Podcasts about people pleasing

Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Jared to talk about why so many of us get stuck living for other people instead of ourselves. Jared shares his own people-pleaser habits, and Dr. Paula explains how that pressure to keep everyone happy ends up hurting our confidence and relationships. They break down how to build emotional resilience, sit with discomfort, and stop chasing outside validation. If you're tired of performing for the world, this episode shows you how to live more honestly and on your own terms.Check out more of Dr. Paula! : @mindfuldrpaulaToxic Striving on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Striving-Wellness-Culture-Stressed/dp/1648484069Exclusive $35-off Carver Mat Frames at https://on.auraframes.com/JTRAIN Promo Code JTRAIN

We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes! Today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holiday season is upon us! This can bring a lot of anxiety for some... Honestly, for most. Now is the time to start navigating how to handle some of the tough situations. Most people in the weight loss community are people pleasers by nature. It's what we've always done. But it doesn't typically serve us. The healthiest thing you can do for yourself this holiday season is remove yourself from the role of people pleaser! It is ok to take a pass on Aunt Suzie's world famous pie (unless it's incredible and you REALLY want it!). It's ok to NOT give in to buying the most expensive gifts. It's ok to decline an invite to a gathering that doesn't align with your goals. Bottom line... it's ok to do what serves YOU! The first thing you can do to set yourself up for success over the holidays is to set boundaries early on and actually stick to them. Listen in as we talk through our strategies and what we've learned over the years. On the next podcast, we will discuss wrapping up 2025 and setting yourself up for 2026. We hope you all have the best holiday season, with minimal stress!Follow Justy & Steph on Instagram, where they share their weight loss journey and road to living a happy & healthy lifestyle.@we.are.losing.it If you prefer video to see us talk through our topics, you can watch us on YouTube. https://youtube.com/@wearelosingitShow your support by hitting download, like & subscribe! We truly appreciate each and every one of you!!

The holidays tend to bring out the best and the most challenging parts of family dynamics. In today's episode, we're talking about how to stop people pleasing during the holidays, especially when you're splitting time between families, navigating tough conversations, and dealing with relatives who forget their filters. Follow the Podcast on Insta: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdviceInsta⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the Podcast on TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdviceTikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Ashley: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/ashnichole/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Taryne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/tarynerenee/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Become a premium subscriber today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UAPodcastSupercast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To watch our podcast on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UAPodcastYouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To send us your questions/stories, email us at: AdviceUnsolicitedPod@gmail.com To check out our UA MERCH: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/unsolicitedadvicemerchandise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your relationship is stuck in a painful communication breakdown, I want you to know you're not crazy and you're not alone. In this episode, I'm sharing how the right solution-focused therapy techniques can start shifting the energy between you, even if things feel really bad right now. I'm joined by solution-focused brief psychotherapist and author of Change Your Questions, Change Your Future, Elliott Connie, and we're talking about why endlessly analyzing what went wrong rarely creates the change you're craving. Instead, we look at how hope, better questions, and small, intentional acts of love can reopen doors that you were pretty sure were slammed shut: from a “hopeless” divorced couple who ended up with ten beautiful years of remarried life, to the quiet experiment of really studying your partner and giving them more of what you know makes them feel loved. Along the way, we wrestle with the hard stuff too: blame, “I'm the victim here,” boundaries vs. checking out, and whether you're people-pleasing or simply showing up as the kind of partner you want to be. As you listen, I'd love for you to ask yourself: If hope came back into this relationship, what would actually be different between us? And who do I want to be in that story? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Relationships Really Fail: Losing Hope, Not Love 01:19 Solution-Focused Therapy vs Traditional Couples Counseling 06:03 Insight vs Healing: Why Understanding the Problem Won't Fix Your Relationship 10:48 How Hope Heals Relationships: The Most Important Ingredient in Change 15:36 Court-Ordered Co-Parents to Remarried: Elliot Connie's “Finding Nemo” Case Study 22:19 Ending the Blame Game: Taking Personal Responsibility in Marriage Conflicts 27:09 Try This Tonight: Small Acts of Love That Rebuild Emotional Connection 32:02 Is Your Partner Reciprocating? How to Read the Signs and What to Do Next 34:23 Change Your Questions, Change Your Future in Love and Relationships 36:51 Making Your Partner's Happiness Your Job Without Losing Yourself 41:35 People-Pleasing, Boundaries, and Knowing When a Relationship Is Unhealthy 44:54 How to Get More Help for Your Relationship and Personal Growth If this conversation is bringing a particular argument or painful cycle to mind and you can feel your body tense up at the thought of talking about it, I created something to walk alongside you. My Communication That Connects training is where I take you deeper into the heart of this work: the real issues that drive conflict, the evidence-based do's and don'ts of communication that creates connection instead of distance, and a clear framework you can start using with your partner right away.  And if you're at the point where you're thinking, “We cannot keep doing this by ourselves,” I would be truly honored to support you more directly. At Growing Self, you can tell us what's going on, what you've already tried, and what you're hoping for, and we'll thoughtfully connect you with the right therapist or coach on my team. It's a private, secure way to say, “Here's what I'm struggling with,” and get matched with someone who can walk through this with you, step by step. You can begin that process by scheduling a consultation. You deserve a relationship where hard conversations are survivable, you feel heard and cherished, and love feels like a safe place to land.

In this episode, Christina shares a hilarious moment when her watch strap snapped and clattered to the floor — the kind of everyday chaos every woman knows too well. But the real twist? What happened next: a packed jewelry store, lineups, and people buying high-ticket items like the economy didn't get the memo.Brittany jumps in with her signature perspective, highlighting how these tiny everyday moments tell bigger stories about people, spending habits, and the weird contradictions of “the economy.” Is it struggling? Thriving? Or just… confusing?From watch fails to unexpected behavioral insights, this convo reminds us that the most ordinary moments are often the most revealing — and the most entertaining.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

What’s been making you doubt yourself lately? What do you think triggered that feeling? Today, Jay welcomes back his friend Roxie Nafousi to unpack what confidence actually looks and feels like, not the glossy, loud, performative version, but the quiet inner knowing that you are enough as you are. They start by breaking down how much of our insecurity comes from the stories we tell ourselves: the overthinking before we walk into a room, the mental replay after we walk out, and the way we let validation, or the lack of it, shape our worth. Roxie then opens up about something she’s never shared publicly: her long struggle with body dysmorphic disorder. She talks honestly about the thoughts that dominated her life, the fear of being seen, and the belief that changing her appearance would quiet the constant self-criticism. Jay meets her with compassion as they unpack how these patterns form, how they shape the way you move through the world, and how healing begins with learning to speak to yourself with empathy instead of judgment. Jay and Roxie offer a roadmap that anyone can follow: mastering your inner voice, letting go of the pressure to be liked by everyone, celebrating the small wins, and choosing to show up as the version of yourself your higher self would be proud of. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Redefine Confidence From the Inside Out How to Stop Seeking External Validation How to Manage Comparison Before It Controls You How to Think Like Your Higher Self How to Break Free From People-Pleasing How to Handle Rejection Without Blaming Yourself How to Replace Self-Criticism With Self-Awareness When you start choosing compassion over judgment, intention over fear, and growth over perfection, you slowly reconnect with the part of yourself that’s always been there. The journey isn’t about becoming someone new, it’s about finally seeing who you’ve been all along. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:21 Is External Validation Ever Healthy? 08:25 A 7-Step Path to Rebuilding Confidence 10:57 How Men and Women Show Confidence Differently 12:29 Mastering the Thoughts That Shape Your Reality 17:19 Self-Awareness vs. Self-Criticism 22:28 Meet the Best Version of You 26:26 Stop Trying to Be Liked by Everyone! 31:49 How Encouragement Boosts Performance 34:07 You Can’t Be Everyone’s Favorite and That’s Okay 38:42 People-Pleasing vs. Making People Happy 42:57 Practicing Radical Acceptance After Rejection 44:54 Your Mind Creates Stories That Aren’t True 47:16 Taking Responsibility Without Blaming Yourself 50:44 Why Feeling Worthy Now Matters Most 53:18 Healing the Roots of Deep Self-Loathing 01:06:27 Why Vulnerability Is a Form of Confidence 01:10:25 Your Mind Is More Powerful Than You Think 01:13:10 Are We Too Exposed to Our Own Reflection? 01:17:18 Managing BDD With Compassion and Awareness 01:22:04 The Importance of Celebrating Ourselves 01:24:09 What’s the Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance 01:27:45 How to Make Self-Celebration a Daily Habit 01:29:51 Catch People Doing Things Right Episode Resources: Roxie Nafousi | Website Roxie Nafousi | Instagram Roxie Nafousi | Facebook Roxie Nafousi | X Roxie Nafousi | LinkedIn Roxie Nafousi | TikTok Manifest: 7 Steps to Living Your Best LifeConfidence: Eight Steps to Knowing Your WorthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!What if your “little food problem” — the restriction, bingeing, or rigid food rules — is actually your nervous system trying to survive?In this powerful conversation, I'm joined by Marnie Davis, LMHC, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and Consultant, Certified EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA-Approved Consultant, and HAES®-aligned clinician.Together, we explore the hidden link between people pleasing, trauma, neurodivergence, and eating disorders — and why so many women, clinicians, and families completely miss what's really happening beneath the surface.This is a compassionate, non-shaming, neurodivergent-affirming episode that reframes eating disorders from “What's wrong with me?” to “What happened to me, and how did my system try to keep me alive?”⚠️ Content Note: We discuss eating disorders, body image, trauma, dissociation, and co-occurring mental health struggles. Please listen with care and take breaks as needed.✨ In This Episode, We Explore:How, from a trauma lens, eating disorders are maladaptive coping strategies that once made sense to your systemThe impact of attachment injuries, perfectionism, and people-pleasing on food, body image, and controlWhy eating disorders are not about vanity or willpower, but about safety, power, and relief from overwhelming sensations and emotionsThe role of culture, family rules, and “finish your plate” messages in shaping food beliefsHow neurodivergent brains (ADHD, autism, sensory sensitivities) can be especially vulnerable to disordered eatingWhy one person dies every hour from an eating disorder and why a comprehensive medical + therapeutic team is crucialWhat healing can look like: becoming more self-led, value-driven, and authentically you

