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People pleasing and rejection sensitivity are common struggles for adults with ADHD, especially in work and relationship settings where power dynamics and fear of disapproval are present. In this episode of Adulting with ADHD, Sarah talks with licensed therapist Billy Roberts, owner of Focused Mind ADHD Counseling, about why people pleasing develops and how it connects to rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), trauma responses, and self worth. Billy explains how many ADHD adults learn to manage fear of rejection by prioritizing others' needs, avoiding conflict, and taking on too much responsibility. While this can feel protective in the moment, it often leads to burnout, shame, and feeling disconnected from your own goals and identity. Together, they explore how people pleasing shows up in daily life, from over apologizing and over explaining to avoiding honesty and self advocacy. Billy also shares small, practical ways to begin shifting these patterns with more awareness and self trust. In this episode, we talk about: – Why people pleasing is common in adults with ADHD – How rejection sensitive dysphoria influences behavior – The "fawn response" and its role in relationships and work – Overcommitment, over responsibility, and over accommodation – Conflict avoidance and ADHD masking – How shame can make honesty feel unsafe Billy also shares practical strategies, including: – How to recognize when you are people pleasing – Ways to practice being more honest in low risk situations – Why self awareness is the first step toward change – How telling the truth builds confidence and agency – Why learning to trust yourself supports healthier communication If you often feel responsible for other people's emotions or afraid to speak up at work or in relationships, this episode offers a compassionate and realistic starting point for understanding why — and how to begin changing it. Resources mentioned: Focused Mind ADHD Counseling Billy Roberts' upcoming book on people pleasing and ADHD Adult ADHD therapy and coaching services
Are your friendships or relationships feeling unaligned, unclear, or just plain confusing? Are you doing the work but still not experiencing the depth of connection you truly crave?Right now, we're in the midst of a collective relationship reckoning. In this potent episode, Jessica breaks down why manifesting love, intimacy, and deep friendship can feel harder than ever—and why it's reflecting the exact parts of you that are ready to be healed.If you're feeling romantically adrift, unseen, or wondering why your dream partner or soul-aligned friendships haven't arrived yet, this episode will help unlock your next step forward. It's not just about recognizing patterns; it's about stepping into the version of you who can say no to what no longer fits, stay regulated in the face of fear, and source your worth from within.With real expander stories and powerful energetic reframes, this episode is a must-listen if you're ready to deepen your relationships from a place of embodied self-love.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (It's not too late to join in. Start any time!)The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential. LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin the Pathway now - Return to Magic Challenge available now! New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! Share Your Manifestation StorySubmit to Be a Process GuestWhat did you manifest during the Money Challenge? Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! In this episode we talk about:Why many are feeling unseen or unfulfilled in their relationships right nowHow nervous system regulation is essential for intimacy and manifestationThe mirror principle: using relationships as a tool for self-awarenessThe trap of pedestal-ing your manifestationsThe power of detaching from outcomes and falling in love with your lifeHow fear and protector parts sabotage relational growthReleasing urgency and timelines around your manifestationsUsing the Return to Magic challenge to understand your relationship blueprintLearning to love and have compassion for your shadowExpander stories of partnership breakthroughs and healingFriendships as mirrors: projecting vs. authentic connectionBuilding trust and communication in long-term relationships Mentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 373 - Elizabeth Endres on How to Choose Yourself and Become MagneticExpanded x Ep. 365 - How to Manifest the Love You Desire with Jillian TureckiExpanded x Ep. 342 - Top Tips for Self-love, Manifesting Love, & a Deeper Connection with Your PartnerExpanded x Ep. 300 Best in Class: Love - Romantic, Self-love, FriendshipExpanded x Ep. 298 - Reimagining Love, Relationships & Breaking Codependency with Mark Groves and Kylie McBeathExpanded x Ep. 265 - People Pleasing, Dating Apps, & Manifesting Self Love – Unblocking: Love & PartnershipEp. 236 - Best in Class The Love/Money ConnectionExpanded x Ep. 197 - EXPLAINED Divorce and Relationships w. LMFT Janelle NelsonWatch our full-length video episodes on Youtube!Find our Return to Magic Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Self-Love Playlist, Calming DI, Reset DI, Conflict DI and Safe with Money DI) HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill)Available now! The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast
If you're stuck people pleasing, over explaining, apologizing too much, scanning everyone's mood, and saying yes fast then resenting it later, this episode breaks down what's really happening and why it feels so hard to stop. You'll learn how people pleasing often forms as a nervous system survival strategy, the fawn response, where being agreeable once meant safety, approval, or belonging. We talk through the root causes, conditional love, performance conditioning, fear of conflict, and why setting a boundary can trigger guilt, anxiety, and an intense urge to fix, rescue, or smooth things over. You'll also get practical tools to recover from people pleasing without turning cold or selfish, including regulation skills, grounding, breathing, and simple boundary language that's short, calm, and clear. The focus is rebuilding self trust, making your yes mean something again, and ending the cycle of obligation, burnout, and resentment in relationships. If you struggle with saying no to family, a partner, friends, or coworkers, and you want a clear framework for boundaries, emotional safety, and confident communication, this episode will give you what to listen for in yourself, and what to do next.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.
This week, I'm joined again by emotional eating expert Tricia Nelson. This time, we explore the intricate connection between emotional eating and romantic relationships. We talk about how emotional responsibility includes becoming aware of the ways food struggles can impact intimacy and communication in relationships.We also discuss how isolation can intensify emotional eating, why connection and honesty are essential to healing, and the underlying reasons food becomes a coping mechanism. Tricia shares practical ways she has helped people shift these deep-rooted patterns, including how processing, expressing, and communicating how we're feeling is essential to changing compulsive eating behaviors. It's an honest conversation about how long-term struggles with food can affect the people in our lives, with practical advice for how to feel and connect with others instead of numb and avoid with food. Show Notes | Resources | Mentions:Emotional Eating Free QuizBook: Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating NowInstagram: @tricianelson_Website: healyourhunger.comTricia's Book: Heal Your Hunger: 7 Simple Steps to End Emotional Eating NowPodcast: Heal Your Hunger Show on Apple Podcasts If you liked this episode, try this one from the archive: Why We Eat Our Feelings (and What to Do Instead)—Tricia Nelson Explains
Send a textTune in to learn about some recent podcast updates this week!Book a free consult call: restovergrind.com/work-with-meEmail me: info@restovergrind.comInstagram and TikTok: @maria_stoyadinova Download the "Getting Out of Procrastination," "Getting Out of Perfectionism," and "Getting Out of People Pleasing" videos: restovegrind.com/free-videos
The Unapologetic Vixen Podcast: Owning Pleasure As A Black Woman
In this episode of Owning Pleasure as a Black Woman, we explore that awful, anxiety-ridden feeling that comes after you set a boundary—what I call the people-pleasing hangover. If you've ever said no to something and spent the next 48 hours replaying the conversation, checking your phone obsessively, or planning how to take it back, this episode is for you. We dive into why your nervous system treats boundary-setting like a threat, how generational conditioning makes saying no feel dangerous, and practical ways to sit with someone else's disappointment without fixing it.Key Takeaways:The people-pleasing hangover is a nervous system response, not a character flaw—your body learned early that saying yes equals safety and saying no equals dangerThe discomfort you feel after setting a boundary isn't evidence you did something wrong—it's evidence you did something different, and your nervous system is adjusting to a new patternYou can care about someone AND let them have their own feelings—their disappointment is not an emergency you need to fix, and managing their emotional experience keeps you trapped in the people-pleasing cycleResources Mentioned:Free 7-Day Self-Care Reset Designed for women who've been people-pleasing so long they've forgotten what they actually want. Includes a full day on relational boundaries. Download at javerywellness.com/resetIndividual Therapy at Javery Integrative Wellness Services Ready for personalized support to rewire people-pleasing patterns? Our culturally responsive therapists specialize in helping Black women move from survival mode to thriving. Complete intake form at javerywellness.com/get-startedWatch on YouTube: Prefer to watch instead of listen? Head over to our YouTube channel to catch the full episode. Watch at @javerywellnessConnect with Us:Instagram: @javerywellnessFacebook: @javeryIWSYouTube: @javerywellnessWebsite:
Kommentarspalte mal wieder auf Anschlag. Zwischen ungefragten Expertisen, wilden Unterstellungen und moralischem Zeigefinger.Aber statt im Hate stecken zu bleiben, geht's um was Größeres: Werte. Wofür steht man eigentlich – als Reiterin, als Influencerin, als Marke? Und was passiert, wenn man es allen recht machen will? Spoiler: funktioniert nicht.Vielleicht ist es Zeit für weniger People Pleasing und mehr klare Haltung.Am Ende seid ihr gefragt: Wie würdet ihr Mira in wenigen Worten beschreiben bzw was ist ihr USP? Für alle Senioren: Es gibt MEHR im Leben!
