Podcast appearances and mentions of garrett danielle

*Repeat from February 2019.* “In today’s episode, we learn about Danielle’s epic dream that may or may not include Matthew McConaughey; we discover how men and women process guilt (and where that guilt stems from), and how the life-altering seasons of ultramarathon running and Kokoro training profoundly influenced and affected Garrett…and ultimately their marriage.”   Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. “I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I’m feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?” Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she’s making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, “I have self-control and self-discipline. QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt?   Point #2: Attack With the Stack null Guilt plagues guys in a massive way, and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they’re away and DON’T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. “I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I’m able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories.” QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt?   Point #3: The Dream Danielle’s recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, “You have dreams, and your dreams mean something.” Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I’ve snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages?   Point #4: Running From Life null During an especially difficult three year period for the White’s, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It’s almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems?   Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn’t know if I was going to stay married. This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, “I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom.” Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic:  Who are your superheroes? Why?   Quote of the Week:  “I’ll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I’ll take a deep breath and say, ‘There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is.” —Garrett J White  “I’m super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I’m in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better.” —Danielle K White

Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse AT LEAST once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week’s episode, the White’s share tips for what has worked for them, as well as what hasn’t worked for them, in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. “Encore presentation from January 2019.”     Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It’s as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other. Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it’s so easy to lose your momentum. It’s in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it’s the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing. QUESTION What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other? Point #2: Baby Talk In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle’s experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his “very aggressive sperm.” Danielle’s well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast. QUESTION Did your gender reveal turn out as planned?   Point #3: Family Affair? A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family members might actually be better for you and your kids. From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing. QUESTION What has been your experience with family members watching your children?   Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter’s schedule. Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they’re there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it’s a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don’t know how to please you. QUESTION Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters?   Point #5: “Care.com: Your Shit is Legit” By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, “Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video.” “You’re investing in the guardianship of your children. If you’re paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you’re investing in your marriage. 1-What’s your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?” QUESTION Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage. Date Night Topic: Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months. Quote of the Week: “If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you’re going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you.” —Garrett J White “Whether it’s family or someone you pay, there are really no excuses when it comes to creating Date Night and space for yourselves as a couple. It becomes a matter of making it a priority.” —Danielle K White

