Podcasts about people pleasing

Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore the roots, costs, and recovery process of people pleasing, highlighting how it often stems from fear of conflict, guilt, or learned conditioning. The hosts discuss the emotional and relational toll—like resentment, burnout, and lack of authentic connection—while also offering practical tools to build awareness, set boundaries, and communicate needs more clearly. Ultimately, they emphasize shifting from guilt-based to values-based decision-making in relationships. Main Talking Points: - Fear and guilt origins - Childhood conditioning - Emotional costs - Boundary setting - Practicing “soft no's” Give Me Discounts! Cozy Earth -  Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won't last, so start your holiday shopping today! Beducate - Visit beducate.me/relationship69 and use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might be the one making the holiday magic... but you get to enjoy it as well. As a high-achieving mom, the pressure you feel isn't about the endless to-do list; it's about the deep-seated belief that you have to earn your joy by doing everything perfectly. And with the holiday season quickly approaching, this feeling can amplify. That's why I'm sharing some Magic Wand secrets to help you reconnect with your body and energetic alignment, shifting you from the chaos of people-pleasing to being powerfully present. Press play to reclaim your energy and create the beautiful memories that matter most in a way that feels truly magical. P.S. Ditch the holiday chaos and replace it with the holiday joy

In dieser Folge spricht Lena Mantler – die größte Creatorin Deutschlands – sehr offen über ihren Weg vom viralen Teenager-Star zu ihrem aktuellen Leben in der Fashion Welt von New York. Sie erzählt, warum sie ihr 38 Millionen Follower großes Social Media Profil einfach gelöscht hat, was sie über Fame, Cancel Culture und persönliches Wachstum denkt und wie sie mit dem Erwachsenwerden, Karriere und vor allem ganz viel externer Meinung umgeht, um mental gesund zu bleiben.  In dieser Folge: Warum Lena spontan nach New York gezogen ist – und wie sich das Leben dort wirklich anfühlt Wie sie und ihre Schwester Lisa ohne Plan viral gingen und plötzlich weltbekannt wurden Warum sie ihren TikTok-Account mit 38 Millionen Followern gelöscht hat Wie sie gelernt hat, sich von Erwartungen anderer zu lösen Wie sie heute Balance zwischen Karriere, Familie und mentaler Gesundheit hält Eine ehrliche, inspirierende Folge über Neuanfänge, Haltung und Selbstvertrauen im Rampenlicht. Timecodes:  00:00:00 – 00:07:12 Intro Podcast: Lena Mantler 00:07:12 – 00:12:03 Umzug & Leben in New York 00:12:03 – 00:15:50 Musical.ly & Growing Up 00:15:50 – 00:18:56 Life-Check-In: Neues Kapitel allein 00:18:56 – 00:23:18 10 Years Anniversary & Karriere-Rückblick 00:19:58 – 00:39:22 People Pleasing, Internet Druck, Privatsphäre & Umgang mit Gerüchten 00:39:22 – 00:49:17 Neustart & was wirklich zählt 00:49:17 – 00:52:45 Über Lisa & ihre Beziehung heute 00:52:45 – 00:57:46 Imagewandel & Selbstfindung 00:57:46 – 01:04:49 Selbstbild, Style & Selbstvertrauen Werbung: Hansefit Starte jetzt dein flexibles Firmenfitness-Programm mit Hansefit! Adobe Jetzt das neue Adode Acrobat Studio testen! Disney+ Die neue Serie All's Fair exklusiv auf Disney+ streamen.  Scalable Starte jetzt deine Investment Journey mit der Investor Academy von Scalable Capital!  In der Folge erwähnt: Lena Mantler Podcastpartner: Hier⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ findet ihr alle aktuellen Supporter unseres Podcasts & aktuelle Rabattcodes. Hier findest du mehr über uns: Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Youtube ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Impressum⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Why does recovery from an eating disorder feel so fragile, even after years of hard work? In this episode of Dr. Marianne Land, Dr. Marianne Miller unpacks the realities of relapse in long-term eating disorder recovery—what causes it, how to navigate it, and why recovery doesn't stick in a culture that constantly reinforces shame, anti-fat bias, and unrealistic expectations of healing. Episode Overview This eating disorder relapse podcast episode explores the complexity of staying recovered after years or decades of healing. Dr. Marianne explains how relapse is not a personal failure but rather an opportunity to understand what your body and nervous system are communicating. Through a neurodivergent-affirming and body-liberation lens, she breaks down why recovery ebbs and flows and how you can rebuild stability with compassion instead of judgment. Listeners will learn what it really takes to sustain long-term eating disorder recovery, how trauma and stress can reignite old coping mechanisms, and how to approach relapse as part of the process—not the end of it. Key Topics Covered The real meaning of recovery and why “staying recovered” forever is an unrealistic expectation. How the nervous system and trauma memory create vulnerability to relapse. Why life transitions, burnout, and chronic stress often trigger eating disorder relapse. How anti-fat bias, weight stigma, and cultural messaging undermine sustainable recovery. The unique challenges of neurodivergent eating disorder recovery and how to meet sensory and executive-function needs. How to rebuild body trust after relapse through curiosity, safety, and self-compassion. Practical tools for sustainable recovery strategies that evolve as your life changes. Who This Episode Is For This episode is for anyone living with a long-term eating disorder who feels discouraged by relapse or fears they are “backsliding.” It's also for therapists, dietitians, and family members who want to understand why recovery doesn't stickfor everyone—and how to provide affirming, compassionate support. Why This Episode Matters In a world where recovery is often portrayed as a linear journey, this episode challenges that myth. Relapse in long-term eating disorder recovery is common, but few people talk about it without shame. Dr. Marianne brings honesty, education, and hope to a topic that deserves care. Relapse is not failure, it's feedback. And when you learn to listen to what your body needs, you can rebuild a recovery that truly fits your life. Related Episodes on Long-Term Eating Disorders Orthorexia, Quasi-Recovery, & Lifelong Eating Disorder Struggles with Dr. Lara Zibarras @drlarazib on Apple & Spotify. Navigating a Long-Term Eating Disorder on Apple & Spotify. Why Eating Disorder Recovery Feels Unsafe: Facing Ambivalence in Long-Term Struggles on Apple & Spotify. Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, & Body Image: Self-Compassion Tools for Long-Term Eating Disorder Recovery With Carrie Pollard, MSW @compassionate_counsellor on Apple & Spotify. Learn More and Get Support For more on long-term eating disorder recovery, ARFID, binge eating, body trust, and sustainable recovery strategies, visit drmariannemiller.com.

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today's episode, we're answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we're talking about what to do with a lifetime of suppressed anger, especially when your body feels too exhausted or fragile to let it out. If the thought of expressing your rage feels overwhelming or unsafe, you're not alone. I'll walk you through a gentle, somatic approach rooted in nervous system science and self-compassion to help you start moving that energy in a way that supports real healing. Then, we shift into a conversation about emotional outsourcing in the workplace, and how perfectionist, people-pleasing, and over-functioning habits can become survival strategies in environments that reward self-abandonment. If you've ever felt like your worth at work depends on your ability to stay small, agreeable, and endlessly available, this one's for you. You'll leave this episode with real tools, new insights, and loving reminders that you are not broken. You are adapting, surviving, and learning how to come home to yourself. So take a breath, grab a cozy something, and let's get into it. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Are you exhausted from trying to keep everyone happy? This episode exposes the quiet burden of people pleasing, and how it steals peace, drains joy, and distracts us from God's best. Discover the freedom of living loved instead of living to be liked, and learn practical ways to say no with confidence and follow God first. Join Abundant Life Mentor, Julie Lefebure, each Tuesday morning as she offers real encouragement for your real life right now through a fresh, hope-filled perspective, a lighthearted inspiration, and Biblical insight, all in about 20 minutes (guest shows are longer). Each episode will lift your spirits and equip you to be a light in this world. Find extra encouragement at julielefebure.com/resources/. Support us on PayPal!

Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it's linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you've ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one's for you. ✨ Who It's For: Chronic people pleasers who can't say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy

Tom will be filming his new stand-up special in Milwaukee at The Riverside Theater on November 14th & 15th! Tickets are still available in Milwaukee for the November 14th show. Go get your tickets now at https://tomsegura.com/tour . SPONSORS: -Take advantage of Ridge's Biggest Sale of the Year and GET UP TO 47% Off  by going to https://www.Ridge.com/CAVE  #Ridgepod -Get $10 Off @‌BRUNT with code CAVE at https://www.bruntworkwear.com/CAVE  #BRUNTpod -Give the gift of smooth this holiday season with the Performance Package 5.0 Ultra. Get 15% off + free shipping at https://Manscaped.com with code BEARS. -Order a bottle of Por Osos and some killer merch online https://drinkporosos.com This week, Bert sits down with the one and only Mel Robbins for a brutally honest, hilarious, and surprisingly deep conversation about anxiety, cheating, parenting, and learning how to “let them.” From wild college confessions to Mel breaking down her Let Them Theory in real time, this episode is half therapy, half comedy, and all chaos. They cover everything — why Bert can't stop overexplaining to strangers (and accidentally tried to kiss Nicole Kidman), how ADHD and anxiety shaped both of their lives, and why it's so hard to stop caring what everyone thinks. Mel opens up about her own journey through debt, dysfunction, and discovery — and Bert realizes maybe, just maybe, he doesn't have to fix everyone to be happy. If you've ever felt like you're juggling guilt, stress, and trying to please everyone — this episode will hit home and crack you up at the same time. 2 Bears, 1 Cave Ep. 314 https://tomsegura.com/tour https://www.bertbertbert.com/tour https://store.ymhstudios.com Chapters 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:46 - What's Your Drink? 00:03:50 - College Chaos & Cheating Confessions 00:13:47 - Nobody Wants To F**k Up Their Life 00:23:12 - FOMO, Stoicism, & The Let Them Theory 00:34:42 - Why We Need to Disappoint People 00:47:55 - Family Guilt & The Dinner Dilemma 00:55:08 - An Awkward Nicole Kidman Kiss & Approval Addiction 01:01:39 - ADHD, Dyslexia, & The Volcano Inside 01:10:44 - What Could Possibly Go Wrong? 01:20:01 - Bert Gets Real 01:31:05 - Wired To Change 01:36:25 - Opportunity Of A Lifetime 01:45:51 - Let Them (And Let Yourself) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this conversation, I sit down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a family nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, and author of the newly released book End Emotional Outsourcing to unpack why so many of us struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout.Beatriz introduces the concept of "emotional outsourcing" (a term even Oprah is talking about) which describes how we've learned to source our sense of worth, safety, and belonging from everyone and everything outside ourselves. But here's the revolutionary part: she explains that these aren't personality flaws. They're survival skills we developed as kids, and we can unlearn them.We get real about the invisible labor women carry, the pressure to be productive over everything else, and why setting boundaries feels so physically uncomfortable. Beatrice then walks us through practical, body-based techniques you can start today. This conversation is for anyone who's exhausted from putting themselves last, who feels guilty for saying no, or who's ready to stop apologizing for taking up space in their own life.Connect with Beatriz: https://beatrizalbina.com/Link to Beatriz's book: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Free Meditations: https://beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/Beatriz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/Connect with Sabrina:https://www.instagram.com/Sabrina_Soto/www.SabrinaSoto.com

In this emotionally charged and deeply honest episode, Christina and Brittany unpack what really happens when emotions take over in relationships. Christina opens up about a recent conflict that left her feeling angry, frustrated, and raw—sharing how quickly emotions can escalate when communication breaks down.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

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What if your perfectionism isn't a flaw — it's a survival strategy?In this episode of Say It Out Loud, Vasavisits down with the brilliant and unfiltered Béa Albina — UCSF-trained nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified life coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing.Together, they unpack why so many high-achieving women are still trapped in people-pleasing cycles, how our nervous systems are wired for self-abandonment, and why “just breathe” isn't always the answer.Béa breaks down the science behind Emotional Outsourcing — her term for the unconscious ways we hand our power, peace, and self-worth to everyone but ourselves — and how to finally come home to your body, your truth, and your voice.If you've ever said yes when you meant no, this episode is your wake-up call.Connect with Béa: Instagram → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp Book → End Emotional Outsourcing (out September 2025) Website → beatrizalbina.comConnect with Vasavi: Instagram → @mynameisvasavi | Learn more → vasavikumar.comSend us Fan Mail Support the showResources + Links Join The Out Loud SchoolExplore more of my workRead my book, Say It Out Loud

This is my feedback from this whole season.Thank you for my voice notes.I hope men get a bit of clarity... we all have needs and wants... but there is a choice about how you go about things.Women and en need each other... But only if it's for the betterment of living. I cannot do anything with a man you depletes me.Things Women do, that Men do not like:Chronic Complaining, do something about it or shut upNegative Self-Talk and Self-Criticism, if you that bad why would I want to be with you?People-Pleasing, don't be the fix it friend...Phone Time All Day?!? ewwwImpulse Spending, Girl You BrokePoor Time Management; why you can't get all your adulting things done?Gossiping, mind the biz that pays youTrying to Date Like A Man, girl no matter what a man with no intentions will leave you with responsibilitiesThings Women Hate that Men do:Neglecting regular checkups, We do not want to be ya nurse in our 40's take care of yourselfPoor diet and unhealthy eating, sir I wanna be the only one with tits in this relationshipInsufficient physical exercise, go to the gymExcessive Substance use, why do you have to drink/ smoke daily?Avoiding emotional expression, most men do not want to feel rejected or share feelings with the wrong person. We get it. But if im not a safe place for your feelings why are we together?Avoiding difficult conversations on an adult level, the only way to betterment is through itNot asking for help because of your egoProcrastination about things that will make you better Personal hygiene, why we gotta tell you… you funky?Financial habits, do you need another pair of J's if you haven't seen ya dentist?Accountability, what did you do? What you did created a reaction you don't like… • Excessive screen time, you not a woman… go be busy.Thanks for listening. We can all be better. Who you spend the most time with says more about you.Chan & PodsThis podcast is sponsored by BetterHelpWe are all working through our everyday life, not enough hours in the day. Most people need someone they can trust and express deep thoughts, who can provide you with mental tools at a click of the button, try this. If you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone to talk to professionally reach out to the therapist at BetterHelp https://betterhelp.com/shegetsitEnjoy Chan on the mic and supporting sponsors: TableTopics.com click herehttps://www.tabletopics.com/CHANTAL85549https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-chanbepoddin-spot/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/she-gets-it-pod/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Vertrauen – ein Wort, das so sanft klingt und doch so tief geht.In dieser Folge spreche ich darüber, wie wir Vertrauen in uns selbst, in andere und in das Leben entwickeln können – und was es wirklich braucht, um dieses Vertrauen tief in uns zu verankern.Du erfährst,✨ warum Vertrauen kein Gedanke, sondern ein körperliches Gefühl ist,✨ wie du innere Sicherheit aufbaust, auch wenn das Außen wackelt,✨ wie du anderen Menschen Raum geben kannst, ohne dich selbst zu verlieren,✨ und wie du lernst, dich vom Leben führen zu lassen – auch, wenn du noch nicht weißt, wohin.Teile die Folge mit einer Frau, die das gerade hören darf.Du möchtest endlich Nein-Sagen lernen?Wenn du spürst, dass dieses Thema dich tief betrifft und du endlich aus dem Kreislauf des People Pleasing aussteigen möchtest, dann ist mein neuer Kurs „People Pleasing stoppen“ genau für dich gemacht. Oder, wenn du dich im Liebeskummer befindest und du diesen mehr und mehr loslassen möchtest, unterstützt dich der Kurs „Liebeskummer auflösen“ darin. Alle Infos findest du unter diesem Link: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/onlinekurse/Welche Gedanken hast du zu diesem Thema oder welche Erkenntnisse konntest du für dich aus der heutigen Folge mitnehmen? Teile sie gerne in den Kommentaren oder unter meinem aktuellen Beitrag auf Instagram @martinabamesberger oder auf meinem Blog auf meiner Website www.masterclass-of-mind.deIch freue mich auf dich.Wenn du dir Unterstützung wünschst auf deinem Weg, kontaktiere mich sehr gerne und buche dir dein kostenloses Erstgespräch. Ich freue mich auf dich.Von Herz zu Herz, deine Martina❤️ Hier kannst du Kontakt zu mir aufnehmen: Erstgespräch buchen: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/erstgespraech/Email: info@masterclass-of-mind.deWebsite: www.masterclass-of-mind.deInstagram: @martinabamesbergerBuch „Eiskalt“ erhältlich auf Amazon und überall dort, wo es Bücher gibt 

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Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're losing yourself in midlife?  In this powerful episode, I'm sitting down with expert Ashley Turner to explore the deeper meaning behind midlife hormonal changes in perimenopause and menopause.  Ashley helps you discover how perimenopause can be a profound reckoning, discussing how this stage of life invites us to shift from ego-driven goals toward greater purpose and compassion for others… and more importantly, for yourself.  Ashley beautifully reframes midlife as not an ending, but a spiritual awakening — a chance to realign with who we are and what we value.  We also dive into how embracing this change can spark healing, empowerment, and advocacy for ourselves and others.  Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will leave you ready to step into your next chapter with grace and intention. Ashley Turner Ashley Turner is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Psychedelic Therapist, renowned yoga–meditation teacher, writer, facilitator, speaker, and 7-figure entrepreneur. Her mission is to serve women – especially those in midlife and menopause. She helps visionary leaders tap into their confidence and amplify their wisdom, vision, and voice by embodying their full feminine power. Her own personal midlife struggles led her to found her Metamorphosis: Midlife & Menopause Mentorship and The Haven Membership. Ashley has been featured in media outlets such as The Washington Post, Shape, Self, Women's Health, Yoga Journal, Health, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Sounds True, and many more. IN THIS EPISODE Recognizing the symptoms of perimenopause  Ashley's work supporting women mentally and emotionally  How hormones can help some but not ALL symptoms  Why being intentional about your choices matters more in midlife  Lifestyle habits for optimal physical and mental health  How we can shift the culture around perimenopause awareness  How to cultivate your sense of community in midlife  How Perimenoapuse can be one of your greatest teachers  QUOTES “Once I got on the hormones, that was extremely helpful and it totally saved my life, and I love them… [but] it didn't solve all my problems. There's still a huge developmental phase that we're going through as women. People going through menopause, huge transitions in our sense of self, our ambition, our drive, who we are, our identity, of course sexuality, and that's a lot to manage on top of everything else that's happening in life.” “For a lot of women, it's taking 4 to 6 appointments for doctors to connect the dots between what they're going through and it being perimenopause and menopause. And what that does is it delays care, it delays treatment, and it delays a woman's quality of life.”  “I think telling the stories and sharing really authentically and vulnerably and transparently is such an important piece of this because we heal together. We are changing culture. We are weaving a new sisterhood, a new ethos. We also have to educate our partners, our children, our work environments, and really shape shift the culture.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order my new book The Perimenopause Revolution https://drmariza.com/book Use code ENERGIZED and get 20% off on your Timeline order  http://timeline.com/ENERGIZED Ashley Turner The Haven Community  Metamorphosis: Master Menopause and Midlife  Ashley Turner on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 689: The Hidden Brain Shift: Why Perimenopause Symptoms Start Earlier Than You Think 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