In dieser Folge erzähle ich dir, warum ich meine Arbeit komplett neu ausgerichtet habe – weg von Selbstoptimierung, hin zu echter Klarheit.Wenn du dich im Kopf-Chaos, Overthinking und „ich muss noch besser werden“ verloren hast: Diese Folge ist für dich.Du erfährst:warum viele Frauen im Funktionieren stecken bleibenwie ich heute mit Coaching x Human Design x Astro arbeite – ohne Eso-Blawas es wirklich braucht, um aus innerem Chaos einen roten Faden zu machenund warum Klarheit kein Mindset ist, sondern ein Prozess

 What You'll Learn in This Episode1. The “Always-Available Executive” PatternWhy leaders feel compelled to stay on call 24/7 and the subconscious fear that drives it.2. The High-Achiever Who Can't Say NoHow guilt-based decision-making leads to overcommitment and delayed growth.3. The Hidden Burnout of Emotionally Compassionate LeadersWhy “carrying everyone's pain” becomes a silent tax on mental health.4. The Real Cause of Burnout: Subconscious BeliefsHow identity-level scripts — not poor time management — create chronic overwhelm.5. The Internal Shifts Required to Lead from WholenessPractical mindset shifts and boundary strategies that restore energy and clarity.About the Mini-CourseThis course is built for high-capacity leaders who:Overextend themselves without meaning toStruggle saying “no” even when responsibilities pile upFeel their compassion and responsibility becoming heavy weightsWant to break burnout cycles at the identity level — not the behavior levelInside the Mini-Course, you'll discover:How to identify burnout-causing beliefsTools to retrain your subconscious patternsFrameworks for guilt-free boundariesMethods for restoring 20–30% more mental and emotional clarityStrategies for sustainable leadership that doesn't cost you your healthBlack Friday Exclusive OfferFor a limited time, listeners can access this new Mini-Course at a special Black Friday rate.This is Jahmaal's way of ensuring that leaders have the tools they need to step into the next year with clarity and capacity without financial barriers.Access the Black Friday Offer HERE Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Welcome to The Daily, where we study the Bible verse by verse, chapter by chapter, every day. Today's shout-out goes to Ronald Stephans. Your commitment through Project23 helps deliver God's Word daily with clarity and conviction. This one's for you. Our text today is Judges 14:15-18 "On the fourth day they said to Samson's wife, 'Entice your husband to tell us what the riddle is, lest we burn you and your father's house with fire. Have you invited us here to impoverish us?' And Samson's wife wept over him and said, 'You only hate me; you do not love me. You have put a riddle to my people, and you have not told me what it is.' And he said to her, 'Behold, I have not told my father nor my mother, and shall I tell you?' She wept before him the seven days that their feast lasted, and on the seventh day he told her, because she pressed him hard. Then she told the riddle to her people. And the men of the city said to him on the seventh day before the sun went down, 'What is sweeter than honey? What is stronger than a lion?' And he said to them, 'If you had not plowed with my heifer, you would not have found out my riddle.'"— Judges 14:15-18 Samson's wife was terrified. Her own people threatened her life, so she turned the pressure onto Samson. For seven days, she cried, nagged, and manipulated until Samson finally caved. He betrayed his own secret because he couldn't stand the weight of her demands. That's the trap of people-pleasing. We think giving in will relieve the pressure. But it only leads to more loss. Samson lost the bet, his dignity, and the trust he had placed in his wife—all because he couldn't stand firm under pressure. Here's the truth: if you live for people's approval, you'll die by their rejection. Family expectations, cultural pressure, the need to please everyone at the holiday table—these are heavy loads. However, when you give in just to maintain peace, you often lose yourself, and sometimes you lose God's blessing in the process. The call of Scripture is clear: seek to please God first. Paul put it this way in Galatians 1:10: "If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." That doesn't mean we stop loving people. But it does mean we draw boundaries and learn to stand firm in truth, even when the pressure is unbearable. ASK THIS: Where in your life do you feel the heaviest family pressure? How are you tempted to compromise truth just to keep others happy? Do you believe pleasing God first will actually free you from the weight of people-pleasing? DO THIS: Name the main source of pressure in your life right now. Pray over it, asking God for courage to honor Him above all. Set one healthy boundary this week with a person or situation that drains you. PRAY THIS: Father, I confess I often give in to people instead of standing firm in You. Give me courage to please You first, even when the pressure is heavy. Amen. PLAY THIS: "The Stand."

What happens when an eating disorder has been part of your life for years or even decades. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne Miller explores what recovery can look like when anorexia or bulimia becomes chronic, persistent, or long-term. Drawing from her experience as a therapist specializing in eating disorders, Dr. Marianne offers trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming, and body-liberation tools that help people reconnect with their bodies, support their nervous systems, and rebuild trust when recovery feels unreachable. This episode provides compassionate guidance for anyone who has lived with an eating disorder for a long time and wonders if healing is still possible. It also supports clinicians, loved ones, and helpers who want to understand the realities of severe and enduring eating disorders with more depth, nuance, and humanity. Why This Episode Matters People with chronic anorexia or bulimia often feel overlooked by treatment models that expect rapid transformation or complete symptom remission. Many have cycled through recovery attempts and relapse, often carrying shame for not recovering quickly enough. Dr. Marianne reframes chronic eating disorders as endurance rather than failure. She introduces recovery approaches that honor the nervous system, acknowledge survival strategies, and center autonomy, safety, and dignity. Key Topics Covered This episode explores why chronic anorexia and bulimia develop and why they persist over time. It highlights how survival strategies become deeply wired into the nervous system and how shame, trauma, sensory overload, and systemic oppression shape long-term eating disorders. Listeners learn how to use persistence instead of perfection, how to rebuild interoceptive awareness, how to support sensory needs, and how to regulate the nervous system in ways that feel gentle and sustainable. The episode also introduces self-compassion as a powerful tool that helps soften shame and create the conditions for real healing. Dr. Marianne explains how relational safety, autonomy, and body trust become essential for long-term recovery. Listeners also hear how intersectionality influences chronicity and why marginalized people often face more barriers to care. Who This Episode Is For This episode supports people living with chronic anorexia or bulimia, people who feel exhausted by long-term recovery efforts, and people who wonder if healing is still possible after many years of struggle. It also supports therapists, dietitians, physicians, and loved ones who want to understand chronic eating disorders through a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, and trauma-informed lens. Content Caution This episode discusses chronic anorexia and bulimia, including references to restriction, purging, and trauma. Please listen with care and take breaks if you need to ground or regulate. Your comfort and safety matter. Related Episodes on Lifelong Eating Disorders Orthorexia, Quasi-Recovery, & Lifelong Eating Disorder Struggles with Dr. Lara Zibarras @drlarazib on Apple & Spotify. Navigating a Long-Term Eating Disorder on Apple & Spotify. Why Eating Disorder Recovery Feels Unsafe: Facing Ambivalence in Long-Term Struggles on Apple & Spotify. Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, & Body Image: Self-Compassion Tools for Long-Term Eating Disorder Recovery With Carrie Pollard, MSW @compassionate_counsellor on Apple & Spotify. Learn More and Get Support If this episode resonates with you, visit drmariannemiller.com to learn more about therapy, coaching, and resources for eating disorder recovery, including chronic anorexia and chronic bulimia. Dr. Marianne offers care that emphasizes autonomy, collaboration, and nervous system safety. You do not have to heal alone. You can also listen to more episodes of Dr. Marianne-Land on all major podcast platforms.