The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week’s Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don’t give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.*   The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week’s Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don’t give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Deep Communication Is Vital Communication is vital to your sanity and the health of your marriage. At the end of the day, it’s about getting to a place where you can have hard conversations. Garrett & Danielle used alcohol to support them down that path. It opened up space where they could go deeper, beyond “surface” conversation. It also created the opportunity for them to experience sexuality with each other, even when they were arguing and fighting, which is a part of what kept them going. QUESTION What tools do you use that help you and your spouse have deeper conversations without setting off fireworks? Point #2: When Alcohol Becomes a Problem In time, alcohol was no longer working for them. Garrett had become less patient and was quick to lose his temper with Danielle and their eldest daughter, causing him to decide to walk away from alcohol (at the time of recording this episode.)  Danielle: On Date Nights, drinking was a treat and was fun for us. It allowed us to let go of the day and just relax. After work, I would come home and drink a glass of wine with dinner, but when that one glass turned into two or three, I realized I didn’t really want to be that person drinking a glass of wine every night. QUESTION What habits have you taken on in your marriage that are no longer serving you?  What would it take for you to make the decision to walk away from them? Point #3: Dress the Part How you dress sends a non-verbal message of energy towards your spouse every single day. Date Night changed everything for Garrett. He was dressing in an old plaid shirt, but when he started dressing up, he knew that he looked good and sexy, which translated into energy and confidence. Danielle: I’m a fan of dressing to feel on point. What energy am I putting off? Like I don’t give a shit? Instead of putting on my “mom” outfit, I’m going to throw on some jeans and some cute shoes just to make me feel like I have put myself together for the day. I feel better doing it, and I have a more productive day. QUESTION What changes are you willing to make to your wardrobe to reflect a sexier, more confident you? Point #4: Straight Talk Garrett: There are a lot of women who only dress up once a week on Date Night. I’m not telling you you have to dress up like a princess every single day, all day long. What I am telling you is this: how you dress impacts the energy of what your husband sees when he comes home. If he comes home to the “frumpy sweatpant lulu lady in constant ponytails,” there’s going to be a lack of attraction. Garrett: A vast majority of the married men that I have met are in worse shape than their wives. Men, your body did not go to the shitshow bringing babies into this world. This is like pushing a pumpkin out of your penis. You’re carrying bullshit weight, and your wife’s not turned on about it either – not just because of your body, but because you don’t feel powerful about the way you look. QUESTION Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself: Would I be turned on by my appearance? Point #5: Let Me Hear Your Body Talk Garrett: Let’s pretend that your body is a witness of your commitment to your wife, that what you’ve done to your body and how it looks is currently communicating more to your wife about your commitment to your marriage than anything you’re trying to tell her. It’s not about six-packs, bikini beach bodies, or being super shredded. At the end of the day, you’ve got to be on point about the way you feel about your body, and inside of that, you have to feel on point about how you package yourself. It’s all about energy and what makes you feel confident. QUESTION How do you feel about your body? Communication Challenge: What can you do in the way you are currently presenting yourself to your partner physically? Write down something in the way you dress that would start sending the message, “Hey, I actually care about myself!” Date Night Topic: Talk about what you can do inside of your marriage that would allow you to isolate and discuss one or two of your problems as a couple. Quote of the Week: “To all you men who let their bodies go and never have to carry the children, you haven’t had to get pregnant or carry the baby for nine months and then push a fucking baby out of your penis. You literally have no excuse. You want to get laid, you want to get connected, but what are you communicating to your wife when you come out of the shower in a towel with your extra 30-40 pounds? No matter what, your wife is not turned on by this. Your lights are getting turned down, and there’s no show going on because you’re not actually showing that you give a shit.” —Garrett J White “Ladies, if you’re in a good mood and your husband’s in a bad mood, don’t let him bring you down to that level. Understand it’s probably not even about you. Walk a little sexy, be flirty, go kiss his ear a little bit, smile, rub up against him, turn on your charm. Whatever they’re pissed about will go away – they just can’t help it!” —Danielle K White

*Episode Replay from September of 2019.* The White’s are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today’s theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks.  Click here to watch this episode on YouTube Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle’s programs tell her they don’t have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. “You say you don’t have time and you’re extremely tired…but you’re not actually going anywhere, you’re literally just looping and looping. You can’t afford NOT to have time. When people say they don’t have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new.” QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time?   Point #2: False Lift When you’re going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you’re not sure how. You begin thinking, “If only I could go back to how things were before.” As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you’re in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that’s a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you’re in the loop, you’ve got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It’s about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse?   Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. “I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does.” Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. “I don’t do the weird thing, I don’t go pouty, I just do nothing. It’s shut off.” QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that?   Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is “open for business.” During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, “I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing.” QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic:  Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week:  “If you don’t have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it’s gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave.” —Garrett J White  “I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, “We’re open for business!” —Danielle K White      warriorgreens.com dkwstyling.com

