SAGE Advice

Aimee met John soon after her divorce at a local market. He was charming and she felt like someone finally saw her! But their relationship became physically abusive fairly quickly. Today Aimee talks about her experience and when she decided to choose herself and determine her own future!

Alexis met her older ex-girlfriend online and things moved fast. The relationship started off great but after awhile Alexis started losing herself...even her NAME!! She was being stripped of her identity but Alexis fought for herself and now wants to help others by sharing her story. Listen now!

Life rarely changes when you want it to but then (when it's time) everything shifts at the flip of a switch. Things are changing for me and I want to tell you all about it!!

Join Erin for a conversation on Love Bombing: What it is, what it isn't and how go protect yourself next time. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

We created this program for you. If you're stuck in your healing journey, if you need a support system or if you're looking to start a new chapter, this 30 program was designed to help you get there. Specific to those leaving abusive relationships- sign up at sage.community. The first cycle starts soon. We'd love to have you.  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

In the midst of an abusive marriage, Tina began having a recurring dream. Every night an image would come to her, an image she dubbed 'Mother Mary,' who told her to make a rosary. Confused at first, eventually Tina decided to listen and began making rosaries. What she found was so much bigger and more important than rosary beads, she found calm in the storm of chaos. Listen to Tina tell her incredible story of reinvention and resilience. Finding the quiet allowed her to follow a new path of healing and a new career helping others who suffer the effects of trauma. You can find Tina at solacemassage.com  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Meet Janna, creator of WomanDetermined.com, abuse survivor and champion for others. Janna and I sit down to learn a little more about her story and the struggles we all face. After losing her father, Janna took stock of her life and realized she deserved to be treated better. However, as a stay at home mom she had little idea of where to turn. She fought every step of the way to heal herself and make sure she was financially secure. We had a great conversation and hope you enjoy. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Before you skip this topic, I'd encourage you to listen. IPV stands for Intimate Parter Violence. It is a hard enough topic to cover alone but when adding pregnancy to the mix it can be very hard to comprehend. But-ITS HAPPENING. It happens all the time. We have to learn to listen to the hard stuff and educate ourselves so that we can help someone in need should they ever need it. Lola does a great job with giving personal experience and information so that we can all learn and spread the message. If this episode reaches just one person in need, it would have been worth it. Please listen. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

On page 3 of her new book, Margaret Josephs describes how her father shot at her mother-on a date-after she left their abusive marriage. Right then I knew then it was going to be an interesting episode! Margaret is not only a celebrity, she is also an extremely successful entrepreneur, an author (Caviar Dreams, Tuna Fish Budget 2021) and has been through abusive relationships herself. She was so excited to come on and talk to you and we at SAGE were so excited to have her. Please enjoy this very entertaining episode of SAGE Advice. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Emily Agee is the Youth and Family Advocate for Hanover Safe Place in Virginia what helps people leaving abusive relationships. Our discussion today centers around children and the impact domestic violence can have on them. She talks about how she helps the children she works with but also gives some advice for parents wondering how to help their kids after leaving an abusive environment. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Why do some faiths encourage women/men to stay in abusive marriages? How does the bible speak about abusive relationships? Today Rev Amelie Wilmer sits down with us to discuss her take on various bible versus as well as how she helps women overcome domestic violence in the Richmond area. Rev. Wilmer is a graduate of Yale University, Virginia Theological Seminary and has a Masters in Divinity from Union Presbyterian Seminary. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

How u doin? Are you ok? How we cope with traumatic situations can affect the rest of our lives. There are a lot different ways to cope and today Eva and I sit down to talk about the realities of coping after trauma, what to look out for and how to show yourself grace. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Gabby is a listener who reached out to tell her story. She met her ex at 16 and soon found out she was pregnant. After she was sent to live with him at a rehab facility and get married. Thankfully Gabby was able to leave and create a new loving and happy life with her son. I'm so happy Gabby reached out, you're going to love her! Listen to her story now!  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

When does manipulation become Blackmail? Today we discuss the book Emotional Blackmail by Dr Susan Forward and dig into setting boundaries and manipulation.  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Today we review the book, "Should I stay or should I go?" by Dr Ramani Durvasula. She asks some very interesting questions to help you determine whether you are indeed in a relationship with a narcissist.  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Listen to the rest of the conversation between Kay and Eva about dealing with children and abusive ex's.  Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Today we start a 2 part group discussion with Kay and Eva. You can go back and listen to their previous episodes too. Kay and Eva discuss their own experiences with leaving toxic relationships while having children. It's a difficult balance but can be done. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