Soll ich warten oder loslassen? Diese Frage taucht meist dann auf, wenn wir zwischen Hoffnung und Erschöpfung stehen. Wenn wir jemanden lieben, aber nicht wissen, woran wir sind. Wenn Nähe da ist, aber keine klare Sicherheit. In dieser Folge spreche ich darüber, warum diese Phase so intensiv ist, was sie mit deinem Nervensystem zu tun hat und weshalb es oft nicht um die Entscheidung selbst geht, sondern um deine innere Stabilität. Du erfährst:- Warum Ungewissheit unser altes Bindungssystem aktiviert- Woran du erkennst, ob du aus Vertrauen wartest oder aus Verlustangst- Warum Loslassen nicht immer Stärke und Warten nicht immer Schwäche ist- Wie du in dieser Zwischenphase nicht in Panik verfällst- Was es wirklich braucht, um bei dir zu bleiben, auch wenn du noch keine Antwort hast Diese Folge ist für dich, wenn du merkst, dass dich Unklarheit innerlich zerreißt und du lernen möchtest, dich selbst zu halten, statt dich zu verlieren.Denn die wichtigste Frage ist vielleicht nicht: „Soll ich warten oder loslassen?“ Sondern: „Kann ich mich selbst halten, während ich es noch nicht weiß, wie es ausgeht?“ Du möchtest endlich Nein-Sagen lernen?Wenn du spürst, dass dieses Thema dich tief betrifft und du endlich aus dem Kreislauf des People Pleasing aussteigen möchtest, dann ist mein neuer Kurs „People Pleasing stoppen“ genau für dich gemacht. Oder, wenn du dich im Liebeskummer befindest und du diesen mehr und mehr loslassen möchtest, unterstützt dich der Kurs „Liebeskummer auflösen“ darin.Alle Infos findest du unter diesem Link: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/onlinekurse/Welche Gedanken hast du zu diesem Thema oder welche Erkenntnisse konntest du für dich aus der heutigen Folge mitnehmen? Teile sie gerne in den Kommentaren oder unter meinem aktuellen Beitrag auf Instagram @martinabamesberger oder auf meinem Blog auf meiner Website www.masterclass-of-mind.deIch freue mich auf dich. Wenn du dir Unterstützung wünschst auf deinem Weg, kontaktiere mich sehr gerne und buche dir dein kostenloses Erstgespräch. Ich freue mich auf dich. Von Herz zu Herz, deine Martina❤️ Hier kannst du Kontakt zu mir aufnehmen: _______________________________________________________________Erstgespräch buchen: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/erstgespraech/Email: info@masterclass-of-mind.deWebsite: www.masterclass-of-mind.deInstagram: @martinabamesbergerBuch „Eiskalt“ erhältlich auf Amazon und überall dort, wo es Bücher gibt
Wonder why you people please, over explain, or shut down? Here's what's going on and how to help yourself with it. FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource. I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing. Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide WORK WITH MICHELLE CROYLE, LPC: If you are a Christian woman who feels ready for deeper, focused trauma healing than typical weekly talk therapy can offer, you may want to consider an EMDR-based Therapeutic Intensive with me. I clear my schedule to work with you over the course of one to three days for three to six hours per day on a focus target of your choosing. Intensives are designed to support meaningful change in the way the nervous system feels safest, not rushed into an hour here and there. Ready for deeper healing? If you live in Pennsylvania or are willing to travel to Pennsylvania for a therapy intensive, you can learn more or schedule a reserve a free consultation by clicking here: Learn More or Reserve a Free Consultation
People pleasing kept me safe. But it was costing me my voice. If you struggle with saying no, disappointing people, or hiding parts of yourself to keep the peace — this conversation is for you.
