Podcasts about people pleasing

This hypnosis session is to help you stop people pleasing if you always put your partner's needs before your own in a relationship. Adam works with a client that would make comprimises and accept an unequal relationship and this session helps them to feel empowered to change the dynamics or know that there is a future without needing to people please either inside or outside of a relationship. To access a subscriber-only version with no intro, outro, explanation, or ad breaks and 24 hours earlier than everyone else, tap 'Subscribe' nearby or click the following link.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/adam-cox858/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it's not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you're spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.This isn't weakness. It isn't you being dramatic.It's rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it's called.In this episode, I'll break down:— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire thisIf you're neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.You're not broken. You're trained. And you can retrain yourself.If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): https://a.co/d/e6KBqYE► Join The Brotherhood – private men's community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: https://helpformen.com/join

Das tun, was andere wollen oder erwarten – das ist People-Pleasing. Julia sagt, dass sie eine "Hardcore-People-Pleaserin" war und das auch als anstrengend empfand. Irgendwann hat sie bewusst an ihrem Verhalten gearbeitet. (Wiederholung vom 08.08.25)**********Ihr hört: Gesprächspartnerin: Julia, Masterstudentin in strategischer Kommunikation, war People Pleaserin Gesprächspartnerin: Rosalie Weigand, Psychologische Psychotherapeutin für Verhaltenstherapie Autor und Host: Shalin Rogall Redaktion: Lara Lorenz, Celine Wegert, Neneh Sanneh, Friederike Seeger Produktion: Jan Fraune**********Quellen:Experiment von Forschenden der Reserve Universität in Cleveland zu Essgewohnheiten und People Pleasing: Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, Vol. 31, No. 2, People-Pleasing through Eating: Sociotropy Predicts Greater Eating in Response to Perceived Social, Pressure, 2012, pp. 169-193**********Mehr zum Thema bei Deutschlandfunk Nova:People Pleasing: Wenn wir es allen recht machen wollenPeople Pleaser: Wie wir lernen öfter Nein zu sagenVerhalten: Warum wir uns so oft entschuldigen**********Ihr könnt uns auch auf diesen Kanälen folgen: TikTok und Instagram .**********Meldet euch!Ihr könnt das Team von Facts & Feelings über Whatsapp erreichen.Uns interessiert: Was beschäftigt euch? Habt ihr ein Thema, über das wir unbedingt in der Sendung und im Podcast sprechen sollen?Schickt uns eine Sprachnachricht oder schreibt uns per 0160-91360852 oder an factsundfeelings@deutschlandradio.de.Wichtig: Wenn ihr diese Nummer speichert und uns eine Nachricht schickt, akzeptiert ihr unsere Regeln zum Datenschutz und bei Whatsapp die Datenschutzrichtlinien von Whatsapp.

Nach innerer Veränderung erwarten viele Leichtigkeit und Klarheit. Doch oft zeigt sich zuerst etwas anderes: Rückzug, Stille und weniger Resonanz im Außen. Diese Phase kann sich einsam anfühlen, obwohl sie ein Zeichen von Reife ist.In dieser Podcastfolge spreche ich über eine Zeit, über die kaum jemand ehrlich spricht. Eine Zeit, in der alte Muster nicht mehr greifen, Beziehungen sich verändern und das Nervensystem beginnt, sich neu zu sortieren. Nicht laut. Nicht dramatisch. Sondern leise.Du erfährst, warum diese Einsamkeit kein Rückschritt ist, sondern ein Übergang. Warum du dich nicht mehr über Anpassung oder ständige Verbindung regulierst. Und wie neue, echte Resonanz entsteht, wenn du bei dir bleibst.Diese Folge ist für dich, wenn du spürst: Du wirst ruhiger. Klarer. Wahrhaftiger. Und manchmal fühlt sich genau das erstmal einsam an.Du möchtest endlich Nein-Sagen lernen?Wenn du spürst, dass dieses Thema dich tief betrifft und du endlich aus dem Kreislauf des People Pleasing aussteigen möchtest, dann ist mein neuer Kurs „People Pleasing stoppen“ genau für dich gemacht. Oder, wenn du dich im Liebeskummer befindest und du diesen mehr und mehr loslassen möchtest, unterstützt dich der Kurs „Liebeskummer auflösen“ darin. Alle Infos findest du unter diesem Link: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/onlinekurse/Welche Gedanken hast du zu diesem Thema oder welche Erkenntnisse konntest du für dich aus der heutigen Folge mitnehmen? Teile sie gerne in den Kommentaren oder unter meinem aktuellen Beitrag auf Instagram @martinabamesberger oder auf meinem Blog auf meiner Website www.masterclass-of-mind.de Ich freue mich auf dich.Wenn du dir Unterstützung wünschst auf deinem Weg, kontaktiere mich sehr gerne und buche dir dein kostenloses Erstgespräch. Ich freue mich auf dich.Von Herz zu Herz, deine Martina❤️Hier kannst du Kontakt zu mir aufnehmen:Erstgespräch buchen: https://www.masterclass-of-mind.de/erstgespraech/Email: info@masterclass-of-mind.deWebsite: www.masterclass-of-mind.deInstagram: @martinabamesbergerBuch „Eiskalt“ erhältlich auf Amazon und überall dort, wo es Bücher gibt

Message us here!Ever felt like your worth depends on how useful you are to other people? Turning the big 4-0 pushed me to confront a lifelong habit of people pleasing. In this episode, I talk about people pleasing: how it took root in chaos, hid behind “being nice,” and quietly drained my energy, confidence, and joy. I unpack what research says about what "people pleasing" is, how chronic pleasing links to mental health issues, and why so many of us end up orbiting charismatic "takers" who love the spotlight while we shrink to keep them happy.I dig into the "Echo- Narcissus Syndrome": the dynamic between a people-pleaser and a narcissist. I talk about my own tendency to fall into the Echo-Narcissus Syndrome and how it's destroyed my relationships in the past. Then I walk through the practical, evidence-based strategies for breaking free of this syndrome. I'm learning to receiving without guilt, choosing mutual relationships over one-way giving, and navigating holiday pressures without abandoning myself. If you also find yourself falling into toxic dynamics where you give and give and give while losing yourself, then this episode is for you. Together, we can figure out how to honor our empathy & generosity without feeling used. Resources:Moral-Jiménez, M. D. L. V., & Mena-Baumann, A. (2024). Emotional Dependence and Narcissism in Couple Relationships: Echo and Narcissus Syndrome. Behavioral Sciences, 14(12), 1190.Support the showIf you're navigating someone's mental health or emotional issues, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, we'll help you set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for podcast updates and science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com

