Podcasts about people pleasing

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're losing yourself in midlife?  In this powerful episode, I'm sitting down with expert Ashley Turner to explore the deeper meaning behind midlife hormonal changes in perimenopause and menopause.  Ashley helps you discover how perimenopause can be a profound reckoning, discussing how this stage of life invites us to shift from ego-driven goals toward greater purpose and compassion for others… and more importantly, for yourself.  Ashley beautifully reframes midlife as not an ending, but a spiritual awakening — a chance to realign with who we are and what we value.  We also dive into how embracing this change can spark healing, empowerment, and advocacy for ourselves and others.  Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will leave you ready to step into your next chapter with grace and intention. Ashley Turner Ashley Turner is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Psychedelic Therapist, renowned yoga–meditation teacher, writer, facilitator, speaker, and 7-figure entrepreneur. Her mission is to serve women – especially those in midlife and menopause. She helps visionary leaders tap into their confidence and amplify their wisdom, vision, and voice by embodying their full feminine power. Her own personal midlife struggles led her to found her Metamorphosis: Midlife & Menopause Mentorship and The Haven Membership. Ashley has been featured in media outlets such as The Washington Post, Shape, Self, Women's Health, Yoga Journal, Health, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Sounds True, and many more. IN THIS EPISODE Recognizing the symptoms of perimenopause  Ashley's work supporting women mentally and emotionally  How hormones can help some but not ALL symptoms  Why being intentional about your choices matters more in midlife  Lifestyle habits for optimal physical and mental health  How we can shift the culture around perimenopause awareness  How to cultivate your sense of community in midlife  How Perimenoapuse can be one of your greatest teachers  QUOTES “Once I got on the hormones, that was extremely helpful and it totally saved my life, and I love them… [but] it didn't solve all my problems. There's still a huge developmental phase that we're going through as women. People going through menopause, huge transitions in our sense of self, our ambition, our drive, who we are, our identity, of course sexuality, and that's a lot to manage on top of everything else that's happening in life.” “For a lot of women, it's taking 4 to 6 appointments for doctors to connect the dots between what they're going through and it being perimenopause and menopause. And what that does is it delays care, it delays treatment, and it delays a woman's quality of life.”  “I think telling the stories and sharing really authentically and vulnerably and transparently is such an important piece of this because we heal together. We are changing culture. We are weaving a new sisterhood, a new ethos. We also have to educate our partners, our children, our work environments, and really shape shift the culture.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order my new book The Perimenopause Revolution https://drmariza.com/book Use code ENERGIZED and get 20% off on your Timeline order  http://timeline.com/ENERGIZED Ashley Turner The Haven Community  Metamorphosis: Master Menopause and Midlife  Ashley Turner on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 689: The Hidden Brain Shift: Why Perimenopause Symptoms Start Earlier Than You Think 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3798: Brian Gardner explores the emotional toll of people-pleasing, revealing how the desire to be liked often masks deeper fears of rejection and abandonment. By confronting these fears and setting healthy boundaries, we can shift from living reactively to living intentionally and authentically Read along with the original article(s) here: https://nosidebar.com/people-pleasing/ Quotes to ponder: "People-pleasing isn't just about being nice, it's about trying to avoid rejection." "Many people-pleasers grew up in homes where love was conditional." "Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously." Episode references: Codependent No More: https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025 The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Diese Folge ist für Dich, wenn Du sowas von bereit bist für das Next Level in Deinem Business, aber Dich trotzdem immer wieder selbst ausbremst.  Du ertappst Dich zum Beispiel regelmäßig dabei, Dinge (wie Deinen nächsten Launch / Post / großen Schritt) aufzuschieben. Du hast Dir Zeit genommen aber irgendwie bist Du nicht weitergekommen. Wir schauen uns in der Folge an, welche Gründe dahinterstecken, dass Du nicht weitergehst: Vielleicht sabotierst Du Dich unbewusst. Vielleicht landest Du im Perfektionismus. Oder Dein Nervensystem und Dein Körper können mit dem Wachstum, das Du gerade erlebst, (noch) nicht Schritt halten. Ich spreche in dieser Folge darüber, warum die Lösung nicht darin liegt, noch mehr zu tun, sondern Dich selbst besser zu halten. Denn: Wachstum braucht Regulation. Next Level Leadership bedeutet, dass Du auf allen Ebenen in der Lage bist, Dein nächstes Level zu halten – und dabei Deine kostbare Zeit wirklich wertschätzt. Mach Dich bereit für einen ehrlichen Deep Dive, der Dir hilft, Deinen inneren Saboteur zu entlarven! Viel Freude mit dieser Folge! Von Herz zu Herz,  Deine Julia ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ 00:00 Willkommen 02:33 Was Dienen wirklich bedeutet und was es NICHT ist! 36:33 Outro ♡♡ Alle Infos zur GOLEA®️ Academy Premium Coaching & Mentoring Ausbildung findest Du hier: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/golea-academy-2026/ ♡♡ Für NO MORE TRAUMA und NO MORE DRAMA: Eine Reise in ein tieferes Verständnis über Trauma, Drama und das Nervensystem und somit auch eine wahrhaftige Möglichkeit ein für alle Mal aus Deiner Trauma Identität, People Pleasing und Automatismus auszusteigen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/no-more-drama-no-more-trauma/ ♡♡ Wenn Du Dich für eines meiner Angebote interessierst, dann kannst Du Dich auf meiner Website informieren und dort buchen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/ ♡♡

If you've ever caught yourself saying "yes" when you really wanted to say "no," this episode is 100% for you. I'm diving into one of the biggest mindset blocks I see inside my Healthy and Hot Method membership - people pleasing and how it's quietly draining your energy, wrecking your routines, and keeping you stuck! In this episode of Boss Bitch Radio, I'm pulling back the curtain on a private members-only coaching call where we talk all about boundaries, why women struggle to stay consistent, and how to start saying "no" without feeling guilty. I also share lessons from "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin, including how to stop worrying about what everyone thinks and start showing up for yourself unapologetically. Join the newsletter for more behind-the-scenes tips, cheat sheets, and practical tools → https://www.bossbitchradio.com/newsletter #PeoplePleasing #SetBoundaries #SelfWorth   Key Takeaways: 00:32 – A Quick Peek Inside the Healthy and Hot Method 01:06 – Why Mindset Shifts Matter So Much 01:43 – Boundaries, Weekly Calls, and Protecting Your Energy 02:31 – What People Pleasing Really Looks Like 02:47 – Book of the Week: 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do 04:41 – How to Spot the Signs of People Pleasing 07:39 – My Own Story (and a Few Real-Life Examples) 23:25 – Why People Pleasing Keeps You Stuck 26:54 – How to Set Boundaries and Actually Say No 27:17 – Get Clear on Your Values First 28:43 – Spotting Manipulation and Standing Your Ground 30:39 – Balancing Your Values with Relationships 33:30 – Knowing When to Say Yes (and When to Pass) 37:00 – Practicing Assertiveness Without Feeling Guilty 40:39 – The Freedom That Comes from Saying No 48:36 – Wrapping It Up: My Final Thoughts & Takeaways Links Mentioned:  Join us in the Healthy and Hot Method! Get $25 off your first month with code PODHOT - https://www.bossbitchradio.com/healthy-and-hot-method Join the Iconic Coaching Academy! Limited 1:1 spots available - https://www.bossbitchradio.com/iconic-coaching  I'm loving this Cathy Heller's program is packed with gems. Check it out here! https://cathyheller.samcart.com/referral/thisabundantlifebycathyheller/kLZu9Gj7RIEtBF2Q Hey! Have you heard of ClassPass? They're giving an exclusive free trial (with 20 bonus credits!) only available to friends of mine. https://classpass.com/refer/U37R31GQ30   Connect with Diane: Website: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro  Join the Boss Bitch Besties Fitness Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dianefloresifbbpro    Freebies: Lower Body Blueprint: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/lower-body-blueprint  Protein Snack List: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/protein-snack-guide  Full Body Training Program: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/full-body-gym-program  Fit Girl Gift Guide: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/fit-girl-gift-guide  My Favorite Supplements: https://www.bossbitchradio.com/myfavoritesupplements 

High performers don't crave praise — they crave safety. In this episode, Julie Holly unpacks why performance became your path to belonging and how to finally stop earning love that was always meant to be received.The Roots of Approval: Why You Keep Proving YourselfYou've achieved so much — but deep down, something still drives you to keep proving. No matter how much success you build, that quiet hum remains: Do enough. Be enough. Don't let anyone down.In this intimate reflection, Julie Holly reveals why performance became your path to belonging. Through the lens of attachment theory, polyvagal insight, and real-life experience, you'll discover how your nervous system learned to equate doing well with being safe — and how to rewrite that pattern from the inside out.You'll learn:Why approval isn't about ego — it's about safety and connection.How your nervous system links performance to survival.The difference between unconditional and conditional attachment — and how it shaped your adult identity.How approval takes many forms: applause, silence, avoidance, or even belonging in unsafe spaces.Why high performance can become a survival response instead of an authentic expression.How recalibration at the identity level begins freeing your body and mind from old attachment loops.This episode offers both compassionate understanding and practical application — blending science, story, and soul to help you stop striving for what you already carry.

One of the common behavior patterns we HSPs can be prone to is people pleasing – or partner pleasing! Interestingly, on the surface people pleasing seems lovely, it can wreak real emotional havoc and really hurt our intimate relationship over time. Today my special guest, Todd Smith, a highly sensitive person and host of the podcast,  Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People, and I are going to talk about all about people and partner pleasing: what it looks like, what it leads to (ahem, talk about resentment! And overwhelm!), why we do it, and how it affects us and our marriages. You'll hear examples of how we both have "people pleased” in our own lives and relationships, and client stories, as well.  Then we will offer several ways to break this habit or pattern, and ultimately be TRUE to yourself, more authentic and honest in your marriage, and feel more loved for who you really are.Whether you think you may sometimes fall in to people pleasing, or not, you may be surprised at what you'll learn about yourself and other people in your life as you listen to this fun, important, laughter-filled conversation. You'll come away intrigued by how much opportunity for real loving change can come from leaving this pattern in the past, and clear on how to get started. SHOW NOTES:TODD SMITH: Find Todd's website and free Stress Test HEREListen to his podcast, Stress Management for Highly Sensitive People here.HANNAH BROOKSFREE QUIZ: How Much is High Sensitivity Impacting Your Relationship (and are you even highly sensitive)? You want to know. Because, high sensitivity has a major impact on intimate relationships – for better or worse. Take this 3 minute quiz to discover if you're highly sensitive and how deeply it's affecting you, and your happiness in your relationship. You will also get your next steps to making sure sensitivity works for your relationship, instead of against it.Join Hannah for private 1:1 Marriage Coaching, and get her deep, super individualized support to make your marriage way more full of security, connection, love, and mutual support than ever--WITHOUT PEOPLE PLEASING. Get started by filling out this form. See her on-demand relationship courses for HSPs here.