In this episode of "The Free Lawyer," host Gary interviews Yeve Chitiga, a former lawyer turned certified executive and leadership coach. Yeve shares her journey from big law and in-house roles to launching her own coaching practice. Together, they discuss the challenges lawyers face with people-pleasing, boundary-setting, and aligning career success with personal fulfillment. Yeve offers insights on overcoming burnout, reconnecting with inner values, and supporting women in law. The episode highlights the transformative power of coaching for lawyers seeking greater joy, confidence, and authenticity in their professional and personal lives.Yeve leads Yevedzo Coaching and Consulting, an executive and leadership coaching and consulting practice that supports high-achieving women and senior leaders who want to lead with clarity, confidence, and alignment. A lawyer with Big Law and in-house counsel experience and a former financial institution internal auditor in both the US and UK, Yeve brings deep corporate experience to her coaching. As an ICF Professional Certified Coach she blends empathy and strategy to help clients elevate their leadership, strengthen their presence, and align their work with their values and vision.The Power of Coaching (00:03:33)Personal Trainer for the Heart, Mind, and Soul (00:06:11)Redefining Success: Internal vs. External Validation (00:09:04)Listening as a Superpower (00:11:41)Challenges for Women Lawyers and Leaders (00:16:28)People Pleasing and Burnout (00:21:11)Setting and Maintaining Boundaries (00:24:42)Reconnecting with Inner Wisdom (00:28:43)Achieving Alignment, Not Just Success You can find The Free Lawyer Assessment here- https://www.garymiles.net/the-free-lawyer-assessmentWould you like to learn what it looks like to become a truly Free Lawyer? You can schedule a complimentary call here: https://calendly.com/garymiles-successcoach/one-one-discovery-callWould you like to learn more about Breaking Free or order your copy? https://www.garymiles.net/break-free
In this episode, I respond to a question about a nine-year-old who presents as mature, responsible, and "put together," yet shows strong perfectionistic and people-pleasing tendencies in session. I unpack what is often happening beneath that polished exterior — faking good, fear of judgment, low self-esteem, and a deep resistance to vulnerability. When a child thrives in collaborative activities but withdraws during independent play, that often signals discomfort with ownership, mistakes, and being fully seen. I also address what it means when a child consistently rejects reflected feelings. In many cases, it's not that the reflection is wrong — it's that naming the emotion makes it real. For children who lack emotional vocabulary or have learned to suppress their internal experience, acknowledging feelings can feel threatening. I discuss how small enlargements, gentle juxtaposition, and patient adherence to the model help build self-trust, identity, and emotional awareness over time. Ultimately, this episode is a reminder to trust the process, recognize incongruence for what it is, and allow perfectionistic children the safety they need to gradually let their guard down. PlayTherapyNow.com is my HUB for everything I do! playtherapynow.com. Sign up for my email newsletter, stay ahead with the latest CCPT CEU courses, personalized coaching opportunities and other opportunities you need to thrive in your CCPT practice. If you click one link in these show notes, this is the one to click! Topical Playlists! All of the podcasts are now grouped into topical playlists on YouTube. Please go to https://www.youtube.com/kidcounselorbrenna/playlists to view them. If you would like to ask me questions directly, check out www.ccptcollective.com, where I host two weekly Zoom calls filled with advanced CCPT case studies and session reviews, as well as member Q&A. You can take advantage of the two-week free trial to see if the CCPT Collective is right for you. Ask Me Questions: Call (813) 812-5525, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com Brenna's CCPT Hub: https://www.playtherapynow.com CCPT Collective (online community exclusively for CCPTs): https://www.ccptcollective.com Podcast HQ: https://www.playtherapypodcast.com APT Approved Play Therapy CE courses: https://childcenteredtraining.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/playtherapypodcast Common References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948 Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.
Why does setting boundaries feel so scary—even when you know they're healthy?If you feel guilty saying no, anxious about disappointing people, responsible for other people's emotions, or afraid that boundaries make you selfish, this episode of Mental Health School is for you.In this episode, we unpack people-pleasing, boundary anxiety, and attachment patterns—and why boundarylessness is not a flaw, but an adaptation your nervous system learned early in life.You'll learn:• How people-pleasing forms in childhood• Why attachment felt safer than authenticity• Why boundaries trigger anxiety in the nervous system• How people-pleasing functions as a protective survival strategy• The difference between attachment-based survival and authentic self-expression• How to begin setting boundaries without becoming cold, harsh, or disconnectedDrawing from attachment theory (often discussed by Gabor Maté) and internal systems work (developed by Richard Schwartz), this episode explains why a child will always choose connection over authenticity—and how that pattern can follow us into adulthood.You'll also be guided through a calming affirmation practice designed to help your nervous system feel safe with boundaries, unwind people-pleasing, and build tolerance for authenticity without self-abandonment.If you struggle with:• people-pleasing• fear of disappointing others• difficulty setting boundaries• boundary guilt or anxiety• losing yourself in relationshipsthis episode will help you understand why boundaries feel threatening—and how to rebuild safety around being yourself.You don't need to abandon yourself to stay connected. You can be authentic and still belong.
We just hit a major milestone—Episode 200 of the Fly on the Wall Podcast.And before I say anything else, I just want to say thank you.Whether you've listened to one episode or all 200… whether you've shared the podcast, sent it to a friend, or applied the leadership principles in your ministry—I'm genuinely grateful. This podcast exists to serve pastors like you, and it's because of your support that we've made it this far.Now, for Episode 200, we're tackling something that every leader feels—but not every leader knows how to address:Have you ever realized you're making leadership decisions based more on keeping people happy than moving the mission forward?If so—you're not alone.In Episode 200, I'm joined by my good friend Hannah for an honest coaching conversation about one of the most common leadership traps pastors face: people pleasing—and the anxiety that often comes with it.What I love about this session is Hannah's transparency. She shares how her people-pleasing tendencies have started shaping her leadership culture—especially as she's onboarding new leaders. And she asks a question every pastor needs to wrestle with:How do you overcome people pleasing and anxiety as a lead pastor… without losing your heart for people?In this episode, we cover:How people pleasing quietly controls your leadership decisionsWhy you'll never outlive this struggle—you can only outgrow itThe truth about identity: where it really comes from when nobody's watchingWhy “your vision is for sale” when people pleasing takes overHow to discern the source of criticism (and when not to receive it)Why busyness can create a false sense of productivity in your churchHow churches become “busy but not productive”—and what to do insteadThe In-N-Out principle: doing a few things exceptionally well instead of everything averageThe difference between task-driven ministry and leader-multiplying cultureWhy systems—not personality—are what sustain long-term growthThis one is packed with insight, conviction, and practical leadership clarity—especially if you're leading in a smaller church context where relationships, giving, and criticism can feel personal.
Okay, y'all. Buckle up for a full-body reminder: there is nothing wrong with you. In this episode, I'm throwing down the truth about judgment (yours and everyone else's), ego meltdowns, pink hair stereotypes, and what happens when you finally shut up long enough to hear what's going on in your own head. We get real about red pepper anxiety, the silent retreat that changed me, and the quote that's been living rent-free in my brain: “No one will ever love you the way you want to be loved… because that's your job.” Spoiler: there's also a blue breath meditation to clear out your throat chakra so you can speak your truth without all the noise. It's part pep talk, part truth bomb, and all heart. Let's go.
What if people-pleasing is your nervous system doing exactly what it has learned to do to keep you safe?In this episode, host Elizabeth Mintun explores people pleasing through the lens of the nervous system, specifically the fawn response, a survival strategy organized around connection and safety. Rather than trying to “overcome” or shame this pattern, we look at why it made sense in the first place - and how understanding it with compassion can create real, sustainable change.Key TakeawaysPeople-pleasing is a nervous system strategy. It often develops as a way to stay safe, connected, and regulated in environments where harmony, approval, or emotional attunement mattered for belonging.The fawn response is organized around connection. Alongside fight, flight, and freeze, the fawn response seeks safety by accommodating, smoothing, helping, or staying agreeable (especially in relationally sensitive people).Shame and force don't create lasting change. Trying to “override” people pleasing by pushing yourself to say no often backfires because the nervous system still perceives danger.Understanding comes before changing a pattern. When we understand why people-pleasing once made sense, we can honor it rather than fight it - and patterns often begin to shift naturally.Resources Sign up for the free workshop From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust: Reclaim Yourself Without Burning Bridges here:https://go.thecalmingground.com/people-pleasing-to-self-trustLearn more about 1:1 Coaching with Elizabeth Mintun here. Contact Elizabeth: elizabethmintun@thecalmingground.comFind Elizabeth on Facebook & IG @thecalminggroundRelated episodes that do focus on boundaries: Episode #27 The Gift of Boundaries for Compassionate Presence: An Interview with Dawn GlascoEpisode #29 Growing Our Boundary Muscles: An Exploration of Inner & Outer Boundaries with Kelli Younglove Episode #30 Honoring Ourselves: Freeing Ourselves from People-PleasingSubscribe to The Calming Ground Podcast so you never miss an episode. If you loved this conversation, please share it with a friend!