If you've ever walked into a family visit stone-cold sober and immediately felt your shoulders creep up to your ears, you're in the right place. In-laws, expectations, and the mental load can be… a lot. Especially when you're trying to stay alcohol-free and not soothe every tiny (or not-so-tiny) jab with a glass of Pinot. In this episode, I asked Dr. Tracy Dalgleish—clinical psychologist, couples therapist, host of the Dear Dr. Tracy podcast, and author of I Didn't Sign Up For This and her new book You, Your Husband and His Mother—to share how to set healthy, drama-free boundaries with in-laws, get on the same team with your partner, and handle triggers without numbing out with alcohol. In plain English: fewer tears in the bathroom, more peace in your own home. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother-boundaries-triangles-and-staying-sober-without-people-pleasing/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I'll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday 

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Diese Folge ist für Dich, wenn Du sowas von bereit bist für das Next Level in Deinem Business, aber Dich trotzdem immer wieder selbst ausbremst.  Du ertappst Dich zum Beispiel regelmäßig dabei, Dinge (wie Deinen nächsten Launch / Post / großen Schritt) aufzuschieben. Du hast Dir Zeit genommen aber irgendwie bist Du nicht weitergekommen. Wir schauen uns in der Folge an, welche Gründe dahinterstecken, dass Du nicht weitergehst: Vielleicht sabotierst Du Dich unbewusst. Vielleicht landest Du im Perfektionismus. Oder Dein Nervensystem und Dein Körper können mit dem Wachstum, das Du gerade erlebst, (noch) nicht Schritt halten. Ich spreche in dieser Folge darüber, warum die Lösung nicht darin liegt, noch mehr zu tun, sondern Dich selbst besser zu halten. Denn: Wachstum braucht Regulation. Next Level Leadership bedeutet, dass Du auf allen Ebenen in der Lage bist, Dein nächstes Level zu halten – und dabei Deine kostbare Zeit wirklich wertschätzt. Mach Dich bereit für einen ehrlichen Deep Dive, der Dir hilft, Deinen inneren Saboteur zu entlarven! Viel Freude mit dieser Folge! Von Herz zu Herz,  Deine Julia ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ 00:00 Willkommen 02:33 Was Dienen wirklich bedeutet und was es NICHT ist! 36:33 Outro ♡♡ Alle Infos zur GOLEA®️ Academy Premium Coaching & Mentoring Ausbildung findest Du hier: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/golea-academy-2026/ ♡♡ Für NO MORE TRAUMA und NO MORE DRAMA: Eine Reise in ein tieferes Verständnis über Trauma, Drama und das Nervensystem und somit auch eine wahrhaftige Möglichkeit ein für alle Mal aus Deiner Trauma Identität, People Pleasing und Automatismus auszusteigen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/no-more-drama-no-more-trauma/ ♡♡ Wenn Du Dich für eines meiner Angebote interessierst, dann kannst Du Dich auf meiner Website informieren und dort buchen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/ ♡♡

If you've ever caught yourself saying "yes" when you really wanted to say "no," this episode is 100% for you. I'm diving into one of the biggest mindset blocks I see inside my Healthy and Hot Method membership - people pleasing and how it's quietly draining your energy, wrecking your routines, and keeping you stuck! In this episode of Boss Bitch Radio, I'm pulling back the curtain on a private members-only coaching call where we talk all about boundaries, why women struggle to stay consistent, and how to start saying "no" without feeling guilty. I also share lessons from "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin, including how to stop worrying about what everyone thinks and start showing up for yourself unapologetically. Join the newsletter for more behind-the-scenes tips, cheat sheets, and practical tools → https://www.bossbitchradio.com/newsletter #PeoplePleasing #SetBoundaries #SelfWorth   Key Takeaways: 00:32 – A Quick Peek Inside the Healthy and Hot Method 01:06 – Why Mindset Shifts Matter So Much 01:43 – Boundaries, Weekly Calls, and Protecting Your Energy 02:31 – What People Pleasing Really Looks Like 02:47 – Book of the Week: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do 04:41 – How to Spot the Signs of People Pleasing 07:39 – My Own Story (and a Few Real-Life Examples) 23:25 – Why People Pleasing Keeps You Stuck 26:54 – How to Set Boundaries and Actually Say No 27:17 – Get Clear on Your Values First 28:43 – Spotting Manipulation and Standing Your Ground 30:39 – Balancing Your Values with Relationships 33:30 – Knowing When to Say Yes (and When to Pass) 37:00 – Practicing Assertiveness Without Feeling Guilty 40:39 – The Freedom That Comes from Saying No 48:36 – Wrapping It Up: My Final Thoughts & Takeaways Links Mentioned:  Join us in the Healthy and Hot Method! Get $25 off your first month with code PODHOT - https://www.bossbitchradio.com/healthy-and-hot-method Join the Iconic Coaching Academy! Limited 1:1 spots available - https://www.bossbitchradio.com/iconic-coaching  I'm loving this Cathy Heller's program is packed with gems. Check it out here! https://cathyheller.samcart.com/referral/thisabundantlifebycathyheller/kLZu9Gj7RIEtBF2Q Hey! Have you heard of ClassPass? They're giving an exclusive free trial (with 20 bonus credits!) only available to friends of mine. https://classpass.com/refer/U37R31GQ30   Connect with Diane: Website: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro  Join the Boss Bitch Besties Fitness Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dianefloresifbbpro    Freebies: Lower Body Blueprint: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/lower-body-blueprint  Protein Snack List: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/protein-snack-guide  Full Body Training Program: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/full-body-gym-program  Fit Girl Gift Guide: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/fit-girl-gift-guide  My Favorite Supplements: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/myfavoritesupplements 

Does there come a point where you stop worrying about being likeable? Phoebe Saintilan-Stocks is the founder of media start-up Missing Perspectives. She is also the author of a new book called The Right Hand. In it, she speaks to chiefs of staff to some of the world’s most consequential leaders, from Jacinda Ardern to Nelson Mandela. In this episode, Phoebe shares what she's learned about leadership from these remarkable figures and discusses her own leadership trajectory as an entrepreneur and self-described "reformed people pleaser". Join the movement to fast-track your professional development. Become an FW Diamond member today. Keep up with @futurewomen on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and Threads See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

High performers don't crave praise — they crave safety. In this episode, Julie Holly unpacks why performance became your path to belonging and how to finally stop earning love that was always meant to be received.The Roots of Approval: Why You Keep Proving YourselfYou've achieved so much — but deep down, something still drives you to keep proving. No matter how much success you build, that quiet hum remains: Do enough. Be enough. Don't let anyone down.In this intimate reflection, Julie Holly reveals why performance became your path to belonging. Through the lens of attachment theory, polyvagal insight, and real-life experience, you'll discover how your nervous system learned to equate doing well with being safe — and how to rewrite that pattern from the inside out.You'll learn:Why approval isn't about ego — it's about safety and connection.How your nervous system links performance to survival.The difference between unconditional and conditional attachment — and how it shaped your adult identity.How approval takes many forms: applause, silence, avoidance, or even belonging in unsafe spaces.Why high performance can become a survival response instead of an authentic expression.How recalibration at the identity level begins freeing your body and mind from old attachment loops.This episode offers both compassionate understanding and practical application — blending science, story, and soul to help you stop striving for what you already carry.

One of the common behavior patterns we HSPs can be prone to is people pleasing – or partner pleasing! Interestingly, on the surface people pleasing seems lovely, it can wreak real emotional havoc and really hurt our intimate relationship over time. Today my special guest, Todd Smith, a highly sensitive person and host of the podcast,  Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People, and I are going to talk about all about people and partner pleasing: what it looks like, what it leads to (ahem, talk about resentment! And overwhelm!), why we do it, and how it affects us and our marriages. You'll hear examples of how we both have "people pleased” in our own lives and relationships, and client stories, as well.  Then we will offer several ways to break this habit or pattern, and ultimately be TRUE to yourself, more authentic and honest in your marriage, and feel more loved for who you really are.Whether you think you may sometimes fall in to people pleasing, or not, you may be surprised at what you'll learn about yourself and other people in your life as you listen to this fun, important, laughter-filled conversation. You'll come away intrigued by how much opportunity for real loving change can come from leaving this pattern in the past, and clear on how to get started. SHOW NOTES:TODD SMITH: Find Todd's website and free Stress Test HEREListen to his podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People here.HANNAH BROOKSFREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever--WITHOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

For high achievers who are tired of being everything for everyone, this episode is your permission slip to stop over-explaining and apologizing for setting boundaries in life. My special guest, Dr. Jen Fry, is a TEDx speaker, conflict expert, and author of a dynamite new book, “I Said No: A No-BS Guide to Boundaries Without the Guilt.” She owns JenFryTalks and also owns Coordle, a B2B tech company tackling youth sports travel chaos. Jen understands how conflict within athletics, corporate, or professional settings can impact a team. Jen wants to help you build the skills you need to navigate those hard but essential conversations and come out on top. She is a veteran coach with over 15 years of experience at the collegiate level with coaching stints at Elon University, University of Illinois - 2011 National Runner-up, Washington State University, and Norfolk State University. She received her PhD in Sports Geography from Michigan State University. Connect with Dr. Jen Fry: www.jenfrytalks.com Instagram: @jenfrytalks

We inherit shame like an unspoken family heirloom — stitched into our bodies, our ambition, our idea of enough. It's the quiet undertone behind so many brilliant women asking, “Why do I still feel like I'm not enough?”In this conversation, Jennifer Walter sits down with therapist and facilitator Kyira Wackett to unpack the hidden ways shame shapes our lives — from body image and burnout to perfectionism and belonging. Together, they explore how shame isn't just a feeling — it's a learned survival strategy. One we can unlearn.You'll hear about the difference between “good” and “bad” pain, why setting boundaries feels so hard, and how to start building shame resilience without burning yourself out.This episode is part psychology, part real talk — a compassionate deep dive into the quiet stories that keep women performing, proving, and people-pleasing.If you're tired of hustling for worth, this one's your permission slip to rest, reflect, and begin again.