Send one way text to Rev Rachel This week, while I am away, I'm sharing a replay from the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. Together, we explore one of the tender teachings from Al-Anon through the lens of Recover Your Soul, the quiet courage it takes to stop pretending you're fine and to gently return to yourself.Many of us learned to people-please as a way to stay safe. We tried to hold the family together, soften the edges for everyone else, and become whatever version of ourselves we thought was needed in the moment. And over time, that way of living can pull us farther and farther away from our own truth, our own voice, and even our own feelings.In this episode, we reflect on a beautiful reading from In All Our Affairs about “the obligation to be myself.” We look at what it means to slowly release the façade, to feel what you feel without managing the emotions of everyone around you, and to begin discovering who you truly are and not who you learned to be.Through my perspective in Recover Your Soul, we look at • why authenticity is part of spiritual awakening • how people-pleasing keeps us disconnected from our true selves • why detachment creates space for everyone's growth • the difference between being “nice” and being whole • how to honor your feelings without laying them on others • and what it means to walk through your life as the real youIf this conversation resonates with you, I invite you to subscribe on Apple Podcasts or become a member on Patreon, where you receive a new Recover Your Soul Bonus episode every week. It's a beautiful way to deepen your practice and stay connected to this supportive community. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

The holiday season is supposed to feel magical…So why does it often feel exhausting, overwhelming, and emotionally loaded?In this honest and laugh-out-loud conversation, Brittany Anderson and Christina Lecuyer unpack the real side of the holidays — the pressure, the expectations, the corporate gift chaos, and the quiet guilt that sneaks in when you start doing things differently.From navigating family dynamics and redefining traditions, to why “cash is king” might actually be the most thoughtful gift of all, this episode is a permission slip to stop performing December and start honoring what actually feels good.This isn't about canceling Christmas or burning down traditions.It's about choosing yourself, protecting your energy, and creating holidays that align with the season of life you're in now.If December feels like a full-contact sport — this episode is for you.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

How to evaluate invites, plans, and people through the lens of alignment instead of obligation. And why having high standards isn't rigid or selfish—it's how you protect your peace, energy, and sobriety during a busy season.Start your journey with our FREE course:⁠⁠ The Sober Girl Blueprint⁠⁠Want community? Join the ⁠Sober Girls Mastermind⁠ for weekly group calls, expert trainings, and daily support with Michaela & Erinn here⁠Inside: weekly group calls, expert masterclasses, exclusive trainings, private group chat, and direct support from Michaela & Erinn.Connect with us. DM us anytime with questions, coaching inquiries, or episode ideas.Follow us on Instagram →⁠ @2sobergirlspodcast⁠Join our VIP email list →⁠ 2sobergirls.com/vip⁠Resources & SupportConnect with us: ⁠Michaela on Instagram⁠ | ⁠Download Michaela's Free Resources⁠⁠Erinn on Instagram⁠ | ⁠Get Erinn's Sober Life Simplified Guide⁠Loved the episode? Treat us to a coffee:⁠ buymeacoffee.com/2sobergirlspodcast⁠Rate, review, and share to support the pod!Support our sponsors:⁠ 2sobergirls.com/sponsors⁠Disclaimer: We are not addiction specialists, but we can help guide you to the right support if needed. This podcast is intended to inspire, educate, and support your personal journey. It is not medical advice.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If December has you saying yes to things you don't want, don't have the capacity for, or don't even LIKE… this episode is going to feel like pure relief.Today's conversation is all about the tiny word that sends women into a full-body panic: no. Not because we're incapable — but because we've been conditioned our whole lives to be agreeable, helpful, reliable, and the one who “just makes it happen.”But here's the thing most women don't realize:You don't burn out because you can't handle things. You burn out because you say yes from pressure instead of presence.Inside this episode, you'll hear a real, grounded breakdown of:why saying no feels so emotionally loaded for high-achieving womenthe subtle difference between a pressure-yes and a presence-yeshow conditioning, guilt, and nervous system activation create automatic yes'ssimple, real-life scripts you can use without spiralinghow to stop abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortableThis episode is honest, compassionate, a little spicy — and it will help you protect your peace in one of the busiest months of the year.

Send us a textWhy is being a people-pleaser an issue?Why do people become people-pleasers?If you are a people-pleaser, what can you do about it?In this episode I tackle to issue of people-pleasing. Yes, it's nice to be nice and to do our best to make others happy, but this is not always good for our mental health. People-pleasing can leave you anxious, depressed and living a life that is making everyone else happy and the people-pleaser miserable.As ever, this podcast is all about hope and I provide hope if you are a people-pleaser on how you can free yourself from this issue. I'm an adolescent and adult chartered psychologist for the past two decades. This is a completely free and independant podcast, non-sponsored and ad-free to support you with your mental health. Please support this podcast by sharing and rating it. We all have issues, so let's talk about them.

We are in a powerful energetic window right now with the Winter Solstice, a New Moon, and a moment of deep reflection and reset. In this Soul Elevation livestream, I explore the energetic reality of people pleasing, boundaries, and the unseen energy exchanges that shape our health, emotions, and life satisfaction. I share personal experiences from my work as a podcast host and former corporate professional to illustrate how over-giving without reciprocity leads to depletion, imbalance, and eventually burnout. This conversation is about understanding your worth as an energetic being and learning how to honor yourself without guilt. We also reflect on the seasonal energy of the Winter Solstice, a natural time of rest, restoration, and inner recalibration. If you have been feeling tired, unmotivated, or in a quiet void, this is not something to fix. It is something to honor. In this episode, you will explore: • Why people pleasing creates energetic imbalance • How energy exchange mirrors a balance sheet • The connection between boundaries and vitality • Recognizing energetic siphoning in relationships and work • How to protect your energy without conflict or guilt • Using the New Moon and Solstice window for intentional reset This is not about keeping score or tit for tat relationships. It is about honoring your energy, recognizing reciprocity, and stepping into self respect as a spiritual practice. If this message resonates, I invite you to explore more resources, meditations, and upcoming events at karagoodwin.com. Thank you for being part of this community and for helping elevate collective consciousness through your presence, awareness, and energy. Please subscribe also to my new Soul Elevation clips channel: https://www.youtube.com/@soulelevationclips?sub_confirmation=1 

Would you call yourself a people-pleaser? I used to think I was not but the sad fact is I just didn't want to admit it to myself. Tune in to learn my tips on what to do to deal with this issue. Connect for more:https://www.linkedin.com/in/natashabazilevych/https://www.facebook.com/nbazilevich/https://www.instagram.com/natbazilevych/https://natashabazilevych.com/