"When we people please, we prioritise others' needs over our own."How often have you said, "I'm a people pleaser", or said yes to something when you really wanted to say no.In the latest episode of the Confidence Conversations podcast, I chat to Chris Mooney, a UK based therapist about people pleasing and it's link to confidence. We explore the signs of people pleasing and the barriers that stop people from saying no. We touch on the gender dynamics of people pleasing, the importance of boundaries and chat through some practical steps to combat people pleasing. Chris shares insights from his therapy practice, emphasising the need for self-awareness and the distinction between kindness and people pleasing.Love the podcast? Please subscribe
In this episode, we are joined by Spiritual Strategist, Retreat Host, and Author Latha Jay to explore how to bridge the gap between "woo" and "wow" by rewriting your worthiness story. Latha reveals why imposter syndrome is a pattern of the nervous system rather than a character flaw and provides the tools to shift your internal vibration to create real-world success in your business and life.Tune in to learn:How to break the exhausting cycle of "good girl" conditioning that causes high-achieving women to shrink their voices and undercharge for their value.The secrets to identifying where you have been holding back and how to move past people-pleasing into a state of deep, internal alignment.Why transformation is both practical and mystical, and how to use shadow work and nervous system regulation to rewire your internal safety.Practical steps to set "brave boundaries" with your time, your rates, or draining relationships to create the clarity necessary for your authority to flourish.Everything starts on the inside—it is time to water the root of your authority and stop shrinking to fit others' expectations.Free Gift: Business is Spiritual E-BookDiscover how to align your professional strategy with your spiritual path by bridging the gap between the practical and the mystical. This eBook provides a soulful roadmap for shifting your internal vibration to create sustainable, real-world success in your business and life.Latha's Giveaway Contribution: 1-1 Business SessionReady to break through the internal barriers holding your business back? Enter the giveaway to win an exclusive 1:1 Business Session with Latha to identify your specific mindset blocks and align your energy for your next level of expansion! This is a rare opportunity to work directly with a master strategist!Connect with Latha: Website | Instagram ---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!
In this episode, we're joined by M.Ed, Master Life Coach, and IFS Practitioner Andrea Tessier to explore how the next-level version of you is already inside—she is just crowded by protective parts. Andrea introduces the power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you build unshakeable self-trust and step into a model of liberated leadership.Tune in to learn:How to identify and unblend from the protective sub-personalities—like the perfectionist, inner judge, and people-pleaser—that create hesitation in your leadership.The secrets to navigating the cycle of self-doubt and over-responsibility by shifting from generic external roadmaps to your own internal guidance.Practical ways to use the power tool of unblending to regain your agency and create space for compassionate self-leadership when you feel internal resistance.How to lead from your wise, calm core to make bold decisions and step into your authority with grace and courage.By learning to navigate your internal world with compassion, you unlock the ability to lead your business and life from a place of deep alignment.Free Gift: Self-Trust Starter KitThe Self-Trust Starter Kit is a powerful introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS) and shows you how to understand the parts of you that create self-doubt, hesitation, and overthinking. Inside, you'll learn how to work with these protective patterns so you can build genuine, embodied self-trust from the inside out. If you're ready to make confident decisions, honour your inner wisdom, and lead yourself with clarity, this guide will show you where to begin.Andrea's Giveaway Contribution: IFS Coaching Experience 90-minute IFS Coaching Experience—a deep, personalized session designed to help you understand the parts driving your patterns and reconnect with the clarity of your Self. Together, we'll explore what's been blocking your confidence and map out a customized path forward so you can lead yourself with greater ease, alignment, and conviction. You'll walk away with a personalized roadmap and a renewed sense of inner authority (Valued at $500!).Connect with Andrea: Website | Instagram---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!
In this episode of I'm Fine, It's Fine, we sit down with comedian, artist, and impressionist Melissa Villaseñor for a thoughtful, grounding conversation about healing through creativity, movement, and learning how to listen to your nervous system.We talk about how running became a form of regulation, how art and expression create safety, and what it looks like to untangle people-pleasing patterns while staying connected to yourself. Melissa opens up about emotional sensitivity, self-trust, and the ways creativity can help us process what words sometimes can't.This episode explores nervous systems, identity, and the quiet work of choosing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable.Hosted by licensed trauma therapist Melanie Reese (LMFT) and comedian Amber Autry. Subscribe for two exclusive episodes per month.Check out Melissa's upcoming tour dates and artwork: https://www.melissavillasenor.com/Follow Us!
In this episode, Brittany Anderson and Christina Lecuyer dive into the kinds of conversations many people are thinking about — but not always saying out loud.From the Grammys and public authenticity to money habits, subscriptions, student debt, and the real cost of education, this episode blends cultural commentary with real-life financial awareness. Brittany and Christina unpack how quickly expenses can add up, why understanding your personal finances is a form of self-leadership, and how women in particular often undervalue their worth — both personally and professionally.They also explore alternative paths to success beyond traditional education, the rise of trades and small businesses, and the importance of real-world experience over checking boxes. At its core, this conversation is about ownership — of your voice, your money, your value, and your life.If you've ever felt overwhelmed by finances, questioned the “right” path, or struggled to confidently ask for what you're worth, this episode is for you.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!
In this episode, we are joined by Executive Coach and Leadership Strategist Arivee Vargas to help high-achievers transition from fear-based habits to purpose-led leadership. She breaks down the common patterns that keep women playing small—including people-pleasing and perfecting—and introduces a transformative framework designed to foster deep self-trust and personal alignment.Tune in to learn:How to break free from the exhausting internal and external pressure to have it all together and the fear of not being enough.The secrets to identifying the 5P patterns of high performance—Pressure, People-Pleasing, Perfecting, Proving, and Performing—that often stem from a childhood need for compliance.How to replace fear-based habits with a framework built on Purpose, Priorities, Presence, Power, and Permission.Practical ways to use journaling and micro-decisions to honestly name your struggles and start leading a life that feels full and alive.Through honest self-reflection and Arivee's expert guidance, you will learn how to stop pretending and start leading with sustainable high performance. Free Gift: Boundary ToolkitGrab your FREE Boundary Toolkit: 3 Proven Strategies to protect your time, reclaim your energy, and feel more in control at work and in life. Perfect for anyone done with depletion and ready to lead from a place of clarity and intention.Arivee's Giveaway Contribution: Bestselling Book Your Time To RiseEnter to a win a copy of Arivee's book, Your Time to Rise: Unlearn Limiting Beliefs, Unlock Your Power and Unleash Your Truest Self! Connect with Arivee: Website | Podcast | Instagram---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!