In This Week’s Episode…..Power We've all experienced moments of meltdown and overwhelm. The question is, how do we navigate our way through these times? In today's episode, Danielle and Ani share their roadmaps via stories and personal experiences that are certain to lift and help you through those difficult moments. As a bonus, be sure to keep an eye out for their special in-studio guest! Point #1: What Can You Do Right Now? When you’re feeling a sense of overwhelm, sometimes it takes someone outside of yourself to help calm you down and to remind you to take a deep breath, take a step back, slow down, look at everything you have to do, and then ask yourself the question, “What is due FIRST? What’s most important?” Several years ag when Garrett & Danielle had moved to Arizona with their little family, Danielle found herself in a situation where paying bills was hit and miss. She asked herself the question, “What can I do RIGHT NOW?” She had no customers on the books, no clients, and was literally starting from scratch. “I did have a whole book of business back in Utah, so for a year, I flew to Utah once a month, worked three 12-hour days, and made as much in three days as I could in a month in Arizona.” QUESTION Taking a step back from your situation, what is one thing you can do right now to move you towards what is you are seeking and wanting?   Point #2: Dream a Little Dream Danielle is a visual person and, as such, will often dream when she’s feeling stressed out about something. She had a recurring dream where her family was on a ship in the pouring rain. She could see the light at the end of the tunnel and paddled vigorously to reach it, but every time she was nearly there, a massive wave of water pushed her back. After a year, Danielle finally got over the anxiety she was experiencing. She had stockpiled some cash, built momentum, and it was at that point Danielle lit a fire under Garrett when she told him how much she was making, which she had previously kept hidden from him. This was a turning point in their lives. QUESTION Do your dreams seem to reflect what is happening in your life?     Point #3: Momentum Danielle: When you think you’ve made it and you slow down to rest, you almost end up self-sabotaging. If you ever start having a lot of success and build momentum, do not self-sabotage! “Once you’ve hit a certain growth point, figure out where your next point is and create a plan to get to that new point. “If you don’t keep up with what you’ve done,” adds Ani, “you’re going to lose everything you have.” QUESTION What steps can you begin taking today to keep the momentum you’re currently experiencing?   Point #4: Sometimes You’re Gonna Cry Ani recently took on a new project and for the first week and a half felt overwhelmed and was doubting her ability to pull it off. She told herself, “Ok, you have ONE MINUTE to cry!” That quickly evolved into working through the tears. An artist who was having a meltdown reached out to Ani recently for some help. Ani said to her, “Ok, set a timer. You have FIVE MINUTES to cry. However much you want to cry, do it in those five minutes and then fucking move on!” QUESTION When was a moment you pushed through something with tears running down your cheeks? What lesson did you learn about yourself?   Point #5:  It’s All About the Reps Although Danielle has viewed herself as an introvert lacking the skills of a speaker and great communicator, she is very passionate and intuitive. She has always thought of herself as confident and one who is comfortable in her own skin, and so it bothered her that she wasn’t able to communicate or get on stage and speak, which is one of the things she always found attractive about her husband, Garrett. “One of my goals over the past ten years was to become a better educator, a better communicator, and a better speaker, so I continually forced myself to do things I was uncomfortable with.” Today, Danielle is doing podcasts, teaching & speaking in front of large audiences, and shares videos on many social media platforms. Her secret to becoming a new human being? “Putting in the reps of things I’m uncomfortable with.” QUESTION What growth have you experienced due to reps on your part?   Quote of the Week: “Sometimes, you have to have those hard conversations, and those hard looks inside of your life, take a breath, and then ask yourself, “Where do I start TODAY?” Don’t wait until January; begin today moving toward your goals.” —Danielle K White “You have to see yourself as that person and ask, “Ok, if that’s what she looks like, and if that’s what she can accomplish, what do I have to do to become her? What do I have to do to be the person who has accomplished these things?” –Anianne Rivera

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. “I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I’m feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?” Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she’s making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, “I have self-control and self-discipline.” QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt?   Point #2: Attack With the Stack Guilt plagues guys in a massive way and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they’re away and DON’T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. “I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I’m able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories.” QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt? Point #3: The Dream Danielle’s recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, “You have dreams, and your dreams mean something.” Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I’ve snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages?   Point #4: Running From Life During an especially difficult three year period for the White’s, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It’s almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems?   Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn’t know if I was going to stay married.” This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, “I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom.” Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic:  Who are your super heros? Why?   Quote of the Week:  “I’ll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I’ll take a deep breath and say, ‘There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is.” —Garrett J White  “I’m super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I’m in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better.” —Danielle K White

* New Episode* The White’s are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today’s theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks.    Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle’s programs tell her they don’t have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. “You say you don’t have time and you’re extremely tired…but you’re not actually going anywhere, you’re literally just looping and looping. You can’t afford NOT to have time. When people say they don’t have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new.” QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time?   Point #2: False Lift When you’re going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you’re not sure how. You begin thinking, “If only I could go back to how things were before.” As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you’re in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that’s a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you’re in the loop, you’ve got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It’s about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse?   Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. “I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does.” Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. “I don’t do the weird thing, I don’t go pouty, I just do nothing. It’s shut off.” QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that?   Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is “open for business.” During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, “I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing.” QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic:  Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week:  “If you don’t have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it’s gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave.” —Garrett J White  “I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, “We’re open for business!” —Danielle K White     dateyourwife.com, warriorgreens.com becomeaking.com, dkwstyling.com