I'll be honest, menopause used to feel like something I would deal with later, distant and a little intimidating. This conversation with Dr. Mindy Pelz completely reframed that for me. We talk about menopause as a neurological and metabolic reset, not a decline, and why so many women feel raw, overstimulated, or suddenly done with people pleasing when estrogen drops. Dr. Pelz explains what's happening in the brain, why that shift can feel uncomfortable at first, and how it often signals clarity, stronger boundaries, and a deeper sense of self.→ Leave Us A Voice Message! Topics Discussed:→ How can women boost energy during menopause?→ What's the best exercise for postmenopausal health?→ How do sleep and light affect menopause symptoms?→ Can intermittent fasting help during menopause?→ How do lifestyle changes replace lost estrogen?Sponsored By: → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com.→ Function | Own your health for $365 a year. That's a dollar a day. Learn more and join using my link. Visit https://www.functionhealth.com/bewellbykelly and use gift code BEWELL100 for a $25 credit toward your membership.→ Kosterina | Use code KELLY for 15% OFF your first order at kosterina.com/bewell Not sure where to start? Shop all my Kosterina favorites at https://kosterina.com/bewell→ Hiya Health | Get 50% off your first order at https://HiyaHealth.com/Kelly and give your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy, happy adults.Timestamps: → 00:00:00 - Introduction→ 00:03:27 - Evolutionary Insights for Midlife→ 00:10:27 - The Grandmother Hypothesis→ 00:17:59 - Divorce & Empty Nesting→ 00:23:12 - Rebuilding Relationships→ 00:27:12 - Estrogen & People Pleasing→ 00:33:51 - Learning to Prioritize Yourself→ 00:38:24 - Reading Your Blood Work→ 00:42:05 - Keto & Intermittent Fasting→ 00:46:11 - Nutrition in Menopause→ 00:50:43 - 5:1:1 Fasting Explained→ 00:52:30 - Menopause-Friendly Workouts→ 00:58:28 - Finding Joy in Movement→ 01:03:28 - Sleep & Nighttime Habits→ 01:09:02 - Blue Light & Evening Rituals→ 01:14:39 - Owning Your Menopause JourneyCheck Out Dr. Mindy Pelz:→ Age Like a Girl (Book)→ Website → Instagram→ YouTube Check Out Kelly:→ Instagram→ YouTube→ Facebook

If you've ever struggled to say no, worried about disappointing others, or put your own needs last to keep the peace, this Inspiration Session is for you.Many of us were taught that boundaries create distance — that speaking up will lead to conflict, rejection, or loss of love. But in truth, the absence of boundaries is what slowly erodes connection. In this session, Justin Michael Williams reframes boundaries not as walls, but as sacred guardrails that protect your energy, your relationships, and your ability to stay connected to yourself.Through a vulnerable personal story, grounded teaching, original music, and a guided meditation, you'll learn how to communicate boundaries in a way that keeps love intact — without over-explaining, people-pleasing, or shutting down.In this Inspiration Session, you'll explore:The #1 mistake people make when setting boundariesWhy boundaries aren't walls, but sacred guardrails for your growthHow to protect what you love without losing connectionWhat it really means to set boundaries from love instead of fearA guided practice to identify where new boundaries are needed in your lifeGolden Nugget:Boundaries don't push love away — they tell love where it can stay.✨ 2-hour masterclassWatch Justin's full 2-hour masterclass:Setting Boundaries: Learn the Script, Avoid the Fight, Keep ConnectionFree for Transform My Life members, or register for a single class here:https://www.justinmichaelwilliams.com/masterclass

Let's talk about the science behind people-pleasing. While it's often dismissed as a personality trait, people-pleasing is actually a learned behavior shaped by social structures, power dynamics, and our fundamental need for belonging.From Goffman's dramaturgy to Asch's conformity experiments, we'll unpack the sociology behind people-pleasing—and explore how to break free from these patterns.Press play and let's learn together!IG: @specimenthesociologist

In this episode, leading UK psychologist, Wendy Dignan talks about people pleasing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Send us a textYou know that reflex where someone starts telling you about their awful day, and before you even realize what's happening, you're already three steps ahead trying to solve it for them? Same. Which is why talking to therapist and Yale instructor Leah Marone felt like someone gently holding up a mirror and saying, Honey, look.Leah's book Serial Fixer unpacks exactly why so many of us leap into rescue mode even when nobody asked. And it's not because we're Mother Teresa. It's usually anxiety, overfunctioning, a desperate need for harmony, or an old story we picked up somewhere along the way that says if everyone else is okay, then I'm okay.We get into the three types of fixers and I swear I saw myself in every one. Leah explains why giving advice too quickly, anticipating needs, and being “the glue” in every system slowly erodes our sense of self and keeps us out of true connection. We also talk about resentment, internal critics, and those sneaky moments when we center ourselves in someone else's problem without meaning to.My favorite part is how simple the solution can be. Validating before solving. Pausing before taking the bait. Letting people feel the consequences of their choices. And actually checking in with yourself instead of running around on emotional autopilot. Leah also shares how to handle those internal battles between the part of you that wants to do everything and the part that is exhausted and wants to hide under a blanket forever.If you've ever been called the helper, the dependable one, or the person who magically keeps life functional for everyone else, this episode is basically a warm permission slip to stop carrying the world.What's Inside:The three types of serial fixersWhy helping can quietly shift into controlHow to support without swooping inPractical shifts to reduce guilt and resentmentSo here's the real question. Whose life are you actually trying to keep glued together and what would happen if you stopped for a second? Imagine redirecting all that fixer energy into something that expands your own life instead of managing everyone else's. What would feel possible then?I want to hear from you. Come tell me on Instagram what you're ready to stop fixing and what you're finally choosing for yourself instead.Mentioned in This Episode:Leah MaroneSerial FixerOonagh Duncan on InstagramFit Feels GoodLeave me a voice note on Speak Pipe!

People-pleasing feels generous… until it destroys your energy, your time, your confidence, and your relationships. In this masterclass, three experts break down why setting boundaries is so hard — and how to finally create limits that protect your peace instead of collapsing under pressure. Featured Episodes Kwame Christian opens with a solo lesson on political conversations at work — one of the hardest boundary-setting challenges we face. He explains why these discussions spiral, how to disengage without escalating, and how leaders can mediate conflict without losing trust. Next, negotiation coach Minson Vo joins Kwame for a raw, behind-the-scenes training session on saying no with clarity, confidence, and authenticity. Through live roleplay, they reveal the psychology behind hesitation, the power of emotional self-awareness, and how to use the “positive no” to protect your time without damaging relationships. Finally, career strategist Eliana Goldstein shares the emotional side of boundaries — burnout, guilt, fear of disappointing others, and how people-pleasing quietly sabotages your life and career. She teaches the mindset and communication skills needed to say no with compassion, stay firm during pushback, and create boundaries that actually hold.