People pleasing is often seen as being helpful, reliable, or easy to work with. But for busy professionals, executives, entrepreneurs, and business owners with ADHD, it can quietly become one of the biggest drivers of burnout, overcommitment, and frustration. In this episode, Dave talks about how people pleasing shows up in leadership and the workplace, why it's so common in high-achieving adults with ADHD, and what it actually costs you over time. More importantly, Dave will explore practical ways to recognize these patterns and how to begin shifting toward healthier boundaries that support sustainable success. In this episode: Why people pleasing in ADHD is less about being "nice" and more about emotional regulation How people pleasing shows up in leadership, business ownership, and professional roles The link between rejection sensitivity, conflict avoidance, and overcommitment Subtle signs of hidden people pleasing in high performers The professional, financial, and personal costs of chronic people pleasing Why saying yes often feels easier than tolerating discomfort Simple mindset shifts to move from automatic yes to intentional choice Practical strategies to reduce people pleasing without damaging relationships If you've ever felt overwhelmed, resentful, or stretched too thin while trying to be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. **Do you want to work with Dave one-on-one? Go to www.overcomingdistractions.com and book an introductory Zoom chat. Or go directly to Dave's calendar; https://calendly.com/davidgreenwood1/15min
Wenn du dein Business führst wie 2021, wirst du 2026 nicht da stehen, wo du sein willst.Die Welt hat sich verändert – und deine Art zu führen darf es auch.Diese Folge ist dein energetisches Rebranding, dein Reality Check und dein Reminder:You didn't come here to play small.Wir sprechen über:
SummaryStruggling to balance eating out with your weight loss goals? You're not alone. In this episode, Chase and Chris sit down with weight loss coach Emily Moss to talk about one of the most common struggles they see in clients: navigating restaurant meals while trying to make progress.The truth is — dining out isn't the issue. It's going in without a plan, hoping you'll “be good,” and wondering why nothing changes. In this episode, you'll learn how to stop winging it and start making smart, intentional decisions around food… without giving up your social life.Whether you're eating out once a month or 3x a week, this episode will help you feel more in control, aligned with your goals, and confident in any setting.Chapters(00:00) Dining Out Isn't the Problem… So What Is?(01:56) Why Eating Out Feels So Hard When You're Dieting(04:40) The Social Life That Revolves Around Food(06:35) Is This Meal Actually “Special” — Or Just Habit?(08:03) Why Winging It Always Backfires(09:45) Frequency Matters More Than You Think(11:48) Coaching Expectations Around Dining Out(13:44) “Healthy” Salads That Aren't Actually Helping(16:06) Protein-First: The Strategy That Changes Everything(17:42) People Pleasing and the Pressure to Fit In(20:16) Using Context to Guide Your Choices(23:35) Yes, You Can Lose Weight While Eating Out (But…)(26:22) Bread, Alcohol, Dessert — Pick One(28:12) Scale Fluctuations After Dining Out(32:23) Honest Tradeoffs: Speed of Progress vs Flexibility(33:34) How Alcohol Affects Your Fat Loss Timeline(36:04) Set a Limit Before You Go(40:25) Want to Feel Better Tomorrow? Decide Today(41:07) Recognize and Interrupt Your Patterns(43:22) Be the One Who Chooses Where You Eat(45:03) Tactical Restaurant Hacks That Work(49:03) The #1 Rule: Don't Wing It(50:19) Emily's Favorite Trick to Stay Focused(51:36) Final Thoughts and Where to Find Emily MossConnect with Emily: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nutritioncoaching365/Website: https://www.nutritioncoaching365.comSUBMIT YOUR QUESTIONS to be answered on the show: https://forms.gle/B6bpTBDYnDcbUkeD7How to Connect with Us:Chase's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/changing_chase/Chris' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/conquer_fitness2021/Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/665770984678334/Interested in 1:1 Coaching: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/1on1-coachingJoin The Fit Fam Collective: https://conquerfitnessandnutrition.com/fit-fam-collective
Asia Cross is living proof that freedom starts when you stop trying to save everyone.In this episode, she opens up about breaking free from people pleasing, staying in her God-given lane, and choosing obedience over approval.If you've been warring with things that don't belong to you, this one is for you.
We talk a lot about “self-validation,” but no one really explains what that means in real life. This episode breaks down internal vs external validation, why relying on other people to confirm your feelings is so tempting, and how to start trusting your own reactions without over-explaining or second-guessing yourself. If you constantly ask, “Am I overreacting?” or need someone else to agree before you feel okay, this one's for you.Stay connected here Connect with me on Instagram Please email me here: Lauren@ohyeahcoaching.comApply for coaching HEREWould You Date You? FREE guide
Was hat das Außen mit deinem Wert zu tun? Spoiler: weniger, als du denkst. In dieser Folge räumen wir mit dem Reflex auf, aus fehlendem Lob, fehlenden Nachrichten oder fremden Normen sofort „Ich bin nicht gut genug“ zu machen.Worum geht's heute wirklich?Darum, dass dein Wert nicht im Außen entsteht – sondern innen. Und dass du erwachsen heute die Verantwortung hast, deine Story neu zu schreiben, statt dich in „Die anderen sind schuld“ einzurichten.Wir sprechen über dieses schnelle Verurteilen („Der hat nicht… also bin ich…“) und warum das zwar erstmal logisch klingt, dich aber langfristig von dir selbst wegführt.Und ja: Ich erzähle dir auch von meinem Unterwäsche-Werbung-Moment – inklusive „Oh Gott, jetzt haben mich Tausende in BH & Slip gesehen“-Gedanken.