Nein sagen ist gar nicht so einfachWie oft erwischt du dich dabei, dass du zu jemanden JA sagst, obwohl du gar keine Ressourcen dafür hast. In dieser Folge sprechen wir über anerzogene Muster, über die Bedürfnisse, die hinter dem People Pleasing stecken und, wie wir die Muster durchbrechen und ändern. Viel Spaß dabei. Eure Ellen Sei die Liebe deines Lebens - mit Ellen LutumLiebe ist immer die Antwort - und zwar die Liebe zu dir selbst. Meine Überzeugung ist, dass wir, wenn wir uns selber lieben und wertschätzen, auch liebend und wertschätzend mit anderen Menschen umgehen. Also anstatt zu jammern oder über andere Menschen zu meckern, ist mein Weg, sich gut um sich selber zu kümmern. Das bedeutet unter anderem sich selber gegenüber Ehrlich zu sein und die Verantwortung für das eigene Wohlbefinden zu übernehmen. Es gibt viele Punkte, die uns auf dieser Reise zu uns selber begegnen. Und über diese spreche ich in diesem Podcast. Lässt du dich darauf ein, die Liebe deine Lebens zu werden? Meine Bücher: Infos und Bezugsquellen Signierte Exemplare und Shop Kontakt: ellen@ellenlutum.de Selbstliebe Impulse: www.ellenlutum.de Inspiration: https://www.instagram.com/ellen_lutum/ Du möchtest wirklich nicht mehr alleine gehen und dich so abrackern? Dann bewirb dich HIER auf ein 1:1 Coaching mit mir.

Fällt es dir immer wieder schwer, einen Menschen loszulassen, auch wenn du tief in dir weißt, dass diese Verbindung dir nicht mehr guttut? Fragst du dich, warum du festhältst, obwohl dein Kopf schon längst weitergehen möchte?In dieser Folge nehme ich dich behutsam mit in einen tiefen, psychologisch fundierten Prozess. Du erfährst, warum Loslassen kein einzelner Moment ist, sondern ein Zusammenspiel aus deinem Nervensystem, deiner Identität, deinen alten Mustern und deiner energetischen Ausrichtung.Wir schauen gemeinsam darauf:

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Gauthier—life coach, podcast host, and former corporate leader—who has made it her mission to help busy women like us reclaim peace, purpose, and balance. Michelle shares her own story of moving from corporate burnout and overcommitment to building a life filled with intention, spaciousness, and joy. We dive into: How to recognize the signs of burnout and overwhelm in your own life The hidden costs of people-pleasing and perfectionism (and how I've struggled with them too) Creating and sticking to a “to-don't” list that actually frees up your time Real strategies for saying no and setting boundaries, even when it feels uncomfortable The power of making decisions from your future self, not just your present circumstances Tools and mindsets I use (and Michelle teaches) for managing stress and building resilience Michelle's “Love and Fit Test” for managing your calendar and commitments Inspiring client stories and actionable tips you can use right away Michelle also offers a free “Overwhelm Audit” quiz to help you pinpoint the root cause of your stress, plus resources to help you start your journey toward a more balanced, fulfilling life. If you're ready to break the cycle of overcommitment and step into a life of ease, this conversation is for you. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Connect with Michelle Visit her website and take the free quiz: michellegauthier.com Listen to her podcast: Overwhelmed Working Woman Links & resources: Stuck Assessment: https://www.plangoalplan.com/stuck  Plan Goal Plan Planners! Join Here Website: PlanGoalPlan.com LinkedIn: (I post most here!) www.linkedin.com/in/danielle-mcgeough-phd-

Feeling a bit lost in midlife? This is a MASSIVE transition physically and emotionally, so it's easy to feel like you're just not who you once were.  In this episode, I sit down with the wonderful Elena Brower to discuss navigating midlife with more grace, spaciousness, and self-trust.  As a seasoned meditation and yoga instructor, Elena reminds us that this season of life is truly about letting go—releasing what no longer serves you and creating room for what deeply matters now.  Through the stories and practices in her new book, Hold Nothing, she offers a grounded pathway for prioritizing yourself, your energy, and your evolving needs without apology.  We explore how midlife asks us to choose what gets to take center stage today… and you can bet it's different from what mattered most to you five, ten, or twenty years ago.  So if you're craving care, patience, and encouragement as you move through hormonal shifts and midlife transitions, this conversation is just for you!  Elena Brower  Elena Brower is an international yoga and meditation teacher on Glo, guiding transformative practices for over 25 years. She's the author of Art of Attention: A Yoga Practice Workbook for Movement as Meditation, and just published her newest book, Hold Nothing. Elena is a mother, mentor, poet, artist, volunteer, bestselling author, and host of the Practice You Podcast, where she supports women through life's transitions, encouraging presence, care, and openness.  IN THIS EPISODE Exploring the concept and benefits of “holding nothing”  Emphasizing the importance of relationships  Healthy parenting techniques for fostering trust  Remaining steady and patient in unexpected circumstances  How your body physiologically responds to stress  Practicing Zen Meditation  Lifestyle recommendations for midlife transitions   QUOTES “This ritual of sitting in the morning became the steadfast rule. And this is where it almost feels like I'm taking a shower for my mind– getting rid of all the doubt, the fear, the frustration, the angst, the anxiety, the anger… And when I finally took it on, it actually made a huge difference in who I am and how I show up, particularly in my parenting, but also in every other realm.” “Those situations are really important to keep close. Those are the ones that are going to help us really practice and learn how to die,  and that's kind of the next step, the next practice, living as fully with as much love and fun as we can, as much care and consideration as we can, and dying well.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code DRMARIZA and get 15% off on your Silverbiotics order https://silverbiotics.com/discount/drmariza Order my new book: The Perimenopause Revolution https://peri-revolution.com/ Order Elena's Book: Hold Nothing https://elenabrower.com/holdnothing Dr. Mariza's Ultimate Morning Self-Care Guide & Sign up for her FREE Virtual Workshop: The Altar of Your Heart  Elena Brower's Website  Elena on Substack  Elena on Instagram Elena's Podcast: PRACTICE YOU  RELATED EPISODES  692: Why Emotional Healing is Hormone Healing-The New Path to Midlife Empowerment with Ashley Turner 690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