The holiday season presents unique social challenges. This episode offers essential survival strategies for navigating gatherings without compromise.  Coaches Jason and Matt dive into the critical nature of pre-planning: setting clear boundaries (even with family members who try to trigger you), having a guaranteed exit strategy, and ensuring you have your non-alcoholic placebo drinks prepared. Learn how to overcome the people-pleasing pattern and consciously align your behavior with your values, even when faced with the social pressure of bringing the "attractively packaged poison" as a gift.   Download my FREE guide: The Alcohol Freedom Formula For Over 30s Entrepreneurs & High Performers: https://social.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/podcast ★ - Learn more about Project 90: www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/Project90 ★ - (Accountability & Support) Speak verbally to a certified Alcohol-Free Lifestyle coach to see if, or how, we could support you having a better relationship with alcohol: https://www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/schedule ★ - The wait is over – My new book "CLEAR" is now available. Get your copy here: https://www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/clear

In this honest, hilarious, and all-over-the-map conversation, Christina and Brittany dive into the everyday realities of modern life — the kind no one really prepares you for.From tech meltdowns and travel routines to hiring help at home, adapting to change, and navigating long-term relationships, this episode is a reminder that doing everything yourself isn't the badge of honor we once thought it was.They recap a whirlwind Vegas trip that included a UFC fight, live events, and plenty of hot takes — plus real talk on marriage, communication, sleeping arrangements, and evolving standards around beauty and aging.Equal parts laughter, reflection, and “wait… same,” this episode is for anyone juggling life, love, and the never-ending list of responsibilities — and wondering if there's a better way.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Always saying “yes” to things you don't want to do? In this episode, Dennis and Lisa share the top 10 reasons people don't speak up or advocate for what they truly want. You'll discover practical steps to face these fears, set healthy boundaries, and start living courageously.The Leadership Development Group is a consulting firm led by Dennis and Lisa McIntee that exists to help you create a better work culture through drama free strategies, leadership coaching, and training. Since 2005, they have helped over 2,000 companies become drama free and significantly increase their productivity as a result. Discover the freedom of a better work culture today at leadershipdevgroup.com.Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Not Nice by Dr. Aziz GazipuraEpisode 200When Dealing With Me™ Leadership 101 Holiday Bundle

You've been "the fun guy" in the group for so long that you've started confusing being liked with being safe. You crack jokes. You wave people through. You rush putts. You skip your full routine because you don't want to be "that guy." You downplay your standards with, "We're just out here having fun." And then you walk off 18 quietly frustrated… because you do care. You do want to play well. You do want to shoot lower scores and be taken seriously. This episode is about the identity I call the Likeable Loser: the man who sacrifices his standards, edge, and ambition to remain accepted, easy, and socially safe—on the course, in business, and in relationships. In this episode, you'll learn: What the Likeable Loser is (and why he's not lazy, broken, or incapable) How people-pleasing shows up on the scorecard through rushed process and softened standards Why "winners are assholes" is a hidden belief that keeps you stuck How labeling a "part" of you creates distance, clarity, and choice Why this pattern formed: belonging, approval, and social safety The real cost: self-trust, self-respect, integrity, and inner peace How to pursue excellence without becoming arrogant, intense, or unlikeable Get your pencils ready and start listening.  P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here. Play to Your Potential On (and Off) the Course Schedule a Mindset Coaching Discovery Call Subscribe to the More Pars than Bogeys Newsletter Download my "Play Your Best Round" free hypnosis audio recording. High-Performance Hypnotherapy and Mindset Coaching Paul Salter - known as The Golf Hypnotherapist - is a High-Performance Hypnotherapist and Mindset Coach who leverages hypnosis and powerful subconscious reprogramming techniques to help golfers of all ages and skill levels overcome the mental hazards of their minds so they can shoot lower scores and play to their potential. He has over 16 years of coaching experience working with high performers in various industries, helping them get unstuck, out of their own way, and unlock their full potential. Click here to learn more about how high-performance hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can help you get out of your own way and play to your potential on (and off) the course.  Instagram: @thegolfhypnotherapist  Key Takeaways: If you keep choosing "liked" over "aligned," your game will always feel capped—even if your swing improves. The Likeable Loser isn't unmotivated—he's over-indexed on approval, and it's leaking into every decision. Rushing your routine to protect group comfort is a form of self-betrayal that compounds over 18 holes. "We're just out here having fun" becomes a shield—until the round ends and the truth shows up as frustration. You won't win consistently while you secretly believe winners are jerks—your subconscious will keep you 'safe' at good-enough. Labeling the part ("the Likeable Loser") creates space: you can observe the pattern instead of being owned by it. The upgrade isn't trying harder—it's giving yourself permission to be fully you: standards, routine, voice, ambition. Key Quotes: "Somewhere along the way, being liked became far more important than being great." "You're not lazy. You're not unmotivated. You're not incapable. You are, however, over-indexed on approval." "The likable loser is the man who sacrifices his standards, edge and ambition in order to remain accepted, easy and socially safe." "When you can label the emotion you're feeling… you create distance, and that distance allows you to invite in curiosity." "On one hand you want to win. On the other hand there's a belief that says winners are assholes. There's an incongruency there." "The cost isn't just strokes or revenue. It's self-trust, self-respect, integrity, inner peace." "The upgrade here doesn't require trying harder… it requires being truer, giving yourself permission." Time Stamps: 00:00: The Likable Loser: An Introduction 02:34: Understanding the Patterns of People Pleasing 05:36: The Cost of Being Liked 08:04: The Impact of the Likable Loser on Performance 10:49: Unpacking Beliefs Around Winning 13:23: Transforming the Likable Loser Identity 16:00: Embracing Authenticity and Ambition 18:38: The Journey to Self-Respect 21:17: Taking Aligned Action 23:54: Conclusion and Call to Action

People-pleasing feels generous… until it destroys your energy, your time, your confidence, and your relationships. In this masterclass, three experts break down why setting boundaries is so hard — and how to finally create limits that protect your peace instead of collapsing under pressure. Featured Episodes Kwame Christian opens with a solo lesson on political conversations at work — one of the hardest boundary-setting challenges we face. He explains why these discussions spiral, how to disengage without escalating, and how leaders can mediate conflict without losing trust. Next, negotiation coach Minson Vo joins Kwame for a raw, behind-the-scenes training session on saying no with clarity, confidence, and authenticity. Through live roleplay, they reveal the psychology behind hesitation, the power of emotional self-awareness, and how to use the “positive no” to protect your time without damaging relationships. Finally, career strategist Eliana Goldstein shares the emotional side of boundaries — burnout, guilt, fear of disappointing others, and how people-pleasing quietly sabotages your life and career. She teaches the mindset and communication skills needed to say no with compassion, stay firm during pushback, and create boundaries that actually hold.