On todays Episode Erin talks about what it is like being triggered and how to cope with mental health issues after abuse. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Meet Maribeth, a wife and mom who only recently was forced to confront the traumas of her past. Telling her story is how she begins to heal. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Kay is a friend who reached out to tell her story. We travelled the world together but lost touch over the past few years. She was brave enough to come on and tell her story of a toxic marriage and how she and her kids are persevering. Follow us @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

With the increase in technology there has also been an increase in stalking. Today we sit down with Det. Fillius to discuss the definition of criminal stalking, the prevalence in our society and what we can do to help protect ourselves. Stalking is a very serious problem that is often minimized by those involved and therefore underreported to law enforcement. Tune in to hear what you can do to help identify stalking and protect yourself. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more. Disclaimer: Laws vary by state. Please contact your local victims Advocacy group and your local police department for guidance if you need to take legal action to protect yourself.

Meet Detective Meg Fillius. Det. Fillius has been a Special Victims Detective for the Henrico County Police Department since 2013 and has a passion for helping victims of domestic violence. Today we answer common questions about the role of law enforcement, how the police can help and when to reach out. Det. Fillius is a wealth of knowledge and hopefully you feel empowered to move forward should you need it. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more. Disclaimer: Laws vary by state. Please contact your local victims Advocacy group and your local police department for guidance if you need to take legal action to protect yourself.

There is a myth out there that 'leaving is the hardest part' of an abusive relationship. Agree or Disagree? On todays show Jen is back and we discuss the realities of leaving an abusive situation and the emotions that go along with that. The closer you are to leaving, the more your abuser will try to make you stay. It is dangerous and difficult, no doubt, but the aftermath is a lot harder. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

One goal of the Sage Community is to help each other heal. For that reason I have invited healers of various kinds to talk to us about what they do and how they help people. You may find comfort in what they offer seek these healers out, or not, but we want to make sure you know what is out there. Racheal is a very talented massage therapist and reiki healer who talks about the affects of stress on our bodies during emotional and physical trauma. She also introduces us to a new trauma focused technique called Craniosacral Therapy. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more. Follow Rachael on Instagram @moonstonehealingrva

Gaslighting is a term that has recently begun popping up in popular culture but does anyone really know what it means? Today Erin and Eva will discuss the origins of gaslighting, what it sounds likes and how to regain control of your senses when someone attempts to confuse and control you. Get ready, this one gets interesting! Follow us @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Today we talk to Eva, a former coworker of mine, who was instrumental in helping me process my trauma not only after leaving my relationship but during it. Eva has gone through personal traumas in her life that have helped her gain a better understanding of what people are going through. She is here today to talk to us about how to work through our emotions and how to be a better support system to people leaving abusive relationships. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Meet Jen. Jen is a successful career woman and mother of three in her forties. She is also a survivor of physical and emotional abuse at the hands of her ex husband. Today Jen shares her story from start to finish, giving us insight into her past and how she has moved forward in her life. She also talks to us about the support systems in place for abuse survivors, what works and what needs to change. I cant wait for you to hear it! Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

My name is Erin and I am the host and creator of the Sage Advice Podcast. Almost two years ago I left my own emotionally abusive (sometimes physical) relationship and have been trying to process my emotions everyday since. It's hard to find yourself again when who you are can never be the same. The goal of SAGE and the Sage Advice Podcast is to come together, hear each others stories and help one another feel whole again. Today I am telling you my story. It's not fair to ask you to tell you story without sharing mine. I strongly believe that sharing each others stories helps us all get stronger and maybe one day you will tell me your story. The world could use more empathy, understanding, community and healing. Follow us on Instagram @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit the SAGE website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.

Introducing The Sage Advice Podcast!!  Each week we talk to people just like you who have left abusive relationships and found healing.  We'll talk with a survivors, supporters, healers and allies. Join the conversation: together we can survive abuse with grace and empathy. Follow us @oursagecommunity and @thesageadvicepodcast. Don't forget to visit our website sage.community for workshops, meditations, mentorships and more.