Do you find yourself saying "yes" when you want to say "no"? Or softening your words to avoid tension? In this episode, we uncover how people-pleasing quietly sabotages your voice, your confidence, and your authentic communication. You'll learn how to move beyond the habit of keeping the peace and step into grounded, honest expression—even in high-stakes moments. You'll learn: Before: How to prepare mentally and emotionally before a big conversation so you don't default to pleasing. During: What to do in the moment when you feel yourself shrinking, smoothing things over, or freezing. After: How to reflect, reset, and strengthen your voice after tough communication moments. If you've ever dimmed your truth to keep others comfortable, this episode will help you speak up with calm clarity—and keep your power intact. For more inspiration—and to watch my free training, The Calm and Confident Communicator—head over to www.speaktoinspire.com. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe so you never miss an upcoming tip to elevate your speaking skills. And I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a rating and review—it really helps more people find the show! Thanks for listening!

In this episode of the Owaken Podcast, Lukis Mac and Hella Omega dive into becoming the decision maker in your own life and overcoming the habit of people pleasing. For more information on The Intuitive Impact Academy click this link ⬇️https://www.owaken.com/intuitiveimpactIn this podcast we explore practical steps for building confidence, setting boundaries, and prioritizing your own needs while maintaining loving, connection and respectful relationships. Through candid conversations and personal insights, we discuss how to reclaim your power, live authentically, and make aligned, joyful decisions. Tune in for an inspiring discussion that empowers you to take radical responsibility for your life and align with your true desires.You can join the Owaken App with a 7-day free trial and check out the new Self-Sourcing Challenge at: https://app.owaken.com/Follow for more insights and inspiration:Follow Owaken: instagram.com/owakenbreathworkFollow Hella Weston: instagram.com/hella_westonFollow Lukis Mac: instagram.com/lukismacLearn more about Owaken Breathwork at: Owaken.comTime Stamps00:00 Introduction: Becoming the Decision Maker in Your Life00:56 Setting Intentions and Teabag Wisdom02:05 Understanding People Pleasing and Its Costs03:41 The Impact of Self-Abandonment06:22 Grounding and Connecting with Your True Desires09:21 Radical Responsibility and Self-Sourcing16:25 Navigating Relationships and Maintaining Sovereignty21:09 Eliminating Sloppiness and Raising Standards25:47 Invitation to Intuitive Impact Academy27:19 Returning to Joy and Honoring Your Truth28:32 The Power of Decisiveness29:08 Aligning with the Right People30:29 Five Things I No Longer Tolerate32:00 Embracing Courage and Intuition38:23 Setting Boundaries and Sacred Structure48:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

What if I told you your people-pleasing habit was really just a desire to control others?  Typically, this desire for ‘control' stems from a place of survival.  You learned you needed to show up a certain way in order to keep other people happy and avoid conflict, so that they would keep meeting your emotional needs.  But this coping mechanism is only holding you hostage.  Keep listening as I break down the nuanced dark side of this trait, and the first steps to breaking free.    Ready to lose weight, end emotional eating, and truly enjoy the holidays instead of running around frazzled, in survival mode?  Come work with me.  I'll teach you how to re-regulate your nervous system when you get triggered, meet your own emotional needs, and create a life so good you don't need an escape.  Your next best step is to schedule a free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule    Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:24) - People Pleasuring and Control(00:02:03) - People Pleasing and Over-Completing(00:10:33) - How I Got Sucked Into Love Bombing(00:15:58) - How to Get Out of Your Karma Cycle(00:16:31) - The Problem of Controlling Others' Emotions(00:21:00) - How to Stop Being the Responsive Person in a Toxic Relationship(00:25:43) - What Emotions Do I Refuse to Feel?(00:27:15) - What I Learned From Recreation This Year(00:34:27) - People Pleasing During the Holidays(00:38:27) - Binge Eating and Relationship Cycle

In dieser Folge geht es um einen Begriff, den viele Menschen missverstehen: Dienen. Die meisten glauben, dass Dienen gleichbedeutend mit Geben ist. Doch genau das ist die Verstrickung, vor allem für uns Unternehmerinnen ~ für uns Frauen! Wenn wir zu viel von uns geben oder geben, obwohl unser eigenes Fass nicht voll ist – fühlen wir uns leer, übergangen oder sogar von uns selbst missbraucht. Das klingt drastisch, aber genau das wird angetriggert, wenn wir aus einer falschen Definition von Dienen heraus handeln.   Wahrlich zu dienen bedeutet: Dein Vollsein zu teilen, weil Dein Fass vor Fülle ganz natürlich überläuft. ✨ Dann gibst Du niemals etwas von Dir weg. Das ist weibliche Energie in ihrer Essenz! Mach Dich gefasst auf richtig viel Mehrwert und einen hammergeilen Shift durch diesen Deep Dive. Ich wünsche Dir viel Freude beim Hören. ❤️ Von Herz zu Herz, Deine Julia ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ 00:00 Willkommen 02:33 Was Dienen wirklich bedeutet und was es NICHT ist! 25:33 Outro ♡♡ Alle Infos zur GOLEA®️ Academy Premium Coaching & Mentoring Ausbildung findest Du hier: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/golea-academy-2026/ ♡♡ Für NO MORE TRAUMA und NO MORE DRAMA: Eine Reise in ein tieferes Verständnis über Trauma, Drama und das Nervensystem und somit auch eine wahrhaftige Möglichkeit ein für alle Mal aus Deiner Trauma Identität, People Pleasing und Automatismus auszusteigen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/no-more-drama-no-more-trauma/ ♡♡ Wenn Du Dich für eines meiner Angebote interessierst, dann kannst Du Dich auf meiner Website informieren und dort buchen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/ ♡♡

Ever found yourself at the vet swiping your card with one eye closed—just hoping the total isn't another $3,000 surprise? You're not alone.In this episode, Brittany and Christina pull back the curtain on the real cost of pet ownership — the emotional love story that often comes with a hefty price tag. From emergency surgeries to “Can I just pull them out myself?” moments, they dig into how far we go (and how much we spend) for the animals we adore.They chat about the emotional side of spending on pets, how the industry has exploded into a multi-billion-dollar machine, and why it's so hard to draw the line between love and financial logic when it comes to our fur-babies.If you've ever questioned whether that vet visit, dental cleaning, or MRI was “worth it,” this episode will have you nodding, laughing—and maybe rethinking your next pet insurance policy. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

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You can grab Leah's new book here:⁠www.serial-fixer.com⁠In this episode, I'm joined by Leah Marone to explore the intertwined challenges of imposter syndrome and people-pleasing, and how they can silently undermine your confidence and self-esteem.Leah and I dive into practical strategies to:Identify the hidden patterns that keep you stuck seeking approvalBreak free from self-doubt and insecurity that fuel imposter syndromeBuild authentic confidence and trust in your own abilitiesStop shrinking to make others comfortable and start showing up fully as yourselfIf you've ever felt like you're “faking it” or constantly putting others' needs above your own, this episode will guide you toward empowered, authentic self-expression and the confidence to step into your true potential.You can find Leah's new book here:www.serial-fixer.com

How do you actually stop fawning, and what does healing look like in real life? In Part 2 of our convo with Dr. Ingrid Clayton, we dove into boundaries, agency, and what it really takes to step out of survival mode. Ingrid shared her go-to body-based tools—like orienting with the senses, making nature your therapist, building a “pillow palace” like Sarah's, and giving yourself full permission to take up space. Expect honest stories about parenting and relationships as radical acts of autonomy, plus some real-talk on microdosing mushrooms, nervous system hacks, and learning to say what you actually feel. If you've ever felt lost in people-pleasing or longed to reclaim your voice, this episode offers wisdom, compassion, and bite-sized practices to help you trust yourself and move toward genuine self-acceptance.Pick up Ingrid's book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Also follow her on Instagram and Substack @IngridClaytonPhd or visit her website at IngridClayton.com.Also…let it be known that:The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business, individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad.**PRE-ORDER Sarah and Nippy's newest book hereCheck out our amazing sponsorsJoin A Little Bit Culty on PatreonGet poppin' fresh ALBC SwagSupport the pod and smash this linkCheck out our cult awareness and recovery resourcesWatch Sarah's TED Talk and buy her memoir, ScarredCREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony AmesProduction Partner: Citizens of SoundCo-Creator: Jess TardyAudio production: Will RetherfordProduction Coordinator: Lesli DinsmoreWriter: Sandra NomotoSocial media team: Eric Skwarzynski and Brooke KeaneTheme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel AsselinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever feel like you're shapeshifting to make everyone happy? In this episode of Get Psyched, we're slipping into something a little more authentic, exploring how people pleasing might be more about manipulation than you think.We dive into:

In this recap, Lesley and Brad reflect on their powerful conversation with Amber Fuhriman—attorney, NLP trainer, and host of Break Your Bullshit Box. Together they unpack how perfectionism and people-pleasing keep high achievers trapped in fear, and how authenticity, though uncomfortable, is freeing. This episode challenges listeners to take responsibility for their choices and trust that staying authentic is better than constantly seeking approval.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:Why people-pleasing is a hidden form of control, not kindness.How perfectionism hides behind fear and the need for validation.What authentic affirmations sound like without toxic positivity.Why creating an “SOS list” can help you act instead of overthink.How taking responsibility for choices leads to personal freedom.Episode References/Links:Cambodia Retreat Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/eventsPilates Journal Expo - https://xxll.co/pilatesjournalAgency Mini - https://prfit.biz/miniContrology Pilates Conference in Poland - https://xxll.co/polandtContrology Pilates Conference in Brussels - https://xxll.co/brusselseLevate - https://lesleylogan.co/elevateeLevate Waitlist - https://lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlistSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsTiny Habits by BJ Fogg - https://a.co/d/fNNWEahAmber Fuhriman's Website: https://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com90 Day Success Jumpstart Training - https://jumpstart.successdevelopmentsolutions.comBreak Your Bullshit Box Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! 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You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person.Lesley Logan 0:14  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:57  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the candid convo I had with Amber Fuhriman on our last episode. If you haven't listened to that one, you are going to need to listen to that one, because I'm stumbling over my words today. Brad Crowell 1:12  It's a great episode. It's a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 1:14  It's so good, it's so fun. And it was nice as local. And I really like being on her podcast, so you're gonna want to listen to it whether you listen to it first or last, I mean, there's, it's really okay, I think, in life to hear the ending and then watch the show. Sometimes I do that with real life TV, because I just want to know if I'm like, falling like, if I'm like, rooting for a villain or not. I just want to know. I gotta, I gotta have that information now.Brad Crowell 1:35  Yeah, she's not lying. She literally does this. Lesley Logan 1:38  Hey, you know what? Brad Crowell 1:39  Tell me. Lesley Logan 1:39  Bands would like drop just like a single song, but you'd go buy the whole album without listening to it. So you, in fact, knew there's one song I'm gonna love on this. Speaker 1 1:50  I think there's a difference between the teaser of something and the ending conclusion. Lesley Logan 1:55  These are not teasers. The recap episode is teasers. We are taking a talking point each, right? And of the many talking points that they had, so it's like two things.Speaker 1 2:06  I don't know what that has to do with going and watching the end of a TV show before you start the TV show. That's the conclusion versus a teaser. Lesley Logan 2:12  It's a sample, sampling. Brad Crowell 2:14  Okay. Lesley Logan 2:14  Sampling a part. Brad Crowell 2:16  It just happens to be the ending sample. Lesley Logan 2:18  Okay. Well, today is October 30th and we decided we want to talk about tomorrow, because tomorrow is Halloween. And I don't know about you, but I grew up. First of all, I went to some churches where Halloween was, like, just the evilest thing you couldn't even go trick or treating. Did you ever go to a church like that, like, where, like, they didn't even? Brad Crowell 2:35  No. Lesley Logan 2:35  Okay. Your church has always trick or treated? Brad Crowell 2:37  Yes. Lesley Logan 2:38  Okay. So I did not experience that all of my childhood. But then some churches, we could totally trick or treat, and then there were some churches where you could trick or treat, but like people, like whispered, you know. Brad Crowell 2:49  They whispered about trick or treating? Lesley Logan 2:51  At any rate, what no one talks about is how this holiday had nothing to do with the churches, and it wasn't even the Halloween. It was about something else. And we decided to tell you about the true history of Halloween. So.Speaker 1 3:03  Yeah, it's, it's actually like cultural warfare is, if you, if you want to look at it. Lesley Logan 3:08  I know, like, it's like an appropriation. Brad Crowell 3:10  Yeah. Well, they, yes, they appropriated the time and they renamed it. So we'll talk about that. Lesley Logan 3:16  Okay, many, many holidays were done this way. So Halloween originated from the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, right. Brad Crowell 3:24  Samhain. Lesley Logan 3:25  No no. In the thing we looked up, it literally said to how to say it pronounced saa · wn. So Samhain is pronounced saa · wn spelled Samhain, but it's you say it saa · wn, let me go back to my sheet. Okay. A three day celebration held over 2000 years ago that marked the end of the harvest season and the beginning of the dark, cold winter. Are you gonna just.Brad Crowell 3:52  Sorry, just taking over right there. All right, keep going. Lesley Logan 3:55  Okay. Thank you so much. Okay, so the Celts believed that this was a time when the boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead blurred, allowing spirits to roam the earth. To ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings and food outside their homes. Pause, just so you know, also in October in Cambodia, they do something called Pchum Ben and Pchum Ben, Pchum Ben, it is a almost month long celebration in parts of the country, but for sure, a three day celebration where everyone, no one works, including in the tourist city of Siem Reap we're only going to find expats working. You're not going to find a single Cambodian working. And they they don't get dressed up, but they celebrate and they do all these things so like that is awesome.Speaker 1 4:42  Pchum Ben is a Buddhist holiday that is celebrated every year where they believe that the souls of their ancestors are released for 15 days so that they can basically stay with family. Lesley Logan 4:53  Yeah, it's really cool. People like will travel on a moto for 11 hours to go with family. It's freaking crazy. But I just want to say, like, how cool, like, even across the world, the same, similar thing was happening. So to ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they, oh, I already said that part, sorry. Speaker 1 5:09  They lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings, which is actually like it trickles down over the, you know, millennia. And the ancient custom, those ancient customs, kind of evolved into what are now, trick or treating, the costumes, decorations and parties celebrated for modern Halloween. I mean, we don't light bonfires and, you know that kind of a thing (inaudible).Lesley Logan 5:30  No because if you did, people are gonna think that you're a witch. But you can actually just say, no, I'm celebrating. How do you say it? Samhain, I'm celebrating Samhain Okay, so the oh, one more thing on this, the Roman and Christian influence. After the Romans conquered the Celtic lands, Roman festivals like Feralia and Pomona were incorporated into Samhain traditions. Later, the Catholic Church established All Saints Day on November 1st and All Souls Day on November 2nd, making October 31st All Hallows Eves, which means hallowed or holy, right? So they just.Brad Crowell 6:05  Which then become Halloween. Yup.Lesley Logan 6:08  .Yeah, So they just stole it. Brad Crowell 6:10  Yeah. Just just renaming things over here. Lesley Logan 6:12  So if you don't like that I'm harping on the church, you know it, sometimes we have to accept the responsibility of people from our past. Every fucking group of people has done something wrong, but it's more important to be like, educated and understand. And if you love Halloween, I love that for you. I decided to get into Halloween-ish, this year I got witchy nails, which are not done for this recording, but just check out my Instagram. They're witchy nails for me anyways. And when I because I just, like, remember, when I was why does everybody like, this holiday, but now that I, like, know the history of it and what it was for, I actually can get down with it.Speaker 1 6:50  It also marks like, it's actually the end of a season, going into the next season. So it was the end of harvest. So imagine, yeah, imagine, imagine you just spent all season, like, you know, really digging in on the harvest, and now it's time to party, and there's a new season coming. So I feel like it all kind of goes together. Lesley Logan 7:11  And also, like, I mean, just imagine a couple thousand years ago, like, life was so hard. And I also (inaudible), the more you look at the celebrations that they had, it really was like taking a pause of the hard work of life, and doing some sort of way to celebrate that. And we don't do that around here. We just, like, keep working through all the things. And like, at least in the States, maybe you take off a couple days for the actual holidays. And so I just, I feel like this is a holiday that has a lot more history to it. And and I, and I kind of like, what that history is. It seems really beautiful. And what a great way to spend time with family and past loved ones. And also, like, let's not forget, you know, in Mexico, they do Día de Muertos, which is on November 1st, right? Like, the big celebration of the like, there's a lot of different cultures that celebrate the people that have come before them and spend time together. And there's all this stuff. So anyways, just think about that. Think about the loved ones you had, and celebrate the harvesting you did, and report back. Okay.Speaker 1 8:09  Yeah, Lesley and I've been back from Cambodia and Singapore now for a week and a half. And it's just always so refreshing for us to get back to our second family over there. You know, people that we love, the places that we love to be in. The environment over there is just it's so magical. And we would love to have you join us next year, but get on the waitlist, because there's limited amount of spots. We're going to be going in October of next year, but we're going to be announcing all of that in January. So go to crowsnestretreats.com to get on the waitlist for information about the upcoming trip for 2026 we're only going one time next year, only going one time next year. We're only going one one time next year. Lesley Logan 8:50  Are you trying to convince yourself or everyone else? Brad Crowell 8:53  I'm letting everybody know, because a lot of people have said, oh, I'll come with you in the spring, and we're not going in the spring. We are only going in the fall next year, so, side note. Lesley Logan 9:04  And probably the year after that, I just have to say it to you. Brad Crowell 9:06  October 1st, we already rolled out our tour go to opc.me/events to join us for the OPC winter tour. We're gonna be driving all around the United States of America. We're gonna be going from Vegas all the way up to Boston, down to Miami and back. It's gonna be something like 24, 25 locations. It's kind of insane. We're very excited about it. We are going to be even bigger.Lesley Logan 9:28  We're going to studios we've not been to and have been excited. They've been on the list for a while. These are human beings that, like, we have literally been like, how do we make sure we get to see them again?Speaker 1 9:39  But you can find out all the specifics where we're stopping. Go to opc.me/events, chances are high that some locations may already be sold out. Lesley Logan 9:47  Yeah it's been out for a month. Brad Crowell 9:48  Because it's been out for a month. So but go check it out opc.me/tour. Then in January, where are you teaching?Lesley Logan 9:55  We'll be at the Pilates Journal, their first ever event in the U.S. It will be at Huntington Beach. If you go to xxll.co/pilatesjournal, you can get your tickets Brad Crowell 10:03  Pilates Journal Expo. Lesley Logan 10:05  Yeah. So Pilates Journal is a Pilates Journal. It's a magazine, and they.Brad Crowell 10:10  It's free, by the way. Lesley Logan 10:11  Is it? Brad Crowell 10:11  Yeah. The journal they release is free. Lesley Logan 10:14  Oh, I love that. I mean, I always just assumed, I just was given it for free. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Pilates Journal, but I just, I don't know. I just thought maybe they just (inaudible).Brad Crowell 10:23  I'm like 90% sure. Lesley Logan 10:25  But they, they do a really, they do events in Australia and. Brad Crowell 10:28  Yeah, subscribe for free. Lesley Logan 10:29  You can subscribe for free. I've written for articles for them several times. I think it's really worth looking into. But if you're a Pilates teacher, you should come. The lineup is amazing. Several of these teachers have taught. We've all taught together somewhere, but never taught all together. So like you're not going to see this line up again, you might as well come and then in February, we're going to host Agency Mini, that is our business coaching program for Pilates instructors and studio owners. And you're going to want to go to prfit,biz/mini. So it's profit without the O dot B-I-Z slash mini, to get on the waitlist. Also probably in January-ish, they'll be letting the waitlist people get the best discount. So I'm just saying. In March, we're going to two places in Europe. We'll be in Poland, at the Pilates Poland Controlology Pilates Conference. So go to xxll.co/poland by the way, I'm doing that with Karen Frischmann. And so if you like me, and you're gonna like Karen, I'm just gonna tell you right now, she's like, she's extremely smart, extremely knowledgeable. And like, I I feel, I feel like, like, you know how there's like the pop band, and then there's like the, like, uber rock, like, just has done, been doing music for decades, and like, they're just like, that's what it is. And so you, if you don't know Karen, I promise you're gonna love Karen. And if you know Karen, then what are you waiting for? The two of us will be together so we can, like, knock it out in one weekend, or go into Brussels, xxll.co/brussels. We'll be at El's studio there in Brussels, and we're very excited about it, different workshops at each event. So, but same teacher. So you're as long as long as you love Karen and I, or one of us, you're gonna have a great lineup. Just pick the one that works the best for you, and then we will, Brad is gonna take me on a second honeymoon, and then we are going to land and arrive at P.O.T in London. And I don't have a link for you, but you could just Google P.O.T., Balanced Bodies P.O.T. London, It will come up. They have amazing SEO. They're really good at what they do. And you can snag your spot. It is limited, and it sells out every year. So there you go. Before we get into this amazing interview with Amber, what is our question this week?Speaker 1 12:29  @marystarpilates asks, hey, Lesley, do you still do your continued education teacher training program? Where can I find information on that? Thank you so much. So I'm assuming she's talking about eLevate. Lesley Logan 12:41  Yes, I did clarify. And the answer is yes, she's talking about my mentorship program for Pilates instructors. So you have to have, you have to have done a comprehensive program in that, like, you should have been trained on the mat, Reformer, Cadillac or Tower and Chair, right? The Wunda Chair. Of course, I'd love it if you (inaudible) on the barrels. But like, I'm not worried about you being overwhelmed by the fifth weekend, but you need and then you have to have access to a mat, a Reformer, a Tower, Cadillac, a Chair and a Barrel. So you don't have to have a full studio access. It doesn't have to be classical. In fact, I work with both classically trained and contemporary trained people who are classic, classically curious, classical people who feel like they were like, taught this, like, rigid, you know, culty perfect way of doing Pilates, and they would like to have a little bit more fun. And we just really break down and ditch perfection and get really excited about what Joe gave us and what the intentions were, and free you from thinking you need to have a million fucking cues all the time. And also really help you with your own personal practice. Help you with seeing, help you with patience in your teaching. And so if you go to lesleylogan.co/elevate, you can learn more about it if you do the same exact URL, but add waitlist to it. So lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlist, you can get on the waitlist for the next one, because this upcoming what year are we in right now? So 2026, is next year is sold out. Sold out. You can reach out to us. You never know what might happen. But 2027 is where we're already we're actually already taking people, taking applications, selling spots. The reality is mentorship programs like this. I have friends who have one who are five years booked in the future. I'm not going out that far. I'm kind of a year in advance kind of person, but if you know you want it then you can plan ahead. So that's what I would say. Speaker 1 14:24  Yeah, awesome. Well, stick around. We'll be, oh, actually. Lesley Logan 14:28  Go to beitpod you want to send us questions. Brad Crowell 14:30  Yeah, you have to join us for all these questions. Your participation is required, or we don't get to ask answer your questions. So 310-905-5534, hit us up or.Lesley Logan 14:39  And I want some fun questions. I want, I want relationship questions. I want family questions. I want career questions. I want some (inaudible) questions. Brad Crowell 14:50  She wants some juicy questions.Lesley Logan 14:51  I want, I want, I want. I also want the gossip that comes with the questions. You could be anonymous. Speaker 1 14:58  Go to beitpod.com/questions, where you can leave a win or a question. Thank you for that. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to talk about Amber Fuhrman. Amber Fuhriman is a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser and an attorney who now works as a coach, human behavior expert and podcaster. As a certified trainer of neuro linguistic programming or NLP, and host of the More Than Corporate Podcast. She blends her legal background with mindset and performance coaching to help high achievers push past limiting beliefs and perfectionism. And after years of believing success was about money and titles, Amber has redefined it as freedom choice and building a life that truly feels fulfilling. A lot of relation like a relatability here with her story and just.Lesley Logan 15:43  I know, another guest where it's like, oh, we're, like, just on the same we're on the same longitude, you know, just a different latitude. Like, she's doing something very similar, like it's, we're on the same longitude, but a different latitude, you know, like, like, Joe Allen was doing similar things with the orthodontist. And we do what we do for Pilates instructors and studio owners, and she does what she does for like, other professional it's just very cool. But also I love how our lives can bring a different lens to it, a different focus to what we do. And we I really appreciate her willingness and interest in like, we talk about people pleasing, and we talk about a bunch of stuff, but I just really got excited about talking about people pleasing because, like, how many of our listeners, how many people do we know that are doing things that are people pleasing? Brad Crowell 16:26  Well, I thought her definition of it was, she said, people pleasing is when you consider other people's feelings before you consider your own. And I thought that was interesting, especially because, you know, and then y'all talked about how.Lesley Logan 16:47  Yeah, we talked about see, so, like, I also think that some people pleasers are it's just another form of control. By the way, you can also be you're controlling people's emotions as well, or the outcome of people's emotions. But we, she clarified that not people pleasing doesn't mean being an asshole. Just for the purpose of being an asshole, like it's about instead about being authentic and speaking your truth. So meaning, like a lot of people will go to dinner with a family member on Thursday to people please, rather than which is not authentic, by the way, because you don't want to be there. You're gonna be somewhere else. So you're actually that's kind of, I think you're more of an asshole if you're people pleasing because you're not being authentic. I think that's we should re define people pleasing as being an asshole, a non-authentic person.Brad Crowell 17:28  Not authentic person. Lesley Logan 17:30  Yeah. So she advised, like, what you can do when you're not people pleasing is, like, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human So, meaning you decided to not people please. Someone had a reaction that was not something that you liked like all, that they're upset that you're not doing the thing for them. And so like, you get to ask yourself, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human being? If the answer is yes, then I will not apologize when I'm 100% in alignment with my actions. And you can understand that and accept me for I am, or you don't accept me and like, that is really hard for a lot of people, because, like, I'm gonna lose people. You guys were allowed to lose people in our life. We just are, and it's gonna happen. Like, it's impossible. It's impossible to keep everyone happy with you all of the time. There's just not, there's no way that is going to even be a possibility. And so if you are, if you are actually being authentic in alignment with how you feel and you speak that and someone doesn't like it, you are not in the wrong. They are also, by the way, there might not even be in the wrong.Speaker 1 18:29  I mean, look, you could be in the wrong, but if you are doing this to protect yourself or to stop people pleasing, this is when you have to ask yourself these questions. You know, were the actions I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human? If that's the case, then, then you can confidently move forward knowing that you weren't doing it to hurt them. You were doing it to uphold your own values, right? So if you were doing it to hurt them, then don't be an asshole. But if you're doing it to uphold your own values, that that's different.Lesley Logan 19:00  If you were doing it then hurt them. Sorry. You are being an asshole. But I just think that the more we can understand ourselves, the recovering people pleasers that we are, these are gonna be conversations you have to have with yourself. You're going to have to chit chat with yourself about like, okay, but give yourself pep talk. I want to be this person who speaks my heart, who shares how I feel, who's honest with how and will I will spend time with people, and that is going to upset some people who would like me to have more of me or have me at this thing. But I'm not in the wrong. I'm not an asshole. I'm being authentic and like, they will either come around or they won't. Speaker 1 19:35  Yeah, I really liked when she was talking about the like, toxic positivity, like, fake it till you make it. Where she was talking about, she, basically, I just, she was so frustrated about the idea of it, and she, she was like, don't ever put me in a room with people who believe this, because she's gonna lose her shit.Lesley Logan 19:59  Yeah, I want to be in that room. Actually, is that terrible? I like, I would like her to, like, she's such a good person with words. I would love to and she's a lawyer, so she's so good at articulating. Speaker 1 20:11  I mean she talked about, she talked about, you can't lie to yourself and convince you like you can, but there's dissidence that's happening when you're lying yourself in that way. And she said, the brain doesn't like distance between what is being said and what is truly believed. So, you know, she said, instead of doing that, instead of being like, I'm amazing, I'm beautiful in the mirror every morning, kind of a thing, she said, she advocates for affirmations that acknowledge the gap between who I think I am now and who I need to be in order to accomplish this. You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person, right? That's different than, you know, like.Lesley Logan 20:49  Like people do I am, I am rich. But if you're, like, barely able to pay your bills, like the brain is, that is not helpful. So I am becoming rich.Brad Crowell 20:57  Or I make decisions that are going to make me rich. Lesley Logan 21:00  Yes, I make decisions that are making me rich. I am on my way to abundance. I am, you know? Speaker 1 21:05  Yeah, I like that. And so it's, it's nuanced. It's nuanced here, you know, but I, but I actually appreciated that, and I thought, oh, that's a cool way to to adjust it, because sometimes it does feel fake, and that's annoying, and that's not, that's not. I have a hard time embracing that too, so I get that.Lesley Logan 21:20  Well, because scientifically, like in behavior science, like the brain, doesn't like dissonance, right? So, BJ Fogg, his sister, she was talking about how, you know, one of the habits, BJ likes to get people to start with from reading his book, it's like every day, get out of bed, you put your feet on the floor, like everybody does this. You can literally start a habit. Tomorrow morning, you put your feet on the floor. You say, today is going to be amazing. Or you can say, I'm amazing, but, like, usually he would say, today's me amazing day. And then you stand up and like, you like, so you want and like, it's a great first habits, a great way to start the day. And she, like, talked to us just like, yeah, so my husband died, and on the day of his funeral, I'm not going to put my feet on the floor. I go today is an amazing day. Because the brain isn't like dissonance, and that's gonna screw the habit up, right? Because it's gonna be like, oh, this is not real. So what she said is, today is going to be as good as it can be, right? And that's an honest thing. And so I think where she's.Speaker 1 22:16  And it's an affirmation, you know, like, still, is putting you on like, a path to see the good in the day. Lesley Logan 22:22  Without it being toxic positivity. It's like, it's an and so I actually really appreciated that because we taught we have a lot of people talk about, like, affirmation and mantras. And hers is like, yeah, so have ones that are that are actually helping you be it till you see it, not that are lying to you about what you are. That's not gonna be helpful. She's just super cool. I mean, I listened before I was on her podcast, because I met her in person for the podcast. I listened to several of her episodes, and I was just like, I feel like I'm learning so much. Brad Crowell 22:48  That's cool. Love it.Lesley Logan 22:49  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you don't have to put her on faster speed, just gonna be really honest, you can put it on a regular speed, because I had it on 1.75 I was like, maybe we'll take that down a little bit. It's like listening to me.Speaker 1 23:00  That's hilarious. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into those into those Be It Action Items that you have with Amber Fuhriman in just a minute. Brad Crowell 23:10  All right, welcome back. So finally, what Be It Action Items, can we take away from your convo with Amber? Oh, I said that differently this time. For those of you who say it along with me, say it along with me. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Amber Fuhriman? She said, hey, when you are struggling with overthinking or in or you are struggling with intense emotions, this is really cool y'all. She said, create an SOS list, meaning the list of people that you are flashing the SOS sign to, right? And this list is just two or three trusted people who you can reach out to, and they can be your gauge for you, right, that they can help you when you know you're spiraling out, like if, if you know, for example, if you are like an overthinker and you can't put it into action, and you recognize I'm overthinking again. I'm not acting. I need you to actually just get started. You can text your SOS list, you know, but first ask them if that, you know, they're willing to be on it. But you can develop a specific, predetermined SOS phrase, like Amber said, I'm stuck at the airport, right? And for her, being stuck at the airport is like she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, but she's never taken off. She's never taken off. She's always stuck at the airport. So she said, explain what the SOS phrase means to you, and clarify that if you send that message to your people on the SOS list, it really means I need somebody to check in on me right now. So for example, you know, I imagine it may change over time. You know, what does your SOS mean, right? Especially when Amber's partner died, I imagine it was a, you know, a different reason to be reaching out than now where she's, you know, it's been a couple of years, and she's moving on, and she's running a company and things like that. You know. So she said, it really will help you have somebody check in on you. Who, who you trust to understand like, I need help right now. So when you find yourself in those overwhelm moments, send an SOS to your list. And she said the decision to ask for help actually allows your brain to see solutions. Okay, even if they don't get back to you instantaneously, it will put you on a different path to see solutions, particularly helpful for recovering perfectionists who find it really hard to say, I actually need some help right now. So really cool idea. Lesley Logan 25:35  Something has nothing to do with what we're talking about now, right now. But like my brain went to this person, somebody in China, bought a first class ticket to some Chinese airline, which means that you get to eat in the first class lounge before you take off. And because it's a first class ticket, it's like fully refundable and transferable. So for 300 times, 300 meals, this person would check into the airport, check into the first class lounge, eat for free, and then reschedule their ticket. And they did this 300 times before anyone's like, what is this person doing? So talk about being stuck at the airport, and I just thought, is the food that good? Because the actual like going to an airport, getting into a first class lounge is so annoying.Speaker 1 26:27  Even the food at the Centurion lounge, it's good, but I wouldn't say it's great. Lesley Logan 26:31  And also, not all Centurion lounges are created equal. I like ours, but the L.A. one, you can get it together as can you JFK, just saying, Okay, my big, back on track. Brad Crowell 26:41  Yeah, how about you over here? Lesley Logan 26:43  Recognize you have complete control over your daily decisions. You've complete control your daily decisions. I think we like to outsource decisions like I can't do that because x, y and z, but you have complete control over your daily decisions. And if you're unhappy, you have to dig into the decisions you're making to create that situation. Are you saying yes to things you should be saying no to? Are you staying up late the night before so you feel like shit in the morning, right? So understand that avoiding a decision is still a decision. Oh, avoiding a decision is still a decision, and make different choices to change your outcomes. She also said.Speaker 1 27:22  I think that's been the biggest thing that has changed my stress level is that I would avoid making a decision, but in the back of my mind, it was still I knew I had to address this thing, whatever this thing would be. It didn't matter what it was like, I might like just be unwilling to open a text message from somebody because I knew it was going to launch a whole thing. I got to go down this thing and then I would push it off, and then, you know, or it's like email inbox kind of stuff, too, like, avoid it, avoid it until it's like an actual problem. Yeah, and that was one of the biggest changes, was making the decision to stop avoiding things and to just hug a cactus, as it were. But I love that. I think, I think acknowledging that avoiding a decision is actually still a decision that was super helpful for me.Lesley Logan 28:08  And she said, consider her 90 Day Success Jumpstart Training or join her free Break Your Bullshit Box community. So I and that's on Facebook, if you, if you go there, I mean honest on I went on Facebook the other day, and I was like, oh, wow, look at all these people I can unfollow. Thank you for acknowledging yourself, sir and sir and you so anyways. But I just thought this is such a bright, wonderful, honest and maybe a little maybe you feel called out, maybe you feel called out, and maybe you need to, because you got to break your bullshit. You know. And I just think a lot of us the what's getting in the way of being it till we see it is people pleasing and telling ourselves that we don't have control over certain things, some things you do, and we just gotta be honest about that. So, share this with a friend who needs to hear it, especially the people pleasing one, because those people can bother your life too. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 28:56  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 28:58  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Speaker 1 29:40  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 29:45  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co. Speaker 1 29:50  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan 29:57  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals. Speaker 1 30:00  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time. Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you constantly saying yes when your heart is screaming no? Do you find yourself seeking approval, even at the cost of your own peace? And have you ever wondered what your life might look like if you finally took off the mask and started living for you?In this episode of Masks Off, host Kim Gross opens up about her personal struggle with people-pleasing and the fear of rejection that once controlled her choices. From the pressure to start a family to the quiet suffering of always putting others first, Kim shares her raw and honest journey toward finding freedom and authenticity.You'll learn:

