitude, prayer, and setting boundaries, which help us live confidently in our identity in Christ. With actionable insights and personal anecdotes, this episode provides practical guidance on navigating your faith journey and maintaining healthy relationships. We would love to hear from you.  Connect with Erin Michele Smith at www.erinmichele.netInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stepstotrusting/ Connect with Mary Rooney Armand at www.butterflyliving.org www.facebook.com/bfl2022www.instagram.com/butterflyliving_www.twitter.com/maryrarmandwww.linkedin.com/in/maryrooneyarmand00:00 Introduction and Purpose00:21 Continuation of Conversation with Mary Rooney Armond00:51 Impact of Identity Thieves on Relationships03:09 People Pleasing and Boundaries05:14 The Importance of Boundaries13:16 Identity in Christ and Daily Living15:58 Identity Restorers24:36 Closing Thoughts and Prayer25:33 Connect with Mary and Erin27:03 Final Encouragement and Goodbye

Girls be like I needed this and its just boundaries and their bed... Wellness isn't about being perfect. It's about being real — and that starts with stopping the cycle of people pleasing.This one's for my recovering “nice girls,” my people pleasers, and anyone who's tired of saying “yes” when they really mean “no.”In today's episode, we're unpacking:What people pleasing actually looks like (it's sneakier than you think)Why so many of us learned to put others first at the cost of our own peaceHow to gently but powerfully break the habitA big sister pep talk to help you reclaim your voice, your time, and your energyIf you've been feeling drained, resentful, or like you don't even know what you want anymore… this episode is your reset. You're allowed to have needs. You're allowed to disappoint people. You're allowed to take up space.Let this be your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as your full self — messy, honest, worthy.

Have you ever felt like you're running on autopilot - pushing yourself too hard, saying yes when you mean no, or rushing through life without a moment to breathe? You're not alone. Hidden beneath the surface are five powerful psychological forces shaping your thoughts, actions, and stress levels - often without you even realising.   In this episode, we uncover these unconscious ‘drivers' and, more importantly, how you can take back control. If you're ready to break free from old patterns and rewrite the rules on your own terms, this one's for you! You can listen to the episode here or via itunes or spotify. Or you can find it on most other podcast platforms and apps. Could you do me a huge favour and share this episode with two or three working mums that pop into your head as you listen? My mission is to support as many working mums on their journey as possible, and so I'd be so grateful if you supported them by offering this free podcast. I hope it's been helpful to you, and if so, I hope you pass that on. Please consider rating and reviewing my show. Your review can help other people find my podcast so you'll be helping another working mum find this resource. Plus I also love to go in and read them. Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and “Write a Review” and let me know what your favourite part of the podcast is. Thank you! Are you subscribed to my podcast? If you're not, I want to encourage you to get subscribed as I don't want you to miss out. I'm adding some exciting bonus episodes and if you're not subscribed there's a good chance you'll miss out. Click here to subscribe in iTunes!