We inherit shame like an unspoken family heirloom — stitched into our bodies, our ambition, our idea of enough. It's the quiet undertone behind so many brilliant women asking, “Why do I still feel like I'm not enough?”In this conversation, Jennifer Walter sits down with therapist and facilitator Kyira Wackett to unpack the hidden ways shame shapes our lives — from body image and burnout to perfectionism and belonging. Together, they explore how shame isn't just a feeling — it's a learned survival strategy. One we can unlearn.You'll hear about the difference between “good” and “bad” pain, why setting boundaries feels so hard, and how to start building shame resilience without burning yourself out.This episode is part psychology, part real talk — a compassionate deep dive into the quiet stories that keep women performing, proving, and people-pleasing.If you're tired of hustling for worth, this one's your permission slip to rest, reflect, and begin again.

Do you find yourself saying "yes" when you want to say "no"? Or softening your words to avoid tension? In this episode, we uncover how people-pleasing quietly sabotages your voice, your confidence, and your authentic communication. You'll learn how to move beyond the habit of keeping the peace and step into grounded, honest expression—even in high-stakes moments. You'll learn: Before: How to prepare mentally and emotionally before a big conversation so you don't default to pleasing. During: What to do in the moment when you feel yourself shrinking, smoothing things over, or freezing. After: How to reflect, reset, and strengthen your voice after tough communication moments. If you've ever dimmed your truth to keep others comfortable, this episode will help you speak up with calm clarity—and keep your power intact. For more inspiration—and to watch my free training, The Calm and Confident Communicator—head over to www.speaktoinspire.com. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe so you never miss an upcoming tip to elevate your speaking skills. And I'd be so grateful if you'd leave a rating and review—it really helps more people find the show! Thanks for listening!

In dieser Folge geht es um einen Begriff, den viele Menschen missverstehen: Dienen. Die meisten glauben, dass Dienen gleichbedeutend mit Geben ist. Doch genau das ist die Verstrickung, vor allem für uns Unternehmerinnen ~ für uns Frauen! Wenn wir zu viel von uns geben oder geben, obwohl unser eigenes Fass nicht voll ist – fühlen wir uns leer, übergangen oder sogar von uns selbst missbraucht. Das klingt drastisch, aber genau das wird angetriggert, wenn wir aus einer falschen Definition von Dienen heraus handeln.   Wahrlich zu dienen bedeutet: Dein Vollsein zu teilen, weil Dein Fass vor Fülle ganz natürlich überläuft. ✨ Dann gibst Du niemals etwas von Dir weg. Das ist weibliche Energie in ihrer Essenz! Mach Dich gefasst auf richtig viel Mehrwert und einen hammergeilen Shift durch diesen Deep Dive. Ich wünsche Dir viel Freude beim Hören. ❤️ Von Herz zu Herz, Deine Julia ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ 00:00 Willkommen 02:33 Was Dienen wirklich bedeutet und was es NICHT ist! 25:33 Outro ♡♡ Alle Infos zur GOLEA®️ Academy Premium Coaching & Mentoring Ausbildung findest Du hier: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/golea-academy-2026/ ♡♡ Für NO MORE TRAUMA und NO MORE DRAMA: Eine Reise in ein tieferes Verständnis über Trauma, Drama und das Nervensystem und somit auch eine wahrhaftige Möglichkeit ein für alle Mal aus Deiner Trauma Identität, People Pleasing und Automatismus auszusteigen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/no-more-drama-no-more-trauma/ ♡♡ Wenn Du Dich für eines meiner Angebote interessierst, dann kannst Du Dich auf meiner Website informieren und dort buchen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/ ♡♡

Ever found yourself at the vet swiping your card with one eye closed—just hoping the total isn't another $3,000 surprise? You're not alone.In this episode, Brittany and Christina pull back the curtain on the real cost of pet ownership — the emotional love story that often comes with a hefty price tag. From emergency surgeries to “Can I just pull them out myself?” moments, they dig into how far we go (and how much we spend) for the animals we adore.They chat about the emotional side of spending on pets, how the industry has exploded into a multi-billion-dollar machine, and why it's so hard to draw the line between love and financial logic when it comes to our fur-babies.If you've ever questioned whether that vet visit, dental cleaning, or MRI was “worth it,” this episode will have you nodding, laughing—and maybe rethinking your next pet insurance policy. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

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You can grab Leah's new book here:⁠www.serial-fixer.com⁠In this episode, I'm joined by Leah Marone to explore the intertwined challenges of imposter syndrome and people-pleasing, and how they can silently undermine your confidence and self-esteem.Leah and I dive into practical strategies to:Identify the hidden patterns that keep you stuck seeking approvalBreak free from self-doubt and insecurity that fuel imposter syndromeBuild authentic confidence and trust in your own abilitiesStop shrinking to make others comfortable and start showing up fully as yourselfIf you've ever felt like you're “faking it” or constantly putting others' needs above your own, this episode will guide you toward empowered, authentic self-expression and the confidence to step into your true potential.You can find Leah's new book here:www.serial-fixer.com

Many women are taught from a young age to be caretakers—to be kind, helpful, and keep the peace, even at the cost of their own well-being.In this inspiring episode, Cynthia James is joined by Margarita Kogan, licensed therapist and founder of Honor and Heal, to discuss how women can release the “good girl” conditioning, heal emotional wounds, and rediscover their authentic selves.You'll discover how honoring your past can open the path to healing, how reconnecting with the body supports emotional transformation, and why remembering your true self is the foundation for lasting empowerment.Tap into the power of awareness, self-compassion, and truth. Tune into the full episode of Why ‘Good Girls' Stay Stuck: Breaking the Cycle of People-Pleasing and Self-Betrayal.Enjoy the podcast? Subscribe and leave a 5-star review.Margarita Kogan is a licensed therapist and creator of Honor and Heal, an online healing community for women. Her work focuses on helping women heal emotional trauma, navigate toxic relationships, and reconnect with their authentic selves through self-awareness and embodiment practices.Connect with Margarita:Website: https://margaritakogan.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/backtoself.healingCynthia James is a transformational speaker, emotional integration coach,and host of the Women Awakening podcast. With a background as a formeractress and Star Search champion, she brings creativity and depth to herwork. Cynthia holds master's degrees in consciousness studies and spiritualpsychology, and she's the author of multiple bestselling books, including IChoose Me. Through her global retreats, coaching, and speaking, she helpswomen step into their power, live authentically, and lead with purpose.Connect with Cynthia James:Website: https://www.cynthiajames.net/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/cynthia-james-enterprises/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/WhatWillSetYouFreeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cynthiajames777/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthiajamestransforms

How do you actually stop fawning, and what does healing look like in real life? In Part 2 of our convo with Dr. Ingrid Clayton, we dove into boundaries, agency, and what it really takes to step out of survival mode. Ingrid shared her go-to body-based tools—like orienting with the senses, making nature your therapist, building a “pillow palace” like Sarah's, and giving yourself full permission to take up space. Expect honest stories about parenting and relationships as radical acts of autonomy, plus some real-talk on microdosing mushrooms, nervous system hacks, and learning to say what you actually feel. If you've ever felt lost in people-pleasing or longed to reclaim your voice, this episode offers wisdom, compassion, and bite-sized practices to help you trust yourself and move toward genuine self-acceptance.Pick up Ingrid's book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Also follow her on Instagram and Substack @IngridClaytonPhd or visit her website at IngridClayton.com.Also…let it be known that:The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business, individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad.**PRE-ORDER Sarah and Nippy's newest book hereCheck out our amazing sponsorsJoin A Little Bit Culty on PatreonGet poppin' fresh ALBC SwagSupport the pod and smash this linkCheck out our cult awareness and recovery resourcesWatch Sarah's TED Talk and buy her memoir, ScarredCREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony AmesProduction Partner: Citizens of SoundCo-Creator: Jess TardyAudio production: Will RetherfordProduction Coordinator: Lesli DinsmoreWriter: Sandra NomotoSocial media team: Eric Skwarzynski and Brooke KeaneTheme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel AsselinSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever feel like you're shapeshifting to make everyone happy? In this episode of Get Psyched, we're slipping into something a little more authentic, exploring how people pleasing might be more about manipulation than you think.We dive into:

In this recap, Lesley and Brad reflect on their powerful conversation with Amber Fuhriman—attorney, NLP trainer, and host of Break Your Bullshit Box. Together they unpack how perfectionism and people-pleasing keep high achievers trapped in fear, and how authenticity, though uncomfortable, is freeing. This episode challenges listeners to take responsibility for their choices and trust that staying authentic is better than constantly seeking approval.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:Why people-pleasing is a hidden form of control, not kindness.How perfectionism hides behind fear and the need for validation.What authentic affirmations sound like without toxic positivity.Why creating an “SOS list” can help you act instead of overthink.How taking responsibility for choices leads to personal freedom.Episode References/Links:Cambodia Retreat Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/eventsPilates Journal Expo - https://xxll.co/pilatesjournalAgency Mini - https://prfit.biz/miniContrology Pilates Conference in Poland - https://xxll.co/polandtContrology Pilates Conference in Brussels - https://xxll.co/brusselseLevate - https://lesleylogan.co/elevateeLevate Waitlist - https://lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlistSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsTiny Habits by BJ Fogg - https://a.co/d/fNNWEahAmber Fuhriman's Website: https://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com90 Day Success Jumpstart Training - https://jumpstart.successdevelopmentsolutions.comBreak Your Bullshit Box Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! 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You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person.Lesley Logan 0:14  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:57  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the candid convo I had with Amber Fuhriman on our last episode. If you haven't listened to that one, you are going to need to listen to that one, because I'm stumbling over my words today. Brad Crowell 1:12  It's a great episode. It's a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 1:14  It's so good, it's so fun. And it was nice as local. And I really like being on her podcast, so you're gonna want to listen to it whether you listen to it first or last, I mean, there's, it's really okay, I think, in life to hear the ending and then watch the show. Sometimes I do that with real life TV, because I just want to know if I'm like, falling like, if I'm like, rooting for a villain or not. I just want to know. I gotta, I gotta have that information now.Brad Crowell 1:35  Yeah, she's not lying. She literally does this. Lesley Logan 1:38  Hey, you know what? Brad Crowell 1:39  Tell me. Lesley Logan 1:39  Bands would like drop just like a single song, but you'd go buy the whole album without listening to it. So you, in fact, knew there's one song I'm gonna love on this. Speaker 1 1:50  I think there's a difference between the teaser of something and the ending conclusion. Lesley Logan 1:55  These are not teasers. The recap episode is teasers. We are taking a talking point each, right? And of the many talking points that they had, so it's like two things.Speaker 1 2:06  I don't know what that has to do with going and watching the end of a TV show before you start the TV show. That's the conclusion versus a teaser. Lesley Logan 2:12  It's a sample, sampling. Brad Crowell 2:14  Okay. Lesley Logan 2:14  Sampling a part. Brad Crowell 2:16  It just happens to be the ending sample. Lesley Logan 2:18  Okay. Well, today is October 30th and we decided we want to talk about tomorrow, because tomorrow is Halloween. And I don't know about you, but I grew up. First of all, I went to some churches where Halloween was, like, just the evilest thing you couldn't even go trick or treating. Did you ever go to a church like that, like, where, like, they didn't even? Brad Crowell 2:35  No. Lesley Logan 2:35  Okay. Your church has always trick or treated? Brad Crowell 2:37  Yes. Lesley Logan 2:38  Okay. So I did not experience that all of my childhood. But then some churches, we could totally trick or treat, and then there were some churches where you could trick or treat, but like people, like whispered, you know. Brad Crowell 2:49  They whispered about trick or treating? Lesley Logan 2:51  At any rate, what no one talks about is how this holiday had nothing to do with the churches, and it wasn't even the Halloween. It was about something else. And we decided to tell you about the true history of Halloween. So.Speaker 1 3:03  Yeah, it's, it's actually like cultural warfare is, if you, if you want to look at it. Lesley Logan 3:08  I know, like, it's like an appropriation. Brad Crowell 3:10  Yeah. Well, they, yes, they appropriated the time and they renamed it. So we'll talk about that. Lesley Logan 3:16  Okay, many, many holidays were done this way. So Halloween originated from the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, right. Brad Crowell 3:24  Samhain. Lesley Logan 3:25  No no. In the thing we looked up, it literally said to how to say it pronounced saa · wn. So Samhain is pronounced saa · wn spelled Samhain, but it's you say it saa · wn, let me go back to my sheet. Okay. A three day celebration held over 2000 years ago that marked the end of the harvest season and the beginning of the dark, cold winter. Are you gonna just.Brad Crowell 3:52  Sorry, just taking over right there. All right, keep going. Lesley Logan 3:55  Okay. Thank you so much. Okay, so the Celts believed that this was a time when the boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead blurred, allowing spirits to roam the earth. To ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings and food outside their homes. Pause, just so you know, also in October in Cambodia, they do something called Pchum Ben and Pchum Ben, Pchum Ben, it is a almost month long celebration in parts of the country, but for sure, a three day celebration where everyone, no one works, including in the tourist city of Siem Reap we're only going to find expats working. You're not going to find a single Cambodian working. And they they don't get dressed up, but they celebrate and they do all these things so like that is awesome.Speaker 1 4:42  Pchum Ben is a Buddhist holiday that is celebrated every year where they believe that the souls of their ancestors are released for 15 days so that they can basically stay with family. Lesley Logan 4:53  Yeah, it's really cool. People like will travel on a moto for 11 hours to go with family. It's freaking crazy. But I just want to say, like, how cool, like, even across the world, the same, similar thing was happening. So to ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they, oh, I already said that part, sorry. Speaker 1 5:09  They lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings, which is actually like it trickles down over the, you know, millennia. And the ancient custom, those ancient customs, kind of evolved into what are now, trick or treating, the costumes, decorations and parties celebrated for modern Halloween. I mean, we don't light bonfires and, you know that kind of a thing (inaudible).Lesley Logan 5:30  No because if you did, people are gonna think that you're a witch. But you can actually just say, no, I'm celebrating. How do you say it? Samhain, I'm celebrating Samhain Okay, so the oh, one more thing on this, the Roman and Christian influence. After the Romans conquered the Celtic lands, Roman festivals like Feralia and Pomona were incorporated into Samhain traditions. Later, the Catholic Church established All Saints Day on November 1st and All Souls Day on November 2nd, making October 31st All Hallows Eves, which means hallowed or holy, right? So they just.Brad Crowell 6:05  Which then become Halloween. Yup.Lesley Logan 6:08  .Yeah, So they just stole it. Brad Crowell 6:10  Yeah. Just just renaming things over here. Lesley Logan 6:12  So if you don't like that I'm harping on the church, you know it, sometimes we have to accept the responsibility of people from our past. Every fucking group of people has done something wrong, but it's more important to be like, educated and understand. And if you love Halloween, I love that for you. I decided to get into Halloween-ish, this year I got witchy nails, which are not done for this recording, but just check out my Instagram. They're witchy nails for me anyways. And when I because I just, like, remember, when I was why does everybody like, this holiday, but now that I, like, know the history of it and what it was for, I actually can get down with it.Speaker 1 6:50  It also marks like, it's actually the end of a season, going into the next season. So it was the end of harvest. So imagine, yeah, imagine, imagine you just spent all season, like, you know, really digging in on the harvest, and now it's time to party, and there's a new season coming. So I feel like it all kind of goes together. Lesley Logan 7:11  And also, like, I mean, just imagine a couple thousand years ago, like, life was so hard. And I also (inaudible), the more you look at the celebrations that they had, it really was like taking a pause of the hard work of life, and doing some sort of way to celebrate that. And we don't do that around here. We just, like, keep working through all the things. And like, at least in the States, maybe you take off a couple days for the actual holidays. And so I just, I feel like this is a holiday that has a lot more history to it. And and I, and I kind of like, what that history is. It seems really beautiful. And what a great way to spend time with family and past loved ones. And also, like, let's not forget, you know, in Mexico, they do Día de Muertos, which is on November 1st, right? Like, the big celebration of the like, there's a lot of different cultures that celebrate the people that have come before them and spend time together. And there's all this stuff. So anyways, just think about that. Think about the loved ones you had, and celebrate the harvesting you did, and report back. Okay.Speaker 1 8:09  Yeah, Lesley and I've been back from Cambodia and Singapore now for a week and a half. And it's just always so refreshing for us to get back to our second family over there. You know, people that we love, the places that we love to be in. The environment over there is just it's so magical. And we would love to have you join us next year, but get on the waitlist, because there's limited amount of spots. We're going to be going in October of next year, but we're going to be announcing all of that in January. So go to crowsnestretreats.com to get on the waitlist for information about the upcoming trip for 2026 we're only going one time next year, only going one time next year. We're only going one one time next year. Lesley Logan 8:50  Are you trying to convince yourself or everyone else? Brad Crowell 8:53  I'm letting everybody know, because a lot of people have said, oh, I'll come with you in the spring, and we're not going in the spring. We are only going in the fall next year, so, side note. Lesley Logan 9:04  And probably the year after that, I just have to say it to you. Brad Crowell 9:06  October 1st, we already rolled out our tour go to opc.me/events to join us for the OPC winter tour. We're gonna be driving all around the United States of America. We're gonna be going from Vegas all the way up to Boston, down to Miami and back. It's gonna be something like 24, 25 locations. It's kind of insane. We're very excited about it. We are going to be even bigger.Lesley Logan 9:28  We're going to studios we've not been to and have been excited. They've been on the list for a while. These are human beings that, like, we have literally been like, how do we make sure we get to see them again?Speaker 1 9:39  But you can find out all the specifics where we're stopping. Go to opc.me/events, chances are high that some locations may already be sold out. Lesley Logan 9:47  Yeah it's been out for a month. Brad Crowell 9:48  Because it's been out for a month. So but go check it out opc.me/tour. Then in January, where are you teaching?Lesley Logan 9:55  We'll be at the Pilates Journal, their first ever event in the U.S. It will be at Huntington Beach. If you go to xxll.co/pilatesjournal, you can get your tickets Brad Crowell 10:03  Pilates Journal Expo. Lesley Logan 10:05  Yeah. So Pilates Journal is a Pilates Journal. It's a magazine, and they.Brad Crowell 10:10  It's free, by the way. Lesley Logan 10:11  Is it? Brad Crowell 10:11  Yeah. The journal they release is free. Lesley Logan 10:14  Oh, I love that. I mean, I always just assumed, I just was given it for free. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Pilates Journal, but I just, I don't know. I just thought maybe they just (inaudible).Brad Crowell 10:23  I'm like 90% sure. Lesley Logan 10:25  But they, they do a really, they do events in Australia and. Brad Crowell 10:28  Yeah, subscribe for free. Lesley Logan 10:29  You can subscribe for free. I've written for articles for them several times. I think it's really worth looking into. But if you're a Pilates teacher, you should come. The lineup is amazing. Several of these teachers have taught. We've all taught together somewhere, but never taught all together. So like you're not going to see this line up again, you might as well come and then in February, we're going to host Agency Mini, that is our business coaching program for Pilates instructors and studio owners. And you're going to want to go to prfit,biz/mini. So it's profit without the O dot B-I-Z slash mini, to get on the waitlist. Also probably in January-ish, they'll be letting the waitlist people get the best discount. So I'm just saying. In March, we're going to two places in Europe. We'll be in Poland, at the Pilates Poland Controlology Pilates Conference. So go to xxll.co/poland by the way, I'm doing that with Karen Frischmann. And so if you like me, and you're gonna like Karen, I'm just gonna tell you right now, she's like, she's extremely smart, extremely knowledgeable. And like, I I feel, I feel like, like, you know how there's like the pop band, and then there's like the, like, uber rock, like, just has done, been doing music for decades, and like, they're just like, that's what it is. And so you, if you don't know Karen, I promise you're gonna love Karen. And if you know Karen, then what are you waiting for? The two of us will be together so we can, like, knock it out in one weekend, or go into Brussels, xxll.co/brussels. We'll be at El's studio there in Brussels, and we're very excited about it, different workshops at each event. So, but same teacher. So you're as long as long as you love Karen and I, or one of us, you're gonna have a great lineup. Just pick the one that works the best for you, and then we will, Brad is gonna take me on a second honeymoon, and then we are going to land and arrive at P.O.T in London. And I don't have a link for you, but you could just Google P.O.T., Balanced Bodies P.O.T. London, It will come up. They have amazing SEO. They're really good at what they do. And you can snag your spot. It is limited, and it sells out every year. So there you go. Before we get into this amazing interview with Amber, what is our question this week?Speaker 1 12:29  @marystarpilates asks, hey, Lesley, do you still do your continued education teacher training program? Where can I find information on that? Thank you so much. So I'm assuming she's talking about eLevate. Lesley Logan 12:41  Yes, I did clarify. And the answer is yes, she's talking about my mentorship program for Pilates instructors. So you have to have, you have to have done a comprehensive program in that, like, you should have been trained on the mat, Reformer, Cadillac or Tower and Chair, right? The Wunda Chair. Of course, I'd love it if you (inaudible) on the barrels. But like, I'm not worried about you being overwhelmed by the fifth weekend, but you need and then you have to have access to a mat, a Reformer, a Tower, Cadillac, a Chair and a Barrel. So you don't have to have a full studio access. It doesn't have to be classical. In fact, I work with both classically trained and contemporary trained people who are classic, classically curious, classical people who feel like they were like, taught this, like, rigid, you know, culty perfect way of doing Pilates, and they would like to have a little bit more fun. And we just really break down and ditch perfection and get really excited about what Joe gave us and what the intentions were, and free you from thinking you need to have a million fucking cues all the time. And also really help you with your own personal practice. Help you with seeing, help you with patience in your teaching. And so if you go to lesleylogan.co/elevate, you can learn more about it if you do the same exact URL, but add waitlist to it. So lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlist, you can get on the waitlist for the next one, because this upcoming what year are we in right now? So 2026, is next year is sold out. Sold out. You can reach out to us. You never know what might happen. But 2027 is where we're already we're actually already taking people, taking applications, selling spots. The reality is mentorship programs like this. I have friends who have one who are five years booked in the future. I'm not going out that far. I'm kind of a year in advance kind of person, but if you know you want it then you can plan ahead. So that's what I would say. Speaker 1 14:24  Yeah, awesome. Well, stick around. We'll be, oh, actually. Lesley Logan 14:28  Go to beitpod you want to send us questions. Brad Crowell 14:30  Yeah, you have to join us for all these questions. Your participation is required, or we don't get to ask answer your questions. So 310-905-5534, hit us up or.Lesley Logan 14:39  And I want some fun questions. I want, I want relationship questions. I want family questions. I want career questions. I want some (inaudible) questions. Brad Crowell 14:50  She wants some juicy questions.Lesley Logan 14:51  I want, I want, I want. I also want the gossip that comes with the questions. You could be anonymous. Speaker 1 14:58  Go to beitpod.com/questions, where you can leave a win or a question. Thank you for that. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to talk about Amber Fuhrman. Amber Fuhriman is a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser and an attorney who now works as a coach, human behavior expert and podcaster. As a certified trainer of neuro linguistic programming or NLP, and host of the More Than Corporate Podcast. She blends her legal background with mindset and performance coaching to help high achievers push past limiting beliefs and perfectionism. And after years of believing success was about money and titles, Amber has redefined it as freedom choice and building a life that truly feels fulfilling. A lot of relation like a relatability here with her story and just.Lesley Logan 15:43  I know, another guest where it's like, oh, we're, like, just on the same we're on the same longitude, you know, just a different latitude. Like, she's doing something very similar, like it's, we're on the same longitude, but a different latitude, you know, like, like, Joe Allen was doing similar things with the orthodontist. And we do what we do for Pilates instructors and studio owners, and she does what she does for like, other professional it's just very cool. But also I love how our lives can bring a different lens to it, a different focus to what we do. And we I really appreciate her willingness and interest in like, we talk about people pleasing, and we talk about a bunch of stuff, but I just really got excited about talking about people pleasing because, like, how many of our listeners, how many people do we know that are doing things that are people pleasing? Brad Crowell 16:26  Well, I thought her definition of it was, she said, people pleasing is when you consider other people's feelings before you consider your own. And I thought that was interesting, especially because, you know, and then y'all talked about how.Lesley Logan 16:47  Yeah, we talked about see, so, like, I also think that some people pleasers are it's just another form of control. By the way, you can also be you're controlling people's emotions as well, or the outcome of people's emotions. But we, she clarified that not people pleasing doesn't mean being an asshole. Just for the purpose of being an asshole, like it's about instead about being authentic and speaking your truth. So meaning, like a lot of people will go to dinner with a family member on Thursday to people please, rather than which is not authentic, by the way, because you don't want to be there. You're gonna be somewhere else. So you're actually that's kind of, I think you're more of an asshole if you're people pleasing because you're not being authentic. I think that's we should re define people pleasing as being an asshole, a non-authentic person.Brad Crowell 17:28  Not authentic person. Lesley Logan 17:30  Yeah. So she advised, like, what you can do when you're not people pleasing is, like, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human So, meaning you decided to not people please. Someone had a reaction that was not something that you liked like all, that they're upset that you're not doing the thing for them. And so like, you get to ask yourself, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human being? If the answer is yes, then I will not apologize when I'm 100% in alignment with my actions. And you can understand that and accept me for I am, or you don't accept me and like, that is really hard for a lot of people, because, like, I'm gonna lose people. You guys were allowed to lose people in our life. We just are, and it's gonna happen. Like, it's impossible. It's impossible to keep everyone happy with you all of the time. There's just not, there's no way that is going to even be a possibility. And so if you are, if you are actually being authentic in alignment with how you feel and you speak that and someone doesn't like it, you are not in the wrong. They are also, by the way, there might not even be in the wrong.Speaker 1 18:29  I mean, look, you could be in the wrong, but if you are doing this to protect yourself or to stop people pleasing, this is when you have to ask yourself these questions. You know, were the actions I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human? If that's the case, then, then you can confidently move forward knowing that you weren't doing it to hurt them. You were doing it to uphold your own values, right? So if you were doing it to hurt them, then don't be an asshole. But if you're doing it to uphold your own values, that that's different.Lesley Logan 19:00  If you were doing it then hurt them. Sorry. You are being an asshole. But I just think that the more we can understand ourselves, the recovering people pleasers that we are, these are gonna be conversations you have to have with yourself. You're going to have to chit chat with yourself about like, okay, but give yourself pep talk. I want to be this person who speaks my heart, who shares how I feel, who's honest with how and will I will spend time with people, and that is going to upset some people who would like me to have more of me or have me at this thing. But I'm not in the wrong. I'm not an asshole. I'm being authentic and like, they will either come around or they won't. Speaker 1 19:35  Yeah, I really liked when she was talking about the like, toxic positivity, like, fake it till you make it. Where she was talking about, she, basically, I just, she was so frustrated about the idea of it, and she, she was like, don't ever put me in a room with people who believe this, because she's gonna lose her shit.Lesley Logan 19:59  Yeah, I want to be in that room. Actually, is that terrible? I like, I would like her to, like, she's such a good person with words. I would love to and she's a lawyer, so she's so good at articulating. Speaker 1 20:11  I mean she talked about, she talked about, you can't lie to yourself and convince you like you can, but there's dissidence that's happening when you're lying yourself in that way. And she said, the brain doesn't like distance between what is being said and what is truly believed. So, you know, she said, instead of doing that, instead of being like, I'm amazing, I'm beautiful in the mirror every morning, kind of a thing, she said, she advocates for affirmations that acknowledge the gap between who I think I am now and who I need to be in order to accomplish this. You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person, right? That's different than, you know, like.Lesley Logan 20:49  Like people do I am, I am rich. But if you're, like, barely able to pay your bills, like the brain is, that is not helpful. So I am becoming rich.Brad Crowell 20:57  Or I make decisions that are going to make me rich. Lesley Logan 21:00  Yes, I make decisions that are making me rich. I am on my way to abundance. I am, you know? Speaker 1 21:05  Yeah, I like that. And so it's, it's nuanced. It's nuanced here, you know, but I, but I actually appreciated that, and I thought, oh, that's a cool way to to adjust it, because sometimes it does feel fake, and that's annoying, and that's not, that's not. I have a hard time embracing that too, so I get that.Lesley Logan 21:20  Well, because scientifically, like in behavior science, like the brain, doesn't like dissonance, right? So, BJ Fogg, his sister, she was talking about how, you know, one of the habits, BJ likes to get people to start with from reading his book, it's like every day, get out of bed, you put your feet on the floor, like everybody does this. You can literally start a habit. Tomorrow morning, you put your feet on the floor. You say, today is going to be amazing. Or you can say, I'm amazing, but, like, usually he would say, today's me amazing day. And then you stand up and like, you like, so you want and like, it's a great first habits, a great way to start the day. And she, like, talked to us just like, yeah, so my husband died, and on the day of his funeral, I'm not going to put my feet on the floor. I go today is an amazing day. Because the brain isn't like dissonance, and that's gonna screw the habit up, right? Because it's gonna be like, oh, this is not real. So what she said is, today is going to be as good as it can be, right? And that's an honest thing. And so I think where she's.Speaker 1 22:16  And it's an affirmation, you know, like, still, is putting you on like, a path to see the good in the day. Lesley Logan 22:22  Without it being toxic positivity. It's like, it's an and so I actually really appreciated that because we taught we have a lot of people talk about, like, affirmation and mantras. And hers is like, yeah, so have ones that are that are actually helping you be it till you see it, not that are lying to you about what you are. That's not gonna be helpful. She's just super cool. I mean, I listened before I was on her podcast, because I met her in person for the podcast. I listened to several of her episodes, and I was just like, I feel like I'm learning so much. Brad Crowell 22:48  That's cool. Love it.Lesley Logan 22:49  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you don't have to put her on faster speed, just gonna be really honest, you can put it on a regular speed, because I had it on 1.75 I was like, maybe we'll take that down a little bit. It's like listening to me.Speaker 1 23:00  That's hilarious. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into those into those Be It Action Items that you have with Amber Fuhriman in just a minute. Brad Crowell 23:10  All right, welcome back. So finally, what Be It Action Items, can we take away from your convo with Amber? Oh, I said that differently this time. For those of you who say it along with me, say it along with me. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Amber Fuhriman? She said, hey, when you are struggling with overthinking or in or you are struggling with intense emotions, this is really cool y'all. She said, create an SOS list, meaning the list of people that you are flashing the SOS sign to, right? And this list is just two or three trusted people who you can reach out to, and they can be your gauge for you, right, that they can help you when you know you're spiraling out, like if, if you know, for example, if you are like an overthinker and you can't put it into action, and you recognize I'm overthinking again. I'm not acting. I need you to actually just get started. You can text your SOS list, you know, but first ask them if that, you know, they're willing to be on it. But you can develop a specific, predetermined SOS phrase, like Amber said, I'm stuck at the airport, right? And for her, being stuck at the airport is like she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, but she's never taken off. She's never taken off. She's always stuck at the airport. So she said, explain what the SOS phrase means to you, and clarify that if you send that message to your people on the SOS list, it really means I need somebody to check in on me right now. So for example, you know, I imagine it may change over time. You know, what does your SOS mean, right? Especially when Amber's partner died, I imagine it was a, you know, a different reason to be reaching out than now where she's, you know, it's been a couple of years, and she's moving on, and she's running a company and things like that. You know. So she said, it really will help you have somebody check in on you. Who, who you trust to understand like, I need help right now. So when you find yourself in those overwhelm moments, send an SOS to your list. And she said the decision to ask for help actually allows your brain to see solutions. Okay, even if they don't get back to you instantaneously, it will put you on a different path to see solutions, particularly helpful for recovering perfectionists who find it really hard to say, I actually need some help right now. So really cool idea. Lesley Logan 25:35  Something has nothing to do with what we're talking about now, right now. But like my brain went to this person, somebody in China, bought a first class ticket to some Chinese airline, which means that you get to eat in the first class lounge before you take off. And because it's a first class ticket, it's like fully refundable and transferable. So for 300 times, 300 meals, this person would check into the airport, check into the first class lounge, eat for free, and then reschedule their ticket. And they did this 300 times before anyone's like, what is this person doing? So talk about being stuck at the airport, and I just thought, is the food that good? Because the actual like going to an airport, getting into a first class lounge is so annoying.Speaker 1 26:27  Even the food at the Centurion lounge, it's good, but I wouldn't say it's great. Lesley Logan 26:31  And also, not all Centurion lounges are created equal. I like ours, but the L.A. one, you can get it together as can you JFK, just saying, Okay, my big, back on track. Brad Crowell 26:41  Yeah, how about you over here? Lesley Logan 26:43  Recognize you have complete control over your daily decisions. You've complete control your daily decisions. I think we like to outsource decisions like I can't do that because x, y and z, but you have complete control over your daily decisions. And if you're unhappy, you have to dig into the decisions you're making to create that situation. Are you saying yes to things you should be saying no to? Are you staying up late the night before so you feel like shit in the morning, right? So understand that avoiding a decision is still a decision. Oh, avoiding a decision is still a decision, and make different choices to change your outcomes. She also said.Speaker 1 27:22  I think that's been the biggest thing that has changed my stress level is that I would avoid making a decision, but in the back of my mind, it was still I knew I had to address this thing, whatever this thing would be. It didn't matter what it was like, I might like just be unwilling to open a text message from somebody because I knew it was going to launch a whole thing. I got to go down this thing and then I would push it off, and then, you know, or it's like email inbox kind of stuff, too, like, avoid it, avoid it until it's like an actual problem. Yeah, and that was one of the biggest changes, was making the decision to stop avoiding things and to just hug a cactus, as it were. But I love that. I think, I think acknowledging that avoiding a decision is actually still a decision that was super helpful for me.Lesley Logan 28:08  And she said, consider her 90 Day Success Jumpstart Training or join her free Break Your Bullshit Box community. So I and that's on Facebook, if you, if you go there, I mean honest on I went on Facebook the other day, and I was like, oh, wow, look at all these people I can unfollow. Thank you for acknowledging yourself, sir and sir and you so anyways. But I just thought this is such a bright, wonderful, honest and maybe a little maybe you feel called out, maybe you feel called out, and maybe you need to, because you got to break your bullshit. You know. And I just think a lot of us the what's getting in the way of being it till we see it is people pleasing and telling ourselves that we don't have control over certain things, some things you do, and we just gotta be honest about that. So, share this with a friend who needs to hear it, especially the people pleasing one, because those people can bother your life too. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 28:56  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 28:58  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Speaker 1 29:40  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 29:45  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co. Speaker 1 29:50  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi. Lesley Logan 29:57  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals. Speaker 1 30:00  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time. Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Are you constantly saying yes when your heart is screaming no? Do you find yourself seeking approval, even at the cost of your own peace? And have you ever wondered what your life might look like if you finally took off the mask and started living for you?In this episode of Masks Off, host Kim Gross opens up about her personal struggle with people-pleasing and the fear of rejection that once controlled her choices. From the pressure to start a family to the quiet suffering of always putting others first, Kim shares her raw and honest journey toward finding freedom and authenticity.You'll learn:

Are silent habits secretly holding you back from success? In this episode of Money Motivation & Mike, we uncover 9 hidden behaviors that drain your energy, waste your time, and sabotage your growth. From people pleasing and procrastination to multitasking and holding grudges — we break them all down so you can reclaim focus and peace of mind.We share real stories, relatable examples, and practical strategies to help you identify which habits are holding YOU back. Recognize them, fix them, and get your energy back!

In dieser Folge geht es um einen Begriff, den viele Menschen missverstehen: Dienen. Die meisten glauben, dass Dienen gleichbedeutend mit Geben ist. Doch genau das ist die Verstrickung, vor allem für uns Unternehmerinnen ~ für uns Frauen! Wenn wir zu viel von uns geben oder geben, obwohl unser eigenes Fass nicht voll ist – fühlen wir uns leer, übergangen oder sogar von uns selbst missbraucht. Das klingt drastisch, aber genau das wird angetriggert, wenn wir aus einer falschen Definition von Dienen heraus handeln.   Wahrlich zu dienen bedeutet: Dein Vollsein zu teilen, weil Dein Fass vor Fülle ganz natürlich überläuft. ✨ Dann gibst Du niemals etwas von Dir weg. Das ist weibliche Energie in ihrer Essenz! Mach Dich gefasst auf richtig viel Mehrwert und einen hammergeilen Shift durch diesen Deep Dive. Ich wünsche Dir viel Freude beim Hören. ❤️ Von Herz zu Herz, Deine Julia ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡ 00:00 Willkommen 02:33 Was Dienen wirklich bedeutet und was es NICHT ist! 25:33 Outro ♡♡ Alle Infos zur GOLEA®️ Academy Premium Coaching & Mentoring Ausbildung findest Du hier: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/golea-academy-2026/ ♡♡ Für NO MORE TRAUMA und NO MORE DRAMA: Eine Reise in ein tieferes Verständnis über Trauma, Drama und das Nervensystem und somit auch eine wahrhaftige Möglichkeit ein für alle Mal aus Deiner Trauma Identität, People Pleasing und Automatismus auszusteigen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/no-more-drama-no-more-trauma/ ♡♡ Wenn Du Dich für eines meiner Angebote interessierst, dann kannst Du Dich auf meiner Website informieren und dort buchen: https://juliasspiritualliving.com/ ♡♡

Do you keep saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no”?Are you exhausted from overgiving, overapologizing, and overextending yourself?What if people pleasing isn’t kindness at all—but self-abandonment in disguise? In this eye-opening solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia unpacks the truth about people pleasing: why it feels like safety but actually chips away at your self-worth, your energy, and even your relationships. Radhi breaks down the hidden cost of constantly putting others first, how it disconnects you from your authentic self, and why being agreeable doesn’t actually bring you closer to people—it creates distance. With honesty and compassion, Radhi shares practical steps to start breaking free from the cycle: how to set boundaries, clarify your capacity, and pause before you say yes. She also explores the hard truth that other people’s reactions are not your responsibility—and why your integrity matters more than their approval. This episode is about rebuilding trust with yourself, honoring your limits, and showing up as the real you—without guilt, fear, or apology. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why people pleasing is rooted in fear, not kindness How to recognize the physical signs that a boundary has been crossed Practical scripts you can use to say no without overexplaining Why resentment is your body’s signal that you’ve overextended How to rewrite the old story: “I need to please to be loved” Why doing less with the right intention matters more than doing more with the wrong one If you’ve been disappearing into the version of yourself everyone else wants, this episode is your reminder that you are lovable, worthy, and enough—without having to earn it. Follow Radhi:https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxWe9A4kMf9V_AHOXkGhCzQhttps://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukiaSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Owen Poole covers the big tech stories of the day. Apple will add passports to its digital ID system in Wallet. As the Twitter domain retires, you could get locked out of your X account. A new study says AI chatbots are sycophants, and that's hurting science.

Owen Poole covers the big tech stories of the day. Apple will add passports to its digital ID system in Wallet. As the Twitter domain retires, you could get locked out of your X account. A new study says AI chatbots are sycophants, and that's hurting science.