Are silent habits secretly holding you back from success? In this episode of Money Motivation & Mike, we uncover 9 hidden behaviors that drain your energy, waste your time, and sabotage your growth. From people pleasing and procrastination to multitasking and holding grudges — we break them all down so you can reclaim focus and peace of mind.We share real stories, relatable examples, and practical strategies to help you identify which habits are holding YOU back. Recognize them, fix them, and get your energy back!

Do you keep saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”?Are you exhausted from overgiving, overapologizing, and overextending yourself?What if people pleasing isn’t kindness at all—but self-abandonment in disguise? In this eye-opening solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia unpacks the truth about people pleasing: why it feels like safety but actually chips away at your self-worth, your energy, and even your relationships. Radhi breaks down the hidden cost of constantly putting others first, how it disconnects you from your authentic self, and why being agreeable doesn’t actually bring you closer to people—it creates distance. With honesty and compassion, Radhi shares practical steps to start breaking free from the cycle: how to set boundaries, clarify your capacity, and pause before you say yes. She also explores the hard truth that other people’s reactions are not your responsibility—and why your integrity matters more than their approval. This episode is about rebuilding trust with yourself, honoring your limits, and showing up as the real you—without guilt, fear, or apology. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness How to recognize the physical signs that a boundary has been crossed Practical scripts you can use to say no without overexplaining Why resentment is your body’s signal that you’ve overextended How to rewrite the old story: “I need to please to be loved” Why doing less with the right intention matters more than doing more with the wrong one If you’ve been disappearing into the version of yourself everyone else wants, this episode is your reminder that you are lovable, worthy, and enough—without having to earn it. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Owen Poole covers the big tech stories of the day. Apple will add passports to its digital ID system in Wallet. As the Twitter domain retires, you could get locked out of your X account. A new study says AI chatbots are sycophants, and that's hurting science.