12/24.On parle de People Pleasing et de limites - deux choses qu'on confond toute la vingtaine. Vouloir être aimée, ne pas déranger, dire oui par réflexe : on croit que c'est de la douceur, alors que souvent, c'est de la peur. À 30 ans, on réalise que poser des limites, ce n'est pas devenir froide, c'est devenir juste. C'est arrêter de se perdre pour être choisie, et commencer à se choisir pour de vrai.xxAmal & OgeeMy IG diary : https://www.instagram.com/amaltahirOgee's diary : https://www.instagram.com/ogee_offHébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

The fawn response is the fourth trauma reaction beyond fight, flight, and freeze. Childhood experiences create patterns of people-pleasing that disconnect you from yourself. Meg shares her personal journey from a volatile, addiction-affected home to clear boundaries. Along the way, she reveals practical tools including her NICER technique for managing anxiety and overthinking. Stop self-silencing, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect with your authentic self. Are you struggling with people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, or feeling uncertain who you really are? This episode is perfect for you. Plus, we chat about grieving relationships that will never be and creating a sense of home within yourself. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/791

I'm one of millions of women specifically trying to parent themselves while parenting children… and it can be seriously exhausting. And when childhood trauma still comes back to haunt us in midlife and beyond, life can feel impossible.  That's why I've invited trauma expert Anna Runkle on for this powerful episode to help unpack why so many midlife women are still impacted by old trauma, and how that buried stress shows up in our bodies.  We dive into the hidden ways trauma can lead us to isolate, dysregulate our nervous system, and disrupt key hormones like cortisol, dopamine, and serotonin.  Anna and I break down how this cascade of stress and deregulation can spark inflammation, oxidative stress, blood-sugar swings, and even contribute to autoimmune issues that so many women face.  But most importantly, Anna shares simple, compassionate tools to help regulate your nervous system and finally begin healing the deeper patterns driving overwhelm in midlife.  Ready to feel more grounded in this season of life? Hit play and listen now! Anna Runkle Anna Runkle is the creator of the popular YouTube channel, blog, courses, and coaching programs that provide tools for adults to heal dysregulation and other common trauma symptoms, helping them feel better and change their lives. Anna's methods were developed through research, her mentoring of hundreds of individuals over the years, and her direct experience healing her own symptoms of early trauma. She's the author of Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck and Connectability: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, and Feel (At Last) Like You Belong.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding nervous system deregulation  How Anna learned to adapt after childhood trauma  Symptoms that can manifest from over-functioning  How to manage stressors and stay regulated day to day  Top ways we can start to regulate, especially when deregulated  How connection can be a huge tool for healing  Free resources and where you can find more from Anna!  QUOTES“All these weird symptoms that I had… It's neurological dysregulation. It's really normal. Everybody gets dysregulated sometimes, but those of us who are traumatized as kids are often more prone to it. It happens more easily. It's more intense. It's harder to get out of.” “Early trauma is very strongly correlated later in life with high rates of cancer, diabetes, heart disease, autoimmune disorders, reproductive disorders, just about everything bad.” “Those three things– dysregulation, disconnection, and self-defeating behavior– those are the things that can just take you out and keep you stuck in trauma forever. So the good news is you can learn to reregulate.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order Anna's Book: CONNECTABILITY: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, And Feel (At Last) Like You Belong HERE Order Anna's other book: Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck HERE Anna's Website Anna Runkle on YouTube Anna Runkle on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  681: The Biology of Trauma: How Stress Gets Stored in Your Body (and Passed On to Your Kids) and How You Can Start To Heal with Dr. Aimie Apigian #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #308: What Is Trauma and How Does It Make Us Sick? with Dr. Elena Villanueva

Feeling overwhelmed this holiday season? You're not alone. In today's episode of The Secrets of Supermom Show, I'm joined by Kati Morton, licensed marriage and family therapist, mental health educator, and two-time best-selling author, whose new book Why Do I Keep Doing This? explores the patterns we can't stop repeating—people-pleasing, overcommitting, perfectionism—and how to finally break them.With millions of followers across her YouTube channel, podcast, and social platforms, Kati Morton has become a trusted voice in mental health. She has spoken for companies like Google, YouTube, and Unilever, and her work has been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, and The New York Times. Her warm, practical, down-to-earth style helps all of us show up for our families and ourselves with more energy, resilience, and joy.Today, we dive deep into holiday overwhelm, boundaries for moms, emotional resilience, burnout, communication, and simple mental-health strategies you can use immediately.Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected! Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com! Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.com Secrets of Supermom on Facebook Secrets of Supermom on Instagram

On this episode of After Reality, I'm diving into one of my favorite topics as a recovering people-pleaser: the nervous system. I'm joined by somatic practitioner Kallie Klug (aka Kallie Somatics), host of the Your Own Medicine podcast, who breaks down what really happens in our bodies when we shift into fight, flight, freeze… and the response almost no one talks about: fawn.If you've ever apologized to keep the peace, said “yes” when you meant absolutely not, or shut down in conflict just to survive the moment, you might actually be fawning — a biological survival strategy wired for protection, not politeness. Kallie explains how fawning differs from everyday people-pleasing, how these patterns get formed, and why “just speak up!” doesn't stick when your body doesn't feel safe.We talk nervous system triggers, how trauma shapes behavior, and why so many of us feel tired, resentful, and burned out from being “good” all the time. Kallie also shares practical somatic tools for boundary-setting (especially during the holidays) and we get into her upcoming book, Tired of Being "Good": A nervous system map for reinhibiting your body after a lifetime of fawning.IG: @kali.somaticsYour Own Medicine Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-own-medicine-podcast/id1584877807 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've ever swallowed your needs, kept the peace, and then randomly lost your shit over something tiny (hi, dirty spoon in the sink), this episode is for you. Therapist and author Tonya Lester is here to talk about conflict, boundaries, and what it really means to be “difficult” in a world that still rewards women for being nice, accommodating, and endlessly available. Tonya is the therapist women call when they're done being walked on. A Brooklyn-based psychotherapist with decades of clinical experience, she specializes in women's emotional health, conflict skills, and relationships. We dig into why so many women default to do nothing → do nothing → do nothing → FREAK OUT, how to stop building silent resentment brick by brick, and what it looks like to push back early and often—in love, in work, and in every relationship that actually matters. This is real-talk conflict management for women who are done disappearing to keep everyone else comfortable. In this episode, we get into: Why “being difficult” is actually a compliment when it means being honest, boundaried, and real The subtle ways women suppress their needs in relationships, families, and at work (while telling themselves “it's not a big deal”) The do-nothing-do-nothing-freak-out pattern—and how to catch yourself before you emotionally flip a table How to say hard things clearly and calmly: phrases you can steal for your next conflict at home or in the office The difference between healthy anger and full-on rage (and why anger is often a sign you still care) When ultimatums do have a place—and when they're just emotional terrorism How to stop over-functioning in your relationships (aka rowing both oars while the other person “rests”) What to do when your partner, boss, or friend refuses to collaborate—and how to decide if it's time to stay, shift, or go Tiny, doable ways to practice pushing back if you're conflict-avoidant but deeply over people-pleasing If standing up for yourself has ever been labeled “too much,” this conversation will help you see that maybe the problem isn't you—it's the system that benefits from you staying small. Let's fix that. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Sex is a skill. Beducated is where you learn it. Visit https://beducate.me/pd2550-womanswork and use code womanswork for 50% off the annual pass. Connect with Tonya: Website: http://www.TonyaLester.com Book: https://www.amazon.com/Push-Back-Others-Without-Yourself/dp/1608689468. FB: https://www.facebook.com/tonya.lester.58/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/tonyalesterpsychotherapy/ LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonya-lester-b9a3ab14/  Related Podcast Episodes: How To Be Selfish with Naketa Ren Thigpen | 329 297 / Boundaries vs. Ultimatums with Jan Yuhas & Jillian Yuhas How To Find The Right Words When Creating Boundaries with Amy Green Smith | 201 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!