What if the thing you've been calling “people-pleasing” is actually your nervous system doing a full-blown survival routine? In this episode, we welcomed Dr. Ingrid Clayton, clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and author of Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Part memoir, part emotional mic-drop, Ingrid's work reframes “fawning” as a deeply human, body-based response—not a character flaw—and helps us see how our most selfless instincts can actually mask self-abandonment. We unpacked the messy truth about over-apologizing, over-functioning, and why some of us can't bring ourselves to hit “unsubscribe.” From survival to healing to what it really means to reclaim your autonomy, Ingrid's insights hit right in the gut (and somehow also feel like a hug). Welcome to Fawn Star Academy! Class is in session.Be sure to pick up Ingrid's book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back. Also follow her on Instagram and Substack @IngridClaytonPhd or visit her website at IngridClayton.com.Also…let it be known that:The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business, individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad.**PRE-ORDER Sarah and Nippy's newest book hereCheck out our amazing sponsorsJoin A Little Bit Culty on PatreonGet poppin' fresh ALBC SwagSupport the pod and smash this linkCheck out our cult awareness and recovery resourcesWatch Sarah's TED Talk and buy her memoir, ScarredCREDITS: Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony AmesProduction Partner: Citizens of SoundCo-Creator: Jess TardyAudio production: Will RetherfordProduction Coordinator: Lesli DinsmoreWriter: Sandra NomotoSocial media team: Eric Skwarzynski and Brooke KeaneTheme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel AsselinSUPPORT OUR SPONSORS:Whether you're chasing deeper sleep, better focus, or just some peace between your streaming marathons—this is how adults get elevated now. If you're 21 or older, now's your chance to float above the stress—because IndaCloud is giving all new customers 25% off their first order plus free shipping. Just use code CULTY at indacloud.co or click this link to claim your discount.Calm your mind, change your life. Calm has an exclusive offer just for listeners of our show–get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription at calm.com/culty.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Irene Gomez stepped into her role as director at the J Center for Early Learning in El Paso, Texas, she carried what so many new leaders do: hyper-responsibility, people-pleasing, and the pressure to be the “hero” in every situation.In this episode, Irene shares her journey inside the Schools of Excellence coaching program and the transformation that followed—from chasing fires and working late nights, to leading with clarity, boundaries, and trust.You'll hear how a calendar became her leadership lifeline, how gratitude reshaped her staff culture, and how self-trust shifted her from over-functioning into a confident leader who now builds sustainable rhythms for her team and balance for her family.This isn't just a story of better systems. It's a story of reclaiming identity, building trust, and choosing to lead without sacrificing health or home.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why boundaries start with the leader, not with the staffHow shifting from “hero” to CEO changes your school cultureThe role of one-on-one meetings in building trust and career growth for teachersWhy specific gratitude builds safety and resilience in teamsHow leadership growth impacts marriage, parenting, and personal lifeWhy coaching is never “one more thing”—it's the foundation of sustainable leadershipKey InsightsBoundaries are for you first. Without them, you'll always default to rescuing instead of leading.Culture starts with trust. One-on-ones and specific gratitude create safety for real conversations.You can't hustle your way to sustainability. Systems and rhythms—not over-functioning—are what hold schools together.Personal growth multiplies. When leaders evolve, staff mirror that same growth in respect, empowerment, and culture.Memorable Quotes“The boundaries weren't just for others—they were for me.” – Irene Gomez“True success is having a strong team that wants to stay forever.” – Irene Gomez“Enough isn't about getting ahead. It's about trusting that what you did today was enough.” – Chanie WilschanskiWhy This Matters for School LeadersEnds the cycle of firefighting and hyper-responsibilityBuilds cultures of trust where staff thrive and turnover decreasesProtects leaders' health, marriage, and family timeShows how leadership coaching transforms not just schools, but livesResources & Next StepsReflect: Where in your leadership are you holding on to hyper-responsibility?Audit your staff culture: Are you building trust, or chasing harmony?Share this episode with a fellow leader who feels stuck in people-pleasingReady to stop holding everything together alone? Book your Leadership Reset Consultation—a 90-minute strategy session that gives you a 30-day roadmap to build rhythms your team will actually own. Learn more here.

In this refreshingly honest episode, Brittany and Christina dive into the world of skin treatments, self-care, and the modern perception of beauty. From micro-needling and recovery realities to the deeper conversation about aging gracefully versus chasing “natural beauty,” the duo explores what it truly means to feel confident in your own skin.They talk openly about the pressures women face to look “effortless”, why “aggressive treatments” can sometimes deliver the best results, and how appearance impacts confidence, first impressions, and opportunities in both personal and professional settings.This isn't a conversation about vanity—it's about ownership, empowerment, and redefining beauty standards on your own terms. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

Louie and Michael unpack fawning—the hidden trauma response behind people-pleasing, codependency, and emotional safety—in their most vulnerable talk yet. _____ -BetterHelp: If you're struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. If you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/ -The Maca Team: Louie really does take Maca every day. (He takes Black and Tri-Blend). He loves it. http://themacateam.com/secondhandtherapy promo code: bearcub for 10% off -Light Phone: Louie really does have and use a Light Phone III. He loves it. https://www.thelightphone.com/shop?ref=mmexymn promo code: secondhandtherapy for $50 off pre-order of Light Phone III _____ Louie and Michael dive into fawning, trauma responses, people-pleasing, and emotional safety. Michael opens up about childhood conditioning, codependency, and realizing how much of his life has been guided by the need to feel safe. The two unpack how emotional immaturity in parents leads to adult people-pleasing, and how learning new therapeutic language can lead to awareness, growth, and healing. A vulnerable, unfiltered conversation about therapy, emotional regulation, recovery, and trauma. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: business@secondhandtherapypod.com Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.com Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypod Contact us: secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Send us a textWhat if two minutes of breath could change the story you're living? We sit down with Rocío Aquino & Ángel Orengo to trace a path from chaos to center, through failure, forgiveness, and the everyday practices that make self-love practical. Their novel, The Orchid: The Secret Code of Modern Goddesses, isn't just a beautiful narrative; it's a field guide woven into story, where five women mirror our realities survival, perfectionism, hidden truth, anger, and longing and offer tools to move from pain to possibility.We unpack why Orchid became their symbol: resilient, diverse, unmistakably feminine yet rooted in a surprising masculine etymology, embodying the balance our culture craves. Rocío speaks to trauma, nervous system safety, and the long road from external approval to inner harmony. Angel shares the ego's impulse to interrupt, the discipline of awareness, and the power of choosing where attention goes in a noisy world. Together they model respectful communication, mindful pauses, and a love that holds space for growth without codependency.Expect practical takeaways: an accessible forgiveness framework, a two-minute mindful reset that actually works, mirror work to rebuild worth, and gratitude practices that shift focus from lack to sufficiency. We also explore how to navigate hard headlines without bypassing pain redirecting energy toward peace and intention while honoring reality.The heartbeat is simple and brave: when you love yourself deeply and completely, you stop living at the mercy of externals and become the force in your own life. If this conversation sparked a tear, a laugh, or an aha, share it with someone who needs it.Connect with Rocío Aquino & Ángel Orengohttps://www.theorchidbook.com/Support the show

It's the 3rd epi in my people-pleasing series! I have been DYING to know what human design really is, how it works, and if it can help us with people pleasing. Turns out, not only can it help, it can give you a map that shows exactly where your people pleasing started, how it works, and how you heal it. Human design expert and confidence coach Kelly Hughes joins me to show us the way. Want to work with Kelly? Check out her incredible courses, and use code PATRAUMAPARTY at check-out for 10% off:90-minute Human Design ReadingReading + 6-week or 12-week coaching containerLooking for more episodes on people-pleasing? Try epi 91, epi 92, epi 87, epi 86, or epi 30. For more on boundary setting, try epi 10, epi 46, or epi 61.Want to work with Remy? Go ⁠⁠here.Find us on:Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠Email: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach out directly, or, in the US, you can call 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Hotline.

This week, Scheana sits down with Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app, to talk all things energy, alignment, and stepping into your future self. Mimi opens up about hitting rock bottom in every area of her life—the five pillars: mental, physical, financial, spiritual, and social—and how that led her to create Activations, short motivational audios that rewire your mindset while you live your life. The two dive into intuition, boundaries, perfectionism, people pleasing, and the power of listening to your gut. Scheana shares how trusting hers led to a major career decision, while Mimi explains why transformation isn't about being perfect—it's about how fast you bounce back. Plus, they get into manifesting love, quantum energy, “Be Her Now” habits, and yes… their shared Hannah Montana era. Try Activations with a free 14-day trial and exclusive discount at activations.com/goodasgoldFollow us: @scheana @scheananigans Guest: @mimibouchard @activationsapp Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.comEpisode Sponsors:Get 50% off your first online order at littlespoon.com/GOODASGOLD with code GOODASGOLD at checkout.Get 45% off your first subscription order of 30-servings of Coffee+. You'll also receive a starter kit with over $100 in free gifts by going to everydaydose.com/SCHEANA or entering SCHEANA at checkout.Head to Mood.com, browse their amazing selection of functional gummies, and find the perfect gummy for whatever you're dealing with. And remember to use promo code goodasgold at checkout to save 20% on your first order.Head to https://www.squarespace.com/GOODASGOLD to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code GOODASGOLD.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, we're exploring the science behind why we haven't been able to think our way out of perfectionist and people pleasing tendencies. To help us with this, our guest is Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina,  a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach. She is the author of  "End Emotional Outsourcing: a Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits", which you can pick up now: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Beatriz is passionate about helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy.You're going to walk away with some great information on how to reconnect with your body and regulate your nervous system, something we all can benefit from right now.Links mentioned:Whitexicans restaurant: https://www.forbes.com/sites/dougmelville/2025/10/21/as-whitexicans-restaurant-opens-locals-protest-the-name-is-it-racist-or-satire/James by Percival Everett:https://www.panmacmillan.com/authors/percival-everett/james/9781035031269Tamarindo is a lighthearted show hosted by Brenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval talking about politics, culture, and self-development. We're here to uplift our community through powerful conversations with changemakers, creatives, and healers. Join us as we delve into discussions on race, gender, representation, and life! You can get in touch with us at www.tamarindopodcast.comBrenda Gonzalez and Delsy Sandoval are executive producers of Tamarindo podcast with production support by Karina Riveroll of Sonoro Media. Jeff Ricards produced our theme song. If you want to support our work, please rate and review our show here.SUPPORT OUR SHOWContribute to the show: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tamarindopodcast1Follow Tamarindo on instagram @tamarindopodcast and on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TamarindoPodcast-143 Tamarindo's mission is to use laughter and conversation to inform, inspire and positively impact our community. Learn more at tamarindopodcast.com

In this episode of the Ambitious, I dive into the topic of enforcing boundaries in both business and personal life. Drawing from my experience in therapy and firsthand struggles as a notorious people pleaser, I discuss how broken boundaries often stem from never being clearly established. Learn the signs that you might be struggling with boundaries, common business scenarios reflecting this struggle, and the practical steps to enforce them. Discover my 5 C framework: Clarity, Confidence, Communication, Consistency, and Curation to effectively set and maintain boundaries, ensuring you create space for what truly matters. 00:00 Introduction01:02 Personal Experiences with Boundaries02:20 Identifying Boundary Issues03:11 Business Scenarios and Boundaries03:19 The 5C Framework for Boundaries05:54 Resentment and Exhaustion10:17 Calendar Chaos and Overbooking13:31 Saying Yes When You Mean No15:06 Overgiving and Undercharging17:26 Client Conversations and Resetting Boundaries29:25 Team Dynamics and Boundaries38:17 Time Management and Boundaries42:58 Embracing Space and Stillness44:28 Strategic Scheduling for Success46:59 Financial Boundaries and Over-Investing50:34 The Importance of Saying No53:46 The Five Cs of Enforcing BoundariesTo join the Ambitious Network for free, click HERE. To connect with Kate on Instagram, click ⁠HERE⁠. To apply for ITI, click ⁠HERE⁠.To submit a question to be answered on the podcast, click HERE.