From the outside, Chrissy Metz seemed to have it all starring in a hit show, inspiring millions, and radiating confidence but behind the spotlight was a woman navigating the painful realities of childhood trauma, body image struggles, people-pleasing, and the long road to emotional healing.In this heartfelt conversation, Chrissy opens up about the survival patterns she developed as a young girl trying to be “good” enough to be loved and how those patterns followed her into adulthood. She shares her experience growing up in a fractured home, enduring emotional pain in silence, and turning to food as both comfort and protection. Through therapy, spiritual grounding, and creative expression, Chrissy began the deep work of untangling her worth from performance. We explore the cost of being the peacemaker, the fear of being truly seen, and the challenge of letting go of perfection. Chrissy reflects on her journey into acting, the power of being chosen for a role that mirrored her own struggles, and how her latest children's book is helping the next generation talk about emotions that many of us were taught to suppress. This is an honest, soul-stirring episode about the courage it takes to stop performing and start healing from the inside out.__________________Follow/Watch/Listen/Subscribe: ⁠⁠Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @rootedrecoverystories⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @patrickcusterproject⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @rootedrecoverystories⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @rootedrecoverystories⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.rootedrecoverystories.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__________________Cast:Patrick Custer - HostInstagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @thepatrickcuster⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thepatrickcuster⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thepatrickcuster⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thepatrickcuster⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/patrickcuster⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Chrissy Metz - GuestInsta: @chrissymetzFacebook: @chrissymetzofficialYoutube:  @chrissymetzmusic  Tiktok: @chrissymetzX: @chrissymetzWebsite: www.chrissymetzmusic.comSpotify: Chrissy Metz__________________Get Help (addiction, mental health/trauma):Promises Behavioral HealthCall: (888) 648-4098Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.promises.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@promises_bh⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠__________________About Chrissy Metz: Emmy and two-time Golden Globe nominee Chrissy Metz stars on the award-winning NBC series "This Is Us,” winner of the 2018 and 2019 SAG Award for Outstanding Performance by an Ensemble in a Drama Series and People's Choice Award for "Favorite New TV Drama.” Chrissy recently starred as Joyce Smith in the hit 20th Century Fox faith-based film, BREAKTHROUGH. She also performs “I'm Standing With You” on the Breakthrough soundtrack, written by 10-time Academy Award nominee Diane Warren. Chrissy performed this song at the 2019 ACM Awards. Chrissy is currently working on her debut country album.Chrissy recently guest-starred on the hit comedy series “The Last OG” with Tracy Morgan, and the NBC hit series “Superstore". Chrissy is best known for her roles in American Horror Story: Freak Show, Sierra Burgess is a Loser, My Name is Earl, and Entourage, to name a few.Chrissy recently released her memoir, THIS IS ME, which debuted at #1 on the NY Times Bestseller List. People magazine named her to the "Ones to Watch” and “50 Most Beautiful."

If we want to increase the intimacy and connection in our relationships, it is imperative that we show up as a safe person who creates a safe space. Often, the patterns we have established in our relationships are the opposite of safe, they cause our primitive brains to go into hyper protective mode and want to run away emotionally and physically. But when we can learn to show up safe, time and time again, we can create a space where our spouse may be willing to start engaging in vulnerability, in the openness and honesty necessary to deepen our engagement. Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts: #3 Resolving Conflict #20 Blame and Responsibility #51 The Silent Treatment #60 Mental and Emotional Abusive Behaviors #61 Charity is the Antidote #75 Emotional Adulthood #143 Stuck in Perfectionism #193 No Back-Burner Issues #197 Connecting Through Conflict #230 People Pleasing #239 How to Own Your Own #240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior #242 Circling Back Around #270 People Pleasing and Kindness – What's the Difference? #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives #319 Get Ready to Rock the Boat #357 How to be More Understanding Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion.  You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me?  Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/