Laura has reached a milestone - her sex life has returned after having her 3rd baby but her hip flexors aren’t on board. If you or your partner has had a baby how did you go getting back ‘into’ it?Britt was in a dilemma with her Uber driver and it resulted in her inviting a complete stranger into Keeshia’s house for a rather awkward reason. Britt has also tried to get in touch with her ‘natural’ side and she has learnt the very real dangers of leaving your crocs behind. Ageing Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend AnymoreLast week we briefly spoke about Janette being ‘dumped’ on the bachelor and how being in the life stage that she is may have contributed to having less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. A fantastic substack written by Ellen Scherr argues that many women hit a midlife neurological and hormonal shift that makes them suddenly unable or unwilling to people please. This shift is what she calls “The Great Unf*ckening.” It’s not bitterness, but biology: the brain stops supporting the emotional labour and social smoothing that women have been conditioned to perform since childhood. We speak about how many relationships can break down when women reach this age where they stop taking on as much of the emotional labour of the relationship and stop suppressing their own emotions and frustrations. We also chat about some of the hormonal and neurobiological changes like oestrogen dropping, synaptic pruning and changes to the prefrontal cortex.Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Think people pleasing is selfless? Think again. In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'll expose the uncomfortable truth: people pleasing isn't about helping others—it's about YOU. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, overcompensated to avoid someone's discomfort, or gone above and beyond to be seen as "nice," this episode will shake you awake. I share my own journey as a recovering people pleaser—from rubbing Avon lotion on my stepmother's feet at age 9 to building a business around fixing everyone else's problems. I reveal how people pleasing nearly destroyed my health (hello, fibromyalgia) and why your body will eventually reject this behavior. In this episode, you'll discover: 1️⃣ The real reason you say yes when you want to say no (hint: it's not noble) 2️⃣ Why "nice" people are actually liars (and how this damages relationships) 3️⃣ The connection between people pleasing, codependency, and chronic illness 4️⃣ How people pleasing enables others and keeps them from growth 5️⃣ The 24-hour challenge to break the pattern 6️⃣ Why coaches and practitioners MUST address their own people pleasing to truly serve clients This isn't easy to hear, but if you're ready to stop the facade and start living authentically—this episode is your wake-up call. Key Quotes "Nice people are liars. You are lying when you tell me something that's not true to avoid what I might think, say, or feel." "You are doing God's work when you are being yourself—not pretending to be a nice person who is lying to avoid discomfort." "What you control and what controls you will eventually become what you resent." "You cannot have a narcissist in a relationship without the people pleaser. You need each other." Take Action The 24-Hour People Pleasing Detox: For the next 24 hours, commit to: ❌ Not doing anything you don't want to do ✅ Saying "no thank you" without explanation ✅ Being truthful instead of "nice" ✅ Observing your discomfort when someone is disappointed ✅ Standing firm in your decisions For Coaches & Practitioners: Before giving feedback, ask: "Are you open to hearing what I'm observing?" or "I'm curious—would you like to know what I'm witnessing?" Episode Timestamps [00:00] Welcome back + life update from Miami travels [01:00] Why we're tackling people pleasing today [02:00] Kim's origin story: The Avon lotion moment at age 9 [04:00] What IS people pleasing really? Breaking down the behavior [06:00] "Supposed to" according to what rule book? [08:00] The rheumatologist's revelation: Fibromyalgia is self-inflicted [09:00] The uncomfortable truth: Nice people are liars [11:00] The selfish motivation behind people pleasing [13:00] Narcissism vs. people pleasing: Two sides of the same coin [15:00] How people pleasing handicaps others and prevents growth [17:00] Kim's confession: Calling out her own people pleasing in business [21:00] The assessment: Why do you say yes when you want to say no? [23:00] For coaches & practitioners: How to have uncomfortable conversations [26:00] The 24-hour challenge: No people pleasing allowed [27:00] What happens at 45+: When your body can't take it anymore [28:00] Coming soon: Mind Body Energy Practitioner community

In this episode of the Business Builder Series, Staci explores a common challenge many small business owners face as they grow: the desire to be liked by their team so deeply that it gets in the way of actual leadership. She breaks down what it looks like to step into the role of a true coach, why clarity matters more than being the “nice boss,” and how avoiding discomfort can quietly limit a business's growth.Key topics covered:Why early hires often feel like family and how that impacts leadershipThe difference between kindness and people-pleasingHow lack of clarity, expectations, and boundaries can sabotage a company's ability to scaleWhat it means to lead from the “coach's view” and see the full pictureKey traits of strong leadership: direct communication, accountability, and empathy with boundariesWhy respect comes before likability, and why that order mattersThe risks of avoiding tough conversations or feedback to keep everyone comfortableChallenge:Listeners are encouraged to identify one area where their desire to be liked is causing them to avoid leadership. They should write down the tough conversation, feedback, or boundary they've been avoiding, and note what could become possible if they addressed it.Staci's Links:Instagram. Website.The School for Small Business Podcast is a proud member of the Female Alliance Media. To learn more about Female Alliance Media and how they are elevating female voices or how they can support your show, visit femalealliancemedia.ca.Head over to my website https://www.stacimillard.com/ to grab your FREE copy of my Profit Playbook and receive 30 innovative ways you can add more profit to your business AND the first step towards implementing these ideas in your business!

Send us a textIt's that time of the year….the holidays. The hardest time for a lot of us, find out different ways you can make it easier.Please follow me on Instagram @escapingnarcissisticmothersBuy Me a Coffee https://www.buymeacoffee.com/enmoms993Email me at enmoms99@gmail.comJoin my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1165736933586382/?ref=share_group_link#narcissists #narcissisticmothers #toxicfamily #enablingfather #narcissisticfamily #mentalhealth #healingfromabuse  #thanksgivingSupport the show

Content warning: This episode contains potentially distressing content on the subject of sexual consent and blurred boundaries. Although this has been handled sensitively and compassionately, listeners who feel triggered by this content may wish to skip this episode or listen at a time when they feel ready. In this episode of The Happier Life Project, Gabby sits down with Dr. Nina Burrowes;  psychologist, author, activist, and founder of The Consent Collective and Safe Workplace Culture. With years of experience working with offenders, survivors, universities, and organisations, Nina brings a calm, grounded voice to one of the most misunderstood topics: consent. Consent is often framed as a simple moral choice, a “good” or “bad” behaviour. But as Nina explains, consent is not a virtue. It's a skill. A skill we can learn, practise, and get better at. And when we do, our interactions become clearer, kinder, more connected, and more enjoyable. In this conversation, Nina explains why consent is so much more complex than a straightforward “yes” or “no,” and why misunderstandings remain so common. From the pressures students face at university, to the influence of desire, people-pleasing, and uncertainty in new relationships, Nina unpacks the many reasons we sometimes agree to things that don't feel right, and why only we can be the true experts of our own bodies. With the festive season approaching, Gabby and Dr Nina also look at how alcohol, office parties, and blurred social settings can distort boundaries and complicate communication. Nina helps make sense of inappropriate behaviour in workplace environments, why harassment persists, and how we can stay connected to ourselves when situations feel murky or uncomfortable. Ultimately, this episode is about embracing consent as a form of communication, understanding our own signals, expressing our needs with confidence, and creating environments where people feel respected and empowered. Whether you're navigating dating, university life, or the upcoming Christmas party season, this is a compassionate, practical guide to recognising your boundaries, honouring them, and supporting others to do the same. To download the free My Possible Self App: https://mypossibleself.app.link/podcast To follow My Possible Self on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mypossibleself/ The Consent Collective: https://www.consentcollective.com/ Safe Workplace Culture: https://www.safeworkplaceculture.com/ Free self-help resource: The courage to be me

In Episode 330 You Will Discover: How to run a quick "pre-holiday audit" to spot energy drainers before the season starts Practical scripts to help you pause before saying yes The "Good Enough Manifesto" that quiets perfectionism How to build a personal recharge plan for social or sensory overload Simple, kind ways to say no—or a balanced "yes-if"—that honor your capacity Work With Me:

In this episode, we dive into the wild, emotional, expensive, absolutely addictive world of concert culture.From fans who show up three nights in a row… to couples getting engaged in the aisle… to ticket prices that make your jaw drop — we break down what's really behind the obsession.We talk fan psychology, why live music feels like a spiritual awakening, and the way a single night in an arena can change your entire life. Plus: a behind-the-scenes look at the couple who became the star of the entire section — and how their love story unfolded mid-concert.If you're a live-music junkie, a Swiftie, a country-girl concert hopper, or someone who has ever said “I'll never financially recover from this”… this episode is for you.This episode explores the intense world of modern concert culture — from multi-night superfans to aisle engagements and the skyrocketing cost of tickets. Through real stories and personal reflections, we unpack why people will spend thousands for a two-hour show, how live music creates deep emotional connections, and why concerts have become the new version of “pilgrimage culture.”It's fun, wild, heartfelt, and a full look into the community, chaos, and magic of live shows.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