Owen Poole covers the big tech stories of the day. Apple will add passports to its digital ID system in Wallet. As the Twitter domain retires, you could get locked out of your X account. A new study says AI chatbots are sycophants, and that's hurting science.

What if the thing you've been calling “people-pleasing” is actually your nervous system doing a full-blown survival routine? In this episode, we welcomed Dr. Ingrid Clayton, clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and author of Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Part memoir, part emotional mic-drop, Ingrid's work reframes “fawning” as a deeply human, body-based response—not a character flaw—and helps us see how our most selfless instincts can actually mask self-abandonment. We unpacked the messy truth about over-apologizing, over-functioning, and why some of us can't bring ourselves to hit “unsubscribe.” From survival to healing to what it really means to reclaim your autonomy, Ingrid's insights hit right in the gut (and somehow also feel like a hug). Welcome to Fawn Star Academy! Class is in session.Be sure to pick up Ingrid's book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Also follow her on Instagram and Substack @IngridClaytonPhd or visit her website at IngridClayton.com.Also…let it be known that:The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business, individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad.**PRE-ORDER Sarah and Nippy's newest book hereCheck out our amazing sponsorsJoin A Little Bit Culty on PatreonGet poppin' fresh ALBC SwagSupport the pod and smash this linkCheck out our cult awareness and recovery resourcesWatch Sarah's TED Talk and buy her memoir, ScarredCREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony AmesProduction Partner: Citizens of SoundCo-Creator: Jess TardyAudio production: Will RetherfordProduction Coordinator: Lesli DinsmoreWriter: Sandra NomotoSocial media team: Eric Skwarzynski and Brooke KeaneTheme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel AsselinSUPPORT OUR SPONSORS:Whether you're chasing deeper sleep, better focus, or just some peace between your streaming marathons—this is how adults get elevated now. If you're 21 or older, now's your chance to float above the stress—because IndaCloud is giving all new customers 25% off their first order plus free shipping. Just use code CULTY at indacloud.co or click this link to claim your discount.Calm your mind, change your life. Calm has an exclusive offer just for listeners of our show–get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at calm.com/culty.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Irene Gomez stepped into her role as director at the J Center for Early Learning in El Paso, Texas, she carried what so many new leaders do: hyper-responsibility, people-pleasing, and the pressure to be the “hero” in every situation.In this episode, Irene shares her journey inside the Schools of Excellence coaching program and the transformation that followed—from chasing fires and working late nights, to leading with clarity, boundaries, and trust.You'll hear how a calendar became her leadership lifeline, how gratitude reshaped her staff culture, and how self-trust shifted her from over-functioning into a confident leader who now builds sustainable rhythms for her team and balance for her family.This isn't just a story of better systems. It's a story of reclaiming identity, building trust, and choosing to lead without sacrificing health or home.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why boundaries start with the leader, not with the staffHow shifting from “hero” to CEO changes your school cultureThe role of one-on-one meetings in building trust and career growth for teachersWhy specific gratitude builds safety and resilience in teamsHow leadership growth impacts marriage, parenting, and personal lifeWhy coaching is never “one more thing”—it's the foundation of sustainable leadershipKey InsightsBoundaries are for you first. Without them, you'll always default to rescuing instead of leading.Culture starts with trust. One-on-ones and specific gratitude create safety for real conversations.You can't hustle your way to sustainability. Systems and rhythms—not over-functioning—are what hold schools together.Personal growth multiplies. When leaders evolve, staff mirror that same growth in respect, empowerment, and culture.Memorable Quotes“The boundaries weren't just for others—they were for me.” – Irene Gomez“True success is having a strong team that wants to stay forever.” – Irene Gomez“Enough isn't about getting ahead. It's about trusting that what you did today was enough.” – Chanie WilschanskiWhy This Matters for School LeadersEnds the cycle of firefighting and hyper-responsibilityBuilds cultures of trust where staff thrive and turnover decreasesProtects leaders' health, marriage, and family timeShows how leadership coaching transforms not just schools, but livesResources & Next StepsReflect: Where in your leadership are you holding on to hyper-responsibility?Audit your staff culture: Are you building trust, or chasing harmony?Share this episode with a fellow leader who feels stuck in people-pleasingReady to stop holding everything together alone? Book your Leadership Reset Consultation—a 90-minute strategy session that gives you a 30-day roadmap to build rhythms your team will actually own. Learn more here.

In this refreshingly honest episode, Brittany and Christina dive into the world of skin treatments, self-care, and the modern perception of beauty. From micro-needling and recovery realities to the deeper conversation about aging gracefully versus chasing “natural beauty,” the duo explores what it truly means to feel confident in your own skin.They talk openly about the pressures women face to look “effortless”, why “aggressive treatments” can sometimes deliver the best results, and how appearance impacts confidence, first impressions, and opportunities in both personal and professional settings.This isn't a conversation about vanity—it's about ownership, empowerment, and redefining beauty standards on your own terms. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet. _____ -BetterHelp: If you're struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.com Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

This week, Scheana sits down with Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app, to talk all things energy, alignment, and stepping into your future self. Mimi opens up about hitting rock bottom in every area of her life—the five pillars: mental, physical, financial, spiritual, and social—and how that led her to create Activations, short motivational audios that rewire your mindset while you live your life. The two dive into intuition, boundaries, perfectionism, people pleasing, and the power of listening to your gut. Scheana shares how trusting hers led to a major career decision, while Mimi explains why transformation isn't about being perfect—it's about how fast you bounce back. Plus, they get into manifesting love, quantum energy, “Be Her Now” habits, and yes… their shared Hannah Montana era. Try Activations with a free 14-day trial and exclusive discount at activations.com/goodasgoldFollow us: @scheana @scheananigans Guest: @mimibouchard @activationsapp Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.comEpisode Sponsors:Get 50% off your first online order at littlespoon.com/GOODASGOLD with code GOODASGOLD at checkout.Get 45% off your first subscription order of 30-servings of Coffee+. You'll also receive a starter kit with over $100 in free gifts by going to everydaydose.com/SCHEANA or entering SCHEANA at checkout.Head to Mood.com, browse their amazing selection of functional gummies, and find the perfect gummy for whatever you're dealing with. And remember to use promo code goodasgold at checkout to save 20% on your first order.Head to https://www.squarespace.com/GOODASGOLD to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code GOODASGOLD.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, we're exploring the science behind why we haven't been able to think our way out of perfectionist and people pleasing tendencies. To help us with this, our guest is Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina,  a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. She is the author of  "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits", which you can pick up now: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Beatriz is passionate about helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.You're going to walk away with some great information on how to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system, something we all can benefit from right now.Links mentioned:Whitexicans restaurant: https://www.forbes.com/sites/dougmelville/2025/10/21/as-whitexicans-restaurant-opens-locals-protest-the-name-is-it-racist-or-satire/James by Percival Everett:https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/percival-everett/james/9781035031269Tamarindo is a lighthearted show hosted by Brenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval talking about politics, culture, and self-development. We're here to uplift our community through powerful conversations with changemakers, creatives, and healers. Join us as we delve into discussions on race, gender, representation, and life! You can get in touch with us at www.tamarindopodcast.comBrenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval are executive producers of Tamarindo podcast with production support by Karina Riveroll of Sonoro Media. Jeff Ricards produced our theme song. If you want to support our work, please rate and review our show here.SUPPORT OUR SHOWContribute to the show: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tamarindopodcast1Follow Tamarindo on instagram @tamarindopodcast and on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TamarindoPodcast-143 Tamarindo's mission is to use laughter and conversation to inform, inspire and positively impact our community. Learn more at tamarindopodcast.com