While in Vegas for the weekend celebrating Danielle’s 36th birthday, Garrett & Danielle have a conversation around this topic of toleration & standards and discuss ways in which you, as an artist, can raise your standards. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PROTECTION Point #1: Tolerating Bullshit Toleration is what you accept to be as true. The challenge of being a business owner or hair stylist is that most of us have been taught, trained and educated to tolerate a whole bunch of shit that doesn’t make any sense, things like working 14-hour days, six days a week. Your bank account is a reflection of your skillsets & mindsets as a business owner and as an artist. Consider that you are not setting yourself up to the standard of what your artwork could be because you’re not doing what you really want to do. Instead, you’re settling. QUESTION As you step back and take a look inside your business, what bullshit are you tolerating that you must stop? Point #2: The Artist is the Prize Danielle holds herself to a very high standard as she paves the way for and leads artists. “I have very little tolerance. I’m very professional and, as the expert, I do not allow clients to dictate to me how I do their hair. As a result, clients trust me.” It all comes down to trusting yourself and not feeling awkward and weird about the experience with your client, and not thinking that you have to please them. There’s always this balance between making the client happy and creating conditions in which you, as the artist, win, while delivering your art at the most amazing level. QUESTION How do you see this spilling over into your personal life? Point #3: What Are You Tolerating? Tolerating means there is something going on that you don’t like or necessarily agree with but that you’re not doing anything about and not confronting. Most artists tolerate conditions or people because they don’t want to collide with anyone. Consider that your bank account and your business are a reflection of the level of tolerance that you have for the behavior and the results, both in your salon and for yourself, and that the reason you tolerate so much bullshit is because you hate the idea and the action of collision. QUESTION What are you costing yourself by not doing the things you know you need to do? Point #4: What’s Your Value? You tolerate what your standards are. When you let your standards slide, then what you tolerate slides. This comes back to the value or lack of value that you place on yourself. When you lack value in yourself, you will tolerate high levels of bullshit because the level they tolerate is equal to the standard that they hold. What happens inside of this is, the artists get angry at other artists who have chosen to not tolerate, who have chosen to raise their standards, and who expect & demand more out of their business and out of their life. QUESTION What exactly are your standards? What could you be missing out on by not holding yourself to a higher standard? Point #5: Raise Your Standards If you don’t hold the standard that spending time with your spouse is important while building your salon business, then you may tolerate all kinds of clients whose business takes hours of your time in exchange for pennies. Danielle: I believe we hold ourselves hostage by what we believe is possible for us. The industry standard is that we work 24/7. What about setting your own standard regarding how much and how often you’re going to work? QUESTION What is one thing you could change this week that would raise your standards? Quote of the Week: “In order to change what you’re actually tolerating, you have to raise your standards, which means the first collision that you’re going to have is not with your client, it’s with yourself.” — Garrett J White “We create stories in our mind of what’s possible based upon our tolerance and our standards.” –Danielle K White