If you've ever said yes so fast that your chest tightened before the words even finished leaving your mouth? This episode is the wake-up call your people pleasing, burnout prone, high achieving self didn't even realize you needed. Because what if feeling overwhelmed isn't a you problem at all? What if you've just been trained to put everyone else first? Today we're unpacking the real reason people pleasing feels automatic — and why it hits ambitious women the hardest. You'll learn how many high-achieving women were conditioned from childhood to be the helpful one, the agreeable one, the easy one… and how that conditioning secretly shapes your adult relationships, career, and self-worth. We talk about: chronic burnout resentment identity loss and how over-functioning keeps you stuck in cycles you didn't choose Because being the strong friend might look admirable… but it's quietly draining your energy, your confidence, and your peace. Ericka breaks down the subtle signs — like overexplaining, guilt resting, emotional shape-shifting, and taking responsibility for everyone's feelings — that reveal whether self-abandonment has become your default mode. You'll learn my signature tools, including: the 10-Second Pause the Soft No the Power of the Period first-30-minute protection calendar boundaries and the peace test These are simple, realistic self-care practices designed for ambitious women who want to honor their capacity without guilt. Because let's be honest — some folks will not know what to do when the “yes girl” starts saying “no.” HUEL: Try Huel with 15% off at huel.com/bossbabe with code BOSSBABE. If you loved the episode, please leave a 5-star rating and review — it helps the show grow and helps more high achievers break free from burnout and people-pleasing. Come hang out with me on Instagram for daily self-care hacks, confidence boosts, boundary tips, and behind-the-scenes vibes:

In this episode, I'm joined by Hollie Azzopardi, author of The People Pleaser's Guide to Putting Yourself First and The People Pleaser's Guide to Saying Yes to You. We dive into what it actually takes to stop people-pleasing and start honouring your own needs without the guilt that so often comes with it. Hollie opens up about her experience with mould illness and the surprising symptoms that finally made her pay attention to her body. We explore how people-pleasing disconnects us from our inner signals, and how becoming a mum shifted her identity, intuition, and boundaries in a profound way. If you've ever felt overwhelmed, stretched thin, or like you've lost yourself in caring for others, this conversation will speak straight to your heart. In this episode, we explore: Hollie's journey through mould illness and the surprising symptoms she had The connection between people-pleasing and losing touch with your body's signals How becoming a mum shifted her identity, priorities and intuition What she's learned about putting herself first without guilt, especially in motherhood Where to find Hollie: Website: hollieazzopardi.com Instagram: @hollie_azzopardi Podcast: Soul Talk on Apple Podcasts Join the FREE Calm in 5 Days Challenge Doors are open one more time for Georgie's Calm in 5 Days Challenge — a free online experience starting November 24th. You'll learn five simple, powerful steps to calm your anxiety and feel more in control of your mind and body. ✨ Daily guided videos ✨ Community support ✨ Personal Q&A with Georgie each day It's completely free — click here to join and start your journey to more calm.

In today's episode, Gina shares some important tools to help liberate anxiety sufferers from the limitations placed on them by people-pleasing behaviors. The ability and willingness to use the statement "no", when it is the path to necessary self-care can really help people with anxiety provide themselves with the necessary time, attention and rest to maintain their health and well-being, physically, emotionally and mentally. Listen in and learn how to stop prioritizing others when it is costing you so much.Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors!https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching linkACPGroupCoaching.comTo learn more, go to:Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.comJoin our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership ProgramLearn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership:For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/Here's what's included for $5/month:❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind❤ And more fun surprises along the way!All this in your favorite podcast app!Quote:Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.-Prentis HemphillChapters0:26 Introduction to Anxiety and OCD2:10 The Silent Trap of People-Pleasing7:16 Breaking the People-Pleasing Cycle10:38 Rerouting Self-Worth13:15 Reclaiming Your "No"16:11 Communication Techniques for Boundaries17:43 Building Long-Term ResilienceSummaryIn this episode of the Anxiety Coaches Podcast, I delve into the intersection of anxiety, OCD, and the pervasive habit of people-pleasing. My goal is to provide compassionate insights and practical tools for anyone striving to reclaim their sense of self while moving beyond anxiety. I begin by unpacking the nuances of obsessive-compulsive behaviors, emphasizing that my focus here is on the actions stemming from these patterns rather than diagnostic labels.We explore a common scenario faced by many: the inability to say "no" when deep down, one knows they should, often dictated by a fear of rejection or conflict. Many of us carry the weight of childhood patterns that inform our present behaviors, and for some, this manifests as a compulsive need to placate others, driven by the overwhelming anxiety that something terrible might occur if we don't meet others' expectations.As I navigate the complexities of how OCD fuels extreme forms of people-pleasing, I introduce key concepts such as "the silent trap" of anxiety. This is not merely about the stereotypical traits often associated with OCD, such as cleanliness; it's about the underlying fear and uncertainty that can compel individuals into a cycle of people-pleasing as a misguided attempt to ensure safety and avoid conflict. I share a poignant example from a client who, despite feeling unwell, felt an overwhelming compulsion to agree to a request, driven by their fear of being perceived as selfish or unkind.#AnxietyCoachesPodcast, #GinaRyan, #Anxiety, #OCD, #PeoplePleasing, #Boundaries, #SelfCare, #MentalHealth, #FearBasedLiving, #ReclaimYourNo, #SelfCompassion, #AnxietyRelief, #OCDAwareness, #InternalIntegrity, #DiscomfortIsNotDangerous, #HealingJourney, #AnxietyTrap, #SayingNo, #CompulsionCycle, #TherapyTools, #EAP, #ExposureTherapy, #Mindfulness, #SelfHelp, #EmotionalBoundaries, #AnxietySucks, #PersonalGrowth, #ChooseYourself, #Disappointment, #ACPSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A blog by Jason Cherry. Jason Cherry is an elder at Trinity Reformed Church, as well as a teacher and lecturer of literature, American history, and economics at Providence Classical School in Huntsville, Alabama. He graduated from Reformed Theological Seminary with an MA in Religion and is the author of the book The Culture of Conversionism and the History of the Altar Call, now available on Amazon. He is husband to Traci, who is proficient at blessing others, and father to Anily and Gaby, who are gifted in the art of laughter. Trinity Reformed Church is a CREC church in Huntsville, AL. seeking to extend and unite the Kingdom in the Huntsville area. Check out our website, Facebook, or YouTube!

There's a hidden cost to people pleasing in love—it repels rather than attracts. Learn how to stop over-giving and start creating real connection and desire. People pleasing might feel like the path to love, but it quietly erodes attraction. Discover how setting clear boundaries and honoring what you truly want builds respect, confidence, and lasting desire. Why People Pleasing Makes You Undesirable What Do YOU Want and Need? How Boundaries Create Respect and Attraction Reference to YouTube Live Show: Why People Pleasing Pushes Love Away- LIVE Q&A https://www.youtube.com/live/mE84gY2FfY8 Website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6SX9WKgEWynkxyulGhDihC?si=62449e8d26ac4ba2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/ Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne Miller, LMFT, speaks directly to the body that carries fear, memory, and longing for safety. Through a poetic open letter, she explores why recovery can feel unsafe even when life begins to stabilize. Instead of treating fear as resistance, she reframes it as communication and wisdom. In this episode, she invites listeners to move from fighting their bodies to listening to them. Dr. Marianne explores how trauma, neurodivergence, and systemic oppression live in the body, and how tenderness can become a bridge between fear and trust. It is not a set of instructions. It is an act of witnessing. Why This Episode Matters Many people in eating disorder recovery are told that getting better should feel empowering. But for those whose bodies have been sites of trauma, shame, or disconnection, recovery can feel unbearable. This episode reframes that discomfort as an intelligent response from the body, not as failure or lack of willpower. By turning recovery into a dialogue instead of a demand, listeners learn how to approach healing at the pace of safety. Dr. Marianne shares how fear is not the opposite of progress but a sign that the body is asking for gentler evidence that the world can hold it safely. Her trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming, and liberation-based approach helps listeners replace control with curiosity and build trust with the body through compassion. Key Topics Covered In this episode, Dr. Marianne reflects on: The nervous system's memory of trauma and how it interprets safety Why the body resists calm and how to rebuild trust slowly The grief that comes with letting go of control and perfectionism How sensory sensitivities and neurodivergence affect recovery pacing The intersectional realities that make safety harder for fat, queer, trans, BIPOC, and neurodivergent people What it means to redefine “getting better” as coming home to yourself Listeners will come away with a new way to understand their bodies. They will learn that healing does not require pushing through fear but learning to listen to what fear is trying to protect. Who This Episode Is For This episode is for anyone who has ever felt frightened by their own progress in recovery. It will resonate with: People in eating disorder recovery who feel ambivalent about healing Neurodivergent listeners who experience overwhelm or shutdown during recovery Fat, queer, trans, and BIPOC individuals navigating systems that equate safety with conformity Clinicians and caregivers who want to understand the embodied realities of fear and healing It is also for those who need permission to slow down, to stop performing readiness, and to honor the body as a partner in recovery rather than an obstacle. Content Caution This episode includes discussion of eating disorder recovery, body distrust, trauma, and the emotional experience of fear during healing. It also references restriction, bingeing, and body-based distress without graphic detail. Please take care while listening. Pause or return to the episode later if it feels overwhelming. You are encouraged to have support in place as you engage with this material. Related Episodes How Childhood Trauma Shapes Eating Disorders & Body Shame (Content Caution) on Apple & Spotify. Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, & Body Image: Self-Compassion Tools for Long-Term Eating Disorder Recovery With Carrie Pollard, MSW @compassionate_counsellor on Apple & Spotify. Why Letting Go 0f Restriction Feels Unsafe in Eating Disorder Recovery on Apple & Spotify. Learn More and Get Support To continue exploring how to build safety with your body, visit drmariannemiller.com. There you will find: The ARFID & Selective Eating Course, a self-paced program offering sensory-attuned and neurodivergent-affirming tools for individuals and caregivers. The Binge Eating Recovery Membership, a space for ongoing support, education, and compassionate community that moves beyond diet culture. Blog posts, podcast episodes, and free resources on trauma-informed, consent-based, and liberation-centered recovery. Each offering is grounded in curiosity, respect, and collaboration.