In this candid and wide-ranging conversation, Brittany and Christina dive into the realities of aging in today's world—from personal growth challenges like 75 Hard to hot topics like Botox, beauty standards, and the pressure to age gracefully. They unpack the stark contrasts between healthcare systems in Canada and the U.S., share honest stories about surgical procedures, and reflect on how confidence is influenced by everything from peptides to personal choices.You'll hear their unfiltered takes on cosmetic trends, why some treatments work better than others, and how external criticism—especially from family—can shake even the strongest self-image. This episode is a refreshing blend of real talk and research-backed insight for anyone curious about health, longevity, and looking (and feeling) good while doing it.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Coming up on this episode for Flirtations, we welcome Natalie Lue, the host of the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and the author of five books, including The Joy of Saying No, to have a conversation with us about people pleasing! Natalie is a leading voice on boundaries and people-pleasing, helping people understand how their emotional baggage interferes with their ability to live authentically. Together, we'll delve into what people-pleasing truly is and explore the five distinct styles of people pleasing Natalie identifies: gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering. We'll discuss how people-pleasing often originates from childhood experiences and how it manifests in our adult relationships, particularly in dating. Natalie will shed light on why people-pleasing can be a significant barrier to genuine intimacy and the importance of embracing conflict as a natural and sometimes necessary part of healthy relationships. We'll also examine societal norms, the ways we're socialized, and how the era of obedience have influenced our tendencies to people-please, and why understanding and respecting differences—rather than merely mirroring others—is crucial for authentic connections. Finally, we'll explore the vital role of boundaries in breaking free from people-pleasing patterns and how to recognize and change these behaviors to foster more fulfilling relationships. So, if you're ready to change your people pleasing habits and create more fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you! Let's do this Flirties, and meet Natalie! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy- all over the world! Enjoying the show and want to support my work? Buy the Flirt Coach a coffee! About our guest:  Natalie Lue, 47, is a writer, artist, podcaster, and author of five books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and her most recent, The Joy of Saying No. She helps people pleasers, perfectionists and relationship strugglers reclaim themselves from their emotional baggage so that they can become more of who they really are and enjoy more fulfilling relationships relationships, careers, and experiences. Her key topics include boundaries, emotional unavailability, and how to foster increased emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being by breaking harmful and unhelpful patterns. Natalie's work has been featured in various media, including The New York Times, ITV's Lorraine, NPR, BBC, Washington Post, Stylist, and USA Today. You can connect with Natalie on Instagram, learn more about the Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast and blog, and check out her books and work on her website. About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun! As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage. Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self. His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal. You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

One hundred episodes ago, I hit record.  I didn't know where it would lead - only that something in me had to break free.  Today, it's not a celebration.  It's a summoning.  This episode is the line in the sand.  The mirror.  The match.  The moment everything changes - not just for me, but for you.  Inside this transmission, I speak to the woman who's ready to stop shrinking, stop performing, and stop waiting for someone else to give her permission.  Because you were never broken.  You were just buried.  And now...you're being called back.  The Summons begins May 19.  Seven sacred transmission. My voice in your ear. No fluff. No formulas. Just the truth your soul remembers.  You don't need more information.  You need initiation.  The portal opens soon.  But you already feel it, don't you?  Answer The Summons More resources:  Join The Selfish Woman Movement  Follow Valerie Jones on Instagram.  Join the fun on TikTok! Claim your space. Burn the rulebook. Become the woman your past self never saw coming. 

Let's talk about being perceived. In this ep, I share how Leo Skepi unexpectedly cracked something open for me around perception, confidence, and showing up in all my weird, neurodivergent glory. If you've ever felt torn between wanting to shine and wanting to hide... this one's for you.Here are my links: https://linktr.ee/esthersuniverse

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In this poignant episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler delves into the pitfalls of people-pleasing, drawing from personal reflection. He identifies five critical signs—saying yes when you mean no, avoiding conflict, feeling responsible for others' emotions, tying self-worth to praise, and feeling burned out or resentful. Michler shares candid insights, referencing No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover and Let Them by Mel Robbins, offering practical anecdotes to break the cycle. Through raw honesty, he encourages listeners to set boundaries and prioritize self-care to become their authentic selves. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:19 - Introduction to People-Pleasing 04:53 - Recommended Resources 07:21 - Sign 1: Saying Yes When You Should Say No 09:49 - Sign 2: Avoiding Conflict at All Costs 13:25 - Sign 3: Feeling Responsible for Others' Feelings 18:53 - Sign 4: Struggling with Self-Worth Without Praise 28:04 - Sign 5: Feeling Burned Out, Resentful, and Unseen 34:50 - Actionable Steps and Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