When you've been hurt by someone you trusted, it feels impossible that you'll ever let go of the pain and shame around what happened and be able to stand in your power again. The truth is that though you feel like a victim, and you feel taken advantage of, or like you're completely broken, it is possible to move past this situation and open yourself to love and safety without fear. Najwa Zebian has joined us on Women of Impact multiple times and each time she's been able to put words to the pain that has blindsided many women and offer a new perspective through which we can move out of survival mode and truly start healing. She's the bestselling author of Welcome Home, Mind Platter, Sparks of Phoenix and so much more. As a woman she's experienced the difficulties of life, going against culture, and being open and vulnerable with the wrong people. In this episode, Najwa and Lisa are bringing you a fresh look at setting boundaries. It's not about keeping people out or giving other people a set of rules to follow, it's about your personal value and how you see your self-worth. Being a people pleasing woman may have landed you in painful situations, but you can make peace with that version of you and ask yourself the one question that will bring you to tears, healing, and freedom. Follow Najwa Zebian: Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Send Dr. Li a text here. Please leave your email address if you would like a reply, thanks.In this episode, Dr. Christine Li talks with mental health therapist and coach Allison Ly about how to set healthy boundaries—especially for adults with immigrant parents. Drawing from personal and professional experience, Allison Ly explains why boundary-setting is often challenging in immigrant families.The episode features practical advice for tuning into your own needs, navigating family pushback, and handling guilt, highlighting that boundary-setting is a gradual process that strengthens relationships rather than weakens them. By sharing strategies and resources—including her "Say No" cheat sheet—Allison Ly offers listeners a pathway to healthier, more peaceful family dynamics.Timestamps00:00:00 – 00:02:44: Dr. Christine Li introduces the episode, guest, and upcoming event.00:02:49 – 00:04:14: Formal welcome and start of discussion on boundaries.00:04:15 – 00:08:34: Allison Ly on boundary challenges in immigrant families.00:08:44 – 00:12:49: Examples and personal experiences with boundaries.00:12:50 – 00:16:22: Handling pushback and emotional awareness.00:16:59 – 00:29:08: Gradual boundary change and effects on relationships.To get the free download that accompanies this episode, go to: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/saynoJoin Allison's live workshop on February 26th at 11 am PST Adults with Immigrant Parents: The Key to Stop People Pleasing and Spiraling in Guilt: https://heyallisonly.com/secretTo sign up for the Waitlist for the Simply Productive Program, go to https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPFor more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comGain Access to Dr. Christine Li's Free Resource Library -- 12 downloadable tools and templates to help you bypass the impulse to procrastinate: https://procrastinationcoach.mykajabi.com/freelibraryTo work with Dr. Li on a weekly basis in her coaching and accountability program, register for The Success Lab here: https://www.procrastinationcoach.com/labConnect with Us!Dr. Christine LiWebsite: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoachThe Success Lab: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lab Simply Productive: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPAllison LyWebsite: https://www.heyallisonly.comPodcast: https://www.heyallisonly.com/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyallisonlyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@heyallisonly
Kamini Wood explores the concept of "fawning," a trauma response where individuals use people pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning to navigate stressful or unpredictable environments. Wood explains that for many high-functioning adults and leaders, these behaviors are often misidentified as personality strengths like reliability or high emotional intelligence when they are actually deeply ingrained survival adaptations designed to maintain safety by keeping others calm. The discussion distinguishes between "values-based care," which is rooted in choice, and "fawning," which is rooted in fear and leads to internal erosion, chronic exhaustion, and a lost sense of identity. Listeners are provided with practical tools to begin shifting away from these automatic reflexes, including nervous system regulation, setting "micro-boundaries," and practicing internal reassurance to reclaim their agency and build authentic connections.
Send us a textFree Gift : Click here for masterclassWhy does moving forward feel so hard - even when you know you're ready?You're capable. You've proven yourself before. You have ideas, plans, and ambition.And yet, when it's time to move, something inside you slows down.This episode with Dr Amen Kaur explores why that hesitation isn't a mindset issue or lack of discipline - and why progress can start to feel risky even after past success.We unpack how the nervous system learns from experience, not intention. When growth has historically been followed by cost - increased demand, loss of safety, burnout, judgment, or control, the body begins to associate success with threat.That conditioning doesn't show up as fear of failure. It shows up as hesitation before action.This conversation explains:Why willpower often backfires when the body expects lossHow anxiety and avoidance can be protective, not resistantWhy success isn't neutral to the nervous systemAnd how safety, not pressure, is what allows movement to returnIf you've ever felt capable but stalled… ready but tense… motivated yet unable to move cleanly, this episode will help you understand what your system is responding to, and why.No fixing.No forcing.Just clarity about what's actually happening beneath the surface.
Work with me, free 7 days: https://www.skool.com/inspired-life-method-9441/ People pleasing isn't a personality trait — it's a protection strategy.In this episode, I'll show you the hidden fear driving it and how to stop repeating the pattern.What you'll learn (quick + scannable)Why people pleasing is often fear of abandonment / rejection in disguise The difference between triggers vs boundaries (and why it matters)A simple shadow-work style exercise to find the root woundThe 3-step process to heal the fear and build real boundariesA word-for-word boundary script you can use immediatelyIf you've been trying to stop people pleasing but keep slipping back into over-explaining, saying yes when you mean no, or abandoning your needs — this will help. We'll unpack the root cause (past hurt → future fear), how that creates the people-pleasing/fawn pattern, and how to set healthy boundaries without the guilt spiral. This is for you if you resonate with fear of abandonment, fear of judgment, or feeling unseen/unheard — and you want a clean, repeatable way to respond instead of react.
Inside, Albiona explores:→ Why it's never the strangers we're afraid of—it's the people we know and love→ The gremlins that told her she was "too old" for TikTok and "too much" for sharing her truth (and what happened when she did it anyway)→ Why we'll always choose a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven—and how to establish safety from within instead→ How resistance and fear are actually pointing you toward your next breakthrough→ The questions to ask yourself right now: Where am I hiding? Where am I playing small? Where am I choosing safety over truth?Albiona also shares a powerful conversation with a business owner who froze at the idea of showing her face on social media, and the breakthrough moment that followed.This episode isn't just for creators or entrepreneurs. It's for anyone who's ever felt the pull to try something new but stopped themselves because of what others might think. It's for the person who wants to write, speak, create, ask, or simply show up more fully—but keeps choosing safety over truth.If you've been waiting for permission to do the thing that scares you, this is it.Resources & Links:Connect with Albiona:→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.comLoved this episode?Please rate, review, and share it with someone who's been playing small, hesitating to start something new, or waiting for the "right time" to be seen in their truth.We're all learning to push past the fear, embrace the unknown, and step into the full magic of what we're capable of.Until next time,Albiona
Text us your feedback or questions - we'd love to hear from you.Okay, you spotted the victim habit. Now what? If you listened to episode 66 and thought, "that is me,” this is your next step.If you have been in divorce stress, family conflict, or a rough life season, it is so easy to slip into patterns that keep you stuck, right? Not because you're weak. Because your brain is trying to protect you. But protection and progress are not the same thing.In this episode, I walk you through the ways you can disrupt the victim habits that are holding you back. These shifts in your thinking help you get your footing back (yes!), change the pattern, and start moving forward again…. without having to overhaul your whole life overnight.Want to get out of your own way? We talk about:How to spot the moment you are sliding into an old patternThe small changes that create momentum… fastWhy your environment and your inner circle matter more than people realizeWhat to do when you know better but still keep doing the same thingA mindset shift that helps you stop beating yourself up and start taking actionRESOURCESMEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resourcesKELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRkAMEN CLINICS: (Dr. Daniel Amen): https://www.amenclinics.comBOOK MENTIONED: Resilient, Rick Hanson PhD https://a.co/d/05blH36PLEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.comINSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirmFACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm
In today's episode, Jennie answers real questions sent in by listeners - questions about anxiety, people-pleasing, parenting, ministry, and how to know what voice you're listening to when your thoughts won't slow down. You'll hear encouragement for single moms, worship leaders battling fear, and anyone feeling unqualified or unsure in their calling. If you've been feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, or stuck in your head, this conversation will meet you right where you are.Resources & Links:Jennie's new book "The Lie You Don't Know You Believe" is available for pre-order NOW - GRAB A COPY HERE!Join the fight clubFight Your Lie Tour Tickets hereREGISTER TO HOST AN IF:LOCALListen to more episodes: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTubeLearn More About JennieFollow Jennie on social:InstagramFacebook
In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one's authentic voice and boundaries. Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders! Key Takeaways: Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism. Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn. Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze. Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood. The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma. Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency. The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning. Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys. Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches. Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process. For full show notes: click here! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes: How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! This episode is sponsored by: David Protein Try David is offering our listeners a special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to davidprotein.com/FEED. Hungry Root: For a limited time get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to www.hungryroot.com/feed and use promo code: FEED. IQ Bar: Text FEED to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus FREE shipping. (Message and data rates may apply). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Join Alan P. Brown to understand why adults with ADHD are more likely than our neurotypical peers to struggle with poor self-image, and learn how to let go of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination to get things done. ADHD and Self Esteem: Resources Free Download: Social Anxiety Facts and Falsehoods Read: 25 Positive Affirmations That Uplift ADHD Brains Read: "What Happens When We Begin Logging Tiny Wins" Read: Self-Sabotage and ADHD: Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? Access the video and slides for podcast episode #593 here: https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/adhd-self-esteem-perfectionism-people-pleasing/ This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/additude and get on your way to being your best self. This episode is also brought to you by Neuroclinic USA. Learn more at NeuroclinicUSA.com. Thank you for listening to ADDitude's ADHD Experts podcast. Please consider subscribing to the magazine (additu.de/subscribe) to support our mission of providing ADHD education and support.