Are you living for others' approval—or finally stepping into your own power? In this episode of Chasing Brighter, Jessica Colarco and Kelly discuss the journey from being a people pleaser to embracing personal power and self-worth. They explore the roots of people pleasing, its impact on mental health, and the importance of setting boundaries. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-reflection and the practice of honoring one's own needs to foster healthier relationships and a more authentic life.   Inside This Conversation: People pleasing often stems from a desire for approval and fear of rejection. Setting boundaries is essential for self-respect and mental health. Resentment can be a significant consequence of people pleasing. Recognizing the cost of people pleasing can lead to personal growth. Empathy is valuable, but it shouldn't come at the expense of self-worth. Practicing self-care and self-acceptance is crucial for emotional well-being. It's important to pause and reflect before automatically saying yes to others. Boundaries can disrupt patterns of self-sacrifice and promote healthier relationships. Owning your worth allows for authenticity and freedom in relationships. Small acts of self-respect can lead to significant changes in behavior. Connect With Us:

We all like to be nice. We like to be helpful and supportive. But sometimes, in our efforts to make others happy, we end up taking responsibility for their emotions. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try, we can't make another person feel happy, or confident, or calm. And sometimes, when we try too hard to be helpful, we end up walking on eggshells and damaging the very relationship we were trying to improve.

In this honest and empowering episode of Navigating Cancer TOGETHER, host Talaya Dendy sits down with the phenomenal Peta-Ann Wood, breast cancer thriver, Soulful Coach, and creator of Elegant Rebel.This conversation goes beyond the clinical. Peta-Ann openly shares how a late diagnosis of AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) changed her cancer experience, guiding her from people-pleasing straight toward radical self-discovery.If you've ever felt pressure to make a decision about reconstruction, treatment, or even just how you should feel, this episode is your permission slip. Peta-Ann dives into the emotional process that led her to the definitive and life-changing choice to remain flat after her bilateral mastectomy.This is a must-listen for anyone in the cancer community who is questioning, redefining, or simply trying to prioritize their own needs and desires amidst the chaos of illness.✨Episode Highlights:02:21 Peta-Ann's Unique Journey: Navigating cancer alongside a late AuDHD diagnosis.07:40 The Shift: How life after diagnosis became about prioritizing her needs.12:23 Self-Advocacy Unlocked: Learning to trust intuition in a complex medical system.24:48 Beyond the Diagnosis: Understanding Neurodivergence and the End of People-Pleasing.29:40 The Definitive Choice: The transformative conversation about choosing to stay flat.38:35 Writing Her Truth: Insights into her book, What Happens When They Don't Go Back.Transcript: https://bit.ly/podscript174Connect & Engage with Peta-Ann:Website: https://www.elegantrebelponders.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/elegant.rebel.pondersFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElegantRebel44Resources & Call to Action:In honor of the movement: October 7th was International Flat Day, a global moment celebrating the beautiful choice of aesthetic flat closure. Learn more and connect: https://www.facebook.com/InternationalFLATDay/Connect with Your Community: Don't navigate this journey alone. Join the waitlist for our "Navigating Cancer TOGETHER" forum and connect with others who truly get it. https://www.ontheotherside.life/forum-waitlistSubscribe or follow Navigating Cancer TOGETHER on your favorite podcast app or platform so you never miss a vital conversation.Hosted, Produced, Written, and Edited by: Talaya DendyDisclaimer: The information on this podcast is for general informational purposes only and SHOULD NOT be used as a substitute for sound professional medical advice, evaluation, or care from your physician or other qualified health care provider.Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

Episode 273: The Aligned Yes vs. the People-Pleasing Yes | In this episode, we're exploring the difference between an aligned yes and a people-pleasing yes, and how learning to pause before you commit can change your energy, relationships, and manifestations. We'll talk about what alignment really feels like, how to recognize when you're abandoning yourself for approval, and why every yes is a mini-manifestation; a choice that shapes your reality.✨ For more tools to deepen your alignment, visit activatealignexpand.com✨ For exclusive bonus episodes and deeper chats with me, join my Patreon!Connect with Shayla✨ Aligned Access: Bonus Episodes & Exclusive Content on PatreonActivate Align Expand Guided Journal & PlannerActivate Align Expand ProgramActivate Align Expand Affirmation DeckInstagram: @shaylaquinn YouTube: www.youtube.com/shaylaquinn TikTok: @shayla.quinn Website: www.shaylaquinn.com Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/shaylaquinn Learn more about TYIL Program

Did you know that people-pleasing can ruin your relationships and your dates? Darshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps women reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Her work has been featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & Goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts.In this episode of Last First Date Radio:What makes her body of work, Erotic Wholeness, different from many people's ideas about sex, intimacy and relationship coachingHow people-pleasing shows up in intimate relationships, including in the dating process, and why it's so problematicSome ways to unwind these patternsExamples of how clients have transformed from people pleasing in the bedroom to having authentic, satisfying sex livesHow to bring this topic into a conversation with your partnerConnect with DarshanaWebsite: darshanaavila.com  IG: instagram.com/darshana_avila YouTube: youtube.com/@darshana-avila LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/darshana-avila Free gift: Galgasm! is a free online community hub with a classroom full of resources, ranging from embodiment practices to masturbation guidance to masterclass recordings - skool.com/galgasm►Please subscribe/rate and review the podcast on Apple Podcasts http://bit.ly/lastfirstdateradio ►If you're feeling stuck in dating and relationships and would like to find your last first date, sign up for a complimentary 45-minute breakthrough session with Sandy https://lastfirstdate.com/application ►Join Your Last First Date on Facebook https://facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate ►Get Sandy's books, Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love https://bit.ly/womanofvaluebook , Choice Points in Dating https://amzn.to/3jTFQe9 and Love at Last https://amzn.to/4erpj7C ►Get FREE coaching on the podcast! https://bit.ly/LFDradiocoaching ►FREE download: “Top 10 Reasons Why Men Suddenly Pull Away” http://bit.ly/whymendisappear ►Group Coaching: https://lastfirstdate.com/the-woman-of-value-club/ ►Website → https://lastfirstdate.com/ ► Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ ►Get Amazon Music Unlimited FREE for 30 days at https://getamazonmusic.com/lastfirstdate  

Description:In this episode of the Compared to Who? podcast, Heather Creekmore continues her Fear Free Fall series with a deep dive into the fear of failure. Heather unpacks the difference between perfectionism and fear of failure, revealing how each shows up in the ways we approach life, our goals, and our body image struggles. She explores how our definitions of success can become idols and how God’s grace redefines our worth. Heather shares personal experiences, practical examples from her coaching, and biblical encouragement to help listeners break free from the grip of performance-based living and find freedom in Christ. Key Topics: Difference between perfectionism and fear of failure Identity issues at the root of both struggles How fear of failure shows up as avoidance, hesitation, and "analysis paralysis" The role of “success” as an idol and how it influences body image Processing where personal standards and God’s standards diverge God’s grace as the answer to our endless striving for worth Practical encouragement for stepping out in faith, even when failure feels likely Encouragement:Heather challenges listeners to reflect on where fear of failure might be holding them back and offers gospel-centered strategies to reframe their thinking and experience freedom in Christ. Resources & Links Listen to Previous Episodes: Compared to Who? Podcast Fear Free Fall Series: Kickoff Episode: Faith Over Fear (October 7th) Episode on Fear of Rejection, Perfectionism, and People Pleasing 40 Day Body Image Journey:Join the next round in January or start now and catch up!➡️ improvebodyimage.com — 40 Day Journey Heather Creekmore’s Books:Find all of Heather’s books on body image and Christian living.➡️ improvebodyimage.com/books 10 Days of Encouragement:Free daily scripture-based encouragement sent to your inbox.➡️ Sign up here In His Image ConferenceNovember 15th, Dallas, Texas. Drop Heather a note if you’re coming! ➡️ In His Image Conference Info (Check for upcoming dates and details!) Body Image Coaching and Workbook:Want practical help? Try the 40 Day Body Image Workbook Connect With Heather & Show Website: improvebodyimage.com Podcast Network: Life Audio If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend, discuss it together, and leave a review to help others find gospel-based body image encouragement! P.S. Want to stop comparing and start living? Dive into more encouragement at improvebodyimage.com. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Episode SummaryIn this deeply human and heartfelt conversation, Chris Schembra sits down with his longtime friend Kirti Naik, a powerhouse brand leader turned soulful storyteller, for an episode that moves beyond titles and accolades into the raw, unfiltered truth of a life well-lived. On this crisp New York City fall day, amid Yom Kippur reflections and the festive spirit of Diwali, Chris and Kirti explore the intertwined forces of fate, love, resilience, and identity.Kirti opens up about her unexpected journey into motherhood and how her daughter, Kiran, became her North Star, pushing her to finish business school while pregnant, guiding her to build a better life, and teaching her lessons in forgiveness and courage. Together, Chris and Kirti unpack the subtle art of pausing in a world obsessed with speed: pausing before responding to an email, pausing to think, pausing to realign with who we are and who we want to become.They delve into the heavy weight and quiet liberation of reputation, how cultural expectations and personal setbacks (like divorce) shape us, and how we can reclaim our own narrative even after painful turning points. Kirti shares how love and partnership with Greg have reshaped her family and her understanding of commitment — beyond paperwork and traditions — into something deeply chosen and resilient.The conversation moves fluidly from practical life strategies (like managing anxiety, editing before you send, embracing imperfection) to profound reflections on destiny (or “amor fati”), legacy, and the humility that comes with decades of personal and professional growth. We hear about parenting in New York City, the courage to let go of perfectionism, and how success is measured not just by business milestones but by the depth of relationships we nurture along the way.This is not a business episode,  it's a blueprint for living with greater presence, courage, and gratitude. Whether you're navigating big career decisions, untangling old expectations, or learning to pause before reacting, Kirti's story is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and embrace the beautiful messiness of life.10 Great Quotes“Kids, don't worry about people knowing you. Make yourself worth knowing.” — Chris (quoting Fiorello LaGuardia) “She was my North Star — the reason I wanted to be a better person, to work harder, and to finish what I started.” — Kirti “Progress comes from movement, not perfection.” — Chris “I've shifted from people pleasing to teaching and communicating what I authentically think.” — Kirti “Precision requires pause. Sometimes waiting 15 minutes changes everything.” — Chris “Reputation is hard to rewrite — but it's not impossible when you lead with honesty and vulnerability.” — Kirti “Material things don't really matter. We don't actually need anything but each other and some Netflix.” — Kirti “We have to rise above business success and find success in our personal lives — the world needs that.” — Chris “Love doesn't have to be defined by societal milestones. Commitment can be something deeply chosen.” — Kirti “It's humbling to realize we're still learning — not about tools or tactics, but about ourselves.” — Kirti 10 Key TakeawaysPause Before You React — Writing a draft and waiting before sending helps you edit, clarify, and prevent future missteps. Redefine Reputation — Your past doesn't have to define you; vulnerability and new actions can reshape how others see you. Parenthood as Catalyst — Unexpected life events, like surprise motherhood, can bring purpose and resilience you didn't know you had. Move from People Pleasing to Authenticity — Stop avoiding conflict; respectfully communicate your needs and boundaries. Love Beyond Paperwork — Lasting commitment isn't about traditional milestones but about shared choice and partnership. Cultural Expectations Can Be Rewritten — Even deeply ingrained norms can shift when you choose your own happiness and truth. Imperfection Is Human — Let go of needing to be flawless; aim for 80–90% and move forward. True Success Is Relational — The depth of mentorship, family bonds, and love defines life more than job titles. Anxiety Can Be Managed with Pause — Small intentional habits — like stepping back before acting — can reduce fear and increase control. Fate vs. Coincidence — Sometimes the unexpected (from your child's name to life detours) is guiding you toward who you're meant to become. 