Send JKO a Text MessageWhen you've been in the trenches long enough, compromise can start to feel like survival. This episode explores how exhaustion, fear, and not knowing your values lead to quiet compromise and how, step by step, you can realign with who God created you to be.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeHow self-protection leads to compromiseBeing raised to please, perform, or “keep the peace” trains you to ignore your own inner compass.Signs of compromisePractical steps to overcome compromise when you can't leave your situation) Key Scriptures: Matthew 5:37 ReferencesUnveiling Your Core - Values WorksheetSupport the show If Messy Can't Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send us a textIn this episode: People Pleasing; Best Friend Questions Thanks for listening! Check us out on Instagram @made_ya_smile_podcast and Facebook @skitzychicks. Jesus loves you, you can't mess that up!

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!Why are so many women struggling with reflux, IBS, bloating, and chronic stomach pain—despite changing diets, taking supplements, and doing “all the right things”?In this powerful episode, Dr. Scott Rower, PhD—clinical psychologist and founder of Rest and Digest—joins Anita Sandoval LPC-S to reveal the real root cause of women's gut issues: the gut–brain connection and the hidden impact of chronic stress, overgiving, and people-pleasing.If you've ever wondered why your symptoms flare during stress, why tests come back “normal,” or why your digestion falls apart during burnout… this conversation may completely change the way you see your body.

Do you ever spiral, wondering if someone's mad at you, replay conversations in your head, or feel anxious after setting a boundary? Then you need this episode. Victoria sits down with licensed psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Meg Josephson, whose new book Are You Mad at Me? is helping people-pleasers everywhere unlearn the patterns keeping them stuck. They dive into where people-pleasing comes from (usually childhood trauma we don't even recognize), how to stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace, and what it takes to feel safe being authentically you. Meg shares practical, therapeutic tools to help you regulate your emotions, set boundaries without guilt, and stop overexplaining yourself to be understood using some of Vic's recent personal experiences as a guide. Tune in to finally understand your people-pleasing tendencies and start rewriting the story.Follow Meg Instagram: @megjosephsonOrder Are You Mad At Me?// SPONSORS // LMNT: LMNT is offering a free sample pack with any purchase, that's 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors or share LMNT with a friend. Get yours at DrinkLMNT.com/realpod.BetterHelp: Visit betterhelp.com/realpod today to get 10% off your first month. CozyEarth: Go to cozyearth.com and use code REALPOD for 40% off best selling temperature-regulating sheets, apparel, and more.Crunchmaster: Find Crunchmaster at a store near you! Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this vulnerable and revealing episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy, Dr. Aziz returns from a life-changing couples workshop with a fresh insight into what really causes social anxiety and people-pleasing and how to heal it from the inside out. Most people try to overcome self-doubt by repeating affirmations, striving harder, or becoming their “ideal” version of themselves. But as Dr. Aziz explains, this fantasy self is actually wrapped around a much deeper wound: a core belief that we're not enough or not lovable as we are. Drawing from powerful moments during the retreat, he unpacks how insecure attachment leads to chronic feelings of unworthiness and how our attempts to “fix” ourselves only deepen the cycle. You'll learn how the path to lasting confidence doesn't come from becoming more, but from reconnecting with your authentic self, one that is already whole and worthy. Using a powerful metaphor of braided ropes, Dr. Aziz helps you see the loop you might be caught in and how to step out of it for good. "Everything is changeable. 100%. It's not about becoming someone else. It's about coming home to who you already are." Ready to heal the root of social anxiety and step into real freedom? Tune in now and rediscover your worth. ---------------------------------------------- Have you ever wondered why you still feel not enough, no matter how much you achieve, improve, or try to please? Why confidence sometimes feels like an act, and connection like a test you can fail? What if the real issue isn't that you're broken but that you were never fully bonded? In this episode, I want to take you deeper to the root of social anxiety and people pleasing. Because beneath the awkward moments, the self-doubt, and the endless striving lies something much more fundamental: a missing sense of I'm okay as I am. The Real Source of “I'm Not Enough” At the heart of social anxiety isn't fear it's disconnection. When you were young, something subtle but powerful happened: a gap formed between the love and security you needed and what your environment could provide. It wasn't your fault, and it doesn't mean your parents didn't love you. But that gap created what psychologists call insecure attachment a deep, body-level sense of I'm not safe, I'm not held, I'm not enough. “Social anxiety and people pleasing aren't personality flaws—they're attachment wounds trying to feel safe.” That unease in your body becomes the foundation of every “I'm not enough” story: “I'm not interesting enough.” “I'm not attractive enough.” “I'm not confident enough.” We try to fix the feeling by building a better self—a “fantasy self”—that will finally be lovable. But that striving only tightens the knot. The Fantasy Self Trap When we feel not enough, we look for clues about who we should be. Dad liked when I was smart? Be the smart one. People admire success? Chase success. Everyone loves charm? Learn to perform. Piece by piece, you build your fantasy self the polished, perfect version of you who finally earns love, approval, and belonging. But here's the painful secret: no matter how many boxes you check, the emptiness doesn't go away. The rope of your life twists endlessly between two strands—the blue rope of not-enoughness, and the orange rope of the fantasy self. Around and around you go… striving, achieving, collapsing. Until you realize: the problem was never you. It was never the missing strand. It was believing you needed to become someone else to be loved. The Way Out: Relearning Love The healing of social anxiety and people pleasing isn't about becoming your fantasy self—it's about coming home to your real self. “You don't need to earn love. You need to experience being loved as you are.” This isn't theory. It's a retraining of your nervous system—a gradual, embodied relearning that you are safe, seen, and worthy exactly as you are. You don't fix it with affirmations. You heal it through experience: letting yourself be seen, receiving care, allowing love in. That's the work and yes, it's vulnerable. But it's also freedom. Coming Home to Yourself This isn't a quick fix. It's a practice, like learning to move your body again after years of tension. You build it by showing up, by practicing openness, by letting go of the fantasy self one thread at a time. And then one day, you wake up and realize—you don't need to become enough. You already are. Because confidence isn't built on pretending to be someone else. It's born the moment you finally allow yourself to be you.