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End the People-Pleasing Cycle: 3 Tips That Actually Work Kwame Christian sits down with life coach and hypnotherapist Amy Green Smith to unpack the hidden costs of people-pleasing—and how to finally break free. Together, they explore the surprising ways emotional intelligence, self-advocacy, and societal expectations shape your ability to negotiate—whether in the office, at home, or in everyday life. Amy reveals the evolutionary roots of people-pleasing, when it can actually help you, and when it slowly erodes your self-worth. By the end, you'll understand exactly how your self-perception impacts your influence, your relationships, and your overall life satisfaction—and what to do about it. Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan: https://incogni.com/anything Connect with Amy https://amygreensmith.com/ Check out Amy's 1 on 1 Worthy Program: https://amygreensmith.com/worthy/ Follow Amy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyamygreensmith The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn negotiateanything.com Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
End the People-Pleasing Cycle: 3 Tips That Actually Work Kwame Christian sits down with life coach and hypnotherapist Amy Green Smith to unpack the hidden costs of people-pleasing—and how to finally break free. Together, they explore the surprising ways emotional intelligence, self-advocacy, and societal expectations shape your ability to negotiate—whether in the office, at home, or in everyday life. Amy reveals the evolutionary roots of people-pleasing, when it can actually help you, and when it slowly erodes your self-worth. By the end, you'll understand exactly how your self-perception impacts your influence, your relationships, and your overall life satisfaction—and what to do about it. Negotiate Anything: Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan: https://incogni.com/anything incogni.com Personal Information Removal Service | Incogni | Incogni Data brokers are collecting, aggregating and trading your personal data without you knowing anything about it. We make them remove it. Connect with Amy https://amygreensmith.com/ Check out Amy's 1 on 1 Worthy Program: https://amygreensmith.com/worthy/ Follow Amy on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heyamygreensmith The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast Contact ANI Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn negotiateanything.com Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
In this Anything but Average Monday episode, Brittany Anderson and Christina Lecuyer dive into a real, unfiltered conversation about aging, accountability, artificial intelligence, and the choices shaping our future.From the unexpected realization of being “midlife” to the very real impact AI will have on employment, wealth, and leadership, this episode is a perspective-shifting reminder that how we think and decide matters more than ever. The hosts explore the societal responsibility that comes with money and innovation, the importance of strong leadership in workplace culture, and why personal accountability is the foundation for personal growth.This conversation brings calm to chaos, encouraging listeners to step out of fear-based decision making and into clarity. When nothing is truly an emergency, perspective becomes power—and responsibility becomes a privilege.Whether you're navigating career changes, leadership roles, personal growth, or simply trying to make better decisions in a fast-moving world, this episode will challenge how you think, choose, and lead. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!
BUY THE SLOW LIVING BOOK HERE! In this honest and heartfelt episode, Stephanie and Shelly explore setting boundaries while caring for an aging parent, as Shelly shares the emotional realities of supporting her biological father. Drawing from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson, they discuss acceptance, healing, and the importance of putting yourself first.The conversation also touches on grief, family estrangement, and planning ahead for retirement, finances, health, and time management. With practical tools like time blocking and thoughtful reflection, this episode offers encouragement for anyone learning to set boundaries and move forward with intention. Past Episodes You May Love: Episode 10: Planning the Dream -- Mapping out your 5 year planEpisode 55: Enjoy the JourneyEpisode 164: Recovering from People Pleasing
Send us a textDevelopmental trauma often forms through chronic, repeated stress during childhood—especially when safety, support, and repair are inconsistent. In this episode, you'll get a clear, non-overwhelming map of what developmental trauma is, why it affects so many areas (regulation, identity, relationships), and how it can show up later as survival patterns like scanning, pleasing, protecting, or disconnecting. Using simple polyvagal-informed language, we explore how a developing nervous system adapts to ongoing stress. We close with a gentle “pendulation light” practice to help the body experience movement between tension and neutral, supporting regulation without forcing a story.In this episode, you'll learnA practical definition of developmental trauma (chronic stress + limited escape + limited repair)Why developmental trauma can affect regulation, self-concept, boundaries, and relationshipsA simple polyvagal lens: safety/connection vs mobilised protection vs shutdownFour common survival patterns (non-diagnostic): Scanner, Pleaser, Protector, DisconnectorWhat helps as first steps: micro-doses of safety, regulation before deep processing, boundaries, and safe repairA short grounding practice that teaches the system that it can shift statesGrounding practice (2–3 minutes): “Pendulation Light” Notice one neutral sensationBriefly notice a mild tension areaReturn to neutralRepeat onceClosing phrase: “This is a body that adapted—and it can learn safety now.”Check the website for the free resources offered for both those affected by trauma and those supporting them.What's next: Intergenerational Trauma: What Gets Carried Forward Support the show
Adam works with a client who has spent their life putting the needs of others before their own, with a life of sacrifice making them feel depleted and unappreciated. Adam helps them tear up an unconscious contract that was making them dependent on the validation of others, and finally have a life built on their needs. To access a subscriber-only version with no intro, outro, explanation, or ad breaks and 24 hours earlier than everyone else, tap 'Subscribe' nearby or click the following link.https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/adam-cox858/subscribe
There's a bit too much pressure on reaching an unwavering state of happiness isn't there? It's just not realistic. So Fearne's going to be dropping into your feed every week for some candid nattering about what's making her feel great, and what's making her feel crap. This is a cosy little corner for all of us to explore what's been on our minds, what's been getting us down, inspiring us, and making us laugh. Wanna join the chat? Send us a voicenote, DM, or comment on Instagram @happyplaceofficial!Today: what joyful little moments are getting Fearne and Team Happy Place through the grey winter, and what are we all leaving firmly in 2025?In this chat, Fearne covers:-The joy (or, maybe not) of finding your inner child through skipping-Transitioning from being a gym-bunny to an intuitive exerciser-Being constantly infantilised by others-Reaching your gardening and electric blanket era-How to deal with mansplaining-A reminder for you to stop people pleasing, please-Why treating yourself to a little gift is a very good idea Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