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Are you letting old habits of people-pleasing and self-sacrifice derail your new path? That avoidance technique is a direct path to the drift and a return to unhelpful patterns. This episode exposes the fading effect bias and how to counter it by reframing self-care as a powerful necessity, not a selfish act. Coach Matt shows you how to protect your non-negotiable routines and rituals, even if it's just the minimum effective dose (10 minutes!), by blocking out time in your busy schedule. Your emotional and physical health demands that you put yourself first.   Download my FREE guide: The Alcohol Freedom Formula For Over 30s Entrepreneurs & High Performers: https://social.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/podcast ★ - Learn more about Project 90: www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/Project90 ★ - (Accountability & Support) Speak verbally to a certified Alcohol-Free Lifestyle coach to see if, or how, we could support you having a better relationship with alcohol: https://www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/schedule ★ - The wait is over – My new book “CLEAR” is now available. Get your copy here: https://www.alcoholfreelifestyle.com/clear

In this heart-filled and honest conversation, Brittany and Christina open up about their recent travels — from the charm of Telluride to the beauty of Aspen — and the lessons learned along the way. With laughter, reflection, and raw authenticity, they explore how travel mirrors life's unpredictability and how seasonal shifts often prompt deeper self-awareness.As the holidays approach, they dive into the importance of community, gratitude, and staying grounded through change. Together, they remind listeners that life's beauty lies in both the chaos and the calm — and that growth often comes from simply showing up and embracing it all. About Brittany and Christina:Meet Brittany and Christina, your dynamic podcast hosts who bring their unique blend of expertise, passion, and life experience to every conversation.Brittany, affectionately known as Britt, mom, mommy, bruh, and Queen, lives in Vancouver with her husband and their three fantastic kids (tweens and teens, hence the playful nicknames). Together for nearly two decades, Brittany and her husband share a love for travel and adventure. A self-proclaimed endurance sport junkie, Brittany thrives on pushing herself beyond her comfort zone to unlock her full potential. As a coach, she specializes in helping clients overcome overwhelm by aligning personal goals and values with actionable steps for success. Her greatest joys come from connecting with new people and witnessing their incredible achievements.Christina Lecuyer, a former professional golfer and TV host, is recognized as one of GlobeNewswire's Top Confidence Coaches. She works with clients worldwide, including entrepreneurs, Wall Street executives, stay-at-home moms, and small business owners. Through her signature "Decision, Faith & Action" framework, Christina has guided thousands of clients in creating their own versions of fulfillment and success, often leading to thriving six- and seven-figure businesses. Her 1-on-1 coaching model focuses on mindset and strategy to build self-trust, confidence, and long-term results.Together, Brittany and Christina bring their authentic, energetic, and empowering perspectives to help listeners navigate life, achieve their goals, and embrace their fullest potential. Feeling like you want to share a hot topic you'd like us to discuss on the podcast? Send us a DM over on Instagram at @anythingbutaveragepod. Your hot topic just might make it in the next episode!

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Do you ever find yourself hustling for your worth or looking for it in all the wrong places? You are not alone. Too many girls and women are lost and wandering, endlessly seeking security and approval in places and things that never satisfy. In this episode, Brittany Maher, Cassandra Speer, and Allie Smith talk about how our value doesn't rise and fall with opinions or performance — it's anchored in the unshakable truth of Jesus. We pray that you will be encouraged and equipped to live with unshakable confidence in who God says you are and stop measuring your worth by the world's ever-changing metric system.   Episode Topics: Knowing your value in Christ changes everything. True worth is found in God's word, not in worldly standards. We often attach our identities to counterfeit measures. The journey to discovering true worth is ongoing. Confronting the lies you have believed is essential to embracing our true identity. People-pleasing can lead to a cycle of seeking approval in areas where we weren't meant to. We must identify and pull the weeds in our lives to walk in our true worth and calling. Our past mistakes do not determine our worth. Living securely in our identity in Christ allows us to fulfill the purpose God created us for.   Episode Chapters: 00:00 Empowering Women Through Identity in Christ 02:53 The Journey to Discovering True Worth 06:02 Understanding Our Identity in Christ 08:55 Confronting Lies and Embracing Truth 11:39 The Battle Against Counterfeit Identities 14:41 The Impact of People-Pleasing 17:46 Practical Steps to Embrace True Worth 20:40 The Freedom Framework for Transformation 23:46 Words of Wisdom for Our Younger Selves   Important Links: Brittany + Cassandra's book "Her True Worth" Visit our website: https://wonderfullymade.org/  Get our Free Guide:  "15 Social Media Boundaries to Protect Your Joy" Get Allie's newest book “Social Media Reset” Get Allie's book “Wonderfully Made” Join our Love Her A'Latte Campaign — help make our podcast possible Follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok Visit our website: https://wonderfullymade.org/

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No more saying “yes” to things you don't want to do. It's time to stop people-pleasing and start saying “no” without guilt. It's not selfish, it's how you step into your power and start living life on your terms! If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review and make sure you SUBSCRIBE! To request Hailey to be on your Podcast, Radio Show, or TV Show, reach out to talent@pionairepodcasting.com FOLLOW ME: IG: instagram.com/haileygamba TikTok:@haileygamba YouTube: youtube.com/@haileygamba

In this episode, Brooke uncovers the two silent killers that steal success from women—regret and worrying about what others think. She delves into how these barriers drain energy and confidence, often going unnoticed, and shares practical ways to overcome them through reflection, faith, and intentional community. Brooke highlights biblical wisdom, the power of surrounding yourself with women who call you higher, and actionable business advice for moving boldly toward your purpose. With inspiring encouragement and personal insight, this episode empowers listeners to release regret, silence outside opinions, and step confidently into the next level of their life and business.   Timestamps: 

In this powerful episode, Heather Creekmore continues October’s "Fear Free Fall” series by digging deep into the often-hidden fear of rejection and how it influences our lives. She unpacks how perfectionism and people-pleasing are tightly related to our need to feel accepted and loved. Through personal stories, relatable examples, and biblical truth, Heather unravels the underlying self-protective strategies we adopt—and how the gospel offers real freedom and grace. Key Topics Covered: What is the Fear of Rejection?Heather explores how this fear drives us and manifests as perfectionism and people-pleasing. She explains that these are self-protective strategies formed by our desire for secure love, belonging, and worth. Perfectionism:Often, we think, “If I get it right, then I’ll be enough.” Heather shares a personal story from college when a single missed typo made her feel immense shame, showing how perfectionism can lead to exhaustion and shame rather than peace. People-Pleasing:The fear that “If I make everyone happy, I’ll be safe.” Heather discusses how people-pleasing is not true peacekeeping or biblical peacemaking and how it can even impact our ability to follow God’s call if the opinions of others control us. Where Does This Come From?Heather highlights how these tendencies usually aren’t intentional—they’re often formed in childhood, at school, or through life experiences that taught us we’d be safer if we kept everyone happy or never made mistakes. How It Affects Others:Unchecked, perfectionism and people-pleasing can also lead us to have unrealistic expectations of others, continuing the cycle for those around us. The Gospel’s Answer:True freedom is found not in earning love and acceptance from people (or God), but in embracing grace. Heather reminds us that Jesus took on ultimate rejection so we can be fully accepted by God, no matter how we perform. A Challenge to Listeners:Heather encourages us to check our motives—are we striving for approval from people or resting in God’s approval? She challenges listeners to shift their perspective from a “people-big, God-small” view to a “God-big, people-small” mindset for greater confidence and peace. Memorable Quotes: “Perfectionism is a fear of inadequacy dressed up as excellence.” “People pleasing is not biblical peacemaking—it’s a form of self-protection.” “You can never be perfect or please everyone, but you are already fully accepted in Jesus.” “Freedom comes when you realize you can’t earn grace—it's a gift.” Resources & Next Steps: Visit heathercreekmore.com for free resources, courses, coaching, and Heather’s books Sign up for the free 10-day encouragement email series! Learn more about the In His Image Conference in Dallas, TX (November 15th) — details in show notes If you struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, or fear of rejection, this episode is for you. Learn how to find freedom and confidence in who God says you are—not in what you do or how others respond. Thanks for listening to Compared to Who? Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.