As the holidays approach, it's a great time to evaluate how you want to spend your time and energy. Do you want to be relaxed and peace-filled, or would you rather be frazzled and frantic? The choice is yours. People pleasing is a trait that may sound generous and kind, but often leads to resentment and frustration. Knowing how and why we tend to over-commit and people-please are important factors in reducing our stress and exhaustion, especially during the next few weeks. People-pleasing is a habit, and it takes time and determination to conquer. Once you master people-pleasing over the holidays, we hope you will continue the practice in your everyday life.The Bible says, "God loves a cheerful giver." This season, let's focus on what truly matters to us instead of getting caught up in our to-do lists or the expectations of others. Simplify your life, take a deep breath, and give with a cheerful heart. As much as we might not want to admit, the choice really is ours. Let's choose wisely. Show notes:8 Ways to Stop People - Pleasing https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412People Pleasing: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/people-pleasing#the-traits-of-a-people-pleaserTo do your own values assessment, go to https://thewellnesssociety.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/Values-Worksheets.pdf

If you've ever found yourself saying “yes” when you wanted to say “no,” avoiding conflict, or shrinking back to keep the peace, this episode will help you step out of people pleasing and into calm, confident, Christlike leadership. I'll break down: why people pleasing is rooted in fear (not kindness) how it weakens your authority, voice, and leadership impact simple shifts to help you lead with clarity instead of over-accommodating what Jesus modeled about boundaries, conviction, and courage Reflection Questions Ask yourself: What's my responsibility here? What's theirs? What honours God in this situation? What needs clarity? What needs courage? These questions re-centre your leadership — and your peace. ✨ Next Step: The Imposter Syndrome Blueprint If people pleasing, overthinking, or fear of disappointing others has been holding you back, grab my faith-filled private podcast: The Imposter Syndrome Blueprint. It will help you break the cycle of self-doubt and lead with confidence anchored in Christ.

This episode is brought to you by Caldera Lab and Audible. Author and mindset disruptor Carla Ondrasik unpacks the radical idea behind 'stop trying'. Carla challenges the culturally accepted virtue of "trying," revealing it as a fear response that keeps us stuck in inaction and self-sabotage. Through personal stories—from pitching hit songs to Cher to rewriting her own future through visualization—Carla shares why doing, not trying, is the true path to success. This conversation explores how trying shows up in our language, our relationships, and our goals, and offers clear, compassionate strategies for unlearning inherited patterns, setting boundaries, and building a life rooted in clarity and courageous action. Follow Carla @carlaondrasik Follow Chase @chase_chewning — 00:01 The Fear Behind Trying - Carla introduces the core message of her book and why trying is often rooted in fear and failure 02:10 Why We're Addicted to Trying - How instant gratification culture conditions us to avoid real effort and use "trying" as an escape hatch 06:46 Yoda, Gretzky, and the Myth of Noble Trying - Debunking iconic quotes and redefining effort vs. action 12:01 The Try Test: What Does It Even Mean to Try? - Carla's book-lifting exercise proves that trying is a mental illusion, not a physical act 15:19 Fear, Music Industry Boldness, and Doing Anyway - A powerful story about pitching a hit song to Geffen Records—and why doing beats hesitation 20:16 Excuses Are Just Rocks Under the Bridge - Why action requires clear motivation and how to move through fear by starting small 24:46 Inherited Trying and Manifesting Through Doing - Carla's unconventional childhood, visualization rituals, and how language shapes outcomes 31:41 The Airport Analogy: Why Trying Isn't Even an Option - Real-life examples where we would never say "I'll try"—and how to apply that clarity to everything 36:51 Trying vs. People-Pleasing: The Power of No - Why saying "I'll try" is often a fear-based way to avoid discomfort—and how to stop doing that 42:41 How to Hold Others Accountable to DoingSimple scripts to redirect vague language and inspire action in others 46:18 The Best Exercise to Escape the Try Loop - Carla's top recommendation: become aware of what "try" really means—and reject it 48:06 The Power of Silence and Doing in Private - Why your goals get stronger when you stop announcing them—and how to let results speak for themselves 52:21 Failure, Courage, and Public Vulnerability - Carla shares her fear, failures, and learning curve while writing and launching the book. 56:13 What "Ever Forward" Means to Carla - A personal reflection on living forward with purpose, urgency, and collective inspiration — Episode resources: Save 20% on the Hair Care System from Caldera Lab with checkout code EVERFORWARD at https://www.CalderaLab.com  Get your first audio book for FREE with your 30-day trial of Audible at https://www.AudibleTrial.com/everforward Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at CarlaOndrasik.com

In Episode 329 You Will Discover: Core reasons why ADHD brains are more prone to people-pleasing How to start a People-Pleasing Inventory to notice your patterns without judgment Simple reflection questions to help you recognize who, when, and why you overcommit Work With Me:

In this refreshing, real-life conversation, Christina and Brittany dive into the beautiful chaos of modern womanhood — the family dynamics, the travel planning, the messy moments, and the unexpected wins that shape personal growth.With honesty and humour, they unpack the importance of self-care, the pressure of social media, and the relief of stepping back when life feels overstimulating. From the realities of planning travel in 2025 to the thrill of scoring luxury deals, they show that life's highs and lows often happen in the same breath.They also explore how AI, inbox overwhelm, and digital boundaries impact mental health — and why authenticity matters more than ever. The conversation ends with a grounding reminder: prioritizing yourself isn't selfish, it's strategic.This episode is a permission slip to slow down, recalibrate, and choose what actually matters.Christina and Brittany reflect on the realities of juggling work, family, travel plans, social media expectations, and personal growth — while staying grounded in what truly matters. They highlight the power of slowing down, finding deals (even on luxury items!), using tools to reduce overwhelm, and staying authentic online. Ultimately, they land on the truth that prioritizing yourself is the foundation for long-term happiness, consistency, and growth.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Do you struggle to set healthy boundaries at home and at work?How burnt out are you from a lack of boundaries?Meet Dana Skaggs!With Dana, boundaries aren't barriers—they're the secret to thriving teams and lasting results.Dana is the "Queen of Boundaries", Keynote Speaker, Podcaster and Psychotherapist. She helps people become empowered by what they can control, experience freedom from what they cannot, and expertly navigate the divide.After 17 years in private practice, Dana possesses a well-rounded understanding of the intricate and insidious nature of dysfunctional boundaries. Listen as Dana shares:- personal experiences have further shaped my expertise- how to create space for what truly matters- practical strategies on how to set healthy boundaries- finding a new sense of safety and inner strength- breaking free from the constraints of others' dysfunction- how to prioritize your own well-being- being in control of your own mental boardroom- how to have clarity on what you have control over...and so much more!On her "Phoenix and Flame Podcast," Dana explores the theme of "From Ash to Flight on the Wings of Boundaries." Additionally, she offers online boundaries courses, tailored for those seeking education and training in boundary issues when traditional therapy may not be feasible. Connect with Dana:Website: www.danaskaggs.comAdditional Resources:"The Phoenix and Flame Podcast" hosted by Dana SkaggsListen to the Podcast, subscribe, leave a rating and a review:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-set-boundaries-stop-people-pleasing-w-dana-skaggs/id1614151066?i=1000737049339 Spotify:   https://open.spotify.com/episode/16xZ8EKMGdyXqJeSWfl8PI?si=P03CV34-SL-s2Ic2IiBVWQ YouTube: https://youtu.be/JPsJKc4KfYM

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Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore the roots, costs, and recovery process of people pleasing, highlighting how it often stems from fear of conflict, guilt, or learned conditioning. The hosts discuss the emotional and relational toll—like resentment, burnout, and lack of authentic connection—while also offering practical tools to build awareness, set boundaries, and communicate needs more clearly. Ultimately, they emphasize shifting from guilt-based to values-based decision-making in relationships. Main Talking Points: - Fear and guilt origins - Childhood conditioning - Emotional costs - Boundary setting - Practicing “soft no's” Give Me Discounts! Cozy Earth -  Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won't last, so start your holiday shopping today! Beducate - Visit beducate.me/relationship69 and use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass. Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might be the one making the holiday magic... but you get to enjoy it as well. As a high-achieving mom, the pressure you feel isn't about the endless to-do list; it's about the deep-seated belief that you have to earn your joy by doing everything perfectly. And with the holiday season quickly approaching, this feeling can amplify. That's why I'm sharing some Magic Wand secrets to help you reconnect with your body and energetic alignment, shifting you from the chaos of people-pleasing to being powerfully present. Press play to reclaim your energy and create the beautiful memories that matter most in a way that feels truly magical. P.S. Ditch the holiday chaos and replace it with the holiday joy