  Are you ready to stop living for others and start living for you?   In this powerful episode, Susan Britton, Founder & President of the Academies for Neuroscience Coaching, Inc., explores how our brains hold onto old behaviors like people-pleasing and self-doubt. Susan has 25 years of leadership in coaching and coaching education, and has supported 1,000s of coaches across six continents to earn their ICF credential.  She shares the neuro-informed strategies you need to embrace all of yourself, shift from the "Red Zone" (fight/flight) to inner peace, and start listening to your true voice to build your dream life and career.   We dive deep into: How people-pleasing is a survival response, and the science behind changing it. Leveraging neuroplasticity to rewrite old, self-limiting narratives that hold your career back. Why embracing small, necessary pain (Hormesis!) is the key to massive growth and impact. Giving voice to your "shadow energy" from a kind and compassionate place. Recognizing the signs of burnout and strategies for a compassionate recovery.   Connect with us: Learn more about our guest, Susan Britton, at https://www.theacademies.com/about/ or on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachsusanbritton/.  Follow our host, Samorn Selim, on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/samornselim/. Get a copy of Career Unicorns™ 90-Day 5-Minute Gratitude Journal: An Easy & Proven Way To Cultivate Mindfulness, Beat Burnout & Find Career Joy at https://tinyurl.com/49xdxrz8.  Get a copy of Career Unicorns™ 90-Day 5-Minute Self-Reflection Journal: An Easy & Proven Way To Find Career Clarity, Purpose & Fulfillment at https://tinyurl.com/yc3dfk73.  Ready for a career change?  Schedule a free 30-minute build your dream career consult by sending a message at www.careerunicorns.com.   

In this encore episode, I'm diving into one of the most essential skills I've had to develop in my own co-parenting journey: setting boundaries. So many of us were raised to prioritize keeping the peace and making others comfortable, even at the expense of our own emotional wellbeing. Over time, that leads to resentment, burnout, and feeling like a doormat. Today, I talk about how I learned to recognize those patterns in myself and how boundaries became a loving, empowering tool rather than something harsh or defensive. I walk through the difference between internal and external boundaries, why avoiding conflict only makes things worse, and how boundaries actually help us stay present, authentic, and grounded in our lives. I also share real examples of what boundary-setting sounds like, why it feels uncomfortable at first, and how enforcing those boundaries creates greater emotional clarity and safety. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical starting points to recognize resentment, understand what it's trying to tell you, and take the first steps toward healthier communication and co-parenting. Takeaways: How people-pleasing leads to self-abandonment The difference between internal and external boundaries Examples of clear, loving boundaries you can use today Why boundaries reduce resentment and increase clarity If you're ready for more support, reach out for a clarity call. I'd love to help you create the boundaries you need to move forward with confidence. https://calendly.com/coachwithmikki/co-parent-breakthrough-call Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who might need a fresh perspective on co-parenting! For more information go to my website here: https://mikkigardner.com/podcast/ © 2021 - 2025 Mikki Gardner Coaching

Lauren Robertson—evidential medium since age 16 and author of The Medium in Manolos—returns to talk about what it really takes to do public demonstrations of mediumship (“platform mediumship”). She shares why confidence is built through exposure, how to reframe anxiety into excitement, and how platform work differs from 1:1 readings (snappier evidence, more communal impact, and clear energy management). Lauren also opens up about skeptics, the role of inner work in becoming a stronger medium, and why ethical compensation matters—especially to prevent burnout and exploitation. The episode closes with Lauren's core advice: be yourself, because platform mediumship isn't performance—it's sacred service. Confidence comes from exposure, not perfection. The fastest way through the fear is repeating the experience until your nervous system learns it's safe. Reframe nerves as excitement. Anxiety often shows up when you add pressure about how you'll look or whether you'll “mess it up.” Platform mediumship is different from 1:1 readings. Public demos need quick, clear, evidential messages that lift the whole room—whether or not everyone gets read. Use “communal evidence,” especially objects. Describing an object someone has in their bag/pocket can create a shared moment of awe for the entire audience. Stop people-pleasing; start energy management. You're not there to make everyone happy—you're a channel for Spirit, and the audience is part of the energetic circuit. Call out skeptics with vulnerability. Naming what they might be thinking can disarm defensiveness and lower the emotional temperature in the room. Inner work strengthens mediumship. Healing shame, old beliefs, trauma, and people-pleasing patterns can directly improve courage, clarity, and stamina on the platform. Money + mediumship can be ethical and sacred. Fair compensation helps mediums stay resourced, confident, and less vulnerable to exploitation—while still leaving room to serve for free at times. Mediumship may be a spectrum. Like any skill, people vary in openness, compassion, creativity—and the role mediumship plays can still be meaningful even if someone isn't meant to demonstrate publicly.   “When we feel anxious or nervous… what we actually really feel is excited.” “The audience… they are a battery, they are an energy source…” “You are not there to please anybody. You are there as a mouthpiece… of the spirit world.” “You should be able to step away from the platform feeling energised…” “Mediumship isn't a performance, it's a sacred calling.” Lauren Robertson – Course: Platform Perfection: Listener discount 10% off with code MEDIUM at checkout Join us on Substack for The Afterlife—bonus clips after the “mic is off” (wink). Medium Curious Website: MediumCurious Jane's Website: Jane Morgan Medium  Sarah's Website: Sarah Rathke Podcast Instagram: @MediumCuriousPod YouTube: @mediumcurious VerySoul.com

Most people think they have a willpower problem… but really, they're just underfed, overwhelmed, and over-accommodating. Today we dive into the #1 issue we see in food logs (hi, low protein + barely eating until 4 PM