When we hear the word “codependent,” we often picture someone clinging to toxic relationships or constantly rescuing others.  But the brilliant psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole challenges this idea, revealing how capable, competent, and successful people can struggle with codependent patterns too,  just hidden under the mask of over-functioning and over-investing in people's lives.  Doing it all? That's the problem. In this episode, Terri shares how our deep desire for peace and control can drive us to do too much for others—emotionally, mentally, and physically— even at the cost of our own well-being. This conversation is a loving nudge to pause and ask:  “What am I doing for others that they could be doing for themselves?” We explore how stepping out of this “handle-it-all” mindset isn't just freeing—it's life-changing.  Tune in to this episode to learn to overcome high-functioning codependence and find ease, joy, fun, balance, and healthier relationships in your life! Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. She's the author of the books Boundary Boss and Too Much. For over 20 years, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients–  from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She makes complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so the people she works with can achieve sustainable change.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding the term “high-functioning codependency” Physical manifestations of being a high-functioning codependent  Helpful ways to set and maintain boundaries with others  Addressing resentment in a relationship  Why burnout is common among high-functioning codependents  Letting go of intervening to “help” others & focusing on yourself QUOTES “You see it as well, that high functioning codependence. We give too many F's for too long about all the things and all the people… and perfectionism and making sure everything gets done.” “There are ways we can help children and people we love find their own answers without therapizing them. But giving them our answers is not loving. It's treating people as projects.” “When you spend decades of your life checking boxes that someone else constructed, you end up with this existential crisis of loneliness– like, ‘wow, people do not know ME'.”  RESOURCES MENTIONED Get The HFC Toolkit:  Simplify & Do Less video lesson with integrative exercises & meditations  Terri's Website Order Terri's Book Too Much HERE  High-quality olive oil: go to www.getfreshenergized.com to get your free $39 bottle for just $1 shipping. Skin longevity made simple: Head to oneskin.co/ENERGIZED and use code ENERGIZED. Terri's Socials:  Instagram Facebook YouTube Podcast  RELATED EPISODES  #569: How to Build a Strong Emotional Connection with Your Partner and How to Transform Your Love Life with Vanessa and Xander Marin #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey #170: Saying NO to People Pleasing and Establishing Effective Boundaries with Amy Smith

✨ Episode Summary:If you've ever said yes when you meant no, felt responsible for keeping everyone happy, or wondered why you're so tired all the time—this episode is for you.Today, Shelby dives into why people pleasing is more than a bad habit—it's a nervous system pattern that drains your energy and keeps you stuck in exhaustion. Learn how boundaries aren't about pushing others away—they're about protecting your peace, reclaiming your energy, and reconnecting with yourself.You'll hear personal stories, client transformations, and a powerful visualization practice to help you set boundaries from a place of love, not fear.

We'd love to hear from you, send us a text about your favorite show!You're always there for everyone else—but what happens when you're the one running on empty?If you're constantly giving, checking in, helping out, and picking up the slack—only to feel exhausted and unseen—it's time for a rebalance.We're breaking down why over-giving is so common for empaths, sensitives, and healers—and how emotional patterns and spiritual beliefs can quietly turn selflessness into self-abandonment. You'll learn how to spot the signs that your compassion has tipped into depletion, and why resting, receiving, and setting limits can feel so uncomfortable (even when you know better).Together, we'll explore how to shift out of these patterns without guilt or resentment. I'll share practical boundary phrases you can start using right away—especially in relationships that have come to expect you to give more than you should.If you've been feeling drained by your relationships instead of nourished, this episode will help you reconnect with your energy, your worth, and your right to care for yourself, too.Christina Wooten helps you access the wisdom and support of the Spirit World to elevate your life.She is a Certified Psychic Medium and Reiki Master Teacher.  Christina is the owner of Sedona Medium and co-host of Modern Life and Spirit podcast.She offers Psychic Medium Readings, Soul Readings, Past Life Regressions, and teaches how you can start communicating and receiving messages from your Spirit Guides - through her program.Learn more about her offerings hereCurrently registering for Fall Reiki in-person classes in Sedona - beginners welcome!  Contact www.SedonaMedium.com Today!Enroll in Fall Reiki Classes Today! Space is limited.Visit SedonaMedium.com to learn more.Support the show

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What if your kindness is actually a form of dishonesty?  In this provocative episode, I challenge the conventional wisdom about putting others first and reveal the uncomfortable truth about people-pleasing that most "nice people" never consider. Discover the hidden costs of saying yes when you mean no, why authentic relationships require disappointment, and how fear—not generosity—drives most acts of self-sacrifice.  If you've ever felt exhausted from constantly accommodating others or noticed a pattern of building resentment despite your best intentions, this episode offers a perspective shift that could transform your relationships. The most surprising insight? True kindness sometimes looks nothing like what we've been taught. Learn why boundaries might be the most generous gift you can offer to both yourself and those you care about. Discover the exact tools that transform how you work, make decisions, and live: https://www.timehackers.xyz/blueprint P.S. Love the podcast? Leave a review, we read every one!