How much are you prioritizing "you" in the decisions you're making? For women especially, we're often praised from a young age for being agreeable, for being accommodating. But what happens when you make the decision to live your life for you? Today, I'm joined by Heidi Koch, fresh off the heels of the Expanders Retreat, to dive into the step-by-step process on how to prioritize yourself without guilt, fear, or shame. Our conversation covers everything you need to take the next aligned step in life, from the first moment of awareness to discovering what you truly want and how to make it a reality. Along the way, we'll share tangible tools to break old patterns of over-accommodation, set and keep boundaries, and connect to your power of authenticity to live your most aligned life. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 How do you define yourself when stepping into a whole new version? 03:05 The one pivotal question that opened Heidi up to self-realization. 06:50 The first step to creating a more aligned life. 09:00 When did you realize you weren't prioritizing yourself in your own life? 13:15 How to become aware of old patterns of accommodation. 16:30 Hidden ways over-accommodating shows up in our lives, careers, and businesses. 20:15 How to reprogram the conditioning keeping you small. 24:25 Why our biggest triggers allow us to meet ourselves. 29:50 How does expansion manifest in physical ways? 34:25 Advice for the woman who doesn't prioritize herself. 39:40 How living in your authenticity impacts the way you see yourself. 42:05 Celebrating Heidi's Powerhouse moment of allowing herself to cry free of judgement. RESOURCES + LINKS Want to connect? Visit Heidi's website for more information HERE! Want to be the first to know when applications for our Spring 2026 Expanders Retreat go live? DM us EXPANDERS on Instagram @powerhouse_women Join the waitlist for the 2026 Powerhouse Women Event HERE! FOLLOW Heidi: @drheidispa Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women Lindsey: @lindseymarieofficial Visit the Powerhouse Women website: powerhousewomen.co Join the PW Community Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/powerhousewomencommunity
Send Dr. Li a text here. Please leave your email address if you would like a reply, thanks.In this solo episode of Make Time for Success, Dr. Christine Li explores why letting go—of clutter, old habits, or inherited identities—can be so challenging, and how mastering this skill can lead to greater confidence and personal growth. She discusses the emotional and psychological reasons behind our attachments, the impact of childhood experiences, and shares actionable strategies for making positive changes.Whether you're struggling with physical clutter or emotional baggage, this episode offers practical encouragement and tips to help you clear space for abundance and new opportunities. For extra support, grab the free resource at maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lettinggo.Timestamps:00:00:00 – 00:01:09: Dr. Christine Li introduces the episode on the challenges of letting go—clutter, mindset, identity—and its importance.00:01:14 – 00:03:18: Overview of letting go as a skill, with insights on societal attachment and difficulty discarding things.00:03:18 – 00:05:05: Benefits of letting go: gaining space, confidence, and opportunities for new identities and growth.00:05:05 – 00:08:13: Reasons letting go is hard, including revisiting old decisions, attachment, and fear of loss—suggests focusing on gains instead.00:08:14 – 00:12:45: How childhood experiences and family roles shape our adult habits of holding on or letting go.00:12:46 – 00:16:31: Impact of changing identities and energy—how personal change affects relationships and group dynamics.00:16:34 – 00:21:41: Practical advice for confident decisions: safety, trusting feelings, finding flow, and self-trust.00:21:41 – 00:24:53: Episode wrap-up, resource info, and ways to connect.To get the free download that accompanies this episode, go to: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/lettinggoTo sign up for the Waitlist for the Simply Productive Program, go to https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SPFor more information on the Make Time for Success podcast, visit: https://www.maketimeforsuccesspodcast.comGain Access to Dr. Christine Li's Free Resource Library -- 12 downloadable tools and templates to help you bypass the impulse to procrastinate: https://procrastinationcoach.mykajabi.com/freelibraryTo work with Dr. Li on a weekly basis in her coaching and accountability program, register for The Success Lab here: https://www.procrastinationcoach.com/labConnect with Dr. Christine LiWebsite: https://www.procrastinationcoach.comFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/procrastinationcoachInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/procrastinationcoach/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoachThe Success Lab: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/labSimply Productive: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/SP
People Pleasing Is Dangerous for Autistic & ADHD Kids: What Parents and Therapists Need to Know People pleasing is often labeled as being kind, flexible, or mature. But for autistic and ADHD children and teens, people pleasing is often something else entirely. It's a self-protective survival strategy—one rooted in fear of rejection, emotional pain, and the belief that their needs are "too much." In this episode of The Autism ADHD Podcast, I talk about why people pleasing is especially risky for neurodivergent kids and teens, how it develops, and the early warning signs adults often miss. I also share a very real moment from my own life—standing in a grocery store with no water at home, right before a major ice storm—and how that moment revealed just how powerful (and dangerous) people pleasing can be, even after a year of hard work. This episode is for parents, therapists, and educators who want to support autistic and ADHD children and teens in building safety, boundaries, and self-trust—without pushing them into burnout. In this episode, I cover: What people pleasing really looks like in autistic and ADHD children and teens Why people-pleasing is closely connected to masking and emotional safety Early warning signs, including over-apologizing and difficulty saying no How people pleasing is often unintentionally reinforced by adults and peers Why people pleasing increases burnout, anxiety, and vulnerability in relationships How supporting capacity and boundaries can reduce meltdowns and shutdowns If you've ever worried that teaching boundaries might make a child "too rigid" or "selfish," this episode offers a compassionate, neurodiversity-affirming reframe.
If you're ready for structured daily guidance to help you retrain the anxiety loop and respond to fear differently, visit anxietyguyprograms.com to find the program that fits what you're going through right now. ✨ Today's Episode: In today's episode, I'm breaking down three hidden patterns that quietly keep anxiety alive in the background of your life: perfectionism, people-pleasing, and guilt. These aren't just "bad habits." For many people, they're early survival strategies your nervous system learned to stay safe, stay connected, and avoid rejection. The problem is that what once helped you cope can now keep your body stuck in hypervigilance, tension, and overthinking. You'll learn how perfectionism trains your system to believe it's never safe to rest, how people-pleasing keeps you scanning others for approval, and how guilt becomes an invisible leash that pulls you back into overdoing and self-abandonment. Most importantly, I'll give you simple, practical ways to start putting these weights down without creating more fear or pressure. ▶️ Listen & Subscribe: Apple Podcasts: Subscribe Here Spotify: Subscribe Here YouTube: Subscribe Here Episode page: Catch up on previous episodes here
In this episode, Jennie sits down with Judah Smith for an honest conversation about faith, leadership, pride, people-pleasing, and what it really means to stay spiritually healthy in public ministry. Judah shares vulnerably about his journey as a pastor, author, and leader navigating platform, criticism, and the tension between obedience to God and approval from people. Together, they explore how true spiritual formation is often hidden, slow, and deeply rooted in character, family, and presence with Jesus - not scale or success.Follow JudahFind Judah's Book Resources & Links:Jennie's new book "The Lie You Don't Know You Believe" is available for pre-order NOW - GRAB A COPY HERE!Join the fight clubFight Your Lie Tour Tickets hereREGISTER TO HOST AN IF:LOCALListen to more episodes: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTubeLearn More About JennieFollow Jennie on social:InstagramFacebook
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