Christmas is a beautiful time of the year, but it can also be a melting pot of triggers, emotions, stress, leading to very dysregulated nervous systems.. which can lead to poor choices or even some self sabotage. Me and a host of other beautiful previous guests, experts and people who have made it through these times have got your back. For the 25 days of Christmas I will be posting 25 mini episodes with a tip every single day to help get you through.Fore more info or to work with me go to www.iquitalcohol.com.auTo find out more about Seana or her book go to https://seanasmith.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People-pleasing is an indication of anxiety and nervous system dysregulation. So why are you people-pleasing? People pleasers frequently have experienced emotional chaos, abuse, emotional neglect, anxiety, or trauma that has left them feeling unsafe. The need to feel safe and to keep the peace drives people-pleasing. What is people pleasing? According to Psychology Today, people-pleasing is a need for approval and validation from others. People pleasers habitually focus more on helping others than caring for their own needs. In addition, people pleasers fear rejection and prioritize others' happiness over their own. Why are you people-pleasing? The need to people-please is multifaceted but includes the following: Avoid conflict We often see people-pleasing in those who have experienced trauma, anxiety, and emotional dysfunction in the family unit. If parents have used physical punishment, yelled and screamed, and the child has felt unsafe, they will strive to please others to keep peace in their environment. People-pleasing then becomes a pattern in other areas as well and carries forward into adulthood, relationships, and career. Emotional neglect When a child experiences emotional neglect, intentional or unintentional, they may strive to gain approval as a means of emotional connection. Again, these people-pleasing tendencies will carry over into adulthood in most, if not all, aspects of their lives. Anxiety If a person has anxiety, they are living in an abnormal state of fear. They may feel they are unable to cope, so they please others to avoid disrupting their ecosystem. Meaning, if they please others, they won't have to face challenges they fear they cannot handle. In addition, when someone is anxious and their nervous system is not regulated, they may experience a fawning response. Fawning is people-pleasing. Therefore, we can associate a dysregulated nervous system with the need to please others. Guilt and shame If a child grows up in a dysfunctional home or has anxiety, they may develop a sense of guilt and shame that their life has not been similar to or as good as that of others around them. In addition, they may feel that the dysfunction, yelling, screaming, fighting, abuse, or trauma may have been their fault. So many things can lead to someone feeling guilt and shame, but a sense of abnormalcy can exacerbate this. People-pleasing becomes a coping mechanism for emotional instability. What does it look like to be a people-pleaser? Consequences of pleasing others and sacrificing your own happiness. How to overcome being a people-pleaser. Things you can focus on to change from a people-pleasing mindset. It's not easy, but it's doable. Read the full show notes and access all links. https://therobyngraham.com/why-are-you-people-pleasing/

Dora and Robin answer questions about sharing your anxiety with new friends, balancing your mental health with that of your partner, and making decisions when you are a people pleaser. Follow Robin ⁠here⁠ or at ⁠Well…Adjusting⁠ and follow Dora ⁠here⁠.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if you didn't have to do it all this holiday season? What if you could actually enjoy this time of year—without the resentment, exhaustion, or crushing mental load?In this timely and honest episode of The School of Midlife, Laurie shares a powerful coaching conversation with a client who realized she was doing the holidays on autopilot—baking cookies no one eats, mailing cards no one remembers, and hosting a party that felt more like pressure than pleasure.Together, they walk through how to tell the difference between a holiday obligation and a true opportunity—and how to make peace with letting go of traditions that no longer serve you.If you're tired of performing your way through the holidays (while secretly counting down to when it's over), this episode is your permission slip to do things differently this year.

From Invisible to I'm Here: Midlife, People-Pleasing & the 67-Degree Thermostat   If you've ever walked into a room and instantly shrank three sizes… or found yourself over-giving, over-understanding, and still somehow overlooked… this one's for you. In this episode, I get brutally honest about my own people-pleasing patterns — the “nice girl” identity that kept my inner thermostat stuck at 67 degrees, no matter how much I wanted a 72-degree life. We're talking childhood emotional non-attunement, being #7 of 7 kids, midlife triggers, and why simply “being nice” has quietly sabotaged my success, visibility, and self-worth for decades.   In this episode, I talk about: What it actually means to be #7 of 7 kids and a twin in an already maxed-out household — and how emotional non-attunement forms the “I don't need anything” identity. The two faces of people-pleasing: the over-functioning, doing-for-everyone sister, and the emotion-holding, invisible, “I'm fine” version (you). How making yourself “easy” and “low maintenance” as a child becomes a core survival strategy that follows you into midlife. Why you can be outwardly confident and competent, yet still walk into big groups and feel small, optional, or invisible. The thermostat / upper limit analogy: why your inner setting might still be 67 degrees — and how that quietly caps your happiness, success, and capacity to receive. How your childhood emotional reality shows up in: friendships (being the optional friend) marriage (people-pleasing in partnership) parenting (over-correcting from your own upbringing) business and visibility (struggling to hold momentum). The difference between healthy kindness and toxic niceness that costs you your voice, energy, and self-respect. Why triggers, tests, and midlife “mayhem” are often invitations to rewire, not punishment. The first steps to re-parenting your inner “I don't need anything” girl, so you can finally allow yourself to want, ask, take up space — and stay.   “It was my understanding, very early on, that in order to get any crumb of attention, I needed to be easy and nearly invisible.” “My version of people-pleasing wasn't over-doing — it was shrinking. It was becoming so low maintenance that nobody ever had to show up for me.” “You are the only consistent factor in every room where you feel ignored, overlooked, or ghosted. At some point, you have to look at the energy you're bringing — not to blame yourself, but to finally free yourself.” “I wasn't always fine. I just got really good at surviving my own disappointment.” “You can't upper-limit your way into a bigger life. If your nervous system is still set at 67 degrees, it will shut down every time you get close to 72.” “Being nice is beautiful. Being nice at the expense of your own safety, needs, and truth is something entirely different.”   This work isn't about becoming someone new. It's about finally understanding who you've been all along. If you're curious to go deeper, I host intentional workshops and gatherings through The Experience Project — including the Magnetic Midlife Project cohort and Human Design workshops that help you understand your patterns without judgment. Everything I create is gentle, practical, and designed for midlife — when we don't have time to force things that don't fit anymore. You can explore it all at

In this real, wide-ranging conversation, Christina and Brittany dive into the everyday topics that quietly shape our lives — health, hormones, money, mindset, and the pressure to “get it right,” especially during busy seasons.They kick things off with honest health updates, from sinus infections to wearable health tech, and share candid thoughts on tracking data versus trusting your body. From there, the conversation shifts into the stress of gift-giving, why it often feels so overwhelming, and why experiences almost always mean more than material things.The episode also touches on investing — stripping away the fear, complexity, and noise to focus on consistency, patience, and mindset — and how lessons from market shifts (like COVID) mirror the way we navigate life.Finally, Christina and Brittany open up about anxiety, especially as it relates to hormonal changes, food cravings, and the comfort found in nostalgia (yes, including the healing power of a grilled cheese).This episode is equal parts grounded, comforting, and perspective-shifting — a reminder that simplicity, trust, and presence often matter more than perfection.About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Welcome, gorgeous souls, to Episode 409 of Aligned Abundance! ✨This week, I'm joined by Hollie Azzopardi for a deeply honest and transformative conversation on letting go of people pleasing and learning to stop saying yes when you mean no.If you've ever abandoned your own needs to keep the peace, felt guilty for setting boundaries or found yourself overwhelmed by the pressure to be the “good girl,” this episode will feel like a breath of relief. Hollie and I explore the cultural, emotional and nervous-system layers of people pleasing and how choosing yourself (even in messy, imperfect moments) becomes a portal to authenticity, joy, and abundance.Here's what you'll discover in this week's episode:• The subtle ways people pleasing shows up - even if you don't identify as a people pleaser• How to reclaim yourself without drowning in guilt• What “saying yes to you” looks like in real-life, everyday momentsBecause when you start saying yes to yourself, you become aligned with the abundance that has always been yours.Don't forget to share your biggest takeaways with me on Instagram @iamemmamumfordVisit Hollie's website: https://www.hollieazzopardi.com/-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Explore More Ways to Manifest Your Dream Life...