Ever said, “No worries, it's fine,” when it absolutely wasn't fine? Or maybe you've pushed down your needs and shape-shifted into whoever you thought you needed to be in a particular situation. That's not kindness. That's fawning—people-pleasing's sneakier, brain-based cousin. In this episode, neuroscientist and author of Rewire, Nicole Vignola, joins me for a juicy, no-fluff convo about why we fawn, what's going on in the brain when we do it, and how to unhook from this exhausting survival pattern. Nicole shares real talk from her own relationships, where she caught herself over-functioning, then said the magic word: “Enough.” Expect science, self-awareness, and some serious permission to want more. Nicole creates a practical de-fawning practice to help you shift out of appeasement and into enoughness. We kick things off with a little warm-up game I almost edited out… but didn't. Come play enoughness ping pong with us and feel instantly more human. Tune in now. Because “fine” is officially cancelled.   Links:   Nicole Vignola's website and book. Nicole on Instagram. Mandy on Instagram.  

Send us a textJoin us as we explore the transformative journey of Rachel Levine, a remarkable herbalist, human design guide, and yoga therapist. Her story is a testament to the power of authenticity and the courage it takes to overcome societal pressures. Rachel shares her deeply personal struggles with mental health and the facade of perfection, revealing how her experiences led her to create Intuitively Wild, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping others connect with their true selves. You'll hear about her path to self-discovery and how aligning with one's core values can break the chains of perfectionism.The conversation shifts into the rhythms of nature and the benefits of seasonal living for mental well-being. Rachel recounts her shift from avoiding winter in Hawaii to embracing the seasons in New York, offering practical tips for finding joy in nature's cycles. She introduces Intuitively Wild's array of resources—podcasts, mentorship, and an online apothecary—geared towards fostering deeper connections with ourselves and the world around us. This episode serves as a guide to intentional living, encouraging listeners to integrate mindfulness into everyday life for personal growth and fulfillment.We also venture into the realm of spiritual hygiene and the importance of personal rituals. Rachel discusses her adaptable morning routine, emphasizing the accessibility of yoga for everyone and its power to release emotional blockages. Throughout her work as an intuitive mentor, she addresses common struggles such as perfectionism and the quest for purpose, guiding individuals to embrace their unique qualities. This conversation is an empowering call to break free from societal conditioning and shine authentically, leaving listeners inspired to embrace their individuality and form genuine connections. Support the showWe hope you found the episode to be enlightening and insightful. Our goal is to create content that not only entertains but also helps you grow spiritually and connect with your inner self. If you enjoyed listening to this episode, we would greatly appreciate it if you could take a moment to like, subscribe, and write a review. Your feedback is incredibly valuable to us and helps us to improve the quality of our content and reach a wider audience. We believe that by sharing knowledge and insights about spirituality, we can help to inspire positive change and personal growth. So, if you find our podcast to be meaningful and informative, we encourage you to share it with your friends and family. You TubeFacebookFacebook Group The Road To Spiritual AwakeningSpiritual Awakening 101 Guide