Amidst the recent announcement from the White’s twelve-year-old daughter that she is through with school and no longer wants to attend – with viable and compelling evidence to back up her stance & position – Garrett & Danielle jump into a conversation that explores the idea of schooling vs education as they compare today’s world of accessible technology to the period in which they grew up. Also, be sure to listen to find out how you can become part of next week’s show. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast…PARENTING Point #1: PROCRASTINATION As a procrastinator in High School, Danielle was someone who never turned in her homework and was on the verge of not graduating until she was able to pull off some eleventh-hour shenanigans. “I didn’t care about doing homework. I didn’t see the point of doing it.” Now, as an adult, Danielle regrets that “I didn’t learn how to learn and instead always found a way around doing the work.” She sees herself as very intuitive but sees Garrett as 100% more book-smart than she is. “He likes to read, he can quote all sorts of things, and he is really smart. I’ve kind of envied that about him.” QUESTION What habits and patterns did you have when you were going to school? Did they help or hinder you? Point #2: AT THEIR FINGERTIPS The landscape of today’s learning has shifted completely from when Danielle and Garrett attended school. With technology at their fingertips, kids today can learn just about anything, anytime. Garrett: “At their age, our kids are way fucking smarter than we were. They have more data in their brains; more points of reference. And they have access to shit that we didn’t. From the time Ruby was four or five years old, she has been asking Siri questions about everything!" QUESTION What do you see as the pros and cons of how you learned in the past compared to how your kids are learning today? Point #3: GENIUS DROP-OUTS Many successful entrepreneurs and creators either dropped out of school or didn’t finish school in the traditional sense. These include the creators of IKEA, APPLE, and Facebook. “Pretty much every major tool you use right now was built by a school dropout.” Garrett: As I look at what kids study in school, my thought is they might be better off studying Facebook ads, direct-response marketing, and persuasion & influence. When you look inside our families alone, the people with the least amount of education have made the most amount of money. QUESTION What has been your experience with this?   Point #4: AN ABUNDANCE OF POSSIBILITIES Garrett: Imagine if, in the next six years, we spent three hours a day focused on turning our daughter into a weaponized speaker, marketer, and salesperson. And on top of that, she had the traditional reading, writing, and math, with the rest of the day filled with singing, art, playing the piano, and participating in team sports. Danielle says she doesn’t have any real answers right now but that she does have a lot of questions. “This is a frustrating topic that came up for us on Date Night. I feel like Garrett and I are on both sides of the spectrum. We value learning and we value work, but do we value the traditional ways of school?” QUESTION What are your feelings regarding the abundance of possibilities in education available to your child in today’s world?   Point #5: OPENING DOORS Danielle: As a parent, we wonder if we’re leading our children in the right direction. Does the Universe manifest a path that they should take? Or, are we supposed to assist and open doors for them along the way? Garrett: Part of our job is to open the doors and let them explore different rooms. While there are plenty of doors they’re going to open themselves, as a parent, you open the door and watch what your child does. QUESTION What doors are you opening up for your children? What doors were opened up for you? What have been the results? Communication Challenge: Next week’s topic is, “Babies: When do you know it’s time to have a baby? When do you know it’s time to stop having babies?” If you would like to be part of that conversation or have a question/ comment on this, please send an audio clip to garrett@wakeupwarrior.com. We’ll throw you in the mix and play your audios on the air. Men, we want to hear from you! Date Night Topic: On your date this week, have a conversation around the different ways you learn. Are you more of an incessant reader and highlighter, or are prone to listening to podcasts and watching videos? Are you a little bit of each? Quote of the Week: “Parker does a great job, not because he’s my son but because of who he is. Did I open the door? Sure!” –Garrett J White “Is it personality or path? Is it circumstance or timing? Are we put on this earth and literally ordained to have a certain path? Does everyone have an equal opportunity? I think at some level, everyone is given the opportunity to find it within themselves and that that’s the point of life.” –Danielle K White  

Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse at least once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week’s episode, the White’s share tips for what has worked for them (as well as what hasn’t worked for them) in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week’s Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It’s as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other. Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it’s so easy to lose your momentum. It’s in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it’s the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing. QUESTION What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other? Point #2: Baby Talk In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle’s experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his “very aggressive sperm.” Danielle’s well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast. QUESTION Did your gender reveal turn out as planned?   Point #3: Family Affair? A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family might actually be better for you and your kids. From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing. QUESTION What has been your experience with family watching your children?   Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter’s schedule. Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they’re there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it’s a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don’t know how to please you. QUESTION Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters?   Point #5: Care.com: Your Shit is Legit By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, “Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video.” “You’re investing in the guardianship of your children. If you’re paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you’re investing in your marriage. 1-What’s your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?” QUESTION Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage. Date Night Topic: Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months. Quote of the Week: “If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, you go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you’re going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you.” —Garrett J White “Whether it’s family or someone you pay, there are really no excuses when it comes to creating Date Night and space for yourselves as a couple. It becomes a matter of making it a priority.” —Danielle White