As women, so many of us have grown up with both the Ps; people pleasing and perfectionism. But the cumulative effect of self abandonment leaves us not knowing ourselves, feeling exhausted and doubting (even fearing) our decisions. My guest this week, Kamini Wood, human potential coach and podcast host, shares strategies to help release ourselves and be able to move forward into more joyful living.Find Kamini hereFollow her here••• Love the show? Leave a five star ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ on Apple Podcasts — it means the world to me and helps more women find the simple + intentional podcast Join my email list for updates, tips + inspiration by downloading your free intentional living guide here Instagram @simpleintentional Read www.simpleintentional.com Want more support? Work with me one-on-one: hello@simpleintentional.com

Grace Amaku and Dr. Thema explore the truth about people pleasing, depression, and handling conflict. They unpack how to honor yourself and make courageous decisions to reclaim your peace. Grace Amaku is a nurse turned comedy queen whose viral character work has earned her features with Forbes and Essence, four years creating content for the Oscars, and collaborations with icons like Serena Williams, Ariana Grande, Kerry Washington, and Omar Sy. She hosts Get Reel with Grace Amaku, a film-first podcast where comedy and culture collide. Music by Joy Jones. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share.

Hey friend,  Are you exhausted because you're trying to keep everyone happy during the holidays? How much stress is your nervous system holding because you're afraid to disappoint people? What would your body feel like if you let go of even one people-pleasing “should”? In today's episode, I'm talking about why people-pleasing hits moms with chronic symptoms so hard during the holidays — especially when supporting neurodivergent kids. I break down how emotional overload triggers physical symptoms, why guilt feels so heavy in December, and how to release expectations without disappointing everyone. You'll walk away with simple boundaries, a kinder inner voice, and a nervous system that finally feels supported. Resources and Links Mentioned: 1:1 Chronic Health Coaching BOGO Sale HERE 176. 5 Sensory Anchors to Regulate Your Nervous System and Support Chronic Illness During Holiday Chaos 159. Still Inflamed No Matter What You Do? The Stress Loop You're Missing  Connect With Me: Contact: → Join our free Facebook group Facebook: → https://facebook.com/chronichealthmoms Instagram: → https://instagram.com/chronichealthmoms YouTube: → https://youtube.com/@chronichealthsolutions?si=OrDqjuavV5dctG0d Next Steps: Listen to today's episode. Join the Facebook group for support + weekly prompts. Grab your Buy One, Get One Coaching Sessions while they're available.  

Are you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion? Nurse practitioner and somatic therapist Baya Albina reveals what "emotional outsourcing" really means and how it's sabotaging your relationships and health. Learn about "functional freeze", constantly doing but feeling nothing and discover practical steps to reconnect with your body, set boundaries without guilt, and stop fixing everyone around you. If you can't relax when someone's upset or always put others first, this conversation will change everything. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/789

Dr. Paula Freedman-Diamond joins Jared to talk about why so many of us get stuck living for other people instead of ourselves. Jared shares his own people-pleaser habits, and Dr. Paula explains how that pressure to keep everyone happy ends up hurting our confidence and relationships. They break down how to build emotional resilience, sit with discomfort, and stop chasing outside validation. If you're tired of performing for the world, this episode shows you how to live more honestly and on your own terms.Check out more of Dr. Paula! : @mindfuldrpaulaToxic Striving on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Striving-Wellness-Culture-Stressed/dp/1648484069Exclusive $35-off Carver Mat Frames at https://on.auraframes.com/JTRAIN Promo Code JTRAIN

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We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes! Today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!  DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holidays tend to bring out the best and the most challenging parts of family dynamics. In today's episode, we're talking about how to stop people pleasing during the holidays, especially when you're splitting time between families, navigating tough conversations, and dealing with relatives who forget their filters. Follow the Podcast on Insta: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdviceInsta⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the Podcast on TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdviceTikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Ashley: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/ashnichole/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Taryne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/tarynerenee/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Become a premium subscriber today at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/UAPodcastSupercast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To watch our podcast on YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UAPodcastYouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To send us your questions/stories, email us at: AdviceUnsolicitedPod@gmail.com To check out our UA MERCH: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/unsolicitedadvicemerchandise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your relationship is stuck in a painful communication breakdown, I want you to know you're not crazy and you're not alone. In this episode, I'm sharing how the right solution-focused therapy techniques can start shifting the energy between you, even if things feel really bad right now. I'm joined by solution-focused brief psychotherapist and author of Change Your Questions, Change Your Future, Elliott Connie, and we're talking about why endlessly analyzing what went wrong rarely creates the change you're craving. Instead, we look at how hope, better questions, and small, intentional acts of love can reopen doors that you were pretty sure were slammed shut: from a “hopeless” divorced couple who ended up with ten beautiful years of remarried life, to the quiet experiment of really studying your partner and giving them more of what you know makes them feel loved. Along the way, we wrestle with the hard stuff too: blame, “I'm the victim here,” boundaries vs. checking out, and whether you're people-pleasing or simply showing up as the kind of partner you want to be. As you listen, I'd love for you to ask yourself: If hope came back into this relationship, what would actually be different between us? And who do I want to be in that story? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Relationships Really Fail: Losing Hope, Not Love 01:19 Solution-Focused Therapy vs Traditional Couples Counseling 06:03 Insight vs Healing: Why Understanding the Problem Won't Fix Your Relationship 10:48 How Hope Heals Relationships: The Most Important Ingredient in Change 15:36 Court-Ordered Co-Parents to Remarried: Elliot Connie's “Finding Nemo” Case Study 22:19 Ending the Blame Game: Taking Personal Responsibility in Marriage Conflicts 27:09 Try This Tonight: Small Acts of Love That Rebuild Emotional Connection 32:02 Is Your Partner Reciprocating? How to Read the Signs and What to Do Next 34:23 Change Your Questions, Change Your Future in Love and Relationships 36:51 Making Your Partner's Happiness Your Job Without Losing Yourself 41:35 People-Pleasing, Boundaries, and Knowing When a Relationship Is Unhealthy 44:54 How to Get More Help for Your Relationship and Personal Growth If this conversation is bringing a particular argument or painful cycle to mind and you can feel your body tense up at the thought of talking about it, I created something to walk alongside you. My Communication That Connects training is where I take you deeper into the heart of this work: the real issues that drive conflict, the evidence-based do's and don'ts of communication that creates connection instead of distance, and a clear framework you can start using with your partner right away.  And if you're at the point where you're thinking, “We cannot keep doing this by ourselves,” I would be truly honored to support you more directly. At Growing Self, you can tell us what's going on, what you've already tried, and what you're hoping for, and we'll thoughtfully connect you with the right therapist or coach on my team. It's a private, secure way to say, “Here's what I'm struggling with,” and get matched with someone who can walk through this with you, step by step. You can begin that process by scheduling a consultation. You deserve a relationship where hard conversations are survivable, you feel heard and cherished, and love feels like a safe place to land.