What if it's not about becoming who you want to be, but reclaiming who you've always been? In this raw and reflective episode of Vitality Radio, Jared explores the power of self-reclamation, emotional healing, and the mindset shifts that helped him stop people-pleasing and rediscover his true identity. Drawing from personal experiences, mindset teachings, and the transformative tools of gratitude, silence, and reflection, Jared reveals how uncovering who you've always been can lead to lasting peace, purpose, and personal freedom. If you've ever felt stuck, unworthy, or lost in roles and expectations, this episode offers hope—and a clear path back to your truest self.Additional Information:Atomic Habits by James Clear (book)Jim Rohn video***Be sure to listen to all episodes of the “Emotional Vitality” series to learn more tools for achieving emotional vitality.Visit the podcast website here: VitalityRadio.comYou can follow @vitalitynutritionbountiful and @vitalityradio on Instagram, or Vitality Radio and Vitality Nutrition on Facebook. Join us also in the Vitality Radio Podcast Listener Community on Facebook. Shop the products that Jared mentions at vitalitynutrition.com. Let us know your thoughts about this episode using the hashtag #vitalityradio and please rate and review us on Apple Podcasts. Thank you!Just a reminder that this podcast is for educational purposes only. The FDA has not evaluated the podcast. The information is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. The advice given is not intended to replace the advice of your medical professional.

If you've ever second-guessed an email, over-explained a decision, or held back your truth to avoid making waves, trust me, I've been there. In this solo episode, I'm sharing what I've learned about the approval trap and why people pleasing puts your power on pause. I'll walk you through five practical shifts that have helped me stop relying on outside validation and start trusting myself again. Because real confidence isn't something we earn—it's something we remember.Join our exclusive email list and unlock even more valuable insights, expert advice, and bonus content to enhance your relationship superpowers. —sign up HERE today!Connect with Barb BettsInstagram: @barbbettsFacebook: @barbarambettsYouTube: youtube/@barbbettsWebsite: www.barbbetts.comLet's Stay in Touch!https://www.liinks.co/barbbettsBarb Betts is a sought-after keynote speaker, seasoned real estate expert, passionate educator, and the CEO of The RECollective, a thriving boutique brokerage in Southern California. Barb has delighted countless stages including, Inman Connect, WomanUP!, and at the National Association of REALTORS® Annual Conference. Whether she's teaching on referrals, authenticity or leveraging relationships, Barb brings an honest, compassionate, and transparent approach to every single stage. As a real estate professional, with over 20 years experience, Barb has mastered the ever changing real estate landscape and the balance of running a vibrant brokerage. Through her signature course, Real Estate By Relationship®, Barb educates business builders on the exact systems, proc...

Do you find yourself saying “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Do you feel responsible for keeping the peace, even at your own expense? If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. From childhood conditioning and gender expectations to how this behavior shows up in our adult relationships—romantic, professional, and personal—we're talking about it all.In this episode, we get real about our own struggles and growth around people pleasing. We explore the line between kindness and self-abandonment, how saying “no” can actually strengthen relationships, and the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways we've learned to reclaim our voices. If you've ever wrestled with resentment, vagueness, or fear of being “the bad guy,” you're not alone—and there's a way out. Tune in as we share stories, insights, and actionable strategies for building healthier boundaries without losing your sense of connection. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Why people pleasing hits so close to home for both of us.[1:14] - The difference between being genuinely kind vs. being "nice" to your own detriment.[3:49] - Laura's story: Growing up flanked by strong personalities and learning to placate.[6:46] - How family patterns condition our conflict tolerance in adulthood.[8:32] - Colette's evolution in romantic relationships and the fear of losing love.[10:11] - Assertiveness is a muscle: why it takes time and practice to break the habit.[11:02] - People pleasing ≠ being confident and kind. It often leads to resentment.[12:51] - Key signs of people pleasing from Psychology Today's checklist.[13:31] - Natural boundaries: how structure and routine can minimize people pleasing.[15:25] - Boundaries at work: why therapy helped us develop clear limits.[17:21] - Practicing assertiveness in safe relationships and why that matters.[22:08] - The real cost of people pleasing on your mental and emotional health.[23:17] - Gabor Maté and the connection between chronic niceness and physical illness.[26:06] - Practical tips: writing out your thoughts, using scripts, and buying time.[30:38] - Parenting and people pleasing: where we still struggle (and how we're working on it).[33:59] - The importance of learning to self-define, and why assertiveness isn't aggressiveness.[34:33] - The Giving Tree metaphor and recognizing when you've become the stump.[36:05] - Final tips: Practice, write it out, externalize, and invest in safe relationships.[37:12] - Where to take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” test and how to connect with us. Resources:Take the “Are You a People Pleaser?” quiz at: https://insightsfromthecouch.orgLearn more about the podcast and access show archives at: Insights From the CouchMake sure to visit the “Resources” page on our website www.insightsfromthecouch.org to download the worksheet and take ways that accompany each episode. This is hugely important as we are now creating a download that is unique to each episode and working hard to create an email list to support our programming offerings moving forward.