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of The Feminist Wellness Podcast, where I answer your most heartfelt questions about healing, nervous system care, and coming home to yourself. In today's episode, we're answering two beautiful and important questions from our community. First, we're talking about what to do with a lifetime of suppressed anger, especially when your body feels too exhausted or fragile to let it out. If the thought of expressing your rage feels overwhelming or unsafe, you're not alone. I'll walk you through a gentle, somatic approach rooted in nervous system science and self-compassion to help you start moving that energy in a way that supports real healing. Then, we shift into a conversation about emotional outsourcing in the workplace, and how perfectionist, people-pleasing, and over-functioning habits can become survival strategies in environments that reward self-abandonment. If you've ever felt like your worth at work depends on your ability to stay small, agreeable, and endlessly available, this one's for you. You'll leave this episode with real tools, new insights, and loving reminders that you are not broken. You are adapting, surviving, and learning how to come home to yourself. So take a breath, grab a cozy something, and let's get into it. Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com Order your copy of End Emotional Outsouring here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Tom will be filming his new stand-up special in Milwaukee at The Riverside Theater on November 14th & 15th! Tickets are still available in Milwaukee for the November 14th show. Go get your tickets now at https://tomsegura.com/tour . SPONSORS: -Take advantage of Ridge's Biggest Sale of the Year and GET UP TO 47% Off  by going to https://www.Ridge.com/CAVE  #Ridgepod -Get $10 Off @‌BRUNT with code CAVE at https://www.bruntworkwear.com/CAVE  #BRUNTpod -Give the gift of smooth this holiday season with the Performance Package 5.0 Ultra. Get 15% off + free shipping at https://Manscaped.com with code BEARS. -Order a bottle of Por Osos and some killer merch online https://drinkporosos.com This week, Bert sits down with the one and only Mel Robbins for a brutally honest, hilarious, and surprisingly deep conversation about anxiety, cheating, parenting, and learning how to “let them.” From wild college confessions to Mel breaking down her Let Them Theory in real time, this episode is half therapy, half comedy, and all chaos. They cover everything — why Bert can't stop overexplaining to strangers (and accidentally tried to kiss Nicole Kidman), how ADHD and anxiety shaped both of their lives, and why it's so hard to stop caring what everyone thinks. Mel opens up about her own journey through debt, dysfunction, and discovery — and Bert realizes maybe, just maybe, he doesn't have to fix everyone to be happy. If you've ever felt like you're juggling guilt, stress, and trying to please everyone — this episode will hit home and crack you up at the same time. 2 Bears, 1 Cave Ep. 314 https://tomsegura.com/tour https://www.bertbertbert.com/tour https://store.ymhstudios.com Chapters 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:46 - What's Your Drink? 00:03:50 - College Chaos & Cheating Confessions 00:13:47 - Nobody Wants To F**k Up Their Life 00:23:12 - FOMO, Stoicism, & The Let Them Theory 00:34:42 - Why We Need to Disappoint People 00:47:55 - Family Guilt & The Dinner Dilemma 00:55:08 - An Awkward Nicole Kidman Kiss & Approval Addiction 01:01:39 - ADHD, Dyslexia, & The Volcano Inside 01:10:44 - What Could Possibly Go Wrong? 01:20:01 - Bert Gets Real 01:31:05 - Wired To Change 01:36:25 - Opportunity Of A Lifetime 01:45:51 - Let Them (And Let Yourself) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this conversation, I sit down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a family nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, and author of the newly released book End Emotional Outsourcing to unpack why so many of us struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout.Beatriz introduces the concept of "emotional outsourcing" (a term even Oprah is talking about) which describes how we've learned to source our sense of worth, safety, and belonging from everyone and everything outside ourselves. But here's the revolutionary part: she explains that these aren't personality flaws. They're survival skills we developed as kids, and we can unlearn them.We get real about the invisible labor women carry, the pressure to be productive over everything else, and why setting boundaries feels so physically uncomfortable. Beatrice then walks us through practical, body-based techniques you can start today. This conversation is for anyone who's exhausted from putting themselves last, who feels guilty for saying no, or who's ready to stop apologizing for taking up space in their own life.Connect with Beatriz: https://beatrizalbina.com/Link to Beatriz's book: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Free Meditations: https://beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/Beatriz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/Connect with Sabrina:https://www.instagram.com/Sabrina_Soto/www.SabrinaSoto.com

In this emotionally charged and deeply honest episode, Christina and Brittany unpack what really happens when emotions take over in relationships. Christina opens up about a recent conflict that left her feeling angry, frustrated, and raw—sharing how quickly emotions can escalate when communication breaks down.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're losing yourself in midlife?  In this powerful episode, I'm sitting down with expert Ashley Turner to explore the deeper meaning behind midlife hormonal changes in perimenopause and menopause.  Ashley helps you discover how perimenopause can be a profound reckoning, discussing how this stage of life invites us to shift from ego-driven goals toward greater purpose and compassion for others… and more importantly, for yourself.  Ashley beautifully reframes midlife as not an ending, but a spiritual awakening — a chance to realign with who we are and what we value.  We also dive into how embracing this change can spark healing, empowerment, and advocacy for ourselves and others.  Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will leave you ready to step into your next chapter with grace and intention. Ashley Turner Ashley Turner is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Psychedelic Therapist, renowned yoga–meditation teacher, writer, facilitator, speaker, and 7-figure entrepreneur. Her mission is to serve women – especially those in midlife and menopause. She helps visionary leaders tap into their confidence and amplify their wisdom, vision, and voice by embodying their full feminine power. Her own personal midlife struggles led her to found her Metamorphosis: Midlife & Menopause Mentorship and The Haven Membership. Ashley has been featured in media outlets such as The Washington Post, Shape, Self, Women's Health, Yoga Journal, Health, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Sounds True, and many more. IN THIS EPISODE Recognizing the symptoms of perimenopause  Ashley's work supporting women mentally and emotionally  How hormones can help some but not ALL symptoms  Why being intentional about your choices matters more in midlife  Lifestyle habits for optimal physical and mental health  How we can shift the culture around perimenopause awareness  How to cultivate your sense of community in midlife  How Perimenoapuse can be one of your greatest teachers  QUOTES “Once I got on the hormones, that was extremely helpful and it totally saved my life, and I love them… [but] it didn't solve all my problems. There's still a huge developmental phase that we're going through as women. People going through menopause, huge transitions in our sense of self, our ambition, our drive, who we are, our identity, of course sexuality, and that's a lot to manage on top of everything else that's happening in life.” “For a lot of women, it's taking 4 to 6 appointments for doctors to connect the dots between what they're going through and it being perimenopause and menopause. And what that does is it delays care, it delays treatment, and it delays a woman's quality of life.”  “I think telling the stories and sharing really authentically and vulnerably and transparently is such an important piece of this because we heal together. We are changing culture. We are weaving a new sisterhood, a new ethos. We also have to educate our partners, our children, our work environments, and really shape shift the culture.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order my new book The Perimenopause Revolution https://drmariza.com/book Use code ENERGIZED and get 20% off on your Timeline order  http://timeline.com/ENERGIZED Ashley Turner The Haven Community  Metamorphosis: Master Menopause and Midlife  Ashley Turner on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 689: The Hidden Brain Shift: Why Perimenopause Symptoms Start Earlier Than You Think 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

If you've ever walked into a family visit stone-cold sober and immediately felt your shoulders creep up to your ears, you're in the right place. In-laws, expectations, and the mental load can be… a lot. Especially when you're trying to stay alcohol-free and not soothe every tiny (or not-so-tiny) jab with a glass of Pinot. In this episode, I asked Dr. Tracy Dalgleish—clinical psychologist, couples therapist, host of the Dear Dr. Tracy podcast, and author of I Didn't Sign Up For This and her new book You, Your Husband and His Mother—to share how to set healthy, drama-free boundaries with in-laws, get on the same team with your partner, and handle triggers without numbing out with alcohol. In plain English: fewer tears in the bathroom, more peace in your own home. For the full show notes, kindly go to this podcast episode link: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother-boundaries-triangles-and-staying-sober-without-people-pleasing/ 4 Ways I Can Support You In Drinking Less + Living More Join The Sobriety Starter Kit, the only sober coaching course designed specifically for busy women. My proven, step-by-step sober coaching program will teach you exactly how to stop drinking  — and how to make it the best decision of your life. Save your seat in my FREE MASTERCLASS, 5 Secrets To Successfully Take a Break From Drinking  Grab the Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking, 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol-Free. Connect with me for free sober coaching tips, updates + videos on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest and TikTok @hellosomedaysober. Love The Podcast and Want To Say Thanks? ☕ Buy me a coffee! In the true spirit of Seattle, coffee is my love language. So if you want to support the hours that go into creating this show each week, click this link to buy me a coffee and I'll run to the nearest Starbucks + lift a Venti Almond Milk Latte and toast to you! https://www.buymeacoffee.com/hellosomeday