Are you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt, second-guessing your every move, and feeling like you're constantly people-pleasing? It's not that you're broken—it's your nervous system keeping you in these patterns for safety, even though they no longer serve you. In this free, live workshop on Wednesday, May 7, we'll dive into the nervous system roots of emotional outsourcing, indecision, perfectionism, and codependency. You'll learn why willpower alone hasn't worked, and how you can break free from these patterns to reclaim your life. Click here to join us:https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcast

In this no-holds-barred episode, Brittany and Christina dive headfirst into the chaotic beauty of pop culture, reality TV, modern marriage, and everything in between. From parenting pressures to dating app disasters, they explore what it means to live authentically in a world shaped by curated social media feeds and influencer advice.They also take a brutally honest look at entrepreneurship versus traditional employment, financial literacy, and the sometimes cringe-worthy source of relationship advice. With sarcasm, smarts, and a lot of side tangents, this episode is both a laugh and a reality check.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Join Laini Gray and I as we explore the vital skill of boundary setting for women in midlife. Together, we dive deep into why maintaining healthy boundaries becomes increasingly important during midlife transitions and how the ability to say “no” can be the most powerful “yes” you can give yourself. Drawing from both our personal experiences and scientific research, I offer practical strategies for establishing and maintaining boundaries without guilt. Our conversation addresses common challenges, such as people-pleasing tendencies, the fear of disappointment, and the impact of cultural expectations on women's ability to set boundaries. In this episode, we explore… How to recognize the signs of healthy versus unhealthy boundaries in your life. Practical techniques for communicating boundaries effectively without over-explaining or apologizing. Why boundary setting becomes particularly crucial during midlife transitions. Actionable steps for dealing with pushback when establishing new boundaries. Do you know a woman who might benefit from this message? Share this with her! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Grace-Filled Boundary Setting Masterclass: https://graceandgrit.com/masterclass *** ⬇️ Tools to rock your second act. ✅ Start Here: https://graceandgrit.com/start-here/ ✅ Listen to the Podcast: https://graceandgrit.com/podcast ✅ Weekly Bit of Grace & Grit: https://graceandgrit.com/rumbleandrise ✅ ️Leave a Podcast Review: https://graceandgrit.com/podcastreview ✅ Rumble & Rise with Courtney: https://graceandgrit.com/readytorumble ✅ Subscribe on YouTube: https://graceandgrit.com/youtube-subscribe ✅ Visit us online: https://graceandgrit.com  

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Most pastors want to be liked and respected by their congregations. This desire is part of the reason they are motivated to serve others. However, approval addiction can become a major barrier to leadership. When people pleasing becomes the priority, pastors often do more harm than good in their congregations. Marty Duren joins Josh and Sam to discuss this important topic. The post Approval Addiction, People Pleasing, and How Pastors Can Let Go appeared first on Church Answers.

In this episode, I engage with a caller reflecting on his tumultuous marriage and recent divorce. He shares struggles with emotional disconnection and feelings of depression. We explore the impact of unresolved conflicts, societal pressures around masculinity, and the dynamics of people-pleasing in relationships. As he begins to process his experiences, he recognizes the importance of authenticity and meaningful connections in his pursuit of healing and personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the challenges of rediscovery and the potential for healthier relationships moving forward.GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025